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Hello, beautiful humans and 
welcome to the mental Wellness. 

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Wake up, show a weekly podcast 
where growth minded creative 

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people, come to learn, best 
practices from both spirituality

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and psychology that create 
lasting well-being. 

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I am your host mental Wellness, 
expert improvised acting teacher

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therapist and Coach, Don 
McMillan. 

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Let's get to it. 
It. 

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But before we get to that, I 
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Thank you for listening. 
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Wake up show, we are spreading 
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We say thank you to Bertram for 

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making strange noises in the 
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We're trending in Vietnam. 
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Republic of Lithuania Kuwait. 
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So, hi. 
Hi to all of you. 

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I'm especially impressed by 
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and you're not first language. 
When I was growing up, I'm an 

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army brat. 
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parents from other countries. 
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from various places that That 
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And I was always so mad at my 
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Come I can't speak Vietnamese 
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Thank you to all of you and if 
you would, please continue to 

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like and share and subscribe. 
The more people we have on this 

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journey of self actualization 
and creating a world. 

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That is better for all of us. 
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It is. 
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I'm just too excited. 
I don't think my words are 

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coming together in ways that 
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So shall we move on to the Of 
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Alright. 
So we're going to talk about 

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your zone of genius and this 
work is created by gay Hendricks

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who is a best-selling self-help 
author and a psychologist and 

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counselor like me. 
And he wrote a book called the 

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big leap and I think the 
addition I have is from the 80s,

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like this work is old, but it's 
still relevant. 

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So the basics are this. 
They're pretty much for zones. 

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Of life that you can be 
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You have your zone of 
incompetence. 

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These are the things that you 
just do not do well, your zone 

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of competence. 
These are the things that you 

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are, you know, pretty darned, 
decent, at your zone of 

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Excellence. 
These are the things where you 

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are Top Notch and your zone of 
Genius, so it seems pretty 

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self-explanatory but let's dig 
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What's the problem with your 
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Then competence. 
Well, it seems pretty obvious. 

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You're not very good at these 
things and you are possibly 

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causing problems by operating in
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Your zone of incompetence are 
things that you should do very, 

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very little of you should 
delegate or simply find other 

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ways around being the person in 
charge of these for example, I 

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what am I incompetent? 
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mechanics. 
I am not a good auto mechanic. 

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Like, I can go to YouTube 
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sort of figure things out. 
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something I'm going to be great 
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So if my car needs repairs, I 
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But because it's in my zone of 
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going to take me a really long 
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well. 
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probably best done by someone 
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else to do it, then I need to 
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Now, the problem with this kind 
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many people have jobs in their 
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become a roadblock to other 
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been in work places. 
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communities that you belong to 
where there's someone who just 

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mucks up the works. 
And they don't mean to, but they

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do, and that is very likely. 
Someone who through accident or,

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inclination has found themselves
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largely filled with activities 
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particularly competent. 
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successful in life is to get out
of doing things at which you are

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incompetent or two. 
I choose to narrow in on those 

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activities that are a part of 
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your job, your responsibilities,
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competent at them, because 
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incompetence is not only 
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So, Step 1, are you terrible at 
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Stop doing it. 
I'll get better at it. 

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So in jobs sometimes this 
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So, see you get hired to do a 
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discover that much like 
recruiting often is the actual 

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job that you're expected to do, 
has a whole lot of activities 

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that you a didn't know about be.
Don't want to do and see here 

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are very good at. 
You can start to job, crafty 

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start to talk to the people 
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Hey I would love to take on more
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these and you start to 
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She ate around that most of the 
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incompetent. 
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So, you want to collaborate with
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zone of incompetence easy-peasy 
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Then we move on to our zone of 
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start to get into trouble. 
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where you can get into trouble 
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it. 
Your zone of competence can make

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you money but it's not the thing
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to do. 
It's not like Our true calling. 

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It's not you're not bringing all
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you're good at it. 
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actor in Los Angeles and things 
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you know, do temp work would 
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oh my God, they loved you. 
They want you to come back. 

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And I'm like, all I did was what
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Like I showed up when they told 
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and answered the phone. 
Own like it was just pretty much

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breathing in the chair that they
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people would show up in a 
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even know what they were doing. 
So the problem with your zone of

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competence is that it's fine but
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that's better than it's fine. 
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be a little bit troubling, so 
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You should accept, is your 
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That's a bad word. 
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do things that you can do at 
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Outsource or and renegotiate 
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Okay. 
So moving up, we have your zone 

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of Excellence. 
Now, your zone of Excellence is.

