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Hello beautiful humans, and 
welcome to the Mental Wellness 

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Wake Up Show, a weekly podcast 
where growthminded, creative 

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people come to learn best 
practices from both spirituality

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and psychology that create 
lasting wellbeing. 

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I am your host, mental Wellness 
expert, improvised acting 

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teacher, therapist and coach 
Dawn McMillan. 

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Let's get to it. 
Alright. 

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Hello you gorgeous, beautiful 
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You. 
We are back. 

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And if this is your first time 
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Bless you. 
Bless you. 

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I'm so glad, so delighted that 
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Thanks for coming. 
And for all of my returning 

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listeners, here's a Key Lime Pie
of love for you. 

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So thanks for coming. 
We are continuing our Enneagram 

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series. 
The Enneagram is a nine pointed 

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wisdom system, has a huge, rich 
and varied history well worth 

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digging into. 
We are only skimming the surface

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of this Enneagram and we are 
doing it in service of the idea 

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that human beings, human die, 
are way too complex. 

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Way too rich, way too varied to 
ever fit into a single box. 

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So you cannot be limited to an 
astrology sign, a Big 5 

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personality description, or an 
enniogram type. 

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So what looking into the 
enniogram really can do is help 

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us understand ourselves and 
others better. 

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And then we can integrate all of
those personality 

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characteristics that are 
embodied in the different types.

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Cool. 
Cool, cool. 

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So we have moved into the triad,
the 5-6 and sevens that are 

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considered the Head triad or the
Fear Anxiety Motivated Triad. 

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So we learned last time that 
Anyogram fives tend to relate to

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their five, excuse me, their 
fear slash anxiety by having as 

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few needs as possible and 
seeking to understand the world 

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as deeply as possible. 
So now we're moving on to any 

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AGRAM 6 and any AGRAM sixes are 
really fun for me to study as an

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ANY AGRAM 5. 
ANY AGRAM sixes are really fun 

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because they tend to come in two
subtypes, and that's a little 

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bit unusual. 
So when you think about an ANY 

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AGRAM 6, ANY AGRAM, sixes are 
really more characterized by the

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relationship to anxiety. 
Like when you think of a 

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stereotypical anxious person or 
someone who's living in anxiety,

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you might be summing and and 
summoning the image of an 

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anagram 6. 
So as per usual, I will be 

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flipping around my books trying 
to make sure I get you the best 

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information. 
So let's let's see what we call 

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anagram sixes. 
So anagram sixes are called the 

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loyalist, the guardian, the true
believer, the doubter, the 

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troubleshooter, the 
traditionalist, the stalwart, 

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the questioner. 
Did I say loyalist? 

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Did I say loyalist? 
So sixes, sixes are motivated by

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the need for security. 
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There are phobic sixes and 
counter phobic sixes. 

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So phobic sixes are outwardly 
fearful and seek approval. 

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Counter phobic sixes confront 
their fears and any one person 

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can have both. 
So what can happen is like I I 

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hope you can hear the air 
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A phobic 6 is going to be the 
kind of person who goes around 

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and checks all the outlets 
before they leave the house and 

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double checks that the stove is 
off packs. 

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You know a full first aid kit 
which includes what do you call 

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those? 
An EEG machine or no, there's 

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what do you call those machines 
where you're like people and you

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bring them back to life. 
So any gram phobic, any gram 

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sixes are are noticeable. 
Their anxiety is noticeable to 

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other people, Counter phobic 
sixes. 

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However, sometimes people read 
as eights because their attitude

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is like, I'm going to run head 
first into that thing that 

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scares me to make it stop. 
So we'll talk a little bit more 

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about that. 
So sixes at their best are 

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loyal, likable, caring, warm, 
compassionate, witty, practical,

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helpful, responsible. 
Sixes at their worst are hyper 

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vigilant, controlling, 
unpredictable, judgmental, 

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paranoid, defensive, rigid, 
selfdefeating, testy, and yours 

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truly, I would add 
hypochondriacs. 

