1 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:09,160 Hello beautiful humans, and welcome to the Mental Wellness 2 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:11,720 Wake Up Show. A weekly podcast where? 3 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:16,040 Growthminded, creative people come to learn best practices. 4 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:19,680 From both spirituality. And psychology that create 5 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:24,000 lasting wellbeing. I am your host, mental Wellness 6 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:27,840 expert, improvised acting teacher, therapist and coach 7 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:30,360 Dawn McMillan. Let's get to it. 8 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:33,440 Hello. Hello. 9 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:38,960 I am so glad you are here and if you are joining us for the 10 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:41,920 first. Time welcome. 11 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:46,000 It is a delight to have you here and you are an excellent company 12 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:48,080 this. Community is made-up of. 13 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:50,880 Truly lovely. Amazing, wonderful people. 14 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:54,000 So even if you don't know them in person, know that there are 15 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:56,480 people all around the world. Literally. 16 00:00:57,030 --> 00:01:01,430 Who are sharing this moment with you as we all strive towards 17 00:01:01,430 --> 00:01:03,870 being our favorite version of ourselves. 18 00:01:03,870 --> 00:01:05,990 So welcome and to. All my. 19 00:01:06,030 --> 00:01:09,630 Returning listeners, here's a virtual hug for you. 20 00:01:09,630 --> 00:01:11,790 Thank you for being here. Your time is. 21 00:01:11,790 --> 00:01:13,630 Precious. And you're spending it with me. 22 00:01:13,630 --> 00:01:15,910 And I am. Truly honored. 23 00:01:16,790 --> 00:01:20,270 So we're in our enniogram. Series, which if you're. 24 00:01:20,270 --> 00:01:23,550 Joining us just now. You don't have to listen to the 25 00:01:23,550 --> 00:01:25,950 other ones, but I. Highly recommend that you do. 26 00:01:26,500 --> 00:01:30,100 The enniogram. Is A9 pointed wisdom system? 27 00:01:30,420 --> 00:01:32,300 Which is most? Commonly used as a. 28 00:01:32,300 --> 00:01:34,780 Personality typing we. Started. 29 00:01:34,780 --> 00:01:37,980 In the. Triad at the top of the. 30 00:01:37,980 --> 00:01:42,420 Circle 8 nines and ones and eight nines and ones are. 31 00:01:42,420 --> 00:01:46,460 Characterized by their relationship to anger. 32 00:01:46,460 --> 00:01:49,500 To managing their anger so today. 33 00:01:50,140 --> 00:01:53,940 We are jumping. Into our enniogram ones. 34 00:01:54,340 --> 00:01:57,170 Woohoo. So I will be. 35 00:01:57,170 --> 00:02:01,250 Shuffling some papers around, so just bear with me if you would 36 00:02:01,250 --> 00:02:05,810 be so kind so that I can. Pull some, pull from a couple of 37 00:02:05,810 --> 00:02:08,330 different. Sources So who? 38 00:02:08,370 --> 00:02:10,530 Are our anyogram. Ones. 39 00:02:10,930 --> 00:02:13,410 The first thing you have to say about an anyogram 1. 40 00:02:13,650 --> 00:02:17,850 Is that every team needs one, hehe pun intended. 41 00:02:18,730 --> 00:02:22,250 Every team needs an anyogram 1. I will tell you why. 42 00:02:22,850 --> 00:02:24,370 Here's. The names. 43 00:02:25,110 --> 00:02:27,190 That are used. To describe the. 44 00:02:27,310 --> 00:02:31,070 Enneagram one the. Reformer. 45 00:02:31,110 --> 00:02:32,750 The teacher. The activist. 46 00:02:32,790 --> 00:02:34,750 The crusader. The moralist. 47 00:02:34,830 --> 00:02:36,430 The perfectionist. The. 48 00:02:36,550 --> 00:02:41,150 Organizer so ones are at their. Best. 49 00:02:41,670 --> 00:02:46,670 When they are at their best and they are ethical, reliable, 50 00:02:47,150 --> 00:02:53,230 productive, wise, idealistic, fair. 51 00:02:54,490 --> 00:02:56,890 Honest. Orderly. 52 00:02:57,210 --> 00:03:02,170 And self disciplined, yes. Yes. 53 00:03:02,290 --> 00:03:04,290 We want those. Ones around us, they. 54 00:03:04,290 --> 00:03:08,450 Keep us. On our toes, however, when a one 55 00:03:08,450 --> 00:03:11,090 is under stress when they're unevolved. 