1 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:16,400 Welcome to Fucking Candy Land, hosted by Rampage and Gemini. 2 00:00:29,030 --> 00:00:31,710 Welcome back to fucking Candyland bitches. 3 00:00:31,710 --> 00:00:35,230 We are so happy to be here with you all. 4 00:00:35,230 --> 00:00:39,190 And the energy, the momentum, it is just getting hotter and 5 00:00:39,190 --> 00:00:40,670 hotter. And I don't know if it's Leo 6 00:00:40,670 --> 00:00:47,110 season or the double full moon this month, but I feel on one I 7 00:00:47,110 --> 00:00:49,710 literally laughed as soon as you talked because that was so 8 00:00:49,710 --> 00:00:52,190 aggressive. Welcome back to fucking 9 00:00:52,190 --> 00:00:54,990 Candyland. I wanted to introduce us like a 10 00:00:54,990 --> 00:01:05,600 WWE intro and page coming down. No, I feel like we haven't 11 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,160 recorded in a second, but we literally have just talked. 12 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:13,240 I mean, honestly, the cool thing about the way that we have it 13 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:17,400 set up now is like, we're not rushing to record, but we're 14 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:20,640 just in flow. Like when you have guests or you 15 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:24,200 make a commitment to interview a guest, you're like on that 16 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:26,120 schedule. And the thing that's really cool 17 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:30,240 about our. Brand is like, we don't pressure 18 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:32,040 each other. I feel like you get more upset 19 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:35,160 when you can't do something and I'm like, it's cool, it's fine. 20 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:38,360 And you're like, no, I'll be home in 49 minutes, 22 seconds, 21 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:40,880 I'll be there. We can record in 52 minutes. 22 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:42,840 And I'm like, no, we'll just reschedule. 23 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:44,600 And you're like, what do you mean? 24 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:50,390 I'm like, it's okay, Yeah. But I mean, I guess part of that 25 00:01:50,390 --> 00:01:52,430 is like, trauma responding, right? 26 00:01:52,430 --> 00:01:56,910 Like, I'm used to feeling like I'm inconveniencing people if 27 00:01:56,910 --> 00:01:59,910 like, life gets in the mix. And that's something that, like, 28 00:02:00,190 --> 00:02:03,270 I'm really working on. But a lot of people don't have 29 00:02:03,270 --> 00:02:06,110 the patient dynamic that we have with each other. 30 00:02:06,110 --> 00:02:08,910 Like, I can't imagine being upset with you for something 31 00:02:08,910 --> 00:02:10,630 coming up and not being able to record. 32 00:02:10,870 --> 00:02:13,670 But I instantly I'm like, what if this is the thing that, like, 33 00:02:13,670 --> 00:02:16,870 sets Page off and she's like, I'm fucking never recording with 34 00:02:16,870 --> 00:02:20,170 you again? Honestly, I feel like so many 35 00:02:20,170 --> 00:02:23,570 people create content because they're pressured by like an 36 00:02:23,570 --> 00:02:26,490 algorithm or like they're pressured by something. 37 00:02:26,810 --> 00:02:30,250 And I had taken a step back from TikTok because every single time 38 00:02:30,250 --> 00:02:34,050 I start making tik toks, the scammers just start going wild. 39 00:02:34,050 --> 00:02:37,170 And in like the last two weeks I've had some tik toks kind of 40 00:02:37,530 --> 00:02:40,730 do really well. And like for me, there used to 41 00:02:40,730 --> 00:02:44,610 not be as much of content coming out on TikTok daily. 42 00:02:44,610 --> 00:02:46,890 So now that it's like an overabundance. 43 00:02:47,250 --> 00:02:49,690 The views are just not what they used to be. 44 00:02:49,690 --> 00:02:52,770 The likes are not what they used to be because where there used 45 00:02:52,770 --> 00:02:56,090 to be, you know, a million users, now there's a billion 46 00:02:56,090 --> 00:02:59,490 users. And I just feel like taking it 47 00:02:59,530 --> 00:03:02,570 in waves. And every single time it feels 48 00:03:02,570 --> 00:03:07,290 like it takes more of my mental health afterwards because like I 49 00:03:07,290 --> 00:03:10,850 made some videos and then the scammers just start going off 50 00:03:11,330 --> 00:03:14,130 and my favorite thing is like when I'm working directly with a 51 00:03:14,130 --> 00:03:17,680 client, like through my website. And then they write me and 52 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:19,520 they're like, did you message me on TikTok? 53 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:24,840 And I'm like, no, no. But Speaking of scammers and 54 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:30,520 TikTok and social media and stuff, I feel like I'm seeing so 55 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:34,680 many, like, spiritual readers inside of my my comments. 56 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:38,640 And I'm not talking about like, the ones that are like really in 57 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:41,280 fucking India, but they're pretending to be you. 58 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:44,960 I mean, like actual people like selling their spiritual readings 59 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:51,840 and services inside of comments and like the ethics behind it is 60 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:54,040 just starting to like genuinely piss me off. 61 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:57,480 Like I blocked somebody this morning because they commented 62 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:02,200 on one of my videos and we're like there's this woman that's 63 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:06,280 in all of your, you know, videos behind you and you know she's 64 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:09,480 mentioning so and so's name and then it just cuts off and like 65 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:13,730 that you know that that's the comment and this person's done 66 00:04:13,730 --> 00:04:15,210 it a couple times. So I block. 67 00:04:15,210 --> 00:04:20,410 But to me it's very scammy because one, I haven't given you 68 00:04:20,410 --> 00:04:24,450 permission to be inside of my energy or give a reading at all. 69 00:04:24,810 --> 00:04:28,410 Two, you're inside of the comments leaving 1/2 assed 70 00:04:28,410 --> 00:04:30,610 message. That's not even a message when 71 00:04:30,610 --> 00:04:33,810 you could just send me a direct message and say is it okay to 72 00:04:33,810 --> 00:04:36,250 like give a reading, like I have something to say. 73 00:04:36,610 --> 00:04:39,010 And then there'll also be comments. 74 00:04:39,010 --> 00:04:41,850 Like, I'm not sure if you're a medium, but there's this energy 75 00:04:41,850 --> 00:04:45,250 or whatever, and it's like, are you inside of comments? 76 00:04:45,250 --> 00:04:48,250 Like dropping little things because you want me to come book 77 00:04:48,250 --> 00:04:52,530 with you because you want people in my comment section to come in 78 00:04:52,530 --> 00:04:55,650 book readings with you and be like, wow, what a spiritualist. 79 00:04:55,690 --> 00:04:59,290 And I'm fucking blocking because that go to me that like, goes 80 00:04:59,290 --> 00:05:02,690 against everything that, like, I stand for as someone doing 81 00:05:02,690 --> 00:05:05,290 spiritual services. I would never just approach 82 00:05:05,290 --> 00:05:09,410 somebody that I don't know and be like Maria has a message for 83 00:05:09,410 --> 00:05:12,220 you. You know, that happened very 84 00:05:13,020 --> 00:05:16,940 recently to me, like with all those people in my community who 85 00:05:16,940 --> 00:05:20,660 never even knew who their spirit gods were, never did a message, 86 00:05:20,660 --> 00:05:23,580 never did anything to try to take the information that I 87 00:05:23,580 --> 00:05:26,900 talked to them and then turn around and solicit people from 88 00:05:26,900 --> 00:05:31,260 within my community. And it was so crazy because most 89 00:05:31,260 --> 00:05:34,780 of the messages that they would spread to these people were so 90 00:05:34,900 --> 00:05:38,060 fear based. Like, no, you need my help to 91 00:05:38,060 --> 00:05:40,220 remove this. No I need to remove it. 92 00:05:40,340 --> 00:05:43,460 For you, like, I'm just going to say that on the spiritual 93 00:05:43,460 --> 00:05:47,860 journey, it is unique to everyone, but there is no type 94 00:05:47,860 --> 00:05:52,020 of hex or curse or any of that shit on you unless you're 95 00:05:52,020 --> 00:05:56,940 agreeing and consenting to it. Like you can't be cursed if you 96 00:05:56,940 --> 00:06:00,340 don't consent to the bullshit. Most people throughout history, 97 00:06:00,340 --> 00:06:03,260 if your lineage had some type of curse, it's because they stole 98 00:06:03,260 --> 00:06:05,940 something. They hurt someone, they did 99 00:06:05,940 --> 00:06:09,180 someone wrong and that's the energetic like. 100 00:06:09,510 --> 00:06:11,350 Reciprocation. There, you know what I mean? 101 00:06:11,350 --> 00:06:15,070 And so it irks me to my core when people will reach out for 102 00:06:15,070 --> 00:06:16,830 spell work. And their first thing was, 103 00:06:16,830 --> 00:06:19,030 another reader told me I had a curse on me. 104 00:06:19,590 --> 00:06:21,430 That's because they want you to need them. 105 00:06:22,790 --> 00:06:23,830 That's because. Yeah. 106 00:06:23,830 --> 00:06:26,910 And people too, that are like interested in getting readings 107 00:06:26,910 --> 00:06:30,470 and stuff from people we've said before, like, you know, with 108 00:06:30,470 --> 00:06:33,470 you, you approached funny and we're like, is it okay if I, 109 00:06:33,470 --> 00:06:35,590 like, give you a reading. You reached out to her 110 00:06:35,590 --> 00:06:37,910 personally were like, I feel inclined to do this. 111 00:06:38,150 --> 00:06:41,270 There's a yes and there's an energy exchange there. 112 00:06:41,430 --> 00:06:44,710 If you were to just go into her comments and be like, Bobo the 113 00:06:44,710 --> 00:06:48,110 clown wants me to let you know that the circus is opening up 114 00:06:48,110 --> 00:06:49,950 tomorrow and you're the opening act. 115 00:06:49,950 --> 00:06:52,430 Come on through, Mama. Like that would be fucking odd. 116 00:06:53,140 --> 00:06:56,940 And you know, I think it's so tacky when people like, do 117 00:06:56,940 --> 00:07:01,100 spiritual work for someone who has influence or a following and 118 00:07:01,100 --> 00:07:03,300 then they make a whole montage of it. 119 00:07:03,660 --> 00:07:07,420 Like the only stuff I've ever posted has been with permission 120 00:07:07,420 --> 00:07:09,940 or actually created by Bunny's team. 121 00:07:10,100 --> 00:07:13,100 You know what I mean? Like I have never in my life 122 00:07:14,380 --> 00:07:17,500 screen recorded a private conversation or screenshotted 123 00:07:17,500 --> 00:07:21,100 our text messages or shared intimate relationship. 124 00:07:21,790 --> 00:07:25,830 Energy with the world. It's like this person trusts you 125 00:07:26,230 --> 00:07:30,070 in an intimate way to tap into their energy if they want to 126 00:07:30,070 --> 00:07:32,470 share it. Like the sitter, the client 127 00:07:32,470 --> 00:07:34,150 wants to share that with the world. 128 00:07:34,550 --> 00:07:37,510 Let's go. But I would never post like a 129 00:07:37,510 --> 00:07:40,230 whole spell work video and be like this was for this client. 130 00:07:40,470 --> 00:07:43,830 They're cutting the cord from this person and this, you know, 131 00:07:43,830 --> 00:07:47,230 like that's so tacky and it's like back to the girl that does 132 00:07:47,230 --> 00:07:50,740 the bullshit with Aaron Carter. I promise you, you're not 133 00:07:50,740 --> 00:07:53,540 talking to Aaron Carter. He don't even fuck with you. 134 00:07:53,740 --> 00:07:56,340 He didn't even know you when he was alive, you know? 135 00:07:56,340 --> 00:07:59,500 And that's why I like whenever that night I told you I was 136 00:07:59,500 --> 00:08:02,100 really upset over Aaron and you said I was thinking about him 137 00:08:02,100 --> 00:08:04,860 last night when I was taking a bath or whatever. 138 00:08:04,860 --> 00:08:07,940 I was just meditating, thinking about his spirit. 139 00:08:07,940 --> 00:08:11,780 And I'm like girl because he just came to me because he's 140 00:08:11,780 --> 00:08:15,980 sick of people using his name for clout and then slandering 141 00:08:15,980 --> 00:08:19,060 his name when he was alive. It's like the same people that 142 00:08:19,060 --> 00:08:22,180 wouldn't have reached out and actually helped him when he was 143 00:08:22,180 --> 00:08:25,780 here are the people that want to ride his wave after he's gone. 144 00:08:25,780 --> 00:08:27,500 And I think that is the most tacky. 