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lollipop, lollipop. Welcome.
Back to another episode of Candyland.
We have the beautiful Gemini. Hello.
We are going to dive into some taboo questions about
relationships tonight and we're going to get it going real quick
with Jim and I answering her first question of the evening.
You ready? Yeah, I feel put on the spot.
Is there such a thing as too much freedom in relationships?
That's a really good question. No, I think that like, if you're
in a really healthy dynamic, I think both people should have
freedoms to like be themselves and do their thing.
But I do think that there has to be conversations that you have
about like your limits and boundaries on things and like
your expectations on things. Like somebody should be able to
have the freedom to decide to do something, but know that I don't
want you out at 2:00 hanging out with, you know, like downtown at
bars or whatever while I'm at home or, you know, like, just
like certain types of things. I think that you should have
conversations about that. Yeah, I think with the Internet
there is a lot of things that like some people take as like
cheating, like liking other girls hers or following only
fans girls. And I've seen a lot of people
very upset about that. And then there will be girls
that like run to the comments to be like, you're so insecure if
your man can't be friends with women on social media.
And I just feel like there's a limit with some of that.
Like some people have innocent intentions, but then some people
have ill will. And I do think that with the
Internet, there's a whole new level of dynamics that need to
be kind of established a little bit, because I do think that men
do things on the Internet that they would be very upset if
their woman was doing. That's interesting.
I think the intention matters. So I like what's the point of
this? Like I don't have a problem if
there's like, you know, friends on Facebook or whatever, or you
know, occasional comments that go back and forth or whatever
if, but what's the intention behind it?
Is there like a flirtatious thing?
Has there been a thing in the past?
Is this something like somebody on one side is interested in
something or is it simply platonic friendship type dynamic
when it comes to people that you know but like following random
accounts and stuff on social media, same thing.
Like what's the intent behind it?
Do you like reach out to that person?
Do you? Are you on their only fan
sending them money every month? Like what it?
What are you doing? How would you feel if your
partner was subscribed to someone's Only Fans?
I would not be thrilled. I don't know, I really don't
like porn. Like I don't like porn at all.
Like I don't like any theatrical porn whatsoever.
I never watch it, but there are some bitches.
A few times I've thought I want to subscribe to her.
Only fan. But I just think, like, if
that's something that you're interested in, why wouldn't you
just approach me and be like, hey, I'm into this thing.
Do you want to subscribe together?
Like I'm going to be spending, if you're spending money on it,
you're you're you that is like you're so interested in that.
And then I would be like, what is it about that that you're
like, I want to spend money on it because like you can get it
at home. You know what I mean?
Like what are you doing? I don't know.
I mean, for 599 you can see a lot of things on Only Fans.
I feel like some people are just curious.
Yeah, I just think it should be a conversation thing.
Yeah, I would want the conversation.
I wouldn't be mad about it, but I would just be like, I want to
know, and maybe I'm fucking into it too.
If you're going to spend money on it, why can I not have a part
in the subscription? That's what I feel like.
There you go, Jim. And I said just count me in.
All right, your turn for a question.
Why do people get so uncomfortable with things like
polyamory, open marriages, or large age gaps?
So I personally think that we have been put in a box in
Society of like what's acceptable and what's not
acceptable. So if you see a young girl with
an older man, you're instantly like, oh, he's a pervert.
But then if you see an older woman and a younger man, you're
like, damn, that bitch still got it.
So I feel like there was Princess.
They're like, yes, some men are creepy and weird, but then
again, some men actually know how to treat women.
And it's not the men ranging from 20 to 40 years old because
these mother fuckers need help. And I feel like people want to
date older people because they're more stable, they're
more secure, they're more maybe financially aware.
They can teach you things, they can show you things.
As far as open marriages go, I'm not against them, but I feel
like every marriage has its own limitations.
So to just put them all in a category as open is kind of a
open-ended umbrella term. You know, like Bunny has stated
before, like yes, we're in an open marriage, but no, we're not
individually out here fucking other people.
Like it's either him and me together and we both have the
freedom to, you know, look at other people.
