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Welcome to Fucking Candy Land, 
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Welcome back to Candyland. 
We are just really grateful to 

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record our last episode of the 
year and it's amazing that we've

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been doing the podcast for three
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So we just thought definitely 
wanted it to be just us, but we 

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are getting so much feedback on 
the guest. 

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I love it. 
So thank you to everyone who has

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came on, new listeners, people 
that are just starting to listen

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like we appreciate you so 
fucking much Jim and I. 

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That coffee cup looks adorable. 
It is adorable and I would 

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really love to find somebody who
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this because I have so many 
ideas of like ways that I would 

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like things shaped. 
But like learning how to clay 

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mold on cups is a whole ass 
hobby because I googled it 

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thinking like maybe I could have
a new craft bitch. 

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No, no, I can't. 
I've seen it. 

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It's a lot. 
It's like you have to have a 

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super passion for that. 
Yeah, that's that's not my 

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niche. 
And you have enough fucking 

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hobbies, bitch. 
You got enough things that 

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you're doing every time. 
I always have something new, 

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dude. 
Every. 

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That's because like, anytime 
that I see like something that I

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want done inside of my mind and 
I try to have somebody else 

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create it, they never do it the 
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it. 
And so I'm like, fuck it, I'll 

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learn how to do it and I'll do 
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Move aside. 
Move aside, you know, I also 

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have seen something. 
It's like, why would I pay you 

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$50.00 to make that when I can 
spend 85 and make it myself? 

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I'm saying. 
It took me out because sometimes

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I'll like when I first started 
my spiritual journey, I was 

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experimenting with so many 
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was candle making, which props 
to anyone who makes candles. 

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It is a lot harder than it looks
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shout out Megan. 
She knows I was putting things 

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like I was saving jars and I 
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candles like out of any old jar.
But they're not fire safe and 

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I've had them crack and I've 
also had candle jars that say 

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they're fire safe, not be fire 
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And yeah, so I was like, this is
like a hazard. 

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That's a hazard for sure. 
I'm not. 

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No. 
I can't be like a Candlestick 

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maker. 
That's not my calling in life. 

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It wasn't a Candlestick maker. 
It wasn't like the fucking fairy

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tale thing. 
I was imagining, like, when 

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Shrek pulls the ear wax out of 
his ear and like, sticks it down

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and, like, lights it. 
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That's what pops in my mind when
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candles. 
And then he said fairy tales. 

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And I'm like, are we syncing the
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Yeah, we're synced. 
And I also was just saying I was

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putting them in like one time. 
I remember 'cause we laughed 

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about this so hard. 
I put it in a jalapeno jar and I

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was just experimenting. 
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the value off, like the great 
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I just didn't even care. 
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had gotten this right idea to 
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things in the wax and it it was 
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In the wax itself. 
Oh yeah, girl. 

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Oh, you were. 
You were sciencing. 

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That's what we call that. 
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I was letting my inner child 
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out they could also burn the 
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So I don't know. 
Now if I ever made them again, I

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would use the wax for like 
intention wax melts and I would 

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make intentional wax melts for 
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anybody could do that. 
Like it's not hard you can order

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a candle kit tomorrow, but to 
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magic then you need to do it the
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At that time I was not doing it 
the right way, I was doing it 

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the very dangerous way. 
But I have, I have learned, I 

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have learned that you can't just
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you want. 
You can experiment, but you 

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probably shouldn't put lighter 
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Wick. 
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everybody has like a different 
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Like I could never be somebody 
who like makes cakes and shit 

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like I That's not something I 
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The math thing that you have to 
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recipe and shit, I don't want to
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It's a it's a no for me. 
It's not going to burn, but it 

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may be undercooked because I 
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So then I just pull it out. 
It's a whole thing. 

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I sent you something really cool
or the podcast room that I've 

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literally forgot to send to you 
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Like, I don't remember when I 
bought this, but I forgot that I

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had it and. 
Then I it's for me, for the pod 

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room, yeah. 
It's in the. 

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I have something, oh, I can't 
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right now, but I got a pink neon
sign. 

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It makes me think of you. 
It glows and it says fuck off 

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and I'm going to put that 
somewhere I'm going to. 

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This is just a temporary 
background, so I'll put whatever

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you're giving me. 
I have my fuck off sign. 

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I've got these like super cute, 
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I'm going to put with like some 
plants and stuff. 

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Yeah, I literally. 
Why do you say it like yeah? 

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I just had this forever, and I 
just think that you're really 

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going to like it. 
I'm excited. 

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I can't wait. 
Like, I almost forgot what it 

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looked like until I seen it and 
I was like, that's for Gemini. 

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Like, I've had this for so long.
So I was like, it's perfect to 

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send to you now for your 
Christmas present, 'cause you 

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didn't know about it, I forgot 
about it. 

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I mean it's just crazy, but I I 
love that we have the podcast 

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now for three seasons cause like
when we started everything is 

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just changed and evolved. 
Like everything has changed and 

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evolved since that moment. 
And I feel like when you like 

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resonate with like a podcast or 
music or something, you 

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associate that with a time in 
your life and being able to like

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replay your life or like re 
listen to yourself and see like 

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how far you've grown. 
I can see why a lot of people 

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have been talking about wanting 
to start a podcast, but there's 

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so much that we've grown from 
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I feel like we were completely 
different people in our 

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friendship, too. 
Like we're just so much more 

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comfortable with each other and 
it's evolved so much. 

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And I think that, like, the vibe
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evolved too, because we didn't 
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about our lives or, you know, 
sending things to each other or 

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whatever. 
At the very beginning, we were 

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very like, this is the 
positivity for you. 

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And now we're like, listen, 
bitch, today was kind of fucked.

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Let's talk about it. 
I do things that we like. 

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We had a lot to talk about in 
the beginning though, like we 

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really dove right in. 
And some of the like beginning 

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episodes are really fucking 
good. 

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Like really good with like 
knowledge and just like stuff. 

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But now it is a lot more 
personal. 

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I feel like after we met in real
life, there was like a huge 

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shift just because we basically 
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We trauma bonded in a healthy 
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Yeah, like, we had a moment and 
I feel like it was just 

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irreplaceable. 
And how it all unfolded with 

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like, it being a surprise. 
Like that is the only time in my

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life I've ever been surprised. 
Like planned, like a secret 

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surprise ever. 
So it was super monumental for 

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me. 
Like it's crazy how that all 

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happened. 
You know what? 

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That just made me think of when 
you said that it was a surprise 

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was and this is going to be a 
walk down petty memory lane for 

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a minute. 
But was when that whole thing 

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was going on where I I told that
one girl like in my community 

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that, like, knew you too. 
And I was like, oh, yeah, like, 

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I'm going to be going out there.
I'm going to be surprising her. 

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And then she's like, this was 
not a fair position that I 

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should have been put in to have 
to lie to Paige. 

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And I couldn't even tell her 
that you were going on that 

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trip. 
And do you know how hard that 

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was on somebody like me? 
That was so difficult. 

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Meanwhile, the girl have been 
sending me messages. 

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Like, I'd really love to be 
closer to you and like be a 

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friend. 
Like I feel like you're a little

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bit distant and so I'm like, 
here, let me tell you about this

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surprise. 
And then boom. 

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First off, that bitch is the 
weirdest bitch out of anybody. 

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That woman that she's referring 
to, you all was a member of both

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of our communities, but at the 
same time when people would 

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leave our communities, which is 
sometimes due to death, 

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financial reasons, job loss, 
retirement, fucking sickness. 

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I mean, the list goes on of why 
people leave a subscription 

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service like it's their 
business. 

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This woman would write you and 
put you on the spot. 

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Like why did you leave Gemini's 
community? 

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Or why did you leave Paige's 
community like it was any of her

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damn business. 
And then over the summer I saw 

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that her and some girls from the
communities met up for like a 

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trip. 
And I just want to say if you 

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all are still listening and 
taking notes because you fucking

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should be y'all are a joke and 
no one cares. 

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But when you make little sub 
posts like like hold on what was

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something I read it was just 
like you know all the good that 

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my. 
Crown can't knock off now. 

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I've been blessed or some shit 
like that, bitch. 

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I'd knock your fucking crown 
like. 

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Not even that, but it was more 
like it was. 

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After all I've been through, I 
came out on top or some shit. 

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Like you're the one that was in 
the drama. 

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You were the one that was 
starting drama. 

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You were the one that was like, 
you know, confiding in all these

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people and stirring up all this 
shit and then to write Gemini 

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and be like, I really want to 
get to know you more. 

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This is you. 
And I went to high school with 

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this girl and we weren't friends
then and I really never 

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considered us friends now. 
Like we like she was a client 

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and I liked her as a person for 
what it she was showing. 

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But also when I'm working with a
client extensively, I'm not 

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going to be like, I don't like 
your vibe or I think you're a 

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shit person. 
Like I'm trying to help people 

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grow and mentor them and help 
them like change their life. 

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Everyone has a shadow and this 
girl literally would just say 

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and do the craziest shit like, I
have to air this out 'cause it's

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been weighing on me. 
One time she sent a photo of 

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like a house and home that she 
had been living in with her 

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child's father and she was like,
he broke up glass and put it in 

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the litter box. 
And the cats have been trapped 

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in here for a week. 
Yeah, like some weird fucked up 

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shit and like, why would you 
tell anyone that? 