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These are those things that you 
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These are the things you get 
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These are the things when you 
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These are the blue ribbons. 
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You're good at it. 
You're better than many other 

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people that it and you get 
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This is the thing people like. 
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I wish I could do that. 
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So what's wrong with it? 
It's also not your true deepest 

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gifts. 
These are the things that you 

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got good at because of a 
combination of opportunity 

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interest and you know, genetic 
Lottery winning but it doesn't 

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actually feed your soul. 
You the classic example is going

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to be the midlife crisis. 
You have someone who's made a 

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great career as a corporate 
attorney or you know a a bonds 

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Trader And Wall Street. 
And they've got this great life.

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Everyone talks about how great 
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They get promoted. 
They're making a great salary, 

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but something has been eating 
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And then often in, midlife 
people start to wonder, is this 

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all there is? 
And if you are doing well, 

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according to external standards,
and still wondering, is this all

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there is, it might be B, if 
you're new around here and you 

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can hear the moaning in the 
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just let him get settled on his 
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If you are wondering, is this 
all there is, it could be a sign

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that you are operating in your 
zone of Excellence. 

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So what's the big leap according
to gay Hendrix? 

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It's the leap from your zone of 
Excellence to your zone of 

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genius and this can be 
terrifying because your zone of 

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Excellence is safe. 
Your zone of Excellence, has a 

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track record, your zone of 
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certificates degrees and awards 
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Your zone of Genius, might be 
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So the classic example would be 
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right? 
So they're like is this all 

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there is is this all there is 
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I'm gonna I'm gonna go take a 
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bed-and-breakfast and make my 
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Alright, we tend to think about 
people giving up the safe path 

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for the more artistic path but 
it doesn't have to be that it 

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really doesn't have to be that. 
It can be something that could 

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be the reverse. 
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been leading this Bohemian 
lifestyle because they wanted to

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be a rebel, but it's also not in
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decide. 
You know what I've always liked 

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numbers and I like money. 
I'm gonna go be a bookkeeper. 

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The point is that there could be
a greater level of thriving and 

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reward and life. 
That is waiting for you. 

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If you're willing to take the 
risk to get out of that cozy, 

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Cocoon of excellence and be true
to yourself. 

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True to yourself Don, that 
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Yes, it is, it requires a 
vigorous level of honesty and 

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integrity and bravery. 
Because again, that zone of 

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Excellence is where you get 
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I have in my life noticed people
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paper and you know, they end up 
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like I don't love what I do but 
everyone else is like, wow, but 

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you're so good at it but I don't
love it but you're so good at it

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but I don't love it but you're 
so good at it and you're making 

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so much money why would you give
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So let's talk a little bit. 
To open my book. 

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Now, about the things that get 
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leap from your zone of 
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Genius, here are some things 
that get in the way worrying. 

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So if you're on the spiritual 
Vibe, worrying is a very low 

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energy. 
Low vibration thing to do. 

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Worrying is tormenting yourself 
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may or may not be happening 
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So worrying is a great way to 
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the big leap. 
If, for example, whirring takes 

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the shape of what will people 
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If I give up this Dynamic 
career, which I am so good and I

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am Making so much money and I 
want an award last year. 

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Will I lose my friends? 
That's worrying. 

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Blame. 
And criticism. 

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That's pretty self-explanatory, 
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Blame is at the lowest level of 
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So, if you are sitting there 
saying, well, I would be happier

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if only Lucy over here would do 
her job, right? 

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Or if my wife were thinner, or 
if my, my dog would stop 

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groaning, anytime, or if my 
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don't know how many people I've 
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60s. 70s, who are still blaming 
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outcomes in life? 
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say, yeah, my my experiences 
other people have contributed to

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the way that my life is right 
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That's a whole different point 
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Because blame and criticism that
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So harshly deprives you of 
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keeps you from growing and 
developing as a person getting 

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sick. 
Hurt. 

