1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:05,680 OK, OK, so marriage, we're going to continue on today in the 2 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:09,120 roles and responsibilities of biblical marriage. 3 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:14,200 We saw, you know, marriage is an institution designed by God 4 00:00:14,800 --> 00:00:17,880 according to his will and for his purposes. 5 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,320 And so we saw that last week as we learned about the theology of 6 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:24,440 marriages as Eric walked us through that. 7 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:27,640 Let me, can you get over to my slides? 8 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:36,600 Oh, you know what, my goodness, do you know the can of that 9 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:40,000 account? Would you be able to go and try 10 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:45,040 and jump into that? I'm sorry, guys, I apologize. 11 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:49,480 Well, maybe you can help him. So I apologize because I do have 12 00:00:49,480 --> 00:00:51,280 some slides for this and hopefully we'll get those up 13 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:55,680 here in in just a minute. But so we, we saw that that 14 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:58,400 marriage is an institution designed by God according to his 15 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:01,200 will and for his purposes as we studied through the theology of 16 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,000 marriage last week. And so therefore we can believe 17 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:08,320 that God for his own purposes designed us with individual 18 00:01:08,320 --> 00:01:12,000 roles and responsibilities. And that's our goal here today, 19 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:17,080 to better understand what our individual role is in marriage 20 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:19,960 and some practical ways to carry out our responsibilities. 21 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:24,960 But in order to do that, we must understand that there are real 22 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:28,600 God ordained differences in the roles and responsibilities of 23 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:31,840 men and women before we can understand what those 24 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:35,440 differences are. And this gets made into 25 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:41,360 something complicated in our culture though, because we see 26 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:45,560 verses like First Corinthians 11/1 through 2, which I don't 27 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:50,240 have up here, sorry. And and and we find the concepts 28 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:52,880 in them to be offensive. So First Corinthians 11/1 and 29 00:01:52,880 --> 00:01:55,760 two says, but I want you to understand that the head of 30 00:01:55,760 --> 00:02:00,480 every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the 31 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:05,160 head of Christ is God. Or in Ephesians 522 we see 32 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:08,560 passages that say wives, submit to your own husbands as to the 33 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:11,600 Lord. And those could be troubling to 34 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:18,680 us from a cultural perspective often, but we got to understand 35 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:23,280 that it is in no way demeaning or offensive to Jesus that he 36 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:26,840 would be in submission to the headship of the Father, right? 37 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:30,160 I think we can all we can all readily agree that that's not 38 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:34,760 offensive to Jesus and it doesn't bother us as Christians 39 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:37,920 that the head of every man is Christ, right? 40 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:41,240 Likewise, it is not Hey, look at that. 41 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:45,200 Thank you. Likewise, it is not offensive to 42 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,480 the wife to be in submission to the husband. 43 00:02:48,640 --> 00:02:50,960 But what does that what does that mean for us? 44 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,840 There's those there's those passages that I was that I was 45 00:02:55,840 --> 00:03:01,320 just sharing. So what does that mean? 46 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:06,640 Well, in the creation account, headship was established even 47 00:03:06,640 --> 00:03:10,280 before Eve was created. And we know that because we see 48 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:14,360 in in scripture that that that God gave Adam his role and 49 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:20,600 responsibility and only then pointed out that Adam was 50 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:24,000 incomplete without his helper, right without without Eve. 51 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:30,280 So that headship is a result of the created order, not because 52 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:34,840 men are better. Now this is this is pointed out 53 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:39,160 in another one of those those verses that is often taken out 54 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:43,080 of context to rile people up. And you know, Paul tells us in 55 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:47,880 in first Timothy 212 through 13. It says I do not permit a woman 56 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:50,360 to teach or to exercise authority over a man. 57 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:56,000 Rather, she is to remain quiet for Adam was formed first, then 58 00:03:56,080 --> 00:04:02,000 Eve see that headship is proven through the fall, but it is not 59 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:06,040 a result of it. Often the thought the the 60 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:09,880 thought is that that Paul wrote this to explain that that women 61 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:13,840 are are being punished by having their ability to lead removed 62 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:18,519 for their role in the first sin, rather than understanding that 63 00:04:18,519 --> 00:04:23,880 mankind is being punished because of the failure of Adam. 64 00:04:24,280 --> 00:04:28,440 Paul is not saying that women are restricted because of Eve's 65 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:31,560 actions. He's reminding us that men still 66 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:35,240 maintain their original responsibility despite Adam's 67 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:38,600 inaction. But the fall distorted the 68 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:41,920 relationships between men and women in the home. 69 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,960 The husband's loving, humble headship tends to be replaced by 70 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:50,760 either domination or passivity, and the wife's intelligent, 71 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:54,360 willing submission tends to be replaced by by either usurpation 72 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:58,520 or servility. And we see this in the church as 73 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:04,560 well, where sin inclines men towards a worldly love of power 74 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:08,440 or an abdication of spiritual responsibility, and it inclines 75 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:12,920 women to resist limitations on their role or to neglect the use 76 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:15,640 of their gift, inappropriate ministries altogether. 