1 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:16,400 Welcome to Fucking Candy Land, hosted by Rampage and Gemini. 2 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:30,000 We are so excited that you're listening to us. 3 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,680 If you want to elevate the experience and see these 4 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:38,320 interviews on video, you can join either one of our Patreons. 5 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:40,840 They are LinkedIn the description wherever you're 6 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:42,760 listening to this podcast episode. 7 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:47,000 In addition to getting to watch the full length video 8 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:52,200 interviews, we also both have tons of additional content and 9 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:54,080 support for the spiritual community. 10 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:57,160 So go ahead and check those out and then if you're ever 11 00:00:57,160 --> 00:01:01,360 interested in readings with us or personally connecting with 12 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:05,560 us, we also have our websites and social medias, LinkedIn the 13 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:09,120 description as well. Feel free to share this episode 14 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:13,360 with everybody that you know. Get the look it like a lollipop 15 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:17,480 name spread around and we hope you love this episode. 16 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:24,240 Welcome back to Candyland, You Beautiful people. 17 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:26,800 It is Jim and I and myself today. 18 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:30,760 We hope that you enjoyed our latest and greatest guest, but 19 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:33,280 now it's just us. So what's up, baby? 20 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:35,880 What's up? I feel like that popped off so 21 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:38,440 many new topics for us to discuss though, and now I'm 22 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:41,400 like, I have so many things I want to talk to you about in the 23 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:45,080 world. Honestly, I love episodes where, 24 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:49,880 like, we do less interviewing on like the guest themselves, but 25 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:53,640 more of like, hey, I like your energy. 26 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:56,120 I feel like we resonate with your energy. 27 00:01:56,120 --> 00:02:00,080 Now let's talk about controversial topics or taboo 28 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:04,040 topics, because it's always nice to bring in so many different 29 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:07,760 people's energies. But sometimes, like, people 30 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:11,920 don't care about someone's childhood or what they did and 31 00:02:11,920 --> 00:02:14,040 all this stuff. Like, not always. 32 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:16,600 I mean, not that people don't care, but you know what I mean? 33 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,720 Like sometimes to know who you are on a core level. 34 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:23,360 Like what drives you, what motivates you, what scares you. 35 00:02:23,440 --> 00:02:26,240 That type of energy is like what I love. 36 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:28,920 Yeah. And then you get to also learn 37 00:02:28,920 --> 00:02:31,960 how they process through things too, like we talked about so 38 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:34,880 many different topics the last time. 39 00:02:35,200 --> 00:02:39,160 And you get to just see how somebody processes through maybe 40 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:43,920 information they don't agree with or communicating their 41 00:02:43,920 --> 00:02:47,200 different, their different opinion and their different 42 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:48,240 thought. And it gives you like a 43 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:50,560 different respect and understanding of that person. 44 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:54,880 Yes, because a lot of people can, like, show you their best 45 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:58,560 side on like Instagram or Facebook or like the Internet. 46 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:02,520 But like, I want to know who you are when things are not puppies 47 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:05,040 and rainbows, or like when you don't agree with something or 48 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:06,880 when you're triggered by something. 49 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:10,880 And I love to talk about spiritual topics with people 50 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:15,720 because there's literally so much under the surface from what 51 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:19,240 you see on someone's social media or what they portray to 52 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:22,240 the world. And like we discussed with 53 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:25,720 Samantha, we would have been burned at the stake for talking 54 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:28,680 about some of this shit. And I love that She was like, I 55 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:30,080 know I've been burned at the stake. 56 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:33,000 And like, I personally resonate with that as well. 57 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:36,920 Just the fact of like, I know I have been persecuted and pushed 58 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:40,760 into hiding because I constantly get that message of like come 59 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:43,880 out of The Cave, you don't have to fear persecution, like come 60 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:47,960 out, come out and like spread that energy and it's just a 61 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:52,160 beautiful thing. I wonder too, like how many 62 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:58,480 people who are now mentors or supporters inside of like 63 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:01,640 spiritual community and and talking about like taboo topics 64 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,080 and helping like bring light to other people. 65 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:08,480 I wonder how many of us did experience being silenced, being 66 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:12,160 persecuted for things, and then this time or like we're all 67 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,880 fucking coming back, we're all going to keep doing what we were 68 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:18,079 doing. Like what did we contract 69 00:04:18,079 --> 00:04:20,720 together? How many of us, like know each 70 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:26,120 other from past like lifetimes or whatever and are like, Oh no, 71 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:27,560 we're going to be going through this. 72 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:30,840 Yeah. And I feel like also something 73 00:04:30,840 --> 00:04:33,920 that we signed up for because my ancestors are always like 74 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:37,360 emphasizing, like you are safe and you are protected. 75 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:39,440 And like, you don't need to worry, You need to just push 76 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:43,880 forward like lead people to the golden age, like lead people 77 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:46,480 through this change. And I just feel like the more 78 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:50,520 that I help awaken people, the more exempt that I am to fucking 79 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:54,080 suffering or fear or any of those energies. 80 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:57,080 Like, I just don't consent to it and it's not a part of my 81 00:04:57,080 --> 00:05:00,720 reality. And I love to help people 82 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:04,160 expand. And it's like a ripple effect 83 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:08,840 because there's so much under the surface at times that maybe 84 00:05:08,840 --> 00:05:11,680 we don't even realize that's under that surface. 85 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:18,360 And it's just kind of like, we've all known in our soul that 86 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:23,440 we would come back and that the time would be available, I 87 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:25,960 guess. And it is beautiful, 'cause I do 88 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:28,640 feel like a lot of star seeds and a lot of people, 89 00:05:28,640 --> 00:05:33,160 lightworkers and just healers and witches, and everyone has 90 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:35,600 came back into this dimension at this time. 91 00:05:35,840 --> 00:05:39,560 And so I love whenever you hear people say, like, I'm only 30 92 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:43,560 and I've lived through like all these life events and all these 93 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:47,480 life changes, whether it was like the Millennium to like, you 94 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:53,800 know, 911 to like fucking COVID. And like we just went through so 95 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:57,760 many, like major changes in society, like being on the cusp 96 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:00,400 of like the Internet, like before the Internet, after the 97 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:02,960 Internet. And so I just really, really 98 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:07,920 love coming together with people and like and like shedding light 99 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:12,520 on that darkness. That is so interesting that we 100 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:15,960 have lived through so many things because you're right, so 101 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:20,040 many of us that are younger do feel like we have already lived 102 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:22,760 all of these lifetimes and already have all of this 103 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:25,040 experience and things to teach other people. 104 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:28,760 Somebody on my TikTok made a video yesterday and was like I 105 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:32,360 can't wait till I'm 40 so that I can be like the old Wise Crown. 106 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:35,760 And I'm like, I'm 29 years old and I already feel this way. 107 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:39,360 Like I already feel like there's so much advices to give on 108 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:44,840 things and dynamics to be learned and and shared. 109 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:50,520 And it used to be that you were only seen as having wisdom and 110 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:54,360 having had experiences if you were an older person and you 111 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:58,000 were just kind of shooed to the side as being like young, dumb 112 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:00,440 and ignorant if you were younger. 113 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:05,480 And there is so much more I think respect and listening to 114 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:09,240 now that we have social media and you're able to share so many 115 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:11,920 things that you do know and information that you do have 116 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:18,720 where now we're being able to be seen as like intelligent human 117 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:21,560 beings with experiences at younger ages. 118 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:24,880 And it'll be really interesting as we do get older to see if 119 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:29,320 people our age nurture the people that are younger and 120 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,040 coming up, or if it's going to be a similar thing where we're 121 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:35,240 like, you haven't been through anything, you're only 20. 122 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:41,320 I mean, I personally will never become like the bitter boomer. 123 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:45,160 That's like just work harder and like even though someone told me 124 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:48,600 that like the house their parents live in, it's like a 125 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:51,880 massive house that's worth like 500 K they were like my parents 126 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:57,200 paid $38,000 for their house in the 80s, like $38,000. 127 00:07:57,200 --> 00:08:02,680 You cannot even go get a small sedan car for 38K in this 128 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:06,160 energy. So it's like I don't resonate 129 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:11,400 with telling people how to live their experience because as a 130 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:16,240 healer and as a light worker, I know that we all have soul 131 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:19,680 contracts, We all have things that we personally signed up for 132 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:22,400 that maybe don't make sense to other people. 133 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:27,400 And I think that our generation, people between like 25 and 35 134 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:32,720 currently are here to break that mold because things are going in 135 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:35,880 a different direction. And it is authentic expression 136 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:39,919 and it is elevation and it is lighting the path for others to 137 00:08:39,919 --> 00:08:42,120 follow. And I feel like older 138 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:44,600 generations were just fucking gatekeepers. 139 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:48,200 They were gatekeepers. They're Bible thumpers, you 140 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:50,480 know, Especially like, I live in the Bible Bell. 141 00:08:50,480 --> 00:08:55,160 And you know, my Nana literally sends me a Bible every year. 142 00:08:55,160 --> 00:09:00,160 And I'm like, I really love you, but like, I don't need 45 Bibles 143 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,440 at my house, you know, like, whatever. 144 00:09:02,720 --> 00:09:06,280 But, you know, that's very, very common to like project limiting 145 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:08,960 beliefs on the people in these older generations. 