Ladies and gents, it is corporate MILF.
Back with another episode. Today we are going to be talking
about open relationships, negotiating one, what that looks
like, and also what it feels like to live in an open
relationship. As I came into this, I didn't
even consider the entire conversation around getting to
the point where you're thinking about having an open
relationship and if it's something that you want.
So I may address that at a later time.
Right now I'm going to talk about what it looks like to have
the conversation and to actually push forward with this.
I have experienced this 2 * 1 with my marriage and just
recently with my partner. The first thing to realize when
negotiating anything with another person is that there are
two sides to the view and both are valid.
So the way you might feel about something is valid to you and
the way that your partner thinks about it is valid to them.
And you're not always going to come up with an arrangement that
works for both people. So I think that whenever you're
asking for something in a relationship, it's important to
understand within yourself how important it is for you to get
that thing. And realize that if the other
person is not cool with it and if they don't want it, and if
you still want it and they say no, that's not going to work for
me, then you have to be ready to decide if you're willing to walk
away or if it's something that you want to pass up on in order
to not disturb the current relationship.
The answer to that isn't really about like who's stronger or
more stubborn than the other person.
It really, really comes down to your values and for you, what is
absolutely most important for your life.
Within my marriage, I asked for an open relationship because we
had already gotten to the point where we had moved on from each
other in an intimate way, and I knew that that was something
that I needed for my life. In other words, just because I
was married, I didn't want to be celibate.
And so it's something that I asked for, knowing it's
something I literally could not live without.
And how that all unraveled we can get to.
So I'll pause that one and I'll bring you up to date with maybe
a more recent excursion. This is tough to talk about
because it's so recent and I've been battling with myself on how
much to share and what not to share.
But I have realized that if it's something that I am going
through, most definitely somebody else is going through
it and I can simply share my point of view and how I come up
with my thought processes. And I certainly don't claim to
be right or wrong on any of these.
But one thing that I have realized that is true is that
what is true is the perspective that you hold.
So if you can, if you can add on another thought to the way that
you process something in terms of your own moral code, whether
you decide if it's right or wrong, whether if it's something
that you want or not, then hopefully, you know, hopefully
my stories are helpful to you and adding to the way that you
think about things. So as some of you know, I am
planning a collab with a very popular creator right now and
it's causing quite a disturbance right now amongst the Internet
and I am here for it. I'm having a great time with it,
and I'm going to record a whole second series on the planning of
this and how this entire thing is going down, which I realize
I'm speaking a little bit cryptically here, but bear with
me. As we, you know, plan out
everything in time, it will be released at the perfect moment.
So I came to realize that I wanted to have a sexual
experience with another person. The last couple of years I have
been with one person and we got to this point and I it it, it
just came about within the last couple of months.
It wasn't something that I was like, you know, even thinking
about or fantasizing about prior.
And I realized that I wanted to take a different approach with
this than I did with my marriage.
So within my marriage, I went outside of my marriage without
having a conversation about it before.
And I can get to that. And there's a whole headspace
around that that I do want to explain 'cause I know a lot of
people are in that position right now and trying to figure
out how to even deal with it. But in this situation, I
decided, you know what, I am going to own this.
I'm going to own that. This is a desire that I have
that I want to be with this other individual.
And I am going to openly sort of get feedback from the person who
I'm dating to see what he thinks about it.
And as I got that feedback, it actually helped me to understand
kind of his, you know, feelings on things and also my own.
And I came to the position where I feel that I am at this point
in life when I just like really wanna live my life.
And do I want to die without having this experience?
The answer is no. Because me living life right now
and having my spark and having this incredible experience as
mine, like that's my current goal.
And while I love my partner so much, the, the limiting it,
it's, it feels limiting to me to say, because I have this
partner, it means I can't go have some of these other
experiences. Because when it comes to
relationships, there is this unspoken about oftentimes
arrangement that people think that they have, which is that
you're only having an intimate experience with each other.
And so many other options do exist out there.
And, you know, everyone gets in trouble about it because, you
know, they may have these interests and date multiple
people, but maybe they're not open about it.
And ultimately, you know, that's when they got caught cheating or
whatever. But maybe there's another way to
handle it, which is to be open about it and to find the right
relationships where it works for both people.
Let me see if I can dissect for you the way that these
conversations have gone for me in the past.
This is, this is hard to talk about, but the way I view it is
that your desires are such an important part of your life and
being able to explore those is an incredible experience that I
know at least that I want to have.
And I have just come to realize that as I delve into this deeper
and as I allow myself to peek through different doors and to
have different experiences over time, it's opening my eyes to a
whole new world that I want to explore.
What I find is a common objection from the male, if the
female is the one who wants this, is that they feel like
their ego is very, very hurt by you wanting to interact with
another person. And I don't really know exactly
why that is and why there's such an ego around it.
Because certainly the other view is there too, which is that a
lot of men will actually want their partner to go be with
someone who can pleasure them and give them a good time.
And they find that it's an honor for them to be able to give
their wife that or whatever their partner that.
So I know that multiple views do exist, but when it comes to
negotiating with a man who does have an ego, this is tough
because the way I'm positioning this is this is an experience
that I want to have for myself, like a desire that I want to
explore. And can you accept that two
things could be true, which is that I, you know, love you and
care about you, but then I also want to have this experience.
So when you're someone who looks at something like very linearly
and you think there's only one possibility, then it's going to
shatter your heart when you find out that your partner wants
something else. But if you can start to accept
that it's n + 1, then you can start to build upon this and
start to explore your desires together.
There's my big theory for you for today guys.
I hope that helps. You can find me on TikTok at
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