1 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:09,240 Uh huh. Yeah, he says. 2 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:11,680 She's so sweet, man. Come on over. 3 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:14,680 The rapper lit me like a lollipop. 4 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:22,520 Lollipop, Lollipop Lollipop Lollipop Lollipop Lollipop. 5 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,600 Welcome back to another episode of Candy Land. 6 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:30,800 We have been Mia, so we do apologize. 7 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:34,240 But now we're back and we have a guest. 8 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:41,840 Nicole, the rap guy's wife, has joined us for a different type 9 00:00:41,840 --> 00:00:43,840 of conversation. We're just going to talk some 10 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:47,560 shit. Welcome. 11 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:50,480 No politics, guys. Oh God. 12 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:54,560 Absolutely not. No, honestly I've never seen so 13 00:00:54,560 --> 00:01:00,440 many grown adults just act so childish ever in public. 14 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:05,760 It is. It's been quite interesting in 15 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:08,520 the Facebook posts, in the comments and the tags. 16 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:12,320 I'm like, wow. I was like well if anyone's want 17 00:01:12,320 --> 00:01:15,680 to know what changed in my life since the election, I still woke 18 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:19,480 up next to my best friend. Aw, I love that. 19 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:22,800 I love the Segway off of politics. 20 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:25,680 And I'm going to follow you with that Segway and tell you that 21 00:01:25,680 --> 00:01:30,800 last time we interviewed you, I was so fucked up on edibles and 22 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:34,600 I was sitting here and I was like, I should probably say 23 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:36,720 something. I don't know what to say. 24 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:41,440 And so I made a very conscious choice to not consume so that I 25 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:44,920 could fully be present inside of our conversation without being 26 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:48,960 self-conscious. Honestly, I loved our 27 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:52,760 conversation last time because I didn't realize that little white 28 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:56,640 was like to the side of you like right there, like I just. 29 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,920 I think actually he was sitting where I am right now and I was 30 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:01,880 back there at the dining room table. 31 00:02:02,120 --> 00:02:05,080 Yeah, like wherever he was, he was like kind of listening in 32 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:06,920 and like cheering you on from the side. 33 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:10,120 And I thought that was so sweet because I know you were nervous 34 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:12,840 because it was your first interview, but you did so good. 35 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:16,880 And honestly, I have literally watched you change. 36 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:20,400 So since we first talked, I feel like you've really levelled up 37 00:02:20,400 --> 00:02:25,480 and got got like super grounded, like super super grounded and 38 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:27,880 like making a lot of moves in the last year. 39 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,520 So what do you have going on right now? 40 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:33,960 What have you been doing? Dude, so this is the first time 41 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:38,040 I've ever like set goals and like, like the husband kept 42 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:39,920 asking for stuff and like, all right, give me 6 months. 43 00:02:39,920 --> 00:02:42,480 Give me 6 months. I'm like before 2024 is over, 44 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:44,080 we'll have that. We'll have this. 45 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:46,960 I got you. So I got the White House store 46 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:51,960 up, which I love doing. And it's like, like I, I, it's 47 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:56,680 like a hobby for me because it's one of those things like every 48 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:59,240 time people order something, I just take that money and I go 49 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,320 back and I find new stuff or I get a different graphic or 50 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:04,800 something. So it's like, it's been so much 51 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:08,080 fun and I feel like the fans really love that they know like 52 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:10,320 that we're doing it. Like right where I'm sitting is 53 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:14,040 where I make all the merch. So that's been like helping me 54 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:18,040 mentally and like being happy and like I can tell like people 55 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:24,320 appreciate like what I'm doing. But so we got Pat's or white, we 56 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:26,400 got White's teeth fixed the top ones. 57 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:30,080 So that was a big thing for self esteem. 58 00:03:30,920 --> 00:03:38,080 And then we, I got a new car. It's a 2016, but it's new for 59 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:40,120 me. I just need something or one of 60 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:43,480 our boys is like 6 foot tall and I'm like, dude, there's not 61 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,280 enough room for all of us. Like we can't take merch to 62 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:48,360 shows right now anyways because we didn't have the room. 63 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:50,960 But now we got teenage boys that are like bigger than us. 64 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:55,520 Like so I got my first vehicle all by myself. 65 00:03:56,880 --> 00:03:59,000 That's amazing. Congratulations. 66 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,960 That's such like a feeling of accomplishment too, when like 67 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:05,920 you work so hard to level up to where it's all on you and you 68 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:09,080 can do it. Did things go on the screen 69 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,640 again? No, he's in the corner. 70 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:14,000 We have. That's so funny. 71 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:17,880 So feature No, I think that's really cool. 72 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:22,200 Hello. I've. 73 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:25,680 Seen the white flower? I have seen that. 74 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:28,760 The white flower What's the white flower? 75 00:04:29,680 --> 00:04:36,040 It is his THCA line that we finally launched in July. 76 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:41,680 Yeah, July. I actually fucking love that 77 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:45,680 because there was a, there was a company that I had found that 78 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:50,800 did THCA and what they did is they had I, that's so pretty. 79 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:54,720 They reached out to all of these content creators and they 80 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:58,080 reached out to me and said, we'd really love to sponsor you. 81 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,440 We love our content. Like we'll give you a discount 82 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:03,560 on items like, you know, boost us out, we'll give you 83 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:06,080 Commission. And so I ended up making like 84 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:08,880 multiple videos for them. I got a bunch of people that 85 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:13,120 ordered from them and then they emailed everybody and said, Oh, 86 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:16,120 we actually had to cancel our affiliate program and they never 87 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:22,440 fucking paid me. Oh well, well, so with ours that 88 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:28,280 so we are like we're going to San Francisco on Friday and 89 00:05:28,280 --> 00:05:31,760 we're going to the actual headquarters of Hempco, which is 90 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:35,120 who does the white flower. So that like with the merch, 91 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:38,720 like people love that we're like hands on with it so that we're 92 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:41,800 at the headquarters, they can see like we really are like 93 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:44,560 we've got our our hands in all of it. 94 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:46,920 It's our cookie jar. We're not just putting it on 95 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:51,560 display and have no idea in there like we he's and he's very 96 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:53,720 picky about it because it's something that means a lot to 97 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:57,440 him. So the company we went with is 98 00:05:57,440 --> 00:06:02,040 his name's Doctor Bao. And he had a son that was tried 99 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:05,480 to be born really, really early and ended up with autism and 100 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:09,520 having seizures. And he gave up his practice and 101 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:14,720 went more on the holistic medicine side and like went over 102 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:17,680 and found all this stuff and figured out how to break down 103 00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:20,360 every like all the cannabinoid cannabinoids. 104 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:25,040 I'm learning because I don't, I don't smoke or anything. 105 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:28,360 So I'm like learning too. But so there's like no extra 106 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,800 preservative stuff in it. It's all as natural as possible. 107 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:37,080 Like he is doing it for his son. So he's got like a good heart 108 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:38,720 behind it. He's not like we should sell. 109 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:41,360 We, we can make money. He's like, no, I want to people 110 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:45,440 so, so that, yeah. I want to support you guys. 111 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:47,760 Are you guys already launched or is that something you're working 112 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:50,000 on? So we're working on branding 113 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:51,400 right now. It's launched like you can go 114 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:54,840 on, you can go online and order it direct to your house or 115 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:59,480 stores can put it in there. The wholesale orders can do it, 116 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:02,560 but they're putting together when we go there this week, 117 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,960 we're putting together white flower boxes. 118 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:08,840 So like for influencers and stuff, we send them out and it's 119 00:07:08,840 --> 00:07:11,720 gonna have like a probably a T-shirt in it and like a little 120 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:13,640 rolling tray and some of the products. 121 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:17,400 So it's like a promo gift box and one kind of thing. 122 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:20,720 That's really cool. You know, there is such a huge 123 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:25,840 market for the THCA because it is like legal or they can sell 124 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:28,680 it in illegal states. And I know that's gotten very, 125 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:32,640 very popular with like just the vape pens. 126 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:35,960 And I went into a smoke shop one day and they had all of this 127 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:38,400 flour and I didn't realize like what it was. 128 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:40,960 I was like, are they like doing this illegal in here? 129 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:43,920 Like are they just got? It the same thing when I saw 130 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:47,200 like billboards and stuff and I'm like, especially like in 131 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:51,400 Nashville, they advertise it like they're like THC shops and 132 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:53,720 like, I don't know if the A's like in fine print and you can't 133 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:56,560 see it on the Billboard because like we don't really just stop 134 00:07:56,560 --> 00:07:58,560 and go in there. But I'm like, how are they 135 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:03,000 legally selling this stuff? And then we found out and met 136 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:04,720 everybody. We went to the champ show in 137 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:09,880 July and we got the the pre rolls and the flower out. 138 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:13,000 So there's three, three different pre rolls to choose 139 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:14,880 from and there's three different flowers to choose from. 140 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:18,160 And now we're trying to figure out what product we're going to 141 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,680 launch for the February Champ Show. 142 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:25,280 You don't consume though, personally. 143 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:28,800 So you're just like the support and the backbone behind it, but 144 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:30,520 you don't you don't test out the product. 145 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:32,559 Oh, no, I test them because, like I said, oh. 146 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:36,600 You do test them, so I. Don't like to smoke because I 147 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:41,520 like sleep for like 16 hours so I've hit each one like once or 148 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:44,400 twice just so like it doesn't burn the back of my throat. 149 00:08:44,720 --> 00:08:47,720 I don't feel like I'm about to cough a lung up and it tastes 150 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:49,760 good. I don't have like a weird weed 151 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:53,480 taste in my mouth afterwards. Like it's like I legitimately 152 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:56,760 think it's super smooth. It I mean of course everything 153 00:08:56,760 --> 00:08:58,680 gets me high. I could be in a room and like 154 00:08:58,680 --> 00:09:00,800 smell too much of it. I'm like y'all got to contact 155 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:03,600 Kyle. It's going to be but I like 156 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:07,920 edibles. I love snickerdoodle cookies and 157 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:14,000 I ate like six of them on Sunday because we were in New Mexico 158 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:17,240 when I got some and I ate like 2 before bed that night. 159 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:19,600 And when I got up I was like, look y'all, I just drove like 160 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:22,200 2000 miles in the past like 6 days. 161 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:27,480 So mom's clocking out, wife's clocking out, manager's clocking 162 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:28,960 out. Nobody asked me nothing. 163 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:31,600 And I'd eat one and then like it starts to wear off. 164 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:34,000 So alright, I need another one. And I went through like six of 165 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:35,760 them all day long and I sat on the couch. 166 00:09:36,680 --> 00:09:39,400 I just did nothing. People kept talking to me and 167 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:41,240 I'm like I am too high for this shit. 168 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:44,520 What the fuck do y'all want? It really needs to be more 169 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:48,040 accessible for everyone because people need to chill out. 170 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:52,640 And it would really help our nation as a whole to calm down 171 00:09:52,680 --> 00:09:58,560 and like, stop being so nasty. Like everyone, not even just 172 00:09:58,560 --> 00:10:00,000 with what's been going on recently. 173 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,560 I'm just talking like overall, like people in traffic or people 174 00:10:02,560 --> 00:10:08,440 at the store, like people are rude because they're struggling. 