This guy constantly disrespected you, cheated on you, broke your
virginity, cheated on you again, you took a pill after a sexual
encounter with the same guy had some side effects to this pill.
He ghosted you and now he wants to come back, process it how
I've explained it and I'll come back and explain to me what you
want me to tell you, huh? What I hate in this world, Adema
Thai Crowbiasi is the man that gossips with his fellow man.
If you're doing it with your baby girl or if you want to just
with your baby girl, that one makes sense.
So. But if you're going to gossip
with your fellow man, AMA time. It is annoying, it is
disgusting. News flash News flash, this man
is married with two kids. Happy new year, guys.
Yes, this is our very first episode for 2025.
This is the POV podcast. My name is Nanny Khalifa.
And how was your holidays? Tell me, tell me.
I want the cheers. I want the cheers.
Yes, I want to know, 'cause mine was just, I was in the house, in
the room, just thinking about the whole year and how it did
not go as I want. But it was still exciting to be
alive, to witness 2025. Basically what we do here if
you're new is that we read threads and then confessions.
The threads we pick up from X and then the confessions.
You send it to my DM on TikTok, that is the POV and also you can
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I promise this year I'm going to pay attention to my e-mail
because it has become hard to me alone.
It has become hard. I'll go to my EDM Instagram,
Tiktok, everywhere. Yeah, that is how it doesn't
come. But I am grateful to you guys
because you trust me enough to handle your situations for you.
So yes, I share their stories and then I also share my
opinions on these stories. Then again, people in the
comments section, all my lovely, lovely, lovely viewers also
share their opinions in the comments section.
Yes, that's on period. Now, before I get into this
particular episode threads, I mentioned last year December,
that I was doing a giveaway. And on that particular video or
in the video, I said the giveaway.
I said tag people share. And then when the video gets a
particular number, views, number of views, I will mention the
winner of the giveaway. And I mentioned that one person
win money. The other person would also be
on the podcast as a guest. Yes, I said three people will
win, but I've forgotten the last thing the person will get.
But definitely I will remember. Yeah.
And as I said that I've seen that people have been tagged
under the videos, but this is the problem.
It hasn't gotten the views. And so until it gets the views,
the winner will not be mentioned.
And so keep sharing, keep telling people about it.
Let them come and watch the video.
And when it gets to the views, I will.
What do you call it? Mention the winner and give out
the prize. Don't forget to subscribe.
Very important. When your people come, let them
subscribe. Let them share.
OK, Yeah, Let me get into the threads that we have here now,
it being the first episode for the year.
The thread I picked up on was what toxic advice would you give
your younger self? What toxic advice would you give
your younger self? I know people like ah, new year.
Why are you going straight to toxic?
I use this because I feel like when people are, I'm entering
into a new year, they're like, yeah, new year, new me, I'm
going to be a new person, I'm going to change, you know, that
kind of thing. Yeah.
And so I'm assuming that people would sit down and give
themselves some advice or talk themselves into thinking that
there's something about them that, like, they need to in that
change or they need to improve. So yeah, the first one says if
you want to get a body, tell her you just want to be friends and
watch her jump through hoops to prove you wrong.
I want to understand this one. If you want to get a buddy, you
just have to be a friend. So basically buddies will turn
you down probably because you don't have money to to sponsor
them. But if you want to be their
friend, you can quickly sleep with them as a friend.
Is that what you're trying to say?
That's a crazy insight. Quit arguing with people and
start slashing their tires. People are going to go haywire
the string 25 if he goes low. Go underground.
Hey don't feel bad about cheating on her with her best
friend. She will never find out fact or
bullshit about them having a boyfriend.
If it's matter to them, they wouldn't be offering you pussy.
Wow, go for the one with daddy shoes.
Now this is stunning me. What?
Fuck them my boy, all of them. The anxious.
Those abortions are worth it. Keep grinding.
Ignore negative people, it hurts them more.
Smash the rich girl, spend your daddy's money and tell his wife.
Wow go ahead and go after the man that's been trying to get
you from your man. He's cheating on you anyway.
Be the villain. She's going to cheat on you
sooner or later. Wow I'm hearing cheats cheats
cheats. I'm seeing cheats cheats.
Someone said go to the gym and test strap these hoes.
No one cares about how good you treat them.
Treat everyone like shit. This shit is crazy.
Interesting toxic advice you'd
give yourself or you will give your younger self.
This is a toxic advice I would give my younger self.
Girl, be the buddy that you are because I don't think this is
been a toxic advice. This is generally an advice I
will give myself as a younger self.
