1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,360 Cheers. Welcome back to another episode 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:06,520 of Strapping. This week we're talking about 3 00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:11,680 Red and Green Flags slash IX. I feel like the irony is not 4 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:14,360 lost on me that we're talking about IX on a podcast. 5 00:00:14,760 --> 00:00:17,080 Why? 'Cause it's so icky to have a 6 00:00:17,080 --> 00:00:17,960 podcast. Is it? 7 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:20,600 Oh no. But that's OK. 8 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:23,880 I think what I realised when putting pen to paper about IX is 9 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:28,440 that I all of my I live and breathe all of my icks. 10 00:00:28,640 --> 00:00:30,000 No, I was thinking on the way here. 11 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:31,800 I was like, I am such an icky person. 12 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:33,080 Yeah, I think I'm also. Yeah. 13 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:37,040 And a walking red flag really. I just feel like quite acted by 14 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:40,040 the submissions. No offence to the listeners, but 15 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:42,280 your submissions, I feel personally attacked by some of 16 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:45,600 them particularly. Yeah, we'll get into them. 17 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,560 I feel like being a red flag is considerably worse than being an 18 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:49,840 ick as well. What? 19 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:51,360 Really. I think so, yeah. 20 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:54,440 OK, well what is a red flag compared to an ick then? 21 00:00:54,840 --> 00:01:00,640 Well, I think an ick is more like something potentially just 22 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:03,800 a little bit irritating, a little bit like just makes the 23 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:06,080 other person cringe and not be attracted to you. 24 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:06,760 A. Turn off. 25 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,560 A turn off, That's the best way of putting it. 26 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:14,000 Whereas I would say a red flag is more like get, get out, get 27 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:14,800 out. No, OK. 28 00:01:15,320 --> 00:01:17,360 The red. Flag is like the warning time. 29 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,440 Yeah, yeah. Like this person's bad. 30 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:22,360 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. OK. 31 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:25,880 And the green flags are. This person's great Marry, 32 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:29,040 marry, put a. Ring on that, wipe that shit up. 33 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:33,280 That was Nick. My arm wasn't Nick. 34 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:37,240 So we've got some of our own and we're going to talk about the 35 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:41,360 submissions, but do you want to kick us off with one of your red 36 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,760 flags? I think a red flag for me, which 37 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:48,360 I've experienced quite a few times is when someone takes ages 38 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:53,040 to text you back but instantly watching and interacting with 39 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:56,560 anything you do on social media like liking stories or watching 40 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:58,840 your story straight away but like not texting you that's. 41 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:00,240 Bold. Yeah, have you not had? 42 00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:05,320 That no, I haven't had that, but I think that's because I've been 43 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:06,920 dating. I've been with the same person 44 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:10,280 for so long. It's probably preceded seen on 45 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:14,760 stories, but also yeah I can imagine that would be jarring. 46 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,960 I wouldn't have the audacity to maybe interact with him at all 47 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:19,600 if I hadn't replied over a message. 48 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:22,280 That is bad, but. That's it as well, and I don't 49 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:24,520 mind if you don't want to reply, but just leave me alone. 50 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:26,680 I think texting. I had a really bad one the other 51 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:31,720 day sorry it's just hit me this girl has like not ghosted me is 52 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:33,320 a bit strong but her just like stopped replying. 53 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:35,280 Are we going to talk about this? On here, we're going to talk 54 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:38,840 about on the forecast, OK, because I was so rattled by 55 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:40,320 this. By her not replying. 56 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:42,760 No, that's fine. Don't need to reply. 57 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:44,680 No one, no one owes me a reply. That's fine. 58 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:51,320 But she gave me kudos on Straw. Oh thank God, I thought you were 59 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,200 going to say LinkedIn. No, Oh my God, no. 60 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:55,400 She. Gave you kudos on straw. 61 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:58,360 That's a such a you sentence. Fuck me that is bad. 62 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:02,200 But imagine if she like did one of those automated replies under 63 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:04,760 your LinkedIn like. Congratulations. 64 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:11,360 Yeah, that is bold. I think all like, all form of 65 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:14,160 like text games. That's a nick for me. 66 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:15,000 Red flag. Sorry. 