1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:07,960 This guy constantly disrespected you, cheated on you, broke your 2 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:16,000 virginity, cheated on you again, you took a pill after a sexual 3 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:21,040 encounter with the same guy had some side effects to this pill. 4 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:27,680 He ghosted you and now he wants to come back, process it how 5 00:00:27,680 --> 00:00:32,080 I've explained it and I'll come back and explain to me what you 6 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:35,480 want me to tell you, huh? What I hate in this world, Adema 7 00:00:35,480 --> 00:00:38,920 Thai Crowbiasi is the man that gossips with his fellow man. 8 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:43,480 If you're doing it with your baby girl or if you want to just 9 00:00:43,480 --> 00:00:44,720 with your baby girl, that one makes sense. 10 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:46,800 So. But if you're going to gossip 11 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:49,080 with your fellow man, AMA time. It is annoying, it is 12 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:52,200 disgusting. News flash News flash, this man 13 00:00:52,200 --> 00:01:03,920 is married with two kids. Happy new year, guys. 14 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:07,600 Yes, this is our very first episode for 2025. 15 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:11,600 This is the POV podcast. My name is Nanny Khalifa. 16 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,480 And how was your holidays? Tell me, tell me. 17 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:16,320 I want the cheers. I want the cheers. 18 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:20,320 Yes, I want to know, 'cause mine was just, I was in the house, in 19 00:01:20,320 --> 00:01:24,880 the room, just thinking about the whole year and how it did 20 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:28,160 not go as I want. But it was still exciting to be 21 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:34,040 alive, to witness 2025. Basically what we do here if 22 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:37,720 you're new is that we read threads and then confessions. 23 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:41,160 The threads we pick up from X and then the confessions. 24 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:46,200 You send it to my DM on TikTok, that is the POV and also you can 25 00:01:46,200 --> 00:01:50,640 also send to my e-mail that is the POV 897@gmail.com. 26 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,600 I promise this year I'm going to pay attention to my e-mail 27 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,200 because it has become hard to me alone. 28 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:59,840 It has become hard. I'll go to my EDM Instagram, 29 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,080 Tiktok, everywhere. Yeah, that is how it doesn't 30 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:05,080 come. But I am grateful to you guys 31 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:08,320 because you trust me enough to handle your situations for you. 32 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:11,400 So yes, I share their stories and then I also share my 33 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:15,640 opinions on these stories. Then again, people in the 34 00:02:15,640 --> 00:02:19,320 comments section, all my lovely, lovely, lovely viewers also 35 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:21,640 share their opinions in the comments section. 36 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:26,280 Yes, that's on period. Now, before I get into this 37 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:30,400 particular episode threads, I mentioned last year December, 38 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:34,000 that I was doing a giveaway. And on that particular video or 39 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:35,240 in the video, I said the giveaway. 40 00:02:35,240 --> 00:02:39,040 I said tag people share. And then when the video gets a 41 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:43,400 particular number, views, number of views, I will mention the 42 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:46,880 winner of the giveaway. And I mentioned that one person 43 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:49,720 win money. The other person would also be 44 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,840 on the podcast as a guest. Yes, I said three people will 45 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:55,840 win, but I've forgotten the last thing the person will get. 46 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:58,120 But definitely I will remember. Yeah. 47 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:02,800 And as I said that I've seen that people have been tagged 48 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:04,480 under the videos, but this is the problem. 49 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:07,560 It hasn't gotten the views. And so until it gets the views, 50 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:09,360 the winner will not be mentioned. 51 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:12,200 And so keep sharing, keep telling people about it. 52 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:13,600 Let them come and watch the video. 53 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:15,960 And when it gets to the views, I will. 54 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,240 What do you call it? Mention the winner and give out 55 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,040 the prize. Don't forget to subscribe. 56 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:23,880 Very important. When your people come, let them 57 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:25,360 subscribe. Let them share. 58 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:29,080 OK, Yeah, Let me get into the threads that we have here now, 59 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:32,320 it being the first episode for the year. 60 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:37,840 The thread I picked up on was what toxic advice would you give 61 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:42,960 your younger self? What toxic advice would you give 62 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:45,480 your younger self? I know people like ah, new year. 63 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:46,800 Why are you going straight to toxic? 64 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:52,680 I use this because I feel like when people are, I'm entering 65 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,600 into a new year, they're like, yeah, new year, new me, I'm 66 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:58,920 going to be a new person, I'm going to change, you know, that 67 00:03:58,920 --> 00:03:59,720 kind of thing. Yeah. 68 00:03:59,960 --> 00:04:02,840 And so I'm assuming that people would sit down and give 69 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:06,160 themselves some advice or talk themselves into thinking that 70 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:08,440 there's something about them that, like, they need to in that 71 00:04:08,440 --> 00:04:13,400 change or they need to improve. So yeah, the first one says if 72 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:17,000 you want to get a body, tell her you just want to be friends and 73 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:21,160 watch her jump through hoops to prove you wrong. 74 00:04:22,840 --> 00:04:26,960 I want to understand this one. If you want to get a buddy, you 75 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:30,880 just have to be a friend. So basically buddies will turn 76 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:34,040 you down probably because you don't have money to to sponsor 77 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:35,160 them. But if you want to be their 78 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:38,280 friend, you can quickly sleep with them as a friend. 79 00:04:38,280 --> 00:04:39,800 Is that what you're trying to say? 80 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,800 That's a crazy insight. Quit arguing with people and 81 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:49,720 start slashing their tires. People are going to go haywire 82 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:55,480 the string 25 if he goes low. Go underground. 83 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:03,240 Hey don't feel bad about cheating on her with her best 84 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:09,440 friend. She will never find out fact or 85 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:11,280 bullshit about them having a boyfriend. 86 00:05:11,280 --> 00:05:14,240 If it's matter to them, they wouldn't be offering you pussy. 87 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:25,240 Wow, go for the one with daddy shoes. 88 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:27,960 Now this is stunning me. What? 89 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:32,360 Fuck them my boy, all of them. The anxious. 90 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:38,320 Those abortions are worth it. Keep grinding. 91 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:42,120 Ignore negative people, it hurts them more. 92 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:49,200 Smash the rich girl, spend your daddy's money and tell his wife. 93 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:55,720 Wow go ahead and go after the man that's been trying to get 94 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:58,680 you from your man. He's cheating on you anyway. 95 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:03,200 Be the villain. She's going to cheat on you 96 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:07,640 sooner or later. Wow I'm hearing cheats cheats 97 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:09,120 cheats. I'm seeing cheats cheats. 98 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:12,320 Someone said go to the gym and test strap these hoes. 99 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:16,720 No one cares about how good you treat them. 100 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:22,320 Treat everyone like shit. This shit is crazy. 101 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:29,720 This shit is crazy. Interesting toxic advice you'd 102 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:32,320 give yourself or you will give your younger self. 103 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:35,920 This is a toxic advice I would give my younger self. 104 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:45,000 Girl, be the buddy that you are because I don't think this is 105 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:47,280 been a toxic advice. This is generally an advice I 106 00:06:47,280 --> 00:06:48,760 will give myself as a younger self. 107 00:06:49,280 --> 00:06:53,640 Stay confident, be the body that you are, stick with your 108 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:57,440 principles, understand that people will assume that 109 00:06:57,440 --> 00:07:02,560 integrity is not it, but it is. That is the advice I'll give to 110 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,480 myself. This is not toxic, this is real 111 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:07,120 advice. OK, so you can take it or not, 112 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:10,080 but you see the ones that I read earlier, they are all toxic 113 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:12,680 advice. Yes, they are all toxic advice. 