In a Ghanaian, you know, we will say it's a mechanic playing in
it, playing far. Any woman that wants an
unavailable man is broken. When you you you're about to
date somebody. Please check your genotype.
If she can play someone, she can play you to what's so special
about you that she can play you dude?
So do you my dear, but no that a lot of the times the things that
you do is a reflection of the kind of person that you are.
We're back again with another exciting episode of the Few
Report cast. You're going to read some
confessions or some dilemmas and then talk about them.
My name is Nanukya Depar. And then every day I say that in
as much as you didn't send a story does not mean that you
would not resonate with one or two of the stories and use a few
of the opinions I will be giving to you in the comment section.
So please share for other people to also have access to it just
like you have access to it. Now, before I get into this, you
know, this particular episode, listen, I'm sad.
I'm sad because on Saturday, right?
The Saturday episode I posted in the snippet, there was an angle
where I was talking about intentionality from people.
I live in gender specify it, you know, intentionally.
I just spoke about it in in a sense that people should be
intentional about dating people. They should stop being
nonchalant. And I'm sad because it looks
like our generation of men seem to think that women like and
want nonchalant men. This may just be my opinion, but
I'm going to say the street in the Ghanaian, you know, we will
say it's a mechanic plane, an airplane farm.
Any woman that wants an unavailable man is broken, is
damaged emotionally. That person needs to go and see
a therapist and find solutions to their problems because I tell
you that men that are emotionally unavailable are
straining and draining to be with any young lady that is OK
dating a man that is nonchalant. A man that is emotionally
unavailable has a problem. I've said what I've said and I
said before if it's just my opinion, I mean, it's just my
opinion, but I strongly stand in it.
And my sisters that actually agree with me, please come into
the comments section. Let's talk about sense.
Let's let's, let's, let's talk about sensible women, women that
actually have sense and know what they want in life.
Not all these broken women, I mean all of us are broken one
way or the other. But to think that in your life,
an unavailable man and one silence man is who you want to
be with for the rest of your life, then something is wrong
with you. We need to get you checked.
Seriously. Now let's get into this episode
or this session. Let me get straight by saying
that if they posted it on social media.
If they posted it on social media, if they posted it on
social media, then they made it our business.
And since they made it our business, we're gonna make it
our business. When I say this, I'm basically
trying to say that yeah, they posted it and so we're gonna
talk about it. The fact that they sent it to me
does not mean that I will be disrespectful about it.
I will not be, I will not be disrespectful, but I'm going to
tell you what I think about whatever you're sending me.
If I need to be hard on you, I will be hard on you.
If I need to be soft, I will be soft.
All right, so let's get straight into it, dear.
Keep me anonymous. I don't even know where to start
from. I've been dating my mom for six
years now. Yeah, when I met him, I made him
understand that I'm a sickle cell patient with genotype SC,
so you should check his before anything happens between us.
But he convinced me that he isn't having any sickle cell
disorder because there hasn't been any day that he has
experienced any pains in his arms or legs before.
So I agreed to be with him for the past six years.
He's the only man I know because of my condition.
I don't want to be sleeping elsewhere because of my
condition. Again.
Any small thing makes me get crisis only for me to know that
is also a sickle cell carrier with genotype.
As as I'm typing I'm in tears. He said he doesn't care about
the status and we can still get married.
But OK. I know how painful the sickness
is. I can't let my children suffer
the way I am suffering and he is the only man I have ever known.
He's scaring, genuine and he loves me and I love him too.
I don't know what to do I'm in a deep mess.
Please I need your opinion and your followers too.
I will be in the comments section.
Oh Lord have mercy. Lord have mercy.
That is why, you see, I liked that you were asserting that he
should check it. I can't sit here and be
judgmental and say that's leaving, leaving, leaving.
But there's been lots of awareness about genotype issues
and the effects of genotype with genotype issues when it has to
come with children. And I like that she said that
your children must not go through this because you know
the pain. Now you need to make a logical
decision here. Don't think about just the
emotions about how you love him. Is there a possibility?