146 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:11,960 So I do feel like a lot of people in our generation are, 147 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:15,640 like, moving towards, like, conscious parenting and, you 148 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:20,560 know, not gentle parenting and not enabling their kids, but in 149 00:09:20,560 --> 00:09:25,080 a sense being conscious. Like, I know my kid has these 150 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:29,480 issues or these development things, and I'm going to nurture 151 00:09:29,480 --> 00:09:34,200 them so that they don't feel alienated or exiled or judged 152 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:36,920 because of that. Like, you know, previous 153 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:39,520 generations were just, like, not even worried about mental 154 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:41,240 health. They were like, oh, you've been 155 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:43,200 sexually abused. Get over it. 156 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:45,720 Or you've had this happen, Get over it. 157 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:49,960 Or you watched your mom, you know, take shots of vodka at 158 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:53,200 9:00 AM and take you to school, get over it, You know, like 159 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:55,840 there was just, like, no accountability in some of the 160 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:59,440 older generations. And I think that us being 161 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:03,200 awakened and being enlightened at a young age is going to shift 162 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,160 that. Like I know that the shift is 163 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:09,800 here, whether people like that or not, whether they're going 164 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:13,640 kicking or screaming or not. I think that's why so many 165 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:17,480 people have throat chakra blockages too, is that they were 166 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:20,320 told growing up that like, you need to be quiet. 167 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:22,560 This just is what it is. Don't repeat anything that 168 00:10:22,560 --> 00:10:26,920 happens inside of this home. Everybody has issues. 169 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:29,440 Nobody cares about what issues you have, whatever. 170 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:32,880 And that created people that don't want to ask for help. 171 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:39,280 You have high egos and a lot of I think mental health things 172 00:10:39,280 --> 00:10:44,120 stem from that because you're constantly being told that your 173 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:48,000 experience doesn't matter, that everybody has problems, just put 174 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,880 it down and deal with it. It's the same thing as like the 175 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:54,360 boys aren't supposed to cry, like man up type of mentality. 176 00:10:54,600 --> 00:10:58,440 And it's like, oh, so you're just making a whole bunch of men 177 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:01,640 who don't have the ability to have emotional understanding 178 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:05,360 consciousness and be able to responsibly communicate and work 179 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:09,080 through things. And we've talked about it 180 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:13,440 before, but there are a lot of people who they don't care to 181 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:16,080 recognize those patterns that they were raised with and they 182 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:18,600 don't care to work on it. And so then they just keep 183 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:22,560 putting that on to people inside of society and want to silence 184 00:11:22,560 --> 00:11:27,040 those people and whatever. And then you go to church and 185 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:28,600 you're still told the same thing. 186 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:31,640 And I think I find so much safety inside of like our 187 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:37,040 spiritual community because even if the people aren't quote UN 188 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:40,520 quote healed and understanding that they have these certain 189 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:44,440 traits, at least they're in a space where they're wanting to 190 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:47,880 learn and expand and can Start learning some tips to be able to 191 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:53,440 develop on that. And I'm going forward this year 192 00:11:53,680 --> 00:12:01,080 with the mindset that people who do fucked up unhealed things are 193 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:04,000 still learning the tips and tools that they are learning 194 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:06,520 from us or learning inside of other communities. 195 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:10,560 And they will one day be able to apply those and learn from the 196 00:12:10,560 --> 00:12:13,440 ways that they treated other people or whatever. 197 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:16,360 And it just may not be their time to do it now. 198 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:24,280 And that has like shifted my perspective on being frustrated 199 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:28,560 or holding on to what's the fucking like a grudge. 200 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:34,080 Because it may be shocking, but I can hold the fucking grudge. 201 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:39,680 And if I've seen it in you, then fuck you. 202 00:12:39,720 --> 00:12:41,680 But I've learned that I can see it in you. 203 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:46,120 I can know that about you as in this moment, but then I can also 204 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:48,560 know that you can heal. I may not ever talk to you 205 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:51,960 again, but you could heal and you could do better for somebody 206 00:12:51,960 --> 00:12:54,440 else along the way. And you had to fuck me over in 207 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:55,840 order for you to learn that lesson. 208 00:12:55,840 --> 00:13:00,400 And it's fine. And I think that the moment I 209 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:04,840 stopped taking other people's actions personal, that's for 210 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:07,240 super big. And like I talk about the book, 211 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:10,320 it's called the Four Agreements. And one of the Four Agreements 212 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:14,560 is to not take things personal. And the moment that you remove, 213 00:13:14,560 --> 00:13:19,000 like, why is this person not treating me with respect? 214 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:22,680 And you don't see that as a personal attack towards you? 215 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:25,080 It shifts your whole freaking reality. 216 00:13:27,560 --> 00:13:30,640 That's really difficult to do though, because you do feel like 217 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:33,840 how could you not see that you are doing this thing to me and I 218 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:39,440 I saw something recently that said you're not contradicting to 219 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:41,760 what we're saying. It says you're not that special. 220 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:46,040 People are not going out of their way to be vindictive 221 00:13:46,040 --> 00:13:48,440 towards you. It's just their character and 222 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:51,040 who they are. And when you sit there and you, 223 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:54,840 this is something that I have, I have done and I'm working really 224 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:58,800 hard on not sitting there and picking apart the situation and 225 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:01,680 wondering how you don't understand my feelings and going 226 00:14:01,680 --> 00:14:04,200 back and forth about how I feel versus you. 227 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:07,280 Whatever you waste so much energy doing that, it doesn't 228 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:11,040 help anybody come into healing on situations. 229 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:15,680 It just makes you sit there and be like, well, you're an awful 230 00:14:15,680 --> 00:14:19,320 person because I have looked at this from every angle that I 231 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:22,600 possibly can and you still done fucked up. 232 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:26,000 Yeah. And I think so many people see, 233 00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:29,480 like other people's lack of awareness or lack of 234 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:32,520 accountability as a personal attack or like you said, 235 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:37,160 vindictive towards them. And I love using the term, like 236 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:41,480 you don't owe me anything. Like you don't owe me respect, 237 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:44,200 but I demand and require respect. 238 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:46,800 So the moment I'm not getting that, I'm just going to remove 239 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:49,040 myself. Like, you don't owe that to me, 240 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:53,760 but I demand and I require that. So the moment that you stop 241 00:14:53,760 --> 00:14:56,880 taking other people's actions personal and you just realize 242 00:14:56,880 --> 00:15:00,240 that you only are in control of the way you're perceiving that 243 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,680 situation and you can let them disrupt your peace. 244 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:06,720 You can be laying up in bed like, why am I not good enough? 245 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:10,520 Why does this person not respect me or care about my feelings? 246 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:15,200 Or you can be like that person is projecting and reflecting how 247 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:17,560 they treat themselves back to me. 248 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:20,400 Because a lot of people that treat you like shit or talk to 249 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:23,120 you like shit, talk to themselves like shit and beat 250 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:26,600 themselves up on the inside and lay in bed all night like you're 251 00:15:26,600 --> 00:15:28,640 a piece of shit and you fucking suck. 252 00:15:28,920 --> 00:15:33,880 So many people have negative self relationships, whether that 253 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:36,320 was taught to them like you're not pretty enough, you're not 254 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:40,200 skinny enough, you're not rich enough, or whether that was 255 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:44,320 embedded from, you know, peers, relationships, work 256 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:46,720 environments. You know, I always say that 257 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:50,520 really, a lot of people stay in environments that are not 258 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:53,280 conducive to their growth because it feels comfortable. 259 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:58,040 And when you remove yourself, you may sit in quiet and empty 260 00:15:58,040 --> 00:16:01,120 energy for quite some time. And a lot of people are like, I 261 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:02,680 don't want to be an empty energy. 262 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:05,840 I would rather fill it up with a bunch of shit that doesn't serve 263 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:10,040 me so I can be distracted from my own accountability and my own 264 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:11,960 healing. Because if you're blaming your 265 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:15,920 partner or your mother or your neighbor for your unhappiness, 266 00:16:16,080 --> 00:16:19,160 you're never actually taking accountability for how you're 267 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:21,080 playing a role in your own suffering. 268 00:16:21,400 --> 00:16:25,440 And that's what I think healing and spirituality has really 269 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:30,040 helped for me is it wasn't other people that made my life bad, it 270 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:35,400 was me allowing those people to bring their state Gucci energy 271 00:16:35,400 --> 00:16:38,200 into my fucking life and bring me down. 272 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:41,640 Whether it was like, hey, I've got free drugs, do you want 273 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:43,280 some? Or hey, I'm having a party. 274 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:47,960 Or hey XYZ. Like I was allowing that by 275 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:50,760 creating an energetic relationship with that. 276 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:54,640 It's not their fault. It was my fault and I needed to 277 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:59,280 realize that I was just allowing them to have space in my life. 278 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:04,720 I was allowing those situations to manifest because I was 279 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:07,480 allowing it. Period. 280 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:09,000 Like that's just point blank period. 281 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:13,760 I let it happen. And also when you're so focused 282 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:16,880 on what everybody else is doing that you don't like or that's 283 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:21,240 bothering you or whatever, it ends up changing the way that 284 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:24,599 you treat those people and the way that your energy is around 285 00:17:24,599 --> 00:17:26,119 them. So then it just keeps on 286 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:28,119 festering this. I don't like what you're doing. 287 00:17:28,119 --> 00:17:29,560 I don't like what you're doing thing. 288 00:17:29,800 --> 00:17:35,080 Whereas if you were to put your energy and time into you doing 289 00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:37,960 what it is that you're wanting to do or communicating the way 290 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:40,960 that you do regardless of that person. 291 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:45,200 So many situations would like find more healing think that 292 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:48,600 inside of like relationship dynamics a lot too. 293 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:51,200 It'll be like, well, I don't like that they talk to me that 294 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:53,360 way. And so I talk to them this way. 295 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:58,280 And so then you keep on going in these cycles of 296 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:01,800 miscommunications and being disrespectful with each other. 297 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:05,680 Or you know, I'm a really affectionate person and this 298 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:08,400 person isn't being affectionate. So now I'm not an affectionate 299 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:10,880 person. No, because that person loved 300 00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:12,600 that about you and that's why they're with you. 301 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:14,560 They loved that you were an affectionate person. 