114 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:16,640 Now let's get straight into the stories for this episode. 115 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:18,360 But you can also give yourself advice. 116 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:22,480 Let me ask you, what advice would you give your younger self 117 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:25,840 today as you're watching this video, what advice would you 118 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,720 give your younger self? Let me know whilst I go through 119 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:31,920 the stories. Do that in the comments section. 120 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:34,640 Let's read the stories for this episode. 121 00:07:34,640 --> 00:07:36,960 Let's love it. Let's. 122 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:42,760 Love it keep my identity so let's this lady I'm in class 123 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:44,880 with I was dating from level 100. 124 00:07:45,200 --> 00:07:48,360 She's always cheating on me but because I loved her I always 125 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:50,520 forgive her. I've done everything possible to 126 00:07:50,520 --> 00:07:54,400 keep this girl, but she paid me back with betrayal. 127 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:57,120 We weren't talking till last week. 128 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:01,360 She called me to meet her somewhere and to my surprise she 129 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:04,640 wanted sex from me. I refused because I didn't trust 130 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:08,280 that she was genuine this time around, but I still love her. 131 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:10,120 What do I do? Love is not always enough my 132 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:10,920 darling. I I. 133 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:14,880 I think I've gotten too much of these stories that I have come 134 00:08:14,880 --> 00:08:17,360 to understand that the default response I am going to give to 135 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:18,880 you is that love not always enough. 136 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:21,840 Leave her. She's cheating on you. 137 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:24,080 She doesn't love you. She has done it multiple times. 138 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:27,840 It's not going to stop today. I don't think she respects you 139 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:31,280 enough to stop cheating and so please leave there. 140 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:36,679 Let's love it, Let's love it. I'm a level 400 in the 141 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:39,919 University of Education Winneba and the school has been doing 142 00:08:39,919 --> 00:08:43,640 something I don't understand. During our final year exams, our 143 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:47,080 department did not allow those students who haven't finished 144 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:49,600 paying their school fees to write their last paper. 145 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:53,160 They said they can only write when they've They're done paying 146 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:57,840 for their fees. And I want to know if it's in 147 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:01,840 our law book that if you haven't finished paying your fees, you 148 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:05,360 can't write your exams because it's really paining me. 149 00:09:05,360 --> 00:09:08,760 Thank you. Now, I think this is something 150 00:09:08,760 --> 00:09:10,680 that has been going on for the longest time. 151 00:09:10,680 --> 00:09:14,320 It is not a matter of today. It has been going on for so, so, 152 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:17,400 so long when I was in school and your mother was in school and 153 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:20,520 you're for everybody like it's is something that is there. 154 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:23,600 And I let's, let's look at it from the school's point of view 155 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,080 and I will come back and look at it from your point of view, from 156 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:28,160 the school's point of view. They need your money to run the 157 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:29,800 school. And so if you don't pay your 158 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:31,480 school fees, running the school be difficult. 159 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:34,760 Printing those exams questions, printing those papers, buying 160 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:37,240 those papers, cleaning, you know, paying those cleaners, 161 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:38,640 doing this, doing that is not possible. 162 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:41,520 Paying the electricity, water is not possible. 163 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:44,680 And so they need your money to run the school, right? 164 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:48,040 Exactly. Now, on the other hand, you, the 165 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:52,000 students, you need to be able to pursue your education. 166 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:56,440 And so not paying your school fees is not an intentional 167 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:59,600 thing, except for those people that spend their school fees 168 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:02,560 intentionally. For some people, it is hard to 169 00:10:02,560 --> 00:10:05,760 even raise the money to pay the school fees, although we 170 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:08,760 actually need the education. And so it is hard. 171 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:11,160 That is the point of view as a student. 172 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:13,600 It is not intentional. And so sometimes the school can 173 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:17,000 cut you a slack for you to write the exams by looking at it. 174 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:21,520 Both of you have to be able to do something and that is what 175 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:23,840 they need to do. That is how I understand it. 176 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:25,680 I'm not saying it is the right thing to do. 177 00:10:25,680 --> 00:10:28,280 I am just saying that I understand it from the school's 178 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:29,400 point of view. Do you get it? 179 00:10:29,680 --> 00:10:32,080 Yeah. Let me know what people think in 180 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:34,200 the comments section. Question. 181 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:40,480 Is it right or has it always been right that a school 182 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:44,240 administration or a department would say that because the 183 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:47,680 student has not paid their school fees, I am not letting 184 00:10:47,680 --> 00:10:51,040 them write the exams? And so until they pay, I don't 185 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:53,920 care whether they feather their education or not, whether they 186 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:56,080 are being able to complete the school or not. 187 00:10:56,080 --> 00:11:00,040 If they don't pay, I am not letting them enjoy what comes 188 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:02,720 with pay your school fees. Let me know what you think of 189 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:04,560 this in the comments section. OK, that's. 190 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:08,680 What it That's what it. Keep me anonymous. 191 00:11:08,680 --> 00:11:13,160 I'm a guy of 17 and I met this girl in SHS who is 2 years older 192 00:11:13,160 --> 00:11:15,480 than me. I'm so much into this girl and I 193 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,520 don't know if she's also doing same. 194 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:20,800 I propose to her after school and she was like she's not ready 195 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:25,320 to date unless after five years. Been almost a year now and four 196 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:28,520 years remaining. I'm getting kind of bored 197 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:31,440 because nothing shows she's in and willing to. 198 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:34,160 Whenever I bring up the topic she changes it. 199 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:39,320 Sometimes my attitude towards her change like I'm not checking 200 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:43,960 up on her and also she got the vein to tell me that I can 201 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:47,040 choose to leave or stay. From the look of things she 202 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:48,960 could help me one way or the other. 203 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:53,240 Please I need your advice. Please tag me when you post the 204 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:55,360 video. Now I have two things to address 205 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:58,160 here. The people that send me their 206 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:01,360 stories and tell me to tag them. When? 207 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:04,320 What do you call lipost? I can't tag you because I won't 208 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:06,760 remember who you are. I screenshot and crop your name 209 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:09,440 out of it so that for some reasons, if it pops up on 210 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:11,280 camera, I won't be found. One thing. 211 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:16,960 Yeah. So I don't think you said I 212 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:18,600 should keep you anonymous and I should tag you. 213 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:21,240 How is this possible? I don't think I can tag you. 214 00:12:21,560 --> 00:12:24,840 But about your situation, when a woman tells you that I don't 215 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:27,720 want, I don't want. Don't stress it. 216 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:30,760 You're getting pissed off. It's on your own accord because 217 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:33,080 this girl has told you that she's not ready to date until 218 00:12:33,080 --> 00:12:34,560 five years. Five years is not up. 219 00:12:34,560 --> 00:12:35,920 So why are you bringing it up again? 220 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,120 Why you think she's going to help you? 221 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:42,600 Maybe she thinks you're not going to help her. 222 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:43,920 So I don't know why you're bringing it up. 223 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:46,120 I don't know why you think you're entitled to be angry over 224 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:49,680 someone not wanting you. My dear, focus on yourself. 