1 00:00:08,740 --> 00:00:12,380 Don't be left in the dark. Get proper understanding of life 2 00:00:12,380 --> 00:00:15,500 through the Word of God. My people perish for lack of 3 00:00:15,500 --> 00:00:17,420 knowledge. The Word of God is an 4 00:00:17,460 --> 00:00:19,580 illumination which gives direction. 5 00:00:19,700 --> 00:00:23,540 Remain placed as Reverend was far and illuminates your mind 6 00:00:23,740 --> 00:00:27,260 with the Word of God with all simplicity and clarity. 7 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:34,840 So the topic. Is lessons of friendship. 8 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:39,920 We are taking the 5th. Leg and the particular focus for 9 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:46,840 today is trust management in friendship trust. 10 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:54,360 Management in friendship permit me if to this message we sound 11 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:57,520 more like reading out. Poetic lines. 12 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:05,760 It's most likely that the most significant aspects of the 13 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:11,320 message today would. Sound more like real loud. 14 00:01:11,320 --> 00:01:16,520 Poetic line And because of that you will have the bigger 15 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:20,080 responsibility. Of training the court properly. 16 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:24,640 In order for you to be able to. Break them down for. 17 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:29,480 Better assimilation. I pray that the Holy Spirit that 18 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:33,280 has inspired my heart we also. Give you a quick. 19 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:37,880 Understanding in the name of Jesus, I have just prayed. 20 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:46,840 In the name of Jesus, now equally I will expect the youth, 21 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:49,760 the young persons. That are in the house. 22 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:57,000 To listen more, more attentively, I'm. 23 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:01,760 Pleased allow what we're going to learn today. 24 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:07,320 To guide how you conduct. Yourself when the season of. 25 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:10,919 Valentine arrive in few weeks to come, are you aware of that? 26 00:02:11,560 --> 00:02:14,480 In few weeks to come, the season of. 27 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:17,840 Valentine will arrive, so please allow some of the things that 28 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:22,200 I'll be teaching. Today, maybe for two other. 29 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:28,760 Weeks to guide your condoms. And for the Oasis? 30 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:32,600 Youth, in particular those of. You who have responsibility of 31 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:37,240 coordinating the activities of the youth and clearly that the 32 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:40,440 teenagers church please plan your. 33 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:46,800 Program and conversations around some of the things that I'll be 34 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:51,440 sharing with. You when you are planning for 35 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:57,560 this year. Destiny Earth Seminar It will be 36 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:02,640 very important that you use this material. 37 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:06,720 To. Drive conversation around the 38 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:12,000 issues that I'll be raising in a way that address your peculiar 39 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:15,720 situation within your. Youth Community. 40 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:20,360 But then let me also bring this one in. 41 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:23,640 If you are the. Type that he has messages. 42 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:27,680 Once. And then you just walk away from 43 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:31,280 it. This particular message or 44 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:35,520 sessions is not one of thought. Message is to be. 45 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:39,560 Treated as such. It's a message that you will 46 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:44,360 have to stay long on it until you take in the nutrients. 47 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:48,720 That I need. You will need. 48 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:51,960 Those nutrients for your spiritual depths. 49 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:54,080 And. For your. 50 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:57,840 Emotional maturity. And of course. 51 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:01,760 For healing too. As the case may be for I know 52 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:04,320 that. By way of your interaction, 53 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:07,720 relationship and engaging in. Friendship. 54 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:12,480 Some of you have suffered. Emotional world, but I guarantee 55 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:15,480 you in the Holy Ghost. That there is healing in the 56 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:20,079 house this morning. In the name of Jesus, it's very 57 00:04:20,079 --> 00:04:24,680 possible that some of you may be carrying the odds or the injury 58 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:27,920 you sustained from misplaced trust. 59 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:33,160 The topic we are considering is trust management and friendship. 60 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:35,720 So some of. You may be carrying the odds or 61 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:38,200 the. Injury you have sustained from 62 00:04:38,200 --> 00:04:41,720 misplacing your trust in a friend if we will be a. 63 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:46,280 Colleague at work if we will be a pastor in church. 64 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:51,240 If we be. The A partner. 65 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:53,320 You are. Trusting the Lord that. 66 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:59,400 You will get married to. And of course, where you follow 67 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:05,840 the trend in our society today. Particularly in the church. 68 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:09,920 Community in Nigeria, the social media. 69 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,760 Is currently at worst with. On hard of stories. 70 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:16,640 Even from all. Expected quarters, including 71 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:21,160 from church authors. Many people are presently 72 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:25,840 bearing the wounds. That are very deep, some life 73 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:30,560 threatening from broken. Relationship and so on. 74 00:05:30,560 --> 00:05:34,480 And so forth. So today, trust. 75 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:41,480 Is becoming a major victim into this relationship trust is 76 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:45,640 becoming a major 50 in. Today's relationship. 77 00:05:48,280 --> 00:05:51,880 It can be very terrible. When you mistake an. 78 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:55,480 Enemy for a friend you. Expend trust. 79 00:05:58,880 --> 00:06:05,520 On a relationship with somebody that can betray you or even 80 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:08,360 abuse you. I pray that. 81 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:12,920 God will give you. Wisdom to manage your trust. 82 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:17,760 Because that's a. Lot of implication both on your 83 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:20,840 spirituality. And on your emotional stability? 84 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:24,880 In case you have ever experienced the. 85 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:28,720 Injury caused by betrayal or by any other. 86 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,840 Negative issues of. Trust in your relationship as I 87 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:33,640 bring the word. Of God, this moment. 88 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:39,440 The Lord will heal your wounds. In the name of Jesus. 89 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:41,760 I said the Lord. Will heal your wounds. 90 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:46,480 In the name of Jesus, listen to me and listen. 91 00:06:46,480 --> 00:06:49,720 Good, I have said this before. Maybe I should put it 92 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:52,360 differently. The first time I said it, I. 93 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:56,440 Said friendship. Is secret what I mean? 94 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,120 What I meant when I said is that. 95 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:01,440 Friendship is not cheap friendship. 96 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:05,440 Is something more than casual Friendship is costly. 97 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:10,760 Friendship is what is costly. You don't just go into 98 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:14,880 friendship only to get. And I pray that even where you 99 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:16,320 will get, you will get the right thing. 