145 00:08:27,820 --> 00:08:31,940 And if anybody is inviting in a curse, it's those people because 146 00:08:31,940 --> 00:08:35,380 that is an energy exchange that is done for the wrong reasons. 147 00:08:36,230 --> 00:08:40,150 Well, and you know, we had like we talk about him and stuff 148 00:08:40,150 --> 00:08:41,950 because we had a personal tie there. 149 00:08:41,950 --> 00:08:45,590 Like we had an agreement that he was going to be coming on the 150 00:08:45,590 --> 00:08:50,350 podcast and we and he was gung ho for coming on. 151 00:08:50,550 --> 00:08:53,790 And we were like, let's push it back because he's going through 152 00:08:53,790 --> 00:08:57,150 things we don't want to be talking about like messiness and 153 00:08:57,350 --> 00:08:59,350 and you know, struggles that he's having. 154 00:08:59,350 --> 00:09:02,350 We want to talk about like his inspirations and like his 155 00:09:02,350 --> 00:09:05,030 spiritual side of things. And we want him to like, tap in 156 00:09:05,030 --> 00:09:07,470 more, like be ready before like healing. 157 00:09:07,470 --> 00:09:09,630 Like maybe we want to do a reading for him on here and we 158 00:09:09,630 --> 00:09:13,270 want him to be able to be ready to like receive those messages. 159 00:09:13,270 --> 00:09:19,550 So when he was alive, we had the opportunity to have him on. 160 00:09:19,550 --> 00:09:23,550 And if it was a cloud thing and it was a popularity thing, we'd 161 00:09:23,550 --> 00:09:26,310 already had that interview done. We'd have been like, hey guys, 162 00:09:26,310 --> 00:09:30,110 this is released and we feel something in our spirit because 163 00:09:30,430 --> 00:09:33,840 you know, there's the, well, God damn, we never had the 164 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:35,880 opportunity. Like we never got to actually 165 00:09:35,880 --> 00:09:38,160 talk to him into this interview. And like that would have been 166 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:40,800 such a dope thing. And on the other end of it we're 167 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:44,080 like, but we wouldn't have done anything different because we 168 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:47,360 wanted this version. We didn't want to you know? 169 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:51,640 And so for then somebody who didn't know him, didn't have any 170 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:56,240 connection to then be using his death as a fucking clout thing. 171 00:09:56,240 --> 00:10:00,550 And by the way, someone stitched that person's videos recently 172 00:10:00,790 --> 00:10:04,030 and she's still doing it. She is still Aaron Carter all up 173 00:10:04,030 --> 00:10:06,790 in the family I'm talking to so and so I'm doing this and this 174 00:10:07,030 --> 00:10:10,620 and I think it's fucking gross. And another thing that I want to 175 00:10:10,620 --> 00:10:14,420 add is Aaron also was trying to figure out how we could all come 176 00:10:14,420 --> 00:10:17,140 together in person and record in person. 177 00:10:17,140 --> 00:10:19,300 And I know that was way before we even met. 178 00:10:19,380 --> 00:10:21,820 And you were like, I don't know how it can make that happen. 179 00:10:22,100 --> 00:10:25,300 But I feel like another reason that it was being pushed off is 180 00:10:25,300 --> 00:10:27,940 because we were actually going to be able to go in person and 181 00:10:27,940 --> 00:10:31,540 he was going to invite us into his home to record the podcast. 182 00:10:31,820 --> 00:10:34,180 And I think that that's a lot of stuff like we don't talk about 183 00:10:34,180 --> 00:10:37,690 and I would never like. Publicly air out any of the 184 00:10:37,690 --> 00:10:40,770 conversations, but when I look at my contacts, the very first 185 00:10:40,770 --> 00:10:43,330 person that pops up, it says Aaron Carter's manager. 186 00:10:43,770 --> 00:10:46,290 And I'm just like my inner child, thrives in the 187 00:10:46,290 --> 00:10:50,690 environment to know that we were trying to give him an Ave. to 188 00:10:50,690 --> 00:10:56,370 speak on his artistry, on his soul, on his actual like path as 189 00:10:56,370 --> 00:11:00,130 an artist rather than the shit show that was created for him. 190 00:11:00,490 --> 00:11:04,230 Because being a child star. In being in a spotlight and 191 00:11:04,230 --> 00:11:07,430 being in your brother's shadow, like that's a difficult life. 192 00:11:07,590 --> 00:11:11,150 To be thrown in to a movie or into something at five and six 193 00:11:11,150 --> 00:11:15,510 years old like that is really terrible and honestly, the whole 194 00:11:15,510 --> 00:11:18,790 entire, like industry. Grooms. 195 00:11:18,790 --> 00:11:22,150 Children like There's no reason that there should be a pageant 196 00:11:22,150 --> 00:11:25,030 industry for children. There are no reason that these 197 00:11:25,030 --> 00:11:28,430 little girls should be wearing these little baby skirts and 198 00:11:28,430 --> 00:11:30,870 shirts at these gymnastic competitions and stuff. 199 00:11:31,150 --> 00:11:33,970 You can't tumble in a shirt. You have to wear a brawl in 200 00:11:33,970 --> 00:11:35,770 front of all these old men and whoever. 201 00:11:36,090 --> 00:11:39,930 Like the way everything is set up is to profit off people who 202 00:11:39,930 --> 00:11:43,010 can't make their own decisions. And I think Aaron was just 203 00:11:43,010 --> 00:11:46,330 backed into a corner, and he never really got to get a hold 204 00:11:46,330 --> 00:11:49,770 on his own mental health because he was always trying to fight 205 00:11:49,770 --> 00:11:53,770 off the vultures, such as this lady who never had a 206 00:11:53,770 --> 00:11:57,370 conversation with him, period. Well, and you know, we're 207 00:11:57,370 --> 00:12:00,530 talking about the, like, little girls and pageants and things, 208 00:12:00,530 --> 00:12:04,810 right, being put on display. But there's so many male 209 00:12:04,810 --> 00:12:08,890 entertainers coming out talking about, you know, how how the 210 00:12:09,050 --> 00:12:12,690 sexual assault on women in the industry has been talked about. 211 00:12:12,690 --> 00:12:15,970 But the assault that they went through and the grooming that so 212 00:12:15,970 --> 00:12:19,450 many went through, Justin Bieber recently came out and was 213 00:12:19,450 --> 00:12:20,650 talked. I don't know if it was recent, 214 00:12:20,650 --> 00:12:24,590 but I recently saw it talking about the amount of grooming 215 00:12:24,590 --> 00:12:27,990 that was done to him while he was inside of Hollywood and you 216 00:12:27,990 --> 00:12:29,590 know, stuff that he won't talk about. 217 00:12:29,670 --> 00:12:34,150 And now you know, you see him physically ill and having 218 00:12:34,150 --> 00:12:36,990 anxiety and having panic attacks and things like that. 219 00:12:36,990 --> 00:12:40,030 And and that was all throughout a documentary that he had. 220 00:12:40,070 --> 00:12:44,710 And the what we see on the outside, and we've talked about 221 00:12:44,710 --> 00:12:47,430 this before, what people see on the outside versus what happens 222 00:12:47,430 --> 00:12:51,670 behind the scenes are two totally just different things. 223 00:12:51,670 --> 00:12:55,590 And people don't pay attention until, you know, you have a 224 00:12:55,590 --> 00:12:58,710 Britney Spears thing or you have a, you know, whatever. 225 00:12:58,710 --> 00:13:01,790 And then all of a sudden people care because, well, that's so 226 00:13:01,790 --> 00:13:05,590 tragic or they died. You know, honestly, I think we 227 00:13:05,590 --> 00:13:08,510 could compare what's going on with Dosha Cat as like what 228 00:13:08,510 --> 00:13:12,780 happened to Britney Spears. Like you're at this peak of your 229 00:13:12,780 --> 00:13:17,460 career, like in this highlight, and then you think, oh, this is 230 00:13:17,460 --> 00:13:19,220 going to make it better, this is going to make it whatever. 231 00:13:19,220 --> 00:13:22,900 And then you start losing your mind because your true power is 232 00:13:22,900 --> 00:13:25,900 in your authenticity and like your unique gifts. 233 00:13:26,140 --> 00:13:31,500 But when you make deals with the devil, baby, like, you know, 234 00:13:31,500 --> 00:13:33,660 shit happens and I feel like Britney. 235 00:13:34,590 --> 00:13:37,870 She had been put on public display her whole life, and now 236 00:13:37,870 --> 00:13:40,590 we're watching the spiral of like, the shit show and people 237 00:13:40,630 --> 00:13:44,030 are still being very mean to her, You know, just not 238 00:13:44,030 --> 00:13:46,510 respecting her to the point where she's turned off her 239 00:13:46,510 --> 00:13:48,910 comments. Which sucks, because I used to 240 00:13:48,910 --> 00:13:51,270 love going to her comment section and just looking at 241 00:13:51,270 --> 00:13:55,070 everything because honestly, I'm not even convinced that that's 242 00:13:55,070 --> 00:13:58,390 really Britney Spears at all. Like I'm just like her face 243 00:13:58,390 --> 00:14:00,590 structure has changed her teeth like. 244 00:14:01,290 --> 00:14:02,810 You know what I mean? Like, I understand, like you get 245 00:14:02,810 --> 00:14:04,010 braces and your teeth are straight. 246 00:14:04,010 --> 00:14:07,290 Like, I just don't ever remember Britney Spears's mouth being the 247 00:14:07,290 --> 00:14:10,890 way that it is, like now. And I just don't believe that 248 00:14:10,890 --> 00:14:15,530 these celebrities have control over their soul or their real 249 00:14:15,530 --> 00:14:19,970 energy, like they've agreed upon a contract, a curse. 250 00:14:20,430 --> 00:14:23,470 Something that gave them what they thought they wanted, but 251 00:14:23,470 --> 00:14:27,670 they've lost themselves in that. And I think Aaron totally just 252 00:14:27,670 --> 00:14:29,790 rejected that. Like he was like, you know what, 253 00:14:29,830 --> 00:14:32,350 I won't follow the poster child bullshit. 254 00:14:32,590 --> 00:14:35,870 I will air it out. I will be problematic. 255 00:14:35,910 --> 00:14:37,710 And it's the same thing with Kanye West. 256 00:14:37,710 --> 00:14:41,150 When people are problematic within Hollywood, they silence 257 00:14:41,150 --> 00:14:43,550 you or they kill you, just like Marilyn Monroe. 258 00:14:43,590 --> 00:14:45,470 That's how I feel. I think Aaron was killed. 259 00:14:47,110 --> 00:14:52,080 I think Aaron was killed also. And it's always the people who 260 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:55,160 are trying to have like authentic speech and also set 261 00:14:55,160 --> 00:14:58,440 boundaries. Like we've seen it on the very 262 00:14:58,440 --> 00:15:02,120 smallest scale as we've been growing our podcast. 263 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:08,130 Like we've seen people who have rocked with us and the and been 264 00:15:08,130 --> 00:15:10,170 like, I'm here to watch your growth journey. 265 00:15:10,170 --> 00:15:12,090 You can confide in me, I'm supporting you. 266 00:15:12,090 --> 00:15:14,410 I'm rooting you on. I'm love bombing you. 267 00:15:14,450 --> 00:15:16,770 I'm telling you in the middle of the night how much you mean to 268 00:15:16,770 --> 00:15:21,090 me, how fucking grateful I am. And then I'm going to go behind 269 00:15:21,090 --> 00:15:25,130 your back and do a BC&D and try to destroy your reputation. 270 00:15:25,130 --> 00:15:29,010 And that's been on a really small scale to the point that 271 00:15:29,010 --> 00:15:31,330 you and I have conversations behind the scene where we're 272 00:15:31,330 --> 00:15:35,740 like, who's lurking That is over here. 273 00:15:35,740 --> 00:15:38,460 Like anytime that we're getting love bombed, we're like, Oh my 274 00:15:38,460 --> 00:15:40,820 God, like I'm getting love bombed right now. 275 00:15:40,820 --> 00:15:43,020 Like what? What is about to come out of, 276 00:15:43,020 --> 00:15:46,460 you know, whatever. And I can only imagine how that 277 00:15:46,460 --> 00:15:50,460 is on, you know, like an Aaron Carter scale or whatnot, where 278 00:15:50,780 --> 00:15:53,740 everybody knows you, everybody wants a piece of you, even 279 00:15:53,740 --> 00:15:57,420 somebody who is coming across as being super authentic and 280 00:15:57,420 --> 00:16:00,940 wanting to spend time with you. That may be because you're 281 00:16:00,940 --> 00:16:02,780 paying for every meal when you go out. 282 00:16:02,780 --> 00:16:05,180 That may be because when they come over and they hang out with 283 00:16:05,180 --> 00:16:08,780 you, you've got so and so musician at your house or so and 284 00:16:08,780 --> 00:16:11,420 so producer and they want to slip a little something in 285 00:16:11,420 --> 00:16:13,380 there. Maybe it's because they have a 286 00:16:13,380 --> 00:16:15,980 similar gift that you do and they want you to do some kind of 287 00:16:15,980 --> 00:16:20,500 collaboration with them. Like, it's very All of those 288 00:16:20,500 --> 00:16:24,330 people come out of the woodwork when they see you gaining some 289 00:16:24,330 --> 00:16:26,690 kind of like, quote, UN quote success. 