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All right, good morning, church 
family. 

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If you would open your Bibles to
the book of Genesis chapter 2, 

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Genesis chapter 2, and this 
morning we're going to be in 

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verses 18 to 24. 
We've been going through Genesis

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for several weeks now. 
We just started the series and 

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we've made it through chapter 1 
and part of chapter 2. 

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And this morning we're going to 
look at Genesis chapter 218 to 

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24. 
So let me read the text. 

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I'll open this in a word of 
prayer, and then we'll jump into

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the sermon this morning, Genesis
chapter 2, beginning in verse 

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18. 
Then the Lord God said, It is 

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not good that the man should be 
alone, I will make a helper fit 

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for him. 
Now out of the ground the Lord 

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God had formed every beast of 
the field and every bird of the 

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heavens, and brought them to the
man to see what he would call 

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them. 
And whatever the man called 

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every living creature, that was 
its name. 

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The man gave names to all 
livestock and to the birds of 

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the heavens, and to the every 
beast of the field. 

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But for Adam there was not found
a helper fit for him. 

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So the Lord God caused a deep 
sleep to fall upon the man, and 

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while he slept took one of his 
ribs and closed up its place 

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with flesh. 
And the rib that the Lord God 

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had taken from the man he made 
into a woman and brought her to 

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the man. 
Then the man said, This at last 

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is bone of my bones and flesh of
my flesh. 

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She shall be called woman 
because she was taken out of 

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man. 
Therefore a man shall leave his 

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father and his mother and hold 
fast to his wife, and they shall

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become one flesh. 
Would you pray with me, Father? 

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I pray this morning as we look 
at your word and as we ponder 

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the the statements by the Lord 
of how it is not good for man to

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be alone. 
As we ponder what it means to be

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a helper, as we ponder the 
mystery of marriage, as we 

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ponder what it means to to, to 
leave and cleave and, and all of

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these deep, profound statements.
God, would you help us to 

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understand this and to rightly 
apply it? 

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God, would you help me to 
explain the text thoroughly and 

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succinctly and to apply it in a 
way that is helpful and 

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beneficial to all of us. 
God, we we thank you for your 

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word. 
God, we are grateful that we 

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have instruction from your word.
We pray this in Jesus name, 

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Amen. 
We have been looking at the 

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creation story the past several 
weeks. 

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Genesis 1 tells us of how God 
created everything in the 

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universe and Genesis 2 is kind 
of a zooming in of Genesis 1. 

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The narrator tells us they are 
that, that that God had made man

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and he had placed him in the 
garden to work it and keep it. 

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And he gives the man every tree 
in the garden to eat from. 

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He says I've made all these 
trees that have food for you to 

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eat from except one, the tree of
knowledge of good and evil. 

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God tells the man, he says if 
you eat of this tree you will 

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surely die. 
And that's where we left off 

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last week. 
We left right off there last 

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week. 
So we're going to pick right 

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back up where we left off last 
week. 

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I'm going to start with an 
exposition of the text where I 

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basically go through it verse by
verse and try to explain it, to 

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give it meaning. 
And then at the end I'll give 

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application of the text for us 
from this. 

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So let's start looking at verse 
18 a where the narrator says 

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then the Lord God said it is not
good that the man should be 

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alone. 
This is such an interesting and 

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intriguing statement by the 
Lord. 

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Such an interesting, such an 
intriguing statement for at 

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least four reasons. 
Number one, for the first time 

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God said something was not good.
In Genesis 14, God saw that the 

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light was good. 
Genesis 110 God saw that it was 

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good. 112 God saw that it was 
good. 118 God saw that it was 

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good. 121 God saw that it was 
good. 125 God saw that it was 

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good. 131 God saw everything 
that he had made, and behold, it

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was very good. 
In chapter 2, verse 9, every 

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tree was good for food. 
Chapter 2, verse 12, the goal of

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that land is good. 
And then we get to chapter 2, 

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verse 18, and for the first time
in history, God said something 

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was not good. 
That's interesting. 

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Which raises #2 why is it not 
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You may be wondering that you're
like, I, I love being alone. 

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Why is it not good for a man to 
be alone? 

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The text doesn't tell us here, 
doesn't tell us. 

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God never. 
He doesn't say it's not good, 

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and here's why He just says it. 
It's not good. 

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Why is this? 
I'm going to give my best guess 

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here. 
I'm going to give my best guess.

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So I'm not, I'm not speaking, 
you know, in some kind of 

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authoritative way when I say 
this, but this is my best 

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educated guess. 
God, by definition, is a 

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relational being. 
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relational being. 
The Trinity has always existed. 

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God the Father, God the Son, God
the Holy Spirit. 

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The Trinity has always existed, 
and so relationships have always

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existed. 
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we are made in the image of God.
I take this to mean that we are 

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made as relational beings. 
That part of what it means to be

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made in the image of God means 
to be made as a relational 

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being. 
And a relationship by definition

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means to not be alone. 
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wasn't alone, he had God. 
Why did he say it wasn't good to

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be alone? 
Adam was not alone, he had God. 

