1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:05,720 And we're back. Blair was too embarrassed to 2 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:06,160 join me. I. 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,000 Wasn't embarrassed, I was just like I wanted to give you your 4 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:10,880 time to shine. We're back, guys. 5 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:18,240 We're back. Honey, we need to chat. 6 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:27,600 Season 3 honey you need a chat. That's insane. 7 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:29,680 Absolutely pumped for. It we are actually really, 8 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:33,000 really excited. It has been not easy to get back 9 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,920 into it, which is exactly the same as Season 2 when we came 10 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:39,360 back after our previous break. Not easy, practically speaking, 11 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:41,720 but I think I've been more excited about getting back into 12 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:44,400 the season then I ever have been before so. 13 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:46,240 Yeah. Coming into third season, you 14 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:49,240 get into a rhythm of things and you're like, oh, we've tried 15 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:52,160 that before and like we won't do that again or we should do that 16 00:00:52,160 --> 00:00:53,960 again or we should grow in this area. 17 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:56,080 So we're coming with a bit more insight. 18 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:57,560 And so I think that's where the excitement is. 19 00:00:57,560 --> 00:00:59,280 It's not starting again from scratch. 20 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,680 It's just growing on what we've been doing for the last two 21 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:02,920 years. Yeah, exactly. 22 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:06,360 And I think I've found at least I don't know what has happened, 23 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:11,040 but I've just really, really settled in terms of the, I guess 24 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:13,760 direction or freedom I'm feeling in terms of our content. 25 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:16,480 So I'm like super chill about it. 26 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:17,760 I'm not really worried. Can you? 27 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:18,720 Tell how? Chilled. 28 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:20,600 She is so chilled. That's great. 29 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:24,240 I'm really not worried about what people think of us anymore. 30 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:26,960 Maybe it's because I'm 35 now. Yeah. 31 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:29,760 Anyway, welcome back to Dive Right In. 32 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:33,240 We're gonna start with a good old, old school icebreaker. 33 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:36,840 And before we do that, because we are so professional, Yeah. 34 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:41,640 Hey guys, welcome to honey. We need to chat but podcasts all 35 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,480 about the importance of communication in a relationship. 36 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:46,960 We believe that when communication dies in a 37 00:01:46,960 --> 00:01:49,480 relationship, that's when bad things happens in that 38 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:51,440 relationship. So we're here just to short 39 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:53,960 share our stories. We get different guests coming 40 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:57,360 in and sharing their stories. We get different, but or just 41 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:01,640 you regular people. Our hope and prayer is that as 42 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:05,040 we grow in our relationship, we're encouraging you guys to as 43 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:06,360 well. It's as simple as a 44 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:08,960 conversation, but a conversation is not always simple. 45 00:02:09,199 --> 00:02:11,840 And so that's what we that's what our hearts are is to really 46 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:15,320 keep encouraging and fostering that as we do that in our own 47 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:18,920 relationship. So welcome to you join us. 48 00:02:18,920 --> 00:02:22,800 And because we're professed, this is a very clean segue into 49 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,520 our game. Would you rather I would? 50 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:27,800 All right, I'm going to read some would you rather's and 51 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:30,280 we're gonna get some reactions. We haven't done this for a 52 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:30,840 really long time. I. 53 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:32,080 Didn't think we did it last season. 54 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:34,160 We didn't do it last season, we only did it first season, but 55 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:35,520 we're bringing it right back. Yeah. 56 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:39,640 So babe, would you rather always have wet socks or always have a 57 00:02:39,640 --> 00:02:42,760 stone in your shoe? Wet socks not. 58 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,880 Oh, no. OK, OK, I've got two thoughts. 59 00:02:46,120 --> 00:02:48,080 OK, I've got two thoughts. Alright, first thought. 60 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:49,880 Wet socks. That's my first thought. 61 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:53,400 Great thought, great thought. Yeah, let it cook, Let it cook. 62 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,640 The downside to wet socks? It can lead to blisters. 63 00:02:56,840 --> 00:02:58,920 Truth. That's where I get caught up, 64 00:02:58,920 --> 00:02:59,520 Right? Yeah. 65 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:01,360 Stone in the foot. What? 66 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:04,000 Stone in the chute? Yeah, Which goes in the foot. 67 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,640 So that can also cause discomfort and depends how big 68 00:03:07,640 --> 00:03:10,080 the stone is, Right. I'm an expert player. 69 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:13,160 You got stuff in your boots all the time as super frustrating. 70 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,120 So most of the time you can suck it up and deal with it. 71 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:18,280 But sometimes you get that niggly one that just, you know, 72 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,440 it's in the wrong spot. You can't Kick It Out. 73 00:03:20,440 --> 00:03:22,880 You can't, you know, whatever is very annoying. 74 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,080 And it can also lead to a blister. 75 00:03:25,120 --> 00:03:26,640 Wet sock. I'm stone in the chute. 76 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:29,920 Easy. Yeah, because I got a splinter 77 00:03:29,920 --> 00:03:33,120 or like a prickle in my foot yesterday when I was putting the 78 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:35,480 bins out and I couldn't walk on one part of my foot. 79 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:37,560 But you know what I did? Didn't walk on that part of my 80 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:39,000 foot. And that's what I would do with 81 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:41,280 the stone in my shoe. But wet socks are dangerous. 82 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:43,440 Why? Because they used to send dry 83 00:03:43,440 --> 00:03:47,120 socks over to army people because of the risk of gangrene. 84 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,520 If you're if your feet are in wet socks, socks for too long. 85 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:51,240 But I can take the wet socks off. 86 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:52,800 What? How long is the time for? 87 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:56,120 I don't always have them. Always not stuff that not not 88 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:57,080 that. You're wrong. 89 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:00,760 But you didn't actually clarify. I said would you rather? 90 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:03,240 Listen to that part. Thank you. 91 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:07,080 Second one, would you rather sneeze glitter or hiccup 92 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:10,480 bubbles? No, I think hiccup bubbles 93 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:13,240 sneezing anything is really frustrating. 94 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:15,200 Hiccup bubbles is funny I. See. 95 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:18,320 Yeah, and I feel like hiccuping doesn't happen as often than as 96 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:20,079 sneezing. Yeah, exactly, Hiccup bubbles. 97 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,800 Also, yeah, what is that? There's like an old Disney movie 98 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,000 where someone ate soap and they're hiccup bubbles. 99 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:28,160 In many Disney movies, but. Maybe like Snow White or 100 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:29,720 something like that. One of the dwarfs anyway in. 101 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:32,240 My head, I'm just picturing I'm sneezing and it's just going to 102 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:33,280 go all through my beard. Yeah. 103 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:35,200 Glitter. It's just going to be glitter 104 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:36,720 beard. I mean that would be kind of 105 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:38,080 cool. It depends if it's mixed with 106 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:39,720 snot I. Was going to say, yeah, exactly 107 00:04:39,720 --> 00:04:41,320 right, But you don't just sneeze glitter. 108 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:43,480 Though so glitter would irritate, you'd just keep 109 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:45,440 sneezing because it would just keep irritating. 110 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:48,040 All right, next one. Would you rather accidentally 111 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:51,840 like every Instagram post you scroll past or accidentally send 112 00:04:51,840 --> 00:04:55,200 voice messages instead of texts? Accidentally send voice 113 00:04:55,240 --> 00:04:57,200 messages. 100% I already do that. 114 00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:59,960 Yeah, I I literally just sent a voice message to someone because 115 00:04:59,960 --> 00:05:03,200 I couldn't be bothered texting. Liking every Instagram post 116 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:06,520 Accidentally liking a post is dangerous enough, but liking 117 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:08,920 every Instagram post you scroll past you don't know what you got 118 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,200 a scroll past, you know even looking and you can scroll past 119 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:14,640 it all right so next one. Would you rather all always 120 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:18,560 forget why you walked into a room or always forget what you 121 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:20,840 were about to say mid sentence? I. 122 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:23,120 Literally zoned out halfway through that. 123 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:25,960 Would you rather listen to your Why Instagram? 124 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:27,560 Thing I'm like, God, no, that's scary. 125 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:29,040 No, like the thing. What are you? 126 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:31,160 Picturing on the Instagram thing, Yeah. 127 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:34,120 OK. Would you rather always forget 128 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:38,040 why you walked into a room or always forget what you were 129 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:40,880 about to say mid sentence? I do both of those things 130 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:42,840 already. It's very frustrating. 131 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:44,360 Or. But no, it has to be walking 132 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:46,720 into a room. I'm such a talker and the thing 133 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:50,440 that hurts my brain the most is trying to remember what it is. 134 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:51,760 I was about to say. Yeah. 135 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:54,440 I'm exactly with you. I already walk into rooms all 136 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:55,800 the time and I'm like, why did I get up? 137 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:57,200 Why am I here? Why am I here? 138 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:59,400 But yes, I'm the same. It's like a sneeze that doesn't 139 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:01,440 come, a glitter sneeze that doesn't come. 140 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:03,440 And it hurts when you can't think of what, and especially 141 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:05,120 when you got a really good point to make. 142 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,160 Yeah, it's like when you got a song, I'm stuck in your head and 143 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:08,960 you just want to sing it. Don't start any songs, I'm 144 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:11,600 always stuck in my head. I'm already feeling it, I don't 145 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:13,640 even have any songs in my head but just thinking to. 146 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:16,760 Get back to the end of beginning and then we're going to move on 147 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:19,000 quickly because. I can see these. 148 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:22,120 Would you rather have last one? Would you rather have a laugh 149 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:25,320 that sounds fake or a sneeze that sounds like a scream? 150 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:32,280 Fake laugh. I feel like, I feel like I'd 151 00:06:32,280 --> 00:06:34,120 just offend people. I mean, I feel like my laugh is 152 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:37,280 already a little fake sometimes, but a sneeze that sounds like a 153 00:06:37,280 --> 00:06:38,880 scream would be pretty entertaining. 154 00:06:39,280 --> 00:06:42,440 Dude but people would get frustrated would get so much if 155 00:06:43,280 --> 00:06:46,240 he's in like cinema or any other like they would just be annoyed 156 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:46,880 at. Having they. 157 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:48,160 Wouldn't find it funny all. Right. 158 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:49,680 Well, there we go. That's so funny. 