67 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:20,400 All form of like games when replying to messages is a red 68 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:21,240 flag. I agree. 69 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:23,720 I can't be arsed really anymore. I'm just like, if I want to 70 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:25,080 reply to you, I'm going to reply straight away. 71 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:26,200 I'm not going to be embarrassed do. 72 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,120 You know what I mean? Like we're old. 73 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,000 Crack on. Time is running out. 74 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:35,560 I'm going to be dead, OK? One of mine is that I had to 75 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:38,880 learn from many, many years of being burned. 76 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:42,200 When they say they're only gay for you, like, don't judge me. 77 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:44,320 But I used to think that was a compliment. 78 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:48,200 It's not. It's literally not like, spoiler 79 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:52,000 alert, they're not gay. They're not fucking gay. 80 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:55,920 Like I was like, Oh my God, I've got this like talent of like 81 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:59,560 turning straight girls. Oh, they are gay, and they're 82 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,080 too deeply in the closet. Yeah. 83 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:03,440 And they're just, Yeah, they have. 84 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:05,480 They're locked in there for life. 85 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:09,280 Oh, sorry, is. That the girl. 86 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:11,360 Good. I'll give you. 87 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,120 Yeah. And like, this is my first 88 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:17,320 relationship. That I'm dating someone who is 89 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:18,920 queer. Really. 90 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:20,640 Yeah. Wow. 91 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:22,120 I know. Isn't that bad? 92 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:25,960 That is crazy. I would like to blame my, my 93 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:29,720 upbringing on that because I surely didn't have access to 94 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:31,760 gays. So I just, I went for the 95 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:33,000 nearest person. Do you know what I mean? 96 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:35,640 I wasn't even willing, really, really willing to accept that I 97 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:39,200 was gay for a long time. So then it felt easier just to 98 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:41,600 be with someone who were, we were both like, oh, isn't this 99 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:46,400 kooky lesbian thing? But yeah, when they're only say 100 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:48,960 they're gay for you guys, don't fall for it. 101 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:52,080 This is another one where I feel like I've been burnt too many 102 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:54,160 times. Someone that changes when 103 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:56,640 they're drunk, like, but not in a good way. 104 00:04:56,760 --> 00:05:00,720 Oh yeah. Like, if they are they nasty, do 105 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:04,280 they become a bit argumentative? Are they like just someone that 106 00:05:04,280 --> 00:05:08,400 totally changes personality? I feel like that's a walking red 107 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:09,840 flag. And like, that's happened to me 108 00:05:09,840 --> 00:05:12,680 too many times where I should have just seen it coming. 109 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:14,280 Yeah. You can't say oh, sorry, 110 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:17,880 Depending on what it is, yeah. Oh, sorry, I fell over, I was 111 00:05:17,880 --> 00:05:19,520 drunk. Or oh, sorry, I like. 112 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:23,240 Yeah, sorry I slapped your mum. I probably wouldn't accept. 113 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,600 That yeah, saying I'm sorry I was drunk is not an excuse. 114 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:32,440 It's just saying, stating a fact. 115 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:37,720 It's not actually because like when people say like, oh, the I 116 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:39,560 don't know, I was just drunk. I didn't mean it. 117 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:41,560 But it's like, don't. Do you feel like the truth comes 118 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:45,120 out when you're drunk? I think no, not always. 119 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,520 I do. I do sometimes think I'm. 120 00:05:47,680 --> 00:05:49,600 Not. Thinking about all the bad 121 00:05:49,600 --> 00:05:50,600 things I've done when I've pinched. 122 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:56,280 Should we move on to some green flags? 123 00:05:56,280 --> 00:05:58,480 Yeah, let's do. You want to kick us off? 124 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:03,360 Sure. I feel like maybe I just wrote 125 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,280 things that I think are important to me, yeah. 126 00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:07,560 That's, I mean, that's fine. So. 127 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:10,960 I think someone that challenges you with kindness, I don't know 128 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:13,800 how else to word that, but like someone that isn't afraid to 129 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:16,560 like constructively criticize you, but does it in like a 130 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:19,480 really nice way. Like don't know where that's 131 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:21,800 like pulling you up on things or challenging something that 132 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:23,840 you've said. But I think like, yeah, just 133 00:06:23,840 --> 00:06:27,080 someone that's like kind of honest and grounds you a little 134 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:28,680 bit. I feel like I've seen this 135 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:32,800 happen in your relationship, one for me which is kind of similar 136 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:35,240 to you. Like I think having hobbies and 137 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:39,680 passions is really important. Shared ones or I don't think. 