1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:05,200 Let's end all this I did. I talked about this whole period 2 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:10,520 thing in the threads that a man that cannot be close to your 3 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:14,960 woman during her period is not a man really. 4 00:00:15,760 --> 00:00:20,000 And any man as a girl that will send you away because of your 5 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:21,880 period doesn't want to be with you. 6 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:26,640 Technically he's just with you because whenever you arrive for 7 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:30,520 sex, you guys can have the sex. Now give her a sound warning 8 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:34,880 that if she doesn't want to lose what both of you have, she will 9 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:38,320 delete those videos. If she doesn't want to lose the 10 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:42,040 relationship, she will lose contact with her ex. 11 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:44,560 Because I still don't understand why. 12 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:47,800 If you are not probably working with your ex when you guys need 13 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:51,960 to see each other, I don't know why you also keep conversations 14 00:00:51,960 --> 00:01:02,680 with your ex. And we are live. 15 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:04,120 Yes, this is another episode of the POV. 16 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,600 My name is Anneke Adifa and welcome. 17 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:10,640 Have you subscribed? If you haven't, please do. 18 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,920 I will really appreciate if you do it now. 19 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,720 You guys are loving the guest episodes? 20 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:20,520 I've realized that you guys are loving the guest episodes. 21 00:01:20,960 --> 00:01:24,080 So please keep tagging who you want to see here, your favorite 22 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:27,080 influencer, your favorite actor, whoever you want to see here to 23 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:31,920 have this conversation. Please tag so that we can 24 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:35,400 definitely reach out to them and see if they will come and sit 25 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,840 down and then talk to us about your stories. 26 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:39,640 Now today, I'm not going to do too much. 27 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:43,760 I'm going to do very, you know, demure sets of threads and then 28 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:46,720 go into the tales and confessions bits or let me just 29 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:51,480 say the dilemma bits of it. So let me get into the threads 30 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:54,800 that we have for this episode, this episode. 31 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:58,320 Hey, when I was reading the, what do you call it, the title 32 00:01:58,320 --> 00:02:00,400 for the threads because I don't go into the threads. 33 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:02,760 That's the thing. I just read the title and then I 34 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:05,400 bookmark it on X. Now, when I was reading the 35 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:08,280 title, I was just shaking my head because the title said men 36 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:13,880 were asked strict boyfriend one O 1, strict boyfriend one O 1. 37 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:15,000 And people were giving like that. 38 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:17,840 Yeah, they are parenting their girlfriends. 39 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:24,120 Hey, OK, this one says male best tea is a very big no. 40 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:29,640 And I actually agree with this because in some cases it turns 41 00:02:29,640 --> 00:02:32,960 out that the girl will be sleeping with the best tea or 42 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:34,800 probably be doing something with the best tea. 43 00:02:35,080 --> 00:02:38,240 So, yeah, I recently saw him in where they said they said that 44 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:41,880 you're, you ask your boyfriend to get you food in the middle of 45 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:44,680 the night because you're hungry and tell you, no, it's raining. 46 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:48,120 But your best friend will be running, spreading in the water 47 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:51,560 in a way to come and give you food to eat. 48 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,080 And at the end of the day, they know that they are doing a 49 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:56,480 steady job and they will be able to get what they want in the 50 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:58,880 end. I mean, so, yeah, a very big 51 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:03,600 note to besties or male besties. I don't think is a, is a, is a 52 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,760 strict rule. I think it's supposed to be part 53 00:03:06,760 --> 00:03:10,760 of, you know, life itself. Do you get it? 54 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:14,080 Your friends shouldn't know my business. 55 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:16,440 I'm your boyfriend and that's it to them. 56 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:25,560 Keep my life out of their mouth. Oh, oh, oh, that's crazy. 57 00:03:25,920 --> 00:03:28,880 It's not like crazy bad, but it's crazy good to get in 58 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,280 because not everybody likes their business out there. 59 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:33,960 But sometimes to they know they're doing rubbish. 60 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:36,360 So when people go and say they're, you know, they're, 61 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:39,200 they're rubbish to friends, or when people tell their friends 62 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:41,880 about the rubbish your boyfriends are doing to them, 63 00:03:42,720 --> 00:03:44,600 then you are getting offended, you are misbehaving. 64 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:45,680 You don't want us to talk about it. 65 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:48,040 They play. But at the end of the day, I 66 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:51,160 also think that respecting the boundaries of your partner is 67 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:53,720 also very, very important. So if your partner doesn't want 68 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:56,440 you talking about your, your, your relationship with your 69 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:58,840 friends, please abide. And I don't even think it's 70 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:02,040 really, you know, if you're not really seeking advice from 71 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:06,440 someone, you don't necessarily need to go talking about it like 72 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:09,360 you give me. Yeah, if you post it on 73 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:12,520 Instagram before I see it, don't send it afterwards. 