1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,520 I have cheated on my boyfriend and the real deal is I didn't 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:07,520 have sex with a person he inserted and I forced to push 3 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:11,240 him off me. Why did you hear that? 4 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:18,480 Wow, fool, my dear, my darling, you have cheated. 5 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:31,040 It's another Tuesday and I'm about to read some threads and 6 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:34,880 share some confessions, anonymous confessions, anonymous 7 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:36,760 stories. Call it what you want to call 8 00:00:36,760 --> 00:00:39,400 it. My name is Nanika Depai and this 9 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:44,200 is the POV podcast. Subscribe if you haven't by the 10 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:47,840 time you leave here, at least you learn a few things about 11 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:50,800 some people, people you know, people you don't know. 12 00:00:51,160 --> 00:00:55,400 Now let's go through some of the threads that we have for this 13 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:58,920 episode. It says women are going wild in 14 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:02,000 the comments. You knew you were a who. 15 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:07,880 When do you get it? You knew you were a who when? 16 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:12,880 And the first one reads when I dated my male bestie and 17 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:15,960 pretended to be just friends around his girlfriend. 18 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:22,960 What? Slept with father and son. 19 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:27,640 OK I dated two brothers plus dear friend. 20 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,080 These girls are whose I'm parked. 21 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:33,560 They knew they were whose. Yes, yes. 22 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:39,680 When I drugged man just to sleep with his best friend in his 23 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:43,120 room, we carried him to the floor then used his bed. 24 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:47,800 This is why the men will come into my comment section and 25 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,560 shout fear women, women are these women. 26 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:56,320 Help me come shopped when I fogged my side *** at my main 27 00:01:56,320 --> 00:02:01,000 nigga's place. He was working one night shift. 28 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:06,880 What my friend has just shouted her at the back there because 29 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:10,800 she herself she's perplexed my gender. 30 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:17,000 You've are doing since when? I had the second guy and 31 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:21,600 perfectly acted like a virgin, oddly tightened my vagina walls 32 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:24,480 so that he couldn't penetrate for about 15 minutes. 33 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:40,570 Then I released it a bit. You people are meeting you 34 00:02:40,610 --> 00:02:42,890 people. They are meeting a a what do you 35 00:02:42,890 --> 00:02:46,410 call it? A 50 year verges and they don't 36 00:02:46,410 --> 00:02:48,810 understand. This is why these are verges. 37 00:02:48,810 --> 00:02:52,720 You just do what they call it CAD your exercise. 38 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:56,520 So if we're using postpartum pregnant women exercise to do 39 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:59,640 veggie freestyling, that is crazy. 40 00:03:00,640 --> 00:03:04,480 Men came for the night, had sex in few minutes. 41 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:07,560 My side texted me and said he's outside. 42 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:11,880 Told me that I'm gonna take a shower quickly and come back. 43 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:15,280 Went opened the water and took the towel, wrapped it and 44 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:17,760 sneaked out. Locked the bathroom, went for a 45 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:22,080 quickie in the car. Came back, pretended as thieves. 46 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:24,240 I'm done taking a shower. Went to bed. 47 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:28,440 Men never noticed. You see how you men think you 48 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:30,800 can cheat? You don't have nothing on the 49 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:33,400 women. The last time I spoke about, 50 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:34,880 Kwame wanted to die. Yeah. 51 00:03:34,880 --> 00:03:36,600 What's that? You. 52 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:38,960 You don't have nothing on the women. 53 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,120 If they want to cheat, it's not a good thing. 54 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,480 But that is what the women are doing. 55 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:45,960 Hey. This one is serious. 56 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:48,720 Who in Papa? I'll leave this one here. 57 00:03:48,720 --> 00:03:51,560 I'll leave this thread here because we myself am replaced. 58 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:55,840 Wow, what a wonderful case. Now tell me in the comments 59 00:03:55,840 --> 00:04:00,280 section, my girls. At what point did you realize 60 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:05,240 that you were a who? At what point did you realize 61 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:08,560 that you were a who? Let me know your thoughts on 62 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:10,560 this. Now, whilst you're doing that, 63 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:15,680 let's get into the stories that we have for this episode. 