Welcome to fucking Candy Land, hosted by Rampage and Gemini.
What's up everybody? Welcome back to Candyland.
Polly's here from Vegas. Back home now.
Yes. So we are moving right through
season three. We're going to have a surprise
guest. We are recording with them in a
couple weeks and this isn't going to be the norm, but this
guest in particular. Has a lot of valuable things to
bring to the table and it's really cool because I just feel
like there's so much synchronicity with this guest.
So I'm looking forward to having them on the podcast.
Yeah. And it's somebody who like I
don't know what personally that that you know, that I have
followed and I've kind of seen their journey a little bit and
so I'm really excited to get to meet them and talk to them and
learn about them. I know I'm really looking
forward to it. I feel like in the podcast we
have done a lot of different waves of stuff.
Whether it was like in the beginning, we thought it would
be geared towards guest. But the thing that I love the
most about our podcast is so many people will say that when
they turn on our podcast, it doesn't feel forced.
It's in flow. They feel like they're actually
in the room having a conversation with us.
And I think that's such a beautiful compliment because I
know that as a creator, it's easy to be like, well, I did
that first, or I feel like they're taking my idea.
But The thing is, it's like if you do it well and you do it
right, no other person can mimic that.
And I think that that's why we want to continue switching
things up so that we don't get boxed in with our podcast.
Well, you know, we've talked about it before, but we're
constantly evolving things that we're doing, how we do our
content, how we show up for ourselves and the way that we
are evolving our brand too. So the podcast reflecting that
just makes so much sense and I think it helps people so much to
not feel like they're stuck in this like, but is it a linear
cycle where it's just is completely the same over and
over and over again. It doesn't feel like Groundhog's
Day. We're like, told you we were
doing this, but actually we're going to be switching it up and
doing this, said we weren't going to have guests on, but
guess what? We're evolving and making an
exception. And I feel like as you grow, the
dynamic of your brand or your offerings should also
continuously grow. Like no one's going to want to
subscribe to your content if you're just regurgitating things
that they've seen 20 other places.
And I know here recently the universe has really been testing
just kind of my patience when it comes to certain situations, and
I feel like that. Pouring into this brand and into
our own cups has helped them overflow into the community that
we've created with the Full Moon Circles and different stuff like
that. We're all here having a
collective experience. So don't let the fact that
someone else is doing something discourage you from trying it.
But know when to say no, that's not for me.
Or no, that doesn't really fit. Because here lately I've been
seeing a lot of people do stuff that's just it doesn't work and
it doesn't fit. And it's almost like a train
wreck, like you have to watch it because it's a hot fucking mess.
But you can tell their heart isn't in it.
You can tell that their confidence isn't in it.
And it's painful when I see people trying to fit into a box
that's not their box. I also think, too, that people
can get so focused on that I have to be different.
And so yes, if you see somebody doing something that you're
like, wow, I love that. Like, I'd like to give that a
try. But they're already doing it.
You're going to come at it with your own spice and your own
flavor anyways. So stopping yourself from going
in a direction that you want to go in simply because somebody
else already doing that. We wouldn't have started a
podcast if we were like, oh, but you know, other people that are
inspirations to us have podcasts.
We just have to figure out our own unique niche with it.
And when you go into things not going well, I have to find out
the way that, like, I'm going to be unique about it and you just
go in the way that you are led to do it.
You end up finding your own uniqueness and your own creative
passion ends up being able to flow through because you're not
overthinking or over criticizing yourself.
And most of the time when you're asking people for, like, advice
or permission, or you're looking around for other people to lead
you in a direction, you're going to be doing something that your
heart's not really in. And my favorite thing is like,
Oh well, they have a podcast and it seems to be working for them.
So I'm going to start a podcast and then you start putting in
the work and you can tell. In your voice, in your actions,
in your demeanor that, like, your heart's not into it.
And that's what sets aside the creatives, the artists, the
musicians, the models, whatever it is that actually succeed.
No, they may not be the prettiest or most talented
person, but they're the one putting in work.
They're the one staying consistent.
They're the one doing what they want to do and how they want to
do it. Been here lately.
I know the universe has been putting in a lot of, like,
triggers. Like, oh, it doesn't upset you
that this person literally took your whole brand and is running
with it? No, not really.
Because at the end of the day, like, that, person's not going
to get very far. Basing their entire identity or
brand on something stolen or something foreign outside of
them. The people that are most
successful are not the ones that are the most talented or have
the most money though. They're the ones that just stay
consistent and just go for it. And I think that's what the.
