1 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:16,400 Welcome to fucking Candy Land, hosted by Rampage and Gemini. 2 00:00:29,730 --> 00:00:32,369 What's up everybody? Welcome back to Candyland. 3 00:00:32,369 --> 00:00:35,250 Polly's here from Vegas. Back home now. 4 00:00:35,890 --> 00:00:40,330 Yes. So we are moving right through 5 00:00:40,330 --> 00:00:43,770 season three. We're going to have a surprise 6 00:00:43,770 --> 00:00:47,250 guest. We are recording with them in a 7 00:00:47,250 --> 00:00:51,770 couple weeks and this isn't going to be the norm, but this 8 00:00:51,770 --> 00:00:57,040 guest in particular. Has a lot of valuable things to 9 00:00:57,040 --> 00:01:01,440 bring to the table and it's really cool because I just feel 10 00:01:01,440 --> 00:01:04,400 like there's so much synchronicity with this guest. 11 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:07,200 So I'm looking forward to having them on the podcast. 12 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:10,320 Yeah. And it's somebody who like I 13 00:01:10,320 --> 00:01:14,680 don't know what personally that that you know, that I have 14 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:18,520 followed and I've kind of seen their journey a little bit and 15 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:21,600 so I'm really excited to get to meet them and talk to them and 16 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,120 learn about them. I know I'm really looking 17 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:28,040 forward to it. I feel like in the podcast we 18 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:30,200 have done a lot of different waves of stuff. 19 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:32,520 Whether it was like in the beginning, we thought it would 20 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:36,760 be geared towards guest. But the thing that I love the 21 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:41,200 most about our podcast is so many people will say that when 22 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:44,160 they turn on our podcast, it doesn't feel forced. 23 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:47,360 It's in flow. They feel like they're actually 24 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:50,240 in the room having a conversation with us. 25 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:54,440 And I think that's such a beautiful compliment because I 26 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:57,840 know that as a creator, it's easy to be like, well, I did 27 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:01,960 that first, or I feel like they're taking my idea. 28 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:05,280 But The thing is, it's like if you do it well and you do it 29 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:08,800 right, no other person can mimic that. 30 00:02:09,199 --> 00:02:12,280 And I think that that's why we want to continue switching 31 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:16,040 things up so that we don't get boxed in with our podcast. 32 00:02:17,350 --> 00:02:19,910 Well, you know, we've talked about it before, but we're 33 00:02:19,990 --> 00:02:22,990 constantly evolving things that we're doing, how we do our 34 00:02:22,990 --> 00:02:26,750 content, how we show up for ourselves and the way that we 35 00:02:26,750 --> 00:02:30,630 are evolving our brand too. So the podcast reflecting that 36 00:02:30,870 --> 00:02:33,870 just makes so much sense and I think it helps people so much to 37 00:02:33,870 --> 00:02:37,510 not feel like they're stuck in this like, but is it a linear 38 00:02:37,510 --> 00:02:40,670 cycle where it's just is completely the same over and 39 00:02:40,670 --> 00:02:43,590 over and over again. It doesn't feel like Groundhog's 40 00:02:43,590 --> 00:02:45,270 Day. We're like, told you we were 41 00:02:45,270 --> 00:02:47,230 doing this, but actually we're going to be switching it up and 42 00:02:47,230 --> 00:02:49,070 doing this, said we weren't going to have guests on, but 43 00:02:49,070 --> 00:02:50,950 guess what? We're evolving and making an 44 00:02:50,950 --> 00:02:55,380 exception. And I feel like as you grow, the 45 00:02:55,380 --> 00:02:59,220 dynamic of your brand or your offerings should also 46 00:02:59,220 --> 00:03:03,460 continuously grow. Like no one's going to want to 47 00:03:03,460 --> 00:03:07,100 subscribe to your content if you're just regurgitating things 48 00:03:07,380 --> 00:03:09,900 that they've seen 20 other places. 49 00:03:10,220 --> 00:03:14,620 And I know here recently the universe has really been testing 50 00:03:15,740 --> 00:03:20,420 just kind of my patience when it comes to certain situations, and 51 00:03:20,420 --> 00:03:25,270 I feel like that. Pouring into this brand and into 52 00:03:25,270 --> 00:03:29,830 our own cups has helped them overflow into the community that 53 00:03:29,830 --> 00:03:33,590 we've created with the Full Moon Circles and different stuff like 54 00:03:33,590 --> 00:03:35,910 that. We're all here having a 55 00:03:35,910 --> 00:03:39,720 collective experience. So don't let the fact that 56 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:43,680 someone else is doing something discourage you from trying it. 57 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:47,480 But know when to say no, that's not for me. 58 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:51,280 Or no, that doesn't really fit. Because here lately I've been 59 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:55,600 seeing a lot of people do stuff that's just it doesn't work and 60 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:58,080 it doesn't fit. And it's almost like a train 61 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:01,800 wreck, like you have to watch it because it's a hot fucking mess. 62 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:04,160 But you can tell their heart isn't in it. 63 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:07,800 You can tell that their confidence isn't in it. 64 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:12,520 And it's painful when I see people trying to fit into a box 65 00:04:12,840 --> 00:04:18,120 that's not their box. I also think, too, that people 66 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:21,040 can get so focused on that I have to be different. 67 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:24,560 And so yes, if you see somebody doing something that you're 68 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:26,600 like, wow, I love that. Like, I'd like to give that a 69 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,240 try. But they're already doing it. 70 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:31,320 You're going to come at it with your own spice and your own 71 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:34,640 flavor anyways. So stopping yourself from going 72 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:37,560 in a direction that you want to go in simply because somebody 73 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:40,120 else already doing that. We wouldn't have started a 74 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:43,880 podcast if we were like, oh, but you know, other people that are 75 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:46,080 inspirations to us have podcasts. 76 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:49,600 We just have to figure out our own unique niche with it. 77 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:53,440 And when you go into things not going well, I have to find out 78 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:56,240 the way that, like, I'm going to be unique about it and you just 79 00:04:56,240 --> 00:04:58,320 go in the way that you are led to do it. 80 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:01,960 You end up finding your own uniqueness and your own creative 81 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:05,320 passion ends up being able to flow through because you're not 82 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:09,130 overthinking or over criticizing yourself. 83 00:05:09,930 --> 00:05:14,970 And most of the time when you're asking people for, like, advice 84 00:05:14,970 --> 00:05:18,690 or permission, or you're looking around for other people to lead 85 00:05:18,690 --> 00:05:21,930 you in a direction, you're going to be doing something that your 86 00:05:21,930 --> 00:05:25,450 heart's not really in. And my favorite thing is like, 87 00:05:25,450 --> 00:05:29,450 Oh well, they have a podcast and it seems to be working for them. 88 00:05:29,690 --> 00:05:33,450 So I'm going to start a podcast and then you start putting in 89 00:05:33,450 --> 00:05:38,470 the work and you can tell. In your voice, in your actions, 90 00:05:38,470 --> 00:05:41,790 in your demeanor that, like, your heart's not into it. 91 00:05:42,110 --> 00:05:46,150 And that's what sets aside the creatives, the artists, the 92 00:05:46,150 --> 00:05:50,790 musicians, the models, whatever it is that actually succeed. 93 00:05:50,990 --> 00:05:53,750 No, they may not be the prettiest or most talented 94 00:05:53,750 --> 00:05:56,870 person, but they're the one putting in work. 95 00:05:56,910 --> 00:05:58,470 They're the one staying consistent. 96 00:05:58,470 --> 00:06:02,670 They're the one doing what they want to do and how they want to 97 00:06:02,670 --> 00:06:04,420 do it. Been here lately. 98 00:06:04,420 --> 00:06:07,500 I know the universe has been putting in a lot of, like, 99 00:06:08,140 --> 00:06:10,340 triggers. Like, oh, it doesn't upset you 100 00:06:10,340 --> 00:06:13,940 that this person literally took your whole brand and is running 101 00:06:13,940 --> 00:06:15,900 with it? No, not really. 