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Which leads to #3 God made man 
with specific needs so that God 

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could meet those needs. 
God made man with specific needs

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so that God could meet those 
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You ever ask the question of why
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Doesn't have to, right? 
Hunger is not a product of the 

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fall. 
It's not like, you know, Adam 

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wasn't hungry and then once sin 
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hungry. 
Hunger. 

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Jesus was hungry. 
He was perfect. 

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Why does hunger exist? 
I think hunger exists. 

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God created this need so that he
could meet that need. 

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He made needs so that he could 
meet them. 

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God created Adam with the need 
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Why? 
So that he could meet it. 

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He gave Adam this need so that 
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thing I want to point out about 
the statement is that God saw 

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Adam's need, not Adam. 
God saw Adam's need, not Adam. 

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Notice Adam is not complaining 
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Adam is not bored in the corner 
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God saw Adam's knee before Adam 
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Look at verse 18. 
BI will make a helper. 

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I will make him a helper fit for
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I want to point out three 
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Make a helper fit for him. 
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aspects of this. 
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make. 
I will make Adam didn't find 

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this helper. 
Adam didn't create this helper. 

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God made this helper #2 helper. 
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What is what is helper mean 
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The Hebrew word is ezer. 
Ezer. 

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It's a cognate of the Hebrew 
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name Ezra comes from. 
Ezra's name means helper. 

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That's what it means. 
It's an assistant, one who 

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assist and serves another with 
what is needed #3 he says I'll 

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make a helper fit for him. 
Fit for him. 

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What does that mean? 
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according to the opposite of 
him. 

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That's how it reads in the 
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I will make him a helper 
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him. 
What does that mean? 

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Translations vary here. 
Some translations have suitable 

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I'll make him a helper suitable 
for him, or matching I'll make a

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helper that's matching him, or 
I'll make a helper that is 

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corresponding to him. 
God saw that Adam needed not 

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just to help her, he doesn't 
need just to help her, but that 

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he needed a helper that 
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He needed a helper that matched 
him. 

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He needed a helper that was 
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Look at verse 19 to 20. 
Now out of the ground, the Lord 

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God had formed every beast of 
the field and every bird of the 

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heavens and brought them to the 
man to see what he would call 

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them. 
And whatever the man called 

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every living creature, that was 
its name. 

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Now what's interesting is that 
in chapter 1, God called the 

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light day, and He called the 
darkness night. 

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God called the expanse heaven. 
God called the dry land earth. 

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God called the waters seas. 
Up until this point everything 

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has been named by God. 
But now that man has been 

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created, God has entrusted his 
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And part of entrusting his 
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entrusting the naming of his 
creation to this man. 

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And so God's going to trust 
naming of these animals to Adam.

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Notice God brings the animals to
Adam. 

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He brings them to him. 
I love how this is worded. 

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God brought them to the man to 
see what he would call them. 

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I love that it's it's as if God 
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creativity. 
Let us see what names he will 

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come up with. 
There's a Christian comedian 

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many many years ago making a 
joke about this. 

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He says that when Adam first 
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hippopotamus and then 10 hours 
later, cow. 

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He finally got so tired he just 
started naming creatures by what

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they were doing. 
Fly, right? 

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Whatever Adam called each 
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Keep in mind, naming is a form 
of exercising authority over As 

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parents, we name our children. 
They don't choose their own 

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name. 
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kids choose their own name, but 
traditionally we, we, we, we 

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name our children. 
We give it to them as their 

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authority. 
Adam finishes naming all the 

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livestock, naming all the birds 
of heaven, naming all the beasts

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of the field. 
There's only one problem. 

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There was not found to help or 
fit for him. 

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This is an interesting 
statement. 

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God said that it was not good 
for a man to be alone, but Adam 

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is not alone. 
He has all these animals with 

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him. 
He's got all kinds of animals 

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with him. 
So in what sense is Adam alone? 

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In this sense? 
There was not found a helper fit

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for him. 
Animals can help us, right? 

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Horses give us transportation, 
very good help. 

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Oxen can help us plow the 
ground. 

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Dogs and cats can help us be 
happy. 

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But none of these animals wore a
helper that was fit for Adam. 

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So God takes action. 
God is not done creating. 

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He made six days. 
He creates, He rests on the 

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Sabbath. 
But God is not done creating. 

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Look at verse 21 to 22. 
So the Lord God caused a deep 

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sleep to fall upon the man, and 
while he slept took one of his 

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ribs and closed up its place 
with flesh. 

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And the rib that the Lord God 
had taken from the man he made 

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into a woman and brought her to 
the man. 

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Notice this phrase God caused. 
God caused and the Hebrew, the 

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verb there is in the hefeel 
tense. 

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That's the causative tense. 
I mean that God Adam didn't just

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fall asleep, God caused him to 
fall asleep, which is why the 

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ESP translates it that way. 
God caused him to fall into a 

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deep sleep. 
What is that? 