Stay confident, be the body that you are, stick with your
principles, understand that people will assume that
integrity is not it, but it is. That is the advice I'll give to
myself. This is not toxic, this is real
advice. OK, so you can take it or not,
but you see the ones that I read earlier, they are all toxic
advice. Yes, they are all toxic advice.
Now let's get straight into the stories for this episode.
But you can also give yourself advice.
Let me ask you, what advice would you give your younger self
today as you're watching this video, what advice would you
give your younger self? Let me know whilst I go through
the stories. Do that in the comments section.
Let's read the stories for this episode.
Let's love it. Let's.
Love it keep my identity so let's this lady I'm in class
with I was dating from level 100.
She's always cheating on me but because I loved her I always
forgive her. I've done everything possible to
keep this girl, but she paid me back with betrayal.
We weren't talking till last week.
She called me to meet her somewhere and to my surprise she
wanted sex from me. I refused because I didn't trust
that she was genuine this time around, but I still love her.
What do I do? Love is not always enough my
darling. I I.
I think I've gotten too much of these stories that I have come
to understand that the default response I am going to give to
you is that love not always enough.
Leave her. She's cheating on you.
She doesn't love you. She has done it multiple times.
It's not going to stop today. I don't think she respects you
enough to stop cheating and so please leave there.
Let's love it, Let's love it. I'm a level 400 in the
University of Education Winneba and the school has been doing
something I don't understand. During our final year exams, our
department did not allow those students who haven't finished
paying their school fees to write their last paper.
They said they can only write when they've They're done paying
for their fees. And I want to know if it's in
our law book that if you haven't finished paying your fees, you
can't write your exams because it's really paining me.
Thank you. Now, I think this is something
that has been going on for the longest time.
It is not a matter of today. It has been going on for so, so,
so long when I was in school and your mother was in school and
you're for everybody like it's is something that is there.
And I let's, let's look at it from the school's point of view
and I will come back and look at it from your point of view, from
the school's point of view. They need your money to run the
school. And so if you don't pay your
school fees, running the school be difficult.
Printing those exams questions, printing those papers, buying
those papers, cleaning, you know, paying those cleaners,
doing this, doing that is not possible.
Paying the electricity, water is not possible.
And so they need your money to run the school, right?
Exactly. Now, on the other hand, you, the
students, you need to be able to pursue your education.
And so not paying your school fees is not an intentional
thing, except for those people that spend their school fees
intentionally. For some people, it is hard to
even raise the money to pay the school fees, although we
actually need the education. And so it is hard.
That is the point of view as a student.
It is not intentional. And so sometimes the school can
cut you a slack for you to write the exams by looking at it.
Both of you have to be able to do something and that is what
they need to do. That is how I understand it.
I'm not saying it is the right thing to do.
I am just saying that I understand it from the school's
point of view. Do you get it?
Yeah. Let me know what people think in
the comments section. Question.
Is it right or has it always been right that a school
administration or a department would say that because the
student has not paid their school fees, I am not letting
them write the exams? And so until they pay, I don't
care whether they feather their education or not, whether they
are being able to complete the school or not.
If they don't pay, I am not letting them enjoy what comes
with pay your school fees. Let me know what you think of
this in the comments section. OK, that's.
What it That's what it. Keep me anonymous.
I'm a guy of 17 and I met this girl in SHS who is 2 years older
than me. I'm so much into this girl and I
don't know if she's also doing same.
I propose to her after school and she was like she's not ready
to date unless after five years. Been almost a year now and four
years remaining. I'm getting kind of bored
because nothing shows she's in and willing to.
Whenever I bring up the topic she changes it.
Sometimes my attitude towards her change like I'm not checking
up on her and also she got the vein to tell me that I can
choose to leave or stay. From the look of things she
could help me one way or the other.
Please I need your advice. Please tag me when you post the
video. Now I have two things to address
here. The people that send me their
stories and tell me to tag them. When?
What do you call lipost? I can't tag you because I won't
remember who you are. I screenshot and crop your name
out of it so that for some reasons, if it pops up on
camera, I won't be found. One thing.
Yeah. So I don't think you said I
should keep you anonymous and I should tag you.
How is this possible? I don't think I can tag you.
But about your situation, when a woman tells you that I don't
want, I don't want. Don't stress it.
You're getting pissed off. It's on your own accord because
this girl has told you that she's not ready to date until
five years. Five years is not up.
So why are you bringing it up again?
Why you think she's going to help you?