77 00:05:17,280 --> 00:05:21,280 In Genesis 1, as we go through the 1st week of creation, we see 78 00:05:21,280 --> 00:05:24,880 this familiar phrase. Throughout it God saw that it 79 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:28,560 was good. Right on the 6th day after 80 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:31,160 creating the animals, we see that phrase again. 81 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:33,080 God saw that it was that it was good. 82 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:38,440 Only after that does God create man in his own image. 83 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:46,800 And in Genesis 218 it says then the Lord God said it is not good 84 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:50,520 that the man should be alone. I will make I will make him a 85 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:56,280 helper fit for him after God brings Adam and Eve together in 86 00:05:56,280 --> 00:06:00,680 marriage in in Genesis one verse 31, it says and God saw 87 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:04,400 everything that he had made and behold, it was very good. 88 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:07,680 So we could certainly take from that that our creator intended 89 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:11,600 for marriage to be the norm because it is very good. 90 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:16,680 So if God's model for life was for a man and woman to be 91 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:20,120 married, it stands for reason that he would of course own and 92 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:25,960 and and maintain the creative liberty to as the author and the 93 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:28,920 artist to delineate roles for each part of that marriage 94 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:34,720 relationship, Right. In fact, when we look at that 95 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:38,920 Genesis 218 verse, we see that there's there's an implied 96 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:45,640 physicality to to this with the word fit, a synergy that's both 97 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:49,600 physical and relational. The ESV commentary as I was 98 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:51,200 reading it, it said, let me look at this. 99 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:55,360 It says the term does not imply that the helper is either 100 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:59,440 stronger or weaker than the one helped fit for him or matching 101 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:04,120 him as it's as it's written in some translations is not the 102 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:07,560 same as like him. A wife is not her husband's 103 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:11,320 clone, but compliments him. Erica was telling us last week 104 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:14,640 about the word complimentarian, how that's, that's a version of 105 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:18,240 the word complete, right? Not compliment, like, hey, your 106 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:23,000 hair looks nice. So if you imagine, you know, if 107 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:25,800 you've played the game Tetris or if you've put together, you 108 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:30,320 know, a jigsaw puzzle, there are parts and pieces of of equal 109 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:33,960 value that fit together. And each one is just as 110 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:36,520 important as the next. But it feel, you know, it, it 111 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:40,000 fits in a different place. It feels a different role last 112 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:42,440 week, one of the things that he mentioned in his lesson, he 113 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:45,160 walked through just briefly through Ecclesiastes 4. 114 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:48,960 And in that passage we see these these phrases 2 are better than 115 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:52,320 one for if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. 116 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:54,680 If two lie together, they keep warm, right? 117 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:57,200 And then at the end, it's buttoned up with a three fold 118 00:07:57,200 --> 00:08:01,200 cord is not quickly broken. So when we see that, we can 119 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:05,080 understand that each of us at certain times is the one with 120 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:09,080 the strength and capability to keep us upright as a couple, all 121 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:12,520 the while being fully dependent on God. 122 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:17,680 Guys, that means that you are occasionally weaker than your 123 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:20,960 spouse, right? More to the point, occasionally 124 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:24,440 your spouse is stronger and better suited to a task than you 125 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:29,320 are. OK, so if God designed specific 126 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:32,360 roles for husbands and wives, then what do they what do they 127 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:39,440 look like? Well, one of the often the 128 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:43,120 discussion that the God would ordain specific roles for 129 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:48,120 husbands and, and and specific roles for wives stems from a 130 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:52,800 preconceived bias of, of complementarianism versus 131 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,880 egalitarianism. Again, Eric mentioned that a bit 132 00:08:55,880 --> 00:09:00,360 last week, and and so the the Council on Biblical Manhood and 133 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:04,880 Womanhood summarizes complementarian as the viewpoint 134 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:07,920 that God restricts women from serving in certain church 135 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:11,360 leadership roles and instead calls women to serve an equally 136 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:14,240 important but complementary roles. 137 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:19,720 This view believes in the essential equality of men and 138 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:23,600 women as persons, right as human beings created in God's image. 