56 00:03:11,090 --> 00:03:12,930 When they have. Their unresolved trauma. 57 00:03:13,850 --> 00:03:15,810 At their worst. Ones can be. 58 00:03:15,890 --> 00:03:23,650 Judgmental, inflexible, dogmatic, obsessive, compulsive. 59 00:03:24,730 --> 00:03:28,250 Critical of others overly serious. 60 00:03:28,930 --> 00:03:35,330 Controlling, anxious, jealous. So ones have so. 61 00:03:35,330 --> 00:03:37,250 Many. Beautiful gifts to. 62 00:03:37,250 --> 00:03:40,770 Offer the trouble. That ones have for the most part 63 00:03:40,770 --> 00:03:44,690 is that that ability. To strive for perfection. 64 00:03:44,690 --> 00:03:47,810 To see how things could be sometimes becomes a. 65 00:03:47,810 --> 00:03:51,010 Very blunt instrument of. Very. 66 00:03:52,270 --> 00:03:55,550 Unwieldy weapon, that. They use against themselves and 67 00:03:55,550 --> 00:03:57,710 others. So ones always have to strike 68 00:03:57,710 --> 00:03:59,550 this wonderful. Balance this tricky. 69 00:03:59,550 --> 00:04:03,270 Balance of looking for the ideal. 70 00:04:03,270 --> 00:04:06,270 For working towards getting things right. 71 00:04:06,950 --> 00:04:09,430 Without beating themselves up when they. 72 00:04:09,430 --> 00:04:12,190 Can't make that. Level of perfection. 73 00:04:12,550 --> 00:04:16,630 Or becoming a harasser. Of others for not. 74 00:04:16,630 --> 00:04:20,390 Living up to their ideals, so for ones. 75 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:22,360 We're going. To be going. 76 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,080 Back and forth. Between Resale Hudson. 77 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:28,240 And Baron. Wigelli systems. 78 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:31,720 Those are different authors of different enneogram 79 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:36,240 explorations, so. In the resale Hudson, they 80 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:42,240 identify the basic fear. Of an enneogram one is it being. 81 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:44,760 Bad. Defective. 82 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:47,440 Evil. Corrupt. 83 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:50,560 That's their basic fear of being bad. 84 00:04:51,300 --> 00:04:53,820 Of being bad, not. Necessarily only doing. 85 00:04:53,820 --> 00:05:02,580 Bad but being bad, their basic desire to be good, virtuous, in 86 00:05:02,580 --> 00:05:05,900 balance and to. Have integrity. 87 00:05:07,220 --> 00:05:10,340 So the message that that. Plays in their in their minds, 88 00:05:10,340 --> 00:05:11,700 their super ego message is going to. 89 00:05:11,700 --> 00:05:14,460 Be you are. Good are okay. 90 00:05:14,900 --> 00:05:18,140 If you. Do what is right? 91 00:05:19,050 --> 00:05:22,210 So when you think about some, some ones. 92 00:05:22,210 --> 00:05:23,250 That you might. Know. 93 00:05:23,490 --> 00:05:24,970 You're going to. Appreciate. 94 00:05:25,090 --> 00:05:29,010 That they're the ones who who just keep going until the. 95 00:05:29,010 --> 00:05:31,570 Job is done. They're the ones who. 96 00:05:31,930 --> 00:05:34,370 Organize the shopping list by geography so. 97 00:05:34,370 --> 00:05:36,930 That when you're out running errands, you do it in the. 98 00:05:36,930 --> 00:05:39,250 Cleanest, most efficient way possible? 99 00:05:39,810 --> 00:05:42,130 Any agram ones. Really are essential. 100 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:44,240 To anyone's team. And as I mentioned. 101 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:47,480 Before the The challenge that they struggle with is. 102 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:50,720 Just. Using that intellect, that 103 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:54,400 wisdom, that discernment. Against themselves and. 104 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:56,440 Others. So let's talk about what? 105 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:59,800 The 9:00. Levels that the. 106 00:05:59,840 --> 00:06:03,720 Enneagram one. Can go through Ah. 107 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:06,560 Before we do that, let's talk about the relationship to anger. 