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Don't be left in the dark, get 
proper understanding of fly 

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through the Word of God. 
My people perish for lack of 

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knowledge. 
The Word of God is an 

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illumination which gives 
direction. 

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Remember please, as Reverend was
fallen illuminates your mind 

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with the Word of God with all 
simplicity and clarity. 

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The topic is still lessons on 
friendship, the principle of 

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clubbing to climb, and it's 
looking like this message will 

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crossover into 2026. 
Praise the name of the Lord. 

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Now we have dedicated the last 
two sessions of the study to 

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examine the characteristics of 
organic friendship. 

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You will recollect that we 
categorize friendship, the 

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evolution of it into two major 
category, the organic friendship

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and the mechanical friendship. 
And we pick on David and 

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Jonathan and we probe their 
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And we found out that their 
friendship is an excellent model

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of organic friendship where 
there is symbiotic relationship,

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where reciprocation surpass 
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And of course specifically last 
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our study on the evolution of 
organic friendship from non 

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premediated contacts that will 
go past contracts to become a 

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covenant with transgenerational 
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That if it is an organic 
relationship, organic 

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friendship, it will start by 
contacts and it is not going to 

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be characterized by contracts, 
but rather it will go beyond 

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contracts to a level of 
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And that convenance can outlive 
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become a transgenerational kind 
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prospects for children yet 
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And in while we were examining 
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and Jonathan, we saw how that 
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How many bosses? 
The son of Jonathan eventually 

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became a beneficiary of the good
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father Jonathan. 
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attained the truth, is said to 
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Is there anyone left of the 
household of soul that I may 

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honor him, that I am a blessing,
that I may reciprocate the 

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kindness of my friend Jonathan? 
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I want to do this for the sake 
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So an organic relationship that 
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between David and Jonathan. 
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Jonathan, all he did to David 
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Then he died, The family of 
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David. 
But David said in spite of what 

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Saul did to me, I still have the
obligation to pay the loan of 

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kindness that Jonathan so to me.
So it was an organic kind of 

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relationship that has this 
characteristics of starting as a

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contact went beyond contract to 
become a covenant with every 

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transgenerational prospects that
made people said eventually 

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benefit. 
I pray that in your choice of a 

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friend you will not pick a wrong
person, that you will regret the

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relationship in the name of 
Jesus. 

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And so today we are going to 
probe further the translational 

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prospects of an organic 
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And God's willing, we will also 
touch on how to preserve it if 

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you have it, if you are 
privileged to have it, how to 

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preserve it, and if you are 
privileged to inherit it, how to

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preserve it because many people 
said inherited it. 

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The father, the friend of his 
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Praise the name of the law. 
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for young people that are listed
to me that the relationships 

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built by your parent may come to
you very cheaply and a lot of 

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you have benefited that very 
cheaply. 

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OK, your father will just give 
you is, is it complementary card

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or you call it and then you just
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given a job. 
You just walk into an office and

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you are given admission, praise 
the name of the Lord. 

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Somebody just meets you and say,
oh, you are the son of so, so, 

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so, so, so, so, so. 
OK, meet me. 

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There's an opportunity somewhere
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So it will come here as a result
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privileged to have parents, OK, 
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behave responsibly and build 
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So it may come to you very 
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Therefore keep it. 
Therefore manage it. 

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Therefore handle it sensibly 
because it will be disastrous if

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you mismanage it and lose it by 
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Lose it by your careless 
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So generally when we talk about 
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emotionally demanding. 
That friendship that has crossed

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over to you and you are 
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the people that started it lots 
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So friendship generally is 
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it is a good one, when you are 
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a pleasant emotional experience.
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sacred matter. 
It's more sacred than the casual

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way some young people take it. 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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So it is emotionally the Monday 
and when you are getting it 

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right, you will enjoy pleasant 
emotional experience, no 

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heartbreak, nobody is having you
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But when you don't understand 
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the emotional implication of 
friendship, when they start, you

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break fast, then you are 
destabilized, you become 

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depressed, you are contemplating
committing suicide. 