290 00:16:26,690 --> 00:16:30,130 People's families even do it when they come from nothing and 291 00:16:30,130 --> 00:16:32,530 they start getting jobs where they have money and they're able 292 00:16:32,530 --> 00:16:35,250 to afford things. All of a sudden their family 293 00:16:35,250 --> 00:16:38,090 thinks that like, oh, they're not giving me anything. 294 00:16:38,090 --> 00:16:40,730 They're too good. They're too good to be giving me 295 00:16:40,730 --> 00:16:42,210 money. No, I think I'm working my 296 00:16:42,210 --> 00:16:46,570 fucking ass off and I am providing for myself, and you 297 00:16:46,570 --> 00:16:48,530 have the opportunity to do the same thing. 298 00:16:48,530 --> 00:16:51,690 Why would I fund you for your lack of motivation, inspiration 299 00:16:51,690 --> 00:16:54,870 and creativity? And I'm not like a Morgan Wallen 300 00:16:54,870 --> 00:16:57,270 fan, but I know his mom was doing that to him. 301 00:16:57,270 --> 00:17:00,590 Like his mom was draining his bank account and like buying 302 00:17:00,830 --> 00:17:07,069 properties and like putting. Yeah, it's unacceptable when 303 00:17:07,069 --> 00:17:12,270 people work their asses off and then you just assume that 304 00:17:12,270 --> 00:17:15,670 they're going to do XYZ. Like, I'm very much that person. 305 00:17:15,950 --> 00:17:18,270 That spirit constantly tells me like. 306 00:17:18,780 --> 00:17:20,420 You have good fortune coming your way. 307 00:17:20,579 --> 00:17:23,060 You know what that means? The more you have, the more you 308 00:17:23,060 --> 00:17:25,940 should share. So here recently I've been going 309 00:17:25,940 --> 00:17:29,260 back to like, you know what, You participated a lot in Patreon 310 00:17:29,260 --> 00:17:30,780 this month. Here's a free reading. 311 00:17:30,780 --> 00:17:35,220 Or you have really supported me. I want to, you know, extend this 312 00:17:35,220 --> 00:17:38,180 offer. Like yesterday a girl paid for 313 00:17:38,180 --> 00:17:41,060 the class full price. Then like an hour later, she 314 00:17:41,060 --> 00:17:44,260 joined Patreon. Well, she could have saved money 315 00:17:44,260 --> 00:17:46,780 by doing that, if she would have done it. 316 00:17:47,380 --> 00:17:51,300 Opposite, but I didn't have to say anything, but I decided, 317 00:17:51,660 --> 00:17:55,060 hey, you paid full price and you joined the Patreon, you could 318 00:17:55,060 --> 00:17:57,220 have actually got a pretty big discount. 319 00:17:57,220 --> 00:18:00,660 So I want to give you a free like 30 minute reading just 320 00:18:00,660 --> 00:18:03,940 because, like I just personally feel like energy exchange 321 00:18:04,220 --> 00:18:08,420 matters and I wouldn't want someone who knows there's this 322 00:18:08,540 --> 00:18:12,020 big discount available to not say anything to me because I 323 00:18:12,020 --> 00:18:16,340 didn't read the fine print. And no, I'm not obligated to do 324 00:18:16,340 --> 00:18:18,540 that, but I do know. Know that like if I go to the 325 00:18:18,540 --> 00:18:23,100 store and I give them $100 bill and they hand me back $150.00, 326 00:18:23,300 --> 00:18:25,620 I'm not going to be that person that just walks away. 327 00:18:25,820 --> 00:18:29,420 So then later that cashier loses their job because their drawer 328 00:18:29,420 --> 00:18:32,180 is short $72. You know what I mean? 329 00:18:32,180 --> 00:18:35,340 And like, I have had things like that happen where people are 330 00:18:35,340 --> 00:18:37,500 like, no, the universe is blessing me. 331 00:18:37,500 --> 00:18:40,500 That's their mistake. You're not being blessed because 332 00:18:40,500 --> 00:18:43,500 of other people's mistakes. Like that's a mistake and you 333 00:18:43,900 --> 00:18:46,620 need to follow the golden rule. Like if you were in that 334 00:18:46,620 --> 00:18:50,420 position and you're in that woman's position, like maybe she 335 00:18:50,420 --> 00:18:52,780 just went through a miscarriage or maybe something really 336 00:18:52,780 --> 00:18:56,140 traumatic just happened to her right before she got to work and 337 00:18:56,140 --> 00:18:59,340 she's not thinking properly like someone else's. 338 00:18:59,340 --> 00:19:02,700 Downfall is not your come up. And that's the problem in this 339 00:19:02,700 --> 00:19:07,100 place is people see other people slipping and they want to 340 00:19:07,100 --> 00:19:10,700 capitalize on that, like for a. While I was taking a mental 341 00:19:10,700 --> 00:19:14,220 break from a lot of things. And that's when all the vultures 342 00:19:14,580 --> 00:19:17,020 came on out and started trying to sink their calls into 343 00:19:17,020 --> 00:19:21,940 everyone. And I am so happy that all of 344 00:19:21,940 --> 00:19:25,820 this came to light when it did. Because I've learned so many 345 00:19:25,820 --> 00:19:28,860 spiritual lessons that like, I don't ever want to be like you 346 00:19:28,860 --> 00:19:31,740 all and that's the punishment. I don't want to be like you. 347 00:19:31,940 --> 00:19:34,340 I don't want to associate with you, and I don't want to claim 348 00:19:34,340 --> 00:19:36,950 you. In my life, in my community or 349 00:19:36,950 --> 00:19:38,790 whatever. Like popular shit. 350 00:19:38,790 --> 00:19:41,310 But stay so far away from me while you're doing it. 351 00:19:42,470 --> 00:19:47,430 See, but those people, like you know, the person who went in and 352 00:19:47,430 --> 00:19:49,830 invested in your classes and then went in and invested on 353 00:19:49,830 --> 00:19:54,110 your Patreon and and what not. Those are the people who we turn 354 00:19:54,110 --> 00:19:57,950 around and are like, let me give you this gift, let me give you 355 00:19:57,950 --> 00:20:02,350 something for free or, you know, we noticed somebody contributing 356 00:20:02,350 --> 00:20:04,870 something, even if it's somebody who's been on, you know, your 357 00:20:04,870 --> 00:20:07,430 lowest. Here on Patreon, but they've 358 00:20:07,430 --> 00:20:10,350 been commenting on things and they've been giving you love and 359 00:20:10,350 --> 00:20:12,430 whatever. It's not about the monetary 360 00:20:12,430 --> 00:20:14,990 exchange for you to be like here's a reading where you know, 361 00:20:14,990 --> 00:20:17,670 here's a little like thank you package or whatever. 362 00:20:18,110 --> 00:20:22,560 Those people are the ones who end up getting the appreciation 363 00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:26,960 back and the discounted or free things as opposed to the people 364 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:30,880 who just come into the inbox and say I'm just having such a hard 365 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:33,640 time right now and I was just wondering if you can give me a 366 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:36,360 free reading. You know, I can you just pull a 367 00:20:36,360 --> 00:20:39,520 card for me on this? It'll just be really quick and I 368 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,400 hope that I'm not bothering you and I whatever, blah blah blah, 369 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:46,980 you know, it's like you're more ought to get something 370 00:20:47,140 --> 00:20:50,380 additional when you are not expecting it. 371 00:20:50,420 --> 00:20:53,300 And that goes into, like, how our conversations about 372 00:20:53,300 --> 00:20:56,500 abundance have always been like, if you're putting in the energy 373 00:20:56,500 --> 00:20:59,710 and the work and, you know, lighting some candles here and 374 00:20:59,710 --> 00:21:01,910 there and doing your abundance working, whatever, but you're 375 00:21:01,910 --> 00:21:05,950 actually putting energy into things and into, oh, I'm going 376 00:21:05,950 --> 00:21:07,830 to something I've learned from you. 377 00:21:07,910 --> 00:21:12,030 I'm going to invest money into this thing that I feel drawn to 378 00:21:12,030 --> 00:21:15,110 do because I'm going to get that money back. 379 00:21:15,110 --> 00:21:19,290 I don't have to worry about it. And once I started moving from a 380 00:21:19,410 --> 00:21:22,330 a thing there, oh, I see, you know somebody's go fund me. 381 00:21:22,330 --> 00:21:24,290 I have an extra 10 bucks. I'll put it there. 382 00:21:24,530 --> 00:21:27,650 Turn around a reading books. You know, I get 6 times that 383 00:21:27,650 --> 00:21:31,850 amount because I wasn't so fucking stingy with what I had 384 00:21:31,850 --> 00:21:34,930 to not share with others. That's one thing that I've 385 00:21:34,930 --> 00:21:38,450 learned from the people I grew up with is like they see 386 00:21:38,690 --> 00:21:43,290 investing in you or investing in XYZ as taking away from film. 387 00:21:43,610 --> 00:21:47,680 And I see it as like it's like. You're building the foundation 388 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,560 and you're showing the universe that, you know what, maybe it's 389 00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:54,000 not my turn, but I'm ready to clap for the people that are in 390 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:57,160 their power. And earlier I was going to like, 391 00:21:57,160 --> 00:21:59,480 review your business to just like give you a review. 392 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:03,120 And that's when I saw that I had reviewed you back in like 2021 393 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:06,160 and it was before you really even were doing a lot of 394 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:09,560 spiritual work, like you were mainly just doing your podcast 395 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:12,710 and. I really did feel very honored 396 00:22:12,710 --> 00:22:15,870 to come on to your podcast, but what's even more magical about 397 00:22:15,870 --> 00:22:20,430 this whole situation is like meeting you through Bunny has 398 00:22:20,430 --> 00:22:24,110 led to me meeting like people who Bunny grew up with or or her 399 00:22:24,110 --> 00:22:28,510 actual family and friends, and like having such a big outreach. 400 00:22:28,510 --> 00:22:31,790 It's like I want to bring these people together. 401 00:22:31,790 --> 00:22:35,350 So just to surprise you all, we have a very special guest that's 402 00:22:35,350 --> 00:22:39,310 going to come on this season that is one of Bunny's close 403 00:22:39,310 --> 00:22:41,310 friends. Who I've developed a 404 00:22:41,310 --> 00:22:43,670 relationship with. And I just feel like her and Jim 405 00:22:43,670 --> 00:22:48,470 and I need to like meet one-on-one because it's just so 406 00:22:48,590 --> 00:22:51,390 crazy that all of this brought us together. 407 00:22:52,030 --> 00:22:56,830 And I literally found her, you know, during all of this, like 408 00:22:56,870 --> 00:22:59,630 during the pandemic and like that's when you and I had met. 409 00:22:59,630 --> 00:23:02,540 So it was like. The universe was aligning me 410 00:23:02,540 --> 00:23:06,260 with connections that maybe wouldn't benefit me at that 411 00:23:06,260 --> 00:23:10,420 time, but had evolved over time. And I feel like that the 412 00:23:10,460 --> 00:23:14,460 evolution of our spirituality and our spiritual gifts, it's 413 00:23:14,500 --> 00:23:16,660 only dependent on how much you're willing to share that 414 00:23:16,660 --> 00:23:19,820 with others like. When you do an amazing reading 415 00:23:19,820 --> 00:23:22,620 and you help someone get closure or you help someone have a 416 00:23:22,620 --> 00:23:26,460 breakthrough, there is no other feeling like that in the world. 417 00:23:26,460 --> 00:23:30,180 Because instead of taking from this place and thinking that it 418 00:23:30,180 --> 00:23:33,100 owes you more, you're popping your shit. 419 00:23:33,420 --> 00:23:36,660 Like earlier today it was hailing and I was like, spirit, 420 00:23:36,900 --> 00:23:39,620 please, no hell, please just rain, please no hell. 421 00:23:40,100 --> 00:23:42,060 And like within 10 minutes it just stopped hailing. 422 00:23:42,300 --> 00:23:44,100 And it was small. So I was like, I know it's not 423 00:23:44,100 --> 00:23:46,020 doing damage. It just sounds really loud. 424 00:23:46,020 --> 00:23:50,330 It was scaring the cats. But it's like, I send love to 425 00:23:50,330 --> 00:23:52,090 Mother Earth. I send healing to Mother Earth. 426 00:23:52,090 --> 00:23:54,890 When I throw away something like a plastic bottle, I'm like, I am 427 00:23:54,890 --> 00:23:57,490 so sorry. And I'm always like, why don't 428 00:23:57,490 --> 00:24:00,490 they use cartons anymore? Why don't they? 429 00:24:00,690 --> 00:24:04,850 Like, why is the collagen powder in this big plastic box when it 430 00:24:04,850 --> 00:24:07,970 could be in like a paper, you know what I mean? 431 00:24:07,970 --> 00:24:10,650 Like a cardboard bag or something like coffee comes in. 432 00:24:11,010 --> 00:24:13,490 It's just like things are so wasteful. 433 00:24:14,030 --> 00:24:17,350 And they want you to believe that, like, your carbon 434 00:24:17,350 --> 00:24:20,710 footprint matters when literally, like these yachts and 435 00:24:20,710 --> 00:24:25,830 these freaking jets use like more carbon footprint than like 436 00:24:25,830 --> 00:24:28,270 5 million people. And it's like they want to 437 00:24:28,270 --> 00:24:32,110 convince us that we are the problem that helping someone 438 00:24:32,110 --> 00:24:35,150 else takes away from you or investing in your business takes 439 00:24:35,150 --> 00:24:37,870 away from my business and like instead. 