1 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:09,160 Hello beautiful humans, and welcome to the Mental Wellness 2 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:13,400 Wake Up Show, a weekly podcast where growthminded, creative 3 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:17,600 people come to learn best practices from both spirituality 4 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,440 and psychology that create lasting wellbeing. 5 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:25,880 I am your host, mental Wellness expert, improvised acting 6 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:28,920 teacher, therapist, and coach Dawn McMillan. 7 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:32,479 Let's get to it. Welcome you gorgeous people. 8 00:00:32,759 --> 00:00:36,240 Welcome, welcome. We are going to jump right in. 9 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:39,480 I am having an interesting experience at the moment as I 10 00:00:39,480 --> 00:00:44,040 record this for you. My cough has been kind of bad. 11 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:48,320 Today we are experiencing some poor air where I am. 12 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:51,840 I've got a fly buzzing around, but we're just going to go with 13 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:52,680 it. Why? 14 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:57,120 Because the present moment is always the only moment. 15 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:02,950 So let's enjoy it. OK, enniogram, we are doing the 16 00:01:03,030 --> 00:01:05,110 enniogram. So if you're just joining us, 17 00:01:05,310 --> 00:01:09,390 you can jump right in with us to explore this 9 pointed wisdom 18 00:01:09,390 --> 00:01:13,830 system. But and also feel free to hop on 19 00:01:13,830 --> 00:01:18,150 back and listen to the whole series because they they are 20 00:01:18,150 --> 00:01:20,470 independent. But part of what we're doing 21 00:01:20,470 --> 00:01:23,630 here is we're connect all of the enniogram types. 22 00:01:23,990 --> 00:01:28,560 So the Enniogram is 9 points on a circle, and it has been my 23 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:33,560 contention for a long time that this wisdom system isn't about 24 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:37,720 navel gazing and justifying why you are how you are. 25 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:41,880 It's not meant to be a personality thing only because 26 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:46,200 we're too complex, too delightful, too mysterious, too 27 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:50,000 amazing to fit into any single description. 28 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:55,680 Rather, what the Enneagram is showing us is where we are, how 29 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,550 we tend to behave, and it gives us all these wonderful 30 00:01:59,550 --> 00:02:03,790 descriptions of all the other personality types and how we can 31 00:02:03,790 --> 00:02:08,949 relate to them externally. And what I am about is helping 32 00:02:08,949 --> 00:02:12,390 us understand how to integrate them internally. 33 00:02:12,750 --> 00:02:14,590 That's what we're up to. And if you're here for the first 34 00:02:14,590 --> 00:02:18,950 time, one, I'm delighted. And two, let's jump in My 35 00:02:18,950 --> 00:02:24,910 continuing listeners. I adore you, You're here and you 36 00:02:24,910 --> 00:02:28,960 don't have to be. So thank you, Okay. 37 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:32,320 So let's jump in. All right, So what do we call 38 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:36,800 the Enneagram 5? The Enneagram 5 is the thinker, 39 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:39,960 the innovator, the observer, the specialist, the radical, the 40 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:45,160 expert, the observer. So as we're moving into 41 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:50,960 Enneagrams 5-6 and seven, you will recall the Enneagram 8-9 42 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:55,600 and one are considered the body center or the gut center. 