159 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:51,520 Well, good ones. Yeah, I know there were good 160 00:06:51,520 --> 00:06:53,200 ones. Actually, this time I mean I had 161 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:54,240 to. Weed to do all the other ones. 162 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:57,800 To weed through but I have looked for would you rather's 163 00:06:57,800 --> 00:06:59,840 and had a really difficult time finding good ones. 164 00:06:59,840 --> 00:07:02,280 It's not your ones, just previous ones I've done. 165 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:03,680 Maybe that's why we stopped doing them. 166 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:08,040 All right, well, now that we've reestablished who we are and our 167 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:11,360 preferences, the important ones, let's move into the episode. 168 00:07:11,360 --> 00:07:13,720 So we're going to talk a little bit about where we've been. 169 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:15,240 We're going to talk about what's coming up. 170 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:17,240 We're going to talk about what we're excited about and what's 171 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:19,480 changed. And as we already have 172 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,720 highlighted in the last things you would have seen from us, the 173 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:25,800 last episode and vlog that we put out, we took a little break. 174 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:28,640 We did and it was necessary. And I feel like it was a really 175 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,440 wise choice for the season that we were in. 176 00:07:30,440 --> 00:07:32,160 From the podcasts, we took a break from the. 177 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:34,640 Podcast from the podcast. Each other, not each other. 178 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:36,240 No, we didn't take a break from each other. 179 00:07:36,240 --> 00:07:39,640 We took a break from the podcast and content creation and we 180 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:41,760 really took a break and I knew this would happen. 181 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:45,600 That's why I didn't over promise this time when we would be back 182 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:48,280 or what we would be doing. We just pulled right back. 183 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:50,760 We needed to blaze going to talk a little bit more about that 184 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:53,160 season and that sort of thing, but it's just really important 185 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:55,120 and everything has these seasons right. 186 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:58,400 We've got these seasons where life is going pretty cruisy and 187 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:01,160 routines are going really well. And then there's seasons where 188 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:03,960 it's just maintenance and it's survival mode and it's pulling 189 00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:06,520 back to the core things that are important. 190 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:08,120 And that was one of these seasons for us. 191 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:12,360 I think any workplace you get leave and that's important to 192 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:15,360 take when you need it. And we are technically a 193 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:18,360 workplace and this was technically our leave. 194 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:19,960 We're. A workplace that makes 0 money. 195 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,680 A workplace that makes 0. We're committed, but we're here. 196 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:26,120 So that's what that's what we've been through and Blair will 197 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:29,120 explain that a little bit more. But just just highlighting the 198 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,280 importance of these seasons for everybody. 199 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:34,640 Everyone has these times where they need to pull back a little 200 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:38,039 bit and it's totally normal and healthy and in fact, important 201 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:41,720 to listen to because the alternative is much worse. 202 00:08:41,760 --> 00:08:43,960 Yeah. Yeah, yeah, we've done. 203 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:45,840 We've had a couple of breaks now. 204 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:46,880 That's what we do. Seasons. 205 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:50,560 We actually never intended to do seasons and then we just get to 206 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:53,160 an end of the year. It's just crazy like. 207 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:54,640 This is the season. This is. 208 00:08:54,880 --> 00:08:55,960 We're done now. Thank you. 209 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:58,760 This is the season and that's The thing is like we always said 210 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:02,320 that we wanted this podcast to serve us, not us serve it. 211 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:04,920 It's something we've said quite a lot and all of that content, 212 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:08,200 So our vlogs on YouTube and all that YouTube content, we're 213 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:12,200 like, we want to to serve us, you know, we want to bring stuff 214 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:13,880 out there. We want to support people. 215 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,600 We really do have a heart for other people, other marriages 216 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:18,240 and relationships and stuff like that. 217 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:22,360 And not that we lost that, but as our capability, our capacity 218 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:27,760 to do so in a genuine and excited way, we'll just. 219 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:28,200 Help. You. 220 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:30,600 Yeah, we'll just tie it like the Honestly, that was it. 221 00:09:30,600 --> 00:09:33,120 There was nothing wrong with Amy and I in our relationship. 222 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:35,960 It wasn't that, you know, we made a joke about us having a 223 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:38,480 break from each other. That's a joke, right? 224 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:41,680 We were fine and we've had some really big things come up. 225 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:45,000 Work got really intense and it always does at that time of the 226 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:48,080 year, family life was just getting intense and we're just 227 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:51,280 trying to really navigate through the future of what we're 228 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:53,120 doing here. You know, we, we love this. 229 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:55,720 We're so passionate about it and we enjoy it. 230 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:57,960 But like I said, we don't make any money. 231 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:01,600 So trying to do this with the capacity that we have, you know, 232 00:10:01,680 --> 00:10:06,920 a family of four, four kids, one toddler is it's a big gig. 233 00:10:06,920 --> 00:10:08,440 Especially while working as well. 234 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:09,520 Exactly. And then we're, they're both 235 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:11,520 working too. So I'm working full time, Amy's 236 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:13,480 working part time. And so we want to do that. 237 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,880 We want to do that well. And so we just knew we needed a 238 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:19,600 break, refresh and plan to see what the future holds. 239 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:22,560 Like what do we need to get rid of or what do we need to 240 00:10:22,560 --> 00:10:26,240 sacrifice in order to do this more or just sustain doing this 241 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:28,200 right? And it's always that nervous 242 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,880 thing is like when you take a break, like our followers drop, 243 00:10:30,880 --> 00:10:33,920 our listeners drop so much like it really does. 244 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:37,640 And it really hurts the the growth you've had in that last 245 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:40,240 season. But again, I mean, we're more 246 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:44,120 about in the enjoyment of this and our passion behind it rather 247 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:46,040 than the making money. The making money is going to 248 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:49,040 create more capacity for us and we'll get there one day. 249 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,400 But in the interim, we're having fun, you know, and well, this is 250 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:54,760 the time for us to connect on this way as well. 251 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,240 It's an intentional time for us. It's kind of like a date and you 252 00:10:57,240 --> 00:11:00,120 guys are peeking in, so welcome to that. 253 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:02,600 Yeah. So that's what it's about. 254 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:04,400 So a lot of different things were going on. 255 00:11:04,680 --> 00:11:07,440 We went overseas as well. So we went over to visit Amy's 256 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:10,920 sister and her family. And so we just were out of 257 00:11:10,920 --> 00:11:14,280 action for a bit there coming to the end of the year and just I 258 00:11:14,280 --> 00:11:18,040 was really starting to struggle with a bit of burnout. 259 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:21,480 And we both were to an extent, you know, with trying to juggle 260 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:23,760 all of the things. But me in particular with work, 261 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:25,640 like I said, a lot of things were happening. 262 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:29,840 My role is quite heavily I I catch a lot of the things that 263 00:11:29,960 --> 00:11:32,880 they need to be caught in the organisation, which I is fine. 264 00:11:32,880 --> 00:11:35,040 I love it. I love my job, I love what we're 265 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:37,200 about. I love the organisation, I love 266 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:39,120 the people. But when you feel like you're 267 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:42,280 dropping the ball too much, it weighs on me so much. 268 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:45,800 Like I have these expectations on myself, which are unrealistic 269 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:49,400 and I beat myself up. I'm my my worst, my own worst 270 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:51,040 critic. And it just really starts to 271 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:52,680 affect me. It starts affecting my mental 272 00:11:52,680 --> 00:11:55,200 health. I get into bad self care habits, 273 00:11:55,200 --> 00:11:58,400 like I just don't do it anymore. And so again, we're just 274 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:00,560 noticing all of these things. I kind of start to go on the 275 00:12:00,560 --> 00:12:05,000 spiral now from having like, what is it like 6 years now of 276 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:07,800 mental health struggles and just really navigating through that. 277 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:11,960 You start to identify them early and then you put those things in 278 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:14,640 place to address it. And that's one of the main 279 00:12:14,640 --> 00:12:15,840 reasons why we went on the break. 280 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:18,240 I was just not in AI was going down. 281 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:20,720 I was going into a spiral. We identified it. 282 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:23,760 We just had to step back, refresh, just survive. 283 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:26,960 We go into survival mode and then we come back refreshed and 284 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:29,480 ready to go. So it wasn't anything drastic 285 00:12:29,480 --> 00:12:33,680 just to help everyone be at ease, but again, identifying the 286 00:12:33,680 --> 00:12:37,400 early signs, putting things in place to not really go down deep 287 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:40,840 and was what what we want to do. Yeah, and really important for 288 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:45,360 for us to listen to our bodies and our minds and our spirit, 289 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:48,200 because we felt really prompted from God to do that as well, to 290 00:12:48,200 --> 00:12:50,800 just recognise when things are ebbing and flowing. 291 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:54,600 And it is a practise that's still still, we catch it too 292 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:57,480 late I would say. But definitely we've become more 293 00:12:57,560 --> 00:12:59,920 attuned to it. And it was interesting when we 294 00:12:59,920 --> 00:13:03,640 kind of got to this point last year, I started to have like a 295 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:06,840 little bit of like PTS, I guess being like, Oh my gosh, I can't 296 00:13:07,080 --> 00:13:08,840 like, I can't go back into blaze burnout. 297 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:12,840 It was just a lot, which I could also just clarifying, I could 298 00:13:12,840 --> 00:13:15,400 have like it, you survive and you adjust for what you need to 299 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:16,840 go through. But it was just like, yes, I can 300 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:18,840 feel that feeling again. And I'm sure you were feeling 301 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:21,040 the same thing on the other on the other side. 302 00:13:21,160 --> 00:13:25,960 And it's easier for us to know what to prioritise now than it 303 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:27,960 was back then. That these triggers have 304 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:29,560 happened multiple times. Oh yeah, right. 305 00:13:29,560 --> 00:13:32,880 So it's like, again, for those who knew about six years ago, 306 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:36,240 I'm terrible with time frames sometime in my life was it yes, 307 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:37,240 it. Was a 2000. 308 00:13:37,240 --> 00:13:40,520 I'm great at time frames. I had a pretty significant 309 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:45,040 burnout, never really had major mental health struggles until 310 00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:48,440 this point. And it was a whole new thing for 311 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:52,440 me and the family and I was down and out like I've, I never 312 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:54,440 struggled that much before in my life. 313 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:58,400 And so it didn't just impact me. As everyone that has a family 314 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:01,400 knows or is in a relationship, when you struggle, everyone 315 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:03,280 around you struggle like your family struggles. 