1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,760 If I was in your shoes, I'll definitely need the guy I'm with 2 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:05,600 and go be with the guy that has way to be able to provide for me 3 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:08,880 because of what I'm experiencing now, what I'm being able to 4 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:11,280 experience. Oga, whether you live in stitch 5 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:14,680 doesn't really give a fuck or rat SARS for you do with 6 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:17,360 yourself. So I will recommend somebody 7 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:21,680 that loves you as somebody you love because I know people learn 8 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:24,080 to love. I know that I can learn to love 9 00:00:24,080 --> 00:00:26,000 somebody. I know that if this person that 10 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:29,240 loves me treats me well, I can learn to love that essay. 11 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,760 Hi guys. Hi guys, welcome to another 12 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:42,920 episode of the POV. My name is Nanika Depa and so 13 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:45,160 this is going to be a solo episode. 14 00:00:45,320 --> 00:00:48,240 I know it's been a while. So let's go straight into what 15 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:50,080 we're guesses. You don't forget to subscribe, 16 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:54,040 like and then share. Please share the POV podcast. 17 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,960 Let people send their stories and then let's go through them 18 00:00:56,960 --> 00:00:59,040 together and share a few opinions. 19 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:02,280 I'm not the wisest person in this world, frankly speaking, I 20 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:05,120 just got my heart broken. But we're still going to talk 21 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:08,560 about other people's, you know, relationships, vows, will try to 22 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:15,160 figure out our own love life. OK, so let's get into the 23 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:17,360 stories that we have for this episode. 24 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,520 In fact, before I even get into the stories that are for this 25 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:28,560 episode that CG and ES just finished, they just finished to 26 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:31,960 be the CG Emmys Tele Cell Ghana Music Awards. 27 00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:36,560 And I wasn't able to go and finally speaking. 28 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:39,640 It was just up until the following day that I checked out 29 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:44,240 what's going on with the CG and ES cause my anxiety decided to 30 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:46,160 work its own thing in on the night. 31 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:51,680 So I couldn't even make it. But let's, let's, let's talk 32 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:54,200 about it a little bit. Little things I saw on the 33 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:59,240 Internet the following day one I saw that compromise one artist 34 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:05,360 of the year CC the agenda worked the job they did worked silly 35 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:13,000 your your job worked silly all your work you paid off NYBI 36 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,200 Tally the band that you were about to do it. 37 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:17,720 Yeah. I mean I had a few people that I 38 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:20,480 sat on a show. We talk about the CGMS talk 39 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:23,640 about what was going to happen. Talk about who's going to be 40 00:02:23,640 --> 00:02:25,200 nurses of the way. Yeah, sorry. 41 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:28,240 And I was torn between stone work keep Palmita and then keep 42 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:32,760 focus and then came promise one. Everybody said this is a king 43 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:36,040 promise here, but I was still torn because each of the PR OS 44 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:38,360 did their job. Is it's Stone boys PR? 45 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:40,200 Because I didn't really see Stone were doing any PR. 46 00:02:40,640 --> 00:02:46,800 So yeah, I saw Kim Palutak PR, I saw Kim for his PR and Kim and 47 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:50,320 Kim Palutak PR was doing a lot to make people understand that 48 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:53,040 Kim Palutak. But at the end of the day, Kim 49 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:56,840 Promise 1 and I am so happy for him at least now let's focus on 50 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:03,480 someone else. OK, say the TDMA talks is over. 51 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:08,280 Now let's go on and talk about the stories that we have here. 52 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,160 Now if you're new here, we have this thing that we do, we call 53 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,640 it the mantra of the POV and it goes like this. 54 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:20,000 So full OK, if they posted it on social media, if they posted it 55 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:24,680 on social media, if they posted it on social media that they 56 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,680 made it our business. And since they made it our 57 00:03:27,680 --> 00:03:30,680 business, we're going to make it our business here. 58 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:36,720 OK, so let's get through the stories that we have for this 59 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:43,200 episode. The very first one says this is 60 00:03:43,200 --> 00:03:46,400 my love story. One Saturday morning, I was 61 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:49,080 sitting on a manhole having some fresh air. 62 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:52,680 I sat there for like 20 minutes where I saw a beautiful Angel 63 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:56,360 coming across the street. Then I said to myself, damn, 64 00:03:56,720 --> 00:03:59,720 this girl is nice. I rushed towards her and started 65 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:04,640 talking to her. We had a shot conversation and I 66 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:09,360 collected her number. Fast forward, I chatted her and 67 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:12,000 we started vibing her. First I chatted on WhatsApp and 68 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:14,840 she replied immediately. So I saw the connection and the 69 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,680 vibe was getting better. In the evening, I chatted her 70 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:19,600 again and we both exchanged pictures. 