302 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:19,160 And so now you're changing something about yourself that 303 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:24,040 made your dynamic work and now everything is different. 304 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:26,360 But you're going to sit there and keep on blaming the other 305 00:18:26,360 --> 00:18:30,200 person as being the problem. And so often we'll be like, 306 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:32,560 well, this person has changed or this has changed. 307 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:35,200 But people don't want to do the self reflection and the 308 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:39,040 evaluation to see what areas they've changed in and how 309 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:42,800 they're responsible for that dynamic shifting too. 310 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:48,440 And that's been also a big thing I've been learning and really 311 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:55,120 like really working on. And that goes back into the that 312 00:18:55,120 --> 00:18:59,080 like 4 agreements thing of not taking things personal, like you 313 00:18:59,080 --> 00:19:03,120 not liking to do this thing doesn't mean that you don't like 314 00:19:03,120 --> 00:19:06,400 when I do it. That's me now, personalizing 315 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:09,000 something that's about you and putting it on myself. 316 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:16,080 And that also ties into when we were talking a couple weeks ago 317 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:18,640 about your love languages and how your love language will 318 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:22,240 shift based on somebody else's love language and what they do 319 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:25,200 or don't give you. And that you can mold yourself 320 00:19:25,200 --> 00:19:27,680 and think that, oh, this is what I like or this is what I don't 321 00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:29,760 like anymore. No, you're just living in a 322 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:32,200 world where you're trying to make other people comfortable, 323 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,160 whether that be your friends or your family members or, you 324 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:38,320 know, whatever. My favorite thing about 325 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:42,840 relationships right now is you can feel like you're healed and 326 00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:45,600 that you're prosperous and that things are really shifting for 327 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,200 you. But I have learned that a lot of 328 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:51,600 the times that we feel that we're healed, it's because we're 329 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:55,480 absent of triggers. Like you can feel like you have 330 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:58,720 grown and you've elevated and you've really went next level. 331 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:01,520 But are you just absent of triggers? 332 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:05,400 Are you just isolated in your own comfort zone or in your 333 00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:08,040 newfound comfort zone? And that's what I've learned 334 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:12,800 recently is that I. Had taken a step back from 335 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:16,400 dating, had taken a step back from mingling and going out and 336 00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:18,920 being around people, being around family even. 337 00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:22,560 And then the holidays rolls around and it's time of like, 338 00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:25,280 community, and it's time of healing and it's time to come 339 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:27,480 together. And then you find out like, 340 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:30,160 whoa, like this is still triggering me. 341 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:32,160 This person is still triggering me. 342 00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:34,440 This situation is still triggering me. 343 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:37,560 Like, you go home and people are commenting on your weight or 344 00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:43,040 your sobriety or your lack of XYZ, like where's your partner, 345 00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:46,360 what happened with you and blah blah blah, like, you know, like, 346 00:20:46,360 --> 00:20:49,800 are you healed or are you just absent of triggers is a big 347 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:54,760 question to ask. Because I can send all of the 348 00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:57,600 good vibrations out into the world and then go into an 349 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:01,480 environment and instantly be brought down to their level and 350 00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:04,560 instantly be brought back down to where I started. 351 00:21:04,560 --> 00:21:10,360 Or Ground Zero if you will. And that can be a huge wake up 352 00:21:10,360 --> 00:21:14,720 call, because it's like, are you healed or are you just isolated? 353 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:18,600 And a lot of the times you will find that you've been isolated. 354 00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:21,920 You've been hanging around your new spiritual friends, or your 355 00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:25,800 new sober friends or your partner, or whatever, and you're 356 00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:28,680 just absent of triggers. With the moment that you go into 357 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:32,800 an environment that's not conducive of your healing and 358 00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:37,800 it's the same box that you escaped from, you're going to be 359 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:41,600 brought back down to square one where you have to face the noise 360 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,080 that maybe you're not as healed as you think you are. 361 00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:48,280 That's so fucking real. Also. 362 00:21:48,360 --> 00:21:54,680 Like the generation before us, too was still in the perfect 363 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:58,760 body, perfect image that you're projecting, that you're showing 364 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:02,840 other people and whatever. And I know that like my we've 365 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,720 talked about our grandmothers being very similar. 366 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:09,880 As in the sense of, like, you wake up, you get ready, you put 367 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:12,240 your makeup on, you look like you're ready for the fucking day 368 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:13,960 because you never know who you're going to meet. 369 00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:16,760 What's going to happen? My Nana, you know, if her house 370 00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,040 catches on fire, she'll just fucking stay in there if she 371 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,400 doesn't have her makeup on, because there's no goddamn way 372 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,360 that she's going to let the neighbors see her, you know, 373 00:22:24,360 --> 00:22:29,040 disheveled. And so growing up, there was a 374 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:32,120 lot of, and I didn't realize this until a couple of years 375 00:22:32,120 --> 00:22:36,120 ago, but there was a lot of perfectionism that was put on 376 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:39,800 the rest of her family. A big part of that being 377 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:46,000 religiously based, but a lot of it being your personal 378 00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:47,640 appearance. And I remember she would be 379 00:22:47,640 --> 00:22:51,160 like, you can be poor, but you don't have to look poor, Like 380 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:54,920 you can make yourself look expensive even if you know 381 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:58,120 you're not whatever. And so that was always, like 382 00:22:58,120 --> 00:23:02,840 really drilled into us. And I saw her also. 383 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:06,760 Your body. Like for years her and my aunts 384 00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:09,840 and my mom have been doing, you know, this weight loss thing and 385 00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,600 that weight loss thing and this diet thing and and whatever. 386 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:16,600 And I didn't realize until a couple years ago how much that 387 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,920 mindset had, like, been transferred onto me and how much 388 00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:24,000 of my personal thinking had been because of the way that their 389 00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:28,280 perfectionism, her perfectionism had been projected onto me. 390 00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,600 I'll never forget I she was really sick. 391 00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:34,680 And so I flew down to California to go and take care of her. 392 00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:40,840 And she was telling me that once I get back, what did she say? 393 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:44,240 Once you get back to the size that you should be your true 394 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:47,280 size, I'll take you clothes shopping and we'll go and we'll 395 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,560 get you a new wardrobe. And so I was sitting there that 396 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:55,360 night and I was like, I need to lose this weight because, like, 397 00:23:55,360 --> 00:23:59,000 she's commenting on it. And like, I do want new clothes 398 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:00,800 that, like, make me feel comfortable, whatever. 399 00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:03,120 Like, I do need to lose this weight. 400 00:24:03,120 --> 00:24:07,760 And I felt so embarrassed that we were talking about it and 401 00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:11,600 that it was so like, I shouldn't go and buy new clothes for 402 00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:15,600 myself because I'm overweight. And it made me think of when I 403 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,520 had first had Mac and, you know, I had AC section and stuff. 404 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,080 So it was a little bit more difficult for me to bounce back. 405 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:27,440 And she took me postpartum clothes shopping. 406 00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:30,560 And she was like, you need to get leggings and big shirts 407 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,400 because you need to hide the fact that you're very overweight 408 00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:37,320 right now. And I didn't think about it in 409 00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:39,800 the moment. I was just like, yeah, you're 410 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:42,000 right, Nana. Like I need to wear a burlap 411 00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:45,320 sack because I am overweight right now. 412 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:53,400 And that sometimes that stuff, even though it's something that 413 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:57,080 like I'm working on or the other people, you know, you work on 414 00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:59,960 things that people have said to you and projected to you in the 415 00:24:59,960 --> 00:25:02,520 back of your mind. Sometimes you're still like, is 416 00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,760 other people thinking this thing that this person is thinking 417 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:08,400 about me, Whether it be your weight or whether it be you're 418 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:11,760 told that you're too loud or you're too woo woo with the 419 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:16,040 spirituality or, you know, you don't talk enough or you cuss 420 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:20,000 too much or just whatever little thing it may be sometimes that 421 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:23,320 just sits there in the back of your brain and it just picks at 422 00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:25,120 you. And it is those times you're 423 00:25:25,120 --> 00:25:28,040 saying, like it is those moments where you know you're by 424 00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:31,560 yourself and you don't have a trigger going on inside of your 425 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:33,720 world. And so your brain is like, 426 00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:37,280 what's something bad that somebody said about you so that 427 00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,760 you can work on this thing in your downtime? 428 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,120 Yeah. And I think that a lot of 429 00:25:43,120 --> 00:25:47,480 children are in programmed with, like those limiting beliefs and 430 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:50,560 those projections. And a lot of parents want to 431 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:54,960 live vicariously through their child or very vicariously 432 00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:58,840 through whoever. And, you know, for the longest I 433 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:03,960 was being influenced by unhealed parts of my parents, like their 434 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:07,600 fears and projections. Like my dad made a comment 435 00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:10,680 probably like four years ago when I started my business. 436 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:14,400 And he was like, you'll never make that much money doing that. 437 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:16,640 Like, you'll never make that much money. 438 00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:19,520 And then, you know, I look at it and I'm like, you know, when my 439 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,920 dad retired, he's making like 40 something dollars an hour. 440 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:26,880 And now on average, I make over 100 an hour for my services. 441 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,920 So it's like, OK, I would never make as much, but I'm making 442 00:26:30,120 --> 00:26:31,960 triple what you made in one hour. 443 00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:33,840 And you did this your whole fucking life. 444 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:38,080 But I think that the moment that you don't want to be spiteful 445 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:40,600 towards those people, you're really healing from those 446 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,720 triggers. Cause instead of trying to 447 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:47,840 justify or feel like I needed to be accepted by him or accepted 448 00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:51,560 and what I was doing, I was just like, OK, cool, I'll, I'll show 449 00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:52,960 you that. Like I'll show you what I'm 450 00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:56,320 going to do instead of tell you instead of project that 451 00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:58,840 insecurity back on to you, right. 