138 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:42,280 It has to be shared. I think it can be shared. 139 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:45,480 I don't think it has to be. I would go as far as to say it's 140 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:48,440 good to have different hobbies. I'd say it's good to have the 141 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:49,960 like. The best situation is where you 142 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:51,760 have the same values but different hobbies. 143 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:56,720 So you can go out and like you can enjoy some stuff together, 144 00:06:56,720 --> 00:06:59,680 but then like go out and they might do something on a Saturday 145 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:02,000 morning. You might go and do like you 146 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:05,280 have your separate lives and they've also got something else 147 00:07:05,280 --> 00:07:07,520 that like gives them a kick. Do you want to give me another 148 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:08,760 one? OK, someone that's nice to 149 00:07:08,760 --> 00:07:11,160 strangers. Do you? 150 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:13,000 Know what I mean? Great. 1. 151 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:17,360 Like, they always like, smile at people. 152 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:20,800 Yeah, that is amazing. When I was on the cheap here, 153 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:24,200 yeah, I was walking through Finsbury Park and the guy went 154 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:27,680 happy Friday and I went happy. I'm sorry. 155 00:07:27,960 --> 00:07:30,880 But that is so Finsbury Park. When you smile at people in 156 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:32,520 public, are you smiling with your teeth? 157 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:37,200 No, I don't think you are. I think it's like. 158 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:40,160 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I know what you mean. 159 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:45,960 No one's going like. Yeah, yeah, but you bite your 160 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:51,920 lip like that. No, I was just thinking, I love 161 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:54,480 it when people have randomly giggling to themselves in public 162 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:56,600 solo on the tube or something, you know, and someone's just 163 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:59,360 like having a giggle. I'm always thinking, I wonder if 164 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,400 you've just had a funny text or you've just remembered something 165 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:03,160 funny when you listen to a funny podcast. 166 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:05,600 I always think that's cute. Yeah, that is cute. 167 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:07,920 Oh, that never happens. Everyone's so grumpy in London. 168 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,520 So submissions. What is the? 169 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:12,520 What is the first green flag submission? 170 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:16,560 So the first green flag submission is healthy 171 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,760 friendships brackets. Big group of lesbian friends. 172 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:23,840 Yes, that is a really big green flag. 173 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:26,680 I feel like it needs to come with like the understanding that 174 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:28,920 not everyone has found that group yet because it is quite 175 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:31,240 hard to find. I don't know, I feel like it can 176 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:33,080 be quite hard to find quit friends, as we were talking 177 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:35,720 about in our first episode. And I'd hate to like, hold it 178 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:40,360 against someone who has for one reason or another, maybe their 179 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:42,960 upbringing, maybe their school not had that much access to 180 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:46,440 queer people. Personally, I don't feel 181 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:50,280 massively like their friends need to be lesbian friends 182 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:52,360 really. I think it's cool and that's 183 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:54,080 it's funny. Because it's come up so much in 184 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:55,920 our submission, so many people said that. 185 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:58,440 I guess I think it's a good sign, but I wouldn't. 186 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:00,240 I guess it means that they're kind of more comfortable in 187 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:02,160 their sexuality. You know that, you know that 188 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:04,440 they've got people around you that you can talk to you about, 189 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:07,600 like don't know queer, your queer stuff and your 190 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:09,120 relationship that you can relate to. 191 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:12,600 It definitely wouldn't make me second guess dating someone if 192 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:15,560 they didn't have lesbian friends, yeah. 193 00:09:15,680 --> 00:09:16,920 Me too. They can. 194 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:18,720 Be hard to find. If they didn't have friends that 195 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:23,960 would be different. Another listener submission was 196 00:09:24,280 --> 00:09:27,440 being relaxed enough to pop pimples together, which I think 197 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:30,760 is just a broader thing about being relaxed together. 