102 00:06:15,900 --> 00:06:18,380 Because at the end of the day, like, that, person's not going 103 00:06:18,380 --> 00:06:22,220 to get very far. Basing their entire identity or 104 00:06:22,220 --> 00:06:26,180 brand on something stolen or something foreign outside of 105 00:06:26,180 --> 00:06:27,940 them. The people that are most 106 00:06:27,940 --> 00:06:31,780 successful are not the ones that are the most talented or have 107 00:06:31,780 --> 00:06:34,940 the most money though. They're the ones that just stay 108 00:06:34,940 --> 00:06:40,180 consistent and just go for it. And I think that's what the. 109 00:06:40,640 --> 00:06:44,120 Podcast is for me is like, it's something that we didn't know 110 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:48,320 how it would evolve, but instead of boxing it in, we've just 111 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:52,960 gradually let it develop its own personality, which it feels 112 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:56,480 really good to hear people say, like, I really feel like I'm in 113 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:59,240 the room with you all. Like you create a safe space 114 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:02,640 that is inviting and welcoming. You know, there's sometimes you 115 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:05,680 listen to stuff or you hear something online and it sticks 116 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:07,760 with you. And that's what I want this 117 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:12,280 podcast to be. I agree with you and I love we 118 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:15,160 get group messages from people too, who will send us like, 119 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:17,800 group messages on Facebook or I'll send us like texts or 120 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:21,360 something like that and just be like, wow, this episode this 121 00:07:21,360 --> 00:07:23,320 week, like this is what I'm taking out of it. 122 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:27,600 We had somebody who shout out. Melissa literally sent us 123 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:31,960 pictures of her notebook writing down notes that she had from an 124 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:35,080 episode that we did and was like, wow, I really do need to 125 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:38,120 work on like, my boundaries and expectations of those around me. 126 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:41,280 And these are all of the Nuggets that I'm taking away from you. 127 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:45,920 And somebody tagged us in an Instagram story recently and it 128 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:49,080 said something like I was listening to the new episode of 129 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:52,680 Lollipop and Gemini said nobody's going to run game the 130 00:07:52,680 --> 00:07:55,440 way that we run it or something. She's like, I'm not just stuck 131 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:59,440 with me. And it's so interesting, I think 132 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:04,500 for both of us to see what you guys take out of the episodes 133 00:08:04,500 --> 00:08:06,980 because we just talked to each other back and forth. 134 00:08:06,980 --> 00:08:09,900 Like these are conversations that you and I have behind the 135 00:08:09,900 --> 00:08:13,460 scenes just naturally. And then for other people to 136 00:08:13,460 --> 00:08:15,940 take little Nuggets out of it. I'm always like, oh, that's what 137 00:08:15,940 --> 00:08:18,260 stuck with you out of that. Okay, interesting. 138 00:08:19,020 --> 00:08:22,620 My favorite about the notebook is when she sent the notebook 139 00:08:22,620 --> 00:08:25,380 paper. I zoomed in, and she quoted real 140 00:08:25,420 --> 00:08:29,130 G's move in silence. And I literally got that from a 141 00:08:29,130 --> 00:08:33,010 little Wayne song, he says. Real G's move in silence, like 142 00:08:33,010 --> 00:08:38,370 lasagna, and it just, it's a little Wayne lyric, but it is 143 00:08:38,370 --> 00:08:42,490 definitely in the 10 commandments of life because you 144 00:08:42,490 --> 00:08:47,290 never see the person who really has it going on needing to tell 145 00:08:47,290 --> 00:08:50,530 everyone. It's people like Elon Musk who, 146 00:08:50,530 --> 00:08:54,010 like, have it all but still need to be in your face because 147 00:08:54,010 --> 00:08:56,950 they're miserable. Like those are the people you 148 00:08:56,950 --> 00:08:58,910 need to look at and take notes from. 149 00:08:59,150 --> 00:09:02,750 They have accumulated more wealth than anyone on this 150 00:09:02,750 --> 00:09:07,150 continent or on this fucking planet, and they are still so 151 00:09:07,150 --> 00:09:10,870 old, so miserable and so just toxic. 152 00:09:11,230 --> 00:09:15,510 Nothing about what you have is going to change who you are on a 153 00:09:15,510 --> 00:09:20,560 true level and being a G. Means that you stick to the code 154 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:24,000 and you don't need to go out and tell everyone the fucking code. 155 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:28,880 You keep it low and you work with what you have and you build 156 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:32,320 from where you are. And to me, a lot of people could 157 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:38,080 take note on that because no one cares what you're wearing, what 158 00:09:38,080 --> 00:09:41,760 you paid for it, what you're doing, etcetera, if your impact 159 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:48,200 does not withstand your persona. You're going to fade out. 160 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:52,000 I mean, look at the artists that come in and out of Hollywood and 161 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:54,840 they will be relevant for a swift 30 minutes. 162 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:57,320 And then after that, who the fuck is that? 163 00:09:57,320 --> 00:10:00,040 You know what I mean? It's kind of like that song. 164 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:03,200 And this is so funny because you would have to be in this age 165 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:06,240 group to know what it is. But that Beautiful Girls song by 166 00:10:06,240 --> 00:10:09,840 Sean Kingston? Everybody knows that beautiful 167 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:13,520 girl. Yeah, everyone knows that song, 168 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:15,720 but where the fuck is Sean Kingston? 169 00:10:16,060 --> 00:10:19,700 You know what I mean? Like, he had a minor impact in 170 00:10:19,700 --> 00:10:23,020 an era where it's like, yeah, you know, that one thing he did, 171 00:10:23,020 --> 00:10:26,140 but what does he do now? He could have literally donated 172 00:10:26,140 --> 00:10:30,860 his liver and did a kidney transplant and saved someone. 173 00:10:31,020 --> 00:10:35,010 You wouldn't know because. People fit the narrative for a 174 00:10:35,010 --> 00:10:38,290 short amount of time before you forget about them. 175 00:10:38,730 --> 00:10:42,850 And I think the one important thing that I want is I want to 176 00:10:42,850 --> 00:10:46,930 be like a household name that like down the road you're still 177 00:10:46,930 --> 00:10:49,370 understanding or still processing something that we 178 00:10:49,370 --> 00:10:53,450 said on the podcast or you're still applying that information. 179 00:10:53,770 --> 00:10:57,450 I don't want to be like the current event list, that just 180 00:10:57,450 --> 00:11:00,530 regurgitates what's important what we are supposed to be 181 00:11:00,530 --> 00:11:03,790 thinking about. And then move on, because you're 182 00:11:03,790 --> 00:11:06,710 going to easily forget about it. It's just going to go in one ear 183 00:11:06,710 --> 00:11:08,710 and out the other. And that's what I see. 184 00:11:08,710 --> 00:11:12,470 When people are making music or content or a podcast and their 185 00:11:12,470 --> 00:11:15,710 heart isn't in it. You can tell it's so fucking 186 00:11:15,710 --> 00:11:17,470 forced. It's cringy to watch. 187 00:11:17,470 --> 00:11:21,070 It's painful to sit through. You can see that on people who 188 00:11:21,070 --> 00:11:24,230 are being interviewed. Who have never been interviewed 189 00:11:24,230 --> 00:11:27,230 before. You can see their growth from 190 00:11:27,230 --> 00:11:30,190 the beginning to the end. And that's where I want people 191 00:11:30,190 --> 00:11:32,910 to realize is like, we're growing with you. 192 00:11:32,910 --> 00:11:35,030 We're in the middle. We're in the thick of it. 193 00:11:35,270 --> 00:11:38,470 We're not portraying to be something that we're really not, 194 00:11:38,470 --> 00:11:41,750 though. So I have two things to say 195 00:11:41,750 --> 00:11:46,720 because, well, I guess it's so we were talking about you know, 196 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:50,280 moving in silence, right. But then also sharing our growth 197 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:53,320 publicly. And so I've had to really kind 198 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:57,240 of find my sweet spot with things because I built my 199 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:02,600 platforms being and my Patreon and stuff being super authentic 200 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:04,480 about like this idea is coming in. 201 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:06,360 I'm going to try and make this goal happen. 202 00:12:06,560 --> 00:12:08,440 I'm going to try and do this. I'm working for this. 203 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:13,930 These are the ways that I'm navigating and it put a lot of 204 00:12:13,930 --> 00:12:17,610 pressure on me because now I have spoken it out to people, so 205 00:12:17,610 --> 00:12:19,090 now people know that it's going to happen. 206 00:12:19,370 --> 00:12:21,450 And also things are always evolving. 207 00:12:21,450 --> 00:12:25,530 So if you share for me personally, if I share all of 208 00:12:25,530 --> 00:12:28,370 the ideas and things that are going to be unfolding, if 209 00:12:28,370 --> 00:12:32,890 something falls through, then now you have put it out there 210 00:12:32,890 --> 00:12:35,170 publicly. So people are expecting this 211 00:12:35,170 --> 00:12:38,290 thing to happen and then when it doesn't happen, there's not 212 00:12:38,290 --> 00:12:42,950 always this grace for well, things naturally, you know, 213 00:12:42,950 --> 00:12:47,910 unfold and in this way then public can turn it into so 214 00:12:47,910 --> 00:12:51,670 something bad happened. So like an example, I was 215 00:12:51,670 --> 00:12:56,030 publicly talking about my podcast Boxes for Covenant 216 00:12:56,030 --> 00:12:58,790 Rejects and and partnering with a different shop for it, with 217 00:12:58,790 --> 00:13:03,220 this girl shop and and we were both really excited about it and 218 00:13:03,220 --> 00:13:06,540 we both put it on our platforms. But then after we talked about 219 00:13:06,540 --> 00:13:10,220 the cost of it, both of us are like, wow, that's like a big 220 00:13:10,220 --> 00:13:12,740 financial investment. Now that we're actually breaking 221 00:13:12,740 --> 00:13:15,180 it down and starting to put it together, we'll go in a 222 00:13:15,180 --> 00:13:18,220 different direction. But publicly it looks like we 223 00:13:18,220 --> 00:13:20,620 could have had a fallout. Something isn't happening with 224 00:13:20,620 --> 00:13:22,420 this box. It's different. 