440 00:24:38,740 --> 00:24:42,180 We have so many people. They're like, I joined Gemini's 441 00:24:42,180 --> 00:24:45,980 spell, worked here and cancelled them yours because, you know, I 442 00:24:45,980 --> 00:24:49,180 still get to work with both of you and I'm like, awesome pop 443 00:24:49,180 --> 00:24:52,300 your shit. Like I love it because it 444 00:24:52,300 --> 00:24:55,340 doesn't take away from me and it doesn't take away from anyone. 445 00:24:55,340 --> 00:24:59,340 It helps people spread their energy and then it helps us 446 00:24:59,900 --> 00:25:01,700 bring that back into our community. 447 00:25:02,980 --> 00:25:06,180 We've had so many just like different things that have come 448 00:25:06,180 --> 00:25:10,830 up where you'll point that out and you'll be like, OK, like 449 00:25:10,830 --> 00:25:14,270 this may seem shady over here, but like all that this is doing 450 00:25:14,270 --> 00:25:17,590 is benefiting us. So like let that let that happen 451 00:25:17,590 --> 00:25:20,990 over here, all that it is, is an energy exchange and somehow 452 00:25:20,990 --> 00:25:23,630 having a benefit on us. And it always does. 453 00:25:23,670 --> 00:25:27,270 And something that I love about you too is that, you know, you 454 00:25:27,270 --> 00:25:31,150 have met all of these people, myself and other people through 455 00:25:31,150 --> 00:25:35,740 Bunny or whatever, and met people who are have large 456 00:25:35,740 --> 00:25:39,300 followings and whatnot. And you have never, even behind 457 00:25:39,300 --> 00:25:42,260 the scenes, you've never been like, I'm about to do a reading 458 00:25:42,260 --> 00:25:44,740 for so and so this is about to make my shit blow up. 459 00:25:45,020 --> 00:25:48,020 This is like, I can't wait to like put a video together and 460 00:25:48,020 --> 00:25:50,180 like show everybody that I did this reading for them. 461 00:25:50,180 --> 00:25:53,100 Or, you know, take a screenshot of their message and like, tag 462 00:25:53,100 --> 00:25:55,660 them in it and be like, wow, like this is everything that 463 00:25:55,660 --> 00:25:58,460 came through. And there's a difference to me 464 00:25:58,460 --> 00:26:01,900 because we both will take pictures of like a feedback text 465 00:26:01,900 --> 00:26:05,140 that somebody says where they're like you said a BCD&D was going 466 00:26:05,140 --> 00:26:07,780 to happen, like everything, like unfolded or whatever. 467 00:26:08,020 --> 00:26:11,260 There's a difference between showing somebody's appreciation 468 00:26:11,260 --> 00:26:16,500 to you for the read and and and like sharing that like love and 469 00:26:16,500 --> 00:26:20,780 then breaking down somebody's intimate details about their 470 00:26:20,780 --> 00:26:23,780 reading and what came through and showing. 471 00:26:24,270 --> 00:26:29,870 I hate videos of people talking about shit. 472 00:26:29,950 --> 00:26:33,750 One that you can find online. Like if I see a reading from 473 00:26:33,750 --> 00:26:37,150 somebody and I'm like, I literally know all of that 474 00:26:37,150 --> 00:26:38,950 information. Also, because it's public 475 00:26:38,950 --> 00:26:44,190 knowledge or you know, I, you could do a quick Google search, 476 00:26:44,190 --> 00:26:49,730 but just you can tell people who they'll put videos out there of 477 00:26:49,730 --> 00:26:52,010 people with large followings that they read or that they do 478 00:26:52,010 --> 00:26:54,490 something for. But then all of these small 479 00:26:54,490 --> 00:26:57,010 people who have helped them build up that following and 480 00:26:57,010 --> 00:27:00,010 stuff, they've never shared readings from those people. 481 00:27:00,010 --> 00:27:03,930 So you just use them to monetarily gain and get an 482 00:27:03,970 --> 00:27:07,570 audience, and then once you hit your elite status, now you're 483 00:27:07,570 --> 00:27:12,070 going to pop your shit. I am so turned off by people 484 00:27:12,070 --> 00:27:14,470 like that. Like look at me, look at what 485 00:27:14,470 --> 00:27:16,470 I've done. Like I have done so many 486 00:27:16,470 --> 00:27:21,670 readings for people that are like close knit in the circle 487 00:27:21,670 --> 00:27:24,910 like inner circles and I would never air it out. 488 00:27:24,910 --> 00:27:28,270 Like if they post and they want to shout me out and I share it. 489 00:27:28,590 --> 00:27:31,310 Yes perfect. But so many things that come 490 00:27:31,310 --> 00:27:34,390 through in mediumship sessions and and in greetings are so 491 00:27:34,390 --> 00:27:36,990 private. Never in my life would I share 492 00:27:36,990 --> 00:27:40,590 that information. I, like you said, sometimes will 493 00:27:40,590 --> 00:27:45,350 crop people's names and all the public knowledge stuff out so 494 00:27:45,350 --> 00:27:52,150 that we keep it anonymous. But people are very big on who 495 00:27:52,150 --> 00:27:55,430 they know and sharing all of that knowledge, and it just 496 00:27:55,430 --> 00:27:56,710 makes me feel like you're a snake. 497 00:27:56,710 --> 00:27:59,350 You're untrustworthy, that you're not going to give the 498 00:27:59,350 --> 00:28:02,350 same attention to a small creator as you do a big creator. 499 00:28:02,350 --> 00:28:04,870 And I don't want to do business with you because. 500 00:28:05,330 --> 00:28:10,090 You know recently I had a client start mentorship and we're, 501 00:28:10,090 --> 00:28:12,570 we're trading some work. And I was like, wow, I really 502 00:28:12,570 --> 00:28:15,570 think that your work can help Jim and I, maybe Jim and I will 503 00:28:15,570 --> 00:28:19,770 want to trade you some spell work or something for what 504 00:28:19,770 --> 00:28:22,930 you're doing. And she thanked me like 20 505 00:28:22,930 --> 00:28:25,130 fucking times. Like, Oh my gosh, I can't 506 00:28:25,130 --> 00:28:26,890 believe you did that. Like, thank you, thank you. 507 00:28:26,890 --> 00:28:30,770 And like these small creators really thrive on word of mouth. 508 00:28:30,770 --> 00:28:33,630 Like I. Love when someone's like, I 509 00:28:33,630 --> 00:28:36,430 heard about you from this or someone recommended you. 510 00:28:36,750 --> 00:28:39,270 You know, recently someone reached out and said that 511 00:28:39,590 --> 00:28:41,990 someone told them they had a curse on them and they needed to 512 00:28:41,990 --> 00:28:45,150 remove it. It was $800 and I'm like, we can 513 00:28:45,150 --> 00:28:48,030 do this, this and this. And she was like. 514 00:28:48,510 --> 00:28:50,350 I just, I'm so grateful that I found you. 515 00:28:50,350 --> 00:28:53,630 She's like someone told me to reach out to you and it's like 516 00:28:53,790 --> 00:28:56,430 doing the right thing behind closed doors is what's going to 517 00:28:56,430 --> 00:28:59,270 get you further ahead. Like you can broadcast and get a 518 00:28:59,270 --> 00:29:03,190 million views on TikTok and no one go to your website and book 519 00:29:03,190 --> 00:29:04,710 with you. Like, that's the thing. 520 00:29:04,710 --> 00:29:07,550 Like, I don't need a million people to see my stuff. 521 00:29:07,950 --> 00:29:11,310 I need 5 to 10 to 15 people to resonate with what I'm saying 522 00:29:11,590 --> 00:29:14,350 and come over to my platforms and support me in that way. 523 00:29:14,630 --> 00:29:17,470 Like alike and all of those things are very appreciated. 524 00:29:17,750 --> 00:29:20,190 And I know sometimes I post content that doesn't even like 525 00:29:20,790 --> 00:29:22,910 it's not relevant to my following, but you all will 526 00:29:22,910 --> 00:29:25,990 still comment and like anyways because that does help boost the 527 00:29:26,070 --> 00:29:29,390 algorithm to reach the people that it will help, but at the 528 00:29:29,390 --> 00:29:32,840 same time I'm not like. Wow, Gemini, you never comment 529 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:35,040 on my videos or you never share my stuff. 530 00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:37,680 You know, I don't care. Because at the end of the day, 531 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:41,320 like, what's resonant for one person may not be resonant for 532 00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,840 the next person. And it's not personal. 533 00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:47,560 And so many people look around at their inner circle and want 534 00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:52,080 them to like, do XYZ. But I promise you, your ideal 535 00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:55,520 client or your ideal supporter is not normally in your inner 536 00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:59,000 circle, and it's only once you've reached some platform of 537 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:02,910 notoriety that people are like. Wow, I know that girl. 538 00:30:03,150 --> 00:30:06,950 And you know Bunny, we we don't use her for a clout like that's 539 00:30:06,950 --> 00:30:10,910 like a fairy godmother. Like I pour into her as much as 540 00:30:10,910 --> 00:30:14,230 she pours into me, and I am constantly reminding her like. 541 00:30:14,690 --> 00:30:18,210 You have done so much for me. If I connect with a client and 542 00:30:18,210 --> 00:30:20,890 they tell me they found me through Bunny in the blessing, 543 00:30:20,890 --> 00:30:23,290 I'm like, thank you. So Bunny, she's a goddess, like 544 00:30:23,770 --> 00:30:27,130 speaking so much abundance over her life and you know, watching 545 00:30:27,130 --> 00:30:30,970 her the last three to four years manifest what she's manifested. 546 00:30:31,250 --> 00:30:34,210 I have been there by her side while she's done that like I 547 00:30:34,210 --> 00:30:36,690 have watched her do that. Would I be like? 548 00:30:37,170 --> 00:30:38,770 She only did that because of me, or you know what I mean? 549 00:30:38,770 --> 00:30:41,410 Like people want to take clout from something that has nothing 550 00:30:41,410 --> 00:30:43,770 to do with them. Like just support your people in 551 00:30:43,770 --> 00:30:46,090 the way that you can support them, whether that's 552 00:30:46,090 --> 00:30:49,650 energetically, monetarily, or whatever, and keep it moving. 553 00:30:49,810 --> 00:30:52,650 We don't need the story how you went to high school with XYZ and 554 00:30:52,650 --> 00:30:55,290 you know them because I promise you, you probably didn't fuck 555 00:30:55,290 --> 00:30:58,410 with them, you never supported them, and you talk shit about 556 00:30:58,410 --> 00:31:02,250 them until someone of notoriety. Put them on their platform. 557 00:31:02,490 --> 00:31:05,650 And I love to see the comments of oh, I know her, I know her. 558 00:31:05,650 --> 00:31:07,770 But you've never booked a reading, You've never shared a 559 00:31:07,770 --> 00:31:09,570 post. You probably don't even like my 560 00:31:09,570 --> 00:31:13,570 business page, and that's cool. But don't use my name in a room 561 00:31:13,890 --> 00:31:15,330 to try to get some kind of clout. 562 00:31:15,410 --> 00:31:17,850 Like, don't use my name like you know me, because you don't. 563 00:31:18,970 --> 00:31:20,930 Well, and so I want to say two things about that. 564 00:31:20,930 --> 00:31:23,530 So one, the Bunny thing is never a clout thing. 565 00:31:23,530 --> 00:31:25,970 Literally, we wouldn't know each other. 566 00:31:25,970 --> 00:31:30,160 We wouldn't have this podcast together any of that if it 567 00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:33,320 hadn't been for Bunny like. And when I when I trace it back, 568 00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:36,880 right, I talk about how I got that reading from you during 569 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:39,680 like one of my lowest times that I needed healing and that 570 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,240 reading helped with starting Coven. 571 00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:44,920 I wouldn't have even met you and had that reading if it hadn't 572 00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:48,880 been for Bunny's podcast. So, like, it all comes back in a 573 00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:53,200 way that's like, she's talked about because there's and call 574 00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:56,000 her the fairy godmother because there is such a deep 575 00:31:56,000 --> 00:32:00,080 appreciation for the impact that she's had on our lives by 576 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:04,440 literally just being her authentic self, like who she is. 577 00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:08,440 And and that's The thing is like you just going out there and 578 00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:11,160 living your passion and being creative and putting yourself 579 00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:15,280 out there without even understanding whose life you're 580 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,240 affecting. That's everything. 