Hello, beautiful humans and welcome to the mental Wellness.
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I am your host mental Wellness, expert improvised acting teacher
therapist and Coach, Don McMillan.
Let's get to it. It.
So I'm recording this using my computer's microphone.
I'm a slightly agitated at the moment.
It's been about an hour of Adventures and wanting and
trying to get the dog to settle down.
So I can even sort of do an episode and this reminded me of
something that I have learned to be true.
I was working for the Pascua yaqui tribe for a long time, and
one of the tribal members was sharing with me, That it's
believed that the attitude you have, when you're making food is
imbued in the food and that someone would not receive or
would not accept food from someone who was, you know, in a
really bad mood and then I think about my own life and decisions.
I made that I have not really loved and when I think about the
frame of mind I was in, when that decision happened, I was in
some sort of elevated State. And I mean elevated, I was going
to use the word of arousal. Which in medical terms, just
means connotations around the word arousal that are a little
distracting. But either in some sort of fight
flight or freeze or some sort of anxiety or some sort of
depression or insecurity at the time of decision, making has
absolutely played out in the decision.
And I've noticed the opposite that when I've gotten really
calm and really centered that the decisions that I make, And
to produce more calm and more centering, more, peace, more
joy. This was kind of brought to my
mind, I was listening to a podcast.
I think it's called The Law of Attraction explored with a guy
named Grimes, Tim Grimes, The Law of Attraction explored.
And I like him because unlike a lot of other law of attraction,
teachers, the dog is fine. He just moans himself to sleep.
Sometimes unlike a lot of other law of attraction teachers, he
doesn't oversell it. It, you know, a lot of people
will oversell the Law of Attraction, like they'll say, oh
it's a la just like gravity. Gravity is a whole lot easier to
work with and to prove. Yeah.
Gravity is a little bit a little bit clearer than the Law of
Attraction. And I also would like to
acknowledge that there are many many many influences on any
given person at any given time. So I think a lot of the way that
we think about the law of attraction is way too simple.
That being said he was talking about one of his favorite
techniques which is to be relaxed to be relaxed if you've
ever studied Neville Goddard or some of the 20th century.
Some of the 20th century Law of Attraction teachers, they always
talk about getting into peace, you know in religious
communities they talk about the peace.
That surpasses understanding that in the silence you connect.
To your higher self. I think, one of the reasons
meditation can be so helpful is that when you surrender to the
meditative process, you're not hyperactive.
You're not anxious, you're not insecure, you're not depressed,
you're not angry. You are in the Stillness of your
being, and your thoughts, and feelings are just sort of
floating by. And in that space of being still
of being calm being at peace. Being in Oneness.
You, I mean, we us make better decisions.
So what does that have to do with anything?
I'm making a decision right now. This is all about me.
I'm making a decision right now and it's kind of a big one.
So it reminded me of some other periods in my life that were
tumultuous and I wanted to share with you a technique that really
was transformational for me at the time.
So once upon a time, I was married and my dad was alive
those two things. Things stopped being true and a
span of about 90 days, marriage, split up, and my father passed
away. So I was kind of a, kind of an
interesting time to be me. And so right after that, I was
studying my spiritual techniques I was getting really, really
interests back to have about what I wanted to create the next
chapter of my life. As who do I want to be?
What do I want my life to look like?
And here's one of Bonds with the law of attraction.
So most teachers will tell you that you have to get super duper
specific in order for the law of attraction to work in order to
get what you want. And that definitely can be very
helpful to talk really is. Okay.
Promise you that what has been true for me is that when I get
really super specific about what it is that I want.
That is often not coming from a healthy.
A whole peaceful beautiful place that can be coming from an
insecure place that can be coming from an ego plays from a
trying to impress. Someone plays from a trying to
fit into societal Norms kind of place because it was not coming
from the center of my being. So what to do about that?
Get centered, get grounded, get peaceful.
Get relaxed. Here's a fun fact.
You cannot stress out. You cannot have anxiety in a
relaxed muscle body. You relax, your body.
The brain has to follow. Relax, the body and the spirit
has freedom to tell you, show you connect to what is most true
for you. Once upon a time, when I went
through a huge upheaval upheaval in my life, the technique that I
used was to combine questions with affirmations, what you
talking about Dong? So there's a couple of systems
for bringing change into your life, one is affirmations.
Us. And most of us by this time are
familiar with that, and that's where you state in the present
tense in the positive. The thing that you wish to
experience, I am whole perfect and complete and my health is
radiant. I am a millionaire, I am a
millionaire. One of the reasons people
complain about affirmations is because they say, you know, I
tried it and nothing changed. So in response to that, there
was a movement In Tony Robbins is one of the people who made
this popular while back to ask questions our brains have a
tendency to answer the questions that we ask and if you check in
with yourself, you notice the truth of that statement.
