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Feel free to share this episode 14 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:13,360 with everybody that you know. Get the look it like a lollipop 15 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:17,480 name spread around and we hope you love this episode. 16 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:24,560 Welcome back to another episode of Candyland tonight. 17 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:28,880 It's just me and Jim and I, my lovely Co host. 18 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:33,200 I'm so happy to be here. I feel like we haven't talked in 19 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:35,560 a really long time, but that's a lie. 20 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:38,000 We talked last week. It just had to be scrapped. 21 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:42,240 Yeah, a lot of things had to be scrapped. 22 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:47,280 Well, I believe that things happen for a reason. 23 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:51,480 So that episode just wasn't it wasn't going to work. 24 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:55,640 No. And So what had happened was, 25 00:01:55,880 --> 00:02:01,320 without giving you guys detail, we decided to have my daughter 26 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:05,160 do an episode with us. And kids are fucking reckless. 27 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:07,640 And she just started talking about all kinds of information 28 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:09,880 at school and things that kids do and whatever. 29 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:15,160 And we were like, Oh yeah, we're not airing any of this shit. 30 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:22,320 Yeah, I knew that kids these days were a lot Wilder just 31 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:24,960 because of the Internet. Like, you know, when we were 32 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:29,040 kids we couldn't just find everything on the Internet. 33 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,880 But now, 20 years later, everything is on the Internet. 34 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:36,720 So not only do they know everything, they have access to 35 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,160 everything. And it's crazy. 36 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:45,440 There's a lot of shit too that I feel like kids all go through 37 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:47,440 different things and have different home lives and 38 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:51,600 whatever. And so then you can't really 39 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:55,320 gauge at what rate and speed your kids are learning things 40 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:59,640 and experiencing things because it truly doesn't matter what 41 00:02:59,640 --> 00:03:02,760 you're trying to limit them from at home, they're going to come 42 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:06,800 into it in the world. And it's all about like talking 43 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:09,400 to your kids, I feel like, and preparing them for things that 44 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:11,480 are going to come up in the world and then being able to 45 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:16,560 have open discussions. And I told Brian I loved it so 46 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:18,600 much. When Auntie Paige came out and 47 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,640 you were like, oh, you can't go there again, You're never going 48 00:03:21,640 --> 00:03:23,520 there. Oh, absolutely not. 49 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:27,160 And I was like, see, she doesn't even have kids. 50 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,000 And she fucking knew what was up. 51 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:32,080 Like I that was my probably my favorite part of the whole 52 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:36,800 thing. Yeah, I as an only child had a 53 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:41,880 lot of exposure to things through my mom's friends and 54 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:47,720 just being like in the room and being around things and I just 55 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:49,880 can't. I think I will end up being a 56 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:55,560 helicopter mom because I don't approve how these children are 57 00:03:55,560 --> 00:04:00,720 moving in the world. And I know my mom had strict 58 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:03,960 rules for certain things, but was a lot looser on other 59 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:06,280 things. So to hear your daughter's 60 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:10,480 experience with her biological mom and things that she had 61 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:14,760 going on, it was triggering. It was triggering for me because 62 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:20,360 now I as an adult realize, hey, that was wrong. 63 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:22,320 Or your mom shouldn't have let you do that. 64 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:26,600 Or being exposed to that wasn't OK, or that wasn't cool. 65 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:31,560 And hearing other children, her friends, things that she was 66 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:35,720 learning from other kids, like all of that was triggering for 67 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:39,880 me. I'm sorry that it was a trigger. 68 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:45,280 I've noticed through us talking a lot of correlations that you 69 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:49,120 and my daughter just have in common about, you know, mother 70 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:56,320 experiences and and whatnot. And I knew that she feels like a 71 00:04:56,320 --> 00:04:59,360 bond with you. And I think that a part of that 72 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:03,360 is just her energy knows that, like, you recognize and you see 73 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:04,640 her. And I think that she doesn't 74 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:11,000 always feel very seen and heard. And I think that that totally 75 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:13,480 happened for her where she felt seen and heard. 76 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:15,960 Sometimes though, when you feel seen and heard, you just be 77 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:17,720 letting your mouth run fucking reckless. 78 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:20,840 She was over here talking like she's one of the fucking girls 79 00:05:20,840 --> 00:05:22,640 and she's like, let me tell you about this. 80 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:26,800 And we're like, wait, no, I was so mad when we got off the call. 81 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:29,800 She was like, are you angry? And I was like, I'm not angry at 82 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,080 you. I'm just so mad that I can't 83 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:36,280 protect you from the world and like, put you inside of a bubble 84 00:05:36,280 --> 00:05:40,600 and curate everything that happens inside of your reality. 85 00:05:41,360 --> 00:05:45,400 Yeah. And I think that the way she 86 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:50,440 opened up about certain things, not knowing that they were wrong 87 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:54,400 or that that shouldn't have been happening, like, Oh well, this 88 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:58,040 person knew I was doing that or this was already approved. 89 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:01,440 That's what. Not triggering in a bad way, I 90 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:04,840 feel like triggering it, triggering me in an awakening 91 00:06:04,840 --> 00:06:09,760 space of like, wow, as a child, I just thought all of this was 92 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:13,920 OK because my guardian, my parent, allowed me to do that, 93 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:15,600 you know, when I was a kid. You all. 94 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:18,720 I don't know why, but I must have been a really fucking cool 95 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:22,640 12 year old. Cause a lot of like 14 and 15 96 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:26,240 year old girls, not boys, girls. Wanted to hang out with me, 97 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:30,160 wanted to come to my house, wanted to go to Florida with us, 98 00:06:30,160 --> 00:06:33,480 to the lake with us. And I look back on it now and 99 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:37,280 like those kids didn't really have a good home life. 100 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:41,080 So coming to my life and coming to my house was like getting 101 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:45,240 away or escaping from the poverty and the drama and the 102 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:49,880 chaos, addictions and things that they dealt with at home. 103 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:53,880 So yes, I'm sure they enjoyed hanging out with me, but it was 104 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:57,880 more so like living vicariously through me of like, wow, Paige 105 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:02,800 has Barbies and the Internet and a computer and a pool and all of 106 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:06,560 these things that, like, I wish I had, but I can have those if I 107 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:09,320 just hang out with her. And so I look back on that. 108 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:14,440 And my mom really, really liked that because she never had to 109 00:07:14,440 --> 00:07:17,400 pay a babysitter like, up until the point of me staying home 110 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:19,640 alone. She never had to pay a 111 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:23,840 babysitter at all when I was like 11 and 12 years old, 112 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:29,160 because everyone around me was like 1415, sixteen years old. 113 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:32,280 And I remember my neighbor, her name was Christina. 114 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:39,080 She was born in like 89 and I was born in you know, the 90s. 115 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:45,040 So I just look back on that and I think like there's no way on 116 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,720 God's green earth that as a teenager I wanted to hang out 117 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,680 with 12 year olds ever. Like, at all. 118 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:55,760 So when I look back on that, I'm like, you know, that was wrong. 119 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:59,320 Like even though they wanted to hang out with me and they were 120 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:02,960 not, you know, influencing me to do anything negative, They 121 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:07,280 literally came to my house to be more childlike and to have more 122 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:10,960 childlike experiences that where they had to grow up really fast, 123 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:12,480 where they had to stay home alone. 124 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:17,280 But then that gave my mom, like this mental understanding of 125 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:18,720 like, well, Paige is really mature. 126 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:20,440 So she's allowed to do these things. 127 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:23,360 She's allowed to be exposed to these things and hang out with 128 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:25,360 these people. And I just look back on that. 129 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:31,800 And that was wrong. I feel like when I was younger, 130 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:35,520 my mom was very, it's it's so interesting because you 131 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,200 mentioned the things that, like, your mom was super laxed on and 132 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:41,480 then the things that, like, she really cared about and she was 133 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:44,560 like, you know, had more rules and guidelines on. 134 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:49,120 And it's so interesting because there's so many things that were 135 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:53,200 like, I had rules and regulations on and one of them 136 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:55,440 was going over to people's houses. 137 00:08:55,440 --> 00:08:58,480 Like, my mom was always insistent on I have to talk to 138 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:00,800 the parents. I have to make sure that, like, 139 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:02,640 they say that you're allowed to be there, whatever. 140 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:09,120 And I hung out with people who I knew their parents would lie and 141 00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:11,360 say that we are at their house so that we could go and do 142 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:13,120 whatever. So like friends that I would 143 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:16,560 make in like middle school and stuff like that, I would hang 144 00:09:16,560 --> 00:09:18,920 out with people who were getting into things that we couldn't get 145 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:22,320 into, who didn't have responsible parents at home who 146 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:23,840 were just going to let us run amok. 147 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:27,560 And so people didn't necessarily, like, I had friends 148 00:09:27,560 --> 00:09:30,360 who would come over to our house or whatever, mostly because my 149 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:33,280 mom made food. But like, if you wanted to, 150 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:35,720 like, hang out and get into shit, we're going over to your 151 00:09:35,720 --> 00:09:39,200 house where your parents don't give a flying fuck and you know, 152 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:42,040 or your brother's got people that are in their 20s wanting to 153 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:45,200 hang out with us and, you know, smoke us out or whatever it may 154 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:49,800 be. And I also though, like, I feel 155 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:52,400 the exact same way, like with my daughter. 