316 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:08,240 And so Amy caught a lot of that and carried a lot of that 317 00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:10,560 through that period of time that was through COVID and things. 318 00:14:10,560 --> 00:14:14,240 It was just absolutely messy. So now we've gone through 319 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:17,920 multiple times of, yeah, PTSD of like, oh man, is that gonna 320 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:19,240 happen again? Is that gonna happen again? 321 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:21,200 And we're in a very different place. 322 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:24,360 We learned a lot of things through that, and we're not as 323 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:28,000 naive to how, you know, mortal we are. 324 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:29,760 If you're gonna put it that way, What's the opposite of 325 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:31,800 invincible? Vulnerable maybe? 326 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:33,880 Let's go with that. Yeah. 327 00:14:33,880 --> 00:14:36,360 So that was just again learning so much of that. 328 00:14:36,360 --> 00:14:40,400 When we again point point of the break was we identified that 329 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:42,600 we're not going back there. We're putting in the brakes when 330 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:45,720 we need to, family first, everything else second. 331 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:47,760 Yeah. We put up, we put a pause on 332 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:49,960 discretionary spending. I don't know if that's a phrase, 333 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:52,440 but I needed to say it. Like businesses do when they 334 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:55,640 need to tighten things up, they just pause discretionary 335 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:58,720 spending or external whatevers, and that's what we did. 336 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:00,760 People are laughing at me now because they're like, that's not 337 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:02,480 how you say it, but that's what I'm saying. 338 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:03,440 Get. Back off, guys. 339 00:15:03,800 --> 00:15:07,080 Also, we have a whole episode about burnout and and we have 340 00:15:07,080 --> 00:15:09,040 talked about it multiple times on the podcast. 341 00:15:09,040 --> 00:15:12,040 So if you want to hear more about that or if you have felt 342 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:15,320 like that's something that you're wrestling with, we have 343 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:18,160 put together an episode with resources that have helped us 344 00:15:18,160 --> 00:15:20,800 going through it. So anyway, we are good. 345 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:23,360 We're really excited to be back and things feel like they've 346 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:28,200 shifted and we just have a new energy to bring to the podcast, 347 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:31,080 which we're excited about. But to talk about what happened 348 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:33,320 while we were gone did. Catch you guys up. 349 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:36,240 So we also put a pause in our vlogging as well. 350 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:38,840 So we invented a bit of a game. Mm hmm. 351 00:15:39,040 --> 00:15:41,280 Well, I think I've seen it, so I don't. 352 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:43,600 I can't say we. I haven't seen it, so we 353 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:47,760 invented it. All right, so it's called bingo 354 00:15:47,840 --> 00:15:52,840 check in or bingo update as the cool kids call it cool, which is 355 00:15:52,840 --> 00:15:55,160 me I. Love you say cool because that 356 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:56,160 makes sense. Yeah. 357 00:15:56,640 --> 00:15:59,520 All right, So bingo, check insurance catch up update. 358 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:02,880 There we go. So how it goes is I. 359 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:05,960 We've got some a list of five things each, OK. 360 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:09,840 And so if it's the first person to take off, like if I say 361 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,960 something and Amy's got that and then she ticks it off as well, 362 00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:15,120 right. So and then you share something. 363 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:17,360 If I've got that on my list, I tick it off and the person with 364 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:19,720 the most ticked off things in the end the. 365 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:22,520 Person who gets to say the most things wins. 366 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:24,880 So I lose a point. If you say the same thing I've 367 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:27,520 got written before I say it, I have to cross it off. 368 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:28,320 Yeah, that's right. Yeah. 369 00:16:28,320 --> 00:16:31,560 So the person who gets to vocalise the most things on 370 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:33,440 their list before it gets ticked off. 371 00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:34,280 Yeah. Wins. 372 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:35,840 OK, Nailed. I nailed it. 373 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:38,480 And you're gonna help me understand it when we're done. 374 00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:39,480 Yeah. But that's cool. 375 00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:42,280 And the prize is. High 5 No. 376 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:43,560 What did I say? What did we say? 377 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:45,160 Look under the part. It says prize. 378 00:16:45,520 --> 00:16:47,720 The prize is. But no but. 379 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:51,040 And the prize is. That's like a you. 380 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:52,360 Came up with that. Prize. 381 00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:56,120 But Neil, I'm taking a bath. A winner gets a massage with the 382 00:16:56,120 --> 00:16:57,800 massage gun. Thank you. 383 00:16:58,120 --> 00:17:00,440 OK all. Right, so you go first. 384 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:04,880 OK, well we bought a cat. We did Ferguson, Michael Jordan, 385 00:17:04,920 --> 00:17:06,079 a key ball. Where is he? 386 00:17:06,079 --> 00:17:08,400 I don't even know you will have seen him on our socials. 387 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:10,599 I'm sure if he comes around he's a lot less. 388 00:17:10,599 --> 00:17:13,319 He chooses when He loves us and when He. 389 00:17:13,359 --> 00:17:16,440 Does Bonnie forces her love? That's our Gordon retriever. 390 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:18,240 She is like you will love me. No. 391 00:17:18,400 --> 00:17:20,160 No, Bonnie. Well, yes, but she's also at our 392 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:23,200 beck and call like she is at our mercy. 393 00:17:23,480 --> 00:17:25,160 Yeah, and she's right here. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 394 00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:27,200 Ferguson chooses if he showed himself. 395 00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:29,400 That's Ferguson, Michael Jordan, Keeble. 396 00:17:29,480 --> 00:17:31,440 And if you know that reference, then you're out. 397 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:34,720 Then you know, yeah. All right, so that I did have 398 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:36,600 that one and. Yeah, to cross it off. 399 00:17:36,640 --> 00:17:37,800 Where are we? I'm crossing it off. 400 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:40,400 Well, I was gonna say it was really funny, actually. 401 00:17:40,480 --> 00:17:43,960 During COVID, we got into these really bad habits and I'm gonna 402 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:46,240 go through all of them. But one of them was when we got 403 00:17:46,240 --> 00:17:48,800 really low, we'll just buy something extravagant. 404 00:17:48,840 --> 00:17:51,000 It's like, even if you couldn't afford it, it's like we just 405 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:52,880 went into these really, really bad habits. 406 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:55,440 We also had like more money at that stage. 407 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:57,840 Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so anyway, it's essentially 408 00:17:57,840 --> 00:17:58,880 what happened here. Yeah. 409 00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:01,160 So as I mentioned, things were getting a bit hard at the end of 410 00:18:01,160 --> 00:18:03,320 last year. And we've talked about cats 411 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:05,480 before, but I'm allergic to cats, right? 412 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:08,080 And so I've always been like against it. 413 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:12,680 We like, I've had my eyes swell up and just sneezing kind like 414 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:16,200 full on hay fever or cat fever and it's intense. 415 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:19,440 Anyway this one time I was really low and I'm like Bonnie 416 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:23,840 is she's amazing dog but I'm feeling bad because we've got 4 417 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:27,360 kids and she just gets neglected but sometimes like our dog gets 418 00:18:27,360 --> 00:18:30,280 neglected sometimes and I feel bad my man I want to get her 419 00:18:30,280 --> 00:18:33,200 another companion but my I can't handle another dog. 420 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:35,120 Like, there's so much craziness happening. 421 00:18:35,120 --> 00:18:38,160 Around this house. Yeah, we got so much craziness 422 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:40,240 around this house. I can't do another dog. 423 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:41,920 So I'm like, look, I'm just going to look. 424 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:45,240 I'm not going to do anything. I'm just looking at the sort of 425 00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:46,840 cats that would be good with dogs. 426 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:48,760 And so anyway, we found this cat. 427 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:50,280 I'm like, oh, that's a good idea. 428 00:18:50,280 --> 00:18:53,320 And then I just went deeper and deeper and deeper into the 429 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:55,520 rabbit hole. Hole without talking to her. 430 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:58,200 Talking to Amy and then I and I said to Amy, eventually I think 431 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:00,080 we need to get a cat. One morning I wake up and he's 432 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,080 like, I think we need to get a cat. 433 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:05,040 Yeah, blew my mind. Yeah, and I've always been so 434 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:06,360 anti cats. Not a fan. 435 00:19:06,360 --> 00:19:08,960 Not at all. They're just snobs, right. 436 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:11,720 Anyway, long story shorter, we've got a cat. 437 00:19:12,120 --> 00:19:14,360 And then I was allergic to the cat. 438 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:17,600 Like, makes sense for one day. That is it. 439 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:21,000 For one, it was honestly like I was healed from cat allergies. 440 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:24,240 Like it was that intense. The next day I grabbed Ferguson. 441 00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:28,520 I rubbed him all over my like I'm like inhaling every fibre of 442 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:31,880 him to make sure that I'm no longer allergic. 443 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:37,240 No issues, 0 zilch issues and I am now a cat fan. 444 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:41,200 He's he has converted. I've converted and people like 445 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:44,480 non cat fans are like, oh, I can't believe you've like I'm 446 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:49,440 like you don't understand. Like this cat is amazing when he 447 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:52,040 loves us back. Bonnie and Ferguson are really 448 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:54,480 good friends, and they play and wrestle and they sleep together 449 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:57,360 and they they cuddle and then they get at each other. 450 00:19:57,360 --> 00:19:59,240 But they are so. Bonnie is amazing. 451 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:01,160 She's so gentle. Like, I don't know what it would 452 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:02,280 have been like with a different dog. 453 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:06,760 Yeah, she is so gentle. And he's really cute and fun. 454 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:10,160 Yeah, it was honestly the reason why we got him. 455 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:12,640 Worked like it actually happened, which was awesome. 456 00:20:13,120 --> 00:20:16,320 When when he told me he wanted a cat, a couldn't believe it. 457 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:19,160 BI had had there's multiple times where I'm like, we could 458 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:22,080 get a cat, we could get a cat and he's like, heck no. 459 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:25,840 So I had thought in my head, genuinely, I'm never going to 460 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:28,080 bring up a cat again. And so when he told me he wanted 461 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:29,960 a cat, I was like, this is on you. 462 00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:32,640 This is on you. Like he needed me to research 463 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:35,600 because, you know, ADHD or whatever and find it and pay for 464 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:38,840 it and buy it and go get it. But I was like every step of the 465 00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:40,520 way I was like, this is your thing. 466 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,320 Yeah, this is if this goes pear shaped. 467 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:45,160 I just fixated way too much and it's like, I'll go to a point 468 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:46,840 like, Amy, I have to hand this over to you. 469 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:49,880 I can't get it out of my brain. I need to just give it to you 470 00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:52,920 now at this point. Yeah, anyway, we've got him. 471 00:20:53,120 --> 00:20:54,640 It was like a song stuck in my head but. 472 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:56,000 It was like, and then we got the cat. 473 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,040 Well, yes, that's my one. What's your first one? 474 00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:00,160 Awesome. My first one is, so I've been 475 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:03,240 really, really challenged recently about I wanted to be 476 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:06,360 more of a role model for my family and especially my wife. 477 00:21:06,360 --> 00:21:09,760 And so I came out with this really, really cool idea where I 478 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:14,480 thought I would lead by example. So what I've started to do is 479 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:18,480 wake up at 5:30 in the morning and I'm just like, look, Amy, if 480 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:21,560 I can do it, you can do it too. I'm just being there. 