139 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:27,840 But complementarians hold to gender distinctions when it 140 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:31,520 comes to functional roles in society, in the church, and in 141 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:34,400 the home. It's important to understand as 142 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:37,600 well that we we don't recognize a separation of those 143 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:41,440 distinctions between the family and the church because God's 144 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,840 order for the church is based off of his design for the 145 00:09:44,840 --> 00:09:52,600 family. So the a a a similar summary by 146 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:57,440 Christians for biblical equalityinternational.org is 147 00:09:57,440 --> 00:10:00,720 egalitarianism is the viewpoint that there are no biblical 148 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:05,440 gender based distinctions or restrictions on ministry in the 149 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:08,240 church. Basically, that position holds 150 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:10,920 it the the belief that there are no gender distinctions in this 151 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:13,680 since we are all one in Christ, women and men are 152 00:10:13,680 --> 00:10:16,480 interchangeable when it comes to functional roles in leadership 153 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:19,840 and in the and in the household. This is a a position that our 154 00:10:19,840 --> 00:10:22,960 culture has taken up vehemently over recent decades. 155 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:26,400 So with both positions claiming to be biblically based, it's 156 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:29,960 crucially important to learn what exactly the Bible does say 157 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:32,920 on the issues of complementarianism versus 158 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:35,840 egalitarianism. And as much as I would love to 159 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:40,400 dig into that more today, specifically what those about 160 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:44,360 those those studies we're going to we're going to primarily look 161 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:46,640 at the roles and responsibilities and see as they 162 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:57,360 yes. The egalitarianism, yeah. 163 00:10:57,360 --> 00:11:01,680 So you would see this with the the Episcopal Church, for 164 00:11:01,680 --> 00:11:07,560 example, right? Probably a Christian Church that 165 00:11:07,560 --> 00:11:11,680 has a, you know, rainbow flag in front of it is probably going to 166 00:11:11,680 --> 00:11:15,200 be a staunch, A staunch egalitarian. 167 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:21,960 You know, So Full disclosure, as we, as we continue on, when 168 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:25,400 presented with these two potential options, I believe 169 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,040 that Scripture is clear that there are distinctions in our 170 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:31,080 roles and responsibilities as husbands and wives and that 171 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:35,160 there are plainly restrictions placed on how those roles 172 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:38,840 participate in ministry both in the home and in the church. 173 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:43,680 So yes, I believe that the Bible supports complementarianism and 174 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,280 when it comes to leadership in the, in the family and then in 175 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:54,280 the church, this is actually this, this actually comes from 176 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:58,480 our distinctives as a, as a church. 177 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,840 And I don't have time to go through all of this, but this 178 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:04,600 will, you know, this is available that you can see our, 179 00:12:04,600 --> 00:12:11,120 our complementarian position here as a, as a body of 180 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:13,640 believer. So if there are distinct and 181 00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:15,200 different roles and responsibilities that 182 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:18,200 demonstrate and maintain equal dignity and value, what do they 183 00:12:18,440 --> 00:12:21,680 look like? So let's look at some of these 184 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,560 specifically. Now, obviously there's lots of 185 00:12:24,560 --> 00:12:27,000 roles for for husbands and for wives. 186 00:12:27,240 --> 00:12:28,880 And I don't have time to go through all of that. 187 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:32,720 And so with each of these, I've just listed off a few of these. 188 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:36,400 And so first with husbands, I've got these three places, a 189 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:39,800 prophet, priest, and protector. Now that might sound a little 190 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:43,560 bit familiar. Prophet, priest and king was for 191 00:12:43,560 --> 00:12:47,280 a lot of the guys in the room in both of our men's groups a 192 00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:50,920 couple months ago, went through this book together from Joel 193 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:54,480 Beekey, How to lead your family. And that was one of the things 194 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:58,320 that we we we all saw in this, that that he laid out these 195 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:00,720 three roles, specifically prophet, priest and king, 196 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:04,640 prophet, priest and and protector. 197 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:09,480 So let's let's go through these. The the first one is the the 198 00:13:09,480 --> 00:13:15,480 role of of prophet and Ephesians 5 verses 25 and 26. 199 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:18,600 It says husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and 200 00:13:18,600 --> 00:13:22,600 gave himself up for her that he might sanctify her, having 201 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:25,080 cleansed her by the washing of water with the word. 202 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:29,120 Now we shouldn't make the mistake of misunderstanding the 203 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,880 grammar here. It's not it's not the husband 204 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:34,720 that sanctifies or cleanses the wife. 205 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:40,760 The man is called to sacrifice himself or his wife like Christ 206 00:13:40,760 --> 00:13:46,280 did for his bride, the church. But in that passage, 5 verses 207 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:50,560 later, Paul goes back and quotes Genesis 2 that that phrase, the 208 00:13:50,560 --> 00:13:52,760 two shall become one flesh, right? 209 00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:56,880 That is a quote that that Paul uses as he's talking about men 210 00:13:56,880 --> 00:14:00,640 and and their roles here as the prophet, as the spiritual 211 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:05,640 leader. It's a it's a quote from before 212 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:08,320 sin. It's a quote from before Adam 213 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:10,520 failed as the spiritual leader of the family. 214 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:16,560 So Paul is is pointing men back to remember their original role 215 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:21,040 as the spiritual leader. Another passage to to see this 216 00:14:21,040 --> 00:14:25,680 responsibility laid out for men. It specifically says fathers 217 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:28,840 here, not husbands, but it it makes the same point in 218 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:31,440 Ephesians 6, verse 4. It says, fathers, do not provoke 219 00:14:31,440 --> 00:14:35,000 your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline 220 00:14:35,000 --> 00:14:37,000 and instruction of the Lord, right. 