Honey. We need to chat.
Hello. Well, I was halfway through you
and hello, welcome to another chat.
Another chit chat. On Honey, we need to chat.
This is a bit of a different intro because we were just
edited well, I was just editing next week's episode and realised
that we made a Boo Boo and you can literally see it in the
video. I'll make a real out of it
eventually. We just knock the mic out, my
cord mic cord out as we moved things around, and then the rest
of the video is recorded on Blair's laptops sound, so it's
not great quality. But it's great.
It's a great conversation. Experience.
It's great experience. We'll learn and we'll become
better from it, but we thought we don't want to lose the
conversation because it is a really important conversation.
We recognise that the sound quality is probably going to
not. Be.
Great for everybody. So if it's something that just
is too irritating to listen to, that's totally fair enough.
But we wanted to hop on and do a little intro anyway in our
normal setup with our normal sound to just ease you in, give
it a little bit of normalcy and then just let you know.
What's coming up? It's a great conversation.
We talk all about love languages and we're gonna be diving into
those over the next few weeks anyway, a bit further.
But please do stay tuned for the rest of the episode because it
is worth it. But apologies ahead of time, we
won't make that mistake again. To ease us into the episode, we
thought we would do one chat jar question extra.
So give me. What moment in our relationship
do you think about when you need to feel happy?
Ohi definitely, definitely the morning after our wedding.
Hmm, like that specifically was amazing that morning.
Like that moment when you wake up, you like, oh man, I've got
nothing. To organise I've got nowhere.
To be I've got nothing to worry about because we had.
We had a day. Or like a night, two nights in
Saint Kilda and yeah, we had on that second day we had nothing
to do and it was amazing, so. Tired.
Yeah. And we're married.
Nice. Yeah, yeah, that's what I think
of. What do you think of?
I think the the first days in the hospital after all of our
kids, which Blair doesn't like in terms of the.
Discomfort and experience. So like first one was emergency
caesarean, but all of them have been caesareans.
It's not being comfortable for me.
For me. That's from the grass.
No, I just I. I could relive the 1st.
Day of meeting our babies over and over and over.
If that's all it meant to have more kids, I.
Would have. That moment over and over,
that's the best moments of my life.
Yeah, that's cool. Yeah, meeting our new little
buddies. Yeah, and they keep waking up
tonight, so they're not. So good, but he's.
Right now. Well, we hope you enjoy this
episode you'll magically see. Blair's beard grow back.
In a minute, so magic. But it is a really great
conversation and an important conversation, so we hope you
stick around. Check it out.
Thanks guys. This week we have a really
interesting topic, something that's been really impactful for
us, which is the Five Love languages.
The Five Love Languages was created by Doctor Gary Chapman.
He is, they say here he is the one who originated the love
language concepts. And it's been a tool that's been
incredibly helpful for us in understanding ourselves and
understanding our partner, how we love, how we receive love.
It's not something that is set in stone.
It's not a box that you fall into.
And then that's what it is. It's something that's actually
changed for us over time too. So it's not a prescription, it's
just a tool that's been really helpful for us.
So we wanted to share about it here because we think that lots
of people can benefit from. Because we definitely.
Have we've benefited huge Even just having it as a vague
understanding of how someone might be working even outside of
our marriage, I found at times where I'm like to think about a
friend or workmate or even our kids as.
Well, I was going to say, even trickling down to our kids now
we're starting to have that focus.
Exactly. And a lot of people have heard
of five love languages. It's not a new concept, but we
thought we would just kind of dive into it a little bit
because of how impactful it's been to us.
Yeah, and this is not a sponsored episode by 5 Love
Languages at all. Again, this is just something
that we found helpful for that check in time and starting the
conversation like we get a lot of people ride in.
How do you start the conversation?
It's like, well, you need to build that environment.
You need to build that into the culture of your relationship.
I don't think you can just start a conversation because that's
where I'm walls go up and everything.
So this is we want to encourage you guys do this together day
and night. Just gonna fivelovelanguages.com
and do the free quiz or the paid one.
This is we've got the extended, the full the full kitten
caboodle here. There will be going through, but
there will be going through this over a couple of episodes.
We won't go through it in all today, but we're going to break
down the overall what we've got from it and so forth.
Before we do, I'm gonna ask question.
And I'm also I'm back to the doctor.
The doctor is not going on. That OK, OK.
Last time we did. Chat Jar turned into a big
discussion that we didn't include on the episode.