156 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:56,440 And I'm always trying to figure out like what my balance is 157 00:09:56,720 --> 00:10:00,120 because you know, you heard things that are like really 158 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:04,200 lacks and just like she's she's able to do that like you and I 159 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:06,600 wouldn't let do. But when it comes to things like 160 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:11,280 coloring her hair or whatever or doing her makeup or or those 161 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:13,680 types of things where it's like self-expression, it's not 162 00:10:13,680 --> 00:10:15,800 harming anything. You're just expressing yourself. 163 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:20,080 I'm so open to her doing those. And that's, you know, where her 164 00:10:20,080 --> 00:10:23,120 biological mom is. Like, oh, that's the thing that 165 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:27,520 I'm not cool with. And so Co parenting on things is 166 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:31,280 just really interesting. I actually experienced the same 167 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:34,040 thing she's experiencing. My mom would not let me get my 168 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:38,160 nails done, color my hair. I think she, you know, let me 169 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:42,640 get some highlights in middle school, but nothing like off the 170 00:10:42,640 --> 00:10:47,680 verge of my natural color. And so I completely like my mom 171 00:10:47,680 --> 00:10:50,600 would not let me color my hair or get my nails done. 172 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:55,680 But at a very young age, she lied and said I was older so I 173 00:10:55,680 --> 00:10:59,320 could get my belly button pierced and I had to hide it 174 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:02,040 from my dad. So my dad did not know I had a 175 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:05,040 belly ring until like well into high school. 176 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:10,080 And when he found out that I had that, he came unglued. 177 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:13,920 And even though I had had it for like 4 years at this point and 178 00:11:14,480 --> 00:11:17,480 it was past like the stage of healing or getting infected or 179 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:22,880 whatever, like he came unglued. And I remember him calling my 180 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:24,960 mom. And this is kind of when my mom 181 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:27,600 was going through her midlife crisis and I had moved in with 182 00:11:27,600 --> 00:11:30,560 him, and me and her really weren't close anymore. 183 00:11:30,560 --> 00:11:33,520 It was really her ex-husband and my dad that was raising me. 184 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:36,440 She was Mia. She was in other states. 185 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,600 She was wherever she was, not active or present in my life. 186 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:44,200 But if I wanted to do something or to get into something or lie 187 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:46,320 about something, I would go hang out with my mom. 188 00:11:46,640 --> 00:11:51,640 And you know, I just went back on like my mom at like 1516 189 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:54,800 years old, just literally going to the liquor store and buying 190 00:11:54,800 --> 00:12:00,440 us like 1/5 of UV or 1/5 of vodka or 1/5 of tequila and 191 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:03,000 letting us drink that at her house. 192 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,480 And like, you know, of course, like we're young. 193 00:12:05,480 --> 00:12:08,800 We don't know our limits. You know, we've never had life 194 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:10,560 or death experiences with alcohol. 195 00:12:10,560 --> 00:12:12,760 So, like, everyone's just drinking and drinking. 196 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:16,920 And I remember like 15, I had a party. 197 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:21,520 My mom inherited a house, my uncle had passed away and we 198 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:23,400 were living in this house. Or she was. 199 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,400 And it was like, you know, he died there. 200 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,160 So it was a little haunted. It was creepy. 201 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:30,040 It wasn't like, you know, inviting. 202 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:34,160 But she was letting me and my high school friends like, party 203 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:36,120 there. Like she wouldn't even be there 204 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:38,360 half the time. But she would tell my dad I was 205 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:39,840 going to be with her for that weekend. 206 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:44,120 And I remember one of my friends got so fucked up, she had to 207 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:48,080 call her parents to like, come get her, like, it was like, you 208 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:51,360 know, really bad. And I remember her parents were 209 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:54,640 like, her mom just let you all do this at home. 210 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:59,320 And she's like her mom isn't even here like that, you know, 211 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:03,520 Like they thought she came to my house to stay the weekend and 212 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:05,600 was like going to be safe and someone was going to be home. 213 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:08,480 But then like, her same parents let her smoke weed at a very 214 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:10,560 young age. So like, you know, some people 215 00:13:10,560 --> 00:13:14,080 are like throwing stones at one parent for doing this, but then 216 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:17,320 let them do something else. Like, you know, I don't know. 217 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:21,360 So it's really weird what some parents allow and some parents 218 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:25,240 don't allow. Like, my dad would have never. 219 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:27,840 But there are so many parents that I look back. 220 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:30,280 They're like, we knew if we went there we could smoke weed. 221 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:34,160 Or we knew if we went there, you know, their mom had klonopins 222 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:37,080 and we could take them. Or, you know, or if we went 223 00:13:37,080 --> 00:13:39,600 there, there was a liquor cabinet full of liquor. 224 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,960 And I used to babysit for my aunt. 225 00:13:41,960 --> 00:13:45,760 And I remember we, after the kids went to bed, me and my 226 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:48,560 friend got really drunk in their liquor cabinet. 227 00:13:48,560 --> 00:13:51,400 We filled it up with water, Like what? 228 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:53,440 Like what we drank. So I ended up getting in trouble 229 00:13:53,440 --> 00:13:56,960 for that, like two years later because they were like, yeah, 230 00:13:57,680 --> 00:13:59,760 that really, it's been some vodka that we had. 231 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:03,520 It was diluted with water. I wonder how that happened. 232 00:14:05,200 --> 00:14:09,800 Oh my fucking God, dude. See, when you tell me the story 233 00:14:09,800 --> 00:14:14,120 about your belly button piercing with your dad, I wonder how much 234 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:17,200 of it was, like, actually angry about the belly button piercing 235 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:21,040 and actually angry that, like, there's something being kept 236 00:14:21,040 --> 00:14:23,040 from him that like, other people are in on. 237 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:26,760 Because I know that, like, that's something for us. 238 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:30,040 That's always, like, really frustrating is when there's like 239 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:34,160 purposefully a secret that she's supposed to keep about her or 240 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:36,640 about something else that, like, she should be saying. 241 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:40,120 And it's like everything can be done as a team. 242 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,520 But if there's going to be secrets about things, then it, 243 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:46,800 like, creates a mistrust of not knowing, like, what other things 244 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:48,600 like, Is your safety being lied about? 245 00:14:48,600 --> 00:14:52,560 Is there other things like and So I wonder for your dad finding 246 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:55,000 out like this? You've had this for four years 247 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,280 and I haven't been in the loop. Like what the fuck else is mine 248 00:14:57,280 --> 00:14:59,560 not being told about? Oh yeah. 249 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:02,400 I've never seen him as mad as he was. 250 00:15:02,400 --> 00:15:05,520 And there was like a stretch where, you know, they didn't 251 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:09,480 really involve the courts, but at any time, my dad could have 252 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:12,640 flipped the script and took her for child support. 253 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:17,640 But I think that he was afraid that she wouldn't pay or follow 254 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:21,480 the rules. And then me, as an angsty emo 255 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:24,360 teenager, would have been like, you put my mom in jail. 256 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:26,720 Like, I wouldn't have understood the concept. 257 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:32,120 But, you know, it just became, like a very big choice in my 258 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:34,440 eyes. Like, I have to go live with my 259 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:40,280 dad, even though it's gonna be stricter and hard and not fun. 260 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:44,240 All this isn't fun anymore. It was like a part of me, like 261 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:47,080 my spirit team. Something awakened me to be 262 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:50,480 like, look, we know you're not going to like this decision, but 263 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:54,280 you have to willingly go make this decision because in the 264 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:56,800 courts eyes, you know, my mom was a fit parent. 265 00:15:56,800 --> 00:16:00,240 Like they never had anything on record. 266 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:04,280 And you know, back then CPS would come to school and just 267 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:08,000 like sit down with every kid, like whether you've had any 268 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:10,640 issues or not. Like they would come to our 269 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:15,040 school and we lived in a, you know, a poverty type area and it 270 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:17,440 was an Independent School, not a public school. 271 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:21,280 And so CPS would just come and at this school you could also 272 00:16:21,280 --> 00:16:25,080 sign a paper and they could paddle your kid if they were in 273 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:27,880 trouble. Like yeah, it was a really weird 274 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:32,760 place. So, you know, we as a school, 275 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:35,400 CPS would come and just sit down and talk to people. 276 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:37,920 Like they would give classes, They would sit down and they 277 00:16:37,920 --> 00:16:41,120 would just ask you questions. Like, do your parents make you 278 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:44,560 dinner? Do you go to bed hungry or do 279 00:16:44,560 --> 00:16:47,000 you have clean clothes? Like just random shit? 280 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:50,080 And then, you know, kids are loudmouth, but they don't know 281 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:52,440 what they're saying. Just example like your daughter, 282 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:54,880 they don't know what they're saying, if it's right or if it's 283 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:56,680 wrong or if it's going to trigger something. 284 00:16:56,680 --> 00:17:00,280 So they're like, yeah, my mom was never home at night or yeah, 285 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:02,800 we don't have food at our house or you know, that kind of thing. 