Uh huh. Yeah, he says.
She's so sweet, man. Come on over.
The rapper lit me like a lollipop.
Lollipop, Lollipop Lollipop Lollipop Lollipop Lollipop.
Welcome back to another episode of Candy Land.
We have been Mia, so we do apologize.
But now we're back and we have a guest.
Nicole, the rap guy's wife, has joined us for a different type
of conversation. We're just going to talk some
shit. Welcome.
No politics, guys. Oh God.
Absolutely not. No, honestly I've never seen so
many grown adults just act so childish ever in public.
It is. It's been quite interesting in
the Facebook posts, in the comments and the tags.
I'm like, wow. I was like well if anyone's want
to know what changed in my life since the election, I still woke
up next to my best friend. Aw, I love that.
I love the Segway off of politics.
And I'm going to follow you with that Segway and tell you that
last time we interviewed you, I was so fucked up on edibles and
I was sitting here and I was like, I should probably say
something. I don't know what to say.
And so I made a very conscious choice to not consume so that I
could fully be present inside of our conversation without being
self-conscious. Honestly, I loved our
conversation last time because I didn't realize that little white
was like to the side of you like right there, like I just.
I think actually he was sitting where I am right now and I was
back there at the dining room table.
Yeah, like wherever he was, he was like kind of listening in
and like cheering you on from the side.
And I thought that was so sweet because I know you were nervous
because it was your first interview, but you did so good.
And honestly, I have literally watched you change.
So since we first talked, I feel like you've really levelled up
and got got like super grounded, like super super grounded and
like making a lot of moves in the last year.
So what do you have going on right now?
What have you been doing? Dude, so this is the first time
I've ever like set goals and like, like the husband kept
asking for stuff and like, all right, give me 6 months.
Give me 6 months. I'm like before 2024 is over,
we'll have that. We'll have this.
I got you. So I got the White House store
up, which I love doing. And it's like, like I, I, it's
like a hobby for me because it's one of those things like every
time people order something, I just take that money and I go
back and I find new stuff or I get a different graphic or
something. So it's like, it's been so much
fun and I feel like the fans really love that they know like
that we're doing it. Like right where I'm sitting is
where I make all the merch. So that's been like helping me
mentally and like being happy and like I can tell like people
appreciate like what I'm doing. But so we got Pat's or white, we
got White's teeth fixed the top ones.
So that was a big thing for self esteem.
And then we, I got a new car. It's a 2016, but it's new for
me. I just need something or one of
our boys is like 6 foot tall and I'm like, dude, there's not
enough room for all of us. Like we can't take merch to
shows right now anyways because we didn't have the room.
But now we got teenage boys that are like bigger than us.
Like so I got my first vehicle all by myself.
That's amazing. Congratulations.
That's such like a feeling of accomplishment too, when like
you work so hard to level up to where it's all on you and you
can do it. Did things go on the screen
again? No, he's in the corner.
We have. That's so funny.
So feature No, I think that's really cool.
Hello. I've.
Seen the white flower? I have seen that.
The white flower What's the white flower?
It is his THCA line that we finally launched in July.
Yeah, July. I actually fucking love that
because there was a, there was a company that I had found that
did THCA and what they did is they had I, that's so pretty.
They reached out to all of these content creators and they
reached out to me and said, we'd really love to sponsor you.
We love our content. Like we'll give you a discount
on items like, you know, boost us out, we'll give you
Commission. And so I ended up making like
multiple videos for them. I got a bunch of people that
ordered from them and then they emailed everybody and said, Oh,
we actually had to cancel our affiliate program and they never
fucking paid me. Oh well, well, so with ours that
so we are like we're going to San Francisco on Friday and
we're going to the actual headquarters of Hempco, which is
who does the white flower. So that like with the merch,
like people love that we're like hands on with it so that we're
at the headquarters, they can see like we really are like
we've got our our hands in all of it.
It's our cookie jar. We're not just putting it on
display and have no idea in there like we he's and he's very
picky about it because it's something that means a lot to
him. So the company we went with is
his name's Doctor Bao. And he had a son that was tried
to be born really, really early and ended up with autism and
having seizures. And he gave up his practice and
went more on the holistic medicine side and like went over
and found all this stuff and figured out how to break down
every like all the cannabinoid cannabinoids.
I'm learning because I don't, I don't smoke or anything.
So I'm like learning too. But so there's like no extra
preservative stuff in it. It's all as natural as possible.
Like he is doing it for his son. So he's got like a good heart
behind it. He's not like we should sell.
We, we can make money. He's like, no, I want to people
so, so that, yeah. I want to support you guys.
Are you guys already launched or is that something you're working
on? So we're working on branding
right now. It's launched like you can go
on, you can go online and order it direct to your house or
stores can put it in there. The wholesale orders can do it,
but they're putting together when we go there this week,
we're putting together white flower boxes.
So like for influencers and stuff, we send them out and it's
gonna have like a probably a T-shirt in it and like a little
rolling tray and some of the products.
So it's like a promo gift box and one kind of thing.
That's really cool. You know, there is such a huge
market for the THCA because it is like legal or they can sell
it in illegal states. And I know that's gotten very,
very popular with like just the vape pens.
And I went into a smoke shop one day and they had all of this
flour and I didn't realize like what it was.
I was like, are they like doing this illegal in here?
Like are they just got? It the same thing when I saw
like billboards and stuff and I'm like, especially like in
Nashville, they advertise it like they're like THC shops and
like, I don't know if the A's like in fine print and you can't
see it on the Billboard because like we don't really just stop
and go in there. But I'm like, how are they
legally selling this stuff? And then we found out and met
everybody. We went to the champ show in
July and we got the the pre rolls and the flower out.
So there's three, three different pre rolls to choose
from and there's three different flowers to choose from.
And now we're trying to figure out what product we're going to
launch for the February Champ Show.
You don't consume though, personally.
So you're just like the support and the backbone behind it, but
you don't you don't test out the product.
Oh, no, I test them because, like I said, oh.
You do test them, so I. Don't like to smoke because I
like sleep for like 16 hours so I've hit each one like once or
twice just so like it doesn't burn the back of my throat.
I don't feel like I'm about to cough a lung up and it tastes
good. I don't have like a weird weed
taste in my mouth afterwards. Like it's like I legitimately
think it's super smooth. It I mean of course everything
gets me high. I could be in a room and like
smell too much of it. I'm like y'all got to contact
Kyle. It's going to be but I like
edibles. I love snickerdoodle cookies and
I ate like six of them on Sunday because we were in New Mexico
when I got some and I ate like 2 before bed that night.
And when I got up I was like, look y'all, I just drove like
2000 miles in the past like 6 days.
So mom's clocking out, wife's clocking out, manager's clocking
out. Nobody asked me nothing.
And I'd eat one and then like it starts to wear off.
So alright, I need another one. And I went through like six of
them all day long and I sat on the couch.
I just did nothing. People kept talking to me and
I'm like I am too high for this shit.
What the fuck do y'all want? It really needs to be more
accessible for everyone because people need to chill out.
And it would really help our nation as a whole to calm down
and like, stop being so nasty. Like everyone, not even just
with what's been going on recently.
I'm just talking like overall, like people in traffic or people
at the store, like people are rude because they're struggling.
And then they project that on. And it's like if more people had
access to recreational marijuana, I believe that things
would fix themselves. Like things would start to work
themselves out more. It would, and they've done so
much research on breaking it down and stuff like if you go
into, we don't really go into smoke shops out here because we
have everything shipped to us now.
But like in the we did the meet and greet at the smoke shop in
New Mexico and like each thing has like a like the sativas,
indicas and hybrids, but it also tells you one of that product
like Hey, this is good for anxiety and insomnia and bipolar
or this is good for like there's even though like you might have
four or five different sativas in there.
Each sativa has kind of broken down to what it helps with.
I'm like, y'all like really like gone all out.
I love this. Like I'm all like pro marijuana,
all of it. I just personally can't do it
like no matter what it is obviously.
I feel like educating too helps to like break a lot of stigmas
and stereotypes and people are opening up their mind more.
