Ladies and gents, corporate MILF back with another episode
tonight. I want to deliver an episode for
you that talks about how to improve your sex.
And I'm going to put this in the context of three different
places where people might be finding themselves.
And I'm going to give you some ways to think about it, to shift
your thinking or to position yourself in a way where you are
in better sexual relationships. I don't want to throw anyone
under the bus by saying this because I was the one part of it
too. But I have experienced a lot of
different sex lives, shall you say, over the course of my life.
And what I mean by that is in my 20s, I lived the single life.
I had one night stands. I hooked up with people
casually. And I've had relationships prior
to marriage that were up to four years in length where I was with
someone, you know, for a long enough period of time where you
would think that you could get to a place where everyone's
having a good sex life. I have lived in the space of
having periods of time that were more sexless.
And I've spent a lot of time wallowing in like the the grief
of that and all the things that can come along with with that.
Just deep breath for anyone who's in that situation.
And I'm, I really am with you. I got you.
This is an episode for you. OK.
And then the next one that I would mention is more of an
exploratory space. And I'm going to talk about this
in the way that I have experienced this, which has been
a ladder of growth and then trying different things and
experimenting to figure out what actually worked for me.
So I'm going to, I'm going to talk about this in the sense of
my own life experience. And also because I've been
through all of these experiences, I have spoken with
so many people in these same exact situations.
So if you're in a space right now where you're not having a
good sexual relationship, the one that you actually want, you
are not alone. And that is why I am so
passionate about the subject. I think it is everyone's
God-given opportunity to have an amazing sexual relationship with
humans on this earth. All right, let's talk about my
few 101st scarring incidents of being with men.
And I for a so long I thought maybe it was actually the men's
fault until I realized that I wasn't asking for what I
freaking wanted. And so believe me, after having
many experiences where no one seemed to come up with what I
wanted, which isn't really their fault if they didn't freaking
know what I wanted. But I always just thought like
someone would want to do more of these different things with me.
And I feel like maybe I was waiting to see how they would
act with me first instead of setting up the expectation for
what I knew I wanted and how they could earn the opportunity
to come into my presence. Let's start with your most basic
one night stand fuck buddy like some arrangement that you have
with somebody who you don't really connect with all that
often. There are so many ways to have
this type of relationship that are more fulfilling than I know
a lot of people are stuck in right now.
And I know because I was stuck in that phase for so long based
on my experiences, I'm talking about my 20s and 30s.
Pretty often the type of sex that people would have would be,
you know, maybe the guy came over and was like, there's some
hugging and kissing. And maybe it's like a little bit
more aggressive at this point because you probably just met
this person at some cool BBQ, which doesn't even fucking
happen anymore. But anyway, in your 20s, this
shit happens like all the time. And so you hook up with, you
know, go back to somebody's house and have a little fun.
And I feel like what typically happened or what went down was,
you know, maybe there's some like, hugging and kissing in the
beginning. Maybe if the girl is lucky, he's
going to go down on her. But it's probably not fulfilling
for her. He's not really doing it long
enough. He starts too hard.
It's like not it's like, oh, then she's like, you know,
faking it in a way because she's just like trying to encourage
this fucking guy to keep going. You know what I mean?
It's like I'm fucking moaning over here in my 20s, which is
basically saying don't fucking stop, you idiot.
But of course then they stop and then they might get on top of
you have like traditional type sex.
Maybe there's like three positions that you try, he gets
off, everyone rolls over and you're like, wow, that fucking
sucked. Like maybe it was fun because
you got to hug this person and you got to experience them.
But at least in my experience, I never got off with these fucking
guys. And I didn't know enough to like
then roll over and be like, touch me this way.
Or, you know, grab a vibrator and have him participate in some
way, which is something that I've augmented on for myself now
that I am wiser. God, I just took the biggest
side because that was my experience over and over and
over. That was my evidence of how men
were. And So what I started to think
was I was like, the guys even like to go down girls, the guys
even like to pleasure them. Like they're not really.
They're just like doing the act and like going home.
And I just don't feel like worshipped or special at all in
this way. And at that point, I didn't even
know what worshipping could be like.
Right. And then you move into, you
know, having kids and being married and taking on all of the
responsibility and the absolute utter chaos that comes along
with that part of life, like having kids, going to work, not
sleeping ever. Everyone's super aggravated.
No one knows what the fuck to do.
Like, you just got these kids. Like you don't know what to do.
It's like there's so many different ways to be aggravated
and frustrated during this time, and it's a very, very hard time
for a lot of couples to navigate.
I've talked to so many people who are in sexless marriages,
which I would define as having sex maybe every two to three
months. And and like, one partner
probably isn't really that into it.
The other one kind of feels like they have to beg for it when
they do it. It's like the person's not
really that into it. And so now you're like locked in
this space where, yeah, you're married to this person.
Like maybe you have kids with them, but you didn't really sign
up for a sexless life. I certainly didn't.
And then the breakthrough happens.
The breakthrough is when you have a partner who is open to
hearing what it is that you want, you being interested in
hearing what it is that they want, and starting to experiment
and try different things. It makes me really sad for
people who are in positions right now where they're not
feeling desired and wanted and loved and they don't have a
person to be able to share their intimacy with.
And it's definitely my hope for everyone who is listening to
this, no matter what kind of space you're in right now, to
consider this as an opportunity to realize that you don't have
to sit in that space forever. You can actually get with what
you want. And I'm going to go into a later
episode on all the crazy things that people actually do want.
And when you realize people's desires are far stranger than
yours could probably ever be, it's going to give you a level
of acceptance where you may feel more comfortable in asking for
your for what you want. Knowing, knowing for sure that
someone else is on the other end who has been literally praying
for you. The very first thing and easiest
thing to do is simply say what do you like?
