If I was in your shoes, I'll definitely need the guy I'm with
and go be with the guy that has way to be able to provide for me
because of what I'm experiencing now, what I'm being able to
experience. Oga, whether you live in stitch
doesn't really give a fuck or rat SARS for you do with
yourself. So I will recommend somebody
that loves you as somebody you love because I know people learn
to love. I know that I can learn to love
somebody. I know that if this person that
loves me treats me well, I can learn to love that essay.
Hi guys. Hi guys, welcome to another
episode of the POV. My name is Nanika Depa and so
this is going to be a solo episode.
I know it's been a while. So let's go straight into what
we're guesses. You don't forget to subscribe,
like and then share. Please share the POV podcast.
Let people send their stories and then let's go through them
together and share a few opinions.
I'm not the wisest person in this world, frankly speaking, I
just got my heart broken. But we're still going to talk
about other people's, you know, relationships, vows, will try to
figure out our own love life. OK, so let's get into the
stories that we have for this episode.
In fact, before I even get into the stories that are for this
episode that CG and ES just finished, they just finished to
be the CG Emmys Tele Cell Ghana Music Awards.
And I wasn't able to go and finally speaking.
It was just up until the following day that I checked out
what's going on with the CG and ES cause my anxiety decided to
work its own thing in on the night.
So I couldn't even make it. But let's, let's, let's talk
about it a little bit. Little things I saw on the
Internet the following day one I saw that compromise one artist
of the year CC the agenda worked the job they did worked silly
your your job worked silly all your work you paid off NYBI
Tally the band that you were about to do it.
Yeah. I mean I had a few people that I
sat on a show. We talk about the CGMS talk
about what was going to happen. Talk about who's going to be
nurses of the way. Yeah, sorry.
And I was torn between stone work keep Palmita and then keep
focus and then came promise one. Everybody said this is a king
promise here, but I was still torn because each of the PR OS
did their job. Is it's Stone boys PR?
Because I didn't really see Stone were doing any PR.
So yeah, I saw Kim Palutak PR, I saw Kim for his PR and Kim and
Kim Palutak PR was doing a lot to make people understand that
Kim Palutak. But at the end of the day, Kim
Promise 1 and I am so happy for him at least now let's focus on
someone else. OK, say the TDMA talks is over.
Now let's go on and talk about the stories that we have here.
Now if you're new here, we have this thing that we do, we call
it the mantra of the POV and it goes like this.
So full OK, if they posted it on social media, if they posted it
on social media, if they posted it on social media that they
made it our business. And since they made it our
business, we're going to make it our business here.
OK, so let's get through the stories that we have for this
episode. The very first one says this is
my love story. One Saturday morning, I was
sitting on a manhole having some fresh air.
I sat there for like 20 minutes where I saw a beautiful Angel
coming across the street. Then I said to myself, damn,
this girl is nice. I rushed towards her and started
talking to her. We had a shot conversation and I
collected her number. Fast forward, I chatted her and
we started vibing her. First I chatted on WhatsApp and
she replied immediately. So I saw the connection and the
vibe was getting better. In the evening, I chatted her
again and we both exchanged pictures.
Frankly speaking, her picture was really nice and I loved it
too. We chatted for a while and we
decided to be friends for now. She was staying in our area so
it wasn't difficult to reach her.
I was staying a few meters away from her house at the time I was
20 years and she was 15 but began to see sing in a few
months meaning I have completed SHS that year and she was in SHS
2 that time. She was dark in complexion and
was and was having a good smile. You know what really gave me her
eyes? It was so charming.
When I looked at her face I can see that she was shy and also
can maintain can't maintain eye contact.
Fast forward we became friends and everything was going on
smoothly but something happened all these while that we were
friends I was catching feelings for her not knowing that she was
also falling deeply in love with me.
At that time the girl was dating one of our area boys that I knew
so I was it was really hard for me to propose to her.
Weeks went by and the feelings was growing faster because I was
I was always around here. We do chat, call and sometimes
see each other in a while. One day I told her to come and
visit me at my place. Then something really
interesting happened. She came over and we're talking.
