Ladies and gents, it's corporate MILF.
Back with another episode. Probably one of the questions I
get asked the most from younger guys.
You'd be surprised how many younger guys are in my DMS.
I'm talking in their 20s. I'm not going to talk to
somebody younger than that. That's fucked up.
And yes, I do make everyone age verify, Oh my God.
Anyway, they often ask me how they can approach a MILF such as
myself. I'm crying laughing about this.
It's like the whole thing is so fucking ironic because.
Because at least with my own personal journey, I was in a
space for a long time of feeling like very undesired, unwanted,
not hot, had like 0 confidence around sex.
In fact like my whole experience had basically given me like the
most non confident view I could possibly have on sex.
It was bad. So like I was like kind of like
the opposite of a goddess, whatever that would be.
Like very insecure about it in so many different ways.
The irony of course is that now these guys are asking how to get
with me because I have like completely 180 my entire self
from a place of not being confident to holding queen
energy. And it's come over the course of
the last few years as I went through a ton of shit in my
normal life and had to work through it.
And at the same time, while everything was crashing down
around me, the only thing I could control was myself.
So I was like a psycho about working out my nutrition.
I was listening to Andy Frisella like every freaking day.
Like listening to 75 hard. I was like hardcore.
I was like not talking to anyone.
I was like hermit mode to the Max.
I was, like, walking around all angry all the time.
But, you know, on social media, and especially if you're
listening and you're, you know, on my, you know, family
Instagram Stories, you know, all you would have seen were these
pictures of Maine smiling in the gym.
And I was smiling because I was so fucking proud of myself for
being there and all the shit and looking so fucking good despite
everything around me completely crumbling to like literally the
fucking ground. Anyway, But through this
process, Oh my God, I'm kind of skimming here, but I did all
this stuff to improve my ego. Like, I'm not kidding you.
For like a year straight, I would walk around and I would
literally like hype myself up to the fucking Max.
I would be like, you're a goddess, like you're a sun
goddess. Like I would Oh my God.
I would say like a lot of things to myself that were positive.
And you know what's crazy is like all those thoughts actually
materialized in real life. And that's what's so crazy is
like I've done so much inner work around processing your
thoughts and realizing that what you think actually does roll out
within your 3D. So what you see as somebody's
outward physical is really a reflection of what's going on
within them. So before I was divorced, I was
in my angry phase and I got into fandom.
I was like a little having a moment because I was kind of
just pissed that I never had a man like give me anything.
You know, like give me money or like pay for everything, like
pay for my mortgage. Like like literally like take
care of me financially or like even really give me gifts.
And you know, part of that, I will say, is definitely an
internal block that I had around this because like, I always kind
of felt uncomfortable with myself to give a gift because I
was like, oh, I don't know if they're going to like it.
And then I felt uncomfortable to receive a gift because I was
like, I don't know if I'm reacting in a way that's going
to make the other person feel good because I don't know if I'm
going to like the gift or not. So I released this through this
time period of being also angry. So it was great because I got to
take out my anger on like a lot of men that wanted me to take my
anger out on them. So it was sort of perfect.
It was a nice little combo. Anyway, I'm only mentioning that
because it's so interesting how I was thinking all this time
like you're a goddess and then you and like I literally became
a goddess online, a financial dominatrix.
And this is where I have a lot of this knowledge now on various
kinks and fetishes is through these conversations that I've
had with people. So now I'm kind of sitting in
this new energy that feels really good, which is I'm kind
of pulling together all of my different online avatars and
bringing them into one space. So I'm really working on sort of
bringing light to my shadow and definitely by doing this by
speaking my truths through my pod here.
And anyway, so I'm sitting in this energy where I have like,
you know, a couple 100 guys on only fans rising me up all the
time. So I'm feeling good about myself
there. I have guys rising me up all the
time on TikTok. I've got guys rising me up on
Instagram and in real life, guys are starting to ask me out,
which by the way, really didn't happen for a really long time.
So I'm in this space where I've been with somebody for a couple
of years, but we've kind of had like these ups and downs and
like every time we have these downs, I I just always think the
worst. I'm like, all right, well, I
better find a new partner like immediately because I'm not
willing to live a celibate life. I, I know that about myself.
And so if like he's not going to be with me, like I'm going to
fucking lose my mind and I'm going to need to have somebody.
So like immediately I go into like hunting mode and I'm like,
fuck, I need to find a partner ASAP.
So my, my eyes have kind of been opened and closed a lot lately.
Like, like when I'm with a partner, I'm usually like very
consumed by that person. But like, if I, there's a
glimmer, that's when I kind of open my eyes and I see what's
happening around me. So I want to talk about it in
that context of how to approach a queen.