64 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:19,600 If they posted it on social media, if they posted it on 65 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:24,120 social media, if they posted it on social media, then they made 66 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,640 it our business. And since they made it our 67 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:29,000 business, we can't make it our business. 68 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:30,840 I know today I have a red lipstick on. 69 00:04:30,840 --> 00:04:33,360 People are doing their face like, hey, today our Red List 70 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:37,040 was going on. Yeah, baby girl is doing beauty 71 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:43,360 lifestyle. OK, now let's get to the very 72 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:50,520 first story. This one says, dear, please keep 73 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:53,080 me anonymous. I'm 27 years of age. 74 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:55,320 I'm dating this girl over three years now. 75 00:04:55,640 --> 00:04:58,600 In the beginning things went well, but during some time 76 00:04:58,840 --> 00:05:01,880 things became worse. She doesn't have time and 77 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:04,160 attention for me all in the name of I'm busy. 78 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:07,920 I know she's busy, but I think if you love something, you make 79 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:11,080 time for it, right? However, I make time for her 80 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:16,000 even in Hook or Crook when I complain to her about how things 81 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:19,480 are going. And then the best reply was 82 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:23,560 breaking up with me. Moreover, when she's back from 83 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:26,640 school about 10:50 months I do the visiting. 84 00:05:26,840 --> 00:05:30,320 But when I asked her to come over to my end then problem 85 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,920 would rise again because she thinks kissing and having 86 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:37,480 romance she doesn't like it. So she stopped coming to my 87 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:40,960 place because I kissed her before once but she's at my 88 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:43,160 place and she sent me breakup message. 89 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:46,360 OK your English is terrible but I understand you. 90 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:48,560 Please, I need your opinion help me out. 91 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:53,360 I don't think the girl loves you from the way I'm seeing it. 92 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:55,040 I don't think she has any feelings for you. 93 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:58,600 I think she's just using me as a shallow and vibes because when 94 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:01,160 she meets somebody that she likes, she's definitely going to 95 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:03,840 go to a person's house. She's definitely going to allow 96 00:06:03,840 --> 00:06:07,040 whatever to happen between the two of you, except she's on a 97 00:06:07,040 --> 00:06:10,360 celibacy, you know, journey and doesn't want to really engage in 98 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:15,000 sexual activities before, you know, before marriage and all 99 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:18,320 that. But she I don't think she likes 100 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:25,240 you Sir. Dear Ekia, I trust you're fine. 101 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,960 Kindly share your opinion and also post maybe I can get the 102 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:31,360 best solution 'cause I'm drained and confused. 103 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,920 I have cheated on my boyfriend and the real deal is I didn't 104 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:38,920 have sex with a person he inserted and I forced to push 105 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:41,920 him off me. I know it sounds too good to be 106 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:46,480 true which I've gone all out to let my boyfriend know that that 107 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:51,320 really happened and he still insist he's not convinced and so 108 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:55,280 I should assure him that that's what really happened and that 109 00:06:55,280 --> 00:06:57,240 I'm never going to do that again. 110 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:01,360 I really regret what I've done but I don't know how to assure 111 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:05,120 him. I've asked him to bug my phone 112 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:10,320 so he knows who and what I'm discussing on my phone and with 113 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:13,640 who I'm doing it with. I just have to assure him what 114 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:16,800 kills me most is how nice he still is to me. 115 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:22,760 You see that thing where somebody does something to you, 116 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:24,080 right? Somebody cheats on you. 117 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:26,960 You, the person knows, you know, But he still cook for the 118 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:29,960 person, clean for the person, have sex with the person, treat 119 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:30,800 the person. Well. 120 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:33,560 S&S and Anthony Boom. And I think that's what your 121 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:36,200 boyfriend is doing to you. He's using psychology to kill 122 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:37,920 you. But why? 123 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:40,840 How did you end up in that position that the person tried 124 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:42,400 to put it in and you preach the person out? 125 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:49,000 Why did you hear that? Well, for eh, my dear, my 126 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:53,040 darling, you have cheated. See, these girls will not kill 127 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:54,960 me. You let them come into the 128 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:57,680 comment station and come and blast all women for no goddamn 129 00:07:57,680 --> 00:07:59,800 reason. No, that's a reason. 