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Hey guys, welcome back to 
another Chatters episode. 

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Hello. 
Welcome. 

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Welcome back. 
Sorry we didn't get back to you.

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We'll get this episode out 
sooner. 

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We're still getting into the 
rhythm of it. 

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That's OK. 
That's OK groove and it's. 

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Happening. 
But the good thing is a lot of 

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planning and structure has been 
going into the background. 

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Yeah, it's for good reason and 
we will get there, but we hit 

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the ground running and we're 
going to keep doing that. 

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Absolutely. 
And we wanted to take this 

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episode just sort of clue you 
into a little bit of what we're 

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working on. 
It's a little bit more of behind

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the scenes 'cause we coming into
this season, we were so aware 

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that we wanted to bring quality 
to our episodes. 

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We wanted to actually grow 
something on beyond just the 

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podcast. 
And that's where we wanna be 

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sharing with you exclusively on 
what that is and inviting you 

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into that space as well. 
So that's what we're gonna be 

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talking about a little bit today
or tonight, depending on when 

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you're listening, but that's our
episode. 

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Yeah, we've been talking about 
how there's a lot of podcasts 

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out there and we can just be 
another voice in the echo 

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chamber, which I think there's 
still value in just listening to

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a podcast and setting it aside. 
But we our challenge this season

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is to be something that's not 
just set aside once you finish 

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listening. 
It's not something that's like, 

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oh, that was cool. 
It's like this actually impacts 

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your everyday lives. 
It's impacting our everyday 

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lives. 
It's a challenge. 

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It brings challenges that you 
can bring and apply to your 

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relationship in the day that you
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So we're trying to kind of 
restructure and put some things 

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in place to make it break that 
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All you had a conversation with 
someone recently or something 

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talking about that's right. 
And I was talking about, and you

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can fill in the blanks here, but
I was essentially talking about 

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there's so much voices out there
at the moment on socials, on 

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podcasts, on video and what we 
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voice. 
Like we don't want to be noise. 

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Tell me about that conversation.
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how how much content there is. 
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Either they're like the world's 
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they don't even try and then 
their value is not added to that

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conversation. 
But also then there's just 

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people that add just content for
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And we don't want to be that. 
We don't have the purpose of the

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podcast and the heart behind us 
doing it is not just to be just 

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another piece of information 
that you can apply to your 

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relationship, but we actually 
want to help challenge marriages

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or relationships and so. 
Strength and strength. 

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Yeah, yeah. 
So we want to really see that be

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actual life change. 
It's hard to know how to do that

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when the world is just so online
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everything's fast paced and 
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But we're trying to be a bit 
creative with how we can do 

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that. 
So things will adjust a little 

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bit this season. 
There'll be some new segments 

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and some new elements that we're
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It's getting your feedback on 
that process so that we're we're

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doing it in collaboration. 
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wanna use with chatters is 
collaboration. 

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You know, I think you guys have 
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So I think like there's a few 
chatters on here that really 

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speak into this episode, either 
with feedback or stories or 

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whatever else. 
And you so invested and we love 

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that. 
And we're like, there's actually

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quite a portion on, on our 
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And we're like, you've got a 
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You've got things that have 
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your communication or you might 
be trying to prepare for your 

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relationship, but you still have
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have something to share. 
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collaboration comes in because 
you know, Amy and I, we're the 

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host of this podcast, but we 
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We're not. 
We don't have all the advice. 

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We try and get it and we try and
share it because we're 

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passionate about growing in 
relationship and again, that's 

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where we want to draw it from. 
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Yeah, I at this conference met 
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Yeah, did not. 
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sorry Michaela, it was lovely to
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communicated with her after 
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But yeah, it's really cool 
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any chatters nearby. 
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Nice interaction. 
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And and meeting a chatter. 
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we know and that come on here to
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And then there's chatters on 
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And like the fact that you get 
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and really encouraging. 
So I'm a little bit Jelly. 

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Yeah, yeah. 
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So like we said, this episode is
going to come out with an email 

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as well. 
We're going to send this email 

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out with a survey because we 
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We've noticed that not as many 
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specifically itself, but they 
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email or message or whatever 
else that you have details on. 

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So we're going to go trial this 
through email. 