I don't think there's a possibility because both of you
are carriers. So there's no way that it will
be like, OK, because maybe one person is carrying, there's a
chance that the child will not be carrying.
But because both of you are carrying, I may not have all the
details, but I'm assuming that the child may, may, may also
carry. So as you're thinking about the
future of your children are like that, let it be like that and
make a decision that will be beneficial to your children, not
just you right now. Don't just think about how you
feel now, OK? I mean, at least that's what I
think. But the comment section should
also let us know what they think.
This is extremely sad. Let me just use the opportunity
to say that when you, you you're about to date somebody, please
check your genotype. Check and be sure.
Even if the person said, oh, forget I don't have it, please
check because this is evidence that's the passing may have
issues. The passing may carry it too.
But because of the fact that they want you, they will
probably lie to you. So let them check and maybe be
there to to get what you need to get to be able to, you know.
Yeah, that's. How?
It that's how it dear it can. I have a boyfriend who is 30 but
mind you my boyfriend doesn't look his age.
This guy has been so good to me ever since we met that I felt he
was sent to help me. My parents have separated, my
mom wish to help me financially but she's not capable.
My dad also provides for my fees and who's still but I have to
cater for the rest which I'm not working.
This boyfriend of mine has always been supportive.
He bought me a laptop to school my provisions, pays for my hair,
bought me clothes and he assists me any time I need.
He puts a lot of effort in this relationship.
Apart from this he's gentle, calm, caring and God fearing.
Since we started dating he has not done anything bad, he's just
been kind and he supports my dream and encourages me anytime
my separated parents frustrates me.
He's always been there and he's my kind of man.
Fast forward I was sick one day and he drove me home so
eventually he saw my mom and I introduced him.
Two days after he left my mom told me he doesn't like him
because he's fancy and asked me if he's rich.
Mind you my dad is fancy but because of his marital issues
she said no daughter of hers would be married to a fancy man.
I feel I love this guy and he's been too good to me that I feel
that I shouldn't pay him with bad even not for anything.
He's always been there for me, but my mom is the problem.
OK, I will be in the comments section.
What should I do? Should I break up with him or?
I'm confused? He's good to you.
Don't just jump and break up with him because of what your
mother has been through. Just not long ago I've had a
very crazy experience about stereotyping, right?
And I'm gonna tell you the hard way, a very good friend of mine
said, Nana, I know that you've been through shit in the hands
of a lot of men, but you need to take the fear out of your heart
and out of your mind. And when a good one comes to
you, you take it. And you, you, you enjoy the
moment. And if it goes, SAR, it does.
And you know that you've enjoyed the time with him.
But in this case, it has not gone SAR.
It is good for your mom to even ask if he's rich is a problem
for me. Your mom has a problem.
You need to be able to set some boundaries with your mother.
Recently, I think I've been having a lot of conversations
with people about how to deal with their parents in terms of
communication on my life in personal life.
Right here with stories. And let me tell you straight,
the fact that your mother is older than you or your father is
older than you does not mean that everything they tell you is
the right thing. I'm not saying disrespect your
parents. I'm not saying tell, you know,
tell your parents that they are not wise.
I'm telling you that they're human beings and they can make
mistakes. So if this man is good to you,
has not done anything to you, please just have a conversation
with your mother that maybe my father was bad to you, but this
man has not been bad to me so far.
So I do not have any excuse to just walk out of his life or ask
him to walk out of my life. And if that is what you are
seeing, then pay everything that this man has done for me.
Every money, every expenses that this man has spent on me, give
it to me. Let me go and give it back to
him. At least I'll pay him back for
you know, I'll pay him back for all the money wasted.
I, I'm people may come for me in the comment section, but I
understand that the Bible says obey your parents in the Lord
for this is right. And I your father and mother, so
you can have long life. It is there, it is in the Bible.
So don't go and disrespect your mother, but make her understand
in a conversation that you think that the the advice she's giving
you is not right. I don't want you to regret in
future and blame her for something that she could have
done something about. All right, dear Ekia, I've been
dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now.