198 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:33,560 I think that is so important though, but some people might 199 00:09:33,560 --> 00:09:37,640 not think that that is nice or good or something that you 200 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:40,640 should do with a partner. But like, yeah, relax enough 201 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:44,560 that you're like able to fart and burp. 202 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:45,640 Maybe not birth. Actually I. 203 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:48,120 Mean it's going to happen. Yeah, maybe there's. 204 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:50,600 Like a drawing I think maybe I draw the line and like poo 205 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:52,120 pooping. Have you not pooed in front of? 206 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:54,960 Your girlfriend? No, I rarely poo anyway, but. 207 00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:58,440 Oh wow no I've done that loads. I mean with my ex. 208 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:00,480 What? Was like the door open? 209 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:04,280 Maybe that's why I could dance. Wait with the door. 210 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:05,280 Open. Well, no, I live with 211 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,480 housemates. But what do you mean no? 212 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:10,480 When no when we when I used to go to hers and she didn't have 213 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:12,720 housemates though. But sorry when you say you'd 214 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:15,840 like poo with her like. I don't mean with her. 215 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:18,360 OK, So what do you mean but. I'd be doing a poem, we'd be 216 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:23,400 having a chat. With the SO in the same room. 217 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:26,000 Yeah, at a festival we did a poem and Porsley together. 218 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:29,800 OK, wow. I think I, I think that's a step 219 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:31,120 too far for me. Yeah. 220 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:35,240 But I feel like I like, I am quite open, so it's good to know 221 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:38,160 that I've got a line, yeah. I mean no fair. 222 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:40,120 I mean, maybe I won't do that again. 223 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:46,640 I mean, who's the single one? Fuck sake, it's me. 224 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:48,720 Maybe if I pooed more, I'd feel differently. 225 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:52,000 But yeah, you know, I do think that popping pimples and stuff 226 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:56,560 like that, like that is a sign that you're like, in a really 227 00:10:56,560 --> 00:10:59,200 good actually, Maybe it's not because I know people that would 228 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:02,240 be like, Nah, that is like something you should do with 229 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:03,480 your friends or just on your own. 230 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:05,120 With your friends. I'm not doing that with my 231 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:06,640 friends. What, you don't like picking 232 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:07,800 grown hairs? Together. 233 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:11,240 No, no, no, I've never done that with a friend. 234 00:11:11,560 --> 00:11:13,520 Neither. We're only getting in my heads, 235 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:15,480 mate. Like I'm not gaming, but I've 236 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,320 pulled them out of my friend's legs. 237 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:19,440 Oh fat no, I've not done that with my friends. 238 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:22,880 It's great past time I also. Haven't done a poo in front of 239 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:25,800 any of my friends but you. Do with your relationship. 240 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:28,200 Sex is different, isn't? It, I think, I feel like there's 241 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:31,840 got to be some element of keeping the flame alive, yeah. 242 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:34,000 Well, so you think you're keeping the flame in your 243 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:36,000 relationship alive by not pooping in front of your 244 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:38,800 partner? I think that it definitely adds 245 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:41,920 a little bit of mystery when, OK, when she's not sat Sarah and 246 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:47,000 there I'm like giving birth to an arm and speaking to her at 247 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:49,680 the same time. What so could she hear? 248 00:11:49,680 --> 00:11:53,040 Like the hoop into the toilet Because she's in the room with 249 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:55,440 you? I guess so, yeah. 250 00:11:55,760 --> 00:11:57,680 When you put it like that doesn't sound very nice. 251 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,840 Wow. I have a tactic where I say, oh, 252 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:02,800 I'm getting stage fright, can you leave? 253 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:06,200 And then I poop. Oh yeah, yeah, try it. 254 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:07,320 Noted. Wow. 255 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:11,080 Yeah, watch the girls come flooding in, mate. 256 00:12:13,040 --> 00:12:14,880 I should probably stop peeing in front of girls on 1st. 257 00:12:14,880 --> 00:12:20,480 Date I think. OK, I'm like why am I single? 258 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:23,560 I just can't get a second date. I don't know what it is. 259 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:25,800 You're there on the toilet. Like are you having? 260 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:31,280 A good time, actually. I would go as far as to say it's 261 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:33,480 a red flag if someone doesn't find farts funny. 