581 00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:20,240 The fact that now we're building platforms for ourselves where 582 00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,560 we're getting messages from people we don't know that are 583 00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:24,960 like, you're making such a change in my life. 584 00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:27,160 I feel like I have friends when I listen to you guys. 585 00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:30,440 It feels so supportive, means everything. 586 00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:34,400 And also on to what you said about, you know, well, Gemini 587 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:36,920 doesn't like my posts or like whatever. 588 00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:41,560 People should have friendships that are safe friendships. 589 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:46,320 If I have to be concerned that me not doing XY&Z is going to 590 00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:49,520 piss you off and not like us joking about like me being late 591 00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:52,000 like me joking like you'll never want to record with me again. 592 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,800 But I mean, we've all had those friends that genuinely were 593 00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:59,610 like, I don't, should I do this or is this going to piss them 594 00:32:59,610 --> 00:33:01,330 off? Or they, you know, or they have 595 00:33:01,330 --> 00:33:04,370 an expectation like, well, you didn't call me in the last two 596 00:33:04,370 --> 00:33:07,730 days. Well, sorry, I have diarrhea and 597 00:33:07,730 --> 00:33:11,530 I can't get to the phone. Honestly, I don't rank my 598 00:33:11,530 --> 00:33:15,650 friendships on anything because like oh, you're on the on your 599 00:33:15,650 --> 00:33:17,090 phone and you haven't text me back. 600 00:33:17,370 --> 00:33:20,850 It would be different if we had plans and you, like, left me. 601 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:22,760 At the altar, you know what I mean? 602 00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:24,720 Like, I'm waiting for you and you don't show up. 603 00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:26,960 And then I see you posting. Yeah, I'm going to take that a 604 00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,240 little personal. But, like, if you just don't 605 00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:32,120 take me back for two days, which you've posted, I'm going to be 606 00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:34,320 like, oh, wow, She's just promoting herself. 607 00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:35,520 She's just putting herself out there. 608 00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,480 Like, I'm not going to be like, yeah, she's doing that because 609 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:40,280 she doesn't like me for real or she doesn't care about me. 610 00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,560 Like, so many people take shit personally. 611 00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:47,400 And that's where removing the personal aspect from things 612 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:49,520 really helps me see that. Like, oh wow. 613 00:33:49,990 --> 00:33:53,910 She's had a rough week and she's decompressing on her story by 614 00:33:53,910 --> 00:33:57,390 posting funny things or you know, I've said this before like 615 00:33:57,390 --> 00:34:01,590 if I get on your post and it's always about this person does 616 00:34:01,590 --> 00:34:06,110 this, my baby daddy does that, school supplies are so 617 00:34:06,110 --> 00:34:09,310 expensive, Fuck the government or whatever. 618 00:34:09,310 --> 00:34:12,150 I mean and it's just constant, like it's it's okay to vent. 619 00:34:12,750 --> 00:34:16,510 But if it's an everyday thing, baby, get a diary and do some 620 00:34:16,510 --> 00:34:19,270 shadow work, because I'm sick of being your. 621 00:34:19,780 --> 00:34:23,300 Mobile diary where I see every little thought that you have. 622 00:34:23,620 --> 00:34:27,380 Like I'll see something like my husband cheated on me and 623 00:34:27,380 --> 00:34:32,179 feeling disgusted bitch go seek therapy because at the end of 624 00:34:32,179 --> 00:34:34,460 the day they're together next week and it's just he made a 625 00:34:34,460 --> 00:34:36,100 mistake and they're going to counseling. 626 00:34:37,300 --> 00:34:40,739 I don't air out temporary feelings. 627 00:34:41,150 --> 00:34:43,989 Until I know that it is very permanent and this is how I 628 00:34:43,989 --> 00:34:45,630 feel, this is where I stand on it. 629 00:34:45,949 --> 00:34:49,350 I don't air out my temporary feelings and I think that has 630 00:34:49,350 --> 00:34:52,389 helped me decipher what's actually important long term is 631 00:34:52,389 --> 00:34:54,550 like okay. Yes, that upset me and it hurt 632 00:34:54,550 --> 00:34:57,390 my feelings. But also what I learned from the 633 00:34:57,390 --> 00:35:01,870 whole debacle over the summer is like those weren't really my 634 00:35:01,870 --> 00:35:04,790 friends, so I didn't lose anything and I gained. 635 00:35:05,140 --> 00:35:08,740 Everything gained so much wisdom, so much clarity on how 636 00:35:08,740 --> 00:35:13,100 far I've come, because the old me would have just taken people 637 00:35:14,100 --> 00:35:17,700 to the ringer and hung your ass to drop, you know what I mean? 638 00:35:17,700 --> 00:35:21,460 But instead, the new me is like, go live in your fantasy world. 639 00:35:21,500 --> 00:35:24,420 I love that. Wow, sell that story to people 640 00:35:24,420 --> 00:35:27,780 who will listen, because the only thing that you had going 641 00:35:27,780 --> 00:35:31,220 for you was that you were in my circle. 642 00:35:31,780 --> 00:35:35,210 And then when you take away me. You're just there. 643 00:35:35,210 --> 00:35:37,450 Like you'll have to go back to your own circle. 644 00:35:37,610 --> 00:35:39,610 You'll have to go back to your own life. 645 00:35:39,890 --> 00:35:42,290 Like, you could live in Fantasyland and have a good 646 00:35:42,290 --> 00:35:46,690 time, but it's not your reality. So, you know, trying to convince 647 00:35:46,690 --> 00:35:51,090 people to not like someone or to not do certain things, it's just 648 00:35:51,090 --> 00:35:54,850 a waste of your energy and your breath because nine times out of 649 00:35:54,850 --> 00:35:56,890 10 people are going to still do whatever they want. 650 00:35:57,330 --> 00:35:58,850 They're not going to think twice about it. 651 00:35:59,130 --> 00:36:02,250 And you're taking it personal. Like, well, I helped her through 652 00:36:02,250 --> 00:36:05,130 that breakup and now she went back to him, and I'm just, I 653 00:36:05,130 --> 00:36:06,930 feel like she neglects our friendship. 654 00:36:07,250 --> 00:36:10,370 Well then you need to evaluate how you're allowing certain 655 00:36:10,370 --> 00:36:12,850 people to make you feel unworthy. 656 00:36:13,130 --> 00:36:16,330 Because a lot of times we be breaking our own heart and it's 657 00:36:16,330 --> 00:36:17,810 no one else's fault but your own. 658 00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:25,120 And also, how dare people want to use a time when someone's in 659 00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:28,640 need and needed a friend or was going through something and then 660 00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:32,360 turn around and air out like that person's business, that 661 00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,280 person's dirty laundry. Like I have plenty of people 662 00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:40,040 that I have had fallouts with or whatever in life that I've never 663 00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,680 had to blast. You know how I was a good friend 664 00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:45,680 of them or whatever? And and from that situation over 665 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:50,260 the summer, people who had been rocking with us and also new 666 00:36:50,260 --> 00:36:53,460 people gained a whole different trust. 667 00:36:53,540 --> 00:36:59,540 And yeah, like trust in us because they saw how we actually 668 00:36:59,740 --> 00:37:03,100 navigate situations the exact same way that we're always 669 00:37:03,100 --> 00:37:05,740 talking. Like all that did for people was 670 00:37:05,740 --> 00:37:09,700 show consistency of, oh, you really do handle that shit 671 00:37:09,700 --> 00:37:13,180 exactly the way that you say you're going to and keep on 672 00:37:13,180 --> 00:37:16,500 keeping it pushing. We were so honest about like I'm 673 00:37:16,500 --> 00:37:19,300 pissing the fuck off. My I feel taken advantage of. 674 00:37:19,300 --> 00:37:22,020 Like my feelings are hurt that people would navigate this way 675 00:37:22,340 --> 00:37:25,300 and this is how I'm healing through it and how I'm pushing 676 00:37:25,300 --> 00:37:29,340 and that's what I always want us to be, is like so authentic 677 00:37:29,340 --> 00:37:33,660 about real shit happening. But a bitch isn't going to keep 678 00:37:33,660 --> 00:37:36,900 me down and. Another thing is like when you 679 00:37:36,900 --> 00:37:40,820 have pure intentions, you just really can't lose and there's 680 00:37:40,820 --> 00:37:44,220 nothing that anyone. Has ever gotten from me that I 681 00:37:44,220 --> 00:37:46,580 regret doing. Like if I gave you time and 682 00:37:46,580 --> 00:37:49,540 energy, you probably really needed it, and I hope that you 683 00:37:49,540 --> 00:37:52,220 enjoy it. But I'm revoking access to my 684 00:37:52,220 --> 00:37:58,620 energy, and I think the sweetest revenge is just success and 685 00:37:58,620 --> 00:38:02,700 moving on. Like they need you to stay in 686 00:38:02,700 --> 00:38:06,300 that time warp of bullshit because it keeps them relevant. 687 00:38:06,300 --> 00:38:08,180 But the moment that you revoke your. 688 00:38:08,610 --> 00:38:11,810 Access to you. And you revoke that power that 689 00:38:11,810 --> 00:38:14,090 they're having over you, over your thoughts, over your 690 00:38:14,090 --> 00:38:19,330 happiness, over your finances, whatever you go next level, you 691 00:38:19,330 --> 00:38:21,650 go somewhere that you didn't plan on going. 692 00:38:22,090 --> 00:38:25,290 And I feel like right now that spirit is really showing us 693 00:38:25,530 --> 00:38:27,890 who's there for us. Because we have Neptune and 694 00:38:27,890 --> 00:38:32,170 Retrograde and Pisces and Saturn and Retrograde and Pisces and 695 00:38:32,170 --> 00:38:34,700 it's like. There was so much focus on the 696 00:38:34,700 --> 00:38:37,180 collective, like, we've got to keep you safe and you've got to 697 00:38:37,180 --> 00:38:38,900 do this and protect your neighbor. 698 00:38:38,900 --> 00:38:43,620 And now the collective focus is more towards the illusions that 699 00:38:43,620 --> 00:38:47,420 you allow in your life that actually set you up for failure. 700 00:38:47,700 --> 00:38:51,460 Like you can't go out every weekend and then on Monday be 701 00:38:51,460 --> 00:38:54,620 depressed because you're broke. OK, we'll save some of your 702 00:38:54,620 --> 00:38:57,740 money or OK, stop buying things for people. 703 00:38:58,340 --> 00:39:02,360 I see so many people though. Going above and beyond and I 704 00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:05,360 understand you want to give your kid a life you didn't have, but 705 00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:09,480 spending $500.00 on a balloon Garland and this on that, and 706 00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:12,560 then you know all these things is not showing your child love, 707 00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,240 it's displaying your love for the fucking Internet. 708 00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:19,240 And you need to check yourself. Because I promise you, your 4 709 00:39:19,240 --> 00:39:22,880 year old would have been so much happier without a photo wall, 710 00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:26,480 without a balloon Garland, if you were just there in a tenant, 711 00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:29,840 or if you just took them on a little small family intimate. 712 00:39:30,210 --> 00:39:33,890 Vacation. You know, I think that what's 713 00:39:33,890 --> 00:39:38,970 wrong is around 2001 we became a consumerist. 714 00:39:39,370 --> 00:39:41,170 Like that's when Black Friday was created. 715 00:39:41,170 --> 00:39:45,210 Right after 911, they shifted your focus towards, Oh my God, 716 00:39:45,210 --> 00:39:47,650 if you don't have XYZ, you can't be happy. 717 00:39:47,650 --> 00:39:49,370 You need the nice car, You need this. 718 00:39:49,730 --> 00:39:53,170 And they made people fill without. 