I have cheated on my boyfriend and the real deal is I didn't
have sex with a person he inserted and I forced to push
him off me. Why did you hear that?
Wow, fool, my dear, my darling, you have cheated.
It's another Tuesday and I'm about to read some threads and
share some confessions, anonymous confessions, anonymous
stories. Call it what you want to call
it. My name is Nanika Depai and this
is the POV podcast. Subscribe if you haven't by the
time you leave here, at least you learn a few things about
some people, people you know, people you don't know.
Now let's go through some of the threads that we have for this
episode. It says women are going wild in
the comments. You knew you were a who.
When do you get it? You knew you were a who when?
And the first one reads when I dated my male bestie and
pretended to be just friends around his girlfriend.
What? Slept with father and son.
OK I dated two brothers plus dear friend.
These girls are whose I'm parked.
They knew they were whose. Yes, yes.
When I drugged man just to sleep with his best friend in his
room, we carried him to the floor then used his bed.
This is why the men will come into my comment section and
shout fear women, women are these women.
Help me come shopped when I fogged my side *** at my main
nigga's place. He was working one night shift.
What my friend has just shouted her at the back there because
she herself she's perplexed my gender.
You've are doing since when? I had the second guy and
perfectly acted like a virgin, oddly tightened my vagina walls
so that he couldn't penetrate for about 15 minutes.
Then I released it a bit. You people are meeting you
people. They are meeting a a what do you
call it? A 50 year verges and they don't
understand. This is why these are verges.
You just do what they call it CAD your exercise.
So if we're using postpartum pregnant women exercise to do
veggie freestyling, that is crazy.
Men came for the night, had sex in few minutes.
My side texted me and said he's outside.
Told me that I'm gonna take a shower quickly and come back.
Went opened the water and took the towel, wrapped it and
sneaked out. Locked the bathroom, went for a
quickie in the car. Came back, pretended as thieves.
I'm done taking a shower. Went to bed.
Men never noticed. You see how you men think you
can cheat? You don't have nothing on the
women. The last time I spoke about,
Kwame wanted to die. Yeah.
What's that? You.
You don't have nothing on the women.
If they want to cheat, it's not a good thing.
But that is what the women are doing.
Hey. This one is serious.
Who in Papa? I'll leave this one here.
I'll leave this thread here because we myself am replaced.
Wow, what a wonderful case. Now tell me in the comments
section, my girls. At what point did you realize
that you were a who? At what point did you realize
that you were a who? Let me know your thoughts on
this. Now, whilst you're doing that,
let's get into the stories that we have for this episode.
If they posted it on social media, if they posted it on
social media, if they posted it on social media, then they made
it our business. And since they made it our
business, we can't make it our business.
I know today I have a red lipstick on.
People are doing their face like, hey, today our Red List
was going on. Yeah, baby girl is doing beauty
lifestyle. OK, now let's get to the very
first story. This one says, dear, please keep
me anonymous. I'm 27 years of age.
I'm dating this girl over three years now.
In the beginning things went well, but during some time
things became worse. She doesn't have time and
attention for me all in the name of I'm busy.
I know she's busy, but I think if you love something, you make
time for it, right? However, I make time for her
even in Hook or Crook when I complain to her about how things
are going. And then the best reply was
breaking up with me. Moreover, when she's back from
school about 10:50 months I do the visiting.
But when I asked her to come over to my end then problem
would rise again because she thinks kissing and having
romance she doesn't like it. So she stopped coming to my
place because I kissed her before once but she's at my
place and she sent me breakup message.
OK your English is terrible but I understand you.
Please, I need your opinion help me out.
I don't think the girl loves you from the way I'm seeing it.
I don't think she has any feelings for you.
I think she's just using me as a shallow and vibes because when
she meets somebody that she likes, she's definitely going to
go to a person's house. She's definitely going to allow
whatever to happen between the two of you, except she's on a
celibacy, you know, journey and doesn't want to really engage in
sexual activities before, you know, before marriage and all
that. But she I don't think she likes
you Sir. Dear Ekia, I trust you're fine.