225 00:13:22,820 --> 00:13:28,240 And had we just held on to that idea and talked behind the 226 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:32,080 scenes and figured out all of the details before publicizing 227 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:35,920 it, it would just be different. And so I think that people 228 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:39,760 finding like find your happy balance with, yes, you're 229 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:43,480 sharing things and you're being authentic, but also you are 230 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:47,960 forming your complete thoughts. You are having a complete plan 231 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:52,930 that you have already started executing and you know how that 232 00:13:52,930 --> 00:13:55,770 flow is going to be before you're putting it out there. 233 00:13:55,770 --> 00:13:59,570 And this goes, you know, we you and I talk a lot about like 234 00:13:59,570 --> 00:14:01,530 business things like making business moves. 235 00:14:01,530 --> 00:14:04,330 So that's a business move. But even in your real life, if 236 00:14:04,330 --> 00:14:08,210 you tell you know your parents that you're going to be going to 237 00:14:08,210 --> 00:14:12,370 school for your master's degree in a BC&D, but then turns out 238 00:14:12,370 --> 00:14:14,810 that you can't actually get into that program because of 239 00:14:14,810 --> 00:14:19,610 whatever, well, now you've got some kind of emotion, energy, 240 00:14:19,610 --> 00:14:23,170 negativity, whatever put on to you, because now you're not 241 00:14:23,170 --> 00:14:26,410 following through on a goal when maybe it's not even your fault 242 00:14:26,410 --> 00:14:29,810 you can't follow through on it. I think that there's a big 243 00:14:29,810 --> 00:14:33,690 difference between speaking intentions to the world and then 244 00:14:33,690 --> 00:14:39,490 maybe oversharing, because I always. 245 00:14:40,020 --> 00:14:42,420 Always want to encourage people to put their intentions out 246 00:14:42,420 --> 00:14:44,500 there, because the more you talk about it, the more you tell 247 00:14:44,500 --> 00:14:47,780 people about it, the more that you put it into the universe. 248 00:14:47,780 --> 00:14:50,860 Verbally, intentionally, spiritually, whatever. 249 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:53,760 It's going to come to life in a different way. 250 00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:57,640 But I think that to add on what Jim and I is saying is like be 251 00:14:57,640 --> 00:15:01,360 flexible with how that's going to come to life because you may 252 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:06,080 say something and be rigidly holding yourself to some crazy 253 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,960 expectation that's not realistic. 254 00:15:09,200 --> 00:15:12,440 You know, of course we want to do certain things for our brands 255 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,320 or we want to do certain things for our family or our friends. 256 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:19,440 But be realistic. You know if you know that you 257 00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:23,920 are not super creative, but you want to throw a party for your 258 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:26,320 kid and you want to make it look like this Pinterest. 259 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:29,480 Party. Be realistic on how much of that 260 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:33,000 you're going to be able to do yourself because there are do it 261 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:36,840 all moms that can just literally look at a picture and do it. 262 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:38,600 And I have a friend just like that. 263 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:42,280 Like her daughter every year picks this crazy Halloween 264 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:44,520 costume. Like she'll be like I want to be 265 00:15:44,520 --> 00:15:48,960 Billie Eilish at the ACMA awards and like the outfit. 266 00:15:48,960 --> 00:15:52,040 Like that's what she wants to be like the most random things. 267 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:55,000 And this is a this is a true statement and my friend. 268 00:15:55,410 --> 00:16:00,290 Will literally order whatever it is and paint it, make it sew it. 269 00:16:00,290 --> 00:16:03,130 It doesn't even matter. She does it and she's so 270 00:16:03,130 --> 00:16:06,210 talented with it. But when I told her, like, you 271 00:16:06,210 --> 00:16:09,770 should take some of these ideas and like, start an Etsy, you can 272 00:16:09,770 --> 00:16:14,090 literally have an art store. That isn't her thing. 273 00:16:14,370 --> 00:16:16,610 She's like, I don't want to do marketing, I don't want to do 274 00:16:16,610 --> 00:16:18,690 social media, I don't want to do promotion. 275 00:16:18,850 --> 00:16:23,010 She has all of these beautiful talents, but she doesn't utilize 276 00:16:23,010 --> 00:16:25,430 those for the public. And that's Okay. 277 00:16:25,430 --> 00:16:27,750 That doesn't make her any less talented. 278 00:16:28,030 --> 00:16:31,310 Honestly, whenever I ask her to paint me stuff, she's like, oh, 279 00:16:31,310 --> 00:16:34,110 I got you when she could literally be charging. 280 00:16:34,110 --> 00:16:37,630 You know what I mean? But it's like, I don't talk shit 281 00:16:37,630 --> 00:16:40,030 to her or say like, you're not doing it right because you're 282 00:16:40,030 --> 00:16:44,070 not capitalizing on your gifts because that's her way of using 283 00:16:44,070 --> 00:16:45,390 them. She likes to make things for 284 00:16:45,390 --> 00:16:48,230 friends and family. She doesn't want to make it for 285 00:16:48,230 --> 00:16:51,670 Betty Sue in Idaho. You know she wants to have. 286 00:16:52,250 --> 00:16:55,050 The stuff that she wants to do, and that's the way she wants to 287 00:16:55,050 --> 00:16:57,290 do it. And I think that like with the 288 00:16:57,330 --> 00:17:01,570 Internet, it seems like it's easy to start a business or that 289 00:17:01,570 --> 00:17:05,329 it's easy to promote yourself or it's easy to do XYZ. 290 00:17:05,569 --> 00:17:09,210 But when you turn into, you know the person who's doing the 291 00:17:09,210 --> 00:17:12,609 financials that the investor, you're the face of the brand, 292 00:17:12,609 --> 00:17:15,810 you're doing all the marketing, you're doing all of the social 293 00:17:15,810 --> 00:17:19,220 media like. There's a lot that adds into 294 00:17:19,220 --> 00:17:21,260 that. And I just think that being more 295 00:17:21,260 --> 00:17:25,300 realistic with your goals and what you can physically 296 00:17:25,300 --> 00:17:28,860 accomplish on your own, rather than putting all kinds of 297 00:17:28,860 --> 00:17:31,980 imaginary pressure on yourself, that really drains your 298 00:17:31,980 --> 00:17:34,460 inspiration. And that's what I've told people 299 00:17:34,460 --> 00:17:39,980 before, like I would do XYZ if I had someone to help me do it. 300 00:17:40,220 --> 00:17:42,980 But whenever I have to physically get my hands in the 301 00:17:42,980 --> 00:17:47,300 mud and do everything from start to fish finish, I'm not. 302 00:17:47,380 --> 00:17:49,860 That is inspired. I don't feel as sexy and 303 00:17:49,860 --> 00:17:54,220 creative when I'm doing that. But when you're a small business 304 00:17:54,220 --> 00:17:56,940 or you're a small creator, you make things like that work. 305 00:17:57,300 --> 00:17:59,500 So I just want to remind everyone that, like, if you're a 306 00:17:59,500 --> 00:18:03,700 go getter and you have major goals, there is a methodical way 307 00:18:03,700 --> 00:18:09,020 to do that and you don't have to be all in right now to show your 308 00:18:09,020 --> 00:18:12,180 commitment to the universe. Like you could literally don't, 309 00:18:12,180 --> 00:18:15,860 like just do like an hour or two a day and still receive the 310 00:18:15,860 --> 00:18:18,900 rewards that someone who's doing. 10 hours a day is getting 311 00:18:19,380 --> 00:18:22,860 because you're setting the frequency and you're matching 312 00:18:22,860 --> 00:18:25,380 that vibration that you want to attract. 313 00:18:25,660 --> 00:18:30,220 So know that it's about 90% of your energy and about 10% of 314 00:18:30,220 --> 00:18:32,500 your actions. It's going to equate the results 315 00:18:32,500 --> 00:18:38,610 that you're actually getting and small bits of effort get you to 316 00:18:38,610 --> 00:18:42,010 the finish line faster than putting forth a whole bunch of 317 00:18:42,010 --> 00:18:45,450 effort and then exhausting yourself and not being able to 318 00:18:45,450 --> 00:18:48,410 continue on. And I know that that is a huge 319 00:18:48,410 --> 00:18:50,730 lesson that you've helped me with since we started the 320 00:18:50,730 --> 00:18:54,650 podcast, and it it's helped in a bunch of areas in my life is 321 00:18:55,930 --> 00:19:01,970 picking out smaller goals for myself and then resting in 322 00:19:01,970 --> 00:19:06,490 between things instead of having these large goals and never 323 00:19:06,490 --> 00:19:09,250 actually resting. Overworking yourself isn't 324 00:19:09,250 --> 00:19:11,090 working. Overworking yourself is 325 00:19:11,290 --> 00:19:14,690 exhausting yourself and then having to take all of these 326 00:19:14,930 --> 00:19:18,770 frequent, really long breaks because you're completely burnt 327 00:19:18,770 --> 00:19:21,530 out. And especially to anybody who 328 00:19:21,530 --> 00:19:26,250 has, like, I know that for me like having an underlying 329 00:19:26,250 --> 00:19:32,900 medical thing too. I used to work myself too hard 330 00:19:32,900 --> 00:19:35,220 because Oh well, I'm feeling good right now. 331 00:19:35,420 --> 00:19:38,940 And then I would exhaust it and then be sick and have to take 332 00:19:38,940 --> 00:19:44,860 weeks off and be frustrated. And you again showed me that 333 00:19:45,020 --> 00:19:48,260 having smaller goals and seeing them through and resting myself 334 00:19:48,540 --> 00:19:53,580 ends up making more sense in the long wise and physically feels a 335 00:19:53,580 --> 00:19:56,870 whole lot better. Yeah, and I think that as 336 00:19:56,870 --> 00:20:00,430 humans, I call them utopian goals. 