Podcast is for me is like, it's something that we didn't know
how it would evolve, but instead of boxing it in, we've just
gradually let it develop its own personality, which it feels
really good to hear people say, like, I really feel like I'm in
the room with you all. Like you create a safe space
that is inviting and welcoming. You know, there's sometimes you
listen to stuff or you hear something online and it sticks
with you. And that's what I want this
podcast to be. I agree with you and I love we
get group messages from people too, who will send us like,
group messages on Facebook or I'll send us like texts or
something like that and just be like, wow, this episode this
week, like this is what I'm taking out of it.
We had somebody who shout out. Melissa literally sent us
pictures of her notebook writing down notes that she had from an
episode that we did and was like, wow, I really do need to
work on like, my boundaries and expectations of those around me.
And these are all of the Nuggets that I'm taking away from you.
And somebody tagged us in an Instagram story recently and it
said something like I was listening to the new episode of
Lollipop and Gemini said nobody's going to run game the
way that we run it or something. She's like, I'm not just stuck
with me. And it's so interesting, I think
for both of us to see what you guys take out of the episodes
because we just talked to each other back and forth.
Like these are conversations that you and I have behind the
scenes just naturally. And then for other people to
take little Nuggets out of it. I'm always like, oh, that's what
stuck with you out of that. Okay, interesting.
My favorite about the notebook is when she sent the notebook
paper. I zoomed in, and she quoted real
G's move in silence. And I literally got that from a
little Wayne song, he says. Real G's move in silence, like
lasagna, and it just, it's a little Wayne lyric, but it is
definitely in the 10 commandments of life because you
never see the person who really has it going on needing to tell
everyone. It's people like Elon Musk who,
like, have it all but still need to be in your face because
they're miserable. Like those are the people you
need to look at and take notes from.
They have accumulated more wealth than anyone on this
continent or on this fucking planet, and they are still so
old, so miserable and so just toxic.
Nothing about what you have is going to change who you are on a
true level and being a G. Means that you stick to the code
and you don't need to go out and tell everyone the fucking code.
You keep it low and you work with what you have and you build
from where you are. And to me, a lot of people could
take note on that because no one cares what you're wearing, what
you paid for it, what you're doing, etcetera, if your impact
does not withstand your persona. You're going to fade out.
I mean, look at the artists that come in and out of Hollywood and
they will be relevant for a swift 30 minutes.
And then after that, who the fuck is that?
You know what I mean? It's kind of like that song.
And this is so funny because you would have to be in this age
group to know what it is. But that Beautiful Girls song by
Sean Kingston? Everybody knows that beautiful
girl. Yeah, everyone knows that song,
but where the fuck is Sean Kingston?
You know what I mean? Like, he had a minor impact in
an era where it's like, yeah, you know, that one thing he did,
but what does he do now? He could have literally donated
his liver and did a kidney transplant and saved someone.
You wouldn't know because. People fit the narrative for a
short amount of time before you forget about them.
And I think the one important thing that I want is I want to
be like a household name that like down the road you're still
understanding or still processing something that we
said on the podcast or you're still applying that information.
I don't want to be like the current event list, that just
regurgitates what's important what we are supposed to be
thinking about. And then move on, because you're
going to easily forget about it. It's just going to go in one ear
and out the other. And that's what I see.
When people are making music or content or a podcast and their
heart isn't in it. You can tell it's so fucking
forced. It's cringy to watch.
It's painful to sit through. You can see that on people who
are being interviewed. Who have never been interviewed
before. You can see their growth from
the beginning to the end. And that's where I want people
to realize is like, we're growing with you.
We're in the middle. We're in the thick of it.
We're not portraying to be something that we're really not,
though. So I have two things to say
because, well, I guess it's so we were talking about you know,
moving in silence, right. But then also sharing our growth
publicly. And so I've had to really kind
of find my sweet spot with things because I built my
platforms being and my Patreon and stuff being super authentic
about like this idea is coming in.
I'm going to try and make this goal happen.
I'm going to try and do this. I'm working for this.
These are the ways that I'm navigating and it put a lot of
pressure on me because now I have spoken it out to people, so
now people know that it's going to happen.
And also things are always evolving.
So if you share for me personally, if I share all of
the ideas and things that are going to be unfolding, if
something falls through, then now you have put it out there
publicly. So people are expecting this
thing to happen and then when it doesn't happen, there's not
always this grace for well, things naturally, you know,
unfold and in this way then public can turn it into so
something bad happened. So like an example, I was
publicly talking about my podcast Boxes for Covenant
Rejects and and partnering with a different shop for it, with
this girl shop and and we were both really excited about it and
we both put it on our platforms. But then after we talked about
the cost of it, both of us are like, wow, that's like a big
financial investment. Now that we're actually breaking
it down and starting to put it together, we'll go in a
different direction. But publicly it looks like we
could have had a fallout. Something isn't happening with
this box. It's different.