I feel like, I don't know, maybe that's just the people that I
surround myself with. I don't really have many people
inside of my world that don't consume one way or the other,
but I hope that it helps to like break down the stigma and maybe
people getting to like have things delivered to them and be
like, oh, it's legal. We'll help them to expand their
mind, try something. And there are so many options.
I think people only think about smoking, but they're, I mean,
whether it's like gummies and edibles or tinctures or
whatever, I will say. It creams like the pain cream
stuff. Pain cream shit's so good.
I went to the hospital once because of weed, but in my
defense, I was on this like crazy anti seizure medication
and I decided to pair it with a definitely not legal everywhere
cannabis tincture. And I think you're supposed to
have like a little like teaspoon of the thing, but it was a
bottle and I was like, well, I don't have a way to measure it,
so I'll just like take some like take some sips of it.
I ended up like giving myself a seizure and like I had to be
hospitalized. I like didn't know where I was
and I couldn't remember anything from my day and I thought I had
dementia. It was a whole thing.
Wow. No, that was 2021.
We were in the trenches. I think you know.
Not COVID I I accidentally drugged myself with weed.
I did. I did, yeah.
There are a lot of options and in the medical arena that stuff
is really strong. Like the medical level grade
like is so different than the recreational ones that they
offer. It's crazy that people are still
against it when cigarettes are so popular or alcohol, you know?
So whatever, check in. How is yours like sobriety
journey going? So he just hit 500 something
days. I think he's probably, I think
he's a day like five O 6 and he's so he's done like the 0%
alcohol bigger, but he's at a point now where it's not because
he like is trying to not think about it.
It's just more of like if we're all sitting there and
everybody's like got a drink or something.
He like kind of makes him feel like a big kid.
I guess like, you know, like when all all the big kids have
cups with no lids and he's like, well, I want a big kid cup.
So he has his little like 0.0% Heinekens and they actually
have, I don't know if like the, it was like the sobriety heard
around the world or Crown Royal stock like plummeted after we
quit drinking. But they have 0% blue moon, 0%
Sam Adams, Corona, Heineken, Budweiser, like there's all
sorts of it now. So, so with me, it's still just,
I'm good, it's fine. But like with him, it's, that's
all he's had to do. And he's he smokes a lot more
weed though. I mean, I think a lot of times
people give up one thing for something else, You know what I
mean? Like whether it's like, OK, I
have a shopping addiction and now I'm addicted to go in the
gym or, you know, people get addicted to plastic surgery or
like injections, right? Like worse.
We have an extremist mindset as humans.
It's like, OK, I like this. So now it's my favorite or it's
my team or it's my personality or it's my hobby, you know, like
we're always identifying with things.
And I think that's how people take things so extreme where
it's like, oh, I can't be friends if you're not on my team
because of that. Like, you know, a lot of people
will give up a bad habit and switch it out for like a really
good habit. That also can be like, like
overworking or, you know, overdoing it at the gym or
overdoing it with surgeries and stuff.
You know, like, sometimes a little goes a long way, but
there's a fine line between like overdoing it.
And I just think it's really rare for people like him to be
able to like, go cold Turkey and stay with it so long, you know,
and then like you said, just every once in a while have a 0%
beer. But it's not like there is
anyone that's forcing him to do that.
I guess you know what I mean? Like it's a choice now.
Like now it's a choice. It's not something that comes
easy after years and years. It just takes consistency.
So I think that's awesome. He's.
Doing good, yeah. And the biggest thing I was
like, well, you said you're sober, but you smoke weed and
I'm like, that's not what's so so.
So if anyone wonders, sober means no alcohol, clean means no
like drugs like fentanyl, Percocets, like all that.
The only drugs that he takes he's literally prescribed and he
has his own Xanax prescription that he takes as it's
prescribed. And they're so picky about it.
They're like, hold on, let's increase all these other meds
before we increase your Xanax. So it's not like he can go in
there and be like, look, I quit drinking, I'm a little white and
I need 4 bars a day. So like like barely even like
even he has like a couple days. He's like, I just need like an
extra Xanax and I'm just like, you got to follow his script and
figure it out. So he'll get an edible or he'll
smoke or something like that. But being clean is no pills.
Being sober is no alcohol. And I guess being I guess clean
would be like, well, I guess meth and fit in August.
That's all you can get it in a pill form, I guess.
But yeah, all that nasty shooting up and pain pills.
Meth in a pill form. Well I mean Adderall is
basically meth in a pill. And they do put those in like
caps, like those like mall, like when you think you're getting
Molly, there's meth in there. Oh, yeah, News flash for
everyone listening, you thought you've never done meth?
Like, Oh no, I've just done Molly or I've just done X.
No, you've also done meth, by the way.
Hate to break it through. Ecstasy.
And you've done that cause like. What year though if you if you
did Molly or X like before like 2003?
It wasn't before 2003. But it is probably Hedman.
OK. Because in 2003 I was nine years
old and I'm pretty sure that was like around the first time that
I heard little White. Like that was like around the
time that I had first heard because this.
When he dropped in 2003. Yeah, because the neighbor boy
listened to him and I wasn't. That's how I found him.
The neighbor boy was listening to him.
The neighbor boys. Y'all hanging out little boys
next door and stuff. It was my friend's older
brother, and he used to sit there and we would be like, why?
Like Brad, why the fuck do you keep talking to us?
And he would be like, yeah, listen to what, you guys?
And so we just, like, listen to it by default.
And then, you know, those songs that, like, you listen to and
then you know, every single word, like Colt 45, we just came
out of the womb. Like knowing the lyrics.
I feel like it's that way with Oxycontin and I just know every
single word out of the womb. Yeah, I think everybody in
Memphis was born with bad credit, and you knew all the
words to slob on my knob. I also knew slob on my knob so.
Three 6 Mafia was at the Louder Than Life festival and it's just
blows my mind that they come to louder than Life wearing like
Gucci and we're out there in like mud and rain boots and rain
and they have like just like Gucci shades and Gucci fits like
get up from head to toe and we're just out there in the rain
and in ponchos and it blows my mind.
Ponchos legit blows my mind that like rappers, we'll do that and
then be like, now have a mosh pit and people do it and they
have a mosh pit to this music that you just really can't mosh
to. Like I just, you know, I don't
know, there's really no way to mosh to bands make her dance,
but people did it. And I feel like that is a core
memory that has unlocked for me. So I want to know what fucking
poncho you're wearing because I just imagine you out there and
like a hot pink bedazzled poncho with like like some type of like
cute lining and like matching like boots.
Do with white when we go, especially when we do like the
redneck raves, I have to order the little like surgical boot
cover things that they like wear in the hospital so that he can
walk to the stage. I'm like, seriously, I might
just let me give you a piggyback ride.
He's like, no, no, no, I'm too big for you.
I'm like, we're they were like the same size.
Just let me like just get you to the stage.
He's like, he's like, no, just let me put the and he like walks
like a like a praying mantis or something.
He's like walking through the mud.
But after the show, he's fine. He ends up just saying fuck
these Jordans. But like before then, they're
like surgically wrapped and protected from any kind of mud.
It was because of the hurricane was the reason that we were
having all that rain. Like normally I wouldn't go to a
four day festival that's full of mud and stuff.
Like I just don't prefer that. But it was just one of those
things where it was like you're either going to let it ruin the
whole festival or you're going to go, you know?
So we just went. But it just blows my mind, like
the things people will wear at a festival regardless if it's
raining or mudding. And then they were just sliding
around and having, like, mud wrestling right by the porta
potties. And I'm not sure what's mud and
what's not mud. It's really my yeah.
So in Memphis, when we did Memphis and May, it was it was
always Memphis and mud because it always rained.
But Memphis and May was like our big musical festival, like like
four or five stages, hundreds of bands, three day weekend.
And girls would be dressed, super cute hair, makeup, outfit,
everything on point. But below the knee was rain
boots. I have a sneeze and I keep
having the sneeze and then it gets like stuck.
So I'm like oh God damn it. And then it doesn't come and I'm
like, I just need to get the sneeze out.
It'll come out as soon as you forget about it.