286 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:04,800 And then it would open acps case. 287 00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:09,839 So I knew even as like a young 10 year old, not to say like, Oh 288 00:17:09,839 --> 00:17:13,200 yeah, some nights I go to bed and my mom's not home or some 289 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:17,119 days there's all these people at my house smoking or you know, 290 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:19,480 doing whatever, like whatever it is. 291 00:17:25,740 --> 00:17:27,660 My kid busted and can I go to the book fair? 292 00:17:27,660 --> 00:17:28,300 Why? Really pleased. 293 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:35,640 You know, out of all the times I've paid attention to things on 294 00:17:35,640 --> 00:17:39,240 the road, I saw a semi and it said the Scholastic Book Fair 295 00:17:39,240 --> 00:17:42,280 and I was like, that's so crazy because I've never seen that 296 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:46,920 semi before. Dude, they have those all over 297 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:50,200 the place and they so when they go and set up the book fair, 298 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:53,880 they drive in the Scholastic like Big Rig. 299 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:56,560 And so that's probably why you saw they're probably going to 300 00:17:56,560 --> 00:17:59,480 set up at a school. Yeah, that's what I thought. 301 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:04,200 The I remember the book fairs used to be so much cooler, maybe 302 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:06,680 just 'cause we were a kid. But I just felt like they had so 303 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:10,400 many different, like, types of books, so many different stuff. 304 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,880 And now, like, he Mac comes home with the stuff that he got from 305 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:19,520 school and I'm just like, that's you got an eraser dispenser. 306 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:22,320 What happened? Like we used to have the fluffy 307 00:18:22,320 --> 00:18:27,440 pens and like the little charmed like journals that you could get 308 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:31,040 that have little locks on it. Yeah, I used to love getting 309 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:34,800 those best friend journals where you, like, would fill them out 310 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:37,520 with a friend, would be like, how did you all meet? 311 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:39,960 What is your favorite color? What are your goals? 312 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:43,720 And I have a bunch of them that are like halfway filled out, 313 00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:46,360 like, 'cause I would, like end up not being friends with that 314 00:18:46,360 --> 00:18:48,840 person or something. Like, I have a bunch of those 315 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:52,760 little journals that are like halfway completed and they would 316 00:18:52,760 --> 00:18:55,000 come with like all these stickers and all these little 317 00:18:55,000 --> 00:19:00,080 like tabs and different things. But yeah, I know $20 used to go 318 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:03,640 really far at a book fair. I'd be shocked if $20 goes far 319 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:06,640 these days. No, it totally doesn't go far. 320 00:19:07,360 --> 00:19:11,280 Matt came home yesterday. It looks like a soda dispenser 321 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:15,760 and you push a button and it drops down a mini little soda 322 00:19:15,760 --> 00:19:18,080 can eraser. So there's a bunch of different 323 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:20,200 flavors. That thing was 850 and it's like 324 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:24,280 this big. And on team oh, it was like. 325 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:28,560 $0.50. Literally, that's why it's hard 326 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:30,080 for me to buy a little knickknacks. 327 00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:33,680 Like we went on a road trip last weekend to a concert and they 328 00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:38,960 had little key chain Chuck shoes, but they were bedazzled 329 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:43,080 like just all the way diamond and it was 599. 330 00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:45,000 So I was like, juber, do you want one of these? 331 00:19:45,360 --> 00:19:47,080 Because like, I'm going to get one. 332 00:19:47,080 --> 00:19:50,800 So I bought her one and I got a few other things and literally 333 00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:53,840 my total was like $22.00 and I was like and This is why I don't 334 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:57,880 go to gas stations like This is why I never go inside a gas 335 00:19:57,880 --> 00:20:01,600 station. I buy Red Bull, buy the case. 336 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:04,320 You know, if I won't want to have one, I don't need to go to 337 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:08,600 a gas station because I inevitably spend 20 plus dollars 338 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:11,440 every time I go. Yeah, Nope. 339 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:14,080 I and I don't really buy knickknacks and shit when I'm 340 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:15,920 out. And I always just find that 341 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:19,800 things are like super overpriced unless I'm going somewhere 342 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:23,560 that's like a monumentous place and will usually like, pick up a 343 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:26,640 postcard from that place. And like, that's our thing is, 344 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:29,080 hey, we bought a postcard here, we have a picture of it. 345 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:31,400 We'll add it to like a little travel book or something. 346 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:33,600 But everything's always overhyped. 347 00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:36,400 You can go online and you can buy a fucking Michigan State 348 00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:40,800 sweater and not have to spend $45 on it because you went to 349 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:43,480 Michigan. Well, it's like, you know, 350 00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:47,160 buying something at an airport, whether it's candy or 351 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:51,040 knickknacks or souvenirs Like, it's very expensive because most 352 00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:53,960 people that are purchasing something at an airport have 353 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:57,520 forgot it. So they're willing to pay $45.00 354 00:20:57,520 --> 00:21:00,680 for a travel pillow when it was 1299 at TJ Maxx. 355 00:21:01,120 --> 00:21:03,040 And so, I don't know, I see that meme. 356 00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:06,400 It floats around and it's like, you know, a bottle of water can 357 00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:11,520 be $0.30 in a pack or all the way up to 850 at a concert or a 358 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,760 festival. And it's like, it's the same 359 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:17,240 thing, but it's about the area that it's in or, you know, 360 00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:19,720 wherever it's being offered. And it's like, never sell 361 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:23,440 yourself short because of what you're being offered. 362 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:27,000 Never sell yourself short because of the environment that 363 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:30,120 you're in. You know, at home water comes 364 00:21:30,120 --> 00:21:33,120 out of the faucet and then at a festival. 365 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,760 Water should be free at festivals in my opinion. 366 00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:39,920 Like not just water fill up stations, but like easily 367 00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:42,200 accessible to water. Dollar bottle of water. 368 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:46,840 You're out here selling alcohol for $657.00 but a bottle of 369 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:49,600 water is 8 or a Gatorade is 8 like. 370 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:53,440 No wonder people are out here seizing and having alcohol 371 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:56,720 poisoning. You know, it's like so many 372 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:59,080 areas of our life. We're willing to pay more for 373 00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,280 something. But then when someone starts a 374 00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:05,280 business or someone starts doing hair or whatever, then you want 375 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:07,720 them to do it at cost or for free. 376 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:11,280 And that's what blows online with the Internet is like. 377 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:14,640 There are apps like Wish and Team Mood that you can get these 378 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:18,040 little knickknacks and little trinkets on for very cheap. 379 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,720 But then you put it in a Scholastic book fair where 380 00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:24,400 there's children being involved, and all of a sudden you're going 381 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:29,240 to pay 850 for junk, for junk that he's going to look at one 382 00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:33,560 time the smells going to wear off of those erasers and they'll 383 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:40,400 end up in the floor. Yeah, I've paid like the $9 that 384 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:44,160 it costs to get a bottle of air of water at the airport before 385 00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:48,280 because they don't let you take anything in when you go in 386 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:50,880 there. And so then you're in there and 387 00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:52,440 you're like, well, a bitch is thirsty. 388 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:55,000 I have to wait six hours for my flight. 389 00:22:55,760 --> 00:23:01,400 I also recently saw this post that said if the post says 390 00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:04,800 looking for blah blah blah that doesn't charge an arm and a leg, 391 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,480 don't tag me because I don't want their business. 392 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:12,200 And I reread that for a minute and I was like, no, literally it 393 00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:16,480 makes me think of people who have been like, oh, what are, 394 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:19,960 what are your prices? And then been like, ah, yeah, 395 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:23,440 that's really expensive. Or and then gone and booked 396 00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:26,240 with, you know, you or gone and booked with somebody else. 397 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:29,040 It's happened to both of us where we're just like, what? 398 00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:35,480 Like what do you mean? I honestly have so many like 399 00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:39,400 protection things that I just don't even attract clients who 400 00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:42,320 are not willing to pay my price. Like I have clients that are 401 00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:46,760 already picking days in May and like I'm not worried about 402 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:51,400 someone who isn't wanting to pay for quality or isn't ready to 403 00:23:51,400 --> 00:23:54,400 pay for quality. Like you know when I did the 404 00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:57,600 flash reading, the amount of people who thought that was a 405 00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:01,280 video reading when it clearly said it was a three question 406 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:05,280 e-mail flash reading. Like the fact that so many 407 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:09,200 people, not just one like 5 different people thought it was 408 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,320 a video reading just tells me a lot about, like, they didn't 409 00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:17,040 read, they just booked, they didn't look at the confirmation 410 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:21,120 e-mail. And I noticed that whenever 411 00:24:21,120 --> 00:24:24,480 people pay 50 plus dollars for an e-mail reading, I never have 412 00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:27,000 an issue. They always receive it, they're 413 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:30,360 always patient, they always know it's going to be an e-mail and 414 00:24:30,360 --> 00:24:33,040 so forth. But on this one, there were so 415 00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:35,880 many people that were like 2 weeks later, hey, did you send 416 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,200 my reading? And I'm like, yeah, I'll resend 417 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:42,120 it like just so many people that like, overlooked it because a 418 00:24:42,120 --> 00:24:46,800 $33 investment, it isn't a big deal to a lot of people and they 419 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:50,440 don't take it as serious. And so that's why I like, I like 420 00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:53,920 my prices being at a certain level because of the level of 421 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:57,320 client that you're going to bring in if you offer a service 422 00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:02,240 to anyone and it's free, like free estimates, I don't know how 423 00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,240 many contractors have they advertise free estimates. 