43 00:02:55,880 --> 00:03:00,480 These people are more likely to be kinesthetic learners, to go 44 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:04,880 with their gut to feel things and and be drawn into action 45 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:07,600 that way. And a lot of the ways that they 46 00:03:07,640 --> 00:03:11,920 end up being characterized as 8-9 or one is in how they 47 00:03:11,920 --> 00:03:16,080 respond to anger. And you'll recall that twos, 48 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:19,800 threes, and fours are considered our feeling center or our heart 49 00:03:20,250 --> 00:03:22,090 center. These are within more 50 00:03:22,170 --> 00:03:27,090 emotionally driven types, and twos, threes, and fours are 51 00:03:27,090 --> 00:03:31,570 often categorized around their sense of shame. 52 00:03:31,570 --> 00:03:37,210 And anagram fives, at their best, are analytical, 53 00:03:38,050 --> 00:03:45,290 persevering, sensitive, wise, objective, perceptive, 54 00:03:45,770 --> 00:03:51,000 selfcontained. Fives, at their worst, are 55 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:58,920 intellectually arrogant, stingy, stubborn, distant, critical of 56 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:03,040 others, unassertive and negative. 57 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:10,520 Ouch. Oh yeah, okay. 58 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:14,670 So let's talk about my people, the enniogram 5. 59 00:04:15,030 --> 00:04:17,470 So a lot of people are surprised to learn that I'm an enniogram 60 00:04:17,470 --> 00:04:19,990 5. They're like, you're a goofball 61 00:04:19,990 --> 00:04:24,710 #1, you're an actor #2, and you seem to have social skills. 62 00:04:24,910 --> 00:04:27,110 What do you mean you're an enniogram 5? 63 00:04:28,150 --> 00:04:32,350 And that is just a reminder that you can't always type people by 64 00:04:32,350 --> 00:04:36,590 how they appear. So much of the enniogram is 65 00:04:36,590 --> 00:04:40,870 about what motivates you from the interior, so you can't 66 00:04:40,870 --> 00:04:43,950 always tell. So let's talk some more about 67 00:04:43,950 --> 00:04:51,550 this iniogram Type 5. The investigator Basic fear of 68 00:04:51,550 --> 00:04:57,230 being helpless, useless, incapable or overwhelmed. 69 00:04:57,950 --> 00:05:04,510 The basic desire is to be capable and competent. 70 00:05:05,390 --> 00:05:10,700 And the superego message? Remember superego ego made. 71 00:05:10,780 --> 00:05:16,460 These are our Freudian categories of the interior of a 72 00:05:16,460 --> 00:05:20,180 human being. the IT being our impulses and urges, the ego 73 00:05:20,180 --> 00:05:23,700 being their personality and the Super ego being our conscience 74 00:05:23,700 --> 00:05:28,180 or the voice of society. So any gram fives that super ego 75 00:05:28,180 --> 00:05:34,420 messages you are good or okay if you have mastered something. 76 00:05:35,140 --> 00:05:39,680 So in the Reso Hudson system they talk about Enneagram fives, 77 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:44,360 the intense cerebral type, perceptive, innovative, 78 00:05:44,840 --> 00:05:51,480 secretive and isolated. So here's a quote from an 79 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:54,720 Enneagram 5 that they interviewed for this book. 80 00:05:55,320 --> 00:06:02,680 And he says this being A5 means always needing to learn to take 81 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:06,880 an information about the world a day without learning as like a 82 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:12,040 day without sunshine as a five. I want to have an understanding 83 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:15,080 of life. I like having a theoretical 84 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:19,240 explanation about why things happen as they do. 85 00:06:19,840 --> 00:06:23,320 This understanding makes me feel in charge and in control. 86 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:27,600 I most often learn from a distance as an observer and not 87 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:31,760 as a participant. Sometimes it seems that 88 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:35,510 understanding life is as good as living it. 89 00:06:35,870 --> 00:06:40,030 It is a difficult journey to learn that life must be lived 90 00:06:40,950 --> 00:06:50,310 and not just studied. Wow, totally relatable. 