I'm not. Never know, it wasn't that big
of a deal, but just something that was a bit unfillable, so
hopefully that doesn't happen again today.
If we were to start a business together, what would it be and
why? I think we should start a
podcast. It's not really business
because, well. It could be down the track.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. No.
Well, our dream is that this, this podcast, is one of the
things that we do in this area. So our dream is that one day
we'll put together a retreat for couples to come and explore
relationships and communication together.
That's a dream that we have. So that's the business that I'm
going to do. I'm glad to do public speaking
stuff. I'd love to do other things
around this area, maybe books one day.
Multiple. Multiple PPT.
Yeah, exactly. If we were to answer this
outside of honey, we need to chat.
We actually talk about business stuff all the time together
because we both kind of have just a bit of a, well, blinds
really strategic and I tend to be creative, so we kind of just
naturally work this way. I think if we were to create a
business outside of Honey, we need to chat.
It would be something along the lines of communications and
marketing, which I already have dabbled in.
Blair would absolutely be my strategist.
Yeah, taking care of the business side, which is what I'm
kind of doing with the podcast as well and and where you're
driving majority of the content and and what we discuss in
because that's just your strength.
Think that's super quick and personal at all?
Come on, Amy. Cause conversation needs to be
controversial. Does need to be?
If it's not controversial, is it even conversation?
OK, what is one thing you wish you knew about each other before
we started dating? An interesting question.
We didn't know a lot about each other before we started dating,
and I'm not sure there's much that we didn't know.
Any big like surprises that came up after dating that we hadn't
at least vaguely touched on beforehand?
Do you have anything? I think that the question would
probably be better. What's something that we wish we
knew about ourselves before we started?
Yeah, that's a good one. Yeah, I like.
That and for me it would be, I think, I wish I had a better
understanding of what my experiences were going to bring
into the relationship, my anxieties.
I mean, I didn't know a bit of that, but but I didn't
necessarily kind of understand how impactful that would be in
how I react to you or how I react to scenarios.
I wish I had a better understanding of that.
I, I think the thing that comes to my mind is the impact of the
burnout that I had, you know, and it's not that I wish I knew
I would have a burnout, but I wish I was more intentional
about being prepared for mental health and just the awareness of
mental health and everything became mentioned in other
episodes. I just didn't get it when people
struggle with mental health because I just hadn't had that
experience until my burnout. And now, and now it's been a,
you know, for the last five years.
I'm very intense lesson have been learning, but it's been
kind of a shock like OHT what's happening, what's going on?
Why why am I reacting this way? So it's yeah, I think just the
awareness around just to start with and which is what we're
going to do in this podcast and also what we're doing with our
job. So.
You could probably also add to that like the the cost of
pushing yourself too hard. I think a lot of people don't.
Even for me, I feel the same. Not that I've necessarily burned
out like you, but just the cost of pushing so hard.
Yeah, I think that's you don't really learn that until after.
Yeah, exactly. Hindsight, 2020.
You know 2024. 2024 hindsight 2024, maybe 2024 should just be
called hindsight for the whole world.
Alright, thanks. Good Chacha.
Alright, so we're going to dive into the five love languages.
So how actually works is going to the website, like I've said
earlier, and you it takes you through a quiz and it's just you
sort of slide to one or two and it gives you a bunch of
different scenarios. Do you feel love like more this
way or this way and that scenario?
Next question this way or this way next question to keep going
on until you finished and then it will come up with different
results. So the five love languages are
gifts giving. How do you receive gift giving?
Words of affirmation. Quality time, physical touch,
Words of affirmation. Period.
He said that you know you weren't giving.
Quality time whereas papermation, physical touch, and
acts of service. Access service, that's the one.
Yeah, yeah. Cool.
Online of affirmation. Words of affirmation.
The one I don't like. Exactly.
So it shows you and then it shows you through like, alright,
so you're really high on this one and you really this is where
the other ones sit. This one, you're low on it.
It gives an explanation through like, So what does that mean to
you? And we're going to break that
down a little bit today, just what it means for us and what
we've learned from them this this.
Assessment. Assessment and others have been
really, really valuable to us as a couple, but also me as an
individual for a lot of these questions.
I, so I went through this test twice and the first time I kind
of just went through and answered the questions and I
realised, oh, I don't know if that's accurate.
Like the end result, I don't know if that's accurate.
And so I went through and did it again and I really sat through
and thought about the questions beforehand and I put myself into
scenarios. So like, so for example, there
was a question with something like, you know what, how do you
feel more loved if you wrote me a note or got me gift?
