1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:05,000 Ladies and gents, it's corporate MILF back with another episode. 2 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:11,520 The question tonight is just so juicy to answer and I hope I can 3 00:00:11,520 --> 00:00:15,400 give you a number of perspectives on this to start 4 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:21,160 thinking about this in more ways and I'd love to hear your 5 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:25,120 thoughts on this topic. The question is, what's the 6 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:30,800 biggest misconception couples have about keeping sex exciting 7 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:34,520 long term? The first thing that popped out 8 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:38,280 to me about this question is that this assumes that people 9 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:41,880 actually can keep sex exciting long term. 10 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:46,920 I think it also assumes that both people even have a desire 11 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:51,160 to do that. But assuming that the couple is 12 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:56,440 into that, then let's explore this a little bit further. 13 00:00:57,160 --> 00:01:03,240 Perhaps we can tackle this from the perspective of a couple who 14 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:07,880 is married. This is very complicated when 15 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:10,680 you're looking at a couple that's married because first you 16 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:14,440 have to take a look at who's working. 17 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:17,640 You know, what's the stress pattern within these people's 18 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:20,600 lives? Do they have kids? 19 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:25,520 Is this a couple that has only been married, not only but has 20 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:27,880 been married for a couple of years and doesn't necessarily 21 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:31,320 have the stress of other aspects of life yet? 22 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:35,400 Or is this a couple who's been together for 15 years or more 23 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:38,880 and has seen a lot of stuff already together? 24 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:43,000 Because I think answering this question is going to be 25 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:49,440 different depending on what space that couple is in and what 26 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:55,400 is going to even be required to move from where they are now to 27 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:57,800 having it be more exciting. Because that's the premise of 28 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:01,200 this question. This question assumes that the 29 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:06,800 couple would like to have more exciting experiences. 30 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:11,039 I think one of the first things is that just because you're 31 00:02:11,039 --> 00:02:14,600 married or just because you are in a relationship with this 32 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:20,280 person right now, a lot of couples forget to take care and 33 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:22,720 date the person who they're with. 34 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,680 And when you're married and you have a lot of other things going 35 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:30,960 in on in your life, like having, you know, kids and taking care 36 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:34,480 of a lot of different things, this can get really, really 37 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:38,320 tricky because you end up moving into the space where you're more 38 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:41,520 just like managing your life together. 39 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:45,640 So I think that if you're not taking the time to date the 40 00:02:45,640 --> 00:02:49,360 person who you're with to, then that alone is going to 41 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:53,040 completely take out that level of interest. 42 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:58,360 It's going to remove that layer. So if you are considering adding 43 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:01,840 in a little bit more spice, maybe part of that just simply 44 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:03,840 starts with what are you doing together? 45 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:09,480 Are you going out together? Are you experimenting with new 46 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:13,720 places to go, whether that's traveling internationally or 47 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:18,560 checking out a new restaurant or going to some event together, it 48 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,520 it almost doesn't matter. What matters is the two people 49 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:26,800 are enjoying going out together during that time and that can 50 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:32,200 create a space that that couple can exist in that is outside of 51 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:40,120 that normal household routine. I also think that an entry level 52 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:44,120 space to think about sex is definitely penetration. 53 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,920 I would think that's probably the first thing that most people 54 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:50,360 are thinking about. And when it comes to sex, does 55 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:54,960 it have to be that all the time? I'm posing the question because 56 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:59,000 are there ways to enjoy each other that might not be just 57 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,640 that? Is it possible to investigate 58 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:05,800 other ways to be with each other intimately? 59 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:12,240 Is it possible to drop some areas of jealousy or maybe even 60 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:17,079 use jealousy to your benefit to create a little excitement in 61 00:04:17,079 --> 00:04:20,399 the relationship? And what I mean by that is, I 62 00:04:20,399 --> 00:04:22,360 don't know. Can you guys go to a strip club 63 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,040 together? It depends on what each person 64 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:27,600 wants and what turns on the other. 65 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,160 And then you can create certain rules around it. 66 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:33,920 So if I were to go to a strip club with the guy I'm dating, I 67 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:38,240 might say you're not allowed to touch her and you're only 68 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:41,000 allowed to touch me. You can look and you can get 69 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:44,280 excited, but only I'm allowed to touch her. 70 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:48,800 So I set that rule right, because that's what I desire, 71 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:51,720 but that doesn't mean that that's what everybody wants. 72 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:56,400 Some people might have completely different scenarios 73 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:00,400 that could pique their interests, and maybe it's time 74 00:05:00,400 --> 00:05:03,360 to consider what those might be for each other. 