Kindly share your opinion and also post maybe I can get the
best solution 'cause I'm drained and confused.
I have cheated on my boyfriend and the real deal is I didn't
have sex with a person he inserted and I forced to push
him off me. I know it sounds too good to be
true which I've gone all out to let my boyfriend know that that
really happened and he still insist he's not convinced and so
I should assure him that that's what really happened and that
I'm never going to do that again.
I really regret what I've done but I don't know how to assure
him. I've asked him to bug my phone
so he knows who and what I'm discussing on my phone and with
who I'm doing it with. I just have to assure him what
kills me most is how nice he still is to me.
You see that thing where somebody does something to you,
right? Somebody cheats on you.
You, the person knows, you know, But he still cook for the
person, clean for the person, have sex with the person, treat
the person. Well.
S&S and Anthony Boom. And I think that's what your
boyfriend is doing to you. He's using psychology to kill
you. But why?
How did you end up in that position that the person tried
to put it in and you preach the person out?
Why did you hear that? Well, for eh, my dear, my
darling, you have cheated. See, these girls will not kill
me. You let them come into the
comment station and come and blast all women for no goddamn
reason. No, that's a reason.
Don't blast women for your sins, my sister.
Why ladies? See, I don't know, but
personally I have grown to come to understand that when you have
somebody that you are dating, going to another man's room is
risky. Allowing another man into your
house, into your bedroom is risky.
There are some places you don't put easy.
There are some positions as surpassing in a relationship.
When I stay in a relationship, I mean a committed relationship.
The last time there was a post where I was like, when you're
dating somebody, don't entertain anybody.
And then people came to your comment section and they were
like, don't confuse courting me with dating my darling in Africa
and in Ghana. When we say you're dating
somebody, it means that you are in a committed relationship with
the person trying to get towards marriage.
If it doesn't work out, then there's a breaker.
But if it works out, you guys are going to get married.
So that's what I mean by when you are in such a relationship,
you do not fucking entertain anybody to put yourself in a
place where somebody will push it in and you push it out and
come and say that I am sorry. Hey Muyebi Mumayebi attempt too
much adding Dear Ekia, I started dating this girl last year
December. I loved her so much that I
didn't want to have any affair with her until we get married
and that was also her wish until after a few weeks into the
relationship she told me that she can't be in a relationship
without sex or chair. The relationship was going well
until after six months she started ignoring me sometimes.
I tried to talk to her to know what I did wrong and she
insisted that I did nothing wrong.
It got to a stage where she didn't even want to see me at
all. When I call her to ask why she's
ignoring me, she will say she's going through a lot but she
can't tell me what she's going through.
This went on for more than a month and any time I go to a
place to talk things out, she'll suggest that we should break up.
If I'm tired of her because of the love I have for her, I also
don't want to break up. She will sometimes say that she
isn't good enough for me and I will tell her not to say that.
She hardly asks me for money even though she's not working
but I will always see expensive things that she bug buys like
handbag, new cooking utensils, decorate her room with all
stuff. I was worried and decided to ask
where she got the money to buy all those stuff from and even
where she got the money to constantly braid her hair.
She replies that I shouldn't be asking her those kind of
questions so I took it upon myself to give her money for her
hair anytime she wants to braid her hair even though she takes
the money but never calls back to say thank you which I never
complained. She has a spare key to my place
and sometimes goes there to pick up foodstuff to cook when I'm
awake but never wanted to make time for us to even talk
together or see each other sincerely.
I got tired of the attitude and granted her the breakup.
She always suggested I do truly love this girl but I feel she is
trying to use me. Trying.
K she has used you finish. I was trying.
Just recently she messaged me and asked if I still have
interest in it and I said no to her reaction but she just said
OK thank you. I was expecting her to say that
we can't make things work but she never did.
