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Hello, beautiful humans and 
welcome to the mental Wellness. 

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Wake up, show a weekly podcast 
where growth minded creative 

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people, come to learn, best 
practices from both spirituality

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and psychology that create 
lasting well-being. 

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I am your host mental Wellness, 
expert improvised acting teacher

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therapist and Coach, Don 
McMillan. 

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Let's get to it. 
It. 

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Hello. 
Hello. 

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Hello you. 
Beautiful humans. 

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As I'm recording this. 
It is December 20, 22. 

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And one of my favorite things 
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that for those of us who live in
the Northern Hemisphere, we are 

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surrounded by light. 
I think it's a beautiful common 

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experience that we have in 
variety of cultures and variety 

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of country in a variety of 
religions this impulse. 

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To create light in the winter. 
As this beautiful reminder that 

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the sun will come back and that 
we have the power to make light 

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for ourselves in the darkness. 
I just think it's beautiful 

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driving around and seeing all 
the lights for the holidays and 

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and shearing. 
Joy with my friends in different

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religions, as we talk about how 
we're celebrating and creating 

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community and dig this, Season I
really dig this season so let's 

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talk about you. 
Remember, we're talking about, 

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you are a genius, do you 
remember that? 

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Let me remind you, you are a 
genius. 

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You have a genius, I love and 
Liz Gilbert's book, big magic. 

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She talks about how we have 
changed from thinking, people 

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have the genius. 
Which is sort of like, in some 

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conceptualizations like a muse, 
that hangs out with them and 

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inspires them or they have a 
special gift and I love that 

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framing because rather than 
making it a permanent State, 

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like, you are a genius for you 
or are not the idea that you 

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have genius. 
You have aging as you have some 

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genius, Is more of a growth 
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It becomes not of question of. 
Well, was I born with a genius 

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or not? 
It's who, how can I create? 

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Or discover or reveal or find a 
genius in me? 

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So you have genius. 
So let's talk about living in 

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your zone of Genius. 
So we're digging back into gay 

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Hendricks, working Work, gay 
Hendricks is an author's, 

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ecologist and counselor and I am
digging into his book, The Big 

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week, or your zone of genius and
hear me now. 

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Believe me later. 
The world needs you are genius. 

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The world needs, you were 
Genius. 

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Because not only is your unique 
set of gifts precisely with the 

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community needs. 
You living a life that is 

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fulfilling and enjoyable and 
rich just makes you a better 

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person to be around. 
So let's talk about your zone of

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Genius. 
Going to hear some papers 

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ruffling. 
All right so what gay Hendrix 

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recommends is to? 
First of all just make a 

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commitment to live in your zone 
of Genius. 

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I'm going to read directly from 
the book. 

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I invite you to make your 
commitment right at this moment,

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make a private deal between you 
and the universe, a formal 

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commitment to living in your 
zone of Genius. 

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Here's a sentence. 
I use when working with people. 

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I commit to living in my zone of
Genius. 

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Now and forever. 
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Repeat after me. 
I commit to living in my zone of

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Genius now and forever. 
I commit to living in my zone of

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Genius now and forever. 
Try writing that on your mirror,

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put a reminder app on your 
phone, make it your Mantra when 

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you wake up in the morning and 
roll over, Smack That Alarm and 

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say to yourself, I commit to 
living in my zone of Genius now 

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and forever. 
I'm going to challenge you to do

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that because there's something 
super powerful about a 

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commitment. 
It means that you are reminded 

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one that you have is a man of 
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And To that, you're going to 
choose it of your own free will 

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as actively as possible in every
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So the big question that comes 
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As well, here are some questions
and these are going to sound 

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familiar and I've had a 
conversation like this with 

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several of my friends. 
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friends recently about how once 
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these various spiritual 
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modalities. 
They all start to kind of feel a

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little similar. 
They start to like well that's 

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just kind of like this and like 
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Yeah. 
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there are only so many ways to 
hack the human heart. 

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There are only so many ways to 
hack the human brain you know we

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can come at it from any number 
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we're all made of the same 
stuff, mind-body feelings Spirit

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and the operating system may be 
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So So, these questions may sound
familiar and I invite you to 

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bring a beginner's mind to them.
Pretend like you have never 

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heard them before. 
All of my preconceived notions. 

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I have about what my zone of 
Genius is. 

