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Hello, beautiful humans and 
welcome to the mental Wellness. 

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Wake up, show a weekly podcast 
where growth minded creative 

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people, come to learn, best 
practices from both spirituality

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and psychology that create 
lasting well-being. 

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I am your host mental Wellness, 
expert improvised acting teacher

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therapist and Coach, Don 
McMillan. 

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Let's get to it. 
It. 

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So I'm recording this using my 
computer's microphone. 

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I'm a slightly agitated at the 
moment. 

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It's been about an hour of 
Adventures and wanting and 

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trying to get the dog to settle 
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So I can even sort of do an 
episode and this reminded me of 

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something that I have learned to
be true. 

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I was working for the Pascua 
yaqui tribe for a long time, and

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one of the tribal members was 
sharing with me, That it's 

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believed that the attitude you 
have, when you're making food is

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imbued in the food and that 
someone would not receive or 

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would not accept food from 
someone who was, you know, in a 

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really bad mood and then I think
about my own life and decisions.

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I made that I have not really 
loved and when I think about the

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frame of mind I was in, when 
that decision happened, I was in

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some sort of elevated State. 
And I mean elevated, I was going

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to use the word of arousal. 
Which in medical terms, just 

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means connotations around the 
word arousal that are a little 

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distracting. 
But either in some sort of fight

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flight or freeze or some sort of
anxiety or some sort of 

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depression or insecurity at the 
time of decision, making has 

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absolutely played out in the 
decision. 

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And I've noticed the opposite 
that when I've gotten really 

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calm and really centered that 
the decisions that I make, And 

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to produce more calm and more 
centering, more, peace, more 

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joy. 
This was kind of brought to my 

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mind, I was listening to a 
podcast. 

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I think it's called The Law of 
Attraction explored with a guy 

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named Grimes, Tim Grimes, The 
Law of Attraction explored. 

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And I like him because unlike a 
lot of other law of attraction, 

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teachers, the dog is fine. 
He just moans himself to sleep. 

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Sometimes unlike a lot of other 
law of attraction teachers, he 

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doesn't oversell it. 
It, you know, a lot of people 

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will oversell the Law of 
Attraction, like they'll say, oh

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it's a la just like gravity. 
Gravity is a whole lot easier to

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work with and to prove. 
Yeah. 

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Gravity is a little bit a little
bit clearer than the Law of 

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Attraction. 
And I also would like to 

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acknowledge that there are many 
many many influences on any 

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given person at any given time. 
So I think a lot of the way that

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we think about the law of 
attraction is way too simple. 

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That being said he was talking 
about one of his favorite 

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techniques which is to be 
relaxed to be relaxed if you've 

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ever studied Neville Goddard or 
some of the 20th century. 

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Some of the 20th century Law of 
Attraction teachers, they always

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talk about getting into peace, 
you know in religious 

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communities they talk about the 
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That surpasses understanding 
that in the silence you connect.

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To your higher self. 
I think, one of the reasons 

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meditation can be so helpful is 
that when you surrender to the 

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meditative process, you're not 
hyperactive. 

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You're not anxious, you're not 
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you're not angry. 
You are in the Stillness of your

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being, and your thoughts, and 
feelings are just sort of 

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floating by. 
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of being calm being at peace. 
Being in Oneness. 

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You, I mean, we us make better 
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So what does that have to do 
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I'm making a decision right now.
This is all about me. 

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I'm making a decision right now 
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So it reminded me of some other 
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tumultuous and I wanted to share
with you a technique that really

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was transformational for me at 
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So once upon a time, I was 
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those two things. 
Things stopped being true and a 

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span of about 90 days, marriage,
split up, and my father passed 

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away. 
So I was kind of a, kind of an 

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interesting time to be me. 
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studying my spiritual techniques
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interests back to have about 
what I wanted to create the next

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chapter of my life. 
As who do I want to be? 

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What do I want my life to look 
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And here's one of Bonds with the
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So most teachers will tell you 
that you have to get super duper

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specific in order for the law of
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get what you want. 
And that definitely can be very 

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helpful to talk really is. 
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Promise you that what has been 
true for me is that when I get 

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really super specific about what
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That is often not coming from a 
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A whole peaceful beautiful place
that can be coming from an 

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insecure place that can be 
coming from an ego plays from a 

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trying to impress. 
Someone plays from a trying to 

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fit into societal Norms kind of 
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from the center of my being. 
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Get centered, get grounded, get 
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Get relaxed. 
Here's a fun fact. 

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You cannot stress out. 
You cannot have anxiety in a 

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relaxed muscle body. 
You relax, your body. 