If you ask yourself, oh my God, what is wrong with people?
Your brain will answer that question.
What's wrong with me? Your brain answers that
question. Why doesn't anything ever go my
way your brain answers that question.
So, So for people who found that affirmations didn't really work,
it became helpful to turn that into a question to turn that
into a question. Why does everything I do
producer profit? How is it that I got to be.
So how is it that I got to be so incredibly attractive or
whatever it is that you're working on.
So this time of great upheaval, the my life, what I came up with
was the following, how did I get so lucky?
I am in love with my life. Question, affirmation.
Question affirmation and I started using that as a chant.
I had joined a gym to get my head straight and I would just
get on the treadmill and imma just chant in my head.
Not out loud because, you know, people stare at you.
Funny. How did I get so lucky?
I am in love with my life. How did I get so lucky?
I'm in love with my life. How did I get so lucky?
I am in love with my life. Now one of the ways to judge
that up is to give a little pause between the question of it
and the affirmation. How did I get so lucky and your
brains, like, how did I get? So, lucky starts looking for
evidence and then you affirm that you are, in fact, lucky I
am in love with my life so you'll notice that's not
terribly specific. And at that period of time when
I was using that affirmation and, you know, I was going on.
I was, you know, walking We time I walk somewhere.
How did I get so lucky? I'm in love with my life while
I'm showering. So many things happened.
That I would not have known that.
I didn't know, for example, one of my best friends, from college
was really good friends with someone.
He met in business school. I got to meet her, she and I hit
it off. She's amazing.
She invited me to join this Mother's group.
I joined this Mother's group. I met some of my best friends
and the town that I live in. My kids had a great time.
I was not looking for a Mother's.
To join. If I had gone, the more
traditional way more specific law of attraction way, that
would have been off my radar. But how did I get so lucky?
I am in love with my life opened up this possibility where when
my friend invited me to lunch and I met his friend in this
whole thing unfolded I really added people and situations
where I was like I am lucky I am in love with my life.
How did I get to Lucky. I'm in love with my life.
I dropped 40 pounds, you're like, but you're on the
treadmill, that's why I but yeah, you know people work out
all the time and don't change their bodies.
So I think being open to that, made a difference.
Made a difference in how I was eating, how did I get so lucky?
I am in love with my life. I figured out who the next
chapter of my life ended up going to graduate school.
So I share this with you specifically because I suddenly
remember it isn't facing a decision right now on Another
time and which I use that very specific set of questions and
affirmations. That worked out pretty well too.
I quit my job without another job and ended up getting a
better job for more money. How did I get so lucky, I am in
love with my life and so I want to offer that to you
specifically for you to play with for you to play with.
If you have been using the Law of Attraction, you've been Very
specifically getting stuff more power to you keep added.
If there are things that you've been working on and it hasn't
quite shown up for you, maybe try this method and if you're
not entirely sure, what exactly it is that you want, wouldn't
you love to feel like you are the luckiest person on the
planet and that you are totally in love with your life, whatever
that consists of Sign me up. Sign me up.
How did I get so lucky. I am in love with my life.
And whenever I give myself like 5 minutes of just, how did I get
so lucky. I'm in love with my life.
It changes my vibe. It changes my energy.
I get this warm feeling around my heart and I get this sense of
possibility in my brain and a relaxation in my body and that
then if I get into problem solving, right?
Like so what do I want to do about XYZ from that expanded?
Space. When that warm joyful, space
different possibility, Sparkle different possibility.
Stand out to me, new creative ideas, show up.
And or I just sort of trust, that things are going to work
out. And then I follow the sparkle, I
followed the shine, I follow the joy, I follow the laughter, and
if something shows up in my world and it pings me and I
think that's cool. Only did.
To it. And it has been my experience
that when I do that when I get into an expanded joyful peaceful
place, when I follow the sparkle, when I follow the show
knowing things work out and I have people places and things
show up for me that I didn't even know we're possible.
And if I had stuck to just asking for what I knew to be
possible, I would have missed out on some magic, some absolute
Magic. So I submit this for your
consideration, see Try It Out, Try It Out for a week.
See how you feel. If you get nothing more than
walking around with a little bounce, in your step because
you're like, I'm in love with my life when that be okay too.
And you know why you get to be in love with your life?
Because you are amazing. I don't know how you don't.
Just kiss yourself in the mirror all the time.
You were amazing. You are a whole you are perfect.
You are complete now in this moment and every moment before
and in every moment to come and even so you are free to change.
And you are free to be completely at peace with
yourself and you my beloved, human are worthy and deserving
of every beautiful. Good, wonderful thing that life
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