452 00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:02,720 Like I was just like, OK, you can send that my way and I'll be 453 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:06,240 your punching bag because you never chased your dreams and you 454 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:10,280 never broke the matrix on your life and you never actually 455 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:14,400 elevated and healed your insecurities, you know, But a 456 00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:19,800 lot of people, especially in the capitalism type society, they 457 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:24,040 have been programmed to keep everyone on the same hamster 458 00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,800 wheel that they're on no matter what. 459 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:30,600 And that's how the cycle stays alive, as if everyone is on the 460 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:34,360 hamster wheel. Everyone is going in the motions 461 00:27:34,360 --> 00:27:38,640 of life and never questioning why we're all on the same ride. 462 00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:41,400 That just keeps restarting. Like you never get ahead. 463 00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:45,360 It just restarts and restarts. And that's why I hear people say 464 00:27:45,360 --> 00:27:49,160 like that they don't have a savings account or that they're 465 00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:55,240 one, like disaster or one, you know, emergency away from being 466 00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:57,360 evicted. I was reading this thing and it 467 00:27:57,360 --> 00:28:02,120 was saying like, a single mother may bring in $1800 in a month. 468 00:28:02,120 --> 00:28:06,560 Her rent is 1100. Her car payment is 180. 469 00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:10,000 Her insurance is 75. She's still got to have a phone 470 00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:14,720 bill, electric, water and food for the month, but the 471 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,760 government says that she doesn't qualify for food stamps because 472 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:22,800 she's making 1800 a month. So they basically said like, OK, 473 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:27,280 on average the most her electric bill could be is like $150.00 474 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:31,880 and all that she's going to need is a bill that's 300 in one 475 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:35,000 month for her to get evicted. And they were like, well, why 476 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,120 would she get evicted? Because in her contract lease it 477 00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:43,280 says that she has to have her services turned on so the moment 478 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:47,280 water or electric gets shut off, she's up for eviction because 479 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,840 she's voiding the contract that she signed when she signed her 480 00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:53,080 lease. So they were basically saying 481 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:57,200 like even though she works for 45 hours a week and and does all 482 00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:00,680 these things, it doesn't really matter because working harder 483 00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:03,000 lost her government assistance for food. 484 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:08,720 So now she's actually behind because that 1800 plus food 485 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,120 stamps could have really allowed her to have a little wiggle room 486 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:14,720 on those bills. But basically they were saying, 487 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,920 like in the summer, she completely turns her air off and 488 00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:21,720 sets in heat because she's afraid that she could end up 489 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,840 with like a $300.00 bill and that's all it's going to take 490 00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:28,200 for her to get evicted. And they were like, I don't get 491 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:29,720 it. And they were like, this is the 492 00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:33,680 reality for like 95% of single moms in America. 493 00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:36,760 And you all are so worried about them getting food stamps or 494 00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:40,960 getting insurance or getting some type of assistance, but yet 495 00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:44,680 the cycle is broken because when you average out 1800 a month for 496 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,440 the year, like that's less than $30,000. 497 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:53,960 Like, it's not a lot of money, but her rent is 14,000. 498 00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:55,600 Of that thirty, you know what I mean? 499 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:59,240 And like, I think they were saying like 1800 after taxes, 500 00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:03,920 but still like the more majority of this is basically saying, oh, 501 00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:06,640 you don't qualify, but you are one. 502 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:10,560 Like your car breaking down or needing a new tire or one 503 00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:14,360 electric bill from literally being evicted because of those 504 00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,840 circumstances. And like that's how broken the 505 00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,480 hamster wheel is. But there will be people that 506 00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,120 look you dead ass in your eyes when you start a business, or 507 00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:25,760 you start a side hustle, or you trying to make a bet on yourself 508 00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:29,680 and make a lateral move upward that will knock you down and 509 00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:32,760 tell you that that's stupid. That you're investing in the 510 00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:34,600 wrong thing. That it's not good. 511 00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,720 You know, just like the 12 year olds who had Bitcoin and they 512 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,640 bought it for $12.00 and then at four years later it's worth 513 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,840 $40,000. Like I know someone personally 514 00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:48,320 who had a Bitcoin and in its peak sold it for 28 K and they 515 00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,600 were like I bought it for a couple 100 bucks when everyone 516 00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:55,160 else was saying it was crazy. I basically lost my ass on 517 00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,280 crypto. Like I've invested like 1000 and 518 00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:00,960 I think it says I have 150 U.S. dollars like I could cash out. 519 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,920 So I haven't done great, but I still have the the same amount 520 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:07,000 of crypto I bought. So as long as you don't sell it, 521 00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:10,480 you don't actually lose it. But you know, the system is 522 00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:14,760 basically designed for your parents and grandparents to keep 523 00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,920 you influenced to stay on the hamster wheel because that's 524 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:21,520 what keeps the machine going. And I always say that during 525 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,200 COVID, the machine begins to idle. 526 00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:27,440 And when things idle, they get condensation, they get water in 527 00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:31,000 the system, they get air bubbles in the in the pipes, in the 528 00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:35,120 pockets, and that's what halted the whole machine. 529 00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:38,720 That's why now they are really going after small businesses. 530 00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:42,520 Like we said earlier on another episode about how it used to be 531 00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:45,920 a $20,000 threshold that you didn't have to claim and now 532 00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,760 it's $600.00 because they don't give a fuck if you're having a 533 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,440 yard sale or you sold some shit on eBay. 534 00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:54,000 They want their cut because you're not going to get ahead. 535 00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:56,960 This machine is not going to idle on their time. 536 00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:58,680 You're going to get back on the machine. 537 00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,000 You're going to make it work and you're going to keep going to 538 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:03,920 work and that's that's that. That's why I like so many 539 00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:05,920 businesses. Businesses have made people go 540 00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,920 back to the office now when that's absolutely not productive 541 00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,720 for most businesses. But they didn't like that you 542 00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:16,000 could do a little laundry on the clock and not be stressed 24/7. 543 00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:19,120 And then now, because you were able to do a few things on the 544 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,160 clock and still get your job done, you have time in the 545 00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:26,640 evening to heal, to meditate, to start a side business, to try to 546 00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,360 get out of the corporate world. And they were like, hell, no, 547 00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,240 you're going back to the office, you're going to commute 2 hours 548 00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,400 a day and you're going to sit in traffic and eat shitty food, 549 00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:37,160 'cause we don't want you getting healthy. 550 00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:40,280 We don't want you to think you have broke free of this machine 551 00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:44,440 'cause you haven't. So there's two things that I 552 00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:49,000 wanted to touch on. So one of them the whole like 553 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:51,840 machine breaking down thing. So I don't know if you've heard 554 00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:57,760 about this, but in Texas they basically are saying fuck the 555 00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:59,720 federal government. They've kicked the federal 556 00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:05,480 government out of their state because of the border. 557 00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:09,680 So basically they're like the federal government isn't doing 558 00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:15,080 anything to prevent migration over the border, undocumented 559 00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:19,440 migration over the border. And so Texas is like, get the 560 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:21,360 fuck out of here. We're not doing that. 561 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:23,960 We're not going to keep having illegal migration through our 562 00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:29,200 borders. And they now are discussing not 563 00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:33,680 paying federal taxes to the government because we're not 564 00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,040 needing you guys here. You're not doing anything for 565 00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:37,600 us. You're not doing anything that's 566 00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:40,240 benefiting our state. And so we're going to kick you 567 00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:44,760 out and that's going to, if that ends up being something that 568 00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:48,560 passes, that's going to have such like a domino effect on 569 00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:51,280 other states because then all of a sudden other states are going 570 00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,040 to be like, yeah, the federal government's not doing anything 571 00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:55,760 for us. We're ruling ourselves. 572 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:59,000 And so that's going to cause its own shift, I think as that 573 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:04,440 starts to happen. But then, and I say that because 574 00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:08,719 there's so many different pieces of the machine where, you know, 575 00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:13,679 even higher ups, like even individual states, even people 576 00:34:13,679 --> 00:34:16,960 leading individual states are like, y'all are fucked and we 577 00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:19,000 don't like the policies that you're doing and you're not 578 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,800 looking out for the people. And we'll just take this into 579 00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,520 our own hands. And that's where there's going 580 00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:28,760 to start being even more separations, I think, because 581 00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:30,679 you're still going to be 1 country, but you're going to 582 00:34:30,679 --> 00:34:34,000 have all of these individual states like governing 583 00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:37,159 themselves. Colorado tried doing it with 584 00:34:37,159 --> 00:34:40,199 making it so that you couldn't vote for Trump on their ballot 585 00:34:40,199 --> 00:34:42,560 and like, just removing him and saying you can't do that. 586 00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:47,760 And then Texas is doing that with like their border or 587 00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:49,280 whatever. So it'll just be interesting to 588 00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:52,000 see what happens with that. I refuse to have like a fear 589 00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:54,560 based mentality about it. And I just, I'm like, you know 590 00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:56,920 what? It's going to end Like we we're 591 00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,480 already surviving through like no toilet paper. 