Hey guys, welcome back to another Chatters episode.
Hello. Welcome.
Welcome back. Sorry we didn't get back to you.
We'll get this episode out sooner.
We're still getting into the rhythm of it.
That's OK. That's OK groove and it's.
Happening. But the good thing is a lot of
planning and structure has been going into the background.
Yeah, it's for good reason and we will get there, but we hit
the ground running and we're going to keep doing that.
Absolutely. And we wanted to take this
episode just sort of clue you into a little bit of what we're
working on. It's a little bit more of behind
the scenes 'cause we coming into this season, we were so aware
that we wanted to bring quality to our episodes.
We wanted to actually grow something on beyond just the
podcast. And that's where we wanna be
sharing with you exclusively on what that is and inviting you
into that space as well. So that's what we're gonna be
talking about a little bit today or tonight, depending on when
you're listening, but that's our episode.
Yeah, we've been talking about how there's a lot of podcasts
out there and we can just be another voice in the echo
chamber, which I think there's still value in just listening to
a podcast and setting it aside. But we our challenge this season
is to be something that's not just set aside once you finish
listening. It's not something that's like,
oh, that was cool. It's like this actually impacts
your everyday lives. It's impacting our everyday
lives. It's a challenge.
It brings challenges that you can bring and apply to your
relationship in the day that you yeah.
So we're trying to kind of restructure and put some things
in place to make it break that cause what's.
All you had a conversation with someone recently or something
talking about that's right. And I was talking about, and you
can fill in the blanks here, but I was essentially talking about
there's so much voices out there at the moment on socials, on
podcasts, on video and what we wanted to do more than just be a
voice. Like we don't want to be noise.
Tell me about that conversation. Yeah, we're just talking about
how how much content there is. And there's two ways people go.
Either they're like the world's over saturated with content so
they don't even try and then their value is not added to that
conversation. But also then there's just
people that add just content for the sake of adding content.
And we don't want to be that. We don't have the purpose of the
podcast and the heart behind us doing it is not just to be just
another piece of information that you can apply to your
relationship, but we actually want to help challenge marriages
or relationships and so. Strength and strength.
Yeah, yeah. So we want to really see that be
actual life change. It's hard to know how to do that
when the world is just so online and so content heavy and
everything's fast paced and moving.
But we're trying to be a bit creative with how we can do
that. So things will adjust a little
bit this season. There'll be some new segments
and some new elements that we're playing into that.
It's getting your feedback on that process so that we're we're
doing it in collaboration. Yeah, there's a big word that we
wanna use with chatters is collaboration.
You know, I think you guys have so much value into this again.
So I think like there's a few chatters on here that really
speak into this episode, either with feedback or stories or
whatever else. And you so invested and we love
that. And we're like, there's actually
quite a portion on, on our chatters that don't do that.
And we're like, you've got a story too.
You've got things that have impacted your relationship or
your communication or you might be trying to prepare for your
relationship, but you still have something to give, you still
have something to share. And we were, that's where the
collaboration comes in because you know, Amy and I, we're the
host of this podcast, but we don't have all the stories.
We're not. We don't have all the advice.
We try and get it and we try and share it because we're
passionate about growing in relationship and again, that's
where we want to draw it from. And also a quick shout out.
Yeah, I at this conference met one of you.
Yeah, did not. I realised at the time, I'm so
sorry Michaela, it was lovely to meet you in person and I, I've
communicated with her after this.
But yeah, it's really cool because I didn't realise we had
any chatters nearby. Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
Nice interaction. Yeah, absolutely.
And and meeting a chatter. So we've got some chatters that
we know and that come on here to support us and stuff like that.
And then there's chatters on here that we don't know.
And like the fact that you get to meet someone is is amazing
and really encouraging. So I'm a little bit Jelly.
Yeah, yeah. Awesome.
So like we said, this episode is going to come out with an email
as well. We're going to send this email
out with a survey because we want your input.
We've noticed that not as many people talk on Patreon
specifically itself, but they communicate with us through
email or message or whatever else that you have details on.
So we're going to go trial this through email.
So we're going to try email and survey and respond to you
through that. If there's another way that you
think would be a good idea, let us know.