108 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:09,240 So we divided. The Enneagram up. 109 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:13,160 For this. High level, High level birdseye. 110 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:15,920 View. Of the anagram into. 111 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:20,400 Three groups of three. There are many more ways. 112 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,760 To divide the anagram up, but we're doing the initial three 113 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:26,280 groups of three. So 8 nines and ones are 114 00:06:26,280 --> 00:06:29,280 considered. The gut group, The body group, 115 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:34,160 The the the people who? Operate a lot on instinct and 116 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,160 just what they know in their bones. 117 00:06:37,170 --> 00:06:39,330 And are often. Characterized by their 118 00:06:39,330 --> 00:06:43,090 relationship to anger. Whereas anyogram. 119 00:06:43,170 --> 00:06:46,050 Eights will often act out their anger they'll express. 120 00:06:46,050 --> 00:06:49,370 It if an anyogram 8 is upset with you, you will know it 121 00:06:50,610 --> 00:06:53,170 anyogram nines. Their relationship to anger is 122 00:06:53,170 --> 00:06:55,090 to suppress it. They're working very hard at 123 00:06:55,090 --> 00:06:56,410 all. Times to keep. 124 00:06:56,410 --> 00:06:59,290 The peace inside. And outside, so they're they're 125 00:06:59,290 --> 00:07:00,690 the. Can't we all just get? 126 00:07:00,690 --> 00:07:02,530 Along people. So their relationship. 127 00:07:02,530 --> 00:07:06,410 To anger is to just. Bottle it up. 128 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:09,480 Unless and until you cross the line with them, and then you 129 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:11,960 will see a version of them that you probably will never want to 130 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:14,880 see again. And then with our or anyogram 131 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:18,440 ones. They are using their. 132 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:22,200 That that anger as fuel. They use it as fuel. 133 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:24,480 It's that the. Fire that. 134 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,600 Keeps them on. That perfectionist track, the 135 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:28,120 fire that. Keeps them going to get. 136 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:32,280 It right and if you're suspecting that there. 137 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:35,960 Are a lot of. Anyogram on entrepreneurs. 138 00:07:36,620 --> 00:07:38,620 You would be correct. So let's talk. 139 00:07:38,620 --> 00:07:43,540 About unhealthy, Unhealthy. Versions or levels of. 140 00:07:43,540 --> 00:07:49,380 Being in an. Aagram one so at level 9. 9 141 00:07:49,380 --> 00:07:52,540 being below. Our beautiful Aagram. 142 00:07:52,540 --> 00:07:57,420 Ones can be condemnatory and punitive. 143 00:08:00,780 --> 00:08:03,220 They realization that they've lost control of themselves and 144 00:08:03,220 --> 00:08:05,220 are doing the very things. They. 145 00:08:05,220 --> 00:08:10,100 Cannot tolerate another's. Is too much for unhealthy ones. 146 00:08:11,460 --> 00:08:13,620 They try to rid themselves of the apparent cause of their 147 00:08:13,620 --> 00:08:15,780 obsessions in themselves. Others. 148 00:08:16,500 --> 00:08:19,260 Or the environment. Possibly resulting in self 149 00:08:19,260 --> 00:08:22,140 mutilation, murder, or suicide. OK, that's really. 150 00:08:22,140 --> 00:08:25,220 Extreme, but we can we. Can think about? 151 00:08:25,420 --> 00:08:29,300 This condemnation as. Being. 152 00:08:29,580 --> 00:08:32,659 That level of perfectionism, that fire of anger. 153 00:08:32,659 --> 00:08:35,409 Turned deeply inwards. And when that becomes 154 00:08:35,409 --> 00:08:40,010 intolerable, turned. Outwards, so at level. 8 and 155 00:08:40,010 --> 00:08:42,450 unhealthy and a gram one is going to. 156 00:08:42,650 --> 00:08:47,130 Be. Obsessive and contradictory. 