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So we're going to try email and 
survey and respond to you 

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through that. 
If there's another way that you 

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think would be a good idea, let 
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We want to grow in this area a 
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little thing that we're wanting 
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So we're going to be doing a 

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reality check type corner of 
every episode, which is going to

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include a really easy to 
implement challenge for you as a

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partner to do that day, that 
night, whenever it pops back 

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into your head after you've 
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Something really quick and easy,
low maintenance that you can 

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implement right then and there 
when you remember to challenge 

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and strengthen your 
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a tiny little thing. 
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ideas in that way and then some 
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bit more intentional. 
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or a challenge and that sort of 
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We'll be doing a few of those 
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different themes as we go, but 
also we want to have there's as 

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a, as if you've heard our full 
episode, we talked to Bryce, who

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is the CEO of Uncover Me and I'm
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buying our coffee and we both 
have seen it recently, but we've

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got no idea where it is. 
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We're like, oh, let's put this 
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I have no idea where that is. 
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house upside down. 
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cars and all of our cars. 
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Anyway, we want to use that 
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because a lot of Aussies won't 
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meantime anyway, even if they 
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very well designed, as you would
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about on the episode, well 
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couples and good connection 
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So we're going to be just 
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those things that make the 
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to each listener in the moment 
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So watch this space. 
It should be exciting and we are

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really excited. 
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any of you would fall into this 
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intentional in your relationship
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really in the long run. 
All of you are supporting this 

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podcast and engaged in this 
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you are very intentional people.
But we really want to be helping

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encourage and challenge people 
to kind of snap, snap out of the

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like numbness that you can get 
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especially in relationships as 
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term and be intentional in that 
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So yeah, that's what's coming, 
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That's what's coming and more 
and then again, they'll end more

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is really, you know, again, 
trying to draw from your 

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feedback too. 
That's end more because again, 

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we're very passionate about this
space and we want to be creating

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opportunities greater than the 
podcast for marriages to thrive.

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Like that's what we're doing. 
That's what we're passionate 

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about. 
It's what we wanna work towards.

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So surveys coming out with this,
with this episode, please check 

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your emails. 
So, so many questions. 

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We're gonna go through a couple 
of these in the survey to maybe 

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help with when you're going 
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So you can do the survey at the 
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episode. 
So first question simply is, I'm

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not gonna read through every 
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question is what's one thing 
you've learned from this podcast

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has actually impacted your 
relationship or communication? 

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That's a quite an obvious one. 
There's a from, you know, season

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1 or coming into season 2, 
what's been something that's 

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stood out to you the most? 
Because again, is going to help 

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us see what's been impactful. 
Remember 1 chatter reached out 

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to me and talked about how 
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episode was. 
And for him, it wasn't a, it's 

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not a massive deal between him 
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They don't fight a lot. 
They don't have a lot of issues,

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but it's like, all right, if he 
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to be working on them no matter 
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And he was able to actually put 
a word to their issue, which was

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stonewalling each other and 
shutting down and not going to, 

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and it caused other issues. 
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That was great feedback because 
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deeper into those things and 
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So it's one thing to identify 
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How can we work through it? 
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we won't be bringing to our 
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Yeah, we also really want to 
hear why you joined Patreon. 

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What brought you here? 
What expectations did you have? 

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What expectations you had and 

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what do you have, as we've said,
your feedback on what you'd like

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to be getting out of this next 
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Yeah, and something that I like 
to do with my team members and 

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stuff, right. 
If you're in ideation stage of a

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new project or whatever else, 
it's called green lighting 

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stage. 
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any possibility is a 
possibility. 

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So, for example, doing an 
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possibility, right? 
So anything goes if you could 

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actually write something down. 
So the question here of what 

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would you, you know, again, why 
did you join the episode? 

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What did you hope to get from 
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Think creative too. 
Don't just think of like for us 

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to submit questions. 
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We want to know that, but also 
think big. 

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What's a big thought you've had?
What's a big idea that you've 

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got? 
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we want to bring some impactful 
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And so think big. 
Another one that we actually had

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here is what kind of Patreon 
exclusive content would you like

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to see? 
And so we've already sort of 

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said that, but something that we
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an idea is maybe we could do, 
you know, if there was interest 

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there, What if we did like 
online round table discussions 

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or something or whatever else 
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something that we're open to as 
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It wouldn't be overly regular or
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We wouldn't, you know, burn out 
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something that you guys would 
just be interested in for like a

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brainstorming time or something 
with us, that would be quite 

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cool. 
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online. 
So if that's something you'd be 

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interested in, write that down 
the survey would love to hear 

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that and we'll we'll look into 
putting in place. 