But there is a conversation that will be had if someone's going
independently into the bedroom. Not saying it's not approved,
but I'm saying that, you know, there are boundaries with that.
I think when people hear the term open marriage, they
instantly think negative because their own jealousy and control
issues could never do that. So they're very judgmental to
people that are doing that. I'm in a few like swinger groups
on Facebook and man, there's a lot of people in there that are
very much like, I know I'm the frog and my wife is the queen.
Look at my wife. We love you to look at my wife,
but I don't know why everyone in the lifestyle community in my
opinion, has a really hot wife and then they're not always
attractive. Like that's what I feel like
about the swinger like lifestyle community.
As far as Polly goes, I feel like Polly people, from what
I've seen in my experience, has a range of either commitment
issues or jealousy issues on their end and they like multiple
people to fulfill their needs because they're not fulfilling
their own needs within. I just don't think there's
someone who needs 10 partners and calls that like normal.
I think that you need therapy. Can we please name this episode?
I think that you need therapy. Look, I'm not judging you if you
need 10 partners, but I think a Poly relationship should be like
a throuple or like maybe four people at maximum.
But this whole like. Four people like all like,
romantically involved and emotionally involved.
Yeah, and they live together and split bills.
Have you not seen this? What in the I have never seen a
four Pi. I've seen a throuple.
I have never seen a fucking quadruple.
Well, I have. That is, that is a lot.
I think this economy is pushing people from monogamy into
polyamory because they need more than two people to pay bills.
I also think too that people can be like, and I, I think that it
can vary depending on partners too, that like that would be
something that you're interested in or whatever.
And I think it just has to do with the individual
relationships and dynamics. And I that's just me personally.
Yeah, I think there's a lot going on that works for other
people right now, but I do think there's things that are trendy
and kind of like a fad, and I feel like being Polly is a fad
right now. Yeah, I could see.
The go. I didn't know.
Not one person, Polly. Did you?
How long ago? Ten years ago.
I definitely did. Really, I'm I didn't ever know
anyone until the last like five years.
No, I had I had AI won't name drop them.
I was about to be like, hey, no, I I have a friend who she and I
were friends and, and she was married, but I had no idea that
they were interested in that lifestyle.
And then they ended up getting a girlfriend and they married her.
Like they both married her. They were all equally involved
in the relationship. She ended up having a kid with
the husband and even though they're all not together
anymore, like they Co parent and whatever and like I, I think
that they all still live together, but they're not
together anymore. And that was something that she
was super like my family knows about this.
This is something that we're super interested in.
I saw that dynamic work really well for them.
They have, there's a lot of different kids there.
Both women took on like different roles inside of the
household. So like, even though they were
both the wives, they had their individual relationships with
each other and then we're like a group unit.
I thought that was cool for them.
Like I, I, I think that like that dynamic was good, but then
you do, they did like get jealousy and whatever because
you're, you know, I think that maybe something sounds fun.
But then when things start to become work and like when you're
in like a relationship and your emotions and things are
involved, like I I can only imagine it's hard to communicate
those things with two different people.
It's hard with just one different person.
But if you have like real big life events and stuff that
happen like those really test a relationship.
And if you have to hold that together with more than one
other person and you know, yeah, I just, it didn't work for them.
I haven't seen, I haven't seen a successful polyamorous
relationship that lasts long term.
What about like being Mormon is that is like being Poly kind of
a spin off from being Mormon? No, there's a difference.
So polyamory and polygamy. Polygamy is when it has a
religious purpose behind it is my understanding.
And polyamory is just when it's a multiple partner dynamic.
So polygamist can be polyamorous, but the polygamy
part is the religious part. And there's also different types
of there's different types of Mormons that have different
belief systems. And so there are like you do I
forget, I know there's fundamental Mormon and there's
different types of Mormon. And some of them are OK with
like having multiple wives and there's and then there's others
who like they do drink or smoke weed or whatever and they're not
super by the Bible where that's like sinning.
So there's just a bunch of different branches.
Well, the more you know you, all the more you know.
Let's move on. Do you believe love and
commitment have to go hand in hand?