221 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:40,480 It's another example of the responsibility to be the 222 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:48,120 spiritual leader of the home. We and and we do that by 223 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:51,000 proclaiming to to them the word of God. 224 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:54,080 We do that by studying the practical application of 225 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:58,200 Scripture and setting an example in our behavior that we see in 226 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:00,680 Jesus. Yes. 227 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:10,360 Partly, but I mean, so, so partly that's, I mean, that's 228 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:15,000 where I'm going here is our, our role as husbands is, is to be 229 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:18,200 the, the shepherds of our, of our family, right? 230 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:21,840 That word shepherd. So it's the word, it's the same 231 00:15:21,840 --> 00:15:25,480 word as as pastor, as as elder, right? 232 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:31,080 So a husband and father's position is also to fulfill that 233 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:33,560 thing. Part of our role as pastors is 234 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:37,360 to proclaim the gospel, right? What we do is we let our kids 235 00:15:37,360 --> 00:15:39,840 know this is the word of God. This is what the word of God 236 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:43,080 says, right? We want them to understand that 237 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:49,640 through our through our, our position and that job, that job 238 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:53,240 of shepherd comes with specific qualifications. 239 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:57,960 We see that in Titus chapter 1. And guys, maybe you've seen that 240 00:15:57,960 --> 00:16:01,960 passage, Titus chapter 1, verses 5 through 9. 241 00:16:02,320 --> 00:16:05,000 I don't think I have that as a, as a slide here. 242 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:08,720 No, I don't. But you've, you've probably seen 243 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:11,600 that because we've talked about it when we've, you've brought 244 00:16:11,760 --> 00:16:13,120 elders on, we've talked about it. 245 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:15,440 We we went through that. Eric did a great thing at the 246 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:20,160 very beginning of our Philippians series when when he 247 00:16:20,160 --> 00:16:23,120 talked about this and we looked at these qualifications. 248 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:26,800 Sometimes though, we've seen those and we've kind of brushed 249 00:16:26,800 --> 00:16:29,600 them off because they're written specifically to the shepherds of 250 00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:34,280 the church, which is true. But you don't get a pass on 251 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:35,800 this. They are the qualifications for 252 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:37,800 shepherds of the of the family as well. 253 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:41,880 Let me let me move on to the second one, which is the role of 254 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:46,680 of priest to to sacrifice to intercede for our families. 255 00:16:47,200 --> 00:16:50,720 In first Peter 2 verse 5, it says you yourselves, like living 256 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:54,080 stones, are being built up as a spiritual house to be a holy 257 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:58,120 priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God 258 00:16:58,120 --> 00:17:03,520 through Jesus Christ. And then in Hebrews 5 verses one 259 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:06,440 through 3, it says for every high priest chosen from among 260 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:10,319 men is appointed to act on behalf of men in relation to 261 00:17:10,319 --> 00:17:13,119 God, to offer gifts and sacrifices for sins. 262 00:17:13,520 --> 00:17:16,960 He can deal gently with the ignorant and wayward, since he 263 00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:19,839 himself is beset with weaknesses. 264 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:23,520 Because of this, he's obligated to offer sacrifices for his own 265 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:26,040 sins, just as he does for those of the people. 266 00:17:26,200 --> 00:17:30,960 Now that those words, they're ignorant and wayward, that that 267 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:33,680 means the word wayward. It's also the word deceived. 268 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:37,600 Those kind of, they might seem like harsh words to, you know, 269 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:41,960 to see in here, but it's the same way that it's the same way 270 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:48,160 that Eve is described as being deceived right by by Paul. 271 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:51,560 And so, yeah, it can be kind of offensive to see that, but 272 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:54,960 that's the words that, you know, that that the Bible uses. 273 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:59,240 Jesus was the true high priest in whom we have as an example. 274 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:05,080 Our job is to, on behalf of those less capable, act in their 275 00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:07,640 best interest, sacrificing for them. 276 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:12,800 Hear me on this when I say less capable, that's not a dig at the 277 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:15,960 intelligence or capability of our wives, right? 278 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:18,160 That that's that's not what it is. 279 00:18:18,800 --> 00:18:23,760 But our job is to be out front studying and and taking them 280 00:18:24,120 --> 00:18:27,280 through these and helping them to have understanding as well. 281 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:36,080 In Ephesians 525 says husbands love your wives as Christ loved 282 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:38,200 the church and gave himself up for her. 283 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:42,360 So you guys, we sacrifice for our wives by providing for them 284 00:18:42,360 --> 00:18:47,800 in in Genesis 2, before Eve was created, God set man about 285 00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:51,240 working the garden. Now in society, we sometimes get 286 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:54,200 after men because of their tendency to want to, to work. 287 00:18:55,120 --> 00:18:58,960 Working is is not the problem. Our our work is not by itself a 288 00:18:58,960 --> 00:19:01,640 hindrance to our responsibilities to God or to 289 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:04,200 our family. It it, it, it becomes that 290 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:08,160 though, when we idolize our work or the recognition for our work, 291 00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:11,240 that that becomes sinfully problematic. 