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Who is this? 
A Wisdom Bible church? 

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The Church of a distant 
Christian narration. 

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We have been on this journey for
the last 13 weeks, praise the 

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name of the Lord. 
And it's looking like the issues

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that keep on coming up will not 
be exhausted. 

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And it has to be so because the 
true definition of life is 

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relationship. 
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relationship is friendship. 
Take relationship out of life. 

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What is left? 
You will just discover that life

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will be so boring. 
Loneliness with SO make you get 

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fed up about life and it's not 
going to be something you want 

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to continue with. 
So the true definition of life 

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is relationship. 
Then even faith, our faith in 

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Christ Jesus, our work with God.
The true definition of it is 

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relationship. 
So everything about the fake 

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life is relationship. 
The the royal law is about love 

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God have a perfect smooth 
cordial relationship with your 

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maker. 
And then the second is like it. 

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Love your neighbor as yourself. 
All of this is about 

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relationship, so the true 
definition of life and of faith 

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is what relationship and the 
achievements of relationship is 

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friendship. 
So I won't be surprised that we 

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have to stay this long dealing 
with the topic and except we 

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take the liberty of the Holy 
Spirit to quit the topic, that 

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will still be more and more 
issues to deal with. 

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So without be labouring the 
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we have made it very clear in 
our previous studies that 

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friendship is the highest form 
of interpersonal relationship. 

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I said that over and over again 
and by now you, your spirit 

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should have agreed with it and 
buy into it that the cheapest of

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all form of relationship or the 
highest form of interpersonal 

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relationship is friendship. 
And so it is not enough to be a 

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busy servant. 
Last week we parallel the 

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service level of relationship 
with the friendship level of 

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relationship. 
And so it's not enough to be a 

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busy servant which was aspire to
attain the status of a faithful 

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friend in our work with God. 
Now walk with God. 

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We should do our best to attain 
the status of a faithful friend 

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in our work with God. 
I will study the scripture and 

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we discover that only few people
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May grace be given to us to rise
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Jesus. 
So service level relationship 

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where you are valuable to be 
used by God, it's not the 

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ultimate that is available in 
our work with Christ, the 

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service level of relationship. 
It's not the ultimate level of 

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relationship that is available 
in our work with Christ. 

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We should upgrade in our work 
with Christ to that friendship 

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level of relationship. 
So, and that is going to be the 

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summary of the issues we have 
dealt with in this subject. 

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Now, what are we taking out of 
this subject that has taken us 

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13 weeks to look like? 
OK, if you don't come to that 

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level whereby you aspire to 
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come up to the friendship level,
then you have not profited, 

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profited enough from the topic. 
So attaining friendship level 

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relationship that we are now 
talking about cannot happen 

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spontaneously. 
We said that repeatedly. 

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It cannot happen spontaneously. 
If you look at it spiritually, 

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you look at it practically, you 
will discover that friendship 

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level relationship does not 
follow cultural lineage. 

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We said a lot about that last 
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We mentioned that it's an 
institution born out of well 

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established relationship, well 
established relationship such 

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that is characterized by 
faithfulness and loyalty. 

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You know it was at a period of 
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of interpersonal relationship of
being disciples under the Lord 

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Jesus Christ that you now look 
at the disciple in Gospel come 

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to Saint John chapter 15, verse 
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Henceforth I no longer regard 
you as servant. 

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Now you are my friend because 
you have known as you ought to 

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know, you have learned as you 
ought to learn, and you have 

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demonstrated integrity in 
relationship to be brought into 

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the level of becoming my 
confidence. 

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And that was the reason that led
me to especially further on that

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same issue last week, that 
apostleship status is easier 

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attained than friendship status.
The word apostles means one that

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is sent, one that is given 
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Hello. 
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be given an assignment OK is at 
the discretion of God. 

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There is not much OK you do to 
impress God, to give you 

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assignment, to send you an 
error, but there's a level of 

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responsibility maturity that you
must demonstrate before you can 

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assume the friendship level. 
Am I talking to somebody so they

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are positive status is easier at
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stay too long with him before I 
call some of them, OK, just like

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somebody doing a short time 
intensive training, looking for 

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a new recruit and then you 
assign assignment. 