And if you listen to Part 3 of The Ultimate Fantasy, you will
know that I recently was swiping on Hinge for women.
And so I have sort of an interesting perspective to share
with you. So I'm going to run through what
has worked, what approaches have worked recently on me, which
ones have not, and some strategies that you can use to
approach the goddess, the queen, the Princess, the maiden of your
dreams, whoever that might be. Because by the way, I realized
that for a long time I wasn't going after the people who I
found extremely attractive or whatever quality that I was like
looking at because I wasn't actually as confident in myself
as I thought I was. I fucking thought I was
confident like I was living confidently.
Like I, I was killing it at work.
Like I had a lot of, I was doing Iron Man's like had things to
boast about. And so I thought that meant I
should be confident. But my confidence was broken
down, you know, in a number of different ways actually over the
past few years. And that has definitely
enlightened me to a few things. So the first thing to consider
when you're putting your webs out there, whether you are a man
listening or a female listening or whatever, and you know who
you're going after, here are some ways that I have found to
work recently. So on Instagram, like I don't
know why it does never freaking dawned on me until I'm serious
until recently that, you know, the people on Instagram are
actually real. And while there are huge
influencers on Instagram, literally every fucking person
on the universe is on Instagram. So that means that if someone's
on there, I could potentially see a picture of that person and
normally swipe past it. But now I realize, oh, they're a
person and maybe maybe they're also whatever, single and
looking for someone like me. So now I start to follow these
people. So that is 1 strategy to
actually get serious about what it is you actually want.
Like really, really, really want and admit it to yourself.
Admit to yourself what you're looking for and have the
confidence to go after that person even if you think they
might be hotter than you. And if they are hotter than you,
I'm going to give you an approach that might work.
This gets into receiving gifts. So if you look at yourself and
you look at like, how desirable are you as a man?
OK, there's a few things to look at.
The 1st is your physical stature.
Are you, I mean, just even beyond like short and tall, it's
like, do you work out? And I hope everyone on this pod
doesn't feel like they're being thrown out the bus here, but I
think a lot of people listen to me or else in the bodybuilding.
So this is really big. Listen, I guess it's big for me
because I lift. So now that I lift so regularly
and it's such a part of my routine, I simply cannot respect
a man who doesn't lift. I can't, no, because physical
stature is a very real metric when it comes to looking for a
mate. The next thing would be
financial, of course, and that's a huge one.
Obviously that's a huge one. And you have to like, really
look at what are you actually offering financially?
Are you offering gifts? Are you offering to pay for her
mortgage? Are you just offering to pay for
dinners and like nights in a hotel, which is also hot, like
within the right circumstance? Because here's the thing, if
you're dating a man with money and all he's doing is taking you
out for expensive dinner, then what are you really getting out
of that? Like do you still have to work?
Because that takes fucking time. And like he can't, he needs to
like up his game to make it so he has access to you, right?
So it's like, what is the trade off here with the arrangement?
And also, it totally depends on what the female is actually
looking for. Is she at the stage where she's
looking for a man to have kids with?
Because that's like a whole different ball game.
That's a whole different thing because you're looking, oh,
that's like a whole different thing.
I don't want to get into that makes me sick.
And then there's other things that I do want to mention around
emotional connection, but I don't want to talk about that
because it's a little bit boring.
Fuck it, let's get to that later.
Let's stick with the fun stuff for right now.
So I did have an older gentleman approach me recently with the
offer of gifts and this is much appreciated on my end.
And I said that would be amazing.
This is what I have been pining over for over a year.
And I sent him a picture of what I wanted.
And anyway, long and short, the man made it happen.
He fucking made it happen. He saw what I wanted and he got
it for me. He actually got it for me.
It was like the sweetest, most incredible gift someone has ever
given me. Like sight on scene with no
promise of anything. By the way, I said as long as
you are offering this to impress me, not to buy me, then this
would be really fun for me. So if you are someone who has
less desirability, I would say that the larger the offer is
going to be the thing that catches her attention.
I feel like you kind of, you can kind of get away with offering
less when you're really fucking hot.
But like most people aren't hot, but most people are like 99%
better looking when they're fit. And even if you have a weird ass
face, like weird ass faces are coming back into style, they
really are. So all you have to do is
actually get fit. Like it's completely within your
control. Another tactic that I really do
see working well is by putting yourself out on Instagram and
building awareness with somebody overtime.
And I'll tell you how this played out in somebody's favor.
Recently. I had connected with somebody on
Instagram I think a long time ago, like maybe even a couple
years ago. I'm not honestly, I don't know.
And if someone knows how to find that out, by the way, how you
connect to some in the beginning, that would be kind of
fun to see. But I kind of realized, you
know, he had like sent me a fire emoji a couple times on my
stories and I was like, and like, after a certain number of
times you get a fire emoji for Someone.