337 00:20:00,790 --> 00:20:03,670 Like we have all of these utopian goals. 338 00:20:03,670 --> 00:20:08,270 Like I can get all of this laundry done, like unrealistic 339 00:20:08,270 --> 00:20:13,030 goals for ourselves, and then we are upset when we don't meet 340 00:20:13,030 --> 00:20:19,110 those expectations or goals, which truly creates a energy of 341 00:20:19,110 --> 00:20:22,590 lack. Or an energy of, you know, not 342 00:20:22,590 --> 00:20:26,230 feeling good enough or not feeling inspired, which attracts 343 00:20:26,230 --> 00:20:30,150 more of that. So it's like, I like to reward 344 00:20:30,150 --> 00:20:32,070 myself. Like it could literally be like, 345 00:20:32,070 --> 00:20:35,190 I got up, I made coffee and I cleaned the coffee pot 346 00:20:35,190 --> 00:20:37,710 afterwards. Like I got everything ready, 347 00:20:37,710 --> 00:20:41,030 cleaned up the counter. That's a fucking goal because 348 00:20:41,510 --> 00:20:45,350 92% people just got in their car and drove through a drive 349 00:20:45,350 --> 00:20:49,030 through and created plastic waste and trash that didn't need 350 00:20:49,030 --> 00:20:51,230 to be created because they didn't want to make their own 351 00:20:51,230 --> 00:20:53,930 coffee. And it's fine if you drink 352 00:20:53,930 --> 00:20:56,730 plastic cups out of every day or whatever, like I'm. 353 00:20:56,970 --> 00:21:00,410 I'm currently drinking to go coffee and you can suck my Dick. 354 00:21:00,450 --> 00:21:04,250 It was very early when I had to take my kid to school. 355 00:21:04,250 --> 00:21:06,330 It was raining, I didn't have time for coffee. 356 00:21:06,330 --> 00:21:08,770 And I you know what? It's not plastic, It's 357 00:21:08,770 --> 00:21:12,330 cardboard. The lid says recyclable. 358 00:21:12,330 --> 00:21:16,930 It's got little leaves on it and you know, coffee is coffee. 359 00:21:17,010 --> 00:21:19,290 You don't have to judge. I'm not judging. 360 00:21:19,290 --> 00:21:23,170 But I'm saying like how often do you celebrate the fact that you 361 00:21:23,170 --> 00:21:25,130 got up and made coffee? You don't. 362 00:21:25,330 --> 00:21:28,450 You don't at all. The fact is, is like, you may go 363 00:21:28,450 --> 00:21:30,410 through the drop through and feel like you're rewarding 364 00:21:30,410 --> 00:21:33,050 yourself, but what about when you got about a bed and made 365 00:21:33,050 --> 00:21:36,410 coffee too is what I'm saying. Like doesn't matter which way 366 00:21:36,410 --> 00:21:38,450 you do it? Some people hit Starbucks 17 367 00:21:38,450 --> 00:21:40,570 times a week, and that's your prerogative. 368 00:21:40,930 --> 00:21:45,620 But do you celebrate those little actions? 369 00:21:45,620 --> 00:21:49,420 Like, I got up and I scooped the litter box and I made some 370 00:21:49,420 --> 00:21:53,140 coffee and I brushed my teeth and made my bed. 371 00:21:53,380 --> 00:21:55,740 Most people like that's just normal stuff I have to do. 372 00:21:55,860 --> 00:21:58,940 No, baby, that's human stuff that you don't actually have to 373 00:21:58,940 --> 00:22:01,900 do it because there's a lot of people who don't at all. 374 00:22:01,940 --> 00:22:06,390 And they become very unhappy because your environment is a 375 00:22:06,390 --> 00:22:09,030 reflection of your own energy. And what I'm saying is, 376 00:22:09,190 --> 00:22:13,350 celebrate those little tasks that you do rather than only 377 00:22:13,350 --> 00:22:18,310 rewarding these big, tiresome, worrisome type task. 378 00:22:18,990 --> 00:22:21,710 Look at the little things that you've done today, whether it 379 00:22:21,710 --> 00:22:24,670 was like okay, I cut the grass, took the dog out, I got the 380 00:22:24,670 --> 00:22:26,430 mail. All of that is stuff that you 381 00:22:26,430 --> 00:22:31,390 should be celebrating instead of making these large utopian goals 382 00:22:31,710 --> 00:22:35,390 that are the only ones that you've deemed worthy of 383 00:22:35,390 --> 00:22:37,750 celebration. It could literally be like you 384 00:22:37,750 --> 00:22:41,510 washed your hair and washed your ass today and that's something 385 00:22:41,510 --> 00:22:45,150 to celebrate. I actually really do agree with 386 00:22:45,150 --> 00:22:49,130 that and. Especially people who are out of 387 00:22:49,130 --> 00:22:52,090 their homes a lot. I feel like when you come back 388 00:22:52,090 --> 00:22:55,810 and you're exhausted after like a day of work or whatever, then 389 00:22:55,890 --> 00:22:57,930 you know, you fill the dishwasher and you're like, oh, 390 00:22:57,930 --> 00:23:01,130 like I didn't vacuum today. I don't, I don't ever have the 391 00:23:01,130 --> 00:23:03,850 time to like keep my house clean or whatever it is. 392 00:23:04,290 --> 00:23:06,730 Well, you just filled up the dishwasher after you just had a 393 00:23:06,730 --> 00:23:09,610 hella long day and then tomorrow maybe you're going to tackle 394 00:23:09,610 --> 00:23:12,050 vacuuming or whatever. So I agree with what you say, 395 00:23:12,050 --> 00:23:16,010 and I think that that can be motivating too for. 396 00:23:16,410 --> 00:23:19,570 Setting more small goals for yourself so that you can have 397 00:23:19,570 --> 00:23:22,810 that like feeling of accomplishment. 398 00:23:22,890 --> 00:23:29,050 And what's the word for when you like, not accomplishment, but 399 00:23:29,050 --> 00:23:32,530 when you're feeling like you've like made yourself proud. 400 00:23:46,530 --> 00:23:51,650 The fulfillment that you feel from doing the small task really 401 00:23:51,650 --> 00:23:56,050 will give you the momentum to elevate into those bigger task. 402 00:23:56,370 --> 00:23:59,890 Like, I love hyping myself up. Like, look at you doing the 403 00:23:59,890 --> 00:24:02,510 human stuff. Because I promise you there's so 404 00:24:02,510 --> 00:24:04,590 many people who are like, Nope, not cleaning. 405 00:24:04,750 --> 00:24:06,310 Nope. I'm going to live in fields. 406 00:24:06,550 --> 00:24:09,230 No, I'll stink. No, fuck those clothes. 407 00:24:09,230 --> 00:24:11,950 Like, you know what I mean? Like, we've all been behind 408 00:24:11,950 --> 00:24:14,910 someone at a theme park or wherever. 409 00:24:14,910 --> 00:24:19,710 That just is not of the par on their body conditions because 410 00:24:19,710 --> 00:24:21,550 they're just neglecting themselves. 411 00:24:21,910 --> 00:24:25,750 And that's because they see things like taking care of 412 00:24:25,750 --> 00:24:30,110 themselves as a task, rather than something that you are out 413 00:24:30,110 --> 00:24:35,210 like rewarding yourself for. Eww. 414 00:24:35,370 --> 00:24:38,490 And then they're washing their dirty fucking coochie in the 415 00:24:38,490 --> 00:24:42,010 water that all the children are waiting in because they can't 416 00:24:42,010 --> 00:24:44,290 just go home and scrub their butt holes with some soap. 417 00:24:44,610 --> 00:24:47,770 I'm not here for it. That analogy just gave me mental 418 00:24:47,770 --> 00:24:51,730 images. And people do be funky when I 419 00:24:51,730 --> 00:24:54,330 lived in Montana. They used to have the Rainbow 420 00:24:54,330 --> 00:24:56,730 Festival, which is like, I I guess it's like a hippie 421 00:24:56,730 --> 00:24:59,890 gathering. But I did cashiering and there 422 00:24:59,890 --> 00:25:04,730 would be people who would come through that line and smell like 423 00:25:04,810 --> 00:25:10,210 rotting corpses walking. And my mental mindset is just 424 00:25:10,210 --> 00:25:12,170 like you would see some of these women pregnant. 425 00:25:12,570 --> 00:25:17,770 And I'm like, so y'all are just combining your nasty, unwashed 426 00:25:17,770 --> 00:25:23,040 genitals reproducing life. With that shit like I just there 427 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:25,840 has to be something wrong with a baby that's formed out of filth. 428 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:32,200 That's all I'm saying. Honestly, I love that analogy, 429 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:36,520 because a dirty house actually will drain your bank account. 430 00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,640 Like they say, your bathroom is a reflection of your bank 431 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:44,000 account. And in Feng shui, the art of 432 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:46,960 Feng shui like setting your home up to be in flow. 433 00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:51,360 It's basically encouraging that you need to pull whatever's out 434 00:25:51,360 --> 00:25:54,680 in the corners, like monthly, and vacuum behind that. 435 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,360 That's a representation of your consciousness. 436 00:25:57,360 --> 00:26:00,400 If there's dust bunnies and little hairballs from the dogs 437 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:04,320 and cats floating around behind everything, that's a reflection 438 00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:08,400 of your internal world. And I think the car is also a 439 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:12,080 reflection of your external world, meaning that if you treat 440 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:16,240 your car poorly, like it's dirty inside and out, that's going to 441 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,920 be a reflection of what you're attracting into your life. 442 00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:21,080 Because the car represents movement. 