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Have you ever looked at a woman 
and thought, how does she look 

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so calm, cool, collected and 
powerful? 

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We've spent the last decade 
studying the habits of high 

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achieving women. 
In this episode, we'll show you 

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the real playbook, the daily 
tools and tips that the top 1% 

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women follow. 
Backed by science, used by the 

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most powerful women in the 
world, and tested by us. 

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And today, we're bringing down 
the five habits that actually 

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make a difference. 
And no, it's not Drink lemon 

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water or wake up at 5:00 AM. 
These are actual methods that 

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are backed by research, science 
and results, and we're bringing 

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them to you today. 
I'm Cherie. 

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I'm. 
Jean and we're the. 

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Tiger Sisters. 
We are the Internet's Wall 

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Street and Silicon Valley Big 
Sisters. 

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And we're a top ten business 
podcast on Spotify where we talk

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about money, power and love. 
And for each habit, we're going 

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to share where it came from, 
from a business book, a 

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psychological research study, 
and executive training program. 

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And we're going to give you a 
real life case study or two, 

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like we did at Stanford's 
Business School and Harvard's 

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Business School. 
And finally, we'll have many 

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exercises for you to do in each 
section so you can apply it to 

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your own life today. 
And don't skip this next part. 

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It actually changed our entire 
mindset about what it takes to 

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level. 
Up and the first habit that 

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we're starting with sounds 
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changing and that's separating 
fact from feeling. 

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This is one of the most powerful
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therapy, also known as CBT, and 
it's used by leaders, therapists

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and high performers to stay 
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and stressful situations. 
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constantly reinforced in 
leadership training. 

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In fact, aside from the case 
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Harvard Business Review article 
that is called Emotional Agility

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that's all about this. 
Susan David writes that the key 

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to resilience isn't necessarily 
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actually just separating 
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At HBS, this is a key lesson 
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classes where emotional 
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And a lot of times you hear the 
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from noise, and this habit 
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So something really tactical 
that you can do is an idea from 

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Brené Brown to createspace 
between stimulus and response. 

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You can write down these words. 
The story I'm telling myself is 

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dot dot dot. 
I really like this prompt 

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because it creates space and it 
separates what is your 

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perception from what is the 
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We actually learned this phrase 
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dynamics class because something
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separating intent from impact. 
And this is something that Gene 

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and I talk about specifically in
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episode, Part 3. 
And I think this just takes it 

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to the next level, 'cause you 
can actually write down the 

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story in my head, the story I'm 
telling myself is this. 

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And it's a very clear way to 
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talking about impact and not 
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Yeah. 
And to bring in a case study, a 

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really good example of this is 
the former CEO of PepsiCo, Indra

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Nooyi. 
So what she used to do is during

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tense meetings, if someone said 
something that was potentially 

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kind of like negative 
inflammatory, inflammatory, she 

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would actually write down what 
they said verbatim so that she 

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could actually reflect on it 
later instead of reacting in the

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moment. 
And what this actually did is it

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helped her avoid having an 
emotional reaction distort the 

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actual data. 
And so the mini exercise for 

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this section is to take 5 
minutes tonight and jot down a 

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moment that triggered you. 
In one column write exactly what

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was said and done, basically 
what is the observed behavior. 

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And then in the other column 
write down how you feel and 

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remember you should ask 
yourself, did the event 'cause 

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my emotion or did my 
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cause the emotion? 
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OK, next we're moving on to the 
second habit. 

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And definitely don't skip this 
one, especially if you ever 

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looked at your calendar and felt
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this. 
Applying to business schools. 

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It's a lot. 
We know. 

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Every decision feels high 
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Where to apply? 
When to apply? 

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How do you stand out? 
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alone, hoping you're not making 
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Those months applying to 
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OK, the second habit is called 
ruthless calendar alignment. 

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So this is from Greg Mccone's 
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And honestly, it's changed our 
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So Greg is a Stanford lecturer 
who now trains execs at 

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companies like Apple and Google.
And the whole premise of what he

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says is he argues that success 
doesn't come from doing more, it

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just comes from doing less, but 
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And the most important habit 
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reflects your priorities. 
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anecdote is that I live and die 
by my calendar. 