481 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:24,440 I'm present. I'm up at 5:30 in the morning 482 00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:26,600 being that rock. Do you have that on your? 483 00:21:26,600 --> 00:21:27,440 Do we? Cross the mark? 484 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:30,760 No, I don't have that. Exactly. 485 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:34,240 So I'm one up. But I started it, thank you very 486 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,240 much. And it's been 2 days. 487 00:21:36,360 --> 00:21:38,080 Yeah, but I did it the first day. 488 00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:40,920 Blair joined me this morning. And it was a success. 489 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:42,800 But it actually I genuinely love it. 490 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:46,480 Yeah, well, I did and I didn't. I was lost. 491 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:48,520 I'm like, what am I even doing up at this time? 492 00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:50,840 Yeah, like what have I been do with myself right now? 493 00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:54,240 Because all the kids were asleep and it's so rare for us to be up 494 00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:57,040 and the kids not just take every ounce of our energy. 495 00:21:57,240 --> 00:21:59,280 So it was really, it was nice at that point. 496 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:01,480 But I'm like, I don't want to waste this, but I don't know 497 00:22:01,480 --> 00:22:04,600 what to do. So anyway, you like we've talked 498 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:08,640 a bit like I've been, we've both been really trying to be more 499 00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:11,680 intentional this year with our time with God and in the word 500 00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:14,360 and just growing in our faith in that aspect of it. 501 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:16,120 Just just the disciplines, right? 502 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:19,640 And so it took me a little bit of a rhythm, but me reading at 503 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:23,680 5:30 in the morning, like I have a short attention span as it is. 504 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:27,160 So just trying to find like a nice YouTube video to watch and 505 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,200 to do it in that way. I found this guy. 506 00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:30,920 He was reading scripture. That was great. 507 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,600 And that was my quiet time this morning, so that'd be good. 508 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:36,880 I went to go for a walk with Bonnie, and then I opened the 509 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,320 door because our toddler was in our bed. 510 00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,440 He came into our bed last night and I started waking him up. 511 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:44,200 So I'm like, well, that's not gonna happen. 512 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:45,040 Abort. Abort. 513 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:46,960 Yeah. So I just went out and just sat 514 00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:48,040 on the. Lesson learned though, because 515 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:49,360 you'll put your clothes out tomorrow. 516 00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:51,120 Yeah, whatever day. Well, no, tomorrow's the 517 00:22:51,120 --> 00:22:52,000 weekend. We're not. 518 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,400 Doing on the weekend. So what I've decided is it just 519 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:57,360 came across me quickly, like I hadn't had this thought, but 520 00:22:57,360 --> 00:22:59,640 there's a lot of rhythms I'm wanting to be more intentional 521 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:01,920 with and I thought this is what I can do because I like being up 522 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,960 early when I'm up early and I saw some people talking about on 523 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,680 Instagram. I have gone in with 0 Agenda 524 00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:11,080 because I want to get into the rhythm of it and I want to see 525 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:14,480 what happens with that extra time so I'm not scrolling. 526 00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:17,040 That's one thing I'm not doing, but just seeing what happens 527 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:19,680 with that extra time. For now, it's been really good 528 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:21,560 for quiet time. I did some vlogging the first 529 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:23,560 day, so we'll pull that together in a vlog soon. 530 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:28,960 But what I did learn is doing your quiet time and then praying 531 00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,000 doesn't always work because then you fall asleep. 532 00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:36,520 Did it happen Almost. My prayers just started to turn 533 00:23:36,520 --> 00:23:40,160 into dreams and I was like sorry, I'll pray with my eyes 534 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:41,760 open next time. Hey guys, we're going to jump 535 00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:43,600 back into this episode really soon. 536 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,600 But before we do, we just want to ask you to jump over to 537 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,760 YouTube specifically. 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You can see a lot more content 549 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:23,000 over there. Upper brother out. 550 00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:24,560 You know what I'm saying? And the sister? 551 00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:26,200 And the sister. Thanks. 552 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:28,000 Bye. Back to the episode. 553 00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:29,880 Alright, my next one. My next one. 554 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,720 OK, so Stranger Things on Broadway. 555 00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:34,800 Oh, I didn't have that. There we go. 556 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,920 That show was amazing. That show was so well done. 557 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:42,480 And I don't know if it's going to tour the world, but hello. 558 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:44,880 Hello, are you paying attention? Oh no, I'm writing it down. 559 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:46,400 So now it's on my list. I've got it. 560 00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:49,000 I don't know if it's going to tour the world or not, but it 561 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:53,240 was really, really good and I, I don't want to get into it, but 562 00:24:53,280 --> 00:24:55,040 anyway. We've talked about it a lot. 563 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:57,840 Our disappoint. Was really let's just, it was 564 00:24:57,840 --> 00:24:58,920 really good. Really, really good. 565 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,040 If it comes around, worth watching. 566 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:02,640 It was just very impressive how they did it. 567 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:06,280 Surprising, I think 'cause we went in with 0 expectations or 568 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:08,160 understanding of how they were going to put Stranger Things 569 00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:10,160 into a Broadway show. But it was really good. 570 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:11,120 Yeah. So that was mine. 571 00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:15,160 What was your next one? All right, so my next one was, 572 00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:18,560 yeah, there was this thing. Amy came in to me one day and 573 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,840 she's like, I mean, I've got this amazing new TikTok recipe 574 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,800 and I want you to try it. And I'm in a meeting, by the 575 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,520 way. And she comes in and so I pause 576 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,720 my meeting while I'm in there, she comes in with this new 577 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:34,120 TikTok recipe and she's like loving it. 578 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,280 It was literally and I, I ate it mid meeting. 579 00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,320 So I pause my meeting. I said, sorry, I'm going to do 580 00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:40,600 something. It does not matter. 581 00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:43,000 A meeting is a meeting. A meeting is a meeting and don't 582 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,240 call him not important. He's important. 583 00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:48,120 The meeting wasn't. OK, so I paused the morning, the 584 00:25:48,120 --> 00:25:51,640 morning, the meeting with my Co worker and she had to fill my 585 00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:53,760 reaction and everything because she just loved it. 586 00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:59,040 It was literally sweet potato, a whole sweet potato with cheese 587 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:00,520 stuffed in it. That was it. 588 00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:02,360 It wasn't bad, I'll give you that. 589 00:26:02,360 --> 00:26:06,200 It was not bad. It was super overrated. 590 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:09,120 Super overrated. I was so underwhelmed. 591 00:26:09,120 --> 00:26:11,120 I'm like oh OK, this must be amazing. 592 00:26:11,120 --> 00:26:13,960 It's literally sweet potato and cheese. 593 00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:15,160 That's an update if you have that. 594 00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:16,960 On your list more TikTok. Then you'll know. 595 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:18,920 No, you've gone real niche. Yeah, yeah. 596 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:20,360 No, I did not have that on my list. 597 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:22,680 Yeah, OK, Well, but. You're welcome. 598 00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:24,400 Give Amy credit, I've had it multiple times. 599 00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,400 Yeah, and it was yummy. It's I don't, I haven't actually 600 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:28,400 made it for a little while. But if you've been on Instagram, 601 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,360 you've probably seen the girl that did this. 602 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,200 And I made a reel that I haven't put together yet because I was a 603 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:34,960 bit like, it's weird. Maybe you'll bring it up. 604 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,680 The next one I had on my list is we tried Chick-fil-A. 605 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:38,760 I've got that. You do. 606 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:39,400 Cool. How you? 607 00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:41,360 Spell it. Did you actually have? 608 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,360 It I do, it's right there. Why do you ask how you spell it? 609 00:26:43,360 --> 00:26:46,280 Because I was typing it in. OK, yeah, we tried Chick-fil-A, 610 00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:50,960 which was amazing in America. Our food, the food just did not 611 00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:53,160 work with us. I don't, I don't know what it 612 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:54,920 is. I'm not gonna bad. 613 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:56,680 Ingredients. It's just it's a different 614 00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:57,880 ingredients. It's didn't work with. 615 00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:01,200 Us so the soda has corn syrup in it. 616 00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:03,000 We don't do corn syrup in Australia. 617 00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:06,400 So you like any and like the bread was sweet like 618 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:07,920 everything's a bit. Sweeter and yeah. 619 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:08,640 Beer, yeah. And. 620 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:12,120 We just weren't used to it. So we yeah, just struggled with 621 00:27:12,120 --> 00:27:15,440 the the differences of food. To be fair, it was a lot of take 622 00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:19,160 out slash restauranty food because we were on our trip, but 623 00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:22,000 we did try Chick-fil-A and we loved it and I wish that 624 00:27:22,120 --> 00:27:24,920 Australia would get Chick-fil-A. No Chick-fil-A sauce. 625 00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:26,640 I don't get that. You keep repeating that. 626 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:28,360 Yeah, the Chief Flies sauce was amazing. 627 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,400 Was so yummy. So that was that was a 628 00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:33,320 highlight. Yeah, the other one was, Oh, 629 00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:34,400 what's it called? Miss Maples? 630 00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:36,480 No. No, no, Auntie, Auntie and. 631 00:27:37,360 --> 00:27:39,973 That's our step, brother. Annians keeps on saying brother 632 00:27:39,973 --> 00:27:41,400 in law. Brother. 633 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,840 Anyway, Annians are hot. Pretzels. 634 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:45,520 Yeah, that was delicious. Really, really good. 635 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:48,200 In that sauce. And we had hot pretzels from an 636 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,080 Amish market as well. The area where we're at was very 637 00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:52,680 Amishy. And in Pennsylvania? 638 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,400 Yeah, delicious. Like the pastries, they're like 639 00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,240 that sort of stuff was really yummy. 