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So now that I'm saying that it's
off my chest, it's out in ether.

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Why would someone as a client 
slash whatever the fuck tell you

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some craziest shit like that? 
Not just tell you that, Tell you

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that like on a regular Tuesday, 
not in a session, and send it to

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your community chat and tell 
everyone else. 

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Yeah, she did that. 
I think that I think that I have

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tried to be so like whatever 
with the situation because I 

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understand that like when you're
inside of a like healing place 

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or whatever, there's going to be
triggers for things like I had. 

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There was so much fucked up shit
that happened inside of our 

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community this year that stemmed
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And what makes me the most 
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contacting people who are on a 
healing journey, who have been 

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very vulnerable inside of, like,
community spaces, and you're 

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saying shit like that. 
She would also say wild shit 

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inside of our community chats 
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whatever and they project and 
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projections of like, negativity 
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is like all of this awful things
are happening right now, but I 

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know nobody can do anything 
about it. 

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heal from the situations. 

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I'm not going to change 
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I'm going to keep doing what I'm
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everybody to be able to know 
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The wildest thing for me is 
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like friends or friend groups 
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with literal strangers and then 
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that you're supposed to be 
acknowledging and healing from 

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over and over again. 
And as like petty as this girl 

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is, I could see her still 
listening to the fucking podcast

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because she was also the person 
like shouting us out, love 

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bombing us constantly. 
She bought me like a couple 

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different little gifts and I 
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just I don't like, I don't like 
the little trophies from people 

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that are like not genuine. 
And her energy was not genuine. 

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And if you think I'm gonna keep 
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you're. 
I you're talking about gifts. 

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I even this this is Oh my God, 
it brings back so much literally

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within the week of finding out 
that she had been doing all that

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fucked shit with everybody for 
weeks and messaging people that 

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were leaving and stuff. 
And these poor people don't want

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to message me and say anything 
because it's like a positive 

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community. 
I literally sent her money 

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because she was working on that 
jewelry business and she was 

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talking about how she wanted to 
make us lollipop things, and she

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wanted to make me things for 
witchcraft boxes. 

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And I was like, rooting her up, 
Told her that I would put her 

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inside of witchcraft boxes, like
whatever, sent her money so that

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she could get items. 
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community chat about how she 
didn't have money for that, she 

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was crying to me about how she 
couldn't be on the mentorship 

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level of Patreon anymore and how
she was getting so much benefit 

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out of the community chat. 
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Like you're really active in 
there, you can stay. 

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And I had her in there for two 
months that she didn't have to 

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pay for the mentorship program 
and was in the mentorship chat. 

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She got additional readings with
me, even though she wasn't 

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paying for that tier because I 
was like, OK, like if you're if 

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you are doing what you can, then
I'm going to give to you or 

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whatever. 
And then to turn around and tell

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people that, like, not only have
I just been like, I'm this awful

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cult leader, but then that 
you're not getting services, 

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you're not getting readings, 
you've been messaging people 

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like and I was trying to help 
boost your business like that. 

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Nobody was even upset with you 
at all or even brought you into 

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anything. 
It was all about how mean I am 

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and how I'm making you mean. 
And it was like you were the 

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victim and I was the mean 
villain corrupting you. 

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And then as soon as you're like,
that's not my friend, like my 

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friend wouldn't do that. 
My friend has receipts. 

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She you didn't you know there's 
nothing owed to you. 

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Then all of a sudden it's what 
an awful person you are and how 

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nobody can fucking stand you and
what the fuck are we doing? 

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But everybody was just on our 
fucking Dick, sharing our 

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podcast, talking about how 
inspirational it is and driving 

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from other states to fucking 
come and stay at your house and 

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treat it like a fucking dump. 
Yeah, there's just so much that 

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I could say. 
The fact that multiple people 

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have bonded in that situation 
and are still like making sub 

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tweet style posts, it's like the
only reason I want to air this 

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out at the end of 23 because 
after next like after this year 

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ends, you will never be relevant
again in my life what so fucking

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ever. 
Like come around, I got 

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receipts, we got cameras, we got
everything we need and I don't 

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give a fuck. 
Like I don't care what you 

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bitches think you know about me 
or know about Gemini. 

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You don't know shit because you 
wanted to spread lies, try to 

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defame someones character, 
defame someones name and their 

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business and poach customers and
clients and beg people to do 

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services and events and things 
that you're literally joining 

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our ship for free. 
Because there's another person 

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in that scenario that was in my 
chat for free because they said 

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they couldn't afford it but yet 
was accepting money for birth 

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chart readings and spell work 
from people in the community but

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yet couldn't pay to be in the 
community. 

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And I even made my community 
where you can promote your stuff

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like if you have a business or 
you're selling something there's

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a promotion channel in my 
discord like pop your ship, Boo,

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post it there, don't solicit 
people but let them know where 

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to find your information and 
let's move forward. 

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But at the end of the day, the 
fact that this is like continued

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on and then like mid August or 
whenever the fuck people are 

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still like posting about it, I 
just really have had some shit 

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on my chest about that. 
Because those people were so 

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manipulative. 
That there are still people that

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are like being in a community 
space is too much for me because

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of them. 
Like literally because of them. 

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Because of being in a vulnerable
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which is hard as fuck. 
But if you can open up to 

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strangers and be yourself around
strangers, then you can slowly 

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learn to do that around people 
you love and care about. 

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I'll tell you, it might seem 
like it's harder to open up to 

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strangers, but it's actually a 
lot easier. 

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Because if you're trying to 
become this version of you, they

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don't know about that version of
you. 

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But trust me when I say me and 
Jim and I can see that old 

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version of you, and if that's 
still really you, we can now 

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also see that. 
But we're giving people the 

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benefit of the doubt that 
they're joining a healing 

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circle. 
I'm not going to be like, no, 

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you're not healed enough to sit 
with us, you know what I mean? 

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Like at the same time, this 
environment stemmed for like 

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such a big part of the year from
like January into fucking July. 

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There was just straight drama 
the whole time between the girl 

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and Utah, these people. 
And it was almost like a 

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universal takedown of the 
podcast and like of our 

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friendship, and I love that it 
only made us stronger. 

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We created a a spell work 
Patreon level that we do spell 

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work every month for a 
collective group. 

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And you know it's funny because 
most of Gemini's people upgraded

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to that and it's like balls deep
in there. 

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So you know, at the same time, a
lot of things that were meant to

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like destroy or mess up our 
friendship hasn't at all. 

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No. 
There's been tons of shit and 

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like we like send each other 
like friend videos of like your 

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friend that like lives like away
from you or whatever. 

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It's so interesting to me, the 
people that I see trying to do 

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businesses in person that like 
it's just not working for, but 

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they're right there with each 
other and then how much we're 

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able to do being spread apart. 
And I don't think that like, 

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unless somebody has done it, you
don't understand like how much 

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maneuvering it is to like work 
time zones, to like really make 

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things match up when you are 
never physically with each other

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to be able to keep your 
friendship going and checking in

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and the business shit like it 
can be a lot. 

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And to actually be relevant and 
have like real life topics along

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with like niche topics for us to
talk about like you've never 

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heard an episode where we're 
just repeating the same stuff. 

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But I will tell you, there are 
other people who after our 

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episode comes out, they like to 
make the song title, use it, use

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the episode title, I mean, and 
whatever else that people like 

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to do and use that information 
And like, that's cool. 

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We want people to learn from it.
But it's almost like this year 

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had so much like illusions and 
and like masks being lifted. 

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Like people say they want to 
wake up spiritually and 1st it's

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waking up to yourself, waking up
to your own drama, your own 

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internal bullshit and limiting 
beliefs. 

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And then it's waking up to 
everyone around you like the 

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world as a collective. 
Then that makes you zoom in on 

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to the people close to you. 
It's like you collective world, 

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then everyone that you've ever 
known, whether that's a 

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connection that is by blood or 
by water, whatever the fuck it 

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is you this. 
Human. 

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Device see whatever baby. 
Like whatever. 

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And you will see like how is 
this person been actually 

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holding me back. 
Every time I share my ideas with

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them, they take them. 
There's been people came on our 

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podcast and they're having drama
with their friends because now 

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their so-called friends want to 
be like, oh I want to do that. 

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I'm going to do that. 
I'm going to do this. 

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Oh or ex friends are like, who 
are the dopest podcasters in 

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Louisville or Indiana? 
I want to do an interview and 

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like there was this big chain of
like maybe someone's got to ask 

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you to be on their podcast. 
You can't just be like, hey, I 

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have a story, I want to be on 
your podcast. 

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Like people have to ask you. 
It is such a turn off. 

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When people say I want to be on 
your podcast if I haven't 

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already either manifested them 
to be on it or ask them like 

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I've been manifesting you and 
you say it, I'm like, yes, this 

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is working. 
If I ask you and you say yes, 

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I'm loving it. 
But you don't just get to be 

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like, hey, I know you don't know
me for real, but can I be on 

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your podcast? 
OK. 

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I just want to say too, I would 
feel that way about anybody with

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any level of following, credit, 
whatever. 