Do you think this girl loves me all because she was in the
relationship for material things?
Yuna Casa, you have heard me read this to you.
Answer the question. Why do you think she was there?
Hey, she was using you Papa boy.
Yeah, we're trying to lose speed, Eddie.
It's not easy. You dear Acquia.
Keep me anonymous and Give your opinion.
There's this girl I've been in a relationship with for almost 8
months now. When we started all was good and
smiles everywhere but over a month now we haven't been in a
proper conversation as we used to.
Almost every day things was fine.
But recently she doesn't pick my calls.
She doesn't reply my messages even if she is online.
If I ask her what is wrong she tells me everything is fine and
that she doesn't want to make calls again.
I'm just worried. I really love this girl but I'm
starting to think if I should break up with her before I lose
myself. I'm going to say this and I know
my girls may come for me. There's nothing like I don't
like 'cause I don't like testing.
When they like you, they will call, when they like you, they
will test. When they start to lose whatever
interest they have you, that's when they have news and
regulations. OK Sendini, dear Ekia, thank you
for lecturing. May God bless you.
Hey, I'm not a lecturer, but thank you and Amen.
Please, I want to know something.
If you propose to a lady and immediately she tells you that
she has somebody already, is that true or she's trying to
find out? Either you are truly serious,
please let me understand something.
This is how they use you people. This is how somebody will use
you. Then you come to my dear men,
come and write dear clear fear women.
The person said I have someone. Then you are coming to ask me if
they are being serious or not. So if they are not being serious
then you go back and you also see that oh I can use this one.
They should do. I want data, I want airtime, I'm
craving for pizza. They should well post on her
statist who will Take Me Out this evening then the mumu in.
You would think that oh, maybe that's who entice her to like
me. Then you go and take her out.
Then in a few weeks she will tell you that she's not
interested and she says she has stopped your money, she has used
you. This is how you allow yourself
to be used. When a woman tells you no is no
is not a maybe. When you approach a lady and she
tells you that I'm not interested, she's not
interested. She's not being a what's the way
on training. She's not being hard to get.
She does not want it. Don't persuade it.
Don't say that. Women like to be persuaded.
Men like their chase. Now you are chasing something
that doesn't want to be chased. Oh, my senior man, I beg when
she says no, it's no, OK. Don't put yourself in a position
where somebody will use you, OK? Don't.
Dear Aquia, I've been dating my girlfriend for four years now.
She's currently in a nursing training.
One day she mentioned that another guy has been giving her
attention and I don't, but I also show her affection.
However, she doesn't like calling or texting me unless she
needs something. Once she gets what she wants,
she stops contacting me. I'm unsure if she's taking me
for granted or genuinely cares. She never posts about me on
social media but shares posts about other guys.
I love it deeply. I'd appreciate your opinion on
this. I need, I need to.
I need to compose a song. She doesn't love you.
She doesn't love you yes way she doesn't care for you.
She's just using you. So my darling, be wise.
I've composed some for all the guys that they are using.
You are probably being used, my dear.
Initially when you said she said you don't spend time with her.
She she, she was telling you that someone else is giving her
attention. I was going to say, oh, this
girl is trying to find a way to resolve her issues.
You know, she's telling the guy that someone else is trying to
give me attention so that the guy can come in and, you know,
do the right thing. But this one day, oh, come away,
come away. She's using you.
Let's. Love it, let's love it.
Dear Aquia, I'm a girl of 20 years and in one of the
universities in Ghana. I'm dating this man who is in
his 40s. We are back again with 20 and
40. WE somebody that can be your
father. When we started dating he
supported and made me feel special so I gave him my
virginity. But since then his attitude
towards me changed and I asked him what was wrong but he said
nothing. I could call him so many times
but he won't answer nor reply to my text.
So I started cheating which he found out but forgave me.
I lost my mom early this year so my dad is the only one
supporting me financially and I have three siblings my dad also
has to take care of so I chose not to bother him a lot.