74 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:19,880 This thing here let's let's talk about girls that are cute and 75 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:23,080 then they'll send pictures and videos of themselves at work at 76 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:27,440 an event, you know to their men and then two things. 77 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:29,920 In fact, three things will happen because I watched escape 78 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:32,760 three things can happen. The one that will not download 79 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:35,560 it, but we just see it. They do nice pictures. 80 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:39,200 They have not downloaded it too. But if centuries for nice 81 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:43,200 pictures, they are the ones that they will open it. 82 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:45,320 Look at it, I will not say anything to you. 83 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:49,200 And they are the ones that open it and be like, Oh my God, 84 00:04:49,840 --> 00:04:51,960 you're kissing. You know, they're giving you 85 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:55,080 that energy for you to know that you're pure, like you're pretty, 86 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:58,440 you're beautiful, you know, the day is yours, make good of it. 87 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:02,480 You know, that kind of thing. But the idea of saying that 88 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:09,640 because I sent it to you, I shouldn't post it, OK, I mean, I 89 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:12,360 get it anyway because if it's mine, it's mine. 90 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:14,280 Don't. Don't give it to anybody else. 91 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:18,200 To add to that, another person said if you send it, if you send 92 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,880 it to me, you don't need to post it after. 93 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:24,880 OK, so the idea is that when you send me a picture, that picture 94 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:27,240 is not going anywhere on your socials because you sent it to 95 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:28,080 me. It's for me. 96 00:05:28,280 --> 00:05:29,640 That's the idea. That's what I think. 97 00:05:29,680 --> 00:05:32,200 Yeah. Weekends are for football and 98 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:33,880 related things. Stop annoying. 99 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:37,640 Stop being annoying. See, I'm all for you men 100 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:40,280 enjoying your football. I'm all for you men enjoying 101 00:05:40,280 --> 00:05:42,640 your football season. Football this, football that. 102 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:45,680 But you do understand that we are also all busy, right? 103 00:05:45,680 --> 00:05:49,040 Du during the week, we're going to work, we're going for events, 104 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:50,200 we're doing this, we're doing that. 105 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:53,600 So the time that sometimes we actually have to spend with you 106 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:55,800 is during the weekend. So if you're telling me that 107 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:58,280 because you're watching your football, I can't spend time 108 00:05:58,280 --> 00:06:01,120 with you, then we actually are dating. 109 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:05,960 We are probably just existing but that being said, I 110 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:07,360 understand it. But for someone that loves 111 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,720 football like me, I'll probably sit down and watch with you. 112 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,280 So yeah, I'll probably talk about it. 113 00:06:12,280 --> 00:06:15,640 I'll call you and ask you how far what's going on was one. 114 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:17,800 I'll not sit down and watch alone If I'm alone, I'll not 115 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:19,720 watch it. But if my boyfriend is watching 116 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,000 it, I'm interested in football so I'll sit down and watch with 117 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:23,600 him and probably talk about it with him. 118 00:06:23,840 --> 00:06:25,800 Do you get it? Because I actually want to spend 119 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:27,040 time with him. Yeah. 120 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:28,640 One. Hey, this one day get sick. 121 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:31,240 So one make her not see you online. 122 00:06:31,240 --> 00:06:36,320 After we share the grace and made each other good night or 123 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:40,280 beat each other good night. Dead body go surplus in the 124 00:06:40,280 --> 00:06:43,960 morning. I'm your boyfriend and bestie. 125 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:47,520 Period. Before you post a picture, make 126 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:49,040 us see him first. What? 127 00:06:49,840 --> 00:06:50,880 No, that one. Nah. 128 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:54,760 The hell are are you my anybody guards or what are you 129 00:06:54,760 --> 00:06:58,080 protecting me from? Don't shake your bum online. 130 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:05,920 Make tender no fire. You OK talk to me daily? 131 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:12,080 Oh, this *** is a green flag. Talk to me daily. 132 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:16,280 Because I remember on my personal account I did a video 133 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:19,040 talking about how people are talking about whether it's 134 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:22,720 important to talk to your partner on a daily basis or in 135 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:25,000 your communication. I was supposed to happen daily 136 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:29,200 basis, intermittently, once a week, once a year, once a month. 137 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,520 And a lot of people are saying that hey, if you want your 138 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:33,720 boyfriend to be talking to you daily, then you are jobless. 139 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:36,400 Or if you want a partner to be talking to you daily, then you 140 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:39,040 are jobless. So for me to hear a man say that 141 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:41,120 I want to talk to you daily, it's good. 142 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:43,280 I'm not asking you to sit on the phone with me for one hour. 143 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:45,560 In fact, we sit on the phone with you for 10 minutes. 144 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,440 Sometimes it's even annoying. Do you get it? 145 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:52,920 If I'm able to see like it was not a distance relationship and 146 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,000 we are in the same city we see each other being on the phone 147 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:58,120 with you for 10 minutes. This isn't annoying for me. 148 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:01,120 I just want to know how you're doing what your day is looking 149 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:02,520 like. That's it. 150 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:05,680 And then maybe in the middle of the day, just shoot me a text. 151 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:08,640 Oh, babe, this this is a talk later. 