And ladies, I am saying this over again.
I have said this again and I'm saying this again.
If you're dating a guy and you're cheating on him and
you've cheated for a while and you think your boyfriend doesn't
know if you're happy and you know it, clap your hands because
you're fooling yourself, using your pussy as copying mechanism
until the time that he wants to get married.
And so I gotta go find some clean girl to be with.
Stop cheating. Oh, Tom.
Ah, this one is long. You guys are stressing me the
fuck? Off, you know that, right?
Yeah. This is another episode of the
POVA. Today I've got my stress boy,
we're going to do this pressing this thing because you guys are.
Getting on my damn. Nerves.
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podcast and I am your host Nanika.
Depart now, somebody. Will be like this girl what she
doing here Basically what I do here is.
That I go through threads on X right?
And then I read some dilemmas from even before, even before,
yes, I read the list from you guys and then share my opinion
on it and then allow the comment section to also share their
opinion on these stories to help descenders find solution to
their questions or answers to their questions.
And so we're going to leave the stress ball to breathe a little
and then we're going to go straight into the threads that
we have for this episode. You know what, I had a thread
planned for the episode and then before we started shooting, I
just said, you know what, let me go and exit.
Let me go and see what going on there.
Tell me why medical and philanthropy are being dragged,
specifically philanthropy. Why?
Because she posted that. I just said yes.
Let's go through the threads together now.
As I said before, philanthropy posted that.
I said yes again. And then people on eggs, let me
say our gender boys are saying that.
You know what the first one says?
Why? What's them?
If you like Marie Monroe, we are focused on our honourables.
They're entertaining us with the drama they are putting up.
And if you don't know what this person is talking about, you
know that there's event thing happening for the nominees,
people that have been nominated to the ministers, for our state,
for our country. And so they are being vetted and
they are treating the whole thing like they are a secondary
school dining hole. You understand?
Drama up and down. You know.
And so people are enjoying the entertainment coming out of
that. And so people are saying, no,
this guy is saying that. You know what's feel?
I feel like marry this, don't nobody.
We are, we are being entertained by our honourables.
Yeah, that's what the person is saying.
And this one said you broke up with medical in May 2024 and you
have already said yes in less than 10 months.
MDK. Really so far.
Hey Charlie, we are Simone, would you be faithful this time
around? Peace.
But wait, at what point in Phila's divorce brouhaha did it
appear that Phila McAfee was cheating or wasn't faithful in a
relationship or a interesting Your beauty will send?
You but your attitude, you bring your back.
You know that thing where? It's I don't know whether it's
just an African thing or it's just a Ghanaian thing, but it
said one more federal back that was smiling, smiling to sing
insane where they are, where they ABP.
And so the idea is your attitude will bring you back or your
character will bring you back. This one said wow, will I?
You said yes to medical again. This is a crazy.
Thing. Wow interesting this thread.
People are really mad. Like people are angry men take
notes. Women are always entitled to
their feelings, regardless of anything.
This one is a missile. This one is not hit at all
because I don't know what you're talking about.
How does does this work with Philammacoffee saying yes to
someone again? You know the makeup sex is gonna
be mad. Sankofi and Chi Why?
Hey, hey, I will hint something. Hopefully by the time I post
this, there's going to be some answers to the questions because
a Oh wow. So Philammacoffee remarrying is,
is a problem. Like, is it someone said don't
let medical see this? Yeah, so I'm going to end the
thread here. This thread was not like giddy,
giddy like that. But thinking about it, I think
last week I was saying something about how in as much as in this
time and age, divorce has been like it comes.
Divorce just happens just like that.
The stigma still stays, the stigma still deep.
People still talk about, you know, a woman that has divorced
and then remarried. Remarried.
And then I remember saying that it feels like people divorce
this year and next year they marry, right?
So it's it's just crazy. And let's also put this in
contest. Maybe fella McAfee said yes into
a relationship, not marriage. So yeah, anyway, let's get
straight into the stories that we have for this episode.
This one says, I would like to share this.
I would like you to share this for me.
I'll be waiting for comments. Two years ago, I met a lady
through a friend of mine. She was a student by then, and
my friend posted here that she wanted a ride to school.
That time I had lost my job fresh, but I was OK.
I was driving a Honda Accord so my friend hyped me to this girl.
I got a contact but that time I couldn't take her to school and
the communication stopped. After some few months we started
talking again and she told me to come visit her at school.
I went. Mind you the day I was going she
was away. I was coming.