So Fast forward, my guy is in Canada now and I have never
asked him for anything before. Your guy which is a 40 year old
OK but I decided to ask him for some money since we have
reopened school and I needed some money to buy something and
this I and this guy asked me don't I have a father to ask and
I'm here asking him could you believe he even said if my
father is in heaven he can't do momo from there.
This really hurt me and I regretted asking him.
Ekia, I want to leave this relationship but I have tried so
many times but I can't because he broke my virginity and no
matter how I live I will come back begging but I don't want to
be with a man who disrespects me and my dad.
I want your opinion please what do I do?
How much do you love your dad? How much do you love your dad
now? Consistently whenever your body
or your heart feels like going back to him, think about him
insulting your father and think about how much you love your dad
that you will never put him in a place to be disrespected.
And the grown ass man that groomed you dated you from SHS
since SHS and probably you were not even that 20 years when you
were in that SHS easier. I'm dating this man who is in
his 40s Censor stitches. So He groomed you and is coming
to tell you that even if your Father is in heaven, He will
send you one more. Hey.
My dear, how much do you love your father?
How much do you respect your father?
Think about it that way. I like that you said I do not
want to be with somebody that disrespects me and my father.
And that is exactly what he did. And so you don't have anything
to think about, OK, Dear Acquia, keep me anonymous.
I'm 27 years old, lady. I met a guy on Facebook since
December and we've been talking. He was staying in Germany by
then but he came down in August. OK, so I guess last year OK, he
asked me on a date and we went for it and we had sex.
Now Fast forward early August, before he came back I was sick
and I went to the hospital and did check up but the hepatitis
result was not clear. So the doctor asked me to do
another test after two weeks but I didn't take it serious again.
So 3 days I'm back. He called me and reminded me of
it. I went there and did the test.
It was hepatitis positive. But the doctor told me that it's
just started. It's all clear if I buy the
medicine and take it and I have bought the medicine and I'm
taking them. So I asked the doctor how come I
got the sickness? Isn't it by sex or what?
He told me that it has many means it could be sweat, pit,
toilet or sex. He advised me not to tell my guy
because it just started and it will not transfer and it can
cure. Now my problem is should I tell
him or I should just keep it to myself and cure my sickness?
Yeah I really need your opinion I feel like.
OK so I have my friend here she's a nurse hopefully she can
shout for you people to hear. I don't think a doctor can
advise patients because it's a sexually transmitted disease,
right? So is it right that the doctor
told him not to tell the partner happy the doctor told him not to
alarm him. If the doctor said the exact
word she has said that he shouldn't tell, he said don't
tell, not alarm, then it's well for him to say that because he's
not in any position to tell a patient what he did, but rather
give suggests, suggests or give an advice.
Yes, by this case, tell him sexually transmitted.
Yes. You make that mistake to him.
You know him only if you have loyal to him.
You are loyal to him. Yeah, tell him.
Let him go and get shaped properly.
You get cured and you guys will stay together and it will come
back. Probably the medications that
you take you took won't work at that time.
Please tell him. OK, so hopefully you guys heard
it. She said it is not advisable for
a doctor to tell his or her patients that don't do this.
They can suggest right? So please doctors comments
section, come and let us know. Can a doctor tell a patient not
to disclose a sexually transmitted disease to their
partner? How and why do like can that be
this advised or you know, given to patients to do?
Let me know in the comments section.
That's what that's what Dear Akia, I've been dating this guy
for a year now. He's my besties brother.
It was through a head that I dated him.
Fast forward, I moved to acquire a month after we started dating.
In the beginning we were talking frequently and mostly he was the
one sending me messages every morning.
I've been the one helping him financially when he was in the
university. Fast forward last month when he
completed his education, he started giving me some attitude.
When I call, he won't pick. He will call me back whenever he
wants. Just last two weeks I posted
something on my status if you don't like someone and he
doesn't like you don't force yourself on them.