152 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:12,760 Do you get sick? Yeah, so constant communication. 153 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:15,480 Perfect. And then the safe one is I love 154 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:18,200 you. Oh, this guy is giving grim 155 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:21,320 flag. This guy says don't jokingly 156 00:08:21,320 --> 00:08:24,600 call me big head. Oh, but that's that's as you 157 00:08:24,600 --> 00:08:26,880 said, it's a joke. So why are you making a first 158 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:29,120 out of it? Or are you OK? 159 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:30,400 Maybe. Well, it's your feelings. 160 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:33,640 Whatever you want. Don't put the things I do for 161 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:36,280 you on social media. I'm not here for your bragging, 162 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:38,200 right. I'm yet to make sure that you 163 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:38,960 are. All right. 164 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:42,320 Well, then you shouldn't date a content creator because whatever 165 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:44,640 you give to us, we'll go and put it out there. 166 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:46,720 Kavis. Yeah. 167 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:53,680 Not everything, actually, because I've gotten some things 168 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:57,520 and I've never really put them out there like that. 169 00:08:57,600 --> 00:09:00,080 You get it? Whenever I'm dating. 170 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,080 And it's not everything that I put out there about my 171 00:09:03,080 --> 00:09:05,040 relationship. Do you get it? 172 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:06,600 Yeah. Sometimes you may not even know 173 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:08,680 who I'm dating. Do you get it? 174 00:09:08,680 --> 00:09:10,320 This one says I'm your boyfriend. 175 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:11,200 And this. Yeah. 176 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:14,080 I mean, we all know that. We all know that. 177 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:16,520 Don't ever visit me when you're menstruating. 178 00:09:17,480 --> 00:09:20,320 Something is wrong with you. Something is wrong with you. 179 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,640 Your girlfriend is menstruating. You're telling her not to come 180 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:24,920 close to you when she's menstruating. 181 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:32,480 That thing. Oh God, are you OK? 182 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:37,800 What the hell? When your fellow gender some of 183 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:40,200 them are doing hits What you hitting part? 184 00:09:40,560 --> 00:09:47,840 Preparing menstruation packages? Doing pampering, buying them 185 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,280 chocolate, food, ice cream, comfort food, things to make 186 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:52,800 them feel comfortable. In that time you're telling her 187 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:56,360 not to come close to him. What kind of man are you? 188 00:09:56,360 --> 00:10:00,000 Dear hell, is this your girlfriend or it's your sex 189 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:01,680 buddy? Because what I'm hearing from 190 00:10:01,680 --> 00:10:05,600 this is that until she's ripped to have sex, she didn't come 191 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:07,920 close to him. So this one is not a girlfriend. 192 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:09,880 This one is not a boyfriend material. 193 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:13,880 My girls out there, this *** when you see him, have you heard 194 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:19,120 that thing? Run away, run my sister, run 195 00:10:19,120 --> 00:10:21,760 because this is Red Banner, red carpets. 196 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:24,280 That is what it is. They're hell. 197 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:27,720 I'm going to end the first section here because this thing 198 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:30,120 is running me up. So I'll end the thread section 199 00:10:30,280 --> 00:10:34,080 and then I'll go into the Tales and Confessions bit of the 200 00:10:34,080 --> 00:10:36,800 episode. Now let's get into the first 201 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:38,880 story. Today I'm going to be relaxing 202 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:42,240 to read the stories. I'm not going to pick the laptop 203 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:43,600 and put them up. Let's read it from here. 204 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:51,920 This one says hello POV good afternoon there's this guy I'm 205 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:55,200 dating now for the past two months, getting to three months 206 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:58,320 now and we started dating. We were cool, everything was 207 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:01,960 going on. Well, I met him at where I'm 208 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:05,960 working now. So one day my company organized 209 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:08,960 an outing for all the workers. This guy forced me to go 'cause 210 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:12,360 he didn't want to feel alone. So I went and we got there. 211 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,840 I saw that the guy I'm dating now is chatting with another 212 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:18,400 girl. By the way, they were standing 213 00:11:18,560 --> 00:11:20,160 and talking and hugging each other. 214 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:24,040 I didn't like it. I approached him and asked him 215 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:25,920 and he said they are just friends. 216 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:29,320 I didn't talk again. Since that time I have been 217 00:11:29,320 --> 00:11:31,720 seeing them in a way I don't like. 218 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:36,680 Another time I went to visit him in his house, I saw that he has 219 00:11:36,680 --> 00:11:39,480 used another girl's picture as his wallpaper. 220 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:43,040 I asked him and he said they are just friends now. 221 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:46,040 We have stopped calling and texting and when I asked him he 222 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:50,040 claims he is busy all day. Please tell me what to do. 223 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:55,760 Don't call him again. I don't know. 224 00:11:55,760 --> 00:12:00,920 But I'm learning something, OK? I am the type of person that 225 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:04,120 when I like somebody, I don't hide it, OK? 226 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:07,200 I get excited. And you, the man, you will know. 227 00:12:08,560 --> 00:12:12,360 I'm happy anytime I see you. I'm happy to see you, right? 