424 00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:07,920 Do you know how many people waste their time on a weekly 425 00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,880 basis getting an estimate for something they're never going to 426 00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:12,200 get? And I've done it before. 427 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:16,720 I was going to redo my bathroom and I got a free estimate it was 428 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:19,040 $20,000 for a closet sized bathroom. 429 00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:23,600 And I was like, no, like, I'm good, you know? 430 00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:27,440 But that free estimate. A lot of people charge more on 431 00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:30,080 the back end because they're willing to give you this free 432 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,240 estimate when I would rather them just give you a virtual 433 00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:35,480 quote. Send me photos of your space, 434 00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:40,560 measure your space and I'll render a A online quote for you, 435 00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:43,160 a generalized online quote for you. 436 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:47,080 But when I'm getting a quote for like 15,000, it's not even going 437 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:51,080 to include materials. And at one point I wanted to 438 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:55,120 knock a wall out and widen the space and collapse a closet and 439 00:25:55,120 --> 00:25:57,920 make it like a big bathroom space. 440 00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:01,280 The difference between collapsing the closet and 441 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:04,960 leaving the wall up was only at $1200. 442 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,920 So you're telling me knocking an entire wall down, moving the 443 00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:13,440 electrical plates, rewiring it and putting a wall back up. 444 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:17,080 You're telling me that only is a $1200 difference? 445 00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:21,360 No, no thank you. And like the amount of people 446 00:26:21,360 --> 00:26:25,800 that will ask you a million questions but have no intentions 447 00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:29,680 of supporting your business, I'm sure is a lot in the contracting 448 00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:32,760 world. Well, I'm sure and like 449 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:35,640 especially in the contracting world because we see that on 450 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:39,560 like a small scale with our business too. 451 00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:42,720 There's a reason that I started doing spiritual advice and 452 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:46,400 guidance on my website and it's because I was so tired of being 453 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:49,680 asked questions for free all the time. 454 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:53,160 I feel like, and we've discussed this before, but there's so much 455 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:58,200 content that we put out on, on social media, doing group 456 00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:01,280 readings, whatever, having super discounted things on our 457 00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:04,560 Patreon. Like there's so there's so much 458 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,840 the readings are discounted when you get them through Patreon, 459 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:10,400 just everything. And then to just have like 460 00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:13,880 bombardment of additional questions about things. 461 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,960 And I really want your time on this and I want to trauma dump 462 00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,920 all this information and get your point of view, spiritual 463 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:23,680 advice and guidance. Because time is valuable. 464 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,680 Energy is valuable. If you want me to sit down and 465 00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:31,480 have this time to go through and energetically feel out all the 466 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,360 information that you're giving me and give some type of 467 00:27:34,360 --> 00:27:39,080 guidance, I'm charging for that. And there are people sometimes I 468 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:42,160 never when I first started doing it, I had people that were like, 469 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:45,680 wow, that's so rude. Because from the Coven of 470 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:49,760 Rejects podcast, they're just like when you're giving out 471 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:53,720 advice like I do on that podcast, that's something that's 472 00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:56,320 happening for free. So then it's just expected that 473 00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:58,560 your time is just always going to be free. 474 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:02,320 And then now that's different. Now I get people that are like, 475 00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:06,200 they either book it or OK, well, I'm going to save up for that. 476 00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:08,800 And that'll be something that, like, I gift myself or that I 477 00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:12,480 asked for my birthday. And I always, I always love that 478 00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:15,080 where someone's like, I'm going to budget that in and I'm going 479 00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,200 to do that instead of being like, well, I really don't have 480 00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:20,480 the money for that and that's really expensive. 481 00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,600 Can you just give me a discount on it? 482 00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:25,960 Because if Spirit leads me to give you a discount, I will. 483 00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:30,080 That's why on Patreon, for all levels, I started doing just 484 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:33,120 like monthly, like this past month. 485 00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,120 I gave them for the month of April. 486 00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:38,640 If you're on Patreon, you can get $50 off any service. 487 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:42,920 That's $100 or more, and I've had a lot of people who get 488 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:46,920 monthly readings, sign up or spell work or a Reiki cleanse or 489 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:48,800 things that they don't normally get. 490 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:52,160 And that's why, like, I'm starting to change things around 491 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:56,080 where there is a level where it just includes the group spell 492 00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,120 work. Like it's just going to be the 493 00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:00,520 group spell work. Or if you want to upgrade and 494 00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:03,560 you want a reading the group spell work and a personal 495 00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:06,440 spells, you have options for that. 496 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:11,120 But like, I understand not everybody can like spend a 497 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:14,360 certain amount every month. So I like to make things like 498 00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,680 affordable. But when Bunny XO changed over 499 00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:24,360 her pay grade from like $5 to $10 and 15 to 25 and people were 500 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:29,320 losing their shit, it really made me evaluate of like, when 501 00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:31,720 you make yourself affordable to everyone. 502 00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:35,240 Like she's had this $5 level. I've been on it for almost four 503 00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:39,040 years and I've never thought, oh, she's doing not enough. 504 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,000 I've always thought, damn, she's doing way too much. 505 00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:45,600 It's way too much for me to consume as a consumer for $5. 506 00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:50,760 I feel like the $5 is just like a like a, a support and all this 507 00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:53,840 stuff is bonus. So when all of these people were 508 00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:59,000 just absolutely going crazy over the fact that she upgraded these 509 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,800 levels to the point where now like her top levels, you're 510 00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:06,600 getting like presents and prizes and live zoom calls and all 511 00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:09,160 these things. Like it's like she's just went 512 00:30:09,160 --> 00:30:11,240 above and beyond. And the whole time I was 513 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:14,240 thinking, and I know we talked about it, that she was doing way 514 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,440 too much for $5. And you get people accustomed to 515 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:23,720 having full access to you for 5-10, fifteen, $20, they think 516 00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,120 they own you. And I understand, like, hers is 517 00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:31,200 a huge platform where, you know, if everyone's giving you $5, 518 00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,640 you're making a half, $1,000,000 a month. 519 00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:37,560 Like, you know, understand that. But it's like the fact that 520 00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,680 people thought they were being taken advantage of because she 521 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:45,600 was going to add a $10 and a $25 level really blew my mind. 522 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:49,160 And it really made me realize how much I appreciate my monthly 523 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,680 clients and my clients who just upgrade. 524 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:56,440 They just pay what they pay and they get their services and 525 00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,960 they're happy and they're grateful and they're pleased and 526 00:30:59,960 --> 00:31:03,480 there's never any drama. But man, was that causing a 527 00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:05,800 ruckus on Patreon when she did that. 528 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:09,240 And I just thought, like, these people are fucking nuts. 529 00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:13,600 What I always think is interesting is once people get 530 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:17,280 money, then if they charge for anything, if they raise the 531 00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:20,600 price on something, then they're just money hungry or whatever. 532 00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:24,680 And so it's, it's interesting to me to have people who have been 533 00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:29,800 OK with paying the $5 literally watching her form that platform 534 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:34,160 from nothing and create all of this, Do all this content grow 535 00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:37,560 and grow and grow to the point that now like there's so much 536 00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:40,360 that she's putting out there to just keep up with the rate of 537 00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,200 people. So she raises prices and then 538 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:47,440 now people are like, you know, she had comments like, oh, 539 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:52,840 you're selling out or you used to be for like the people who 540 00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:55,960 were broke or whatever. And now you're, you know, you 541 00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:58,200 think that you're too good for us or whatever. 542 00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:02,480 And that part to me is the the part that for her specifically, 543 00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:06,400 was really interesting to me because she's always been about 544 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:08,000 the people. She's always made things 545 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:10,200 affordable. Her Patreon is still extremely 546 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,680 affordable for the content that you're getting. 547 00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:18,200 And she also has a lot more people now who screen record her 548 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:22,560 segments and who posts things publicly for other people to see 549 00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:26,800 and take clippings off of, you know, episodes and things like 550 00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,240 that. And if there's something about 551 00:32:29,240 --> 00:32:31,520 her, she's going to make a fucking coin off of it. 552 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:33,440 So if you're going to sit there and you're going to be screen 553 00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:36,040 recording her shit and you're going to be shit talking, she 554 00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:38,800 absolutely should be upping the price of the tears so that 555 00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:41,680 you're having to pay some more money for that. 556 00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:50,440 And she is going to have energy vampires around her because 557 00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,040 she's such a light. It's like drawing moths to a 558 00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:57,320 flame sometimes, and I'm glad that she fucking is doing her 559 00:32:57,320 --> 00:32:59,680 thing and hustling through it and raising prices. 