And had we just held on to that idea and talked behind the
scenes and figured out all of the details before publicizing
it, it would just be different. And so I think that people
finding like find your happy balance with, yes, you're
sharing things and you're being authentic, but also you are
forming your complete thoughts. You are having a complete plan
that you have already started executing and you know how that
flow is going to be before you're putting it out there.
And this goes, you know, we you and I talk a lot about like
business things like making business moves.
So that's a business move. But even in your real life, if
you tell you know your parents that you're going to be going to
school for your master's degree in a BC&D, but then turns out
that you can't actually get into that program because of
whatever, well, now you've got some kind of emotion, energy,
negativity, whatever put on to you, because now you're not
following through on a goal when maybe it's not even your fault
you can't follow through on it. I think that there's a big
difference between speaking intentions to the world and then
maybe oversharing, because I always.
Always want to encourage people to put their intentions out
there, because the more you talk about it, the more you tell
people about it, the more that you put it into the universe.
Verbally, intentionally, spiritually, whatever.
It's going to come to life in a different way.
But I think that to add on what Jim and I is saying is like be
flexible with how that's going to come to life because you may
say something and be rigidly holding yourself to some crazy
expectation that's not realistic.
You know, of course we want to do certain things for our brands
or we want to do certain things for our family or our friends.
But be realistic. You know if you know that you
are not super creative, but you want to throw a party for your
kid and you want to make it look like this Pinterest.
Party. Be realistic on how much of that
you're going to be able to do yourself because there are do it
all moms that can just literally look at a picture and do it.
And I have a friend just like that.
Like her daughter every year picks this crazy Halloween
costume. Like she'll be like I want to be
Billie Eilish at the ACMA awards and like the outfit.
Like that's what she wants to be like the most random things.
And this is a this is a true statement and my friend.
Will literally order whatever it is and paint it, make it sew it.
It doesn't even matter. She does it and she's so
talented with it. But when I told her, like, you
should take some of these ideas and like, start an Etsy, you can
literally have an art store. That isn't her thing.
She's like, I don't want to do marketing, I don't want to do
social media, I don't want to do promotion.
She has all of these beautiful talents, but she doesn't utilize
those for the public. And that's Okay.
That doesn't make her any less talented.
Honestly, whenever I ask her to paint me stuff, she's like, oh,
I got you when she could literally be charging.
You know what I mean? But it's like, I don't talk shit
to her or say like, you're not doing it right because you're
not capitalizing on your gifts because that's her way of using
them. She likes to make things for
friends and family. She doesn't want to make it for
Betty Sue in Idaho. You know she wants to have.
The stuff that she wants to do, and that's the way she wants to
do it. And I think that like with the
Internet, it seems like it's easy to start a business or that
it's easy to promote yourself or it's easy to do XYZ.
But when you turn into, you know the person who's doing the
financials that the investor, you're the face of the brand,
you're doing all the marketing, you're doing all of the social
media like. There's a lot that adds into
that. And I just think that being more
realistic with your goals and what you can physically
accomplish on your own, rather than putting all kinds of
imaginary pressure on yourself, that really drains your
inspiration. And that's what I've told people
before, like I would do XYZ if I had someone to help me do it.
But whenever I have to physically get my hands in the
mud and do everything from start to fish finish, I'm not.
That is inspired. I don't feel as sexy and
creative when I'm doing that. But when you're a small business
or you're a small creator, you make things like that work.
So I just want to remind everyone that, like, if you're a
go getter and you have major goals, there is a methodical way
to do that and you don't have to be all in right now to show your
commitment to the universe. Like you could literally don't,
like just do like an hour or two a day and still receive the
rewards that someone who's doing. 10 hours a day is getting
because you're setting the frequency and you're matching
that vibration that you want to attract.
So know that it's about 90% of your energy and about 10% of
your actions. It's going to equate the results
that you're actually getting and small bits of effort get you to
the finish line faster than putting forth a whole bunch of
effort and then exhausting yourself and not being able to
continue on. And I know that that is a huge
lesson that you've helped me with since we started the
podcast, and it it's helped in a bunch of areas in my life is
picking out smaller goals for myself and then resting in
between things instead of having these large goals and never
actually resting. Overworking yourself isn't
working. Overworking yourself is
exhausting yourself and then having to take all of these
frequent, really long breaks because you're completely burnt
out. And especially to anybody who
has, like, I know that for me like having an underlying
medical thing too. I used to work myself too hard
because Oh well, I'm feeling good right now.
And then I would exhaust it and then be sick and have to take
weeks off and be frustrated. And you again showed me that
having smaller goals and seeing them through and resting myself
ends up making more sense in the long wise and physically feels a
whole lot better. Yeah, and I think that as
humans, I call them utopian goals.
Like we have all of these utopian goals.
