Chatters. Welcome back to another chit
chat episode with the chatters. I'll let all the songs wow,
where's? That Connor hi the.
Songs tonight, great. Thank you guys so much for
tuning in again today. We appreciate you guys.
We love you guys and thank you all.
You have all written into the survey and that was so good and
we are making some changes based off your feedback.
So we want to thank you so much for that because we do what we
do with like, you know, kind of blind, you know, unless we hear
from you guys and we're enjoying what we're doing.
But what we enjoy the most is when we're actually hitting the
mark of what you guys need. So there's a bunch of things
that are coming in. We want to and we want to adapt
based off the feedback that you've given us.
So thank you so much for that. That's awesome.
Yeah. So you're gonna be seeing some
changes. Can I tell you what that reminds
me of? Well, there's a trend going
around on TikTok right now called eyebrow blindness.
Have you heard of this? You talking about my eyebrows?
No, it's not yours. No, no, no, no, no, no.
It's not yours. It's people that intentionally
do their eyebrows in very dramatic ways.
But for some reason, you can't see it.
They can't see it. They get more and more intense
and the videos of them are like, pretty hectic.
And then all of a sudden people will point it out and they'll be
like, Oh my God, how have I not seen this?
And that's what I feel like this is the these surveys are our
little, like, moments of reality to the eyebrow blindness.
The things that we just don't see, we just marinate in.
Yeah, yeah. And we had a couple of
conversations with you guys about like, I don't want to come
across too harsh or I don't want to, you know, all that sort of
stuff. We seriously we have thick skins
for starters, while I've got thicker skin than you.
But yeah. I read them all, but again, like
for me, I'm like, I want to know what I need to do different.
So actually your feedback, even if it is blunt, is still
feedback. And that is great for me to be
able to see because I can be like, cool, we can do that,
that, that and that. And I go very much down to
problem, fix it. Yeah, strategy mode and.
There's no point in US doing it if it's not what you guys want.
Yeah, exactly. Literally is not.
There's no point. Yeah, we love it.
So yeah, anyway, we've got a couple of things we're gonna do
tonight. We're gonna go through our chat
jar, actually, and that's gonna be a lot of our topics for
tonight. And then we're gonna to talk
through one of the next questions that was in was one of
you guys actually the chatters that wrote in, and it was a lot
of questions. So I've just broken it down.
We're gonna, yeah, address another one in this episode.
So if you haven't yet listen to the full episode, please do This
is following on from that. You saw us off.
I am, yeah. Do it.
Which of us? I know the answer to this.
Which of us is the better secret keeper?
Let me just say you, you would be the better secret keeper.
The only reason? Where's this guy?
You don't ask for the information.
Yeah, exactly. So I'm probably the better
secret ticket, but because I don't remember information and
and I'm literally just repeating what you're saying, don't answer
question. You didn't even remember.
Yeah, unless it's Christmas gifts.
Then you're the worst secret keeper.
Why? You're good at keeping the
secret, but you constantly ask me if I want you to tell me
whatever. Yeah, I'm so excited.
Secrets. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Because I I do. I kick ass a Christmas.
Gift. You do well.
Yeah, you do do well. I'm the Christmas.
King if it's if it's keeping a secret to surprise the other
one, I'm better at that because I.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry, did we just tell our
proposal story? Yeah, we did.
I'm sorry, did I organise a weekend away for you and you
had? Zero clue.
I doesn't. I know.
I'm still very proud of that because.
They watched me by Short. Time.
Yeah, you did get me that one time.
Let's not list all the times Amy has, but if it's a secret, like
someone's told him information, we would never tell each other's
secrets. For one thing, that's a vault.
We don't tell other people secrets either.
It's more that I'll often update Blair on things that are
happening in my world and with my friends or my family.
And Blair, just tonight, he's just telling me about somebody.
And I was like, oh, what's this, this and this?
And you're like, I don't know. I didn't ask.