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I think that people make it 
sound like you guys need me. 

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Put me on that so that I can put
you on. 

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That's the energy that like it 
comes from where is like if we 

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want to talk to you, it's 
because we want to get to know 

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you as a person. 
Like we're interested in you, 

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like we want to learn about you.
It doesn't have anything to do 

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with whether or not you have a 
following. 

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You're going to put us up. 
You're going to do XY and Z 

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because we may not like you. 
I've had. 

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That's just on facts. 
I've had people who I've never 

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talked to them before. 
They'll message me like 3 times 

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or they'll I'll start, you know,
talking to them in a 

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conversation and then they'll 
slip in there. 

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You should really have me on 
your podcast. 

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I've been some through some 
shit. 

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And OK also though, that goes 
hand in hand with what you and I

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were talking about earlier when 
we were talking about people who

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just are like, Oh my God, you're
a tarot reader. 

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I can't wait for you to read my 
cards. 

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It's. 
I don't know you. 

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I didn't say I was going to read
your cards. 

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Did you go to my website? 
Why is why are you just 

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expecting this? 
Like it's probably how mechanics

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feel anytime you go to their 
house and you're like, oh man, 

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my car's been making a noise. 
Could you take a look at it for 

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me before I go home? 
And people do that to tattoo 

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artists, too. 
Like if you tell someone you're 

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a tattoo artist, they tell you 
like their next 15 ideas that 

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they know they damn well don't 
have the money for. 

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And they're probably not even 
going to have you do them at 

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all. 
They're going to go back to 

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Billy Bob at his kitchen and get
the same caliber level of 

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tattoos they already have. 
And that's what I love about any

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industry, that someone has spent
their blood, sweat and tears to 

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become an expert or become, you 
know, good, good at something. 

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It's like, oh, help me, help me 
do this. 

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Like, how many people find out 
you have a podcast and ask you 

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to help them start their 
podcast? 

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Right. 
You know how many people find 

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out that you're good at 
something and then instantly 

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need your help? 
Like, that's the one thing that,

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like irks me a little bit about 
people is, First off, they want 

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to tell you how much you can 
make for your skills or what's 

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what's in their budget. 
So that's what you should be 

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accommodating for. 
And I'm sure like contractors 

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and people that do homes and, 
you know, damage jobs, they 

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probably get that nickel and 
dime shit 24/7 because it's like

448
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:28,000
a lot of times you don't, I want
to get this done. 

449
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,720
You have to now like you have 
to. 

450
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:32,160
And that's what I feel about 
spiritual maintenance. 

451
00:25:32,160 --> 00:25:34,400
It's just like your home or your
car. 

452
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,440
Getting a reading is spiritual 
maintenance. 

453
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:39,800
And if you are going to invest 
into that spiritual maintenance,

454
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,080
you're going to receive back. 
Like earlier I had a client say 

455
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:46,120
she needed to downgrade her 
level and then another client 

456
00:25:46,120 --> 00:25:50,680
sent me $500 five minutes later.
So it's like I don't really have

457
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,440
to like worry about the ups and 
downs, but I think so many 

458
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,920
people are attached to certain 
outcomes that they don't want to

459
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,880
invest in a reading. 
So they see that you can do it. 

460
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:01,160
And they're like, well, there's 
no investment on my part and I'm

461
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:03,360
going to benefit at the expense 
of you. 

462
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:05,800
It's annoying, you know, We 
don't like that. 

463
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:10,680
Also, please don't tell me how 
interested you are in readings 

464
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:13,840
and then tell me how difficult 
that you are to read, because 

465
00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:16,960
that's something that comes up. 
People will say that all the 

466
00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,640
time. 
Oh yeah, I would love a reading,

467
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:21,920
but I don't know if it's going 
to be successful because 

468
00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,160
everybody tells me that I'm 
really difficult to read. 

469
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:30,800
No, you want to be mysterious 
and you want to be unique and so

470
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:34,360
you're closing yourself off to 
even having that healing energy 

471
00:26:34,360 --> 00:26:37,880
come through to you because you 
want there to be a mystery. 

472
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:41,760
And really that stems from you 
don't want anybody to see you. 

473
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,880
So you're going to put walls up 
and you'll pay for somebody to 

474
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:48,280
try and prove to you that they 
can put your walls down so that 

475
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:52,160
you can show how strong and 
powerful you are and how self 

476
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:55,840
preserving you are. 
But it's not a flex to not be 

477
00:26:55,840 --> 00:27:00,400
open to having healing 
vibrations, healing energy, and 

478
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,360
evolving and moving forward with
things. 

479
00:27:03,360 --> 00:27:08,120
So don't brag about being 
difficult to read. 

480
00:27:08,120 --> 00:27:10,920
And also, if you have somebody 
who's reading you because 

481
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,040
they're truly channeling, 
connected to spirit and 

482
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,320
connecting with energy, it 
doesn't matter how much you 

483
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:20,440
don't want a message to come 
through or whatever. 

484
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:24,720
If that message is coming from 
somebody who is authentically 

485
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,560
reading you out of their ego, 
the message is going to come 

486
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:30,240
through regardless of how the 
fuck you're showing up. 

487
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:32,280
Thank you for coming to my Ted 
Talk. 

488
00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:36,840
And with that being said, like 
why would you want a reading if 

489
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,560
you're not open to the messages?
Like, that's why someone is 

490
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:45,520
opening a circle. 
Why would you like want to be 

491
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:48,600
Difficult for one. 
Most people that do that, though

492
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,200
are hurting the most too. 
That's what I'm saying, yeah. 

493
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,080
Yeah, like you're hurting the 
most and you need it the most 

494
00:27:54,120 --> 00:27:56,880
versus someone who's just like, 
Oh my God, never done this. 

495
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:59,560
I'm excited, you know? 
That's normally what I get, 

496
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:02,920
'cause I just block people like 
that, Like not block physically 

497
00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:05,880
block them on the Internet. 
Like I energetically block them.

498
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,400
I don't want their money. 
I'm not proving shit to you. 

499
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:10,800
I'm not no. 
Like if someone showed up to a 

500
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:15,840
reading like that, I don't know.
I would just be like, this isn't

501
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:19,880
comfortable for me and I'm 
refunding you by. 

502
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:21,800
Yeah. 
Like, I'm not a circus monkey 

503
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,440
and I'm not here to, like, prove
something to you. 

504
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:31,680
Yeah, totally, 100%. 
There's also something that I'm 

505
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,960
going over in the mediumship 
class. 

506
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:37,960
Well, as I'm putting it together
is we're going to be talking 

507
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:41,560
about different types of clients
that you encounter because there

508
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:45,880
are so many different clients as
a reader and different 

509
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:48,800
personalities that you're going 
to come into and everybody comes

510
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,400
out there reading with a 
different energy and a different

511
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,320
expectation and all kinds of 
stuff. 

512
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:56,600
That's so true. 
And I that's why, like I kind of

513
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,560
just blocked energetically 
clients who are not ready for 

514
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,320
the messages. 
Like I don't want clients that 

515
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:06,400
are just gonna inherently play 
the victim like or deny things 

516
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:09,040
that are actually true. 
Like I like a a client that can 

517
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:12,440
admit like, Yup, I am going 
through that I need help, like 

518
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:15,160
let's move forward. 
This is what I need to tell you.

519
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:17,920
This is what you know or I don't
want to tell you anything. 

520
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,960
I'd rather a client not say 
anything and just listen and 

521
00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:24,600
rewatch their reading later, you
know, then be like all closed 

522
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,280
off to something and acting like
a way. 

523
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,360
Are you pulling our card early? 
Yeah. 

524
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:36,320
I was just shuffling them. 
Jim and I likes to pull the card

525
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:38,680
in the middle of the episode now
instead of at the end. 

526
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:40,040
She's switching it up on you 
all. 

527
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:43,560
Yeah, because I feel like 
there's always something that, 

528
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,760
like, pops through on the card 
that we want to talk about. 

529
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,240
But we've already been talking 
for an hour and so we're like, 

530
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:50,960
dude, I need to go eat food. 
Bye. 

531
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:54,480
You know, I don't, I don't want 
to talk about this anymore. 

532
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:56,160
But there's always a message in 
there that we. 

533
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:57,800
Just, well, you can pull it and 
we can talk about it. 

534
00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:04,640
Yeah, we will. 
Oh, you're just going, Ghost. 

535
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:06,760
You're like fine. 
I just won't even talk. 

536
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:10,320
A couple. 
I had a couple messages and I 

537
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,360
was just wondering, and I'm 
actually doing spell work for 

538
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:15,120
one of the clients in the group 
right now. 

539
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:19,560
And so to take a picture of her 
spell work because when I asked 

540
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:21,800
you to record, I wasn't 
expecting you to be like, yeah, 

541
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:25,240
I can record in 20 minutes. 
So I was like, you know? 

542
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:28,080
You said right now. 
Well, I mean, but that was 

543
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:30,840
random when I asked you that. 
Wasn't like I had planned when I

544
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:32,760
started the spell work two hours
ago to. 

545
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:36,480
Yeah, but you asked me because 
you felt energetically that I 

546
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:40,960
was available. 
And there you are in the flesh. 

