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Ladies and gents, it is 
corporate MILF. 

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Back with another episode. 
Today we are going to be talking

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about open relationships, 
negotiating one, what that looks

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like, and also what it feels 
like to live in an open 

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relationship. 
As I came into this, I didn't 

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even consider the entire 
conversation around getting to 

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the point where you're thinking 
about having an open 

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relationship and if it's 
something that you want. 

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So I may address that at a later
time. 

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Right now I'm going to talk 
about what it looks like to have

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the conversation and to actually
push forward with this. 

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I have experienced this 2 * 1 
with my marriage and just 

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recently with my partner. 
The first thing to realize when 

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negotiating anything with 
another person is that there are

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two sides to the view and both 
are valid. 

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So the way you might feel about 
something is valid to you and 

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the way that your partner thinks
about it is valid to them. 

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And you're not always going to 
come up with an arrangement that

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works for both people. 
So I think that whenever you're 

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asking for something in a 
relationship, it's important to 

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understand within yourself how 
important it is for you to get 

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that thing. 
And realize that if the other 

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person is not cool with it and 
if they don't want it, and if 

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you still want it and they say 
no, that's not going to work for

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me, then you have to be ready to
decide if you're willing to walk

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away or if it's something that 
you want to pass up on in order 

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to not disturb the current 
relationship. 

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The answer to that isn't really 
about like who's stronger or 

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more stubborn than the other 
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It really, really comes down to 
your values and for you, what is

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absolutely most important for 
your life. 

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Within my marriage, I asked for 
an open relationship because we 

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had already gotten to the point 
where we had moved on from each 

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other in an intimate way, and I 
knew that that was something 

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that I needed for my life. 
In other words, just because I 

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was married, I didn't want to be
celibate. 

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And so it's something that I 
asked for, knowing it's 

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something I literally could not 
live without. 

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And how that all unraveled we 
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So I'll pause that one and I'll 
bring you up to date with maybe 

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a more recent excursion. 
This is tough to talk about 

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because it's so recent and I've 
been battling with myself on how

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much to share and what not to 
share. 

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But I have realized that if it's
something that I am going 

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through, most definitely 
somebody else is going through 

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it and I can simply share my 
point of view and how I come up 

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with my thought processes. 
And I certainly don't claim to 

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be right or wrong on any of 
these. 

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But one thing that I have 
realized that is true is that 

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what is true is the perspective 
that you hold. 

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So if you can, if you can add on
another thought to the way that 

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you process something in terms 
of your own moral code, whether 

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you decide if it's right or 
wrong, whether if it's something

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that you want or not, then 
hopefully, you know, hopefully 

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my stories are helpful to you 
and adding to the way that you 

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think about things. 
So as some of you know, I am 

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planning a collab with a very 
popular creator right now and 

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it's causing quite a disturbance
right now amongst the Internet 

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and I am here for it. 
I'm having a great time with it,

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and I'm going to record a whole 
second series on the planning of

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this and how this entire thing 
is going down, which I realize 

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I'm speaking a little bit 
cryptically here, but bear with 

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me. 
As we, you know, plan out 

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everything in time, it will be 
released at the perfect moment. 

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So I came to realize that I 
wanted to have a sexual 

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experience with another person. 
The last couple of years I have 

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been with one person and we got 
to this point and I it it, it 

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just came about within the last 
couple of months. 

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It wasn't something that I was 
like, you know, even thinking 

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about or fantasizing about 
prior. 

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And I realized that I wanted to 
take a different approach with 

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this than I did with my 
marriage. 

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So within my marriage, I went 
outside of my marriage without 

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having a conversation about it 
before. 

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And I can get to that. 
And there's a whole headspace 

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around that that I do want to 
explain 'cause I know a lot of 

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people are in that position 
right now and trying to figure 

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out how to even deal with it. 
But in this situation, I 

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decided, you know what, I am 
going to own this. 

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I'm going to own that. 
This is a desire that I have 

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that I want to be with this 
other individual. 

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And I am going to openly sort of
get feedback from the person who

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I'm dating to see what he thinks
about it. 

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And as I got that feedback, it 
actually helped me to understand

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kind of his, you know, feelings 
on things and also my own. 

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And I came to the position where
I feel that I am at this point 

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in life when I just like really 
wanna live my life. 

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And do I want to die without 
having this experience? 

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The answer is no. 
Because me living life right now

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and having my spark and having 
this incredible experience as 

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mine, like that's my current 
goal. 

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And while I love my partner so 
much, the, the limiting it, 

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it's, it feels limiting to me to
say, because I have this 

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partner, it means I can't go 
have some of these other 

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experiences. 
Because when it comes to 

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relationships, there is this 
unspoken about oftentimes 

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arrangement that people think 
that they have, which is that 

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you're only having an intimate 
experience with each other. 

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And so many other options do 
exist out there. 

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And, you know, everyone gets in 
trouble about it because, you 

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know, they may have these 
interests and date multiple 

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people, but maybe they're not 
open about it. 

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And ultimately, you know, that's
when they got caught cheating or

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whatever. 
But maybe there's another way to

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handle it, which is to be open 
about it and to find the right 

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relationships where it works for
both people. 

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Let me see if I can dissect for 
you the way that these 

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conversations have gone for me 
in the past. 

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This is, this is hard to talk 
about, but the way I view it is 

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that your desires are such an 
important part of your life and 

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being able to explore those is 
an incredible experience that I 

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know at least that I want to 
have. 

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And I have just come to realize 
that as I delve into this deeper

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and as I allow myself to peek 
through different doors and to 

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have different experiences over 
time, it's opening my eyes to a 

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whole new world that I want to 
explore. 

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What I find is a common 
objection from the male, if the 

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female is the one who wants 
this, is that they feel like 

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their ego is very, very hurt by 
you wanting to interact with 

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another person. 
And I don't really know exactly 

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why that is and why there's such
an ego around it. 

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Because certainly the other view
is there too, which is that a 

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lot of men will actually want 
their partner to go be with 

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someone who can pleasure them 
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And they find that it's an honor
for them to be able to give 

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their wife that or whatever 
their partner that. 

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So I know that multiple views do
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negotiating with a man who does 
have an ego, this is tough 

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because the way I'm positioning 
this is this is an experience 

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that I want to have for myself, 
like a desire that I want to 

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explore. 
And can you accept that two 

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things could be true, which is 
that I, you know, love you and 

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care about you, but then I also 
want to have this experience. 

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So when you're someone who looks
at something like very linearly 

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and you think there's only one 
possibility, then it's going to 

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shatter your heart when you find
out that your partner wants 

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something else. 
But if you can start to accept 

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that it's n + 1, then you can 
start to build upon this and 

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start to explore your desires 
together. 

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There's my big theory for you 
for today guys. 

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I hope that helps. 
You can find me on TikTok at 

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real Gym Queen. 
As always, you're not allowed to

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come until I do, Please.