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Jean and I do calendar invites 
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And so like if something is put 
on our calendar by someone else,

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or if your calendar is 
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a Co worker or a boss, you're 
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someone else wants you to do. 
So like something you can do is 

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like, go look at your calendar 
and figure out what your values 

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are. 
Because if you say you want to 

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spend time going to the gym but 
you don't have a calendar block,

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is it really something that you 
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Exactly. 
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premise of essentialism. 
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about a lot at HBS. 
We actually did this case study 

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every day she would block off 
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because she said that was her 
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And so she was like, I need to 
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calendar. 
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negotiable, it was kind of a 
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of Facebook. 
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showing it was what she said it 
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And so the exercise walkthrough 
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print out your calendar for the 
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Go through each of the events on
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them green. 
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personal, it could be working 
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But then color code it red if it
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priorities or your values. 
If it doesn't serve you cut it 

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or delegate it. 
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everything like panels, dinners,
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that your calendar is controlled
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necessarily by yourself. 
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subconscious because then things
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your calendar and you feel like 
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Essentialism, OK, coming up 
next, is one of the most 

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underrated habits on how people 
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you're the youngest, the newest,
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And we're back. 
OK, so the third habit is owning

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the room with language. 
So you can always tell who has 

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power in a room not by who's 
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speaking the most clearly. 
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premise to understand is not 
that language reflects power, it

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actually creates. 
Power. 

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Deb Gruenfeld, taught this at 
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Power is signaled in the 
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So hedging phrases like, hey, I 
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maybe those definitely weaken 
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Yeah, and this is definitely a 
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Business School and also in 
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There's tons of articles about 
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So there's one that's called 
Your Words Matter, Talk Like a 

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Leader where it basically 
explores the sort of gendered 

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language that usually comes into
play whenever people are talking

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at work. 
Yeah, there's honestly even a 

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meme about this where I've seen 
on TikTok people are like, going

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to write my emails like a man 
and like, you know, the woman is

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like backspacing and like 
removing all the exclamation 

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points and all the the justs and
like removing the weakening 

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language. 
Right. 

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Because adding these fillers 
like I think, or just like you 

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might think, it makes you sound 
nice, but really it comes off as

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uncertain. 
At Stanford, in my executive 

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communications class, we were 
taught to count these phrases 

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when we give our presentations, 
record ourselves, see how many 

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times we say it, and try to 
remove them because we want to 

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remove the weakening language 
and make sure we sound as 

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confident as possible. 
Honestly, it's so hard. 

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I, I still, we still get 
comments on this podcast where 

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people say, I say the word like 
all the time. 

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And I know I do it and I'm 
trying to to cut it out, but 

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it's something you have to 
practice. 

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Yeah, over time, it doesn't just
happen. 

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You have to be very. 
Intentional about it, Jinx. 

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Jinx. 
So to bring in a case study, 

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Michelle Obama is a really good 
example of this. 

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So in her book Becoming, she 
talks about how she would 

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practice her speeches for weeks 
to remove all the filler words. 

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She studied cadence like a 
performer. 

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Something that I'm trying to do 
to remove filler words is 

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instead of putting an or alike, 
I'm trying to pause, yeah. 

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And use the power of the pause 
so that what I say sounds a bit 

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dramatic and sounds less 
uncertain. 

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Yeah. 
I think that that can be really 

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hard for people. 
But again, it's something that 

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you need to practice. 
And that's why Michelle Obama, 

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when she speaks, she sounds so 
clear, confident, direct. 

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It's because all of the things 
when she gives a speech are 

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practiced. 
The cadence, the language, even 

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the pauses. 
She bakes those in exactly where

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she wants them. 
I feel like you're doing it now.

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Am I? 
It sounds good. 

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Oh, thanks. 
Live, it sounds good. 

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Wow. 
I wasn't. 

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I wasn't. 
OK. 

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Thanks. 
Thanks, Jerry. 

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OK, so this exercise walkthrough
is very quick, but record a 

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voice note from a meeting. 
It doesn't have to be the entire

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One of our sponsors for our 
podcast Yeah. 

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It actually records your 
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of the taking the notes, it 
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Isn't that crazy? 

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OK, just in time for Habit 4, 
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before you think you're ready. 
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Radical Candor. 
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this is instead of trying to be 
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you're done with everything, 
show your work early instead and

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get feedback early on. 
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Scott. 
It's actually a book that I read

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very early in my career. 
I think I'm one of my managers. 

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LinkedIn. 