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So there's a question on here 

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that I want to ask you as well. 
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Ask me, I actually want to think
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I know the question you can ask 
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for you. 
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Both thought it was. 
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got from a chatter as well, like
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the like what they want out of 
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Right. 
So the question then is so. 

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Shout out to Tim for that 
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Yes, thanks Tim. 
What's something about the 

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opposite gender that still 
confuses you and or that you 

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wish you understood better? 
Yeah, I your, your brain so how 

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you think, because you 
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constantly are talking in your 
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Sometimes they're loud and no, 
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your head. 
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would like to understand more is
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roughly my role in that space is
to listen when to do that. 

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But I can tell when you're in 
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And then what do I do? 
Like, you know, it's like I 

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asked, like, how are you going? 
That's not the right question. 

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You know, like it's like, Are 
you sure you're OK? 

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That's not the right question. 
So how do. 

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Yeah, that's probably a big one.
It's understanding without it 

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overwhelming me how females 
brains work better do. 

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You know what's something I ask 
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How are you? 
Yeah, are. 

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You OK? 
No others. 

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Sometimes when you're like in 
your head, I say what are you 

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thinking about? 
Yeah, that would be a good 

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question to ask. 
I reckon that would be a good 

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neutral question. 
That's actually really easy. 

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Yeah. 
What are you thinking about? 

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Because how are you? 
I can understand how that would 

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feel like. 
It's not the right question, 

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even though it is a good 
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It's a good question, but it's 
like it's, it's easy to say I'm 

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fine. 
You know, I mean, like it's, 

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it's, it's because even with my 
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are you? 
We say, how are you in that 

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tent? 
You know, because that question 

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is like, I'm good and that's 
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Yeah, sorry. 
That's a good one. 

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Yeah, awesome. 
But maybe we can dive into that 

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a little bit more though on an 
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How about likewise? 
I think it's almost the same 

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thing in reverse. 
Really. 

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Yeah. 
Because you just cannot think 

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about anything. 
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And I don't understand how 
disconnected from, I don't know 

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if this is gender, gender 
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But like Even so for one, I 
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be like to just have calm in 
your brain or just have quiet in

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your brain and not be thinking. 
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be thinking. 
Not in an offensive way, just 

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no, no. 
I mean, I get it. 

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I go there. 
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how disconnected you are from 
what people think of you or like

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how your decisions and movements
are so disconnected in many ways

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is. 
That a gender thing or amazing 

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I. 
Don't know, that's why I'm not 

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sure, but actually on a podcast 
today, I heard someone say 

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something that was really 
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business. 
She was like she was talking 

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about how we just women have a 
have so much pressure about how 

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they turn up. 
Like even tonight I've got no 

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makeup on, but because it's the 
chatters, but you never have 

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makeup on. 
That's the point. 

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It's like the chatters, you 
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And I don't think you hate me 
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But every other main episode, if
it's going to go like on our 

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platforms or whatever, I've got 
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have to be put together. 
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10 minutes, if not half an hour.
So but you don't have to have 

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that. 
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that. 
So anyway, that's just one 

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specific, one part of it. 
But women have a lot of pressure

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about how they turn up in 
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And one thing she said was like 
a tagline she's now started 

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repeating to herself is would a 
man care about this thing? 

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And if not, I'm just going to do
it like what am. 

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I going to do. 
It yeah. 

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So like, would a man be up? 
Would a man be like my hair is 

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not done nicely before he like 
makes a video that potentially 

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is good for her, his business 
and good for marketing or 

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whatever? 
No, probably not. 

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So I'm just going to make the 
video instead of being stressed 

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out or would a man care that 
he's not 10 lbs lighter than he 

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is when he's going to create his
content and reach out? 

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No, so I'm going to do it. 
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thing is mind mind boggling to 
me because of it just how my 

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brain works, but it's also 
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It's like this thing that men, 
generally speaking, tend to have

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where they're a little bit more 
disconnected from guess what 

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people think of them or those 
kinds of it's a different type 

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of, it's a different type of 
what people think of them, I'm 

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sure. 
I genuinely like and I 

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completely understand like I 
don't I walked a hat on before 

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we came in here. 
I'm like, I mean my like this is

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like my walking shirt. 
You know, it's not a nice shirt 

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or anything. 
And these pants have had for 20,

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8000 years, but I genuinely, I'm
like, I want to actually 

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prioritise putting myself 
together because, because I, I 

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want to like, I mean, there's a 
point where I'm like, I see what

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you feel like you need to do. 
I'm like, but I respect that to 

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a point as well. 
You know, I mean, there is a 

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sort of respect in that from my 
side as well as like cool, like 

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you actually you, I'm, I'm a 
slob right now, you know what I 

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mean? 
Like, but I am like, these are 

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my, these are my like exercise 
clothes. 