No, I think that you can love somebody that you're not
committed to or love somebody that you're not with, I think
and I mean. I feel like in order for me to
be in love with you, you need to we need to have commitment.
Yeah, but that's the but the question isn't be in love with.
The question is just love. Yeah, but I'm just saying my
perspective is if I'm in love with you, I want commitment.
If I just love you, I'll probably wish you well over
there. But that's what I'm saying.
I mean, that's that's how I take that.
Do you think society has brainwashed us to believe that
being monogamous is the only way for a relationship to work?
No, I think that I have that opinion just off of like being
inside of relationships and seeing at least what what would
work to me. I and, and having the examples
of, like I said, seeing people in these other relationship
dynamics that are not just a two party system.
I just don't like see that as something that ends up being
beneficial long term to people. I've never seen a fucking old
couple that's like, Oh yeah, the four of us have been together
since 62. You know, like you just don't
see that. So real life experience would
tell me that that's probably a temporary fad moment.
And and for the majority, I'm sure there are relationships
where that's worked long term and I sound ignorant, but for
the majority, I don't think any of us have seen a dynamic other
than monogamous that's been a long term.
Does that mean like if you're being, that means like you're
staying with your one person and like that's your commitment,
right? Yeah, just like a like.
Like a two party fucking system. Yeah.
Perfect. I think that once you start
adding in another fucking person there's that's going to be a
really fucking difficult dynamic if you do that.
Cause I've seen a lot of married couples like bring in a person
and then bring it that person in as a girlfriend.
And then I've seen that person try to like, come between the
partnership that was already there, like that's what I
personally witnessed, and my friendships that have brought in
a third party. I know we talked about like my
sexual orientation before, but I had a boyfriend and a girlfriend
at once, which is ironic 'cause now I can't date anyone but I
had one of. Them.
At the 29 and they knew about each other, but they did not
like each other. My girlfriend did not like my
boyfriend at all, so she wouldn't hang out with him.
There was no like perks for him whatsoever.
She wouldn't even be around him. See, and that's why I'm like, it
just depends on the relationship.
Like in the past, like I wouldn't have minded.
Like I totally would have been forward.
It would have been no problem. I'd have been like date whoever
the fuck you want to date. Like I'd have been completely
fine with whatever. Now that's not a fucking thing
that's happening. But before like I didn't give a
fuck, you know, like I think it depends on like the type of
relationship and and where you are.
What do you mean like before with your husband?
Yeah. You wouldn't let him go have a
girlfriend. Yeah, a 1000%.
I wouldn't have. I I wouldn't have cared.
But now your new man off limits. There's no fucking way.
Yeah, absolutely. That's because you what?
You're in love with this man, but you weren't in love with
that man. So now we're territorial, but
your husband could get the business in these streets.
Correct. Wow, wow, the more you all know
because no one knew. Thank.
You for acting, asking me a very fucking direct question and
putting me on the spot. So I'm going to ask you your
next question now that we we've thoroughly covered that topic.
Why do you think some relationships that were once
taboo, like interracial marriage, are more accepted now
while others still face judgement?
Well people got over interracial marriage and now they're just on
a high horse about same sex marriage even though men in
power have been molesting boys forever.
Like in the church, in the youth groups XYZ.
But now that it's in people's face and it's quote UN quote
legal to be married in a same sex relationship, I think that
that took the flame off interracial and like brought the
torch out towards same sex. So I don't think that it ever, I
think there's always gonna be something that's taboo,
something that's wrong or something that's negative.
But instead of worrying about interracial, now it's same sex.
So, you know, like in the 60s, no one was going to have a same
sex relationship out in the open.
So they were 10 toes down on, you know, segregation or black
versus white or whatever it may be.
But then as things evolved, now we're 10 toes down on same sex
marriage. So I just believe no matter what
you do in this reality, there's always going to be a cult of
people that don't like it. They're just not going to like
it, whether it's based on religion or preference or values
or morals or whatever they want to say it's based on.
I just think that we swap it. It's this or that.