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What is a deep sleep? 
The Hebrew word for deep sleep. 

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It only occurs 7 times in the 
Old Testament. 

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It's the same verb that's used 
in Genesis 1512. 

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If you remember as the sun was 
going down, a deep sleep fell on

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Abram. 
Or the most well known example, 

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remember First Samuel 2612 when 
David sneaks into Saul's camp 

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and he and he just marches all 
the way through the camp, goes 

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all the way up to Saul's head 
and they take the, the, his 

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spear and, and the, and the jar 
of water from his head. 

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And how did he do that? 
How did nobody wake up hearing 

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them coming to the camp? 
It says the Lord God had caused 

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a deep sleep to fall upon all of
them. 

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This is kind of like spiritual 
anesthesia, if you will. 

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While Adam is sleeping. 
I love this. 

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God takes one of Adam's ribs. 
God performs surgery on Adam. 

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When I was growing up in the 
Deep South, they would teach in 

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church that men have one less 
rib than women because of this. 

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I asked my wife, she's like, 
yeah, we'll talk that too, That 

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that's not true. 
Men do not have one less rib. 

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But they would teach this in the
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They would teach that men had 
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The rib that God had taken from 
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The Hebrew word for made here 
this is This is fascinating. 

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The Hebrew word for made here is
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This word has not been used in 
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It's the same word used of Cain 
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an ark or them building the 
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So when God made man, he worked 
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clay. 
God is likened to a Potter. 

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The the Hebrew verb there is 
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working with flesh, God is 
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God is a Potter with the man. 
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He built a woman. 
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What is a woman? 
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of years later, we're still 
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question? 
God made another human. 

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He made another human. 
She is like Adam in that she is 

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human and she is made in God's 
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that she is a woman and not a 
man. 

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And I want you to notice what it
says here. 

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It says that God brought her to 
the man. 

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God brought her to the man. 
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God brought her to him. 
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this gift to Adam. 
God gives the best gifts. 

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Now 2 questions remain #1 why a 
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You're like, why? 
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one out of pancreas, right? 
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Why a rib? 
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literally side, and that's 
almost always its meaning. 

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I don't think rib is actually a 
good translation. 

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It may have not been a rib at 
all. 

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The NET Bible just doesn't 
translate. 

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The NET Bible translates, and he
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I think that's probably the best
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He took part of the man's side. 
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why did God make man out of the 
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the man? 
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If he can make a man out of the 
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out of the dust. 
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man out of the dust but make the
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clue. 
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Then the man said this at last 
is bone of my bones and flesh of

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my flesh. 
She shall be called woman 

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because she was taken out of 
man. 

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These are the first recorded 
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The very first words that are 
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These are them. 
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In verse 19, God made all the 

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animals out of the ground. 
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animals were made out of the 
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these animals before Adam for 
two purposes. 

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He paraded the animals before 
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he could name them. 
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to show Adam that none of these 
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for him. 
It's as if God wants Adam to see

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this. 
He wants them to see all these 

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animals that I'm bringing before
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None of them match you. 
None of them correspond to you. 

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But when God made woman, he 
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ground. 
He made the animals out of the 

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ground. 
But he didn't make this being 

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out of the ground. 
He made her out of the man. 

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It's as if God wanted Adam to 
see, look, look, I have made a 

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helper fit for you. 
I have made someone who is like 

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you. 
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that this being standing before 
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is not another animal. 
I have seen all these animals, 

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and this is not an animal. 
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This is why Adam says this at 
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flesh of my flesh. 
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statement. 
I love this. 

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He says this at last. 
You know that Etta James song at

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last. 
That's that's, that's how I hear

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this. 
You know, I would sing it for 

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you, but I can't say it's a 
great song. 

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Adam had spent hours, maybe 
days, maybe weeks, maybe months 

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naming all these animals. 
I mean, how long does it take to

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name the animals? 
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this, at last there is finally a
being that is like him. 

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Adam says she shall be called 
woman. 

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Now that is not her name. 
That is her classification. 

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That's her classification. 
The Hebrew word is Esha, Esha 

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because she was taken from man. 
Ish woman is Esha, man is Esh. 

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So he's saying that Esha was 
taken from Ish. 

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So he calls her Esha Woman. 
He calls her woman. 

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Now I know this is 
controversial, but remember he 

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calls her woman indicating his 
authority over her. 

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This is prior to the fall. 
So this authority is not a 

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result of the fall. 
It's a part of God's good 

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design. 
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commentator argues that the 
phrase bone of my bones and 

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flesh of my flesh, when he says 
that it's actually a covenant 

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formula and that it speaks not 
of common birth, but of a common

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reciprocal loyalty. 
In other words, it's the same 

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meaning. 
It's if you remember in Second 

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Samuel 51, all the tribes of 
Israel came to David at Hebron, 

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and this is what they said to 
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David, behold, we are your bone 
and flesh. 