71 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:22,800 Frankly speaking, her picture was really nice and I loved it 72 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:24,640 too. We chatted for a while and we 73 00:04:24,640 --> 00:04:28,560 decided to be friends for now. She was staying in our area so 74 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:30,080 it wasn't difficult to reach her. 75 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:33,960 I was staying a few meters away from her house at the time I was 76 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:39,280 20 years and she was 15 but began to see sing in a few 77 00:04:39,280 --> 00:04:45,120 months meaning I have completed SHS that year and she was in SHS 78 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:48,240 2 that time. She was dark in complexion and 79 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:52,480 was and was having a good smile. You know what really gave me her 80 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:54,520 eyes? It was so charming. 81 00:04:54,880 --> 00:05:00,000 When I looked at her face I can see that she was shy and also 82 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:03,120 can maintain can't maintain eye contact. 83 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:07,400 Fast forward we became friends and everything was going on 84 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:11,360 smoothly but something happened all these while that we were 85 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:15,160 friends I was catching feelings for her not knowing that she was 86 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,160 also falling deeply in love with me. 87 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:21,120 At that time the girl was dating one of our area boys that I knew 88 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,800 so I was it was really hard for me to propose to her. 89 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:28,480 Weeks went by and the feelings was growing faster because I was 90 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:32,480 I was always around here. We do chat, call and sometimes 91 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:36,240 see each other in a while. One day I told her to come and 92 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:39,400 visit me at my place. Then something really 93 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:42,280 interesting happened. She came over and we're talking. 94 00:05:42,280 --> 00:05:46,360 Then rain started falling so she decided to go home but it was 95 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:48,840 too late for that. She then decided to wait until 96 00:05:48,840 --> 00:05:51,960 the rain gets down. She waited in my room, we both 97 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:55,760 were chatting on our phone. Nothing happened at that time 98 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:57,840 because I was trying to win her trust. 99 00:05:57,840 --> 00:06:02,360 At that moment the rain stopped and I went to escort her through 100 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:04,760 that process. I stood the chance to propose to 101 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:07,440 and she told me she was dating at that time. 102 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:11,320 I was heartbroken but I told her to give it a second thought. 103 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:14,640 Later that night, I asked her about her boyfriend that she was 104 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,640 talking about. She told me that you've been 105 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:19,680 dating for a while now. Then she described him to me. 106 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:21,520 I saw the boy by description she gave. 107 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:26,400 They were all age mates and from the look of things it wasn't any 108 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:29,600 serious relationship. We started texting midnight and 109 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:32,840 to be honest it was really nice because it was my first time 110 00:06:32,840 --> 00:06:37,200 chatting someone so late. The chatting went on for like 3 111 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:39,280 days. All this while we were chatting 112 00:06:39,280 --> 00:06:43,440 about sex and I came to the conclusion that she didn't know 113 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:46,040 anything about sex. Hmm. 114 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:49,760 So I thought her most of the things that she needs to know. 115 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:53,080 So my investigations I found out she was curious and wanted to 116 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:57,080 know more about sex so I let her know anything concerning sex 117 00:06:57,080 --> 00:06:59,840 education. Through that process I win her 118 00:06:59,840 --> 00:07:04,120 trust and she accepted my proposal to be her boyfriend. 