228 00:12:13,240 --> 00:12:18,080 And I have learned since the hard way that when a man sees 229 00:12:18,080 --> 00:12:22,520 that a girl is too available for him, he doesn't like it. 230 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:29,280 I was recently also listening to Love Clinic and it's it's done 231 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:31,560 by the Alpha Hour Pasta. Yes. 232 00:12:31,560 --> 00:12:34,200 I've been listening to Love Clinic a lot these days. 233 00:12:34,200 --> 00:12:37,040 And he also said the same thing in one of the episodes. 234 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:40,160 You can't go on any of the Apple podcast cases and plug in your 235 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:42,680 key and, well, listen to Love Clinic and you will get a lot of 236 00:12:42,680 --> 00:12:45,280 insightful information there. OK, Yeah. 237 00:12:45,680 --> 00:12:49,640 So basically he mentioned that when a man sees that a woman is 238 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:52,320 too available, he starts to misbehave. 239 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:56,680 He misbehaves, so pull back and if he wants you, he will come 240 00:12:56,680 --> 00:12:58,440 for you. I know you spent your three 241 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:01,520 months with him and everything. Now please pull back, OK? 242 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:05,760 Because some of us have learned the hard way once more than 243 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:09,400 once, not more than twice hard way, that when we like people 244 00:13:09,560 --> 00:13:12,200 and they know we like them, they misbehave. 245 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:14,440 So please pull back. Don't call him again. 246 00:13:14,440 --> 00:13:16,800 Leave your life, go to work, don't talk to him. 247 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:19,760 In fact, if you're going to talk to me about work, like if you 248 00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:21,880 understand department with him and you need to ask him about 249 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:23,680 work, go to him and ask him about it. 250 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:25,440 Conversate with him like a normal colleague. 251 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:27,560 Don't go and do boyfriend or girlfriend. 252 00:13:27,560 --> 00:13:29,880 You said no, don't mind him, he's not worth it. 253 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:33,040 When he comes back and you think about it and you feel like you 254 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:35,280 want to be with me again, and looking at it, I don't think you 255 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:37,760 should be with me again because Amanda doesn't value you enough 256 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:40,760 to be in a compromised position with another woman. 257 00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:43,960 Uses another woman as ADP or being wallpaper. 258 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:47,680 Boy, forget it. Okay, girl, forget it. 259 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:49,600 We're back. All right? 260 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:57,200 Yeah, I'm a guy of 23 years who's currently dating a girl 261 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,400 who is 21. I really love this girl but I 262 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:02,600 feel like I'm in a competition with her recent ex. 263 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:06,600 I see her talking to her ex at her shop most of the time which 264 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:11,080 I'm less bothered about but she also has their old videos 265 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:12,960 together. The last time I asked her to 266 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:16,760 delete them because it appears to me as if I'm some sort of 267 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:21,000 healing pushing for her for the period and it's her first time 268 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:24,640 since we began dating. Which again I took her out to 269 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:28,080 get some meal and drinks. We got home and then she ate. 270 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:30,560 We spoke and she told me that she likes me. 271 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:35,320 I had to say why and she said her ex never regarded her as a 272 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:39,040 partner whenever she's on her period and here I am pampering 273 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:43,960 her and all that. I later asked her to give me her 274 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:46,960 phone so I go to her gallery only to find out that those 275 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:50,280 videos were still on it. I just switched her phone back 276 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,360 to where she asked me what was wrong, which I told her not to 277 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:55,040 be agitated. I'm poor apparently. 278 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:57,840 She told me that the reason she can't delete those videos is 279 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:01,800 that the guy only appeared in there for some short time while 280 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:05,080 she was recording herself, but it turned out to be otherwise. 281 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:08,000 I really love this girl and I want to build a lifey day. 282 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:11,400 Last time we almost broke up just because I asked her for the 283 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:13,760 videos to keep the relationship alive. 284 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:18,320 I'm not a blue guy to, although I know money is less vital in 285 00:15:18,480 --> 00:15:23,360 things to hold a lady down with what I've got. 286 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:26,720 I've got other qualities too, but at this point I need your 287 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:29,200 aid at this point as well. Tautology. 288 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:34,640 But my dear, give her a sound warning. 289 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:41,680 OK, let's I know this, I did. I talked about this whole period 290 00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:47,000 thing in the threads that a man that cannot be close to your 291 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:51,440 woman during her period is not a man really. 292 00:15:52,280 --> 00:15:56,520 And any man as a girl that will send you away because of your 293 00:15:56,520 --> 00:15:58,400 period doesn't want to be with you. 294 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:03,160 Technically he's just with you because whenever you arrive for 295 00:16:03,160 --> 00:16:08,960 sex, you guys can have the sex. So she's seen red flags as still 296 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:13,920 being there makes her a problem. Now give her a sound warning 297 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:18,280 that if she doesn't want to lose what both of you have, she will 298 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:21,680 delete those videos. If she doesn't want to lose the 299 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:25,400 relationship, she will lose contact with her ex. 300 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:29,280 Because I still don't understand why if you are not probably 301 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:32,800 working with your ex when you guys need to see each other, I 302 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:35,880 don't know why you supposed to keep conversations with your ex. 303 00:16:35,880 --> 00:16:39,000 So I don't know why this girl is hanging around that so-called ex 304 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:41,800 of this. If she is not going to respect 305 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:45,240 you enough as a boyfriend to let go of that dude, let's go of her 306 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:47,320 because she's not worth it period. 