Maybe she thinks you're not going to help her.
So I don't know why you're bringing it up.
I don't know why you think you're entitled to be angry over
someone not wanting you. My dear, focus on yourself.
You're 17, I know at this juncture your feelings are all
over the place, but focus on yourself.
She doesn't want you. If it's dating you want to date.
You can actually look around and find someone else, but I
personally think that she has told you what she wants and you
need to respect it. And I like that this girl told
you what she wants. My girls, if you don't want
somebody, tell them you don't want them.
Don't string them along because this is how girl, you know, some
guys get used. I have told you I don't want
you, but you go ahead and still linger around and think that I
am going to come back and change my mind.
That's crazy. That's crazy.
That's love it. That's love it.
I met this guy here in Canada. When he saw me he actually told
me he likes me and to be honest I also like him too.
So he proposed to me and I accepted his proposal and we
started dating. When we started dating I opened
up to him and I told him I have one son because I really want
the relationship to work. So I told him everything about
me. He told me about himself and
never told me. He was married and also have two
kids. What?
I later found out he was married and I was very mad at that
point. He came and apologized to me and
I accepted it because I love him.
We dated like 3 months and I got pregnant and I decided to keep
the pregnancy. Girl are you delusional?
I told him about it and he advised me about it and at the
time I was new in the country so I didn't have any option but to
get rid of the pregnancy. We agreed on that so I went and
got rid of the pregnancy. After doing that he never called
me and asked me about my health. They have not seen anything.
He started acting weird so I told my mom and my mom called
him before calling me. Mind you, my mom knows him.
I'm really ashamed of writing this, especially this part but I
need to Fast forward. He came and apologized for what
he did and decided to let the pain go in me and I forgot
everything and started over. One day I was supposed to go for
some barbecue and he wasn't with me.
He asked his best friend to pick me up because his friend was
also attending the BBQ. So we went I was I was with his
friend, we're having fun and after the BBQ his friend dropped
me off. When we got to my house we're
talking about his friend's behaviour towards me and I was
talking about the pain that he puts me through.
I told his friend about what happened between his friend and
I, I mean the pregnancy and his friend asked me not to tell my
boyfriend. We had this conversation and I
told him I'm not going to tell my boyfriend because when I tell
him he'll be mad at me. So after talking with his friend
he advised me to be patients with him.
When his friend left my house, he went to my boyfriend's place
around 2:30 AM and told my boyfriend why didn't he tell him
about my pregnancy and my boyfriend called me and he was
very mad at me and didn't even want me to explain.
My boyfriend didn't tell me I shouldn't ask his friend about
it. He asked me do I want to
separate his friendship between himself and his friend.
I wanted to explain what brought the conversation up for him to
understand my point but he never wanted to hear me out.
I've been trying my possible best.
I've been sending him messages to explain what's but he's not
responding. I've been calling him from
Saturday till now he hasn't answered my calls.
I've been texting him to apologize.
I know what I did was wrong by telling his friend about it but
I as I said I said it out of pain because he was really has
really done a lot of things to me that really hurts me and I
don't want to disclose much here but I'm stressed, I'm confused
and it's really affecting me. I need your help.
The help you need for me is not how you need to figure out.
So apologize to your married boyfriend with two kids.
The help you need from me and the audience out there is, is
how to get out of your head about this man.
Because just so you know, news flash, news flash, this man is
married with two kids in all this story.
Do you know who I'm I'm I'm disappointed in your mother for
agreeing. I don't know the way you said
it. Your mother know knows the guy.
You said my mother knows the guy.
You did not know that. You did not say that My mother
knows the guy and I are dating. So I'm going to assume that the
fact that she knows the guy, she knows you guys are dating.
If she knows that you guys are dating and she's not advised you
to walk away from that man, God. OK, My outmost respect to you
and what I can tell you is to walk away from that relationship
or whatever you have with that man.
Then again, I don't know how US huh What I hate in this war
there there may tie crow will be I say is the man that gossips
with his fellow man. If you're doing it with your
baby girl or if you want to just with your baby girl, that one
makes sense. So but if you're going to gossip
with your fellow man every time it is annoying.
It is disgusting. What the hell?
Just so you know, maybe they set you up.
That's another angle too. That's another thing.
Maybe, maybe they set you up. Maybe they set you up just for
him to let go of you because he's tired.
He has used you. It's time for him to dump your
ass. Let's have.
It let's have. It I've been dating this guy he
supports me very well but my problem is he snores.