292 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:15,560 And I don't I honestly don't think that that this concept of 293 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:19,520 sacrifice. I don't think that it's hard to 294 00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:25,320 grasp in theory for most men. I think most husbands believe to 295 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:28,480 their core that they would, you know, take a bullet for their 296 00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:31,400 wife and kids. The struggle isn't it isn't 297 00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:34,280 really with the physical danger. It's most often manifest in the 298 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:39,080 sacrificing of of the will of our our preferences, of our 299 00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:42,120 priorities, of our dreams, our wants. 300 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:47,880 Those are often the places where our selfishness can become 301 00:19:48,120 --> 00:19:52,240 problematic. We're usually OK doing the, the 302 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:55,480 heavy lifting, you know, catching the, the snake in the 303 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:59,200 yard or, or doing those kind of things because we recognize that 304 00:19:59,200 --> 00:20:03,000 we are generally stronger and, and perhaps more capable of, of 305 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:04,480 dealing with those kinds of things. 306 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:08,200 But in, in second Peter, or excuse me, in first Peter two, 307 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:11,680 he tells us to live with your wives in an understanding way. 308 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:16,320 He goes on and says, giving honor to the woman as the weaker 309 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:20,160 vessel, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 310 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:24,600 Right, he's he he's, he's explaining here something that 311 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:28,680 we can readily accept when he's talking about the weaker vessel 312 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:31,160 there, he's actually talking about her physical strength, her 313 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:35,520 that that her body is not as strong possibly. 314 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:39,120 But he's not talking about the the vessel means the outside, 315 00:20:39,120 --> 00:20:40,240 right? We're talking about that. 316 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:44,600 He's not he's not saying that she's weaker as a as a as a 317 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:48,600 person, right, But he says so that your prayers may not be 318 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:50,600 hindered. See, he's telling us guys to 319 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:54,880 recognize the order of things. You're stronger, so you do these 320 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:56,760 things. And then he says so that your 321 00:20:56,760 --> 00:21:03,360 prayers will not be hindered. See, as priest, you're also able 322 00:21:03,360 --> 00:21:07,960 to intercede for your wife and kids out of reverence and godly 323 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:12,000 fear. The single greatest thing that 324 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:15,320 we can do for our families is to go directly to God on their 325 00:21:15,320 --> 00:21:19,800 behalf. What a shame it would be to have 326 00:21:19,800 --> 00:21:25,400 the ear of the King of Kings and not be continuously advocating 327 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:31,200 to him on their behalf. An advocate is a person who 328 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:34,440 comes to our aid or pleads our case to a judge. 329 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:37,960 Advocates offer support, strength and counsel and 330 00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:43,000 intercede for us when necessary. What a blessing we have as 331 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:48,280 husbands and fathers to be able to go straight to God on behalf 332 00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:53,000 of our families. All right role #3 that we see is 333 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:59,160 is protector. Sorry, I didn't I didn't follow 334 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:06,760 through with those other slides in in this book from Joel Beeke, 335 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:12,480 he says, he says husbands and fathers must be kings like 336 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:17,040 Jesus, humble servant kings who wield authority for the good of 337 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:20,480 others. And husbands must provide their 338 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:24,120 wives with biblical tender and clear servant leadership, not 339 00:22:24,120 --> 00:22:28,360 ruthless authoritarianism. And then he final he he he 340 00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:32,720 continues on and says Jesus serves as king of his people by 341 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:38,080 ruling over us with justice and destroying our enemies with his 342 00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:40,960 might. So what we can take from that is 343 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:45,000 our responsibilities to be both administrator of justice and 344 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:51,200 defender from danger. Isaiah, I have Isaiah there. 345 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:58,240 Isaiah 117 there says learn to do good, learn to do good, seek 346 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:02,440 justice, correct oppression, bring justice to the fatherless, 347 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:08,880 plead the widow's 'cause we should seek justice. 348 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:12,560 And we can't separate that responsibility from our marital 349 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:14,880 role. Because in that passage right 350 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:19,080 there, it actually tells us to step into the the husband and 351 00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:22,960 father role for those who don't have that person in their lives 352 00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:27,760 fulfilling that responsibility. In fact, in First Timothy 5/8 it 353 00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:32,240 says if anyone does not provide for his relatives and especially 354 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,880 for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse 355 00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:40,880 than an unbeliever. We can certainly use this verse 356 00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:45,360 to strengthen the provider responsibility as a a priest in 357 00:23:45,360 --> 00:23:49,800 the home, but there is no way to overlook providing protection to 358 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:52,280 those closest to you as a mandatory assignment. 359 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:55,920 These verses are are not not passive right. 360 00:23:55,960 --> 00:24:01,280 Isaiah does not say speak up about oppression or or call 361 00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:03,400 someone else to come fulfill the obligation. 