You cook, clean, wash for him. A common compliment you can't
get is this love? So this is love hey?
His so-called ex sent a video of them kissing.
When I asked him he said it was an old video that was two years
ago and the song they were singing was With You by Own One
and the video which was released this year.
He said they learnt the song before David sang it and
recorded Make Her Lie, Make Her Lie.
New week, a new episode. As usual, I'm here to let you
know what what's going on on social media and then also read
some threads like a few things that are going on on social
media. Now I have a thread right?
And this thread is coming from TikTok.
Basically I chanced on it when I found Iffenanya.
You know, when you you start watching something on your FYP
and then now your FYP feels like, hey, you enjoy those kind
of things so it brings them to you.
So I was enjoying Efunanya on TikTok and then they brought me
this particular thread. A young lady put on her TikTok
that what's that lie a guy told you that left you pep placed?
What's that lie that a guy told you that left you pep placed?
And this is the side loot you get as mango lie give you where
you go. First pause, move back small,
can't find small chest. Sit down.
Then you admire the talent. It means that this kind of light
can cripple you. Alright, so now the first one
says. He told me that he has never
cheated on me since we got married.
He kept saying it so we had four kids.
I believed him. One day he came home late at
night. He woke me up to show me some
blood stains. I got so scared and asked if he
had fought with anyone. He only asked me to take him to
the hospital, which I did. That night stroke morning, he
vomited 3 mineral bottles of blood.
I called his family after changing hospitals and we
started to take him to the village.
After consultation we're told that he slept with a lady that
had tender boot. They asked him the name of the
lady he slept with so that they can get solution and he
mentioned 7 different names. I told them not to listen 'cause
he might be suffering from loss of blood and all that because he
has never cheated on me and his parents said that I'm the one
that doesn't like to hear the truth.
My husband kept rubbing his hands together telling me he's
sorry. I couldn't believe my ears.
Two hours later, he gave up. He left me with four kids at 29,
I now face my fear alone. No supporter, no capital, my
life so private that no one knows how I plan not to wake up
ever again. Why would you subject somebody's
child to this? Why would you?
You see why in my last week last week's episode, right somebody
said girls are running away from motherhood because they don't
want to be what to be disrespected and mocked.
See you see you there's somebody who come and write it in the in
my comment section that as a woman child matches your purpose
without that, yeah, yeah. You just say you have not You
see this rubbish. You see this rubbish.
First of what's the next one. He said that he was I saw at his
place was his own say in the way I'm if you want change over Gen.
or NEPA like. That make her lie.
Make her lie. Oh no.
Came home and found strands of lash extensions on the bed which
I had none on me. I confronted this boy.
He said it was from his dog. Almost.
My brain stopped working for a while.
I like that you said boy not because what the helly?
What the helly? Oh God this one said his
so-called ex sent a video of them kissing.
When I asked him he said it was an old video.
That was two years ago and the song they were singing was With
You by Old One, the video which was released this year.
He said they learnt the song before David sang it and
recorded. See, let me teach you one thing
about lying. OK 'cause I think it's a bit to
learn that when you're lying, the tokro like find small space
on your end. So that one issue coming, just
jump into that. Oh 'cause what the hell this is
crazy. I saw earrings complete soon I
guess I removed them before sleeping Baba say in baya so
they use remove SIM card me some shock.
I video called him and a girl picked.
When I asked him he said it was a photo.
These are lies that men told women that perplexed them.
Like they sat down at work and saw.
The man said oh God you have talent.
You're busting my brain cause what the hell.
So crazy. This is the end of this
particular segment but I've laughed my heart out 'cause what
the hell is this? I'll see in the next segment we
are going to read stories from people that sent it to us so
that we can give our opinions on them.
And I call that part Yeah, yeah, we'll bring it back.
If they posted it on social media, if they posted it on
social media, if they posted it on social media, then they made
it our business. And since they made it our
business, we're going to make it our business.
This means that you've given me the opportunity, the audacity,
the temerity to talk about your situation.
But I'm not going to be disrespectful about it.
But if I need to also be me for you to understand that what
you're dealing with or how you're dealing with the
situation you're playing around with your life, I'll let you
know. So let's get straight into the
stories. Note that every story sent here
is anonymous until the person wants me to mention them.
So don't come to my DM asking me who sent it to you.
Let's go. Dear Aklia, keep me anonymous.
I've been dating this girl for almost a year now and anytime I
need something or I need money from here, I have to borrow from
here and I have to pay back. But anytime she needs something
from me, I'll give it to a wholeheartedly, but it's a very
big problem for me. I don't know what to do.
What do you think I should do? First of all, I think you're
dealing with a girl that thinks this way.
My money is my money, Your money is our money.
That's the type of girl you're dealing with right now.
So if you think, say long term, you can't deal with that and I
think you're in a wrong relationship, 'cause people like
that say I don't think they are going to change.
I don't think it's something that somebody can change from
because it's them. They've come to understand that,
yeah, the man is the sole way to take responsibility.
They are not part of those people that feel like, yeah, I
have to be able to support my money.
I have to be able to, you know, when my money.
No, they don't. They are not wired like that.