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That was what he did with them 
when he decided them as opposed 

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to in March Chapter 6. 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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But they have to stay long 
enough with him gaining maturity

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along the line, demonstrating 
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faithfulness as you know, 
establishing themselves in 

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integrity. 
And I said now you people can 

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perfectly associate with me, I 
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name and I'll call you friends. 
So the apostleship status is CCI

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attain that the friendship 
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disciple came to Jesus that it 
designated them apostles because

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of what apostleship is service 
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Apostleship is a service based 
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apostleship to cover all 
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Christian service can be a 
pastor be an evangelist what OK,

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so so that is the sense which I 
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So it's easier attained because 
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It is service based, so once you
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make you an apostle. 
Once you are available, that may

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survive to make you an apostle. 
However, you will require 

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proving that reliability to 
become a friend. 

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Proving reliability to become a 
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are in asset I no longer call 
you servants. 

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You are now my apostle. 
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followed a period of long time 
staying with Jesus, taking up 

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responsibility and delivering 
excellent results. 

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So availability. 
It's enough to make you an 

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apostle, but you will require 
proof of reliability to become a

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friend. 
So if you are available, you 

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must be equally reliable. 
A lot of people are available, 

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but they are not reliable. 
So if you are available, you 

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must be equally reliable. 
So Jesus waited until it was at 

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the tail end of his ministry 
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friends. 
But the journey was not too far 

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into the ministry when he 
decided them as apostles. 

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But he waited until almost the 
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he designated them as friends. 
We still put the study further 

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on how the largest of Christ 
structure their faith progress 

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before you eventually qualify 
them for the friendship ranking.

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You will notice from that John 
chapter 15, if we take the 

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reading from verse 9, that the 
journey started as a journey of 

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mutual love. 
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but it didn't stop at just love 
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So in other words, love is 
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relationship, but love alone 
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nourish relationship to its 
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Are we following me? 
We're still probing into the 

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Jesus Christ model of 
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just about or something kind of 
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We are colleagues to colleague 
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warm up to each other as 
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about a relationship whereby 
even the one that is up there is

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comfortable with your sense of 
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friend. 
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Christ, you know study his 
disciple, how they accepted his 

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training, how they demonstrates 
I sense of responsibility and 

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reliability. 
And then I said now you are my 

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friend. 
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see how they progress from one 
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attend that level. 
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journey of your relationship 
that we graduate into friendship

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is love. 
And that should not be difficult

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for you to understand if the 
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faith work with God is 
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OK? 
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Relationship that is born out of
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So the journey we always start 
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his disciple. 
But before it graduated to the 

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friendship level, OK, it's so 
clear that it was not just love 

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alone. 
So love is needed to sustain a 

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relationship but love alone 
cannot nourish a relationship to

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a deepest level. 
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So even among couples, OK, when 
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they cannot resolve the issue, 
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either the man or the man will 
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love him. 
The love is there but that the 

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love is is almost becoming a 
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that are coming up and creating 
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Am I talking to somebody? 
So you want to nourish a 

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relationship to its deepest 
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You will need love, but you are 
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Plus cross back on to Saint John
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As the Father had loved me, I 
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work in this Kingdom is about 
relationship, a relationship 

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that is love this as the Father 
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continue here in my love and 
what we think that would be all 

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to our relationship with God. 
Love God and hence it there but 

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first time if you keep my 
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my love. 
So you can't be flouting God's 

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commandment and remain in His 
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You can't continue doing the 
things that displace the person 

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you love. 
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We satisfy its obligation in the
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Am I talking to somebody? 
If you keep my commandment, ye 

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shall abide in my love. 
So what will help your love to 

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produce the desired result? 
The design result is the keeping

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of commandment. 
Even as I have kept my Father's 

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commandment and abide in His 
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loved me, I didn't just say 
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can leave it there or start to 
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I played my part. 
This is Jesus talking here. 