362 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:07,240 He says he he well, he he doesn't, but in in you know, 363 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:09,920 elsewhere in scripture, it says be watchful, stand firm in the 364 00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:17,800 faith, act like men, be strong right First Peter 37 says 365 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:20,080 likewise. I I just mentioned this a minute 366 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:21,560 ago. Husbands, live with your wives 367 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:24,400 in an understanding way. Show honor to the woman as the 368 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:29,320 weaker vessel. So again, that is not a a slight 369 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:34,880 on her skill or potential, but a straightforward reality that 370 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:39,440 that we are to be the protector in Second Samuel. 371 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:44,480 I don't have it. I apologize. 372 00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:48,720 I messed up with some of these. In Second Samuel 8, there's an 373 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,880 example of God's establishment of a king, right? 374 00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:56,480 And it says, and David made a name for himself when he 375 00:24:56,480 --> 00:25:00,040 returned from striking down 18,000 Edomites in the Valley of 376 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,640 Salt. Then he put Garrison's in Edom. 377 00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:05,400 Throughout all Edom, he put garrisons and all the Edomites 378 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:08,600 became David's servants. And the Lord gave victory to 379 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:11,880 David wherever he went. So David reigned over all Israel 380 00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:15,560 and David administered justice and equality to all his people. 381 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:18,560 Well, let's be real. There's a, there's a certain 382 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,680 relational danger zone that we step into when we try to 383 00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:23,960 establish that we are king of the castle, right? 384 00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:29,000 The reason for this is that we have we have established this 385 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:34,280 dynamic poorly throughout human history and still though there 386 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,880 is a real authority established for men in the family from 387 00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:42,440 creation. Wives are are no more to be Co 388 00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,520 providers and Co protectors with their husbands than the churches 389 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:48,040 that have such joint roles with Christ. 390 00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:53,160 That's a hard thing for us to to listen to and to accept, but 391 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:54,520 that's the way they they got designed. 392 00:25:54,520 --> 00:26:00,240 It let me jump into looking at, at at wives. 393 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:05,040 We again, we see a couple of roles. 394 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:08,120 There's lots of roles, lots of responsibilities for, for 395 00:26:08,120 --> 00:26:11,720 biblical wives. Here we we're going to look at 3 396 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:15,960 specifically. The first one is a being a child 397 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:19,680 of God through faith. Galatians 328. 398 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:23,640 This is one of those passages. Well, let me just read it. 399 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:27,200 It says there is neither Jew nor Greek, there's neither slave nor 400 00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:30,560 free, There's no male and female, for you are all one in 401 00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:33,240 Christ. So although this verse doesn't 402 00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:36,840 exactly lay out a role specific to women, it's an important part 403 00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:39,840 of defining the roles within biblical marriage. 404 00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:43,560 This verse is this is the primary verse that's used to 405 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:47,480 promote egalitarianism or or or sameness. 406 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:51,640 That only works if you ignore the context around this verse. 407 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:57,120 See, this is about equal value and dignity in the sight of of 408 00:26:57,120 --> 00:26:59,760 God, not of equal responsibility. 409 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:03,600 What this verse is saying is that because the Greek, because 410 00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:07,200 the slave, because the female is in Christ, they are no longer 411 00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,760 able to be considered anything lesser. 412 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:15,160 All Christians having been adopted into God's family, now 413 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:18,080 enjoy all the privileges, obligations and inheritance 414 00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:26,560 rights of His children. Genesis 127 and 28 says so God 415 00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,440 created man in his own image, in the image of God. 416 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:33,920 He created him, male and female. He created them and God blessed 417 00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:37,160 them and God said to them, be fruitful and multiply and fill 418 00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:40,680 the earth and subdue it. The primary purpose for marriage 419 00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:45,160 that we find in Scripture are are procreation to spread the 420 00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:49,120 image of God throughout the earth and illustration to 421 00:27:49,120 --> 00:27:53,720 exemplify in the everyday the relationship Jesus desires with 422 00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:56,440 his church. Adam was created in God's image, 423 00:27:56,440 --> 00:28:00,680 but he could not populate the earth alone alone, nor could 424 00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:04,760 anyone else learn about God from Adam's interactions. 425 00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,480 An example. So Eve was given and marriage 426 00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:09,440 was created to accomplish this goal. 427 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,880 And God gave each of the parties involved specific roles and 428 00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:16,480 responsibilities to help each other carry out that task. 429 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:21,520 She was created to be a disciple and to accommodate making more 430 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:26,920 disciples. Second role is counselor to be a 431 00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:32,920 supporter, to be a a helper. The the the foremost role of 432 00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:36,400 woman in the in the Bible is out of a wife. 433 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:41,920 She is a a companion who supports her husband, enriches 434 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,640 his life and brings him joy and and pleasure. 