We want to grow in this area a lot, so did you want to share 1
little thing that we're wanting to explore for the future?
Yeah. So we're going to be doing a
reality check type corner of every episode, which is going to
include a really easy to implement challenge for you as a
partner to do that day, that night, whenever it pops back
into your head after you've listened to the episode.
Something really quick and easy, low maintenance that you can
implement right then and there when you remember to challenge
and strengthen your relationship, even if it's just
a tiny little thing. So there'll be some creative
ideas in that way and then some other ideas that are a little
bit more intentional. So us all agreeing to a series
or a challenge and that sort of thing.
We'll be doing a few of those different topics and, and
different themes as we go, but also we want to have there's as
a, as if you've heard our full episode, we talked to Bryce, who
is the CEO of Uncover Me and I'm frustrated because we're not
buying our coffee and we both have seen it recently, but we've
got no idea where it is. We we literally grabbed it.
We're like, oh, let's put this here so we don't lose it.
I have no idea where that is. We literally just turned our
house upside down. We looked through all of our
cars and all of our cars. We'll find it, yeah.
Anyway, we want to use that resource because especially
because a lot of Aussies won't be able to access it for the
meantime anyway, even if they wanted to buy, but because it's
very well designed, as you would have heard us talking to him
about on the episode, well designed to be good prompts for
couples and good connection points and communication points.
So we're going to be just playing around with some of
those things that make the episode a little more applicable
to each listener in the moment as well and to us.
So watch this space. It should be exciting and we are
really excited. We, we don't want, I don't think
any of you would fall into this category, but not being
intentional in your relationship is a recipe for a disaster
really in the long run. All of you are supporting this
podcast and engaged in this content, so I'm fairly sure that
you are very intentional people. But we really want to be helping
encourage and challenge people to kind of snap, snap out of the
like numbness that you can get into in everyday life and
especially in relationships as they get longer term and longer
term and be intentional in that space.
So yeah, that's what's coming, guys.
That's what's coming and more and then again, they'll end more
is really, you know, again, trying to draw from your
feedback too. That's end more because again,
we're very passionate about this space and we want to be creating
opportunities greater than the podcast for marriages to thrive.
Like that's what we're doing. That's what we're passionate
about. It's what we wanna work towards.
So surveys coming out with this, with this episode, please check
your emails. So, so many questions.
We're gonna go through a couple of these in the survey to maybe
help with when you're going through the survey.
So you can do the survey at the same time as listening to this
episode. So first question simply is, I'm
not gonna read through every question here, but first
question is what's one thing you've learned from this podcast
has actually impacted your relationship or communication?
That's a quite an obvious one. There's a from, you know, season
1 or coming into season 2, what's been something that's
stood out to you the most? Because again, is going to help
us see what's been impactful. Remember 1 chatter reached out
to me and talked about how impactful the stonewalling
episode was. And for him, it wasn't a, it's
not a massive deal between him and his wife.
They don't fight a lot. They don't have a lot of issues,
but it's like, all right, if he had an issue, you know, we want
to be working on them no matter if they're big or small issues.
And he was able to actually put a word to their issue, which was
stonewalling each other and shutting down and not going to,
and it caused other issues. So that was great.
That was great feedback because now we want to actually dive
deeper into those things and bring greater resources from it.
So it's one thing to identify it, but now what?
How can we work through it? And that's the sort of resources
we won't be bringing to our chatters.
Yeah, we also really want to hear why you joined Patreon.
What brought you here? What expectations did you have?
Yeah. What expectations you had and
what do you have, as we've said, your feedback on what you'd like
to be getting out of this next season.
Yeah, and something that I like to do with my team members and
stuff, right. If you're in ideation stage of a
new project or whatever else, it's called green lighting
stage. We say that this any, you know,
any possibility is a possibility.
So, for example, doing an episode on the moon is a
possibility, right? So anything goes if you could
actually write something down. So the question here of what
would you, you know, again, why did you join the episode?
What did you hope to get from out of this space?
Think creative too. Don't just think of like for us
to submit questions. That's awesome.
We want to know that, but also think big.
What's a big thought you've had? What's a big idea that you've
got? Because again, we want to bring
we want to bring some impactful stuff into the space.