225 00:12:49,680 --> 00:12:52,720 You're 17, I know at this juncture your feelings are all 226 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:54,040 over the place, but focus on yourself. 227 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:56,720 She doesn't want you. If it's dating you want to date. 228 00:12:56,840 --> 00:13:00,040 You can actually look around and find someone else, but I 229 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:03,880 personally think that she has told you what she wants and you 230 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:07,280 need to respect it. And I like that this girl told 231 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:09,440 you what she wants. My girls, if you don't want 232 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:11,160 somebody, tell them you don't want them. 233 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:14,160 Don't string them along because this is how girl, you know, some 234 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:16,160 guys get used. I have told you I don't want 235 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:19,320 you, but you go ahead and still linger around and think that I 236 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:21,040 am going to come back and change my mind. 237 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:25,320 That's crazy. That's crazy. 238 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:28,800 That's love it. That's love it. 239 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:34,480 I met this guy here in Canada. When he saw me he actually told 240 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:38,200 me he likes me and to be honest I also like him too. 241 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:41,480 So he proposed to me and I accepted his proposal and we 242 00:13:41,480 --> 00:13:44,720 started dating. When we started dating I opened 243 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:49,560 up to him and I told him I have one son because I really want 244 00:13:49,560 --> 00:13:52,240 the relationship to work. So I told him everything about 245 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:55,000 me. He told me about himself and 246 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:58,680 never told me. He was married and also have two 247 00:13:58,680 --> 00:14:00,760 kids. What? 248 00:14:03,680 --> 00:14:08,680 I later found out he was married and I was very mad at that 249 00:14:08,680 --> 00:14:11,200 point. He came and apologized to me and 250 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:12,760 I accepted it because I love him. 251 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:16,120 We dated like 3 months and I got pregnant and I decided to keep 252 00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:17,880 the pregnancy. Girl are you delusional? 253 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:23,800 I told him about it and he advised me about it and at the 254 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:27,400 time I was new in the country so I didn't have any option but to 255 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:30,720 get rid of the pregnancy. We agreed on that so I went and 256 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:34,800 got rid of the pregnancy. After doing that he never called 257 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:38,320 me and asked me about my health. They have not seen anything. 258 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:45,400 He started acting weird so I told my mom and my mom called 259 00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:49,040 him before calling me. Mind you, my mom knows him. 260 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:55,000 I'm really ashamed of writing this, especially this part but I 261 00:14:55,000 --> 00:15:00,800 need to Fast forward. He came and apologized for what 262 00:15:00,800 --> 00:15:06,080 he did and decided to let the pain go in me and I forgot 263 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:09,840 everything and started over. One day I was supposed to go for 264 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:12,040 some barbecue and he wasn't with me. 265 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:15,520 He asked his best friend to pick me up because his friend was 266 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:19,800 also attending the BBQ. So we went I was I was with his 267 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:23,360 friend, we're having fun and after the BBQ his friend dropped 268 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:25,560 me off. When we got to my house we're 269 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:28,280 talking about his friend's behaviour towards me and I was 270 00:15:28,280 --> 00:15:31,080 talking about the pain that he puts me through. 271 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:34,240 I told his friend about what happened between his friend and 272 00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:39,200 I, I mean the pregnancy and his friend asked me not to tell my 273 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:41,760 boyfriend. We had this conversation and I 274 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:44,680 told him I'm not going to tell my boyfriend because when I tell 275 00:15:44,680 --> 00:15:47,640 him he'll be mad at me. So after talking with his friend 276 00:15:47,840 --> 00:15:49,920 he advised me to be patients with him. 277 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:54,400 When his friend left my house, he went to my boyfriend's place 278 00:15:54,400 --> 00:15:58,880 around 2:30 AM and told my boyfriend why didn't he tell him 279 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:02,680 about my pregnancy and my boyfriend called me and he was 280 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:06,240 very mad at me and didn't even want me to explain. 281 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:10,920 My boyfriend didn't tell me I shouldn't ask his friend about 282 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:14,120 it. He asked me do I want to 283 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:16,240 separate his friendship between himself and his friend. 284 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:20,120 I wanted to explain what brought the conversation up for him to 285 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:23,800 understand my point but he never wanted to hear me out. 286 00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:26,160 I've been trying my possible best. 287 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:30,320 I've been sending him messages to explain what's but he's not 288 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:33,440 responding. I've been calling him from 289 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:37,000 Saturday till now he hasn't answered my calls. 290 00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:41,040 I've been texting him to apologize. 291 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:45,640 I know what I did was wrong by telling his friend about it but 292 00:16:45,680 --> 00:16:49,680 I as I said I said it out of pain because he was really has 293 00:16:49,680 --> 00:16:52,600 really done a lot of things to me that really hurts me and I 294 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:57,040 don't want to disclose much here but I'm stressed, I'm confused 295 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:59,040 and it's really affecting me. I need your help. 296 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:04,920 The help you need for me is not how you need to figure out. 297 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:10,240 So apologize to your married boyfriend with two kids. 298 00:17:11,400 --> 00:17:15,960 The help you need from me and the audience out there is, is 299 00:17:15,960 --> 00:17:20,000 how to get out of your head about this man. 300 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:24,280 Because just so you know, news flash, news flash, this man is 301 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:28,560 married with two kids in all this story. 302 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:35,600 Do you know who I'm I'm I'm disappointed in your mother for 303 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:38,280 agreeing. I don't know the way you said 304 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:40,600 it. Your mother know knows the guy. 305 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:41,840 You said my mother knows the guy. 306 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:44,120 You did not know that. You did not say that My mother 307 00:17:44,120 --> 00:17:47,400 knows the guy and I are dating. So I'm going to assume that the 308 00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:49,560 fact that she knows the guy, she knows you guys are dating. 309 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:52,760 If she knows that you guys are dating and she's not advised you 310 00:17:52,760 --> 00:18:00,440 to walk away from that man, God. OK, My outmost respect to you 311 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:03,320 and what I can tell you is to walk away from that relationship 312 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:04,640 or whatever you have with that man. 313 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:10,880 Then again, I don't know how US huh What I hate in this war 314 00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:14,040 there there may tie crow will be I say is the man that gossips 315 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:17,720 with his fellow man. If you're doing it with your 316 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:20,240 baby girl or if you want to just with your baby girl, that one 317 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:22,720 makes sense. So but if you're going to gossip 318 00:18:22,720 --> 00:18:24,680 with your fellow man every time it is annoying. 319 00:18:24,760 --> 00:18:27,120 It is disgusting. What the hell? 320 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:32,280 Just so you know, maybe they set you up. 321 00:18:33,560 --> 00:18:35,760 That's another angle too. That's another thing. 322 00:18:35,760 --> 00:18:38,720 Maybe, maybe they set you up. Maybe they set you up just for 323 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:41,000 him to let go of you because he's tired. 324 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:43,080 He has used you. It's time for him to dump your 325 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:43,520 ass. Let's have. 326 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:49,760 It let's have. It I've been dating this guy he 327 00:18:49,760 --> 00:18:52,480 supports me very well but my problem is he snores. 328 00:18:52,760 --> 00:18:58,400 How do I tell him? And sometimes always busy baby 329 00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:04,920 girl I I just learnt something recently from a book that I 330 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,320 read. The book is called Men are from 331 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:10,000 Mass women, women are from Venice. 332 00:19:10,280 --> 00:19:14,080 And let me tell you, it has opened my mind and my heart to a 333 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:19,680 lot of things, to things that I did not think that I could know. 334 00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:23,600 OK, so let's go through it. Your man snores. 335 00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:27,440 Snoring is part of, you know, the things that happened to 336 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:30,440 human beings even in fact, snoring is normal. 