130 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:05,160 Don't blast women for your sins, my sister. 131 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:12,160 Why ladies? See, I don't know, but 132 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:18,120 personally I have grown to come to understand that when you have 133 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:21,680 somebody that you are dating, going to another man's room is 134 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:24,760 risky. Allowing another man into your 135 00:08:24,760 --> 00:08:26,880 house, into your bedroom is risky. 136 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:29,160 There are some places you don't put easy. 137 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:32,520 There are some positions as surpassing in a relationship. 138 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:36,240 When I stay in a relationship, I mean a committed relationship. 139 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:42,039 The last time there was a post where I was like, when you're 140 00:08:42,039 --> 00:08:43,799 dating somebody, don't entertain anybody. 141 00:08:43,799 --> 00:08:45,440 And then people came to your comment section and they were 142 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:49,720 like, don't confuse courting me with dating my darling in Africa 143 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:51,400 and in Ghana. When we say you're dating 144 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:54,440 somebody, it means that you are in a committed relationship with 145 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:57,320 the person trying to get towards marriage. 146 00:08:57,480 --> 00:08:59,280 If it doesn't work out, then there's a breaker. 147 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:01,720 But if it works out, you guys are going to get married. 148 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:06,480 So that's what I mean by when you are in such a relationship, 149 00:09:06,680 --> 00:09:09,640 you do not fucking entertain anybody to put yourself in a 150 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:12,760 place where somebody will push it in and you push it out and 151 00:09:12,760 --> 00:09:19,360 come and say that I am sorry. Hey Muyebi Mumayebi attempt too 152 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:27,960 much adding Dear Ekia, I started dating this girl last year 153 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,280 December. I loved her so much that I 154 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:33,360 didn't want to have any affair with her until we get married 155 00:09:33,720 --> 00:09:37,160 and that was also her wish until after a few weeks into the 156 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,280 relationship she told me that she can't be in a relationship 157 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:47,320 without sex or chair. The relationship was going well 158 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:51,040 until after six months she started ignoring me sometimes. 159 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:54,680 I tried to talk to her to know what I did wrong and she 160 00:09:54,680 --> 00:09:57,480 insisted that I did nothing wrong. 161 00:09:57,680 --> 00:10:01,080 It got to a stage where she didn't even want to see me at 162 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:03,640 all. When I call her to ask why she's 163 00:10:03,640 --> 00:10:06,960 ignoring me, she will say she's going through a lot but she 164 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:09,240 can't tell me what she's going through. 165 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:12,200 This went on for more than a month and any time I go to a 166 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:17,080 place to talk things out, she'll suggest that we should break up. 167 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:20,440 If I'm tired of her because of the love I have for her, I also 168 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:24,120 don't want to break up. She will sometimes say that she 169 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:27,360 isn't good enough for me and I will tell her not to say that. 170 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:30,720 She hardly asks me for money even though she's not working 171 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:35,120 but I will always see expensive things that she bug buys like 172 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:39,360 handbag, new cooking utensils, decorate her room with all 173 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:42,040 stuff. I was worried and decided to ask 174 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:45,680 where she got the money to buy all those stuff from and even 175 00:10:45,680 --> 00:10:48,400 where she got the money to constantly braid her hair. 176 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:51,920 She replies that I shouldn't be asking her those kind of 177 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:55,200 questions so I took it upon myself to give her money for her 178 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:58,800 hair anytime she wants to braid her hair even though she takes 179 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:02,320 the money but never calls back to say thank you which I never 180 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:04,880 complained. She has a spare key to my place 181 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:08,480 and sometimes goes there to pick up foodstuff to cook when I'm 182 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:12,520 awake but never wanted to make time for us to even talk 183 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:14,760 together or see each other sincerely. 