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So let's talk about what's 
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Now remember, we we look at the 
NAR gram as loose guidelines, 

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and it's not a perfect map, it's
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characterizing the way that 
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Everyone has fear, Everyone has 
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Everyone has shame. 
Everyone has finger but your 

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personality type, your lead way 
of showing up in the world may 

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be reflected in one more than 
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We're all everything. 
We're all everything. 

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We're all everything. 
So the basic fear of the Type 6 

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is of having no support, no 
guidance, of being unable to 

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survive on their own. 
Their basic desire is to find 

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security and support. 
They're super ego message you 

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are good or okay if you do what 
is expected of you now one way 

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some niagram 6 find that 
security is by being a joiner 

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like the. 
The one of the reasons they're 

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called the loyalist is that they
will identify with a certain 

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ideology, a certain Group, A 
certain college. 

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And they will be like the most 
gung ho and at the which is 

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nothing wrong with being loyal, 
obviously. 

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And there's nothing wrong with 
being a super booster of a point

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of view or your university or 
your job or whatever group you 

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belong to. 
As long as it's done in a way 

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that leaves room for clear 
headed thinking. 

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And it's not a substitute for 
your own autonomy. 

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And the idea is, if I'm a member
of this community, then I have 

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that support, I have that 
guidance, I have that ability to

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survive. 
So let's look at let's look at 

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something about about sixes, 
right. 

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So one thing that can be hard 
about being a six, they say, is 

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the constant push and pull 
involved in trying to make up my

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mind. 
Procrastinating because of fear 

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of failure, having little 
confidence in myself. 

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So one of the ways that sixes 
feel secure is through other 

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people often. 
Sometimes you're being told what

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to do, or having rules or 
regulations to follow. 

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And so sometimes when they're 
left to their own devices, which

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is a basic fear of theirs, it 
can be very difficult for them 

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to make up their minds. 
What's hard about being a six, 

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fearing being abandoned, or 
taking advantage of exhausting 

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myself by worrying and scanning 
for dangers? 

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One of the fundamental questions
at the heart of a person who's 

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an aneogram 6 is what's wrong, 
What's wrong? 

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What's wrong? 
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view can be exhausting. 
Another challenge is wishing I 

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had a rule book at work so I 
could do everything right, being

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too critical of myself when I 
haven't lived up to my 

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expectations. 
So what are the gifts of the 

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six, right? 
Like, if you're listening to 

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this and you're not in an 
Anagram 6, you might have some 

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empathy for how difficult it can
be to to sort of live with this 

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constant trauma, fear, and 
anxiety. 

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For the rest of us, one of the 
gifts that we get from an 

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Anagram Sixes is that sometimes 
they are the funniest people on 

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the planet. 
Many, many comedians are 

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Anyagram sixes, right? 
So you take this person who's 

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going through life with this 
point of view, noticing 

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everything that's wrong, and it 
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It makes some very good 
observers, especially like if if

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you're in anyogram 6 with the 
five wing, you're going to be a 

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very good observer of human 
nature, and if you're in 

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anyogram 6 with the seven wing, 
you're going to be out there 

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doing crazy things. 
What are wings? 

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It's that idea that your primary
anyogram type can be influenced 

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by the types to the left or the 
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So yeah, a lot of aniogram sixes
are so funny. 

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They're so funny. 
It's that like, I'm so neurotic,

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I'm funny kind of thing which, 
you know, there's a gift in 

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everything. 
There's a gift in everything. 

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So let's go into the Reso Hudson
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the healthier levels. 
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of advertisement. 
So an anyogram 6 at an unhealthy

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level is self abasing 
self-destructive. 

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So the realization that they 
have committed acts for which 

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they will likely be punished is 
too much for unhealthy sixes. 