175 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:11,120 And then they project that on. And it's like if more people had 176 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:15,480 access to recreational marijuana, I believe that things 177 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:18,000 would fix themselves. Like things would start to work 178 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:21,320 themselves out more. It would, and they've done so 179 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:24,440 much research on breaking it down and stuff like if you go 180 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:29,640 into, we don't really go into smoke shops out here because we 181 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:31,240 have everything shipped to us now. 182 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:34,360 But like in the we did the meet and greet at the smoke shop in 183 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:39,600 New Mexico and like each thing has like a like the sativas, 184 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:43,320 indicas and hybrids, but it also tells you one of that product 185 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:47,240 like Hey, this is good for anxiety and insomnia and bipolar 186 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:51,320 or this is good for like there's even though like you might have 187 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:53,680 four or five different sativas in there. 188 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:57,280 Each sativa has kind of broken down to what it helps with. 189 00:10:57,280 --> 00:11:00,000 I'm like, y'all like really like gone all out. 190 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:04,360 I love this. Like I'm all like pro marijuana, 191 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:06,440 all of it. I just personally can't do it 192 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:09,080 like no matter what it is obviously. 193 00:11:11,640 --> 00:11:14,800 I feel like educating too helps to like break a lot of stigmas 194 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:18,840 and stereotypes and people are opening up their mind more. 195 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:23,720 I feel like, I don't know, maybe that's just the people that I 196 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:26,880 surround myself with. I don't really have many people 197 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:31,160 inside of my world that don't consume one way or the other, 198 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:34,640 but I hope that it helps to like break down the stigma and maybe 199 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:37,960 people getting to like have things delivered to them and be 200 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:41,240 like, oh, it's legal. We'll help them to expand their 201 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,960 mind, try something. And there are so many options. 202 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:47,240 I think people only think about smoking, but they're, I mean, 203 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:50,920 whether it's like gummies and edibles or tinctures or 204 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:57,080 whatever, I will say. It creams like the pain cream 205 00:11:57,120 --> 00:12:00,480 stuff. Pain cream shit's so good. 206 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:03,920 I went to the hospital once because of weed, but in my 207 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:08,200 defense, I was on this like crazy anti seizure medication 208 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:14,920 and I decided to pair it with a definitely not legal everywhere 209 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:19,000 cannabis tincture. And I think you're supposed to 210 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:22,600 have like a little like teaspoon of the thing, but it was a 211 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:25,160 bottle and I was like, well, I don't have a way to measure it, 212 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:27,840 so I'll just like take some like take some sips of it. 213 00:12:28,760 --> 00:12:33,040 I ended up like giving myself a seizure and like I had to be 214 00:12:33,040 --> 00:12:35,480 hospitalized. I like didn't know where I was 215 00:12:35,560 --> 00:12:38,680 and I couldn't remember anything from my day and I thought I had 216 00:12:38,680 --> 00:12:40,120 dementia. It was a whole thing. 217 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:44,240 Wow. No, that was 2021. 218 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:47,680 We were in the trenches. I think you know. 219 00:12:48,160 --> 00:12:53,480 Not COVID I I accidentally drugged myself with weed. 220 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:57,240 I did. I did, yeah. 221 00:12:57,480 --> 00:13:02,040 There are a lot of options and in the medical arena that stuff 222 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:07,160 is really strong. Like the medical level grade 223 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:10,800 like is so different than the recreational ones that they 224 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:15,520 offer. It's crazy that people are still 225 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:21,480 against it when cigarettes are so popular or alcohol, you know? 226 00:13:21,480 --> 00:13:27,160 So whatever, check in. How is yours like sobriety 227 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:31,560 journey going? So he just hit 500 something 228 00:13:31,560 --> 00:13:32,880 days. I think he's probably, I think 229 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:40,320 he's a day like five O 6 and he's so he's done like the 0% 230 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:44,120 alcohol bigger, but he's at a point now where it's not because 231 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:46,560 he like is trying to not think about it. 232 00:13:46,560 --> 00:13:48,680 It's just more of like if we're all sitting there and 233 00:13:48,680 --> 00:13:50,320 everybody's like got a drink or something. 234 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:53,400 He like kind of makes him feel like a big kid. 235 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:56,720 I guess like, you know, like when all all the big kids have 236 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:59,560 cups with no lids and he's like, well, I want a big kid cup. 237 00:13:59,560 --> 00:14:04,120 So he has his little like 0.0% Heinekens and they actually 238 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:08,440 have, I don't know if like the, it was like the sobriety heard 239 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:12,000 around the world or Crown Royal stock like plummeted after we 240 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:17,120 quit drinking. But they have 0% blue moon, 0% 241 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:22,160 Sam Adams, Corona, Heineken, Budweiser, like there's all 242 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:25,680 sorts of it now. So, so with me, it's still just, 243 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:29,120 I'm good, it's fine. But like with him, it's, that's 244 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:32,440 all he's had to do. And he's he smokes a lot more 245 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:36,840 weed though. I mean, I think a lot of times 246 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:39,560 people give up one thing for something else, You know what I 247 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:41,120 mean? Like whether it's like, OK, I 248 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:43,360 have a shopping addiction and now I'm addicted to go in the 249 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:46,920 gym or, you know, people get addicted to plastic surgery or 250 00:14:46,920 --> 00:14:49,440 like injections, right? Like worse. 251 00:14:49,440 --> 00:14:53,440 We have an extremist mindset as humans. 252 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:58,480 It's like, OK, I like this. So now it's my favorite or it's 253 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:01,720 my team or it's my personality or it's my hobby, you know, like 254 00:15:02,040 --> 00:15:03,520 we're always identifying with things. 255 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:07,280 And I think that's how people take things so extreme where 256 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:09,800 it's like, oh, I can't be friends if you're not on my team 257 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:13,520 because of that. Like, you know, a lot of people 258 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:16,320 will give up a bad habit and switch it out for like a really 259 00:15:16,320 --> 00:15:19,280 good habit. That also can be like, like 260 00:15:19,280 --> 00:15:21,960 overworking or, you know, overdoing it at the gym or 261 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:24,000 overdoing it with surgeries and stuff. 262 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:26,560 You know, like, sometimes a little goes a long way, but 263 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:29,000 there's a fine line between like overdoing it. 264 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:32,800 And I just think it's really rare for people like him to be 265 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:38,600 able to like, go cold Turkey and stay with it so long, you know, 266 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:43,480 and then like you said, just every once in a while have a 0% 267 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:46,920 beer. But it's not like there is 268 00:15:48,520 --> 00:15:50,240 anyone that's forcing him to do that. 269 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:52,640 I guess you know what I mean? Like it's a choice now. 270 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:55,720 Like now it's a choice. It's not something that comes 271 00:15:55,720 --> 00:15:59,440 easy after years and years. It just takes consistency. 272 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:00,720 So I think that's awesome. He's. 273 00:16:01,880 --> 00:16:03,640 Doing good, yeah. And the biggest thing I was 274 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:06,040 like, well, you said you're sober, but you smoke weed and 275 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:08,480 I'm like, that's not what's so so. 276 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:16,600 So if anyone wonders, sober means no alcohol, clean means no 277 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:21,640 like drugs like fentanyl, Percocets, like all that. 278 00:16:21,640 --> 00:16:26,040 The only drugs that he takes he's literally prescribed and he 279 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:29,280 has his own Xanax prescription that he takes as it's 280 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:31,960 prescribed. And they're so picky about it. 281 00:16:31,960 --> 00:16:35,120 They're like, hold on, let's increase all these other meds 282 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,400 before we increase your Xanax. So it's not like he can go in 283 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,400 there and be like, look, I quit drinking, I'm a little white and 284 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:43,440 I need 4 bars a day. So like like barely even like 285 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:45,960 even he has like a couple days. He's like, I just need like an 286 00:16:45,960 --> 00:16:48,560 extra Xanax and I'm just like, you got to follow his script and 287 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:50,560 figure it out. So he'll get an edible or he'll 288 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:56,480 smoke or something like that. But being clean is no pills. 289 00:16:56,920 --> 00:17:00,320 Being sober is no alcohol. And I guess being I guess clean 290 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:03,400 would be like, well, I guess meth and fit in August. 291 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:05,720 That's all you can get it in a pill form, I guess. 292 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:09,240 But yeah, all that nasty shooting up and pain pills. 293 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:14,440 Meth in a pill form. Well I mean Adderall is 294 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:19,599 basically meth in a pill. And they do put those in like 295 00:17:19,599 --> 00:17:22,880 caps, like those like mall, like when you think you're getting 296 00:17:22,880 --> 00:17:26,440 Molly, there's meth in there. Oh, yeah, News flash for 297 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:29,120 everyone listening, you thought you've never done meth? 298 00:17:29,120 --> 00:17:31,640 Like, Oh no, I've just done Molly or I've just done X. 299 00:17:31,640 --> 00:17:33,680 No, you've also done meth, by the way. 300 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:35,800 Hate to break it through. Ecstasy. 301 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:40,360 And you've done that cause like. What year though if you if you 302 00:17:40,360 --> 00:17:45,720 did Molly or X like before like 2003? 303 00:17:46,120 --> 00:17:48,800 It wasn't before 2003. But it is probably Hedman. 304 00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:53,240 OK. Because in 2003 I was nine years 305 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:57,560 old and I'm pretty sure that was like around the first time that 306 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:01,080 I heard little White. Like that was like around the 307 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:02,880 time that I had first heard because this. 308 00:18:02,880 --> 00:18:06,480 When he dropped in 2003. Yeah, because the neighbor boy 309 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:08,920 listened to him and I wasn't. That's how I found him. 310 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:10,680 The neighbor boy was listening to him. 311 00:18:11,360 --> 00:18:15,000 The neighbor boys. Y'all hanging out little boys 312 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:17,840 next door and stuff. It was my friend's older 313 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:20,360 brother, and he used to sit there and we would be like, why? 314 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:22,760 Like Brad, why the fuck do you keep talking to us? 315 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,760 And he would be like, yeah, listen to what, you guys? 316 00:18:26,120 --> 00:18:28,360 And so we just, like, listen to it by default. 317 00:18:28,360 --> 00:18:31,480 And then, you know, those songs that, like, you listen to and 318 00:18:31,480 --> 00:18:34,440 then you know, every single word, like Colt 45, we just came 319 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:36,680 out of the womb. Like knowing the lyrics. 320 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:42,800 I feel like it's that way with Oxycontin and I just know every 321 00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:47,160 single word out of the womb. Yeah, I think everybody in 322 00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:49,960 Memphis was born with bad credit, and you knew all the 323 00:18:49,960 --> 00:18:55,240 words to slob on my knob. I also knew slob on my knob so. 324 00:18:56,280 --> 00:19:00,880 Three 6 Mafia was at the Louder Than Life festival and it's just 325 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:04,240 blows my mind that they come to louder than Life wearing like 326 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:08,320 Gucci and we're out there in like mud and rain boots and rain 327 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:12,560 and they have like just like Gucci shades and Gucci fits like 328 00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:15,520 get up from head to toe and we're just out there in the rain 329 00:19:15,760 --> 00:19:18,400 and in ponchos and it blows my mind. 330 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:24,080 Ponchos legit blows my mind that like rappers, we'll do that and 331 00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:28,000 then be like, now have a mosh pit and people do it and they 332 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:31,600 have a mosh pit to this music that you just really can't mosh 333 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:34,400 to. Like I just, you know, I don't 334 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:38,720 know, there's really no way to mosh to bands make her dance, 335 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:42,320 but people did it. And I feel like that is a core 336 00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:45,800 memory that has unlocked for me. So I want to know what fucking 337 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:48,680 poncho you're wearing because I just imagine you out there and 338 00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:55,400 like a hot pink bedazzled poncho with like like some type of like 339 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:59,000 cute lining and like matching like boots. 340 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:02,680 Do with white when we go, especially when we do like the 341 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:07,120 redneck raves, I have to order the little like surgical boot 342 00:20:07,360 --> 00:20:10,840 cover things that they like wear in the hospital so that he can 343 00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:14,200 walk to the stage. I'm like, seriously, I might 344 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:15,600 just let me give you a piggyback ride. 345 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:17,120 He's like, no, no, no, I'm too big for you. 346 00:20:17,120 --> 00:20:18,600 I'm like, we're they were like the same size. 347 00:20:18,600 --> 00:20:20,160 Just let me like just get you to the stage. 348 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:22,640 He's like, he's like, no, just let me put the and he like walks 349 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:25,400 like a like a praying mantis or something. 350 00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:26,640 He's like walking through the mud. 351 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:29,240 But after the show, he's fine. He ends up just saying fuck 352 00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:31,720 these Jordans. But like before then, they're 353 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:35,160 like surgically wrapped and protected from any kind of mud. 354 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:40,680 It was because of the hurricane was the reason that we were 355 00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:43,640 having all that rain. Like normally I wouldn't go to a 356 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:45,840 four day festival that's full of mud and stuff. 