When I got there I called this girl Sir she never picked.
Later she texted me saying she went to her friend's place and
her friend locked her up and went to the club so she couldn't
see me. What?
I really got pissed but I had nothing else to do so I slept on
my friends and till the next day around afternoon she texted me
her friend was in and wanted to see me.
As soon as she came she started posting on snap and all that and
told me her friend wanted to come and they came to eat and
had lots of drinks but I never mind.
Fast forward we started dating it was all good until I started
feeling uneasy about her and all that she had this old man she
claimed she she's just friends with and goes to cook for him
and all she complaints. She completed school now and
started doing her service at one of the big companies and that's
when everything changed. Initially she was complaining to
me that men they worry her and all that and then the
communication totally changed. When I call her at work she will
not pick and she will tell me she's busy and little thing.
She's angry and would hang up and block me.
She's only really nice to me when I send her money or when
she wants money. She doesn't even come to my end
anymore yet gets time to go for weddings and funerals with her
so-called boss I sent her. I went to her house.
I went to her house and spoke to her about it and told her things
are different and I wanted us to be like how we were.
She said OK but I realized things still haven't changed so
I decided to also move on. Any little thing she would tell
me. Am I not the one who says I want
things to work? As if I am the one who needs the
relationship more. I stopped calling her because
for the past six months we haven't talked on phone.
Wow. For the past six months we
haven't talked on phone for two minutes unless maybe she needs
something and acting all nice. I realized it's best to forget
about her and move on. Naturally I'm a generous person
and I feel bad when someone asks me for something and I am not
able to give. But this girl when she asks me
for money I feel hard to give because I feel she's using me.
The last couple of times she asked me for money I refuse to
give and she instantly hung up on me.
The problem is I love this girl and I feel she knows I do so
she's just messing with me. What should I do?
I mean, I think, you know, obviously what's going on, that
you're being used, You know, that this girl doesn't like you
again. And the best thing you can do
for yourself is to understand that, yeah, it is what it is.
It is time for me to move on because I know one thing, that
when people realize that you love them or you like them and
they don't feel the same way, some tend to use you.
Some tend to abuse that power they have or that power.
Yeah, that that power they have over you.
Let me use it that way. And so I feel like you need to
put more energy. I don't know if you are working
again. I don't know if things are still
OK. I think you should at the moment
put your energy into your work or whatever that you know makes
money for you. I think at the moment put all
that energy into building yourself more and then forget
about her. If I were you, I will block her
ass because she doesn't deserve to be on your phone.
OK? Yeah hi please keep me
anonymous. I am a recent university
graduate gradually doing my service at my alma mater.
I met a lady in her final year and we fell in love about two
months before she graduated. Everything was fine despite some
issues including my financial instability due to my service.
I'm afraid I won't be able to take care of her.
I love her deeply and don't want to lose her.
However, I'm concerned because she'll be doing her service in a
place with many people who admire.
Even some managers at her internship location have
expressed interest in her. We have arguments and she often
says things like if you want to leave you can leave or I know
you don't love me. The comments break my heart.
POV. I'm unsure if our relationship
will last but I love her and want us to go far.
I'm afraid she might meet someone else as she's been
meeting many people who show many people who show interest in
her. Please help me.
Wow I love her deeply but I'm worried about our future
together. She always being approached by
people who show interest in her and she keeps their contact
information which breaks my heart.
I fear she might not be able to commit to me because I'm not
financially stable. She often tells me about people
she meets who have money cast and are willing to give her
everything she wants. I'm afraid she might get tired
of waiting for me to provide for her and lose interest.
Despite our hopes and dreams of getting married, I am unsure it
should be able to love me for who I am without the material
things. I'm scared of losing her to
someone who can give her more. I mean, I'm saying this, you
know, in in a sense of care, not in a sense of like shaming you
or anything. But even if this doesn't work
out, you need to be able to, you know, make some money for
yourself. Because the truth is, even the
Bible says that any man that you know, I don't want to like
misquote or anything, but the idea is that as a man, before
you start finding interest in being with somebody or trying to
build a life with somebody, there are certain things you
need to have. One is, is God 2 is it your your
own place or where you put your head?
Three, be able to take care of yourself.
And I'm, I'm not saying this from my head.
I was listening to a man of God preach and the information or
the the message that he was giving was towards that
direction and he he quoted the word of God to it.
That is one aspect of whatever conversation I'm going to have
with you now. So basically you need to build
yourself. You need to make some money.