Oh yeah. So it's not about, so you're not
actually answering the question, 'cause it's not a secret thing.
That's true. It's it's literally that I don't
pry into people's personal lives.
That's what it is. I people wanna share.
With me. They can share with me, but I'm
not gonna. Keep It's nice to show
curiosity. I do show curiosity and I show
to a point where I feel like it's getting creepy and awkward.
Well, alright, Blason. Mutton with the chat jar chat.
Jar just brought out the spice tonight.
What's something you you'd like to try together?
Well. I want to Do you actually have
an answer? No.
I'm trying to think of something sexy but I've got nothing.
I actually want to try dancing together, not.
I mean, yeah, that sounds great. See, it's so funny because you
say you're the dancer. I used to be the dancer.
I've come to grips that I'm just no longer a dancer.
OK, I used to bust a move on the dance floor at parties,
weddings, whatever else, but now I'm like, I don't have my
groove. I think you would.
I think you just don't put yourself out there.
But I would love to do like TikTok trends and stuff more on
our socials and Blaze. Just not a keen green bean for
that. So we'll get there.
Something I'd like to do together, Hikes.
So you come with hikes, he'll go and hike with me and I'll do
TikTok videos with you. All right.
Deal we're never going to get do cool.
Another another one. Do one in one way each.
We're ploughing through these, why can't we do them as fast on
the podcast? This is a podcast.
What's one way we've grown individually that has benefited
our relationship? Oh my gosh, what's one way we
haven't grown? Seriously, I think we've both
grown to be more like each other in some ways, so.
How's it individually? What do you mean?
It says how have you grown individually?
I individually, well yeah, I mean I've grown with your input
to be more. Individually, I don't.
Know how are we both grown individually?
Oh, I can't speak to you. I'm asking you for.
Me, I've got taller. I would say business like work
wise, professionally, we both grown individually which has
made it for a stronger kind of YEAH team.
And in different ways too because you communications and
marketing. And so again, the way that we
communicate has strengthened through the way that you've
grown in your professional world and me with my leadership and
management strategy. Strategy.
Has also been how do we bring it into our relationship.
It's absolutely, I think our business world last one, open it
up and get it up. Josh, you with the songs, baby.
If you if we could take a dream vacation anywhere, where would
it be and why? We're actually talking about
this, Yeah. Because.
Yeah, which won't happen. No, we're our 10 year
anniversary, next year marriage anniversary and we're broke.
We're broke, but I, I almost feel like doing something not
extravagant but for a longer period of time would be just as
fun for that. Like even going to somewhere
like the coast. I mean, we will definitely do
something. But like to the point of the
question. Yeah, going somewhere, if we
could go. We've we've thrown around going
to England because we love England.
I really want to get back to New York because I love New York.
Those are the two places that come to.
And we have heritage there too. In England, yeah.
So. That's that's part of a like
yeah, a draw more there and stuff.
Yeah. And I've got an Ireland and.
There's not many. I don't have a Europe trip on my
heart like some people do. We've done Europe individually
and together a little bit. So I don't really have a huge
draw to Europe, which obviously if someone took me there I'd be
fine to go. But yeah, we do like the UK.
We've got like quite a keen interest to go to Canada,
somewhere we'd love to go. Yeah.
We've been to New Zealand, as
you know, but that's beautiful. It's not definitely.
I think for us our dream trip would be UK.
UK. Yeah, for just Amy and I
eventually with the kids, like when the kids are teenagers,
that'd be awesome. But like now if we went
tomorrow, it'd be just you and I to the UK for like a month.
Yeah, that'd be. So cool.
Get over jet lag. Yeah, yeah.
And then enjoy it, yeah. And then get jet lag back, yeah.
Yeah, exactly. And then be parenting with jet
lag. Amazing.
Cool. Good job chat jar.
All right, down to our chat. A question.