119 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:07,640 I was really happy because it was a dream come true. 120 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:11,240 Fast forward we started seeing each other and started kissing 121 00:07:11,240 --> 00:07:14,920 any time we met. She told me she was also a 122 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:17,200 virgin. I was really happy to be the 123 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:21,080 first guy in her life so I did everything possible to sustain 124 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:24,400 the relationship. At that time that we were dating 125 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:29,160 she was also dating his boyfriend so anytime I asked her 126 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:33,480 about her boyfriend she will be like I'm still working on it so 127 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:36,640 I didn't ask her again. To conclude everything we dated 128 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:40,320 like 2 months and I was falling for this girls who helped us 129 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:43,480 each so I decided to end the relationship because I didn't 130 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:44,960 want to end up being heartbroken. 131 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:49,920 The truth of the Massa is that I really love this girl and I have 132 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:54,520 never loved any girl since I started dating anyone. 133 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:57,840 As I said that we should break up and she was so heartbroken 134 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:00,080 because she didn't expect such thing. 135 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:04,000 For me, my love was unexpected because I never knew that I 136 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:06,800 would fall in love with this girl within that short period of 137 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:08,920 time. Trust must be told. 138 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:13,200 I still need this girl back in my life because she's the love 139 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:17,440 of my life. OK is that the end of it because 140 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:21,560 I can't see the continuation but I feel like this is a love story 141 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:24,080 not completed. Did you guys end up getting 142 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:26,200 together? What happened because I am not 143 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:30,080 curious as to what went on. So whoever sent me the story 144 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:33,400 kiss kiss kiss. Find your way back into my DM 145 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:36,840 and resent the complete story. Let me know what's going on and 146 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:41,039 if it ended like this, then I think kiss make a rule because 147 00:08:41,039 --> 00:08:45,480 see, in a few months here, a lot of things has changed for me 148 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:48,200 personally when it comes to dating. 149 00:08:48,560 --> 00:08:51,600 I've been have book you more than three times in this few 150 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:55,520 months, talking stages gone wrong, talking stages with me 151 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:58,400 liking them and going wrong. You understand it's either bad 152 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:02,640 timing or my abandonment if she starts coming through or I feel 153 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,920 like they don't put in efforts to want to really know me and so 154 00:09:05,920 --> 00:09:08,880 everything goes bad, right? But in that time, I really like 155 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:11,040 that you. So if you actually do like her, 156 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:12,720 you feel like she likes you too. Please don't lose. 157 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:15,560 Don't lose the love of your life because of someone that's 158 00:09:15,560 --> 00:09:18,320 wasting your time with someone that is not really serious about 159 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:21,440 her. Yeah, that's what I think about 160 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:24,600 this. OK, let's move on to the next 161 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:25,120 one. Let's love. 162 00:09:26,680 --> 00:09:30,400 It let's love it. This one says please keep me 163 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:33,800 anonymous. As a 24 year old facilitator, I 164 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:36,480 was surprised when a final year students confessed the feelings 165 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:38,880 for me. Initially I thought she wanted 166 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:42,920 to extract information for another teacher she had feelings 167 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:45,600 for in the past. However, as science passed, I 168 00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:48,480 realized their sincerity dispatch reservations. 169 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:52,200 I developed affection for her due to her sexual billions and 170 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,240 excellence. We maintained a close 171 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:57,640 relationship through texting and vehicles, prioritizing his 172 00:09:57,640 --> 00:09:59,960 studies and avoiding romantic entanglement. 173 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:03,360 I ensured our interactions remained platonic, focusing on 174 00:10:03,640 --> 00:10:06,720 advising her and guiding her. She impressed me with her 175 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:09,760 academic powers, and I wanted to support her growth. 176 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:14,040 She expressed her desires to date me when she's older and 177 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:18,200 agreed to wait despite never having been interested in 178 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:21,960 dating. Age difference is 8 years and I 179 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:25,560 knew it wasn't ideal. However, I was willing to wait 180 00:10:25,560 --> 00:10:28,400 for her to finish her studies and become an adult. 181 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:34,040 As a young person focused on my career and personal growth, I 182 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:37,160 never considered dating. I've always prioritized the 183 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:40,840 hustle and can confidently say I'm a virgin, but having 184 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:43,600 affections for these students changed my perspective. 