592 00:34:59,480 --> 00:35:02,440 We can do anything. We lived through that. 593 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:06,960 Like we can make it happen and then what you said. 594 00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:09,800 About that. I want to say something about 595 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:13,760 that so I don't forget if that happens, all of the government 596 00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:18,000 assistance, food stamps, insurance, Social Security, 597 00:35:18,240 --> 00:35:20,960 everything that comes from the federal government will be cut. 598 00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:24,320 So them states better be ready. And what will happen is those 599 00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:26,640 states will up their personal taxes. 600 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,800 So it's not just going to be like we're not paying Fed taxes 601 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:31,440 anymore. Everything's going to go down. 602 00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:33,880 No, it's going to drive everything up. 603 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:37,760 And if the government exile you because you've chose to do that, 604 00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:42,480 then when something does happen or there needs to be border 605 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:45,720 control or you know there's a natural disaster, you're not 606 00:35:45,720 --> 00:35:48,960 getting FEMA, you're not getting federal aid, none of that. 607 00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:52,320 So that could actually not be good for some states. 608 00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:55,160 Texas would be fine because Texas is like its own United 609 00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:56,560 States. It's so fucking huge. 610 00:35:56,760 --> 00:36:00,080 There's more people in Texas than in like 5 other states 611 00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,240 combined. So Texas would probably be fine, 612 00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:06,240 but let a small state like fucking South Carolina or 613 00:36:06,240 --> 00:36:08,480 somebody do that and they're going to be fucked as soon as a 614 00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,160 hurricane rolls in. Just saying. 615 00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,760 See, and that's so important to talk about too, because you see 616 00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:18,040 only one aspect of something and you see a solution for this one 617 00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,880 problem, but you don't think about how many different ways 618 00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:25,920 that's going to affect things and to what you were saying 619 00:36:25,920 --> 00:36:27,680 about like the single mother thing. 620 00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:35,240 I also, it's always so interesting to me because I am 621 00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:40,080 with somebody who has like a a kid that they share right, Who 622 00:36:40,080 --> 00:36:43,720 like pays child support, who who like has a shared responsibility 623 00:36:43,720 --> 00:36:47,240 over another human. And it's so interesting to me 624 00:36:47,240 --> 00:36:52,240 that examples will always be given of like single mothers or 625 00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:54,200 them not having money or whatever. 626 00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:57,440 But for some reason, fathers always get kind of left out of 627 00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:01,520 the equation. And the solution made by the 628 00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:05,840 government for women, you know, raising children or whatever, 629 00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:09,000 is, oh, well, we'll just make sure that the dad pays the 630 00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:14,080 mother money, but the father has the same amount of things and 631 00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:18,360 the same amount of bills and the same amount of expenses and 632 00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:21,840 whatever as a mother does. So then you think about the fact 633 00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:28,280 that a man is working hard to be able to have all of these things 634 00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:32,400 too, and is maybe, you know, he also has to keep his power and 635 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:35,320 and his water on or whatever, because he also has that child 636 00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:38,040 at his house and he needs to make sure that he's able to 637 00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,600 provide for them. But then also there's this 638 00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:44,720 additional stress because, well, now I have to give her a couple 639 00:37:44,720 --> 00:37:48,200 $100 a month or whatever so that she can afford to keep her stuff 640 00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:50,640 on so that she can afford to have that done. 641 00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:59,000 And I always think that sending things through the government 642 00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,720 for controlling things for you, like making sure that like, 643 00:38:01,720 --> 00:38:03,800 you're getting financed from somebody or whatever. 644 00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:08,120 To me it's always been such, it always seems like such a 645 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:12,400 disservice to the kid. Whereas if you were like, hey, 646 00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:16,000 if this parent wants to be involved and they want to 647 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:19,440 contribute, they're going to. If they don't want to be 648 00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:22,280 involved and they don't want to contribute, then don't have that 649 00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:26,120 fucking parent involved. Because if you don't have that 650 00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:28,520 other parent involved because they're not wanting to, you 651 00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:30,920 qualify for different things, for different helps, for 652 00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:32,960 different aids, different ways to help. 653 00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:36,640 But if you're forcing somebody who is trying to be a partner in 654 00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:40,680 raising a human being, you force them to give out of their 655 00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:43,280 pocket. They actually can only provide 656 00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:47,920 less for the kid. And I just, I I think that 657 00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,160 whether it because there are mothers who receive child 658 00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:52,760 support, their fathers who receive child support, you know, 659 00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:54,920 whatever. And I've always thought it was 660 00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:58,560 such a fucking disservice for the government to allot a 661 00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:02,040 certain amount of money that you have to pay so that you're then 662 00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:04,920 struggling for you to be able to provide anything when they're 663 00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:09,240 with you because you've given it all to this other this other 664 00:39:09,240 --> 00:39:13,400 person. And but also this is just a 665 00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:16,040 little thing. I think that parents calling 666 00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:19,480 themselves single parents when they're not actually you're not 667 00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:22,440 a single parent. You are a parent who is single. 668 00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:24,960 Like there's a difference between being a single parent 669 00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:27,320 and having absolutely nobody that helps you with anything and 670 00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,240 everything is on your shoulders. You do everything a fucking 671 00:39:30,240 --> 00:39:32,480 loan. There is nobody who is backup. 672 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:34,920 There is nobody who wants to help you who wants to be 673 00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:38,760 involved. That is very different than you 674 00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:43,520 have broken up with somebody and this child has another parental 675 00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:46,440 unit that is inside of their life that cares for them. 676 00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:49,440 If something happens to you, this person will jump in. 677 00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:52,400 That is so fucking different than saying that you're a single 678 00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:56,640 parent. And that is just a tangent all 679 00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:58,480 on its own. Thank you for listening to my 680 00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:01,120 Ted talk. I honestly. 681 00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:05,280 Grew up in a split household. My mom had child support from my 682 00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:09,440 dad, and a lot of my limiting beliefs around money was because 683 00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:12,760 of them arguing over money. Because even though my dad would 684 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:15,520 pay child support, my mom would still be like she needs school 685 00:40:15,520 --> 00:40:19,880 clothes or she needs this or she needs that or he always like 686 00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:23,480 covered insurance on me. So at a very young age, my dad 687 00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:26,800 always made it very clear, like I paid for your braces and I 688 00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:29,120 paid for this and I did these things. 689 00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:34,320 And it was very, very detrimental to my development in 690 00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:36,960 my home. Because not only was I in a 691 00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:40,120 split household where people didn't like each other, I then 692 00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:42,920 had to hear about finances. I then had to hear, well, I 693 00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:45,200 bought that for you and I did that for you. 694 00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:47,560 Not her, not him. I did that. 695 00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:52,880 And just like the facts is if a kid is literally 16 years or 696 00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:56,640 less, you should not be letting them know about child support or 697 00:40:56,640 --> 00:41:00,560 food stamps or any of that, because it basically makes them 698 00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:03,520 feel like a burden no matter who it's coming from. 699 00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:07,280 Because we didn't ask to be birthed into your fucking life. 700 00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:10,840 Like I didn't ask to be brought in and like my parents had me at 701 00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:16,280 like 26 and 27, so they still didn't have a good grip on their 702 00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:19,240 own reality, even though back then my dad bought a house for 703 00:41:19,240 --> 00:41:22,920 fucking $50,000 or whatever, you know what I mean? 704 00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:28,000 So it's like they still, no matter what the government said, 705 00:41:28,240 --> 00:41:31,080 fought over fucking money. And I just think that if you're 706 00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:34,320 going to have a kid, so last thing you should do is involve 707 00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,800 the government. Like you should be civil and 708 00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:40,280 grown enough to work it out. Like I'm going to buy school 709 00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:45,240 clothes in the fall and you buy them in the spring or I'm going 710 00:41:45,240 --> 00:41:47,720 to pay for this. I will carry insurance on them 711 00:41:47,720 --> 00:41:50,960 and you provide for their food or whatever it is. 712 00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:54,640 Or let's split custody and I get them this amount of time and you 713 00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,520 get them this amount of time. And whatever we do for them in 714 00:41:57,520 --> 00:42:00,120 those split times is what we do for them. 715 00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:02,360 I'm not giving you money. You're not giving me money. 716 00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,600 But in my opinion, a lot of people are not mature enough. 717 00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:10,400 A lot of people think children are just a tax deductible write 718 00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:12,480 off. And I've made that joke before, 719 00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:14,880 like I need a kid to deduct off my taxes. 720 00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:18,280 Like that would really help me. But it's fucked up that, like, 721 00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:22,240 single people like me who go to work, bust my ass, don't use 722 00:42:22,240 --> 00:42:25,400 public schools, don't get government assistance, never had 723 00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:29,680 government insurance, get fucked on my taxes because I don't have 724 00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,000 a kid. And it's like that kid would be 725 00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:35,280 utilizing all these resources that I'm paying for regardless. 726 00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:38,160 Why do I have to pay more? Because I don't have one? 727 00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:42,440 Like, it's a broken cycle and the government keeps people 728 00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:47,400 having kids they can't afford because of the broken cycle. 729 00:42:47,560 --> 00:42:51,480 Like, a lot of people don't have the capacity to have more than 730 00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:54,360 one child and yet they have four or five. 731 00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,360 Like, a girl I went to high school with just posted that 732 00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:59,720 she's pregnant with her boyfriend who literally just got 733 00:42:59,720 --> 00:43:02,280 out of prison. This dude looks like a fucking 734 00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:03,760 crackhead. And this was like, one of my 735 00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:08,000 best friends growing up. And I sent the picture to my mom 736 00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:11,240 and my dad and they were like, that guy's on meth. 737 00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:13,560 Like, that guy does meth. And I'm like, you can tell, 738 00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:16,920 like, she's over here. Like, I'm 20 weeks pregnant and 739 00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:19,320 I didn't even know. Yeah, 'cause when you do drugs 740 00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:20,840 and shit, bitch, you don't gain weight. 