357 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:50,200 Like I just don't prefer that. But it was just one of those 358 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:53,000 things where it was like you're either going to let it ruin the 359 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:54,920 whole festival or you're going to go, you know? 360 00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:58,120 So we just went. But it just blows my mind, like 361 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:04,320 the things people will wear at a festival regardless if it's 362 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:06,600 raining or mudding. And then they were just sliding 363 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:10,920 around and having, like, mud wrestling right by the porta 364 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:13,160 potties. And I'm not sure what's mud and 365 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,200 what's not mud. It's really my yeah. 366 00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:21,360 So in Memphis, when we did Memphis and May, it was it was 367 00:21:21,360 --> 00:21:24,160 always Memphis and mud because it always rained. 368 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:28,400 But Memphis and May was like our big musical festival, like like 369 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:32,200 four or five stages, hundreds of bands, three day weekend. 370 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:39,320 And girls would be dressed, super cute hair, makeup, outfit, 371 00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:42,680 everything on point. But below the knee was rain 372 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:48,960 boots. I have a sneeze and I keep 373 00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:51,320 having the sneeze and then it gets like stuck. 374 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,320 So I'm like oh God damn it. And then it doesn't come and I'm 375 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:55,920 like, I just need to get the sneeze out. 376 00:21:57,800 --> 00:21:59,520 It'll come out as soon as you forget about it. 377 00:21:59,920 --> 00:22:06,440 Yeah, well, I want to know. So I find myself currently this 378 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,680 is me like asking life advice I guess and like how I can support 379 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:13,160 people. So I find myself surrounded by 380 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:18,160 people who really should get sober and see the effects that 381 00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:21,840 like drinking has on their life and and watch their life like 382 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:28,320 fall apart and don't want that, but then don't really seek help 383 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:32,480 for themselves. And I don't want to be the 384 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,400 person who like gives up on people who are like needing 385 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:38,560 support and needing somebody. But I do want to like have 386 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:41,640 boundaries and be like, you know, this is toxic for like my 387 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:45,200 life. And I, as I've been kind of 388 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,960 expressing that there are a lot of other people I know that are 389 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,480 experiencing that too. And as somebody who's on a sober 390 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:54,920 journey and who has been with somebody who is, you know, 391 00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,640 wanting to get clean for themselves or needing to, you 392 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:01,600 know, stop drinking or whatever. Do you have any advice on like 393 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:07,000 how to support people through that and help them? 394 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:10,720 Like maybe even see their rock bottom and like get help for 395 00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:15,160 themselves? So I actually went through this 396 00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:19,240 thing. I was like 1918, nineteen years 397 00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:24,120 old, and one of my best friends was she was like losing 398 00:23:24,120 --> 00:23:28,000 everything. She was, she was broke, she was 399 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:30,560 on drugs, She was with a dude that was beating her. 400 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,320 Like you name it, she was going through it. 401 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:34,320 So she came to my mom's house one night. 402 00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,720 My mom was like, well, stay here. 403 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:37,920 She's like, you don't do about work. 404 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:39,240 Don't worry about any bills right now. 405 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,200 Just stay here, relax, get it together. 406 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:43,840 I, you know, there's always food here. 407 00:23:43,840 --> 00:23:47,440 Like she grew up going to my house and I had to go to class 408 00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:49,000 the next day. When I got home, I was like, 409 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:51,800 hey, where's she at? My mom was like, I, she left. 410 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:53,640 I was, I don't know. And I didn't hear from her for 411 00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:56,400 like years. But I personally, I didn't reach 412 00:23:56,400 --> 00:24:00,160 out because you can't help someone who doesn't want to help 413 00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:04,920 themselves. And no matter I but myself, my 414 00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,600 mom, all sorts of other people had offered her everything in 415 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:11,960 the world for her to step away. And she even came to people and 416 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,640 said like, Hey, I've got issues. I got this going on like and 417 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:17,280 people offered it to her and she didn't. 418 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:21,480 So until somebody's ready to ready to change, they're not 419 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:25,080 going to. And it hurt. 420 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:29,840 It broke my heart and about it was right when me and white 421 00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:32,400 started dating I was like hey I need to go meet up with my 422 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,360 friend. I haven't seen her in like 423 00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:40,080 almost a decade but she ended up getting the an implant in her 424 00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:42,640 where she does put any drugs in her body. 425 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:46,760 She instantly gets sick and her body rejects it. 426 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:50,000 So she did finally get help but it was on her terms. 427 00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:53,640 You can't, you can't force anybody to get help. 428 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:58,000 Like it's just like even with white, like it got to a point 429 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,120 where it was like I told like it was either going to be death or 430 00:25:01,120 --> 00:25:05,840 divorce and he wasn't going to die because of me. 431 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:10,240 So like, but the judge also had a lot to do with it. 432 00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:11,960 The judge was like, hey, you're literally about to lose 433 00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:13,720 everything. I could put you behind bars 434 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:17,120 right now for breaking your probation or breaking his 435 00:25:17,120 --> 00:25:20,840 alcohol monitor thing. And he when he realized like he 436 00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:24,560 could go to jail for over even just over a year isn't really 437 00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,440 like a long time. We think about people that have 438 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:30,200 done years and years and years. But he knew that if he went away 439 00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,040 that long that he'd come home to nothing. 440 00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:37,440 So it was his choice to change. So I mean, you can, all you can 441 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:41,280 do as a person is to offer help and support. 442 00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:45,320 People want to accept it that you know, then of course, back 443 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:46,560 it up. If you're gonna help somebody, 444 00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:48,600 don't be like, oh, well, I was just being nice that day. 445 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,800 Like if you want to truly help someone, offer it to them. 446 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:54,800 And if they don't take it, you just gotta, you know, pray or 447 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,680 just tell the universe, like, please watch that person. 448 00:25:58,120 --> 00:26:01,880 You know, I did what I could. And I cried the day I saw my 449 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:05,280 friend when we went to go see her and she met us in downtown 450 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,520 Memphis. And I just, I just bawled my 451 00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,520 eyes out. I was so because all those years 452 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,520 I just had in the back of my head, I was worried about her. 453 00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,440 She's one of my best friends. But until someone wants that 454 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:18,880 help, there's nothing there's nothing we can do on our end. 455 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:23,320 It's just. I think from everyone in my 456 00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:27,440 family that has dealt with alcoholism or has been affected 457 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:31,200 by that, like they repeat the cycle until they either hurt 458 00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:35,160 themselves or end up in jail or lose everything. 459 00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:38,520 Like, I really don't think a lot of people want to change their 460 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:43,200 bad habits because whatever they're using the addiction to 461 00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:46,400 cope with, like maybe they're coping with trauma or low self 462 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:50,840 esteem or lack of confidence or whatever it may be, maybe they 463 00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,560 just hate themselves. You know, a lot of the times I 464 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:56,480 remember thinking like when I was doing drugs or when I was 465 00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:59,560 drinking every day, I did not like myself. 466 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:03,040 Like there was something going on within my head that was 467 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:07,840 making me want to self destruct. And I think that sometimes the 468 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:12,960 separation of people wanting to help you and actually setting 469 00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:16,160 alone and being alone and realizing that that is your 470 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:19,880 future was really one of the most life changing things for 471 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,400 me. It was like when I went Mia and 472 00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:26,640 they put a missing person report out on me and no one could find 473 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,960 me. And I post a lot on social 474 00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:30,600 media. So I found out that if I don't 475 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,560 post for three days, people will believe that I have been 476 00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:36,000 kidnapped. Like if I do not have a story 477 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:38,280 for three days, I have now figured out that everyone on the 478 00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:41,000 Internet will be like, RIP, where's Paige? 479 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:42,880 We can't find her, She's missing. 480 00:27:43,120 --> 00:27:45,480 And there was literally like this rumor that I had been 481 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:50,560 kidnapped and sex trafficked because it was near Derby and 482 00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:54,200 people get sex trafficked. So all I wanted was some peace. 483 00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:57,040 It was just from zero to 100, like, yeah. 484 00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,960 Like, I just wanted some peace and quiet to work through my own 485 00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:03,880 personal issues. And everyone took that to 486 00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,320 extreme. So I think sometimes like 487 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:09,400 setting alone and setting at that rock bottom moment is the 488 00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:12,000 only moment that's going to make you want to change. 489 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:15,240 Because, you know, like the judge told him, you will lose 490 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:17,120 everything if I put you away for a year. 491 00:28:17,360 --> 00:28:20,600 And that's something that probably significantly shifted 492 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,640 his mindset because it wasn't just I'm getting drunk and 493 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:26,880 having fun with my friends. It's I'm not going to have any 494 00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:28,640 friends left. I'm not going to have anybody 495 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:31,080 left. So I think for me personally, it 496 00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:35,560 was like sitting alone and realizing that I was so unhappy 497 00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:37,840 with myself. And the way I was treating 498 00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:41,760 myself was a reflection of that. And I think Bunny has a version 499 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:44,680 of that that she's talked about. Like, you know, once you hate 500 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,840 yourself to the point of just not caring about your own 501 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:52,040 well-being, like there is no way to go further down, you know 502 00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:53,440 what I mean? Like if you're poisoning your 503 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:56,320 body every single day, like there's no other way to go down, 504 00:28:56,560 --> 00:28:59,160 there's just there. You know what I mean? 505 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:05,080 Emptiness. And the motivation to like, get 506 00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:08,760 up and, like, fix it is not one that you just wake up one day 507 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:10,880 and, you know, you know what? Gonna make me bowl cereal and 508 00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:12,560 I'm just gonna go realize that I'm awesome. 509 00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:16,040 It does not work that way. It takes a whole minute to be 510 00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:20,920 like, OK, so. Yeah. 511 00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:24,720 Something flying around, You saw that or not? 512 00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:28,000 I was like, it's zoomed and then it, I don't know, it stopped and 513 00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:30,000 then it moved again. But I don't know. 514 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,560 I think helping people is like loving them from a distance 515 00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:38,840 sometimes, you know, just like I love you, but I'm not going to 516 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:42,720 set front row and watch you self destruct like I am going to 517 00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:45,120 remove my energy. And I think that's sometimes the 518 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,680 best thing that we can do for ourselves because if we stay 519 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:52,680 involved with things, we'll start asking like why me or what 520 00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:54,880 am I doing wrong? Or we'll start blaming ourselves 521 00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,000 for something that has nothing to do with us. 522 00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:02,240 And I've learned that I have addictive tendencies, whether 523 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:05,600 it's like I'm addicted to coconut water now and I have to 524 00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:09,960 have like 4 cases at all times, like I have enough coconut water 525 00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:13,320 or I get addicted to pillows like I have to have new. 526 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:16,960 Every time I would go to TJ Maxx, I would get 2 new pillows 527 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:19,880 to the point where I had to donate some to the shelter 528 00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,600 because I had just all these picking pillows. 