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Guilt and self hatred lead lead 
them to punish themselves, 

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inviting disgrace and bringing 
down all that they have 

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achieved. 
Suicide attempts to elicit 

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rescue are not uncommon. 
That's a very, very unhealthy 

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version of an iniogram level. 
And remember that these levels 

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are not absolute progressions in
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You can bounce up and down 
amongst them depending on how 

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stressed you are, what's going 
on in your life. 

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But for the most part, most 
people are going to find 

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themselves who are listening to 
this podcast and in this 

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community. 
Certainly at these higher 

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levels, it can be helpful to 
know that these dangers are are 

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there for you, and it can also 
help you help you help other 

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people. 
All right, A level 8 in your 

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Gram 6 is paranoid. 
Lashing out six. 

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It's become so insecure and 
desperate that they begin to 

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believe that others will destroy
whatever safety they have left. 

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They harbor paranoid fears and 
delusional ideas about the 

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world. 
They rant about their obsessive 

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fears and may strike out at real
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You've met them on the Internet.
Yeah, some of them hold public 

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office. 
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So we're moving up to the top of
the unhealthy range here. 

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Level sixes are panicky and 
unreliable. 

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Sixes fear that their actions 
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and this may be true. 
Their reactive behavior may have

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caused crises in their lives, so
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They feel panicky, depressed, 
and helpless, and so look for 

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something to save them from 
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Remember what I said when you're
thinking about it? 

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An anxious person you might be 
thinking of as an Anniagram 6 at

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this panicky and unreliable 
state. 

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These people at this level, 
they're reacting to their 

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anxiety, often by using other 
people as security objects. 

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So this is the person who can't 
go anywhere without their 

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significant other because they 
they don't know how to regulate 

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themselves. 
OK, moving up, so now we're just

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sort of average, and average 
doesn't mean that most people 

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are in this range. 
We're talking about sort of the 

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Midland level of emotional and 
spiritual maturity and growth. 

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So at this level, these sixes 
can be authoritarian and blaming

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sixes fear that they are losing 
the support of their allies and 

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they are extremely unsure of 
themselves. 

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So they look for causes for the 
for their anxiety. 

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They are embittered, cynical and
reactive. 

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Feeling that their good faith 
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They blame others and get into 
power struggles. 

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There seems to be a lot of 
organizations. 

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Yes, organizations can have an 
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and social groups that are 
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now. 
They are embittered, cynical and

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reactive. 
They're looking to blame others 

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as the cause of their anxiety. 
And the truth is, everything 

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that bothers us. 
The call's coming from inside. 

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When you are feeling some sort 
of disturbing emotion, it's 

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because you are believing 
something that isn't true. 

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OK, that requires a lot of 
unpacking. 

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Do with that what you will. 
Maybe we'll revisit that another

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episode, right? 
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Gram 6, who's operating at a 
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themselves being ambivalent and 
defensive. 6 is worried that 

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they cannot meet the conflicting
demands of their different 

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commitments, so they try to 
resist having any more pressure 

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put on them without alienating 
their supporters. 

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They are anxious, pessimistic, 
in suspicion, suspicious, 

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leading to greater caution, 
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This is that. 
That ambivalence is usually what

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I see. 
It's like there's too much I 

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can't do. 
I can't meet, I can't meet 

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everything. 
I don't know what to do. 

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I don't know what to do. 
I don't know what to do. 

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Do I do this thing or that 
thing? 

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I don't know. 
I don't know. 

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I don't know. 
I don't know. 

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I don't know. 
Please, nobody be mad at me. 

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Moving up Level 4, dutiful and 
loyal. 

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So this is the top of the 
average level. 

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Sixes begin to fear that they 
will lose their independence, 

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but also believe they need more 
support. 

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They invest themselves in the 
people and organizations that 

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they believe will help them, but
are uneasy about it. 

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They seek reassurance and 
guidance and procedures, rules, 

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authorities, and philosophies. 
So you can hear that sort of 

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joiner tendency that I mentioned
earlier. 