And also is there anything that I should be aware of that you're
not comfortable with? And a couple of things are going
to happen during that process. You're going to start flirting.
So the what do you like conversation can really be fun.
As you guys are discovering each other, you can ask them if
they've ever thought about what their fantasies and kinks are.
Everybody has them, but a lot of people aren't consciously aware
that they have them. And I can attest that because I,
I knew what I was turned on by when I watched porn, but I
didn't understand where that desire was coming from and I
didn't understand what experiencing that was going to
actually give me. All right, what I want to do is
to riff on maybe a couple of different ways to make your
basic one night stand fuck buddy or just like basic routine more
fun. I think I'm going to talk about
this from the point of view more of like someone you just met
because there's definitely a different vibe that you can play
with during that time. Not to say you can't go do
something like this in a a marriage, but I'm going to put
this in the context of you don't really know the person that
well. You're definitely attracted to
them. You probably met them at the bar
and you're just stoked that you're going to have an
opportunity to spend a little bit of time with them.
Oh boy. Now I get to come up with what
my fantasy would be if I were to have a one night stand right
now. Let me see if I can come up with
something good for you. So I am imagining meeting a
cowboy in Texas and Oh my God, first of all, I'm already
sweating. OK, hold on.
All right, deep breath. What I would expect from this
man is the most amazing combination of dominance,
because he's probably like this big dude who's got a ton of
muscle and he's like a little bit dirty.
And you can tell he's a little bit scrappy.
And you know, he can definitely like put his ass back into it,
right? And not back into it, not like
that, but into you, right? Anyway, so he's a big strong
dude. And I definitely want to have
rife sex. But I can also imagine this type
of guy being like really gentle and sweet and caring like a
family first type guy. Like putting his woman on a
pedestal type guy. That's the type of guy I go for.
Now, if a guy gives me any indication that he is not so
grateful to be in my presence and he is not so incredibly
honored to even have the opportunity, opportunity to
speak with me, like automatically like it.
It's, it's like the people like that with myself, like we don't
even connect anymore because my vibe puts out a totally
different aura. My expectation is that someone's
going to want to earn and earn my attention and impress me in
order to get it. And that whole dynamic by the
way of having someone impress you is so sexy and hot.
And I need to get into that for you.
But we're going to riff on this fantasy a little bit about the
cowboy. All right.
So I mean, definitely I want to go back to his place, first of
all. And this is the type of guy
who's like starting gentle hugging and kissing, but he's
going to grab on to the back of your neck like really hard and
pull you into him or like pull you up by your butt and like
bring you close to him. I can definitely see an
opportunity to be rubbing on top of him, like basically sitting
in his lap. But like we're all still closed
at this point, like rubbing up and down on a couch, kissing
him, me being on top of him, which gives me like this feeling
in my heart that like, I just got so excited by that thought.
Let me see if I can even figure out why there's like this teddy
bear energy that feels really good to sit in and then also an
energy of like he can't really resist me either.
I definitely have a soft spot for guys who don't, who like
don't come forward right away, who kind of like hold back a
little little bit. Because then I kind of feel that
like pull towards him, like, you know, I get to look a little
sexy or like make it some eye contact or see if I can call him
in with my energy. And that for me is fun 'cause I
love that I know I'm a little deviant.
This is where things get tricky. This is literally where things
fucking go downhill. Because what happens is the
guy's all excited and he's gonna like, flip you up on, on on the
couch and, like, start fucking you.
And you know what? Hell, yeah.
Like, because already I'm like, yeah, if I have a fucking cowboy
fucking me right now like that, I'm like, stoked.
Like it's not that we don't like that, but the difference is
making it satisfying for the female.
Taking the time to rub her gently and get her turned on,
stimulate her, go down on her for a while, start to use your
fingers too. If you're watching the camera, I
just made the motion that you know, you can make in that area
and get her warmed up so she is ready to take a ride.
I would say that's probably the biggest enhancement that I would
add. And I think not only I think the
both sides should be kind of asking each other what they like
or you can do that in a way, by the way, that isn't so bland.
You can be like, do you know, do you like that?
And you want, you want to hear the reaction, like their
reaction when like, yeah, that's fucking honor.
However, whatever they say, I don't know.
Can't imitate the guy. Like, I that's what I'm looking
for. I'm looking for that desire.
I want to see that he wants me so bad that he would do anything
to come a little bit closer. He would do anything to have the
honor and to be able to pleasure me, which is different from the
way I used to think about it. The way I used to think about it
was I don't know if he wants to. And I, I feel bad for that older
version, you know, younger version of myself who thought
that way because now I understand like, yes, like the
right person for you is going to want to do that.
And if they're not, if you're in a sexless marriage, the one
recommendation I'd have is to face your problems directly and
see if you can start to straighten out where you're
placing blame on each other, where you're getting frustrated.
Have like a real division of chores.
Be able to walk away. Have your own life, be able to
not walk away, but be able to like go out with your friends
one night to get some space to get a breath.
Anyway, I could go on and on about that probably for a while.
But anyway, it's a tough spot to be in.
And I do feel your pain very deeply.
I felt your pain for a very fucking long time.
And so I definitely recommend starting to think about the
exploratory phase of sex, which is when you imagine what turns
you on. What I want you to do is to
realize you can actually make that happen for yourself way
easier than you think maybe you could.
I want you to think about the porn that you watch.
Like, see what you're actually attracted to and think about
that a little bit deeper. Like what moment in it are you
most attracted to? Can you start to unwind possibly
some levels of domination and subtle mind games that are going
on that make you excited? Can you take it back to a level
within yourself where you can identify where your kinks are
and start to explore those a little bit?
Food for thought my dear friends.
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As always, you're not allowed to get off until I do Peace.