Like You will look at their profile.
Like I usually, I usually will take a look at people's profiles
if it's like someone I don't recognize.
So like you take a peek and you're like, so you kind of
become aware who they are and like, that's kind of all like
maybe like depending on what they look like, you can go and
scroll in more. So it's like kind of this like
online kind of awareness begins and that is where it starts.
And then at some point you like one person will say something
and it's like intriguing enough where the other person replies.
And I feel like that is the tactic that I have seen work
lately to the point of actually giving my number when it was
asked of me. So that is a tactic that works
guys. Oh my God, I have to tell you
the story. This is fucking crazy.
So my best friend and I were in Italy this summer and we went to
Ari Enzo Beach club and it's like an all day like Euro style
beach club where everyone is like absolutely freaking
stunning and rich and like bringing their absolute best
vibe. And this one guy is there and
like you can see like he's clearly American.
Like he's got like the accent. I'm like a guy from New York,
you know, or whatever. And anyway, so we're going back
on the boat and he's like, he pitched.
I'm going to tell you his pitch and he'll appreciate this
because he he knows it was good. He was like, he's like a girl
like you. He's like, he's like you're like
an 8. I was like, wow, thanks.
And he's like, you know, girls like you.
He's like you're like a 12 at home.
OK. He's like, you know, girls like
you. You know, you have a roster,
like you need to have a roster. And I would just be honored to
be considered to be a part of that team.
And I thought that was pretty good actually, even though it
was like ridiculous because he called me an 8.
But like, I mean, I don't know, who am I to rank myself?
I don't know. But anyway, he's like, give me
your number. Give me your number.
And I was like, I just like looked at him.
And I was just like shaking my head, just like, I can't believe
this is fucking happening. And he's like, come on, give me
your number. I'm like, no, he's like give me
your Instagram. And I was like, OK, yeah, you
can have my Instagram. And then he like sent me the
friend request right away. He's like, give me the fall back
right now. Give me the fall back right now.
And I was like, no, I made him wait.
I made him wait. So anyway, let me get back home
and oh, he had told me. I don't know what I asked him
but he had told me his net worth and I was like I was like what
is it? He's like 2 and a half million.
I was like all right, it's acceptable.
So I knew this about him. And when we get home, I got
pissed at the guy I'm hanging out with.
And that's when I throw out these lines.
I just like throw out these devious fucking lines, these
devious thoughts. So I sent him a message and I
sent him, I sent him a link to Stadium Swim Club in Vegas.
And I was like, I want to go here.
And he responded like in the best fucking way possible, where
like he called me right away. He completely pitched me on like
his dream weekend and I was like drooling, 'cause I was like,
that's exactly what I want to do.
And he's like, all right, we're doing this.
And like we, he literally booked the flights and and like sent
them to me like immediately. But like we had good combos too.
It was like really fun. So, so so on.
A tactic that works guys, because he offered to take me on
a trip. That was like super fun
experience that I wanted to have without the expectation of it
being and this is like the boundary that the female can
create, which is like how far do you want to take this?
Like I told him straight up, I was like, listen, this is not
about us having sex. This is about this is about like
me giving you a shot and you getting a chance to go on like a
really fun weekend with me. And like I already knew he had
awesome energy. So I knew it would be like so
much fun. And I think I did a pod, I hope
I did a pod on the Vegas adventures and it would go back
into the into the Diaries and you can hear a little bit more
about that adventure. So I will say I do notice the
people who comment very regularly on my TikTok and I do
notice the people who message me very regularly on only fans.
I'm no longer checking X. So if you're someone from X you
can message me through only fans.
And really same on TikTok. I will look at the comments on
TikTok but I don't really like to message people there.
So if you're any guy who wants to message me that you can do
through only Fans, which is at the real Jim Queen Girls 2 by
the way. Girls 2.
That would be fucking so hot. If I have a girl, subscribe to
my only fans please. I don't have any yet that I know
of anyway. No one's messaged me.
Maybe I do have some, but if you're interested in me, that
would be so hot. I would love to do a little
drain with you anyway, so I think those are all good ways to
approach people online. And I'm going to tell you some
ways that people have approached me in public and how that went
down. So I did tell you the success
story of going to Italy. He approached me in public.
Now I will tell you some declines that have occurred
lately. So the first thing I want to say
is guys or girls, you know how in fucking frequently you
actually run into somebody in public who is like really kind
of takes your breath away or like you're just like, wow.
And like that has happened so many times in my life and I've
never fucking said a word. I've never fucking said a word
as if I'd run into this person at some other point.
It's not going to happen. So I think if you see somebody
in public, you should take your shot.