262 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:36,840 Yeah, that's fucking. That is inherently funny if 263 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:41,440 you're not laughing at a little. Yeah, yeah, God help you. 264 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:43,360 Yeah, if you can't laugh, where's the joy? 265 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:47,120 In life, yeah, maybe you will at the same time. 266 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:49,720 OK, we're going to move on now to our ICS. 267 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:53,240 Mine are a bit brutal. I would say mine are. 268 00:12:53,760 --> 00:12:56,200 Mine are just quite. Specific, yeah. 269 00:12:56,320 --> 00:12:59,320 Should I start with one go? One of my very specific ones go. 270 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:04,000 I find it so icky when someone makes someone else feel bad 271 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:07,600 about their music taste or like act as if like their music taste 272 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:10,560 is like the music taste. It works the other way as well. 273 00:13:10,560 --> 00:13:13,640 A lot of people will be like oh like dance music? 274 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:16,600 Like they'll either be like, if you like anything that's not 275 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:20,120 dance music, like you're an idiot, or they'll be like, dance 276 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:22,000 music's terrible. Like it's so boring. 277 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:24,440 I'm shooting on other. People, it's just taste you 278 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:25,920 have. We all have a taste. 279 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:27,600 Yeah. You don't like dance music? 280 00:13:27,600 --> 00:13:29,000 That's OK. Do you know what I like? 281 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:31,800 You're hard relate. Or you're you love dance music 282 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:33,240 and this person's like Taylor Swift. 283 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:35,560 Is that cool? Let let everyone live. 284 00:13:35,560 --> 00:13:36,240 Let. Everyone live. 285 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:39,000 And enjoy what they want to and. Don't insult drum and bass. 286 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:41,920 I find it very icky. You're not better than that, do 287 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:43,360 you know what I mean? No one's better than a bit of 288 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:45,120 drama. Or Justin Bieber for that 289 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:45,920 matter. So. 290 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:50,960 Love him, Yeah. On the subject of music, if you 291 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:56,360 can't dance or like in specifically like really like 292 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:59,960 basic white girl dancing. Yeah, can I, I'll. 293 00:13:59,960 --> 00:14:01,480 Show you what I mean. Yeah, go. 294 00:14:05,680 --> 00:14:08,040 If you can't do that, or you do do that. 295 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:14,160 I was wondering if that was it if you do that like this. 296 00:14:14,280 --> 00:14:15,960 If you do that, you don't like it. 297 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:18,880 The fingers, pointing fingers. Oh, what this thing? 298 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:21,400 No, no, it's because it's got a bit of rhythm to it. 299 00:14:21,400 --> 00:14:24,040 It's like this. Up or this? 300 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:28,440 Really. Are you joking? 301 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:30,640 But you came over to me and I'm like this. 302 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:39,880 Yeah, doesn't bother me, but I can see it. 303 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:42,400 I don't think so. Yikes. 304 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:45,840 I can't think of a time I've been like, I don't want to date 305 00:14:45,840 --> 00:14:47,040 you because you're dancing badly. 306 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:50,040 I can think of an exact time and moment where. 307 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:52,680 I don't feel like anyone. Really liked someone and then I 308 00:14:52,680 --> 00:14:55,600 saw them dance and I was like OK, that's that over. 309 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:57,520 I think everyone I've dated has been. 310 00:14:57,840 --> 00:14:59,360 Can I say I'm not saying that I'm. 311 00:15:02,440 --> 00:15:05,960 I don't think I'm a great dancer, but if you're actively, 312 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:06,480 yeah. Yeah, yeah. 313 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:08,240 Like you can hear the rhythm. Yeah, Yeah. 314 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:11,040 If you can't hit rhythm, I think it because it reminds me of of 315 00:15:11,040 --> 00:15:13,520 like, like white men. And I don't like that. 316 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:17,160 Like, like, you know how boys just generally can't really 317 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:19,600 dance? Yeah, I think it reminds me of 318 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:22,560 men because I feel like girls are cooler than that. 319 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:24,000 So just like. Bust a moon. 320 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:25,600 Yeah. Bust a bloody moon. 321 00:15:26,160 --> 00:15:28,520 Does that mean maybe it's mean fine so? 322 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:30,040 Me, we'll take that. We'll take that. 323 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:36,400 Can I just ask because as someone with Nelly allergies, is 324 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:40,200 that an ick like someone with a lot of food allergies slash 325 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:43,160 intolerances? I think if you're gay and you 326 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:46,840 find people with food intolerances, slash allergies an 327 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:49,920 ick, you will be single for the rest of your life. 328 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:51,880 Why don't gay people I've dated it's. 329 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:53,400 Trauma. I've dated it. 330 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:57,560 Lived in your summer celiac. I've dated like, yeah. 331 00:15:57,600 --> 00:15:59,280 You're sipping on gluten free beer, babes. 332 00:15:59,280 --> 00:16:02,240 Yeah, it's lovely. Yeah, I'm, I'm here for you know 333 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:06,440 what it's. The trauma from homophobia, from 334 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:08,720 being closeted, it lives in your belly. 