Like people don't realize that they keep us divided like that
almost in every generation, no matter what it may be, just for
their power. And I know that a lot of people
have been cycling like the speech in the movie Ants, where
the bugs are like, oh, you know, they can't find out that there's
more of them than us or they'll rebel.
I really think the same sex marriage and the interracial
marriage go hand in hand at keeping us at each other's
throats. Yeah, and it's really like a
pointless thing when you think about all of the different
things that, you know, energy and attention could be focused
too. That's really just like some
small fucking potatoes and some low vibrational bullshit.
Yes, a next question. Next question.
Have you ever had to defend or explain your relationship
choices to others? No, I, but I have had to explain
or make excuses for shitty behavior, or at least I felt
that I did. And I, I think that one's really
difficult and it's, it's like a frustrating position to be put
into where you have to like own up for somebody else's, like the
way that they presented themselves.
Like, I can't think of a situation in which I've acted
towards somebody else in a way that my partner would have to be
like, Oh, sorry about sorry about her.
You know what I mean? Like she was, she said this
going on and it was a difficult day or whatever, but I've had
tons of times in life that I've had to be like, sorry, they're a
fucking douche canoe. You know, they had a really
tough day and didn't need a snack.
I feel like in the past I have definitely had to defend my
relationships before. Really like what?
Like what's a dynamic? Like what does somebody have to
say about your relationship that you would have to defend?
Like they're not the one in the fucking relationship.
I just feel like no matter what I've ever done, people have an
opinion on it and I can never. I can never think of a time in
my life that people were genuinely just happy for me.
Even like family I remember. I had a very quiet boyfriend and
everyone seemed to like him. I've heard several people been
like, I really like that guy you dated.
What was his name like? They can't remember his name.
They just know he was like mousy and quiet.
So they like that about him. Like, my family likes people
that are like, yes man like, and that's why they butt heads with
me because I'm not a yes man. So I find that when I get a
partner who is a yes man, I kind of bulldoze them.
And that drives a wedge in between us, 'cause I need
someone who's going to be assertive and confident and be
able to like, put me in check in a way that's not gonna make me
want to like flip out, you know what I mean?
Like I need someone who can like calm me down and be a safe place
for me and not motivate me to like take over and get into my
masculine energy. So the partners that people
liked kept me in my masculine energy where I made the money.
I did this, I planned that I paid all the bills and they paid
me back whatever it was. And that type of shit just got
old. So I really think that I have
had to explain myself in almost any area of my life about my
partner choice. And now even more as an adult
because people want to know like, when are you going to have
a kid? When are you going to do this?
When are you going to get married?
And I'm like, I hate to break it to you all, but like, not
happening right now. Well shit, she doesn't told you.
I think it's funny that people would want you with somebody
that is like a quiet and docile person because you, but I, but I
also understand too, that I think that people don't expect
for you to find the energy that you're looking for because your
personality is so dominant. Like I, I think that other
people may not understand exactly what it is that you're
looking for. And so they just see you with
somebody and they're like, Oh, he's just supporting whatever it
is that she does, but you need to have somebody who does that
in public. But then behind the scenes can
be like, Yo, so had your back back there.
But, you know, do you think that love is inherently messy, or do
societal rules make it that way? I don't think that love is
inherently messy. I think it is all of the boxes
that we expect people to check. Do they have a good job?
Almost foremost, you know, what do they look like?
What is their family like? What do they drive XYZ like?
This is what people are focused on before.
Will this person run into a burning building to save my
life? Because it doesn't matter how
much money they have or what kind of car they drive, are they
going to risk their life I love. That you're like, I don't give a
fuck if you have a job, will you risk your life for me, I mean.
I feel like only broke people are looking for people to
provide for them. I I that's all I can say for it.
Like broke bitches want men to provide them with something that
they can't provide for themselves.
So I might be intimidating because I'm not looking for
someone to fix anything for me or do anything for me.
I would rather sit in a cardboard box with someone I
love than sit in a mansion with a man that I hate.
And that's why I will be alone and I do not care.
But I know that attitude intimidates men because most of
them don't have a pot to piss in.
So they do not like the fact that I'm like, you're not,
you're not even emotionally giving me what I want.