Yeah, well, I want to know. So I find myself currently this
is me like asking life advice I guess and like how I can support
people. So I find myself surrounded by
people who really should get sober and see the effects that
like drinking has on their life and and watch their life like
fall apart and don't want that, but then don't really seek help
for themselves. And I don't want to be the
person who like gives up on people who are like needing
support and needing somebody. But I do want to like have
boundaries and be like, you know, this is toxic for like my
life. And I, as I've been kind of
expressing that there are a lot of other people I know that are
experiencing that too. And as somebody who's on a sober
journey and who has been with somebody who is, you know,
wanting to get clean for themselves or needing to, you
know, stop drinking or whatever. Do you have any advice on like
how to support people through that and help them?
Like maybe even see their rock bottom and like get help for
themselves? So I actually went through this
thing. I was like 1918, nineteen years
old, and one of my best friends was she was like losing
everything. She was, she was broke, she was
on drugs, She was with a dude that was beating her.
Like you name it, she was going through it.
So she came to my mom's house one night.
My mom was like, well, stay here.
She's like, you don't do about work.
Don't worry about any bills right now.
Just stay here, relax, get it together.
I, you know, there's always food here.
Like she grew up going to my house and I had to go to class
the next day. When I got home, I was like,
hey, where's she at? My mom was like, I, she left.
I was, I don't know. And I didn't hear from her for
like years. But I personally, I didn't reach
out because you can't help someone who doesn't want to help
themselves. And no matter I but myself, my
mom, all sorts of other people had offered her everything in
the world for her to step away. And she even came to people and
said like, Hey, I've got issues. I got this going on like and
people offered it to her and she didn't.
So until somebody's ready to ready to change, they're not
going to. And it hurt.
It broke my heart and about it was right when me and white
started dating I was like hey I need to go meet up with my
friend. I haven't seen her in like
almost a decade but she ended up getting the an implant in her
where she does put any drugs in her body.
She instantly gets sick and her body rejects it.
So she did finally get help but it was on her terms.
You can't, you can't force anybody to get help.
Like it's just like even with white, like it got to a point
where it was like I told like it was either going to be death or
divorce and he wasn't going to die because of me.
So like, but the judge also had a lot to do with it.
The judge was like, hey, you're literally about to lose
everything. I could put you behind bars
right now for breaking your probation or breaking his
alcohol monitor thing. And he when he realized like he
could go to jail for over even just over a year isn't really
like a long time. We think about people that have
done years and years and years. But he knew that if he went away
that long that he'd come home to nothing.
So it was his choice to change. So I mean, you can, all you can
do as a person is to offer help and support.
People want to accept it that you know, then of course, back
it up. If you're gonna help somebody,
don't be like, oh, well, I was just being nice that day.
Like if you want to truly help someone, offer it to them.
And if they don't take it, you just gotta, you know, pray or
just tell the universe, like, please watch that person.
You know, I did what I could. And I cried the day I saw my
friend when we went to go see her and she met us in downtown
Memphis. And I just, I just bawled my
eyes out. I was so because all those years
I just had in the back of my head, I was worried about her.
She's one of my best friends. But until someone wants that
help, there's nothing there's nothing we can do on our end.
It's just. I think from everyone in my
family that has dealt with alcoholism or has been affected
by that, like they repeat the cycle until they either hurt
themselves or end up in jail or lose everything.
Like, I really don't think a lot of people want to change their
bad habits because whatever they're using the addiction to
cope with, like maybe they're coping with trauma or low self
esteem or lack of confidence or whatever it may be, maybe they
just hate themselves. You know, a lot of the times I
remember thinking like when I was doing drugs or when I was
drinking every day, I did not like myself.
Like there was something going on within my head that was
making me want to self destruct. And I think that sometimes the
separation of people wanting to help you and actually setting
alone and being alone and realizing that that is your
future was really one of the most life changing things for
me. It was like when I went Mia and
they put a missing person report out on me and no one could find
me. And I post a lot on social
media. So I found out that if I don't
post for three days, people will believe that I have been
kidnapped. Like if I do not have a story
for three days, I have now figured out that everyone on the
Internet will be like, RIP, where's Paige?
We can't find her, She's missing.
And there was literally like this rumor that I had been
kidnapped and sex trafficked because it was near Derby and
people get sex trafficked. So all I wanted was some peace.
It was just from zero to 100, like, yeah.
Like, I just wanted some peace and quiet to work through my own
personal issues. And everyone took that to
extreme. So I think sometimes like
setting alone and setting at that rock bottom moment is the
only moment that's going to make you want to change.
Because, you know, like the judge told him, you will lose
everything if I put you away for a year.
And that's something that probably significantly shifted
his mindset because it wasn't just I'm getting drunk and
having fun with my friends. It's I'm not going to have any
friends left. I'm not going to have anybody
left. So I think for me personally, it
was like sitting alone and realizing that I was so unhappy
with myself. And the way I was treating
myself was a reflection of that. And I think Bunny has a version
of that that she's talked about. Like, you know, once you hate
yourself to the point of just not caring about your own
well-being, like there is no way to go further down, you know
what I mean? Like if you're poisoning your
body every single day, like there's no other way to go down,
there's just there. You know what I mean?
Emptiness. And the motivation to like, get
up and, like, fix it is not one that you just wake up one day
and, you know, you know what? Gonna make me bowl cereal and
I'm just gonna go realize that I'm awesome.
It does not work that way. It takes a whole minute to be
like, OK, so. Yeah.
Something flying around, You saw that or not?
I was like, it's zoomed and then it, I don't know, it stopped and
then it moved again. But I don't know.
I think helping people is like loving them from a distance
sometimes, you know, just like I love you, but I'm not going to
set front row and watch you self destruct like I am going to
remove my energy. And I think that's sometimes the
best thing that we can do for ourselves because if we stay
involved with things, we'll start asking like why me or what
am I doing wrong? Or we'll start blaming ourselves
for something that has nothing to do with us.
And I've learned that I have addictive tendencies, whether
it's like I'm addicted to coconut water now and I have to
have like 4 cases at all times, like I have enough coconut water
or I get addicted to pillows like I have to have new.
Every time I would go to TJ Maxx, I would get 2 new pillows
to the point where I had to donate some to the shelter
because I had just all these picking pillows.
So I don't know, I, it's either, you know, crack or coconut
water. It's, you know, you got to have
one extreme with me, so I don't know.
I feel like when I was drinking I was extreme with it.
You know, when I smoked cigarettes, I was extreme with
it. Like I can't be calm.
Like I'm either extreme or not interested at all.
And that's so interesting because I don't like, I don't
have an addictive personality to things, but I do recognize that
like I need to have caffeine every day in order to like not
get a headache or something. Like I understand that like my
body's reliance on that thing, but I don't, I, I don't have the
need to like be extreme about things in order to feel like I'm
getting enough of it. But I do have hyper fixation
meals. Like I will try something that
like is new or like get a craving for something.
And I'm like, oh, this is, I'm going to eat this for lunch
every single day for a week. And then I'm never going to
fucking eat this again. And I won't eat Turkey
sandwiches for a year because I had to have 1:00 every single
day for a week. So I guess that's my my like
happening. I don't even know the other
thing. Yeah, because I'd like, we have
a restaurant right now we go to and I order like the same thing
every time we go. I'm like, I'm sorry, I love
this. This is what I want.
So I didn't. Talk about devastating you all.
I have like a handful of restaurants in the city that I
like and I am a regular at all of them.
So when I come in, they know what I like, they know what I
want. They know to tell me about
certain specials. They know to hook my drink up
like they know. So there's this restaurant and
it's called Mitchell's Fish Market.
And it's like where you can get like fresh seafood, like really
good gourmet, like hand prepared meals.
And a couple weeks ago, just out of the blue on a Saturday night,
they just closed their doors, sent everyone home and just
closed. And I have just been so upset
like triggered because the closest one is in Michigan, not
really close. So triggered you all.
So when I tell you hyperphyxiation or I like that
term because I feel like I was addicted to this place.
But the problem with me is I, I only want to go places that make
me feel happy and welcomed and like, you know, you know, like
you go to a restaurant and you're expecting your meal to be
really good and the service sucks or people are rude.