Then rain started falling so she decided to go home but it was
too late for that. She then decided to wait until
the rain gets down. She waited in my room, we both
were chatting on our phone. Nothing happened at that time
because I was trying to win her trust.
At that moment the rain stopped and I went to escort her through
that process. I stood the chance to propose to
and she told me she was dating at that time.
I was heartbroken but I told her to give it a second thought.
Later that night, I asked her about her boyfriend that she was
talking about. She told me that you've been
dating for a while now. Then she described him to me.
I saw the boy by description she gave.
They were all age mates and from the look of things it wasn't any
serious relationship. We started texting midnight and
to be honest it was really nice because it was my first time
chatting someone so late. The chatting went on for like 3
days. All this while we were chatting
about sex and I came to the conclusion that she didn't know
anything about sex. Hmm.
So I thought her most of the things that she needs to know.
So my investigations I found out she was curious and wanted to
know more about sex so I let her know anything concerning sex
education. Through that process I win her
trust and she accepted my proposal to be her boyfriend.
I was really happy because it was a dream come true.
Fast forward we started seeing each other and started kissing
any time we met. She told me she was also a
virgin. I was really happy to be the
first guy in her life so I did everything possible to sustain
the relationship. At that time that we were dating
she was also dating his boyfriend so anytime I asked her
about her boyfriend she will be like I'm still working on it so
I didn't ask her again. To conclude everything we dated
like 2 months and I was falling for this girls who helped us
each so I decided to end the relationship because I didn't
want to end up being heartbroken.
The truth of the Massa is that I really love this girl and I have
never loved any girl since I started dating anyone.
As I said that we should break up and she was so heartbroken
because she didn't expect such thing.
For me, my love was unexpected because I never knew that I
would fall in love with this girl within that short period of
time. Trust must be told.
I still need this girl back in my life because she's the love
of my life. OK is that the end of it because
I can't see the continuation but I feel like this is a love story
not completed. Did you guys end up getting
together? What happened because I am not
curious as to what went on. So whoever sent me the story
kiss kiss kiss. Find your way back into my DM
and resent the complete story. Let me know what's going on and
if it ended like this, then I think kiss make a rule because
see, in a few months here, a lot of things has changed for me
personally when it comes to dating.
I've been have book you more than three times in this few
months, talking stages gone wrong, talking stages with me
liking them and going wrong. You understand it's either bad
timing or my abandonment if she starts coming through or I feel
like they don't put in efforts to want to really know me and so
everything goes bad, right? But in that time, I really like
that you. So if you actually do like her,
you feel like she likes you too. Please don't lose.
Don't lose the love of your life because of someone that's
wasting your time with someone that is not really serious about
her. Yeah, that's what I think about
this. OK, let's move on to the next
one. Let's love.
It let's love it. This one says please keep me
anonymous. As a 24 year old facilitator, I
was surprised when a final year students confessed the feelings
for me. Initially I thought she wanted
to extract information for another teacher she had feelings
for in the past. However, as science passed, I
realized their sincerity dispatch reservations.
I developed affection for her due to her sexual billions and
excellence. We maintained a close
relationship through texting and vehicles, prioritizing his
studies and avoiding romantic entanglement.
I ensured our interactions remained platonic, focusing on
advising her and guiding her. She impressed me with her
academic powers, and I wanted to support her growth.
She expressed her desires to date me when she's older and
agreed to wait despite never having been interested in
dating. Age difference is 8 years and I
knew it wasn't ideal. However, I was willing to wait
for her to finish her studies and become an adult.
As a young person focused on my career and personal growth, I
never considered dating. I've always prioritized the
hustle and can confidently say I'm a virgin, but having
affections for these students changed my perspective.
Recently I discovered she's close to another guy of my age,
referring to him as her brother. When I teased her about him, she
asked it would make her like him more recent insincere.
I've realized she likely has feelings for this new person and
is hiding it for me. I'm hurt, unsure of what to do.
I'm tongue between my affections for her and the realization that
she might now have feelings for this new guy.
I need guidance on navigating this complex situation.
I feel I'm being stupid and childish.