719 00:39:53,490 --> 00:39:57,210 And I've been on Zillow just looking at the housing market 720 00:39:57,210 --> 00:40:00,840 and the trends. And literally all from like 2001 721 00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,720 to like 2015. Houses barely changed. 722 00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:08,080 Like maybe 1005 thousand, less than 10,000 total over the 723 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:12,880 course of 15 years. But yet in the last eight years 724 00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:18,880 shit has went $100,000 difference, $200,000 difference. 725 00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:22,640 Like they're setting you up for failure by selling you a dream 726 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:26,280 that doesn't exist. Nobody should go pay $80,000 for 727 00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:28,080 a job. I'm sorry for a degree. 728 00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:32,800 To get a job that pays 60,000. Like they sell us these dreams. 729 00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,160 Like, Oh well, if you don't go all out for your kids first 730 00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:38,760 birthday, you don't love them. If you don't go into debt for 731 00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:42,040 your child, you don't love them. Like my little cousin got a 732 00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:47,600 Volvo SUV for his first car. Like, no, he needs a car with a 733 00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:49,800 mirror hanging off so he knows how to respect this 734 00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:51,560 motherfucker. But instead, they went and 735 00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:55,240 bought him like a $45,000 SUV. And they're like, he paid half 736 00:40:55,240 --> 00:40:57,140 of it. Yeah, because he never had to 737 00:40:57,140 --> 00:40:59,220 pay for his phone or anything else. 738 00:40:59,420 --> 00:41:02,460 So of course he was able to save all of this money up, You know 739 00:41:02,460 --> 00:41:04,300 what I mean? Then he should have bought a car 740 00:41:04,300 --> 00:41:08,100 he could pay for. And that's what the system needs 741 00:41:08,100 --> 00:41:11,620 people doing, feeling like they're justifying their love 742 00:41:11,620 --> 00:41:14,620 based on what they spend, based on how they dress. 743 00:41:14,620 --> 00:41:18,100 And my favorite thing is about, like, the designer stuff like 744 00:41:18,420 --> 00:41:20,940 Adam Sandler and people like, they're rich as hell. 745 00:41:20,940 --> 00:41:23,100 And you see them walking around in basketball shorts and 746 00:41:23,100 --> 00:41:24,700 T-shirts that they get at Walmart. 747 00:41:25,140 --> 00:41:28,020 But yet the person who really doesn't have the money is going 748 00:41:28,020 --> 00:41:33,180 to get the BBL surgery, the Louie bag, the Jimmy Choo shoes. 749 00:41:33,220 --> 00:41:37,340 And like, you're only trying to sell something on the outside 750 00:41:37,340 --> 00:41:39,460 because you're unhappy on the inside. 751 00:41:39,780 --> 00:41:43,380 Because most of the time, like, I can go to Walmart and find a 752 00:41:43,380 --> 00:41:46,540 bomb outfit and and rock it like it is designer. 753 00:41:46,740 --> 00:41:48,740 And people will be like, where'd you get those pants? 754 00:41:48,940 --> 00:41:51,260 Walmart. And they're shocked when I say 755 00:41:51,260 --> 00:41:55,990 that because the energy behind it makes it look successful. 756 00:41:56,270 --> 00:42:00,310 And I feel like people need to understand what you're agreeing 757 00:42:00,310 --> 00:42:03,150 to in this reality because we signed up for it. 758 00:42:03,270 --> 00:42:05,990 We signed up to be here. And if you're signed up for the 759 00:42:05,990 --> 00:42:09,030 struggle bus, that's because you booked A1 way ticket on the 760 00:42:09,030 --> 00:42:11,790 struggle bus. Like I had a round trip baby I I 761 00:42:11,790 --> 00:42:13,750 took a little bit of the struggle bus and now we've 762 00:42:13,750 --> 00:42:16,110 brought it back around. I'm like, I would rather walk 763 00:42:16,700 --> 00:42:19,980 than be in a car I can't afford, or I would rather walk than be 764 00:42:19,980 --> 00:42:21,780 in a relationship that doesn't make me happy. 765 00:42:21,860 --> 00:42:24,020 You know, like people want to ride the struggle bus because 766 00:42:24,020 --> 00:42:26,060 everyone's on it. That's where your family's at, 767 00:42:26,060 --> 00:42:30,460 your friends, whoever. But it does not make you happy 768 00:42:30,460 --> 00:42:32,740 to try to live up to a standard that doesn't fit you. 769 00:42:34,670 --> 00:42:39,190 Yeah, I mean, and I've spent too long of my life in younger years 770 00:42:39,430 --> 00:42:42,950 trying to fit into other people's expectations of things. 771 00:42:42,950 --> 00:42:45,990 I mean, I sent you pictures all the time where I'm like five 772 00:42:45,990 --> 00:42:47,590 years ago. Who the fuck is this? 773 00:42:47,910 --> 00:42:52,270 And a huge reason being that I was always trying to fit inside 774 00:42:52,310 --> 00:42:54,870 of. Other people's molds for things 775 00:42:54,870 --> 00:42:59,470 or I know that I didn't color my hair for so many years because 776 00:42:59,510 --> 00:43:03,070 and I would openly say I don't want people to look at me when I 777 00:43:03,070 --> 00:43:06,030 walk into a room. I just want to blend in and 778 00:43:06,030 --> 00:43:08,510 people to not know that I'm there and that's not my 779 00:43:08,510 --> 00:43:10,510 personality. That's not like once I get 780 00:43:10,510 --> 00:43:12,710 talking to people and I'm comfortable, that's not at all 781 00:43:12,710 --> 00:43:15,590 how I am. But I used to be so nervous 782 00:43:15,590 --> 00:43:20,830 about people's expectations and people's like judgments of what 783 00:43:20,830 --> 00:43:25,190 I did and who I was and. It reflects into how you treat 784 00:43:25,230 --> 00:43:28,150 other people too. If you're somebody who you don't 785 00:43:28,150 --> 00:43:32,390 want to be noticed and you don't want to stand out, you are not 786 00:43:32,390 --> 00:43:35,070 going to want to hang out with people that are confident and 787 00:43:35,070 --> 00:43:40,070 going to do that because that will A, it'll trigger you, or B, 788 00:43:40,150 --> 00:43:45,620 it will make you feel like eyes are on you when they're not At 789 00:43:45,620 --> 00:43:48,380 the same time, like birds of a feather flock together. 790 00:43:48,380 --> 00:43:51,300 And if you're used to being around people who have a certain 791 00:43:51,300 --> 00:43:55,740 mindset, a certain energetic blueprint, like they're emitting 792 00:43:55,740 --> 00:43:59,780 fear or they're emitting lack or jealousy or, you know, I 793 00:43:59,780 --> 00:44:01,940 definitely grew up in a household that was very like, 794 00:44:02,420 --> 00:44:05,540 this is mine, this is mine, this is mine, don't touch it, It's 795 00:44:05,540 --> 00:44:08,580 mine, you know? And I noticed that even in, 796 00:44:08,580 --> 00:44:13,050 like, my adult years when I had roommates, they had no sense of 797 00:44:13,050 --> 00:44:14,970 that. Like, there's one Red Bull in 798 00:44:14,970 --> 00:44:18,010 the fridge and my roommate would drink it and leave a note. 799 00:44:18,010 --> 00:44:21,090 I drank your Red Bull like, hello? 800 00:44:21,130 --> 00:44:23,730 Like, what? But that's because he grew up in 801 00:44:23,730 --> 00:44:26,810 a household that was on a silver platter. 802 00:44:26,810 --> 00:44:29,730 You know what I mean? Like, his mom literally treats 803 00:44:29,730 --> 00:44:32,090 Easter like it's fucking Christmas, and he gets a whole 804 00:44:32,090 --> 00:44:34,850 new wardrobe every Easter. And I'm talking like 28 years 805 00:44:34,850 --> 00:44:37,050 old. But it's like people don't 806 00:44:37,050 --> 00:44:39,690 understand what they've never been exposed to. 807 00:44:40,210 --> 00:44:44,900 And I and no longer limiting my reality based on fear. 808 00:44:45,100 --> 00:44:50,420 The moment that I think my money, think my energy, I think 809 00:44:50,420 --> 00:44:53,180 my body constantly for everything it does for me. 810 00:44:53,500 --> 00:44:56,980 Because we spend so much time looking outside of ourselves 811 00:44:57,260 --> 00:44:59,100 that we don't even know what we really want. 812 00:44:59,140 --> 00:45:01,020 We don't even know who we really are. 813 00:45:01,220 --> 00:45:03,340 We're told what we want. We're told what's okay. 814 00:45:03,340 --> 00:45:06,180 We're told what's acceptable. And I know that like, three 815 00:45:06,180 --> 00:45:09,900 years ago when I first started getting, like, visible tattoos, 816 00:45:10,340 --> 00:45:12,780 my parents were, like, beside themselves. 817 00:45:13,060 --> 00:45:17,740 And then now my mom's like, I love your tattoos Or, you know, 818 00:45:17,740 --> 00:45:20,780 now she, like, recognizes that there's a difference. 819 00:45:20,780 --> 00:45:23,540 There's people who have really good quality tattoos and there's 820 00:45:23,540 --> 00:45:27,180 people who just have tattoos and coverage that looks not that 821 00:45:27,180 --> 00:45:29,900 great. And so I think that my family 822 00:45:30,300 --> 00:45:33,220 decided that they were either going to have to accept me for 823 00:45:33,220 --> 00:45:36,500 who I was becoming or they were going to take the back seat and 824 00:45:36,500 --> 00:45:39,830 then possibly be left on the side of the road because I'm not 825 00:45:39,830 --> 00:45:42,350 driving the car that I was given. 826 00:45:42,350 --> 00:45:44,350 You know what I mean? Like, I'm driving the car that I 827 00:45:44,350 --> 00:45:48,710 provide, that I take control of. And I just feel like so many 828 00:45:48,710 --> 00:45:51,550 people are in the back seat of their own life based on their 829 00:45:51,550 --> 00:45:54,670 opinions of their family. And I promise you, if your 830 00:45:54,670 --> 00:45:59,190 family is not encouraging you to do something, it's because your 831 00:45:59,990 --> 00:46:04,730 energy, your spirit, your goals, irritates a part of them that 832 00:46:04,730 --> 00:46:08,450 feels left behind, that feels regret, that feels like they 833 00:46:08,450 --> 00:46:12,090 didn't do what they wanted. So they sure as hell don't want 834 00:46:12,090 --> 00:46:13,810 you to do it. And I've told people this 835 00:46:13,810 --> 00:46:16,530 before, I don't know if I've ever said this on the podcast, 836 00:46:16,850 --> 00:46:20,370 but there are ancestors in your lineage that do not want to see 837 00:46:20,370 --> 00:46:23,410 you break that generational curse because in their mind, 838 00:46:23,410 --> 00:46:25,290 they're like, no, I'm going to come back and I'm going to do 839 00:46:25,290 --> 00:46:26,690 it. I'm going to come back and do 840 00:46:26,690 --> 00:46:29,250 it. And so sometimes like we've got 841 00:46:29,250 --> 00:46:33,330 to really honor the ancestors because a lot of them, they 842 00:46:33,330 --> 00:46:35,730 don't like you. They don't, they don't like that 843 00:46:35,730 --> 00:46:38,250 you're going to be the one to breakthrough. 844 00:46:38,330 --> 00:46:43,370 Like just don't think that because your family is this way 845 00:46:43,650 --> 00:46:45,090 that your ancestors were that way. 846 00:46:45,090 --> 00:46:47,050 Like, we are all very different people. 847 00:46:47,050 --> 00:46:50,650 And I feel like learning more about our lineage really helps 848 00:46:50,650 --> 00:46:53,410 decode why our parents are the way they are. 849 00:46:53,690 --> 00:46:56,410 And we have to keep in mind, depending on when you were born, 850 00:46:56,770 --> 00:46:59,930 your parents were raised by people who were growing up in 851 00:46:59,930 --> 00:47:04,050 the Great Depression, that were raised by people that literally 852 00:47:04,690 --> 00:47:07,890 had no home, had nothing, you know, worked their ass off and 853 00:47:07,890 --> 00:47:12,290 lost everything. And the fact that this has been 854 00:47:12,290 --> 00:47:17,690 allowed to spiral, like over the course of history, it just shows 855 00:47:17,690 --> 00:47:21,490 that people have always put the power in other people's hands. 856 00:47:22,710 --> 00:47:27,310 I know that something that was huge for my mom's family, from 857 00:47:27,350 --> 00:47:32,350 her side of the family, has been the codependence on a husband 858 00:47:32,670 --> 00:47:36,230 and having all of these kids. And that's what you do with your 859 00:47:36,230 --> 00:47:39,830 life and what you make your purpose and you do everything 860 00:47:39,830 --> 00:47:43,590 that it takes for a man. And you know, a lot of them end 861 00:47:43,590 --> 00:47:47,430 up raising kids by themselves because they poured everything 862 00:47:47,430 --> 00:47:49,670 into this person to the point of like. 863 00:47:50,170 --> 00:47:53,210 You know, not necessarily checking to see if it's a good 864 00:47:53,210 --> 00:47:55,930 person or whatever, but just I'm supposed to have a family and 865 00:47:55,930 --> 00:47:57,850 I'm supposed to have kids and that's what I'm supposed to do. 866 00:47:57,850 --> 00:48:00,250 And so that's all that I'm going to do. 867 00:48:00,530 --> 00:48:03,810 And then having to find independence and whatnot later 868 00:48:03,810 --> 00:48:06,530 in life. And that's something that I 869 00:48:06,530 --> 00:48:08,770 never wanted. Like I wanted to be a parent, 870 00:48:08,770 --> 00:48:14,730 but I never wanted to be underneath of somebody else and 871 00:48:14,730 --> 00:48:18,130 have to follow, like their rules and guidelines and expectations. 