547
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:46,760
In the flesh, we got card 56 for
Moonrise. 

548
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:54,480
Oh, where's the camera now? 
Cancer Moon. 

549
00:30:55,680 --> 00:31:00,160
Yeah, it's like a it's like a 
table, a little isolated table. 

550
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,520
It's card 56. 
It looks like a date night. 

551
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:06,840
The signs are cancer and Leo. 
Oh, we were talking about 

552
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,160
balance inside of the spell 
work, and now we've got the 

553
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,440
water and the fire. 
Can I tell you something? 

554
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:16,160
The full moon two days ago was 
in Cancer and now the moon is 

555
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:20,360
currently, as we speak, in Leo. 
OK, well let's go Moonrise. 

556
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:27,000
The gift is enrichment and the 
shadow is distraction. 

557
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:31,320
Reaping the rewards of the gift 
is not about abstaining from 

558
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,280
life and its wealth of 
offerings. 

559
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:37,120
It is not about denying your 
senses or aspects of your world.

560
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:40,520
When you are completely in tune 
with who you are and what you 

561
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:44,160
cherish, you no longer require 
the outside world to be the 

562
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:46,240
source of your joy, forever 
fleeting. 

563
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:50,000
Instead, joy follows you. 
It lives within you. 

564
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:53,800
The air of desperation that you 
once held in the shadow state 

565
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:57,480
melts into a gentle ease and 
you're able to engage in your 

566
00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:00,520
experience with a jovial, full 
hearted essence. 

567
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:04,320
The moon rises with a softness 
that you feel in the core of 

568
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:07,520
your being, and your shadow is 
distraction. 

569
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:11,640
Buried within the shadow is an 
addiction to stimulation, 

570
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:13,800
especially with regard to 
sights. 

571
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,560
Much of our current social world
thrives on entertainment and 

572
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:20,720
distraction. 
As such, our attention span has 

573
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:24,880
shortened substantially and 
despite the onslaught of images,

574
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:28,520
sounds, videos, and media, we 
still find ourselves wanting 

575
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,800
more. 
There is never enough, and there

576
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:33,680
never will be. 
The Shadow urges you to keep 

577
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:37,440
seeking for some elusive cure in
the outside world of fantasy and

578
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:41,600
facade, while the real remedy 
can only be found within you or 

579
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,920
alongside the stars. 
Your themes are Attention, 

580
00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:47,200
Fulfillment, Essence, and 
Stillness. 

581
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:52,840
I've also been feeling that way 
with like especially around the 

582
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:58,440
holidays, Ads, emails, just 
people. 

583
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:01,920
It feels like very much I've 
been over stimulated and that's 

584
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:05,280
why like tonight I was maybe 
going to go to a concert, woke 

585
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,240
up, was not feeling good. 
Then I got invited to a comedy 

586
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:11,120
show and I was like, look, I'm 
just, I can't be in public like 

587
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:14,640
I don't feel good. 
I feel like I've just a lot of 

588
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:18,120
heavy things have happened this 
past week and it's just like, 

589
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,760
you know, you never really know 
what people are going through. 

590
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:24,200
And when someone close to you is
going through something and 

591
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:26,760
something bad happens to them, 
it's like, you know, there's so 

592
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:29,640
many mixed emotions about it. 
And I just feel like I have so 

593
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:32,920
many mixed emotions that like 
from one minute to the next I'm 

594
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:36,360
like two different people. 
And I'm trying to like just go 

595
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:38,640
with that. 
But shout out to all the people 

596
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,840
who are seriously like 
clinically depressed because 

597
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,560
like y'all are the real MVPS. 
No, I'm serious. 

598
00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:47,080
Because, like, I don't know in 
the world like how I could deal 

599
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,160
with this every fucking day. 
Like to feel as bad as I feel 

600
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:51,160
today. 
You know what I mean? 

601
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:53,840
Like, just sick. 
My body hurts, my head, 

602
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:55,760
everything. 
It's just like, I don't know. 

603
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:58,600
And I mean that sincerely, Like 
legitimately. 

604
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,680
I don't know how people like, 
deal with that every single day.

605
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:05,400
And I wish peace and happiness 
and freaking healing for 

606
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:08,159
everyone. 
And I'm doing a World Peace, 

607
00:34:08,159 --> 00:34:10,800
love and harmony smell later for
myself and the world. 

608
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,600
Because I just believe that it's
not just about ourselves. 

609
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:16,960
It really is about everyone. 
And if everyone was happier, our

610
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:20,520
collective vibration would be 
bigger and better and stronger. 

611
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:23,840
And we're so much more connected
than we know. 

612
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:27,960
So those distractions that keep 
us separate from everyone, it 

613
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:33,000
really isn't true. 
It's been. 

614
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:36,280
I feel like it's been a 
difficult like couple of months,

615
00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:39,400
like this year was really big 
on. 

616
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:43,600
I feel like going inside 
yourself and having reflective 

617
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,040
moments and it was like a huge 
year of shadow work. 

618
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:49,280
And something that came up when 
I was doing the end of year 

619
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:54,719
collective reading for my 
Patreon was how much like from 

620
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:59,960
2020 to 2022 we didn't have any 
like outside world really. 

621
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:03,920
Like things were starting to 
open up in 2022 and people were 

622
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:07,520
starting to be going back, maybe
the jobs or whatever. 

623
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:10,640
But 2023 is when people have 
really been settling in with, 

624
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:14,520
like, being at home jobs more 
and figuring out different ways 

625
00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:17,120
of having income. 
Because before the pandemic, you

626
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:20,520
just went to a job. 
And then during the pandemic, 

627
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:24,080
everybody realized, like, wow, I
have all of this like energy and

628
00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:26,720
time and whatever. 
And that's when people really 

629
00:35:26,720 --> 00:35:29,480
started like, working on healing
themselves too. 

630
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:33,920
So this year out in the real 
world has been a bunch of 

631
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:39,040
traumatized grown-ups who had 
were locked inside with children

632
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:43,000
having free time trying to 
navigate the world and like get 

633
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:46,920
back to whatever the new normal 
is or whatever. 

634
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:49,920
And you notice that, like now 
we're just functioning in 

635
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:51,880
society like nothing ever 
happened. 

636
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:54,640
There never was a fucking 
pandemic, but people were over 

637
00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:59,040
here like, you better go get jab
right now or fuck you, I'm never

638
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:02,640
talking to you again. 
And here we are all fucking 

639
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:06,680
living, all doing our shit and I
don't hear nothing. 

640
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:12,960
So like, it's been a year of 
having to get back to living 

641
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:17,600
real life in a new adapted way 
while you're having trauma and 

642
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:21,040
while everybody's going through 
some level of a healing journey.

643
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:25,360
So this year's just been really 
intense for like inner 

644
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:28,680
perspective work. 
And I feel like with that card, 

645
00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:32,840
that's where, like that part of 
the joy comes from like within 

646
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:35,320
you. 
I feel like it's a huge thing 

647
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:39,960
because everybody had to live 
inside of their depression 

648
00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:44,040
inside of their home or had to. 
So many people were trying to 

649
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:48,280
find these other outlets for 
their emotions and stuff like 

650
00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:49,760
that. 
And that goes into the cancer 

651
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:51,680
card too. 
Yeah. 

652
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:55,600
And like the home is like 
Cancerian energy and water, and 

653
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:59,240
then like the sun is like 
outward persona in the chart. 

654
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:04,480
So Cancer and Leo are the only 
two zodiacs that are ruled by 

655
00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:06,760
the sun and the moon. 
So they're really significant 

656
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:10,160
because then the other 10 
zodiacs are split between, you 

657
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:13,040
know, like they they mirror one 
another. 

658
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:16,240
So like the Cancerian energy, 
with the full moon being the 

659
00:37:16,240 --> 00:37:20,040
very last full moon this week, 
the day after Christmas, and 

660
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:24,800
we're in Mercury retrograde. 
Like, it's definitely a lot of 

661
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,360
energy. 
And I keep up Nirvana myself, 

662
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:29,800
like it's the full moon brief. 
Like it's the fucking full moon 

663
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:31,440
in Cancer. 
It's a lot. 

664
00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:34,600
Cancerian energy is super 
motherly, brings up Mother 

665
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:38,000
wounds traumas, A lot of people 
have that around the holidays, 

666
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:45,120
just even from like all levels. 
And I just really, really want 

667
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:49,520
people to understand that, like,
the outside world is a 

668
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:53,160
reflection of how we feel about 
ourselves, and we have to work 

669
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:56,320
through our own fears and 
negativities and things that 

670
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:57,800
we're just mean to ourselves 
about. 

671
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,200
That's what I tell clients a 
lot. 

672
00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:01,440
It's like, quit being mean to 
yourself. 

673
00:38:01,720 --> 00:38:05,120
And, you know, quit being so 
fucking hard on yourself. 

674
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:08,320
And that's something as humans, 
we all can learn from. 

675
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:12,520
We can all learn from, like stop
being so mean to yourself behind

676
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:16,680
the scenes and then pretending 
like everything's OK on the 

677
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,760
surface, you know, or whatever. 
I think sometimes, like we don't

678
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:22,160
even realize that we're being 
mean to ourselves because it's 

679
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,680
been taught to us. 
Yeah, I agree. 