Oh, you are actually stupid and childish in the sense that the
age garb shouldn't be a problem so far as she's an adult.
Understand this. You mentioned that you're
waiting for her to be an adult doesn't mean that she's a minor.
If she's a minor then she's out of bounds for you.
But if she's not a minor and she's past 20, in fact, that
legal age is 18 years, but I prefer like 20 years.
If she's beyond 20 years, I think you can't make the move on
her. And then I feel like you wasted
time, right? I feel like you you were
thinking so much that you allowed a sleep of your hand and
now she may have feelings for someone else.
But if you think she has a slight feelings for yours you
you had a slight chance of being with her.
Please take the chance, ask her out and see what happens.
But if it tides out that she asking for the new guy, he's
back. Please back off and in backing
off you can do 2 sets. You can either decide to just
close off whatever friendship or religious be up with her, cut
her off and move on with your life.
Now focus on what she think being fit for you or you decide
to be friends with her and forget about being with her.
Well, she wants to come back again and you are in that place
or you are still in that place. Then you can still go ahead and
give it a try. But for now, these are the few
things I think you come to. OK.
Yeah. Let's love it.
Let's love. It please I'm a guy in and 24
years old. One night I went out to buy meat
and a guy was standing there to also buy meat.
So after buying he said I should not pee, that he will pay for me
not knowing he's a Nigerian. After that he took my number and
called me that night that he's interested in me when he saw me
that's why he paid for the meat and by then I was single.
So I accepted him and we started dating.
Truly he loved me and I loved him too.
He always sends me money for my hair and for food etcetera not
knowing he don't have but just trying to also help me.
One day he told me because of money he dropped out of script
to council Ghana to hassle. I feel pity for him and stop
asking from him and sometimes if I have money I do send him.
So since I got to know he don't have and was helping me this
month he told me he was going back to Nigeria and we'll be
back soon but but he goes back. I won't hear from him till he
comes back. I was thinking he was joking.
I even see him off at circle before he left and since then he
never called or texted. His number is not going through
and he's not on WhatsApp again. Punctuation is here.
Please forgive me. In Ghana here he has an auntie
so I called that woman to explain to her because the woman
knows me well and knows me are dating.
But the woman said my boyfriend did not also call her yet but he
will be back very soon and his Ghana number is not working over
there. I saw a new number that texted
me Hey dear, my brother will call you very soon that he did
not reach Nigeria yet. I was surprised how he was able
to ask a brother to in Ghana to text me and say that but he
himself cannot call or text me and it's been 10 days now.
I did not hear from him yet. He did not also ask for breaker.
Please, I want to know whether he's going to come back to Ghana
and he will look for me or the relationship is over.
That's why he couldn't tell me or what could be the reason he
did that to me. I don't know, OK, I really don't
know what the end game is here, but it could be a lot of things
going on. It could be that he has a
girlfriend in Nigeria, has got into Nigeria and doesn't have
time to talk to you or even spend time with you, or he
actually has, you know, prompted somebody to reach out to you.
I tell you that he's not in Nigeria yet, and when he gets to
Nigeria, he's going to reach out to you all.
The relationship is over. There's a lot of things, my
darling, and I can't sit here and point and pretend like I go
what exactly this guy actually has done.
But all I can tell you is that so far as there's no breakup in
here, give him time, give him patience, and when he reaches
out, give him time. If he doesn't reach out to you
like another month, you can just decide to break up with him.
And when he comes back, he's hearing that.
Sir, you can't just disappear, come back and behave like
everything is normal. That being said, be myself.
I hate when someone ghosts me so I can feel your pain.
All right? Yeah.
I'm really sorry you have to deal with this, but you can't
just do up and decide that the relationship is over here. 20.
Don't you really know what's going on with him?
If it was me, I would actually be worried about him instead of
you worried about the fact that he has not reached out to me.
Do you get it? Yeah.
That's love. It that's love it.
Hello, please keep me anonymous. I'm a guy of 17 and I met this
girl in SHS who is 2 years older than me.
I'm so much into this girl and I don't know if she's also doing
same. I proposed to her after school
and she was like she's not ready to date unless after five years
you know almost a year now and four years We mean.