337 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:34,520 It has become a normal thing. You understand, it is noise. 338 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:37,680 We all don't like it. But when you love somebody, you 339 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:41,000 learn to accommodate some things. 340 00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:46,160 You can buy him that nose strip thing that, you know, people put 341 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:49,760 in their nose when they snore and then it can help reduce the 342 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:54,680 situation. 1-2 Have a sense now conversation with him. 343 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:57,640 OK. And this is where the book Men 344 00:19:57,640 --> 00:20:00,600 Are from Mars, Women Are from Venice comes in. 345 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:07,120 Sit down with him and tell him that babe, when you sleep, your 346 00:20:07,120 --> 00:20:09,640 snoring makes it difficult for me to sleep. 347 00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:13,280 That is one way you can go about it. 348 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:17,640 The second way you can go about it is by writing him a love 349 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:18,960 letter. That is a way you can 350 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:20,680 communicate. I know people will stop 351 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:22,600 chatting. And today to today, we still 352 00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:24,040 write letter. We still write no. 353 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:29,600 This love letter helps people share their feelings without 354 00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:35,080 coming off offensive from bat. Because then once you are 355 00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:40,680 writing how you feel about the situation, you are basically 356 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:44,880 also pouring your emotions or your anger, whatever you feel 357 00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:47,280 out. And so after you have written 358 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,600 the love, what you call it letter and the love letter, you 359 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:56,240 write about one something that you're angry about, which is the 360 00:20:57,040 --> 00:21:02,200 snoring, I assume, and his busy schedule, something that you 361 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:10,280 regret, something you are sorry about, and then how much you 362 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:13,000 love him. And in this case, when you write 363 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:15,400 something you're sorry about, something that something you're 364 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:17,160 angry about, something that you're sorry, something that you 365 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,680 regret and how much you love him, you put him through an 366 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:21,640 emotional roller coaster. And in the end, he's going to be 367 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,640 happy because you told him how much you love him. 368 00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:25,760 And I also told him the thing that you don't like about him, 369 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,440 then it doesn't feel like you are just invalidating him or 370 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:30,960 you're making him feel bad about something that he has no control 371 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:32,960 about. That is one thing you can do. 372 00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:36,440 The second thing you can do is also when he's sleeping, you can 373 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:39,280 help him position himself well so that the snoring will not be 374 00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:41,680 so bad that they will piss you off to come and write a dilemma 375 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:44,080 here for me. And when it comes to his busy 376 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:47,120 schedule, as I said before, it's all part of conversations. 377 00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:50,840 You can let him know, Hey, would you please let us go here today? 378 00:21:51,120 --> 00:21:54,000 Hey, would you please let us spend this time together today? 379 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:56,120 And that is something that you can talk to that person about. 380 00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:58,360 If you can't tell your partner that, babe, your busy schedule 381 00:21:58,360 --> 00:22:00,600 is affecting our relationship, I don't think you need to be in 382 00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:01,920 that relationship in the 1st place. 383 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:05,160 Yeah. So you need to be able to tell 384 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:06,800 him, talk to him. That's love. 385 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:11,160 It that's love it. Yeah, I'm a girl of 20 years, 386 00:22:11,360 --> 00:22:13,320 currently in the university. I'm in a relationship with a 387 00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:16,440 very good guy. I really really care about him 388 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:20,320 so much that I don't want to cheat on him and I really don't 389 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:24,840 want the relationship to go bad but POV here's the issue. 390 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:28,160 I want love that we go out having fun together and 391 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:31,440 everything. I would chip in the money 'cause 392 00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:36,280 I believe love is reciprocal and I want someone who is business 393 00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:41,080 minded, thinks and acts on his future and this guy is not that 394 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,080 at all. I really care about him. 395 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:47,840 I tried waking up with him but he talked to me so I stopped and 396 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,160 we are still together. Purely the reason for the 397 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:54,960 breakup for me is that I'm not feeling the relationship again 398 00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:59,240 and in the beginning I was having doubts but I ignored all 399 00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:03,760 and one thing led to the other. He dreamt about me leaving him 400 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:06,880 for another guy. Two days later one of my friends 401 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:10,400 in class that we started getting along already told me he really 402 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:14,480 likes me and POV. He's someone I won't hesitate in 403 00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:17,920 dating 'cause he has other qualities that I want in a man 404 00:23:18,120 --> 00:23:21,480 and since I'm a private person. I told him long ago that I was 405 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:25,120 not in a relationship and I've still not told him yet. 406 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:29,160 Purely this guy is willing to pamper me as how I want. 407 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:33,280 So now I'm in a dilemma. I I don't want to cheat on my 408 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,760 boyfriend but I also want to be loved right? 409 00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:40,640 And I have a lot of issues with love 'cause my own treats me 410 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:48,120 like he doesn't love me at times purely. 411 00:23:48,120 --> 00:23:53,000 Now I've met this new guy that he's doing his best to make me 412 00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:56,080 feel loved. Now my BF is starting to care 413 00:23:56,080 --> 00:24:01,160 for me bit by bit. He once play playfully as if I 414 00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:05,040 was cheating on him but I'm not. So I told him no, I wasn't pure 415 00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:06,520 VI. Need advice either. 416 00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:09,240 To date the new guy for three months together with my 417 00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:11,320 boyfriend and choose one on WhatsApp. 418 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:14,280 I have started already doing my best to push the new guy away. 419 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,440 Pure V. I've done everything possible to 420 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:20,880 let the new guy go but still he said he wants me. 421 00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:25,400 Please don't judge me but help me 'cause I don't want to be an 422 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:30,000 unfaithful partner to any guy. What did you say please? 423 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:32,800 I couldn't tell him the reason I wanted to break up. 424 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:44,760 I believe in this. Your old man wants to try and be 425 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,320 a better person for you because that's what I saw here. 426 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:55,160 My guy is trying to care for me. This is conflicting because him 427 00:24:55,160 --> 00:25:00,440 trying can go bad and can go good, but in the sense that it 428 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,680 would be that he would try for some time and get tired and stop 429 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:07,840 good in the sense that he can go all the way and become the best 430 00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:09,240 partner that you would ever have. 431 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:14,080 I need you to sit down with your old partner, have a 432 00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:18,120 conversation, do a list of things you guys or you want to 433 00:25:18,120 --> 00:25:21,440 do and make sure that he also has something that he wants to 434 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:23,880 do and give yourself at least three months. 435 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:27,200 You see that three months that you want to did the new guy with 436 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:31,440 your boyfriend. Use that three months to try and 437 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:33,440 develop a better relationship with your man. 438 00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:36,960 And if that after that three months things don't change, then 439 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:38,800 you know that he's not going to change or nothing is going to 440 00:25:38,800 --> 00:25:42,160 change and you can move on. But As for the new guy, I don't 441 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:45,320 think jumping onto him immediately because you think he 442 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:48,360 has all the qualities you're looking for is the best. 443 00:25:48,360 --> 00:25:53,800 Because men, men can be very sweet in the beginning when they 444 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:55,760 want you. That's the truth. 