157 00:08:49,410 --> 00:08:50,890 Areso, Hudson says. Ones are so. 158 00:08:50,890 --> 00:08:53,850 Desperate to defend. Themselves from their irrational 159 00:08:53,850 --> 00:08:57,490 desires and impulses that they become obsessed with the very 160 00:08:57,490 --> 00:08:59,570 parts of themselves they want to control. 161 00:09:00,290 --> 00:09:02,570 They begin to act. Out all of their repressed 162 00:09:02,570 --> 00:09:05,190 desires. While publicly continuing to 163 00:09:05,190 --> 00:09:07,430 condemn them, they cannot stop themselves. 164 00:09:08,550 --> 00:09:10,310 So this. If you're hearing that, 165 00:09:10,310 --> 00:09:13,830 contradictory. That hypocrisy. 166 00:09:14,790 --> 00:09:16,510 These are the. People who? 167 00:09:17,030 --> 00:09:19,910 Talk about those. Good for nothing, so and So's. 168 00:09:20,230 --> 00:09:22,310 But secretly they're doing the exact same behavior. 169 00:09:22,310 --> 00:09:23,790 And you can understand how this would be. 170 00:09:23,790 --> 00:09:26,190 Very self tormenting, very painful. 171 00:09:26,550 --> 00:09:28,630 For the Aneagram ones. And also very painful for the 172 00:09:28,630 --> 00:09:29,470 people. Around them. 173 00:09:29,990 --> 00:09:33,030 As they they they speak and. Act out of condemnation. 174 00:09:34,810 --> 00:09:37,410 Level 7 self-righteous and flexible. 175 00:09:38,370 --> 00:09:40,450 One's fear that their ideals may actually be. 176 00:09:40,450 --> 00:09:43,730 Wrong which may be. True, to save their self-image, 177 00:09:44,130 --> 00:09:47,170 they attempt to justify themselves and silence 178 00:09:47,170 --> 00:09:50,770 criticism. They are closedminded and allow 179 00:09:50,770 --> 00:09:54,490 no compromises or negotiations. In their positions they are 180 00:09:54,490 --> 00:09:57,970 bitter, misanthropic. And highly self-righteous. 181 00:10:00,970 --> 00:10:04,640 I am. I'm biting my tongue right now 182 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:09,720 because I want to make a highly a highly controversial statement 183 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:12,040 which I'm going to avoid but insert. 184 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:15,000 Political ideology here. So. 185 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:16,640 When people are being self-righteous and. 186 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:17,880 Inflexible. They're so. 187 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:23,400 Convinced. They're so they, so desperately. 188 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:24,440 Want to be? Right. 189 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:26,520 And they're. So afraid that they are. 190 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:30,440 Wrong. That they get really. 191 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:34,490 Kind of. Bitter and really. 192 00:10:34,490 --> 00:10:36,930 Self-righteous and they judge. Other people. 193 00:10:36,930 --> 00:10:38,770 Like if you. Could see my face right now. 194 00:10:38,770 --> 00:10:40,330 I'm just making this little. Pinched face. 195 00:10:40,570 --> 00:10:41,930 These are like. The pinched faces. 196 00:10:42,330 --> 00:10:44,370 Of the world who always look like they just bit on a bitter 197 00:10:44,370 --> 00:10:47,250 lemon. So that's when ones are. 198 00:10:47,250 --> 00:10:51,330 Being really unhealthy. And if you're sitting here and 199 00:10:51,330 --> 00:10:53,850 you're thinking like we'll screw them, if you're not a one, 200 00:10:54,650 --> 00:11:00,410 please know that in my opinion. In my opinion are are any of 201 00:11:00,410 --> 00:11:02,370 Graham one. Friends are often. 202 00:11:02,370 --> 00:11:04,930 The ones. Who suffer the most from their 203 00:11:04,930 --> 00:11:07,290 own way of being, if that makes any sense. 204 00:11:08,010 --> 00:11:11,050 That beautiful gift. Of knowing that things can be. 205 00:11:11,050 --> 00:11:16,370 Beautiful and good. And correct and and right and. 206 00:11:16,450 --> 00:11:20,410 Full of. That essence of wonderfulness, 207 00:11:20,770 --> 00:11:22,970 knowing that and not being able. To achieve that. 208 00:11:22,970 --> 00:11:25,170 Can be a source of pain for them, so let's. 209 00:11:25,170 --> 00:11:28,320 Not judge our unhealthy. Are unhealthy ones too harshly? 210 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:30,080 Because they are really. Suffering themselves. 