335 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:10,520 There you go. Well, there you go. 336 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:11,760 I'm sorry. So. 337 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:15,800 You're I'm pro, why are you going to make a move on me? 338 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:19,840 No, I just need to need you to tell me that I'm not a walking 339 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:22,600 red flag. I've got a good one which I'd 340 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:24,360 like your take on actually. Go on. 341 00:16:25,200 --> 00:16:30,560 I get the ick if someone has too much of an expensive taste. 342 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:33,200 Oh I've not thought about that before. 343 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:36,080 I've dated someone before. Who just bit glitz and glam? 344 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:41,800 Yeah, and like, can't enjoy. Simple pleasures, yeah, that is. 345 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:43,760 Do you know I? Find it really icky actually. 346 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:46,000 I've never thought about that before, but actually I dated 347 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:50,040 something like that and it yeah, I've got quite a niche 1 go 348 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:55,160 someone that licks the yoghurt off the yoghurt pot lid. 349 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:00,760 Why? It honestly makes me I feel 350 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:04,240 quite emotional. I absolutely hate it. 351 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:06,480 What about drinking out of a carton in the fridge? 352 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,839 That's OK. Oh, wait, I'm actually kind of 353 00:17:09,839 --> 00:17:12,720 gag. I just keep picturing someone 354 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:14,839 licking the lid of the yoghurt. Yeah, yeah. 355 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:18,640 I've got another one, it's quite specific, a bit like your 356 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:23,000 yoghurt lid 1. Bobble hats. 357 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:25,240 No one looks good in a bobble hat. 358 00:17:25,520 --> 00:17:27,200 Oh. The thing that has the. 359 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:31,040 Pom pom one thought. That brings me back to like 360 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:32,600 2012. Yeah. 361 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:34,640 Like with Mittens and Bob? Yeah. 362 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:37,240 I actually gloves that's quite a nice. 363 00:17:37,360 --> 00:17:39,400 Glove Millennial mum thing to do? 364 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:41,680 Bobble hats, Gloves. Gloves don't mind. 365 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:43,080 Scarves. Scarves can look cool. 366 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:44,480 I don't think gloves ever look cool. 367 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:47,680 What about fingerless? Gloves spit Fagan. 368 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:49,640 Who? Oliver Twist. 369 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:54,120 Yeah, yeah, you've got a pick up pocket or two. 370 00:17:54,120 --> 00:17:58,400 Yeah, it's rich in this week, but all burglar esque, but you 371 00:17:58,400 --> 00:18:01,640 can get like what about nice mittens or like crocheted ones? 372 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:05,320 I think the ball will have fair, but like it's fucking cold in 373 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:06,880 England in winter. What do you just? 374 00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:08,680 I just let my hands go cracked and grow. 375 00:18:09,560 --> 00:18:10,920 Yeah, and that's not absolute. You. 376 00:18:11,360 --> 00:18:20,440 Open your hand. It's like OK, headbands and 377 00:18:20,440 --> 00:18:24,680 polka dots together. Not not not this type of 378 00:18:24,680 --> 00:18:27,240 headband. Let me show you the exact type 379 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:30,240 that I mean. OK, I'm not going to lie, what 380 00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:32,880 I'm getting shown right now, I've never seen. 381 00:18:33,480 --> 00:18:36,560 I've never seen someone over the age of nine wearing are. 382 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:39,200 You joking? I see loads of girls wearing 383 00:18:39,200 --> 00:18:41,200 that. I've never seen polka dot dress 384 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:44,360 and I'm like do you live in a grade 2 listed building or is 385 00:18:44,360 --> 00:18:46,760 your surname Mountbatten? Like what's going on here? 386 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:49,600 I've never. I've never seen those on anyone 387 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:52,280 that's not a child, really. They're the ones who get your 388 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:56,400 name. Like children? 389 00:18:56,400 --> 00:18:57,880 Yeah, yeah. No, I've never seen that on one 390 00:18:57,880 --> 00:18:59,440 of them. And if I did, I would get, yeah. 391 00:18:59,520 --> 00:19:01,360 Yeah, thanks. Fair. 392 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:05,360 I've got a quite specific one. OK, go someone who's too quiet 393 00:19:05,360 --> 00:19:07,120 in the bedroom. OK. 394 00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:08,480 Yeah, yeah, yeah. They're like. 395 00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:11,240 Give me something. Give me like, are you dead? 396 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:15,960 Like what's going on? Like even if it's just a heavy 397 00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:20,560 got like a heavy breathe breath, like heavy breathing something, 398 00:19:20,560 --> 00:19:26,520 maybe a cheeky moan, but like do something to let me know. 399 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:28,120 Like I'm not. I don't want to have sex with a 400 00:19:28,120 --> 00:19:29,000 robot. Yeah, yeah. 401 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:30,520 You want to feel like they're enjoying it as well. 402 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:32,880 Yeah, I think maybe all of these are just like. 403 00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:35,920 I need my ego. Boosted. 404 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:39,040 Yeah. Smiley piercing. 405 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:42,800 What's that? Get out smiley piercing. 406 00:19:43,120 --> 00:19:46,680 Here those two. No, I've not seen one of those. 407 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:48,600 Shut. Up in a while. 