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OK, you are no longer getting it
right in your study. 

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It's just because somebody serve
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Am I talking to somebody? 
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starting this whole thing, you 
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emotional demand attached to 
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So because of the emotional 
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relationship, you need to enter 
every level of relationship 

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cautiously and prayerfully 
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can be emotionally devastating. 
It's emotionally demanding. 

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Bless that experience. 
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it wrong, it will be emotionally
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I pray in the name of Jesus, the
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It will help you against going 
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friendship that will devastate 
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Jesus. 
So every form of friendship, for

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every form of friendship, casual
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demand the expendition of 
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There's no way you enter a 
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friendship that you will not 
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Am I talking to somebody? 
So, you should therefore make 

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the choice of your friend 
wisely, make it prayerfully and 

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audit the relationship 
regularly. 

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I've said three critical thing, 
make the choice wisely, make the

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choice prayerfully and thirdly, 
audit the relationship 

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regularly. 
And may I guide you on how to 

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audit your relationship or 
friendship? 

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You need to ask the question 
what am I giving? 

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Hello, what am I giving? 
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things you look for or look up 
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principalities substance. 
So you yourself that is going to

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a relationship, what are you 
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So what am I giving? 
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yourself then why auditing your 
relationship? 

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You also need to ask what am I 
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Hello, what am I getting? 
You must not be selfish in 

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relationship but at the same 
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relationship. 
It's not the best that you are 

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giving everything and you are 
not getting anything. 

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The proportion may not balance, 
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relationship where you don't 
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contribute materially. 
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contribute. 
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example of David and Jonathan, 
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Pisa background. 
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background of baby, it was still
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Are we together? 
It was still contributing much. 

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So you should ask yourself what 
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Because if you are into a 
relationship, the one that is 

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not contributing anything, I 
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Are we together? 
So the one that is not making 

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effort to contribute something 
to be suspected. 

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And I'm telling you this because
of the emotional implication of 

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relationship. 
So you should do the choosing 

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wisely, do it prayerfully and 
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And what are the helpful guide, 
the tool kits that can help you 

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In the other thing I'm saying, 
you should go there with 

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substance. 
You should be able to ask 

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yourself and assign the 
affirmative that I am giving 

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something. 
And then you should also be able

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to also assign the affirmative 
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And then lastly, where are we 
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Three key questions. 
What am I giving? 

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What am I getting? 
Then together? 

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Where are we going? 
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Does it align with your personal
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So don't because of a 
relationship, sacrifice your 

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future, sacrifice your career, 
sacrifice your eternity. 

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Where are we going? 
Not Tory. 

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Already a party. 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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Not Tory or professional. 
I professional people be Where 

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are we going? 
AM I communicating to somebody? 

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So where are we going? 
Where are we heading? 

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And so to further buttress this 
matter, we're going to again 

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look at another type of 
symbiotic or organic 

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relationship as an example of 
how organic relationship runs 

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and the experiences you can find
there and how to manage the 

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experience because it is not 
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The best of friends also do 
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Hello. 
The best of friend also do have 

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issues. 
The best of friend also do 

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disagree. 
The best of friend OK also do 

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have reasons after the audit to 
say will I continue or will I 

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disengage? 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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So we are going to therefore 
examine the story of King Hiram.

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Hiram spell HIR AM and King 
Solomon, these two great kings 

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with the inheritors of the 
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great fathers. 
King David was the father of 

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Solomon. 
He had a friend who happens to 

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be the father of King Hiram, and
in their relationship, Hiram did

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everything well to preserve the 
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friendship they inherited. 
But Solomon almost squander it 

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by playing too smart. 
And we're going to read that 

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scripture. 
Where can Solomon almost 

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squander that inherited 
relationship because he played 

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too smart. 
He played too smart. 