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He played His part and He played
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And what was the part that he 
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He ensure that he stayed in the 
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That's why I'm worried about the
modern day approach to the 

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preaching of the message of 
grace, whereby you give people 

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the liberty to misbehave. 
And he said grace, cover it and 

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abide in His law. 
These things have I spoken unto 

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you, that my joy might remain in
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full. 
So these are the thing you enjoy

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when the relationship is 
cordial, when the relationship 

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is honourable, when the love of 
God is not abused, when the love

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of God is supported by obey the 
commandment of God so that love 

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can be sustained and 
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This is my commandment that you 
love one another. 

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Everything about life is 
relationship, a relationship 

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that is love based. 
So Jesus has talked about the 

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one between him and his Father. 
You now talk about the one that 

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should occur between US and Him.
Then he progressed to the one 

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that should also occur between 
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This is my commandment, that you
love one another as I have love 

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you. 
Greater love had no man than 

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this, that a man lay down his 
life for his friends. 

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Now verse 14 is very 
instructive. 

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It explain all that I've been 
struggling to analyse. 

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Ye are my friends. 
Friendship is conditional. 

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Hello, now we can talk about 
unconditional love. 

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We will always have to talk 
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Am I talking to somebody talking
about law you can come to the 

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nowhere. 
We're talking about 

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unconditional love, but you 
can't talk about unconditional 

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friendship. 
Jesus, Jesus, here in verse 47, 

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ye are my friends If you do 
whatsoever I command you. 

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So the moment you start to do 
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you, them friendship hands. 
Sorry. 

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So friendship is a 
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Friendship does not allow for 
carelessness. 

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Friendship does not allow for 
taking your friend for granted. 

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Irresponsibility to ensure that 
you play your part. 

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Irresponsibility to ensure that 
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things that displaces your 
friend. 

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Yeah, my friend, if you do 
whatsoever I command you. 

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So just love, which has been 
well oversized from verse 9 to 

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13, was not enough to make the 
disciple his friend. 

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So the other serious condition 
that qualified them to be 

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regarded as bonifed friend of 
Jesus was that they were obeying

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His commandment. 
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Henceforth, now that you have 
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friendship, I call you not 
servants. 

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For the servant knew it not what
is not doing. 

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But I'll call you friends. 
For all things that I have heard

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of my Father, I have made known 
unto you. 

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So in spite of the fact that 
they remain disciples, OK, Jesus

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raised the bar of his respect 
for them that He not 

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accommodated them into a circle 
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So essentially we're saying in 
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friendship, it is allowed that 
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horizontally, it can also occur 
vertically whereby people of 

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different social gradients can 
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of relationship. 
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dimension of friendship level of
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relationship is not going to be 
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That is what the scripture I 
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to realize that when we are 
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practical dimension of 
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not just going to be defined by 
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love, be defined by discipline 
and maturity. 

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What do I call it? 
Discipline and maturity. 

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Discipline and maturities. 
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mentioned earlier, were not 
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right from the onset. 
He forced groomed them. 

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Then he watched them grill onto 
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called friendship. 
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fundamental but it is not a 
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determines friendship. 
It's fundamental but you cannot 

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stand alone. 
So in friendship, love must be 

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supportive to discipline and 
vice versa. 

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Discipline must accompany love. 
Do you understand? 

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Discipline was what accompany 
love. 

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In that case, not everybody can 
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If you understand the concept of
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Jesus was saying to his 
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you keep my commandment. 
It means not everybody can be 

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your friend. 
So your friend must be people 

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that have, by commitment to 
common discipline, aligned with 

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your core values. 
The reason they were 

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accommodated into friendship 
with Jesus was because over time

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they have aligned with Jesus 
core value. 

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They have aligned with the 
standard by which Jesus was 

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living his life and operating 
his ministry. 

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So you are already deceiving 
yourself if you keep around you 

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people who don't share the same 
core value with you so freshy 

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that you claim to have when you 
have not defined your core value

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is a mockery of the concept of 
for friendship. 

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When you have not defined your 
core value and you say it's my 

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friend, maybe for lack of 
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define other kind of contacts 
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And there's a reason you call 
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We are not friendship in the 
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friendship as espoused by the 
Lord Jesus Christ in his 

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relationship with his disciples.
So any friendship that you are 

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involved in and it has to do 
with people that don't share 

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your core value or where you 
yourself have not divide your 

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core value is a mockery of the 
true concepts of friendship. 