I'm getting kind of bored 'cause nothing shows she's in and
willing to. Whenever I bring up the topic
she changes it. Sometimes once you change
towards her not checking up and she God's devim to tell me I
can't choose to leave or stay. From the look of things she
could help me one way or the other.
Please and advice. Please tell me when you make a
video so I see it. I'm sorry I can't tell you
because I really don't know who you are.
Whenever I special I copy your name or face so I don't know who
you are. That being said, if she's not
ready to date, she's not ready to date.
It is your choice to wait. That is why she's telling you
that whether you like to stay on if which means that oga whether
you live or stay she doesn't really give a fuck or rat sats
what you do with yourself. So I will recommend that you
move on because this one day is not giving.
You know she likes you enough to change her mind, OK?
That's how we, that's how we. And a single mother who is
really confused about how to cope with my life.
Now. I met a guy whom we've been
dating for some time now and he's having issues with his work
and also along the line I also lost my job.
So we both in the house while we are figuring how I can get
another job ASAP. He's a really good guy, he gives
me even when I don't ask. But I feel like we're losing
each other after we had our first intimacy.
He likes my kid very well too, but I'm scared this might not
end well. Fast forward, a secret admirer
approached me and told me he likes me but if I give him a
chance in my life, he's going to give me everything I desire in a
man, including setting up my own business which I've been
dreaming of. He only told me that he doesn't
want to see me with any guy or see me with any other man 'cause
he would like to marry me if I give him a chance to love me and
treat me like the queen that I please.
Tell me your opinion about this. Do I leave my guy who accepts
his proposal secretly and dating behind my boyfriend's back?
Oh my God. So let me tell you something.
Recently, I think I said in a previous view in my very combat
video that I dated somebody for a month and a person dumped me
for no reason, told me that the timing was not right.
And he's a provider. And based off of the fact that
he's seen what's going on in my life, he doesn't think he can
provide for me in that moment. And so he wants to leave me,
right? That has given me a perspective
on a lot of faiths. He broke up with me because he's
a provider. He can provide for me.
That has given me a perspective in so many faiths.
If I was in your shoes, I'll definitely need the guy I'm with
and go be with the guy that is going to be able to provide for
me because of what I'm experiencing.
Now. Would I be able to be
experienced or what I've experienced in the hands of a
guy that I actually started falling in love with?
You understand, and that is because of what I've
experienced. But best of what you've
experienced, you said that this guy is a good guy.
He gives you even when he doesn't have, which means that
he's going to go to to be able to be there for you.
Do you want to let go off that and be with somebody that is
spontaneously telling you that I can do all these things for you
when you've not seen any evidence?
Because let me tell you something.
The guy that dumped me about not being a provider told me that I
don't care if you're a gold digger.
I can give the guy was looted and I feel like maybe there was
a lot of things going on in his life and that's why he feel like
I couldn't be a priority for him when he comes to spending on me
or providing for me. You understand?
So I found to understand that when a man wants to provide for
you and loves you enough to provide for you, he will provide
for you even when he don't have. And that is what you need to
look out for, OK? You look for a kind man in mind
that is willing a man that is willing to do for you in a way
they don't have than a man that has it abundant be he uses that
that as a yardstick to get you off other people.
I don't know if I'm making sense in this, but if I'm making sense
in this, please give me a thumbs up on the comment section.
If I'm not give you a thumbs down, OK because recently I
think I eat checking. Because my my thinking is
switching up based on my experience.
OK so let's do this. Hello Princess, my name is
Hobsick and I want to ask this question for me the youth to
know the meaning of love. Those who claim they love their
boyfriends and your friends in your In your case partner has a
kidney problem. Will your level of love allow
you to donate one of your kidneys to the person you can
you love? Love is not about sex, beauty
and money alone. It goes a long way.
OK, so a person is asking that would you give your kidney, one
of your kidney to someone you know in this generation?
I think I can. That's if they can use my kidney
because I drink a lot. But beyond that's right, I feel
like you don't want to lose someone that you love.
You don't want to lose someone that you cherish.