307 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:51,440 That's lovely. That's lovely. 308 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:53,440 Hi POV. I love you and I love you too 309 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:55,000 baby. I love you too. 310 00:16:55,160 --> 00:16:58,080 I I like this. I hope nobody has gets you. 311 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:00,720 I love. Please give me anonymous. 312 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:04,400 I'm a 24 year old girl. I met my boyfriend when I got 313 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:07,720 admission into the university. Was everything I prayed for to 314 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:11,960 God in a man and still the problem is I'm done with school 315 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:16,520 and getting ready for my NYSE and this guy is not saying 316 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:19,800 anything about marriage. Mind you my parents are late. 317 00:17:19,960 --> 00:17:22,920 My mom and him were cool before she passed on. 318 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:27,400 Both families know each other but for some reasons she's not 319 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:31,360 ready for marriage. Sometimes I feel maybe it's 320 00:17:31,360 --> 00:17:34,840 because he's not financially stable as he used to be. 321 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:39,120 Sometimes I feel I am the one with the issues and he doesn't 322 00:17:39,120 --> 00:17:44,640 just want to marry me and after seven years of relationship he 323 00:17:44,640 --> 00:17:47,760 may be wasting my time. I don't know if I should move on 324 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:56,120 before it gets to help me. And you'll not be able to 325 00:17:56,120 --> 00:17:58,000 handle. Please I need your advice. 326 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:02,560 Thank you very much. Oh my girl, I love you. 327 00:18:02,880 --> 00:18:06,880 OK, but 24 I need you to understand this. 328 00:18:07,120 --> 00:18:12,200 I get it. And I when I turned 25 my family 329 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:15,800 started doing it the whole time. We are soon like your time is 330 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:21,120 almost there, you know? But this is the thing, age 331 00:18:21,120 --> 00:18:26,280 cannot define marriage. The only thing I see as a 332 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:29,720 problem here is your fear of it's being a waste of time 333 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:36,000 because it's already 7 years. OK, now the best you can do for 334 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:38,920 yourself, don't up and leave is to sit down and have a 335 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:42,000 conversation with him. Don't go and do. 336 00:18:42,000 --> 00:18:43,680 When are you? When are you marrying me? 337 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:46,240 When are we making it? Like why have you not got to ask 338 00:18:46,240 --> 00:18:47,600 for my hand in marriage? Why have not proposed? 339 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:51,200 No, don't go doing that. Have a decent conversation with 340 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:54,360 him and let him know that. Listen baby, I've spent 341 00:18:54,360 --> 00:18:59,280 something good years with you and I have just completed 342 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:01,320 school. I know things are not like it 343 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:05,440 used to be, but do you think that we can come to a compromise 344 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:09,560 and then start thinking of settling down now? 345 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:13,400 His answers to those questions will give you the clue you need, 346 00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:16,680 whether he's truly, truly wasting your time or actually 347 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:21,640 wants to marry you in the end. But notes this guy can be 348 00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:24,360 manipulated and manipulate you to think that he's going to 349 00:19:24,360 --> 00:19:27,000 marry you. You need to be very smart in 350 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:32,280 this situation at this moment. You need to put your girl 351 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:36,360 investigative, you know, smart thinking mind up swishing, 352 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:38,360 right? And then have a conversation 353 00:19:38,360 --> 00:19:40,520 with him and read through the conversation or read through 354 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:42,400 that what things are coming from his mouth. 355 00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:45,000 They read through it. Don't just listen to what he's 356 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:47,880 saying or don't just listen to him saying, oh, there, don't 357 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:49,600 worry, the right time will come home. 358 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:53,880 Let him give you a detailed explanation of what he means by 359 00:19:53,880 --> 00:19:57,360 the right time because everybody has plans. 360 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:00,320 You are 24. I don't know his age. 361 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:03,800 Did you put his age here? So maybe he's probably in his 362 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:07,600 20s and he thinks, oh, I want to get married in my 30s. 363 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,080 He has his own plan and you have your own plans. 364 00:20:11,120 --> 00:20:13,560 And so you need to ask him about his plans for the future. 365 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:16,600 And then here, telling you about the plans for the future can 366 00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:19,000 give you a hint whether you guys are going to end up settling 367 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:21,680 down or this is just a bunch of time wasted. 368 00:20:22,360 --> 00:20:25,840 All right, Anyway, I wish you well, OK? 369 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:31,360 You'll be fine. Please give me anonymous. 370 00:20:31,360 --> 00:20:35,320 I'm a 20 year old lady. I have been dating this guy for 371 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,480 the past nine months. He treats me based on his mood 372 00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:43,800 yet flirts with other girls that doesn't want me to even talk to 373 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,520 any other guy. I love him so much that I can't 374 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:51,840 stop loving him but knowing he's hurting me Because when he's 375 00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:55,120 doing something and you tell him he gets pissed off. 376 00:20:55,280 --> 00:21:01,520 Please advise him run away. See, there are some things that 377 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:07,640 are clear and cut that if you sit down there and follow your 378 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:11,200 feelings and stay with that person, you will end up in a 379 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:16,400 psychiatric hospital. It will take your sanity away. 380 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:21,080 Do not allow any relationship take your sanity away because 381 00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:24,240 the second it starts to mean that you lose yourself and 382 00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:28,000 that's it. That's it until you hit your 383 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:31,800 rock bottom and then you realize that I and that one cry will 384 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:37,760 take something. A man that will not treat you 385 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:40,400 right and treat you based on his mood. 386 00:21:42,040 --> 00:21:44,520 The hell? Because this is what I believe. 