We are now in separate universities but both in Accra.
She's brilliant and I truly love her because I see potential and
bright future. I took her virginity about a
year ago, but she wasn't very into sex at the time.
However, towards the end of 2024 she started wanting us to be
intimate all the time. Most of her conversations now
revolve around sex and it feels like that's all she thinks
about. She used to be very focused on
her education, brilliant, but now it seems like she's addicted
to sex. I don't want her relationship to
go down that path and I don't want to lose her either.
I really don't know how to help her or handle the situation.
I tried talking but she feels like I want to ignore her.
I love her but I feel like if we continue like this it's not
going to end well. She doesn't seem to understand
that she can be with me anytime she wants but I want us to focus
on things other than sex. Please any opinion.
I need your opinion and I don't want to lose it but also I want
to. I want to help him move away
from this path. I'm concerned about her becoming
addicted to sex. OK, first of all, some people go
to a point where they want to really explore sexually in as
much as is not really bad. It's also, you know, has it's
own complications. And I like that you're actually
willing to focus on your studies and make her focus on her
studies. Start by having a conversation
with her. Maybe find an elderly person
that can intervene between the two of you and have a
conversation with her. I think just telling her that
you can have me anytime is not enough.
But let her know that you love her, you want the best for her,
and your thoughts about slowing down on sex is not for just your
own goodbye for her own good too.
You see, there's a downside to this.
The downside is if she meets someone that is willing to give
her all the sex that she wants, she will cheat on you.
That's the downside of it. If she doesn't understand the
conversation you're going to have with her, she may end up
cheating on you. So you need to thread really
carefully when dealing with this.
The conversation you're going to have with her must be serious
but subtle at the same time. Maybe give her one and then
after giving her that one, you can have that conversation with
her. All right, let's love it.
Let's love it. Dear Agrea, please keep me
anonymous. I'm really confused about
something. I've been seeing this guy for a
couple of months and to be honest I really don't know what
to think anymore. We've been in a thing for a
couple of months now and he has not asked me to be his
girlfriend. I personally I'm not the type
that doesn't like to rush things but months have gone by and this
guy has not officially asked me to be his girlfriend.
And to be honest I'm the type of girl that have men all in my DM
but I feel like leaving him. I'm gonna be too fast to do
that. I really don't know.
Please give me your opinion. OK?
Listen, open communication must happen OK?
When you and someone talk for months and you realize that the
question is not coming up is it? Some people don't really think
asking someone to be your girlfriend is important, but to
some of us it is very important because we don't want along the
line when things start going sour and you talk about it and
he says, did I ever ask you to be like or did I ever propose to
you? We really don't want those
things popping up on us. So we'd rather want you to ask
us so that we would say yes. Even though we know that we
already, you know, are in something together.
You are banking on the fact that a lot of men are your DMS to
live in because they are not. He has not asked you to be his
girlfriend, but what happened to you openly telling him that?
Listen, I don't like what's going on.
I'm not comfortable that we're doing this without you popping
the question of me being your girlfriend.
And I don't think it's fair to any of us.
Openly communicate openly tell him how you feel rather than
thinking that yeah, I'm young, I'm beautiful, there are lots of
men in my DM. So I'm gonna walk away.
What's if the next one who doesn't propose, you're gonna
walk away on that one too? So why not communicate?
Why not just speak to him? Why not just tell him?
Why not? If he's doing everything right
in the talking stage, like consistently putting an effort
to talk to you, like committing to you, it won't be hard for you
to open your mouth to say, oh, my chairman, we've been doing
this for some time now. We've not popped the question.
And when he says that, I, why do I really need to pop the
question? Then you can tell me that.
Well, I don't want tomorrow you come and tell me that.
Did I ask you to be my girlfriend?
Do you get it? So open up, talk you to your
mouth. Ask, you know, don't ask him to
be your boyfriend, but tell him how you feel.
Let him know that you're not comfortable.
Then jumping from man to man because no one didn't ask you to
be. You know, it's Nah.
I don't think it makes sense to me.
I don't think so. That's why.