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Like I'm not, I haven't, I need 
to trim my beard. 

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I, I need like, you know, tidy 
it up a little bit. 

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I haven't done any of that. 
And I'm like, I wish I took more

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pride. 
You know too, though. 

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I love the pride element and 
that's something I'm trying to 

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work on for myself too. 
What I don't like is the 

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external pressure element or the
lack of value element, The 

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value. 
And I've been finding this with 

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like my personal Tik Toks that 
I've been trying to make. 

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Yeah, I'm trying to put a lot of
effort in this year. 

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And so I've been documenting 
that. 

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But every time I go to talk 
about what I'm doing in that 

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space, I'm like, oh, my makeup's
not done. 

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Yeah. 
And so I'm holding myself back 

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from making content because one,
my makeup's not done too. 

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It's too chaotic in the 
background with noise, like my 

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house isn't perfect and clean 
and white and light and 

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everything like that. 
Or my hair is like greasy so 

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it's just up in a bun like. 
And I'm holding myself back from

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sharing my genuine journey 
because I don't look good enough

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for content that someone would 
look at and be like, that's 

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valuable, like they would swipe 
by. 

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Well, not everybody hopefully 
anyway. 

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It's just an interesting thing. 
Like IIA, 100%, the putting 

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pride, taking pride in myself is
something I want to do, and my 

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challenge for myself is removing
that from what I feel like the 

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world, what value the world puts
on me, Yeah. 

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That's good. 
And, and like I relate to that a

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tiny bit and like, and nowhere 
near as much as you because I'm 

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going to explain why. 
But when I'm going into a 

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corporate meeting or something 
online, like I've got to dress, 

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or if I've got to go conference 
or something, I've got to dress 

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nicely and hate it. 
So again, what, how long it 

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takes me to get ready compared 
to if you went to that same 

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thing? 
Yeah, it's twice as like twice 

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as less time as you would take. 
Yeah, like 1/2 the time. 

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Yeah, yeah. 
Twice as less. 

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And yes, ma'am. 
Yeah, yeah, absolutely. 

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Anyway, there's a deep dive, 
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These are just an example of 
sorts of questions that were on 

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the survey. 
So go check them out again, 

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because again, like there's even
now you and I going through 

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those questions like cool, I'm 
that's given me an idea. 

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We need to do an episode on 
that. 

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You know, like because I know 
well, we know that this is a 

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this is a global thing. 
Like this isn't just unique. 

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Phenomena. 
It's another. 

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Word. 
I was going to use other than 

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global but. 
Universal, yeah. 

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There we go. 
That's a better one. 

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It's in the universe. 
The universe struggles with it. 

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There we go. 
I was just going to just going 

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to say, like we've just said, 
this is this is prompting for a 

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conversation. 
We'd love to hear your responses

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and also maybe use it as a 
conversation with your partner. 

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Yeah, as well. 
So something just to keep in the

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in your mind if, if writing it 
down is something you struggle 

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with sending voice messages, 
like that's fine. 

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If you can't feel out the whole 
survey or whatever, be like, 

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hey, got this idea. 
I'm on the run. 

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I can't write right now, but I 
can video record or audio 

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record. 
Do that, send that through. 

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We'll listen to it. 
We would love that. 

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Any sort of feedback from you 
guys would be fantabulous. 

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Again, the impact is greater 
than the podcast, Your story, it

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has power behind it because it's
not unique to you. 

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Others will relate to that. 
That's the stuff we want to get 

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out there. 
It's not, it's not the Blair and

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Amy show. 
It's the honeymoon to chat show,

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which is all about communication
in relationship. 

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So your experience, your 
communication struggles, your 

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communication growth is going to
have a bigger impact than just 

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for yourself. 
Oh yeah, preach. 

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That was a confusing noise. 
It came. 

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Yeah, I get to those moments 
where I'm just like, I don't 

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know what to do here, so I'll 
spit it out. 

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All right. 
Thanks. 

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Guys, bye.