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Wait, what? 
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unconsciously arrange to get 
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we're starting to reach the 
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learned to accept. 
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benevolence fill in the blank 
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much of the book he talks about 
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And what happens is we grow up 
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that we grow up in and we get 
like this thermostat that set at

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this is the amount of Happiness,
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This is the amount of money 
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This is the amount of Health and
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You're allowed to have in that 
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that, that when we start to 
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start to do things to sabotage. 
The situation in weight loss 

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articles, they often talk about 
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Set point that you get this set 
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Let's say your set point is 175 
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up, right? 
So as soon as you start getting 

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like 180, your body doesn't 
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You're really like, oh, I'm 
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Mark. 
I'm going to bulk up. 

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I'm going to get there, then 
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Break your wrist and you can't 
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That could be an upper limit 
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It seems like an accident but 
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That's freaking out about 
getting too good having it too 

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good because we were programmed 
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view. 
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hurt. 
Could be a sign that you are 

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reaching the upper limit and 
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Told you you're allowed. 
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might be holding yourself back 
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competence are Excellence. 
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is squabbling. 
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of irritated and picking fights 
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embracing the possibility of 
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hiding significant feelings. 
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people so often especially in 
couples counseling is speak the 

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unspoken. 
If you're building a wall of 

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resentment against someone 
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tell them you need to say, hey, 
I don't appreciate this or 

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whatever is building the 
resentment and if you really 

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care for some speak that too. 
If you're starting fights 

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because you're feeling insecure 
because you really care about 

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someone, but you don't know how 
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Maybe you could have that 
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agreements to yourself and 
others not keeping agreements is

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one of the primary ways that we 
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out of Integrity, we are not in 
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We're all guilty of it. 
I do this. 

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I'm raising my hand so if you 
agree to pay the overdue tax 

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bill at a hundred dollars a 
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you're going to feel it. 
And that's going to disrupt your

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ability to be at your best and 
to open up to greater good. 

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If you say that you're going to 
mow the lawn, some people have 

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Lawns. 
I live in a place where we don't

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have Lawns. 
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The lawn on Sunday and you just 
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Then you're breaking your 
agreements, you're out of 

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integrity. 
And the way to get from your 

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zone of Excellence to your zone.
Of Genius is so genuine acity. 

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Not speaking relevant truths to 
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If there's something that Bob 
needs to know, tell Bob, not 

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Jane and then deflecting 
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Compliments is a good example of
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So I guess this sort of begs, 
the question of what's so 

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important about the zone of 
Genius, just everything, just 

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everything. 
That's when your life begins to 

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feel like magic when you're 
living in your zone of Genius. 

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Your life begins to feel like 
magic. 

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You become a benefit more of a 
benefit. 

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You're already awesome more of a
benefit to everyone around you. 

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You're more likely to get in. 
Those flows states where you 

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just feel like there's a line 
Moment, Like, You are heart and 

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soul and body and mind are all 
working towards the same goal. 

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We all think we want happiness. 
Happiness is fleeting, happiness

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is a state, not a trait, but 
when you're living in your zone 

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of Genius, You get to have joy 
and joy is a trait. 

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Joy is a way of experiencing 
life, it's a way of looking at 

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life. 
It's a way of walking through 

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life, and your zone of Genius is
a path to having Joy. 

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So this episode is really long 
at this juncture. 

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So, let's pick this up again, 
and we'll talk more about these 

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different levels. 
Primarily I want to focus on the

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zone of excellence in. 
Out of genius and why? 

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It is that we have these upper 
limit behaviors. 

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I'm sure you have some ideas 
about, you know, self-sabotage, 

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which is not a word I like, 
because there are no bad parts 

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but really getting into that 
sense of what is it in us? 

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That would prevent us from 
being, okay, with accepting, 

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more love, more joy, more peace 
and awareness. 

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All right, and with that, also 
excited about our little 

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Community, one of my intentions 
for this upcoming new year, is 

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to find some ways to bring us 
together. 

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That feels like my zone of 
Genius. 

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And feels good to you. 
So continue to reach out to me, 

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please. 
And thank you. 

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I love it so much. 
I love that Instagram messages 

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that YouTube knows, like, all of
it, all of it, all of it. 

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And if you want to send me an 
email, I am Don McMillan info at

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gmail.com. 
All right, your glorious being. 

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You know what? 
I just remembered. 

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You're awesome. 
You are whole, you are perfect. 

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You are complete. 
You are worthy and deserving of 

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living in your zone of genius 
and an ever-expanding sense of 

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wholeness of completeness of 
connection of contribution 

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because your unique set of 
talents and abilities. 

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And inclinations is exactly what
the world needs. 

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Until next time.