529 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:26,360 So I don't know, I, it's either, you know, crack or coconut 530 00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:28,920 water. It's, you know, you got to have 531 00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,520 one extreme with me, so I don't know. 532 00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:33,840 I feel like when I was drinking I was extreme with it. 533 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:35,920 You know, when I smoked cigarettes, I was extreme with 534 00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,280 it. Like I can't be calm. 535 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:43,120 Like I'm either extreme or not interested at all. 536 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,120 And that's so interesting because I don't like, I don't 537 00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:53,040 have an addictive personality to things, but I do recognize that 538 00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:56,480 like I need to have caffeine every day in order to like not 539 00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:59,240 get a headache or something. Like I understand that like my 540 00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:05,040 body's reliance on that thing, but I don't, I, I don't have the 541 00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:09,240 need to like be extreme about things in order to feel like I'm 542 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:13,000 getting enough of it. But I do have hyper fixation 543 00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,800 meals. Like I will try something that 544 00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:18,800 like is new or like get a craving for something. 545 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,400 And I'm like, oh, this is, I'm going to eat this for lunch 546 00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,440 every single day for a week. And then I'm never going to 547 00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:25,760 fucking eat this again. And I won't eat Turkey 548 00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:29,600 sandwiches for a year because I had to have 1:00 every single 549 00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:32,600 day for a week. So I guess that's my my like 550 00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:34,920 happening. I don't even know the other 551 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:36,400 thing. Yeah, because I'd like, we have 552 00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:38,480 a restaurant right now we go to and I order like the same thing 553 00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:40,200 every time we go. I'm like, I'm sorry, I love 554 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:41,320 this. This is what I want. 555 00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:47,120 So I didn't. Talk about devastating you all. 556 00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:50,000 I have like a handful of restaurants in the city that I 557 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,200 like and I am a regular at all of them. 558 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:54,720 So when I come in, they know what I like, they know what I 559 00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:56,440 want. They know to tell me about 560 00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:58,640 certain specials. They know to hook my drink up 561 00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:01,880 like they know. So there's this restaurant and 562 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:03,440 it's called Mitchell's Fish Market. 563 00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,720 And it's like where you can get like fresh seafood, like really 564 00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:10,000 good gourmet, like hand prepared meals. 565 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:14,480 And a couple weeks ago, just out of the blue on a Saturday night, 566 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:17,280 they just closed their doors, sent everyone home and just 567 00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:21,520 closed. And I have just been so upset 568 00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:25,720 like triggered because the closest one is in Michigan, not 569 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:29,120 really close. So triggered you all. 570 00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:33,440 So when I tell you hyperphyxiation or I like that 571 00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:36,480 term because I feel like I was addicted to this place. 572 00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:42,440 But the problem with me is I, I only want to go places that make 573 00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:46,000 me feel happy and welcomed and like, you know, you know, like 574 00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:47,880 you go to a restaurant and you're expecting your meal to be 575 00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:50,800 really good and the service sucks or people are rude. 576 00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:54,360 Like if I have certain places where I'm a regular, that never 577 00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:57,360 happens. They always make sure they know 578 00:32:57,360 --> 00:33:00,240 I'm about to tip them 20 to $30 period. 579 00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:02,520 Don't even matter what the bill is, they know they're getting 20 580 00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:04,880 or more and, and service is great. 581 00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:08,160 So I feel so triggered. You do work in a restaurant 582 00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:10,520 business. I have but I'm not a great 583 00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:12,160 server to be honest. I keep. 584 00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,600 Most people that worked in the business like get it. 585 00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:20,400 Like we went into one of our spots the other day and there's 586 00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:22,320 a New Girl working and she was like, y'all, can I have a seat 587 00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:25,520 wherever you like? And I was like, I know I 588 00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:27,080 probably know the mini better than me. 589 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:29,120 Like don't 'cause he's like, So what do you want to sit? 590 00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:30,120 I was like, let's go sit at the bar. 591 00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:31,200 I was like, I don't want to sit with her. 592 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:32,240 She doesn't know what she told us. 593 00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:34,280 We could sit where we want. We know we can sit where we 594 00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:36,000 want. Like I'm like a little spoiled 595 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:38,360 brat about it sometimes. Of course, I'm never ugly or 596 00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:42,160 rude, but I'm just like, I know I can sit wherever I want. 597 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:44,680 I could go probably walk in the kitchen, get my own ranch right 598 00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:46,080 now and they're not going to say anything. 599 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:51,720 So like I totally get it. And when we go out, it's like we 600 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,840 go to our little spots and around the city he gets 601 00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:59,160 recognized like a whole lot. And most of the places we found 602 00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:01,800 like once we've eaten there, once they realize we're laid 603 00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:04,920 back and cooled, then they treat us like regulars and normal 604 00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:07,560 people. And like the experience is nice 605 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:11,239 and we're not bothered and like the service is good. 606 00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:15,320 And since we quit drinking, we made a thing where just because 607 00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:18,920 our tabs not as big doesn't mean that our servers or bartenders 608 00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:22,800 should make less money. So we still tip as if there's 609 00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:26,719 alcohol in our tab. Or like I tried to make it like 610 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,760 $10 per person off the top. So whenever we come in, you're 611 00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:33,400 getting 20 bucks. And most of the time, like we 612 00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,440 don't even eat a whole lot like during the day. 613 00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:37,520 So we're not running errands. If we stop and get something 614 00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:40,199 you're you might make 20 bucks off of serving us some cheese 615 00:34:40,199 --> 00:34:42,320 sticks or something like that. Something so easy. 616 00:34:42,679 --> 00:34:45,560 And then like wanting to take the kids with us, we add $10 per 617 00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:48,040 person and then if they're awesome, put extra on it. 618 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:52,120 But we just so like, I don't like our servers that all that 619 00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,280 were regulars that they don't deserve to lose money because we 620 00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:59,400 couldn't control our alcohol. So that's the probably the 621 00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:04,280 biggest thing I feel like was it us trying to be better people 622 00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:07,600 was like just because we were at home ruining stuff doesn't mean 623 00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:09,120 we need to ruin other people's stuff. 624 00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:14,000 Like that makes sense. Yeah, I feel like there's like a 625 00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,000 generational thing with tipping too. 626 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:20,280 Like my father-in-law and even my mom are like, well, if I go 627 00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:24,200 out and they're like doing their job or whatever, then like I 628 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:26,640 don't need to tip them. But if they go like above and 629 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,320 beyond for me, then I'll tip them. 630 00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:32,240 And I got into like this whole like not argument, but kind of 631 00:35:32,240 --> 00:35:35,480 with my father-in-law one day when we went out to eat and I 632 00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:40,480 ended up paying the tip because he like deducts the additional 633 00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,800 like taxes or whatever from what he's going to tip. 634 00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:49,880 And then he's tipping you 10% on the like free tax bill. 635 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:54,720 And yeah, you're just like that. Like we were talking about like, 636 00:35:54,720 --> 00:35:56,480 oh, let's discuss what our icks are. 637 00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:01,720 If you don't treat the people that are serving food to you or 638 00:36:01,720 --> 00:36:04,880 taking care of you in any kind of hospitality industry with 639 00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:08,760 like respect and just treating them like at least like a human 640 00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:12,480 being and being friendly. If you're down talking, can't do 641 00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:13,800 it. Instantly icked out. 642 00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:15,960 I'm I want to leave. I don't like you anymore. 643 00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:17,240 I'll never hang out with you again. 644 00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:20,800 And I'm talking like I've gotten out to eat with people that are 645 00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:25,200 like just fucking rude and like I need a refill. 646 00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:29,800 Like I just can't imagine not pouring the picture of soda on 647 00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:33,600 them when you come to refill it and then not tipping. 648 00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:37,400 Like I just, I don't understand. I think I'm one of those people 649 00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:40,480 that thinks if you're going to go out to eat or you're going to 650 00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:43,360 have food delivered or something, you should be putting 651 00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:46,760 into your budget for that, that you're going to be taking care 652 00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:49,800 of the people. Especially somebody driving to 653 00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:53,760 your house to go and get your fucking food to you because you 654 00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,400 don't want to go out for whatever reason and go pick it 655 00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:57,920 up yourself. There's no reason that you 656 00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:01,520 shouldn't be giving that person at least at least enough money 657 00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:04,200 to cover their gas. Right I. 658 00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:08,120 Am really? Big on the tipping the delivery 659 00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:12,800 people, like I'm not tipping the person who spun this iPad around 660 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:16,680 and I think anything OK, I'm sorry, I have rolls. 661 00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:19,680 If you haven't done anything but your job, I'm not tipping you. 662 00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:22,560 If I order Smoothie King on the app and I'm going to pick it up 663 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,960 at the window, I'll tip them because I ordered it on the app. 664 00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:29,840 If I order it at the window, I'm probably not going to tip. 665 00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,400 Like, you know what I mean? Like it's like it's just 666 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:33,360 different. I don't know. 667 00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:34,960 I think there's so many different levels. 668 00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:38,320 But if you are working and waiting on me in any way and 669 00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:41,840 walking and using your legs to do that, I'm tipping you. 670 00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:45,560 And I think this whole 20% shit is just bogus. 671 00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:49,600 And I think also there is no reason that anyone should be 672 00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:54,400 making less than the minimum wage, which is 725, which is not 673 00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:56,360 a lot. It's that's what I made when I I 674 00:37:56,360 --> 00:38:01,640 worked a minimum wage job. It went from like 575 to 725. 675 00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:05,400 When I got my first job. I remember thinking like, wow, 676 00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:07,800 I'm making more money. And I remember my boss being 677 00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:09,680 like, Oh yeah, y'all got a raise from that. 678 00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:12,680 So we're not giving you a raise. Don't even remember that far 679 00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:15,920 back really. It would have been over 20 years 680 00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:19,600 ago when I got my first job. I got my first job when I was 681 00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:24,000 12, so 20 years ago. That was like 14. 682 00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:31,640 Let's say that there's no reason server should only be making 683 00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:35,240 $2.00 or whatever an hour, because I think that's just, 684 00:38:35,240 --> 00:38:36,800 that doesn't even make sense to me. 685 00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,880 That's a, that's a pet peeve of mine because that makes no sense 686 00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:43,680 to me. Like where does anyone think 687 00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:48,160 that relying on the general public to provide for you like 688 00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,760 is legal? I feel like that's like child 689 00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:54,080 labor or slave labor in a way. Like you're making someone work 690 00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,520 for $2.00. They're doing all this cleaning 691 00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:59,240 side work. That was my beef with serving. 692 00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:05,160 I served and I did not like the side work, the closing, the 693 00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:07,600 people who bring their kids and don't clean up after them, the 694 00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:11,000 people who let their kids make huge messes to the old people, 695 00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:15,200 people who think $2.00 is a tip to the young people who don't 696 00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:18,080 tip at all. So you don't like any part of 697 00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:19,320 serving, is what you're trying to say. 698 00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:25,680 I bartended on Bill Street, so right, So being, especially 699 00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:29,320 being a nurse and a bartender when I was on Bill Street, if I 700 00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,280 got fired, it wasn't wasn't a big deal to me. 701 00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:35,080 Like I have my nursing job during the week. 702 00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:38,200 Of course, I love making the extra money and being a single 703 00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:40,120 mom, have two little boys. It helped a lot. 704 00:39:40,720 --> 00:39:44,800 But you're not going to talk shit to any of the girls behind 705 00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:47,520 the bar and expect to get away with it with me back there 706 00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:50,080 because they're like people would be like, well, the 707 00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:52,760 customer is always right and I'm like, fuck you, I'll come on the 708 00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:54,760 other side of the bar and I'll be a customer and still beat 709 00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:56,560 your ass like you're not going to talk to people that way. 710 00:39:56,560 --> 00:40:00,800 So that I was like in a different environment. 