185 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:47,200 Recently I discovered she's close to another guy of my age, 186 00:10:47,200 --> 00:10:51,040 referring to him as her brother. When I teased her about him, she 187 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:56,200 asked it would make her like him more recent insincere. 188 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:59,920 I've realized she likely has feelings for this new person and 189 00:10:59,920 --> 00:11:03,560 is hiding it for me. I'm hurt, unsure of what to do. 190 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:07,040 I'm tongue between my affections for her and the realization that 191 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:09,840 she might now have feelings for this new guy. 192 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:13,280 I need guidance on navigating this complex situation. 193 00:11:13,960 --> 00:11:16,320 I feel I'm being stupid and childish. 194 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:22,760 Oh, you are actually stupid and childish in the sense that the 195 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:26,640 age garb shouldn't be a problem so far as she's an adult. 196 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:28,960 Understand this. You mentioned that you're 197 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:31,400 waiting for her to be an adult doesn't mean that she's a minor. 198 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:34,840 If she's a minor then she's out of bounds for you. 199 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:38,880 But if she's not a minor and she's past 20, in fact, that 200 00:11:39,120 --> 00:11:42,960 legal age is 18 years, but I prefer like 20 years. 201 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:46,760 If she's beyond 20 years, I think you can't make the move on 202 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:49,320 her. And then I feel like you wasted 203 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:51,360 time, right? I feel like you you were 204 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:54,360 thinking so much that you allowed a sleep of your hand and 205 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:57,080 now she may have feelings for someone else. 206 00:11:57,320 --> 00:12:01,800 But if you think she has a slight feelings for yours you 207 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:04,000 you had a slight chance of being with her. 208 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:06,520 Please take the chance, ask her out and see what happens. 209 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:10,440 But if it tides out that she asking for the new guy, he's 210 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:12,800 back. Please back off and in backing 211 00:12:12,800 --> 00:12:15,680 off you can do 2 sets. You can either decide to just 212 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:19,040 close off whatever friendship or religious be up with her, cut 213 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:20,440 her off and move on with your life. 214 00:12:20,560 --> 00:12:24,760 Now focus on what she think being fit for you or you decide 215 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,480 to be friends with her and forget about being with her. 216 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:30,480 Well, she wants to come back again and you are in that place 217 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:34,200 or you are still in that place. Then you can still go ahead and 218 00:12:34,200 --> 00:12:36,240 give it a try. But for now, these are the few 219 00:12:36,240 --> 00:12:38,200 things I think you come to. OK. 220 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:41,840 Yeah. Let's love it. 221 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:45,040 Let's love. It please I'm a guy in and 24 222 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:47,280 years old. One night I went out to buy meat 223 00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:49,920 and a guy was standing there to also buy meat. 224 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:53,960 So after buying he said I should not pee, that he will pay for me 225 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:57,280 not knowing he's a Nigerian. After that he took my number and 226 00:12:57,280 --> 00:13:01,640 called me that night that he's interested in me when he saw me 227 00:13:01,640 --> 00:13:05,600 that's why he paid for the meat and by then I was single. 228 00:13:05,600 --> 00:13:07,400 So I accepted him and we started dating. 229 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:10,000 Truly he loved me and I loved him too. 230 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:14,520 He always sends me money for my hair and for food etcetera not 231 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:18,800 knowing he don't have but just trying to also help me. 232 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:21,640 One day he told me because of money he dropped out of script 233 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:24,720 to council Ghana to hassle. I feel pity for him and stop 234 00:13:24,720 --> 00:13:28,080 asking from him and sometimes if I have money I do send him. 235 00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:32,720 So since I got to know he don't have and was helping me this 236 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:35,560 month he told me he was going back to Nigeria and we'll be 237 00:13:35,560 --> 00:13:40,840 back soon but but he goes back. I won't hear from him till he 238 00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:43,800 comes back. I was thinking he was joking. 239 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:49,280 I even see him off at circle before he left and since then he 240 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:53,200 never called or texted. His number is not going through 241 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:56,280 and he's not on WhatsApp again. Punctuation is here. 242 00:13:56,400 --> 00:14:00,040 Please forgive me. In Ghana here he has an auntie 243 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:03,080 so I called that woman to explain to her because the woman 244 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:05,640 knows me well and knows me are dating. 