And I don't really think about that.
I'm like words about formation is my lowest by far.
By the way, I'm just not a words guy.
But I really had to think through how do I actually feel
in the moment when Amy's done that?
But also it's not even just is it a gift?
It's kind of what type of gift? And that's other questions that
come into it as well, which is good too because it helps me.
Then why not identify that for myself?
But then through the conversation that we have when
we unpack, it is now you know that about me.
So I could say, look, my love language is gifts, which it is.
When you go out and buy me a new car, well, that's gonna be
freaking awesome. Yeah.
I mean, so cold, but but he's not gonna be really meeting be
where I'm at. Like, what is it about the gift
that's makes me feel loved? What is it about the words that
makes you feel loved And so forth.
And I thought being really, really powerful for me.
And that's actually what happened because at the
beginning of our relationship, I knew gifts were a thing.
And for me, that's because gifts weren't a thing for me at that
stage. So I was just like, OK, gifts,
but it's not just any. It's a gift that shows I've
thought about you, yes, really impactful.
So what we'll do now, let's just, we'll just share our
results. Yeah, we won't dive too much
into them, but maybe we can just explain how like what we, what
those results mean to us, you know, So you stop us.
Yeah, cool. So my top result, which has
stayed fairly consistent, consistent through since I've
known myself is words of affirmation that was 75%.
So in the most preferred zone by 2nd result is receiving gifts,
which was really surprising to me because I think the first
time we did this, that was the lowest.
That's why when we got together I was like, Oh my gosh, gifts
are just so outside of mine. Too, like I remember because
Christmas was stress you out stressful because you like what
do I get? Like what do I get?
And and again, this is the process of learning me for me,
for myself too, because I, I didn't know how to articulate to
you as well what sort of gifts I want, right.
Yeah. So that was, that was really
helpful, was packed and you started having more confidence
in the guests that you get. Yeah.
They honed that skill slammed. The third one is quality time.
That's 50%. And that's not surprising as
well. That's always been at the top
for me. Then Acts of Service is number 4
and that's one of the highest for Blair, or at least was, I
don't know, it still is. And that again, was a mismatch
for us. That specific one was like, Oh
my gosh, I, I don't find that a loving gesture.
I don't find it unloving. I just don't find it special.
And he does. So how do I navigate that?
And the lowest is physical touch at 25%.
And I, I think that was up closer to the top when I first
did it too. So this result has been really
interesting for me because it's shifted a lot since we first did
it, except for a few. And something that we've learned
along the way, which I'm assuming we'll probably dive
into a bit later more, is your love languages.
When you complete a quiz, it's probably going to look different
depending on how much of something you're receiving.
Your love. Tank your love tank.
Yeah, I'll break inside in a minute.
Awesome. Yeah.
So how full that is in that area and how not full that is.
So physical touch. I have four children and a
husband. You're always talked and I have,
you know, been pregnant and breastfeeding for the last like
six years, on and off, seven years, seven years.
So I'm not in any way lacking in that.
In fact, if anything, I'm just like please.
Space. Give me space.
Espacio Portable So yeah, that's why I think that's kind of
jumped down. Whereas gifts is not something
other than Christmas is not something because I've never had
it as a priority. It's not something that's been a
priority in terms of communication with people's love
and your love. So I think that's probably a a
lower tank at this stage than the rest of them are.
Take and and this is the cool thing too, is and this is where
you have to do the quiz every time, but this is just the check
in you right. So it's like, how is your love
tank at the moment? How are you doing in these
areas? Because these change, right,
because it's like I can focus. So my lowest, I'll just jump
straight to that is words of affirmation.
But what we've identified, if I didn't know affirmation, I don't
feel loved, you know, so it's not saying like I never have to
worry about that. It's actually like it's it's
much faster to fill my my affirmation tank than my gifts
tank, you know, made. So I'm the impact is different
as well. So we still have to be looking
at that. How am I, you know, how my
farming you? Am I ever touching you?
You know, I mean, I guess your lowest, but if I never touch
you, you wouldn't feel something else.
If I remember he words from you about formation, it's going to
feel off, right. So this is a thing.
And even through these results, we unpack more because the
results aren't 100% accurate, because I'll be like, actually,
you know, I feel this is a little bit different.
All this is a little bit different.
What this is doing is helping facilitate the conversation,
making that really clear. OK so mine receiving gifts is
the top one and this was a hard one for me.
The first find out when we first did it hasn't changed because
I'm like I just feel greedy and like selfish, right.