100 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:20,640 Hallelujah, you will get. The right thing. 101 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:25,440 In the name of Jesus, so you go into friendship. 102 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:32,400 Also to contribute so. When you are into friendship, 103 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:36,520 what transfer in? Friendship is both deeply 104 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:39,040 spiritual and critically. Emotional. 105 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:44,960 I've said two very important things where you are in 106 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:51,000 friendship, what transpire between you and your friend is 107 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:57,120 both deeply spiritual and. Critically emotional, so the. 108 00:07:57,160 --> 00:08:00,200 Effect of friendship is not just transactional. 109 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:04,160 OK every time I need urgent to key he. 110 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:07,080 Said urgent to key. I pray that that urgent. 111 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:11,080 To key. OK, will not become an. 112 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:13,960 Exchange for your destiny. In the name. 113 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:16,400 Of Jesus, so the. Effect of. 114 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:20,040 Friendship is not just transactional, it is 115 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:24,640 transgenerational. It is transgenerational and we 116 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:29,000 have studied how. What's the people? 117 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:33,400 Said inherited profited him. Praise the name of the Lord. 118 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:40,240 Praise the name of the Lord. And of course, what's Solomon 119 00:08:40,919 --> 00:08:44,840 and King Haram? Inherited profited them, but 120 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:48,800 it's not always so there are people. 121 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:53,480 That inherited bitterness and their life that was supposed to 122 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:55,320 be better. God destroyed. 123 00:08:56,400 --> 00:09:01,040 So friendship is not just transactional, it is 124 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:03,360 transgenerational. And. 125 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:07,160 This is the reason I. Pity young persons that think 126 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,680 that sex is. All that relationship is all 127 00:09:10,680 --> 00:09:13,640 about. Pretty young. 128 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:17,800 People that think sex. Is all that relationship or 129 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,960 friendship is all about. For. 130 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:29,560 Solomon, yes, inherited a very. Wonderful and good heritage in 131 00:09:29,560 --> 00:09:34,440 his father, but there's a second site to it which I will open 132 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:40,640 your eyes to before we begin to. Deep dig deeper into the issue 133 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:44,480 of trust. Solomon did not just inherit the 134 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:48,440 blessings of relationship. Established by his father, 135 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:55,080 David, you know, by the time we're studying Iran and. 136 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:58,280 Solomon OK, we. Were looking at the positive 137 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:03,160 side of the blessings that Solomon inherited. 138 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:08,280 Because of the relationship. That he had with Habiba, the 139 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:11,760 father of King era. It was a very profitable. 140 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:17,880 One, but may I say to you. Because friendship is not just. 141 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:21,200 Transactional, but transgenerational, that 142 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:26,200 sometimes you inherit both the blessing and the body. 143 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:30,200 You inherit good words, the blessing and the body. 144 00:10:30,200 --> 00:10:32,280 So Solomon did not. Just inherit the blessings. 145 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:34,400 Of relationship established by his. 146 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,520 Father David equally inherited the. 147 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:41,080 Body that evolved with them. Let's take our bearing from 148 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:45,360 First King chapter 2. We'll read the first 2 verses. 149 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:48,640 We jump to verse 5 and stop on verse 10. 150 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:54,160 First King chapter 2. Now the days of David Dunner 151 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:58,600 that he should die. OK. 152 00:10:58,680 --> 00:11:00,320 And you know the point of the death of. 153 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:03,320 A patriarch. Is also the beginning of. 154 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:07,560 In inheriting substance. Give that. 155 00:11:07,560 --> 00:11:12,160 Blessing or courses or body? Now the days of David Jonah. 156 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:14,920 That he should die and the chance Solomon is. 157 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:18,160 On saying I go. The way of all the Earth. 158 00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:22,800 You thou strong, therefore I'll see you thyself a man. 159 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:29,120 And then between verse 3 and 5. S 3 and. 160 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:32,000 Four he was. Talking about wonderful things, 161 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:37,440 OK. Pleasant inheritances, but from 162 00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:43,600 verse 5 that there's a body. You will also inherited the body 163 00:11:43,680 --> 00:11:47,800 of the wrong. Relationships that I entered and 164 00:11:47,800 --> 00:11:50,960 the battles thereof that I could not finish, you will have. 165 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:53,640 To take the battle of. I mean to hope I. 166 00:11:53,680 --> 00:11:56,320 Pray in the name of Jesus, you will not. 167 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:58,200 Inherit the battles of your father's. 168 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:03,320 That's why I said. Relationship friendship is not 169 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:04,440 just. Something casual. 170 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:07,200 It's not just something transactional, it's something 171 00:12:07,200 --> 00:12:14,440 trans generational. Moreover, first wife now knows 172 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:21,720 also what you have. The son of Ruchiruai did to me. 173 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:25,240 Wonderful friend, wonderful partner. 174 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:28,760 You want to. Look at it officially. 175 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:32,920 OK. Somebody very close to David 176 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:34,720 you? Want to look at it? 177 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:40,440 From the family level, somebody. Very close to David and. 178 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:42,520 What? It did to the 2. 179 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:46,800 Captains of the Horse of. Israel unto Habner, the son of 180 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:50,200 Nah. Unto Amasar, the son of Jetta. 181 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:53,480 Whom is new? And shed the. 182 00:12:53,480 --> 00:12:58,520 Blood of war in peace or the deputy? 183 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:03,480 O darasi dafi di loro. Solomoni O Madafi de Lugodos 184 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:08,640 embassy, I pray in the name of Jesus. 185 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:11,560 You will not inherit the wrong things. 186 00:13:11,560 --> 00:13:16,320 From your parents, in the name of Jesus, so. 187 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:21,280 Solomon was not the one that has. 188 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:27,800 Direct relationship with Dua. It was his father, David. 189 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:32,800 But Joab now has created a trouble for. 190 00:13:33,080 --> 00:13:37,680 David, who we now remedied Who? Will redeem the. 191 00:13:37,680 --> 00:13:46,080 Situation it is Solomon. And that's why I said when it 192 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:48,240 comes to the translation dimension of. 193 00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:51,640 Relationship that can be a. Transfer of either blessing or 194 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:57,720 body or boot. So rather than for Solomon to 195 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:02,000 start on the ground. OK, the. 196 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,480 First assignment he has to do was how? 197 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:08,120 Will he do a way? And eliminate the wrong 198 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:15,120 association around the truth. Womb is new and shed the blood. 