91 00:06:50,950 --> 00:06:54,950 So one of the things to keep in mind if you are in a 92 00:06:54,950 --> 00:06:59,110 relationship with an NA AGRAM 5, one of the things that NA AGRAM 93 00:06:59,110 --> 00:07:01,710 Fives are challenged with is moving into action. 94 00:07:02,290 --> 00:07:06,090 Any Gram Fives love to live inside their head, their books, 95 00:07:06,090 --> 00:07:09,450 their data, their information. You know, I will raise my hand 96 00:07:09,450 --> 00:07:11,410 and confess to being an information hoarder. 97 00:07:11,490 --> 00:07:14,650 Like I love to know things. They don't have to be useful 98 00:07:14,650 --> 00:07:18,090 things. I just love to know things. 99 00:07:18,410 --> 00:07:24,970 And any Gram Fives are often we have our special interests, as 100 00:07:24,970 --> 00:07:28,170 the ADHD kids like to call it. We get our special interests, 101 00:07:28,170 --> 00:07:30,730 and we can sometimes get really obsessed and really go deep with 102 00:07:30,730 --> 00:07:33,060 something. One thing you might notice about 103 00:07:33,060 --> 00:07:37,300 an NIAGRAM 5 is that if we're focused on something, the rest 104 00:07:37,300 --> 00:07:39,900 of the world is dead to us, dead to us. 105 00:07:40,420 --> 00:07:44,500 So if you are in a relationship with an NIAGRAM 5 and you think 106 00:07:44,500 --> 00:07:48,180 they're ignoring you, they're probably just thinking real 107 00:07:48,180 --> 00:07:56,820 hard. So what is an NIAGRAM 5 level of 108 00:07:56,820 --> 00:07:58,380 development? Because what? 109 00:07:58,380 --> 00:08:01,600 Remember, we're looking at finding out where we are or our 110 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:05,040 loved ones are. And then all of us, regardless 111 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:08,880 of our primary way of focusing at the world, learning how to 112 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:13,760 integrate the gifts of the NA agram 5 so that we can all grow 113 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:20,040 so unhealthy. NA agram 5 at a level 9. 114 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:24,640 Seeking oblivion Self annihilation Feeling that they 115 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:28,240 can no longer defend themselves from their pain and terror, 116 00:08:28,770 --> 00:08:31,370 unhealthy fives want to escape from reality. 117 00:08:32,409 --> 00:08:35,530 In some cases they attempt to accomplish this through 118 00:08:35,530 --> 00:08:38,650 psychotic breaks or schizoid withdrawal. 119 00:08:39,090 --> 00:08:41,610 They may also try to escape through suicide. 120 00:08:41,929 --> 00:08:46,610 It could be theorized at the Unabomber was an Anniagram 5 So 121 00:08:46,610 --> 00:08:50,730 proud. OK, so level 8 Horrified. 122 00:08:50,730 --> 00:08:57,490 Delirious At a level 8, Anniagram 5 Fives feel so small 123 00:08:58,010 --> 00:09:01,650 and helpless that almost everything becomes ominous to 124 00:09:01,650 --> 00:09:03,690 them. They're filled with dark 125 00:09:03,690 --> 00:09:06,170 fantasies and strange perceptions. 126 00:09:06,690 --> 00:09:10,930 They resist all help, shrinking away from people into feverish 127 00:09:10,930 --> 00:09:14,450 nightmares and insomnia. They cannot stop their 128 00:09:14,450 --> 00:09:19,490 overheated minds. Sidebar, there's this Turkish TV 129 00:09:19,490 --> 00:09:23,890 show, I think it's called Hot Head maybe. 130 00:09:24,410 --> 00:09:28,320 And it's about this virus that makes people's heads get super 131 00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:29,920 hot. It's really cool. 132 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:34,080 If you like Turkish TV shows, OK, level 7. 133 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,240 Remember 7-8 and nine in this system, the Rizzo Hudson system. 134 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:42,360 We're talking about really unhealthy versions of an NA 135 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:45,480 AGRAM 5. Unhealthy fives fear that they 136 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:47,880 are incapable of finding a place in the world. 