408 00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:53,800 That's it. 2012 maybe? I saw them like the other day 409 00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:57,000 and it I just got me thinking like does that not get caught? 410 00:19:57,000 --> 00:20:00,320 Like would I get caught? Like what? 411 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:02,400 Food was stuck. Piercing was getting caught. 412 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:04,600 I was once getting off of someone in our nose rings got 413 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:08,440 caught, no word of a lie. And we had to like I was like, 414 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:12,040 Oh my God, we're stuck and we had to like really carefully 415 00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:14,400 disconnect them. And I told someone I know this 416 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:16,920 story and then completely independently she heard the 417 00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:20,000 story again and she realised she was talking to the girl that. 418 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:22,520 Shut up. To be fair, if that happened to 419 00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:24,400 me, I'd be telling the town that's a fucking good story, 420 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:25,360 yeah. It's a great story. 421 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:27,320 Any other piercings that you think are absolute? 422 00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:30,240 No nose. I've never been with anyone with 423 00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:33,200 a clip piercing but that would scare the fuck out of me that. 424 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:37,320 Is not real. Surely that would hurt so much. 425 00:20:37,320 --> 00:20:40,400 Is that a real thing? Yeah, I think so. 426 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:42,080 Did you just make that? Up maybe. 427 00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:43,200 I don't know. I don't think it's a clip 428 00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:45,480 piercing. It's like a vagina. 429 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:46,680 I don't know. Like it must be the hood. 430 00:20:49,360 --> 00:20:53,440 I don't know. Fuck, that must be probably the 431 00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:54,360 most. That's got to be the most 432 00:20:54,360 --> 00:20:56,920 painful piston that you could ever get, surely? 433 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:01,040 Yeah, I guess, yeah, yeah, 100% yeah. 434 00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:06,160 Apart from what about those piercings, the corset piercings? 435 00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:08,520 They won't be that painful, but you know they look mental down 436 00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:10,920 your. Spine yeah, that is a nick for 437 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:13,240 me. That is like if someone, if you 438 00:21:13,240 --> 00:21:14,680 imagine if you're getting something and then you put your 439 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:17,560 hands in the back and it's like, and you're like, where does it 440 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,440 end? He's going down and you're like, 441 00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:22,920 oh, maybe they've had surgery. Like, no, OK. 442 00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:26,560 For my final one for me wearing a headset to play games. 443 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:30,120 Yeah, that's. Are you like, are you an incel? 444 00:21:30,120 --> 00:21:31,680 Or what? Do you know someone who does 445 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:32,720 that? Do you know a lesbian who does 446 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:33,760 that? Yes, quite a few. 447 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,080 Oh yeah, Who? I'm not. 448 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:36,800 No, don't. No. 449 00:21:36,800 --> 00:21:39,360 You can't make it. OK, I've got a good one. 450 00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:41,760 Go on. Knowing too much about you too 451 00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:45,360 early on. Like, I went talk about like, 452 00:21:45,360 --> 00:21:49,400 yeah, like BB reindeer. Pardon. 453 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:54,320 I went on a date recently and she'd gone through my Spotify. 454 00:21:54,360 --> 00:21:56,000 No way. And I was like. 455 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:58,560 How do you know? Because she said she was like, I 456 00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:01,320 went through, this was her first date, first Hinge date. 457 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:02,840 That's funny. She was like, yeah, I went 458 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:06,000 through Spotify. Was she like in her full 459 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:08,960 cognitive faculties? I don't know. 460 00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:14,680 Anyway, I felt like naked. I was like, there's so much shit 461 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:16,400 on that. Oh my God, I'd think that's like 462 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:18,760 a real window into the soul if someone saw my Spotify. 463 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:21,120 Like there's some girly pop on there that I don't want anyone 464 00:22:21,120 --> 00:22:22,480 seeing. Flash. 465 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:26,040 Like a really good and hard weeping playlist. 466 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:29,320 Any more X for me? No more X. 467 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:31,800 That was really enlightening actually. 468 00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:33,880 Yeah, I've. What I've learnt is that I'm a 469 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:38,760 walking red flag and I need my ego massaged heavily. 470 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,200 I. Would hit so many people. 471 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:44,920 'S icks in fact. Having a podcast, being a DJ if. 472 00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:48,480 Anyone turns up next week like that will be a fucking miracle 473 00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:51,280 after this episode. If anyone turns up. 474 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,800 Oh, what for the next episode? Yeah, yeah, we've probably 475 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:55,680 itched you all out. Yeah, sorry about that. 476 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:57,280 Should we play? Sounds gay have. 477 00:22:57,280 --> 00:23:02,520 We itched them out though. We didn't talk about that the. 478 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:07,760 Baby boy, the ultimate 10. That is the ultimate retard. 