Like if I have certain places where I'm a regular, that never
happens. They always make sure they know
I'm about to tip them 20 to $30 period.
Don't even matter what the bill is, they know they're getting 20
or more and, and service is great.
So I feel so triggered. You do work in a restaurant
business. I have but I'm not a great
server to be honest. I keep.
Most people that worked in the business like get it.
Like we went into one of our spots the other day and there's
a New Girl working and she was like, y'all, can I have a seat
wherever you like? And I was like, I know I
probably know the mini better than me.
Like don't 'cause he's like, So what do you want to sit?
I was like, let's go sit at the bar.
I was like, I don't want to sit with her.
She doesn't know what she told us.
We could sit where we want. We know we can sit where we
want. Like I'm like a little spoiled
brat about it sometimes. Of course, I'm never ugly or
rude, but I'm just like, I know I can sit wherever I want.
I could go probably walk in the kitchen, get my own ranch right
now and they're not going to say anything.
So like I totally get it. And when we go out, it's like we
go to our little spots and around the city he gets
recognized like a whole lot. And most of the places we found
like once we've eaten there, once they realize we're laid
back and cooled, then they treat us like regulars and normal
people. And like the experience is nice
and we're not bothered and like the service is good.
And since we quit drinking, we made a thing where just because
our tabs not as big doesn't mean that our servers or bartenders
should make less money. So we still tip as if there's
alcohol in our tab. Or like I tried to make it like
$10 per person off the top. So whenever we come in, you're
getting 20 bucks. And most of the time, like we
don't even eat a whole lot like during the day.
So we're not running errands. If we stop and get something
you're you might make 20 bucks off of serving us some cheese
sticks or something like that. Something so easy.
And then like wanting to take the kids with us, we add $10 per
person and then if they're awesome, put extra on it.
But we just so like, I don't like our servers that all that
were regulars that they don't deserve to lose money because we
couldn't control our alcohol. So that's the probably the
biggest thing I feel like was it us trying to be better people
was like just because we were at home ruining stuff doesn't mean
we need to ruin other people's stuff.
Like that makes sense. Yeah, I feel like there's like a
generational thing with tipping too.
Like my father-in-law and even my mom are like, well, if I go
out and they're like doing their job or whatever, then like I
don't need to tip them. But if they go like above and
beyond for me, then I'll tip them.
And I got into like this whole like not argument, but kind of
with my father-in-law one day when we went out to eat and I
ended up paying the tip because he like deducts the additional
like taxes or whatever from what he's going to tip.
And then he's tipping you 10% on the like free tax bill.
And yeah, you're just like that. Like we were talking about like,
oh, let's discuss what our icks are.
If you don't treat the people that are serving food to you or
taking care of you in any kind of hospitality industry with
like respect and just treating them like at least like a human
being and being friendly. If you're down talking, can't do
it. Instantly icked out.
I'm I want to leave. I don't like you anymore.
I'll never hang out with you again.
And I'm talking like I've gotten out to eat with people that are
like just fucking rude and like I need a refill.
Like I just can't imagine not pouring the picture of soda on
them when you come to refill it and then not tipping.
Like I just, I don't understand. I think I'm one of those people
that thinks if you're going to go out to eat or you're going to
have food delivered or something, you should be putting
into your budget for that, that you're going to be taking care
of the people. Especially somebody driving to
your house to go and get your fucking food to you because you
don't want to go out for whatever reason and go pick it
up yourself. There's no reason that you
shouldn't be giving that person at least at least enough money
to cover their gas. Right I.
Am really? Big on the tipping the delivery
people, like I'm not tipping the person who spun this iPad around
and I think anything OK, I'm sorry, I have rolls.
If you haven't done anything but your job, I'm not tipping you.
If I order Smoothie King on the app and I'm going to pick it up
at the window, I'll tip them because I ordered it on the app.
If I order it at the window, I'm probably not going to tip.
Like, you know what I mean? Like it's like it's just
different. I don't know.
I think there's so many different levels.
But if you are working and waiting on me in any way and
walking and using your legs to do that, I'm tipping you.
And I think this whole 20% shit is just bogus.
And I think also there is no reason that anyone should be
making less than the minimum wage, which is 725, which is not
a lot. It's that's what I made when I I
worked a minimum wage job. It went from like 575 to 725.
When I got my first job. I remember thinking like, wow,
I'm making more money. And I remember my boss being
like, Oh yeah, y'all got a raise from that.
So we're not giving you a raise. Don't even remember that far
back really. It would have been over 20 years
ago when I got my first job. I got my first job when I was
12, so 20 years ago. That was like 14.
Let's say that there's no reason server should only be making
$2.00 or whatever an hour, because I think that's just,
that doesn't even make sense to me.
That's a, that's a pet peeve of mine because that makes no sense
to me. Like where does anyone think
that relying on the general public to provide for you like
is legal? I feel like that's like child
labor or slave labor in a way. Like you're making someone work
for $2.00. They're doing all this cleaning
side work. That was my beef with serving.
I served and I did not like the side work, the closing, the
people who bring their kids and don't clean up after them, the
people who let their kids make huge messes to the old people,
people who think $2.00 is a tip to the young people who don't
tip at all. So you don't like any part of
serving, is what you're trying to say.
I bartended on Bill Street, so right, So being, especially
being a nurse and a bartender when I was on Bill Street, if I
got fired, it wasn't wasn't a big deal to me.
Like I have my nursing job during the week.
Of course, I love making the extra money and being a single
mom, have two little boys. It helped a lot.
But you're not going to talk shit to any of the girls behind
the bar and expect to get away with it with me back there
because they're like people would be like, well, the
customer is always right and I'm like, fuck you, I'll come on the
other side of the bar and I'll be a customer and still beat
your ass like you're not going to talk to people that way.
So that I was like in a different environment.
So it was fun. It was like always a party and
like swinging drinks and like DJ and all that, but I did.
Most of the places I've worked at, they just kind of like they
know like I'm there to work and I take care of people.
So if I told somebody they need to get out of the building,
they're like, if you piss Nicole off, you need to go because like
I love taking care of people. So if you're being ugly to me,
something's wrong with you like. I went to.
This job interview at this pool hall in Monterey.
And it was, I mean, like you had to pass around, like you had to
fill beers and like pass them around or whatever.
They only had beer there, but you were like the beer wench.
And I went in for an interview. I no you didn't have the
outfits, but I damn that would have been cool though.
It's. Like an Amsterdam or on TV or
something where they wear the little the beer went outfits
where I. Could have just shown up for the
interview and that, but I went to the interview and I'll never
forget. I had just had my son.
So I was like barely 19 and I used to be just like really
quiet and I didn't like to like cause problems and I like to be
behind the scenes. And so I'm doing the interview.
I poured the beer or whatever. That part's good.
And the guys, like he asks me, So what would your response be
if one of the guys playing pool was like, grab your ass or like,
like, physically touch you and make you uncomfortable?
And I was like, I probably let him get away with it once.
And then I tell him like, you know, I didn't like that and
whatever. And he's like, this isn't the
right job for you. Like I need, I need somebody
who's gonna like, punch a grown man in the face and tell him to
like, fuck right off. And now I'm like, I need a job
at a pool house. But I didn't like, I didn't
think that. That's how my bet my like best
friend Cher, I think Paige, you met her at the Bridgestone show.
So she was I, she was a bartender at Fox and how when I
started there as a server and those girls, like all those guys
out there, like just like drunk morons.
And they are the ones that taught me like, you'd like, no,
tell them to back off. Like I've like thrown grown ass
dudes up against the wall and I'm like, don't fucking touch
me. Like, and then like, OK, yes,
ma'am. And then they end up like
tipping you more. It's just I like getting wrapped
around. Yeah, if you talk shit to do
that a bar when they're drunk, like, oh honey, no, you don't
even have you don't you can't even keep up with this, with
this over here. And they're like, Oh yes, I can.
And they tip you more. Well, they want you to remember
them. They're trying to make an impact
on you. They want to feel special.
I remember the dollar, the tip out at the end of the night
won't remember you personally. I remember.
Faces and drinks be like, you don't Remember Me.