435 00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:48,040 And equally defining role of women in the Bible is 436 00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:52,760 childbearer or mother. As we saw back in Genesis 2, 437 00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:58,360 verse 18, Eve was custom made to be Adam's corresponding 438 00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:01,520 opposite, not as something less, but as something that he was 439 00:29:01,520 --> 00:29:05,360 missing. So you know, pardon my 440 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:11,240 generalization here, but I, I really wish that I, I wish that 441 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:15,320 women in our world would would focus more on the beauty of this 442 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:21,680 dynamic as God gave to them than to see it through the evil eyes 443 00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:24,760 of the world that have convinced so many of them that it's a 444 00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,080 prison. Now men have a long history of 445 00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:32,480 screwing things up, but I believe that most men understand 446 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:37,080 how precious and and valuable a woman is that truly takes joy in 447 00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:39,680 her God-given role as wife and mother. 448 00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:45,280 In fact, in Proverbs 18, of course I don't have it. 449 00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:49,160 I apologize guys. Proverbs 18 verse 22, it says he 450 00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:52,480 who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the 451 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,560 Lord. So when we when we see that 452 00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:59,920 passage here, the the man is missing something and finds it 453 00:29:59,920 --> 00:30:02,800 right? He who finds a wife finds a good 454 00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:05,960 thing. This verse prompts us to look 455 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:11,160 back at Genesis 2 when Adam was missing something and after God 456 00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:14,240 provided it, then he says it's very good. 457 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:18,720 It's a straightforward reminder that the role of helper is not 458 00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:23,880 an inferior or second rate role. So, so often these days, 459 00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:28,000 feminism has usurped the value from this role for women. 460 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,640 It has. It has forcibly taken away the 461 00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:34,480 ability to see fulfilment and gratification in being a helper 462 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:37,600 in being the answer to Adam's problem. 463 00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:45,240 Interestingly, in in first Peter 3 verses one and two, he 464 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:49,120 explains something about the the roles of the role of wives that 465 00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:54,920 again it you know the reality is that it runs head on into the 466 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:59,280 feminist agenda for women. It says likewise wives be 467 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:03,400 subject to your own husband's so that even if some do not obey 468 00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:07,480 the word, they may be 1 without word by the conduct of their 469 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:11,360 wives when they see you, your respectful and pure conduct. 470 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:17,120 Peter is saying here's what your role and responsibility is and 471 00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:22,520 here's why you do it to help and support your husband and he goes 472 00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:25,400 a bit further and explains more practically what that looks 473 00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:27,120 like. It's still in first Peter 3 474 00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:31,240 verses 3 through 5. He says do not let your adorning 475 00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:34,400 be external, the braiding of hair and the pudding on a gold 476 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,280 jewelry or the clothing you wear, but let your adorning be 477 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,760 hidden. Be the hidden person of the 478 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,600 heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet 479 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,560 spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 480 00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:49,880 For this is how holy women who hoped in God used to adorn 481 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,440 themselves by submitting to their own husbands. 482 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:56,520 Now we should understand that Peter isn't prohibiting fancy 483 00:31:56,520 --> 00:32:00,760 hair or jewelry, right? But he he is saying do not let 484 00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:05,080 that be where your focus is. Do not put more time and effort 485 00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:08,520 into those trivial and unimportant things than you do 486 00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:14,160 into being a a godly woman. God designed wives to support 487 00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:18,560 their husbands in their pursuit of godliness and to serve as 488 00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:22,920 counselor to that end out. Outside of your relationship 489 00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,520 with with God, your primary focus should be on helping your 490 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,360 husband accomplish the family mission, glorifying God by 491 00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:33,920 living as Christ followers, raising godly children and 492 00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:39,520 loving your neighbors. The third role here that we're 493 00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:49,440 going to look at is is that of caretaker or steward or or 494 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:53,160 organizer. Now Proverbs 31 is often 495 00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:56,800 considered sort of a cliched study for Christian women. 496 00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,280 And I'll just tell you as pastor, I've I've even found 497 00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:03,040 myself feeling occasionally frustrated at the amount of of 498 00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:06,840 women's ministry resources that focus on this one chapter when 499 00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:11,520 women are just as as capable of benefiting from theological 500 00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:14,920 study as you know of the rest of Scripture as men are. 501 00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:22,880 But this section of Scripture is profound blueprint for wives in 502 00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:25,440 the in the chapter. It starts out if you've not read 503 00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:29,600 it before, it starts out with with Lenuels mother warning him 504 00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:33,040 that being involved with women outside of a biblical marriage 505 00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,760 is dangerous to him and potentially destructive to the 506 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:39,640 entire empire. She's not a woman. 