711 00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,280 So it was fun. It was like always a party and 712 00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:09,440 like swinging drinks and like DJ and all that, but I did. 713 00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,440 Most of the places I've worked at, they just kind of like they 714 00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:15,360 know like I'm there to work and I take care of people. 715 00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:18,200 So if I told somebody they need to get out of the building, 716 00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:21,920 they're like, if you piss Nicole off, you need to go because like 717 00:40:22,240 --> 00:40:25,440 I love taking care of people. So if you're being ugly to me, 718 00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:29,640 something's wrong with you like. I went to. 719 00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:33,240 This job interview at this pool hall in Monterey. 720 00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:38,840 And it was, I mean, like you had to pass around, like you had to 721 00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,160 fill beers and like pass them around or whatever. 722 00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:44,760 They only had beer there, but you were like the beer wench. 723 00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:51,120 And I went in for an interview. I no you didn't have the 724 00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:55,520 outfits, but I damn that would have been cool though. 725 00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:58,280 It's. Like an Amsterdam or on TV or 726 00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:01,160 something where they wear the little the beer went outfits 727 00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:02,560 where I. Could have just shown up for the 728 00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:05,600 interview and that, but I went to the interview and I'll never 729 00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:07,280 forget. I had just had my son. 730 00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:10,880 So I was like barely 19 and I used to be just like really 731 00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:13,640 quiet and I didn't like to like cause problems and I like to be 732 00:41:13,640 --> 00:41:17,080 behind the scenes. And so I'm doing the interview. 733 00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:19,240 I poured the beer or whatever. That part's good. 734 00:41:19,240 --> 00:41:24,880 And the guys, like he asks me, So what would your response be 735 00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:29,680 if one of the guys playing pool was like, grab your ass or like, 736 00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,120 like, physically touch you and make you uncomfortable? 737 00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:35,600 And I was like, I probably let him get away with it once. 738 00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:39,600 And then I tell him like, you know, I didn't like that and 739 00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:41,280 whatever. And he's like, this isn't the 740 00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:43,600 right job for you. Like I need, I need somebody 741 00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:46,120 who's gonna like, punch a grown man in the face and tell him to 742 00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:49,360 like, fuck right off. And now I'm like, I need a job 743 00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:52,200 at a pool house. But I didn't like, I didn't 744 00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:55,800 think that. That's how my bet my like best 745 00:41:55,800 --> 00:42:00,160 friend Cher, I think Paige, you met her at the Bridgestone show. 746 00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:03,480 So she was I, she was a bartender at Fox and how when I 747 00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:08,600 started there as a server and those girls, like all those guys 748 00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:13,280 out there, like just like drunk morons. 749 00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:15,800 And they are the ones that taught me like, you'd like, no, 750 00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:18,800 tell them to back off. Like I've like thrown grown ass 751 00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:21,320 dudes up against the wall and I'm like, don't fucking touch 752 00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:23,720 me. Like, and then like, OK, yes, 753 00:42:23,720 --> 00:42:25,040 ma'am. And then they end up like 754 00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:28,120 tipping you more. It's just I like getting wrapped 755 00:42:28,120 --> 00:42:31,240 around. Yeah, if you talk shit to do 756 00:42:31,240 --> 00:42:34,200 that a bar when they're drunk, like, oh honey, no, you don't 757 00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:37,120 even have you don't you can't even keep up with this, with 758 00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:38,920 this over here. And they're like, Oh yes, I can. 759 00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:41,920 And they tip you more. Well, they want you to remember 760 00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:43,720 them. They're trying to make an impact 761 00:42:43,720 --> 00:42:45,680 on you. They want to feel special. 762 00:42:47,440 --> 00:42:50,240 I remember the dollar, the tip out at the end of the night 763 00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,840 won't remember you personally. I remember. 764 00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:54,840 Faces and drinks be like, you don't Remember Me. 765 00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:59,560 And I'm like, I remember that you drank Bud Light and ordered 766 00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:05,400 shots of Fireball. I worked as a Hostess and I 767 00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:09,440 actually enjoyed being a host because it was like we got 768 00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:12,520 tipped out and we, like, you know, would have our favorite 769 00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:16,040 servers who would tip us out more so they would get like, you 770 00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:18,880 know, taken care of. And I just remember. 771 00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:22,840 I see that like a girl. Like I gotta ask mom something 772 00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:28,120 and I just keep. Walking back, no, there's this 773 00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:33,800 girl that worked as a host with me and she had won I think Miss 774 00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,840 Universe or whatever it is she wanted. 775 00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:41,480 And this is a funny ass story. She was just like some rich kid 776 00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:45,120 from the county that I grew up in and I didn't go to middle 777 00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,120 school with them. I only went to high school with 778 00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:50,120 them so I didn't know her. She had like went to model and 779 00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:53,480 and New York. So when she came back, her mom 780 00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:56,960 told her she needed to get a job so she could be with the small 781 00:43:56,960 --> 00:44:00,200 people and get to get to know how normal people live or some 782 00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:01,840 shit. Like this is how she worded 783 00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:04,200 this. And so we're at work one day and 784 00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:06,440 I mean, she's real tall, lengthy, I mean, she's cute, 785 00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,960 whatever. But someone said something and 786 00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:10,800 this girl was like deer in the headlights. 787 00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:14,600 Like she had no street smart. She had no concept of like real 788 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:18,520 life concepts. And she said something and she's 789 00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:21,600 like, I just don't know why anyone in their 40s would want 790 00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:24,760 to work in a restaurant. And everybody looked around 791 00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:28,160 because I mean everyone basically but me and her were in 792 00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:30,680 their freaking 40s. I mean, she just insulted 793 00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:33,880 everyone in this room. And then later in our adult 794 00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:37,960 life, she had some scandal where she either had like, an fair 795 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,920 with someone or she did something that was like barred 796 00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,720 her from losing her title as Miss Universe. 797 00:44:44,240 --> 00:44:49,600 And then, like all of her, you know, notoriety got revoked 798 00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:52,360 later on. Remember something like that 799 00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:55,360 happening? Yes, yes, I could probably 800 00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:57,160 Google it. We might be able to drop a 801 00:44:57,160 --> 00:44:59,280 little detail into the podcast box. 802 00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:02,640 But yes, her name was Alex. I know it was Miss Universe. 803 00:45:03,240 --> 00:45:08,560 Pretty sure her T-shirt. Servers can make some money like 804 00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:12,000 now this is pre COVID when I waited tables and bartended but 805 00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,920 like when I bartended on the weekends I was making like over 806 00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:21,680 $1000 a night four nights a week so I was making over 4 grand 807 00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:25,760 every weekend on top of. And then when I work, we have 808 00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:30,680 another local restaurant that the servers have 4 O 1K plans 809 00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:34,160 and like benefits because they make so much money. 810 00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:36,920 It's a one. It's like a, it's a, it's 811 00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:39,000 Huey's. I don't know if they still have 812 00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:41,880 4 O 1K and stuff, but it used to be it's so hard to get on. 813 00:45:41,880 --> 00:45:45,040 You get to know somebody and those servers, you go in there 814 00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:47,840 and like especially like it was a red birds game or a grizzly 815 00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:49,840 game or it was the Grizzlies weren't down there. 816 00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:52,440 I forgot what team he has a long time ago. 817 00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:56,560 But downtown it was turn and burn and you would just do 818 00:45:56,560 --> 00:46:01,120 circles and go around and you they make bank and they had like 819 00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:03,360 benefits and like retirement plans from it. 820 00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:06,360 So like, if you find the right spot, like there's money in it. 821 00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:10,120 Well, like if you go to like a five star restaurant like Ruth 822 00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:13,040 Chris or Jeff Ruby's or something like that, I know that 823 00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:18,280 those servers go through a lot to get to a white jacket or 824 00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:21,640 whatever they call it like. I walk down to one of those. 825 00:46:22,720 --> 00:46:24,720 Yeah, it's a lot. I don't know how they deal with 826 00:46:24,720 --> 00:46:28,160 it. I mean they do make like $3000 a 827 00:46:28,160 --> 00:46:31,000 night though. Like once they are like a white 828 00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:34,480 shirt or whatever they call it At Jeff Ruby's the guy told me 829 00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:36,880 straight up he was like we have to tip out the bartender. 830 00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:42,320 We have our assistant server and the host but my take home is 831 00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:46,640 like over 2 grand. I worked at Capital Grille for 832 00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:51,120 like 2 weeks and I think the reason I made two weeks is I 833 00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:52,640 only worked like two days a week there. 834 00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:58,120 But they wanted the So the server well has way more alcohol 835 00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:00,520 drinks that go out than the bar because you don't find dining. 836 00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:03,840 You got bottles and more cocktails and stuff ordered for 837 00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:06,360 tables. So they needed a drink Slinger 838 00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:09,960 and I was a drinking Slinger that was trying to get away from 839 00:47:09,960 --> 00:47:13,880 Bill St. and they're like, you know, the manager of the time, 840 00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:16,560 he was like, well I went from Bill St. to find dining. 841 00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:19,760 This is like going from like Bill St. be like going from a 842 00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:25,160 dive bar to like working like serving the Queen. 843 00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,600 It's where my mind was at. I was going from just like 844 00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,720 coyote ugly type shit to serving Queen Elizabeth. 845 00:47:31,760 --> 00:47:36,960 Like that's how extreme it was. And I was like I was like dude, 846 00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:39,840 they're like what's in a mignette sauce? 847 00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:43,360 I'm like I don't even know how to spell mignette let alone care 848 00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:45,840 what's in it. Y'all want me to sling drinks or 849 00:47:45,840 --> 00:47:49,520 you want me to dissect a five star mini of stuff that half of 850 00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:50,960 it looks like it's in a different language. 851 00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:52,240 I was like, I don't know, to tell y'all. 852 00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:55,720 And then like if you're at the computer, like you couldn't like 853 00:47:55,720 --> 00:47:59,600 turn your back to anybody. You had to like be at the screen 854 00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:02,560 and talk to them like this and you can't call them honey, baby 855 00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:04,680 or darling. And I'm like, I am screwed. 856 00:48:04,680 --> 00:48:05,920 Why did y'all even let me in here? 857 00:48:06,760 --> 00:48:08,600 Of course now we have like our own table when we go. 858 00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:14,320 But as a bartender, I was just like, I can't do this. 859 00:48:14,720 --> 00:48:18,440 This is like, and then my son was a newborn and he had like 860 00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,240 put your phone like up. I was like, can I not put it 861 00:48:21,240 --> 00:48:24,640 like beside the like POS system or something where if there is 862 00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:26,240 an emergency, I can see it? They're like, no. 863 00:48:26,240 --> 00:48:31,680 So I'd have to sneak away from the bar, go to the bathroom just 864 00:48:31,680 --> 00:48:34,160 to see, make sure that like my newborn child was still OK. 865 00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:39,360 Find 9 restaurants have so many hoops. 866 00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:42,960 No. All right, I want to let y'all 867 00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:47,320 know I'm a boss, right? Always had been a boss. 868 00:48:47,840 --> 00:48:49,160 You're blurry. I know what's going on my. 869 00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:50,560 Camera. They ain't got to see my face 870 00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:51,080 anyway. They. 871 00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:52,120 I like your face. They know my. 872 00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:57,280 Voice this woman has been working so hard the last year 873 00:48:57,280 --> 00:49:01,360 I'm so proud of her. Like she's been grinding so hard 874 00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:05,160 y'all have no idea she starts this shit at 9:00 AM. 875 00:49:05,720 --> 00:49:10,240 Well 10 after price is right because we getting old and she 876 00:49:10,240 --> 00:49:13,040 grinds out all day long 910 o'clock. 877 00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:16,440 She's slanging through merch orders like crazy. 878 00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:21,120 She's bagging them and tagging them ourselves and and she's 879 00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:23,920 enjoying it man. So I just want to thank y'all 880 00:49:23,920 --> 00:49:27,000 for doing a follow up on her because she's one bad ass bitch. 881 00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:29,320 Oh yeah. We love her. 882 00:49:29,560 --> 00:49:34,840 Yes, that's what we need. We need that type of support, 883 00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:37,120 that type of power couple energy and you know. 884 00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:40,120 They can hear my voice, the voice of our generation. 885 00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:45,840 I know we're talking about it. I'm like, he's so sweet. 