199 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:17,440 Of war in peace, and put the blood of war upon. 200 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:19,440 His ghetto that it was about his loin. 201 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:21,560 And in his shoe that were on his. 202 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:25,200 Feet were seized do. Therefore, according to thy 203 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:28,920 wisdom, and let not his white head go down to the. 204 00:14:28,920 --> 00:14:35,560 Grave in peace now if God did not give. 205 00:14:36,040 --> 00:14:40,720 Solomon, the wisdom on how? To go about it by what the 206 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:49,120 public knew. About about Joab. 207 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:53,320 Relationship to David are you with me and. 208 00:14:53,320 --> 00:14:56,000 Solomon does. Come up on the troll. 209 00:14:56,240 --> 00:14:58,840 And started to walk against Doha. 210 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:02,400 The society we blame Solomon. Do you agree? 211 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:10,080 Because they were never part of this conversation when his 212 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:12,960 father was given the instruction that this man that looked like a 213 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:15,520 good man. OK, it's a bad element in the 214 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:21,880 system. AM I talking to somebody? 215 00:15:22,840 --> 00:15:25,480 So he inherited, not. Only the blessings of 216 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:28,520 relationship. That his father engaged in. 217 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:33,080 He also inherited words. The body, so the. 218 00:15:33,120 --> 00:15:37,880 Point I am pushing very hard is that relationship friendship is 219 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:43,440 not just transactional, it is also what transgenerational do. 220 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:46,280 Therefore, account of that wisdom and let Lord is why I had 221 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:48,400 go down. To the grave in peace. 222 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:53,000 Imagine Solomon did not apply wisdom, he just had that message 223 00:15:53,000 --> 00:15:56,320 and then the second. Day he make a pronounce a. 224 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:58,480 Pronouncement he made a decrease. 225 00:15:58,840 --> 00:16:02,360 Go and execute Joab. The old city will rise in opera 226 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:04,320 against Solomon. Am I talking to somebody? 227 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:08,680 If you know the. Kind of position. 228 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:13,440 Joab occupied in the Kingdom and the many battles in fourth. 229 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:17,560 And the many death secret he helps King David to keep. 230 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:27,880 When David killed Wire, the husband of Basheba, who has. 231 00:16:27,880 --> 00:16:30,240 Executed it. Who kept the secrets? 232 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:44,150 Joab verse 7 was still kindness of the of Basila the Galadite 233 00:16:44,910 --> 00:16:46,430 and. Let them be of. 234 00:16:46,430 --> 00:16:47,990 Those that eat at that. Table. 235 00:16:48,640 --> 00:16:51,560 For so they came to me. When I flared because of. 236 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:56,640 Absalom thy brother. So it's transgenerational. 237 00:16:56,760 --> 00:16:59,040 You inherit. The blessing you also inherit. 238 00:16:59,040 --> 00:17:03,680 Words the body for verse seven. It was the blessing, and behold 239 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:06,720 now as. With this see me the. 240 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:09,720 Son of Gira a Benjamin. Of boring. 241 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:13,319 Which cost me with a grievous course in the day. 242 00:17:13,319 --> 00:17:16,520 When I went to Mahinhal. But he came. 243 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:20,359 Down to meet me at the Jordan and I swear to him by the law 244 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:23,839 saying I will not. Put it to death with the sword. 245 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:32,880 From here, David is proving to be a very delicate father. 246 00:17:34,920 --> 00:17:40,360 Very what delicate father? You understand better as I push 247 00:17:40,360 --> 00:17:45,640 the teaching further, setting up his son. 248 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:54,920 To inherit his enemy. Yes, the man offended him. 249 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:57,800 The man came and. Pleaded and he. 250 00:17:57,840 --> 00:18:03,360 Pretended that it is all over but he's about to die and he say 251 00:18:03,360 --> 00:18:06,160 I am transferring. The man to you, go and deal with 252 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:13,960 him. So if you are not a wise son. 253 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:16,320 OK. You will not enjoy your whole 254 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:17,600 life. You'll be dealing with the. 255 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:20,720 Problem created by your parent. Problem of relationship created 256 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:28,360 by your parent. Now, therefore. 257 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:33,480 Hold him more, not ruthless. For thou and a wise man, and 258 00:18:33,480 --> 00:18:36,880 knowest what thou want us to. Do unto him but his. 259 00:18:36,880 --> 00:18:41,800 Warhead bring down down. To the grave with blood. 260 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:47,400 Yet the mission that Solomon had. 261 00:18:47,960 --> 00:18:50,120 To fulfil. Is the mission that was 262 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:53,840 accomplished with a hand that is not guilty of? 263 00:18:53,840 --> 00:18:58,520 Blood. David was to build the temple, 264 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:00,200 but God said you will not build the temple. 265 00:19:00,360 --> 00:19:03,800 Because your hand is. Full of words, blood and was not 266 00:19:03,800 --> 00:19:07,400 even careful that now this assignment to build the temple 267 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:10,440 has been transferred to. Solo mode, he's also trying to 268 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:11,280 say. Put. 269 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:15,960 Blood in your hand. If not for grace and wisdom, 270 00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:18,240 will Solomon be able to build the? 271 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:21,400 Temple, now that his father is. Also making him to begin. 272 00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:23,320 To. Shed blood. 273 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:34,000 Set him up to to to shed blood. You see, this life is deeper 274 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:35,000 than we. Take it AM. 275 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:40,000 I talking to somebody. So Davis left with his father. 276 00:19:40,120 --> 00:19:46,440 Own Barcelona I was. Buried. 277 00:19:46,440 --> 00:19:50,680 In the city of Davie. So from here. 278 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:53,960 We can deduce that the chief. Problem of some people is. 279 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:57,920 Not from the friend they. Made, but from the friends they 280 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:03,240 inherited all these. People that his father was 281 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:05,000 handing. Over to him to deal. 282 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:08,600 With OK. On the surface, they were 283 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:13,920 friends of his father. Are you with me? 284 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:21,880 But at the 2nd loop, by virtue of certain things that happen. 285 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,000 In the course of their. Relationship. 286 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:28,560 They were actually enemies. To David and David. 287 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:31,400 Did not have the boldness to confront them and deal with 288 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:38,910 them. So, Solomon. 289 00:20:38,910 --> 00:20:41,550 Was likable. He was just starting his 290 00:20:41,550 --> 00:20:45,190 Kingdom. Everyone respected. 291 00:20:45,190 --> 00:20:47,030 Him. Are you with me? 292 00:20:48,830 --> 00:20:52,670 But now his father is saying inherit my enemy. 293 00:20:55,120 --> 00:20:58,080 So if you are not wise. To take charge of your own 294 00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:02,320 destiny, you will quality in needless enemies. 295 00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:07,480 That will require you well. To hold on to. 296 00:21:07,520 --> 00:21:13,720 Past grievances and stereotypes. So the enemy. 297 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,120 Of my father must be my enemy, the enemy. 298 00:21:16,120 --> 00:21:18,040 Of my mother must be my enemy, the enemy. 299 00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:25,960 Of my uncle must be my enemy. You inherit needless enemy. 300 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:29,240 That will. Feel obligated to take side. 301 00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:37,760 Or seek revenge. So you feel obligated to either 302 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:40,120 take. Side or seek revenge. 