Ladies and gents Corporate MILF. Back with another episode on
being seen and how I got into Only Fans.
I wish I actually got into Only Fans when I first thought of it,
which was probably five years ago because that's probably when
it was blowing up the most. But I launched my Only Fans back
in February and at the time I was into Fendom and the
interactions were fun, but just a lot of communication back and
forth. And I wanted a way to be able to
have all of the people in one place who I'm communicating
with, which was easier for me. And obviously to launch it as
another stream of income that's a little bit easier to manage.
The strategy that I have set up on my page is that I drive
people to it from TikTok, from my podcast, from my ex and
meaning the ex profile. And I literally set it up
exactly like the way Sophie Raine has it set up.
So she has a $12.00 admission to be able to subscribe to the main
page. And I do post some things on the
main page, but the most of it is through pay-per-view activity.
So when I send a video through 2D, MSI can price that video
however I want and the person on the other end can decide if they
want to buy it or not. So that's just a little bit
about my strategy. And when I talk with friends
about this, because people have been asking like what's the
reaction amongst your friends and family and just the reaction
within my community? So I'll bring it down from
friends first. So my closest friends are
obviously in support of what I'm doing.
And I just want to clarify that the way that our friendships
work is that we fully support each other, what each one of us
is doing individually. And even when we give support,
it doesn't mean like we might want that for ourselves.
So in the opposite here, it's not like my friends necessarily
want it for themselves, but they're in support of me doing
it. And one of the pieces of
feedback that one friend gave me recently was just her own
thought of being judged and having, you know, nude pics
potentially come out of her. And she was giving the example
of like, what if my kids saw a picture of me, like somebody
showing them a screenshot of their mom.
And my reaction to that is so, so different than a lot of
people's because a lot of people don't take taboo risks in fear
of what's going to happen for their their kids in the way that
that's going to be viewed. But the way I look at it is so
much more complex than that. For first of all, when it comes
to sex and bodies and being seen, I am so passionate about
embracing sexuality for everything that it is and
teaching around how to get the type of relationships that you
want. And for them, I want that for
them too. And my take is like, if someone
were to come up to me and be like, oh, hey, I subscribe to
your only fans. I'd be like, awesome, thank you.
Do you like it? And if someone were to share a
picture with them, you know, I want them to be like, fuck yeah,
like my mom is. That's my mom.
She's like out there getting the bag, You know what I mean?
And the kids don't really necessarily say it like that.
It's not like that. But I want I want them to truly
be comfortable embracing intimacy and sexuality for
themselves when they get to that stage in life.
And I think everyone should embrace it.
That said, I did have a few friends and family come to me
earlier this year with sort of minor complaints.
Actually, before I even launched my Only Fans, I was posting like
some sexy picture of myself on my stories on Facebook.
And someone from my family reached out to me and just said
like, hey, do you realize that like, the family here is
watching you? And at the time, honestly, I did
feel very, very attacked because no one, no one really understood
what I was trying to get AT and what my strategy was behind my
postings. All they're seeing is like, oh,
Abby's doing something that's inappropriate.
She's showing a little bit too much skin.
And that is like a very common reaction, I would say.
And at the time, I actually blew up at her and I chewed her out,
and I spit like a lot of venom at her.
And we haven't spoken since. To be honest with you, I did
apologize, but I don't think she took that too well either.
But anyway, I'm working on my own reactions.
But I also feel very strongly about sticking up for yourself,
too. So when that first happened, I
did react poorly. Now a few months later, I had
another friend reach out to me and basically just say like,
hey, just so you know, like there's screenshots of you
floating around our hometown with only fans attached to it.
And I just wanted to let you know.
And my reaction back was just like, I'm great.
I'm really glad to hear your voice.
Thanks. Thanks for letting me know.
And like, I just left it at that.
But that said, like I did think about it for I had to process
that and I actually pulled a lot of my links offline for a couple
of months. I was transitioning from a lot
of things at that time, like I was getting divorced and like,
you know, shifting where everybody was living and I had a
lot of stuff going on as well. And I just really needed to
disconnect. And at the time, I wasn't
actually having the success that I wanted to see on Onlyfans yet
because I was only driving people through my ex profile,
which is very much within like a BDSM type community, which isn't
like a perfect match for only fans because, you know, the
things that they're interested in are potentially different
than like what mainstream people are looking for when it comes to
sex. But I just got this crazy like
surge of energy and I finally got to this point.