211 00:11:31,720 --> 00:11:33,720 OK. Moving on average. 212 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:35,800 Ones for 5:00 and 6:00. Levels Level 6. 213 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:38,600 Judgmental. Critical ones are. 214 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:40,240 Afraid that others will mess up. The order and. 215 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:42,160 Balance that they have achieved and they. 216 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:43,120 Are angry. That others. 217 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:44,360 Do not. Take their ideals. 218 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:48,480 As seriously, they react by reproaching. 219 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:50,600 And correcting others for not living up to their own 220 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:52,680 standards. They are perfectionistic, 221 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:56,120 opinionated, sarcastic. Moving up level 5. 222 00:11:57,270 --> 00:12:00,470 Selfcontrolled orderly. One's worried that others will. 223 00:12:00,470 --> 00:12:02,870 Condemn them. For any deviation. 224 00:12:02,910 --> 00:12:05,830 From their ideals, having argued their. 225 00:12:05,830 --> 00:12:09,070 Points of view ones are now. Applied to live up to it at all 226 00:12:09,070 --> 00:12:12,910 times, so they try to rigorously organize themselves. 227 00:12:12,910 --> 00:12:16,110 And their world. They're punctual and methodical, 228 00:12:16,110 --> 00:12:22,190 but also irritable and tense. So that's at level 5 level Level 229 00:12:22,190 --> 00:12:24,110 4, right? Here in the middle. 230 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:28,040 Kenny Graham ones. Present as obligated. 231 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:32,760 And striving ones begin to. Fear that others. 232 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:34,960 Are indifferent. To their principles, so they. 233 00:12:34,960 --> 00:12:37,680 Want to convince? Others of the rightness of their 234 00:12:37,680 --> 00:12:40,200 viewpoint. They become serious. 235 00:12:40,240 --> 00:12:43,720 And driven to debating others and remedying. 236 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:47,880 Problems while evaluating. Their world and pointing out 237 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:51,280 what is wrong with things. So you can you can start to 238 00:12:51,280 --> 00:12:52,470 hear. And as. 239 00:12:52,470 --> 00:12:53,990 We're moving up. This level of. 240 00:12:54,030 --> 00:12:55,510 Emotional. Maturity and emotional. 241 00:12:55,510 --> 00:12:57,190 Health. The gift that. 242 00:12:57,190 --> 00:13:00,710 Having that anneagram ones. Have to offer others. 243 00:13:01,270 --> 00:13:02,750 Because they are finding the. Problems. 244 00:13:02,750 --> 00:13:04,750 They're able. To say they're able to see. 245 00:13:05,070 --> 00:13:05,910 They're able to. See the? 246 00:13:05,910 --> 00:13:08,470 Flaws in the. System and they. 247 00:13:08,510 --> 00:13:11,070 Are eager to be a part of what makes it better. 248 00:13:11,190 --> 00:13:14,270 OK, Level 3. So we're moving into healthy 249 00:13:14,270 --> 00:13:17,510 levels, emotional. Levels for anneagram ones and. 250 00:13:17,510 --> 00:13:19,470 What we're talking. About these levels, You're not. 251 00:13:19,470 --> 00:13:21,270 They are not. Absolute. 252 00:13:22,180 --> 00:13:24,740 Depending on how? Stressed you are and what 253 00:13:24,740 --> 00:13:26,460 circumstances of life you were in. 254 00:13:26,780 --> 00:13:29,980 You're going to go up and down. It's not like. 255 00:13:30,420 --> 00:13:33,260 You achieve healthy. Level 1, Level 1. 256 00:13:33,620 --> 00:13:35,220 And. That's it. 257 00:13:35,220 --> 00:13:37,300 You're fixed for life, right? We're we're. 258 00:13:37,340 --> 00:13:38,660 All. Everything. 259 00:13:38,660 --> 00:13:42,420 We're all multitudinous and so sometimes when we're. 260 00:13:42,420 --> 00:13:43,620 Super under stress. We can. 261 00:13:43,980 --> 00:13:46,020 Act like. A less enlightened. 262 00:13:46,020 --> 00:13:48,380 Version of ourselves and then sometimes when we're well. 263 00:13:48,380 --> 00:13:50,060 Resourced. We are the highest and best. 264 00:13:50,300 --> 00:13:53,600 OK. Level 3. 