303 00:21:41,120 --> 00:21:42,040 Revenge. For what? 304 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:45,160 Revenge for offences? That were not committed against 305 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:51,600 you and that's the way many of you are living your life. 306 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:59,400 The trouble you bring upon yourself, OK, We're not your own 307 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:01,560 trouble. Like just inheriting or that. 308 00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:07,800 People's enemy, So you. Equally inherit needless enemy. 309 00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:13,920 That will require you to. Let or allow historical 310 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:17,800 conflicts dictate present relationship. 311 00:22:20,240 --> 00:22:23,200 All this. Trouble that David was putting. 312 00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:26,400 Solomon. Into were historical conflicts 313 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:32,120 historical conflicts how? So so you how it? 314 00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:39,680 Happen even among communities. Hello community to. 315 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:41,560 Community historical conflict that does. 316 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:44,360 Not have anything. To do with you new generation I. 317 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:57,920 Will take it upon yourself. So, historical conflicts. 318 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:00,720 With dictates of pressure relationship. 319 00:23:01,120 --> 00:23:05,840 They are not wise. You will narrate needless 320 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:11,440 enemies that will require you to allow the weight of history and 321 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:16,800 emotions that are passed down to influence present dynamics. 322 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:19,360 Negatively, which ought not to be. 323 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,320 And of course. In your own. 324 00:23:24,360 --> 00:23:27,080 Innocence. As a matter of fact, there are 325 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:30,280 people. Who hate you simply because you? 326 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:37,520 Fail to inherit their enemies you know there are uncles that 327 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:38,960 we. Hate you simply because. 328 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:40,560 You did not inherit. This enemy. 329 00:23:45,360 --> 00:23:48,440 There are Royals, fathers who we have to simply because we don't 330 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:57,200 inherit their enemy. Am I talking to somebody when 331 00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:59,920 they are allowed to? Say no more, Shakini. 332 00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:12,320 When I say this, I am. Speaking from the point of. 333 00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:18,600 Personal experience because I have observed it, I have 334 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:22,200 experienced it. There are people who we 335 00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:24,560 personally. Call me, I said of. 336 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,240 Course, we love you. You're a wonderful brother. 337 00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:30,920 We love your messages. You are a man of integrity. 338 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,480 We will appreciate your leadership and capacity. 339 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:39,720 But this your political friends? And I asked them. 340 00:24:40,360 --> 00:24:42,680 What is your business with my? Political friend, how have they 341 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:44,520 offended you? Because of what? 342 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:49,280 People are saying about them we don't expect you to gravitate 343 00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:54,640 towards them and they were not the one. 344 00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:58,000 Who called me Are you? With me, they don't understand 345 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,240 my own mandates. Am I? 346 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,920 Talking to somebody. And if I were not wise, I was 347 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:12,320 stupidly inherit their so-called and. 348 00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:14,760 So there are many quarters where enemies are available for 349 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,800 inheritance. There are many quarters where 350 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:19,200 enemies are available for inheritance. 351 00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:24,720 Let me point to some of them in the family setting, particularly 352 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:27,560 in the polygamous room. Press the. 353 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:33,360 Name of the Lord God. Has lifted your step brother and 354 00:25:33,360 --> 00:25:34,920 is in a. Position to help you. 355 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:38,480 But because your mother didn't love your stepbrother. 356 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,280 OK. Even when your stepbrother. 357 00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:43,600 Is innocent. You also inherit. 358 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:48,600 Him as your enemy from your mother rather than be a 359 00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:54,360 peacemaker and set to the issue now that you are a child of God 360 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,320 even though you come from a polygamous room. 361 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,360 Seek for peace. Don't have to be problem. 362 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:04,080 You will need wisdom to do it. May the Lord grant you wisdom 363 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:06,280 you will need discernment to. Do it. 364 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:09,720 With regard to discernment in the name of Jesus. 365 00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:12,560 If you will allow those. People to walk or you don't sit 366 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:17,040 down one day why am I actually fighting on why am I fighting 367 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:23,200 sister so you've got this problem should not be there all 368 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:26,800 because on both sides you have. Decided to inherit your. 369 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:32,600 Mothers or fathers? Am I talking to somebody and 370 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:35,720 there are fathers like Baby? OK, we will not deal. 371 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:36,440 With their. Problem. 372 00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:38,520 They will transfer them. To you the way, David. 373 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:49,800 Was transferring those things to Solomon Neighborhood is another 374 00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:53,560 quarters where enemies are available for inheritance. 375 00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:58,480 In the neighborhood. You just discover that in the 376 00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:03,160 neighborhood, the person you. Gravitate to us does not. 377 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:07,680 Like the other neighbor and that other neighbor has not done 378 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:11,920 anything wrong to you, but this other person draw you. 379 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:13,760 Close. So that you can join. 380 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:18,760 Hand. To fight the other person you do 381 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:28,380 have even the place of work. Then community to community 382 00:27:30,060 --> 00:27:36,640 press the name of the law, the patriarchs of the community that 383 00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:40,920 had issues among them, they are long dead and long gone. 384 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:45,440 OK, and for no reason. OK, you just vow. 385 00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,400 I cannot marry from that town. OK. 386 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:49,920 Why can't you marry from that town? 387 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:52,640 That community, That our community. 388 00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:55,960 Were never friends. In the 21st century. 389 00:27:59,960 --> 00:28:08,000 He's got talking to somebody. Ditto for tribe and then 390 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:13,440 political enemies. Hello, you are not a politician. 391 00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:17,760 Are you with me? But you hate. 392 00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:25,000 Article more than OB OK. Who was once a running mate of 393 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:29,240 article who may probably work. Again with article in the 394 00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:35,800 future. Am I talking to somebody? 