137 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:51,480 And this may be true. To gain some security, they cut 138 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:55,860 off all connections with the world, treating into an isolated 139 00:09:55,900 --> 00:10:00,460 and increasingly empty world. They reject all but the most 140 00:10:00,460 --> 00:10:03,100 basic needs, but are still plagued by fears. 141 00:10:03,500 --> 00:10:07,140 So I always imagine, you know you're driving cross country in 142 00:10:07,140 --> 00:10:09,820 the US it's it's a big country. You can drive cross country and 143 00:10:09,820 --> 00:10:13,260 much of it is empty and you'll see like some little house or 144 00:10:13,260 --> 00:10:16,060 trailer like out in the middle of nowhere. 145 00:10:16,340 --> 00:10:19,260 And I always think, who are those people? 146 00:10:19,940 --> 00:10:24,130 Probably an NE AGRAM 5. I'm just saying, OK, moving on 147 00:10:24,130 --> 00:10:27,890 up to an averagely developed any of Gram 5 and so these these 148 00:10:27,890 --> 00:10:31,650 levels are not rigid. I wish that they were that you 149 00:10:31,650 --> 00:10:34,770 could evolve to one and never fall down into a lower level. 150 00:10:35,170 --> 00:10:39,770 However, when we are stressed we can sometimes devolve. 151 00:10:40,770 --> 00:10:45,130 We If you're in this community, we are seeking to love ourselves 152 00:10:45,130 --> 00:10:48,810 as we are and continue to evolve and expand. 153 00:10:49,170 --> 00:10:53,190 However, sometimes we can backtrack a little bit. 154 00:10:53,510 --> 00:10:58,710 And that, my beloved human friends, is no big deal, just 155 00:10:58,710 --> 00:11:02,390 means you're human, OK? Level 6 Niagram fives are 156 00:11:02,390 --> 00:11:06,710 extreme and provocative. Fives fear that others will 157 00:11:06,710 --> 00:11:09,070 threaten the niche they have been creating, so they try to 158 00:11:09,070 --> 00:11:11,870 fend people off. They resent the apparent 159 00:11:11,870 --> 00:11:15,150 confidence and calm of others and enjoy subverting their 160 00:11:15,150 --> 00:11:17,830 beliefs. Their own ideas can be bizarre 161 00:11:18,730 --> 00:11:22,210 and disturbing, and they are scornful of those who cannot 162 00:11:22,210 --> 00:11:25,370 understand them. You've run into this person on 163 00:11:25,370 --> 00:11:29,930 the Internet, I guarantee you. Guarantee you they're the what 164 00:11:29,930 --> 00:11:32,690 abouters. And then they talk about some 165 00:11:32,690 --> 00:11:36,330 conspiracy theory that even other conspiracy theorists think 166 00:11:36,370 --> 00:11:37,810 is odd. Okay. 167 00:11:37,890 --> 00:11:41,690 So moving up Level 5, Level 5, any gram. 168 00:11:41,690 --> 00:11:44,090 Fives are detached and preoccupied. 169 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,400 Five is worried that the needs of others will distract them 170 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:51,000 from their projects, so they shut out intrusions by 171 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:53,080 intensifying their mental activity. 172 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:56,640 They minimize their needs, become high strung, cerebral and 173 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,080 secretive. They spend more time alone 174 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:03,840 speculating and elaborating on alternative realities. 175 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:08,680 And so at this level, remember when I said that an Anneagram 5, 176 00:12:08,840 --> 00:12:11,240 if they're really focusing on something, they may not actually 177 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:13,630 hear you. It's kind of like a superpower 178 00:12:13,630 --> 00:12:17,590 of an enniogram 5. And at this level 5, it's being 179 00:12:17,590 --> 00:12:22,630 turned into a super fault, you know, the minimizing their 180 00:12:22,630 --> 00:12:24,510 needs, right. We're talking, not showering, 181 00:12:24,630 --> 00:12:27,110 forgetting to go to the bathroom, that kind of stuff and 182 00:12:27,110 --> 00:12:28,710 being really immersed in a mental world. 