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In other words, what they're 
saying is, is that we are with 

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you as your own bone and flesh. 
We are with you till we die. 

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We are as one with you. 
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that what David, what Adam is 
saying here is that he's almost 

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taking a form of vows here. 
He's he's making a covenant with

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this woman. 
I was thinking about this. 

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I was like, man, I wish I had 
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married. 
I was like, you are bone of my 

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bones and flesh of my flesh. 
I think it's a good theory. 

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I don't know if it's true, but 
it's a good theory. 

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Look at verse 24, last verse. 
Therefore a man shall leave his 

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father and his mother and hold 
fast to his wife, and they shall

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become one flesh. 
There is so much packed into 

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this one verse. 
I could preach the entire sermon

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on it. 
I almost was tempted to do it, 

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but we'd be in Genesis forever. 
Let's break this down though, 

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phrase by phrase. 
First word. 

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Therefore, what does the 
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This should probably be 
translated. 

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That is why I thought it's 
probably That is why I think 

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it's the narrator is basically 
saying that is why we do what we

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do. 
In other words, you know, if you

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ever wonder like why does 
marriage exist? 

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Like this is kind of an 
existential question that people

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are asking today, right? 
Why do people get married? 

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And he's saying it. 
That is why that is why we do 

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this, this practice we have. 
That is why, that is why a man 

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shall leave. 
A man shall leave. 

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In Hebrew culture, almost all 
men were married by the time 

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they were 20 years old. 
So they would grow up in their 

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parents home living under their 
parents authority. 

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But once a man found a woman 
that he wanted to marry, he 

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would leave his mother and 
father. 

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No, interesting enough, not 
necessarily physically. 

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It was very common in the 
culture for them to continue 

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living with their mother and 
father, which means here that 

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leave must not mean just like 
physically. 

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It also meant it primarily meant
to leave their authority that he

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was under his parents authority.
But once he got married, he was 

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now came out from under their 
authority and he became his own 

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authority. 
I think that's the idea here. 

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He would leave his mother and 
father. 

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This. 
That's interesting because if 

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you're Adam and Eve, you're 
like, what is a mother and 

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what's a father? 
This verse was clearly written 

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at a much later time. 
He would leave his mother and 

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father and hold fast. 
Hold fast. 

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What does that mean? 
This is the broad term. 

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It's translated 15 different 
ways. 

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It basically means to cling to 
something, use of glue even. 

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It means to cling to or to 
fasten oneself to. 

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It's frequently used of us 
holding fast to God. 

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And Deuteronomy says that that 
we should cling to God, hold 

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fast to God. 
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intended marriage to be far more
than a financial arrangement, 

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far more than a sexual 
arrangement, far more than a 

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social arrangement. 
The husband is to cling. 

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Cling to what? 
Cling to his wife. 

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This is actually the same Hebrew
word as woman. 

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Wife and woman of the same 
Hebrew word can also be 

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translated as wife. 
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introduction to God's 
institution of marriage. 

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He's a cling to his wife, and 
the two shall become one flesh. 

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Now what does that mean? 
Paul says. 

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It's a profound mystery. 
I wanted to go into this in 

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Ephesians, but I was like, I'm 
going to steal my Thunder if I 

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preach on Ephesians one day, so 
I won't. 

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But this is a profound mystery. 
So what does it mean to be 1 

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flesh? 
Let me give a, a very imperfect 

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metaphor. 
One way to think of this as a 

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yoke. 
You may have seen a yoke before 

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you take two oxen. 
They make this kind of crossbars

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A yoke and goes on to both 
animals. 

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And they do this that the 
animals are together. 

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They, they plow together in a 
straight line, right. 

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So even though there's two oxen,
it's really one unit, it's 1 

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unit that's working. 
That's the idea. 

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It wouldn't make sense for one 
oxen to go this way and another 

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oxen to go this way. 
OK, How is that going to work? 

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That, that, that won't work. 
This yoke puts them together. 

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They are yoked together. 
They're they're inseparable. 

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That's the idea here. 
They are joined together. 

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When a man and a woman get 
married, they become one flesh 

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in the eyes of God. 
And we'll stop there with the 

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exposition application of the 
text application, I have 7 

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points of application for US. 
Seven points of application #1 

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whether we are married, dating 
or single, it is not good to be 

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alone. 
Whether we are married, dating 

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or single, it is not good to be 
alone. 

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Growing up, I was an extreme 
extrovert by capital E 

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Extrovert. 
I can remember spending the 

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night at my cousin's house and I
loved every minute of it. 

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When it was time to leave, I 
would be depressed for most of 

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my life. 
I always wanted to be around my 

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friends. 
That was just most of my life. 

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But as I got into adulthood, as 
I got married, as I had four 

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kids, and as I had a church 
family with ministry, I have 

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really come to treasure my alone
time. 

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I imagine we have some in this 
room who love to be around 

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people. 
If you had a choice, you would 

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always choose to have someone 
else around. 