Like I can get all of this laundry done, like unrealistic
goals for ourselves, and then we are upset when we don't meet
those expectations or goals, which truly creates a energy of
lack. Or an energy of, you know, not
feeling good enough or not feeling inspired, which attracts
more of that. So it's like, I like to reward
myself. Like it could literally be like,
I got up, I made coffee and I cleaned the coffee pot
afterwards. Like I got everything ready,
cleaned up the counter. That's a fucking goal because
92% people just got in their car and drove through a drive
through and created plastic waste and trash that didn't need
to be created because they didn't want to make their own
coffee. And it's fine if you drink
plastic cups out of every day or whatever, like I'm.
I'm currently drinking to go coffee and you can suck my Dick.
It was very early when I had to take my kid to school.
It was raining, I didn't have time for coffee.
And I you know what? It's not plastic, It's
cardboard. The lid says recyclable.
It's got little leaves on it and you know, coffee is coffee.
You don't have to judge. I'm not judging.
But I'm saying like how often do you celebrate the fact that you
got up and made coffee? You don't.
You don't at all. The fact is, is like, you may go
through the drop through and feel like you're rewarding
yourself, but what about when you got about a bed and made
coffee too is what I'm saying. Like doesn't matter which way
you do it? Some people hit Starbucks 17
times a week, and that's your prerogative.
But do you celebrate those little actions?
Like, I got up and I scooped the litter box and I made some
coffee and I brushed my teeth and made my bed.
Most people like that's just normal stuff I have to do.
No, baby, that's human stuff that you don't actually have to
do it because there's a lot of people who don't at all.
And they become very unhappy because your environment is a
reflection of your own energy. And what I'm saying is,
celebrate those little tasks that you do rather than only
rewarding these big, tiresome, worrisome type task.
Look at the little things that you've done today, whether it
was like okay, I cut the grass, took the dog out, I got the
mail. All of that is stuff that you
should be celebrating instead of making these large utopian goals
that are the only ones that you've deemed worthy of
celebration. It could literally be like you
washed your hair and washed your ass today and that's something
to celebrate. I actually really do agree with
that and. Especially people who are out of
their homes a lot. I feel like when you come back
and you're exhausted after like a day of work or whatever, then
you know, you fill the dishwasher and you're like, oh,
like I didn't vacuum today. I don't, I don't ever have the
time to like keep my house clean or whatever it is.
Well, you just filled up the dishwasher after you just had a
hella long day and then tomorrow maybe you're going to tackle
vacuuming or whatever. So I agree with what you say,
and I think that that can be motivating too for.
Setting more small goals for yourself so that you can have
that like feeling of accomplishment.
And what's the word for when you like, not accomplishment, but
when you're feeling like you've like made yourself proud.
The fulfillment that you feel from doing the small task really
will give you the momentum to elevate into those bigger task.
Like, I love hyping myself up. Like, look at you doing the
human stuff. Because I promise you there's so
many people who are like, Nope, not cleaning.
Nope. I'm going to live in fields.
No, I'll stink. No, fuck those clothes.
Like, you know what I mean? Like, we've all been behind
someone at a theme park or wherever.
That just is not of the par on their body conditions because
they're just neglecting themselves.
And that's because they see things like taking care of
themselves as a task, rather than something that you are out
like rewarding yourself for. Eww.
And then they're washing their dirty fucking coochie in the
water that all the children are waiting in because they can't
just go home and scrub their butt holes with some soap.
I'm not here for it. That analogy just gave me mental
images. And people do be funky when I
lived in Montana. They used to have the Rainbow
Festival, which is like, I I guess it's like a hippie
gathering. But I did cashiering and there
would be people who would come through that line and smell like
rotting corpses walking. And my mental mindset is just
like you would see some of these women pregnant.
And I'm like, so y'all are just combining your nasty, unwashed
genitals reproducing life. With that shit like I just there
has to be something wrong with a baby that's formed out of filth.
That's all I'm saying. Honestly, I love that analogy,
because a dirty house actually will drain your bank account.
Like they say, your bathroom is a reflection of your bank
account. And in Feng shui, the art of
Feng shui like setting your home up to be in flow.
It's basically encouraging that you need to pull whatever's out
in the corners, like monthly, and vacuum behind that.
That's a representation of your consciousness.
If there's dust bunnies and little hairballs from the dogs
and cats floating around behind everything, that's a reflection
of your internal world. And I think the car is also a
reflection of your external world, meaning that if you treat
your car poorly, like it's dirty inside and out, that's going to
be a reflection of what you're attracting into your life.
Because the car represents movement.
Like, those are the moves that you're making, and they're not
good. People are always like, Paige is
obsessed with her car. Paige won't do this.