886 00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:49,160 That was so sweet. We were just talking about 887 00:49:49,240 --> 00:49:52,160 restaurants. I, I tried to get a job as a 888 00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:56,720 server at a casino, like a casino restaurant that we had. 889 00:49:57,200 --> 00:50:02,760 And I again, I was like 18 or something and I got yelled at in 890 00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:04,680 an Asian language that I can't recognize. 891 00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:08,720 I can't tell you what language it was, but this Asian man 892 00:50:08,720 --> 00:50:12,160 yelled at me and all I could understand was Sriracha. 893 00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:14,440 And so I went back to check because they would sell like 894 00:50:14,440 --> 00:50:17,440 pho. And so I went back to try and 895 00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:20,960 get Sriracha and the thing wouldn't open. 896 00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:25,000 And anyways, I got it open. Sriracha got into my eye and I 897 00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:27,640 just took that as that was the universe not wanting me to 898 00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:30,720 fucking be there. I walked out of that job and I 899 00:50:30,720 --> 00:50:33,320 never went back. I was there for two nights. 900 00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:39,400 I made like $700 in the two nights, which was like really 901 00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:40,880 awesome for me. All I had to worry about was a 902 00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:42,600 car payment because I live with my parents. 903 00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:45,240 But yeah, I'll never forget that. 904 00:50:45,240 --> 00:50:48,000 And so now when I think about Sriracha, that's what I think 905 00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:49,400 of. Or pho. 906 00:50:49,600 --> 00:50:54,000 So I haven't really eaten pho because I just think of this man 907 00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:56,640 yelling at me. And you? 908 00:50:57,520 --> 00:50:59,360 Yeah, dude. And I was like, I don't know 909 00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:01,680 what the fuck you want. And then he just yelled 910 00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:04,320 sriracha. And so I got sriracha got in my 911 00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:06,000 eye. I don't think that man ever got 912 00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,280 his sriracha unless he yelled to some other girl. 913 00:51:10,920 --> 00:51:14,080 I personally think everyone should have to work in the 914 00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:16,520 restaurant industry, whether it's front of the house or back 915 00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:20,080 of the house period. I think everyone should 916 00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:23,240 experience one or the other in their lifetime. 917 00:51:23,240 --> 00:51:25,240 Or you, you're not even allowed to go out to eat. 918 00:51:25,720 --> 00:51:28,840 Like I think that that should be like the etiquette of like, OK, 919 00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:31,640 now you know what it's like because you're not going to be 920 00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:33,920 upset with someone if you know what it's like. 921 00:51:34,160 --> 00:51:38,680 But it's what irks me. My big pet peeve is when you 922 00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:43,200 order something and you know you want extra ranch or you know you 923 00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:48,200 want extra croutons or extra bacon bits or extra whatever. 924 00:51:48,720 --> 00:51:51,680 And when we're taking this order and you don't tell me that. 925 00:51:51,880 --> 00:51:54,920 And then when I bring you your food now I got to go back when I 926 00:51:54,920 --> 00:51:57,320 could have just brought it the first time. 927 00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:00,640 That's a big thing for me. Like especially with ordering 928 00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:03,880 when I go out to eat, I'm very particular about making sure 929 00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:07,120 they know every detail so that there's no surprises. 930 00:52:07,280 --> 00:52:10,040 There's no surprises that I wanted this cut in fours, not in 931 00:52:10,040 --> 00:52:11,520 half or there's no, you know what I mean? 932 00:52:11,520 --> 00:52:13,680 Like and I'm just going to be nice about it. 933 00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:18,240 But it's like, why waste their time when they I already had an 934 00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:20,000 opportunity to bring it to you the first time? 935 00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:23,480 Yeah, I'm notorious for like, forgetting the small stuff at 936 00:52:23,480 --> 00:52:24,800 the table. And so like, when they bring it 937 00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:27,160 out, I'll be like, I am so sorry. 938 00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:30,880 Like just when you get a chance, I promise I'm not freaking out 939 00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:32,240 over here. I'm totally chilled. 940 00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:35,840 Totally forgot to tell you that. I would also like some of this. 941 00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:39,280 And normally they bring it faster because it's like they 942 00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:41,200 might have a table next to you just being so ugly. 943 00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:42,520 But you know what, this lady's super nice. 944 00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:46,600 Let me go get like whatever it is that I randomly forget and 945 00:52:46,600 --> 00:52:48,000 it's like, it's always something small. 946 00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:49,800 And I feel so bad. I'm like, I promise. 947 00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:53,360 Like don't rush whenever you have a minute, you know, if you 948 00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:55,560 want to do another lap, you know, then you can get me. 949 00:52:55,560 --> 00:52:59,480 But like, yeah, the other thing, that thing that drives me crazy 950 00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:05,760 is the holiday time. Like I understand first of all, 951 00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:09,040 going out in public shopping, which I feel like is becoming a 952 00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:13,520 pastime with Amazon and TikTok shopping and team and stuff. 953 00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:20,880 But it is not your server's fault that you got a little 954 00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:23,720 Fender Bender in the parking lot and decided you were going to 955 00:53:23,720 --> 00:53:25,200 come eat and chill out for a minute. 956 00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:29,440 It's not their fault that they didn't have Susie's toy that she 957 00:53:29,440 --> 00:53:31,880 begged for for six months and you waited still two weeks for 958 00:53:31,880 --> 00:53:35,480 Christmas to go find it. And I always during the 959 00:53:35,480 --> 00:53:40,520 holidays, especially during the holidays, I always try to tip in 960 00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:44,720 cash because you never know, like there may be like that one 961 00:53:44,720 --> 00:53:49,840 mom that when she gets off like forgot that her phone bill came 962 00:53:49,840 --> 00:53:53,400 out and doesn't have the gas money because she also bought 963 00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:57,600 Christmas presents Or like because like I know that I was 964 00:53:57,600 --> 00:54:00,200 notorious for it. Like I finally got like a system 965 00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:02,560 down. But we have like an account that 966 00:54:02,560 --> 00:54:05,560 has just bills that come out and then we have an account where 967 00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:09,080 psychopath in there can order whatever he wants on Amazon 968 00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:12,240 Prime. But before I did that, I'm like, 969 00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:15,480 I'm like, Oh my God, like I forgot that this bill is coming 970 00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:17,000 out. So now like, I'm like, all 971 00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:18,800 right, we'll use a credit card to put gas in the car. 972 00:54:19,080 --> 00:54:22,720 So I really try to do the cash part for servers, especially 973 00:54:22,720 --> 00:54:25,160 around the holidays. And a lot of them give up family 974 00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:27,800 events because they only get one day off. 975 00:54:28,840 --> 00:54:33,840 So and nowadays most people are it's all blended families or you 976 00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:36,960 know, you got your like hood families and then you got like 977 00:54:36,960 --> 00:54:39,200 blood relatives. And then you need like a whole 978 00:54:39,200 --> 00:54:42,040 another thing at your house just to decompress from being at 979 00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:44,880 everybody's house. And most servers only get like 980 00:54:45,040 --> 00:54:48,280 you get one shift off. So like if you normally work 981 00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:51,080 lunch, you may even have to work dinner to be off that lunch. 982 00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:56,120 So like they don't really. I remember so many times that I 983 00:54:56,120 --> 00:55:00,360 was so thankful that Walmart was open 24/7 because I'd leave 984 00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:03,800 super late and I have to wait till close to a couple days for 985 00:55:03,800 --> 00:55:06,120 Christmas to even just go to Walmart and get the kids and 986 00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:09,120 stuff. Because you're just non-stop and 987 00:55:09,120 --> 00:55:12,520 like, or you're waiting on your check to come in or yeah. 988 00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:15,360 Or if the Uber driver drives in the snow during the winter, 989 00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:17,160 which I feel so bad for, or rain. 990 00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:21,400 I always get them cash. I think tipping in cash is super 991 00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:23,120 key. I've been trying to pay in cash 992 00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:27,520 to small businesses so they don't have to worry about it, So 993 00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:30,200 they can just, you know, put that one in their pocket. 994 00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:33,360 And then I've noticed that's been coming back around where 995 00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:36,800 like people are starting to have cash more stuff like I'll do an 996 00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:40,480 event or something, which is rare, but you know, it's really 997 00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:43,000 interesting. I think people are seeing where 998 00:55:43,360 --> 00:55:45,920 cash is super important, especially with like what we saw 999 00:55:45,920 --> 00:55:50,600 in the North Carolina situation. You will have to pry cash out of 1000 00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:55,120 my my bare hands before I ever think that we are better off 1001 00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:58,720 without it. You know, like it's not going to 1002 00:55:58,720 --> 00:56:02,960 make sense to rely on electricity when Mother Earth 1003 00:56:02,960 --> 00:56:07,800 can knock it out for six months. I'm not going to put my car and 1004 00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:11,720 my fate in the hands of this when you've got these little 1005 00:56:11,720 --> 00:56:16,080 rinky dink power lines. Like in my opinion, all power 1006 00:56:16,080 --> 00:56:18,360 lines should be underground. That should have already been 1007 00:56:18,360 --> 00:56:20,920 taken care of. If they think electric cars, 1008 00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:23,920 that's that's another pet peeve of mine thinking that's going to 1009 00:56:23,920 --> 00:56:27,600 fix anything when it's like we don't have the infrastructure 1010 00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:31,000 for electric cars. If you like this ride by and 1011 00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:34,000 look at the power grids that are powering up your city, you're 1012 00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:36,440 going to be like, wow, looks like a mousetrap. 1013 00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:41,360 Memphis, this is crazy. So my husband did not realize 1014 00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:43,920 about the power lines being underground. 1015 00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:47,520 The only reason I knew about this because my dad when we were 1016 00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:50,520 little, he got an above ground pool because the city said if he 1017 00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:52,840 put the pool right there and want to in ground, he did to get 1018 00:56:52,840 --> 00:56:56,680 all the power lines moved. And growing up in the hood at my 1019 00:56:56,680 --> 00:57:01,000 mom's house, if there's a storm, our power got knocked out first. 1020 00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:06,040 So it's like in Memphis, it's like the worse or that the the 1021 00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:10,600 worser the area that you live in, if it's like towards like 1022 00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:14,120 the bottom of the total pole, your power went out and it was 1023 00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:16,920 like the more money you paid in the better area you lived in, 1024 00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:19,840 like decided like if your power went off or not. 1025 00:57:20,320 --> 00:57:23,280 Like when we had the storm hit, like our power in Memphis, it 1026 00:57:23,280 --> 00:57:27,200 was, I guess I've been last summer because it was while Pat 1027 00:57:27,200 --> 00:57:32,240 was in jail before he, we took him to rehab and he was like 1028 00:57:32,240 --> 00:57:34,760 trying to call and he was freaking out because like they 1029 00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:37,360 only get so many phone calls in jail and he was like, dude, 1030 00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:39,440 something's wrong. My wife always answers like 1031 00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:44,200 something's going on, like we were at the movie theater and 1032 00:57:44,200 --> 00:57:47,480 watch the storm come through. But like the whole city was like 1033 00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:50,880 out of power for like at least five days. 1034 00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:52,880 Our power was out for like 8 hours. 1035 00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:57,480 But we have no, it's all underground back here. 1036 00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:00,760 And it's like we have like the, we're like in this little tiny 1037 00:58:00,760 --> 00:58:03,520 square that's like in the back of Bartlett. 1038 00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:07,320 Like our zip code isn't even the zip code for Bartlett. 1039 00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:10,840 We live, we live in Bartlett. We have an Arlington zip code, 1040 00:58:11,320 --> 00:58:13,840 Memphis. I think it's the gas station 1041 00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:17,880 that's at the corner and then our Lakeland's behind us like 1042 00:58:17,880 --> 00:58:20,480 it's we're in this weird little like square. 1043 00:58:20,480 --> 00:58:23,640 So like nothing ever gets to us or bothers us. 1044 00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,240 There's no like nothing crazy back here. 1045 00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:29,760 Power don't go without like it's. 1046 00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:34,000 Power secured. I'm like part of HOA now and I'm 1047 00:58:34,000 --> 00:58:35,800 like, this is amazing. Is this what it means? 1048 00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:37,920 Our power comes back on. We pay extra for that. 1049 00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:43,000 Honestly, HOAS are a double edged sword. 1050 00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:46,200 I don't mind them because they tell people they can't have a 1051 00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:51,680 couch on their front porch, but they also tell me on like, you 1052 00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:55,880 know, on any little thing. No, no, you can't do that. 1053 00:58:55,880 --> 00:58:59,600 No, sorry, no, your trash can was outside for too long. 1054 00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:02,680 Put it back inside. You know, like there's all these 1055 00:59:02,680 --> 00:59:05,280 little rules. It's made Pat mother yard. 1056 00:59:05,880 --> 00:59:07,440 He's like I got to mow the yards mowing a ticket. 1057 00:59:07,440 --> 00:59:10,440 I'm like thank you. Like it took until we got 1 1058 00:59:10,440 --> 00:59:12,680 ticket for him to realize he's like, well can we just pay 1059 00:59:12,680 --> 00:59:15,880 someone in the mow of the yard? I'm like, no, we have a 1060 00:59:15,880 --> 00:59:18,160 lawnmower just like our yard is not that big. 1061 00:59:18,160 --> 00:59:21,560 Like this grass grows so fast and the HOA is like on it. 1062 00:59:21,760 --> 00:59:24,440 Oh, your grass is like it half an inch too long. 1063 00:59:24,440 --> 00:59:26,680 And I'm like we've been out of town. 1064 00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:28,440 Like especially if we're out of town for a long time. 1065 00:59:28,440 --> 00:59:30,760 We've had to call it one of the homies like hey, can you go cut 1066 00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:33,560 our yard? They just emailed us like. 1067 00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:38,400 That's crazy, really. Oh, and you can't have more than 1068 00:59:38,400 --> 00:59:41,040 two garage sales a year out here. 1069 00:59:42,320 --> 00:59:44,840 We're in an HOA, we've never heard shit. 1070 00:59:47,000 --> 00:59:50,720 Maybe I'll follow me it. Depends on how many Karens you 1071 00:59:50,720 --> 00:59:54,800 have that care about the meeting and the board and the HOA in 1072 00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:58,360 general. And I live in a retirement area 1073 00:59:58,360 --> 01:00:02,040 where everyone is mainly 50 and above. 