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Such a friendship that you 
engage in when you have not 

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divide your core value. 
We either end gradually or 

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appropriately. 
It will dissolve with time to 

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dissolve with time. 
You are just wasting your time. 

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You get to a point cover that 
you got a time. 

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You will discover that if you 
keep on like that, OK, you will 

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not end up in the right 
destination. 

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Am I talking to somebody? 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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Father is a death. 
I pray that your people we come 

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to that depth so that they can 
grow better in you in the name 

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of Jesus. 
So when you keep company of 

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friendship with people that 
don't share your core value, you

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are into a mockery of the 
concept of friendship. 

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Or when even yourself, you are 
yet to divide your core value 

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and you say you are into 
friendship is a mockery of the 

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concept of friendship. 
Because such a friendship 

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naturally, naturally it will 
gradually dissolve with time, 

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and sometimes it may happen 
abruptly. 

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So you will discover that with 
time as you become more mature, 

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as you become more disciplined, 
you will migrate out of 

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friendship that are not based on
discipline. 

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Hello, everything we discussed 
is about green. 

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But this simply assessing am I 
talking to somebody? 

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Every time there is no any 
adapting we discuss other than 

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we can gown where there are more
issues OK of destinies to be 

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discussed am I talking to 
somebody? 

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So you discover that with time, 
as you become more mature, 

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become more disciplined, either 
nature or realities of life will

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make you or force you to 
graduate out of freshy that are 

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not based on discipline. 
So it takes maturity to walk 

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away from unprofitable 
relationship. 

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For you to walk away from 
unprofitable relationship, it 

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will take maturity. 
So. 

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So when you see people engaging 
in unprofitable relationship, 

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what they lack is maturity. 
By that maturity setting, you 

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will not preach it to them. 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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Oh, preaching to them. 
So maturity is also required to 

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consolidate a profitable 
relationship into friendship. 

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So the value you place on people
OK will be determined by 

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maturity. 
So maturity is required to 

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consolidate a profitable 
relationship into friendship is 

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the reason you grow to a degree 
and that's all realization. 

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Come on you OK and your uncle 
that every time you meet. 

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How is your study? 
What was your last grade? 

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You know, when you were not 
mature, uncle is coming, you 

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dodge because we ask about your 
school grade and that's a 

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profitable relationship for you.
But when you are not mature, you

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run away from that uncle. 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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But as maturity set in, OK, you 
will not discover that that is 

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kind of relationship. 
You must consolidate because 

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it's a profitable 1. 
You will not discover that that 

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uncle you hate so much because 
you will always query your 

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academic performance. 
Now become the one you love 

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most. 
You know, I appreciate that 

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person. 
So it takes maturity to 

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appreciate good people. 
It takes what's maturity to 

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appreciate good people? 
Actually those that are showing 

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serious concern, genuine concern
about your destiny. 

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So growth is a factor that 
determines the longevity or 

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expiry date of friendship. 
Growth, growth. 

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Growth is a factor that 
determines either the longevity 

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or the expiry date of a 
friendship. 

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Even a marriage union where only
one partner is growing is an 

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endangered home. 
Where only one partner is 

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growing. 
OK, Such a relationship is an 

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endangered relationship. 
So with time, as you mature, are

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you embrace the various 
disciplines that growth demands.

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You know that growth demand 
discipline growth it demands 

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what discipline? 
The measure to which we increase

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in discipline OK is the standard
by which your growth can be 

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accurately measured. 
So as you embrace the demands of

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growth, which I call discipline,
you will discover that it is not

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everybody that you love that can
be your friend. 

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Did you hear that the Father 
loved me? 

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I love the Father, the love did 
not fire, the love is still 

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there. 
That is Jesus talking, are we 

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together? 
He said the way the Father love 

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me, I have love you the love 
continue. 

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You know I said love other 
people also like yourself. 