183 00:12:29,390 --> 00:12:32,870 OK, Level 4, conceptualizing, preparing. 184 00:12:32,870 --> 00:12:36,030 So this is the top of the average Enniogram 5 and when you 185 00:12:36,030 --> 00:12:41,020 think about unhealthy average and healthy, I don't think that 186 00:12:41,020 --> 00:12:44,180 we can divide up the population of any of gram fives into thirds 187 00:12:44,180 --> 00:12:46,420 or any of these. It's going, there's going to be 188 00:12:46,420 --> 00:12:49,820 different levels of distribution throughout any particular 189 00:12:49,940 --> 00:12:52,900 society or culture. The other thing to keep in mind 190 00:12:52,900 --> 00:12:57,020 is that the any gram numbers are not distributed equally. 191 00:12:57,740 --> 00:13:02,260 For example, my people, the any of gram fives are very small 192 00:13:02,260 --> 00:13:06,660 part of the population. It's believed that much of the 193 00:13:06,820 --> 00:13:11,540 American population, or any of gram sixes for example, so on 194 00:13:11,540 --> 00:13:15,540 and so forth, just something that you a rabbit hole that you 195 00:13:15,540 --> 00:13:18,740 can go down. If you're a nanny or Graham 5 196 00:13:18,740 --> 00:13:20,700 and you love rabbit holes, OK, where was I? 197 00:13:20,700 --> 00:13:22,980 Level 4? Conceptualizing and preparing 198 00:13:23,900 --> 00:13:26,860 fives begin to fear that their skills are insufficient and that 199 00:13:26,860 --> 00:13:29,580 they need to prepare more before they can take their place in the 200 00:13:29,580 --> 00:13:32,500 world. They feel unsure of themselves 201 00:13:32,500 --> 00:13:35,820 in many areas, preferring to inhabit the safety of their 202 00:13:35,820 --> 00:13:38,790 minds. They study, practice, and 203 00:13:38,790 --> 00:13:42,030 collect more knowledge, resources, and skills. 204 00:13:42,430 --> 00:13:46,030 So one of the weaknesses of being in any Agram 5 is the 205 00:13:46,070 --> 00:13:50,790 ability to research, right? So I noticed this in myself. 206 00:13:51,270 --> 00:13:53,150 I love to collect certifications. 207 00:13:53,230 --> 00:13:56,670 I love to collect degrees. I can research the heck out of 208 00:13:56,670 --> 00:13:59,190 something. But what any agram fives are 209 00:13:59,190 --> 00:14:04,110 challenged to do is to move in to a bias toward action. 210 00:14:04,110 --> 00:14:07,250 That's the growth edge for any agram fives out of your head and 211 00:14:07,250 --> 00:14:11,410 into your body. And one way that shows up is the 212 00:14:11,410 --> 00:14:14,290 enniogram system can be grouped in many different ways. 213 00:14:14,290 --> 00:14:18,010 Right now we're doing the bird's eye view of grouping by body 214 00:14:18,010 --> 00:14:20,450 centers. But another way that enniograms 215 00:14:20,450 --> 00:14:25,090 are grouped are how they sort of shift into behaving like other 216 00:14:25,130 --> 00:14:28,650 Enniogram types, whether they're well resourced or stressed. 217 00:14:29,170 --> 00:14:35,010 So a well resourced Enneagram 5 is actually going to move into 218 00:14:35,010 --> 00:14:38,850 being a little bit like an Enneagram 8, right? 219 00:14:38,850 --> 00:14:41,970 And Enneagram eights take action. 220 00:14:42,290 --> 00:14:44,970 They're very action oriented. Sometimes it gets them in 221 00:14:44,970 --> 00:14:46,770 trouble, right, because they're going to go with their gut, 222 00:14:46,770 --> 00:14:47,730 They're going to jump into action. 223 00:14:47,730 --> 00:14:49,050 They're going to make things happen. 224 00:14:49,530 --> 00:14:53,050 So as an Enneagram 5 becomes more integrated, they're going 225 00:14:53,050 --> 00:14:55,330 to bring in more of that Enneagram 8 energy. 226 00:14:55,810 --> 00:14:58,130 OK, now we're moving into Healthy Woohoo. 227 00:14:58,860 --> 00:15:02,980 So the Level 3 of Healthy Anagram 5 is focused and 228 00:15:02,980 --> 00:15:07,300 innovative. Fives reinforce their self-image 229 00:15:07,580 --> 00:15:10,540 by mastering a body of knowledge or skills that will make them 230 00:15:10,540 --> 00:15:14,260 competent and strong. Not wishing to compete with 231 00:15:14,300 --> 00:15:17,500 others, they prefer to explore new ideas and forms. 