245 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:09,640 But the woman said my boyfriend did not also call her yet but he 246 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:13,640 will be back very soon and his Ghana number is not working over 247 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:16,000 there. I saw a new number that texted 248 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:22,120 me Hey dear, my brother will call you very soon that he did 249 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:26,640 not reach Nigeria yet. I was surprised how he was able 250 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:30,600 to ask a brother to in Ghana to text me and say that but he 251 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:33,880 himself cannot call or text me and it's been 10 days now. 252 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:38,560 I did not hear from him yet. He did not also ask for breaker. 253 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:41,960 Please, I want to know whether he's going to come back to Ghana 254 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:44,760 and he will look for me or the relationship is over. 255 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:48,520 That's why he couldn't tell me or what could be the reason he 256 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:55,240 did that to me. I don't know, OK, I really don't 257 00:14:55,240 --> 00:15:00,560 know what the end game is here, but it could be a lot of things 258 00:15:00,560 --> 00:15:02,360 going on. It could be that he has a 259 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,400 girlfriend in Nigeria, has got into Nigeria and doesn't have 260 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:09,080 time to talk to you or even spend time with you, or he 261 00:15:09,080 --> 00:15:12,360 actually has, you know, prompted somebody to reach out to you. 262 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:14,520 I tell you that he's not in Nigeria yet, and when he gets to 263 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:16,440 Nigeria, he's going to reach out to you all. 264 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:19,000 The relationship is over. There's a lot of things, my 265 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:21,760 darling, and I can't sit here and point and pretend like I go 266 00:15:21,760 --> 00:15:23,640 what exactly this guy actually has done. 267 00:15:23,840 --> 00:15:26,480 But all I can tell you is that so far as there's no breakup in 268 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:29,520 here, give him time, give him patience, and when he reaches 269 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:31,360 out, give him time. If he doesn't reach out to you 270 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:37,000 like another month, you can just decide to break up with him. 271 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:38,320 And when he comes back, he's hearing that. 272 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:41,000 Sir, you can't just disappear, come back and behave like 273 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,400 everything is normal. That being said, be myself. 274 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:46,320 I hate when someone ghosts me so I can feel your pain. 275 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:47,600 All right? Yeah. 276 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:50,000 I'm really sorry you have to deal with this, but you can't 277 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:53,200 just do up and decide that the relationship is over here. 20. 278 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:54,800 Don't you really know what's going on with him? 279 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:58,000 If it was me, I would actually be worried about him instead of 280 00:15:58,000 --> 00:16:00,200 you worried about the fact that he has not reached out to me. 281 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:01,080 Do you get it? Yeah. 282 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:03,640 That's love. It that's love it. 283 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:08,320 Hello, please keep me anonymous. I'm a guy of 17 and I met this 284 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:11,440 girl in SHS who is 2 years older than me. 285 00:16:11,680 --> 00:16:14,680 I'm so much into this girl and I don't know if she's also doing 286 00:16:14,680 --> 00:16:16,360 same. I proposed to her after school 287 00:16:16,360 --> 00:16:19,640 and she was like she's not ready to date unless after five years 288 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:22,360 you know almost a year now and four years We mean. 289 00:16:22,560 --> 00:16:26,160 I'm getting kind of bored 'cause nothing shows she's in and 290 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:28,720 willing to. Whenever I bring up the topic 291 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:31,120 she changes it. Sometimes once you change 292 00:16:31,120 --> 00:16:37,880 towards her not checking up and she God's devim to tell me I 293 00:16:37,880 --> 00:16:41,720 can't choose to leave or stay. From the look of things she 294 00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:43,480 could help me one way or the other. 295 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:46,600 Please and advice. Please tell me when you make a 296 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:50,200 video so I see it. I'm sorry I can't tell you 297 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:51,520 because I really don't know who you are. 298 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:54,560 Whenever I special I copy your name or face so I don't know who 299 00:16:54,560 --> 00:16:56,720 you are. That being said, if she's not 300 00:16:56,720 --> 00:16:58,280 ready to date, she's not ready to date. 301 00:16:58,480 --> 00:17:01,360 It is your choice to wait. That is why she's telling you 302 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:05,079 that whether you like to stay on if which means that oga whether 303 00:17:05,079 --> 00:17:08,800 you live or stay she doesn't really give a fuck or rat sats 304 00:17:08,800 --> 00:17:12,079 what you do with yourself. So I will recommend that you 305 00:17:12,079 --> 00:17:14,800 move on because this one day is not giving. 