560 00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:03,560 And if people don't want to pay it, then they can go suck a 561 00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:06,640 rock. Yeah, I completely agree. 562 00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:11,520 I was just like adding to the fact that like when people think 563 00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:17,640 like, you know, I used to do readings for 15 dollars, $20 and 564 00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:22,120 like that amount of clients I would have was a bigger number, 565 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:23,480 right? It was a bigger number of 566 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,360 clients that are willing to pay 15 or $20.00. 567 00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:33,240 But when I raised my prices like a year ago, I will say that like 568 00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:36,680 the volume of customers went down, but the quality of 569 00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:40,680 customers went up. Because once again, every time I 570 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:43,920 do a flash reading, there are people that are like, when are 571 00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:46,120 you gonna do my reading? Oh my God, I know I'm booked it 572 00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:48,400 next Thursday, but it's Tuesday and I really would like my 573 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:52,720 reading or, oh, I thought this was going to be a different type 574 00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:54,440 of reading. I thought this was a live 575 00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:56,360 segment. I was hoping that I was getting 576 00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:57,960 a video link. You know, like they're not 577 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:01,360 reading the fine print. Because investing a a smaller 578 00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:06,360 amount of money isn't triggering them to look at the fine print. 579 00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:10,840 But when someone's going to invest $111.00, they're reading 580 00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,239 it, they're reading it, They're making sure that it's a video 581 00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:14,719 reading. They're making sure that it's 582 00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,199 what they're they're expecting to receive. 583 00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:21,239 And I don't mind the questions. Like, you know, a lot of people 584 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:28,440 end up apologizing or feeling upset or, you know, like they 585 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,440 feel bad for bothering me. And I don't, I don't mind 586 00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:35,320 answering questions. I just ask that people before 587 00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:39,360 spending your money with anyone, not just me, anyone that you 588 00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:41,679 know what you're paying for. Just like when we purchase 589 00:34:41,679 --> 00:34:44,960 Netflix and there's three levels, there's one that you 590 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,920 know, everyone in your family can get on. 591 00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:49,639 There's one that's just for one household. 592 00:34:49,639 --> 00:34:51,679 There's one that's got some commercials. 593 00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:55,719 Pay attention to that like you would with anything. 594 00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:58,480 Whether you're going to get new tires and they give you 3 levels 595 00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:02,000 of tires, One's 501's, 1001's, 1500. 596 00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,600 Well, they all do the same thing, yes, but the $500 tires 597 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:08,240 come with no warranty, no roadside, no nothing. 598 00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:12,640 The 1500 ones are guaranteed for three years. 599 00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:15,720 Well, if you're a single mom and you're or a single person and 600 00:35:15,720 --> 00:35:19,080 money's tight, I would say always go with the middle 601 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:21,040 because you're going to want some type of warranty. 602 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:23,240 Because what's going to happen is you're going to pull up to 603 00:35:23,240 --> 00:35:26,080 your kids daycare and get a nail in your tire three weeks after 604 00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:28,600 you bought them. And for those that didn't get 605 00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,200 the warranty, they're going to get on Facebook and perpetuate 606 00:35:31,200 --> 00:35:34,160 that negativity of this always happens to me. 607 00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:37,080 And every time I try to do something, this always happens 608 00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,200 to me. But that is the self fulfilling 609 00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:41,680 prophecy that I learned about in psychology. 610 00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:44,680 A lot of people are so caught up in the story they tell 611 00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:48,160 themselves that they actually create it to be true. 612 00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:51,240 They actually create it and draw it closer to them. 613 00:35:51,240 --> 00:35:54,320 I gave a speech about this this past weekend. 614 00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:58,120 A lot of people hear about manifesting and the law of 615 00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:01,120 attraction, but they just disregard the Law of assumption. 616 00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:05,920 And if you assume it's going to be hard, it's going to take all 617 00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:08,760 this time and energy and money and resources, and you don't 618 00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:11,800 have them, you're going to reject the opportunity for 619 00:36:12,040 --> 00:36:19,920 something amazing to happen. 100% and people, I don't think 620 00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:24,680 that people pay enough attention to the fact that you also create 621 00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:28,360 realities based off of emotion. And just because you feel that 622 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:31,560 it's a certain way doesn't mean that it is that way. 623 00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,520 And so there are a lot of people who think that they're doing 624 00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:38,800 self reflection and that they're aware of the actions that they 625 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:41,720 have and the way that they're influencing others around them. 626 00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:45,640 But they're really just acting on emotional responses and how 627 00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:50,200 it emotionally is making them feel, which usually transposes 628 00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:53,440 and to others around them feeling taken advantage of or 629 00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:55,440 feeling like the person is a narcissist. 630 00:36:55,720 --> 00:36:58,960 Which is why I think, I think that a lot of people who get 631 00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:02,320 called narcissistic aren't true narcissists. 632 00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:07,120 They are just emotionally wanting gratification from 633 00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:09,480 things. And the only way that they can 634 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:13,240 see the world is based off of how it's emotionally affecting 635 00:37:13,240 --> 00:37:15,480 them. And those are the people who 636 00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:19,720 will be the most insistent that they are self aware that they're 637 00:37:19,720 --> 00:37:21,480 on their healing journey, whatever. 638 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:25,960 And you're like, do you not see the catastrophe that is like 639 00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:29,360 constantly around you? That's because of you. 640 00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:33,920 Yeah, and unfortunately when you grow up in like fight or flight 641 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:37,240 mode, we develop a victim mindset. 642 00:37:37,240 --> 00:37:44,360 And I as a child developed a lot of like, isolation tendencies, 643 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:48,480 mainly because kids my age were not being exposed to what I was 644 00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,720 being exposed to. So not only did I think it was 645 00:37:50,720 --> 00:37:56,000 acceptable, I knew at some rate in my head that like, I couldn't 646 00:37:56,480 --> 00:38:00,000 communicate to that level with everyone. 647 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,840 Like, I couldn't just tell everyone, like, yeah, my mom 648 00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:06,120 lets me do this or my mom lets me do that because then you've 649 00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:09,600 got that nosy parent that's gonna call CPS on her own accord 650 00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,960 or you know, whatever. So hanging out with older kids 651 00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:17,400 or hanging out with people that were way more mature and like 652 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:22,040 way more, just not in that child like stance. 653 00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:27,240 I knew as a kid, deep down subconsciously, that I couldn't 654 00:38:27,240 --> 00:38:30,600 hang out with other 12 year olds when I was actually hanging out 655 00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:33,560 with 15 year olds doing things I wasn't supposed to be doing, you 656 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:36,400 know? So I do think our environment 657 00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,560 feeds into it. And what I always like to 658 00:38:38,560 --> 00:38:43,440 encourage people is a read that fine print, but B stop 659 00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:46,640 projecting your limiting beliefs into new scenarios. 660 00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:49,120 It's just like that in relationships, which is probably 661 00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:53,200 the most relatable way so many people will be in an abusive or 662 00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,560 toxic relationship. And instead of working through 663 00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:59,720 those insecurities and those fears and those traumas that 664 00:38:59,720 --> 00:39:03,840 have either been projected or absorbed, you then get into 665 00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:07,000 another relationship. And then you love bomb or you 666 00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:12,800 trauma bond or you attached to this new person and project 667 00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,720 those insecurities onto them and onto the relationship. 668 00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:19,320 You know, I see things cycle around and they're like, if my 669 00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:22,160 partner doesn't want me to have Snapchat, I'm going to delete 670 00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:23,600 it. If my partner doesn't want me to 671 00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:26,920 do this, I'm going to listen, OK, cool. 672 00:39:27,240 --> 00:39:30,520 Respecting your partner is cool. But a lot of that is an 673 00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:34,600 isolation technique that narcissists use to isolate you 674 00:39:34,600 --> 00:39:38,640 from your daily interactions. So if they're going to abuse you 675 00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:41,720 physically, mentally, spiritually, they don't want you 676 00:39:41,720 --> 00:39:43,600 snapping. They don't want you snapping 677 00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:45,800 your friends every day because they're going to see the slow 678 00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:51,120 decline of your looks, your happiness, your aura, your, you 679 00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:53,840 know, taking care of yourself. You know, I've always seen 680 00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:58,000 people get relationships and they used to model or they used 681 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,920 to get ready every day, or they always used to go out and have 682 00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:03,720 fun with their friends and then they get into a relationship and 683 00:40:03,720 --> 00:40:06,360 that's non existent and then it's all. 684 00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:09,000 Fuck everybody. They don't reach out to me. 685 00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:11,800 I'm not reaching out to them. That's what that narcissist has 686 00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:15,080 put into your mind. Because a real friendship is 687 00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:19,600 5050, and sometimes it's 7525 because this person's going 688 00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:22,640 through something, or they're going through postpartum or a 689 00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:24,920 divorce or a change in their life. 690 00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:27,920 And it's not all about you. They're not just laying up at 691 00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,240 night. Like, how can I piss Jessica off 692 00:40:30,240 --> 00:40:33,040 by not reaching out to her? You know, that's not what 693 00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:36,120 they're doing. But people that want to isolate 694 00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:40,280 you and manipulate you will put these little, I don't know, 695 00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:43,880 little ideas in your head and then you absorb them. 696 00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:47,000 So if you've absorbed those from your family and your friends 697 00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:51,000 growing up, it's going to be a lot of self work and self 698 00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:54,040 accountability to breakthrough those barriers. 