395 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:39,280 Just wake up and. Face your own. 396 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:44,840 Destiny so I can go on and on and on sighting platforms where 397 00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:49,600 enemies are Boku for inheritance and only those who are not wise, 398 00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:53,200 OK, we'll be inheriting other people's enemy. 399 00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:57,800 So friendship where you understand. 400 00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,680 Stand it. For the background of maturity 401 00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:06,920 and mental sanity, it is more about personal trust. 402 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,320 Mutual good. Than about primordial. 403 00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:15,400 Sentiments. Are you with me? 404 00:29:18,160 --> 00:29:22,080 So there's a need. For you to reorientate. 405 00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:25,360 Yourself about friendship, that friendship. 406 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:29,120 Should not be about primordial. Sentiments. 407 00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:33,920 Don't pick a friend. Based on primordial sentiment 408 00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,840 and don't make somebody. Your enemy based. 409 00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:41,320 On primordial sentiment, friendship, if you understand it 410 00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:46,480 properly from the background of maturity and mental sanity, it 411 00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:50,920 is more about personal trust. Can I trust this person and if I 412 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:55,240 gravitate towards this person? Can there be mutual good? 413 00:29:56,520 --> 00:30:00,120 So from the background of maturity and mental sanity, 414 00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:05,520 friendship is more about personal trust, mutual good and 415 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:11,760 has nothing to do or should have nothing to do with the model 416 00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:15,120 settlements. Let's consider a few phases of 417 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,440 the scripture that deals with issue of. 418 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:24,920 Friendship and. Why trusts should drive 419 00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:34,120 friendship Proverb 1824 A man that had friends must see 420 00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:41,800 himself friendly, and there is a friend that sticketh closer than 421 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:45,800 a brother. If the Lord will help you. 422 00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:50,480 And you will choose where. You will discover that you will 423 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:54,800 not just have fear whether people around you that will only 424 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:58,240 be there. To help you lick the finger. 425 00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:02,280 Of oil, let me put it Italian, like that, Waste said among my. 426 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:06,240 People will always put. The Araya Vanilla Vanilla tea. 427 00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:09,960 Again, OK. That's when there is. 428 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:14,600 Only on your finger to. Lick There are people around. 429 00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:18,960 You to come and lick. It but if it is a blood they run 430 00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:22,720 away from you. Praise the name of the Lord now. 431 00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:27,160 So if you will. Go into friendship and 432 00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:33,920 relationship. Well guided and your friendship 433 00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:37,680 is not driven by primordial sentiments such as I have 434 00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:40,640 highlighted. You will discover that. 435 00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:42,920 You will be in a. Position to be a good. 436 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,480 Friend, you can attract good people. 437 00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:52,440 More often than not, your. Friend is a reflection of who 438 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:57,440 you are you will always attract your time. 439 00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:01,840 Am I talking to somebody so a man that had friend must see 440 00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:07,400 himself friendly and as a friend that stick it closer than a 441 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:14,080 brother. Proverb 27 five and six open 442 00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:20,680 review is better than secret love so which means where your 443 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:26,000 friend is to see based on trust and not on primordial sentiment, 444 00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:30,280 you will discover that the. Boldness, even your 445 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:34,400 relationship. Not sacrificing. 446 00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,800 A true friend. OK, we'll. 447 00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:41,680 Be able. To stand up to you. 448 00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:45,800 And say my friend, on this matter we will not agree because 449 00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:52,360 you are wrong. Are you with me SO. 450 00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:55,680 Open rebuke is better than secret love. 451 00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:59,920 I will be able to. Trust your friend, OK even. 452 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:12,280 When by error by wrong. Judgments. 453 00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,120 It did something. To you, that is not pleasing. 454 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:19,240 OK, you will take it as. Open a book. 455 00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:24,280 Which is better than what? Secrets love because some people 456 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,600 will claim. To love you but they. 457 00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:30,280 Will not be able to stand up and be open to defend you. 458 00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:35,840 Are you with me? A good. 459 00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:39,520 Friend OK will be able. To stand up. 460 00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:41,320 Against you where? You are wrong in the public. 461 00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:43,600 And then? It will also be able. 462 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:46,440 To stand up to support. You where you are to be 463 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,680 rubbished? Am I talking to somebody? 464 00:33:50,200 --> 00:33:53,200 You will be balanced. Hopeful rebuke is better than 465 00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,680 secret law. Verse 6. 466 00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:59,960 Proverbs 27. Faithful are the wounds. 467 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:05,240 Of a friend now. Before you will be able. 468 00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,000 To. Operate friendship at that 469 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:13,080 level. Trust must exist. 470 00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:17,840 What do I say must exist trust, faithful are the wounds of a. 471 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:23,480 Friend, but the kisses. Of our enemy are deceitful, I 472 00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:24,639 often. Leave you to pray. 473 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:29,159 I don't know whether you take. That prayer seriously, that in 474 00:34:29,159 --> 00:34:33,679 your relationship you will not mistake deception. 475 00:34:33,960 --> 00:34:38,000 For reception that day when Judas. 476 00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:39,440 Came. OK. 477 00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:41,520 I. Didn't come with a hot. 478 00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:44,639 Slap. On the cheek of Jesus, but it 479 00:34:44,639 --> 00:34:46,400 came with a. Gentle kiss. 480 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:51,360 That was a deception, and there are many. 481 00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:57,160 People like that, OK, And if you are not wise, you will mistake 482 00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:06,160 deception for? What reception 1717 of Proverbs? 483 00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:14,280 A friend love it at all time, and a brother is born for 484 00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:18,400 adversity. A friend loves at all time. 485 00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,240 When things are going well with you is there. 486 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,280 When it is the other way around, is what is there. 487 00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:33,640 So what is it that can make you? Have such kind of friendship 488 00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:42,920 because among all that levels of relationship, friendship is. 489 00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:46,800 Top notch, hello. Friendship is what is top notch. 