387 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:49,680 Even when things are not well in a relationship, we can still 388 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:51,960 communicate that we can still do things that we do for each 389 00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:53,720 other. So for example, I have a 390 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:58,800 boyfriend and then we fight. Then me that I know will not say 391 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:02,280 because we fought. If I need to cook for you, I 392 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:05,240 won't cook for you. Or if I need to go somewhere 393 00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:08,480 with you, I'll go with you. Listen, the truth is, I will go 394 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:11,480 with you. And even when we are outside, be 395 00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:15,200 clingy around you, in fact, even in the house and communicate and 396 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,120 everything. Because you know what, I'm not 397 00:22:18,120 --> 00:22:20,080 going to hide how I feel about that thing should die. 398 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:26,160 If you are going to shout at me, push me away, misbehave around 399 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:31,040 me because you are in a bad mood, what kind of man are you? 400 00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:39,680 Because even me as a woman that's in this world, we claim 401 00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:42,120 or we say that women are emotional. 402 00:22:42,120 --> 00:22:46,640 Even me as a woman, I am not allowing my mood to determine 403 00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:50,840 how I communicate with you. I love. 404 00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:55,320 Why are you doing it as a man? I remember this Nigerian poet, 405 00:22:55,520 --> 00:23:00,080 She's a as a man. As a man, why are you doing 406 00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:00,880 this? She's on Tectography. 407 00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:02,720 What's her name? I say man. 408 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,080 I say man. Yeah, Yeah. 409 00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:06,840 So don't allow that to happen to you. 410 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:08,320 Don't tolerate it. Don't take it. 411 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,960 Speak about it. And if he misbehaves, it's a 412 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:16,240 lot. Just just just think about 413 00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:17,360 yourself. Think about the future. 414 00:23:17,360 --> 00:23:19,320 You'll be able to deal with this for the rest of your life. 415 00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,800 Because the truth is, for life is for life. 416 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:25,320 I know divorce is becoming a thing these days, but let's also 417 00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:28,080 look at this from the point where for life is for life. 418 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,880 So the only time you can up and live like that is when you are 419 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,440 dating the person. But when you finally end up 420 00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:38,000 marrying the person, you don't have anywhere to go because when 421 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:43,480 you you divorce, it's crazy. There's there's stigma, the old 422 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,360 divorce stigma in this continent. 423 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:50,240 So if we're a divorced woman to get someone to marry you and in 424 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:52,560 these days it's it's not as it used to be. 425 00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:57,560 Someone can divorce this year, marry next year, but still 426 00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:00,040 stigmatization. People will still say, hey, you 427 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,040 just left your marriage and you invented another one. 428 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:07,080 Like do you get it? So my dear, pros and cons, OK. 429 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,640 And make your decisions based on those pros and cons, right? 430 00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:14,320 Yeah, let's love it. Let's love it. 431 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:18,280 Hi POV, what advice would you give me as a two years stay home 432 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:22,280 SHS graduate who was passionate about going to medical school? 433 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,960 I have good grades but seems right now in Ghana your merits 434 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,040 alone aren't enough for you to go up higher. 435 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:33,240 I'm so broken and don't know what else I would love to. 436 00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:38,240 I just want to know anything else I would love to do as in 437 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:40,840 the UNI programs. It's so heartbreaking to see 438 00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:44,480 you're working so hard to achieve something you love, but 439 00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:48,120 it seems you might not get it and would have to settle for 440 00:24:48,120 --> 00:24:51,160 something else you're not interested in. 441 00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:59,280 Oh I'm sad, I'm fucking sad. Because you see how the system 442 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:02,840 we have in this country destroying lives, destroying 443 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:08,080 dreams, breaking people because you need to pay bribe to get to 444 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:10,080 certain places? Because you need to know 445 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:12,240 somebody to get to certain places. 446 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,560 You see how sad and bad it is? Hmm. 447 00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:24,960 My dear, I know someone right that wanted to go to medical 448 00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:26,720 school. I wanted to do medicine. 449 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:34,560 Very intelligent guy, very smart guy, right and his was a matter 450 00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:37,840 of I think he got AB in one of their courses and they were like 451 00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,520 Nah, don't take him. He wanted a straight A's thingy 452 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,680 at the time. I checked a car like those olden 453 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:45,280 times not to do that. You can use whatever you want to 454 00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:48,280 go there if you have the connections. 