So it's either you, you deal with it or you probably talk to
you about it or you move on. That's it.
Because that's how I see it. My money is my money.
Your money is our money. Yeah I met this girl here on
TikTok and took her number. We chatted on WhatsApp and I
proposed my feelings and she agreed.
She's a year older than me and I'm at Koforidia and she's at
Kent Temple. A long distance relationship.
This is my worry, please help me.
She never calls. I always do the calling but if I
also don't for some time she'll complain.
She keeps referring how old she is than me sometimes in normal
talks. Do you think I'm safe with it?
OK. You see, I don't think I've ever
started to say that I have a problem with age gap, but
they're setting age gaps. You are normal like 20 and 40
years. That's that's crazy.
But something like a year older, you know, that's not is I mean,
it's not bad, but in your situation, the way she goes back
to refer to it's, it's not giving.
I don't think that's mature. Like even if you're older than
the person, I don't think it's mature.
That's every 5 seconds. Be like you don't expect to, no.
You can put it in, you know, a joke once in a while, but it
shouldn't be like a behavior or an attitude.
That's what I think anyway. Comment section please help him
out. But you kept repeating that
she's a year older than you. Do you also have a problem with
that? If you do, then it's not for
you. OK Dear Akia, So I was dating
this girl while doing my service in the same school I completed
where we met. Everything was going on well I
noticed the guy in her class trying to come in between us.
Anytime I try to know about them, she says they approach hey
but they have nothing more than normal friendship.
So later I think when I left there, the guy now got the
chance to get more close to here.
Even though I wasn't around. We're still dating.
One night she told me that the kids from there our relationship
started shaking. Later on she asked for a break
only for me to find out that she's dating the same guy.
Now she wants to come back to me but the problem is she feels I
won't just stay again. I love it too but now I don't
know what to do. Do you trust?
No, if you don't then she's right.
So there you go. Dear Eklia, I'm really worried
and disturbed about this issue and I think I need your opinion.
Been dating my man for almost a year and so far so good.
Everything has been going on well, though we have our ups and
downs sometimes which is absolutely normal in every
relationship. Fast forward some time ago, I
noticed my boyfriend has connected my phone to his of
which he receives my messages without me knowing.
He knows about every conversation I have with
everybody but I found out I didn't get that angry even
though I was. He apologized and said it wasn't
going to happen anymore. My boyfriend is this jealous
type of guy and he's very insecure.
I always assure him that I ain't going to leave him or ever cheat
on him but still it looks like he has no trust for me.
I love him very much but I have no intentions of cheating on him
or ever leaving him because he's the very best.
He does everything for me and always makes me feel
comfortable. But just recently I found out
again that he has connected my phone with his and he has been
reading my messages and his words.
He he's like Congrats I know everything but the truth is I'm
not doing anything wrong. And those I chat with, I've made
it clear to them that I'm not single and there can't be any
form of relationship between us. My chat with them is normal even
though sometimes we chat and say I miss you and I miss your
company and other stuff. I don't even know how he reads
and understands those messages and I don't know the impression
he has created about me but he makes me feel I'm the worst
embodies person. This thing he is doing is really
making me feel bad. We know each other's passwords
so I don't think it's right for him to keep doing that.
I really don't like it and it's and this time around it really
has broken me and I feel so stupid.
Sometimes I chat with people and delete the messages because when
he sees it he'll make a big deal out of it.
I decided to delete those messages because I don't need
them on my phone. And that's one to.
Yes. Issues with it.
I'm in the university and of course some lecturers, students
and other people who make advances at me because of my
body type. I explain everything to him, but
still. OK.
Yeah. What should I do now?
Please advise me. You see, an insecure man is an
insecure man. Just so you know, you can do
everything in this world. Yeah.
And you will still be the same. That's how he's going to be.
It's a cancer, that thing. It's a cancer.
Like not literal cancer, but I think it's the cancer of
illusions, Insecurity in the sense that it eats you up.
It goes to places, your brain, your stomach, your appetite,
everything. Then it messes with you and
destroys something good I've been building.
So my dear you 2, don't entertain people.
If you want to keep that relationship, then don't
entertain anybody. Don't.
It means that you can't make friends.
It means that you can't have friends.
Are you ready to live your life like that with someone like
that? It's, it's a crazy situation.
Think about it. If you can't be with somebody
like that, go ahead and be with him.
But if you can't, you don't stay because of all the other
benefits you are getting. Because you see, that's the
exchange of business services you're going to gain.
You understand you're collecting things and he's not correct.
So choose what? OK?
Dear Akia, I'm a student of Umat Takwa and will be in level 200
next year, God willing. I live in an apartment.
The thing is I have a girlfriend who stays at La Paz.
She lives with someone as a house girl and she's like she
wants to stop her job and move to stay with me in Taqwa.
That's next year. At first she told me it was cool
but I have been thinking of some things.
You know in life we don't wish for bad things to come our way
but bad things happen. So I was wondering what if
something happens to her at my place, who am I going to tell or
call? I love this girl and I don't
have a problem with her coming to stay with me.