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And that's this story we are 
looking at today is the second 

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example in our study of 
symbiotic or organic 

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relationship that is 
characterized with mutual 

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reciprocation. 
We said that organic 

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relationship, one of the major 
characteristics of it is that it

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is characterized with mutual 
reciprocation and less 

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expectation. 
So another relationship to 

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suspect is the one that is 
always expecting and expecting 

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very high expectation but not 
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So, but in the in the example of
David and Jonathan, we saw an 

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excellent mood. 
And so we are now looking at 

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another generation, the one that
inherited relationship or 

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friendship. 
King Hiram and in can what now 

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church can Solomon. 
So their relationship to is an 

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example that depicts mutual 
reciprocation and the friendship

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was peaceful and mutually 
beneficial. 

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But there was an eco at a point 
or at a time when Solomon played

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a smart one on his friend King 
Iram. 

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So both of them were of royalty,
unlike Jonathan and David that 

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came from different social 
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And this friendship, like I 
mentioned earlier, started 

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between the fathers of these two
great kings, David, the father 

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of King Solomon and ABI Bao, the
father of King Iram. 

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Let's check first king chapter 
5. 

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Maybe I'll give us First King 
chapter 5. 

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We're going to read the first 12
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Please give careful attention as
I read verse one. 

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First Kings chapter 5. 
And Iram, king of Tyrus, sent 

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his servants on to Solomon, for 
he had heard that they had 

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anointed him king in the room of
his father. 

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For Iram was ever a lover of 
David. 

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Now Iran was ever a lover of 
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You will see that the organic 
contents of the friendship was 

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retained. 
He had the news that Solomon has

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ascended the truth, and then he 
made the first move to say 

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congratulation. 
You see, friendship is something

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you watch carefully do not with 
suspicion but a friend. 

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I find it difficult to say 
congratulations when you 

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succeed. 
What are you doing with that 

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friend? 
AM I talking to somebody? 

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You have to be asking. 
Say go quit multi World 

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University. 
Only move. 

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Go. 
You got no one call. 

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Where you go to my pony Larani 
here now. 

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Am I talking to somebody? 
Are you the first person to go 

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to look if we call another 
friend, look to say I didn't 

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contact him for getting 
admission to the university? 

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And you keep that relationship, 
you don't make that person an 

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enemy. 
But you must learn to keep a 

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distance from such kind of 
people. 

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Am I talking to somebody? 
I hear you by picking you well 

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now, not better. 
So and Hiram king of Tyrus sent 

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his servants onto Solomon, for 
he had had that they are noted 

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in king in the room of his 
father. 

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For Hiram was ever a lover of 
babies. 

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So it means when his own father 
and King David were friends, OK,

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as a young man he was watching 
it and he loved King David, the 

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friend of his father in our 
heart that the son has ascended 

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the throne enough transferred 
the same love to Solomon, praise

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the name of the Lord. 
Somebody said I love you and the

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person is doing good to your 
child and you are believing the 

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person. 
Hello check. 

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It probably is claiming lost 
because of what is getting from 

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you. 
So it was an organic friendship 

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because it was ever a lover of 
David. 

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So it was easy for him to 
transfer it to the son of King 

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David, who has not accepted the 
tune. 

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And he made the first move to 
say congratulation for attaining

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the truth. 
You know, himself was already a 

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king. 
He didn't feel G3 OK that 

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another person is also coming to
his level. 

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You know, there are people who 
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others once they are there. 
They want to always be there. 

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They don't even want anybody to 
near them. 

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Talk less of surpassing them. 
And I do tell people or I've had

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it said and I also believe it. 
And I also tell people that when

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you, when you are in a place 
where people are succeeding, it 

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means the spirit of success is 
in the neighborhood. 

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So it is that person. 
Turn today. 

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It will be your Tom before the 
day, the day close. 

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Why will you not rejoice? 
Why will you not be happy? 