872 00:48:18,130 --> 00:48:22,480 And that is. So it's so easy to say like this 873 00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:26,560 isn't what I want to do and then have it, you know, you get in 874 00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:29,920 relationships and what not and having to work on healing 875 00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:32,320 through all of that because that's passed down 876 00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:34,780 generationally. Exactly. 877 00:48:34,780 --> 00:48:39,460 And a lot of women have very little drive because they 878 00:48:39,460 --> 00:48:42,700 watched their mom or their grandmother do the certain 879 00:48:42,700 --> 00:48:45,780 things. And honestly, as a man, I would 880 00:48:45,780 --> 00:48:47,580 love. I'm not a man, but if I was a 881 00:48:47,580 --> 00:48:51,060 man, I would love to have a partner who is a go getter or 882 00:48:51,060 --> 00:48:55,120 wants to bring home the bread. You know, like the problem with 883 00:48:55,120 --> 00:48:58,800 society is that the man has been so far removed from what 884 00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:01,240 actually goes on behind the scenes in the home. 885 00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:05,240 And now we've got women in the workforce who still have to come 886 00:49:05,240 --> 00:49:08,000 home and run a household. And that's just not fair. 887 00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:11,960 That's like, that's the standard when women were at home all day 888 00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:16,240 that they did those things. But the fact that so many people 889 00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:22,120 argue over basic chores and basic things like laundry and, 890 00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:26,500 you know, whatever it is really makes me chuckle. 891 00:49:26,500 --> 00:49:30,860 Because the only added thing that men really get is like yard 892 00:49:30,860 --> 00:49:33,180 work. Like that gets added in, but 893 00:49:33,180 --> 00:49:34,660 like, that's not a yearround thing. 894 00:49:34,780 --> 00:49:37,460 Like, laundry doesn't stop because it's winter, you know 895 00:49:37,460 --> 00:49:38,900 what I mean? Like, house cleaning doesn't 896 00:49:38,900 --> 00:49:42,060 stop because it's winter. And that's why I encourage 897 00:49:42,100 --> 00:49:46,660 everyone to really evaluate the, like, problem areas in your 898 00:49:46,660 --> 00:49:48,700 relationship. And like, if it's something that 899 00:49:48,700 --> 00:49:52,560 could be outsourced and fixed, the money is worth it. 900 00:49:52,720 --> 00:49:57,080 It's well spent to do that. And I know that back whenever I 901 00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,720 mentioned having a house cleaner to Jim and I before, she was 902 00:49:59,720 --> 00:50:01,920 like, Oh no, never. Now she has a house cleaner. 903 00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:05,960 Y'all because it's the facts. Like if you can delegate that to 904 00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:10,160 someone else, why not? Like if you can do it and you 905 00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:13,960 make it a part of your life, I promise you your quality of life 906 00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:16,360 improves. Because then instead of working 907 00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:18,560 all week and knowing that Saturday and Sunday you've got 908 00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:22,220 to do laundry and XYZA, lot of it's already done. 909 00:50:22,420 --> 00:50:26,260 I mean, my house cleaning person does not clean my laundry, but 910 00:50:26,260 --> 00:50:29,140 like all the other things, the bathrooms and things I don't 911 00:50:29,140 --> 00:50:32,540 want to do, that's cool. Yes, I'm a sweeper run the 912 00:50:32,540 --> 00:50:35,300 vacuum cleaner, I obviously do the dishes, things like that. 913 00:50:35,300 --> 00:50:39,580 But it's like when you take away 75% of the load and you can 914 00:50:39,580 --> 00:50:43,180 delegate that to someone else, your relationships will improve. 915 00:50:43,180 --> 00:50:47,310 Rather than being mad at your husband for not doing it, you 916 00:50:47,310 --> 00:50:50,190 remove the argument, you remove the tension and you just 917 00:50:50,190 --> 00:50:53,990 delegate it to someone who does that and they do it way better. 918 00:50:53,990 --> 00:50:57,590 It's like what someone who like doesn't want to do something 919 00:50:58,070 --> 00:51:00,310 might take them six hours, and someone who does it for a 920 00:51:00,310 --> 00:51:02,830 living, it takes them two hours to do the same thing. 921 00:51:03,510 --> 00:51:06,030 Time is money, baby, and you're not getting more time. 922 00:51:06,670 --> 00:51:08,070 You can always make more money though. 923 00:51:10,230 --> 00:51:14,350 Yeah, I recently have discovered that my mental health really 924 00:51:14,350 --> 00:51:18,030 struggles if I'm in clutter or things are dirty. 925 00:51:18,430 --> 00:51:24,310 But I also am not going to keep up on the cleaning and being 926 00:51:24,310 --> 00:51:27,190 able to do things. And just sitting here, it causes 927 00:51:27,190 --> 00:51:30,110 resentment if you know that, like you're going to be the one 928 00:51:30,110 --> 00:51:33,150 who's going to be cleaning it and you also don't want to be 929 00:51:33,150 --> 00:51:35,750 the one who's going to be cleaning it and you know. 930 00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,240 There's always going to be arguments about, like chores and 931 00:51:39,240 --> 00:51:41,320 delegating things, right? Like, I'm sure that there are 932 00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:44,480 things that like, my husband wishes that I was able to help 933 00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:46,520 him out with and like maintenance stuff that I would 934 00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:49,040 notice Or you know what? Not. 935 00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:51,760 And they're going to be things around the house that like. 936 00:51:52,540 --> 00:51:55,300 I wish that I could have help with too. 937 00:51:55,580 --> 00:51:59,420 And so I'm going to expect that if you need mechanical help with 938 00:51:59,420 --> 00:52:02,020 something, you're not going to be sitting here being resentful 939 00:52:02,020 --> 00:52:04,140 towards me because I don't want to fucking do that. 940 00:52:04,460 --> 00:52:07,260 And I'm going to do the end that you would go out and find 941 00:52:07,260 --> 00:52:10,020 yourself help. And I'm going to do that with 942 00:52:10,060 --> 00:52:11,180 the house stuff. I don't. 943 00:52:11,300 --> 00:52:15,500 I actually don't care enough to sit here and care that you don't 944 00:52:15,500 --> 00:52:18,180 want to do dishes or you know that you don't want to deep 945 00:52:18,180 --> 00:52:20,100 clean the kitchen. I will just have somebody come 946 00:52:20,100 --> 00:52:22,460 in and I'll give them a fucking reading and have them. 947 00:52:23,620 --> 00:52:30,380 Like there's and people have the pettiest fucking arguments and I 948 00:52:30,380 --> 00:52:34,620 feel that people can have such a solid relationship about things. 949 00:52:34,620 --> 00:52:38,580 And literally you have, so you just have nothing else to 950 00:52:38,580 --> 00:52:40,460 discuss in life. So you're just going to argue 951 00:52:40,460 --> 00:52:43,500 over household chores. Like that is the last thing that 952 00:52:43,500 --> 00:52:49,950 I would bring to. OKI guess when it comes to me, I 953 00:52:49,990 --> 00:52:55,270 also still very much have this like gender roles thing inside 954 00:52:55,270 --> 00:52:57,190 of my mind. Like there are certain things 955 00:52:57,190 --> 00:53:01,590 that like my husband, as the man in our relationship is going to 956 00:53:01,590 --> 00:53:03,870 handle. And there are other things that 957 00:53:03,870 --> 00:53:07,950 like as the like woman in our relationship, I feel is like 958 00:53:08,190 --> 00:53:12,150 what I'm going to handle. And we can meet in the middle 959 00:53:12,150 --> 00:53:17,460 sometimes on those things, but. I as as a person, want to make 960 00:53:17,660 --> 00:53:23,100 and want to feel like I am making things nice for my 961 00:53:23,100 --> 00:53:27,660 husband and that, you know, he works all these long hours and 962 00:53:27,660 --> 00:53:30,500 now late at night and he's up like barbecuing and stuff. 963 00:53:30,740 --> 00:53:34,100 I want when he comes home, for the house to be picked up, for 964 00:53:34,100 --> 00:53:36,420 him to have laundry in his closet ready to go. 965 00:53:36,420 --> 00:53:39,420 And sure, I had to go and work at an office and I had to have 966 00:53:39,420 --> 00:53:41,500 the kid all day. But that's not. 967 00:53:42,180 --> 00:53:43,860 You know, he's busting his ass too. 968 00:53:43,860 --> 00:53:46,940 So where is like our our equal in the middle. 969 00:53:46,940 --> 00:53:50,980 And that's my love language, I guess is like, I want you to 970 00:53:50,980 --> 00:53:54,060 come home and feel safe in your space and feel like you are 971 00:53:54,060 --> 00:53:56,340 comfortable. And his love languages. 972 00:53:56,380 --> 00:53:58,940 I was out and I was thinking about you while I was busy 973 00:53:58,940 --> 00:54:00,540 today. So I picked this up for you on 974 00:54:00,540 --> 00:54:02,580 my way home. I grabbed you flowers or I 975 00:54:02,580 --> 00:54:04,540 grabbed you a coffee for the morning so you don't have to 976 00:54:04,540 --> 00:54:06,460 worry about it or, you know, whatever. 977 00:54:07,300 --> 00:54:12,060 I think we as humans have to figure out what works for you 978 00:54:12,060 --> 00:54:16,060 inside your own home rather than looking to other people and 979 00:54:16,060 --> 00:54:18,380 fantasizing about how they operate. 980 00:54:18,660 --> 00:54:21,620 Because a lot of those people that have these fancy ass houses 981 00:54:21,900 --> 00:54:26,660 and live in these like just luxurious neighborhoods, fucking 982 00:54:26,660 --> 00:54:32,620 hate it because they're in debt. They have a 200, three, $100,000 983 00:54:32,620 --> 00:54:36,770 mortgage over their head. And the thing about that is you 984 00:54:36,770 --> 00:54:39,530 need to buy within your means, whatever it is, whether it's a 985 00:54:39,530 --> 00:54:41,210 car, whether it's a home, whether it's this. 986 00:54:41,210 --> 00:54:43,970 Because when you step out of your means and you start trying 987 00:54:43,970 --> 00:54:48,010 to be something you're not, you put pressure on your family to 988 00:54:48,010 --> 00:54:51,130 live up to some certain persona. So okay, great, you have this 989 00:54:51,130 --> 00:54:54,330 wonderful house, but now you never get to go on a vacation or 990 00:54:54,330 --> 00:54:57,810 your son can't play football because it's $800 to sign up and 991 00:54:57,810 --> 00:55:02,130 you don't have that ready to go. Or you have this big fancy house 992 00:55:02,130 --> 00:55:06,130 that has two A/C units and they both go out and it's $12,000 to 993 00:55:06,130 --> 00:55:08,610 replace. You know, it's like people think 994 00:55:08,610 --> 00:55:13,090 that material things will make them happy, but you have to 995 00:55:13,130 --> 00:55:17,250 figure out what your system is. And I personally love when 996 00:55:17,250 --> 00:55:18,850 people are just like, you know what? 997 00:55:19,370 --> 00:55:22,010 That's not for me. And they do something different. 998 00:55:22,390 --> 00:55:25,350 I think there are gender roles that are very important, but at 999 00:55:25,350 --> 00:55:28,790 the same time, like let people expand beyond your mental 1000 00:55:28,790 --> 00:55:32,310 construct for them, because just because that's what is expected 1001 00:55:32,590 --> 00:55:34,070 doesn't mean that that's reality. 