640 00:27:57,320 --> 00:27:58,760 Yeah. It's actually a vibe. 641 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:05,400 So yeah, so mine was, we went to America and that was, like I 642 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,520 said before, that was a trip and it was just going to 643 00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:09,360 Pennsylvania. Like people were on horse and 644 00:28:09,360 --> 00:28:12,440 carts and stuff. And you go to like an Amish, 645 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,080 like an Amish farm to do your shopping you. 646 00:28:16,120 --> 00:28:19,160 Go to get milk and. Eggs and meat and whatever else 647 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:20,720 is. It's really cool actually. 648 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:22,600 And it's like all honour system type stuff. 649 00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:24,040 Yeah, so there's no one in the shop. 650 00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:26,880 You just go get it and pay and then walk out, which was really, 651 00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:28,720 really cool. Now the thing that I had, so I 652 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:32,080 was in America, so we were in New York was our first night and 653 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:35,440 one of the first things we said, we can't not go to New York and 654 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,280 get a New York pizza. So we were super jet lagged. 655 00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,840 You know, we've left from it was 24 hour flight or something like 656 00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:43,840 that. Like, yeah, it's a travel 24 657 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:45,480 hours. And we finally got there. 658 00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:48,680 We had the craziest taxi driver. And then we're like, look, let's 659 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:52,280 just Uber Eats a New York pizza, like a classic New York, NY 660 00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:54,520 pizza. We were super hungry and super 661 00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,920 pumped and super tired and, you know, it took like ages to get 662 00:28:57,920 --> 00:28:59,640 to us. We're just not expecting that. 663 00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:01,360 The guy was on a bike, which is fair, but. 664 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:02,720 Which is fair, it's not his fault. 665 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,640 But by the time we got it, I was drooling. 666 00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:08,360 I was ready. The pizza was cold and it was 667 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:09,600 terrible. Stone cold it was. 668 00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:12,240 It was still yummy for cold people. 669 00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,160 Yeah, but it was, it was like just so. 670 00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:16,720 Stone Cold. We just. 671 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,360 Disappointing. Just, and the pizza probably 672 00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:20,320 would have been great. Oh yeah. 673 00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:24,240 New York was like essentially double the cost of anything 674 00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:26,720 here, you know, like everything costs. 675 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:28,800 Like if you do the conversion and everything, it's about 676 00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:32,240 double the price. And so I just like I cried every 677 00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:35,200 time we bought something. It was hard to appreciate the 678 00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:38,640 experience when you're feeling. Like every kind of you did 679 00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:40,600 better at that. You kept on trying to remind me 680 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:41,880 of like, look, we're on a holiday. 681 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:45,360 This is a once in a lifetime thing or twice in a lifetime 682 00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:46,920 thing. Just enjoy it. 683 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,560 And I found that very hard to do, but I was, I was really 684 00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,120 having internal wrestles of like, it's fine, it's fine, it's 685 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,120 fine. We'll go broke, we'll be 686 00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:57,000 bankrupt, but we'll be our comeback from it. 687 00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,560 It surprised me actually because the last time I was there, I 688 00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:01,800 feel like it was cheaper. But also I was there with my 689 00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:02,320 mum. Yeah, she. 690 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,480 Probably paid for. Everything but yeah, it was, 691 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:06,840 yeah. We went to New York, we went to 692 00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:08,520 America. We yeah, called pizza all. 693 00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,520 Right, So how many items did you have? 694 00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:13,480 Hang on, I'm not done. Oh yeah, here you go again. 695 00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,600 It's your turn. I can't believe the ones you've 696 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:17,400 put on your list and the ones you haven't. 697 00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:18,960 OK, so we bought a 3D printer. Yeah. 698 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,440 Yeah, I've got the one too. So Blair's lost this game 699 00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:23,080 already, no? I've got it on my list. 700 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:25,640 Yeah, but I'm winning because I'm the one that's got to 701 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:27,360 vocalise it. Yeah, but you cross it off. 702 00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:30,200 If you've got it on your list, that means you lose that point. 703 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,520 Obviously I've got it on my list. 704 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:33,080 Baby, you don't have it on your list. 705 00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:35,480 It's literally just typed it. Yeah, it's on my list. 706 00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:38,200 You don't know on my players last plot. 707 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:41,040 Anyway, we bought a 3D printer and that has been the best 708 00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,080 purchase. One of the best purchases we've 709 00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:44,440 ever made in our entire lives it. 710 00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:46,600 Was it's been a lot. Of had something here to show 711 00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:48,320 you guys but it has been a lot of fun. 712 00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:51,360 We have hyper fixated like nothing else also. 713 00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:52,880 More than others, some more. Than others. 714 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:56,040 The week that we bought it was I think it was the week after 715 00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,400 Christmas that that that like weird week where you don't know 716 00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:02,040 what any day is. We watched, we just like vegged 717 00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:04,360 out that week. We bought the printer, we 718 00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:08,240 watched a lot of TV, we watched like tablets and none of this is 719 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,960 healthy routines, but it was just like the best. 720 00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:15,000 We had quiet on nothing hot weather outside and we just 721 00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,960 printed stuff and like learned about this new printer. 722 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:19,880 We bought it as a family, which was really cool. 723 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:22,080 Like the kids chose how much of their Christmas money to put 724 00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:24,560 into it, like how much they wanted to invest in it. 725 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,560 And then that was reflective of how much they've been able to 726 00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:29,920 use it. And it just was a really cool 727 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:33,040 family purchase. Yeah, yeah, you go get something 728 00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:34,040 if you want and I'll keep talking. 729 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,240 If I get up, I'll trip over one of these wires. 730 00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:39,320 But yeah, it's been really fun. So we've been talking to them 731 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:43,200 about like trying to get like more creativity out of them for 732 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:47,280 it, which has been a lot of fun. So designing like something for 733 00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:49,920 to be attached to their bed, like a drink bottle holder or a 734 00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:52,880 bookshelf or whatever else, since, you know, we're getting 735 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:56,200 them to learn how to design things, which is a lot of fun. 736 00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:58,160 So we've started designing stuff too. 737 00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:01,600 It's been, it's quite can be quite complicated because it's 738 00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,960 just I'm not used to it. I haven't done it before. 739 00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,680 So there I was. It's been fun, man. 740 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:10,760 Like is the first purchase that we have all put into as a 741 00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:12,520 family. Even our toddler put like 10 742 00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:13,800 bucks into it or something like that. 743 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,760 And we just, we just make him like dinosaurs. 744 00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,080 That's all he wants in life is dinosaurs. 745 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,520 So that's fine. I'm just going to show you what 746 00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:23,760 I could find quickly, but this is not even scratching the 747 00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:26,880 surface. So this is Amy's most recent 748 00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:30,000 print. So this is a sugar glider thing 749 00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:32,640 that moves, make the noise in the microphone. 750 00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:35,880 This is the whole IS smart stuff that I hate, but others like it. 751 00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:37,880 OK, so that's, that's what it sounds like. 752 00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:41,040 And then she's made. Oh, so that's our oldest son's 753 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,040 birthday coming up. So the little Christmas bags 754 00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:44,800 that we're making, we're making the stuff. 755 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:47,720 So that's a little shark thing for the party bags. 756 00:32:47,720 --> 00:32:49,360 Yeah. And that's, that's the sound. 757 00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:53,760 And then we made Tron train horns, train whistles. 758 00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,640 We made that. This is Amy's little fidget 759 00:32:56,640 --> 00:33:00,720 thing she made for her desk. It's a little octopus and she 760 00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:02,640 puts it on her head and she likes that. 761 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:05,520 And then the. I don't understand this one. 762 00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:06,600 This is. Yeah, you explain. 763 00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:09,440 It's not a fan of this one, but I just don't get a bean bag for 764 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,080 my phone. But that you don't even put your 765 00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:12,120 phone on it, you put your octopus. 766 00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:14,000 On now it's for my Octopus anyway. 767 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:15,240 We've done so many other things, but. 768 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:17,680 Yeah, that's the highlights. So Amy actually made me because 769 00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:21,600 again, undiagnosed ADHD, she's made me fidget toys as well for 770 00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:24,800 while I'm in meetings and stuff. I actually use them so much it's 771 00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:26,240 crazy. They've been really good. 772 00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:27,680 You. Got any more fresh ones? 773 00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:30,320 You cross too many off. You've got three things on that 774 00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:31,400 list. No, I've got five. 775 00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:34,560 I've five things. I've got the cold pizza. 776 00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:36,080 You didn't have that on your list. 777 00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:38,520 I've got the cat. I said the cat. 778 00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:41,880 Yeah, but I talked about how I was allergic to it. 779 00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:44,400 I said the cat. OK, we're talking about points 780 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:46,240 for the game. Yeah, but you didn't say I was 781 00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:47,760 allergic. What else did you say then? 782 00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:51,200 I said about my really good early morning routine and how 783 00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,560 I'm such a role model for. You lied blatantly. 784 00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,760 And then your sweet potato. Trick. 785 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:56,520 Very true. So you did. 786 00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:59,720 You said three things. And then the American cold 787 00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:02,360 pizza. Cold pizza, morning routine and 788 00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:04,400 my potato were the things you said right? 789 00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:07,040 Anyway, Yeah, I've got three. I've got four so far and I've 790 00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:08,920 got one more, and it's necessary. 791 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,080 How many of you said? I've said four. 792 00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:12,840 I just said that I. Think I've forgotten one of 793 00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:14,679 them. This is the necessary one that 794 00:34:14,679 --> 00:34:17,440 needs to be said. We mourned the Stranger Things 795 00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:19,600 finale. We've talked about this on our 796 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:23,840 socials, we being me. But Oh my gosh, I I still love 797 00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:25,800 the show so much. I still love the show. 798 00:34:26,159 --> 00:34:27,520 This has stranger. Things mug. 799 00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:29,120 I've got Stranger Things nightgown. 