That's. Why dear Aqua, please what
should I do 'cause I really love this girl.
She has done a lot for me back then in school, she even helped
me to attain the assistant school prefect.
Please, what do I do? So there's this girl that I love
very much. I dated from SHS one to three.
She told me about this guy whom she claimed she's playing.
I disagree but I never knew. I continued.
One day she texted me insulting me that why did I send our chat
to the guy. I was confused before this
incident she posted a video of her in the guy's room so I
decided to break up but I wasn't able because of love.
We settled that issue before this one.
She blocked me and according to my sources of information about
her, she stays with the guy. I was really hurt but she came
back telling me that the guy told her.
I said I don't love her and I'm just playing here.
And the guy linked the phone to the laptop.
See, you didn't finish this story, but I can tell you points
blank that that girl is going to be the death of fear.
You're too young. You just complete anesthesia.
I'm assuming you're in the uni, so there's no girl in that uni
that you can go. And to say like that you are
letting one girl do you like that Ogga, ogga Ogga, please,
please. You better focus on school and
if you think you want to date find someone proper in date and
stop all this rubbish that this girl is doing OK.
She doesn't deserve you. If she can play someone she can
play you too. What's so special about you that
she can play you? Dude, that's.
Why we? That's why we dear Ekia, please
don't mention my name. This is what I've been going
through for some time now. My girlfriend has been cheating
on me for more than eight months now.
This is how I caught her. I created a new WhatsApp account
with different number which she doesn't know.
I stole her for four months and this is what she does.
Whenever I go to work, she goes to the other guy's place and
post videos of the guy on his status which I cannot see.
But the fake account I create, I see everything she posts.
The craziest part of it is when she goes to the guy's place she
puts herself with a guy kissing each other and in the evening
time back from work I force her to have sex with.
I know she has already given the cake to the other guy so I have
also gave my part. I saw I also saw some naked
videos of her and the guy on her phone she slept with often her
phone. So all this why I see her to
look like a hookup girl who I paid to fuck.
On the 30th of February 2025 she went to see the guy.
Sometimes I watch her and I start to laugh.
She thinks she's very smart but Nah.
OK my dear, I don't know why you're still entertaining her.
Maybe you're doing that thing where when a guy finds out his
girl is cheating, he just fucks her some.
If that's what is, that's what makes you feel good my dear, go
ahead and do that. But understand that at the end
of the day, you're not just, you know, messing with her.
You're messing with your own self.
You see, let's acknowledge something.
I don't think I've ever sat here to say that every woman in this
world is perfect or every man in this world is perfect
consistently. You need to look out for your
own self and not listen to people.
Yap. About things that will not be
beneficial to you. I've seen so much on the
Internet where men embrace that thing where if we catch you
cheating, we'll be chopping you and they will go and marry
someone else, yada, yada, yada, yada yada, yada, that kind of
thing. You think you're just, you know,
messing with her. You think you're just hurting
her. At the long run, you are just
going to marry someone else, my dear.
Mentally, something is happening up there.
Mentally something is happening up there.
So you're not you're just messing with her physically.
Maybe the day she finds out you've married someone, someone
else, then it will hurt him mentally.
But you in the time that you're sleeping with her while she's
also sleeping with someone else, knowing very well that you have
loved this woman before this laughing emoji you have to see.
We all know that you're crying inside you too.
So do you, my dear. But no, that a lot of the times
the things that you do is the reflection of the kind of person
that you are. It is not of what the person is,
but you. So why not save yourself and
that relationship and move on with your life?
Why not, eh, why not do that? Because you men that keep doing
them chopping this. And when I'm ready to marry
someone, you're not just hurting, you're hurting your own
self too. Really you are, you just don't
know yet. Anyway let me stop before do
come and blast me. Dear IKEA, I need your opinion.
It's about me and my girlfriend. So she said she wants me to
treat her like a baby and be romantic to her.
I try my best to be all this but it's like I'm not doing it well
and because of this she almost broke up with me yesterday as I
talk to her and convince her not to and promise to be better.