1002 00:55:34,070 --> 00:55:37,630 Like, I love that Bunny and them drop all their laundry off and 1003 00:55:37,630 --> 00:55:39,830 pick it up, but that's the next goal for me. 1004 00:55:39,830 --> 00:55:43,550 The next goal for me is picking up all my tshirts and that nice 1005 00:55:43,550 --> 00:55:46,510 little plastic wrap folded perfectly and they just go into 1006 00:55:46,510 --> 00:55:49,430 the drawer. That's goals to me because if 1007 00:55:49,430 --> 00:55:52,630 I've already elevated past like, certain levels, but that's the 1008 00:55:52,630 --> 00:55:55,830 next level. I don't want to do all kinds of 1009 00:55:55,830 --> 00:55:57,230 laundry all the time. You know what I mean? 1010 00:55:57,230 --> 00:56:00,430 And like, there's levels to certain things, and when your 1011 00:56:00,430 --> 00:56:04,270 mental health is being affected, you should really pour into 1012 00:56:04,390 --> 00:56:08,430 figuring out a solution rather than pointing the blame or 1013 00:56:08,430 --> 00:56:10,310 pointing fingers at someone else. 1014 00:56:11,380 --> 00:56:13,420 I agree. And you were also talking about, 1015 00:56:13,420 --> 00:56:17,300 you know, not comparing your relationship and and you know 1016 00:56:17,300 --> 00:56:19,980 what you're wanting in a relationship or what not to what 1017 00:56:19,980 --> 00:56:24,140 you're seeing around you. And I think that people will so 1018 00:56:24,140 --> 00:56:27,460 often fantasize about like other people or other relationship 1019 00:56:27,460 --> 00:56:32,540 dynamics or something that they see and not appreciate the life 1020 00:56:32,540 --> 00:56:35,900 that they have because oh, I, you know, I wish that my man 1021 00:56:35,900 --> 00:56:38,540 doted on me like that or did this will. 1022 00:56:39,200 --> 00:56:42,240 You can fantasize about that, but if you were inside of that, 1023 00:56:42,240 --> 00:56:45,040 people believe their whole fucking lives, their whole 1024 00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:48,120 relationships, their whole everything, because they see 1025 00:56:48,120 --> 00:56:50,640 something on the Internet and they're like, I should be 1026 00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:54,640 looking for that. You may find that you know you, 1027 00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:58,320 you don't like that somebody is waiting on you and catering to 1028 00:56:58,320 --> 00:57:00,840 you all the time because they don't have any kind of backbone 1029 00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:04,400 and they're a fucking jellyfish and they're a yes man and you 1030 00:57:04,400 --> 00:57:08,320 can't. They're, you know, just yes, 1031 00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:12,330 man, I always call it. Like the puppy dog effect where 1032 00:57:12,330 --> 00:57:15,330 like you get, we've all done it. Where you get with the bad boy 1033 00:57:15,330 --> 00:57:17,650 and you're like, this is what I'm wanting, like, yeah, biker 1034 00:57:17,650 --> 00:57:19,690 daddy. And then you guys like start 1035 00:57:19,690 --> 00:57:21,890 hanging out and whatever and all of a sudden he's a spineless 1036 00:57:21,890 --> 00:57:24,970 fucking jellyfish and he'll never talk back to you and he'll 1037 00:57:24,970 --> 00:57:27,570 never stick up for himself and you know, whatever. 1038 00:57:27,770 --> 00:57:33,730 And that ends up not being cute. Or you can, you know, want. 1039 00:57:34,130 --> 00:57:37,090 This over here that looks aesthetically this way, but then 1040 00:57:37,090 --> 00:57:39,690 you don't like the way that that person treats people. 1041 00:57:39,690 --> 00:57:42,170 You don't like the way that they navigate behind the scenes. 1042 00:57:42,170 --> 00:57:43,610 They don't have a good moral compass. 1043 00:57:43,610 --> 00:57:46,370 They have everything that they have because they cheat and lie 1044 00:57:46,370 --> 00:57:51,730 and steal to get it. So it's always to me, it's been 1045 00:57:51,770 --> 00:57:57,610 a huge priority like in my marriage and and in my life, to 1046 00:57:57,970 --> 00:58:02,420 try and assess realistically. Are the things that like I'm not 1047 00:58:02,420 --> 00:58:04,740 happy with or that I would want to change? 1048 00:58:04,740 --> 00:58:09,060 Are they just because I'm bored and I'm used to how things are 1049 00:58:09,060 --> 00:58:12,140 and I want to switch things up? Or is it because there's 1050 00:58:12,140 --> 00:58:15,740 genuinely something in my life that needs to change and you 1051 00:58:15,740 --> 00:58:21,380 know, whatever, and having those real soul deep conversations 1052 00:58:21,380 --> 00:58:26,040 with yourself for people who? Feel that they make like manic 1053 00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:28,200 life choices. I used to feel like all my life 1054 00:58:28,200 --> 00:58:31,760 choices were manic choices. It would only make me happy 1055 00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:33,960 temporarily. And it's because you can get 1056 00:58:33,960 --> 00:58:40,080 used to living your life off of endorphins and looking for like 1057 00:58:40,120 --> 00:58:42,240 an immediate satisfaction to something. 1058 00:58:42,240 --> 00:58:45,240 So I feel overwhelmed and I feel pissed off by this. 1059 00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:47,240 I'm going to leave and I'm never going to come back to this 1060 00:58:47,240 --> 00:58:50,680 relationship again. And then you can regret that 1061 00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:53,480 when you're looking for things you know for a grass is greener 1062 00:58:53,480 --> 00:58:56,880 situation. And another thing about that is 1063 00:58:56,880 --> 00:59:00,040 a lot of people don't know what they want and then they're upset 1064 00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:02,880 that their partner or whoever is not providing that. 1065 00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:07,320 And I think that communication is so important to me and the 1066 00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:10,680 first time someone's words and actions don't match, it's very 1067 00:59:10,680 --> 00:59:14,420 easily like identifiable. To be like, you know what, 1068 00:59:14,420 --> 00:59:16,060 that's not gonna work for me long term. 1069 00:59:16,340 --> 00:59:19,060 Like instead of like playing the game, I'm like, you know what, 1070 00:59:19,060 --> 00:59:20,220 that's just not gonna work for me. 1071 00:59:20,220 --> 00:59:23,500 I'm not gonna get attached or put my feelings into something 1072 00:59:23,500 --> 00:59:27,420 when I know down the road this will be an issue. 1073 00:59:27,780 --> 00:59:31,240 And I feel like you have to hold yourself accountable for what 1074 00:59:31,240 --> 00:59:35,160 you attract because you're only attracting what you're allowing 1075 00:59:35,160 --> 00:59:38,040 into your life. And another thing is like set 1076 00:59:38,040 --> 00:59:42,520 standards and boundaries and stick to them because we teach 1077 00:59:42,520 --> 00:59:45,200 people how to treat us. So if you let something slide 1078 00:59:45,200 --> 00:59:49,040 because you're like, Oh no, I'm 38 and I need to have a baby and 1079 00:59:49,040 --> 00:59:51,360 I need to get married because that's what society says. 1080 00:59:51,720 --> 00:59:53,520 And then you look up and you're 43. 1081 00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:58,450 You are going to hate yourself for settling because of a 1082 00:59:58,450 --> 01:00:01,610 societal standard, because it didn't make you happy, It didn't 1083 01:00:01,610 --> 01:00:03,890 fix your problems. Now you're locked into some 1084 01:00:03,890 --> 01:00:06,930 crazy mortgage. You've got a kid and now you're 1085 01:00:06,930 --> 01:00:10,010 stuck. Now you feel even immobile. 1086 01:00:10,290 --> 01:00:13,810 And I feel like I read something the other day and it said. 1087 01:00:14,300 --> 01:00:19,220 Normalize enjoying your 30s, with or without children, like, 1088 01:00:19,220 --> 01:00:21,340 regardless, like with or without children. 1089 01:00:21,340 --> 01:00:25,220 Like, enjoy what you have before you receive what's coming. 1090 01:00:25,460 --> 01:00:28,540 Because so many people want to close a chapter that they're 1091 01:00:28,540 --> 01:00:32,300 meant to bask in or that they're meant to enjoy so that they can 1092 01:00:32,300 --> 01:00:34,980 have that next chapter. And then when you get to that 1093 01:00:34,980 --> 01:00:37,260 next chapter, you're going to look back and be like, I don't 1094 01:00:37,260 --> 01:00:39,540 have time for myself. I can't take naps. 1095 01:00:39,540 --> 01:00:42,660 I can't wash my ass anymore because I'm so busy with this, 1096 01:00:42,900 --> 01:00:45,950 you know? It's like be accountable and 1097 01:00:45,950 --> 01:00:51,550 understand that peace and quiet will disguise itself as boredom, 1098 01:00:51,790 --> 01:00:54,070 or that the passion or fire is lost. 1099 01:00:54,350 --> 01:00:57,390 But when you're used to arguing and screaming and fighting and 1100 01:00:57,390 --> 01:01:00,870 all those things, peace and quiet feels boring and it takes 1101 01:01:00,870 --> 01:01:03,790 you a while to adjust. But it doesn't mean that there's 1102 01:01:03,790 --> 01:01:06,510 something better out there. It just means that you need to 1103 01:01:06,510 --> 01:01:10,030 set with the silence because the universe is trying to get 1104 01:01:10,030 --> 01:01:13,510 through to you with something. So we're going to start ending 1105 01:01:13,510 --> 01:01:15,590 every episode with a My human design card. 1106 01:01:15,590 --> 01:01:18,150 So I'm going to let Jim and I pull that for you all. 1107 01:01:18,990 --> 01:01:21,190 And I've been sitting here shuffling while we've been 1108 01:01:21,190 --> 01:01:23,750 talking so that we can incorporate, you know, the 1109 01:01:23,750 --> 01:01:26,310 energy of our conversation into the cards. 1110 01:01:26,510 --> 01:01:31,270 And we got card 14 for possibilities. 1111 01:01:31,990 --> 01:01:38,830 It's an arcade game. Card 14. 1112 01:01:39,390 --> 01:01:43,160 The sign is Scorpio. This is fitting. 1113 01:01:43,440 --> 01:01:47,440 Your gift is individualism and your shadow is compromise. 1114 01:01:48,400 --> 01:01:52,200 The gift of individualism to embrace your unique code of 1115 01:01:52,200 --> 01:01:54,960 genius is to honor your gift to the collective. 1116 01:01:55,320 --> 01:01:58,640 You infuse everything you do with a sense of aliveness, 1117 01:01:58,640 --> 01:02:02,910 versatility, and eagerness. You brush past the labels and 1118 01:02:02,910 --> 01:02:06,550 conditions of the programmed world to work, to enslave 1119 01:02:06,550 --> 01:02:09,310 oneself, and to abide by the rules of society. 1120 01:02:09,790 --> 01:02:13,190 You carve out a path that is truly your own and possess 1121 01:02:13,190 --> 01:02:17,470 endless passion along the way. When you access this gift, life 1122 01:02:17,470 --> 01:02:20,350 opens for you in new and exhilarating ways, and the 1123 01:02:20,350 --> 01:02:23,350 future is filled with possibility and expansion. 1124 01:02:23,790 --> 01:02:26,990 You perceive not only your own incredible abilities, but the 1125 01:02:26,990 --> 01:02:30,800 strengths and gifts of others. Through your keen discernment, 1126 01:02:30,800 --> 01:02:34,320 those around you alive and with confidence, in a lasting sense 1127 01:02:34,320 --> 01:02:36,920 of purpose and your shadow, is compromised. 1128 01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:41,680 In our childhood, before mired in the collective conditioning 1129 01:02:41,680 --> 01:02:45,520 of our world, we possess an enthusiasm for all that we can 1130 01:02:45,520 --> 01:02:49,720 be and all that we might become. There is exuberance in youth. 1131 01:02:50,470 --> 01:02:54,030 Through schooling and other modalities for homogenization, 1132 01:02:54,230 --> 01:02:58,310 we learn to temper our deepest desires with realism, and the 1133 01:02:58,310 --> 01:03:02,750 spark of inspiration is lost to the steady drum of sameness, A 1134 01:03:02,750 --> 01:03:06,990 lackluster state of being. We forget our brand of genius 1135 01:03:06,990 --> 01:03:09,070 and enmesh ourselves within the herd. 1136 01:03:09,470 --> 01:03:12,990 We compromise ourselves and our highest potential for the sake 1137 01:03:12,990 --> 01:03:16,390 of fitting in. We forsake our individuality and 1138 01:03:16,390 --> 01:03:20,000 live on autopilot. This shadow rules you whenever 1139 01:03:20,000 --> 01:03:24,920 you ignore your intuition or your heart and instead obey your 1140 01:03:24,920 --> 01:03:26,840 programming. In the outside world of 1141 01:03:26,840 --> 01:03:30,520 opinions, your themes are discernment, innate gifts, 1142 01:03:30,520 --> 01:03:35,640 passion and exuberance. And that's where we shall leave 1143 01:03:35,800 --> 01:03:38,920 you all today. That was also one that was card 1144 01:03:38,920 --> 01:03:42,520 14 and 1 + 4 is five and five was our number last time. 1145 01:03:43,670 --> 01:03:49,390 Look at all the signs you all and we are so grateful for our 1146 01:03:49,390 --> 01:03:53,350 communities, for our audience, for everyone that supports the 1147 01:03:53,350 --> 01:03:56,030 podcast, it really does mean a lot to us. 1148 01:03:56,390 --> 01:04:00,070 Once again, go to lollipoppodcast.com to submit 1149 01:04:00,070 --> 01:04:06,390 questions or any topic request and we would be so grateful if 1150 01:04:06,390 --> 01:04:10,990 you all left us a review on Spotify or Apple or wherever you 1151 01:04:10,990 --> 01:04:14,320 are listening. Yes, we'll see you next time. 1152 01:04:14,720 --> 01:04:15,480 Bye, bye.