800 00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:30,760 We printed Stranger Things Things. 801 00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:34,239 We love the Broadway show. Yeah, I I just don't wanna watch 802 00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:35,280 it again. I wanna really. 803 00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:36,840 Turn me off like watching it again. 804 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:38,639 Oh. My gosh, like some people loved 805 00:34:38,639 --> 00:34:41,120 it and I honestly, I wish I could take their brains and put 806 00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:42,440 it in my brain. If you're listening. 807 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:44,920 To this, if you're listening to this and you actually 808 00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:48,320 legitimately like the last. Legit like not just make 809 00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:50,520 yourself like it. Yeah, and the last episode. 810 00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:52,520 Can you type in the comments please? 811 00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,280 What did you actually like about We wanna know? 812 00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:59,800 I want so so confused on how people actually enjoyed it. 813 00:34:59,960 --> 00:35:01,480 Yeah, not dissing you. No, no, no. 814 00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,920 You, you do you. That's completely fine, but I 815 00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,560 would like we're genuinely confused why people like it. 816 00:35:06,720 --> 00:35:10,000 Near the end, halfway through, Blair was like, this is gonna be 817 00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:12,800 whatever. And I was like just just up. 818 00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,360 And then like the last minute or so or last couple minutes of it, 819 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,720 we were just both like, what on earth? 820 00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,000 And anger finished. I actually got angry. 821 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:23,240 Anger. Like I know this is so not 822 00:35:23,240 --> 00:35:25,640 important in the grand scheme of relationships, but. 823 00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,800 But at the same time, like, I, I, I find myself in this, the 824 00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,320 Duffer Brothers have made it. Yeah. 825 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:32,280 Like, that's part of me. Like, look, man, I'm sorry. 826 00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,360 They're getting a lot of criticism over it. 827 00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:35,880 And I feel really sorry. I feel bad. 828 00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:37,760 Like, I feel very, very bad. It would suck. 829 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:42,160 But yeah, like, I mean, they did such an amazing job on every 830 00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:45,600 season up until this one, and then it's all fallen over. 831 00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:48,760 But I I genuinely had an anger when we watched our last 832 00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:50,200 episode. And like no way is this. 833 00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,000 I've heard people be like it wasn't that bad. 834 00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:54,880 Every season finale has plot holes, which I 100% agree. 835 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:58,280 Like all of our favourite shows have kind of weak endings, but I 836 00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:00,400 don't mind them. Like The Office I don't mind. 837 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:02,240 I know some people feel strongly about that. 838 00:36:02,240 --> 00:36:06,040 The New Girl finale, Parks and Rec is a little bit like it's 839 00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:09,240 just a little weaker. Almost every single series has a 840 00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:12,480 weaker finale because how do you wrap up a series that's been 841 00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,880 over years? So I was fully, fully expecting 842 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:18,040 it to be weaker. Was I expecting there to be like 843 00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:23,320 60 plus plot holes or like big gaping discrepancies or those? 844 00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:24,960 Kind of no. And so I've had people be like, 845 00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:27,920 it's just, that's just what finales are like, yeah, I didn't 846 00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:29,200 get it. But that wasn't even this. 847 00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:31,320 I would take that for this anyway, but that's all I've got 848 00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:33,200 to say. Granted, a lot about it. 849 00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,560 Especially, I think our feelings are clear and genuinely, no 850 00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:39,680 offence to anyone who liked it, I want to hear from you because 851 00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:43,080 I want to understand why you thought it was good and help me. 852 00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:45,320 All right, so that's what we've been doing. 853 00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,880 Very vague summary. I'm actually really surprised at 854 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:50,000 some of the stuff that didn't get put on there, but I think we 855 00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:51,640 covered most of it actually. So much. 856 00:36:51,720 --> 00:36:52,960 There's so much stuff that's happened. 857 00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,440 How long was our break like? For like 4 months, yeah. 858 00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:56,840 So there was lots of things that happened. 859 00:36:56,840 --> 00:36:59,440 Probably nothing super needed to be shared. 860 00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:01,200 And if it is, it'll come out in the woodwork. 861 00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:05,960 We'll share on our vlogs all. Yeah, But we're moving into 862 00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:08,560 Season 3 and we're really excited about what that's going 863 00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:10,000 to bring. There's going to be some shifts 864 00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,600 in how the content is coming out. 865 00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:16,000 So one thing is I'm actually finishing up my role at Dad's 866 00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:19,400 group on Monday is my last day. So when this episode comes out, 867 00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:23,120 and that is an intentional move so that I can continue to grow 868 00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,160 my coaching, which has been also really exciting and going really 869 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,040 well, and focus on our content. And it's just a little bit of a 870 00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:32,520 step of faith to see like we're jumping out or I'm stepping out 871 00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:34,720 and where we land, we land. But we just want to put 872 00:37:34,720 --> 00:37:37,480 intentional time into growing this and seeing what it can 873 00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:38,400 become. Yeah. 874 00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:40,360 So we're kind of taking a step back so we can take a step 875 00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:43,360 forward, but also Amy's taking a step back so we can take a step 876 00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:46,200 forward. Yeah, we she remember how I said 877 00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:48,920 things, you know, we're looking at where do we need to make a 878 00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:51,640 sacrifice to keep doing this? And this is one of those we're 879 00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:54,120 taking a bit of a financial sacrifice for Amy, cutting down 880 00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:57,840 her hours to focus more on where we're where we. 881 00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,320 Quality, quality. Yeah, yeah, quality of of our 882 00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:03,320 content, but of your coaching too. 883 00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:06,240 So giving your clients you want to give them the attention that 884 00:38:06,240 --> 00:38:09,040 they need as well. Including my further 885 00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:11,800 developments, I'm I'm now doing more study for it and that kind 886 00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:15,040 of thing, which is exciting. And one of the focuses for this, 887 00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:18,560 this season of the podcast or our content in general is going 888 00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:20,600 to be practical tips. Like we've talked about 889 00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:23,320 practical things all the way through the podcast, but we want 890 00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:27,040 actual things you can implement like right now if this is 891 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,880 something that you're wrestling with or if it if you want to 892 00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:31,120 refresher all these sorts of things. 893 00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:33,080 So we're going to be coming out with more resources. 894 00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,280 Check out our website and sign up there if you're not on it, 895 00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:36,880 because we will start to send them out. 896 00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:38,600 But also that's where you'll find them. 897 00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:41,240 And throughout the year, that's going to be a focus is creating 898 00:38:41,240 --> 00:38:44,960 really practical hands on resources for people to do in 899 00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:46,800 their homes straight away sort of thing. 900 00:38:47,240 --> 00:38:49,440 That's going to include more coaching, waving into this 901 00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:51,200 stuff, into our content on socials. 902 00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:54,280 That's going to be a real big push this this season as well 903 00:38:55,240 --> 00:38:57,800 and more reflection on how we're going, more guests. 904 00:38:57,800 --> 00:38:59,560 If you have guest recommendations, shoot em our 905 00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:01,240 way. We are always keen to hear who 906 00:39:01,240 --> 00:39:02,920 you wanna hear from and who we can have. 907 00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:05,120 Join us on the podcast. Another big area that we're 908 00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:09,720 focusing on, so you know, we squeeze all of our stuff into 909 00:39:09,720 --> 00:39:12,800 the limited time that we have. It's one of the big areas that's 910 00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,440 taken a hit for us over the last couple of years is our social 911 00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,480 media. And it's probably the most 912 00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,440 important part of our marketing is social media. 913 00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,760 So we've actually got a team member now. 914 00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,640 So shout out to Josh and I'm gonna listen this one, Bud. 915 00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:27,640 Great to have you on. Josh is going to be helping us 916 00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:30,600 with our social media, taking care of all that content, taking 917 00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:34,040 our vlogs and our podcasts and putting it out on across all of 918 00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:36,800 our different socials. For us, that's again, is helping 919 00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:39,720 us with time and really focusing on the things that only we can 920 00:39:39,720 --> 00:39:41,360 do. So we're the only ones that can 921 00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:43,200 do this podcast because it's our podcast. 922 00:39:43,240 --> 00:39:45,560 We're the only ones that can come out with the content for 923 00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,440 the podcast because that's what we're doing. 924 00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:50,640 That's why we're doing this, is to bring that intentional 925 00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:54,760 sessions to you guys based on feedback or, you know, writings 926 00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:56,960 and all that sort of stuff too. So we're the ones that get that. 927 00:39:57,520 --> 00:40:00,560 So yeah, we're really trying to outsource as much as we can of 928 00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:02,400 the little things that we don't need to do. 929 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:05,080 So we're excited about that to bring something practical into 930 00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:06,280 this episode. We wanted to talk about 931 00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:09,040 something that we've done as a focus for our family this year 932 00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:11,520 and something that I'm really, really bringing into my coaching 933 00:40:11,520 --> 00:40:13,440 this year. And something that has been just 934 00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:17,480 very empowering in the face of a new year, New Year's 935 00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:20,240 resolutions, all of these sorts of things that people try to 936 00:40:20,240 --> 00:40:21,960 implement every year when it's fresh. 937 00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:25,360 So instead of focusing on a resolution, which which tends to 938 00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:26,920 be something that you want to do better. 939 00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:29,720 So like I want to get to the gym three days a week or I want to 940 00:40:29,720 --> 00:40:31,640 only eat. I don't want to eat take away 941 00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:33,880 all year or something like that. We always have these things that 942 00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:36,520 we bring in in the new year as a resolution. 943 00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:39,640 And most of the time the resolutions are things we want 944 00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:43,720 to be better at, do better, start like things that are new 945 00:40:43,720 --> 00:40:45,680 and separate from how we already were. 946 00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:48,040 And so you've probably done this before. 