232 00:15:18,220 --> 00:15:22,940 Their tinkering can result in profoundly original ideas, 233 00:15:22,980 --> 00:15:26,980 inventions, and art. Whoop Whoop okay. 234 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:33,880 Moving up level 2 Healthy anagram 5 is observant and 235 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:37,680 perceptive. Fives focus on the environment 236 00:15:38,360 --> 00:15:42,520 so they can feel confident to function in it and develop 237 00:15:42,520 --> 00:15:46,960 skills to defend against their basic fear self-image. 238 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:52,940 I am smart, curious and independent and then moving up 239 00:15:53,100 --> 00:15:56,660 to a level. One well integrated, healthy and 240 00:15:56,660 --> 00:16:01,460 Eogram 5 is going to be participating and visionary. 241 00:16:02,340 --> 00:16:05,220 Fives let go of the belief that they are separate from the 242 00:16:05,220 --> 00:16:10,300 environment and outside observer and are thus able to confidently 243 00:16:10,300 --> 00:16:14,220 engage in life. They also paradoxically achieve 244 00:16:14,220 --> 00:16:19,060 their basic desire to be capable and competent and able to live 245 00:16:19,060 --> 00:16:23,240 in the world. They then become clearminded, 246 00:16:23,600 --> 00:16:27,240 knowing, profound and compassionate. 247 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:31,360 So you can see that this this tendency that an Agram fives 248 00:16:31,360 --> 00:16:38,640 have to think and analyze and observe and deeply explore when 249 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:44,360 it's used in a holistic way and when it's used in collaboration 250 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:48,520 with the environment, meaning the people and the things around 251 00:16:48,520 --> 00:16:53,310 them, you can actually have an annagram 5 be a real 252 00:16:53,310 --> 00:16:59,670 contribution to others. So if you are an nnagram 5, 253 00:16:59,670 --> 00:17:05,630 first of all holla. Second of all, your your social 254 00:17:05,630 --> 00:17:11,190 role is the expert and what you are guided to do is to connect, 255 00:17:12,589 --> 00:17:15,550 to connect. Do not minimize your needs. 256 00:17:15,550 --> 00:17:24,770 You have a body run, jump, yoga, bike, hoop, whatever you need to 257 00:17:24,770 --> 00:17:31,370 do, use your body. Because it is so easy for us to 258 00:17:31,370 --> 00:17:34,170 get lost in our heads. And I know it's fun in there, 259 00:17:34,650 --> 00:17:38,210 it's fun in there, but come out into the real world. 260 00:17:39,090 --> 00:17:44,210 There's a quote from from an Anagram 5 here in the Reeso 261 00:17:44,210 --> 00:17:48,050 Hudson book, which is I don't need much, but I need my space. 262 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:53,280 Yeah. So over here in the The Baron 263 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:56,400 Wigeli book, what I like about being a 5. 264 00:17:57,040 --> 00:17:59,440 Standing back and viewing life objectively. 265 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:01,880 Coming to a thorough understanding. 266 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:05,680 Perceiving causes and defects. My sense of integrity. 267 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:08,920 Doing what I think is right and not being influenced by social 268 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:12,200 pressure. Not being caught up in material 269 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:16,560 possessions and status. Being calm in a crisis. 270 00:18:17,550 --> 00:18:20,630 That's my superpower. What's hard about being a 5? 271 00:18:21,470 --> 00:18:24,550 Being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the world? 272 00:18:25,150 --> 00:18:27,870 Feeling bad when I act defensive or like a know it all? 273 00:18:27,910 --> 00:18:31,270 Oh my God. Middle school, Junior high 274 00:18:31,270 --> 00:18:31,910 school. Me. 275 00:18:33,190 --> 00:18:35,670 Not so good. Being pressured to be with 276 00:18:35,670 --> 00:18:39,350 people when I don't want to be. What's hard about being A5? 277 00:18:39,350 --> 00:18:41,590 Watching others with better social skills but less 278 00:18:41,590 --> 00:18:45,980 intelligence or technical skill do better professionally, or 279 00:18:45,980 --> 00:18:49,860 having trouble expressing some of my thoughts succinctly. 