And I'm like, I remember that you drank Bud Light and ordered
shots of Fireball. I worked as a Hostess and I
actually enjoyed being a host because it was like we got
tipped out and we, like, you know, would have our favorite
servers who would tip us out more so they would get like, you
know, taken care of. And I just remember.
I see that like a girl. Like I gotta ask mom something
and I just keep. Walking back, no, there's this
girl that worked as a host with me and she had won I think Miss
Universe or whatever it is she wanted.
And this is a funny ass story. She was just like some rich kid
from the county that I grew up in and I didn't go to middle
school with them. I only went to high school with
them so I didn't know her. She had like went to model and
and New York. So when she came back, her mom
told her she needed to get a job so she could be with the small
people and get to get to know how normal people live or some
shit. Like this is how she worded
this. And so we're at work one day and
I mean, she's real tall, lengthy, I mean, she's cute,
whatever. But someone said something and
this girl was like deer in the headlights.
Like she had no street smart. She had no concept of like real
life concepts. And she said something and she's
like, I just don't know why anyone in their 40s would want
to work in a restaurant. And everybody looked around
because I mean everyone basically but me and her were in
their freaking 40s. I mean, she just insulted
everyone in this room. And then later in our adult
life, she had some scandal where she either had like, an fair
with someone or she did something that was like barred
her from losing her title as Miss Universe.
And then, like all of her, you know, notoriety got revoked
later on. Remember something like that
happening? Yes, yes, I could probably
Google it. We might be able to drop a
little detail into the podcast box.
But yes, her name was Alex. I know it was Miss Universe.
Pretty sure her T-shirt. Servers can make some money like
now this is pre COVID when I waited tables and bartended but
like when I bartended on the weekends I was making like over
$1000 a night four nights a week so I was making over 4 grand
every weekend on top of. And then when I work, we have
another local restaurant that the servers have 4 O 1K plans
and like benefits because they make so much money.
It's a one. It's like a, it's a, it's
Huey's. I don't know if they still have
4 O 1K and stuff, but it used to be it's so hard to get on.
You get to know somebody and those servers, you go in there
and like especially like it was a red birds game or a grizzly
game or it was the Grizzlies weren't down there.
I forgot what team he has a long time ago.
But downtown it was turn and burn and you would just do
circles and go around and you they make bank and they had like
benefits and like retirement plans from it.
So like, if you find the right spot, like there's money in it.
Well, like if you go to like a five star restaurant like Ruth
Chris or Jeff Ruby's or something like that, I know that
those servers go through a lot to get to a white jacket or
whatever they call it like. I walk down to one of those.
Yeah, it's a lot. I don't know how they deal with
it. I mean they do make like $3000 a
night though. Like once they are like a white
shirt or whatever they call it At Jeff Ruby's the guy told me
straight up he was like we have to tip out the bartender.
We have our assistant server and the host but my take home is
like over 2 grand. I worked at Capital Grille for
like 2 weeks and I think the reason I made two weeks is I
only worked like two days a week there.
But they wanted the So the server well has way more alcohol
drinks that go out than the bar because you don't find dining.
You got bottles and more cocktails and stuff ordered for
tables. So they needed a drink Slinger
and I was a drinking Slinger that was trying to get away from
Bill St. and they're like, you know, the manager of the time,
he was like, well I went from Bill St. to find dining.
This is like going from like Bill St. be like going from a
dive bar to like working like serving the Queen.
It's where my mind was at. I was going from just like
coyote ugly type shit to serving Queen Elizabeth.
Like that's how extreme it was. And I was like I was like dude,
they're like what's in a mignette sauce?
I'm like I don't even know how to spell mignette let alone care
what's in it. Y'all want me to sling drinks or
you want me to dissect a five star mini of stuff that half of
it looks like it's in a different language.
I was like, I don't know, to tell y'all.
And then like if you're at the computer, like you couldn't like
turn your back to anybody. You had to like be at the screen
and talk to them like this and you can't call them honey, baby
or darling. And I'm like, I am screwed.
Why did y'all even let me in here?
Of course now we have like our own table when we go.
But as a bartender, I was just like, I can't do this.
This is like, and then my son was a newborn and he had like
put your phone like up. I was like, can I not put it
like beside the like POS system or something where if there is
an emergency, I can see it? They're like, no.
So I'd have to sneak away from the bar, go to the bathroom just
to see, make sure that like my newborn child was still OK.
Find 9 restaurants have so many hoops.
No. All right, I want to let y'all
know I'm a boss, right? Always had been a boss.
You're blurry. I know what's going on my.
Camera. They ain't got to see my face
anyway. They.
I like your face. They know my.
Voice this woman has been working so hard the last year
I'm so proud of her. Like she's been grinding so hard
y'all have no idea she starts this shit at 9:00 AM.
Well 10 after price is right because we getting old and she
grinds out all day long 910 o'clock.
She's slanging through merch orders like crazy.
She's bagging them and tagging them ourselves and and she's
enjoying it man. So I just want to thank y'all
for doing a follow up on her because she's one bad ass bitch.
Oh yeah. We love her.
Yes, that's what we need. We need that type of support,
that type of power couple energy and you know.
They can hear my voice, the voice of our generation.
I know we're talking about it. I'm like, he's so sweet.
That was so sweet. We were just talking about
restaurants. I, I tried to get a job as a
server at a casino, like a casino restaurant that we had.
And I again, I was like 18 or something and I got yelled at in
an Asian language that I can't recognize.
I can't tell you what language it was, but this Asian man
yelled at me and all I could understand was Sriracha.
And so I went back to check because they would sell like
pho. And so I went back to try and
get Sriracha and the thing wouldn't open.
And anyways, I got it open. Sriracha got into my eye and I
just took that as that was the universe not wanting me to
fucking be there. I walked out of that job and I
never went back. I was there for two nights.
I made like $700 in the two nights, which was like really
awesome for me. All I had to worry about was a
car payment because I live with my parents.
But yeah, I'll never forget that.
And so now when I think about Sriracha, that's what I think
of. Or pho.
So I haven't really eaten pho because I just think of this man
yelling at me. And you?
Yeah, dude. And I was like, I don't know
what the fuck you want. And then he just yelled
sriracha. And so I got sriracha got in my
eye. I don't think that man ever got
his sriracha unless he yelled to some other girl.
I personally think everyone should have to work in the
restaurant industry, whether it's front of the house or back
of the house period. I think everyone should
experience one or the other in their lifetime.
Or you, you're not even allowed to go out to eat.
Like I think that that should be like the etiquette of like, OK,
now you know what it's like because you're not going to be
upset with someone if you know what it's like.
But it's what irks me. My big pet peeve is when you
order something and you know you want extra ranch or you know you
want extra croutons or extra bacon bits or extra whatever.
And when we're taking this order and you don't tell me that.
And then when I bring you your food now I got to go back when I
could have just brought it the first time.
That's a big thing for me. Like especially with ordering
when I go out to eat, I'm very particular about making sure
they know every detail so that there's no surprises.
There's no surprises that I wanted this cut in fours, not in
half or there's no, you know what I mean?
Like and I'm just going to be nice about it.
But it's like, why waste their time when they I already had an
opportunity to bring it to you the first time?
Yeah, I'm notorious for like, forgetting the small stuff at
the table. And so like, when they bring it
out, I'll be like, I am so sorry.
Like just when you get a chance, I promise I'm not freaking out
over here. I'm totally chilled.
Totally forgot to tell you that. I would also like some of this.
And normally they bring it faster because it's like they
might have a table next to you just being so ugly.
But you know what, this lady's super nice.
Let me go get like whatever it is that I randomly forget and
it's like, it's always something small.
And I feel so bad. I'm like, I promise.
Like don't rush whenever you have a minute, you know, if you
want to do another lap, you know, then you can get me.
But like, yeah, the other thing, that thing that drives me crazy
is the holiday time. Like I understand first of all,
going out in public shopping, which I feel like is becoming a
pastime with Amazon and TikTok shopping and team and stuff.
But it is not your server's fault that you got a little
Fender Bender in the parking lot and decided you were going to
come eat and chill out for a minute.