443 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:23,400 Like, those are the moves that you're making, and they're not 444 00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:25,160 good. People are always like, Paige is 445 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:27,360 obsessed with her car. Paige won't do this. 446 00:26:27,360 --> 00:26:29,560 Paige won't do that. Yeah, because I used to have a 447 00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:32,480 car that I treated like shit. And every other day I was 448 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:34,600 getting in a Fender Bender, letting that thing run out of 449 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:38,640 gas like it did not matter. But then I look back, and that's 450 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:42,000 a reflection of how I was treating myself, running myself 451 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:45,280 on E, running myself down, treating myself poorly 452 00:26:45,700 --> 00:26:49,980 constantly on the go, but not taking care of my basic needs 453 00:26:49,980 --> 00:26:53,140 like an oil change or a car wash or vacuuming out your car, 454 00:26:53,140 --> 00:26:57,180 whatever it is. So I don't say these things as 455 00:26:57,180 --> 00:27:01,340 like, a judgment way because, like, I also used to treat my 456 00:27:01,340 --> 00:27:06,940 car poorly, but now I treat my car like a five star golden 457 00:27:06,940 --> 00:27:10,180 Princess because I want to be treated like a five star golden 458 00:27:10,180 --> 00:27:14,280 Princess, You know, Like I treat things as a reflection of how I 459 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:19,080 want to be treated. So now I constantly am making 460 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,080 sure that, like, my laundry is taken care of. 461 00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:24,920 Things are taken care of because when you walk past that dirty 462 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:29,760 pile of clothes, you are bringing in lower vibration into 463 00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:32,440 your life because you'll think I need to do that. 464 00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,440 I need to do that. I need to do that. 465 00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:37,440 Every time you think I need to do that, you could be thinking 466 00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:40,830 about something else in directing that energy outward 467 00:27:40,830 --> 00:27:44,270 into something more productive, rather than letting your 468 00:27:44,270 --> 00:27:47,230 subconscious just constantly remind you of all the things you 469 00:27:47,230 --> 00:27:50,110 need to do, but you have zero energy to do them. 470 00:27:51,390 --> 00:27:56,470 And I think that's why I ended up following your example of 471 00:27:56,910 --> 00:27:59,790 doing house cleaning of like having somebody come in that's 472 00:27:59,790 --> 00:28:02,550 able to help with house cleaning, whether it's done by 473 00:28:02,550 --> 00:28:05,470 trade or it's done by hiring somebody or whatever. 474 00:28:06,150 --> 00:28:10,580 I think that. If you're not able to do the 475 00:28:10,580 --> 00:28:14,060 things that you need to do in order to make sure that your 476 00:28:14,300 --> 00:28:17,300 mental health and your physical health feels good and you need 477 00:28:17,300 --> 00:28:20,300 to have somebody else come in and help with that. 478 00:28:20,420 --> 00:28:22,860 There's a reason that people I'm over here pointing with a 479 00:28:22,860 --> 00:28:26,100 Sharpie. There are reasons that there are 480 00:28:26,100 --> 00:28:29,580 people that do those types of jobs because they help people 481 00:28:29,860 --> 00:28:33,940 with those things. So for me it is more helpful for 482 00:28:33,940 --> 00:28:37,460 me to hire somebody to then make. 483 00:28:37,940 --> 00:28:40,900 My, you know, do the touch up, make sure there's not dust 484 00:28:40,900 --> 00:28:43,300 bunnies and things, Make sure that like, everything's 485 00:28:43,300 --> 00:28:45,660 sanitized in my house or whatever, things that maybe I 486 00:28:45,660 --> 00:28:49,860 can't get to. And I think we put this, well, I 487 00:28:49,860 --> 00:28:52,340 didn't do it myself, so I failed at it. 488 00:28:52,620 --> 00:28:57,260 As opposed to you reached out, you used a resource, you got 489 00:28:57,260 --> 00:29:00,660 help with something, you helped somebody else because now you 490 00:29:00,660 --> 00:29:04,940 put money or energy or whatever it is into their pocket to come 491 00:29:04,940 --> 00:29:07,700 and do something for you. And so it's still. 492 00:29:07,820 --> 00:29:09,580 Ends up being an energy rotation. 493 00:29:09,580 --> 00:29:14,420 You're still getting something done and helping not only 494 00:29:14,420 --> 00:29:17,300 yourself, but probably other people by doing that also. 495 00:29:18,220 --> 00:29:24,600 Yeah, and you actually step into your highest vibration when 496 00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:28,480 things are getting done, regardless of how they got done. 497 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:31,840 It's like, would you rather have wasted that energy yelling at 498 00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:35,600 your husband and kids and creating a, you know, a a 499 00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:39,280 turmoil situation in your home rather than just being like, you 500 00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:43,600 know what, my husband works, my kids at school and I can 501 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:48,080 personally take care of this without actually having to lift 502 00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,240 a finger. Why not utilize my energy and my 503 00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:55,200 time towards my craft or towards things that make me happy, that 504 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:59,680 bring in abundance, that I can recirculate to someone who does 505 00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:01,400 this. And that's what I always tell 506 00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:05,120 people like the average person. If you're really going to deep 507 00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,120 clean your house on a monthly basis, like that's seven to 10 508 00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:12,340 hours period, and that's excluding laundry, like that is 509 00:30:12,340 --> 00:30:15,180 just 7 to 10 hours. Like actually cleaning your 510 00:30:15,180 --> 00:30:18,100 bathrooms, actually cleaning and scrubbing the walls in the 511 00:30:18,100 --> 00:30:22,740 shower, like, is 7 to 10 hours a month something that's going to 512 00:30:22,740 --> 00:30:26,020 be doable or are you going to push it out to 30 minutes here 513 00:30:26,020 --> 00:30:28,100 and there? Because if you did that once a 514 00:30:28,100 --> 00:30:31,460 month, deep clean, you don't need to do a bunch of little 515 00:30:31,460 --> 00:30:34,620 stuff every week. It's just, you know, I'm in 516 00:30:34,620 --> 00:30:37,930 pickups, but it's like why not pay someone who does that for a 517 00:30:37,930 --> 00:30:40,130 living? Where it would normally take me 518 00:30:40,130 --> 00:30:46,850 10 hours, it takes them 3 1/2. Like the math is, there are six 519 00:30:46,850 --> 00:30:50,410 hours on the table that I can utilize for selfcare, for the 520 00:30:50,410 --> 00:30:55,290 gym, for my business, for a nap, for things that refill my cup. 521 00:30:55,850 --> 00:30:59,920 Meanwhile, I'm paying something, paying for something that makes 522 00:30:59,920 --> 00:31:02,320 my life easier. So now I'm putting food on 523 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:06,800 someone else's table because I'm circulating my abundance and I'm 524 00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,600 coming home to a clean house. It's a winwin. 525 00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:13,280 Like I got a home or a house cleaner like three years ago, 526 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,840 and I will never go back. Like I'm using a different 527 00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:19,640 cleaner now. But if you can find someone that 528 00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:23,760 you're on the same page with and that you can trust, it's worth 529 00:31:24,380 --> 00:31:27,740 $2030.00 an hour. Because I promise you, it does 530 00:31:27,740 --> 00:31:30,140 not matter. When you come home to a clean 531 00:31:30,140 --> 00:31:33,420 house that you did not clean, there is nothing like it. 532 00:31:33,420 --> 00:31:36,980 It's it's literally the most magnificent feeling when you 533 00:31:36,980 --> 00:31:39,820 come home and everything is taken care of. 534 00:31:42,460 --> 00:31:46,660 I yes. I didn't know what that felt 535 00:31:46,660 --> 00:31:47,500 like. Because. 536 00:31:47,500 --> 00:31:50,330 So when? We talked about it before, but 537 00:31:50,330 --> 00:31:53,410 like, when you told me that you had a house cleaner, my mind, 538 00:31:53,410 --> 00:31:56,130 right, because I've never known anybody that just had a house 539 00:31:56,130 --> 00:31:57,690 cleaner. Turns out after talking to 540 00:31:57,690 --> 00:32:00,090 people about house cleaners, more people have them than talk 541 00:32:00,090 --> 00:32:01,850 about it. But I just thought it was 542 00:32:01,850 --> 00:32:04,130 something bougie. And I was like, damn, like she 543 00:32:04,130 --> 00:32:06,450 has somebody go in and like, clean her house for her. 544 00:32:06,450 --> 00:32:09,490 Like, not that it was a judgment on you, because I thought that 545 00:32:09,490 --> 00:32:12,370 was fucking dope, but I was just thinking for myself, like, who 546 00:32:12,370 --> 00:32:15,210 would that bitch be having somebody like come in my house 547 00:32:15,210 --> 00:32:20,570 and clean it for me and it's. Amazing, I can't even tell you. 548 00:32:20,570 --> 00:32:24,170 Like looking at your stove and being like damn, somebody else 549 00:32:24,170 --> 00:32:26,730 really got the grease spots off that for me. 550 00:32:27,090 --> 00:32:31,450 Dang, you know that toilet is extra shiny. 551 00:32:31,450 --> 00:32:34,370 Wow, somebody else was able to Polish out that stain in my 552 00:32:34,370 --> 00:32:35,970 bathtub. Like what? 553 00:32:36,330 --> 00:32:39,850 It ends up being amazing. And you do you walk around your 554 00:32:39,850 --> 00:32:44,120 house and and? It's amazing to me the things 555 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:48,080 that I think would be clean until I see somebody 556 00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:50,880 professionally clean it and then I'm like, oh, that's what it's 557 00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:54,640 supposed to look like. Well, the thing for me is like 558 00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:59,360 when you grow up, depending on your mother, your father, 559 00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,720 whoever you lived with and how they clean is kind of what 560 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:04,370 you're taught. Like, you know what I mean? 561 00:33:04,370 --> 00:33:08,130 Like, to me, my dad, like cleaning for my dad is like 562 00:33:08,370 --> 00:33:10,970 running the vacuum cleaner and loading the dishwasher. 