Want to know more about us? All right, want to know our
wedding story? So it's a big, I mean, it's a
hard one to say wedding story because it's, I guess there's a
story. It just feels less a proposal
story, feels more like, oh, there's a story and then wedding
stories like Big Thing. But yeah, so we got engaged in I
think July. We ended up getting married in
March the next year. So we were engaged for about 8
months. And I had always wanted dating.
For six months, engaged for eight months.
People think we're crazy, and we probably are.
Yeah, well, we're still doing. We're still married, so
whatever. Yeah.
We've got four kids and a puppy. Anyway, I always wanted a a
carnival themed wedding. I was really not keen on sit
down meals and fancy stuff. Like, we're not that type of
people, interestingly. Have you put out video out?
No, I haven't done that. Interestingly, I get kind of
irritated going to other people's weddings if it's not a
sit down. Yeah, I'm so hypocritical
because I'm like just got topless, like going on.
You, you keep going because I think ours is different to some
of the weddings that we've been to.
True, true, true. Anyway, so we went.
We went festival theme. Don't.
Be careful not to and really bag at the weddings I have.
Loved every wedding we've gone to.
It's just that I get so tired and sore and I just want to sit
down and have an actual meal that I don't have to fight
people for. That's the main thing, yeah.
And I always end up end up super pregnant at when Not anymore.
Shebang. Not anymore anyway.
Yeah, festival theme. I really, we didn't have tonnes
of money and I just the idea of spending tonnes of money on
food, ironically just was like like, no, I'm going to spend
$120 on so much more now. Yeah, per person, Yeah, because
we also had tonnes of people we wanted there.
And I, I feel like we just prioritised having as many
people as we could to the full thing.
And we were both working part time too, so we were on a very
low wage. Yeah, yeah.
So yeah, we decided to go festival theme.
We wrestled a little bit with what to do for food and that
kind of thing, and we landed on food truck, which was so fun.
Such a good meeting. We were the first.
There's been quite a few people that have done that since then.
No one had done that one yet. We were.
People were like, oh, food truck.
They were, really. And Gelato.
Gelato. Gelato, Gelato, Gelato stand,
yeah, we could have done what we could have done better.
I think if we had more finances was had a few food trucks
because there was a massive line of a huge.
Line to ages. Yeah, the burgers.
Were great, they were so good, although again, in saying that
if I'd thought about it, I probably would have chosen
something a little bit easier for me to eat.
I didn't really eat I. Didn't really eat either.
Yeah, we're just so busy. And your wedding and so busy and
you just go see everyone. Yeah.
You just want to go and bless the marriage.
Yeah. So we had planned it for apple
orchards, so we had a jumping castle.
So the carnival themes. There was a bunch of different
carnival things, Nothing massive like the jumping castle was the
biggest thing that we had. There been a bunch of little,
like, yard games. Yeah.
And anyway, the day before or the morning of, we had severe
weather warnings. So our wedding was outside in
the park, and it was under these huge trees, I want to say Maple
trees. Yeah.
Oak, oak, oak they're. Big trees, big trees.
And so there's three of these three massive trees.
It was beautiful. And then, yeah, So what we
actually did, and we were, again, we've just been so
blessed by the people that have surrounded us.
So we had our wedding and a lot of people didn't actually come
to our ceremony because they were over at the apple orchard
because they'd spent, we'd spent the day before setting up the
apple orchard with the carnival thing.
And then they went back there during the ceremony, packed it
all down, took it back to our church and put it all inside.
And it was a huge amount of work.
And we're just like, they just gave us such a special day.
Yeah. So we had our ceremony.
We did the highs to everyone. And then we went and got photos.
Yeah. Came back.
It was all done. We didn't have to worry about it
at all. So we're so blessed by that.
Yeah, that was. Yeah ceremony, like we said
under the trees beautiful outdoor and it didn't actually
end up I think it ranged like for like 10 minutes or something
the weather was not severe, but better safe than sorry yeah Amy
on the day didn't feel that way but yeah the.
Morning. The morning of you were I.