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This is I I I don't lose my 
independence, but I also I don't

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feel safe and okay. 
So I'm going to follow some 

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rules here. 
As long as I follow the rules, 

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everything will be fine. 
And you can see how if someone 

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is in that that frame, if I 
follow the rules, everything 

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will be fine. 
And then they get betrayed by, I

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don't know late stage capitalism
that they might fall to that 

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lower level of authoritarian 
like I did what I was supposed 

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to do and I didn't get what I 
was supposed to get. 

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And then you can see how someone
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that blame and power struggle 
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OK, moving up. 
So now we're into the healthy 

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level. 
This is where any gram sixes get

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to use their gifts and their 
superpowers because yes, every 

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group has a superpower. 
So Level 3, any gram 6 is 

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committed and cooperative. 
So six is reinforce their 

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self-image by responsibly 
working to create and sustain 

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mutually beneficial systems. 
They form alliances with others 

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bringing thrift, hard work and 
an attention to detail. 

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They're well disciplined and 
practical often for seeing 

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potential problems before they 
arise. 

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So I remember I said that one of
the questions that just drives 

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in any of Gram 6 is what's 
wrong. 

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And here in the health healthy 
under healthy liver in the 

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healthy level any of Gram 6 is 
using that fault finding 

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tendency in service of mutually 
beneficial systems of alliances 

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of foreseeing potential problems
before they arise. 

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Cool, right. 
So you go camping with an 

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Niagram 6. 
They're the ones that actually 

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checked the weather report and 
brought that extra blanket 

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right. 
That's a healthy niagram 6 and 

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healthy niagram 6 is a such a 
boon to any any team. 

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Like every team needs everybody.
I don't want to be like if I 

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didn't say that every team needs
one of you, please don't take it

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personally. 
Every team needs everybody. 

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Like, you know, like every team 
should be like a team of nine. 

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Maybe. 
I don't know. 

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Would it be cool if like the 
Supreme Court justices were each

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chosen from one any agram type. 
What would be even cooler is if 

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every Supreme Court Justice I'm 
in the US were whole and 

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integrated enough to have 
integrated all the types and 

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actually be wise. 
But I digress. 

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All right, A healthy an Arigram 
6 at a level 2 engaging and 

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reliable 6 is focused on the 
environment to find, support and

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alert themselves to dangers. 
They are friendly, trustworthy, 

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engaging, seeking to build 
connection and stability in 

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their world self-image. 
I'm solid, attentive and 

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dependable. 
Fun right? 

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And that engaging thing, That 
friendly and engaging thing, 

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really honestly often shows up 
in show business. 

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It often shows up in charm right
any A gram sixes. 

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And in particular, in my 
opinion, this is Don's opinion. 

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The world according to Don and 
he A gram sixes with A7 wing 

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really are like often just the 
most charming people you'll ever

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meet because they have that sort
of self effacing thing and that 

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sense of adventure from the any 
A Gram 7. 

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But Don we don't know about any 
A gram sevens yet. 

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You will next week. 
OK, level 1A, super healthy and 

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aiogram 6 is self reliant and 
courageous. 

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Liberated sixes let go of the 
belief that they must rely on 

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someone or something outside 
themselves for support. 

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They discover their own inner 
guidance. 

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They also paradoxically achieve 
their basic desire to find 

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security and support, 
particularly in their own inner 

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guidance. 
They then become truly secure 

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with themselves grounded, serene
and valiant. 

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What I would love to be called 
valiant. 

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Like what a beautiful word to 
describe these people. 

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Like are you thinking like a 
Gryffindors grounded? 

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Serene and valiant like Oh my 
gosh Can you imagine being like 

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grounded, serene, valiant and 
funny. 

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So any of gram 6 is really do 
have a lot to offer in my 

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opinion. 
As I said y'all y'all know by 

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now that I'm an any of Gram 5. 
So I I don't live as an any of 

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gram six. 
I think it can be really hard to

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be an any of Gram 6, but I think
a healthy any of Gram 6 is like 

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such a gift to the rest of the 
world. 

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Did you did you hear that word? 
Valiant? 