Paige won't do that. Yeah, because I used to have a
car that I treated like shit. And every other day I was
getting in a Fender Bender, letting that thing run out of
gas like it did not matter. But then I look back, and that's
a reflection of how I was treating myself, running myself
on E, running myself down, treating myself poorly
constantly on the go, but not taking care of my basic needs
like an oil change or a car wash or vacuuming out your car,
whatever it is. So I don't say these things as
like, a judgment way because, like, I also used to treat my
car poorly, but now I treat my car like a five star golden
Princess because I want to be treated like a five star golden
Princess, You know, Like I treat things as a reflection of how I
want to be treated. So now I constantly am making
sure that, like, my laundry is taken care of.
Things are taken care of because when you walk past that dirty
pile of clothes, you are bringing in lower vibration into
your life because you'll think I need to do that.
I need to do that. I need to do that.
Every time you think I need to do that, you could be thinking
about something else in directing that energy outward
into something more productive, rather than letting your
subconscious just constantly remind you of all the things you
need to do, but you have zero energy to do them.
And I think that's why I ended up following your example of
doing house cleaning of like having somebody come in that's
able to help with house cleaning, whether it's done by
trade or it's done by hiring somebody or whatever.
I think that. If you're not able to do the
things that you need to do in order to make sure that your
mental health and your physical health feels good and you need
to have somebody else come in and help with that.
There's a reason that people I'm over here pointing with a
Sharpie. There are reasons that there are
people that do those types of jobs because they help people
with those things. So for me it is more helpful for
me to hire somebody to then make.
My, you know, do the touch up, make sure there's not dust
bunnies and things, Make sure that like, everything's
sanitized in my house or whatever, things that maybe I
can't get to. And I think we put this, well, I
didn't do it myself, so I failed at it.
As opposed to you reached out, you used a resource, you got
help with something, you helped somebody else because now you
put money or energy or whatever it is into their pocket to come
and do something for you. And so it's still.
Ends up being an energy rotation.
You're still getting something done and helping not only
yourself, but probably other people by doing that also.
Yeah, and you actually step into your highest vibration when
things are getting done, regardless of how they got done.
It's like, would you rather have wasted that energy yelling at
your husband and kids and creating a, you know, a a
turmoil situation in your home rather than just being like, you
know what, my husband works, my kids at school and I can
personally take care of this without actually having to lift
a finger. Why not utilize my energy and my
time towards my craft or towards things that make me happy, that
bring in abundance, that I can recirculate to someone who does
this. And that's what I always tell
people like the average person. If you're really going to deep
clean your house on a monthly basis, like that's seven to 10
hours period, and that's excluding laundry, like that is
just 7 to 10 hours. Like actually cleaning your
bathrooms, actually cleaning and scrubbing the walls in the
shower, like, is 7 to 10 hours a month something that's going to
be doable or are you going to push it out to 30 minutes here
and there? Because if you did that once a
month, deep clean, you don't need to do a bunch of little
stuff every week. It's just, you know, I'm in
pickups, but it's like why not pay someone who does that for a
living? Where it would normally take me
10 hours, it takes them 3 1/2. Like the math is, there are six
hours on the table that I can utilize for selfcare, for the
gym, for my business, for a nap, for things that refill my cup.
Meanwhile, I'm paying something, paying for something that makes
my life easier. So now I'm putting food on
someone else's table because I'm circulating my abundance and I'm
coming home to a clean house. It's a winwin.
Like I got a home or a house cleaner like three years ago,
and I will never go back. Like I'm using a different
cleaner now. But if you can find someone that
you're on the same page with and that you can trust, it's worth
$2030.00 an hour. Because I promise you, it does
not matter. When you come home to a clean
house that you did not clean, there is nothing like it.
It's it's literally the most magnificent feeling when you
come home and everything is taken care of.
I yes. I didn't know what that felt
like. Because.
So when? We talked about it before, but
like, when you told me that you had a house cleaner, my mind,
right, because I've never known anybody that just had a house
cleaner. Turns out after talking to
people about house cleaners, more people have them than talk
about it. But I just thought it was
something bougie. And I was like, damn, like she
has somebody go in and like, clean her house for her.
Like, not that it was a judgment on you, because I thought that
was fucking dope, but I was just thinking for myself, like, who
would that bitch be having somebody like come in my house
and clean it for me and it's. Amazing, I can't even tell you.
Like looking at your stove and being like damn, somebody else
really got the grease spots off that for me.
Dang, you know that toilet is extra shiny.
Wow, somebody else was able to Polish out that stain in my
bathtub. Like what?
It ends up being amazing. And you do you walk around your
house and and? It's amazing to me the things
that I think would be clean until I see somebody
professionally clean it and then I'm like, oh, that's what it's
supposed to look like. Well, the thing for me is like
when you grow up, depending on your mother, your father,
whoever you lived with and how they clean is kind of what
you're taught. Like, you know what I mean?
Like, to me, my dad, like cleaning for my dad is like
running the vacuum cleaner and loading the dishwasher.