It's not their fault that they didn't have Susie's toy that she
begged for for six months and you waited still two weeks for
Christmas to go find it. And I always during the
holidays, especially during the holidays, I always try to tip in
cash because you never know, like there may be like that one
mom that when she gets off like forgot that her phone bill came
out and doesn't have the gas money because she also bought
Christmas presents Or like because like I know that I was
notorious for it. Like I finally got like a system
down. But we have like an account that
has just bills that come out and then we have an account where
psychopath in there can order whatever he wants on Amazon
Prime. But before I did that, I'm like,
I'm like, Oh my God, like I forgot that this bill is coming
out. So now like, I'm like, all
right, we'll use a credit card to put gas in the car.
So I really try to do the cash part for servers, especially
around the holidays. And a lot of them give up family
events because they only get one day off.
So and nowadays most people are it's all blended families or you
know, you got your like hood families and then you got like
blood relatives. And then you need like a whole
another thing at your house just to decompress from being at
everybody's house. And most servers only get like
you get one shift off. So like if you normally work
lunch, you may even have to work dinner to be off that lunch.
So like they don't really. I remember so many times that I
was so thankful that Walmart was open 24/7 because I'd leave
super late and I have to wait till close to a couple days for
Christmas to even just go to Walmart and get the kids and
stuff. Because you're just non-stop and
like, or you're waiting on your check to come in or yeah.
Or if the Uber driver drives in the snow during the winter,
which I feel so bad for, or rain.
I always get them cash. I think tipping in cash is super
key. I've been trying to pay in cash
to small businesses so they don't have to worry about it, So
they can just, you know, put that one in their pocket.
And then I've noticed that's been coming back around where
like people are starting to have cash more stuff like I'll do an
event or something, which is rare, but you know, it's really
interesting. I think people are seeing where
cash is super important, especially with like what we saw
in the North Carolina situation. You will have to pry cash out of
my my bare hands before I ever think that we are better off
without it. You know, like it's not going to
make sense to rely on electricity when Mother Earth
can knock it out for six months. I'm not going to put my car and
my fate in the hands of this when you've got these little
rinky dink power lines. Like in my opinion, all power
lines should be underground. That should have already been
taken care of. If they think electric cars,
that's that's another pet peeve of mine thinking that's going to
fix anything when it's like we don't have the infrastructure
for electric cars. If you like this ride by and
look at the power grids that are powering up your city, you're
going to be like, wow, looks like a mousetrap.
Memphis, this is crazy. So my husband did not realize
about the power lines being underground.
The only reason I knew about this because my dad when we were
little, he got an above ground pool because the city said if he
put the pool right there and want to in ground, he did to get
all the power lines moved. And growing up in the hood at my
mom's house, if there's a storm, our power got knocked out first.
So it's like in Memphis, it's like the worse or that the the
worser the area that you live in, if it's like towards like
the bottom of the total pole, your power went out and it was
like the more money you paid in the better area you lived in,
like decided like if your power went off or not.
Like when we had the storm hit, like our power in Memphis, it
was, I guess I've been last summer because it was while Pat
was in jail before he, we took him to rehab and he was like
trying to call and he was freaking out because like they
only get so many phone calls in jail and he was like, dude,
something's wrong. My wife always answers like
something's going on, like we were at the movie theater and
watch the storm come through. But like the whole city was like
out of power for like at least five days.
Our power was out for like 8 hours.
But we have no, it's all underground back here.
And it's like we have like the, we're like in this little tiny
square that's like in the back of Bartlett.
Like our zip code isn't even the zip code for Bartlett.
We live, we live in Bartlett. We have an Arlington zip code,
Memphis. I think it's the gas station
that's at the corner and then our Lakeland's behind us like
it's we're in this weird little like square.
So like nothing ever gets to us or bothers us.
There's no like nothing crazy back here.
Power don't go without like it's.
Power secured. I'm like part of HOA now and I'm
like, this is amazing. Is this what it means?
Our power comes back on. We pay extra for that.
Honestly, HOAS are a double edged sword.
I don't mind them because they tell people they can't have a
couch on their front porch, but they also tell me on like, you
know, on any little thing. No, no, you can't do that.
No, sorry, no, your trash can was outside for too long.
Put it back inside. You know, like there's all these
little rules. It's made Pat mother yard.
He's like I got to mow the yards mowing a ticket.
I'm like thank you. Like it took until we got 1
ticket for him to realize he's like, well can we just pay
someone in the mow of the yard? I'm like, no, we have a
lawnmower just like our yard is not that big.
Like this grass grows so fast and the HOA is like on it.
Oh, your grass is like it half an inch too long.
And I'm like we've been out of town.
Like especially if we're out of town for a long time.
We've had to call it one of the homies like hey, can you go cut
our yard? They just emailed us like.
That's crazy, really. Oh, and you can't have more than
two garage sales a year out here.
We're in an HOA, we've never heard shit.
Maybe I'll follow me it. Depends on how many Karens you
have that care about the meeting and the board and the HOA in
general. And I live in a retirement area
where everyone is mainly 50 and above.
And there's not a lot of children, not a lot.
Like they want to put speed bumps in.
So I went down to the meeting and exercised my opinion of why
I think that's ridiculous. They should just start giving
people tickets, whatever. Like, you know, like if people
are are speeding that much, report them.
I don't know, do some? Put it on our street, you know,
I mean the old lady, the old lady in me though, because like
we get up in the morning and watch the news and watch the
prices, right? And and like we'll go, I'll go
outside to get the mail. But where our house is, it kind
of like curves a little. It curves just enough for when
you're backing out. You could look one way and then
look the other way. And by the time you look back,
there's already a car like coming around the bin right
there. So like, I just like if there's
a speed bump, like maybe in between the neighbor's house and
our house, like it would help people slow down.
You should put it right at the curve, just like put your own
speed bump there, right? Like while they're fucking
turning hella fast and then they won't do it anymore.
Do we have cones that we've come into possession of?
I'm not going to say how, but during the summer especially,
our kids are outside playing. We will go put cones in the road
so that they can play basketball and stuff.
Like I'm going to tell you like if someone the cop comes says
you can't put that there and like, all right, we'll just sit
right here because my kids going to get hit in about 10 minutes.
So I'm like, already prepared to be that mom.
They have those signs with the little neon.
Little girl guys on the flag. Yeah, get that on Amazon, baby.
So it's legal. I'm exercising public domain, my
exercise rights in public area. You know what's crazy though
about the speeding is they'll make a residential road 25, then
they'll make a whole Expressway 55.
And the math doesn't math there for me because I think all
expressways, if it says Expressway in its name, guess
what? It needs to be over 70.
It needs to be 65 to 70. What is an Expressway?
You don't have one. I don't know what they are, so
no. I don't know.
There we have highways and then we have expressways, and
expressways are supposed to save me time, and they don't.
It's. Is it like a carpool lane?
No, it's called the Watterson Expressway and it's Rd.
Yeah. So it's like you have like 3
lanes on each side. But there's more like 5 lanes on
each side. OK, yeah.
So you get that one. So, so in Texas, everything is
like 70 mph. It's you just get up and go and
like there's little spots where it slows down to 55.
But I think it's just because that's what that, you know, in
Texas or in Dallas, they have like 19 fucking interstates at
all crisscross. It's crazy.
Like we sat there and counted on the other day when we were
driving through it and it was like in my map, my Siri or my
Google Maps, whatever took me on the toll pass lane.
So I'm like waiting for that to come in the mail.
But like, there's, it's all, it's 7075, the couple of curves,
it turns into 55. But nobody really does it.
They just keep going. Like as long as traffic flows,
you just go. But yeah, I love it.
That's one of my favorite parts about driving to Texas.
I feel like I'm like having a high speed chase though, because
for the in in 75, a lot of the like in between the cities you
can go 75. So I'm going like 80 something
and I'm like should go to jail. Like no, I'm good.
I'm going 7 over. I'm fine.
This is fine. It's fine.
Everything's fine. In Utah, where we met, they had
80 and 85 speed limits and potholes that are literally 6
feet deep. Craters that say watch out as.
You're on the crater says watch out.