265 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:57,440 Principled, responsible ones reinforce their self. 266 00:13:57,440 --> 00:13:59,520 Image by trying to. Live their lives in. 267 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:02,400 Accordance with your. Consciences and with reason. 268 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:06,000 They're highly ethical and selfdisciplined and possess a 269 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:08,200 strong sense of. Purpose and conviction. 270 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:10,640 Truthful. And articulate they. 271 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:14,120 Teach by example. Putting aside personal desires 272 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:17,600 for the greater good. Putting aside personal. 273 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:22,330 Desires for the greater good. These are the people who will 274 00:14:22,330 --> 00:14:25,210 sacrifice themselves for duty because it is the right thing to 275 00:14:25,210 --> 00:14:26,570 do. Level 2. 276 00:14:26,930 --> 00:14:30,010 Evaluating reasonable ones. Focus on the. 277 00:14:30,010 --> 00:14:33,530 Dictates of their super egos. For those of you not familiar 278 00:14:33,530 --> 00:14:36,290 with Freudian language. You have the Super. 279 00:14:36,290 --> 00:14:41,450 Ego the ego and the aid. the Super ego being your conscience 280 00:14:41,450 --> 00:14:44,770 rules regulations, the ego being your personality. 281 00:14:45,010 --> 00:14:47,130 And the aid. Being your your urges and 282 00:14:47,130 --> 00:14:50,240 drives. So one focuses on the. 283 00:14:50,240 --> 00:14:53,000 Dictates. Of their super egos consciences 284 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:55,280 to. Guide them in life and defend 285 00:14:55,280 --> 00:14:58,000 them from the. Disordered parts of themselves, 286 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:01,640 their self images. I am sensible, moderate. 287 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,840 And objective and. Then level 1. 288 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:10,480 Accepting wise once, let go with the belief that they are in a 289 00:15:10,480 --> 00:15:13,320 position to judge anything objectively and are. 290 00:15:13,320 --> 00:15:16,040 Able to approach. Life without emotionally 291 00:15:16,040 --> 00:15:16,920 reacting. To it. 292 00:15:17,790 --> 00:15:20,070 They also. Paradoxically achieve. 293 00:15:20,070 --> 00:15:22,790 Their basic desire. To have integrity and be. 294 00:15:22,790 --> 00:15:25,590 Good. As a result of their self. 295 00:15:25,590 --> 00:15:30,110 Actualization. They become wise, discerning, 296 00:15:30,390 --> 00:15:34,150 accepting, hopeful, and often noble. 297 00:15:34,470 --> 00:15:36,470 When I think about this, this person. 298 00:15:36,710 --> 00:15:38,310 This this level. One, there's actually a 299 00:15:38,310 --> 00:15:40,550 specific. Person that I have in mind and 300 00:15:40,550 --> 00:15:42,830 it's. Richard Rohr who? 301 00:15:42,830 --> 00:15:44,910 Is a contemplative Catholic teacher. 302 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:46,400 I. Don't know him. 303 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:47,760 Personally. So I'm going on his public 304 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:50,040 persona. But there is this sense. 305 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:54,520 Of this emotional maturity, this sense of. 306 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:57,080 Acceptance. The sense. 307 00:15:57,160 --> 00:16:01,640 Of longing for and striving. Towards what is. 308 00:16:01,640 --> 00:16:06,320 Good and kind and just without being emotionally reactive. 309 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:08,520 It's really quite. Noble. 310 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:11,280 When you think of someone who's noble, this this might. 