507 00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:43,680 That woman is not someone who takes care, but someone who does 508 00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,440 the opposite. But then it goes on to describe 509 00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:51,160 what the subheading, at least in the in the ESV of this section 510 00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:53,640 of Scripture calls the woman who fears the Lord. 511 00:33:55,360 --> 00:34:02,960 And in Proverbs 3110, it says an excellent wife who can find she 512 00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:05,000 is far more precious than jewels. 513 00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:08,120 And then in just a a couple verses later, starting in verse 514 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:12,560 13 to 18, it says she seeks wool and flax and works with willing 515 00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:14,159 hands. She is like the ships of the 516 00:34:14,159 --> 00:34:16,440 merchant. She brings her food from afar. 517 00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:20,440 She rise, she rises while it is yet night and provides food for 518 00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,960 her household and portions for her maidens. 519 00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:26,600 She considers a field and buys it with the fruit of her hands. 520 00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:29,280 She plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with 521 00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,120 strength and makes her arm strong. 522 00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:34,040 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. 523 00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,239 Her lamp does not go out at night. 524 00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:43,320 A godly wife maintains the order of His of of the His Kingdom. 525 00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:46,880 Through her natural gifting, she makes life happen. 526 00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:51,239 She would be the logistics Sergeant in the, you know, in 527 00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:54,000 the Army that makes life continue on. 528 00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:59,360 I, you know, I make sure that we have emergency kits in our, in 529 00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:02,280 all of our vehicles and their home is protected. 530 00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:07,360 And you know, that we have enough WD40 and duct tape to, to 531 00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:11,400 fix whatever breaks. But, but my wife, my wife keeps 532 00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:16,200 track of, of, of things like how much soap and toilet paper is in 533 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,040 the house. And she knows, she knows what's 534 00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,160 coming out of our checking account this week. 535 00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:24,640 She makes her she makes sure her lamps don't go out at night. 536 00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:33,720 She fills in in all the places where I am lacking as if she was 537 00:35:33,720 --> 00:35:41,960 specifically designed that way. Wife that properly submits to 538 00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:45,880 her husband is a steward of the created order. 539 00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:50,400 In that she recognizes the importance of what Paul wrote to 540 00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:54,000 Corinth in in first Corinthians 11 one and two, he said, but I 541 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,280 want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the 542 00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:59,800 head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. 543 00:36:01,720 --> 00:36:05,920 The wife, by submitting to her husband has demonstrated that 544 00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:10,760 she seeks God's will above her own because the the the 545 00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:14,600 husband's authority is representative of God's ultimate 546 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:19,680 authority. When my wife affirms my headship 547 00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,960 in the family and willingly endorses the authority God 548 00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:27,040 entrusted to and and bestowed upon me, she might as well be. 549 00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:30,640 She might as well be shouting Amen. 550 00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:34,200 As I stand up at the pulpit and preach that Jesus is my Lord and 551 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:39,120 King, she's recognizing that order and she's honoring him. 552 00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:43,800 Because if Jesus wasn't our Lord and King, male headship in the 553 00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:47,080 family would only be done through force and compulsion. 554 00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:51,280 There would be no other logical reason or or way for it to be 555 00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:55,520 done Now. Ultimately, as husbands and 556 00:36:55,520 --> 00:37:00,440 wives fulfill these roles and responsibilities that that God 557 00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:04,400 so masterfully designed, we end up honoring Him by fulfilling 558 00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:11,800 His 2 greatest commandments. Love the Lord your God with all 559 00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:13,400 your heart. Submit. 560 00:37:14,720 --> 00:37:19,400 Submission doesn't diminish value but exemplifies mankind's 561 00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:22,920 submission to Christ and fulfills our creative purpose. 562 00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:28,680 In John 6, Jesus told us that the submission was to the will 563 00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:33,280 of God, was was His mission and the second greatest commandment. 564 00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:35,440 Love your neighbor is yourself right? 565 00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:39,400 Sacrifice. Sacrifice doesn't condemn us to 566 00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:41,680 unhappiness or rob us of our potential. 567 00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:48,000 Isaiah 53 tells us that it pleased the Father to sacrifice 568 00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:52,520 Jesus for his children, the family as a whole. 569 00:37:54,240 --> 00:37:57,280 But the biblical marriage is under attack, and it has been 570 00:37:57,280 --> 00:38:01,400 for some time. We hold the line when we put God 571 00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:04,280 at the center of our home and we obediently carry out, carry out 572 00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,040 the roles and responsibilities that he gave us. 573 00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:09,960 So let's keep holding that line.