563 00:33:11,210 --> 00:33:13,850 Like, if those two things are good, he's good. 564 00:33:14,290 --> 00:33:18,090 But over time, he's one of those people that, like, he'll pay to 565 00:33:18,090 --> 00:33:20,850 get something redone, like get a bathroom redone. 566 00:33:21,290 --> 00:33:24,730 And then ten years go by and it looks exactly like it used to 567 00:33:24,730 --> 00:33:27,650 because he takes it as like, oh, it's clean. 568 00:33:27,850 --> 00:33:33,160 And then just gradually, gradually over time, gets dirty 569 00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:37,000 and empty again. And it's like, you can rip 570 00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:40,600 things out and start fresh every 10 years, but wouldn't it be 571 00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,000 nice if you just kept up the maintenance? 572 00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:46,960 Kind of like when you get a car? It blows my mind, people that 573 00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:49,360 are like, well, I just don't know how my tire blew out. 574 00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:53,320 Well, because you need a new tire six months ago or because, 575 00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:57,200 you know, you've patched that baby 14 times and now it's done. 576 00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:00,760 But the thing for me is, like, just as a female who doesn't 577 00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:04,610 want to have car issues, I pay attention to like what my tires 578 00:34:04,610 --> 00:34:07,290 look like or, you know, like I check them. 579 00:34:07,290 --> 00:34:09,250 Like I make sure there's no screws or nails. 580 00:34:09,250 --> 00:34:11,690 I'm not going to be out on the Expressway and check it when I'm 581 00:34:11,690 --> 00:34:13,969 on the side of the road. I'm going to check it from the 582 00:34:13,969 --> 00:34:17,130 comforts of my driveway. But a lot of people, it's just 583 00:34:17,130 --> 00:34:21,570 depending on what you're taught. Like my mom has blown several 584 00:34:21,570 --> 00:34:26,170 cars up in her lifetime. My dad prefers cars made before 585 00:34:26,170 --> 00:34:29,929 2000 because he likes an older vehicle and he takes care of 586 00:34:29,929 --> 00:34:32,530 them and they look new. But it's like there's two 587 00:34:32,530 --> 00:34:34,850 different kinds of people. The people that would rather 588 00:34:34,850 --> 00:34:37,810 just keep replacing it or the people who take care of it and 589 00:34:37,810 --> 00:34:40,969 make it last. And I feel like I'm in between 590 00:34:40,969 --> 00:34:43,610 that. Like I want things to be taken 591 00:34:43,610 --> 00:34:46,330 care of, but I also don't want to use them forever. 592 00:34:46,810 --> 00:34:50,969 But then again, I want to make sure that when I do rehome or 593 00:34:50,969 --> 00:34:53,170 get rid of something that it's still useful. 594 00:34:53,449 --> 00:34:55,880 Like, I don't just break it all the way down. 595 00:34:55,880 --> 00:34:59,000 And I feel like your home is going to be a reflection of how 596 00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:01,520 you treat yourself and your boundaries. 597 00:35:01,720 --> 00:35:05,000 Because if you allow yourself to sleep in the same sheets and 598 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:09,360 never wash your comforter and you know, running on thin never 599 00:35:09,360 --> 00:35:12,840 got clean socks, never got this and that, that's going to be 600 00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:15,040 your consciousness. You're going to be at work. 601 00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:18,760 Like, damn, I got mismatched socks on, I got this dirty, you 602 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:22,320 know, bra on or like whatever. And that's going to be a 603 00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:26,190 reflection of your energetic blueprint for that whole day. 604 00:35:26,430 --> 00:35:31,430 So it's like being prepared and being on top of your shit sets 605 00:35:31,430 --> 00:35:34,430 you up for success. Like those people in traffic on 606 00:35:34,430 --> 00:35:37,870 Monday that are like Russian. That's because they were up late 607 00:35:38,270 --> 00:35:40,630 and they didn't get any of their stuff ready for work. 608 00:35:40,630 --> 00:35:43,030 So now they're late and now they're mad at you and they're 609 00:35:43,030 --> 00:35:46,510 being asshole in traffic. Or, you know, the person that 610 00:35:46,510 --> 00:35:50,510 was on time, had a beautiful outfit on, had their coffee, 611 00:35:50,710 --> 00:35:53,510 wasn't late. Like, the energy is different 612 00:35:53,510 --> 00:35:57,950 than the Who's rushing in, missed the morning coffee, got a 613 00:35:57,950 --> 00:36:01,390 flat tire on the way. But all of that is truly a 614 00:36:01,390 --> 00:36:03,790 reflection of the energy they're putting out. 615 00:36:04,070 --> 00:36:07,190 So if you find yourself constantly having setbacks like 616 00:36:07,190 --> 00:36:10,190 that, like whether it's a flat tire or you're always running 617 00:36:10,190 --> 00:36:14,790 late or you're this and that, check your surroundings, how is 618 00:36:14,790 --> 00:36:18,190 that a reflection of what you're living and breathing in? 619 00:36:20,070 --> 00:36:24,070 And on the taking care of things that you have too. 620 00:36:24,070 --> 00:36:29,510 So my Nana and my mom have always been huge on teaching me 621 00:36:29,510 --> 00:36:33,110 that you respect and take care of the things that you already 622 00:36:33,110 --> 00:36:35,870 have. Even if it's an old version of 623 00:36:35,870 --> 00:36:38,270 something or it's a hand me down, whatever. 624 00:36:38,830 --> 00:36:42,750 A big one for me has been like furniture inside of our house. 625 00:36:42,750 --> 00:36:45,780 Because when. You know, my husband and I first 626 00:36:45,780 --> 00:36:48,740 got together and started getting our own places and whatnot 627 00:36:48,740 --> 00:36:51,940 because I've been with him since I was 19. 628 00:36:53,580 --> 00:36:56,060 All of our furniture was like hand me down furniture and I 629 00:36:56,060 --> 00:37:00,090 would make comments about like. I don't want to have like hand 630 00:37:00,090 --> 00:37:02,330 me down stuff. I want, you know, to have things 631 00:37:02,330 --> 00:37:05,090 that are new to me and new energy and whatever my mom would 632 00:37:05,090 --> 00:37:07,130 always be like. You have to appreciate the 633 00:37:07,130 --> 00:37:10,530 things that you have and that you have them, because that's 634 00:37:10,530 --> 00:37:13,770 when you get new things and when you learn how to appreciate the 635 00:37:13,770 --> 00:37:17,530 things, then you will have nice things for a longer period of 636 00:37:17,530 --> 00:37:19,450 time. Because even if you have 637 00:37:19,450 --> 00:37:22,250 something that's nice, if you're not appreciative of that thing, 638 00:37:22,490 --> 00:37:26,850 you will run it down and it will look used and old and. 639 00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:32,320 I've really lived by that and taught you know, Mac that too. 640 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:36,920 I won't replace the dresser that he has because one of the 641 00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:39,800 drawers is broken, but he always complaints about it. 642 00:37:40,180 --> 00:37:42,300 Always complaints about his drawer being broken instead of 643 00:37:42,300 --> 00:37:45,300 figuring out how to use the other four drawers when he has 644 00:37:45,420 --> 00:37:48,060 plenty of room in them. I'm not going to replace that 645 00:37:48,060 --> 00:37:50,780 for you until you have an appreciation for the fact that 646 00:37:50,780 --> 00:37:53,740 you have four working drawers. And if that means you don't get 647 00:37:53,740 --> 00:37:56,460 a new dresser until you're 16, well, you've still got a 648 00:37:56,460 --> 00:37:57,860 functional dresser. So go you. 649 00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:02,560 The thing for me is like, I have never had a matching bedroom 650 00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,520 suit. Like, I have never, even as a 651 00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,800 child, been taken to a furniture store and been like pick things 652 00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:10,040 out, ever. Never had anything that 653 00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:14,640 completely matched. And honestly, I think that 654 00:38:14,720 --> 00:38:18,520 people that are so caught up on aesthetics are normally not that 655 00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,400 fucking happy. Because I see these maximalist 656 00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:25,340 houses that are just beautifully decorated with things that they 657 00:38:25,340 --> 00:38:27,780 got at garage sales and estate sales. 658 00:38:28,140 --> 00:38:32,780 And I find that when you have the energy of like, I'm going to 659 00:38:32,780 --> 00:38:35,820 make this work, it's going to work for me and it's going to be 660 00:38:35,820 --> 00:38:39,540 great for what I need. The universe matches that. 661 00:38:39,540 --> 00:38:44,430 Like what you put out there truly has to be in alignment 662 00:38:44,430 --> 00:38:48,670 with what you want to attract. And focusing on the one thing 663 00:38:48,670 --> 00:38:52,670 that's not working versus focusing on the 95 things that 664 00:38:52,670 --> 00:38:54,470 do work. And that's what I tell my 665 00:38:54,470 --> 00:38:57,710 clients. How often do you think your 666 00:38:57,710 --> 00:39:00,840 lungs for breathing during this entire episode? 667 00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:04,080 Like, never once did you think, Oh my God, I need to breathe or 668 00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:06,560 I need to I need to think about breathing? 