And it took me all summer to get here where I finally fully
disconnected from the truths that other people hold.
So for example, my friend who sent me about saying like, hey,
I don't know if you want to portray yourself like this, like
her situation and what she is protecting, their life is
completely different than what I'm protecting.
In fact, it's like a 180 because in my situation, I am
responsible for fully funding my my family's life and I am
working in in her situation, she's not.
So like she actually has to protect her family unit from a
different point of view than what I do.
I can be ruthless in how I pursue my money.
And I've also lived already in 25 years of corporate.
So I've already been there, done that.
I've already done the good girl thing.
I've already like lived through that.
And I understand that being in corporate is definitely not
where I want to be for the rest of my life.
So shifting a little bit, there's a perspective that I've
been able to take on over the course of this year that has
grown stronger and stronger within myself, which is having
the confidence in myself and what I am trying to pursue and
knowing what my own goals are and not letting other people
derail me from that. So if somebody else isn't happy
with it, I'm sorry, but they're not paying my bills.
So it, it's like it doesn't matter, right?
It's funny, 'cause people are like, are you worried about this
getting in the way of getting a job in corporate?
And first of all, I don't want a fucking another job in
corporate. But if I do go down that path,
I'm not really that worried because because, well, first of
all, I see, I see this actually growing.
So I can see a pathway out. I can see the business strategy
that I have for the podcast and all my different other assets.
So I actually see a full revenue stream building from this, but
at the end of the day, like people are going to judge you,
but they're not paying your bills.
Like I literally went through fucking hell for the last few
years and like trying to thread the needle on not bankrupting my
family. And thank God I didn't, but I
had to move every single piece with such fine orchestration.
And in the end, The thing is, is like no one was helping me
during that time. No one stepped in from like
apart from my mom who did give me a loan to finish like a major
renovation project that I had like thank God I had that
funding for that project. But I'm kind of just talking
about everyday living type stuff.
Like no one stepped in and said, Hey, here's some money to help
you get through this period. Let's help you get get divorced.
Let's help you separate and you know, go your separate ways and
have your own house. Like no one was doing that for
me. So people can love you and they
can want the best for you, but in the end, you're the one who
has to get it for yourself. I'm also at the point where I've
done so many different things with business that I know for a
fact that I can drive sales with whatever it is that I choose to
do. I actually launched a lot of
different things before I got to this point in this particular
business plan that I have right now.
So anyway, moving on, there's another kind of deep piece to
this, which is that I think I have a really, really deep need
to be seen. And I think part of that comes
from just not having been seen for like the last 10 years.
And it's such a deep desire that I have that when I am showing
off my body, which I'm so extremely proud of.
I've literally worked my entire life to have the body that I
have right now through working out and through my nutrition and
all the things that I do. I'm so incredibly proud of it
that I want I want it to be seen.
And that is so very different than the way a lot of people
think about things. Because if you think about my
friend who doesn't want, you know, someone from the gym
knowing like what her body looks like, like I'm the opposite.
I'm like, you're welcome, you're welcome that you got to see
that. And do you want to see some
more? You can pay 12 bucks.
So it's just a really, really different way of thinking about
things. But I think it comes down to
this ultimate confidence that you have to have to be able to
be seen and to not worry who's seeing it or not.
I've just finally come to this understanding that I've been
treading in this line for so long of like trying to be this
kind of perfect mix of some concoction that I thought was
perfect, which is, you know, being in shape, being good
looking, having a good job, you know, being a parent, Like
moving in a way where no one's going to judge you one way or
another. But ultimately people are going
to judge you literally no matter what.
So I figure, why not bring out the weird?
Like, let me just show you guys exactly all the weird shit I do
all the time. And some people are going to
love it and some people are going to hate it.
But regardless of what I do, even if I'm not being super
taboo and putting my tits out there on Only Fans, people are
still going to judge me and maybe even harder.
The irony, right? So that's my thought on it.
What do you guys think? You can find me on TikTok at
corporate MILF on X at Finn Dom Jim Queen and only fans at the
real Jim Queen. As always, you're not allowed to
come until I do Peace.