311 00:16:11,280 --> 00:16:14,080 Be the the. Person The type of person that 312 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,300 you're thinking of. So our whole point in exploring 313 00:16:17,300 --> 00:16:19,980 this Enneagram isn't. Necessarily to identify 314 00:16:19,980 --> 00:16:25,220 ourselves or others sidebar. Be careful about identifying 315 00:16:25,220 --> 00:16:26,060 others. You can't. 316 00:16:26,060 --> 00:16:28,460 Always know. You don't know what people's. 317 00:16:28,460 --> 00:16:30,180 Hidden lives are. Like you only. 318 00:16:30,180 --> 00:16:32,340 Know how they present to you, but the. 319 00:16:32,340 --> 00:16:33,900 Reason why we're going through. This is. 320 00:16:33,900 --> 00:16:36,860 To discover what? We. 321 00:16:36,860 --> 00:16:39,780 Can learn from all of the Enneagram. 322 00:16:39,780 --> 00:16:42,700 Types because we. Are all we. 323 00:16:43,340 --> 00:16:47,900 All are all of them. We all have different. 324 00:16:47,900 --> 00:16:49,540 Aspects of these personality types. 325 00:16:49,540 --> 00:16:52,900 Within US so when you hear that, that a one is. 326 00:16:53,140 --> 00:17:00,860 Ethical, reliable, productive, wise, idealistic, fair. 327 00:17:01,500 --> 00:17:04,579 Honest, Orderly. Selfdisciplined. 328 00:17:05,900 --> 00:17:10,859 Let us look to our own lives. And say how can I get in touch? 329 00:17:11,510 --> 00:17:14,790 With that inner aniagram 1. How can I? 330 00:17:15,230 --> 00:17:18,910 Lean into my self. Discipline and service. 331 00:17:18,910 --> 00:17:20,829 Of that which is good for myself and others. 332 00:17:21,430 --> 00:17:27,030 How can I lightly? Hold the ideal while accepting 333 00:17:27,030 --> 00:17:30,030 what is. How can I? 334 00:17:30,390 --> 00:17:35,350 Use my discernment. And hold on to my hopefulness, 335 00:17:36,790 --> 00:17:38,670 so yeah. Now you know I said every every 336 00:17:38,670 --> 00:17:44,060 group needs an an aniagram 1. Because they're kind of the 337 00:17:44,060 --> 00:17:49,660 bomb. So ANYAGRAM ones, you're If you 338 00:17:49,660 --> 00:17:53,140 are on ANYAGRAM ANYAGRAM 1, your advice is to lighten up. 339 00:17:53,740 --> 00:17:55,860 A little bit. Go have some. 340 00:17:55,860 --> 00:17:59,300 Fun in the language of the anyagram it's going to be about. 341 00:17:59,300 --> 00:18:02,740 Being more like a. 7 to integrate your lean into 342 00:18:02,740 --> 00:18:06,020 integrating your anyagram 7. But Don, we haven't covered the. 343 00:18:06,100 --> 00:18:08,580 Anyagram 7 yet I know. We'll get there. 344 00:18:09,190 --> 00:18:12,790 But you want. To find playfulness. 345 00:18:12,870 --> 00:18:14,430 So if you. Are an Aneagram 1. 346 00:18:14,430 --> 00:18:16,350 You want to, you want. To find your playfulness, you 347 00:18:16,350 --> 00:18:18,990 want to lighten up a little bit. You might go do something silly. 348 00:18:19,430 --> 00:18:23,550 Like, I don't know, improv or something because your 349 00:18:23,550 --> 00:18:24,630 commitment. To. 350 00:18:24,630 --> 00:18:27,270 What is good and right and fair and just can make. 351 00:18:27,270 --> 00:18:30,390 You a little dour it. Can really bring you down and it 352 00:18:30,390 --> 00:18:33,670 can set that inner critic. The inner critic Voice of yours. 353 00:18:34,110 --> 00:18:38,900 On OverDrive, so you want to. Get that little voice to pipe 354 00:18:38,900 --> 00:18:40,780 down a little. Bit and one of the ways to do 355 00:18:40,780 --> 00:18:43,140 that is to make. Sure you have. 356 00:18:43,140 --> 00:18:48,100 Fun as a daily nutrient. So that's our Eniagram. 357 00:18:48,100 --> 00:18:51,820 One's amazing, right? So one of the things I love 358 00:18:51,820 --> 00:18:53,020 about the eniagram. Is it? 359 00:18:53,020 --> 00:18:54,940 Helps me to. Appreciate the different 360 00:18:54,940 --> 00:18:56,540 personality. Types I encounter. 361 00:18:57,020 --> 00:18:59,580 Like ideally, ideally. You would. 362 00:18:59,580 --> 00:19:01,700 Love an organization that. Had at least. 363 00:19:01,700 --> 00:19:03,780 One of each of these. Types that we're going over 364 00:19:04,100 --> 00:19:05,660 because of the gifts. That they bring. 365 00:19:06,220 --> 00:19:08,380 You know. A group. 366 00:19:08,420 --> 00:19:11,380 Of only any of gram nines, we get nothing done. 367 00:19:11,580 --> 00:19:15,380 They'd be too. Busy nourishing their. 368 00:19:15,380 --> 00:19:17,620 Creature Comforts. And trying to keep peace with 369 00:19:17,620 --> 00:19:20,780 everyone, A group of only any of grammates would be too 370 00:19:20,780 --> 00:19:22,980 argumentative. As they were standing up for 371 00:19:22,980 --> 00:19:25,420 their principles, if it was all just. 372 00:19:25,420 --> 00:19:28,660 Any of gram ones that they might get paralyzed by their inner 373 00:19:28,660 --> 00:19:31,700 critics and not be. Able to accept others points of 374 00:19:31,700 --> 00:19:34,300 view so. We want to integrate. 