680
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,600
And because you get so used to 
it, like, sometimes you don't 

681
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:31,720
even realize that you're talking
bad to yourself or about 

682
00:38:31,720 --> 00:38:34,840
yourself, but there are, you 
know, if you sit there and you 

683
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:37,960
think about it and you have a 
quiet moment, what are you 

684
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:39,640
thinking about? 
Are you thinking about like, 

685
00:38:39,640 --> 00:38:41,680
God, I need to work out more, 
'cause I don't like the way that

686
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:44,120
I look or, you know, whatever it
may be. 

687
00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:47,400
And I say that because that's a 
personal fucking one that I've 

688
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:51,400
had to work really hard at, like
getting over and not talking to 

689
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:56,240
myself certain ways. 
Or, you know, also too, not 

690
00:38:56,240 --> 00:38:59,240
comparing on social media, that 
took a really long time. 

691
00:38:59,240 --> 00:39:02,720
Like now I just, now, that's not
something that I even have to, 

692
00:39:02,720 --> 00:39:05,360
like, correct my thought about. 
But there was a long time where 

693
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:08,200
I used to be like, I wish I 
looked like that or I want to 

694
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:11,520
look like that Or, you know, oh,
I wish that I could express 

695
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,840
myself the way that they're 
expressing themselves. 

696
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:16,920
And that can be a really 
difficult thing too. 

697
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:19,960
If you're not happy with 
yourself, is comparing yourself 

698
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:23,160
to others a lot, 'cause you're 
never going to be able to 

699
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:25,680
sustain that. 
And Barbie was. 

700
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:28,200
So when Barbie came on and we 
talked to her and she was like, 

701
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:29,880
oh, it's literally just all an 
image. 

702
00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,960
I've had surgery, like, that's 
the realist fucking shit. 

703
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:35,760
And she's always like that where
she's like, yeah, I know that 

704
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:40,000
I'm hot, but like, I want you to
understand that, like to attain 

705
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:45,280
this thing has these 
consequences to it and these 

706
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:48,320
benefits to it. 
At first when you said when 

707
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:50,680
Barbie came on, I thought you 
were talking about the Barbie 

708
00:39:50,680 --> 00:39:54,040
movie, because in the Barbie 
movie there's like this whole 

709
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:57,080
big message about that kind of 
as well, like. 

710
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:59,840
Oh, I've never seen it. 
Well, I just watched it really 

711
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,960
for the first time, but it's 
basically like in Barbie world, 

712
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:05,320
you know, the girls do 
everything and then Barbie 

713
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:07,880
wanted to learn the truth about 
the real world and when she went

714
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,960
to the real world. 
She realized that the guys do 

715
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:12,880
everything like that. 
The guys are in the most 

716
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:15,640
important roles and the 
president and like all these 

717
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:17,520
things. 
And it was like this whole 

718
00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:21,640
dynamic about, like women, you 
know, being good enough and 

719
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:26,040
being like strong in in numbers 
and just like a whole thing. 

720
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:31,520
I got to tell you, yes, being 
back at the fucking office in 

721
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:39,080
the real world with men, I am 
triggered by the amount of men 

722
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:43,280
that are absolutely different to
women than they are to other 

723
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,480
men. 
And it's something that, like I 

724
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:47,960
I've worked there for years. 
So like, I encountered it 

725
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:52,640
before, but then I left for a 
couple months and I stopped like

726
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:56,680
mingling with them out in the 
natural habitat. 

727
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,120
I was very isolated away from 
the male population. 

728
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:02,720
And then now I'm back in the 
cesspool. 

729
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:08,680
And what makes what what gets me
is the fucking audacity of 

730
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:15,200
people to invade your personal 
space, to talk to you down, talk

731
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:18,240
to you, talk to me like I'm 
fucking stupid. 

732
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:22,880
And then they'll go back to talk
to the doctor, joking, funny, 

733
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:27,640
kind, laughing all the shit. 
And I he'll walk out and I'm 

734
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,480
literally, like, what? 
Like, do I need to pull my Dick 

735
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:32,400
out? 
Like, what do I need to do 

736
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,880
around here for you to not talk 
to me like I'm dumb? 

737
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:37,560
Because the guy you're being 
nice to, he doesn't work at the 

738
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:39,240
front desk. 
Bitch, I'm the one charging your

739
00:41:39,240 --> 00:41:40,320
card. 
Be nice to me. 

740
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:43,560
Like I don't. 
I hate it. 

741
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:47,640
I think it's a lot of just 
people in service style jobs, 

742
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,160
like you're at a desk or like, 
you know, people behind 

743
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,280
counters. 
Like people are just fucking 

744
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:56,040
rude to those people because 
they see them as like less than 

745
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:57,720
or whatever. 
And I was having this 

746
00:41:57,720 --> 00:42:00,280
conversation with someone the 
other day, like they always say 

747
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:02,080
like oh if you're not happy, 
just get a better job. 

748
00:42:02,080 --> 00:42:05,160
But it's like we need people to 
do all jobs no matter what they 

749
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:06,440
are. 
But people treat people 

750
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:10,080
different because they're women,
because if they're pretty versus

751
00:42:10,080 --> 00:42:14,280
society's ugly or, you know, 
whatever, people label people 

752
00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:18,280
well, like, it's just fucked up 
how there is so much different 

753
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:23,320
interaction depending on who you
are, what color you are, what 

754
00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:28,080
age you are, how attractive you 
are, XYZ, you know what I mean? 

755
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:31,880
Like it's just like the way 
society is set up is like, I'm 

756
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:34,960
better and you're less than. 
And I always like to ask myself,

757
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:37,520
like, how do these people talk 
to themselves? 

758
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:40,560
Because they're probably not 
that nice to themselves, but 

759
00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:43,200
they, You know what I mean? 
Like, because nice people are 

760
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:45,320
nice to other people. 
People that are doing the work 

761
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:48,440
and are healing are nice and 
inspiring towards other people. 

762
00:42:48,720 --> 00:42:52,040
Like, you can be doing the work 
and still be an introvert and 

763
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:53,840
still be nice. 
You know what I mean? 

764
00:42:53,840 --> 00:42:56,640
Like, it's just weird to me. 
Like, but I always see people 

765
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:58,760
who are just predominantly 
nasty. 

766
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:00,080
I don't care who you're nasty 
to. 

767
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:03,080
If you like them or don't like 
them, you can't treat someone 

768
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:06,000
with respect as a human. 
Fuck you, for one. 

769
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:09,240
And the way people treat animals
as even a whole other level of 

770
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:14,080
fuck you. 
And then men in general, like, I

771
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:18,680
think just have such a weird 
dynamic with the way that 

772
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:20,640
they're raised. 
Like depending on how they're 

773
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,480
raised, if their mother and 
father had a good relationship 

774
00:43:23,480 --> 00:43:26,080
or not. 
Super effects men where I just 

775
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,680
don't feel like it affects women
as much because women are. 

776
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:30,880
I mean, even though it affects 
us, it's like more. 

777
00:43:31,240 --> 00:43:35,080
We're more naturally healing and
compassionate and loving because

778
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:37,920
we're literally chosen to be the
portal here to earth. 

779
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:41,840
Welcome. 
And men just, they can't 

780
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:45,880
resonate with that concept of 
eternal kindness and support and

781
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:49,320
like love naturally. 
Like I think it has to be taught

782
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:54,120
to them from a very young age. 
That's why I say that like, if I

783
00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:58,040
was never not with my husband, I
just do not think that I'd ever 

784
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:01,160
be with a man again. 
And I mean that like totally 

785
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:07,360
sincerely is like I the 
qualities of like somebody being

786
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:11,680
like gentle and commutative and 
being more in like that feminine

787
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:15,760
energy is something to me. 
Like, I feel inspired by that. 

788
00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:19,360
I feel motivated by that. 
That's why I've always been like

789
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:24,120
totally open to like Poly 
dynamics where like two wife, 

790
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:26,040
one husband mentality, like 
outside. 

791
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:30,160
It's not polygamy because 
polygamy is religious based and 

792
00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:33,960
like spiritual based. 
But like, I totally liked that. 

793
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:37,400
Because then you can have the 
balance of, like, feminine and 

794
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:42,160
masculine, and there aren't a 
lot of men who are able to 

795
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:46,080
comfortably be inside of both 
roles. 

796
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:50,160
And so, like, I feel like I 
married the one person that I'm 

797
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:54,840
willing to have, like, that 
masculine energy with. 

798
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:56,640
And then after this, I'm like 
it. 

799
00:44:56,640 --> 00:45:02,160
Dude, it's straight pussy vibes.
Yeah, I personally find it 

800
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:06,480
really hard to connect with men 
who don't have a healthy 

801
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:09,280
balance. 
But in like recent years I will 

802
00:45:09,280 --> 00:45:12,560
say that I'm meeting people with
more balance and I think that 

803
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:16,200
you know, just being self aware 
is like the first step, like 

804
00:45:16,200 --> 00:45:20,080
anything that needs to be 
brought into your world through 

805
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,960
lessons, obstacles, people, 
relationships, whatever. 

806
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:25,520
Like it will be brought to your 
world. 