490 00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:52,800 There are deep things that your friend will know. 491 00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:54,840 About you that your. Friend may not be aware of. 492 00:35:56,960 --> 00:36:02,240 Am I talking to somebody? Except you make your wife your 493 00:36:02,240 --> 00:36:04,400 friend. There are deep things. 494 00:36:05,720 --> 00:36:07,240 A friend. Outside will know about you that 495 00:36:07,240 --> 00:36:11,080 your wife may. Not know Detroit or husband am I 496 00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:15,000 talking to somebody and that's why. 497 00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:19,360 Even my relationship, if it is not addressed to the level of 498 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:23,000 friendship, it's just. My husband and my wife. 499 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:27,760 It has limitation. Our Lord Jesus Christ when he 500 00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:29,920 was relating. With his disciple it was. 501 00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:36,360 A master disciple relationship. But it got. 502 00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:41,080 To a point, Say at this point I no longer call you my disciple, 503 00:36:41,240 --> 00:36:46,320 I call you my friends. You rested to level. 504 00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:52,280 What friendship? So what makes friendship so 505 00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,720 exceptional among? Other levels. 506 00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:57,880 Of. Interpersonal relationship is 507 00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:05,760 trust. Trust must initiate friendship. 508 00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:14,560 Don't gamble with your destiny. Don't call somebody your friends 509 00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:21,080 that you cannot trust. Any claim to friendship without 510 00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:26,840 trust is for school. Any claim to friendship without. 511 00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:32,480 Trust is what's for school. It is self delusional. 512 00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:35,720 To claim to be in. Friendship with a person that. 513 00:37:35,720 --> 00:37:41,000 Cannot trust you. You are deceiving yourself. 514 00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:46,720 If you take for a friend, somebody. 515 00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:52,720 That cannot trust you and then on your part too, it is 516 00:37:52,720 --> 00:37:58,560 fraudulent to. Claim or pretend to be a. 517 00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:00,960 Friend in the recess of the war to. 518 00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:06,200 A person you do not trust. Oh, my covenant friend. 519 00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,240 And acetone is by yeah. Yeah. 520 00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:15,640 Am I talking to somebody? It's fraudulent on your part. 521 00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:19,760 That you cannot trust somebody. And you say that person. 522 00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:24,440 Is your friend and of. Course it is delusional. 523 00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:28,160 If you take for a friend. Somebody that you know very 524 00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:35,720 clearly that this person don't trust me, of course I said there 525 00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:38,760 are other levels of relationship it's. 526 00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:43,280 OK, to be a partner. It's OK to be a recruiters to 527 00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:46,200 anyone but to. Call the relationship pressive 528 00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:57,800 trust must be staked. Hello to call somebody a friend. 529 00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:03,200 Trust must be invested, and from both sides. 530 00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,080 It's not just I. Trust you don't trust me it. 531 00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:10,000 Must be about I trust you and you do what? 532 00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:15,840 You trust. Me so essentially trust. 533 00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:22,920 Is the soul of friendship trust? Is what the soul of friendship? 534 00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:30,200 The focus is trust management. That's what we're looking at 535 00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,400 today. But somebody would say. 536 00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:34,840 If you are saying trust. In the soul of friendship. 537 00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:40,800 How about love so we are trust in the soul of. 538 00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:43,520 Friendship, love is. Its backbone. 539 00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:52,160 Love is what? The backbone of friendship, but 540 00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,480 before you talk. About love, you must first talk 541 00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:59,320 about trust. It is trust that gives life to 542 00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:03,920 friendship. What gives life to friendship? 543 00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:10,200 Trust and that is why friendship is expensive, emotionally 544 00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:14,920 expensive because if you have. Gone all through. 545 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:19,560 The road to the point of no return, I discovered. 546 00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:23,000 That trust is not there. You'll be devastated. 547 00:40:24,240 --> 00:40:32,480 Am I talking to somebody so trust give life to friendship 548 00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:36,600 where there is no. Trust friendship does. 549 00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:37,280 Not. Exist. 550 00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,480 You will be calling it friendship, OK, but it's not. 551 00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:46,120 Friendship where there is no trust, Friendship does not 552 00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:52,280 exist. For love, love only coordinates. 553 00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:55,400 And sustain what trust commenced. 554 00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:01,280 Hello. Trust, we commence it. 555 00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:05,640 Trust with. Triguide are you with me? 556 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:10,720 You will not bring in love to. Coordinate and to sustain it. 557 00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:17,080 So in the contest of friendship, I carry. 558 00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:21,320 God beg you, brothers and sisters, fathers and mothers, 559 00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:27,720 children and mentees, I carry. God beg you in the. 560 00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:31,840 Contest of friendship you must trust. 561 00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:39,080 Before you love and nowadays. OK, when you are thinking about 562 00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:43,960 who to marry, OK, jokingly we say you want to do sushi before 563 00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:46,440 you do sushi. Are you with me? 564 00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:48,600 Before you do, sister, will you do? 565 00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,000 Before you say brother. I would do. 566 00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:53,880 Trust. Before you love. 567 00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:59,400 And that's why I have. Pleaded with you that. 568 00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,720 In the course of the programs you are going to be having 569 00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:07,560 during the Valentine's season, let's what I am teaching you 570 00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:12,920 now, from the center of your discussion, go and beat it. 571 00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:14,760 Go and talk. About it, but you will. 572 00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:19,160 Discover that at the end of the day, what I'm saying is a 573 00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:26,800 Destiny protective mask is what? A Destiny protective mask. 574 00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:33,720 In the context of friendship, you must trust before you what? 575 00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:37,280 You love if you put. Love. 576 00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:41,400 Ahead of the convincing. And a reasonable ground for. 577 00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:47,720 Trust emotions will take over. That's where it's delicate. 578 00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:53,280 To put love ahead of. Trust once you allow love. 579 00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:55,200 To take the lead before you have. 580 00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:59,080 A convincing and. Reasonable ground for trolls. 581 00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:02,920 Emotions will take over there. You are going to. 582 00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:05,600 Become dull. To signals of betrayal. 583 00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:11,440 That's why they say love is blind. 