741 00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:23,240 Like, yeah, we know why you didn't know. 742 00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,480 Because when you do drugs, your period's fucked up anyways. 743 00:43:26,720 --> 00:43:29,880 But it's like people like her, who already have several kids 744 00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:32,240 they've lost custody of, are now having another one. 745 00:43:32,240 --> 00:43:35,520 And that's OK That's endorsed. That's check the box for the 746 00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:39,000 machine and it just bothers me because the more kids you grow 747 00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:41,800 up in a broken cycle, the more kids you get on the hamster 748 00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:46,280 wheel and do the same dumb shit and repeat the cycle. 749 00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:49,680 But it's like they don't educate people on Co parenting. 750 00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:54,040 They don't educate people because like we said earlier, in 751 00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:57,000 the previous times, it was sit down and shut up. 752 00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,280 I don't care if your grandpa raped you. 753 00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:01,680 Sit down, shut up. Don't tell anyone. 754 00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:03,400 Keep that in the home or whatever. 755 00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:06,880 And that's just so fucked up. Like, our generation's the first 756 00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:08,920 generation to really address mental health. 757 00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:13,200 But there's two ends of that spectrum, one side hella on 758 00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,560 drugs and the other side trying to heal. 759 00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:19,800 And it's like constant, like trying to figure that out. 760 00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:24,040 And you know, I just personally believe that they should put a 761 00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:27,120 program, and I'm not saying force people to be sterilized, 762 00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:30,360 but I'm saying give people money, whether it's 10 or 763 00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:32,960 $15,000. If you want to get a vasectomy 764 00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:36,560 or you want to get a hysterectomy, why not endorse 765 00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:37,960 that? Because I promise you there 766 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:39,680 would be a bunch of 20 year olds. 767 00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:42,440 Obviously it would be 18 and older, but there would be all 768 00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:44,480 kinds of 20 year olds that would be like, you know what I could 769 00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:48,320 do? I could do this, Get 15,000, 770 00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:51,280 invest that into school, and make something of myself. 771 00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:53,760 Not utilize government assistance. 772 00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:58,120 Not utilize public education. Not utilize all these resources 773 00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:02,560 that other people may need more than me and fucking break the 774 00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:06,160 cycle. Yes. 775 00:45:06,160 --> 00:45:11,840 So when you go in, I think it's if you're under 30, if you go in 776 00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:15,680 for a vasectomy or a hysterectomy, they won't give it 777 00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:18,880 to you because they say that you're too young to like make 778 00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:21,960 that decision yourself. It ends up, I won't say they 779 00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:24,640 won't give it to you. It's extremely difficult for you 780 00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:27,640 to get, especially for insurance to cover it because they say 781 00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:31,080 that you're too young to make that choice for your body at 782 00:45:31,080 --> 00:45:33,000 that time. Like it can be irreversible or 783 00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:35,240 whatever. And I think that if somebody is 784 00:45:35,240 --> 00:45:37,880 of legal age telling you what they want to do with their body, 785 00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,040 let them do it. But that goes into the whole 786 00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:43,960 like women don't get autonomy over their body in so many 787 00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:46,520 places now because it's the government's fucking business 788 00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,840 whether or not you decide to keep a child for XY and Z 789 00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:51,560 reasons. But why don't you go ahead and 790 00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:54,400 put it into the system so that it can be abused in foster care? 791 00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:59,040 You can get me started on that and going back to what you were 792 00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:01,520 saying about like when you were growing up and you know, your 793 00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:05,320 parents being like you know, I I have, you know, I I do your 794 00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:08,240 insurance, whatever. When it comes to child support, 795 00:46:08,240 --> 00:46:12,440 I have learned this. Unfortunately, even if you are 796 00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:15,720 providing health insurance, whatever, that's not something 797 00:46:15,720 --> 00:46:18,800 that's considered when it comes into you paying child support. 798 00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:21,640 So that's an additional cost that comes out of your check 799 00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:25,760 that is not considered as you providing financially for the 800 00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,800 kid. Even though your insurance 801 00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:34,080 costs, you know $700,000 a month or whatever, that is not counted 802 00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:40,640 as you providing anything for that child, which I think has 803 00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:44,120 just been fucking crazy. And that's why so many people 804 00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:50,480 will put their children on government insurance and will 805 00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:54,720 make under the threshold and and it creates this population of 806 00:46:54,720 --> 00:46:57,560 people who they're not ever going to work harder for 807 00:46:57,560 --> 00:46:59,720 anything. Because when you work harder you 808 00:46:59,720 --> 00:47:03,680 have to pay more and it's not seen that you know you're you're 809 00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:06,240 paying all this money for insurance or whatever and that's 810 00:47:06,240 --> 00:47:09,160 coming out of your check. Now you've additionally got the 811 00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:11,800 Child Support or whatever that comes out of your check too. 812 00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:16,240 And so and it financially makes more sense for you to not work 813 00:47:16,240 --> 00:47:20,200 hard and for you to make under this certain amount of money and 814 00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:23,440 be in poverty and have all of these government assistances. 815 00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:26,640 Because then you're actually able to provide to your children 816 00:47:26,640 --> 00:47:30,120 in a way that you can't. Because even if you have that 817 00:47:30,120 --> 00:47:32,560 insurance, you have deductibles and co-pays. 818 00:47:32,720 --> 00:47:36,720 So you may have an insurance plan that you pay. 819 00:47:37,440 --> 00:47:40,680 You know, let's say you pay $1000 a month for this insurance 820 00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:42,520 plan. That's just for you to be able 821 00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:45,120 to say that you have insurance. Now when you go to the doctor's 822 00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:50,680 office, you still have to pay, you know, 35 to $50.00 for a 823 00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:53,080 normal plan in order to see the doctor. 824 00:47:53,080 --> 00:47:56,080 Then you have your co-pay when you go to the pharmacy and you 825 00:47:56,080 --> 00:48:01,120 have to pick up the medication. So you're, you know, $150.00 or 826 00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:05,280 whatever in the hole there. Plus now you have an out of 827 00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:08,680 pocket maximum, so your insurance isn't even going to 828 00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:14,240 pay above 20% for you until you've met this, you know, 10 to 829 00:48:14,240 --> 00:48:18,120 $20,000 out of pocket that you're required to meet in order 830 00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:23,120 for insurance to do anything. And so it's, you know, a system 831 00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:28,720 that's in so many ways designed to keep you limited and and to 832 00:48:28,720 --> 00:48:32,480 keep you down. And unfortunately, people don't 833 00:48:33,240 --> 00:48:37,400 always have the ability to see things as this is a temporary 834 00:48:37,400 --> 00:48:39,080 thing when you're living inside of it. 835 00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:44,360 So you're not able to see I'm doing this and I'm struggling 836 00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:47,280 through this or whatever for the next five years because my kid 837 00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:49,880 is 13. And when they're 18, they won't 838 00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:53,280 be, you know, I I won't be in this struggle because then 839 00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:56,440 they're going to start being responsible to to figure these 840 00:48:56,440 --> 00:48:58,840 things out for themselves. And so they don't. 841 00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:02,840 You're not spending your energy teaching your kids how to 842 00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:05,600 navigate the system and how to get your own insurance and the 843 00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:07,960 importance of that and how to pick an insurance plan and do 844 00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:10,320 these things. Because you're so stressed out 845 00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:16,040 in the moment and putting yourself down and into poverty 846 00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:19,120 so that you can have this certain way of life. 847 00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:21,440 And so that you don't have to struggle so much. 848 00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:24,560 And so then you keep that generational struggle going 849 00:49:24,800 --> 00:49:30,600 instead of showing them that even though there is, that this 850 00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,360 isn't easy and that it's a really difficult path, that you 851 00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:37,480 keep on fucking doing it and you keep working and whatever, 852 00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:40,440 because eventually you will overcome that. 853 00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:45,920 And that's like a, I think an instant gratification thing. 854 00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:49,280 Like it, it solves the problem in the moment, but it doesn't 855 00:49:49,280 --> 00:49:51,720 solve a problem later on. Because when you're putting 856 00:49:51,720 --> 00:49:55,040 yourself down in order to be able to have, like the 857 00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:59,960 government assistances or whatever it may be, then when 858 00:49:59,960 --> 00:50:02,720 your kid is grown up and now you're not having to do that, 859 00:50:02,720 --> 00:50:05,440 now you don't have a retirement, now you don't have a savings, 860 00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:06,760 now you don't have this and that. 861 00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,560 You didn't think about that because you were so programmed 862 00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:13,120 in the moment to make sure that your kid had free healthcare. 863 00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:17,280 And to add to that, I think there should be a fucking 864 00:50:17,280 --> 00:50:21,240 limitation to how many kids can be on government assistance. 865 00:50:21,240 --> 00:50:25,400 Like healthcare, food. I think like over over two kids, 866 00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:27,840 baby. I don't know what to tell you. 867 00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:31,160 You know like I'm just saying like I know it's not the child's 868 00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:35,840 fault but also the system endorses have more kids and will 869 00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:39,440 give you more food stamps. And then I recently saw on my 870 00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:43,160 Facebook this girl posted her refrigerator that was like full 871 00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:45,960 and she was like shout out to my client for the stamps. 872 00:50:46,200 --> 00:50:50,600 So your client came and got her eyelashes done, which is $150.00 873 00:50:50,840 --> 00:50:55,000 and fucking gave you probably $300.00 of food stamps cause. 874 00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:58,040 Which is fraud. As much food as she had in that 875 00:50:58,040 --> 00:51:00,160 fridge, it was more than $150.00. 876 00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:04,360 Or she may be traded the whole month for the fill in and the 877 00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:07,200 the upkeep because you can't just go get your eyelashes done 878 00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,720 and not keep that up. It's the same thing with like 879 00:51:09,720 --> 00:51:12,960 nails and whatever. So like that's where the shit 880 00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:16,440 really blows me off the fucking ledge that I just want to 881 00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,600 scream. Because that girl probably has 882 00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:23,960 three kids who are suffering so she can have eyelashes. 883 00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:27,160 And I know there's a TikTok that floats around every Christmas 884 00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:31,160 where the girl has long ass nails and she's like crying and 885 00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:33,560 like wiping her face and she's like, I just don't know how I'm 886 00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:35,400 going to provide for my kids for Christmas. 