699 00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:58,840 So there's an analogy that I've heard before that I always 700 00:40:59,240 --> 00:41:04,880 reference, and it's that bringing toxicity or bringing 701 00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:09,080 anything from an old relationship and bringing it 702 00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:12,560 into a new relationship is the exact same as you coming with a 703 00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:16,440 cup that has spoiled milk in it and then pouring fresh milk into 704 00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,280 it and expecting it to taste good. 705 00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:21,640 It's not going to because regardless of how good and how 706 00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:25,240 pure and how fresh the new thing is, if you're coming with the 707 00:41:25,240 --> 00:41:28,360 old funky bullshit, it's going to make the entire thing taste 708 00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:31,040 bad no matter how much you're coming with it. 709 00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:37,640 And in regards to, you know, like friendships being like give 710 00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:40,680 and take and having different percentages, we even just with 711 00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:43,280 you and I, we even see that in our own friendship where like 712 00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:46,200 you're like, girl, I know you've been going through some shit and 713 00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,480 so you've been quiet. I just was like, is she mad at 714 00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:49,400 me? I know you weren't. 715 00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:54,520 But like, it was just on my mind and I read that and I was like, 716 00:41:54,520 --> 00:41:58,960 no, I could never be mad at you. Sometimes you're just like, so 717 00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:00,800 focused on what you got going on in life. 718 00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:04,880 And to me, I think that sometimes people are quiet 719 00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:08,240 because they don't want to put their shit on somebody else. 720 00:42:08,240 --> 00:42:11,080 They're like, I I'm figuring things out right now, and if we 721 00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:14,160 have a conversation about what's going on in my life, I'm going 722 00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:16,200 to tell you what's going on in my life. 723 00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:19,520 And that just feels like a lot. And there's not a need for me 724 00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:21,760 to, like, trauma dump or involve you in shit. 725 00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:25,320 And so I'm going to keep pushing with what I got going on. 726 00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:30,880 And the last thing that somebody needs is thinking that their 727 00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:33,240 friends are going to hold space for them when they're going to 728 00:42:33,240 --> 00:42:36,840 need space held for them. And then somebody going, Oh 729 00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:38,440 well, you haven't talked to me in 2 weeks. 730 00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:41,360 So it's fuck you because you you don't want anything to do with 731 00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,000 me. And you're like quite the 732 00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:44,960 opposite. I thought this was a safe space 733 00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:48,440 that I was just going to be able to return to when I when I, you 734 00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:52,360 know, had the space and time. A lot of people hold their 735 00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:56,560 friends to certain standards but then get dog walked in their 736 00:42:56,560 --> 00:43:00,320 relationships like, oh, you're not reaching out to me. 737 00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,680 You're not inviting me. You don't care about me. 738 00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:06,240 But then you let your partner gaslight you and leave you 739 00:43:06,240 --> 00:43:09,120 behind. And you know, I've seen people, 740 00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:12,800 especially as of recently like Mercury retrograde energy. 741 00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:17,080 Like I asked my partner to start doing this and they're doing the 742 00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:20,040 opposite of that. Like, there's almost like this 743 00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:23,280 punishment, give and take, that people do in relationships where 744 00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:27,160 it's like, hey, this is really hurting me, that you don't do 745 00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:31,600 this or this is triggering me. That you're not putting effort 746 00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:35,200 towards this and instead of actually flipping the script 747 00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:39,080 into that direction, they gaslight you into thinking 748 00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:42,400 you're the problem or that they're already doing enough. 749 00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:48,640 Like a lot of men have been taught, you are a provider and 750 00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,040 all you have to do is go to work and provide. 751 00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:54,400 And then when you come home, you're like a child. 752 00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:58,160 You need to be waited on and you need to be your dinner better, 753 00:43:58,160 --> 00:44:00,320 be prepared and your clothes better be clean. 754 00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:03,120 But when your wife says, hey, can you take that trash out? 755 00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:06,200 I'm in the middle of cooking. They're like, I'm not doing that 756 00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,880 or I don't want to do that or they won't get up and do that. 757 00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:12,480 So now you've got your hands in raw meat and you're trying to 758 00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:16,120 like cook and now you've got to run outside and take the trash 759 00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:18,200 out. You know, like there's just so 760 00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:20,520 many elements to it. But whenever that was the 761 00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:24,800 expectation, women were also at home getting a mental break for 762 00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:28,960 like 6 to 8 hours without children and men around. 763 00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:32,520 So yes, they were able to have self-care and they were able to 764 00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:37,440 have lunches with the girls or, you know, sit in the front lawn 765 00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:41,480 and and prune their roses or whatever it was. 766 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:46,080 But now you expect a woman to go to work just as long as you and 767 00:44:46,080 --> 00:44:49,280 then come home and you or like a second job. 768 00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:53,320 No wonder so many women in this day and age are choosing not to 769 00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:56,520 get married or resent their partner. 770 00:44:56,760 --> 00:45:02,640 Because that mindset is literally so far off track of 771 00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:06,960 like, where society is like. That's why I always encourage 772 00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:10,280 people like make space and get a house cleaner. 773 00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:12,360 You know, have someone cut your grass. 774 00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:15,920 Like if you and your husband don't get any time together and 775 00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:18,760 then on your off day you're cleaning and he's cutting grass. 776 00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:23,880 Make it apparent to fucking pay someone to do those things so 777 00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:25,440 that your off day is your off day. 778 00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:29,280 And OK, maybe you can't go to a nice steak dinner, but you can 779 00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:33,680 go to a sports bar and sit outside on the patio and have a 780 00:45:33,680 --> 00:45:37,160 drink and and eat in peace without thinking. 781 00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:39,360 I'm so wore out from cleaning all day. 782 00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:44,080 Or I'm so grumpy from being in the sun mowing the yard all day. 783 00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,200 Whatever. So I don't know. 784 00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:49,280 I think a lot of people are looking for 5050, but if you're 785 00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:52,920 not giving yourself 100, you're showing up fragmented and you're 786 00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:55,880 looking for someone to save you. I think both partners need to be 787 00:45:55,880 --> 00:46:01,240 giving 100 because 5050, like I guess worked before, but for me, 788 00:46:01,880 --> 00:46:06,360 I give myself 110 and if someone else isn't coming in that same 789 00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:11,200 energy, it starts to irk me. And I've told men this before, 790 00:46:11,200 --> 00:46:16,400 so I'll say it again. I give everyone the benefit of 791 00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:17,680 the doubt. I understand. 792 00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:19,720 Life happens. You've got a flat tire, you've 793 00:46:19,720 --> 00:46:23,160 got no car wreck, you changed jobs, you moved out and got a 794 00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:25,400 new place. Like, I understand that life 795 00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:28,760 stressors are constantly happening and it does not matter 796 00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:31,680 how prepared you are. Sometimes it throws you for a 797 00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:35,240 loop. But what bothers me is when men 798 00:46:35,240 --> 00:46:40,760 use that as an excuse. And an excuse to be shitty, or 799 00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:44,400 to give you half or to give you 25%. 800 00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:48,800 And then they keep stringing you along like promising you, Oh 801 00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,240 well, once I adjust to this job, it'll be different. 802 00:46:51,240 --> 00:46:53,480 Or once I get my car fixed, I'll come see you. 803 00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:57,320 Or once this happens, this magical thing's going to shift 804 00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:01,280 in my life and it irks me to my core when people do that in 805 00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:04,480 relationships, Especially people who don't have their life 806 00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:07,680 together out here pursuing new relationships. 807 00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:09,400 Someone tell all y'all right now. 808 00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:12,800 If you've just went through a breakup, a divorce, something 809 00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:16,640 that's traumatic, health changes, family changes, grief 810 00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:19,520 work, you need to be working on healing all of that. 811 00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:23,200 Because jumping out and getting a new distraction or getting a 812 00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:26,720 new partner or whatever, it isn't going to fix your issue. 813 00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:30,760 But so many people would rather not work on themselves and come 814 00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:33,520 over here and disrupt your happiness and disrupt your 815 00:47:33,520 --> 00:47:36,360 peace. Or get a dog that they're going 816 00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:40,280 to re home in six months or get an animal they can't take care 817 00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:42,240 of. Like, that's the shit that 818 00:47:42,240 --> 00:47:45,800 bothers me the most. It's not when people fall short 819 00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:49,240 because I'm very understanding. It's when you're constantly 820 00:47:49,240 --> 00:47:53,200 making excuses to give someone less than half of your full 821 00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:56,040 attention. But then the moment that they 822 00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:58,440 set a boundary and they're like, no, that's not gonna work for 823 00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:00,560 me. You're back on Tinder or you're 824 00:48:00,560 --> 00:48:03,640 over here and got a whole new relationship going with someone 825 00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:06,920 else who isn't tired of your bullshit yet someone else who 826 00:48:06,920 --> 00:48:09,520 isn't aware the game that you played. 