Like, if those two things are good, he's good.
But over time, he's one of those people that, like, he'll pay to
get something redone, like get a bathroom redone.
And then ten years go by and it looks exactly like it used to
because he takes it as like, oh, it's clean.
And then just gradually, gradually over time, gets dirty
and empty again. And it's like, you can rip
things out and start fresh every 10 years, but wouldn't it be
nice if you just kept up the maintenance?
Kind of like when you get a car? It blows my mind, people that
are like, well, I just don't know how my tire blew out.
Well, because you need a new tire six months ago or because,
you know, you've patched that baby 14 times and now it's done.
But the thing for me is, like, just as a female who doesn't
want to have car issues, I pay attention to like what my tires
look like or, you know, like I check them.
Like I make sure there's no screws or nails.
I'm not going to be out on the Expressway and check it when I'm
on the side of the road. I'm going to check it from the
comforts of my driveway. But a lot of people, it's just
depending on what you're taught. Like my mom has blown several
cars up in her lifetime. My dad prefers cars made before
2000 because he likes an older vehicle and he takes care of
them and they look new. But it's like there's two
different kinds of people. The people that would rather
just keep replacing it or the people who take care of it and
make it last. And I feel like I'm in between
that. Like I want things to be taken
care of, but I also don't want to use them forever.
But then again, I want to make sure that when I do rehome or
get rid of something that it's still useful.
Like, I don't just break it all the way down.
And I feel like your home is going to be a reflection of how
you treat yourself and your boundaries.
Because if you allow yourself to sleep in the same sheets and
never wash your comforter and you know, running on thin never
got clean socks, never got this and that, that's going to be
your consciousness. You're going to be at work.
Like, damn, I got mismatched socks on, I got this dirty, you
know, bra on or like whatever. And that's going to be a
reflection of your energetic blueprint for that whole day.
So it's like being prepared and being on top of your shit sets
you up for success. Like those people in traffic on
Monday that are like Russian. That's because they were up late
and they didn't get any of their stuff ready for work.
So now they're late and now they're mad at you and they're
being asshole in traffic. Or, you know, the person that
was on time, had a beautiful outfit on, had their coffee,
wasn't late. Like, the energy is different
than the Who's rushing in, missed the morning coffee, got a
flat tire on the way. But all of that is truly a
reflection of the energy they're putting out.
So if you find yourself constantly having setbacks like
that, like whether it's a flat tire or you're always running
late or you're this and that, check your surroundings, how is
that a reflection of what you're living and breathing in?
And on the taking care of things that you have too.
So my Nana and my mom have always been huge on teaching me
that you respect and take care of the things that you already
have. Even if it's an old version of
something or it's a hand me down, whatever.
A big one for me has been like furniture inside of our house.
Because when. You know, my husband and I first
got together and started getting our own places and whatnot
because I've been with him since I was 19.
All of our furniture was like hand me down furniture and I
would make comments about like. I don't want to have like hand
me down stuff. I want, you know, to have things
that are new to me and new energy and whatever my mom would
always be like. You have to appreciate the
things that you have and that you have them, because that's
when you get new things and when you learn how to appreciate the
things, then you will have nice things for a longer period of
time. Because even if you have
something that's nice, if you're not appreciative of that thing,
you will run it down and it will look used and old and.
I've really lived by that and taught you know, Mac that too.
I won't replace the dresser that he has because one of the
drawers is broken, but he always complaints about it.
Always complaints about his drawer being broken instead of
figuring out how to use the other four drawers when he has
plenty of room in them. I'm not going to replace that
for you until you have an appreciation for the fact that
you have four working drawers. And if that means you don't get
a new dresser until you're 16, well, you've still got a
functional dresser. So go you.
The thing for me is like, I have never had a matching bedroom
suit. Like, I have never, even as a
child, been taken to a furniture store and been like pick things
out, ever. Never had anything that
completely matched. And honestly, I think that
people that are so caught up on aesthetics are normally not that
fucking happy. Because I see these maximalist
houses that are just beautifully decorated with things that they
got at garage sales and estate sales.
And I find that when you have the energy of like, I'm going to
make this work, it's going to work for me and it's going to be
great for what I need. The universe matches that.
Like what you put out there truly has to be in alignment
with what you want to attract. And focusing on the one thing
that's not working versus focusing on the 95 things that
do work. And that's what I tell my
clients. How often do you think your
lungs for breathing during this entire episode?
Like, never once did you think, Oh my God, I need to breathe or
I need to I need to think about breathing?
No, you're just breathing. But did you ever think your
lungs for that? No.