184 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,880 I got tired of the attitude and granted her the breakup. 185 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:22,440 She always suggested I do truly love this girl but I feel she is 186 00:11:22,440 --> 00:11:23,880 trying to use me. Trying. 187 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:26,000 K she has used you finish. I was trying. 188 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:29,640 Just recently she messaged me and asked if I still have 189 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:33,840 interest in it and I said no to her reaction but she just said 190 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:37,280 OK thank you. I was expecting her to say that 191 00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:39,600 we can't make things work but she never did. 192 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:43,720 Do you think this girl loves me all because she was in the 193 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,040 relationship for material things? 194 00:11:47,560 --> 00:11:49,720 Yuna Casa, you have heard me read this to you. 195 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:53,920 Answer the question. Why do you think she was there? 196 00:11:54,920 --> 00:12:00,960 Why do you think she was there? Hey, she was using you Papa boy. 197 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:08,680 Yeah, we're trying to lose speed, Eddie. 198 00:12:08,680 --> 00:12:12,600 It's not easy. You dear Acquia. 199 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,240 Keep me anonymous and Give your opinion. 200 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:19,000 There's this girl I've been in a relationship with for almost 8 201 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:22,360 months now. When we started all was good and 202 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:25,800 smiles everywhere but over a month now we haven't been in a 203 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:28,960 proper conversation as we used to. 204 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,400 Almost every day things was fine. 205 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:33,920 But recently she doesn't pick my calls. 206 00:12:34,080 --> 00:12:37,040 She doesn't reply my messages even if she is online. 207 00:12:37,280 --> 00:12:40,680 If I ask her what is wrong she tells me everything is fine and 208 00:12:40,680 --> 00:12:42,800 that she doesn't want to make calls again. 209 00:12:43,040 --> 00:12:45,080 I'm just worried. I really love this girl but I'm 210 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:48,560 starting to think if I should break up with her before I lose 211 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:51,840 myself. I'm going to say this and I know 212 00:12:51,840 --> 00:12:54,280 my girls may come for me. There's nothing like I don't 213 00:12:54,280 --> 00:12:55,560 like 'cause I don't like testing. 214 00:12:55,680 --> 00:12:57,680 When they like you, they will call, when they like you, they 215 00:12:57,680 --> 00:13:01,480 will test. When they start to lose whatever 216 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:03,400 interest they have you, that's when they have news and 217 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:13,840 regulations. OK Sendini, dear Ekia, thank you 218 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:15,600 for lecturing. May God bless you. 219 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:17,960 Hey, I'm not a lecturer, but thank you and Amen. 220 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:20,240 Please, I want to know something. 221 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:23,760 If you propose to a lady and immediately she tells you that 222 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:26,760 she has somebody already, is that true or she's trying to 223 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:29,440 find out? Either you are truly serious, 224 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:31,560 please let me understand something. 225 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:36,240 This is how they use you people. This is how somebody will use 226 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:39,000 you. Then you come to my dear men, 227 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:40,880 come and write dear clear fear women. 228 00:13:42,240 --> 00:13:47,200 The person said I have someone. Then you are coming to ask me if 229 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:54,120 they are being serious or not. So if they are not being serious 230 00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:59,200 then you go back and you also see that oh I can use this one. 231 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:04,080 They should do. I want data, I want airtime, I'm 232 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,800 craving for pizza. They should well post on her 233 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:11,760 statist who will Take Me Out this evening then the mumu in. 234 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:15,880 You would think that oh, maybe that's who entice her to like 235 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:17,760 me. Then you go and take her out. 236 00:14:18,080 --> 00:14:21,000 Then in a few weeks she will tell you that she's not 237 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:23,720 interested and she says she has stopped your money, she has used 238 00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:26,240 you. This is how you allow yourself 239 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:32,080 to be used. When a woman tells you no is no 240 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:38,120 is not a maybe. When you approach a lady and she 241 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:41,200 tells you that I'm not interested, she's not 242 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:46,280 interested. She's not being a what's the way 243 00:14:46,560 --> 00:14:50,240 on training. She's not being hard to get. 244 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:53,960 She does not want it. Don't persuade it. 245 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:56,920 Don't say that. Women like to be persuaded. 