584 00:43:13,240 --> 00:43:15,640 Hello. That's why they say what love. 585 00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:18,840 Is blind. It means that love had that 586 00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:21,640 capacity. To make you dull. 587 00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:28,120 To signals of betrayal. Even when the person is 588 00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,760 intentionally doing. You evil, you love. 589 00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:33,280 Will make you generate justification for it. 590 00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:41,160 Am I talking to somebody? So. 591 00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:44,400 And the reason you must hear this advice is because 592 00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:52,440 friendship with past emotion. Friendship with Demand your 593 00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:56,840 emotion Friendship with Tap from your emotion Friendship with. 594 00:43:56,840 --> 00:44:00,840 Drain your emotion I. Mentioned to you in the course 595 00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:05,680 of previous studies that emotion. 596 00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:10,680 Is part of the capital or the major capital you pay to sustain 597 00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:15,400 friendship? But I beg you. 598 00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,440 Emotion must not be the. First Capital you will invest. 599 00:44:20,720 --> 00:44:24,920 First invest intellect before you invest emotion. 600 00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:34,160 Years back I taught you here that a man that will. 601 00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:39,080 Give a room in your. Heart must pass through the. 602 00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:42,960 Corridor of your mind. Am I talking to somebody? 603 00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,240 A man? A woman. 604 00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:49,800 That will give a room in your. Heart, because your heart is the 605 00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:54,960 seat of emotion once it gets to your heart. 606 00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:59,760 Recently suspended. Are you with me? 607 00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:05,160 So therefore a man. That will occupy a permanent 608 00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:06,080 room. A woman. 609 00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:09,880 That will occupy a permanent room in your heart as a friend 610 00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:14,160 must first pass through. The corridor of your. 611 00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:18,240 Mind there? You'll be able to interview 612 00:45:18,720 --> 00:45:20,120 there. You'll be able. 613 00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:24,080 To check, there you'll be. Able to assess sincerity of 614 00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:30,960 purpose, so friendship with tax emotion. 615 00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:35,480 Don't allow emotion to be the. First, capital you interest, you 616 00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:38,400 invest into friendship. Why? 617 00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:44,520 Because trust is so expensive that. 618 00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:47,840 It must not be. Invested outside deep 619 00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:56,600 intellectual considerations. Don't invest trust outside deep 620 00:45:56,640 --> 00:46:01,320 intellectual consideration. You must come the course. 621 00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:06,760 You must do what? Did you hear what I said last? 622 00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:11,480 You must do what you can the 'cause that's what you do when 623 00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:14,400 you are taking that person through the corridor of your 624 00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:16,640 mind before you open the door of your heart. 625 00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:24,600 So you must count the 'cause. You must be convinced. 626 00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:29,480 That the long term. Benefits outweigh the emotional. 627 00:46:29,800 --> 00:46:31,800 And other. Demand you will cure. 628 00:46:32,040 --> 00:46:34,360 In the cause of friendship goods. 629 00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:43,480 And that is why I advocate very strongly. 630 00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:47,040 I recommend very strongly. I advise very strongly. 631 00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:56,560 Maybe I command you or commend you that friendship must not be 632 00:46:56,560 --> 00:47:00,480 rushed. Friendship must not be what? 633 00:47:01,080 --> 00:47:04,480 Rushed. It will be allowed to evolve, 634 00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,280 that's why I classify. Friendship to you. 635 00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:15,560 As both organic and mechanic, mechanic and I recommend to you 636 00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:20,680 the organic type of friendship. Because the organic one will. 637 00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:23,400 Evolve. It will take time, it will pass 638 00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:27,920 through natural processes. It cannot be manipulated, it 639 00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:32,000 cannot be organized. So let's. 640 00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:36,760 Your friendship be more. Organic than mechanical don't 641 00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:38,720 force. It with. 642 00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:45,120 Oaths and emotional outbursts. Many of you are forcing. 643 00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:47,560 It if truly. You are my friend. 644 00:47:47,720 --> 00:47:49,760 If you truly, you will. Marry me. 645 00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,840 Let's let's let's. Enter Covenant. 646 00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:55,400 That's mechanical. It's not organic. 647 00:47:56,040 --> 00:48:00,200 Am I talking to somebody and they can come with them? 648 00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:06,440 Monique Calle, you are setting yourself up for betrayal. 649 00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:09,120 You are forcing it. You are harassing it. 650 00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:15,440 There are some of you you are using. 651 00:48:15,720 --> 00:48:24,760 Your your your. Feminine nature, OK of being 652 00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:31,280 able to easily breakdown in the motion, OK to force it and then 653 00:48:32,280 --> 00:48:34,720 reminds not interested. But the way you always. 654 00:48:34,720 --> 00:48:36,360 Cry on him. Cry on. 655 00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:39,760 Him, you'll be feeling guilty. And if I leave, it's not going 656 00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:40,400 to be. Good and. 657 00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:46,640 Then the person is going on, not on that, not on that empathy, 658 00:48:46,640 --> 00:48:48,320 but it's going on that same party. 659 00:48:53,710 --> 00:48:59,430 I think I should. Repeat by saying friendship. 660 00:48:59,430 --> 00:49:03,350 Must not be rushed. It will be allowed to evolve. 661 00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:06,560 Let's be more organic than mechanical. 662 00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:11,600 Don't force it with oats. And emotional abuse. 663 00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:20,040 And of course, why do? You need to take oats as a child 664 00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:23,200 of God. If you must wear and go through 665 00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:25,720 aquatic ritual to sustain friendship, then there's. 666 00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:27,400 No soul. Born. 667 00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,960 Born out of trust in it, if there is trust. 668 00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:33,640 Are you with me? You will not have to. 669 00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:38,000 Go through that process of occultic ritual to sustain the 670 00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:40,640 friendship. And of course. 671 00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,880 Such is not. Love if you do it. 672 00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:47,920 Rather, I call it self-inflicted bondage. 673 00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:53,000 Self-inflicted words. Bondage. 674 00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:57,080 Because we have to go. On OK even when all the signals 675 00:49:57,160 --> 00:49:59,160 are there that you should not continue. 676 00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:05,320 But because the moment you came together, you do blood boots. 677 00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:10,920 What is people teach us is let your years. 678 00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:16,400 Be yes, your no is no. Anything outside that is saying 679 00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:19,680 that is dividing. Am I talking to somebody? 680 00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:26,480 We are looking at the topic trust management in friendship 681 00:50:28,240 --> 00:50:34,000 and these are the deep things. Of relationship beyond Who do I 682 00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:37,920 marry? I don't want anybody tomorrow to 683 00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:41,000 hear and say even in Oasis they don't teach us a marriage 684 00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:42,840 seminar. What marriage seminar can be 685 00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:46,960 more than this? If you are put your heart to 686 00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:49,760 what we are teaching you. Am I talking to somebody? 