306 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:17,760 You know she likes you enough to change her mind, OK? 307 00:17:20,079 --> 00:17:23,720 That's how we, that's how we. And a single mother who is 308 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:26,000 really confused about how to cope with my life. 309 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:28,560 Now. I met a guy whom we've been 310 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:33,080 dating for some time now and he's having issues with his work 311 00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:35,160 and also along the line I also lost my job. 312 00:17:35,160 --> 00:17:38,840 So we both in the house while we are figuring how I can get 313 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:43,840 another job ASAP. He's a really good guy, he gives 314 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:47,160 me even when I don't ask. But I feel like we're losing 315 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:49,520 each other after we had our first intimacy. 316 00:17:49,920 --> 00:17:53,200 He likes my kid very well too, but I'm scared this might not 317 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:55,400 end well. Fast forward, a secret admirer 318 00:17:55,400 --> 00:17:58,600 approached me and told me he likes me but if I give him a 319 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,960 chance in my life, he's going to give me everything I desire in a 320 00:18:01,960 --> 00:18:05,640 man, including setting up my own business which I've been 321 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:08,240 dreaming of. He only told me that he doesn't 322 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:12,040 want to see me with any guy or see me with any other man 'cause 323 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:16,040 he would like to marry me if I give him a chance to love me and 324 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:18,920 treat me like the queen that I please. 325 00:18:19,320 --> 00:18:22,720 Tell me your opinion about this. Do I leave my guy who accepts 326 00:18:22,720 --> 00:18:26,400 his proposal secretly and dating behind my boyfriend's back? 327 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:31,400 Oh my God. So let me tell you something. 328 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:36,200 Recently, I think I said in a previous view in my very combat 329 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:39,320 video that I dated somebody for a month and a person dumped me 330 00:18:39,320 --> 00:18:42,320 for no reason, told me that the timing was not right. 331 00:18:42,560 --> 00:18:45,080 And he's a provider. And based off of the fact that 332 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:47,280 he's seen what's going on in my life, he doesn't think he can 333 00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:51,440 provide for me in that moment. And so he wants to leave me, 334 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:54,360 right? That has given me a perspective 335 00:18:54,360 --> 00:18:58,080 on a lot of faiths. He broke up with me because he's 336 00:18:58,080 --> 00:18:59,400 a provider. He can provide for me. 337 00:19:00,760 --> 00:19:03,520 That has given me a perspective in so many faiths. 338 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:06,680 If I was in your shoes, I'll definitely need the guy I'm with 339 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:09,320 and go be with the guy that is going to be able to provide for 340 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,720 me because of what I'm experiencing. 341 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:12,840 Now. Would I be able to be 342 00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:15,640 experienced or what I've experienced in the hands of a 343 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:17,480 guy that I actually started falling in love with? 344 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:19,800 You understand, and that is because of what I've 345 00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:21,720 experienced. But best of what you've 346 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:24,360 experienced, you said that this guy is a good guy. 347 00:19:24,480 --> 00:19:26,760 He gives you even when he doesn't have, which means that 348 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:29,640 he's going to go to to be able to be there for you. 349 00:19:30,120 --> 00:19:32,400 Do you want to let go off that and be with somebody that is 350 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,400 spontaneously telling you that I can do all these things for you 351 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:36,600 when you've not seen any evidence? 352 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:37,720 Because let me tell you something. 353 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:41,480 The guy that dumped me about not being a provider told me that I 354 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:42,800 don't care if you're a gold digger. 355 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:47,440 I can give the guy was looted and I feel like maybe there was 356 00:19:47,480 --> 00:19:50,240 a lot of things going on in his life and that's why he feel like 357 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:53,400 I couldn't be a priority for him when he comes to spending on me 358 00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:55,800 or providing for me. You understand? 359 00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:58,120 So I found to understand that when a man wants to provide for 360 00:19:58,120 --> 00:20:01,200 you and loves you enough to provide for you, he will provide 361 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:04,000 for you even when he don't have. And that is what you need to 362 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:08,120 look out for, OK? You look for a kind man in mind 363 00:20:08,120 --> 00:20:11,320 that is willing a man that is willing to do for you in a way 364 00:20:11,320 --> 00:20:14,280 they don't have than a man that has it abundant be he uses that 365 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:17,600 that as a yardstick to get you off other people. 366 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:20,480 I don't know if I'm making sense in this, but if I'm making sense 367 00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:23,120 in this, please give me a thumbs up on the comment section. 368 00:20:23,120 --> 00:20:25,880 If I'm not give you a thumbs down, OK because recently I 369 00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:28,480 think I eat checking. Because my my thinking is 370 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:30,320 switching up based on my experience. 