887 00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:38,680 And someone said show them your nails, they'll understand. 888 00:51:40,360 --> 00:51:43,120 And that's true. Like, I have no fucking sympathy 889 00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:46,200 for people who milk the system to their benefit. 890 00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:49,720 Yes, I think food stamps, I think government healthcare. 891 00:51:49,720 --> 00:51:55,040 I think some of those programs are necessary, and I think that 892 00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:58,440 after three years of being on them, you should be cut the fuck 893 00:51:58,440 --> 00:51:59,880 off. Because there should be an 894 00:51:59,880 --> 00:52:04,680 incentive to grow and to elevate and then to pay back in to the 895 00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:08,280 system that you're taking from that you're robbing, basically. 896 00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:11,240 Because when you're out here trading them for eyelashes and 897 00:52:11,240 --> 00:52:15,160 fucking shoes and shit like that, that's a problem for me. 898 00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:19,800 And I have less and less sympathy for people who have two 899 00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:23,000 3-4 kids and don't try to break that cycle because they're 900 00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:25,920 perpetuating the cycle. They're teaching the cycle. 901 00:52:26,080 --> 00:52:29,000 Like, I understand, like, Oh my gosh, I'm 19, I'm pregnant. 902 00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:30,520 I don't know what I'm going to do. 903 00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:34,920 I need to figure this out. But if the incentive is to wait 904 00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:38,200 until you're 21 and just have another kid so you can get more, 905 00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:42,720 and then by 23 and 25 you've got more, and then you marry a guy 906 00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:45,600 that comes out of prison who doesn't have anything anyways, 907 00:52:45,840 --> 00:52:49,280 and you keep that cycle going, It's just like, it disgusts me. 908 00:52:49,560 --> 00:52:53,320 And a lot of people are taught that from their mom and their 909 00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:58,320 grandparents and whoever. And I don't think food stamps 910 00:52:58,320 --> 00:53:01,400 itself is the problem. I think there's no limitation to 911 00:53:01,440 --> 00:53:03,640 it. Whether you have 4 kids or 14 912 00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:05,720 kids, they just keep giving you more. 913 00:53:05,920 --> 00:53:09,680 And that's the problem because now I know if I have another 914 00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:15,160 kid, I get an extra $500 a month that I can sell and go get my 915 00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:18,320 eyelashes done and go get my nails done and whatever. 916 00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:21,880 And that's what bothers me. I grew up in a A1 sided 917 00:53:21,880 --> 00:53:24,880 household where we did get government assistance at times. 918 00:53:25,160 --> 00:53:29,360 So I look at all the money I pay in now as the karma from us 919 00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:33,720 taking from that system and I'm so cool to give that money back. 920 00:53:33,880 --> 00:53:36,480 I went to public schools like I've utilized the system. 921 00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:40,280 I've been on an Angel tree like I've received things throughout 922 00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:44,360 my life, and you know, I see the balance in giving back to that 923 00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:46,880 system. But at the same fucking time, 924 00:53:47,160 --> 00:53:50,440 there is no incentive to break that cycle. 925 00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:52,280 Like you said, there's just none. 926 00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:57,080 The incentive is do your own thing and you get screwed and 927 00:53:57,080 --> 00:54:00,120 you get cut off. And whereas, like that story I 928 00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:03,720 gave about bringing home 1800 seems like a lot. 929 00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:08,640 But technically, if she brought home 15 instead she'd get $700 930 00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:12,000 in food stamps. So now she's technically behind. 931 00:54:12,360 --> 00:54:14,960 And I just don't like it. I just don't like the broken 932 00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:17,840 cycle. That's like, my biggest thing is 933 00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:21,920 that I always knew I wanted a kid, but I wanted to wait until 934 00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:25,960 I was 1000 financially dependent, where I never would 935 00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:28,080 have to introduce my kid to that cycle. 936 00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:31,320 Because I grew up in that cycle. I grew up with parents fighting 937 00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:34,680 over money. And that's why I know that all 938 00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:37,360 of this healing and all of this transformation has helped me 939 00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:40,840 break that, that I will never promote that fucking cycle. 940 00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:42,840 If you can't afford it, you don't get it. 941 00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:46,640 You don't get to be entitled. If you can't afford eyelashes or 942 00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:49,880 nails or to get your hair done, you don't get to get it. 943 00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:51,880 It's not oh, I'll just make it happen. 944 00:54:51,880 --> 00:54:54,920 No, you don't get to get it. And I think that the Internet 945 00:54:54,920 --> 00:54:58,040 creates this illusion that this shit is OK and it's not. 946 00:54:58,040 --> 00:55:01,040 It's never going to be OK. I'm never going to be OK with 947 00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:03,480 it. And I think we should pull our 948 00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:07,440 card. I pulled our card a minute ago 949 00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:11,920 and on that topic too, I wanted. I before we like switch gears, I 950 00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:15,840 wanted to say that it's something that like I as a 951 00:55:15,840 --> 00:55:20,640 parent, I'm so familiar with like this dynamic. 952 00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:26,440 Because when we when we lived in California, there was a time 953 00:55:26,440 --> 00:55:31,600 when we had to like go to a food bank and I had to get like 954 00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:34,520 government assistance. Because where we lived in 955 00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:38,760 California was on top of. We lived in the mountains and we 956 00:55:38,760 --> 00:55:43,280 would get hit with like crazy snowstorms and we had like 2 957 00:55:43,280 --> 00:55:45,960 weeks where we didn't have any power and we literally had to 958 00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:51,040 spend like hundreds of dollars on gas for a generator in order 959 00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:54,600 to like heat space heaters in our house or whatever. 960 00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:59,000 And I remember I had to like go down to the food bank and I had 961 00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:04,640 to use like government like assistance and stuff because all 962 00:56:04,640 --> 00:56:09,560 of the money that we had had we had to use on literally running 963 00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:11,080 space heaters, running a generator. 964 00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:16,040 And so there are times when like utilizing these things is super 965 00:56:16,040 --> 00:56:19,560 helpful and you know you're you're doing everything that you 966 00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:21,480 can and that's why it's an assistance. 967 00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:24,800 It's supposed to assist you. It's not supposed to support 968 00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:26,520 you. It's not government support. 969 00:56:26,520 --> 00:56:31,080 It's government assistance. And you know in in the parenting 970 00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:36,080 dynamic you're you're so right about like conversations that 971 00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:38,840 you know can happen with kids or whatever. 972 00:56:39,360 --> 00:56:41,720 And and my husband and I have worked really hard on that. 973 00:56:41,720 --> 00:56:45,480 We've battled really hard on that because, you know, on the 974 00:56:46,480 --> 00:56:49,200 I'm going to try and say what I want to say without giving like 975 00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:51,600 too much personal information, 'cause I don't want to like 976 00:56:51,600 --> 00:56:56,520 shame anybody. But on on our end, we've worked 977 00:56:56,520 --> 00:57:01,920 really hard to provide without having to have the assistance. 978 00:57:01,920 --> 00:57:04,520 And so we're really, you know, careful with our money. 979 00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:08,480 And like I don't, we don't go on trips and we don't go and do all 980 00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,040 of these other things because it's important for us to make 981 00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:13,400 sure that like we can have sustainable life for our kids 982 00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:16,720 and everything we don't. That's something important to 983 00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:18,760 us. And so that's how we've utilized 984 00:57:18,760 --> 00:57:21,840 our money is we are going to get health insurance and we are 985 00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:24,080 going to get groceries and we're going to do these other things. 986 00:57:24,080 --> 00:57:25,800 And I'm not going to have my nails done and I'm going to 987 00:57:25,800 --> 00:57:28,560 color my own hair and I'm going to do all these things that we 988 00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:30,520 can make sure they're provided for in these ways. 989 00:57:30,920 --> 00:57:36,160 And for my daughter, her experience with her mother is 990 00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:38,560 very different. Where it's it's the opposite. 991 00:57:38,560 --> 00:57:41,720 It's I'm going to have assistance for everything so 992 00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:45,000 that the money that I have coming in, we can go on trips 993 00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:46,760 and we can go and we can do these things. 994 00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:49,520 And so she's always traveling. She's always buying her 995 00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:53,080 something new. She's always, you know, paying 996 00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:56,960 for experiences or whatever. And so for a for a lot of years, 997 00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:00,880 I would have this like, resentment or this grudge where 998 00:58:00,880 --> 00:58:04,200 I'm like, you look like you're doing better and you're able to 999 00:58:04,200 --> 00:58:06,960 provide all of these things. And it's because you're so 1000 00:58:06,960 --> 00:58:09,600 irresponsible with your finances. 1001 00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:12,240 And I would get angry because I'm like, why are we paying 1002 00:58:12,240 --> 00:58:16,600 child support that you're using so that you can buy sushi and 1003 00:58:16,600 --> 00:58:20,280 everything else and not actually, like, spend it on her. 1004 00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:26,440 And I had to really work on breaking from that mindset and 1005 00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:31,240 being like I can't control how somebody else is utilizing their 1006 00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:36,320 finances or what is financial responsibility to them and what 1007 00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:41,560 is important to them. All that we can do is do our 1008 00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:44,280 best to make sure that there's a different example when she's 1009 00:58:44,280 --> 00:58:46,520 here. And so when she's younger, I 1010 00:58:46,520 --> 00:58:54,680 felt like there was so much more conversation about how do I say 1011 00:58:54,680 --> 00:58:57,320 that. I feel like there was like, 1012 00:58:57,320 --> 00:59:00,080 well, we, we choose not to spend our money on that type of 1013 00:59:00,160 --> 00:59:02,480 energy. As opposed to the last couple of 1014 00:59:02,480 --> 00:59:06,360 years where now, you know, when she talks about, well, how come 1015 00:59:06,360 --> 00:59:07,880 we don't do this or we don't do that? 1016 00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:11,040 We're like, oh, because we're saving for a house because we're 1017 00:59:11,040 --> 00:59:13,840 doing this? Because to us this is, this is 1018 00:59:13,840 --> 00:59:16,080 what our goals are. This is what a priority is. 1019 00:59:16,560 --> 00:59:19,000 And leaving her mother completely out of the equation 1020 00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:22,440 when there's conversations. Because what she's doing, it 1021 00:59:22,440 --> 00:59:24,960 doesn't fucking matter. What the other parent is doing 1022 00:59:25,240 --> 00:59:27,520 has zero to do with what we're doing. 1023 00:59:27,520 --> 00:59:30,240 It doesn't play into why we do things, how we do things. 1024 00:59:31,280 --> 00:59:36,120 This is just what our goals are. And so then when she's 11 right 1025 00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:39,120 now, right, So now you pay attention to the thing going on 1026 00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:41,360 trips and going to fancy restaurants and doing all these 1027 00:59:41,360 --> 00:59:44,480 experiences and whatever. But as she's an adult, she's 1028 00:59:44,480 --> 00:59:46,920 going to be able to see, I didn't have those things with 1029 00:59:46,920 --> 00:59:51,200 mom and dad over here because they were always working on 1030 00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:53,640 being able to buy a house and being able to do these things. 1031 00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:57,040 And as she's an adult, she's going to see that, you know, and 1032 00:59:57,040 --> 01:00:00,400 one side of things is a homeowner and has been in a 1033 01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:03,800 stable, committed relationship all this time and hasn't, you 1034 01:00:03,800 --> 01:00:06,720 know, flip-flopped and done all these things and we can get so 1035 01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:12,640 caught up in trying to. Prove why we're doing better and 1036 01:00:12,880 --> 01:00:16,080 and have to put somebody else out in order to do that. 1037 01:00:16,120 --> 01:00:19,760 Or we can just keep on our grind and doing what we're doing and 1038 01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:23,240 we can show through our actions instead of having to put 1039 01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:26,560 somebody else down to make ourselves feel better. 1040 01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:30,040 And I think that's the responsibility that parents have 1041 01:00:30,040 --> 01:00:35,520 is maybe you are frustrated and overwhelmed inside of situations 1042 01:00:35,520 --> 01:00:39,280 or whatever, but it's teaching your your kids different ways of 1043 01:00:39,280 --> 01:00:42,520 viewing that and navigating through that instead of forcing 1044 01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:49,480 those thoughts and whatever on your kids. 1000% and growing up 1045 01:00:49,480 --> 01:00:54,240 as an only child, I never want to put my kid through the this 1046 01:00:54,240 --> 01:00:56,120 or that. They're wrong. 