But the first time you're sick or you're coughing or this or
that, you're like, I just can't wait to feel better because
you're only focused on the negative aspect that now you're
sick. But if you honored your vessel
throughout when you are healthy and when you are, you know,
living your best life, you would have more days where you feel
healthy and in alignment. And it's literally so much about
what the people around you do. And a lot of our ancestors and
our boomer mom and dads, they treated their shit like hell
like a fucking garage sale and everything needed to be donated.
They were just like, screw it, we're not treating ourselves
well. We're going to work all the
time, be drained, yell at our kids, and be mad at the world.
And then we continue that cycle of neglecting our own personal
needs. And that's what I want to remind
everyone. It's like when you neglect your
car, you're neglecting yourself. When you neglect your duties, no
matter how exhausted you are, you're neglecting yourself.
And honestly, your environment is the reason that you're waking
up tired. Like it would almost be better
if you're exhausted all the time to stay up late and just.
Completely knock out everything that you would need to do, like
while your kids are asleep. Maybe you don't do it all in one
night, but like knocking down the list of the core reasons
that you're stressed can help you create an environment where
you can be abundant. Yeah, that's why so many moms
will talk about how they do clean up after their kids are
asleep or whatever. And it's also, you know, if you
are trying to do those things during the day, it's almost like
you are going to just running yourself crazy because the
messes are going to keep on piling up and whatever, as
opposed to if everybody else is calm and sleeping.
That can be. It doesn't even have to be
considered a chore. I know that for me, if I do
things when my kid is asleep, I can turn a show on while I'm
doing it. I can listen.
Listen to a podcast. I can, listen to a meditation.
I can feel like I am doing something to recharge myself
while also taking care of my space.
So adjusting your mindset even while you're doing that too,
instead of being like. And I'd like to be sitting on
the couch right now, just finally being able to relax.
But here I am doing, you know, the fucking dishes.
Well, yeah, you get to do the dishes in silence.
Your kid is asleep. You're going to wake up.
Your kitchen's going to be clean in the morning.
You're going to be so fucking happy when you walk downstairs
or walk into your kitchen or whatever it is.
I think you could all can look this up, but I think kitchens
are the representation of your productivity.
So if your kitchen's always a mess, I think it's something to
do with productivity. But every room in your home
represents something in reflection of your energy.
And if you find yourself always tired, probably should look at
like rotating your sheets and getting a new comforter, getting
new pillows. You know these small
investments? Like, I went and got two new
pillows the other day. I did not need them, but they
were 1799. For two pillows, you spend more
at Starbucks or Chickfila than two new pillows.
And I just think that we don't put our priorities in the places
that benefit our mental construct.
Not even just our mental health. Our physical and spiritual
health is affected by our environment.
Like, we all know someone who lives and feels.
And when you go to their house, how you feel?
You feel on edge. You feel like you can't sit
down. You feel like there's nowhere to
sit down. There's cups and glasses
everywhere. You don't know what's clean,
what's dirty. There's bugs, there's a smell.
Whatever. House are you going to?
We've all been at a house like that.
I. Mean We've all been there, but
funky? Not anymore.
But you know what I mean. Like, we all know how it feels
to go into a space like that. Like we don't feel welcomed or
invited. So it doesn't make it a
difference if it's your fields or their fields, and what's
dirty to you and what's dirty to them could be two different
things. But you've got to find that
happy momentum in your equilibrium where it's like,
this is a safe space for me. When you come home to your home,
it should feel inviting. You shouldn't instantly go to
the list of things that you need to do now that you're home.
That's why you're not resting. That's why your cup is not full,
because we're constantly putting all these rules, regulations and
obstacles in our path rather than showing up to meet the
obstacle. We're drained, We're already
drained, and a lot of that is out of our control.
Like, you know, not everyone can just quit the job that they
hate, Like they have responsibilities, there's
insurance, there's family, there's schools, all of that
involved. But the one thing you can
control is your fucking space in your bathroom, in your home, in
your kitchen, and how you treat those things.
How often do people pull everything out of the
refrigerator and clean it? Well, I'll tell you right now, I
have a house cleaner. So like, every other month she
does that for me. And if I did that on my own
baby, that shit was in there for years.
I ain't never pulled none of it out.
So don't act like that. I'm just, I'm so bougie that I
do this now. No, I'm just saying, like, it
feels good to write a list out that says I want my refrigerator
to be cleaned or I want on top of my cabinets cleaned Or, you
know, there was a junk drawer in my bathroom and a bunch of
cabinets and I was like, hey, could you organize those?
She found stuff I didn't even know was in there because I just
keep piling stuff in it where she organized it and is
unbiased. She even made a pile of what the
fucks like, what is all this? This doesn't go in there.
Go through it, you know? And we as humans are going to be
stuck in our ways. So what we want to challenge you
all is to look at all the ways that your environment is a
reflection of your energy, how that is pouring over or draining
you, and how you can help elevate.