So please can you show an idea what you think I should do this
thingy? It's I like the fact that you
are not just thinking about the fact that Oh my goddess, come
stay with me. There'll be you know, unlimited
sex, there'll be unlimited, you know, food, unlimited lovey
dovey stuff. But you're thinking about what
if something happens to him? What is in the middle of the
night or who said I'm coming to snatch here?
What are you going to tell her family, her people?
They will let you sleep by their corpse.
You know that thing. Where is the account people that
do who straight tribe when somebody they are dating dies,
especially in your house, especially for the men.
Say the person dies in your house.
Why she cried? They will prosecute you for
murder on top of it because they don't really know what your day
now 2 when we come to the traditional side normal cocina,
I can see you sleep by the way to bury it.
You sleep by the crops for three days before they do some memory.
Do you have that topical drop? You know, all those things come
in, but I think normally what the family says that if you want
her to be living with you, then you have to do something on her
head. And I'm pretty sure that you're
not in a place. Let me 200 you are not in a
place to when to wear and do something on a woman's head.
So my dear, whatever it is, I need you to have a realistic
conversation with a girl. Let's you understand what's at
stake. Do you understand?
Don't, don't take a chakra 'cause as you know, anything can
happen at any time. Yeah, I'm almost 28 years old,
working as a security personnel and my boyfriend is also a
personnel. We've been dating for a couple
of months now. We look OK, but not that OK.
He doesn't come to my place, I go there when I'm off work.
I do support him when he needs my help from sending him money
for groceries but sometimes feel like he doesn't love me.
I like the way I love him from my places.
This is like 4 hours drive but I still go.
I cook, clean and wash as if we are married.
But when he gets the chances I get from work he hardly and
comes to see me or even say I'm sorry to me when he is at fault.
The painful thing is he entertains some girl on WhatsApp
which I have seen some of his chats and I complain.
He said that that's him, he is filled with them and nothing
more. When I talk about things that
I'm not happy about, he says I complained too much.
I have changed. When I take new photos I send
them to him just for him to admire but he just looks and
says nothing. I complain about that.
She doesn't like you. Sorry he doesn't like you my
dear, you have written plenty here.
He doesn't like you. You deserve more than anything
for all the things you do for him.
You cook, clean, wash for him and common compliments you can
get. And he does something that you
talk about. You entertain other people and
talk about. You say your whole cleaning is
this love. So this is love.
Hey that no, you're 28. Don't entertain this rubbish or
somebody's come and stress you because of love.
Hey, no he doesn't, OK? He doesn't love you.
He doesn't even like you. Let's love it.
Let's love it dear. I'm a guy of 24 years.
When I was 19 I met a lady and let's go home.
I realized she was interested in me but I told her I wasn't ready
and still healing from a previous relationship.
She is very caring and understood me.
But one thing led to the other. We had sex even though we're not
dating so so you people can lead to 1 limited lead to the other.
It has sex once you have plans that you will never date.
What kind of lead to the other is that's one though we were not
dating so it was like friends with benefit.
I moved from that area and we lost contact.
Five years later, I'm not in my final year in the university and
currently dating a lady. Let's go here.
She's in level 300 and been dating for 2 1/2 years now.
Yeah, is some way. One moment she's acting like I'm
her wealth, another moment she behaving like an angry possessed
person towards me. I know they do sometimes get
mood swings so I just ignore her when she's acting that way.
What? Our parents are aware of our
relationship and even her mom sometimes sends me stuff from
abroad. Fast forward, I'm at the friend
with benefit. Got my number from a friend and
now she wants a relationship with me.
I told her I were acquainted with someone and now dating the
person. She understood.
But sometimes she brings up the idea of dating and even uses the
shagging that occurred between us as a weapon against me saying
I used it. I don't think I used it because
we both agreed to have the sex and nothing else and moreover,
she's now with one kid and that's one of my red flags.
For me. The lady is very caring and
supportive but the depth of my feelings for her is superficial
and I don't want to give him vanity hopes.
My girlfriend Yao on the other hand is not caring and
supportive as AMA but I feel like since our parents are
involved, I shouldn't just end things with her like that.
Plus, her mom really likes me and even queries my opinions and
decisions sometimes when it comes to her daughter.
I'm really discombobulated because in my mind, Amma is a
very supportive and caring person for a wife.
But my heart is for ya. My mom also loves it.
What should I do? You see, in all that you have
said here, you kept saying this person loves this, this person
loves that. It wasn't really about you.
It feels like you're looking about you're looking at
everybody from the outside by not yourself.
The only time you said my heart is foyer is towards the end, but
you had given lots of you know this person is my dear.
What do you want? That's the thing.
What do you want? You clearly stated that someone
with a child is a red flag for you.
So why do you want to go back on your red flag?
Oh, you think that's all the other qualities that you
mentioned of her, you know, covers for the one child that
she has? I mean, what exactly do you want
as a person? Look at it that way and sit
within yourself and assets what you want and move on.
Thank you very much for watching this particular episode.
It's been a lot, but I hope you enjoyed it.
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I mean this weekend, I couldn't bring you a lot because I have I
wasn't feeling well. So I posted on Tuesday alone.
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