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And I imagine we have some in 
this room who genuinely enjoy 

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being alone. 
Being around other people may 

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even be very draining for you. 
One thing I am realizing is that

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year after year, especially 
after COVID, more and more 

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people fall into the latter camp
than the first. 

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More and more people. 
Technology has made it so that 

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we can be alone and like it, 
hasn't it? 

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But it is not good to be alone. 
It wasn't that Adam was an 

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extrovert and he asked God, God,
can I have a friend? 

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God, I'm kind of bored here in 
the garden Guy, could you, could

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you make me a friend? 
God made a declaration. 

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God said it is not good for a 
man to be alone. 

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Now often people take this to 
me, that it is not good for man 

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to be single or it's not good 
for a woman to be single. 

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That's not the case at all. 
That is not what this is 

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teaching. 
God's Son was not married, the 

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apostle Paul was not married, 
and both of them said it was 

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better to be single than to be 
married. 

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This statement is not so much 
addressing the need for marriage

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as it is addressing the need for
community. 

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People often point to the fact 
that Jesus needed alone time. 

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That's true. 
But even in his isolation, he 

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was with his father. 
He spent his alone time with his

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father. 
Church, family, you need 

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community. 
We all do. 

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We may enjoy, we may enjoy being
alone, but it is not good to be 

455
00:29:55,040 --> 00:30:06,000
alone. 
We need community #2 God saw 

456
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:09,600
Adam's need and God did 
something about it. 

457
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:14,760
God saw Adam's need and God did 
something about it. 

458
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:23,120
Our biggest extrovert in the 
family, Lauren, actually might 

459
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:26,080
pass him up, but I'm not sure. 
Our biggest extrovert in the 

460
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:31,120
family is Ezra by far. 
The other day his three older 

461
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,040
brothers were all gone at 
basketball practice. 

462
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:37,840
It was the first time in his 
life that his three older 

463
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:41,320
brothers were gone at basketball
and he was at home by himself. 

464
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:44,040
First time in his whole life 
that his three older brothers 

465
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:45,200
were gone. 
He was home by himself. 

466
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:50,880
He was so bored. 
He looked like his girlfriend 

467
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:55,040
had broken up with him. 
I could see it on his face. 

468
00:30:55,880 --> 00:31:00,720
I could feel it in his soul. 
As a father. 

469
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:03,400
I, I tried to go befriend him, 
but I realize I'm like, oh man, 

470
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:05,720
you're getting to that stage 
where like dad's not friends 

471
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:07,880
anymore. 
Like, like you want like peer 

472
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:13,000
friendship. 
When God saw that it wasn't good

473
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:18,680
for man to be alone, it wasn't 
because God looked down and saw 

474
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:23,720
that Adam was bored. 
He he didn't look down and and 

475
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:28,440
see, oh man, he's bored. 
One thing I thought Adam files 

476
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:32,120
no complaint with the Lord. 
Adam's not sitting in the corner

477
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:35,360
of the garden twiddling his 
thumbs because he has no one to 

478
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,680
talk to. 
In fact, one has to even wonder,

479
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:42,560
did Adam even see his own need 
for a companion? 

480
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:44,760
But it didn't matter. 
Why? 

481
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:52,800
Because God saw his need. 
God saw Adam's need for a 

482
00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:56,280
companion, for a friend, for a 
helper. 

483
00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:03,280
And God did something about it. 
Brothers and sisters, God sees 

484
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:08,360
your need. 
God sees your need. 

485
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:13,240
In fact, he sees your need even 
when you don't see it yourself, 

486
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,640
when you don't even know that it
exists. 

487
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:19,400
And he will do something about 
it. 

488
00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:24,360
We were at the park the other 
day. 

489
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:26,480
You know, the weather's been 
great here lately. 

490
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:31,320
We were at the park the other 
day going for a walk, and there 

491
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,280
were these kids playing 
kickball. 

492
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:37,000
And as these kids are playing 
kickball, there was this mom who

493
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:40,040
was asking them, hey, does 
anybody need lemonade? 

494
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:43,760
Does anybody want a popsicle? 
And I was telling Lauren I was 

495
00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:45,480
like, moms are fascinating to 
me. 

496
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:51,440
They're they're always asking, 
can they need a need a dads? 

497
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:56,320
I mean, we're just oblivious. 
I don't think I've ever asked my

498
00:32:56,320 --> 00:32:57,880
kid, Hey, guys, you don't need 
any lemonade. 

499
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:07,400
You don't need a popsicle. 
God is a Father, but He is the 

500
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:14,360
type of Father who not only sees
our needs, he meets those needs.

501
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:22,120
You may have a need for 
encouragement or affirmation or 

502
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:27,280
community or direction or peace 
or rest. 

503
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:32,720
You may not even see that you 
have this need, but God does. 