669 00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,360 No, you're just breathing. But did you ever think your 670 00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:10,920 lungs for that? No. 671 00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:13,720 But the first time you're sick or you're coughing or this or 672 00:39:13,720 --> 00:39:16,840 that, you're like, I just can't wait to feel better because 673 00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:20,600 you're only focused on the negative aspect that now you're 674 00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:23,080 sick. But if you honored your vessel 675 00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:26,400 throughout when you are healthy and when you are, you know, 676 00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:29,900 living your best life, you would have more days where you feel 677 00:39:29,900 --> 00:39:34,300 healthy and in alignment. And it's literally so much about 678 00:39:34,620 --> 00:39:39,220 what the people around you do. And a lot of our ancestors and 679 00:39:39,220 --> 00:39:44,460 our boomer mom and dads, they treated their shit like hell 680 00:39:44,620 --> 00:39:48,460 like a fucking garage sale and everything needed to be donated. 681 00:39:48,460 --> 00:39:50,660 They were just like, screw it, we're not treating ourselves 682 00:39:50,660 --> 00:39:53,140 well. We're going to work all the 683 00:39:53,140 --> 00:39:56,820 time, be drained, yell at our kids, and be mad at the world. 684 00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:02,600 And then we continue that cycle of neglecting our own personal 685 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:05,080 needs. And that's what I want to remind 686 00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:06,920 everyone. It's like when you neglect your 687 00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:11,400 car, you're neglecting yourself. When you neglect your duties, no 688 00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:14,640 matter how exhausted you are, you're neglecting yourself. 689 00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:17,880 And honestly, your environment is the reason that you're waking 690 00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:20,600 up tired. Like it would almost be better 691 00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:24,480 if you're exhausted all the time to stay up late and just. 692 00:40:24,820 --> 00:40:27,820 Completely knock out everything that you would need to do, like 693 00:40:27,820 --> 00:40:30,020 while your kids are asleep. Maybe you don't do it all in one 694 00:40:30,020 --> 00:40:34,980 night, but like knocking down the list of the core reasons 695 00:40:34,980 --> 00:40:38,780 that you're stressed can help you create an environment where 696 00:40:38,780 --> 00:40:43,930 you can be abundant. Yeah, that's why so many moms 697 00:40:43,930 --> 00:40:46,370 will talk about how they do clean up after their kids are 698 00:40:46,370 --> 00:40:50,450 asleep or whatever. And it's also, you know, if you 699 00:40:50,450 --> 00:40:54,450 are trying to do those things during the day, it's almost like 700 00:40:54,450 --> 00:40:57,490 you are going to just running yourself crazy because the 701 00:40:57,490 --> 00:41:00,410 messes are going to keep on piling up and whatever, as 702 00:41:00,410 --> 00:41:03,730 opposed to if everybody else is calm and sleeping. 703 00:41:03,730 --> 00:41:05,890 That can be. It doesn't even have to be 704 00:41:05,890 --> 00:41:08,130 considered a chore. I know that for me, if I do 705 00:41:08,130 --> 00:41:10,690 things when my kid is asleep, I can turn a show on while I'm 706 00:41:10,690 --> 00:41:11,890 doing it. I can listen. 707 00:41:11,970 --> 00:41:15,010 Listen to a podcast. I can, listen to a meditation. 708 00:41:15,010 --> 00:41:18,490 I can feel like I am doing something to recharge myself 709 00:41:18,770 --> 00:41:21,450 while also taking care of my space. 710 00:41:21,450 --> 00:41:25,850 So adjusting your mindset even while you're doing that too, 711 00:41:25,850 --> 00:41:28,420 instead of being like. And I'd like to be sitting on 712 00:41:28,420 --> 00:41:30,660 the couch right now, just finally being able to relax. 713 00:41:30,660 --> 00:41:33,740 But here I am doing, you know, the fucking dishes. 714 00:41:33,980 --> 00:41:36,500 Well, yeah, you get to do the dishes in silence. 715 00:41:36,500 --> 00:41:38,220 Your kid is asleep. You're going to wake up. 716 00:41:38,220 --> 00:41:39,660 Your kitchen's going to be clean in the morning. 717 00:41:39,660 --> 00:41:42,140 You're going to be so fucking happy when you walk downstairs 718 00:41:42,420 --> 00:41:44,620 or walk into your kitchen or whatever it is. 719 00:41:45,100 --> 00:41:48,820 I think you could all can look this up, but I think kitchens 720 00:41:48,820 --> 00:41:51,340 are the representation of your productivity. 721 00:41:51,780 --> 00:41:54,700 So if your kitchen's always a mess, I think it's something to 722 00:41:54,700 --> 00:41:57,660 do with productivity. But every room in your home 723 00:41:57,860 --> 00:42:01,580 represents something in reflection of your energy. 724 00:42:02,420 --> 00:42:05,860 And if you find yourself always tired, probably should look at 725 00:42:05,860 --> 00:42:08,980 like rotating your sheets and getting a new comforter, getting 726 00:42:08,980 --> 00:42:10,820 new pillows. You know these small 727 00:42:11,780 --> 00:42:13,620 investments? Like, I went and got two new 728 00:42:13,620 --> 00:42:15,780 pillows the other day. I did not need them, but they 729 00:42:15,780 --> 00:42:19,980 were 1799. For two pillows, you spend more 730 00:42:20,180 --> 00:42:23,620 at Starbucks or Chickfila than two new pillows. 731 00:42:24,130 --> 00:42:29,850 And I just think that we don't put our priorities in the places 732 00:42:29,850 --> 00:42:33,170 that benefit our mental construct. 733 00:42:33,170 --> 00:42:36,690 Not even just our mental health. Our physical and spiritual 734 00:42:36,730 --> 00:42:39,570 health is affected by our environment. 735 00:42:39,890 --> 00:42:42,730 Like, we all know someone who lives and feels. 736 00:42:42,730 --> 00:42:44,770 And when you go to their house, how you feel? 737 00:42:44,770 --> 00:42:46,810 You feel on edge. You feel like you can't sit 738 00:42:46,810 --> 00:42:48,290 down. You feel like there's nowhere to 739 00:42:48,290 --> 00:42:50,410 sit down. There's cups and glasses 740 00:42:50,410 --> 00:42:51,770 everywhere. You don't know what's clean, 741 00:42:51,770 --> 00:42:55,120 what's dirty. There's bugs, there's a smell. 742 00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:57,120 Whatever. House are you going to? 743 00:42:57,440 --> 00:42:59,000 We've all been at a house like that. 744 00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:00,560 I. Mean We've all been there, but 745 00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:02,280 funky? Not anymore. 746 00:43:03,720 --> 00:43:06,480 But you know what I mean. Like, we all know how it feels 747 00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:11,840 to go into a space like that. Like we don't feel welcomed or 748 00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:14,280 invited. So it doesn't make it a 749 00:43:14,280 --> 00:43:17,360 difference if it's your fields or their fields, and what's 750 00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:19,800 dirty to you and what's dirty to them could be two different 751 00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,480 things. But you've got to find that 752 00:43:22,480 --> 00:43:27,300 happy momentum in your equilibrium where it's like, 753 00:43:27,420 --> 00:43:31,460 this is a safe space for me. When you come home to your home, 754 00:43:31,780 --> 00:43:35,100 it should feel inviting. You shouldn't instantly go to 755 00:43:35,100 --> 00:43:37,620 the list of things that you need to do now that you're home. 756 00:43:37,940 --> 00:43:42,140 That's why you're not resting. That's why your cup is not full, 757 00:43:42,420 --> 00:43:46,340 because we're constantly putting all these rules, regulations and 758 00:43:46,340 --> 00:43:51,580 obstacles in our path rather than showing up to meet the 759 00:43:51,620 --> 00:43:54,650 obstacle. We're drained, We're already 760 00:43:54,650 --> 00:43:58,210 drained, and a lot of that is out of our control. 761 00:43:58,210 --> 00:44:00,650 Like, you know, not everyone can just quit the job that they 762 00:44:00,650 --> 00:44:02,490 hate, Like they have responsibilities, there's 763 00:44:02,490 --> 00:44:05,490 insurance, there's family, there's schools, all of that 764 00:44:05,490 --> 00:44:07,490 involved. But the one thing you can 765 00:44:07,490 --> 00:44:10,810 control is your fucking space in your bathroom, in your home, in 766 00:44:10,810 --> 00:44:13,610 your kitchen, and how you treat those things. 767 00:44:13,850 --> 00:44:15,850 How often do people pull everything out of the 768 00:44:15,850 --> 00:44:18,970 refrigerator and clean it? Well, I'll tell you right now, I 769 00:44:18,970 --> 00:44:21,210 have a house cleaner. So like, every other month she 770 00:44:21,210 --> 00:44:23,890 does that for me. And if I did that on my own 771 00:44:24,130 --> 00:44:25,770 baby, that shit was in there for years. 772 00:44:25,770 --> 00:44:27,050 I ain't never pulled none of it out. 773 00:44:27,050 --> 00:44:29,970 So don't act like that. I'm just, I'm so bougie that I 774 00:44:29,970 --> 00:44:31,930 do this now. No, I'm just saying, like, it 775 00:44:31,930 --> 00:44:36,170 feels good to write a list out that says I want my refrigerator 776 00:44:36,170 --> 00:44:40,370 to be cleaned or I want on top of my cabinets cleaned Or, you 777 00:44:40,370 --> 00:44:42,930 know, there was a junk drawer in my bathroom and a bunch of 778 00:44:42,930 --> 00:44:45,130 cabinets and I was like, hey, could you organize those? 779 00:44:45,370 --> 00:44:48,290 She found stuff I didn't even know was in there because I just 780 00:44:48,290 --> 00:44:52,480 keep piling stuff in it where she organized it and is 781 00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,120 unbiased. She even made a pile of what the 782 00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:58,000 fucks like, what is all this? This doesn't go in there. 