How do I tell him? And sometimes always busy baby
girl I I just learnt something recently from a book that I
read. The book is called Men are from
Mass women, women are from Venice.
And let me tell you, it has opened my mind and my heart to a
lot of things, to things that I did not think that I could know.
OK, so let's go through it. Your man snores.
Snoring is part of, you know, the things that happened to
human beings even in fact, snoring is normal.
It has become a normal thing. You understand, it is noise.
We all don't like it. But when you love somebody, you
learn to accommodate some things.
You can buy him that nose strip thing that, you know, people put
in their nose when they snore and then it can help reduce the
situation. 1-2 Have a sense now conversation with him.
OK. And this is where the book Men
Are from Mars, Women Are from Venice comes in.
Sit down with him and tell him that babe, when you sleep, your
snoring makes it difficult for me to sleep.
That is one way you can go about it.
The second way you can go about it is by writing him a love
letter. That is a way you can
communicate. I know people will stop
chatting. And today to today, we still
write letter. We still write no.
This love letter helps people share their feelings without
coming off offensive from bat. Because then once you are
writing how you feel about the situation, you are basically
also pouring your emotions or your anger, whatever you feel
out. And so after you have written
the love, what you call it letter and the love letter, you
write about one something that you're angry about, which is the
snoring, I assume, and his busy schedule, something that you
regret, something you are sorry about, and then how much you
love him. And in this case, when you write
something you're sorry about, something that something you're
angry about, something that you're sorry, something that you
regret and how much you love him, you put him through an
emotional roller coaster. And in the end, he's going to be
happy because you told him how much you love him.
And I also told him the thing that you don't like about him,
then it doesn't feel like you are just invalidating him or
you're making him feel bad about something that he has no control
about. That is one thing you can do.
The second thing you can do is also when he's sleeping, you can
help him position himself well so that the snoring will not be
so bad that they will piss you off to come and write a dilemma
here for me. And when it comes to his busy
schedule, as I said before, it's all part of conversations.
You can let him know, Hey, would you please let us go here today?
Hey, would you please let us spend this time together today?
And that is something that you can talk to that person about.
If you can't tell your partner that, babe, your busy schedule
is affecting our relationship, I don't think you need to be in
that relationship in the 1st place.
Yeah. So you need to be able to tell
him, talk to him. That's love.
It that's love it. Yeah, I'm a girl of 20 years,
currently in the university. I'm in a relationship with a
very good guy. I really really care about him
so much that I don't want to cheat on him and I really don't
want the relationship to go bad but POV here's the issue.
I want love that we go out having fun together and
everything. I would chip in the money 'cause
I believe love is reciprocal and I want someone who is business
minded, thinks and acts on his future and this guy is not that
at all. I really care about him.
I tried waking up with him but he talked to me so I stopped and
we are still together. Purely the reason for the
breakup for me is that I'm not feeling the relationship again
and in the beginning I was having doubts but I ignored all
and one thing led to the other. He dreamt about me leaving him
for another guy. Two days later one of my friends
in class that we started getting along already told me he really
likes me and POV. He's someone I won't hesitate in
dating 'cause he has other qualities that I want in a man
and since I'm a private person. I told him long ago that I was
not in a relationship and I've still not told him yet.
Purely this guy is willing to pamper me as how I want.
So now I'm in a dilemma. I I don't want to cheat on my
boyfriend but I also want to be loved right?
And I have a lot of issues with love 'cause my own treats me
like he doesn't love me at times purely.
Now I've met this new guy that he's doing his best to make me
feel loved. Now my BF is starting to care
for me bit by bit. He once play playfully as if I
was cheating on him but I'm not. So I told him no, I wasn't pure
VI. Need advice either.
To date the new guy for three months together with my
boyfriend and choose one on WhatsApp.
I have started already doing my best to push the new guy away.
Pure V. I've done everything possible to
let the new guy go but still he said he wants me.
Please don't judge me but help me 'cause I don't want to be an
unfaithful partner to any guy. What did you say please?
I couldn't tell him the reason I wanted to break up.
I believe in this. Your old man wants to try and be
a better person for you because that's what I saw here.
My guy is trying to care for me. This is conflicting because him
trying can go bad and can go good, but in the sense that it
would be that he would try for some time and get tired and stop
good in the sense that he can go all the way and become the best
partner that you would ever have.
I need you to sit down with your old partner, have a
conversation, do a list of things you guys or you want to
do and make sure that he also has something that he wants to
do and give yourself at least three months.
You see that three months that you want to did the new guy with
your boyfriend. Use that three months to try and
develop a better relationship with your man.