1074 01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:04,680 And there's not a lot of children, not a lot. 1075 01:00:04,680 --> 01:00:07,640 Like they want to put speed bumps in. 1076 01:00:07,640 --> 01:00:13,200 So I went down to the meeting and exercised my opinion of why 1077 01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:17,880 I think that's ridiculous. They should just start giving 1078 01:00:17,880 --> 01:00:21,040 people tickets, whatever. Like, you know, like if people 1079 01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:23,840 are are speeding that much, report them. 1080 01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:29,200 I don't know, do some? Put it on our street, you know, 1081 01:00:29,200 --> 01:00:31,520 I mean the old lady, the old lady in me though, because like 1082 01:00:31,520 --> 01:00:33,680 we get up in the morning and watch the news and watch the 1083 01:00:33,680 --> 01:00:36,760 prices, right? And and like we'll go, I'll go 1084 01:00:36,760 --> 01:00:39,400 outside to get the mail. But where our house is, it kind 1085 01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:42,680 of like curves a little. It curves just enough for when 1086 01:00:42,680 --> 01:00:45,640 you're backing out. You could look one way and then 1087 01:00:45,640 --> 01:00:47,480 look the other way. And by the time you look back, 1088 01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:49,800 there's already a car like coming around the bin right 1089 01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:51,160 there. So like, I just like if there's 1090 01:00:51,160 --> 01:00:56,000 a speed bump, like maybe in between the neighbor's house and 1091 01:00:56,000 --> 01:00:58,760 our house, like it would help people slow down. 1092 01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:02,840 You should put it right at the curve, just like put your own 1093 01:01:02,840 --> 01:01:05,360 speed bump there, right? Like while they're fucking 1094 01:01:05,360 --> 01:01:07,560 turning hella fast and then they won't do it anymore. 1095 01:01:08,200 --> 01:01:14,160 Do we have cones that we've come into possession of? 1096 01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:17,240 I'm not going to say how, but during the summer especially, 1097 01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:21,280 our kids are outside playing. We will go put cones in the road 1098 01:01:22,040 --> 01:01:24,320 so that they can play basketball and stuff. 1099 01:01:24,320 --> 01:01:27,520 Like I'm going to tell you like if someone the cop comes says 1100 01:01:27,520 --> 01:01:29,160 you can't put that there and like, all right, we'll just sit 1101 01:01:29,160 --> 01:01:31,600 right here because my kids going to get hit in about 10 minutes. 1102 01:01:31,600 --> 01:01:33,840 So I'm like, already prepared to be that mom. 1103 01:01:35,360 --> 01:01:38,080 They have those signs with the little neon. 1104 01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:42,880 Little girl guys on the flag. Yeah, get that on Amazon, baby. 1105 01:01:42,880 --> 01:01:48,320 So it's legal. I'm exercising public domain, my 1106 01:01:48,320 --> 01:01:52,360 exercise rights in public area. You know what's crazy though 1107 01:01:52,360 --> 01:01:59,080 about the speeding is they'll make a residential road 25, then 1108 01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:00,920 they'll make a whole Expressway 55. 1109 01:02:01,640 --> 01:02:05,160 And the math doesn't math there for me because I think all 1110 01:02:05,160 --> 01:02:10,640 expressways, if it says Expressway in its name, guess 1111 01:02:10,640 --> 01:02:12,640 what? It needs to be over 70. 1112 01:02:12,640 --> 01:02:15,840 It needs to be 65 to 70. What is an Expressway? 1113 01:02:16,520 --> 01:02:19,600 You don't have one. I don't know what they are, so 1114 01:02:19,600 --> 01:02:21,600 no. I don't know. 1115 01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:26,240 There we have highways and then we have expressways, and 1116 01:02:26,240 --> 01:02:29,760 expressways are supposed to save me time, and they don't. 1117 01:02:30,400 --> 01:02:32,160 It's. Is it like a carpool lane? 1118 01:02:33,480 --> 01:02:39,120 No, it's called the Watterson Expressway and it's Rd. 1119 01:02:40,160 --> 01:02:41,760 Yeah. So it's like you have like 3 1120 01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:45,680 lanes on each side. But there's more like 5 lanes on 1121 01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:46,680 each side. OK, yeah. 1122 01:02:46,720 --> 01:02:50,360 So you get that one. So, so in Texas, everything is 1123 01:02:50,360 --> 01:02:54,680 like 70 mph. It's you just get up and go and 1124 01:02:54,680 --> 01:02:57,160 like there's little spots where it slows down to 55. 1125 01:02:57,520 --> 01:02:59,480 But I think it's just because that's what that, you know, in 1126 01:02:59,480 --> 01:03:04,800 Texas or in Dallas, they have like 19 fucking interstates at 1127 01:03:04,800 --> 01:03:06,320 all crisscross. It's crazy. 1128 01:03:06,320 --> 01:03:08,200 Like we sat there and counted on the other day when we were 1129 01:03:08,200 --> 01:03:12,880 driving through it and it was like in my map, my Siri or my 1130 01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:16,160 Google Maps, whatever took me on the toll pass lane. 1131 01:03:16,160 --> 01:03:18,200 So I'm like waiting for that to come in the mail. 1132 01:03:18,200 --> 01:03:24,040 But like, there's, it's all, it's 7075, the couple of curves, 1133 01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:26,080 it turns into 55. But nobody really does it. 1134 01:03:26,080 --> 01:03:28,240 They just keep going. Like as long as traffic flows, 1135 01:03:28,240 --> 01:03:30,920 you just go. But yeah, I love it. 1136 01:03:30,920 --> 01:03:32,840 That's one of my favorite parts about driving to Texas. 1137 01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:38,040 I feel like I'm like having a high speed chase though, because 1138 01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:42,040 for the in in 75, a lot of the like in between the cities you 1139 01:03:42,040 --> 01:03:44,520 can go 75. So I'm going like 80 something 1140 01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:47,960 and I'm like should go to jail. Like no, I'm good. 1141 01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:49,560 I'm going 7 over. I'm fine. 1142 01:03:49,560 --> 01:03:51,000 This is fine. It's fine. 1143 01:03:51,000 --> 01:03:55,360 Everything's fine. In Utah, where we met, they had 1144 01:03:55,360 --> 01:04:00,960 80 and 85 speed limits and potholes that are literally 6 1145 01:04:00,960 --> 01:04:05,640 feet deep. Craters that say watch out as. 1146 01:04:05,640 --> 01:04:07,880 You're on the crater says watch out. 1147 01:04:07,880 --> 01:04:10,480 And then there's a fucking Cliff that drops off to the side of 1148 01:04:10,480 --> 01:04:12,320 you. And if you're really lucky, if 1149 01:04:12,320 --> 01:04:16,080 you're really lucky, the girl who's driving didn't tell you, 1150 01:04:16,080 --> 01:04:20,160 but she's fucked up on vodka and she's driving you on this trip 1151 01:04:20,160 --> 01:04:22,760 and telling you to keep it a secret from her brand new 1152 01:04:22,760 --> 01:04:25,520 husband that she just married after three weeks of knowing him 1153 01:04:25,680 --> 01:04:27,320 because she's going to go fuck her ex. 1154 01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:32,120 And that was a, that was a whole, that was a whole messy 1155 01:04:32,120 --> 01:04:34,800 vodka trip. That's beautiful. 1156 01:04:35,920 --> 01:04:40,440 People who do not drink. We were very shocked to find 1157 01:04:40,440 --> 01:04:46,080 that our host Hostess was an alcoholic who literally 1158 01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:49,880 basically was supposed to go get us some Mary Jane. 1159 01:04:49,920 --> 01:04:51,560 She was supposed to go do a little deal. 1160 01:04:51,760 --> 01:04:55,000 Then we found out it's her ex. Then she says we gave her a 1161 01:04:55,000 --> 01:05:01,160 counterfeit $100 bill. Because she was gone for like 2 1162 01:05:01,160 --> 01:05:04,880 1/2 hours so she needed an excuse and said made our poor 1163 01:05:04,880 --> 01:05:09,520 sweet friend Juber overhear cry and hyperventilate thinking that 1164 01:05:09,520 --> 01:05:12,960 she gave some drug dealer in Utah that she doesn't know a 1165 01:05:12,960 --> 01:05:16,280 counterfeit $100 bill. Called her boss to tell her boss 1166 01:05:16,280 --> 01:05:18,240 that she got tipped with counterfeit money. 1167 01:05:18,480 --> 01:05:20,920 And then we find out later that this girl just wanted to go and 1168 01:05:20,920 --> 01:05:25,040 do her ex. Yeah. 1169 01:05:25,040 --> 01:05:29,240 And then is 8580. Fucking 5. 1170 01:05:29,280 --> 01:05:33,480 The whole. Time she was rolling, baby. 1171 01:05:33,480 --> 01:05:37,360 She was floored. And then Paige tries to drive. 1172 01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:40,120 Paige drives for literally 5 minutes and the girl goes I 1173 01:05:40,280 --> 01:05:43,360 can't handle this and makes her get out of the seat. 1174 01:05:45,200 --> 01:05:48,200 I was like, I felt so safe. And Paige's hands. 1175 01:05:50,160 --> 01:05:54,560 And meanwhile, I swear to you, we're going 85 and it just says 1176 01:05:54,560 --> 01:05:57,160 watch out. And I said for what? 1177 01:05:57,440 --> 01:06:03,200 And she goes, Oh my God. And then, yeah, it was a huge. 1178 01:06:03,560 --> 01:06:06,600 I would have just died. My body would been like, I'm 1179 01:06:06,600 --> 01:06:08,320 out. We were. 1180 01:06:08,320 --> 01:06:11,400 This girl. We literally made a group chat, 1181 01:06:11,760 --> 01:06:15,720 called the survivors and we were texting each other during the 1182 01:06:15,720 --> 01:06:19,800 trip because this fucking girl. We were like, when are we dying? 1183 01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:24,400 At what point do we fuck it? And then like when we were going 1184 01:06:24,400 --> 01:06:27,680 back, so we went to Moab. So when we were driving back to 1185 01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:31,200 Salt Lake City, we were literally like, this girl's 1186 01:06:31,200 --> 01:06:33,880 going to leave us in the middle of nowhere where there's not 1187 01:06:33,880 --> 01:06:37,120 cell phone reception. We like we were literally like 1188 01:06:37,280 --> 01:06:41,400 hours away from the the fucking like airports or anything or 1189 01:06:41,400 --> 01:06:44,000 places to rent a car. So every time they would stop 1190 01:06:44,000 --> 01:06:46,600 for gas and the girls would go inside to pee, I would sit 1191 01:06:46,600 --> 01:06:50,000 inside the car with all of our bags and shit and wait for 1192 01:06:50,000 --> 01:06:52,760 everybody to come back so bad. By the time we got to the Airbnb 1193 01:06:52,760 --> 01:06:57,520 we. Were rotating and Jim and I was 1194 01:06:57,520 --> 01:07:02,480 taking one for the team. But we'll just say for everyone 1195 01:07:02,480 --> 01:07:06,320 listening, This is why we don't meet strangers from the 1196 01:07:06,320 --> 01:07:08,160 Internet. This is a note for everyone. 1197 01:07:08,960 --> 01:07:12,160 Never met a best friend. Online. 1198 01:07:12,360 --> 01:07:14,520 Yeah, and you think this is my people? 1199 01:07:14,840 --> 01:07:17,080 You better make sure that's your fucking people because they'll 1200 01:07:17,080 --> 01:07:19,400 tell you this is sober girls trip. 1201 01:07:19,640 --> 01:07:22,320 I just got married. I want to have girl time. 1202 01:07:22,560 --> 01:07:25,480 And then instead they're like, this is my ex, that's his 1203 01:07:25,480 --> 01:07:26,800 fiance. That's. 1204 01:07:26,800 --> 01:07:28,680 Had to handle a vodka for myself. 1205 01:07:29,240 --> 01:07:34,760 She brought a whole half gallon with the handle of Tito's and 1206 01:07:34,800 --> 01:07:37,080 put it in the I think. It was Tito's, at least it was 1207 01:07:37,080 --> 01:07:38,960 good vodka. And she wasn't like, bro, let's 1208 01:07:39,880 --> 01:07:42,400 go. She didn't feel very good. 1209 01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:45,040 That vodka didn't feel really good on this side of things. 1210 01:07:45,960 --> 01:07:48,440 She was a sketchy lady, you know? 1211 01:07:48,440 --> 01:07:52,800 I think the one cool thing about Utah though is if you want to go 1212 01:07:52,800 --> 01:07:57,080 there and live life on the edge, you can drive 85 legally. 1213 01:07:57,520 --> 01:08:00,520 You can live your best life. You cannot smoke weed there. 1214 01:08:00,720 --> 01:08:04,800 Don't even think about it, but you can have a good time if you. 1215 01:08:04,800 --> 01:08:07,560 Can rent an ATV having never ridden one in your life and 1216 01:08:07,560 --> 01:08:11,040 they'll let you go on the fucking equivalent of Black 1217 01:08:11,040 --> 01:08:16,000 Diamond whatever ATV trails off that. 1218 01:08:16,000 --> 01:08:17,960 You don't even have to put that bitch in the four wheel drive if 1219 01:08:17,960 --> 01:08:19,960 you don't want to. You don't have to have any 1220 01:08:19,960 --> 01:08:23,319 experience, they'll just they take you up with a guide, they 1221 01:08:23,319 --> 01:08:25,760 give you a helmet and they tell you have a nice time. 1222 01:08:26,880 --> 01:08:29,200 Helmets are optional. I'm going to text just in time 1223 01:08:29,200 --> 01:08:31,080 we get done. I'm like, bro, I know where we 1224 01:08:31,080 --> 01:08:34,000 should go next because we got white the zip line when we went 1225 01:08:34,000 --> 01:08:36,960 to Puerto Rico and he was like. That's where you need to go. 1226 01:08:36,960 --> 01:08:39,960 You need to go to Moab. We need to redo our Utah trip 1227 01:08:39,960 --> 01:08:42,920 but with different people. I was about to say this. 1228 01:08:42,920 --> 01:08:46,600 I was gonna say. Neon edibles instead of a crazy 1229 01:08:46,600 --> 01:08:48,640 trick chick drunk driving. There you go. 1230 01:08:49,120 --> 01:08:51,560 So this I would. Drive it's only 5 hours from me. 1231 01:08:51,880 --> 01:08:56,840 She told us that they will go out there on the full moon and 1232 01:08:56,840 --> 01:09:02,720 get drunk on these rocks and drive back in in the dark drunk. 1233 01:09:03,200 --> 01:09:06,600 I'm scared of the dark so. I'm scared of the dark, I'm 1234 01:09:06,600 --> 01:09:09,760 scared of drunk people and I'm sure as hell scared of this very 1235 01:09:09,760 --> 01:09:13,800 small path that Mother Earth carved out that was not meant 1236 01:09:13,800 --> 01:09:17,520 for an ATV, but you decided you could drive on it and, and this 1237 01:09:17,520 --> 01:09:19,000 is how close you are to the edge. 1238 01:09:19,200 --> 01:09:22,880 So we've really never mentally recovered from that trip 1239 01:09:23,240 --> 01:09:24,840 because. I can't tell. 1240 01:09:25,080 --> 01:09:27,240 I can tell my buddy all's faces. You're just like that. 1241 01:09:27,279 --> 01:09:28,960 That shit really happened. Like you're still. 1242 01:09:29,479 --> 01:09:32,720 This is all true story. It'll be two years in March and 1243 01:09:32,720 --> 01:09:35,319 I'm still there. Like it just happened, to be 1244 01:09:35,319 --> 01:09:37,600 honest. And what's crazy about it is 1245 01:09:37,600 --> 01:09:41,399 that was the first and only time that me and Jim and I have been 1246 01:09:41,399 --> 01:09:44,120 together in person. Oh. 1247 01:09:44,880 --> 01:09:47,439 We almost got. We're like, y'all are like 1248 01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:51,319 survivor sisters now. That's why we had the survivors 1249 01:09:51,359 --> 01:09:53,680 group check 'cause we're like, who fucking made it, bitch? 1250 01:09:54,000 --> 01:09:58,240 No, But you know what? On a positive note, and yeah, 1251 01:09:58,240 --> 01:10:03,520 when we were done with the Moab part of that trip, we, it was 1252 01:10:03,560 --> 01:10:06,920 Paige myself. And then Paige brought her 1253 01:10:06,920 --> 01:10:11,840 friend with us. We all got to the Airbnb and we 1254 01:10:11,840 --> 01:10:15,240 had the most like, relaxing, calm time. 1255 01:10:15,240 --> 01:10:17,840 We wanted to go out, we wanted to go shopping and do different 1256 01:10:17,840 --> 01:10:20,120 things. And like, it was just so chill. 1257 01:10:20,120 --> 01:10:22,360 Everybody took turns like picking out what different store 1258 01:10:22,360 --> 01:10:24,320 we were going to go to, what we were going to do. 1259 01:10:24,320 --> 01:10:27,880 We walked to restaurants. Like it was so much fun and such 1260 01:10:27,880 --> 01:10:32,080 a great way to end the trip. And I really do think that like, 1261 01:10:32,320 --> 01:10:34,920 that's why it's important to be careful who you're surrounding 1262 01:10:34,920 --> 01:10:38,520 yourself with and like what type of energy you surround yourself 1263 01:10:38,520 --> 01:10:40,120 with. Because it really can take 1264 01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:43,160 something that can be like a really beautiful experience and, 1265 01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:46,840 and you know, whatever into something that's like traumatic 1266 01:10:46,840 --> 01:10:49,720 and fucking chaotic. And it's just that it can be all 1267 01:10:49,720 --> 01:10:51,720 the right things. Except for this like 1 little 1268 01:10:51,720 --> 01:10:53,360 piece and it just happened to be this bitch. 1269 01:10:54,920 --> 01:10:59,680 It's over. We just had like not even a 1270 01:10:59,680 --> 01:11:02,680 month ago, I think I already took that calendar down. 1271 01:11:02,680 --> 01:11:07,160 But when it so between Memphis and Nashville, it's 200 miles, 1272 01:11:07,360 --> 01:11:11,480 easiest drive ever. So we measure our trips in 1273 01:11:11,560 --> 01:11:13,360 Nashville trips. So I'm like, all right, we're 1274 01:11:13,360 --> 01:11:16,160 two Nashville trips away or like, and then we get to double 1275 01:11:16,160 --> 01:11:17,160 digits. That's how we do it. 1276 01:11:17,520 --> 01:11:24,080 So we drove from Memphis to Indianapolis and it rained like 1277 01:11:24,080 --> 01:11:27,800 it poured its ass off from the time we left the driveway till 1278 01:11:27,800 --> 01:11:31,880 we got to the venue. And then so on the way home, I 1279 01:11:31,880 --> 01:11:34,360 was, I told our our height man Captain Anarchy. 1280 01:11:34,360 --> 01:11:37,480 I was like, hey, we got 2 Nashville trips, like a little 1281 01:11:37,480 --> 01:11:40,840 one or two. Can you take like the first end 1282 01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:42,760 of it? Let me lay back and like take a 1283 01:11:42,760 --> 01:11:45,000 nap for a little bit and then we'll swap. 1284 01:11:45,000 --> 01:11:46,760 So that way you can start relaxing. 1285 01:11:46,760 --> 01:11:48,840 So once we get home, you go straight home and go to bed 1286 01:11:48,840 --> 01:11:50,080 because you had to work the next day. 1287 01:11:51,400 --> 01:11:53,480 He's like, all right, cool. So I pulled out over fill up the 1288 01:11:53,480 --> 01:11:58,000 gas tank or not filled it up. I knew when we swapped that I 1289 01:11:58,000 --> 01:12:02,960 had enough gas for us to get home and for me to drive to my 1290 01:12:02,960 --> 01:12:06,560 little Monday job in the morning. 1291 01:12:06,560 --> 01:12:09,160 So I knew I had enough, just enough gas. 1292 01:12:09,520 --> 01:12:11,360 So I'm in the back seat and I'm laying there. 