445 00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,400 In fact, even for women to women to can be very understanding in 446 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:02,240 the beginning of a relationship, but at some point we won't 447 00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,560 understand again. So it's a human thing. 448 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:08,520 We can be very nice in the beginning because then it's 449 00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:11,200 rosy, it's sweet, all our feelings are flying around and 450 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,400 all that. But after three months, the 451 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:15,520 honeymoon is over. Now we're facing the real 452 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,960 relationship and that's where problem sets in. 453 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,160 And so I'll tell you that the three months that you want to 454 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,680 use to go and cheat on your boyfriend with the new guy, you 455 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:26,520 can't use that three months to redefine the relationship you 456 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:28,320 have with your man and then move on. 457 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,200 But with this new guy, please block him if it's possible, 458 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:32,960 block him. Let him know this is not by 459 00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:34,680 force to date. Tell him I don't want you. 460 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,120 I've met somebody. You can even because you've not 461 00:26:37,120 --> 00:26:39,560 told him that you're dating before he started toasting, you 462 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:41,320 can tell him that you know what? I don't like you. 463 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,760 I've met somebody that I like and I want to be with period. 464 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,080 And he will leave if he's sensible, OK? 465 00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:49,840 Let's love it. Let's love. 466 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:55,080 It I dated this guy for a few years as a side chick before his 467 00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:59,120 other woman went late, though he wasn't married to her at the 468 00:26:59,120 --> 00:27:04,040 same time before he lost her. We knew it wasn't that serious. 469 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,560 At the same time I was chatting another man online and I had 470 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:09,960 waited for two years and he still didn't make it. 471 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:14,360 I moved on with my guy because he never treated me bad and he's 472 00:27:14,360 --> 00:27:18,320 a cool guy. Now the man I am chatting with 473 00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:22,000 is planning to come and meet me because I still hope that he 474 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,240 would still make it. I never blocked him. 475 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:28,040 The issue is now the guy I'm dating now is madly in love with 476 00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:31,120 me from the situation and my family background. 477 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:34,080 How do I leave him without hurting his feelings? 478 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,880 Or should I just forget the man? I have been chatting for two 479 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:40,920 years, 2 1/2 years for him. This is a tough decision. 480 00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:50,120 Help me and keep me anonymous. You were a side chick and you 481 00:27:50,120 --> 00:27:53,840 got promoted to a main chick because the man lost his main 482 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:56,320 chick. And whilst you were a side 483 00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:58,640 chick, you also talking to somebody trying to be the main 484 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,920 chick of that person. And then now you are the main 485 00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:04,600 chick of the guy. And then the guy has fallen 486 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,960 madly in love with you. And now then the new guy that 487 00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,680 you were hoping to be a main chick with is in town or he's 488 00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:13,080 planning to come to town and meet you and you don't know what 489 00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:14,480 to do. I don't know what to do for you 490 00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:19,000 either and so comment section please help me out. 491 00:28:19,120 --> 00:28:21,640 OK? Because this is a thing. 492 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:29,400 You have a substantial or let me say you have spent a substantial 493 00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:33,120 time with both of them. One was physical, the other was 494 00:28:33,120 --> 00:28:37,560 distance. Sometimes a relationship works, 495 00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:42,280 other times they don't. Sometimes in person relationship 496 00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:46,520 works, other times they don't. So for me it is a very confusing 497 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:47,240 thing. OK. 498 00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:51,680 And so yeah, comment section do your thing. 499 00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:54,400 That's love it. That's love it. 500 00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:57,960 My story is long, I don't know if you can read it. 501 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:02,040 Call me doctor. I met a lady who was a sister to 502 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,680 my friend. One day back from campus I saw 503 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,800 her home when my friend is at the shop. 504 00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:13,000 We end up dating a doctor Pennsylvania when I had left my 505 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:16,760 friend's place to my mom's house because he wasn't comfortable. 506 00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:21,200 He keeps on visiting me until one day she met my mom in my 507 00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:23,240 absence. She introduced herself to my 508 00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:26,120 mother as my friend. My mother wasn't OK due to her 509 00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,320 dress and the anklette on her legs. 510 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:32,160 Another day she visited me in my absence where she met my mother 511 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,120 again and my mother suck her from the house. 512 00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:39,360 I came home very angry when all sisters started laughing at me. 513 00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:44,160 I entered my room quietly. My mother knew I was angry so 514 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:47,000 she came in trying to explain why she suck her. 515 00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:52,600 Though I knew my mother would only do that for a reason. 516 00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:56,480 That's the bad attitude of my girlfriend but I love her. 517 00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:01,120 We agree not coming to my place again but I will rather visit 518 00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:05,160 hell while knowing his brother too was not in good terms with 519 00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,800 me. So I only visit when his brother 520 00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:11,680 was gone to shop in the morning and left there before evening. 521 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:15,360 We did hide and seek for about a year until something happened 522 00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,560 and then they were sucked from where they stay. 523 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,520 To cut a story short, her brother joined another friend to 524 00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:26,200 stay there whilst my girlfriend too stays at my room in my mom's 525 00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:31,360 place because at the time I was reading my master's degree and I 526 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,320 was supposed to travel to campus. 527 00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:36,600 Even though my mother wasn't happy but I fought her so she 528 00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:39,640 agreed by force. So as a result of my 529 00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:41,880 girlfriend's attitude, all my sisters and my mom wasn't 530 00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:45,680 talking to her. As a guy of 24 who was in love, 531 00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,080 I decided to rent an apartment and stay together with my 532 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,920 girlfriend. Finally, I got an apartment 533 00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:55,440 where I met one lady who was the landlady's daughter and she was 534 00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:59,200 a nurse. We talked and we started dating. 535 00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:01,880 Though I was living together with my girlfriend in their 536 00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:05,880 house, I felt deep in love with the nest when we started going 537 00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,000 out. As a matter of fact, I wasn't 538 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:10,560 happy cheating but I remember the book he had my girlfriend 539 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:15,080 give me some time ago and her bad attitude which she told me 540 00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:19,120 she can't change. The length and the breadth of 541 00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:21,840 the story is that my girlfriend started fighting the nest after 542 00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:26,400 I broke up with her and she reported to my pastor and all 543 00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:29,640 the people around me to apologize on their behalf but I 544 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:33,640 made them know I'm done with it. So I left the rented house and 545 00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:37,480 go back to my house. She kept on visiting me at night 546 00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,280 when she knew my mother was asleep. 547 00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:43,760 By then though the nurse know I have woken up with her until one 548 00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:47,920 day she saw me walking with the nurse and she approached to 549 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:51,680 embarrass us. She told the nurse she has not 550 00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:57,480 done with me because every night she visits me at my house and 551 00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:02,560 she's even pregnant with me. That scene also ended when I 552 00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:05,920 tried to explain myself to Denise but she didn't listen. 