And then there's a fucking Cliff that drops off to the side of
you. And if you're really lucky, if
you're really lucky, the girl who's driving didn't tell you,
but she's fucked up on vodka and she's driving you on this trip
and telling you to keep it a secret from her brand new
husband that she just married after three weeks of knowing him
because she's going to go fuck her ex.
And that was a, that was a whole, that was a whole messy
vodka trip. That's beautiful.
People who do not drink. We were very shocked to find
that our host Hostess was an alcoholic who literally
basically was supposed to go get us some Mary Jane.
She was supposed to go do a little deal.
Then we found out it's her ex. Then she says we gave her a
counterfeit $100 bill. Because she was gone for like 2
1/2 hours so she needed an excuse and said made our poor
sweet friend Juber overhear cry and hyperventilate thinking that
she gave some drug dealer in Utah that she doesn't know a
counterfeit $100 bill. Called her boss to tell her boss
that she got tipped with counterfeit money.
And then we find out later that this girl just wanted to go and
do her ex. Yeah.
And then is 8580. Fucking 5.
The whole. Time she was rolling, baby.
She was floored. And then Paige tries to drive.
Paige drives for literally 5 minutes and the girl goes I
can't handle this and makes her get out of the seat.
I was like, I felt so safe. And Paige's hands.
And meanwhile, I swear to you, we're going 85 and it just says
watch out. And I said for what?
And she goes, Oh my God. And then, yeah, it was a huge.
I would have just died. My body would been like, I'm
out. We were.
This girl. We literally made a group chat,
called the survivors and we were texting each other during the
trip because this fucking girl. We were like, when are we dying?
At what point do we fuck it? And then like when we were going
back, so we went to Moab. So when we were driving back to
Salt Lake City, we were literally like, this girl's
going to leave us in the middle of nowhere where there's not
cell phone reception. We like we were literally like
hours away from the the fucking like airports or anything or
places to rent a car. So every time they would stop
for gas and the girls would go inside to pee, I would sit
inside the car with all of our bags and shit and wait for
everybody to come back so bad. By the time we got to the Airbnb
we. Were rotating and Jim and I was
taking one for the team. But we'll just say for everyone
listening, This is why we don't meet strangers from the
Internet. This is a note for everyone.
Never met a best friend. Online.
Yeah, and you think this is my people?
You better make sure that's your fucking people because they'll
tell you this is sober girls trip.
I just got married. I want to have girl time.
And then instead they're like, this is my ex, that's his
fiance. That's.
Had to handle a vodka for myself.
She brought a whole half gallon with the handle of Tito's and
put it in the I think. It was Tito's, at least it was
good vodka. And she wasn't like, bro, let's
go. She didn't feel very good.
That vodka didn't feel really good on this side of things.
She was a sketchy lady, you know?
I think the one cool thing about Utah though is if you want to go
there and live life on the edge, you can drive 85 legally.
You can live your best life. You cannot smoke weed there.
Don't even think about it, but you can have a good time if you.
Can rent an ATV having never ridden one in your life and
they'll let you go on the fucking equivalent of Black
Diamond whatever ATV trails off that.
You don't even have to put that bitch in the four wheel drive if
you don't want to. You don't have to have any
experience, they'll just they take you up with a guide, they
give you a helmet and they tell you have a nice time.
Helmets are optional. I'm going to text just in time
we get done. I'm like, bro, I know where we
should go next because we got white the zip line when we went
to Puerto Rico and he was like. That's where you need to go.
You need to go to Moab. We need to redo our Utah trip
but with different people. I was about to say this.
I was gonna say. Neon edibles instead of a crazy
trick chick drunk driving. There you go.
So this I would. Drive it's only 5 hours from me.
She told us that they will go out there on the full moon and
get drunk on these rocks and drive back in in the dark drunk.
I'm scared of the dark so. I'm scared of the dark, I'm
scared of drunk people and I'm sure as hell scared of this very
small path that Mother Earth carved out that was not meant
for an ATV, but you decided you could drive on it and, and this
is how close you are to the edge.
So we've really never mentally recovered from that trip
because. I can't tell.
I can tell my buddy all's faces. You're just like that.
That shit really happened. Like you're still.
This is all true story. It'll be two years in March and
I'm still there. Like it just happened, to be
honest. And what's crazy about it is
that was the first and only time that me and Jim and I have been
together in person. Oh.
We almost got. We're like, y'all are like
survivor sisters now. That's why we had the survivors
group check 'cause we're like, who fucking made it, bitch?
No, But you know what? On a positive note, and yeah,
when we were done with the Moab part of that trip, we, it was
Paige myself. And then Paige brought her
friend with us. We all got to the Airbnb and we
had the most like, relaxing, calm time.
We wanted to go out, we wanted to go shopping and do different
things. And like, it was just so chill.
Everybody took turns like picking out what different store
we were going to go to, what we were going to do.
We walked to restaurants. Like it was so much fun and such
a great way to end the trip. And I really do think that like,
that's why it's important to be careful who you're surrounding
yourself with and like what type of energy you surround yourself
with. Because it really can take
something that can be like a really beautiful experience and,
and you know, whatever into something that's like traumatic
and fucking chaotic. And it's just that it can be all
the right things. Except for this like 1 little
piece and it just happened to be this bitch.
It's over. We just had like not even a
month ago, I think I already took that calendar down.
But when it so between Memphis and Nashville, it's 200 miles,
easiest drive ever. So we measure our trips in
Nashville trips. So I'm like, all right, we're
two Nashville trips away or like, and then we get to double
digits. That's how we do it.
So we drove from Memphis to Indianapolis and it rained like
it poured its ass off from the time we left the driveway till
we got to the venue. And then so on the way home, I
was, I told our our height man Captain Anarchy.
I was like, hey, we got 2 Nashville trips, like a little
one or two. Can you take like the first end
of it? Let me lay back and like take a
nap for a little bit and then we'll swap.
So that way you can start relaxing.
So once we get home, you go straight home and go to bed
because you had to work the next day.
He's like, all right, cool. So I pulled out over fill up the
gas tank or not filled it up. I knew when we swapped that I
had enough gas for us to get home and for me to drive to my
little Monday job in the morning.
So I knew I had enough, just enough gas.
So I'm in the back seat and I'm laying there.
I think I slept for like all of 10 minutes and I woke up and my
soul was in the trunk of the fucking car.
And I looked over this over his shoulder and I was like, what in
the actual fuck are you doing? He was like, I'm just trying to
beat the time. It said we're going to be home
at this time. And then it jumped up and I was
like, because there's probably a wreck like 200 miles away from
here and the time will drop back down.
And I just looked at my gas gauge and I was like, what did
you do? He's like, what are you talking
about? I was like, he's like, you want
to drive? I was like, yes, I want to
drive. I want to drive like 1/2 a tank
of gas that you've done blown through and we he's buried.
I think he drove like 125 miles. He was just floating.
He was going, yeah, my, my husband said.
He looked at everything. He's going like 95 and he's
leaned back. He's like, Nicole's going to be
so pissed. I don't let anybody drive.
I'm such a control freak. Like, that's, that's my problem.
I'm a control freak. It is so hard for me to let
people do stuff because I'm just like, I'm going to have to
explain me how to do it. You're not going to do it the
way I want it when I want it done.
And so I was like, all right, I'm going to let somebody drive.
And then I was like, this is the worst decision I've ever made in
my life. And he's like our best friend.
I love him to death, but I will probably never let him drive one
of my vehicles ever again. My favorite thing is your
husband just leaning back and being like, Oh, my wife's going
to be pussed, but I'll let her handle that.
You know, I personally have found that I don't like writing
with people if I know that they're unpredictable.
Like if I go somewhere with someone and I know we're on the
same wave, like they're going to be hungry, they're going to want
to go pee, they're going to want to do this.
But I've had a couple of trips in the last few years that I've
put myself in the position of not having my own vehicle or
being in control of my own self. And like Jim and I said, that
Lady took us out to the desert. There is no rental cars there.
You can rent an ATV, but you can't rent a car there.
There was no Uber there. There is no nothing there.
It is a one stop shop for hiking and ATV.