Please. How can I treat her like a baby
and pump her hair and also be romantic morphing?
I need your opinion. Be spontaneous OK?
When I mean to the best of my knowledge right?
Whenever I talk about setting things I say it from my personal
perspective. It could not be what she wants.
But I see romance in different forms.
OK. When someone is spontaneous, be
spontaneous is one of that that is planning a date.
She doesn't, you know, she didn't see coming.
I'm not saying carry money and take it to fast restaurants.
And that's what we call fun. What do you call a romantic
norm? I think if you have a laptop you
can buy popcorn. If it's not the popcorn thing
you can buy yourself. You can buy the corn and come
and do it in the house. If she drinks you can get a
bottle of wine. If she doesn't you can get soft
drinks, can get some sweets, you know chocolates.
Lay a blanket on the floor. Lay a mat on the floor.
Depending on your tax brackets, lay something on the floor, put
some pillows on it. Sit down with her.
Watch a movie, watch a romantic movie, watch a comedy.
What type of movie does she like?
If you your finances are intact, one afternoon you can order some
cupcakes for her with the sweet message on it.
You know she wakes up in the morning, you've written her
beautiful poem. All these things, right?
They're spontaneous, they're beautiful, they're nice.
If that is not what she wants, then I don't really know what
type of romantic she's asking for.
There's that. There's the whole, you know,
home date thing. One of the things I love, right,
is getting a call from somebody that I'm with.
What are you doing? Oh, I'm just home.
OK, I'm coming to grab you. The person comes to grab me.
Maybe in the time the person is coming, this is holding a bottle
of wine, maybe some chocolate. If it's a walk that we need to
even go, we just go for the Walkita chocolates and just
talk. If it's the wine, we sit
somewhere, pour the wine, drink and just talk.
If it's home, we sit down, conversate.
Just you know, all these days can be termed as romantic.
So what is your woman talking about?
Because sometimes too, some people assume that romance is
spending so much money on them. Some people assume that.
So I really don't know what your woman wants, but hopefully I've
been able to help. Yeah, yeah.
Be a bit spontaneous and let's see how she responds to that.
Let's. Love it, let's love it.
Dear Akia, please keep me anonymous.
I'm dating this girl who has been my friend for a year.
We started the relationship well until she told me that her ex's
mom wanted to see her. Advised she doesn't go but she
felt I was trying to control her.
She later did not go but a friend of mine who acted like a
guy in my girlfriend's name asked if she was less busy so
that they could meet. Her reply was my boyfriend wants
to visit me today. I was left in a dilemma because
I don't remember telling her I was going to visit her.
When I confronted her, she got annoyed.
Even before then I told her that what if she went to see her ex's
mom and she asked them to reunite.
Her reply was that I would have to fight for us.
Whenever she does something wrong and I try to tell her, she
ends up getting annoyed. I love her and I know she loves
me but she keeps giving me reasons to stop loving her.
How do you know she loves you? When when when you say I know
she loves me. What do you mean?
Because think about it, your friend texted her, let's meet up
and she says my boyfriend is coming to see me.
And you know, you didn't tell her you were going to see her.
Maybe she was just trying to blow your friend off.
That's 1-2 or she probably went to see her ex's mother.
They got reunited and that's the boyfriend coming.
And for her to say that you would have to fight for her,
does it mean that there's a chance that she's going to give
her ex, you know, an opportunity to get back in a life that both
of you would have to banter? Not physically, but both of you
would have to impress her so she could choose one.
Which one is it, my dear? I've given you multiple
scenarios. Look at this very well and see
what you think will do best for you.
OK, I'm here with something to think about.
And based off of that, maybe you can ask her a few questions.
What she means by you. You need to fight for her.
What does she mean by that? You could also request why she
said her boyfriend was coming there when you did not say you
were going there. That's another thing you need to
be able to actively ask her what is going on.
Ma, why is this happening? Do you give me?
Yes. I'm gonna end it here.
Thank you very much for watching the episode.
It has been exciting. It has been educative and
informative. I'll see you in the next
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Bye.