And he was like why this and I said nothing he was like it's
over good luck you will appreciate me soon.
I called he never answers my call.
A week later he called and said he was sorry, but now I don't
trust. Wow.
But now I. Don't trust him anymore.
I won't. I want to know your opinion
about this. Should I continue with him or I
should forget him? My dear, the one thing I will
never do is to tell you to whether leave your partner or
stay with your partner or what I can tell you is to analyze
whatever has gone on between the two of you.
This man doesn't communicate and you posted something on your
status and according to you, first of all, let me ask, Are
you sure the thing that you posted was not because of him?
I've been posted it, you know, out of just posting it.
And it wasn't because of him. And he took it out of contest
and did not even try to communicate well with you, just
asked why. They say you were like nothing.
And he's like OK, good luck my dear.
Does this one value you? So think about.
It think about what exactly you're looking for in a
relationship. Are you getting it in this one?
If you are, enjoy the relationship.
If you're not, then you make a decision as to what you want to
do with yourself. OK, let's love.
It let's love it. OK, there's one.
More here and then the food that will be done.
So let me just do it. Dear Acquia, keep me anonymous.
I'd like to hear your view and suggestion on this.
I have this girlfriend I've been with for two years now.
Look, I can't lie, I love this girl.
I can't even cheat even if I wanted to.
I can talk to another girl but never even think of liking the
person. That's how into this girl I am.
But she has this X that it seems like I'm always competing with.
I can't see it all here 'cause there's loads of information.
But I've forgiven her for having sex with him several times
behind my back and I found out because she was mixing energy
from him to me and nothing seemed to go right with my
forest trading career. But the moment I exempt her
things go really well. But time to time she cheats with
the same guy and because of the love I have for her I forgive
her. Just today she was at my place
planning to spend the night and I went through her phone and
she's still talking to this guy calling him babe and things.
I promised myself every time that I'm done with her when she
does these things that makes me feel less of a man but because
of this stupid thing called love I forgive her.
She was asleep when I checked. I woke her up and questioned
her. She packed up and left after I
asked her not to touch me. I'm really trying not to talk to
her and it's draining me. I really hope I was able to
organize everything well because this is how messed up my brain
looks right now. What's your take?
Hmm, my darling. Do you want to be rich?
Do you want money? What is more important?
To you money or the girl, because this is what I think.
She's still going to sleep with her ex.
She's constantly going to cheat on you and it's going to mess
with your business because you keep sleeping with her.
Mind you. If you go broke.
She will leave you, so why not choose?
Yourself, I mean, it's just, I'm just saying, I'm just saying,
I'm not saying leave, that's to your discretion.
But for her to. Consistently disrespect you by
sleeping with her ex. She's not going to stop because
she knows you're going to forgive her.
Understand. There's the dynamics of cheating
here. It doesn't care with gender wise
who the moment the person cheats and you forgive, don't do it
again. They don't care whether you're a
woman or a man. They will do it again.
So why not choose? Yourself.
Why not choose yourself? That being said, don't forget to
join Venalata. Don't see I'm.
Telling you people don't forget when you have all these issues
in life, eh, when you resolve it, you sit down like this, you
open the now with that eh and. Then you just say.
Thank God. And you just say thank God.
Yeah. Anyway, thank you for watching
the episode. It's been an exciting time here.
It's been an amazing time with you guys.
Don't forget to subscribe, like and share.
And if you have a story and you want to give to us, please don't
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Your girl is there. I'm waiting to talk about your
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small. So what?
And also, if you don't know, I'm an MC, I host events.
So if you have a wedding, if you have a naming ceremony, if you
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unforgettable one. My name is Nanika Depain, this
as the POV podcast. I will see you in the next
episode and that will be on Saturday.
But I also have a special episode coming with my baby girl
Nanifua very soon. So let's take a stay.
See you next time. Bye.