687 00:50:54,760 --> 00:51:10,360 So whether private blood oath? Before any shrine or anything 688 00:51:10,400 --> 00:51:15,440 like that, they are on unhurriedly on Christian. 689 00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:17,280 Let your years be. Yes. 690 00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:26,160 Anything otherwise is a sin. I feel tempted to stop, but it's 691 00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:28,000 important. So that we have the. 692 00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:28,800 Correct. Flu. 693 00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:31,400 But I will come back. Next week to also let you know 694 00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:36,960 this, when I say don't rush it, I must say friendship cannot be 695 00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:42,360 spontaneous. Hello, I'm not saying friendship 696 00:51:42,360 --> 00:51:44,200 cannot be. Spontaneous. 697 00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:46,720 I'm not saying it. Cannot be loved. 698 00:51:46,720 --> 00:51:51,320 At first sight. It can be but its. 699 00:51:51,320 --> 00:51:57,880 Growth must not be sporadic. Love can be spontaneous. 700 00:51:58,160 --> 00:52:02,040 But the growth of it. Must not be sporadic. 701 00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:07,240 That's why I said don't trust it so when it occurs. 702 00:52:07,240 --> 00:52:10,640 To you when it comes. To your mind OK when you see 703 00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:11,520 that? Brother. 704 00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:14,960 When you see that person. And your heart is warm. 705 00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:19,160 Towards that person, I'm not. Saying cut it off or perish the 706 00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:21,160 thoughts. Allow the thoughts. 707 00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:25,560 Are you with me? But don't let the growth be 708 00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:31,360 sporadic. Let's. 709 00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:39,680 Whatever. Click. 710 00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:46,080 At first sight have time to go allow. 711 00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:54,720 For you to truly flourish. Let there be some intentional 712 00:52:54,720 --> 00:52:58,200 effort demonstrated, and let there be consistency. 713 00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:01,000 So friendship can be spontaneous. 714 00:53:01,720 --> 00:53:04,440 But its. Group must not be sporadic, it 715 00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:06,320 can just click. At four sides. 716 00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:09,000 But for you to truly. Flourish. 717 00:53:09,600 --> 00:53:12,720 There needs to be some. Intentional efforts and 718 00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:22,210 consistency, so the growth of love and. 719 00:53:22,210 --> 00:53:28,210 Friendship must not be like random and all over the place. 720 00:53:29,090 --> 00:53:33,370 Sarcophagic dripping stones where somebody is just take 721 00:53:33,370 --> 00:53:36,000 managing it. OK, the person is all around 722 00:53:36,000 --> 00:53:37,440 you. When the when the friends are 723 00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:39,160 there. But the same person. 724 00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:44,040 Can slap you in the secrets. When I know AM. 725 00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:50,360 I talking to somebody. So when we are talking about 726 00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:55,760 trust, we are not saying trust is not abstracts. 727 00:53:56,840 --> 00:53:59,200 We are not. Saying trust is something that 728 00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:01,240 you will see and. Say it is white. 729 00:54:01,520 --> 00:54:06,560 Gray or yellow in colour? So trust may not be totally 730 00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:13,120 proofable empirically, but let it stand on a rational 731 00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:16,440 reasonable. Ground I live for Julie. 732 00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:19,080 Hello. But when it is there, you know 733 00:54:19,080 --> 00:54:21,960 that it is there if you don't suspend your. 734 00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:24,800 Brain if you don't suspend. Your mind? 735 00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:28,320 Am I talking to somebody? Deception is not too difficult 736 00:54:29,720 --> 00:54:36,080 to discover. The moment you don't put. 737 00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:40,480 Love ahead of trust am I talking to? 738 00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:42,840 Somebody it will be very easy for you to. 739 00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:52,180 Detect deception when you. Put love ahead of trust. 740 00:54:54,660 --> 00:54:55,980 It. Will not allow for rational. 741 00:54:55,980 --> 00:54:59,820 Evidence, but when it is. Trust it will be. 742 00:54:59,820 --> 00:55:03,880 Based on convincing grounds that can serve as regulator. 743 00:55:04,120 --> 00:55:08,960 For over boiling love. Love can be over boiling. 744 00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:11,600 Are you with me? But. 745 00:55:11,760 --> 00:55:16,840 When trust is there, it is trust and the elements of trust, the 746 00:55:16,880 --> 00:55:18,840 casualties of trust. OK. 747 00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:23,920 The things that trust does will serve as regulator for over 748 00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:29,320 boiling love so that the moment. You say there is love there, 749 00:55:29,320 --> 00:55:31,880 particularly romantic love. And at the. 750 00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:34,920 End of the day, there is trust deficiency. 751 00:55:39,240 --> 00:55:43,240 Run for your dear life. If your boiling love will not. 752 00:55:43,240 --> 00:55:46,960 Lead to emotional. Bonds, trust must be established 753 00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:51,720 before love is suspended. The same thing I said before is 754 00:55:51,720 --> 00:55:54,800 what I'm saying. Again in a different way as we 755 00:55:54,800 --> 00:55:57,360 close. That if. 756 00:55:57,480 --> 00:56:02,200 You're boiling, love will not. Lead to emotional bonds. 757 00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:07,520 Trust must be established before love is suspended. 758 00:56:08,720 --> 00:56:15,520 Trust is the core, the essence of friendship, while love, like 759 00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:21,080 I said earlier, is the backbone. Love is the backbone, providing 760 00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:27,640 structure and support trust. Give friendship its depths. 761 00:56:30,320 --> 00:56:34,640 Hello friendship. Has depths where there is trust. 762 00:56:35,280 --> 00:56:37,120 If there is no trust and only love. 763 00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:41,560 Is shallow trust. Give friendship in death and 764 00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:43,080 love. Give. 765 00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:47,120 It stability and strength. I am not saying. 766 00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:53,640 Don't love, are you with me so. What I allow trust? 767 00:56:54,480 --> 00:56:56,600 To. Give your friendship depths 768 00:56:57,080 --> 00:56:58,800 then. Long without setting. 769 00:56:59,080 --> 00:57:02,280 To give it stability. And strength. 770 00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:06,440 And of course, it is not one without the other. 771 00:57:06,560 --> 00:57:09,560 That is the balance. It is not one the other. 772 00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:12,960 Sometimes it's a solution of the egg and the chicken. 773 00:57:13,440 --> 00:57:15,600 I want to see which one comes first. 774 00:57:15,960 --> 00:57:20,120 You see the egg or the chicken intentionally. 775 00:57:20,480 --> 00:57:24,960 OK, allow trust. To take the lead, God. 776 00:57:24,960 --> 00:57:29,440 Bless you, I say. God bless you in Jesus name. 777 00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:31,800 It's a. Flow. 778 00:57:35,240 --> 00:57:39,200 That I will I. Will not want to. 779 00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:44,120 To break but I have to so it is in the same light we are going 780 00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:46,640 to. Continue next week. 781 00:57:48,200 --> 00:57:54,120 I said about older people, we are doing damage control about 782 00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:58,000 younger people. You have opportunity to set it 783 00:57:58,680 --> 00:58:01,520 right. Praise the name of the Lord. 784 00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:07,680 God bless you in Jesus name. We believe you'll be blessed by 785 00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:11,520 the ministry of this message. You will do well to be the doer 786 00:58:11,520 --> 00:58:15,280 of all you've heard. For further inquiry and 787 00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:24,240 spiritual help, contact this number is 08035685882 or worship 788 00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:28,960 with us at Oasis of Wisdom Bible Church or Justin's University of 789 00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:32,160 Ellorin Teaching Hospital. OK, OK, say Ellorin. 790 00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:33,040 God bless you.