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The brain has to follow. 
Relax, the body and the spirit 

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has freedom to tell you, show 
you connect to what is most true

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for you. 
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through a huge upheaval upheaval
in my life, the technique that I

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used was to combine questions 
with affirmations, what you 

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talking about Dong? 
So there's a couple of systems 

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for bringing change into your 
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Us. 
And most of us by this time are 

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familiar with that, and that's 
where you state in the present 

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tense in the positive. 
The thing that you wish to 

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experience, I am whole perfect 
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radiant. 
I am a millionaire, I am a 

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millionaire. 
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complain about affirmations is 
because they say, you know, I 

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tried it and nothing changed. 
So in response to that, there 

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was a movement In Tony Robbins 
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this popular while back to ask 
questions our brains have a 

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tendency to answer the questions
that we ask and if you check in 

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with yourself, you notice the 
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If you ask yourself, oh my God, 
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Your brain will answer that 
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What's wrong with me? 
Your brain answers that 

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question. 
Why doesn't anything ever go my 

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way your brain answers that 
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So, So for people who found that
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it became helpful to turn that 
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into a question. 
Why does everything I do 

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producer profit? 
How is it that I got to be. 

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So how is it that I got to be so
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whatever it is that you're 
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So this time of great upheaval, 
the my life, what I came up with

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was the following, how did I get
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I am in love with my life. 
Question, affirmation. 

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Question affirmation and I 
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I had joined a gym to get my 
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get on the treadmill and imma 
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Not out loud because, you know, 
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Funny. 
How did I get so lucky? 

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I am in love with my life. 
How did I get so lucky? 

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I'm in love with my life. 
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I am in love with my life. 
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that up is to give a little 
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and the affirmation. 
How did I get so lucky and your 

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brains, like, how did I get? 
So, lucky starts looking for 

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evidence and then you affirm 
that you are, in fact, lucky I 

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am in love with my life so 
you'll notice that's not 

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terribly specific. 
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I was using that affirmation 
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I was, you know, walking We time
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How did I get so lucky? 
I'm in love with my life while 

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I'm showering. 
So many things happened. 

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That I would not have known 
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I didn't know, for example, one 
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was really good friends with 
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He met in business school. 
I got to meet her, she and I hit

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it off. 
She's amazing. 

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She invited me to join this 
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I joined this Mother's group. 
I met some of my best friends 

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and the town that I live in. 
My kids had a great time. 

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I was not looking for a 
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To join. 
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traditional way more specific 
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would have been off my radar. 
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I am in love with my life opened
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my friend invited me to lunch 
and I met his friend in this 

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whole thing unfolded I really 
added people and situations 

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where I was like I am lucky I am
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How did I get to Lucky. 
I'm in love with my life. 

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I dropped 40 pounds, you're 
like, but you're on the 

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treadmill, that's why I but 
yeah, you know people work out 

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all the time and don't change 
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So I think being open to that, 
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Made a difference in how I was 
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I am in love with my life. 
I figured out who the next 

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chapter of my life ended up 
going to graduate school. 

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So I share this with you 
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remember it isn't facing a 
decision right now on Another 

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time and which I use that very 
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affirmations. 
That worked out pretty well too.

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I quit my job without another 
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better job for more money. 
How did I get so lucky, I am in 

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love with my life and so I want 
to offer that to you 

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specifically for you to play 
with for you to play with. 

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If you have been using the Law 
of Attraction, you've been Very 

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specifically getting stuff more 
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If there are things that you've 
been working on and it hasn't 

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quite shown up for you, maybe 
try this method and if you're 

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not entirely sure, what exactly 
it is that you want, wouldn't 

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you love to feel like you are 
the luckiest person on the 

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planet and that you are totally 
in love with your life, whatever

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that consists of Sign me up. 
Sign me up. 

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How did I get so lucky. 
I am in love with my life. 

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And whenever I give myself like 
5 minutes of just, how did I get

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so lucky. 
I'm in love with my life. 

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It changes my vibe. 
It changes my energy. 

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I get this warm feeling around 
my heart and I get this sense of

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possibility in my brain and a 
relaxation in my body and that 

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then if I get into problem 
solving, right? 

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Like so what do I want to do 
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Space. 
When that warm joyful, space 

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different possibility, Sparkle 
different possibility. 

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Stand out to me, new creative 
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And or I just sort of trust, 
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out. 
And then I follow the sparkle, I

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followed the shine, I follow the
joy, I follow the laughter, and 

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if something shows up in my 
world and it pings me and I 

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think that's cool. 
Only did. 

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To it. 
And it has been my experience 

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that when I do that when I get 
into an expanded joyful peaceful

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place, when I follow the 
sparkle, when I follow the show 

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knowing things work out and I 
have people places and things 

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show up for me that I didn't 
even know we're possible. 

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And if I had stuck to just 
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possible, I would have missed 
out on some magic, some absolute

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Magic. 
So I submit this for your 

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consideration, see Try It Out, 
Try It Out for a week. 

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See how you feel. 
If you get nothing more than 

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walking around with a little 
bounce, in your step because 

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you're like, I'm in love with my
life when that be okay too. 

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And you know why you get to be 
in love with your life? 

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Because you are amazing. 
I don't know how you don't. 

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Just kiss yourself in the mirror
all the time. 

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You were amazing. 
You are a whole you are perfect.

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You are complete now in this 
moment and every moment before 

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and in every moment to come and 
even so you are free to change. 

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And you are free to be 
completely at peace with 

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yourself and you my beloved, 
human are worthy and deserving 

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of every beautiful. 
Good, wonderful thing that life 

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has to offer. 
Thank you for listening. 

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