947 00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,480 You've probably seen this play out. 948 00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:52,520 It's tends to be something that you set up for yourself with, 949 00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:54,680 you know, a great deal of motivation and you're all hyped 950 00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:57,200 up to do it and then within a week it kind of falls apart or 951 00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,840 within a month it falls apart or you realise it's not sustainable 952 00:40:59,840 --> 00:41:02,360 or whatever it might be. They tend not to stick around 953 00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:05,200 for very long. That's kind of the classic story 954 00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:08,880 that you hear with resolutions. So instead what we've been 955 00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:12,440 focusing on is declarations. And I went through this process 956 00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:14,320 with our kids, and then I went through it with you. 957 00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:17,480 And I've done it with myself as well, including also some of my 958 00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:21,560 clients, and just done a process of really, really stripping back 959 00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:25,120 to one what kind of person I want to be. 960 00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:29,200 But more than that, stripping it back into who I already am, that 961 00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:32,000 reinforces that and turning it into a phrase that we can 962 00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:36,120 declare over ourselves on a regular basis so that our brains 963 00:41:36,240 --> 00:41:38,840 know this is important to us and puts the energy there. 964 00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,560 I've spoken about this so many times, how our brains listen to 965 00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:43,520 what we tell it is important. So if we're telling it a 966 00:41:43,520 --> 00:41:45,920 negative story, it's going to actually listen to that and 967 00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:47,800 think, oh, they think this is really important. 968 00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:51,600 If we're saying we're really bad at cleaning, our brains just 969 00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,000 going to think it's very important that Amy thinks she's 970 00:41:54,000 --> 00:41:55,400 bad at cleaning. So I'm going to show her 971 00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:58,840 everything I can that points to the evidence that she's bad at 972 00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:01,840 cleaning instead of pointing out the things that contradict that. 973 00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:04,680 So like actually you clean this all the time or you do this all 974 00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:07,000 the time. So it actually starts to wire 975 00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:08,840 your brain what the story that you tell. 976 00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:12,120 And it's a very important thing. And so when you're going into a 977 00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:14,840 year and you want to bring in some new rhythms or you want to 978 00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:18,240 bring in patterns that are more helpful for you in terms of 979 00:42:18,240 --> 00:42:21,320 moving towards the kind of lifestyle or the goals or 980 00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:22,840 whatever that you have for yourself. 981 00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:27,120 Instead of telling your brain, I, I'm really bad at exercise. 982 00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:29,760 So I'm going to, I'm going to make myself go to the gym and 983 00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:32,320 I'm going to sign up for a gym and I'm going to go three days a 984 00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,040 week. And that's what I'm going to do. 985 00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:37,440 And it's this new thing you're trying to obtain, which is 986 00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:39,760 possible. It just shuts your brain down 987 00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:42,520 and reinforces the story that you already have, instead of 988 00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:46,080 finding the things that already align with who you are and 989 00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:50,000 declaring them as a truth over and over to move you further 990 00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:51,360 towards what you're wanting to work towards. 991 00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:56,200 So Amy's like, I love watching Amy in her coaching space, like 992 00:42:56,200 --> 00:43:00,600 she's so she just gets things that I just don't understand. 993 00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:03,680 So gifted at just drawing out from other people, like the 994 00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:05,800 things that they already know they want to work on. 995 00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:09,680 And she just comes with a calm way of, you know, coaching them 996 00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:11,720 through those processes, which is awesome. 997 00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:14,400 And so I see that with her clients because they're going to 998 00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:15,680 be here stuff. And I said to her the other 999 00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:18,640 week, I'm like, I want you to to coach us. 1000 00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:22,000 Like I, I want us to be able to work through this as a family as 1001 00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:24,280 well, right? Because we want to be raising 1002 00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:28,320 our kids in ways where they can navigate through their things 1003 00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:32,160 themselves, but also we want to do this as a family as well. 1004 00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:35,600 So the reason why I mentioned that is because even when I'm 1005 00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:38,680 the one that suggested like as I've been encouraging Amy to do 1006 00:43:38,680 --> 00:43:42,000 that with our family, but then Amy started doing this session 1007 00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:45,160 with me and I was not ready for that conversation. 1008 00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:49,960 So just want to say this like it's, it's an amazing tool, but 1009 00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:52,960 you need to be ready for it. So if you hear something like 1010 00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:55,360 this, it's like, oh, my partner should do this, You know, I'll 1011 00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:56,800 do this and my partner should do it too. 1012 00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:59,560 Just you've got to be in that space to do it. 1013 00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,000 It's sometimes a hard thing, especially if you're already 1014 00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,560 struggling or you're tired or you're anxious or whatever, 1015 00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:09,480 because seeing through that fog in that time can be quite hard. 1016 00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:12,640 And it wasn't, I don't feel like it was a good conversation we 1017 00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:14,560 had. You were doing your job like you 1018 00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:16,680 were doing what I actually asked you to do. 1019 00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:18,880 I just wasn't showing up to the conversation. 1020 00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:22,520 My mind wasn't able to breakthrough the fog that I was 1021 00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:26,680 in to really articulate or even really want to do it. 1022 00:44:26,720 --> 00:44:28,800 I genuinely didn't want to do it in that time. 1023 00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,920 And then like the day later, I'm like, oh man, I I wish I showed 1024 00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:34,280 up in that moment better. I wish I input it into that 1025 00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,400 better. So, you know, I still talking to 1026 00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:37,880 Amy. I've still been encouraging you 1027 00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:40,200 to bring that back to our family. 1028 00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:41,800 So you've talked about with the kids, you've talked about with 1029 00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:42,920 me. But don't leave it there. 1030 00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:46,840 Like, let's keep revisiting it because it needs I I need that. 1031 00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:49,560 I need that revisit and that ongoing check in. 1032 00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:51,360 Not the. All right, give me everything 1033 00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:53,240 right now. Yeah, because it feels too big, 1034 00:44:53,240 --> 00:44:54,640 you know, especially if I'm struggling. 1035 00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:56,880 It feels too big, that conversation to have all at 1036 00:44:56,880 --> 00:44:58,680 once. But breaking it up and 1037 00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:01,080 continually coming back to it, it's more manageable. 1038 00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:04,040 Yeah, well, and I made a worksheet for this because I've 1039 00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:08,040 sent it out to my clients and I will put it out on our website 1040 00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:10,040 as well so you guys can and download it and go through it. 1041 00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:13,720 But that's The thing is it and it really breaks it down because 1042 00:45:13,720 --> 00:45:17,040 it is if you if you come about it the wrong way, for one thing, 1043 00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:19,480 it shuts your brain down and you go into survival mode and you 1044 00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:22,000 don't want to think about things, especially when it's big 1045 00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:24,800 and you don't have any idea. So you want to be you want to 1046 00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:28,160 bring it right back to the basics to then walk yourself 1047 00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:30,120 through it or be walked through it if you're going through it 1048 00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:34,320 with other people also. I all the time have coaching 1049 00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:37,800 stuff come up that I like, I'm really good at coaching somebody 1050 00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:40,360 else on and then I like sit down to do it myself and I'm like, Oh 1051 00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:42,600 my gosh, or I'll just be off in La La land. 1052 00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:46,000 So it's it's not just something that's natural even for people 1053 00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:48,120 that do it for other people, just to be clear. 1054 00:45:48,240 --> 00:45:51,000 But this is something that one of the ways that we start this 1055 00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:54,520 process is you do look at what you wish you did better. 1056 00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:58,280 So for me, I was or for the kids, we sat down and said, what 1057 00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:00,760 do you wish or what do you want to do better this year or what 1058 00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:03,720 do you wish you could be doing better at school specifically is 1059 00:46:03,720 --> 00:46:05,880 what we kind of focused on. And a few of the things that 1060 00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:08,160 come out, they sound negative and you don't want to stay 1061 00:46:08,160 --> 00:46:09,160 there. You don't want to be like, oh, I 1062 00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,600 wish I was better at this. I wish I was better at this. 1063 00:46:11,720 --> 00:46:14,720 What you want to do is take that prompt and that reflection on 1064 00:46:14,720 --> 00:46:18,880 like, look, I'm actually, I am not good at maths, for example, 1065 00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:20,720 I'm not good at maths. So you don't sit there and say 1066 00:46:20,720 --> 00:46:22,440 I'm not good at maths. That's not going to help your 1067 00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:25,280 brain at all. Instead you say, actually I've 1068 00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:28,080 got everything I need to learn this maths. 1069 00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:32,440 Like I've got everything I need in my brain and resource wise to 1070 00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:35,520 learn it and it then starts to shift the mood of it. 1071 00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:38,720 So our oldest struggles when he gets overwhelmed, he's actually 1072 00:46:38,720 --> 00:46:40,840 very good at school, but he struggles when he gets 1073 00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:43,120 overwhelmed with specifically maths. 1074 00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:45,400 And I think it's because he can see it all on this page and it's 1075 00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:48,240 super overwhelming. So his story has started to be 1076 00:46:48,240 --> 00:46:49,680 that he is not very good at maths. 1077 00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:51,720 So when we first did this process, that was one of the 1078 00:46:51,720 --> 00:46:54,360 things that he listed out that he wants to do better at maths. 1079 00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:56,680 He's not very good at maths. He wishes he could be better at 1080 00:46:56,680 --> 00:46:58,200 it. And we don't stay there. 1081 00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:01,280 We then start to point out actually you, you have done 1082 00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:04,280 really well when you're calm and your brain is not stressed and 1083 00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:06,640 you're in a good environment. So it's not that you're not good 1084 00:47:06,640 --> 00:47:08,680 at maths. You have you learn things really 1085 00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:09,800 well. Look at how much you've learned 1086 00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,800 since the first time. And so it's not that you're not 1087 00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:16,080 able to learn, you can learn. And so instead of being like, I 1088 00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:19,600 want to be better at maths, reminding him that he is capable 1089 00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:21,440 of learning everything that comes his way. 1090 00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:23,600 He is capable of learning, showing him what he's done 1091 00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:26,440 before and having that as his declaration is what helps move 1092 00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:29,120 him towards what he wants to be doing stronger. 