827 00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:13,560 And I don't know how many people approach me knowing damn well 828 00:48:13,560 --> 00:48:15,360 they're not ready for what I have to offer. 829 00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:19,720 Like, if you can't even do half of what I'm doing for myself, 830 00:48:19,720 --> 00:48:26,120 then leave me the fuck alone. I'm so glad that I'm not, like 831 00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:30,440 in the dating scene on things because it really feels like 832 00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:34,880 it's the day and time when people just have so much access 833 00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:40,000 on their phones to like over stimulation to like, Oh well, 834 00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:43,200 I'm bored right this second and she's busy and she said that she 835 00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:45,440 had to work or whatever. I love a girl that's working, 836 00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:48,680 but I'm super lonely over here, so I'm going to go back onto 837 00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:52,440 Tinder and I'm just going to go, you know, whatever and oh, you 838 00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,640 see me on Tinder. Well, we never agreed that we 839 00:48:54,640 --> 00:48:57,440 were official or anything like that. 840 00:48:57,440 --> 00:49:02,120 And there are people. But see, my thing is that in the 841 00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:07,480 dating scene, you're just out here getting to see more people 842 00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:10,080 that are operating that way because you're talking to 843 00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:15,000 multiple different people for like short spurts of time, where 844 00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:18,640 I think that a lot of people operate that way in everyday 845 00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:22,800 life. I think that people how multiple 846 00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:26,960 people, the same thing that they have going on because they don't 847 00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:28,880 want to wait for their friend to text them back. 848 00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:30,640 So they're like let me trauma dump on you. 849 00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:32,560 Let me say all these things over here. 850 00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:36,360 I think that there are lots of people who are different 851 00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:40,080 versions of themselves with multiple people and who portray 852 00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:43,000 themselves to be a bunch of different ways so that they can 853 00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:45,600 just get a bunch of different things out of them. 854 00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:50,360 And I just, I don't really have much patience for that. 855 00:49:50,360 --> 00:49:54,920 And I say that like my circle here is really small where I 856 00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:57,400 live. And that's because I am 857 00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,960 incredibly picky about the type of person that I'm going to have 858 00:50:00,960 --> 00:50:04,320 around me, the type of friends that I'm going to have, the I 859 00:50:04,320 --> 00:50:08,320 want to see how people move for an extended period of time 860 00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:11,880 before I give you any type of trust or whatever. 861 00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:15,600 I always hate the saying that like respect does, like 862 00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:18,120 shouldn't be what is it? Respect should be earned. 863 00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:21,320 Because I think that you can instantly, just like be a 864 00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:23,920 respect, tactful person. Respect somebody when you meet 865 00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:26,600 them. I think that trust is something 866 00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:29,360 that needs to be earned. I can still be respectful 867 00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:31,800 towards you and not fucking trust you worth a damn. 868 00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:37,120 I agree with that statement. Honestly, I think a lot of 869 00:50:37,120 --> 00:50:43,640 people have no capacity to actually be in relationships or 870 00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:47,520 actually have solid friendships because they don't treat 871 00:50:47,520 --> 00:50:49,760 themselves with that same respect. 872 00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:53,880 And I noticed that as I've evolved as a human and as a 873 00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:58,960 person spiritually, I have attracted better friends where, 874 00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:01,720 you know, me and Jim and I did not talk for like 2 weeks. 875 00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:05,720 We had a lot of things change and a lot of things shifted, but 876 00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:09,080 there was a part of me that was like, oh, she's mad at me. 877 00:51:09,240 --> 00:51:11,320 She doesn't want to do the podcast anymore. 878 00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:14,120 But then the other part of me was like, no, I know she's 879 00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:16,240 really not mad at me. She has a lot going on and 880 00:51:16,240 --> 00:51:20,200 there's been like an added human into their routine that like 881 00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:21,800 that's going to take time to adjust. 882 00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:24,800 Especially when your daughter's like a little Spitfire and is 883 00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:27,000 used to doing whatever the fuck she wants to do. 884 00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:30,440 So like, you know, that's that fear based energy of like 885 00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:32,760 everyone's mad at me. Everyone's doing something to 886 00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:37,040 personally hurt me or attack me that we're all taught. 887 00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:39,800 We are all taught that, and I don't know why. 888 00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:43,560 A lot of us have absorbed that from our childhood, but so many 889 00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:47,280 people take things personally, and I try to practice what I 890 00:51:47,280 --> 00:51:51,960 preach and use the four agreements, which is don't take 891 00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:55,400 nothing personally, don't take anyone's actions, words or 892 00:51:55,400 --> 00:52:00,320 feelings towards you personally. Be responsible for your actions. 893 00:52:00,720 --> 00:52:03,440 Be responsible for your words. Be with impeccable with your 894 00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:06,760 word is one of the agreements. But if you know, you're being 895 00:52:06,760 --> 00:52:09,920 impeccable with your word and you're being kind and you're 896 00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:13,560 showing up in the ways that you would, you know, normally show 897 00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:20,280 up, then you can't take someone's energy or their, you 898 00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:23,320 know, whatever they got going on as personal towards you. 899 00:52:23,720 --> 00:52:27,480 You know, I started manifesting. And I don't mean this in a mean 900 00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:30,200 way, but I love all of my friends that have kids and I 901 00:52:30,200 --> 00:52:32,760 love all of my friends that like, have gotten married and 902 00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:36,200 done all these things. But in the last like 10 years of 903 00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:39,920 me not having a kid, not getting married, not doing all of those 904 00:52:39,920 --> 00:52:43,840 things, I have went to countless bridal showers, Bachelorette 905 00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:47,680 parties, baby showers, first birthdays, all of these things 906 00:52:47,680 --> 00:52:51,520 only to a couple years later not talk to this person at all. 907 00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:54,440 And I don't mean in a mean way of like, I don't want to be 908 00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:58,000 invited, but I I kind of don't want to be invited. 909 00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:03,160 Like, I don't want to take my Sunday or my Saturday and go 910 00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:06,440 spend time with a bunch of people I don't know, buy a $50 911 00:53:06,440 --> 00:53:10,160 present, take that time away from me, away from things I 912 00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:14,400 have, going to not be friends two years later or to not even 913 00:53:14,400 --> 00:53:16,800 talk two years later. And it's not even that we're not 914 00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,160 cool. It's just that now your life has 915 00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:22,680 evolved into this direction, and I'm still your single friend who 916 00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:25,440 is in this direction. And you know, there was one 917 00:53:25,440 --> 00:53:30,280 friend of mine that in like 2 years she graduated college. 918 00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:33,000 She got married. So she had a Bachelorette party, 919 00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:37,720 a bridal shower and the wedding. Then she instantly got pregnant. 920 00:53:37,720 --> 00:53:41,360 So she had a diaper reveal or gender reveal and a baby shower. 921 00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:43,920 That was two things. And then the kids first 922 00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:46,000 birthday. So within two years I'd went to 923 00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:50,280 like 10 parties for this girl and bought a present every one 924 00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:52,400 of them. And here we are. 925 00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:56,800 You know the one kid is probably like seven and the other one 926 00:53:56,800 --> 00:54:00,000 I've never even met. I think he she's like 5 and I 927 00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:02,320 don't like feel any ill intention. 928 00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:04,800 Like we're cool. We're now like Facebook friends. 929 00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:08,880 We went from being very close right hand man friend to 930 00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:12,640 Facebook friends and you know we'll DM back and forth like we 931 00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:15,720 should get together, we should get together And like she hit me 932 00:54:15,720 --> 00:54:18,720 up one day and was like what would you charge to do a party 933 00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:23,320 of readings And I told her what I would charge and that was it. 934 00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:26,040 Like I think she thought I was going to come show up to this 935 00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:29,840 party just to be invited and charge $10.00 for a reading. 936 00:54:30,160 --> 00:54:33,120 Like no, I'm not driving an hour away and reading for 10-12 937 00:54:33,120 --> 00:54:36,480 people that I don't even know and making less than I would for 938 00:54:36,480 --> 00:54:40,480 one hour session online don't have to leave my house. 939 00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:43,600 You know, that's The thing is like we don't ever talk. 940 00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:47,080 But then she wanted like that right hand man discount kind of 941 00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:50,640 thing and like no hard feelings. I don't have any, but I think 942 00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:54,000 because she went on to a different path and is doing the 943 00:54:54,000 --> 00:54:57,160 mom and and wife thing, she hangs out with people who are 944 00:54:57,160 --> 00:55:00,000 doing the mom and wife thing. So you know, I don't hold 945 00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:03,000 grudges or take that personal, but I just learned that in the 946 00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,480 back of my mind I don't really want to be invited. 947 00:55:05,760 --> 00:55:09,440 Like I'll congratulate you and see you from afar and and cheer 948 00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:14,000 you on, but I don't want to be invited, like unless we are like 949 00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:17,520 right hand close, close. I'm good. 950 00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:20,640 Like, I'm good. And then there's a part of your 951 00:55:20,640 --> 00:55:23,840 ego though, that sees like the party happen or sees something 952 00:55:23,840 --> 00:55:27,160 happen and you didn't get invited and you're like, damn, I 953 00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:29,400 didn't get invited. But I have to remember, like, 954 00:55:29,400 --> 00:55:31,320 that's what I want. I don't want to be invited. 955 00:55:31,320 --> 00:55:34,560 I want to cheer you on from the side, but like, congratulations 956 00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:37,360 on your baby. But I I'm tired of buying $50 957 00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:40,040 gifts in this economy for people that like, I don't even see your 958 00:55:40,040 --> 00:55:41,680 baby. I don't even know your baby. 959 00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:44,520 There are friends that I make exceptions and I go to their 960 00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:47,560 kids parties and I'm very involved with their kids and I 961 00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:51,480 love kids, but it's like a lot of people just invite people to 962 00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:54,560 fill up the roster to get free shit in my opinion. 