455 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:53,840 But he, he didn't do medicine. But then he, I think he did 456 00:25:53,960 --> 00:26:00,560 something around pharmacy and then is working in an insurance 457 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:05,360 company as those people that check people's diagnosis before 458 00:26:05,360 --> 00:26:08,240 the, you know, those insurance people release their money and 459 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,080 all these things. I don't know the name of the 460 00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,640 profession, but that is what that person did is close to 461 00:26:13,640 --> 00:26:16,000 medicine. I think when we used to talk a 462 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,720 lot and he was telling me about. So I realized that he was still 463 00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:21,880 excited about diagnosing people and solving issues in the 464 00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:25,600 medical field. And this job is giving him the 465 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:30,760 opportunity to, you know, go through not like the major parts 466 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:33,280 of it, but a little bit of it. And he's still enjoying his 467 00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:35,680 life. So I think you should do some 468 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:40,320 research and then see what's around medicine that you can do, 469 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,280 You understand? Yeah. 470 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:43,680 So he didn't go to medical school. 471 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:46,840 He went to the university. They studied a program around 472 00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,840 that, I think. Was it pharmacy? 473 00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,280 I don't know what he studied, but he said he he studied some. 474 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:56,720 He didn't do medicine, but what he studied was close to, you 475 00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:00,640 know, medicine that got him into the insurance and you know where 476 00:27:00,640 --> 00:27:04,160 he is now. So yeah, I think that's what you 477 00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:05,680 need to do. You need to sit down and do 478 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:10,760 research and then try and also find another passion because you 479 00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:12,880 know you can't always find passion somewhere. 480 00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,920 So try and find another passion and see where that can lead you. 481 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:20,760 But I am going to say that I am sorry that the system is doing 482 00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:26,000 this to you. OK, Yeah, that's why I've been 483 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,280 in a relationship with a woman for two years. 484 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,440 We've been in love and have shared many things together. 485 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:35,800 However, before we even reached the one year mark, she cheated 486 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:43,360 on me with an old classmate. I'm sorry. 487 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,640 When I confronted her, she claimed it was a mistake. 488 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,880 She told me that the guy gave her alcohol, took her to a 489 00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,720 nearby motel and things escalated from there. 490 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,680 So she was raped. Is that it? 491 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:02,360 If she if the guy gave her alcohol and then she was drunk 492 00:28:02,360 --> 00:28:06,240 and couldn't consent, was it? Was she raped? 493 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,240 Is that it? That's crazy. 494 00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:13,360 So I'm going to have a conversation with someone 495 00:28:13,360 --> 00:28:14,080 behind. OK. 496 00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,760 It's a guy. You think it's not rape? 497 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:19,240 Come close. Let me hear you. 498 00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:21,920 I don't think it's. You don't think it's real. 499 00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:24,600 What do you think it is? Me just trying to make up 500 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,640 stories to prove that. So he's saying that maybe you 501 00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:30,280 may not hear what he's saying, but he's saying that maybe the 502 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:34,360 girl is trying to make up stories to victimize herself 503 00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:38,120 musically, Right? Yeah, so let's continue. 504 00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:41,040 It was incredibly difficult for me to forgive her, but I 505 00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:44,880 eventually did. What had the most was her lie 506 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,520 like alcohol and had never drunk it before. 507 00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:52,680 She did mention once that she was curious about trying alcohol 508 00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:56,840 and advise her about the risk, especially if I wasn't with an 509 00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,200 AI. Even assured her that if she 510 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:04,280 wanted to try drinking she could do it with me around and I would 511 00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:11,800 make sure she's safe. OK OK, she had an option and she 512 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:13,320 decided to choose what she wants to choose. 513 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:17,720 OK, I promised not to take advantage of her whilst she was 514 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:20,600 under the influence because I knew she wouldn't be in the 515 00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,640 right state of mind. She agreed to this. 516 00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:27,440 So how could she go out with her friend, drink alcohol and then 517 00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:31,480 tell me it was a mistake? I think you are actually a very 518 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,560 self aware person for you to break it down like this for 519 00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,880 yourself. Well done, well done. 520 00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,640 You're so far away. This has been bothering me ever 521 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,760 since and I don't think I'll ever get over it unless you 522 00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:48,320 break up completely. Honestly the pain just lingers. 523 00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:51,800 Fast forward, we are still in a relationship but she hasn't 524 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,480 visited me in seven months. After those seven months she 525 00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,200 stopped calling and texting me and I did same. 526 00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:01,640 I could sense that she had probably found someone else. 527 00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:06,040 She's the type who likes giving her number to other guys, so I 528 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:09,120 knew something was off. So I kept my composure. 