Was not struggling. Yeah, I was not.
I was struggling because I was on the phone with Blair.
I was on the phone with the person helping us plan it and I
was talking to my mom and everyone's like, it's going to
be fine. It's going to be fine.
And I just really struggled to turn around from something I've
been projecting and planning. And I was like, I know it's
going to be fine, but I need to be OK.
I need a moment to be not OK. Like that's how I felt and then
it's fine by the time. I did.
And we're still here anyway. And then, yeah, we went over to
the church, had a really fun reception.
Lots of just just party like just it was just like a big it
was. Seriously.
A huge party We. Finished really early, like at 9
we're like we're done. I had the biggest headache, like
I just wanted to get. Yeah, you went to leave earlier
than I did. I was, I was having fun
partying, but we went back and partied.
But I mean, but it was it was still, we were so tired by by
the end of it as well. And then we went down to we went
down to Saint Kilda for the night, So down to a hotel down
there. And the morning after the
wedding is was the best. Oh man, waking up with nothing
to plan, nothing to think about. I was a.
Huge holiday in front of us, yeah.
And we had nothing because we were there for two nights that
that morning after was the best because we didn't have to get a
flight straight away. We went to Hawaii for our
honeymoon and and and which my uncle blessed us with and paid
for that trip, which was amazing.
Yeah. We we just woke up.
I was like, what do you want to do?
I don't know. There's nothing to do.
Like it was just, we're just sorry, relaxing and so peaceful.
And yeah, that morning was the best.
There's a few things that I've recently, I don't know why I was
looking at wedding stuff recently.
I was getting it or maybe for our our last episode that our
story website, I was looking through photos, which I haven't.
We haven't really spent much time looking through our photos
and there's a few things that I was like, man, I just wish I'd
just done better at that time. Oh yeah.
Well, like, and so things like like I just and as I've said
this on the podcast multiple times, I was not present.
I really feel like I was in a daze for the first however many
years my life and including during our wedding.
And so wanting to leave early on the night.
There was so many stresses for me.
I was so stressed really leading up to the wedding about I was so
stressed and I just honestly like it wasn't him.
It was just me projecting my anxiety that he would flip out
or something like that because I was his oldest kid getting
married and he was quite a defensive, not defensive,
protective he. Did really well.
He did. Really.
Yeah. And his, his speech when he
walked you down the aisle was really not.
It was. Yeah, and I was just but.
And that shocked me, yeah. I was tense thinking he's gonna
like interrupt the wedding or something, which he never had.
It was so over the top in my head, but because of that, I was
just so stressed. I was so stressed constantly
about how people were going and how that was going.
And I feel like I gave myself a migraine and I just wanted to
leave early because I was like so overwhelmed by being with
everybody and around everybody. And I wish that I had, I wish I
was better at not letting that control me so that I could have
been more present and just enjoyed because when I look at
the photos, I love it and I enjoy it and I obviously don't
regret it at all, but I did. I also see, hence Amy, like I
see the stress that I was feeling.
I don't see relaxed Amy. And I wish that I had been more
relaxed. I also wish that I had prepared
for the honeymoon and not allowed myself to get a UTI for
the full two weeks on. So there's a few things that
just, yeah, but it was really beautiful.
It was really fun. It was really fun.
I just feel like it was a fun wedding vibe which matched us
because we didn't want anything fancy, formal and fancy.
And it was. A very rustic vibe.
So my vest was like a brown rustic key, and some of the
groomsmen was very brown, like brown rustic key.
Yeah, yeah. You liked?
There you go, that's our wedding story quick summary.
Yeah. Thanks guys.
Yeah, this has been the Chatter episode, guys.
Thanks for your questions. Thanks for your feedback.
We really, really appreciate it. Like Blair said earlier, until
next week. Jack de La Vista, baby.
How do you say that, Chaca? La Vista.
Chaca La Vista. Chaca chilli chaca La Vista
baby. Baby.