371 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:37,160 OK so let's do this. Hello Princess, my name is 372 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:40,880 Hobsick and I want to ask this question for me the youth to 373 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:43,840 know the meaning of love. Those who claim they love their 374 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:48,440 boyfriends and your friends in your In your case partner has a 375 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:51,680 kidney problem. Will your level of love allow 376 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:54,400 you to donate one of your kidneys to the person you can 377 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:56,880 you love? Love is not about sex, beauty 378 00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:59,040 and money alone. It goes a long way. 379 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:07,000 OK, so a person is asking that would you give your kidney, one 380 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:11,480 of your kidney to someone you know in this generation? 381 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:17,560 I think I can. That's if they can use my kidney 382 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:22,800 because I drink a lot. But beyond that's right, I feel 383 00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:25,120 like you don't want to lose someone that you love. 384 00:21:25,120 --> 00:21:27,040 You don't want to lose someone that you cherish. 385 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,520 You don't want to lose someone that means a lot to you. 386 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:33,280 If that person sees you that same way, of course, do it. 387 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:36,560 But if you feel like this person doesn't deserve it, don't do it 388 00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:37,920 because you think you love the person. 389 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,360 Because understand that love is not always enough. 390 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:44,680 Remember that I'm going to say this on an alleged situation. 391 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:47,120 Allegedly, Selena Gomez needed a kidney. 392 00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:50,200 Her friend who is a female gave her a kidney and after that they 393 00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:53,280 have they have some situation in I know people would this part 394 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,760 think this part is actually real or not, but they actually had 395 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:58,200 situations and then their friendship got destroyed and 396 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:01,720 then she ended up seeing Selena when was drinking with that 397 00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:06,000 kidney that she gave Selena. How would you feel about that? 398 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:10,520 If you give your kidney to somebody you love, you guys end 399 00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:12,600 up breaking up. How do you feel about it? 400 00:22:13,360 --> 00:22:15,520 So look at it from a lot of perspectives. 401 00:22:16,120 --> 00:22:18,040 You can't just wake up and say because I lost somebody, I'm 402 00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:19,560 going to give my kidneys to that essay. 403 00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:22,200 Yeah. Love is not enough. 404 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,800 There's always supposed to be other things that compliments 405 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:27,120 the love. OK, Yeah, that's what I think, 406 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:28,600 what you think in the comments section. 407 00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:30,600 I get to give your kidney to somebody you love. 408 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,800 Notes that he said that love is not about honey, duty or, you 409 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,520 know, other thing. So what does love in your first 410 00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:40,200 space and would you give your kidney to somebody you love? 411 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:46,280 That's lovely. That's lovely. 412 00:22:47,120 --> 00:22:49,000 Hello Sissy, please keep me anonymous. 413 00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:52,400 I happen to be with a man whom I don't love but he's a nice 414 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:56,480 person and loves me so much. Some months later I met this guy 415 00:22:56,480 --> 00:23:00,240 whom I naturally loved and he loves me back, but he has two 416 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:07,680 kids with different women but he's no more with any of them. 417 00:23:08,120 --> 00:23:11,640 My parents wants me to love the guy I don't love and disapprove 418 00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:13,640 me of getting married to the one I love. 419 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:15,400 What should I do? I'm confused. 420 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,320 Please I'll be in the comments section. 421 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:21,560 Help a sister, my dear. I would love the one that loves 422 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:22,800 me. Do you know why? 423 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:26,920 Because I've been in a lot of situations where I've actually 424 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:29,320 loved guys. I've falling for guys. 425 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:34,120 And because of how they realized that I loved them, they treated 426 00:23:34,120 --> 00:23:38,280 me like I was desperate. So I will recommend somebody 427 00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:42,600 that loves you as somebody you love because I know people learn 428 00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:45,000 to love. I know that I can learn to love 429 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:46,920 somebody. I know that if this person that 430 00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,680 loves me treats me well, I can learn to love that. 431 00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:51,560 Bessie. Yeah. 432 00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,840 So I'll, I'll recommend that you listen to your parents. 