807
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:29,680
And I just believe like there is
so much room for change, but it 

808
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:32,280
could really just start with 
like some self accountability 

809
00:45:32,280 --> 00:45:38,920
from most gender like roles 
where it's like I'm man, you're 

810
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:41,760
a woman, you have to do this and
I do that and you be nice and 

811
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:44,400
I'm this, you know, like I don't
know just some of that shit's 

812
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:46,400
just laid out like it's just 
laid out. 

813
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:50,120
I feel like men need to feel 
safe enough to open up about 

814
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:53,720
their emotions without being 
judged or being seen as weak or 

815
00:45:53,720 --> 00:45:56,600
lesser than or Sissy or 
whatever. 

816
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:58,560
You know what I mean? 
Like that's that's how these 

817
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:03,040
people are brainwashed and built
into this like robotic almost 

818
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:08,240
emotional standpoint where 
physical touch is like top love 

819
00:46:08,240 --> 00:46:11,880
language and then fucking acts 
of service as the next like oh 

820
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:14,800
so you just want me to suck your
Dick and wait on you perfect. 

821
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:18,600
Like no, I'm sorry. 
Like I cannot. 

822
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:22,440
I I will totally take a man if 
his first love language is 

823
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:26,960
physical touch and the second 
one is words of affirmation. 

824
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,640
I'm with it. 
Like if I can talk to you I can 

825
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:31,440
be sexual with you and I would 
want to be. 

826
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:35,040
But at the other side of it, 
it's like I'm not waiting on you

827
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:39,000
hand and foot. 
Like no, I just feel like 2 acts

828
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:40,520
of service. 
People probably aren't going to 

829
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:44,040
get along very well because it's
it's one taker and one giver. 

830
00:46:44,040 --> 00:46:47,440
At the end of the day, one's 
going to do more and one's going

831
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:50,000
to feel less. 
And so I just feel like when 

832
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:52,960
love languages match up, they 
almost need to be a little 

833
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:56,520
opposite and not the same thing 
because you would think like, oh

834
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:58,160
we have the same love language, 
it works. 

835
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:01,920
But like, if both of your first 
love, loving ages, physical 

836
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:04,760
touch, you're both going to get 
burned out on sex when you can't

837
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:08,920
communicate with one another. 
So here's the thing too, is that

838
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:12,440
I think that when people take 
those tests, especially if 

839
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:15,080
you've been in like a super, 
like if you're married and 

840
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:18,000
you've been in like a long or a 
long relationship with the 

841
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:21,920
person actually taking the test 
from the standpoint of what is 

842
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:25,200
your actual love language? 
What do you actually like and 

843
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:26,880
not just what have you been 
receiving? 

844
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:32,840
Because I've noticed that my 
love language has evolved over 

845
00:47:32,840 --> 00:47:36,400
the years. 
I've thought, but that's only 

846
00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:40,520
because that's the way that love
has been given. 

847
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:45,160
And so that's what I have grown 
to say that I like. 

848
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:49,560
And so when I'm doing like my 
healing journey, all of a sudden

849
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:52,360
I'm like, no, wait, but I like 
these things over here. 

850
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:55,320
And I just told myself that I 
didn't like them because that 

851
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:57,320
wasn't your shit. 
But that's still my shit. 

852
00:47:57,520 --> 00:48:01,320
And I can have my own thing. 
And so I know that especially 

853
00:48:01,320 --> 00:48:04,560
like when you I know that you're
like not married. 

854
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:07,600
And so I know that like, it's a 
different like perspective. 

855
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:12,440
But there does end up being this
phase where like you're just 

856
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:15,800
around each other so much that 
like you mold so closely 

857
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:20,320
together and you have to a lot 
of people get lost inside of 

858
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:23,080
that and then they get lost 
inside of like that mother role 

859
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:24,600
too. 
And that's where people are like

860
00:48:24,600 --> 00:48:27,840
I've just like I don't know who 
I am anymore and I've always 

861
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:31,480
been fucking determined that I 
won't be that person. 

862
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:35,880
But when self reflecting like 
it's natural if you're around 

863
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:40,560
the same person all the time and
your goal is to like love them 

864
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:44,280
and make them feel loved, you 
take things on as like your 

865
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:46,160
personality that aren't your 
personality. 

866
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:49,120
To help make somebody else 
comfortable and like that is 

867
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:51,960
inevitable. 
It'll always fucking happen. 

868
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:54,920
But then you have to also, like,
find yourself and the couples 

869
00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:57,840
that I feel like are really 
strong or the people who 

870
00:48:57,840 --> 00:49:00,760
communicate those things, and 
you either work through it or 

871
00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:03,880
you don't, but that are honest 
about those things. 

872
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,720
Because then you're not stuck 
somewhere for 30 years and 

873
00:49:06,720 --> 00:49:09,800
you're like, oh, I fucking left 
Bob one day, you know? 

874
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:13,920
I don't know. 
I also feel like love languages 

875
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:16,440
should evolve as you grow and 
evolve. 

876
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:19,120
But I do see what you're saying.
Like, sometimes you think that's

877
00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:21,480
evolved, but you've really just 
started to choose that because 

878
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:25,040
that's what you're. 
I think my biggest thing that 

879
00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:29,960
someone told me, they said 
always know where you end and 

880
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:34,160
the other person begins. 
Like even though you will mesh 

881
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:37,440
with them, marry them, have kids
with them, whatever it is, 

882
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:41,240
whatever it may be, always know 
where you end and they begin, 

883
00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:43,200
period. 
And like, I don't know why that 

884
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:44,880
is stuck with me. 
I could not tell you where I 

885
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:46,600
heard that from or who told me 
that. 

886
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:49,880
But they were like giving me 
advice on marriage or like 

887
00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:53,360
telling me something about like,
you know, just relationships in 

888
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:57,280
general. 
Because I think a lot of people 

889
00:49:57,280 --> 00:49:59,880
have toxic attachment. 
It's not even just a trauma 

890
00:49:59,880 --> 00:50:02,880
bond. 
It's toxic attachment to not 

891
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:07,200
being abandoned or not feeling 
left behind or not feeling 

892
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:09,600
alone. 
I cannot even count how many 

893
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:13,720
people, clients over the years 
that are like, well, if I left 

894
00:50:13,720 --> 00:50:17,760
this person, I would be alone. 
Or, you know, I had a client 

895
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:21,000
tell me before, like when I was 
younger, I could depend on my 

896
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:23,040
looks. 
But now that I'm in my 40s, I 

897
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:26,880
don't feel like that as 
confident or sexy or seeing 

898
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:30,120
anymore. 
And this person makes me feel 

899
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:32,760
less seen and less heard and 
less confident. 

900
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:34,560
And I don't know how to leave 
them. 

901
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:40,360
And that really hit for me in a 
sense of like what do you do in 

902
00:50:40,360 --> 00:50:42,640
that situation? 
Because at that point, she 

903
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:44,880
really doesn't know where she 
ends. 

904
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:48,480
And they begin their words, 
their manipulations, things, 

905
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:52,520
programs that they've instilled 
into her for X amount of years 

906
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:54,560
has drained her of that 
confidence. 

907
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:57,880
Sometimes, like, I've seen where
it's like, if you're attracted 

908
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:00,760
to me because of my light, don't
come over here and try to dim 

909
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:02,720
it. 
And we've all had a boyfriend or

910
00:51:02,720 --> 00:51:04,520
a girlfriend. 
That's like, you can't do that. 

911
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:05,920
You can't hang out with that 
person. 

912
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:08,360
You can't go there. 
I don't want you to wear that. 

913
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:11,080
Or why are you wearing makeup? 
Who are you getting ready for? 

914
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:14,200
We're going to see my brother 
and my family kind of thing. 

915
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,120
And like, that's toxic to me. 
Like that's where I've seen 

916
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:20,360
people say, like if she used to 
get ready all the time and then 

917
00:51:20,360 --> 00:51:22,960
gets in a relationship and 
stops, it's not because she's 

918
00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:27,200
happy. 
So with that particular client 

919
00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:32,720
and like that thing I would be 
like, well then you're not 

920
00:51:32,720 --> 00:51:36,840
leaving for reasons of like 
healing and evolving. 

921
00:51:36,840 --> 00:51:40,720
You're you're just wanting to 
leave so that you can have a 

922
00:51:40,720 --> 00:51:43,640
totally different like situation
without healing. 

923
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:48,800
Because if you are actually 
leaving somebody because that 

924
00:51:48,800 --> 00:51:52,880
isn't working for me anymore and
and you're not the person that's

925
00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:56,160
meant for me, you should be 
leaving so that you're finding 

926
00:51:56,160 --> 00:51:59,200
what you need and you're 
rebuilding yourself and you're 

927
00:51:59,520 --> 00:52:03,320
growing and evolving yourself 
and you are leaving to take care

928
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:05,440
of you. 
And if you happen to meet 

929
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:07,080
somebody while you're doing 
that, great. 

930
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:09,480
But like, what's the point of 
being with somebody? 