553 00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,600 After a month I received a wedding invitation card and it 554 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,760 was the nurse she was getting married. 555 00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:16,080 I said wow life doesn't end when my ex-girlfriend also reported 556 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:17,720 me to my pastor about her pregnancy. 557 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:21,760 Fast forward we sat on the matter and the outcome was that 558 00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:25,520 once I have stayed with her I can't deny the pregnancy though 559 00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:30,040 I denied but it wasn't accepted. Later on she told I have 560 00:32:30,040 --> 00:32:32,720 disgraced her by denying the pregnancy so she don't want 561 00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:36,320 anything from me and when she gives birth the child is not for 562 00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:38,920 me. I take it as a joke because I 563 00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:41,720 was sending her money every week but no visitation. 564 00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:46,320 She traveled to her mother's place at the voter raging after 565 00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:50,400 her rent was due where she started rejecting my money. 566 00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:55,080 I asked her why and her answer was I will not give my child to 567 00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:58,560 you so I don't want your money. Several times I tried explaining 568 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:03,000 to his brother about the situation but all they could say 569 00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:06,960 is that his sister is smart. I'm also not getting the chance 570 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:11,000 to speak to her mother neither do I have the exact town she is 571 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,160 at the voter region. I called her today and I asked 572 00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:18,480 the update of the pregnancy because I knew if nothing is 573 00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:21,640 wrong by now she would have given birth but she's telling me 574 00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:28,920 all she needed from me was to go was to get her pregnant and that 575 00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,640 was why she took some drugs in order for me to get her 576 00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:35,000 pregnant. Now she's happy so nothing 577 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,200 concerns her pregnancy should concern me. 578 00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:43,200 Sometimes I think this is a fake pregnancy but she was in her 579 00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:47,240 seat month before she left and she's even show me the doctor's 580 00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:50,000 report as evidence. Any time I call her phone she 581 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:53,320 looks happy and it keeps me confused. 582 00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:58,760 Whenever I remember this I judge myself and sometimes even when 583 00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:02,600 sent her money she sends the money back to me and she keeps 584 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:04,480 on repeating her words. What should I do? 585 00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,920 First of all, doc, this is your English, dear. 586 00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,199 Nodding. Secondly, both of you made a 587 00:34:11,199 --> 00:34:17,040 whole lot of mistakes. Was her bad attitude just the 588 00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:21,920 neck, the anklets and the short clothes or she was actually bad? 589 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:27,760 And I when it comes to family, yeah. 590 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:31,840 When family members don't like the person you're with, it is 591 00:34:31,840 --> 00:34:35,199 best you push back because you see all these drama. 592 00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:38,480 If your family lied there, there wouldn't have been any need for 593 00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:42,360 you to move out to go and see that nest and then now start 594 00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:45,960 falling for the nest for her to also do you shake gay for for 595 00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:50,239 the pregnancy to come for her to say I I don't want you involved 596 00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:57,560 in the Oh God. OK, so I think you are in touch 597 00:34:57,560 --> 00:35:01,160 with your brother so you can know the hometown she you know 598 00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:03,120 she's from. So get in touch with your 599 00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,080 brother again, get to know the hometown. 600 00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,080 Go with your family. Don't go alone. 601 00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:12,480 Go with your family and have a conversation about it. 602 00:35:13,240 --> 00:35:18,240 And if possible and if you have money, do adna and if the child 603 00:35:18,240 --> 00:35:21,000 is yours, you can contest for the child. 604 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:31,800 I don't care why people say no or reject pregnancies knowing 605 00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:34,720 very well that they have slept with a girl and in the time 606 00:35:34,720 --> 00:35:38,600 frame of you know when she got pregnant, they slept with a 607 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,840 girl. Like even if let me let me 608 00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,360 explain this in this sense before I get drugged. 609 00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:52,000 She slept with her in June, she got pregnant and then June, 610 00:35:52,240 --> 00:35:54,760 July, August, September, October, November, December, 611 00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:57,040 January, February, she gives birth in February. 612 00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:01,240 And then when you calculate it nine months from the time you 613 00:36:01,240 --> 00:36:06,360 slept with it, and then you tell me that the pregnancy is not 614 00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:07,720 yours. Or even from the beginning, when 615 00:36:07,720 --> 00:36:10,280 she comes to tell you that the pregnancy is 3 weeks old or one 616 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,800 month old, you can calculate it from the time you slept with it 617 00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:17,080 averagely. From there, if it's not yours, 618 00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:20,280 you can basically let her know that, OK, this is what we're 619 00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:23,000 going to do. We're going to have an 620 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:26,880 agreement, OK, because the relationship has gone sour, it's 621 00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:28,320 a possibility. We can't end up together. 622 00:36:29,240 --> 00:36:32,600 So this is the agreement. I'm going to take care of you 623 00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:38,800 and put in a clause that after you give birth, there's going to 624 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:41,600 be ADNA. And if the child is not mine, 625 00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:44,720 you will return every penny that I've spent on your pregnancy. 626 00:36:45,240 --> 00:36:49,080 If the child is yours or the child is mine, we'll continue 627 00:36:49,080 --> 00:36:52,920 from there. This is why I personally think 628 00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,280 DNA testing should be a mandatory thing in a hospital. 629 00:36:57,160 --> 00:37:02,240 The second the child drops on this earth, you do paternal and 630 00:37:02,240 --> 00:37:06,960 maternal DNA. So me, I think 02 paternal and 631 00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:12,240 maternal DNA gets a cleared and move because Charlie, this life 632 00:37:12,240 --> 00:37:15,120 is not a like that. That's what I think. 633 00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:20,160 So track down the parents or track down the brother, find out 634 00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,400 their hometown, go with your family and go and do the 635 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:25,520 necessary things. Claim the child if it's yours 636 00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:27,920 after DNA and then take care of the child. 637 00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:30,560 And of course, if the the girl is that bad because the way 638 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:32,880 you're saying it, it feels like the girl is that bad. 639 00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:35,760 So then you focus on taking care of your child. 640 00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,920 If she won't take the money, you can contest in court and take 641 00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,720 the child from her because then she's just being petty. 642 00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:47,400 Do you understand? Yeah, I dated this guy for 643 00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:50,800 almost three years now. I met him when I was in my final 644 00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:54,440 year in SHS. He also got admission to 645 00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:58,000 tertiary one month after we we being together. 646 00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:02,960 We both agreed not to have sex anytime soon since we were all 647 00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:05,280 students. I was a virgin by then. 648 00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:09,200 I caught him cheating with a lady he came to my place with 649 00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:13,440 claiming she's just a friend. I confronted him and he told me 650 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:17,360 it's a planned thing so I shouldn't worry about that and 651 00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:21,440 because of the love and trust are for him I believed what he 652 00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:23,800 said. I caught him one month after 653 00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:27,560 losing my virginity cheating on me again. 654 00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:31,240 This really got me. I cried for more than three 655 00:38:31,240 --> 00:38:34,160 hours in front of him without telling him anything. 656 00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:39,480 I later on got the courage to confront him and he accepted 657 00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:42,600 what he did. I asked for a breakup, he came 658 00:38:42,600 --> 00:38:46,400 with his friend apologizing so I accepted him one month later. 