Do it. OK, that's sad.
So a guy, a guy did shoot a shot at me at the gym the other day.
I was honestly like, So I'm first of all, I'm always
impressed. I'm always impressed when
somebody asks me out in public because I feel like it takes
balls to do that. I do.
And I really, I can't hide usually if I'm not interested.
And so I do tend to be upfront about that.
Anyway, so this guy's walking around and I did notice him the
week before at the gym, but it was really just because he was
like kind of peacocking around the gym.
So anyway, I'm in the gym and this is the second time now I've
seen him like a week apart. And he's like looking over me,
like waving. And I'm like, Oh my God, Oh my
God, fuck. He's going to say something.
So he comes over, He's like, hey, you know, how you doing?
I don't know. It was just kind of like very in
my face. It wasn't like very suave at
all. And it was like very obvious
too. Like, he wasn't like hiding
anything from the different guys who were like, right there, who
definitely could see him doing this.
And I was just like, hey, like, we just had an exchange and I
asked him his name, whatever. We laughed.
And I was like, and he asked me. And then he went to like, ask me
another question. I'm like, I'm going to get back
into my set now, if you don't mind.
And then he came back over again and he's like, sorry to
interrupt, you know, I just thought you were interested.
And I gave him like a long stare because in my head I was like,
really? And I just can't.
I gave him that look and just sucked the energy out of the
air. And I was like, I'm not.
And he was like, oh, I was like, I do appreciate you asking,
though. Now here's one that sort of
worked. It sort of worked OK.
Another time I was at the gym talking with someone.
We had a great convo. We had a great convo.
It was just like good casual, cool convo.
And I thought he was cool and he asked me for my number.
At the time, I was pissed off at the guy I was dating.
So I was like, OK, you can have my number.
So I gave him my number and we went back and forth a little bit
and he's like, are you even interested in me?
And I was like, I don't know, I mean, you're kind of like on the
borderline. It's kind of like, well, what is
exactly like, what are we talking about here?
You know, because I sort of evaluate everything with offers,
like what are you offering me right now?
Like what kind of thing we talking about?
But anyway, he backed down. He backed down.
He's like, I don't think I am what you're looking for.
So, so be it. I said never up, never in.
If you don't give it a try, you're never going to find out.
I mean, fuck it, sometimes, that's the thing.
Sometimes guys just slip through the cracks, like when they just
weasel the way in, like at the perfect time, you know?
But he didn't do it. He backed down.
So. So that's your choice.
And there was one more I did chat with a guy at a recent
influencer event, and he was cool.
And I was there alone. And he was another, you know,
social media guy. And I appreciated his company.
And we did connect on Instagram. And then he messaged me through
Instagram asking me out. And at that point, I did
decline. But I truly appreciate the ask
because there are many times in my life where I would have said,
yes, that's the thing. That's the thing.
It like varies so much on what the girl is looking for at that
very moment. And there's been such a long
period of my life where like literally fucking nobody hit on
me. I was like, what the fuck?
And I feel like only now I'm getting like these sort of like
bids and it's making me very fucking happy.
It's making me actually feel wanted.
And I like that. Wow, that's cathartic.
The last thing I will leave you with is this.
I have resurrected something that died a very long time ago.
It is my blacklist. There's currently only two
people on it, maybe 3. But listen, this is the way
girls work, OK? Is we do have in mind people we
are vaguely interested in. And at least for me, I want to
see that someone is interested in me over a long period of time
and I can see their intentions and I can see that they're like
completely obsessed with me specifically.
Like me specifically, I want someone who wants to be with me.
So I look for that long term presence and someone who's not
just going to, like, gas you up for like a day and then ghost
you. Yeah.
I'm still healing from one of those.
OK Yeah. So that's the way I'm healing.
I'm healing by being very interested in people who make me
feel good about myself on a daily basis.
I love that for myself. And like, getting that feels
fucking amazing. It feels like sunshine.
Aw, that's really sweet. Now I really should clarify for
people that all offers are not offers.
Many offers are. Lots of offers are scams.
By the way, I have been scammed. I have really good stories about
that that were actually interesting.
But anyway, not all offers are good offers.
And depending on where the female is at is going to depend
on what kind of offer she's looking for.
Financial protection, physical protection, emotional
protection. I would say those are my top
three pillars. So if you can appeal to somebody
in those areas, just food for thought because I'm sure there's
a million other things that people look for.
Those just happen to be top of mind for me right now at this
moment. That is what is shining through.
All right, I'm going to wrap there.
As always, you can find me on TikTok at corporate MILF only
fans, at the real Jim Queen Instagram, at the real Jim Queen
X at Fendom Jim Queen. As always, you're not allowed to
come until I do Peace.