And if that after that three months things don't change, then
you know that he's not going to change or nothing is going to
change and you can move on. But As for the new guy, I don't
think jumping onto him immediately because you think he
has all the qualities you're looking for is the best.
Because men, men can be very sweet in the beginning when they
want you. That's the truth.
In fact, even for women to women to can be very understanding in
the beginning of a relationship, but at some point we won't
understand again. So it's a human thing.
We can be very nice in the beginning because then it's
rosy, it's sweet, all our feelings are flying around and
all that. But after three months, the
honeymoon is over. Now we're facing the real
relationship and that's where problem sets in.
And so I'll tell you that the three months that you want to
use to go and cheat on your boyfriend with the new guy, you
can't use that three months to redefine the relationship you
have with your man and then move on.
But with this new guy, please block him if it's possible,
block him. Let him know this is not by
force to date. Tell him I don't want you.
I've met somebody. You can even because you've not
told him that you're dating before he started toasting, you
can tell him that you know what? I don't like you.
I've met somebody that I like and I want to be with period.
And he will leave if he's sensible, OK?
Let's love it. Let's love.
It I dated this guy for a few years as a side chick before his
other woman went late, though he wasn't married to her at the
same time before he lost her. We knew it wasn't that serious.
At the same time I was chatting another man online and I had
waited for two years and he still didn't make it.
I moved on with my guy because he never treated me bad and he's
a cool guy. Now the man I am chatting with
is planning to come and meet me because I still hope that he
would still make it. I never blocked him.
The issue is now the guy I'm dating now is madly in love with
me from the situation and my family background.
How do I leave him without hurting his feelings?
Or should I just forget the man? I have been chatting for two
years, 2 1/2 years for him. This is a tough decision.
Help me and keep me anonymous. You were a side chick and you
got promoted to a main chick because the man lost his main
chick. And whilst you were a side
chick, you also talking to somebody trying to be the main
chick of that person. And then now you are the main
chick of the guy. And then the guy has fallen
madly in love with you. And now then the new guy that
you were hoping to be a main chick with is in town or he's
planning to come to town and meet you and you don't know what
to do. I don't know what to do for you
either and so comment section please help me out.
OK? Because this is a thing.
You have a substantial or let me say you have spent a substantial
time with both of them. One was physical, the other was
distance. Sometimes a relationship works,
other times they don't. Sometimes in person relationship
works, other times they don't. So for me it is a very confusing
thing. OK.
And so yeah, comment section do your thing.
That's love it. That's love it.
My story is long, I don't know if you can read it.
Call me doctor. I met a lady who was a sister to
my friend. One day back from campus I saw
her home when my friend is at the shop.
We end up dating a doctor Pennsylvania when I had left my
friend's place to my mom's house because he wasn't comfortable.
He keeps on visiting me until one day she met my mom in my
absence. She introduced herself to my
mother as my friend. My mother wasn't OK due to her
dress and the anklette on her legs.
Another day she visited me in my absence where she met my mother
again and my mother suck her from the house.
I came home very angry when all sisters started laughing at me.
I entered my room quietly. My mother knew I was angry so
she came in trying to explain why she suck her.
Though I knew my mother would only do that for a reason.
That's the bad attitude of my girlfriend but I love her.
We agree not coming to my place again but I will rather visit
hell while knowing his brother too was not in good terms with
me. So I only visit when his brother
was gone to shop in the morning and left there before evening.
We did hide and seek for about a year until something happened
and then they were sucked from where they stay.
To cut a story short, her brother joined another friend to
stay there whilst my girlfriend too stays at my room in my mom's
place because at the time I was reading my master's degree and I
was supposed to travel to campus.
Even though my mother wasn't happy but I fought her so she
agreed by force. So as a result of my
girlfriend's attitude, all my sisters and my mom wasn't
talking to her. As a guy of 24 who was in love,
I decided to rent an apartment and stay together with my
girlfriend. Finally, I got an apartment
where I met one lady who was the landlady's daughter and she was
a nurse. We talked and we started dating.
Though I was living together with my girlfriend in their
house, I felt deep in love with the nest when we started going
out. As a matter of fact, I wasn't
happy cheating but I remember the book he had my girlfriend
give me some time ago and her bad attitude which she told me
she can't change. The length and the breadth of
the story is that my girlfriend started fighting the nest after
I broke up with her and she reported to my pastor and all
the people around me to apologize on their behalf but I
made them know I'm done with it. So I left the rented house and
go back to my house. She kept on visiting me at night
when she knew my mother was asleep.