1047 01:00:56,120 --> 01:00:58,960 I'm right energy. So I respect that because a lot 1048 01:00:58,960 --> 01:01:02,240 of parents do that. Like my dad always made my mom 1049 01:01:02,240 --> 01:01:05,800 the bad guy always said that the Child Support he sent her was 1050 01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:08,800 for beer money or for bingo money. 1051 01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:12,400 And like to insinuate my mom is using her child support to 1052 01:01:12,400 --> 01:01:16,320 gamble and drink wasn't healthy because I never went without. 1053 01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:19,320 It wasn't like I didn't have food or didn't have nice stuff. 1054 01:01:19,320 --> 01:01:22,440 I mean, my mom maxed out credit cards and got me anything I 1055 01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:24,480 wanted. But again, that was not 1056 01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:26,960 realistic. Like, how are we getting food 1057 01:01:26,960 --> 01:01:28,640 stamps and government assistance? 1058 01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:34,920 And meanwhile you're only like developing this connection with 1059 01:01:34,960 --> 01:01:38,440 money based on what the government is giving you because 1060 01:01:38,440 --> 01:01:41,880 you're able to spend all your extra on whatever. 1061 01:01:41,880 --> 01:01:45,120 So all the money that her husband made, they never were 1062 01:01:45,120 --> 01:01:48,040 legally married. They were just married by law 1063 01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:51,480 after a certain point. Because if they did get legally 1064 01:01:51,480 --> 01:01:54,320 married, she lose all that assistance. 1065 01:01:54,320 --> 01:01:58,440 And I know people nowadays, which it really bothers me to 1066 01:01:58,440 --> 01:02:01,080 know that you're in A2 come income household with your 1067 01:02:01,080 --> 01:02:03,640 partner, but you're not getting legally married. 1068 01:02:03,640 --> 01:02:06,880 So you can keep your government assistance and insurance. 1069 01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:10,960 And there's a girl that I know personally, It's a friend of a 1070 01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:12,840 friend. They had a wedding. 1071 01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:15,560 They had a honeymoon. They had a fucking bridal party. 1072 01:02:15,560 --> 01:02:18,720 They had a huge ass wedding. Not just like a ceremony, they 1073 01:02:18,720 --> 01:02:24,320 had a huge ass wedding, but did not get legally married because 1074 01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:27,320 they didn't want her to lose her food stamps and government 1075 01:02:27,320 --> 01:02:29,720 assistance. Which is taking away from a 1076 01:02:29,720 --> 01:02:32,920 single mom who literally is single with no support because 1077 01:02:32,920 --> 01:02:36,160 the dad is dead or on drugs or wherever. 1078 01:02:36,360 --> 01:02:39,800 They're getting denied and having to work hard, meanwhile 1079 01:02:39,800 --> 01:02:43,280 leaving their kids with people who are abusing them or 1080 01:02:43,320 --> 01:02:45,600 whatever. And here we are. 1081 01:02:45,880 --> 01:02:49,360 You are in a 2 income household with your fucking partner that 1082 01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:52,560 has these two children with you, but yet you're not legally 1083 01:02:52,560 --> 01:02:55,280 married because you want to act like he's not in the picture. 1084 01:02:55,520 --> 01:02:58,080 That's fucking fraud. And I think that women should be 1085 01:02:58,080 --> 01:03:00,800 able to be sued and put in jail for that in my opinion. 1086 01:03:01,040 --> 01:03:04,160 Because why the fuck are you taking government assistance 1087 01:03:04,160 --> 01:03:08,280 when technically if you put his income into the equation, you 1088 01:03:08,280 --> 01:03:12,320 would not qualify? Well, and it isn't, It is 1089 01:03:12,320 --> 01:03:16,160 insurance fraud or not insurance fraud, but it is, it is benefit 1090 01:03:16,160 --> 01:03:18,840 fraud. Like if you have the situation 1091 01:03:18,840 --> 01:03:20,840 that you said where she got her nails done and she bought 1092 01:03:20,840 --> 01:03:23,560 groceries or whatever, it that is fraud. 1093 01:03:23,560 --> 01:03:26,520 And when you get food stamps, they tell you that you're not 1094 01:03:26,520 --> 01:03:29,520 allowed to do that. Like you not only can you get 1095 01:03:29,520 --> 01:03:32,720 arrested, but you can have to pay all of that money back. 1096 01:03:32,720 --> 01:03:37,280 It's basically the same thing as like evading your taxes where 1097 01:03:39,360 --> 01:03:41,760 like you're lying on government forms. 1098 01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:45,160 You're saying because you have to do like your your income, 1099 01:03:45,160 --> 01:03:47,880 your all this stuff like where you're where the benefits are 1100 01:03:47,880 --> 01:03:51,320 going and all types of shit and you are not allowed to trade 1101 01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:53,680 your benefits. You're not allowed to do any of 1102 01:03:53,680 --> 01:03:57,720 that. You're And if you're getting 1103 01:03:57,720 --> 01:04:01,640 them, then I don't know if you actually need them and then 1104 01:04:01,640 --> 01:04:03,200 you're trading them. That's fucked. 1105 01:04:03,200 --> 01:04:06,800 But it's even more fucked to not need them and be getting them 1106 01:04:06,800 --> 01:04:09,680 anyways, just so that you can give them to somebody else who 1107 01:04:09,960 --> 01:04:13,200 clearly the money would have benefited this person, right? 1108 01:04:13,200 --> 01:04:17,440 So, like, anyways, let me read this card because we could talk 1109 01:04:17,440 --> 01:04:19,440 about this all day and we've already been here for an hour. 1110 01:04:20,760 --> 01:04:24,520 The card is Psycho Pump. It's card number 41. 1111 01:04:24,520 --> 01:04:30,120 It's got a disco ball. The sign is Aquarius, the Gift 1112 01:04:30,120 --> 01:04:33,200 is clairvoyance and the Shadow is fantasyland. 1113 01:04:34,960 --> 01:04:39,160 The Gift level is truly mystical and otherworldly and higher 1114 01:04:39,160 --> 01:04:42,480 frequency states you are able to tune into a sort of psychic 1115 01:04:42,480 --> 01:04:46,600 genius transcendent of time. It is through this channel that 1116 01:04:46,600 --> 01:04:49,960 you can sense or anticipate an emerging way forward for the 1117 01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:53,880 collective based on your particular set of circumstances. 1118 01:04:53,880 --> 01:04:58,760 Your code for the future will be uniquely applied to your 1119 01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:03,080 specific lens of experience. This is precious and a rare gift 1120 01:05:03,080 --> 01:05:06,480 that increases in clarity as your consciousness expands. 1121 01:05:07,000 --> 01:05:10,640 Your shadow is fantasyland and a lower frequency. 1122 01:05:10,920 --> 01:05:13,880 This comes up as a pure hope and lust for the future. 1123 01:05:14,200 --> 01:05:17,400 It's the image of a dream in your mind, which doesn't seem so 1124 01:05:17,400 --> 01:05:21,800 bad after all, but deviates into the shadowy corridor when it 1125 01:05:21,800 --> 01:05:25,600 only stays in the mind. That is when the dream does not 1126 01:05:25,600 --> 01:05:29,480 outwardly come to fruition, but takes up a real estate in your 1127 01:05:29,480 --> 01:05:32,120 brain space. Dreams are lovely. 1128 01:05:32,320 --> 01:05:36,200 Never stop dreaming, but also make sure to capitalize on your 1129 01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:40,080 wildest fantasies and allow for their real and tangible 1130 01:05:40,680 --> 01:05:45,080 actualization. In contrast, the overemphasis of 1131 01:05:45,080 --> 01:05:49,200 this shadow leads to too much action and eventual burnout. 1132 01:05:49,440 --> 01:05:52,880 Your themes are psychic powers, forward thinking, and clarity. 1133 01:05:56,600 --> 01:06:00,760 I love the cards that we pull. It never seems like we pull the 1134 01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:02,800 same one either. And I love that. 1135 01:06:02,840 --> 01:06:06,520 And I think that, you know, we can have our opinions about 1136 01:06:06,520 --> 01:06:09,600 things and we can tell you all how we feel. 1137 01:06:09,840 --> 01:06:13,880 But ultimately, it's up to you to decide what what resonates 1138 01:06:13,880 --> 01:06:16,560 with you and what doesn't resonate with you, which is what 1139 01:06:16,560 --> 01:06:20,760 We always encourage everyone to use their intuition to focus on 1140 01:06:20,760 --> 01:06:24,440 what resonates with them. But if you look at it from its 1141 01:06:24,440 --> 01:06:28,440 core value, you may find that what you've been taught, what 1142 01:06:28,440 --> 01:06:32,600 you've been told, and what you've consented to actually 1143 01:06:32,600 --> 01:06:36,280 isn't resonant with, like, the true value of what you feel. 1144 01:06:36,480 --> 01:06:38,680 So never be afraid to be like, you know what? 1145 01:06:39,040 --> 01:06:45,440 I've done that and I I need to re evaluate what I believe and 1146 01:06:45,440 --> 01:06:48,000 take accountability. Like we're not judging people, 1147 01:06:48,200 --> 01:06:52,360 but we're encouraging you to be introspective of yourself and 1148 01:06:52,360 --> 01:06:55,160 your family and the dynamics that you've been brought up in. 1149 01:06:55,160 --> 01:06:59,000 Because if we all, Aquarius is the collective and we're in the 1150 01:06:59,000 --> 01:07:02,840 age of Aquarius, if we all can collectively look at this and be 1151 01:07:02,840 --> 01:07:07,920 like this is fucking wrong. This is wrong for me to have 72 1152 01:07:07,920 --> 01:07:11,320 children and have the government pay for them and then I neglect 1153 01:07:11,320 --> 01:07:14,040 them because I'm out here trading my food stamps for 1154 01:07:14,040 --> 01:07:17,920 eyelashes, like and then for the girl to brag about it. 1155 01:07:18,080 --> 01:07:20,960 I almost wanted to write that girl and be like that's illegal, 1156 01:07:21,280 --> 01:07:23,880 but I didn't want to be that person because I try to just 1157 01:07:23,880 --> 01:07:26,160 stay in the lane and let people do their own thing. 1158 01:07:26,160 --> 01:07:32,400 But definitely, definitely recommend everyone to explore 1159 01:07:32,400 --> 01:07:36,080 things from their own perspective, but also know when 1160 01:07:36,080 --> 01:07:39,720 to look around and be like yo. Just because I've always done 1161 01:07:39,720 --> 01:07:42,680 this doesn't mean it's right, doesn't mean that it's wrong, 1162 01:07:42,680 --> 01:07:45,720 but it does mean that you should re evaluate why you do what you 1163 01:07:45,720 --> 01:07:47,560 do. Yeah. 1164 01:07:47,560 --> 01:07:51,560 And also too, like, we never expect people to have the same 1165 01:07:51,560 --> 01:07:56,760 opinions that we do either just because like we share strong 1166 01:07:56,760 --> 01:08:00,000 opinions or strong stances on certain things from our 1167 01:08:00,000 --> 01:08:03,520 perspectives and things that we've personally experienced 1168 01:08:03,920 --> 01:08:06,600 doesn't mean that we're expecting that everybody's going 1169 01:08:06,600 --> 01:08:08,600 to have the same mindset on things either. 1170 01:08:08,600 --> 01:08:12,760 And I think that a part of the like growth journey is hearing 1171 01:08:12,760 --> 01:08:16,560 topics that can be triggering or cause you to be frustrated 1172 01:08:16,560 --> 01:08:19,680 because then you're actually thinking things through. 1173 01:08:19,920 --> 01:08:23,439 And if this episode or other episodes that we have because we 1174 01:08:23,439 --> 01:08:27,240 constantly have new people coming into our rotation, if you 1175 01:08:27,240 --> 01:08:30,240 hear topics like this and you feel triggered about it, you 1176 01:08:30,240 --> 01:08:32,840 should be having inner dialogue with yourself and you should be 1177 01:08:32,840 --> 01:08:36,479 figuring out why is that frustrating to you And then 1178 01:08:36,479 --> 01:08:41,240 thinking how you can take self accountability inside of a 1179 01:08:41,240 --> 01:08:43,240 situation. And maybe nothing changes 1180 01:08:43,240 --> 01:08:46,359 because as you evaluate you're like, no, I'm doing the highest 1181 01:08:46,359 --> 01:08:48,960 sense of good for me. This makes total sense to me. 1182 01:08:49,240 --> 01:08:53,640 But at least be aware and be conscious and be making choices 1183 01:08:53,640 --> 01:08:57,359 because you have thought through and heard all of the different 1184 01:08:57,359 --> 01:09:02,200 opinions and viewpoints on it, and this is the conclusion that 1185 01:09:02,200 --> 01:09:05,240 you've come to from that. If you're like, Nah, I've been 1186 01:09:05,240 --> 01:09:07,520 fucking the system and I want to keep fucking the system even 1187 01:09:07,520 --> 01:09:10,720 after hearing them, that's your fucking prerogative and your 1188 01:09:10,800 --> 01:09:13,560 place to do so. But don't be mad at us because 1189 01:09:13,560 --> 01:09:17,920 we discussed it and we bring a topic to light and we, you know, 1190 01:09:18,000 --> 01:09:19,800 share different vantage points on it. 1191 01:09:19,800 --> 01:09:28,000 I think that's our role as healers, as mentors, as breaking 1192 01:09:28,000 --> 01:09:30,880 cycles is just like that card last week when we pulled 1193 01:09:30,880 --> 01:09:33,479 Rebellion. It is about talking about these 1194 01:09:33,479 --> 01:09:36,240 controversial things and bringing things to light that 1195 01:09:36,520 --> 01:09:39,880 maybe don't usually get discussed or or people don't 1196 01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:42,640 want to discuss because there is cancel culture and there is 1197 01:09:42,640 --> 01:09:45,760 well, you hurt somebody's feelings because you said you 1198 01:09:45,760 --> 01:09:47,880 know what your personal experience was. 1199 01:09:47,880 --> 01:09:51,160 And unfortunately, motherfuckers, you can't cancel 1200 01:09:51,160 --> 01:09:53,080 our podcast. Suck on that. 1201 01:09:54,000 --> 01:09:57,360 And also, I'm not saying anything to try to hurt people's 1202 01:09:57,360 --> 01:10:00,360 feelings or like target people. But when I see something that's 1203 01:10:00,360 --> 01:10:04,720 wrong, that's affecting a child who has a little to no say in 1204 01:10:04,720 --> 01:10:07,320 the situation, I'm going to air it out every time. 1205 01:10:07,320 --> 01:10:10,640 Because I've been that child. And it creates trauma and it 1206 01:10:10,640 --> 01:10:15,480 creates fucking just crazy energy within that child. 1207 01:10:15,480 --> 01:10:18,920 To think like, wow, my parents are fighting over me at tax 1208 01:10:18,920 --> 01:10:20,440 time. Like my parents used to do that 1209 01:10:20,440 --> 01:10:23,440 at tax time. Like one time my dad, it was his 1210 01:10:23,440 --> 01:10:26,600 year to claim me and like, he went and claimed, and then my 1211 01:10:26,600 --> 01:10:31,160 mom filed like an amendment and then claimed me on hers and my 1212 01:10:31,160 --> 01:10:33,840 dad had to, like pay all this extra money back in. 1213 01:10:33,840 --> 01:10:36,040 And, I mean, it was just like a hot fucking mess. 1214 01:10:36,040 --> 01:10:39,800 Like the agreement was verbal and so clearly, like, it wasn't 1215 01:10:39,800 --> 01:10:42,760 in stone. But you know, I grew up in that 1216 01:10:42,760 --> 01:10:45,280 environment and I broke that cycle myself. 1217 01:10:45,520 --> 01:10:49,000 And I know it's possible and I know it's possible to get out of 1218 01:10:49,000 --> 01:10:51,880 those cycles that you have been placed into. 1219 01:10:52,360 --> 01:10:59,160 And it's not like it's not treating yourself like a victim, 1220 01:10:59,800 --> 01:11:03,720 but it's like realizing that maybe you have been put into a 1221 01:11:03,720 --> 01:11:08,920 victim mindset. Yeah, 1000%, yeah, I I 1222 01:11:09,400 --> 01:11:11,160 completely agree with everything that you're saying. 1223 01:11:11,160 --> 01:11:14,520 I think this was a really important episode for us to have 1224 01:11:14,520 --> 01:11:16,280 and topic for us to discuss for sure. 1225 01:11:16,880 --> 01:11:20,320 So we will see you all next time in Candy Land. 1226 01:11:20,920 --> 01:11:22,400 Bye. Bye.