375 00:19:34,770 --> 00:19:36,930 All of. These into ourselves. 376 00:19:37,570 --> 00:19:38,890 So I invite. You this week. 377 00:19:39,450 --> 00:19:40,610 I invite. You this week. 378 00:19:41,170 --> 00:19:45,450 To one if you know an enneagram 1. 379 00:19:46,050 --> 00:19:48,410 Be grateful. Be grateful. 380 00:19:48,410 --> 00:19:49,370 And let them. Lean into. 381 00:19:49,370 --> 00:19:52,530 Their strengths? Fair. 382 00:19:53,090 --> 00:19:54,650 Honest. Orderly. 383 00:19:54,730 --> 00:19:57,090 Selfdisciplined. Let them lean into their 384 00:19:57,090 --> 00:19:57,770 strengths. Right? 385 00:19:57,810 --> 00:19:59,650 You want an Enneagram? One is your gym, your workout? 386 00:19:59,650 --> 00:20:03,650 Partner, For example, by your study partner. 387 00:20:04,410 --> 00:20:05,570 And then for. Ourselves. 388 00:20:05,570 --> 00:20:10,930 Just meditate. On can I get in touch? 389 00:20:11,250 --> 00:20:14,450 Can I get in touch with my Enneagram 1 characteristics and 390 00:20:14,450 --> 00:20:19,570 apply them in my life when that? Is the gift that would be most 391 00:20:19,570 --> 00:20:21,570 helpful. All right. 392 00:20:22,250 --> 00:20:24,370 So I'm just going to. Check my notes. 393 00:20:24,370 --> 00:20:28,210 Here and see. If there's anything else that I 394 00:20:28,210 --> 00:20:31,370 want to touch. On she would be do wah. 395 00:20:31,370 --> 00:20:35,050 She would be do wah. Well, here's a note from Carl 396 00:20:35,050 --> 00:20:36,690 Rogers. Or a quote rather. 397 00:20:37,250 --> 00:20:40,890 The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am. 398 00:20:41,490 --> 00:20:45,290 Then I can change. Here's another good one. 399 00:20:45,890 --> 00:20:48,130 Marcus Borg wisdom. Is not just. 400 00:20:48,130 --> 00:20:51,050 About moral. Behavior but about the center 401 00:20:51,690 --> 00:20:53,810 the place. From which moral perception and 402 00:20:53,810 --> 00:20:56,290 moral? Behavior flow, Ah. 403 00:20:56,450 --> 00:20:59,130 I love that. My hypothesis is that. 404 00:20:59,130 --> 00:21:00,690 What we are all trying to do with this? 405 00:21:00,690 --> 00:21:02,330 Any of your ground. So if you haven't looked at the 406 00:21:02,330 --> 00:21:04,990 diagram yet. Google and eogram. 407 00:21:05,230 --> 00:21:09,470 ENNEAGR AM. And it's a circle. 408 00:21:09,590 --> 00:21:10,990 With all these. Points around. 409 00:21:10,990 --> 00:21:13,030 This the circumference around the periphery. 410 00:21:13,510 --> 00:21:17,310 It is my belief that the enniogram, the enniogram wisdom 411 00:21:17,310 --> 00:21:20,070 system, is guiding us to be towards that center. 412 00:21:21,150 --> 00:21:23,590 The place from which moral perception? 413 00:21:23,590 --> 00:21:26,830 And moral behavior flow to be. All. 414 00:21:26,830 --> 00:21:29,390 Of the personality types and. Able to fluidly. 415 00:21:29,390 --> 00:21:32,550 Move amongst them as the situation dictates. 416 00:21:33,470 --> 00:21:35,190 All right. It's a little long. 417 00:21:35,870 --> 00:21:37,710 It's a little. Long thank you for staying with 418 00:21:37,710 --> 00:21:41,310 me. Thank you for being here. 419 00:21:41,310 --> 00:21:43,710 Thank you for liking. Sharing and subscribing. 420 00:21:43,990 --> 00:21:46,270 That's how the podcast grows. And my friends. 421 00:21:46,270 --> 00:21:47,190 We are. Growing. 422 00:21:47,190 --> 00:21:50,190 How exciting is that? And I wish. 423 00:21:50,190 --> 00:21:58,110 You a week. Of fairness, equanimity, and 424 00:21:58,110 --> 00:22:00,070 goodness. And you know why? 425 00:22:00,510 --> 00:22:02,590 Because you deserve it. You really do. 426 00:22:03,210 --> 00:22:07,970 You, beloved friend, are whole. Perfect and complete. 427 00:22:08,570 --> 00:22:12,810 Just the way you are. And you are allowed to change if 428 00:22:12,810 --> 00:22:15,050 you so choose and you. Are allowed. 429 00:22:15,050 --> 00:22:18,170 To not and you are worthy and deserving of a. 430 00:22:18,170 --> 00:22:23,850 Life so gorgeous. That it transcends even your own 431 00:22:23,890 --> 00:22:26,810 imagination. 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