504
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:40,840
God sees, just as God saw Adam's
need and he did something about 

505
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:42,440
it. 
Brothers and sisters, God sees 

506
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:52,440
your need and he will do 
something about it #3 it is a 

507
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:59,800
privilege to be a helper. 
It is a privilege to be a 

508
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:03,280
helper. 
When God saw that it was not 

509
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:06,320
good for Adam to be alone. 
How did God meet this need? 

510
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:10,920
God saw that Adam was alone. 
He had this need. 

511
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:14,000
How did God meet this need? 
He didn't say to him, I will 

512
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:18,639
make you a friend. 
He didn't say I will make a 

513
00:34:18,639 --> 00:34:22,480
woman. 
He didn't say I will make a 

514
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:27,280
wife. 
He said I will make a helper. 

515
00:34:29,199 --> 00:34:32,679
A helper. 
Now, there are some that 

516
00:34:32,679 --> 00:34:38,040
absolutely despise this term. 
They feel it's degrading. 

517
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:44,120
You might despise this term. 
Feminism has so infiltrated our 

518
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:48,719
society and our culture, even 
the modern church, that the idea

519
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:53,560
of calling women or wives 
helpers is considered toxic. 

520
00:34:53,560 --> 00:35:01,280
But let me remind us all that 
this Hebrew word, Ezzer, helper,

521
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:04,200
that Hebrew word ezzer, it's 
used 17 times in the Old 

522
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:07,720
Testament. 
Did you know that nine of the 17

523
00:35:07,720 --> 00:35:15,640
times it is used of God, nine of
the 17 times it's used of God. 

524
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:20,120
Psalm 121, one to two. 
I lift my eyes to the hell 

525
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:25,320
hills. 
Where does my ezzer, my help 

526
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:31,720
come from? 
My ezzer, my help comes from the

527
00:35:31,720 --> 00:35:38,160
Lord. 
God is willing to be called our 

528
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:45,360
helper, and so for us in Christ.
May we never think this term is 

529
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,880
beneath us. 
It is a privilege to be a 

530
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:52,640
helper. 
We are like God when we are a 

531
00:35:52,640 --> 00:36:03,320
helper #4 God was mindful of 
Adam's specific need, and God 

532
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:08,680
met that specific need. 
God was mindful of Adam's 

533
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:12,880
specific need, and God met that 
specific need. 

534
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:17,520
You ever had somebody who wanted
to help and they did help, but 

535
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:19,160
their help was really not that 
helpful? 

536
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:23,040
You ever had that happen? 
Sometimes people try to help 

537
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:25,880
with words, right? 
You share about like a hard 

538
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:29,680
trial in your life and they say,
well, at least you have your 

539
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:32,800
health. 
You know, like, thanks, that 

540
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:36,360
wasn't helpful. 
Sometimes people give you 

541
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:39,680
unsolicited advice. 
You ever just been venting and 

542
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,400
then somebody gives you like a 
10 step plan to fix your problem

543
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:45,760
and you're like, thank you. 
I wasn't looking for that, but 

544
00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,480
thank you. 
Sometimes we take our 

545
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:51,000
preferences and we place them on
others in an attempt to be 

546
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:54,360
helpful the way that we we we 
try to take our preferences and 

547
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:58,080
put them on others. 
I will try to clean up Lauren's 

548
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:02,400
messes. 
She doesn't find it helpful and 

549
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:05,960
her mind, it's not a mess. 
It's like it's where I wanted to

550
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:08,040
be and I'm like, I was, I was 
trying to help. 

551
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:12,480
See, I find it helpful. 
Sometimes you ask someone a 

552
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:14,640
simple question. 
You ever ask a simple question 

553
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:18,760
and someone gives you a seminar.
Sometimes someone helps you with

554
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:20,840
the project. 
But at the end you realize, I 

555
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:22,320
could have done this faster by 
myself. 

556
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:31,680
God didn't just see Adam's need.
God saw Adam's specific need. 

557
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:37,640
Adam didn't just need a helper. 
He didn't need just a helper. 

558
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:40,320
God could have given him an ox 
or a donkey. 

559
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:44,200
If all he needed was a helper, 
they could The ox and the donkey

560
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,560
could help him work and keep 
this garden. 

561
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:51,760
But God saw that Adam needed a 
specific type of helper, a 

562
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:56,560
helper that was fit for him, 
that corresponded to him. 

563
00:37:57,040 --> 00:38:01,120
God never gives us unhelpful 
help. 

564
00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:06,600
Ever. 
He's not only sees our need, he 

565
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:11,120
sees our very specific need. 
And he meets that need. 

566
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:15,520
Psalm 139 says that God is 
acquainted with all our ways, 

567
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:20,160
which means He's also acquainted
with all of our specific needs. 

568
00:38:20,720 --> 00:38:30,560
And He meets those specific 
needs #5 neither animals nor AI 

569
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:36,000
are suitable helpers for us. 
We need people. 

570
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:43,480
Neither animals nor AI are 
suitable helpers for us. 