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Praise the name of the Lord. 
Praise the name of the Lord. 

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And so he sent to him to greet 
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So the relationship was organic 
and Solomon sent to him. 

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I'm saying so Solomon to now 
sent back to him. 

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You can see the spirit of 
reciprocation, right 

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communication. 
Thou knowest how that David my 

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father could not build an house 
unto the name of the Lord is 

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God. 
For the walls which were about 

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him on every side want to not 
put them under the soles of his 

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feet. 
But now the Lord my God had 

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given me rest on every side, so 
that there is neither adversary 

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nor evil occurrence. 
And beyond I propose to build an

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house unto the name of the Lord 
my God. 

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As the Lord speak unto David my 
father, saying, Thy son, whom I 

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will set upon thy throne in thy 
room, He shall build an house 

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unto my name. 
Now, therefore, command thou 

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that the human cedar trees out 
of Lebanon and my servant shall 

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be with their servant, and on to
thee Will I give ayah for the 

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servant according to all that 
thou shall appoint? 

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He has passed the first Test of 
audit. 

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He was. 
He wanted to get something, but 

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also ready to give something. 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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He wanted to get something but 
was also ready to do or to give 

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something. 
Not that he just want to exploit

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his friend and take everything 
for free. 

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He was demonstrating a spirit of
entirely a spirit of commitment,

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not a spirit of entitlements. 
So when you go into a 

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relationship of friendship, OK, 
go with the spirit of commitment

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that you yourself, you want to 
commit something, you want to 

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give something, not that you 
just want to take and take and 

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take and take and take. 
For thou knowest that there is 

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not among us any that can skill 
to heal timber like onto the 

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sedonians. 
So he understood his capacity 

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and he also understood his 
weakness. 

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He knew that among his own 
Lieutenant and people, they 

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don't have the capacity to the 
skill to heal wolves. 

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Are we together? 
And when you read the story of 

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the building of the temple that 
he needed this wolf for, you 

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will really know that this 
Cydonians really were skillful 

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in wolves. 
The Bible told us that in the 

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process why they were building 
the temple, all the woods were 

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pre finished in the wilderness 
before they now bring it to the 

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site. 
And therefore there was no sound

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of the use of armor or through 
the process. 

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Am I talking to somebody? 
So these were excellent people, 

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very skillful, and Solomon 
wanted to engage them, but he 

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was also ready to give something
back in exchange for both the 

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material and the skill, the 
technology they were bringing. 

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Now when you are choosing a 
friend, what value have you seen

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that friend? 
OK, other than the fact that he 

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do crazy hairstyle and he will 
not tie his bed properly, How 

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does that contribute to putting 
food on your table? 

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How does that contribute to you 
becoming efficient in your 

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career and professional? 
Am I talking to somebody? 

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So you want to choose a friend, 
Look for value. 

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Look for what value not just 
what is involved. 

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A lot of people look for vogue 
and vague things instead of 

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looking for value. 
Verse 7 or what next verse. 

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And it came to pass when Haram 
had the worst of Solomon, that 

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he returns greatly, and said, 
Blessed be the Lord this day, 

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which are given unto David, a 
white son, over these great 

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people. 
And Iram sent to Solomon, 

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saying, I have considered the 
things without sentence to me, 

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Sentence to me for. 
And I will do all thy desire 

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concerning timber of Sada, and 
concerning timber of fire. 

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My servants have bring them down
from Lebanon onto the sea, and I

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will confer them by the sea in 
floats on to the place that thou

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shall appoint me, and will cause
them to be discharged there, and

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thou shall receive them, and 
thou shall accomplish my desire 

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in giving food for my household 
when you are hot. 

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Relationship. 
What am I giving? 

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What am I getting? 
Where are we heading? 

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Where are we going? 
I will give all that you have 

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required for, but you too, You 
give food for my household. 