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I now destroy and uncreate. 
Will you destroy and uncreate 

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all of your preconceived? 
Notions about what your Genius 

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is. 
That's right? 

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You see ya? 
And here we go. 

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So now that you've decided heck 
yeah I want the zone of Genius 

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stuff. 
I want my life to live, like I 

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want to live my life like it's 
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I want to do things that feel 
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I want to be a huge contribution
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world. 
Let's do it. 

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Here's the first genius 
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What do I most love to do? 
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I can do it for long stretches 
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What do you most love to do? 
You love it so much you can do 

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it for long stretches of time 
without getting tired or bored. 

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Feel free to pause the recording
right now and do a custom take 

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some quick notes. 
I don't grab out your phone and 

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do a quick little voice memo. 
Now, what's lovely about this 

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question is that your answer 
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unique to you. 
Not brutally honest, be 

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completely unjust. 
Mentally honest with yourself, 

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no matter what it is. 
That's not your final answer. 

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There will be more questions. 
So if you're somewhere in the 

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realm of things that you don't 
think matter like of that 

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judgment and answer the 
question, what do you most love 

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to do? 
What do you love so much? 

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You can do for long stretches of
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bored? 
Okay, similar but not exactly 

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the same. 
What work do? 

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I do? 
That doesn't seem like work. 

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I can do it all day long, 
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bored. 
What work do you do, that? 

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Doesn't seem like work. 
What can you do all day long 

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without feeling tired or bored? 
It's the kind of thing that when

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you're doing it you're like this
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It's when you just get into it 
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And if you have a day where this
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perhaps tired but not depleted. 
It might be that thing that 

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gives you more energy when you 
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What work do you do? 
That you can just lose track of 

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time. 
Okay, recycling in on some good 

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stuff here. 
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Number three from gay Hendrix in
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What produces the highest ratio 
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amount of time spent? 
For example even if I only do 10

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seconds or a few minutes of it 
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May spring forth that leads to 
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What produces the highest ratio 
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amount of time spent? 
Even if you only do a few 

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seconds or a few minutes of it 
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May spring for that leads, to 
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throughout history, if you get 
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that question is going to be go 
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A lot of great thinkers and 
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going for long walks. 
That is often an answer for many

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people. 
It may not be your answer but I 

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want to share that as a way to 
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It might be you know sometimes I
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being very still and staring off
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Not even necessarily meditating 
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focused on anything in 
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And when I spend time doing 
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Inspirations connections ideas, 
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that is completely out of 
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time. 
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that, and sometimes you have to 
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what that is. 
You got to be ruthless about 

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projecting with that is. 
If that thing is your writing, 

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if it's your art is your 
creativity, you want to just 

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really be super honest with in 
your work what produces the 

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highest ratio of abundance and 
satisfaction and dissatisfaction

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don't get stuck on the abundance
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Making cold calls may make you 
the most money, but if it's not 

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also satisfying, it isn't the 
answer to this question? 

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My work who produces the highest
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satisfaction to amount of time, 
spent spoiler alert Lily. 

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You want to start figuring out 
how to offload the things that 

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are not the answer to that 
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All right, so moving on, Even 
pausing and taking notes, listen

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to the episode again. 
Go back pain. 

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Stick nodes. 
What is my unique ability? 

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What is your unique ability? 
There's a special skill. 

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You are gifted with Yes, there 
is. 

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Yes, you this unique ability 
fully realized and put to work. 

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Can provide enormous benefits to
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serve. 
This one is hard for people. 

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This one is hard for people. 
My very first coach, shout out 

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to you. 
Erin called it called it, your 

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superpower. 
This is genius, this unique 

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genius. 
In fact, the the course that he 

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that he used to teach is called 
your unique genius, Discovery, 

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unique genius Discovery. 
And the reason why it's hard is 

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because this there's something 
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It's so just like, well yeah, 
it's in that zone of doesn't 

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everybody know how to do that or
it's something that your 

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culture, or your upbringing 
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I remember reading a book years 
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who embedded with an indigenous 
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of the women's one of the 
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was to listen. 
Her unique genius was to listen.

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And in that particular 
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there were other people who were
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baskets, doing this other stuff,
her genius was to listen and so 

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the other members of the 
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great reverence, in order to 
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So what is your unique ability? 
So, he gave uses this idea of a 

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Russian doll, you know, it's 
those little dolls where there's

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like a big doll me up. 
The big doll, a little Tommy of 

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little time, just a little and 
ticket, is, he's a bit? 