I just want one things and it was really, really funny.
My favourite gift that Amy has got me is literally this mug.
It's a Mandalorian mug, coffee mug right now.
I am honest, I am not really a Star Wars fan.
I know I wasn't really a Star Wars fan until the Mandalorian
came out. I just really liked that show.
I was just a big fan and that was my Star Wars journey won't
be right, but even assuming that's a fair of the movies.
But anyway, I mean, went out one day and she just came back with
Mark. It wasn't my birthday, it wasn't
Christmas or anything else like that.
She had just gone out and got being this mug.
And for me, this is actually out of all the gifts that she's
gotten me that are way more expensive than this, this is my
most cherished present gift because it was so I'm getting
emotional. It was, it was really thoughtful
like, and it's just like she's gone out and she's thought of me
and it's like it's nothing major.
It's just the thought behind it. And that was the best thing.
So the way that it is sort of explained is it's a token of her
love for me. And so I drink out of this the
most. It's gotta chip in it and.
I have to get rid of. I'm refusing to get rid of it
because it's just a cup. But for me, it's I'm when I
drink out of this, I think of you.
And that's why this is so special to me.
Maybe. Right up.
Oh, and. Don't buy your spots, Amanda.
So receiving gifts. So that's my top one.
My next one is our quality time. So, and this was when I first
did my did the first quiz. This was actually my highest and
it wasn't that I started was off, but I started thinking
through and like, no, I just love doing stuff with you.
So it was different. What how the way that I receive
a gift is different to the way that I feel when we spend time
together. I love spending time with you
and there's actually no one that I want to spend time with more
than I want to spend time with you.
If we go on an adventure, I want you there.
If I'm doing something fun, I want you there.
You know, one of the questions was, you know, I come up with
the alternative, but it was something like, I bet you find
interest in the things that I'm doing and like, yeah, that's,
that's like that. I really, really enjoy that.
But what I feel when you've got me like a mug is different to
when we're just hanging out and we're doing stuff together.
I just want you there all the time.
It's it's just like the love feeling is, is different, but
it's still very, very high for me.
The next one is Acts of Service. It's lower than quality time.
I think quality time is up high. And now, because I think that's
just something that we do, we do a lot of stuff together and I
love that. But I was thinking about quality
time because mine has dropped down.
I think we do a lot of stuff together.
So we're always, we work from home, both of us.
So we have always together, which is awesome.
And I love that. And I don't know how we'd go for
that change. I don't know how I'd go if that
changed. But we don't get as much
one-on-one quality time. So I reckon that's why equality
times are higher for you at the moment because yes, we do spend
time together all the time, but we don't get much time compared
to like even two years ago, three years ago, we don't
actually get much one-on-one time anymore.
Well, they're very close active service and quality is on the
very close and I think the the reason is so it was up higher
last time and I think the reason actually it's lower now is
because just podcast. Yeah, I you know, so we're
getting this is very, very quality time for me and the
conversations that we've had outside of these podcasts are
continuing on from these episodes is really quality.
Our conversations are really quality.
The way that we discussed stuff, disagree workshop things
together is, is very quality, but I think the reason why it's
still up there is because it's very serious quality time and
we're lacking then the fun, adventurous quality time.
Yeah. So that's so, yeah.
See active service and that's just been one.
I just I, I love the way that you love your family, but I what
you do, you know, that's something that even I know the
kids appreciate that. They even say like, oh, mum,
thank you for making dinner. Like that sort of stuff is, is
really, really cool physical touch for me.
It's, it's actually quite close to words of affirmation.
I think. Physical touch, yeah.
Cause you know, obviously not as much as you, but having four
kids and a dog, you always touched our baby at the moment
is always wanting to be held and things.
So I think we're just very touched in a nice way, but it's
just like an. Empty.
Time empty and bit of information like we said, I'm
just not a words guy, but if I don't get words, I'll struggle,
you know, just won't feel loved. So yeah, so it's a love tank as
well. It's talks about like, you know,
we wanting to create a culture in our relationship where we can
communicate right and we can work on these things.
And when our tanks are empty, the communications are a lot
harder. So this is what's really cool is
when we start off with a a test like this, like what we've done
or other other quizzes whenever you want to do.
And it helps facilitate the conversation when we can get a
more of a gauge of like, how do you receive love?
Like, you know, how do I best show you that I love you and how
do I receive it too? Because we need to be able to
have that conversation or we need, we need to be
communicating to each other through it.