571
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:49,080
We need people. 
I see two very dangerous trends 

572
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:53,440
going on in our society. 1 
revolves around pets, the other 

573
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:59,960
revolves around AI. 
According to a 2024 Harris Poll,

574
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:05,280
roughly 43% of Americans with 
higher concentrations among Gen.

575
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:09,840
Z and millennials stated they 
would prefer to have a pet as 

576
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:15,600
their child rather than a human.
143% That's concerning. 

577
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:20,920
That's concerning. 
This is not just true with 

578
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:22,760
children, it's even true with 
dating and marriage. 

579
00:39:23,720 --> 00:39:25,960
There are some people who will 
choose not to get married, or 

580
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:29,360
not to date, or perhaps not even
to build solid friendships in 

581
00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:30,160
their life. 
Why? 

582
00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:32,920
Because they have a dog or a cat
that meets those needs. 

583
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:41,040
That's concerning. 
What's interesting to me is that

584
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:44,600
God brought all the animals 
before Adam and there was not 

585
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:51,160
found a helper fit for him. 
No animal couldn't meet Adam's 

586
00:39:51,240 --> 00:39:54,040
need. 
And yes, I'm not if you, if you 

587
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:59,800
love dogs and cats or birds or 
I'm not hating on it, OK, I'm 

588
00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:03,520
just saying they're not a helper
for you and the way that God 

589
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:04,920
designs to have a helper for 
you. 

590
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:08,680
And the helper doesn't have to 
be a mate. 

591
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:13,240
It could be the church. 
No, not everybody's an animal 

592
00:40:13,240 --> 00:40:15,000
lover. 
You're like, don't worry about 

593
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:16,480
me. 
I'm I'm not an animal lover. 

594
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,680
Never going to own an animal, 
never going to have a pet. 

595
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:22,480
Also, another dangerous trend 
going on our society in a 

596
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:25,680
completely different category 
and that is AI. 

597
00:40:27,480 --> 00:40:32,200
There is a growing phenomenon 
where people are finding helpers

598
00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:36,040
in AI. 
Some of them develop 

599
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:41,320
relationships with AI. 
The dangers are real. 

600
00:40:43,720 --> 00:40:46,440
AI can create echo chambers, 
right? 

601
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:49,800
And curate this to tell you what
you want to hear. 

602
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:53,320
Does AI ever tell you what you 
don't want to hear? 

603
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:58,040
There can be an atrophy of 
compassion. 

604
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:02,600
You don't ever have to show 
compassion to AI. 

605
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:07,680
And then you can that that 
muscle of compassion can 

606
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:09,800
atrophy. 
And when you get to humans, you 

607
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:13,920
don't have it. 
There's monetized loneliness. 

608
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:18,400
You realize that AI benefits 
from our loneliness. 

609
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:24,240
It's incentivized. 
There's also a power nature. 

610
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:28,960
I get to be the boss. 
I get to be the king of this, 

611
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:36,800
this robot. 
I can even tell it what I wanted

612
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:38,080
to say. 
I can tell it like, hey, when 

613
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:40,520
you respond to me, like, like, 
call me this. 

614
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:43,840
Call me king. 
It will. 

615
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:44,960
It'll call you king the rest of 
your life. 

616
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:53,560
There's a power nature there. 
In the same way that people 

617
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:59,640
exchanged idols for God, people 
today are exchanging animals and

618
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:06,480
technology for people. 
Friends, God designed us for 

619
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:10,520
human interaction. 
We will always have this need. 

620
00:42:10,720 --> 00:42:14,320
We will never outgrow this need.
We will always need people. 

621
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:19,360
We will always need human 
interaction number six. 

622
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:31,080
In one verse God dismantles same
sex marriage, polygamy, divorce,

623
00:42:31,720 --> 00:42:34,280
transgender, and sexual 
immorality. 

624
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:42,520
In one verse God dismantles same
sex marriage, polygamy, divorce,

625
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,720
transgender and sexual 
immorality. 

626
00:42:46,720 --> 00:42:49,880
Genesis 224 is one of the most 
important verses in the Bible. 

627
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:52,720
It's quoted by Jesus for this 
reason. 

628
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:58,160
In this one verse God dismantles
5 sinful practices. 

629
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:00,520
Today let's take this one at a 
time. 

630
00:43:00,720 --> 00:43:05,200
Same sex marriage. 
God says therefore a man shall 

631
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:09,640
leave his father and mother and 
hold fast to what? 

632
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:17,320
His wife, not his husband, but 
his wife. 

633
00:43:19,240 --> 00:43:21,600
A wife is not holding fast to 
her wife. 

634
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:27,160
She holds fast to her husband. 
In addition, he leaves what? 

635
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:32,360
He leaves his mother and father.
He does not leave his father's, 

636
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:36,880
he does not leave his mother's. 
He leaves his father and mother.