Like, I think it's easy to say like, oh, materially you're not
giving me what I want. But it definitely hit someone a
little harder in the nuts when you're like, yeah, you're
emotionally not mature. We're sexually not compatible.
You don't know how to kiss, your breath stinks, You need to brush
your teeth. Y'all even.
Encountering in the natural fucking habitat.
Y'all need to learn how to floss and get a tongue scraper because
that's what I'm saying. These are the things I look for
more than can you provide for me.
So I don't think love is naturally messy.
I think all of the boxes that society wants us to check makes
it messy. You just said that you don't
give a fuck what they have going for.
You don't care if they have money.
You don't care if they have the desire to find money or whatever
to grow in life. You said I need you to floss
your teeth. I mean a lot of y'all don't
floss and it's it's really apparent.
Oh my gosh, Paige, you are so fucking silly.
All right. Next question, I'm asking you
another question. Do you not get questions?
Gemini feels more comfortable asking the question.
I do. I feel so put on the spot.
You can ask me a question. I I here I am.
Do you think people are secretly fascinated by taboo
relationships, even if they judge them publicly?
Oh yeah, I think it's interesting to like see other
shit, even if it's not something that you're interested in.
Like I, I absolutely, there's shows, there's all types of
stuff. I love shows.
There's a fucking dude who married, married a fucking
Ferris wheel. And like, absolutely, I want to
see how fucking shit I'm, I'm not going to marry a Ferris
wheel, but I want to see the fucking dude who did.
Spin off Why does every person on my 600 LB Life have a
boyfriend but I don't? You know, what's the bar are
they like who are, who are like they have a relationship status,
but like what's the person that they're in the relationship
with? It may be because they're going
for what they can get versus you who's like, I can get a lot of
different things. I'm being picky about what I'm
going to, what I'm going to catch and bring home.
Yeah, because I got an expensive palette.
She said I got a caviar lifestyle.
Facts. Do you think that media and pop
culture have helped or hurt the acceptance of unconditional
love? I think media has helped.
I think social media has helped expose people to different types
of relationships, different dynamics and relationships, same
sex couples adopting children, different things like that, that
if you don't know someone who's done that, then you're going to
be very biased and judgmental to what that entails and what that
is. So I think social media has been
able to open new doors in a positive light.
But if we're talking like national media, news media,
considering that all media outlets are owned by BlackRock
or Vanguard, I'm going to say that that part of the media has
hurt the image because they constantly let you know that 42
people died today, but not that 150 people won their battle with
cancer or, you know, or 150 people were rehabilitated into
society after some awful dynamic, right?
Like, they don't ever give you the positivity.
They only give you the negativity.
So I would think that social media has helped expose us to
things that we were not normally exposed to, developing a new
impression, a new understanding of it.
But then like news media, traditional media in those ways
makes it like negative. See, I think that the social
media thing has helped in a lot of ways with relationships too,
because they're like therapists and all types of different
people who go on and talk about different relationship dynamics.
They're now like podcasts about relationships that, you know,
they'll show clips and stuff from their podcasts.
And I think that people are able to start seeing like
conversations about, you know, hard times in relationships and
things going up and down versus like toxic and abusive
relationship. Because when you've talked about
unconditional love and stuff like that in the past, there has
been the like, you know, when you're married or, or whatever,
you just stick through that no matter what.
And there was a lot of like abuse that people had happened
behind closed doors and all types of things.
And it was so taboo for you to get divorced or talk about these
things or, you know, whatever, or rushes to get married, which
is also awful. And being able to have, you
know, those outlets on social media or podcasts or whatever
where people are really talking about things and you can get,
you know, different opinions and different views on things.
I think it's been super healthy in so many ways.
You know, what I think about relationships is that so many
people grew up in a dynamic that they're taught this is right,
this is wrong. And then they just project that
on to every single person. Like they never take a moment to
say, like, does that resonate with me?
Like, is this a problem? And just like, to add to that,
there's so many grown people such as myself who constantly
feel like I'm going to get in trouble.
I don't know who the fuck is going to punish me but I'm in
trouble. I always feel like I need to do
this or I'm going to get in trouble and I'm like who is
going to punish me? Like what the fuck?