529 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:12,880 But before those seven months of not seeing her, I remembered she 530 00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:16,480 told me that her mother had been advising her not to be foolish 531 00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:20,120 by coming to see me. Her mother believed that it was 532 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:23,520 my duty as a guy to visit her, not the other way around. 533 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,400 I was taking her back. How could I be visiting her with 534 00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:29,320 her mother around? It's something that could happen 535 00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:31,440 once in a while, but not regularly. 536 00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:34,120 So I wasn't surprised when she stopped Sandy. 537 00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:37,400 I think she finally agreed with her mother, but she didn't tell 538 00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:39,320 me. We don't both be online, but 539 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,200 neither of us will be chatting each other. 540 00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:45,800 As a guy, I'm OK with him, but I like your opinion on whether I 541 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:47,840 should text her and end things for good. 542 00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:51,800 I want to tell her that we're done and that I can't be with 543 00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:54,040 her anymore. She should live her life with 544 00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:58,240 her mother and family while I'm back on my journey and focus on 545 00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:01,160 building myself. I kept a secret from her mother 546 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,080 which is that her daughter slept with another guy besides me 547 00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:07,960 while playing with her daughter's feelings, so the 548 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,720 trust isn't there. Her mother also thinks that I 549 00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:13,520 should be taking care of her daughter's means when she 550 00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,960 believes I'm not doing giving all of this, where do I stand? 551 00:31:18,440 --> 00:31:21,680 So you see I was talking to someone behind the camera when I 552 00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,640 was in the beginning. The person said don't text 553 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:27,240 there, but I disagree. This is why I disagree. 554 00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:30,520 I'm a woman. When she goes and she hits her 555 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,760 head, she will remember that she has somebody and come back. 556 00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:37,040 And then when when you try to say that about we are over, she 557 00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:38,160 told you about we didn't break up. 558 00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:42,520 So why not cut things off right? And then don't even chat here 559 00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:45,080 like you are chatting here. You need a response. 560 00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,640 No, send a message. I don't think this is working 561 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,440 anymore. We've been separated for the 562 00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:53,120 past seven months. As soon we are done, don't wait 563 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:56,640 for her opinion. Don't wait for her opinion. 564 00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:00,520 You are done. So when she comes back, you can 565 00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:03,240 just refer. And in fact, when you finish 566 00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:06,880 blocking, because this one, hey, uselessness, I've never seen 567 00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:11,120 some before. I've never seen some before. 568 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,720 The mother of asking you to take care of her, Did you give that 569 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:22,200 to her? You see, I'm awful men, you 570 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,680 know, being nice to your girlfriends, gifting them, 571 00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:26,560 taking them out and all that. I'm all for that. 572 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:27,520 I love that. Me, me. 573 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:30,560 I like pampering. But when you get entitled about 574 00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:36,080 it, that is where I get issues because you the mother that you 575 00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:39,400 want to open your leg and push their out if you can't take care 576 00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:42,160 of it. A man that has not come to ask 577 00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,680 for her hand in marriage, you want the man to take care of all 578 00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:46,400 her needs. Is she not working? 579 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:47,960 How old is she? How old is this girl? 580 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:56,120 Do you add age? No you didn't. 581 00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:01,560 But in the end you are not the mother so you can't take all the 582 00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:04,960 responsibilities on top of it. The mother is expecting you to 583 00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:07,600 take full responsibility for a cheat. 584 00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:10,000 It's not even like the girl is correct too. 585 00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:14,120 She's also a cheat, my dear. Forget to forget to forget it. 586 00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,400 Forget it, forget it. OK? 587 00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:21,040 So just shoot a text and unblock her and move on, OK? 588 00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:22,280 Thank you very much for watching. 589 00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:23,960 Thank you very much for subscribing. 590 00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:27,160 Thank you very much for sharing. I mean, I love you guys. 591 00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:30,120 Subscribe, like and then share. OK. 592 00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,480 And as I said, if you have run out there and I said this 593 00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:37,560 before, whether small business or big business or a large, you 594 00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:42,040 know, enterprise and you want to advertise, the POV is open to 595 00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:45,640 collaborating with you. Small amounts, small amounts, 596 00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,440 they'll work together. OK, let's build your business 597 00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:50,280 for you. I'll see you in the next 598 00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,040 episode. Bye.