By then though the nurse know I have woken up with her until one
day she saw me walking with the nurse and she approached to
embarrass us. She told the nurse she has not
done with me because every night she visits me at my house and
she's even pregnant with me. That scene also ended when I
tried to explain myself to Denise but she didn't listen.
After a month I received a wedding invitation card and it
was the nurse she was getting married.
I said wow life doesn't end when my ex-girlfriend also reported
me to my pastor about her pregnancy.
Fast forward we sat on the matter and the outcome was that
once I have stayed with her I can't deny the pregnancy though
I denied but it wasn't accepted. Later on she told I have
disgraced her by denying the pregnancy so she don't want
anything from me and when she gives birth the child is not for
me. I take it as a joke because I
was sending her money every week but no visitation.
She traveled to her mother's place at the voter raging after
her rent was due where she started rejecting my money.
I asked her why and her answer was I will not give my child to
you so I don't want your money. Several times I tried explaining
to his brother about the situation but all they could say
is that his sister is smart. I'm also not getting the chance
to speak to her mother neither do I have the exact town she is
at the voter region. I called her today and I asked
the update of the pregnancy because I knew if nothing is
wrong by now she would have given birth but she's telling me
all she needed from me was to go was to get her pregnant and that
was why she took some drugs in order for me to get her
pregnant. Now she's happy so nothing
concerns her pregnancy should concern me.
Sometimes I think this is a fake pregnancy but she was in her
seat month before she left and she's even show me the doctor's
report as evidence. Any time I call her phone she
looks happy and it keeps me confused.
Whenever I remember this I judge myself and sometimes even when
sent her money she sends the money back to me and she keeps
on repeating her words. What should I do?
First of all, doc, this is your English, dear.
Nodding. Secondly, both of you made a
whole lot of mistakes. Was her bad attitude just the
neck, the anklets and the short clothes or she was actually bad?
And I when it comes to family, yeah.
When family members don't like the person you're with, it is
best you push back because you see all these drama.
If your family lied there, there wouldn't have been any need for
you to move out to go and see that nest and then now start
falling for the nest for her to also do you shake gay for for
the pregnancy to come for her to say I I don't want you involved
in the Oh God. OK, so I think you are in touch
with your brother so you can know the hometown she you know
she's from. So get in touch with your
brother again, get to know the hometown.
Go with your family. Don't go alone.
Go with your family and have a conversation about it.
And if possible and if you have money, do adna and if the child
is yours, you can contest for the child.
I don't care why people say no or reject pregnancies knowing
very well that they have slept with a girl and in the time
frame of you know when she got pregnant, they slept with a
girl. Like even if let me let me
explain this in this sense before I get drugged.
She slept with her in June, she got pregnant and then June,
July, August, September, October, November, December,
January, February, she gives birth in February.
And then when you calculate it nine months from the time you
slept with it, and then you tell me that the pregnancy is not
yours. Or even from the beginning, when
she comes to tell you that the pregnancy is 3 weeks old or one
month old, you can calculate it from the time you slept with it
averagely. From there, if it's not yours,
you can basically let her know that, OK, this is what we're
going to do. We're going to have an
agreement, OK, because the relationship has gone sour, it's
a possibility. We can't end up together.
So this is the agreement. I'm going to take care of you
and put in a clause that after you give birth, there's going to
be ADNA. And if the child is not mine,
you will return every penny that I've spent on your pregnancy.
If the child is yours or the child is mine, we'll continue
from there. This is why I personally think
DNA testing should be a mandatory thing in a hospital.
The second the child drops on this earth, you do paternal and
maternal DNA. So me, I think 02 paternal and
maternal DNA gets a cleared and move because Charlie, this life
is not a like that. That's what I think.
So track down the parents or track down the brother, find out
their hometown, go with your family and go and do the
necessary things. Claim the child if it's yours
after DNA and then take care of the child.
And of course, if the the girl is that bad because the way
you're saying it, it feels like the girl is that bad.
So then you focus on taking care of your child.
If she won't take the money, you can contest in court and take
the child from her because then she's just being petty.
Do you understand? Yeah, I dated this guy for
almost three years now. I met him when I was in my final
year in SHS. He also got admission to
tertiary one month after we we being together.
We both agreed not to have sex anytime soon since we were all
students. I was a virgin by then.
I caught him cheating with a lady he came to my place with
claiming she's just a friend. I confronted him and he told me
it's a planned thing so I shouldn't worry about that and
because of the love and trust are for him I believed what he
said. I caught him one month after
losing my virginity cheating on me again.