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A teeny tiny little doll. 
So your unique genius, may be 

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camouflaged inside a larger 
skill, so you might not realize 

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that your unique ability is what
is driving your success in 

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applying that larger skill. 
So I'm going to use As example 

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here, he says, for example, I 
didn't learn about my unique 

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ability to well into my 30s. 
I have been using it all along, 

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but it was like water to a fish.
I had taken it so much for 

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granted that I didn't know. 
It was a definable skill that 

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could be described and refined 
all right, so You have a skill 

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that is your unique genius and 
you're probably using it, but 

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it's like that little, is that 
little baby doll inside the 

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other big tall's, you 
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Don't know. 
I'm sorry, I got distracted. 

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The you may not have noticed 
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What is that? 
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So gay is talking about how he 
knew was since he was a kid that

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he loved to help people solve 
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So his unique ability occurs 
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helping people solve problems. 
The best way. 

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I can describe it is that I can 
be with people in a certain way 

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that enables them to come up 
with Creative Solutions, they 

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hadn't thought of before. 
So, I have two people in my 

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personal life, who have this 
particular skill, their 

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particular skill is to be with 
other people and help them 

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ideate, until they come up with 
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Amazing has a that is a 
marketable skill, my friends, 

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they didn't realize that that 
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because it was in the context of
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but the unique skill is I can be
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you to come up with a beautiful 
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you're struggling with. 
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help out. 
I'm like I'm leaning heavily on 

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gay Hendrix because it's better 
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mine. 
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was working with, and he asked 
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she said running meetings That's
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he said well when you're running
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it that you're doing? 
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discussion discussion and move 
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He asks, what gives you the 
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And she paused and said, I never
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feel an energy shift in the 
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And inside me something shifts 
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to move on. 
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Now that I think about it. 
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that since I was a kid so her 
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troubled childhood and being 
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Shift in her parents energy, and
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You have an ability to feel a 
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the room and then and inside you
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helps, you know what to do. 
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So I hope these examples are 
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and getting together with a 
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So to use gaze example, okay? 
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Well what about that? 
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It's a process that I lead some 
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say, what would you like? 
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I'm like, well, why is that 
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Because of this. 
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Because of this getting down to 
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same way. 
What are you good at? 

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I'm good at organizing parties. 
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parties is especially, are you 
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I'm, especially good at 
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The all of those different 
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Are you especially good at the 
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first aha. 
Now you're getting somewhere. 

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This episode is long. 
I hope this is helpful. 

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The thing I think is the most 
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nothing else. 
Commit to living in your zone of

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genius and as you go through 
your day, notice notice, when 

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you're in that flow State, when 
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lose track of time, you think to
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all day. 
When you think to yourself, This

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is what I came to. 
This is what I showed up for. 

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This is why I do what I do. 
Keep your heart, your ears, 

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you're in your eyes peeled for 
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My other suggestion is start to 
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for. 
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it could be your zone of 
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People are used to coming to you
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They come to rely on you so that
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But, you know, pay attention, 
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moments when you're like, Love 
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This is a lot. 
I just I love this whole body of

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work from him. 
I just loved it and I really 

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needed it. 
I really needed it. 

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I've noticed some unfolding in 
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especially these last couple of 
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change your, from a lot of 
people that they feel like time 

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is speeding up. 
And so remembering that living 

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at our zone of Genius, is not 
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But rather is, in fact, not only
the best gift that we can give 

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ourselves. 
It is the best gift we can. 

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Everyone with whom we interact, 
and if you have young people in 

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your life, you can Inspire them 
to skip over some of the hard 

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parts and go directly to leaning
into their zone of Genius, so 

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they don't have to reinvent the 
wheel and make the same mistakes

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that we made. 
All right? 

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Thank you for being here. 
I mean, especially you, because 

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you're so magnificent. 
I mean, the way you do the 

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things you do, So impressive and
you're good looking too. 

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Your whole you are perfect. 
You are complete. 

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You are worthy of thriving. 
You are worthy and deserving of 

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a life, so freaking fantastic. 
That it surprises. 

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Even you until next time, I am 
so honored that you share time 

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with me. 
If you've listened this far, 

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Chef's kiss. 
Thank you so much. 

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See you next time.