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Albert, Albert, everything. 
Everything good goes back to 

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fast growth leaders from the 
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Damn. 
Top women ship early and often, 

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and feedback is not a weakness, 
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Business School. 
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core part of the entire 
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is that in every class you're 
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your opinion on the case, 
whether or not you actually know

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the like industry or like fully 
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you're an expert in it or not. 
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your opinion and practice 
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before it's perfect. 
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especially women need to train. 
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oftentimes we can try and 
perfect our thought or our 

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message in the meeting room and 
we're like trying to figure out 

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the best and most perfect way to
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moving along. 
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personal experience. 
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I'm like, how do I word this so 
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I know what I'm talking about. 
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and the moment passes and you're
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I can't even say what I wanted 
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get over is that I always had 
such a high bar for myself in 

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any sort of comment that I would
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I always felt like it had to be 
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groundbreaking or nobody else 
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crazy. 
Never thought of that. 

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Like they just say whatever the 

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hell comes into their mind and 
they will just like, say it and 

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go. 
With it and then feel confident 

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about saying it. 
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I need some of that energy 
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I just need to believe in 
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that your contribution is 
worthwhile. 

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Yeah. 
But now that we have our 

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podcast, we can say whatever we 
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Yeah, it's just the two of us. 
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And as a high-powered leader, 
normalize getting feedback as a 

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habit and don't feel like it's a
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Yeah, and that's another big 
part of the idea of the feedback

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fallacy, is that feedback 
doesn't have to be perfect to be

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useful. 
It actually just has to be 

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directional and timely. 
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This final habit might seem very
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one that creates the biggest 
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The biggest lifestyle change 
that you can do is actually a 

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recommendation from James 
Clear's book called Atomic 

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Habits and this is to bring in 
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So the idea is, don't just set 
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If you want to write, don't say 
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what drive your action. 
OK so we're going to give 2 

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examples of this. 
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AKA Sasha Fierce. 
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pretty well known. 
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took on this persona called 
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both interviews and for 
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stage identity. 
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interviews before that she uses 
affirmations and identity work 

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as part of her Olympic training.
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am powerful, I am unshakable, I 
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world. 
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arrogance, obviously, because 
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world. 
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Programming is what it is. 
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mantras are so important because
what you say is how you actually

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perceive yourself. 
Like so much of what you say is 

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perception. 
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it's just like language is key 
because think about an example. 

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Like if you're with someone who 
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every day, like a partner, like 
that can be really hurtful to 

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your identity of who you are, 
even if you do think you're 

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smart and you know you're not a 
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at you slowly. 
So I think having a very clear 

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identity and language 
combination helps you build the 

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best habits. 
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this is to pick an identity that
you are currently stepping into.

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So maybe it's founder, creator, 
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And every morning you say it out
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you'd say I am smart. 
I am unshakable, you know. 

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Yeah, there's actually a mantra 
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mornings. 
It's on Spotify. 

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If you just say, hey, Spotify, 
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She has a bunch of these. 
I guess they're like songs, but 

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basically they're like morning 
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And you just repeat after her 
for like 15 to 20 minutes after.

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She's just like, I am 
unshakable. 

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And you're like, I am 
unshakable. 

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Wow. 
You just repeat after her. 

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And sometimes they play it in 
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Is this the key to your success?
Perhaps so. 

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First of all, it plays 
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I like to wake up to it because 
they have a couple of different 

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songs and one of them is like a 
wake up 1. 

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Well, and then when she's not 
here, it still plays 

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automatically. 
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Turned it off. 
It was only Monday through 

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Wednesdays. 
Gosh. 

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And I've turned it off since. 
I am unshakable. 

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I am unwakable. 
Except for when. 

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Davina Hos comes on Davina Hos 
mantras. 

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Oh, and then the last part of 
the mini exercise is that you 

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actually take some actions that 
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And if you guys feel 
comfortable, we would love it if

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you could share some of your I 
AM identities in the comments so

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that we can see them, we can 
comment them, comment on them, 

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and we can all just like feel 
part of. 

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This together and feel very 
supportive because we're going 

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to like them too. 
We'll like and reply. 

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So thank you guys for tuning 
into this episode. 

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We're going to do a quick take 
away section and recap. 

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What are the five habits that 
really transform your life? 

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And so the first one is 
separating facts from feelings. 

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This is where we talked about 
cognitive behavioral therapy. 

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The second is being super 
ruthless about your calendar 

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priorities and making sure that 
they align with what you feel is

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your most valued activities. 
The third was owning the room 

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with language. 
This is where language 

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transforms into power. 
And remember the example with 

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Michelle Obama? 
#4 was to ask for feedback early

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from Radical candor and remember
that feedback doesn't have to be

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perfect to be useful, it just 
needs to be timely and 

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directional. 
And then the last one is 

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identity based actions from 
Atomic Habits. 

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And remember the statements I 
am. 

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