I have to like convince myself that this is my fucking house
and I can do whatever I want. But it's hard because your brain
can completely project dynamics that are not resonant with who
you really are. And I think that's why so many
men are in the closet but have wives and girlfriends but are on
grinder and everywhere else trying to be discreet trying to
get fucked buddies. Because my old roommate was gay
and before he came out of the closet and actually told people
he was gay, he had so many secret boyfriends that were
straight men with girlfriends. But because he wasn't out of the
closet they could pretend they were just his friend and no one
knew even though everyone knew. Like, no straight man and a gay
man come home to an apartment and lock the door and go in
there for four hours. OK, We have a living room, we
have a dining room. Like, you know what I mean?
Like y'all are doing more than chilling with the door locked in
there. But at the end of the day, I
feel like so many people are afraid because of what their
parents, coaches, friends will think, that they would rather
manipulate a woman, hurt their partner, make their partner feel
like they're not good enough, they're not deserving or worthy
of whatever they're asking because they're lost in the
sauce. I think regardless of like what
your sexual orientation is, I think that if you're in a
relationship with somebody and you're doing shit behind their
back, regardless, I think that that's like real fucking
cowardly shit. And I think it's completely
unfair to the other person in that dynamic.
And it's so like, that's like a blatant disrespect.
That's like a I'm going to hold up your time and your feelings
and emotions because because I want this over here.
And if that, if that's where somebody ends up being in their
relationship, fine. But like when you decide to be
in a partnership with somebody, you owe them the respect to have
conversation with them and let them know where you're at so
that they can move accordingly. It's completely unfair for you
to keep somebody locked down in something that you know damn
well you're not putting your time, energy and emotion into.
And there are people who, you know, it can be one sided, but
there are so many relationships where both people do it and just
act like it's not fucking happening.
And I just think that that's super fucking disrespectful too.
But those are the kinds of people who are probably what we
were talking about with like wanting open relationships.
And that dynamic probably works. But that's why you would have a
conversation instead of going and doing something behind
somebody's back. That's when you have the
conversation of like, this is what I'm wanting.
Is this what you want? Like, that's not a comfortable
conversation I have to have. But you fucking need to if
you're going to be out here being with other people.
And that, like, opens you up to, like, bringing shit home.
And you know, like I, yeah, I, I think it's super fucking
disrespectful. And honestly, I think that adds
to the dynamic that was embedded into women about like staying in
the marriage for your family, staying in the marriage for your
children. I know people personally and
collectively that have straight up said I can't leave my husband
because then my kids would have to leave private school.
Then I'd have to, I don't know, you know what I mean?
They're like, I'm a business owner.
I don't know what I would do because there is no one that can
cover for me. There is no one that can do
this. You know, there's a lot of
people sticking around not for personal reasons, but for
financial reasons and for reasons beyond their control,
like not wanting to change their children's lifestyles, like
schooling or things like that. If somebody's choosing to do
that, I don't want to hear the complaints about how ABC and D
isn't going right in their life and there's all these negative
things and they can't figure it out.
It's because of the fucking energy that you're keeping
yourself in because you have a fear and lack mindset of making
the decisions that you need to make.
Like I, I think that your kid not going to private school and
being in a fucking safe, happy home is where they're like
seeing you thrive and be yourself and whatever is more
important than you know, them going to private school or
seeing two people together that aren't happy.
That's that's from experience by the way.
I mean, I grew up in a split household and my mom and my
stepdad were together for most of my life, but their dynamic
was super toxic. Like I saw for toxicity from
them as a child than anything else.
But you know, I just don't think that parents should involve
their children and shit. Like I was like, I would go to
my dad's and he would be like, your mom uses my child support
money for beer. And then I'd go home and I'd say
back to my mom and she'd be like, your dad does cocaine and
like why are you telling a 7 year old this?
Like so I don't know. I just think that I was exposed
to too much because of my parents hatred towards one
another that has now shaped the way that I feel about
relationships and how independent I am.