75 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:07,280 I think it's a mistake to think that just because you're with 76 00:05:07,280 --> 00:05:10,840 somebody, you've now locked them in for life. 77 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:13,920 And I understand that's what marriage is. 78 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:17,600 But if we can all just simply recognize that marriage is not 79 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:20,920 perfect, I think we can all agree on that, then that means 80 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:23,040 that there may be some flaws within the system. 81 00:05:23,280 --> 00:05:27,960 And The thing is, is that there might be a standard for a person 82 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:31,200 of marriage, but that standard might not work for another 83 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:33,640 couple. And it's up to that couple to 84 00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:39,800 decide themselves how they want to handle this partnership in 85 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:42,800 their life. Just because one person says you 86 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:45,840 can only have sex with the person who you marry and you 87 00:05:45,840 --> 00:05:49,400 can't watch porn and you can't do this and that, OK, why? 88 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:51,600 I would just pose the question why? 89 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:57,000 If you can open yourself up to the possibility that whether 90 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:00,560 you're right or wrong, you're right, which is the same concept 91 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:03,120 with somebody else, whether they're right or wrong, in other 92 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:07,200 words, and if you agree with them or not, it doesn't matter 93 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:10,080 because that might be their perspective at the time. 94 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:14,120 And when you begin to honor the other person's perspective and 95 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:18,200 simply listen and not necessarily internalize that for 96 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,520 yourself or not necessarily even accept it for yourself, but 97 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:24,880 accept that that is where they are right now, then it can 98 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:28,160 create an energetic boundary between two people where you 99 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,560 don't feel like you're being crossed if someone doesn't agree 100 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,760 with you. And I think, at least in my 101 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:39,640 experience, it is so easy to begin to blame the other person 102 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:45,600 for literally anything. Like, I literally probably 103 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:49,000 spilled Lube on the floor myself and I was blaming it on someone 104 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:50,480 else. For real. 105 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:52,440 And I'm like, why is this still slippery? 106 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:55,000 Well, Abby, because you didn't clean it up yet. 107 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:58,880 And when you can start to hear yourself and the little ideas 108 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:00,960 that come into your head where you're like, God damn it, this 109 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:03,480 person did this. And you're like, actually, no, I 110 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:04,960 can take responsibility for that. 111 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,800 I don't know why I'm placing this blame on this other person 112 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:11,320 when you can start to do that with yourself and just have a 113 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:14,440 little game with it and realize like no one is perfect. 114 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,240 Everyone has these crazy thoughts that enter your head. 115 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:20,800 It's about can you hear the thought number one? 116 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:23,800 Can you objectively look at it to figure out if it's true or 117 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:28,160 not for you in that moment or the other person and just sit 118 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:31,360 with it and be kind of like OK with however that is in the 119 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:33,520 moment. One thing that I've realized 120 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:36,960 over the last couple of years is that everyone is on a different 121 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:40,280 place in their journey. I actually kind of thought that 122 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:43,960 as we grew up, like we're all supposed to be sort of equal in 123 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:47,440 a way with our experiences. And what I realized is like we 124 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:51,080 all take these crazy wandering paths and we all go through 125 00:07:51,080 --> 00:07:54,560 these different experiences at different times, and they're all 126 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:57,640 shared in a way. There are all these shared 127 00:07:57,640 --> 00:08:04,080 experiences that manifest in different ways for people, and I 128 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:07,080 love hearing about my friends experiences and just figuring 129 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:09,880 out like, wow, that's wild that you're going through that right 130 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:13,760 now, but you're always taking in what they're saying and 131 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:15,280 appreciating it because you know what? 132 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:20,320 They are dealing with that right now and it's a valid thing if 133 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:25,680 they're going through something. It is so easy to get into a 134 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:30,400 space when you're with somebody and you expect certain things 135 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:35,240 out of them and maybe don't allow the space for them to have 136 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:40,240 their own human mistakes. I definitely did this and it's 137 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:44,280 something that I'm always trying to work on now that it's 138 00:08:44,280 --> 00:08:45,680 something that I've been aware of. 139 00:08:45,680 --> 00:08:49,440 And so when it comes to the biggest misconception couples 140 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:54,080 have about keeping sex exciting, I think this is so multifaceted 141 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:58,920 because there's so many views that society has about intimacy 142 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:02,560 and there's so much that is taboo around this topic. 143 00:09:02,560 --> 00:09:04,200 And it really doesn't need to be. 144 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:09,320 It's one of the most amazing, pleasurable experiences that we 145 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:13,280 can have on this planet. And when it's done with someone 146 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:18,320 who is reciprocating that interest, I really don't see 147 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:23,200 what's wrong with that. I guess all the ways you can 148 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:29,920 spice up a relationship with sex are all the other episodes that 149 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:34,080 I have released, so go ahead and listen to those and let me know 150 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:37,640 what you think. You can always find me on TikTok 151 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:44,080 at Corporate MILF on X at Finn Dom Jim Queen and Only fans at 152 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:47,000 the real Jim Queen. As always, you are not allowed 153 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:48,560 to come until I do Peace.