479 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:09,400 I'm just throwing up in my own mouth. 480 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,920 It's horrible. Oh, but don't please stay in 481 00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:12,560 with me. Oh no. 482 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,240 Why is it so like? It's just horrible. 483 00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,560 It really hits the back of my brain. 484 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:21,040 You're back in the brain it. Doesn't want to be hit. 485 00:23:21,120 --> 00:23:27,480 Yeah, fuck it is genuinely the worst worst thing ever baby 486 00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:30,320 voice. Is that off with off with his 487 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:32,920 head? Off with his head. 488 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:37,800 No, you're getting, you're getting prison, jail life, Yeah. 489 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,000 Ended. Cancelled. 490 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:40,400 Gone. Play sounds gay. 491 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:45,320 Go and hit me. OK, a charcuterie board. 492 00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:47,800 Straight. Why? 493 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:52,200 I think that's gay. I think it's straight because I 494 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,160 think of a charcuterie board as being very meaty. 495 00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:59,800 Oh, you're so right. Yes, and we've got a plant based 496 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:01,960 queen. Veggie and vegans amongst us. 497 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:07,400 I do see like a little cheese and wine like set up in East 498 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,680 London being quite clear. Yeah, natural wine. 499 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,040 Yes, orange wine. Or is that actually me? 500 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,240 I feel like the straights have taken over all the East London 501 00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:16,760 wine but. We're taking over our. 502 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:20,760 Stuff fucking Dicks but they can have the sharky tree meaty 503 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:22,280 boards. Yeah, that's a good one though. 504 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,760 OK, I've got one for you go. And I think this is I'll be 505 00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:30,160 interested to your take crochet. That's gay as fuck. 506 00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:33,000 That's the gayest thing. I mean, I'm literally dating on 507 00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,040 crochet. So dating it's acting like we've 508 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:39,840 been going out for three weeks. I think crochet is inherently 509 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:41,920 gay. I think if someone out there is 510 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:45,320 like I see old ladies doing it in their like lesbian care 511 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:48,600 homes. I think it's a very gay pastime. 512 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,520 I think it's crafty. I think it's fun. 513 00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:55,120 I think it's you're just quirky and all the right ways. 514 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:57,800 Do you think it's straight? No, I think it's, I think it's 515 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:01,280 gay. A little crocheted, in fact, hit 516 00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:05,440 up re Stitched by Amy to get your queer crocheted ties. 517 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:08,440 I've got a tie that crochets. I'm going to wear it to my tuba. 518 00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:09,720 That's it. It says dyke on it. 519 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:11,000 I want one. Do you want one? 520 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:12,400 Yeah. I need to. 521 00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,800 Hit so buy re stitched. Sick. 522 00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:25,040 Do you want one last one go? Using the word epic as a 523 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:29,680 descriptive Oh, that was epic straight. 524 00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:32,280 Yeah, it is, isn't it? That was epic Me. 525 00:25:35,120 --> 00:25:38,360 I feel like that's a word that I feel like epic is a word that 526 00:25:38,360 --> 00:25:41,280 one stage I would have started saying ironically and then 527 00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:43,920 wouldn't have been able to stop saying but then stopped saying. 528 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,160 It feels very sarcastic to say. Epic. 529 00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,160 No it doesn't. I thought I thought I would use 530 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:56,160 that word sarcastically. One more go lava lamp gay gay 531 00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:58,240 gay fun and funky. I want a lava. 532 00:25:58,240 --> 00:25:59,560 Lamp. Should we get one? 533 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:01,120 Yeah. Boom. 534 00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:02,440 Should we click and then it's there? 535 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,040 I gave myself the. Ick yeah, that was. 536 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:07,520 Really bad clicking is quite icky. 537 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:10,400 Yeah, especially if you're clicking at someone. 538 00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,280 Oh, I thought I was sort of meaning more like picking. 539 00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:14,920 To the beach. Yeah. 540 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:17,800 Should we leave it there? Yeah, I think we've probably 541 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,040 given you enough X. OK. 542 00:26:20,360 --> 00:26:22,400 So hopefully see you next week if we haven't given you the yet, 543 00:26:24,120 --> 00:26:25,560 cheers for. That cheers for that. 544 00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:27,360 OK, walking red flag.