931
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:14,080
Simply so that you are with 
somebody and that like, our our 

932
00:52:14,080 --> 00:52:17,800
media does it and social media 
does it, where like you're 

933
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:20,320
supposed to be in these just 
like happy, glorious 

934
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:23,160
relationships and like you 
should just be booed up and 

935
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:26,400
that's your worth. 
But there are so many fucking 

936
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:29,680
single people out here in the 
world that are doing so many 

937
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:32,600
amazing things and are super 
happy, and you have 

938
00:52:32,800 --> 00:52:36,240
relationships and friendships 
with other people in your life. 

939
00:52:36,240 --> 00:52:38,040
It doesn't have to be a romantic
partner. 

940
00:52:38,240 --> 00:52:40,680
You can get Dick on the street 
that you don't have to have a 

941
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:44,800
commitment to. 
Like why this is, it's like 40s 

942
00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:50,320
style thinking that we're trying
to have in 24 while we're also 

943
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:55,240
over here talking about wanting 
to like be taken seriously and 

944
00:52:55,240 --> 00:52:58,760
wanting to have everybody like 
respect our independence and 

945
00:52:58,760 --> 00:53:02,080
things like that. 
But so many people don't want to

946
00:53:02,240 --> 00:53:08,000
be independent in that. 
Well, I think also like society 

947
00:53:08,000 --> 00:53:11,840
convinces women that like in 
your 40s that you're like 

948
00:53:11,840 --> 00:53:15,360
expired, so you better make them
happy, so you better. 

949
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:16,760
I think it was more of that, I 
think. 

950
00:53:16,760 --> 00:53:19,080
I don't know if I portrayed that
correctly or not, but it was 

951
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:23,360
more of that. 
Like this doesn't make me happy,

952
00:53:23,520 --> 00:53:28,920
but I'm afraid that if I leave 
that I will end up alone or more

953
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,840
unhappy I guess. 
And yes, they had a lot of 

954
00:53:31,840 --> 00:53:35,280
healing and things that probably
needed to come into the, you 

955
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,760
know, they. 
Got plenty of They got plenty of

956
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:41,560
older daddies on likematch.com 
and shit like that. 

957
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:43,320
You could find yourself. 
You could find anybody. 

958
00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:45,440
These days. 
There are plenty of men getting 

959
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:47,760
divorced because women are 
fucking tired of men and they 

960
00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:50,720
have midlife crisises and they 
become lesbians. 

961
00:53:50,720 --> 00:53:54,880
And so there's plenty of Dick 
Havers just wandering around in 

962
00:53:54,880 --> 00:53:58,200
this world aimlessly, not 
cleaning their dishes, not 

963
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:00,800
picking up their house. 
And they are looking for a woman

964
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:04,240
to do for. 
Them, that's what I'm saying. 

965
00:54:04,320 --> 00:54:08,480
Like she was saying, like there 
was the caliber in quality. 

966
00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:11,680
I don't know. 
It just isn't hidden anymore. 

967
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:16,200
Like, yes, she was unhappy, but 
I guess she thought, at least 

968
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:18,760
this way I have the lifestyle 
I've been living. 

969
00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:21,920
I'm comfortable. 
I'm in my comfort zone, even 

970
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:25,800
though he doesn't make me feel 
seen or sexy or appreciated. 

971
00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:29,520
You know, I don't know. 
I mean, it was this was a while 

972
00:54:29,520 --> 00:54:32,360
back, but I mean she definitely 
had some healing and reflection 

973
00:54:32,360 --> 00:54:34,000
to do. 
But I do feel like this person 

974
00:54:34,000 --> 00:54:36,760
was pretty manipulative. 
And when someone's coming out of

975
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:40,000
a manipulative or an abusive 
relationship, you literally 

976
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:42,280
believe what your manipulator or
abusive. 

977
00:54:42,280 --> 00:54:46,800
Oh 1000% you have to reprogram 
yourself. 

978
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:50,480
And the only way you can do that
is away from the person, away 

979
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:53,800
from the environment. 
So I feel like really, she had 

980
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:58,160
two options. 
Stay or leave and it's still be 

981
00:54:58,160 --> 00:55:00,120
very hectic either way, 
probably. 

982
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:02,240
You know, should I stay or 
should I go now? 

983
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:05,760
Yeah, if I go, there will be 
trouble. 

984
00:55:06,000 --> 00:55:08,440
Yeah, it's a little bit of. 
The fuck out? 

985
00:55:08,520 --> 00:55:12,440
No, I'm just kidding. 
I mean, I think that once you're

986
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:17,120
on a healing journey, like I 
said earlier, you start to see 

987
00:55:17,120 --> 00:55:20,720
other people for who they really
are and you start to see other 

988
00:55:20,720 --> 00:55:23,880
people for the roles that they 
play and the roles that you 

989
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:27,400
allow them to play in your life.
I think a lot of it is like, 

990
00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:30,320
what do I allow? 
Because if I allow someone to 

991
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:34,720
give me bare minimum treatment 
or communication or whatever in 

992
00:55:34,720 --> 00:55:37,600
a relationship, then that's me 
settling. 

993
00:55:37,880 --> 00:55:41,320
If I tell someone this is what I
expect, this, you know, these 

994
00:55:41,320 --> 00:55:44,400
are my requests. 
It's not a demand because you 

995
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:48,040
can say no and move on, but this
is the request or this is the 

996
00:55:48,920 --> 00:55:51,440
boundary or this is the bottom 
line for me. 

997
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:54,760
Like, I need these things to 
feel safe and healthy in a 

998
00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:56,760
relationship. 
If I don't have these things, 

999
00:55:56,960 --> 00:55:58,400
then we don't have a 
relationship. 

1000
00:55:58,400 --> 00:56:01,320
We have a friendship or we're 
roommates, or we're not. 

1001
00:56:01,320 --> 00:56:03,720
We're not close. 
We're not actually having the 

1002
00:56:03,720 --> 00:56:06,640
energy of connection. 
And that's where I think that 

1003
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:09,480
people do what they want to do 
for who they want to do it for. 

1004
00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:12,040
And you have to want to do it 
for yourself because doing it 

1005
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:14,480
for someone else is never going 
to be sustainable. 

1006
00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:17,440
It's easy in the beginning to do
it for your family or do it for 

1007
00:56:17,440 --> 00:56:18,880
your wife or do it for your 
husband. 

1008
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:21,800
But at the end of the day, if 
you're not doing it for you, 

1009
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:25,240
you're gonna feel resentful 
towards those people for asking 

1010
00:56:25,240 --> 00:56:28,560
you to change or asking you to 
step up or asking you to 

1011
00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:31,640
contribute in whatever way. 
Emotionally, physically, 

1012
00:56:31,640 --> 00:56:34,880
mentally, and spiritually. 
I think accountability is what 

1013
00:56:34,880 --> 00:56:38,760
we need in 2024 is like hold 
people accountable. 

1014
00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:42,440
Be honest and vulnerable, but 
don't wait until you're angry 

1015
00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:46,200
and bottling over and like a 
volcano is exploding and 

1016
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:49,960
erupting. 
Like, speak on it before because

1017
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:53,240
when the storm comes, they 
should have prepared because 

1018
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:57,000
they knew it was coming. 
But don't just hit people like a

1019
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:59,160
tornado and expect them to read 
your mind. 

1020
00:56:59,160 --> 00:57:03,680
I think that's one important 
thing is like just because they 

1021
00:57:04,240 --> 00:57:07,120
are close to you doesn't mean 
they know how you're feeling if 

1022
00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:11,280
you don't tell them. 
Yeah, dude, that's such a big 

1023
00:57:11,280 --> 00:57:13,640
one too. 
And I had, I think it was my 

1024
00:57:13,640 --> 00:57:18,040
husband that pointed out like if
you don't communicate, people 

1025
00:57:18,040 --> 00:57:20,080
can't just read your mind and 
automatically know. 

1026
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:22,520
And just because you think that 
something is obvious, that 

1027
00:57:22,520 --> 00:57:24,840
somebody should know what 
they've done, doesn't mean that 

1028
00:57:24,840 --> 00:57:29,880
it is obvious. 
And the difficult thing too is 

1029
00:57:29,880 --> 00:57:33,400
like, and it's inevitable is to 
have an extreme after that, 

1030
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:37,720
after where you haven't been 
communicating and then you start

1031
00:57:37,720 --> 00:57:39,720
to communicate. 
And there's almost like I'm 

1032
00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:42,480
going to over communicate 
because I have to now justify 

1033
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:45,240
why I feel this way, because now
I'm starting to communicate to 

1034
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:47,280
you. 
And I feel like that's where I 

1035
00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:49,440
was when we first started the 
podcast. 

1036
00:57:49,760 --> 00:57:54,240
And I was so nervous about 
talking with you because I felt 

1037
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:58,600
like I had to explain every 
little bit of why I was thinking

1038
00:57:58,600 --> 00:58:03,040
something or whatever. 
And that came from an insecurity

1039
00:58:03,040 --> 00:58:05,520
of, like, I didn't want to be 
misunderstood. 