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And you know that Israel is an 
agrarian community from ancient 

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time up to today. 
AM I talking to somebody? 

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So the issue of substance, OK. 
You can't be blinded by love and

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forget substance. 
Say I love him. 

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You love him for what value? 
You love her for what value am I

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talking to somebody? 
So if you love a person, OK, let

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that person also make himself or
herself likeable. 

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Hello. 
Because you may not be able to 

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adduce a reason to love. 
Are you with me? 

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You may not be able to adduce a 
reason to love, but graduate 

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from just love even to the 
physical name of being liked. 

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So there must be something about
you that the person who loves 

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you also like. 
There must be value about you 

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that the person who love you 
like. 

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If that is not there, the love 
may fail. 

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That's what tell. 
So Iran gave Solomon cedar trees

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and factory according to all his
desire. 

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And Solomon gave Hiram 20,000 
meters of wheat for food to his 

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household. 
And 20 meters of pure oil does 

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give Solomon to Hiram year by 
year. 

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Can you see sustainability? 
He sustained it. 

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So he didn't give that household
food just because of what you 

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want to get in the moment. 
The fact that is sustain it is 

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what has made it to go beyond 
contracts to covenants. 

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So one of the things that 
casualties covenant is 

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sustainability. 
If it's a contract, the moment, 

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not a not a parineer. 
Hello. 

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And some guess I'm sorry to say 
they are so stupid. 

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OK, that somebody give you 
10,000 naira or less than the 

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and the person sleep with you 
and the hands there and you are 

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calling it love and every time 
the person need you give you 

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another money. 
You're a lady of easy virtue. 

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That's not how to live life. 
And the Lord gave Solomon wisdom

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as he promised him, and there 
was peace between Iran and 

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Solomo. 
So that peace came at the cost 

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of commitment, not at the cost 
of entitlement. 

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The peace between them came at 
the cost of words, commitments, 

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not entitlements. 
What the first person promise to

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give is giving it. 
What do that person promise to 

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give OK is also giving it. 
There is reciprocation and 

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that's why I said organic 
relationship that is godly. 

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Now it's going to be of less 
expectation, but much of 

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reciprocation where you take 
kindness not as what you are 

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entitled to, but you take 
kindness as a loan to be repaid.

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And they too made a league 
together. 

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So from this scripture is clear 
that both men were men of 

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substance. 
One was not expecting the order.

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The relationship was symbiotic. 
It was reciprocatory. 

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Until think Solomon played a 
first one, but Iram stayed 

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faithful. 
King Solomon played in first one

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and Iram stayed faithful. 
We're going to study where King 

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Solomon played in first one in 
first King 9 from verse 10 to 

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the verse 14. 
Solomon promised to give Iram 

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City, but by the time he will 
give him, what he gave does not 

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satisfy the expectation of his I
mean did not satisfy the 

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expectation of his prayer. 
In fact, the Bible mentioned 

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that when he received the cities
that Solomon promised, he named 

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it Kabul. 
So don't serve your friend the 

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Kabul experience, it's not good.
What is the meaning of Kabul 

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CABUL? 
It means good for nothing to 

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indicate his dissatisfaction 
with how Solomon Jill told him, 

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but something good about Iram is
that despite this, Iram didn't 

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end the relationship with 
Solomon and this is likely due 

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to the fact that he was a friend
that came in with commitment and

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not with his sense of 
entitlement. 

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Can we read firstly chapter 10 
verse for three and it came to 

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pass at the end of 20 years when
Solomon had built the houses, 

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the House of the law and the 
King's house. 

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Now the relationship has endured
for solitude decades and we can 

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have a record of the benefits 
that came to Solomon from the 

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relationship. 
What were they? 

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The Bible say? 
He had succeeded in building two

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houses for himself. 
You know by himself mentioned 

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that his men were not skillful 
at building and so the 

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technology and the material for 
the building came from where? 