You don't want to lose someone that means a lot to you.
If that person sees you that same way, of course, do it.
But if you feel like this person doesn't deserve it, don't do it
because you think you love the person.
Because understand that love is not always enough.
Remember that I'm going to say this on an alleged situation.
Allegedly, Selena Gomez needed a kidney.
Her friend who is a female gave her a kidney and after that they
have they have some situation in I know people would this part
think this part is actually real or not, but they actually had
situations and then their friendship got destroyed and
then she ended up seeing Selena when was drinking with that
kidney that she gave Selena. How would you feel about that?
If you give your kidney to somebody you love, you guys end
up breaking up. How do you feel about it?
So look at it from a lot of perspectives.
You can't just wake up and say because I lost somebody, I'm
going to give my kidneys to that essay.
Yeah. Love is not enough.
There's always supposed to be other things that compliments
the love. OK, Yeah, that's what I think,
what you think in the comments section.
I get to give your kidney to somebody you love.
Notes that he said that love is not about honey, duty or, you
know, other thing. So what does love in your first
space and would you give your kidney to somebody you love?
That's lovely. That's lovely.
Hello Sissy, please keep me anonymous.
I happen to be with a man whom I don't love but he's a nice
person and loves me so much. Some months later I met this guy
whom I naturally loved and he loves me back, but he has two
kids with different women but he's no more with any of them.
My parents wants me to love the guy I don't love and disapprove
me of getting married to the one I love.
What should I do? I'm confused.
Please I'll be in the comments section.
Help a sister, my dear. I would love the one that loves
me. Do you know why?
Because I've been in a lot of situations where I've actually
loved guys. I've falling for guys.
And because of how they realized that I loved them, they treated
me like I was desperate. So I will recommend somebody
that loves you as somebody you love because I know people learn
to love. I know that I can learn to love
somebody. I know that if this person that
loves me treats me well, I can learn to love that.
Bessie. Yeah.
So I'll, I'll recommend that you listen to your parents.
I would recommend that you listen to your parents because
that maybe you're so late, you just don't know yet because
you're not feeling jiggy about the person yet.
OK. Yeah, that's all.
That's love it. Let's do the very last story and
then end this episode. But I actually have lost this
episode POV. I'm a boy of 21 years.
I was in a relationship with this girl whom I love very much.
She was beautiful, rich and nice to be with.
When we started dating I asked her her past relationship and to
my surprise a friend of mine from high school happening to be
her ex. Fast forward, we dated for like
6 months and I had a call from my friend who happens to be and
my girlfriend's ex. He told me that my GF had been
lying to me all this time and he got to know that through our
text messages he saw on her phone.
We both have been very good friends so we we decided to
settle this issue. I decided to call her and put my
friend on the phone. It was just funny if I saw it
she couldn't lie again. I woke up with her and she
continued to date my friend. Some time later she came to
confess to me that she accepted to dig me only because his
boyfriend cheated on her with her best friend and she also
wanted to descend. But we she got to fall in love
with me and was losing feelings for my friend.
Now she wants me back because she broke up with my friend.
POV. What do you think I do?
Also, I'm out of the country now.
I'm in the states now. This happened before I travelled
and she had no idea I was travelling.
Frankly speaking, I think it's a messy situation.
There's a whole lot of Shake or him on there.
I don't want to be the one to put a dump on someone that could
potentially be the one for you. And so I think you need to
continue to have a conversation with her, see where her mind is
AT and for your friend to continue to dictate after you
guys had a creed. I don't know what argument she
had. Did you guys agree that she
confronted about the situation and he breaks up with her or
both of you break with her or you had an argument that yeah,
let's talk to me and find out what's going on.
And I continuously get there because I feel like if the guy
actually cheated on her and it was a comeback for her or it was
also a reversed thing, then she had you in the process of
revenging her so-called cheating boyfriend.
And that alone should be a red flat for you.
You know, that's what I'm saying.
There's a whole lot of drama around this particular one.
OK, So very carefully, be careful.
Don't just run into it because you fell in love with.
I don't just want to say because you might care.
Just be careful. OK?
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