659 00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:50,520 He later told me everything that went on between him and the lady 660 00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,920 and I said it was fine since he said he's not going to repeat it 661 00:38:53,920 --> 00:39:02,000 again deeply. I went to him on campus and 662 00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,320 caught him texting with same girl again. 663 00:39:04,720 --> 00:39:08,520 I confronted him again and he said if I don't come in the girl 664 00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:12,440 wouldn't leave him. So I went ahead to call the 665 00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:15,240 girl. Fast forward POV, we had sex one 666 00:39:15,240 --> 00:39:18,720 time and he told me he has released the Simon in me. 667 00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:23,160 I was naive about dose stuff. I was afraid to because I wasn't 668 00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:26,520 safe as at the time. So the next morning I bought 669 00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:29,640 pills for myself. Two weeks after taking the 670 00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:35,680 pills, I bled straight. Four days without knowing the 671 00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,920 cause, Sick of it wasn't my time to be menstruating. 672 00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:43,120 So my guy was even the one who told me it's sick of the pills. 673 00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:48,160 I didn't menstruate one whole month so I was afraid it was 674 00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:50,760 pregnancy but whenever I test it was negative. 675 00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:54,360 The guy refused picking up my calls and stopped checking up on 676 00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:56,320 me. Frankly speaking, it wasn't 677 00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:59,480 easy. During the time I grew lean, 678 00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:05,680 lost my ship, the color, lost my ship and my color. 679 00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:11,440 To cut it short POV he's begging for we to come back again. 680 00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:13,800 I'm confused. I don't know what to do because 681 00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:19,640 I still love him. I need your opinion, keep me 682 00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:29,720 anonymous. Hey Nota, this guy constantly 683 00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:36,120 disrespected you, cheated on you, broke your virginity, 684 00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:43,360 cheated on you again. You took a pill after a sexual 685 00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:48,400 encounter with the same guy had some side effects to this pill. 686 00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:55,040 He ghosted you and now he wants to come back, process it how? 687 00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:59,400 I've explained it and I'll come back and explain to me what you 688 00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:05,440 want me to tell you. What the hell is wrong with you? 689 00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:10,040 I understand that you love him. I love him. 690 00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,920 I can't do without him. My dear. 691 00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:20,680 Love is not enough, OK? Love is not enough to allow 692 00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:25,680 somebody treat you like shit. That's all I'm going to say. 693 00:41:27,240 --> 00:41:29,480 Let's. Love it. 694 00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:30,680 Let's love it. Hi POV, please keep me 695 00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:32,560 anonymous. My husband and I have been 696 00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:36,240 married for five years. Within the five years I have, I 697 00:41:36,240 --> 00:41:38,520 haven't been able to have children. 698 00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,160 It's not as if we do not get pregnant. 699 00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:43,240 I get pregnant. Sometimes I miscarry. 700 00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:47,800 Other times I give birth, but the baby dies in weeks. 701 00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:51,760 My husband's mother suggested we seek spiritual solution. 702 00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:54,880 It was there that the spiritualists reveal that my 703 00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:58,560 husband had an affair with the lady before we got married. 704 00:41:58,720 --> 00:42:01,440 The lady got pregnant and my husband forced her to have an 705 00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,640 abortion. Right after the abortion my 706 00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:07,720 husband left the lady. The lady's spirit is not at 707 00:42:07,720 --> 00:42:11,040 peace with my husband. Within two years of our marriage 708 00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:14,560 I had 6 miscarriages. After the 4th miscarriage I got 709 00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:21,320 pregnant and it stayed till I gave birth and lost it within a 710 00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:25,320 state. So I gave birth and lost it at 711 00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:29,280 in a week after. Then I had my 5th and 6th 712 00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:32,560 miscarriage. After that, I gave birth and the 713 00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:36,520 baby died after three weeks after she came out, and the 714 00:42:36,520 --> 00:42:39,160 recent one also died five days after she came out. 715 00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:43,840 Hey, hey, you are emotionally strong. 716 00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,920 As for the revelation, my husband has been acting with so 717 00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:54,160 much pride. He doesn't want us to go and 718 00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:59,000 look for the lady and apologize for what he did. 719 00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:03,000 I became used to the miscarriage and a nine month journey without 720 00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:06,360 a child. It didn't hurt anyone before my 721 00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:10,600 mother-in-law intervened. But I do not care anymore. 722 00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:12,760 He deserves what he's going through. 723 00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:17,080 I'm not going to divorce him. I will talk him into allowing me 724 00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:23,360 to have kids with someone else. They are not from him so I think 725 00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,200 I'm going to be able to keep them for myself. 726 00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:30,640 He should continue his life childless. 727 00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:35,720 He deserves it. It's a friend's story but she's 728 00:43:35,720 --> 00:43:40,400 not on TikTok. Wow, this one there. 729 00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,840 You don't need opinion. You're just telling us your 730 00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,960 friend's story and it is interesting. 731 00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:49,440 But guys let me put this question out. 732 00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:52,920 Do you think the lady wanting to have a child outside their 733 00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:57,040 marriage makes sense based on the story? 734 00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:59,840 Do you think it does? Let me know what you think 735 00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:04,800 because damn. Damn this is crazy. 736 00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:14,920 I am dating this girl and we've been together for almost nine 737 00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:17,880 months now. She told me that we were going 738 00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:22,600 to have intimacy once a year and I agree thinking it was going to 739 00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:25,200 change. She literally bails me every 740 00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:27,960 time. Just last week she promised to 741 00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:31,840 have an intimate session with me when she completes her menstrual 742 00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:34,080 cycle. She did complete it and we 743 00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:37,600 agreed to do it on Tuesday but unfortunately we couldn't 744 00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:41,640 because she was tired and I was also tired so we changed the 745 00:44:41,640 --> 00:44:45,120 schedule to Thursday. On Wednesday evening this girl 746 00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:48,440 told me on phone that she didn't say that we're going to be 747 00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:51,680 intimate and she's not feeling the vibe for sex. 748 00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:55,800 She lost her phone last week and she came to tell me that I 749 00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:59,400 should help her buy a new one of which I agreed to do but I told 750 00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:01,680 her to wait till my salary is in. 751 00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:05,080 On Thursday. I booked a nearby hotel and told 752 00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:08,760 her I will be waiting for her around 4:00 PM of which she 753 00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:11,840 agreed and came late after eating the food and drink I 754 00:45:11,840 --> 00:45:14,120 ordered for her. She didn't want to have sex with 755 00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:18,000 me so I told her so. I told her it will last just two 756 00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:19,920 to three minutes before she agreed. 757 00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:23,520 During the sex I could see her behaving like someone who is 758 00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:26,600 being raped so I stopped and asked her why and she told me 759 00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:32,200 just do it and I've kept long. I did it anyway and right after 760 00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:36,400 the sex she told me when am I getting the money to buy the 761 00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:40,240 phone. When I was about told she had a 762 00:45:40,240 --> 00:45:44,200 call and it was a guy. This lady told the guy on the 763 00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:48,160 phone that she's in the house and washing utensils so she will 764 00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,040 call him later. I had the money to give to her 765 00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:52,800 but I decided to watch her small. 766 00:45:53,240 --> 00:45:57,840 I told her during the weekend I will give her the money. 