1093 00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:31,360 And that's, it's the process like when when Blair was talking 1094 00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:33,840 about that conversation, if you're in a bad head space, it 1095 00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:37,120 can be hard to reframe those things and just be gracious to 1096 00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:38,960 yourself. Give yourself space like that's 1097 00:47:38,960 --> 00:47:40,200 not, you don't want to force things. 1098 00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:42,080 The moment you start to force it, it doesn't work well. 1099 00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:45,040 But it is a really interesting process to go through and then 1100 00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:47,280 not leave it there. Like I said, you can't just 1101 00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:49,600 identify it and then not do anything with it. 1102 00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:51,800 And I've got them written on our notebook and I need to write it 1103 00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:53,200 out on papers and stick up on the wall. 1104 00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:55,240 That's what I've been intending to do this whole time and I 1105 00:47:55,240 --> 00:47:57,600 haven't done it. But it's the repetition of those 1106 00:47:57,600 --> 00:47:59,280 things that actually brings in the change. 1107 00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:04,120 So you identify it and then you intentionally implement it. 1108 00:48:04,160 --> 00:48:07,040 Yeah, and that's why I wanna say if this is like this sort of 1109 00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:10,240 stuff, if we come up with these sort of topics and you just 1110 00:48:10,240 --> 00:48:13,720 like, look, I want to do that, but it's just overwhelming or 1111 00:48:13,720 --> 00:48:15,760 it's just too big for me to work on that. 1112 00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:18,600 Reach out. This is literally what Amy does. 1113 00:48:18,600 --> 00:48:21,040 And it's not even just a job. It's actually a gift that she 1114 00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:22,760 has. And I, I know I'm biassed, but I 1115 00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:26,600 genuinely mean this because I experienced it in our marriage. 1116 00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:28,440 I experienced it in my personal life. 1117 00:48:28,440 --> 00:48:32,240 I experienced Amy's gift in the way of walking you through to 1118 00:48:32,240 --> 00:48:35,600 make it manageable, knowing that you've already got everything 1119 00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:38,160 that you need to work through this situation. 1120 00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:40,400 And if you don't, you know where to get it. 1121 00:48:40,520 --> 00:48:43,800 You know how to obtain it. So I just want to like put that 1122 00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:46,000 in here because it's so important. 1123 00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:49,520 That story that I shared then was exactly that. 1124 00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:53,920 She is literally coaching me still on how to go through these 1125 00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:56,120 declarations because I found it too hard. 1126 00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:59,400 I found it too overwhelming. Wasn't it was a too big of a 1127 00:48:59,720 --> 00:49:03,280 asked to get my doubts to be non doubts, you know, and my 1128 00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:06,840 negative thinking to be positive to help me move through the 1129 00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:09,640 barriers that I was facing. And I'm still going through them 1130 00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:12,080 and that's why we're continually going through them. 1131 00:49:12,160 --> 00:49:13,440 It's not allowing you to do that. 1132 00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:16,720 So anyway, reach out, go to our website, go to our socials, you 1133 00:49:16,720 --> 00:49:18,400 can reach out. And if you want to know more 1134 00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:20,760 information of opportunities that are coming up from these 1135 00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:23,800 courses and and services do that. 1136 00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:27,840 I highly recommend it. Yeah, yeah, I'm definitely 1137 00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:29,960 passionate about making things easy and accessible. 1138 00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:32,840 If something's too flowery, lofty, doesn't make sense, it's 1139 00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:34,640 too big picture, I want to fix it. 1140 00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:36,960 So let us know. So we'll say we'll share that 1141 00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:39,120 declarations worksheet. You guys can go through it if 1142 00:49:39,120 --> 00:49:40,520 you like. There's going to be more 1143 00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:43,000 coaching content that comes through just naturally in the 1144 00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:44,960 episodes and the content that we come out with. 1145 00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:46,800 And we will be getting back to vlogging. 1146 00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:48,440 I've actually started our America vlog. 1147 00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:50,560 We've been vlogging, we just haven't been editing. 1148 00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:51,840 So we've got. Like massive. 1149 00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:55,160 Yeah, we've got. Like 3 vlogs ready to go of 1150 00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:56,840 content. We just got to do the editing 1151 00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:58,760 side things. We've actually what another 1152 00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:00,040 thing we didn't share. Actually I. 1153 00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:02,880 Won't spend too much time on this because we're, we're going 1154 00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:07,520 on for a bit now, but we, our passion, a passion of ours is 1155 00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:11,200 that our content will become more of a family project in the 1156 00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:13,320 future. Right now we're quite strict. 1157 00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:16,640 We don't want our kids faces on socials as much as possible. 1158 00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:18,880 Sometimes we might slip by accident and more or less 1159 00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:21,280 something go through. But we, we don't want our kids 1160 00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:23,200 faces on socials. We want to wait till they're 1161 00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:26,040 older and be able to do that. But we, they want to be so 1162 00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:29,240 involved in this, what we've allowed them to do every now and 1163 00:50:29,240 --> 00:50:33,040 again, they can edit a vlog or they can direct it or they tell 1164 00:50:33,040 --> 00:50:35,840 us the props. So probably the second vlog 1165 00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:37,680 coming out this year will be their one. 1166 00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:40,280 So we've, they've already been editing it and directing us and 1167 00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:42,400 you know, like, oh, we want to capture this or we want to do 1168 00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:44,040 this activity one day and all that. 1169 00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:46,800 It's been a lot of, actually. Done a really, they've done a 1170 00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:49,080 really good job. Really good job and they're only 1171 00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:52,720 using like basic software on the iPad and things, but it's fun. 1172 00:50:52,720 --> 00:50:56,000 It's been so fun. So anyway, we've got like 3 1173 00:50:56,000 --> 00:50:59,160 vlogs worth of, we've just got to get it out and edit it. 1174 00:50:59,240 --> 00:51:01,040 The big America one is the blockage for me. 1175 00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,520 I just need to get it done because it's like 23 gigs of 1176 00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:05,840 videos. But anyway, it's coming. 1177 00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:08,640 All right, so some quick questions for you before we wrap 1178 00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:11,120 up. Just to reflect on what your 1179 00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:13,440 last four months have been like because we've just shared about 1180 00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:16,600 ours and what you want. 2026 even though we're in Feb, it's 1181 00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:18,840 not too late 2026. What do you want that to look 1182 00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:20,960 like? Ask yourself to reflect on some 1183 00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:23,320 of these things. So where is something feeling 1184 00:51:23,320 --> 00:51:25,680 like it's not working or serving you well? 1185 00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:28,520 Is there anything in your relationship, in your home life, 1186 00:51:28,520 --> 00:51:32,080 in your work that's just not fitting, sits uncomfortably, 1187 00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:34,880 weighs on you, or just isn't feeling like it's serving you 1188 00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:36,520 and moving you towards where you want to be? 1189 00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:39,520 And write those things down. Just identify them and be okay 1190 00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:42,560 just having them out on paper. They don't have to be worded 1191 00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:45,680 well or anything. And then take those things and 1192 00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:48,800 reinforce for yourself your abilities in this space. 1193 00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:50,560 Where have you done this well before? 1194 00:51:50,560 --> 00:51:53,640 There will be an example of you doing something in this kind of 1195 00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:56,520 space well before. Even if it's as simple as I'm 1196 00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:59,240 really bad at putting in routines, but I know I make a 1197 00:51:59,240 --> 00:52:02,000 coffee for myself every morning. That's a good routine example. 1198 00:52:02,240 --> 00:52:05,240 Reinforce those things for you so you can recognise where you 1199 00:52:05,240 --> 00:52:09,440 have done well before and then what could shift if you were to 1200 00:52:09,440 --> 00:52:13,320 just slightly adjust your patterns to be more constructive 1201 00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:16,000 for you in that if it's your relationship, this is a really 1202 00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:18,400 good one. If you're finding communication 1203 00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,440 is really hard right now, don't be like, we have to like sit 1204 00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:22,840 down and have a really big heart to heart. 1205 00:52:22,840 --> 00:52:25,200 What's 1 tiny little shift that you can implement there? 1206 00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:28,160 One tiny little difference in how you communicate, one tiny 1207 00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:30,600 little difference in in what you ask your partner at the end of 1208 00:52:30,600 --> 00:52:33,040 the day or the time you set aside, all of those sorts of 1209 00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,000 things. One tiny thing you can implement 1210 00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:37,400 and just commit to doing that. One tiny thing this week. 1211 00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:40,480 It's a small little thing you can do to actually see change. 1212 00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:43,560 And every time we see change and feel a win, it helps reinforce 1213 00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:45,680 that for our brain that we're we're capable of doing that. 1214 00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:50,920 Awesome, that is episode 1 of season 3. 1215 00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:53,200 That was fun man. I was actually so excited for 1216 00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:54,960 this. Like I think last week I was 1217 00:52:54,960 --> 00:52:57,480 kind of like oh we're gonna get do we've gotta do it again. 1218 00:52:57,480 --> 00:53:00,640 But then we prepared for the next 4 episodes or something. 1219 00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:03,240 But then like this morning I'm like Oh yeah, we had to do this 1220 00:53:03,240 --> 00:53:04,840 and my mind started getting back into it. 1221 00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:07,160 I'm like yeah we're gonna do this It's good I'm keen. 1222 00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:11,640 So anyway, I am legit pumped about this season and just so 1223 00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:13,360 keen to go on this year with you guys. 1224 00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:16,560 We would love again. We love writing, so writing 1225 00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:18,880 things that you're struggling with or things that you're 1226 00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:20,920 working on. And we would love to encourage 1227 00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:23,240 you, we'd love to celebrate with you, share with us. 1228 00:53:23,240 --> 00:53:26,120 How are you going with these reality check sessions? 1229 00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:28,600 Like are you actually getting stuff from them? 1230 00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:30,160 What would you like to see better? 1231 00:53:30,280 --> 00:53:32,360 All of the stuff, guys. Anything and everything. 1232 00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:34,240 Anything and every. Troll us if you want. 1233 00:53:34,240 --> 00:53:36,240 Troll us. Yeah, yeah, we're here for the 1234 00:53:36,240 --> 00:53:38,000 trolls. You've already been trolling us, 1235 00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:39,880 so get back on it. We're back. 1236 00:53:40,080 --> 00:53:42,880 I just have to say, assume more than they get really into the 1237 00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:43,760 trolling. Yeah, yeah. 1238 00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:47,360 Just want to say one more time, if you do want to support us, 1239 00:53:47,480 --> 00:53:50,840 please like share, subscribe and especially on YouTube. 1240 00:53:50,840 --> 00:53:53,800 So if you're listening to us on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, 1241 00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:57,200 great, do it there. But then also, if you can help a 1242 00:53:57,200 --> 00:54:00,440 brother and a sister out, go to YouTube, like share, subscribe 1243 00:54:00,720 --> 00:54:03,520 helps us way more on YouTube than any other platform. 1244 00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:05,440 And there's a lot more cooler stuff out there. 1245 00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:08,840 But thank you so much guys. Thanks guys, good chat, good 1246 00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:09,160 chat.