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Are you with me? 
But people you love, the only 

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condition upon which they can be
called your friend is that you 

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share Common Core value. 
If you obey my commandment, then

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you are my friend. 
So not everybody that Jesus 

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love, OK, Is Jesus friend in the
same manner, not everybody you 

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love to be your friend. 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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So with time, as you mature and 
you embrace the various 

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disciplines that grow demands, 
you will discover that it is not

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everybody that you love that can
be your friend. 

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So there are great people that 
will reject your companionship. 

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I begin to worry, what is the 
problem with me? 

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They reject your companionship 
not because they hate you, but 

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because you are not going to 
match their standard of 

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discipline. 
So even in the workplace 

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setting, are you with me? 
You just discovered that no 

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matter what you do, even in the 
way and manner you serve, you 

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just discovered that this boss 
is not looking your direction. 

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And then those who are cooked to
put the label of spirituality on

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everything we say, it is so 
quiet. 

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Kalonjae or secular way, oh nilu
or secular way. 

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You have to upgrade in 
discipline, you have to upgrade 

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in maturity. 
And as you upgrade in maturity, 

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you will discover that you will 
be honour and you are going to 

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be welcome into the circle of 
nobility. 

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Am I talking to somebody? 
So there are great people that 

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will reject your companionship 
not because they hate you, but 

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because you are not growing to 
match their standard of 

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discipline. 
If discipline is a cause a guni 

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give us a good of India, a goody
of India, Renee. 

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AM 
I talking to somebody? 

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So indiscipline is a curse. 
It's a plague that any 

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responsible person should avoid.
It's a plague. 

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If you are a disciplined person,
your love will be available for 

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everyone, but your friendship 
will be reserved for special 

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people that embraced your type 
of disciplined lifestyle. 

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Are you learning something? 
If you are a disciplined person,

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your love will be available for 
everywhere, but your friendship 

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will be reserved for special 
people that embrace your type of

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disciplined lifestyle. 
So without your guru pastor, 

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your guru are you with me? 
You want to go to embrace his 

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discipline lifestyle? 
OK Uburu, you want to go? 

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I say it again, if you are a 
discipline person, your love 

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will be available for everywhere
or your friendship with the 

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reserve for special people that 
embrace your type of discipline 

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lifestyle. 
These disciples that Jesus said 

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I no longer call you servant, 
you are my friend. 

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They are not the only set of 
people in Jesus circle. 

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The multitudes are there, the 
five hundreds are there, the 72 

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are there, but you look at the 
select group, I no longer call 

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you servant, I call you my 
friend. 

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Then you also said to them, 
don't take this matter for 

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granted. 
You liberty to remain as my 

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friend. 
The conditionality upon you wish

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you would repair as my friend is
if you do my commandment, if you

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stay within the bracket of my 
type of discipline lifestyle. 

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That's what Jesus was saying 
essentially, am I talking to 

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somebody? 
This is so because discipline is

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needed to correct what is wrong.
But which love may condo? 

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Love can be so permissive. 
That's why the scripture was 

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very clear about it. 
To the degree that things that 

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need to be corrected, you will 
see love condoning it. 

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And that's why some children are
over pampered. 

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So disciplines need them to 
correct what is wrong, but which

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love may condemn or condone. 
So love may accept without 

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censor, but friendship with 
censor. 

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Love may accommodate without 
query. 

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Hello, but friendship will prove
so Discipline we are sad. 

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Discipline we insist on 
standard. 

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I draw the curtain by saying 
friendship that accommodate in 

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discipline is not the model. 
Let us by Jesus to emulate. 

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The standard that Jesus left us 
to emulate is found in John 

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1514. 
Ye are my friends. 

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If ye do whatsoever I command 
you receive grace to stay in the

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love of God, to graduate into 
friendship with God by living or

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embracing is discipline kind of 
lifestyle in the name of Jesus, 

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God bless you. 
Don't be left in the dark. 

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Get proper understanding of life
through the Word of God. 

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My people perish for lack of 
knowledge. 

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The Word of God is an 
illumination which gives 

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direction. 
Remain placed as Reverend was 

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fallen illuminates your mind 
with the Word of God with all 

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simplicity and clarity.