This really got me. I cried for more than three
hours in front of him without telling him anything.
I later on got the courage to confront him and he accepted
what he did. I asked for a breakup, he came
with his friend apologizing so I accepted him one month later.
He later told me everything that went on between him and the lady
and I said it was fine since he said he's not going to repeat it
again deeply. I went to him on campus and
caught him texting with same girl again.
I confronted him again and he said if I don't come in the girl
wouldn't leave him. So I went ahead to call the
girl. Fast forward POV, we had sex one
time and he told me he has released the Simon in me.
I was naive about dose stuff. I was afraid to because I wasn't
safe as at the time. So the next morning I bought
pills for myself. Two weeks after taking the
pills, I bled straight. Four days without knowing the
cause, Sick of it wasn't my time to be menstruating.
So my guy was even the one who told me it's sick of the pills.
I didn't menstruate one whole month so I was afraid it was
pregnancy but whenever I test it was negative.
The guy refused picking up my calls and stopped checking up on
me. Frankly speaking, it wasn't
easy. During the time I grew lean,
lost my ship, the color, lost my ship and my color.
To cut it short POV he's begging for we to come back again.
I'm confused. I don't know what to do because
I still love him. I need your opinion, keep me
anonymous. Hey Nota, this guy constantly
disrespected you, cheated on you, broke your virginity,
cheated on you again. You took a pill after a sexual
encounter with the same guy had some side effects to this pill.
He ghosted you and now he wants to come back, process it how?
I've explained it and I'll come back and explain to me what you
want me to tell you. What the hell is wrong with you?
I understand that you love him. I love him.
I can't do without him. My dear.
Love is not enough, OK? Love is not enough to allow
somebody treat you like shit. That's all I'm going to say.
Let's. Love it.
Let's love it. Hi POV, please keep me
anonymous. My husband and I have been
married for five years. Within the five years I have, I
haven't been able to have children.
It's not as if we do not get pregnant.
I get pregnant. Sometimes I miscarry.
Other times I give birth, but the baby dies in weeks.
My husband's mother suggested we seek spiritual solution.
It was there that the spiritualists reveal that my
husband had an affair with the lady before we got married.
The lady got pregnant and my husband forced her to have an
abortion. Right after the abortion my
husband left the lady. The lady's spirit is not at
peace with my husband. Within two years of our marriage
I had 6 miscarriages. After the 4th miscarriage I got
pregnant and it stayed till I gave birth and lost it within a
state. So I gave birth and lost it at
in a week after. Then I had my 5th and 6th
miscarriage. After that, I gave birth and the
baby died after three weeks after she came out, and the
recent one also died five days after she came out.
Hey, hey, you are emotionally strong.
As for the revelation, my husband has been acting with so
much pride. He doesn't want us to go and
look for the lady and apologize for what he did.
I became used to the miscarriage and a nine month journey without
a child. It didn't hurt anyone before my
mother-in-law intervened. But I do not care anymore.
He deserves what he's going through.
I'm not going to divorce him. I will talk him into allowing me
to have kids with someone else. They are not from him so I think
I'm going to be able to keep them for myself.
He should continue his life childless.
He deserves it. It's a friend's story but she's
not on TikTok. Wow, this one there.
You don't need opinion. You're just telling us your
friend's story and it is interesting.
But guys let me put this question out.
Do you think the lady wanting to have a child outside their
marriage makes sense based on the story?
Do you think it does? Let me know what you think
because damn. Damn this is crazy.
I am dating this girl and we've been together for almost nine
months now. She told me that we were going
to have intimacy once a year and I agree thinking it was going to
change. She literally bails me every
time. Just last week she promised to
have an intimate session with me when she completes her menstrual
cycle. She did complete it and we
agreed to do it on Tuesday but unfortunately we couldn't
because she was tired and I was also tired so we changed the
schedule to Thursday. On Wednesday evening this girl
told me on phone that she didn't say that we're going to be
intimate and she's not feeling the vibe for sex.
She lost her phone last week and she came to tell me that I
should help her buy a new one of which I agreed to do but I told
her to wait till my salary is in.
On Thursday. I booked a nearby hotel and told
her I will be waiting for her around 4:00 PM of which she
agreed and came late after eating the food and drink I
ordered for her. She didn't want to have sex with
me so I told her so. I told her it will last just two
to three minutes before she agreed.