And so think big. Another one that we actually had
here is what kind of Patreon exclusive content would you like
to see? And so we've already sort of
said that, but something that we were sort of throwing around as
an idea is maybe we could do, you know, if there was interest
there, What if we did like online round table discussions
or something or whatever else like we could do that's
something that we're open to as well.
It wouldn't be overly regular or anything like that.
We wouldn't, you know, burn out that idea, but even with
something that you guys would just be interested in for like a
brainstorming time or something with us, that would be quite
cool. Yeah, I'm either in person or
online. So if that's something you'd be
interested in, write that down the survey would love to hear
that and we'll we'll look into putting in place.
Yeah, absolutely. So there's a question on here
that I want to ask you as well. Yeah.
Ask me, I actually want to think about this.
I know the question you can ask because I had the same question
for you. We.
Both thought it was. Which is also a question that I
got from a chatter as well, like yeah, of like why they came to
the like what they want out of the podcast in general all.
Right. So the question then is so.
Shout out to Tim for that question, by the way.
Yes, thanks Tim. What's something about the
opposite gender that still confuses you and or that you
wish you understood better? Yeah, I your, your brain so how
you think, because you constantly think that you
constantly are talking in your head.
Sometimes they're loud and no, but you're constantly talking to
your head. And that is something what I
would like to understand more is how, again, we know I know
roughly my role in that space is to listen when to do that.
But I can tell when you're in your head.
And then what do I do? Like, you know, it's like I
asked, like, how are you going? That's not the right question.
You know, like it's like, Are you sure you're OK?
That's not the right question. So how do.
Yeah, that's probably a big one. It's understanding without it
overwhelming me how females brains work better do.
You know what's something I ask you all the time?
How are you? Yeah, are.
You OK? No others.
Sometimes when you're like in your head, I say what are you
thinking about? Yeah, that would be a good
question to ask. I reckon that would be a good
neutral question. That's actually really easy.
Yeah. What are you thinking about?
Because how are you? I can understand how that would
feel like. It's not the right question,
even though it is a good question.
It's a good question, but it's like it's, it's easy to say I'm
fine. You know, I mean, like it's,
it's, it's because even with my work, right, we don't say how
are you? We say, how are you in that
tent? You know, because that question
is like, I'm good and that's gives you nothing.
Yeah, sorry. That's a good one.
Yeah, awesome. But maybe we can dive into that
a little bit more though on an episode.
How about likewise? I think it's almost the same
thing in reverse. Really.
Yeah. Because you just cannot think
about anything. Yeah.
And I don't understand how disconnected from, I don't know
if this is gender, gender specific or not.
But like Even so for one, I can't understand what it would
be like to just have calm in your brain or just have quiet in
your brain and not be thinking. Like to just literally just not
be thinking. Not in an offensive way, just
no, no. I mean, I get it.
I go there. And then the other part of it is
how disconnected you are from what people think of you or like
how your decisions and movements are so disconnected in many ways
is. That a gender thing or amazing
I. Don't know, that's why I'm not
sure, but actually on a podcast today, I heard someone say
something that was really helpful for me as a woman in
business. She was like she was talking
about how we just women have a have so much pressure about how
they turn up. Like even tonight I've got no
makeup on, but because it's the chatters, but you never have
makeup on. That's the point.
It's like the chatters, you guys, I trust in love.
And I don't think you hate me for my face to not be makeup.
But every other main episode, if it's going to go like on our
platforms or whatever, I've got in the back of my head like I
have to be put together. And that takes like at the least
10 minutes, if not half an hour. So but you don't have to have
that. And there's no pressure around
that. So anyway, that's just one
specific, one part of it. But women have a lot of pressure
about how they turn up in business as well as in life.
And one thing she said was like a tagline she's now started
repeating to herself is would a man care about this thing?
And if not, I'm just going to do it like what am.
I going to do. It yeah.
So like, would a man be up? Would a man be like my hair is
not done nicely before he like makes a video that potentially
is good for her, his business and good for marketing or
whatever? No, probably not.
So I'm just going to make the video instead of being stressed
out or would a man care that he's not 10 lbs lighter than he
is when he's going to create his content and reach out?