280 00:18:50,540 --> 00:18:55,620 So that's our aniagram or aniagram 5 So I'm just flipping 281 00:18:55,620 --> 00:19:03,140 through my my books to see if there's any other little juicy 282 00:19:03,140 --> 00:19:06,100 tidbits. OK, here's a good quote. 283 00:19:06,380 --> 00:19:11,080 GK Chesterton At the back of our brains, so to speak, there's a 284 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:14,480 forgotten blaze or a burst of astonishment at our own 285 00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:17,320 existence. The object of the artistic and 286 00:19:17,320 --> 00:19:22,440 spiritual life is to dig for the submerged sunrise of wonder. 287 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:24,880 Ooh, that's good. Oh, this is getting along. 288 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:28,200 Of course. I'm like, it's me. 289 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:33,280 Yeah, it's me. So our invitation for all of us 290 00:19:33,280 --> 00:19:38,400 is it's about the balance of internal and external. 291 00:19:38,890 --> 00:19:42,650 So if you are not an NIAGRAM 5, what you can borrow from the 292 00:19:42,730 --> 00:19:48,730 niagram 5 is that moment of observation and seeking 293 00:19:48,730 --> 00:19:56,850 understanding before reacting to explore what is with your head, 294 00:19:56,850 --> 00:20:01,490 heart and body and then react then respond. 295 00:20:01,970 --> 00:20:05,690 So in cognitive behavioral therapy, all the behavioral 296 00:20:05,690 --> 00:20:08,430 therapies. We talk about the space between 297 00:20:08,430 --> 00:20:13,310 stimulus and response before the cause and the effect. 298 00:20:13,310 --> 00:20:18,870 There is a space, and if you can insert your attention and your 299 00:20:18,870 --> 00:20:22,830 awareness and your consciousness into that space, you no longer 300 00:20:22,830 --> 00:20:26,790 have to be triggered into behaving in ways that don't 301 00:20:26,790 --> 00:20:29,190 serve you. And that's a gift you can get 302 00:20:29,190 --> 00:20:36,150 from the Aneagram 5. Learn, observe, consider, think, 303 00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:41,200 analyze, and then integrate that with your heart, wisdom, your 304 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:44,920 body, wisdom, and all the other gifts that you uniquely bring to 305 00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:46,840 the world. All right. 306 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,720 Oh, there you go. So next we're going to be diving 307 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:53,280 into the Enniogram 6, which is super cool because eniogram 308 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:55,840 sixes show up in two different types. 309 00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:59,840 I know, it almost makes me think there should be like a six and a 310 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:01,960 six prime or something like that. 311 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,200 If you've listened this far, you're awesome. 312 00:21:06,360 --> 00:21:09,040 And I really feel compelled to know, to tell you. 313 00:21:09,360 --> 00:21:14,080 And you know I know because as an anagram 5 I have the research 314 00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:16,400 with the footnotes. OK, so hear me now. 315 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:19,280 Believe me later, you're wonderful. 316 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:23,760 Seriously, I want you to go look at yourself in the mirror and 317 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:29,080 just be in awe of yourself. Think of everything you lived 318 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:34,560 through and here you are, doing your best with what you have. 319 00:21:35,890 --> 00:21:38,290 And let me tell you, you look good while you're at it. 320 00:21:40,290 --> 00:21:43,050 You are whole. You are perfect, you are 321 00:21:43,050 --> 00:21:50,450 complete, and you are worthy and deserving of all good things. 322 00:21:51,250 --> 00:21:52,650 Until next time.