That's the only thing you can do there.
And so I've just really learned like almost the hard way,
besides like being left on the side of the highway to like stop
doing that, you know, like just drive your own car.
It might be convenient to ride with someone or whatever, but
just drive your own car, you know?
Yourself, that's why we drive to a lot of shows because they're
about like y'all want to fly and I'm like, no, like the cost of
flights. It wouldn't be worth it to buy
to pay for the rental car and we pick you up.
I'm like, yeah, no, we're good. And then plus some, it's not so
much getting us picked up from the airport as it is like when
we want to go, we want to go like, especially me.
Like I'm like, I'm hungry right now.
Like even like I try like in the mornings, like like paddle, why
do we be getting ready? And I'm like, hey, what are you
doing? He's like, I'm about to shower.
I'm like, OK, well, I'm starting to get hungry.
He's like, OK, And then like he'll like sit there and he's
like, got to go to the bathroom. He's got to do his gas stuff and
he's got to like roll a little joint smoke.
And I'm like, what are you doing?
And he's like, I'm about to get in the shower and I'm like, OK,
well, I'm starting to get hungry.
And like, and then he gets out the shower and he's like, I'm
like, what all you got left to do?
He's like, I got to do something to my hair.
And I'm like, OK, well, I'm hungry.
And then he like, oh, I forgot to shave and he'll do like four
other things. And I'm like, all right, I am
starving now. Like I'm.
Fucking hungry. Yeah, I could have gone, picked
up food and then back and you still would have been doing
whatever it is you're doing and I wouldn't be be hungry.
He's like, well, I don't want you to go by yourself.
And I'm like, well then move faster.
Like so I want to go when I want to go.
So having your own transportation or your own
access on vacation has really given me like different
perspective of places. Like I always get a rental car
when I go to Vegas. So I've been to the Grand Canyon
a few times. I've drove to California, the
Joshua Tree, you know, just done different stuff.
And then I hear people and they're like, oh, I've only been
to the mall and the casinos. Like I've never seen, you know,
Planet 13 or whatever, just like different stuff they have there.
Like you just don't see the other dispensaries or the other
things that are on the outskirts.
And I think that anytime you go to a new city and you're only
going to choose the Uber or walk around and what's close, you're
missing out. You're just missing out.
Like, you know, rent the car, go pay to park or whatever it is.
Because I do believe that staying in a small sector of
place doesn't mean you visited Chicago or, you know, visited
somewhere, like you went to your hotel and the restaurant under
your hotel is where you ate, you know, you just stayed there.
But I think that, you know, getting out of your comfort
zone, anyone like everyone listening and beyond trying new
things, going new places, like that's what life's about.
Like when you drive somewhere and you take a road trip there,
you see everything on the way. You know, you see everything in
between. And I think that gives you a
different perspective. We found so many random cool
places. When we went to, we were in LA.
It was like one of the last times we saw Gangsta Boo.
We flew out there. I remember we flew out there for
it was something with DJ Paul and Boo came by the hotel to see
us. But we took an Uber to In-n-out
Burger, I think, and we just walked and we walked down on
Rodeo Dr. We walked down on whatever the little strip.
I can't think of all the stuff. But my husband was like, well,
what do we do when we get tired or we don't want to walk?
I'm like, then we get over. I'm like, let's just walk.
Like because you, there's one thing here.
And then if you walk like 2 blocks, there's a whole nother
world and you walk down that. We walked 23 miles that day.
Oh wow, and. When I tell y'all, my husband is
not an exerciser, he's not a runner.
If he's running, he's literally the person that something's
chasing him. Like he just likes to sit on the
couch, smoke his weed. He gets on stage, he raps like
and he like so for him to do that, I was just like, so he's
like, I did this for you and I was like, thank you because I
love walking. I love doing cardio.
Like we're so complete opposites when it comes to stuff like
that. So for him to walk 23 miles,
it's like the song I would walk 10,000 miles and 10,000 more
like that was totally him that whole day.
I love this so much. I literally loved catching up
with you. I feel like in one year, so much
has happened for everyone here, like all of us.
And I know that a couple people were like, I'm so excited that
you're going to bring back some of your guests.
Like there were people like, I'm interested in hearing what she's
doing now or just like, you know, interested in that follow
up. Could you introduce someone and
then some podcasts like never speak of them again, right?
They're like, oh, we introduced you to this person, but we never
followed up. So thank you so much for coming
on here that. Look like a cartoon.
That was the biggest thing lately is I look like a cartoon
so I'm not being accused of being on drugs anymore.
I think last time I was accused, I was accused of being a hair a
gold digging heroin addict. Yeah, which?
When was this when you're on the podcast?
I think the IT was either round the last time, like either right
before, right after. But yeah, people accuse me of
being a gold digger and a heroin addict.
I will fuck them up for you, I. Want to be like wrong baby
Mamas. Not the wife, the wife, every
shit. And then I posted a picture and
somebody told me I looked like a cartoon and I was like, dude, I
literally have. I have like three giant bags of
makeup and I use probably like 5 things out of the whole thing
because I'm, I didn't have like a big sister like to learn how
to do it. So I'm up here like our 20 year
old and I'm like, hey, does this look right?
Did I do this right? And like so.
You look beautiful. It's always a fucking busted
biscuit, Betty that has some shit to say about somebody and
you're beautiful. And I refuse to believe that
anybody that has negative comments to say is doing
anything for themselves or putting themselves out there on
any type of platform. And if they are, they're
attracting nasty ass funky botfly bitches to them who are
going to leave them the same type of comments.
And I think that they're going to get exactly what they're
giving. Then the other one was somebody
they told me I was shady and that I'm the opposite of humble.
And then somebody else said that I'm trying to be like Bunny.
And I was like, well, that's like totally not even like, is
that supposed to hurt my feelings?
I like she's an amazing person. She spreads positivity.
I was like, I was like, does it blow your mind that there's more
than one positive person in the world?
Is that what it is? Because like you're not hurting
my feelings but not liking me like.
I would like to know what it is that you're doing that is making
you like Bunny. Is it having an artist for a
husband? Because you've already been
doing that. Lots of I, I, I don't know, I, I
can't see the comparison. I don't like that.
I think some people. Are just bored, like they're
bored. And so when they see someone
happy, it's like, Oh no, absolutely not, Absolutely not.
Because I see that no matter what level someone is on, it
could. Literally be.
Someone from high school, someone that you, you grew up
with, it could be someone on the mainstage that you don't know at
all. Like, you know, there's just
constant people projecting their insecurities onto someone.
And whether it's a stranger or someone you know or someone down
the line or whoever. It's like the fact that you even
wasted our breath on saying whatever you just said below.
Your. Life to type this out like over
there. Yeah, like, you're blowing my
mind that you would waste any energy on this, even if it's
just like, like, I've seen a lot of like really hateful comments
on the Internet. I'm just, I'm so blown away that
people wake up with that hate in their heart every single day.
So that's what we want to leave you all with.
Just love yourself, love other people, be who you want to be.
But like Nicole said at the beginning, you can't change
someone unless they want to change.
And the more that we can make peace with where we are and
where other people are and where we end and other people begin.
That's important, knowing where you end and other people begin.
Because it's when we blur the lines and we are so identified
in our relationships, our friendships, our family, our
religion, that we are just hating on other people for no
reason because they don't agree with us or they're not the same
as us. So that's what I feel like the
big message is for everyone. It's just be yourself and love
the people who love you. And the people who don't love
you, send them love too. Because at the end of the day,
love will win. That's what I think.
Yep. That's so sweet.
My leaving message is don't be a fucking cunt.
And if you say rude shits and Nicole, I'm going to find out
your phone number and I'm going to spam call you in the middle
of the fucking night every single night for the rest of
your life. Thank.
You even know what my closing message should be.
You know, I'm just like, look, they covered everything.
We covered it well. Nicole, thank you so much for
coming on and we will see you all next time in Candyland.
Bye, guys. Bye.
Uh huh. Yeah.
You say she's so sweet like a rapper live me like a lollipop
lollipop lollipop lollipop lollipop lollipop lollipop
lollipop you. Want to swallow my spirit?