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Did you hear Valiant? 
Here's some suspected anneagram.

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Sixes. 
Princess Diana. 

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Tom Hanks. 
Meg Ryan, Julia Roberts, Jay 

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Leno. 
Ellen DeGeneres Gilda Radner. 

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Katie Couric. 
Jack Lemmon. 

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Rush Limbaugh. 
The George Costanza character 

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from Seinfeld. 
So John Richard Riso and Russ 

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Hudson agree with me that 
Enneagram sixes with A7 wing. 

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They're an entertainment yay for
us. 

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And then an Enneagram 6 with A5 
wing. 

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Remember that Valiant word 
Examples? 

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Probably Robert Kennedy, Malcolm
X, Tom Clancy, Bruce 

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Springsteen, Michelle Pfeiffer, 
Diane Keaton, Gloria Steinem, 

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Candice Bergen, Mel Gibson, 
Janet Reno, Richard Nixon. 

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You know, someone should do a 
multicultural anagram book. 

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Maybe that someone is me. 
Because sometimes these examples

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come from a very specific 
cultural, cultural lens. 

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Might be interesting to widen 
that out. 

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But yeah, So if you're an 
Anagram 6, that anxiety that's 

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driving you can actually be your
superpower. 

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And when it is, you become a 
valuable asset to the rest of 

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us. 
Yeah, Yeah, yeah, yeah. 

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Oh, this is so beautiful. 
Here's a quote. 

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I get anxious and then I look 
for the reasons why I'm anxious.

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OK, woo woo alert. 
We're about to get woo woo and 

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then I'll wrap it up. 
I think sometimes people are any

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Agram sixes because they're 
highly sensitive people, HS P's 

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and or they are deep empaths so 
they pick up the free floating 

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anxiety on the planet and 
because they don't know it's not

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theirs, I get anxious and then I
look for reasons why I'm 

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anxious. 
So if you find yourself living 

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with a lot of anxiety whether 
you're an Niagram 6 or not, 

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maybe that's not yours. 
Emotions are contagious, 

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contagious. 
I have a cold, emotions are 

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contagious. 
So you might be experiencing 

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just of the air, the the 
emotional air. 

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OK, we're getting long. 
So any what can we what can we 

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do for our own growing if we are
not NA gram sixes and we want to

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learn from them. 
So let's let's talk about 

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building on strengths of the NA 
gram sixes. 

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NA gram sixes are endowed with 
tremendous endurance and achieve

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their objectives through steady 
and persistent effort. 

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They give careful attention to 
details and approach problems 

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carefully and methodically. 
They organize resources, 

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prioritize tasks, and see 
projects through. 

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All right, y'all the rest of us,
let's learn. 

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Let's learn about dependability.
Let's learn about craftsmanship,

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Dependability, Craftsmanship. 
This is what we learned from our

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anagram sixes. 
Pay attention to those details. 

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Take pride in your 
craftsmanship, your craftsperson

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ship. 
Yes, yes, yes. 

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Stay on top of things so that 
your world runs as trouble free 

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as possible. 
Pay your bills early. 

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Start the project early. 
That is what we can learn from 

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our any agram sixes and tell my 
any agram sixes who have 

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channeled your superpowers into 
taking care of the rest of us 

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just a little bit better. 
We thank you. 

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All right. 
That's it for now. 

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So as we move into the week and 
we lean into the superpowers 

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that we can learn from our any 
Agram 6 Brethren, Cystren and 

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people run them, run, go with 
that. 

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Can I be the one to remind you 
that whatever you're in, your 

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gram type may or may not be, you
are all that and more. 

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You're beautiful. 
You're amazing. 

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You are a delight. 
You are a unique offering from 

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life to the world. 
You are a freaking gift. 

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So I hope you will this week 
treat yourself with honor and 

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respect and dignity because you 
are whole, you are perfect, you 

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are complete, and you are worthy
and deserving of a life so 

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daggone terrific that you jump 
up and down when you get out of 

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bed in the morning. 
Until next time.