963 00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:58,240 You should invite people and give people a butt. 964 00:55:58,320 --> 00:56:02,320 Give people a butt out option. Like, hey, I'm going to be 965 00:56:02,320 --> 00:56:05,720 throwing a baby shower for this. I also know that you don't 966 00:56:05,720 --> 00:56:09,320 really have, you know, kiddos or whatever, and you're always 967 00:56:09,320 --> 00:56:12,520 pretty busy, so if you're not able to make it totally OK, no 968 00:56:12,520 --> 00:56:14,600 hard feelings. I just didn't want you to feel 969 00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:17,680 left out. That's like, those are the best 970 00:56:17,680 --> 00:56:19,680 invites. When you tell me I have the 971 00:56:19,680 --> 00:56:23,360 option to not come, I'm so grateful because chances are I 972 00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:26,680 see the preview of your text being like, hey, this is going 973 00:56:26,680 --> 00:56:28,960 on and I'm like, Yep, I'm washing my hair that day. 974 00:56:28,960 --> 00:56:30,600 Like, I do not want to put pants on. 975 00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:33,120 I'm definitely busy. So I'm just going to leave you 976 00:56:33,160 --> 00:56:37,600 undelivered because I certainly don't want to have to, like, 977 00:56:37,640 --> 00:56:40,120 reject you. Whereas if you've given me the 978 00:56:40,160 --> 00:56:42,880 out, even if I just, even if I say yeah, I'm going. 979 00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:46,120 I know that your feelings won't be hurt if I don't end up making 980 00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:51,080 it. I I'm not a fan of going and 981 00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:55,280 fucking doing things, but I also I don't unless you're like my 982 00:56:55,280 --> 00:56:57,480 sister, I don't want to go to your baby shower. 983 00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:01,400 I I truly don't give a fuck. Like people have babies every 984 00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:03,040 day. You're going to get a shit ton 985 00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:04,640 of gifts. They're mostly going to come 986 00:57:04,640 --> 00:57:08,480 from your parents and there's going to be a bunch of shit that 987 00:57:08,480 --> 00:57:11,200 you get that you're not going to remember who gave it to you. 988 00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:13,200 Literally. There's usually somebody out of 989 00:57:13,200 --> 00:57:15,840 baby shower who is writing a list of what the gifts are and 990 00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:17,680 who they came from because they don't remember. 991 00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:20,640 I'm not going to be stressed out over here because I went and 992 00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:23,600 bought you a gift and I hadn't budgeted for your baby shower. 993 00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:27,360 So now I spent $50 on something you don't even know is from me 994 00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:29,440 and you're never going to use. And then you're going to end up 995 00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,520 selling it on Facebook Marketplace in five years for 996 00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:36,040 half the fucking value. And it's new in the box. 997 00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:38,560 Like, I I'm just not interested in that. 998 00:57:40,720 --> 00:57:41,920 Yeah. No, thank you. 999 00:57:43,440 --> 00:57:45,760 And I say that in the nicest way possible. 1000 00:57:45,760 --> 00:57:48,600 Like, I genuinely support you from afar. 1001 00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:52,880 And I say this like with love. I don't mean that in a rude way, 1002 00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:57,200 but, like, unless you would take a bullet for me, I'm not coming 1003 00:57:57,200 --> 00:58:00,200 to your baby shower. Like, you know, like, I I 1004 00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:02,200 support people. And another thing about baby 1005 00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:05,560 showers that irks me and I maybe have said this before is you're 1006 00:58:05,560 --> 00:58:10,160 only supposed to have one baby shower per gender. 1007 00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:14,280 So you can't have a girl and then a year later have another 1008 00:58:14,280 --> 00:58:15,520 girl and have another baby shower. 1009 00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:21,320 It's actually tacky and I think it's like a old wives tale or or 1010 00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:22,560 something. You're only supposed to have one 1011 00:58:22,560 --> 00:58:25,360 baby shower. Maybe it's superstitious, I 1012 00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:29,480 don't know, but it's per gender and only if the first and two 1013 00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:32,280 babies are five years apart. Those are the rules. 1014 00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:36,040 Don't shoot the messenger, but you all having this new thing 1015 00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:39,800 where we have diaper parties, gender reveal parties, and baby 1016 00:58:39,800 --> 00:58:42,760 showers for one child, and then you turn around a year or two 1017 00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:44,920 later and do the same shit again. 1018 00:58:45,160 --> 00:58:48,360 No, that's not that's not it. Especially if you're getting 1019 00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:52,800 three parties for one baby. No, no, thank you. 1020 00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:56,080 And I think a lot of my friends just know that I don't want to 1021 00:58:56,080 --> 00:58:58,680 come to their gender reveal. Like I will just watch the live 1022 00:58:58,680 --> 00:59:02,160 stream that your aunt streamed on Facebook and at the end I'll 1023 00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:05,040 watch the pink or blue powder pop into the air. 1024 00:59:05,600 --> 00:59:09,520 But I don't need to be there. Mainly because what I find is it 1025 00:59:09,520 --> 00:59:11,880 is such an awkward experience because I show up to these 1026 00:59:11,880 --> 00:59:15,680 parties and I only know the the people that are having the child 1027 00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:18,360 or the people that are in the main thing. 1028 00:59:18,600 --> 00:59:22,240 And then I think honestly, as a person throwing a party that 1029 00:59:22,240 --> 00:59:24,600 would have to stress me out knowing I invited a bunch of 1030 00:59:24,600 --> 00:59:27,160 different people who don't know each other and they only know 1031 00:59:27,160 --> 00:59:29,360 me. So then they try to seek, like 1032 00:59:29,360 --> 00:59:33,240 segue to talk to me, while meanwhile, simultaneously 1033 00:59:33,240 --> 00:59:35,600 everyone else is trying to segue to talk to me. 1034 00:59:35,880 --> 00:59:38,720 That would stress me out. Like, I understand if you were 1035 00:59:38,720 --> 00:59:41,560 in a sorority or fraternity and you've got like some close knit 1036 00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:45,000 friend group that they're all friends and all your wives and 1037 00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:47,280 partners hang out together. OK, cool. 1038 00:59:47,280 --> 00:59:49,760 But other than that, it's just awkward. 1039 00:59:49,760 --> 00:59:53,360 It's awkward for the people you invite because we show up and we 1040 00:59:53,360 --> 00:59:56,560 only know you. And you know, I'm not saying 1041 00:59:56,560 --> 01:00:03,160 that buying a gift is a problem, but buying a multiple a year 1042 01:00:03,160 --> 01:00:07,560 gift for multiple people and I don't ever see you aside from me 1043 01:00:07,560 --> 01:00:10,560 coming to these parties. No, no. 1044 01:00:10,560 --> 01:00:12,200 Thanks. I feel that way about weddings. 1045 01:00:12,440 --> 01:00:15,160 I don't. Well, again, unless I'm really 1046 01:00:15,160 --> 01:00:18,240 close with you, I don't want to go to your fucking wedding. 1047 01:00:18,600 --> 01:00:21,240 I like. I just don't. 1048 01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:24,800 I don't know you guys like that. I have a bunch of people here 1049 01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:26,760 that I don't know. I'm having to sit with them. 1050 01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:29,960 I'm having to listen to really loud music I like. 1051 01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:32,000 I'm barely even going to talk to you. 1052 01:00:32,040 --> 01:00:35,240 Everybody wants to talk to you. That's why, like, we didn't, for 1053 01:00:35,240 --> 01:00:37,160 many reasons. We didn't do a big wedding like 1054 01:00:37,160 --> 01:00:39,960 that. That's not a vibe to me also, 1055 01:00:40,720 --> 01:00:42,440 and this is just a personal pet peeve. 1056 01:00:42,680 --> 01:00:46,280 I fucking hate when people send me out announcement cards, send 1057 01:00:46,280 --> 01:00:48,920 me out announcement cards and invite cards to shit. 1058 01:00:49,400 --> 01:00:52,640 I genuinely am. Like you don't have my address 1059 01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:56,920 so that you can spam me with invites to things and save the 1060 01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:59,440 dates for everything. There are multiple people inside 1061 01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:02,440 of my world, cousins that I haven't fucking talked to and I 1062 01:01:02,440 --> 01:01:05,560 don't know how they probably got my address from my mom, but send 1063 01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:07,600 me updates on their life and shit. 1064 01:01:07,800 --> 01:01:12,320 I have an aunt who sends out emails every year about what the 1065 01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:14,200 family has done throughout the year. 1066 01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:16,440 I don't give a fuck. Stop. 1067 01:01:16,960 --> 01:01:20,560 Stop sending me your shit. One thing I do think that people 1068 01:01:20,560 --> 01:01:24,600 need to do more of is if you are going to save the day and send a 1069 01:01:24,600 --> 01:01:28,840 shit ton of invites, send thank you cards out then. 1070 01:01:28,920 --> 01:01:31,240 Because if you can do all that then you need to send thank you 1071 01:01:31,240 --> 01:01:33,200 cards. That's normally why someone's 1072 01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:34,920 sitting at the baby shower or the wedding shower. 1073 01:01:34,920 --> 01:01:38,360 Writing everything down is so that someone can send thank you 1074 01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:41,800 cards. So like my cousin had three kids 1075 01:01:41,800 --> 01:01:46,040 back-to-back, like she had a kid and then she had twins and she 1076 01:01:46,040 --> 01:01:50,240 would not send anything out and that just earthed me. 1077 01:01:50,560 --> 01:01:53,960 It just earthed me If I'm driving 45 minutes to come to 1078 01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:57,720 your fucking baby shower and bringing presents for not one 1079 01:01:57,720 --> 01:02:00,480 baby but two babies. And you really weren't supposed 1080 01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:04,200 to have a second baby shower. But she couldn't handle the 1081 01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:05,800 first kid. So what was going to make her 1082 01:02:05,800 --> 01:02:09,000 think she can handle two more and no thank you cards? 1083 01:02:09,000 --> 01:02:10,720 And even my grandmother mentioned that. 1084 01:02:10,720 --> 01:02:14,040 But now she's in a much better mental place and she's doing a 1085 01:02:14,040 --> 01:02:17,480 lot better and she's a lot more grateful now. 1086 01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:21,640 But I just personally am irked by the fact that you had my 1087 01:02:21,640 --> 01:02:23,880 address to invite me. But then when it came down to 1088 01:02:23,880 --> 01:02:27,880 thanking me for the gift, crickets. 1089 01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:32,680 Crickets. Are you ready for a human design 1090 01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:34,000 card? Yes. 1091 01:02:35,080 --> 01:02:41,280 All right, I pulled card 47, which is the chameleon. 1092 01:02:41,480 --> 01:02:51,220 This is the photo, all right. The sign is Virgo, the gift is 1093 01:02:51,220 --> 01:02:53,980 versatility, and the shadow is bondage. 1094 01:02:54,820 --> 01:02:58,500 At the higher frequency of this gift, your fears lose their 1095 01:02:58,500 --> 01:03:02,580 devilish grins and you see them for what they are, symbols. 1096 01:03:03,200 --> 01:03:06,760 Every symbol in your reality has an underlying meaning and with 1097 01:03:06,840 --> 01:03:10,960 every meaning a message. It is your mission to decipher 1098 01:03:10,960 --> 01:03:15,000 the writings of your walls. From here you gain access to all 1099 01:03:15,000 --> 01:03:18,280 of life's mysteries. You release yourself from the 1100 01:03:18,280 --> 01:03:23,200 handcuffs and self, impose limitation, a fixed identity, a 1101 01:03:23,200 --> 01:03:27,560 label, a career path, and an image. 1102 01:03:28,400 --> 01:03:32,360 You are nothing and you are no thing and no one. 1103 01:03:32,480 --> 01:03:36,120 You are everything, the sunset and the chameleon. 1104 01:03:37,480 --> 01:03:40,960 The collective unconscious slips into each individuated 1105 01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:45,320 experience, coloring aspects of your lifetime in such a way that 1106 01:03:45,320 --> 01:03:47,680 reflects our greatest and deepest fears. 1107 01:03:48,320 --> 01:03:51,600 As unique beings within the larger whole, we each grapple 1108 01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:55,560 with our own distinct, prominent shadows, and the more we attempt 1109 01:03:55,560 --> 01:03:58,320 to deny or repress them, the more they loom in our 1110 01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:01,640 peripheral. What occurs in your outer world 1111 01:04:01,640 --> 01:04:03,760 is an extension of your inner landscape. 1112 01:04:04,280 --> 01:04:06,520 What demons are you holding hostage? 1113 01:04:06,640 --> 01:04:09,080 Witness them. Hold the chains and set your 1114 01:04:09,080 --> 01:04:11,640 devils free. Making peace with your 1115 01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:15,000 humanness, complete with its afflictions and darkness, is the 1116 01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:18,760 only route to salvation. Your themes are spaciousness, 1117 01:04:18,760 --> 01:04:24,560 fluidity, dynamism, and symbols. Beautiful. 1118 01:04:25,040 --> 01:04:28,720 Beautiful. We are so grateful for you all. 1119 01:04:28,720 --> 01:04:32,000 Thank you for joining us at Candy Land and we will see you 1120 01:04:32,000 --> 01:04:34,320 next time. Bye. 1121 01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:34,960 Bye.