Now, secondly, that girl is not it because I know I'm thing for
sure that when you love somebody right and they don't have it,
you don't put it in your face that their lack of not having it
can make them lose you. Doing that alone should be like
you get it. And The thing is that if you
think she can be taken, then she can be taken.
People are able to be taken or people are able to take people
that wants to be taken like you get me.
So for example, when people say that my partner, what do you
call him, cheated on me or my partner fell in love with
someone else. Or if you're with somebody and
you want to fall in love with somebody else, you will.
That is your decision. It is something that you want to
do. It is not like it just fell on
your lap, like you get it. It is because you want to do
because if unknowingly you start liking somebody, your sense of
having a partner itself needs to kick in and be like, am I not
with, you know, that passing? Why am I thinking about this or
why am I heading towards this side?
No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Then it means there's something
wrong with your relationship and you need to go and work on it.
And so if she keeps telling you that there are people that are
better than you coming into her life, that alone should trigger
you for something. Do you get me?
Yeah. So look into that.
Very well. OK.
Yeah. That's lovely.
Keep me anonymous.
So I met this lady after BC. Are you a child and we're only
friends? Little did we know we've fallen
in love with each other because we've spent so much time every
day either texting or on call. So we dated from that time.
So we completed SHS. It was a long distance
relationship though we met in our SHS days when school vacated
just to say hi and bye bye to each other as our schools was
close to each other. We dated until after SHS.
She broke up with me with due to a misunderstanding that couldn't
permit us to freely talk for about 3 days.
OK, I tried talking to her during those times but she kept
on giving me attitude so I gave up in three days.
Hey Guanimo, Little did I know that she got attached to another
guy and finally go into a relationship with the guy.
That relationship with the guy was based on lies she was made
to believe. OK, after about two years of
Constance begging and asking her to come back to me, she broke up
with a guy after she discovered she was made to believe in lies
and the guy asked her to come back to me.
I accepted her because I really love her.
Fast forward two years down the line she has broken up with me,
reasons being that I don't make her a priority.
Frankly I didn't know what she meant because I thought that I
really appreciated her and kept her.
First in all, I did POVI really love this lady.
I am very broken now and I'm finding it hard to live without
her. What should I do?
You need to come to terms with the reality that you don't have
A again because I think you're still in that phase where you
wish you could have A. But I need you to come to terms
with the fact that she has walked away from you 2 times.
I want to change. The third time is a charm to the
second time is a charm. How many times will this person
break you before you realize that if they come up and leave
every single time, then they don't really value whatever they
have with you? Because I believe if somebody
values whatever they have with you and there's a problem, the
first thing they do is to talk about.
It's not the, you know, just up and go the first time.
Apart from, you know, domestic abuse, apart from beatings,
that's when the person touch you and you better run any other
thing I think can be talked about.
So if it happens once, twice, you guys can sit down and have a
conversation about it and then know your way forward.
But after like 2 times. So domestic violence and
cheating, yeah, those things after like a few times and you
you think the person is not evolving or changing, then you
can come to A and be like, you know what, baby?
I've given you all the energy I have and I think I can't deal
with it again. Do you get it?
But if once then the person disappears.
I don't think the the hat love enough for you.
Yeah, that's that's oh, no, from the top of my head, that's what
I think. Let's love it.
Hi miss, please I need your
help. I just want to ask a brief
question before I drop my story. Do you think I should forgive a
woman I dated for five years who cheated on me with another guy?
But I've confirmed that sex wasn't involved.
It started when the guy was forcing himself on him and keep
giving her gifts she didn't ask for.
I saw their WhatsApp conversations and I went further
to investigate my own way and found out that she never had
sex. Do you think she deserves a
second chance? Please help me with an answer.
I'll drop the full story later. Hey wow alert.
Listen, the issues of cheating in the first story, if if you
have watched the episode, you realize that I said cheating and
then domestic violence are the things that when it happens, you
probably don't have to stay. What do you call it to face it
again? But everybody handles situations
differently. And then sometimes people
actually give second chances. And so let's dive into that.
If this is the kind of person. Now, if you're the person that
would want to give your partner a second chance after cheating
on you, I need to ask you a question that if you are sure
that this will not happen again or if you're sure that you can
let go of the pain of being cheated on.
Because you see, when somebody gets cheated on, right, two
things happen. One person loses trust, right?
The other person, how do I even describe it?
The other person feels. And if in this case, if the
person is crazy, the other person feels they can easier can
have it, right? Yeah.
So these are the two things that happens on both ends.