Because I never ever want someone to say I bought that for
you. I own that, that's mine because
I've heard that before and instead I would refrain from
doing that. Like I know it sounds weird you
all, but if I get into a relationship, I'm not selling my
house. We're not living together.
If we're not together for two full years without living
together, then then I made the right choice.
But in two years, if we're together and it's working, OK,
I'm not saying they can't stay over.
I'm not saying I won't go to their house, but we are not
living together. It just that that's just not it.
I think people live together nowadays way too soon because of
financial reasons and this generation, and then they get
trapped in something, then they finance things, they can join
finances and then they're stuck and that's unhealthy.
I don't think you're ever stuck. I think that you can make
choices and decisions inside of partnership.
And I think that it might be a little bit messy, but if you
decide that you're parting ways on something, you fucking figure
that shit out and it it gets figured out one way or another.
Two year. I mean, that works for you.
I like, how do you know if you don't live with somebody?
Like what if you're with them for two years and you haven't
lived with them? And then you start to live with
them and you're like, Oh my God, your habits, like, I, I don't
know, Paige, two years beforehand is a lot of time to
fucking invest. She didn't hear it.
She's like, absolutely not. This is a basic requirement.
I have lived with every man almost that I have dated in the
last 10 years. I have lived.
Really. Yeah, like serious
relationships. Yeah, basically besides 1.
And I will tell you right now, there are men that will go to
work all week, still buy an Xbox and not pay bills or think that
things like trash bags and paper towels and toilet paper just
come with the house. I guess that's just that just
with the house, I have dealt with so much shit that like, at
the end of the day, I personally am never uprooting my
foundation. I moved all the way from the
city to the country for a man before thinking like it's got to
be better. Like he doesn't do all these
things, he has all this stuff. Well, no, it wasn't.
No it wasn't. He flipped that switch so
fucking quick. I lived there for three months
and moved my ass straight back. And in that year I had moved
three times and my friends were like, we're not helping you move
ever again. You had three times this year.
Bye. Wow, on that.
We got card 33 for awareness and I love it because I was just
looking at your tattoo while you were talking earlier.
Your triples, you have 333. OK, so COD 33, the sign is Leo
love a little fire. The gift is cognizance and your
shadow is a lack mindset. I said lack mindset during this
podcast today. So as you begin to wake up to
your true essence, you also witness your patterns and your
perceived victimhood, your own participation in your
relationships, and this way you tune into awareness of your
humanness. In the process of accepting the
gift, your suffering may seem to heighten as you are present to
your unconscious patterning. But this road to unadulterated
self-awareness is both necessary and rewarding.
From here, mindfulness blossoms, and you transform your
relationships and your own world in general through conscious
thought, word, and action. The 33rd Shadow examines
suffering through the lens of our relationships.
When we're living half asleep or unconsciously, we might see that
relationships happen to us as if we're not active participants in
their unfolding. The lower frequency state breeds
codependent relationships complete with victim narratives
and combativeness or avoidance. We forget our inherent wholeness
and attempt to fill a perceived deficiency by seeking refuge in
the other. When we take a step back, we
have the opportunity to re evaluate our position and see a
new expansive message that this relationship may hold for us.
Your themes are wakefulness, wholeness, gratitude, and
relationships. And that's fucking nuts how that
card just into what we were saying.
That's fucking dope as hell dude.
But based on what Jim and I said, you're never stuck.
You're literally, you're never stuck you in whatever version of
life that you're in. It would be a difficult decision
but if you decided tomorrow I'm going to fucking cash out my
retirement and I'm going to move to Fiji.
Maybe that's not something that you choose to do, but that is
something that you could actually do.
You can literally do anything that you want to fucking do.
You're never stuck. You're making the choice to live
whatever reality you're living. Side note, as someone I know
just posted on Facebook that they have wrapped up all their
business, sold all their belongings and booked a one way
ticket to Thailand and they're not coming back.
There you go, folks. And that's all.
Have a great. Bye, see.
You next time in Candy Land. Uh huh.
Yeah, you said. She's so sweet, man.
Come on. Like a rapper.
Like a lollipop. Lollipop.
Lollipop Lollipop Lollipop.