637
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:42,400
B Polygamy. 
The statement that I have given 

638
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:46,400
before about this topic is this.
Polygamy was a practice that God

639
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:50,440
allowed as a concession in the 
Old Testament due to man's 

640
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:53,920
weakness, but was not part of 
his original design and it 

641
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:58,480
always had consequences. 
God's original design was not 

642
00:43:58,480 --> 00:43:59,720
polygamy. 
God's original design was 

643
00:43:59,720 --> 00:44:01,440
monogamy. 
We see it right here. 

644
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:04,760
Notice a man shall leave his 
father and mother and hold fast 

645
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:10,120
to what? 
His wife singular, not wives 

646
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:15,440
wife singular. 
See divorce. 

647
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:19,000
The Pharisees one day came to 
Jesus to test him. 

648
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:23,080
They asked him, they said, 
teacher, is it lawful to divorce

649
00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:28,440
one's wife for any cause? 
And the way that Jesus answers 

650
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:31,360
this question is to quote 
Genesis 224. 

651
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:34,360
He concludes with this 
statement. 

652
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:39,240
So they are no longer 2, but one
flesh. 

653
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:42,120
What? 
Therefore God has joined 

654
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:51,040
together, let not man separate D
transgender. 

655
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:59,240
In Matthew 19, right before 
Jesus quoted Genesis 224, Jesus 

656
00:44:59,240 --> 00:45:03,560
said this. 
Have you not read that He who 

657
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:08,320
created them from the beginning 
made them male and female? 

658
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:10,200
Now that's an interesting 
statement, isn't it? 

659
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:15,360
Because that's not what it says.
It doesn't say that He made them

660
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,280
male and female. 
It says He made them man and 

661
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:19,880
woman. 
There's a different Hebrew word 

662
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:23,320
for male and female. 
In other words, Jesus is saying 

663
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:28,680
a man is a male and a woman is a
female. 

664
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:36,080
Further, He doesn't say he 
assigned them male and female, 

665
00:45:38,240 --> 00:45:39,800
doesn't say he assigned them 
male. 

666
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:45,040
He says he made them male and 
female. 

667
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:54,040
He created them male and female.
Gender is not assigned, it is 

668
00:45:54,040 --> 00:46:01,640
created and made by God. 
Last 1 E Sexual immorality In 

669
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:04,000
Corinth, members of the church 
are engaging in temple 

670
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:07,680
prostitution, and Paul says to 
them, Do you not know that your 

671
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:10,960
bodies are members of Christ? 
Shall I then take the members of

672
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:13,480
Christ and make them members of 
a prostitute? 

673
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:15,600
Never. 
Or do you not know that one who 

674
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:17,960
was joined to a prostitute 
becomes one body with her? 

675
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:22,440
For as it is written here, it is
the 2 will become one flesh. 

676
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:27,800
Paul's point in there is that 
one flesh should only exist in 

677
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:33,200
the confines of marriage. 
That idea one flesh, it should 

678
00:46:33,200 --> 00:46:35,480
not exist outside of marriage. 
It only should exist in the 

679
00:46:35,480 --> 00:46:40,560
confines of marriage. 
And so in this one verse, don't 

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ever say that the word of God, 
that one verse is not powerful 

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and cannot teach us one verse. 
God dismantles same sex 

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marriage, polygamy, divorce, 
transgender, and sexual 

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immorality. 
All of it is there if we have 

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eyes to see. 
Last point #7 A prudent wife or 

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husband is from the Lord. 
A prudent wife or husband is 

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from the Lord. 
Then let me start off by 

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affirming that even though this 
passage seems to suggest that 

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marriage is God's design for his
people, you read this and it 

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seems to suggest that God's 
design for us is to be married. 

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Both Jesus and Paul affirm that 
singleness is better. 

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When the disciples came to Jesus
and they said Jesus, it is 

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better not to marry. 
Jesus didn't say to them, no, 

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no, no, no. 
He said not everyone can receive

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it, only those to whom it is 
given. 

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In other words, he, he, he, he 
affirms it is better. 

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Paul said he who refrains from 
marriage will do even better. 

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First Corinthians 738 So this is
not teaching that God's design 

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is for everyone to be married. 
And if you're not married like 

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something's wrong or or you're 
not living in God's will, no. 

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But that being said, these 
verses are not intended to 

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diminish the beauty of marriage 
when God made this helper. 

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I love how this is worded. 
The text says he brought her to 

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the man. 
He brought her to the man. 

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It's as if God is presenting a 
gift to Adam. 

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Proverbs 1914 says house and 
wealth are inherited from 

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fathers, but a prudent wife is 
from the Lord. 

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And of course this is also true 
of husbands. 

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We have around 11 married 
couples in our church who 

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regularly attend around 11. 
Let me take the time to ask 

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everyone of you and if you're 
visiting with us, if you're 

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married as well, if you're, if 
you're dating and, and, and 

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you're going to get married one 
day or if you're engaged and 

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you're going to be married one 
day. 

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Let me take the time to ask you 
a very direct question. 

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Do you see your spouse as a gift
from the Lord? 

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Because they are. 
Do you see your spouse as a gift

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from God? 
Because they are. 

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Let's pray.