767 00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:03,400 She went out to take car and asked this lady to give me a hug 768 00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:08,520 before we go out in our separate ways and she ignored me and went 769 00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:11,960 into the car. I was very angry with her 770 00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:15,360 behaviour so I discussed it with one of my female friends and she 771 00:46:15,360 --> 00:46:19,000 told me the girl doesn't want me and I should move on. 772 00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:21,600 I shouldn't make mistake of giving her the money for the 773 00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:23,680 phone. I was still thinking about it 774 00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:29,240 last night when I was talking to her and she told me tomorrow 775 00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:34,680 that's a day she will be scrubbing the bathroom and go to 776 00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:37,640 church right after church her brother's birthday so we are not 777 00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,960 going to talk and I was like even when we're going to write 778 00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:44,360 exams we spoke. So I got pissed off and told her 779 00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:47,520 my battery is running out. So on Monday I woke up in the 780 00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:51,320 morning to see her text and later she called saying she's 781 00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:54,680 running diarrhea so she wouldn't be able to go to church. 782 00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,600 This is my question and I need advice. 783 00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:02,920 Should I give her the money or leave and move on? 784 00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:05,080 She apologized on Friday evening. 785 00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:08,920 I told her I don't like her rules and her attitude towards 786 00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:12,280 me in the relationship. I think she apologized because 787 00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:15,720 of the phone money. Please help me out with your 788 00:47:15,720 --> 00:47:17,760 idea. I think she apologized because 789 00:47:17,760 --> 00:47:19,560 of the phone. She allowed the sex because of 790 00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:28,220 the phone because I don't think she likes you anymore Sex there. 791 00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:32,440 It's amazing with the right person. 792 00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:35,320 Sex is nice when you like the person. 793 00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:38,880 Sex is crazy nice when you like the person. 794 00:47:39,240 --> 00:47:43,920 She doesn't like you first of all, because if she was like 795 00:47:44,080 --> 00:47:47,280 celibate and not having sex or anything I would have said oh, 796 00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:50,680 maybe because she's celibate. But the fact that she actually 797 00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:54,760 is, as is sexually active, but it's pulling you when it comes 798 00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:57,000 to having sex with you is a problem. 799 00:47:57,320 --> 00:48:01,360 I don't know if you have money, but maybe she actually said yes 800 00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:03,080 in the 1st place because she saw you had money. 801 00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:05,000 Maybe she didn't even like you in the 1st place at all. 802 00:48:05,160 --> 00:48:07,320 That's why she gave you an ultimatum that will have sex 803 00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:10,400 once in a year. Maybe. 804 00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:13,800 That's what I think. Yeah, that's what I think. 805 00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:19,560 So in terms of the money, I don't think you should give her 806 00:48:19,560 --> 00:48:23,240 the money for the phone because I don't think she likes you and 807 00:48:23,240 --> 00:48:26,440 I don't think she loves you. I think she's there because of 808 00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:28,560 the benefits she's going to gain from you. 809 00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,360 I'm not going to tell you to give her the money because 810 00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:33,760 you've had sex with her because we all agree that's me. 811 00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:36,640 I don't believe in because I'm sleeping with you. 812 00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:39,400 You shall you have to do something for me or something. 813 00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:42,920 No, I don't believe in that. I believe in you're my partner 814 00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:47,040 and you see something that I need and you want to support me. 815 00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,720 You do it at your own accord, you understand. 816 00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:52,680 But if it has to do with the sex, I don't think you should 817 00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:56,280 give it to her in the 1st place. She doesn't like you. 818 00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:58,360 You don't give it to her. If you're going to give it to 819 00:48:58,360 --> 00:49:00,480 her, you're just probably doing a charity case. 820 00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:07,360 That's what I think. I met this girl in March and we 821 00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:09,080 started talking. All of a sudden I started 822 00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:13,400 catching feelings for her and she kind of fell SIM but wanted 823 00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:18,120 to be sure of her to ask if she was dating and she said yes but 824 00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:22,840 the guy likes girls low key but she provides for her and she 825 00:49:22,840 --> 00:49:25,600 added that he doesn't really appreciate her. 826 00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:29,080 One day she invited me saying she had a surprise for me but I 827 00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:35,280 still don't know if she was also into me that way so I went and 828 00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:38,160 she said we should take a stroll on our way. 829 00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:41,320 I tried holding her hands and she allowed. 830 00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:43,920 I asked myself if she likes me too. 831 00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:48,240 We had a sit somewhere and we were chatting and I asked her to 832 00:49:48,240 --> 00:49:54,320 close her eyes and I kissed her and she didn't back and asked 833 00:49:54,320 --> 00:49:56,360 why I did that and I said nothing. 834 00:49:56,760 --> 00:50:00,560 So later I was escorting her back and we kissed again and I 835 00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:02,840 said I love you and she replied I love you too. 836 00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:07,000 I really love this girl but I'm schooling and not working and 837 00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:11,000 she's aware but she agreed to date me for a reason but I don't 838 00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:15,720 know but anytime I ask her she's always says she likes me too and 839 00:50:15,720 --> 00:50:18,200 I'm her spec. We later had a thing and this 840 00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:22,800 girl I'm talking about can go the extra mile to do anything to 841 00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:27,400 make me happy but then she keeps visiting the guy and can't stop 842 00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:30,600 her because they were still dating before I came into the 843 00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:34,640 picture and I'm jealous for me. I think because he still 844 00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:38,160 provides for her that's why I do only little of that. 845 00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:43,680 I really love this girl and she also has proven to love me and 846 00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:47,320 she shows jealousy as well. What do I do because I don't 847 00:50:47,320 --> 00:50:52,080 want to share her. Are you ready to pay the bills? 848 00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:53,520 Are you ready to provide for her? 849 00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:57,520 Because from the look of things, she doesn't like the other guy 850 00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:01,000 because the other guy is a womanizer. 851 00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:03,840 As you said, the other guy likes girls low key. 852 00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:06,560 So maybe the other guy is a womanizer and so that has made a 853 00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:07,880 loose feelings for the other guy. 854 00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:09,960 But because you've given any attention and you're a shut up, 855 00:51:09,960 --> 00:51:12,480 stand up guy and you are not a cheat like the other guy. 856 00:51:12,720 --> 00:51:15,920 She has feelings for you, but you are not a provider. 857 00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:17,680 You don't have the money to provide for her. 858 00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,640 That's the thing. So it's either you tell her to 859 00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:23,800 break up with the other guy knowing very well that you're 860 00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:26,080 going to assume those responsibilities, those are the 861 00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:31,320 other guys doing, or you break up with her and leave her, or 862 00:51:31,720 --> 00:51:33,120 you stay in the situation you are in. 863 00:51:33,120 --> 00:51:36,080 Now. These are the three things that 864 00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:39,680 I can give you 3 scenarios. Choose one. 865 00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:42,160 Please choose the one that you think can be helpful to you. 866 00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:45,240 OK, Yeah, I'm going to end this episode here. 867 00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:48,080 Thank you guys for watching. Thank you for sharing. 868 00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:52,280 We're in 2025 you guys we are moving up in terms of 869 00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:56,400 subscribers but in terms of views we are not should I knew 870 00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:59,840 that I'm big because this is a lot of work a lot of money 871 00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:04,200 studio time that I'm putting in and so share let people know all 872 00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:08,880 right yeah thank you very much We should let me we should start 873 00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:11,440 let me cash out so that I can do a lot of giveaway. 874 00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:13,960 You are not sharing the thing for me to cash out and do 875 00:52:13,960 --> 00:52:17,640 giveaway for you. Yo OK oh I'll see you in the 876 00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:24,840 next episode but until bike send just stories better.