I know I've seen this online. It's like, why don't I ever have
any girlfriends that want to come over and help me deep
clean? Like, I'm sure you have friends
that you could, like, cook dinner and get some wine and
they would come over and help you organize your pantry or
organize your bathroom. I mean, I'm sure people don't
want to scrub your toilets, but I'm talking like, organization
at a core level is the reason for messes.
Like, if it doesn't have a place, it's going to be in the
way. And I just feel like, get
creative. Like once a month every, every
friend comes over and we all rotate, you know what I mean?
And go to someone else's house. Like, there's so many creative
ways that you can make the hard stuff fun and enjoy it while
you're doing it. And I think that, you know, like
Jim and I said, oh, wow, Paige has a house cleaner that's
bougie. Because your first thought is
that's bougie. But it's not.
It's a literal fucking necessity.
And I personally could spend money on anything, but I'd
rather spend money on my piece and my harmony.
And like my zone, my house cleaner doesn't do my laundry.
She doesn't change my sheets unless I have them there ready
for her, then she will. But it's like I have split the
duties where it's like I do the laundry and things that I have
to do and she does all this other stuff and it feels so good
to have that. But it's not like, oh, she's
coming in two weeks. I'm just going to leave all
these dishes here for 9 days. Like, no, You have to
continuously play your role, but then know where to designate
other things to other people and not so work.
And you know, if you're going to somebody's house and you're
noticing like, wow, their house like seems messy or whatever,
having these conversations and letting people know that like.
All of the things that we've been talking about today, I
never would have even thought about having a housekeeper help
if you hadn't mentioned that you do that and we hadn't had these
types of conversations, so. If you guys listen to episodes
like this and you're like wow, and you are thinking right at
the top of your brain, Oh well, I know Brittany's house be
having cups everywhere and it's never clean and yadda yadda
yadda. Then maybe going over to fucking
Brittany's house and helping Brittany clean up and then
talking to her about, you know, readjusting energy in her life
and doing this and why. You know, keeping up with things
is helpful and and. Using your energy to help and
give you know options and insight, maybe that would be
helpful. Not everybody knows that.
Like again, it's it's how you're raised, right?
If somebody is raised inside of a cluttered space and messy
house, they are used to that energy.
And if nobody ever tells them or talks to them about something
different, they don't know and I would rather be told about these
options. And be able to do things for
myself and change my mindset so that when these things come up,
my first mindset isn't wow, that's bougie.
It's damn look at her doing what she has to do to make sure that
her mental health feels in order, that her health is in
order, that she's bringing abundance in.
Also there's if you leave your toilet seats up that like the
lid open, then it said that that.
Has money go down your your toilet.
And so closing your toilet lid and closing the door to your
bathroom makes it so that your money isn't going down the
drain. Yes, the money is definitely
associated with the bathroom. So for everyone, that's like,
holy shit my bathroom is a mess. We're not judging you, but you
should definitely make it a priority.
Especially if you feel like your finances are not in order.
You don't feel like you have, like, extra spending money.
That's definitely one place to look.
Another thing about that is like, no one is judging you as
much as you judge yourself. And if you go in your bathroom
and every time you're like, it's so filthy in here, it's so
filthy in here. Like, if you think that more
than three times a week, I would just consider looking at your
options of like, what can I do to fix this?
How can I stop putting this pressure on myself and alleviate
that pressure? And some people think like, Oh
no, I can handle it, but like maybe before you had a child you
could handle it or maybe before you started working full time
XYZ. Like why keep the chains of
pressure around your ankles if you can loosen those a little
bit? Because in different phases of
our life, we require different things.
And boxing yourself in to be like, Oh no, that's bougie or my
mom would never approve of that, or my dad would never support
that or whatever. Instead of letting those
thoughts make your decisions, how about we look at what's best
for you and what works for you? I mean, for instance, my dad,
his mailbox kept getting like hit by drivers and like drunk
drivers and he replaced it like three times in one year and a
mailbox. I mean they're like 4 or $500
every time you do that. Like it's not cheap.
So he he just decided he would take it out, fill it in with
dirt and get a P.O. Box.
So now that he doesn't have a a mailbox, all of his spam mail or
random mail has now found my home and it comes addressed to
him at my home, even though he's never fucking lived here.
And I wrote him the other day and I was like, I've got mail
for you and he was like wow. And I was like I guess because
they can't find your mailbox so they just redirect it to my
mailbox. I don't know.
But like the thing was the mailbox was stressing him out.
He was spending on average of $1000 a year on new mailboxes.
So to counter react that, he said fuck it, we'll remove the
mailbox and you have to know when is enough because now all
that junk mail is now coming to me.
There's nothing I can do about it, so.
All that junk mail coming to you?
Well we love you all. Thank you for every thing and
listening to us here in Candyland.
We'll see you next time. Bye.