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From his friend Hiram. 
And from there he was able to 

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build 2 houses and then also 
build the temple, the House of 

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the law. 
And of course, the King's house 

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was 11. 
Now Iram, the king of Tarah had 

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fallen. 
Solomon with cedar trees and 

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fair tree, not only that, with 
gold, according to all his 

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desire. 
Can we give it to Haram for 

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being a great friend? 
I pray that God will give you 

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that kind of spirit in the name 
of Jesus. 

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And I pray also that God will 
give you that kind of a friend 

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in the name of Jesus that the 
king Solomon gave Iran 20 cities

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in the land of Galilee, Denver 
sway and Iran came out from 

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trial to see the cities with 
Solomon at give him and they 

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pleased him not Wow. 
Wow, Wabito KUSA, he played a 

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smart one on him. 
The man gave him the best. 

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He gave him just anything and 
the place please alone and say 

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what city had this without us 
giving me order also I say bye. 

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That's why I said when we 
started. 

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The relationship is emotionally 
demanding and when you hook up 

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with the wrong person it could 
be emotionally devastating. 

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What city are this without 
giving me my brother? 

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He didn't even call him my 
friend. 

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Say my brother Haraku me. 
What city has given me my 

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brother? 
And they called them the land of

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Kabul, Good for nothing on to 
this day not useful to him. 

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Now verse 14, Verse 14. 
Can you see what is there? 

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Let's read verse 14 together. 
We was a mercy lawsuit. 

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Yeah. 
Yeah. 

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As far as I'm concerned, I will 
continue to do things right. 

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Are you with me? 
Don't allow any bad person to 

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influence you to become a bad 
person. 

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Am I talking to somebody? 
I had or I read somewhere 

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sometimes ago I could not. 
I will not be able to fix the 

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picture properly, but I will 
communicate the sense that a 

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farmer saw a scorpion that was 
endangered and rescue the 

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Scorpio and after rescue the 
Scorpio, the Scorpio stoned the 

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farmer and the people around was
trying to blame this Scorpio and

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he said don't blame him or don't
blame it. 

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OK. 
He is behaving to type. 

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If I know that time he still 
enter that same kind of trouble,

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I will still rescue it. 
So maintain your tribe 

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irrespective of your experience 
in spite of what Solomon did in 

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verse 14 and Iram said to the 
king, seize called talent of 

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good. 
He gave him cities that were 

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good for nothing, but he 
reciprocated with good. 

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So despite his disattraction, he
never steady less went ahead to 

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supply goods to Solomon. 
Not only that, he did more in 

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diplomatic consideration and 
military operations in First 

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King 9. 
If we push the reading to verse 

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2627 and 28, it is mentioned 
that Iram Sabant helped Solomon 

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Saban to build a man a fleet of 
sheep at Eson Gaber which they 

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used to fetch. 
Go from offer now, he now went 

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ahead again, not just building 
houses for him, he went him to 

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build sheep. 
On the sea first Kings Chapter 9

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and King Solomon made a Navy of 
sheep in the Zongeva which is 

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beside ellos verse 26 on the 
soil of the Red Sea in the land 

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of Adam. 
Then 27 And Iram sent in the 

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Navy his servants shipmen that 
had knowledge of the sea with 

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with the servants of Solomon and
they came to over and sat from 

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there's gold 420 talent and 
brought thee to womb talking 

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Solomon the bitter experience 
was between verse 12 and 14. 

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Then verse 26 to 28. 
He will still continue he still 

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continue to do good to Solomon. 
So in spite of the Kabul 

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experience, Iransi went ahead to
provide maybe support to sermon.

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So casing is continued 
cooperation and display of 

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maturity. 
Our time is fast spent, but we 

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are not yet done with this man 
Iran. 

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By next Sunday we're going to 
talk more OK on lessons that we 

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can learn from this great 
friend. 

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May the Lord make you a great 
friend. 

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May the Lord give you a great 
friend in the name of Jesus.