No, so I'm going to do it. So it's it's like that kind of
thing is mind mind boggling to me because of it just how my
brain works, but it's also something I'm fascinated by.
It's like this thing that men, generally speaking, tend to have
where they're a little bit more disconnected from guess what
people think of them or those kinds of it's a different type
of, it's a different type of what people think of them, I'm
sure. I genuinely like and I
completely understand like I don't I walked a hat on before
we came in here. I'm like, I mean my like this is
like my walking shirt. You know, it's not a nice shirt
or anything. And these pants have had for 20,
8000 years, but I genuinely, I'm like, I want to actually
prioritise putting myself together because, because I, I
want to like, I mean, there's a point where I'm like, I see what
you feel like you need to do. I'm like, but I respect that to
a point as well. You know, I mean, there is a
sort of respect in that from my side as well as like cool, like
you actually you, I'm, I'm a slob right now, you know what I
mean? Like, but I am like, these are
my, these are my like exercise clothes.
Like I'm not, I haven't, I need to trim my beard.
I, I need like, you know, tidy it up a little bit.
I haven't done any of that. And I'm like, I wish I took more
pride. You know too, though.
I love the pride element and that's something I'm trying to
work on for myself too. What I don't like is the
external pressure element or the lack of value element, The
value. And I've been finding this with
like my personal Tik Toks that I've been trying to make.
Yeah, I'm trying to put a lot of effort in this year.
And so I've been documenting that.
But every time I go to talk about what I'm doing in that
space, I'm like, oh, my makeup's not done.
Yeah. And so I'm holding myself back
from making content because one, my makeup's not done too.
It's too chaotic in the background with noise, like my
house isn't perfect and clean and white and light and
everything like that. Or my hair is like greasy so
it's just up in a bun like. And I'm holding myself back from
sharing my genuine journey because I don't look good enough
for content that someone would look at and be like, that's
valuable, like they would swipe by.
Well, not everybody hopefully anyway.
It's just an interesting thing. Like IIA, 100%, the putting
pride, taking pride in myself is something I want to do, and my
challenge for myself is removing that from what I feel like the
world, what value the world puts on me, Yeah.
That's good. And, and like I relate to that a
tiny bit and like, and nowhere near as much as you because I'm
going to explain why. But when I'm going into a
corporate meeting or something online, like I've got to dress,
or if I've got to go conference or something, I've got to dress
nicely and hate it. So again, what, how long it
takes me to get ready compared to if you went to that same
thing? Yeah, it's twice as like twice
as less time as you would take. Yeah, like 1/2 the time.
Yeah, yeah. Twice as less.
And yes, ma'am. Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
Anyway, there's a deep dive, but.
These are just an example of sorts of questions that were on
the survey. So go check them out again,
because again, like there's even now you and I going through
those questions like cool, I'm that's given me an idea.
We need to do an episode on that.
You know, like because I know well, we know that this is a
this is a global thing. Like this isn't just unique.
Phenomena. It's another.
Word. I was going to use other than
global but. Universal, yeah.
There we go. That's a better one.
It's in the universe. The universe struggles with it.
There we go. I was just going to just going
to say, like we've just said, this is this is prompting for a
conversation. We'd love to hear your responses
and also maybe use it as a conversation with your partner.
Yeah, as well. So something just to keep in the
in your mind if, if writing it down is something you struggle
with sending voice messages, like that's fine.
If you can't feel out the whole survey or whatever, be like,
hey, got this idea. I'm on the run.
I can't write right now, but I can video record or audio
record. Do that, send that through.
We'll listen to it. We would love that.
Any sort of feedback from you guys would be fantabulous.
Again, the impact is greater than the podcast, Your story, it
has power behind it because it's not unique to you.
Others will relate to that. That's the stuff we want to get
out there. It's not, it's not the Blair and
Amy show. It's the honeymoon to chat show,
which is all about communication in relationship.
So your experience, your communication struggles, your
communication growth is going to have a bigger impact than just
for yourself. Oh yeah, preach.
That was a confusing noise. It came.
Yeah, I get to those moments where I'm just like, I don't
know what to do here, so I'll spit it out.
All right. Thanks.
Guys, bye.