433 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:59,080 I would recommend that you listen to your parents because 434 00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:01,960 that maybe you're so late, you just don't know yet because 435 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:03,920 you're not feeling jiggy about the person yet. 436 00:24:04,360 --> 00:24:05,800 OK. Yeah, that's all. 437 00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:12,320 That's love it. Let's do the very last story and 438 00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:16,240 then end this episode. But I actually have lost this 439 00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:19,800 episode POV. I'm a boy of 21 years. 440 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:22,720 I was in a relationship with this girl whom I love very much. 441 00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:25,240 She was beautiful, rich and nice to be with. 442 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:30,880 When we started dating I asked her her past relationship and to 443 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,760 my surprise a friend of mine from high school happening to be 444 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,040 her ex. Fast forward, we dated for like 445 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:40,160 6 months and I had a call from my friend who happens to be and 446 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:43,000 my girlfriend's ex. He told me that my GF had been 447 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:47,400 lying to me all this time and he got to know that through our 448 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:50,640 text messages he saw on her phone. 449 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:54,840 We both have been very good friends so we we decided to 450 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,840 settle this issue. I decided to call her and put my 451 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,600 friend on the phone. It was just funny if I saw it 452 00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:03,160 she couldn't lie again. I woke up with her and she 453 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:07,040 continued to date my friend. Some time later she came to 454 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:10,160 confess to me that she accepted to dig me only because his 455 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:14,160 boyfriend cheated on her with her best friend and she also 456 00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:17,760 wanted to descend. But we she got to fall in love 457 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,040 with me and was losing feelings for my friend. 458 00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:24,200 Now she wants me back because she broke up with my friend. 459 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,720 POV. What do you think I do? 460 00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:28,520 Also, I'm out of the country now. 461 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,760 I'm in the states now. This happened before I travelled 462 00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,120 and she had no idea I was travelling. 463 00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:40,040 Frankly speaking, I think it's a messy situation. 464 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:41,880 There's a whole lot of Shake or him on there. 465 00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:45,760 I don't want to be the one to put a dump on someone that could 466 00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:50,760 potentially be the one for you. And so I think you need to 467 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,440 continue to have a conversation with her, see where her mind is 468 00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:57,920 AT and for your friend to continue to dictate after you 469 00:25:57,920 --> 00:25:59,680 guys had a creed. I don't know what argument she 470 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:01,520 had. Did you guys agree that she 471 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,960 confronted about the situation and he breaks up with her or 472 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:07,400 both of you break with her or you had an argument that yeah, 473 00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,200 let's talk to me and find out what's going on. 474 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:12,360 And I continuously get there because I feel like if the guy 475 00:26:12,360 --> 00:26:15,120 actually cheated on her and it was a comeback for her or it was 476 00:26:15,120 --> 00:26:18,880 also a reversed thing, then she had you in the process of 477 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:21,880 revenging her so-called cheating boyfriend. 478 00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,000 And that alone should be a red flat for you. 479 00:26:24,360 --> 00:26:25,200 You know, that's what I'm saying. 480 00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,400 There's a whole lot of drama around this particular one. 481 00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:29,640 OK, So very carefully, be careful. 482 00:26:30,120 --> 00:26:32,320 Don't just run into it because you fell in love with. 483 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:34,640 I don't just want to say because you might care. 484 00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:36,080 Just be careful. OK? 485 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,840 Yeah. You guys are what's in the 486 00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:40,640 episode here. Thank you very much for 487 00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:42,960 watching. Thank you very much for being 488 00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:44,440 here. It's been an excited time 489 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,360 talking to you. Don't forget to subscribe, like 490 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:50,320 and share. Oh my God, I love having 491 00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:53,640 conversations with you guys. I will see you in the next 492 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:57,040 episode, but please don't forget to also follow me on all my 493 00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:00,480 other social media platforms. I'm talking about on Instagram. 494 00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:04,280 You follow me on 2 platforms, actually, the podcast platform 495 00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:07,200 and then my personal platform. 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