Now, the one that got cheated on doesn't trust the one that
cheated again. And so the idea is to work
through it to be able to trust the person again.
So you that got cheated on, would you be able to work
through it? That's one.
Would you be able to work through it to the extent that or
in a way that when something triggers you, it won't take you
straight to, yeah, she's cheated again and you will take time to
investigate again like you did for this one.
That's the first thing. And on the end of the other
person, they would also be on a setting guard where, you know,
the *** caught me cheating. And if I'm doing this again, I'm
going to be extra careful or I cheated a *** And I need.
To either hide its will or I need to be able to change for
this relationship to work. And it gets hard because then
this person is not trusting. And if this one is pushing so
much to prove that I'm not a cheater again.
And it gets draining for this one.
And this one feels like it's not enough.
It's it's it gets crazy. So Are you ready for that
emotional rollercoaster Because you in your right upright, it
feels like you're defending. Hey, you said gifts that she
didn't ask for. That's the first one.
But you could have said gifts that she shouldn't have taken.
Have you looked at it from that side?
You said you you did your investigations and sex is not
involved. How did you know?
I actually want to know. So please send the story, let me
know. But beyond that, I need you to
think about it from the angles I've given you, right and see if
you, you are in the business of forgiving and trusting that
easily. All right, Because me I know
that it's not easy to trust I've been dating this lady since 2019
university time. It was supposed to be a one
night stand but she gave me suspense that I got more
interested in her. I dated her for more than a year
just to hear she was dating RTE exam officer in her class Rep.
Hey three people what the hell. She only said it was the class
Rep but have even broken up man man man had to agree 'cause at
that time man had no money and 0 confidence to get a girl of her
calibre. Fast forward I was expelled due
to not performing but to be sincere I knew the exams officer
was the reason. The lady that here showed me
Pepe she came back to tell me let's break up all in the name
of she's getting back with the same class ref she said had
broken up with her. Imagine being a spelled broke
also broken hearted man. Had to develop a strategy to
bounce back but the first thing was to destroy that relationship
of dears. How can I lose in such a manner?
Within the same year I got to know the lady I was dating was a
typical assign car for both streets and church.
Hey hey how good feet do I'm still
now man. Had to stay cause getting a free
pussy for my mental health. Was it easy to come by?
Wow so her cheat with her church president of which I knew she
went to sleep over, go to a party where I knew she was
chopped, had couple of church dates where her own siblings
said were true, not to talk about her working place after
school. Fast forward, I reapplied for
school, graduated and things started picking up for me.
Lo and behold I was funding her all this while with the Queens I
was earning now. Man, don't make money.
Lest I forgot, I had a couple of abortions while with me, of
which I knew very well one wasn't mine but the other could
be mine, with me suspecting that wasn't the only two abortions
she had ever made 'cause she showed me the place and how
things were done. Regular customer.
The problem here now is my family has gone to like her.
And has got to like a known her as a decent one and wants me to
marry her. But I have now also getting a
lot of series of girls willing to die for me.
If I am to count at least these girls are like 8IN number.
She's lost the touch that made me like her.
To even make it worse, I suspect she's sleeping with an uncle of
mine that talks too good about her when I'm not around.
And as a man, when your lady is used before you, you get to
know, to experience. I don't get that part.
I mostly travel and not around so she lives with my family.
What should I do? Continue with the marriage, Pay
her off to go or marry her and marry another lady.
I prefer most because all girls don't.
Show me shaggy upon shaggy, please.
I'll be in the comment section, the last part of your story.
I don't get it well, but if I'm getting it well, you want to do
a few things. Either break up with her, pay
her off, or marry her and marry someone else.
These are the options you have. And then you also stated that
the part I didn't understand was your uncle's bit, that he speaks
too well of them. So you're suspecting that he's
sleeping with her. Interesting.
Well, I would, you see, I'm a
woman. But you see all this description
that you have giving about this girl, It doesn't look good for
her. I mean, you know me, if it
doesn't look good for her, I don't care or gender.
I will give it to you. What?
To what? To let her go.
I think you are a man enough or you are man enough to have a
conversation with your family and let them know this the
circumstance of the relationship.
But one thing that I, I, I don't like about this whole situation
is, and I keep saying this, if you're with somebody and you
realize that I can't marry this person, live there because this
is what happens. You drag along because of the
fact that you're getting pussy to eat.
Drug along, drug along, drug along drug along.