Love. It really helps bring those
walls down. It gives you that conversation
starting point. And from there, over time, we
can learn to communicate better because it's not just about the
conversation, it's about how you're feeling in that moment
too. If you're not feeling loved and
I come to you with a topic that's hard to talk about, your
reaction is gonna be a lot more heartfelt and hurt.
Possibly because she's already still not feeling you, already
feeling loved by me. So this is really important to
help set that tone. Except that scene, you're
learning more about each other, learning how to love each other.
And the conversations are easier to have from that place.
And there's another part too. It's sort of assesses how you're
going. They call it your love skills,
right? So they break it down into three
different categories. So how good you are with
listening, showing empathy and being curious.
So, your curiosity? Is in the large.
Test this in large test and the deeper test.
Yeah, to the full test. And these are like, especially
curiosity is something that we continually try and encourage.
Big curious, you know, don't just be like, oh, cool, good for
you man. But like be curious about your
partner, be curious about yourself.
I try and understand more and show empathy towards, you know,
the struggles that we have and the differences that we have and
so forth. And really listening through
those things, which is really cool.
We're going to break down into that.
Again, this is more of an overview episode and something
to encourage you guys to do together as a couple.
One big thing is this quote, this is old proverb.
It's old Hebrew proverb that says life and death is in the
power of the tongue. We can kill a relationship by
the way we talk to each other or we can give our relationship
life. And I would actually, yeah.
So I can really hurt you by what I say, but I can actually make
you feel very loved whether your love language is worth or not.
But I would say with a lot of things too, is that what can
kill a relationship is if you just don't feel loved.
So that's again, a very important thing about quizzes
like these or very helpful things, is that if you don't
feel love from me, the relationship's going to really,
really suffer and struggle. Yeah, and I've heard this
actually quite a few times where there's this kind of argument of
like, I don't feel loved and then the other person's like,
but I am loving you. Yeah.
It's just a mismatch of it's just a mismatch of understanding
what that means. It's and can feel like such a an
attack from either side and it can feel like you're being
dismissed as well because you can say I don't feel loved, you
know, person like I am loving. You.
And then you're like, OK, well, you're not listening to.
It and this is really that's actually really key because when
we first did this, it was an eye opener for me because
information. Yeah.
And you are yeah. I would always want get you
stuff to show my love for you And but just wasn't like
scratching your itch or anything like car.
Oh yeah, you know, and it wasn't meaning where you need to be
met. And that was such an eye opener
for me because it was so it was actually so hard for me to do
words of affirmation because it's my lowest.
So it's not natural. I had to learn and we've worked
over the years on what that would look like.
But even doing this again, I'd be really challenged.
And I see I've seen you do this with the kids.
You'll put little notes in the kids lunch boxes and stuff to
say I love you. And it's been such a conviction
to me. Like I stopped doing that for
you. I remember I started when we
first did this, putting notes on the mirror and stuff for you.
I've randomly and I just haven't done that.
And I'm like, oh man, that's, that's good.
I love checking you on this again, because I know that I
want you to feel like that I adore you.
And and not that I don't tell you, not that I don't do things
for you, not that I, you know, any of those things, but I don't
go out of my way for the area that hits you the most, you
know, and that's been a big conviction for me.
So I really want to work on that and get better at that and this
is been great to review that and to check in on that.
And I think there's a couple just having a check in time
where you can be like, because we've said as it, as it morphs
and changes, it's not always just going to be linear.
So having a check in time would be like, what would be the most
loving thing for you? Doesn't have to be right now.
It's not like you're saying, what can I say to you right now?
This is going to make you feel loved.
And then that person has to come up with something and then that
person says it. And it's like, well, I don't
feel sincere, but just being like checking in so that you can
kind of have a lens to look at the next little time, whatever
time that might be in how to like show your love when you
have those moments because everybody has those moments
where you reflect. And yeah, I love my spouse and
it'll come out in some way. But I think having a more
targeted way to address that, we really helpful on our
subscriptions which we've decided to call our.
Chatters, chatters. Thanks to feedback.
These shadows. Guys, we're going to dig a
little deeper into the extended version of this quiz.
And it's really cool because it breaks down each one of the
things. And one example being that
there's like on receiving gifts, for example, it's not just
receiving gifts. This one has a chart and it
shows you, is it practical or is it heartfelt?
Is it extravagant or is it simple?
And it shows you kind of where your results land on there.
And that was really helpful for me.
So I was like gifts, that's weird.
But then when I saw my chart, it was like, oh, that makes sense.