During the sex I could see her behaving like someone who is
being raped so I stopped and asked her why and she told me
just do it and I've kept long. I did it anyway and right after
the sex she told me when am I getting the money to buy the
phone. When I was about told she had a
call and it was a guy. This lady told the guy on the
phone that she's in the house and washing utensils so she will
call him later. I had the money to give to her
but I decided to watch her small.
I told her during the weekend I will give her the money.
She went out to take car and asked this lady to give me a hug
before we go out in our separate ways and she ignored me and went
into the car. I was very angry with her
behaviour so I discussed it with one of my female friends and she
told me the girl doesn't want me and I should move on.
I shouldn't make mistake of giving her the money for the
phone. I was still thinking about it
last night when I was talking to her and she told me tomorrow
that's a day she will be scrubbing the bathroom and go to
church right after church her brother's birthday so we are not
going to talk and I was like even when we're going to write
exams we spoke. So I got pissed off and told her
my battery is running out. So on Monday I woke up in the
morning to see her text and later she called saying she's
running diarrhea so she wouldn't be able to go to church.
This is my question and I need advice.
Should I give her the money or leave and move on?
She apologized on Friday evening.
I told her I don't like her rules and her attitude towards
me in the relationship. I think she apologized because
of the phone money. Please help me out with your
idea. I think she apologized because
of the phone. She allowed the sex because of
the phone because I don't think she likes you anymore Sex there.
It's amazing with the right person.
Sex is nice when you like the person.
Sex is crazy nice when you like the person.
She doesn't like you first of all, because if she was like
celibate and not having sex or anything I would have said oh,
maybe because she's celibate. But the fact that she actually
is, as is sexually active, but it's pulling you when it comes
to having sex with you is a problem.
I don't know if you have money, but maybe she actually said yes
in the 1st place because she saw you had money.
Maybe she didn't even like you in the 1st place at all.
That's why she gave you an ultimatum that will have sex
once in a year. Maybe.
That's what I think. Yeah, that's what I think.
So in terms of the money, I don't think you should give her
the money for the phone because I don't think she likes you and
I don't think she loves you. I think she's there because of
the benefits she's going to gain from you.
I'm not going to tell you to give her the money because
you've had sex with her because we all agree that's me.
I don't believe in because I'm sleeping with you.
You shall you have to do something for me or something.
No, I don't believe in that. I believe in you're my partner
and you see something that I need and you want to support me.
You do it at your own accord, you understand.
But if it has to do with the sex, I don't think you should
give it to her in the 1st place. She doesn't like you.
You don't give it to her. If you're going to give it to
her, you're just probably doing a charity case.
That's what I think. I met this girl in March and we
started talking. All of a sudden I started
catching feelings for her and she kind of fell SIM but wanted
to be sure of her to ask if she was dating and she said yes but
the guy likes girls low key but she provides for her and she
added that he doesn't really appreciate her.
One day she invited me saying she had a surprise for me but I
still don't know if she was also into me that way so I went and
she said we should take a stroll on our way.
I tried holding her hands and she allowed.
I asked myself if she likes me too.
We had a sit somewhere and we were chatting and I asked her to
close her eyes and I kissed her and she didn't back and asked
why I did that and I said nothing.
So later I was escorting her back and we kissed again and I
said I love you and she replied I love you too.
I really love this girl but I'm schooling and not working and
she's aware but she agreed to date me for a reason but I don't
know but anytime I ask her she's always says she likes me too and
I'm her spec. We later had a thing and this
girl I'm talking about can go the extra mile to do anything to
make me happy but then she keeps visiting the guy and can't stop
her because they were still dating before I came into the
picture and I'm jealous for me. I think because he still
provides for her that's why I do only little of that.
I really love this girl and she also has proven to love me and
she shows jealousy as well. What do I do because I don't
want to share her. Are you ready to pay the bills?
Are you ready to provide for her?
Because from the look of things, she doesn't like the other guy
because the other guy is a womanizer.
As you said, the other guy likes girls low key.
So maybe the other guy is a womanizer and so that has made a
loose feelings for the other guy.
But because you've given any attention and you're a shut up,
stand up guy and you are not a cheat like the other guy.
She has feelings for you, but you are not a provider.
You don't have the money to provide for her.
That's the thing. So it's either you tell her to
break up with the other guy knowing very well that you're
going to assume those responsibilities, those are the
other guys doing, or you break up with her and leave her, or
you stay in the situation you are in.
Now. These are the three things that
I can give you 3 scenarios. Choose one.
Please choose the one that you think can be helpful to you.
OK, Yeah, I'm going to end this episode here.
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