Now it has it has turned into a thing where you can't live there
because if you live there, either society will call you bad
or probably your family sees in a different way and they like
it. So we can't also look bad in
front of your family. And it's exactly what's going
on. That's why me, I like a clean
cats breakup and when I am not together again, I like the idea
of you don't think we are going to work.
Let's go a separate twist. Don't.
Don't let me linger around or stay around.
And ladies, I am saying this over again.
I have said this again and I'm saying this again.
If you're dating a guy and you're cheating on him and
you've cheated for a while and you think your boyfriend doesn't
know if you're happy and you know it, clap your hands because
you are fooling yourself. He knows and what he's doing is
using your pussy to clean his mental health, using your pussy
as coping mechanism until the time that he wants to get
married. Then he will realize that that
pussy cannot be my coping mechanism forever.
And so I'm going to go find some clean girl to be with.
Stop cheating. Oh Tom, stop it.
Stop fucking cheating. Because if you if you're with
somebody and don't like the person again, leave.
Why are you cheating? Why, my dear, I'll leave this
one to the comments section, but I know what the comments section
would say. That's leave by leaving here.
No, the pay of bids are you can pay.
I'll because of the fact that she's been around to taken
thing, but taken thing across. She was shaking you while she
was still, you know, taking care of her in the process.
So this one is long. Please keep me anonymous.
I was dating this girl, which was somewhere January, way back
in SHS. We're very close.
The vibe was moving on but my financial situation became bad
In January. We all got admission to the
university. She was at Legon and I was at
ATU. Her dad was the rich type and so
he rented an apartment for this girl.
It got to a time I noticed some changes in her.
I'll call her and she wouldn't pick.
She'll give me excuses. Later I found out it was a guy
in the apartment influencing this girl and it was like, if he
doesn't give you money, leave him.
OK, so if I understand this very well, there's a guy in the
apartment that is influencing the girl that if this guy is
Brooke, you should leave him. Interesting.
Your own gender is Brooke shaming you to a woman.
We are now be the attempt that we may like Rick shaming there.
We like Brooke shaming there. It is your own gender that is
doing to you. Now you see the slice.
OK let's continue and all those stuff.
So just stayed cool. I was there one day and this
girl came from nowhere telling me we should break up.
Oh hey I burst into tears but I told myself it is well.
Then I went to apologize my granny did seem.
We came back later. She said she doesn't want to
disrespect my granny so she said we are no more.
I told her OK she thought out completing again.
So after some months this girl left my Life OK until one day
this girl texted me she's sorry about all that happened.
I should forget about my past or the past.
So we move on. I've also moved on with someone
who also understands me. But I want to tell guys to know
that when you get the chance. Had a lady cause women no.
But you see I feel this. This is a bit disrespectful for
you saying that when you get a chance at a woman or hurt women
because or whatever, because you're sending this to a woman
because you're seeing me finishing, is that it?
I get that this girl was stupid, right?
I get that this girl was very stupid for what she did.
But if you have sisters, you will not sit in your house and
say that because one girl hurt you, you're going to punish all
women. You see, This is why for some
time now, I'm not spoken about this whole idea of
generalization because I think people started feeling like I
was talking too much about that. But these are some of the
reasons why I think generalization is one of the
most stupid things on earth. Because why is it that one
person has done something to you?
But all the species or the, the, the, the whole gender small
thing? Men are wicked.
But you have a brother that is
treating another girl well. Men are wicked, men are wicked.
Fear women fear women. But you have a sister that is
dating someone that is not even treating her well but she's
still there. I get it, you wrote this out of
emotions, I get it. But at the end of the day you
sent it to a woman. So what?
You don't give a shit that is. Yeah, this one, It has entered
me a common cause. What the hell, hey?
Charlie, that's actually. Anyway, yeah, I'm going to end
the episode. I'll end it cause this this this
*** like should I start charging you people?
For reading your stories because it's like you don't even give a
fuck that I'm a woman. Hey, I didn't ask you.
But anyway, thank you very much for watching the episode.
Thank you very much for liking, Thank you very much for sharing
because see, the numbers are coming and we like it.
We want the same energy on YouTube, OK?
Because. The YouTube is not giving what
it's supposed to give. You understand?
Try for me. Yeah, you get it.
Yeah. But anyway, thank you for
watching the episode. I'm excited to sit here every
time with you guys. That's because I know that you
got me just like I got you. I'll see you in the next
episode, but until then, you can go back and watch the other
episodes that you've not watched.
Valentine is coming. I'm so excited with the
Valentine edition. Bye.