1040
00:58:05,520 --> 00:58:08,240
I didn't want you to not want to
record with me because you 

1041
00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:11,320
thought I was weird. 
I didn't want to like, you were 

1042
00:58:11,320 --> 00:58:15,760
like like the most positive 
little like, bubblegum droplet 

1043
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:18,960
ever. 
And we hadn't gotten into like, 

1044
00:58:18,960 --> 00:58:21,680
nitty gritty of anything. 
And so I'm like, if she knows 

1045
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:24,680
that I've had a bad day, like, 
it's going to be a wrap on this 

1046
00:58:24,680 --> 00:58:27,600
fucking podcast and like this 
whole friendship. 

1047
00:58:27,960 --> 00:58:33,680
And then we survived Utah and I 
was like, oh shit, you're the 

1048
00:58:33,680 --> 00:58:35,320
girl. 
That'll be like, I'll go tell 

1049
00:58:35,320 --> 00:58:37,800
her. 
And we bonded. 

1050
00:58:37,800 --> 00:58:42,840
I loved that so much because you
were so background. 

1051
00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:45,600
Go with the flow. 
I'm just going to sit here and 

1052
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:47,800
whatever you want to do, You 
want to make my plate? 

1053
00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:50,160
Please do. 
I'll just be here taking 

1054
00:58:50,400 --> 00:58:53,840
pictures of my butt. 
And then when shit was like, 

1055
00:58:53,840 --> 00:58:56,960
actually going down, you're 
like, well, I'm actually going 

1056
00:58:56,960 --> 00:58:58,840
to let her know that we're 
getting an Airbnb and she's 

1057
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:00,960
dropping us off there because 
we're not staying at her house. 

1058
00:59:01,200 --> 00:59:03,120
Actually, I already went and 
bought the Airbnb. 

1059
00:59:03,120 --> 00:59:04,640
You guys can just pay me back 
later. 

1060
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:06,400
I wanted to make sure we had a 
place to stay. 

1061
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:09,560
Like, oh, actually, we're going 
to go and get this rental car 

1062
00:59:09,560 --> 00:59:10,800
right now. 
And that's what we're going to 

1063
00:59:10,800 --> 00:59:11,960
do. 
And it was. 

1064
00:59:12,240 --> 00:59:16,440
I was like, yes, take charge. 
And then I learned I was safe 

1065
00:59:16,440 --> 00:59:19,280
with you. 
Because if shit went down, I'll 

1066
00:59:19,280 --> 00:59:21,000
get us out and you'll get us an 
Airbnb. 

1067
00:59:22,120 --> 00:59:27,640
I literally fucking love that. 
And also, I feel like that's 

1068
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:32,840
because I have been pretty much 
in my masculine energy for most 

1069
00:59:32,840 --> 00:59:34,720
of my life. 
And I got an aura reading 

1070
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:36,840
recently and it said I'm 
completely in my divine, 

1071
00:59:36,840 --> 00:59:39,400
feminine energy. 
And I was like, yes, like it's 

1072
00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:42,240
happening, I'm doing it. 
But with that being said, like 

1073
00:59:42,240 --> 00:59:44,800
that masculine, I'm going to 
take charge and fix everything. 

1074
00:59:44,800 --> 00:59:48,320
Like that's because I don't have
a lot of people in the past that

1075
00:59:48,320 --> 00:59:51,640
I could rely on now. 
I have amazing people that like 

1076
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:54,200
support me and that are coming 
into my life every day with 

1077
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:57,160
support and love and gratitude 
and all of those things. 

1078
00:59:57,160 --> 00:59:59,480
So I don't feel that way as much
anymore. 

1079
00:59:59,480 --> 01:00:02,680
But when it comes to like 
something needs to get done, I'm

1080
01:00:02,680 --> 01:00:04,800
getting it done because I don't 
like to wait. 

1081
01:00:04,800 --> 01:00:06,800
I don't like the anticipation of
waiting. 

1082
01:00:08,400 --> 01:00:13,280
Yeah, I get it. 
This is our last episode for the

1083
01:00:13,280 --> 01:00:16,120
new year until the new year. 
How do you feel about that? 

1084
01:00:17,120 --> 01:00:19,160
I feel fine. 
It's not the last episode of 

1085
01:00:19,160 --> 01:00:21,680
season three. 
It'll be weird when we end the 

1086
01:00:21,680 --> 01:00:24,040
season and then we have like a 
little gap, but I feel like we 

1087
01:00:24,040 --> 01:00:26,760
have episodes to go before that 
happens. 

1088
01:00:27,520 --> 01:00:29,720
Well, we're going to try to make
it to 100 episodes. 

1089
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:33,520
So we've got like, what, 20 
something left for this? 

1090
01:00:33,520 --> 01:00:36,000
Yeah, yeah, 'cause Barbie was 
69. 

1091
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:39,240
Yeah. 
So it'll be more like probably 

1092
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:44,000
spring whenever we take a break.
So yeah, this is the last 

1093
01:00:44,000 --> 01:00:47,320
episode of recording in 2023. 
Do you have a message for the 

1094
01:00:47,320 --> 01:00:50,120
world? 
Fuck you. 

1095
01:00:50,400 --> 01:00:56,240
No, I'm just kidding you guys. 
2023 was fucking rough. 

1096
01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:59,120
Take a bath, leave it in the 
past. 

1097
01:01:00,600 --> 01:01:04,120
Working with the element of air.
If you have a lot of things that

1098
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:07,600
or even anything that you feel 
like you need a different 

1099
01:01:07,600 --> 01:01:10,800
viewpoint on, you need to see 
things from a different 

1100
01:01:10,800 --> 01:01:13,520
perspective in order to like 
heal from it and move on. 

1101
01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:18,040
I think that working with like, 
air energy is really helpful 

1102
01:01:18,040 --> 01:01:19,640
with that. 
I'm not just saying that because

1103
01:01:19,640 --> 01:01:24,160
I'm a Gemini, but really like 
that does help you with evolving

1104
01:01:24,160 --> 01:01:26,480
and getting new perspectives and
things. 

1105
01:01:26,840 --> 01:01:30,400
And I think that new year, new 
me is bullshit. 

1106
01:01:30,400 --> 01:01:34,600
You're going to be the same you,
but you can make a consistent 

1107
01:01:34,600 --> 01:01:37,920
effort with your energy to leave
things that aren't serving you 

1108
01:01:37,920 --> 01:01:42,000
anymore and to think about those
things before you go into 2024. 

1109
01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:45,840
And if they're a piece of shit 
friend in 2023, they're going to

1110
01:01:45,840 --> 01:01:47,920
be a piece of shit friend in 
2024. 

1111
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:51,680
And if you guys broke up in 
2023, leave them in 2023. 

1112
01:01:51,920 --> 01:01:54,280
Don't take them back in 2024. 
It's bullshit. 

1113
01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:56,040
Still, they haven't changed at 
all. 

1114
01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:59,960
They still don't wash their ass 
correctly, and you deserve 

1115
01:02:00,080 --> 01:02:01,200
better. 
Thank you. 

1116
01:02:02,600 --> 01:02:07,280
My message is seriously, just 
step into your power this year. 

1117
01:02:07,280 --> 01:02:09,200
Make that your only goal. 
Goal. 

1118
01:02:09,200 --> 01:02:14,440
Like, don't make like physical 
goals about your body and 

1119
01:02:14,440 --> 01:02:17,080
fitness and things like that. 
All those are great, but like, 

1120
01:02:17,080 --> 01:02:20,200
they put so much pressure. 
And I'm not going to lie, the 

1121
01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:23,240
gym is so busy in January, I 
think I said this last year, 

1122
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:26,000
because people start shit and 
they think they're going to do 

1123
01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:29,680
it when winter is like not the 
time to start anything. 

1124
01:02:29,960 --> 01:02:32,960
So if you don't listen to 
anything we've ever said, listen

1125
01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:37,200
to this. 
Cultivate all of your patience, 

1126
01:02:37,360 --> 01:02:40,440
your preseverance, your energy 
this winter. 

1127
01:02:40,680 --> 01:02:44,560
Focus on letting go, letting 
things die, letting things be 

1128
01:02:44,560 --> 01:02:48,040
put to rest. 
And then whenever we have the 

1129
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:54,200
spring equinox in March, open up
the the floodgates, baby, and 

1130
01:02:54,200 --> 01:02:57,400
let that shit roll. 
Wait for Aries season. 

1131
01:02:57,400 --> 01:03:00,920
The Aries new moon will be huge 
for manifesting and huge for 

1132
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:04,320
starting projects. 
But if you have all of your if 

1133
01:03:04,320 --> 01:03:06,840
you're cultivating your skills 
and you're cultivating patience,

1134
01:03:06,840 --> 01:03:09,680
and you're cultivating the drive
and motivation that you're going

1135
01:03:09,680 --> 01:03:13,120
to need to get through those 
hard times, you will be so much 

1136
01:03:13,120 --> 01:03:16,400
more successful than jumping out
of the gate Because it's January

1137
01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:19,080
1st, go with the astrological 
new Year. 

1138
01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:23,120
If you seriously don't know what
that is, Google it and follow it

1139
01:03:23,120 --> 01:03:25,680
this year and watch how 
different things will be for 

1140
01:03:25,680 --> 01:03:27,760
you. 
And we love you all. 

1141
01:03:27,760 --> 01:03:30,720
We will see you next year in 
Candyland. 

1142
01:03:31,240 --> 01:03:33,200
Bye fuckers. 
Bye.