783 00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:04,320 Go through it, you know? And we as humans are going to be 784 00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:07,400 stuck in our ways. So what we want to challenge you 785 00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:11,200 all is to look at all the ways that your environment is a 786 00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:17,360 reflection of your energy, how that is pouring over or draining 787 00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:20,600 you, and how you can help elevate. 788 00:45:20,720 --> 00:45:23,840 I know I've seen this online. It's like, why don't I ever have 789 00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:26,080 any girlfriends that want to come over and help me deep 790 00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:29,040 clean? Like, I'm sure you have friends 791 00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:31,720 that you could, like, cook dinner and get some wine and 792 00:45:31,720 --> 00:45:34,520 they would come over and help you organize your pantry or 793 00:45:34,720 --> 00:45:37,120 organize your bathroom. I mean, I'm sure people don't 794 00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:39,960 want to scrub your toilets, but I'm talking like, organization 795 00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:43,960 at a core level is the reason for messes. 796 00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:47,130 Like, if it doesn't have a place, it's going to be in the 797 00:45:47,130 --> 00:45:49,210 way. And I just feel like, get 798 00:45:49,210 --> 00:45:53,130 creative. Like once a month every, every 799 00:45:53,130 --> 00:45:55,850 friend comes over and we all rotate, you know what I mean? 800 00:45:55,850 --> 00:45:58,770 And go to someone else's house. Like, there's so many creative 801 00:45:58,770 --> 00:46:04,810 ways that you can make the hard stuff fun and enjoy it while 802 00:46:04,810 --> 00:46:07,570 you're doing it. And I think that, you know, like 803 00:46:07,570 --> 00:46:10,610 Jim and I said, oh, wow, Paige has a house cleaner that's 804 00:46:10,610 --> 00:46:12,770 bougie. Because your first thought is 805 00:46:12,810 --> 00:46:14,850 that's bougie. But it's not. 806 00:46:15,310 --> 00:46:17,350 It's a literal fucking necessity. 807 00:46:17,590 --> 00:46:21,310 And I personally could spend money on anything, but I'd 808 00:46:21,310 --> 00:46:24,070 rather spend money on my piece and my harmony. 809 00:46:24,070 --> 00:46:27,270 And like my zone, my house cleaner doesn't do my laundry. 810 00:46:27,470 --> 00:46:30,390 She doesn't change my sheets unless I have them there ready 811 00:46:30,390 --> 00:46:34,390 for her, then she will. But it's like I have split the 812 00:46:34,390 --> 00:46:37,870 duties where it's like I do the laundry and things that I have 813 00:46:37,870 --> 00:46:42,350 to do and she does all this other stuff and it feels so good 814 00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:45,240 to have that. But it's not like, oh, she's 815 00:46:45,240 --> 00:46:46,840 coming in two weeks. I'm just going to leave all 816 00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:50,400 these dishes here for 9 days. Like, no, You have to 817 00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:55,680 continuously play your role, but then know where to designate 818 00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,960 other things to other people and not so work. 819 00:46:59,880 --> 00:47:04,280 And you know, if you're going to somebody's house and you're 820 00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:07,840 noticing like, wow, their house like seems messy or whatever, 821 00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:12,440 having these conversations and letting people know that like. 822 00:47:12,850 --> 00:47:15,170 All of the things that we've been talking about today, I 823 00:47:15,170 --> 00:47:18,410 never would have even thought about having a housekeeper help 824 00:47:18,730 --> 00:47:22,450 if you hadn't mentioned that you do that and we hadn't had these 825 00:47:22,450 --> 00:47:26,990 types of conversations, so. If you guys listen to episodes 826 00:47:26,990 --> 00:47:29,950 like this and you're like wow, and you are thinking right at 827 00:47:29,950 --> 00:47:32,950 the top of your brain, Oh well, I know Brittany's house be 828 00:47:32,950 --> 00:47:35,590 having cups everywhere and it's never clean and yadda yadda 829 00:47:35,590 --> 00:47:37,830 yadda. Then maybe going over to fucking 830 00:47:37,830 --> 00:47:39,990 Brittany's house and helping Brittany clean up and then 831 00:47:39,990 --> 00:47:43,870 talking to her about, you know, readjusting energy in her life 832 00:47:43,870 --> 00:47:46,910 and doing this and why. You know, keeping up with things 833 00:47:46,910 --> 00:47:50,450 is helpful and and. Using your energy to help and 834 00:47:50,450 --> 00:47:53,770 give you know options and insight, maybe that would be 835 00:47:53,770 --> 00:47:55,730 helpful. Not everybody knows that. 836 00:47:55,730 --> 00:47:58,570 Like again, it's it's how you're raised, right? 837 00:47:58,570 --> 00:48:02,690 If somebody is raised inside of a cluttered space and messy 838 00:48:02,690 --> 00:48:04,370 house, they are used to that energy. 839 00:48:04,570 --> 00:48:08,090 And if nobody ever tells them or talks to them about something 840 00:48:08,090 --> 00:48:14,090 different, they don't know and I would rather be told about these 841 00:48:14,090 --> 00:48:16,860 options. And be able to do things for 842 00:48:16,860 --> 00:48:22,180 myself and change my mindset so that when these things come up, 843 00:48:22,180 --> 00:48:25,260 my first mindset isn't wow, that's bougie. 844 00:48:25,260 --> 00:48:28,780 It's damn look at her doing what she has to do to make sure that 845 00:48:28,780 --> 00:48:31,100 her mental health feels in order, that her health is in 846 00:48:31,100 --> 00:48:33,900 order, that she's bringing abundance in. 847 00:48:33,900 --> 00:48:40,380 Also there's if you leave your toilet seats up that like the 848 00:48:40,380 --> 00:48:43,220 lid open, then it said that that. 849 00:48:44,780 --> 00:48:47,300 Has money go down your your toilet. 850 00:48:47,580 --> 00:48:51,780 And so closing your toilet lid and closing the door to your 851 00:48:51,780 --> 00:48:54,780 bathroom makes it so that your money isn't going down the 852 00:48:54,780 --> 00:48:58,540 drain. Yes, the money is definitely 853 00:48:58,540 --> 00:49:01,020 associated with the bathroom. So for everyone, that's like, 854 00:49:01,340 --> 00:49:05,580 holy shit my bathroom is a mess. We're not judging you, but you 855 00:49:05,580 --> 00:49:07,220 should definitely make it a priority. 856 00:49:07,220 --> 00:49:10,260 Especially if you feel like your finances are not in order. 857 00:49:10,540 --> 00:49:14,470 You don't feel like you have, like, extra spending money. 858 00:49:14,910 --> 00:49:16,950 That's definitely one place to look. 859 00:49:17,350 --> 00:49:21,350 Another thing about that is like, no one is judging you as 860 00:49:21,350 --> 00:49:24,630 much as you judge yourself. And if you go in your bathroom 861 00:49:24,630 --> 00:49:27,710 and every time you're like, it's so filthy in here, it's so 862 00:49:27,710 --> 00:49:30,310 filthy in here. Like, if you think that more 863 00:49:30,310 --> 00:49:35,150 than three times a week, I would just consider looking at your 864 00:49:35,150 --> 00:49:38,390 options of like, what can I do to fix this? 865 00:49:38,590 --> 00:49:44,030 How can I stop putting this pressure on myself and alleviate 866 00:49:44,030 --> 00:49:47,270 that pressure? And some people think like, Oh 867 00:49:47,270 --> 00:49:51,150 no, I can handle it, but like maybe before you had a child you 868 00:49:51,150 --> 00:49:54,190 could handle it or maybe before you started working full time 869 00:49:54,590 --> 00:49:57,590 XYZ. Like why keep the chains of 870 00:49:57,590 --> 00:50:01,270 pressure around your ankles if you can loosen those a little 871 00:50:01,270 --> 00:50:03,870 bit? Because in different phases of 872 00:50:03,870 --> 00:50:06,710 our life, we require different things. 873 00:50:06,990 --> 00:50:11,460 And boxing yourself in to be like, Oh no, that's bougie or my 874 00:50:11,460 --> 00:50:15,940 mom would never approve of that, or my dad would never support 875 00:50:15,940 --> 00:50:17,860 that or whatever. Instead of letting those 876 00:50:17,860 --> 00:50:21,980 thoughts make your decisions, how about we look at what's best 877 00:50:21,980 --> 00:50:27,820 for you and what works for you? I mean, for instance, my dad, 878 00:50:28,260 --> 00:50:31,820 his mailbox kept getting like hit by drivers and like drunk 879 00:50:31,820 --> 00:50:35,760 drivers and he replaced it like three times in one year and a 880 00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:37,840 mailbox. I mean they're like 4 or $500 881 00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:39,600 every time you do that. Like it's not cheap. 882 00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:43,880 So he he just decided he would take it out, fill it in with 883 00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:45,560 dirt and get a P.O. Box. 884 00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:51,280 So now that he doesn't have a a mailbox, all of his spam mail or 885 00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:55,060 random mail has now found my home and it comes addressed to 886 00:50:55,060 --> 00:50:58,020 him at my home, even though he's never fucking lived here. 887 00:50:58,340 --> 00:51:00,340 And I wrote him the other day and I was like, I've got mail 888 00:51:00,340 --> 00:51:04,100 for you and he was like wow. And I was like I guess because 889 00:51:04,300 --> 00:51:07,140 they can't find your mailbox so they just redirect it to my 890 00:51:07,140 --> 00:51:08,580 mailbox. I don't know. 891 00:51:08,900 --> 00:51:12,380 But like the thing was the mailbox was stressing him out. 892 00:51:12,580 --> 00:51:16,260 He was spending on average of $1000 a year on new mailboxes. 893 00:51:16,460 --> 00:51:21,350 So to counter react that, he said fuck it, we'll remove the 894 00:51:21,350 --> 00:51:26,030 mailbox and you have to know when is enough because now all 895 00:51:26,030 --> 00:51:27,710 that junk mail is now coming to me. 896 00:51:27,790 --> 00:51:30,230 There's nothing I can do about it, so. 897 00:51:30,390 --> 00:51:31,870 All that junk mail coming to you? 898 00:51:32,910 --> 00:51:36,990 Well we love you all. Thank you for every thing and 899 00:51:36,990 --> 00:51:39,630 listening to us here in Candyland. 900 00:51:40,390 --> 00:51:42,430 We'll see you next time. Bye. 901 00:51:43,350 --> 00:51:43,550 Bye.