1293 01:12:11,360 --> 01:12:14,360 I think I slept for like all of 10 minutes and I woke up and my 1294 01:12:14,360 --> 01:12:16,640 soul was in the trunk of the fucking car. 1295 01:12:17,960 --> 01:12:21,960 And I looked over this over his shoulder and I was like, what in 1296 01:12:21,960 --> 01:12:25,200 the actual fuck are you doing? He was like, I'm just trying to 1297 01:12:25,200 --> 01:12:26,560 beat the time. It said we're going to be home 1298 01:12:26,560 --> 01:12:28,320 at this time. And then it jumped up and I was 1299 01:12:28,320 --> 01:12:31,160 like, because there's probably a wreck like 200 miles away from 1300 01:12:31,160 --> 01:12:32,720 here and the time will drop back down. 1301 01:12:33,120 --> 01:12:36,800 And I just looked at my gas gauge and I was like, what did 1302 01:12:36,800 --> 01:12:39,040 you do? He's like, what are you talking 1303 01:12:39,040 --> 01:12:41,200 about? I was like, he's like, you want 1304 01:12:41,200 --> 01:12:42,440 to drive? I was like, yes, I want to 1305 01:12:42,440 --> 01:12:44,400 drive. I want to drive like 1/2 a tank 1306 01:12:44,400 --> 01:12:47,880 of gas that you've done blown through and we he's buried. 1307 01:12:47,880 --> 01:12:51,840 I think he drove like 125 miles. He was just floating. 1308 01:12:52,560 --> 01:12:54,720 He was going, yeah, my, my husband said. 1309 01:12:54,720 --> 01:12:56,720 He looked at everything. He's going like 95 and he's 1310 01:12:56,720 --> 01:12:58,080 leaned back. He's like, Nicole's going to be 1311 01:12:58,080 --> 01:13:02,760 so pissed. I don't let anybody drive. 1312 01:13:02,760 --> 01:13:06,120 I'm such a control freak. Like, that's, that's my problem. 1313 01:13:06,120 --> 01:13:08,520 I'm a control freak. It is so hard for me to let 1314 01:13:08,520 --> 01:13:10,880 people do stuff because I'm just like, I'm going to have to 1315 01:13:11,520 --> 01:13:13,760 explain me how to do it. You're not going to do it the 1316 01:13:13,760 --> 01:13:15,360 way I want it when I want it done. 1317 01:13:15,720 --> 01:13:18,600 And so I was like, all right, I'm going to let somebody drive. 1318 01:13:19,400 --> 01:13:22,120 And then I was like, this is the worst decision I've ever made in 1319 01:13:22,120 --> 01:13:24,760 my life. And he's like our best friend. 1320 01:13:24,760 --> 01:13:27,840 I love him to death, but I will probably never let him drive one 1321 01:13:27,840 --> 01:13:30,800 of my vehicles ever again. My favorite thing is your 1322 01:13:30,800 --> 01:13:33,560 husband just leaning back and being like, Oh, my wife's going 1323 01:13:33,560 --> 01:13:35,640 to be pussed, but I'll let her handle that. 1324 01:13:37,040 --> 01:13:42,400 You know, I personally have found that I don't like writing 1325 01:13:42,400 --> 01:13:45,920 with people if I know that they're unpredictable. 1326 01:13:46,280 --> 01:13:48,960 Like if I go somewhere with someone and I know we're on the 1327 01:13:48,960 --> 01:13:51,440 same wave, like they're going to be hungry, they're going to want 1328 01:13:51,440 --> 01:13:52,960 to go pee, they're going to want to do this. 1329 01:13:53,320 --> 01:13:56,080 But I've had a couple of trips in the last few years that I've 1330 01:13:56,080 --> 01:14:00,080 put myself in the position of not having my own vehicle or 1331 01:14:00,080 --> 01:14:04,080 being in control of my own self. And like Jim and I said, that 1332 01:14:04,080 --> 01:14:06,800 Lady took us out to the desert. There is no rental cars there. 1333 01:14:07,080 --> 01:14:09,760 You can rent an ATV, but you can't rent a car there. 1334 01:14:10,000 --> 01:14:12,160 There was no Uber there. There is no nothing there. 1335 01:14:12,160 --> 01:14:16,240 It is a one stop shop for hiking and ATV. 1336 01:14:16,240 --> 01:14:17,800 That's the only thing you can do there. 1337 01:14:18,120 --> 01:14:22,000 And so I've just really learned like almost the hard way, 1338 01:14:22,000 --> 01:14:26,160 besides like being left on the side of the highway to like stop 1339 01:14:26,160 --> 01:14:28,080 doing that, you know, like just drive your own car. 1340 01:14:28,080 --> 01:14:30,760 It might be convenient to ride with someone or whatever, but 1341 01:14:30,760 --> 01:14:32,680 just drive your own car, you know? 1342 01:14:33,120 --> 01:14:36,160 Yourself, that's why we drive to a lot of shows because they're 1343 01:14:36,160 --> 01:14:39,480 about like y'all want to fly and I'm like, no, like the cost of 1344 01:14:39,480 --> 01:14:41,120 flights. It wouldn't be worth it to buy 1345 01:14:41,120 --> 01:14:43,200 to pay for the rental car and we pick you up. 1346 01:14:43,200 --> 01:14:47,320 I'm like, yeah, no, we're good. And then plus some, it's not so 1347 01:14:47,320 --> 01:14:51,200 much getting us picked up from the airport as it is like when 1348 01:14:51,200 --> 01:14:54,880 we want to go, we want to go like, especially me. 1349 01:14:54,880 --> 01:14:56,680 Like I'm like, I'm hungry right now. 1350 01:14:56,680 --> 01:15:01,160 Like even like I try like in the mornings, like like paddle, why 1351 01:15:01,160 --> 01:15:02,800 do we be getting ready? And I'm like, hey, what are you 1352 01:15:02,800 --> 01:15:03,880 doing? He's like, I'm about to shower. 1353 01:15:03,880 --> 01:15:05,880 I'm like, OK, well, I'm starting to get hungry. 1354 01:15:06,360 --> 01:15:09,440 He's like, OK, And then like he'll like sit there and he's 1355 01:15:09,440 --> 01:15:11,560 like, got to go to the bathroom. He's got to do his gas stuff and 1356 01:15:11,560 --> 01:15:13,720 he's got to like roll a little joint smoke. 1357 01:15:13,720 --> 01:15:14,600 And I'm like, what are you doing? 1358 01:15:14,600 --> 01:15:16,480 And he's like, I'm about to get in the shower and I'm like, OK, 1359 01:15:16,760 --> 01:15:19,240 well, I'm starting to get hungry. 1360 01:15:19,240 --> 01:15:21,680 And like, and then he gets out the shower and he's like, I'm 1361 01:15:21,680 --> 01:15:22,560 like, what all you got left to do? 1362 01:15:22,560 --> 01:15:23,840 He's like, I got to do something to my hair. 1363 01:15:23,920 --> 01:15:26,160 And I'm like, OK, well, I'm hungry. 1364 01:15:26,640 --> 01:15:28,760 And then he like, oh, I forgot to shave and he'll do like four 1365 01:15:28,760 --> 01:15:29,960 other things. And I'm like, all right, I am 1366 01:15:29,960 --> 01:15:31,960 starving now. Like I'm. 1367 01:15:33,360 --> 01:15:35,680 Fucking hungry. Yeah, I could have gone, picked 1368 01:15:35,680 --> 01:15:38,080 up food and then back and you still would have been doing 1369 01:15:38,080 --> 01:15:40,720 whatever it is you're doing and I wouldn't be be hungry. 1370 01:15:40,720 --> 01:15:42,240 He's like, well, I don't want you to go by yourself. 1371 01:15:42,240 --> 01:15:43,960 And I'm like, well then move faster. 1372 01:15:44,200 --> 01:15:46,600 Like so I want to go when I want to go. 1373 01:15:47,360 --> 01:15:50,920 So having your own transportation or your own 1374 01:15:50,920 --> 01:15:53,520 access on vacation has really given me like different 1375 01:15:53,520 --> 01:15:56,840 perspective of places. Like I always get a rental car 1376 01:15:56,840 --> 01:15:59,160 when I go to Vegas. So I've been to the Grand Canyon 1377 01:15:59,160 --> 01:16:01,000 a few times. I've drove to California, the 1378 01:16:01,000 --> 01:16:03,880 Joshua Tree, you know, just done different stuff. 1379 01:16:03,880 --> 01:16:06,280 And then I hear people and they're like, oh, I've only been 1380 01:16:06,280 --> 01:16:09,560 to the mall and the casinos. Like I've never seen, you know, 1381 01:16:09,560 --> 01:16:13,240 Planet 13 or whatever, just like different stuff they have there. 1382 01:16:13,240 --> 01:16:17,000 Like you just don't see the other dispensaries or the other 1383 01:16:17,000 --> 01:16:18,600 things that are on the outskirts. 1384 01:16:18,600 --> 01:16:21,600 And I think that anytime you go to a new city and you're only 1385 01:16:21,600 --> 01:16:25,960 going to choose the Uber or walk around and what's close, you're 1386 01:16:25,960 --> 01:16:27,840 missing out. You're just missing out. 1387 01:16:27,840 --> 01:16:31,120 Like, you know, rent the car, go pay to park or whatever it is. 1388 01:16:31,120 --> 01:16:36,520 Because I do believe that staying in a small sector of 1389 01:16:36,520 --> 01:16:40,640 place doesn't mean you visited Chicago or, you know, visited 1390 01:16:40,640 --> 01:16:44,560 somewhere, like you went to your hotel and the restaurant under 1391 01:16:44,560 --> 01:16:47,480 your hotel is where you ate, you know, you just stayed there. 1392 01:16:47,760 --> 01:16:50,200 But I think that, you know, getting out of your comfort 1393 01:16:50,200 --> 01:16:55,440 zone, anyone like everyone listening and beyond trying new 1394 01:16:55,440 --> 01:16:57,920 things, going new places, like that's what life's about. 1395 01:16:57,920 --> 01:17:00,640 Like when you drive somewhere and you take a road trip there, 1396 01:17:00,640 --> 01:17:04,560 you see everything on the way. You know, you see everything in 1397 01:17:04,560 --> 01:17:05,960 between. And I think that gives you a 1398 01:17:05,960 --> 01:17:09,640 different perspective. We found so many random cool 1399 01:17:09,640 --> 01:17:13,600 places. When we went to, we were in LA. 1400 01:17:13,600 --> 01:17:18,880 It was like one of the last times we saw Gangsta Boo. 1401 01:17:19,640 --> 01:17:22,720 We flew out there. I remember we flew out there for 1402 01:17:22,720 --> 01:17:26,520 it was something with DJ Paul and Boo came by the hotel to see 1403 01:17:26,520 --> 01:17:31,800 us. But we took an Uber to In-n-out 1404 01:17:31,800 --> 01:17:36,480 Burger, I think, and we just walked and we walked down on 1405 01:17:36,480 --> 01:17:40,480 Rodeo Dr. We walked down on whatever the little strip. 1406 01:17:40,480 --> 01:17:43,000 I can't think of all the stuff. But my husband was like, well, 1407 01:17:43,000 --> 01:17:45,160 what do we do when we get tired or we don't want to walk? 1408 01:17:45,160 --> 01:17:47,840 I'm like, then we get over. I'm like, let's just walk. 1409 01:17:47,840 --> 01:17:49,360 Like because you, there's one thing here. 1410 01:17:49,360 --> 01:17:51,880 And then if you walk like 2 blocks, there's a whole nother 1411 01:17:51,880 --> 01:17:57,600 world and you walk down that. We walked 23 miles that day. 1412 01:17:58,280 --> 01:18:02,320 Oh wow, and. When I tell y'all, my husband is 1413 01:18:02,320 --> 01:18:05,920 not an exerciser, he's not a runner. 1414 01:18:05,920 --> 01:18:08,560 If he's running, he's literally the person that something's 1415 01:18:08,560 --> 01:18:12,280 chasing him. Like he just likes to sit on the 1416 01:18:12,280 --> 01:18:16,120 couch, smoke his weed. He gets on stage, he raps like 1417 01:18:16,480 --> 01:18:20,120 and he like so for him to do that, I was just like, so he's 1418 01:18:20,120 --> 01:18:22,400 like, I did this for you and I was like, thank you because I 1419 01:18:22,400 --> 01:18:24,680 love walking. I love doing cardio. 1420 01:18:24,680 --> 01:18:27,720 Like we're so complete opposites when it comes to stuff like 1421 01:18:27,720 --> 01:18:29,880 that. So for him to walk 23 miles, 1422 01:18:29,880 --> 01:18:35,200 it's like the song I would walk 10,000 miles and 10,000 more 1423 01:18:35,200 --> 01:18:36,960 like that was totally him that whole day. 1424 01:18:38,600 --> 01:18:41,720 I love this so much. I literally loved catching up 1425 01:18:41,720 --> 01:18:44,280 with you. I feel like in one year, so much 1426 01:18:44,280 --> 01:18:47,320 has happened for everyone here, like all of us. 1427 01:18:48,200 --> 01:18:51,040 And I know that a couple people were like, I'm so excited that 1428 01:18:51,040 --> 01:18:53,720 you're going to bring back some of your guests. 1429 01:18:54,000 --> 01:18:56,800 Like there were people like, I'm interested in hearing what she's 1430 01:18:56,800 --> 01:19:00,240 doing now or just like, you know, interested in that follow 1431 01:19:00,240 --> 01:19:02,400 up. Could you introduce someone and 1432 01:19:02,400 --> 01:19:06,120 then some podcasts like never speak of them again, right? 1433 01:19:06,120 --> 01:19:08,840 They're like, oh, we introduced you to this person, but we never 1434 01:19:08,840 --> 01:19:11,680 followed up. So thank you so much for coming 1435 01:19:11,680 --> 01:19:14,680 on here that. Look like a cartoon. 1436 01:19:15,840 --> 01:19:18,360 That was the biggest thing lately is I look like a cartoon 1437 01:19:18,600 --> 01:19:21,680 so I'm not being accused of being on drugs anymore. 1438 01:19:22,280 --> 01:19:28,560 I think last time I was accused, I was accused of being a hair a 1439 01:19:28,560 --> 01:19:32,720 gold digging heroin addict. Yeah, which? 1440 01:19:32,880 --> 01:19:34,920 When was this when you're on the podcast? 1441 01:19:35,320 --> 01:19:38,600 I think the IT was either round the last time, like either right 1442 01:19:38,600 --> 01:19:41,000 before, right after. But yeah, people accuse me of 1443 01:19:41,000 --> 01:19:43,800 being a gold digger and a heroin addict. 1444 01:19:44,320 --> 01:19:47,760 I will fuck them up for you, I. Want to be like wrong baby 1445 01:19:47,760 --> 01:19:50,240 Mamas. Not the wife, the wife, every 1446 01:19:51,040 --> 01:19:53,960 shit. And then I posted a picture and 1447 01:19:53,960 --> 01:19:57,120 somebody told me I looked like a cartoon and I was like, dude, I 1448 01:19:57,120 --> 01:20:01,040 literally have. I have like three giant bags of 1449 01:20:01,040 --> 01:20:04,520 makeup and I use probably like 5 things out of the whole thing 1450 01:20:04,880 --> 01:20:08,320 because I'm, I didn't have like a big sister like to learn how 1451 01:20:08,320 --> 01:20:10,720 to do it. So I'm up here like our 20 year 1452 01:20:10,720 --> 01:20:13,440 old and I'm like, hey, does this look right? 1453 01:20:13,440 --> 01:20:16,360 Did I do this right? And like so. 1454 01:20:16,360 --> 01:20:19,360 You look beautiful. It's always a fucking busted 1455 01:20:19,360 --> 01:20:23,280 biscuit, Betty that has some shit to say about somebody and 1456 01:20:24,040 --> 01:20:27,320 you're beautiful. And I refuse to believe that 1457 01:20:27,320 --> 01:20:30,360 anybody that has negative comments to say is doing 1458 01:20:30,360 --> 01:20:34,320 anything for themselves or putting themselves out there on 1459 01:20:34,320 --> 01:20:37,400 any type of platform. And if they are, they're 1460 01:20:37,400 --> 01:20:42,160 attracting nasty ass funky botfly bitches to them who are 1461 01:20:42,160 --> 01:20:45,000 going to leave them the same type of comments. 1462 01:20:45,240 --> 01:20:48,880 And I think that they're going to get exactly what they're 1463 01:20:48,880 --> 01:20:51,600 giving. Then the other one was somebody 1464 01:20:52,000 --> 01:20:55,440 they told me I was shady and that I'm the opposite of humble. 1465 01:20:57,040 --> 01:21:01,480 And then somebody else said that I'm trying to be like Bunny. 1466 01:21:01,480 --> 01:21:03,920 And I was like, well, that's like totally not even like, is 1467 01:21:03,920 --> 01:21:05,160 that supposed to hurt my feelings? 1468 01:21:05,160 --> 01:21:08,040 I like she's an amazing person. She spreads positivity. 1469 01:21:08,040 --> 01:21:10,840 I was like, I was like, does it blow your mind that there's more 1470 01:21:10,840 --> 01:21:12,760 than one positive person in the world? 1471 01:21:13,600 --> 01:21:15,920 Is that what it is? Because like you're not hurting 1472 01:21:15,920 --> 01:21:18,080 my feelings but not liking me like. 1473 01:21:18,560 --> 01:21:21,480 I would like to know what it is that you're doing that is making 1474 01:21:21,480 --> 01:21:25,160 you like Bunny. Is it having an artist for a 1475 01:21:25,160 --> 01:21:27,000 husband? Because you've already been 1476 01:21:27,000 --> 01:21:31,640 doing that. Lots of I, I, I don't know, I, I 1477 01:21:31,640 --> 01:21:33,760 can't see the comparison. I don't like that. 1478 01:21:35,240 --> 01:21:37,880 I think some people. Are just bored, like they're 1479 01:21:37,880 --> 01:21:40,080 bored. And so when they see someone 1480 01:21:40,560 --> 01:21:45,480 happy, it's like, Oh no, absolutely not, Absolutely not. 1481 01:21:45,480 --> 01:21:50,680 Because I see that no matter what level someone is on, it 1482 01:21:50,680 --> 01:21:51,800 could. Literally be. 1483 01:21:52,280 --> 01:21:55,400 Someone from high school, someone that you, you grew up 1484 01:21:55,400 --> 01:21:58,400 with, it could be someone on the mainstage that you don't know at 1485 01:21:58,400 --> 01:22:00,080 all. Like, you know, there's just 1486 01:22:00,080 --> 01:22:04,200 constant people projecting their insecurities onto someone. 1487 01:22:04,200 --> 01:22:07,920 And whether it's a stranger or someone you know or someone down 1488 01:22:07,920 --> 01:22:11,560 the line or whoever. It's like the fact that you even 1489 01:22:11,560 --> 01:22:16,160 wasted our breath on saying whatever you just said below. 1490 01:22:16,160 --> 01:22:19,120 Your. Life to type this out like over 1491 01:22:19,120 --> 01:22:21,240 there. Yeah, like, you're blowing my 1492 01:22:21,240 --> 01:22:24,880 mind that you would waste any energy on this, even if it's 1493 01:22:24,880 --> 01:22:29,360 just like, like, I've seen a lot of like really hateful comments 1494 01:22:29,600 --> 01:22:32,120 on the Internet. I'm just, I'm so blown away that 1495 01:22:32,120 --> 01:22:35,600 people wake up with that hate in their heart every single day. 1496 01:22:35,600 --> 01:22:37,080 So that's what we want to leave you all with. 1497 01:22:37,080 --> 01:22:41,560 Just love yourself, love other people, be who you want to be. 1498 01:22:41,840 --> 01:22:44,360 But like Nicole said at the beginning, you can't change 1499 01:22:44,360 --> 01:22:46,080 someone unless they want to change. 1500 01:22:46,440 --> 01:22:49,840 And the more that we can make peace with where we are and 1501 01:22:49,840 --> 01:22:53,760 where other people are and where we end and other people begin. 1502 01:22:54,040 --> 01:22:58,120 That's important, knowing where you end and other people begin. 1503 01:22:58,120 --> 01:23:01,760 Because it's when we blur the lines and we are so identified 1504 01:23:01,760 --> 01:23:04,760 in our relationships, our friendships, our family, our 1505 01:23:04,760 --> 01:23:08,880 religion, that we are just hating on other people for no 1506 01:23:08,880 --> 01:23:11,320 reason because they don't agree with us or they're not the same 1507 01:23:11,320 --> 01:23:14,000 as us. So that's what I feel like the 1508 01:23:14,000 --> 01:23:17,320 big message is for everyone. It's just be yourself and love 1509 01:23:17,320 --> 01:23:19,800 the people who love you. And the people who don't love 1510 01:23:19,800 --> 01:23:22,960 you, send them love too. Because at the end of the day, 1511 01:23:23,840 --> 01:23:26,760 love will win. That's what I think. 1512 01:23:27,720 --> 01:23:29,480 Yep. That's so sweet. 1513 01:23:29,600 --> 01:23:32,000 My leaving message is don't be a fucking cunt. 1514 01:23:32,040 --> 01:23:35,760 And if you say rude shits and Nicole, I'm going to find out 1515 01:23:35,760 --> 01:23:38,120 your phone number and I'm going to spam call you in the middle 1516 01:23:38,120 --> 01:23:41,440 of the fucking night every single night for the rest of 1517 01:23:41,440 --> 01:23:42,320 your life. Thank. 1518 01:23:46,440 --> 01:23:48,440 You even know what my closing message should be. 1519 01:23:48,440 --> 01:23:52,600 You know, I'm just like, look, they covered everything. 1520 01:23:53,400 --> 01:23:56,280 We covered it well. Nicole, thank you so much for 1521 01:23:56,280 --> 01:24:00,760 coming on and we will see you all next time in Candyland. 1522 01:24:01,200 --> 01:24:02,840 Bye, guys. Bye. 1523 01:24:02,840 --> 01:24:03,080 Uh huh. Yeah. 1524 01:24:06,360 --> 01:24:15,080 You say she's so sweet like a rapper live me like a lollipop 1525 01:24:15,560 --> 01:24:22,680 lollipop lollipop lollipop lollipop lollipop lollipop 1526 01:24:22,720 --> 01:24:27,200 lollipop you. Want to swallow my spirit?