We're going to dig a little deeper on the chatters episode
there and just kind of go there a little check in as we kind of
suggested to you guys with ourselves on how we're feeling
this area. So if you're interested in that,
hop on over to that and have a look.
We've got. Extra become a shout.
Out become a chat. Actually helps us out a lot to
you guys and we really, really helps us, so we'd love be
supporting that area too. Wrapping up a little bit, one
thing that had we had suggested to us, I think it was in our
premarital counselling was to literally, and I know it sounds
corny, but when it comes to strengthening your marriage,
sometimes the corny simple things that same prescriptive
are actually really helpful. So the suggestion was you write
a list of things that you find really impactful that make you
feel loved and you just put it on your fridge.
So you've got a list for both of you.
And it's like, I love getting flowers.
I do not like getting flowers, but if someone wants to, they
could have it on there. Or I love when you bring me
coffee in bed or I love when you surprise me with breakfast out
or something like that. And you just have a list that
you've thought of outside of the moment.
You're not trying to say that your partner that they haven't
been doing these things. It's just a neutral moment where
you're listing these things and you have it somewhere where you
can see it regularly and you can as individuals check on it every
now and then. You're like, oh, have I done any
of these things recently? Maybe I can do that.
So that's a good option that I think would be really helpful.
Even for us, it might be helpful.
We haven't done that yet, but I think it's a good suggestion.
And the other thing that we've alluded to a few times on the
podcast is setting these kind of conversations can be hard.
To. Just dive right into if it's not
how you normally talking, if it's not kind of the culture you
have within your relationship, it can be hard to find a time to
get real deep about stuff like this or to even suggest doing
this stuff together. And so we've alluded to, and
we're going to continue to do so because it's really helpful
setting aside a time every week that you can check in so that
you know that that check in time is there.
It can be weekly, fortnightly if you need it to be, but just a
time at home it's not. You don't have to go out and
make it anything expensive or extravagant just to check in
time that you set aside. Intentionally.
To spend time together, make it
special in some way, make a, make a hot chocolate or have
dessert together or something like that.
Set the mood like you're home date nights that we've suggested
and have a list of things that you check in on weekly.
So that instead of feeling this urgency throughout the week to
bring something up because it's hurt you or to, to bring
something up that you want to do as a relationship and just
feeling uncomfortable about it because that's not how you
normally talk. You know that there's this time
every Monday night at 7:30 after the kids are in bed that we
intentionally sit down and we literally ask each other, do you
have anything you want to talk about?
It eases that stress a bit. And I feel like doing something
like this. If this is a concept that you
like, I would love to do this, but my partner would be weirded
out if I suggested it. Don't feel like you have to
start by being like, I think we need to get really deep, never
deep, but we're just going to do this now.
Instead, stop by suggesting that you have that time set aside so
that you can communicate what you need to.
They've got a time to communicate what they need to.
You're outside of all the emotions because it's not live.
It's not something you have to respond to in the time.
And you can start bringing things in like the love
languages and other concepts, other helps resources that might
help. You can start bringing those
into those nights as well. And if you've already got
something in place like that where you've done the five love
languages and you're just not feeling like you're meeting each
other's needs in that area, having that check in points is
really helpful. So that it's not just, oh, we've
done the test. Now we know what we are going to
leave it forever because that's who we are and we're in a box.
Like that's not how we work as humans and it's not how
relationship works. So just having that kind of
point where you feel able to do it without it being super
uncomfortable. I think it's really.
Helpful. Yeah, absolutely.
That's my suggestion to you. Taking a Leave it.
So this is languages. We will be digging into these
into age 5 love language as we go in other episodes, but this
is just an overview. You share what it is and just
encourage you to check it out or other quizzes and assessments
against about being intentional and providing resources that
help start a conversation or facilitate conversation.
If you approach it with curiosity, I don't think it can
harm open mind, curiosity and the intention to love each other
better. I think it's a really helpful
tool regardless of if it's mind blowing to you.
So to finish us off ChatGPT I have I have a different format
today because I said to tragedy BT and I am suspicious so we
need your feedback on this. I said chat to PT give us an
outro that Genz and Jezza in Gen Z speak is what I.
Said. And Zed speak and they gave me
an untrue I don't believe it. So then I asked another one.
I said make it more, Jen said. And to be honest it sounds like
a boomer trying to talk on genset.
Sorry, it's tragic. It's not.
Me, it's a boomer. Younger peoples, which we've had
a bit of a boost in recently, younger people in those
generations. Does this translate this?
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