246 00:14:57,120 --> 00:15:00,000 Men like their chase. Now you are chasing something 247 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:05,920 that doesn't want to be chased. Oh, my senior man, I beg when 248 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:08,520 she says no, it's no, OK. Don't put yourself in a position 249 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:10,200 where somebody will use you, OK? Don't. 250 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:17,080 Dear Aquia, I've been dating my girlfriend for four years now. 251 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:19,040 She's currently in a nursing training. 252 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:27,240 One day she mentioned that another guy has been giving her 253 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:31,640 attention and I don't, but I also show her affection. 254 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:35,760 However, she doesn't like calling or texting me unless she 255 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:39,200 needs something. Once she gets what she wants, 256 00:15:39,280 --> 00:15:42,960 she stops contacting me. I'm unsure if she's taking me 257 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:47,640 for granted or genuinely cares. She never posts about me on 258 00:15:47,640 --> 00:15:51,160 social media but shares posts about other guys. 259 00:15:51,560 --> 00:15:54,560 I love it deeply. I'd appreciate your opinion on 260 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:58,360 this. I need, I need to. 261 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:03,440 I need to compose a song. She doesn't love you. 262 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:15,800 She doesn't love you yes way she doesn't care for you. 263 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:22,720 She's just using you. So my darling, be wise. 264 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:26,000 I've composed some for all the guys that they are using. 265 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:28,800 You are probably being used, my dear. 266 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:33,240 Initially when you said she said you don't spend time with her. 267 00:16:33,240 --> 00:16:35,640 She she, she was telling you that someone else is giving her 268 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:37,400 attention. I was going to say, oh, this 269 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,760 girl is trying to find a way to resolve her issues. 270 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:42,760 You know, she's telling the guy that someone else is trying to 271 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:45,000 give me attention so that the guy can come in and, you know, 272 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:48,040 do the right thing. But this one day, oh, come away, 273 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:49,600 come away. She's using you. 274 00:16:52,280 --> 00:16:54,880 Let's. Love it, let's love it. 275 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:57,000 Dear Aquia, I'm a girl of 20 years and in one of the 276 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:01,120 universities in Ghana. I'm dating this man who is in 277 00:17:01,120 --> 00:17:06,839 his 40s. We are back again with 20 and 278 00:17:06,839 --> 00:17:08,839 40. WE somebody that can be your 279 00:17:08,839 --> 00:17:11,160 father. When we started dating he 280 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:14,680 supported and made me feel special so I gave him my 281 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:17,119 virginity. But since then his attitude 282 00:17:17,119 --> 00:17:20,839 towards me changed and I asked him what was wrong but he said 283 00:17:20,839 --> 00:17:24,520 nothing. I could call him so many times 284 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:27,240 but he won't answer nor reply to my text. 285 00:17:27,599 --> 00:17:31,600 So I started cheating which he found out but forgave me. 286 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:35,120 I lost my mom early this year so my dad is the only one 287 00:17:35,120 --> 00:17:39,880 supporting me financially and I have three siblings my dad also 288 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:43,800 has to take care of so I chose not to bother him a lot. 289 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:48,040 So Fast forward, my guy is in Canada now and I have never 290 00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:52,520 asked him for anything before. Your guy which is a 40 year old 291 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:58,840 OK but I decided to ask him for some money since we have 292 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:02,840 reopened school and I needed some money to buy something and 293 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:07,760 this I and this guy asked me don't I have a father to ask and 294 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:11,960 I'm here asking him could you believe he even said if my 295 00:18:11,960 --> 00:18:15,160 father is in heaven he can't do momo from there. 296 00:18:24,050 --> 00:18:27,970 This really hurt me and I regretted asking him. 297 00:18:28,650 --> 00:18:32,890 Ekia, I want to leave this relationship but I have tried so 298 00:18:32,890 --> 00:18:37,680 many times but I can't because he broke my virginity and no 299 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:42,120 matter how I live I will come back begging but I don't want to 300 00:18:42,120 --> 00:18:45,440 be with a man who disrespects me and my dad. 301 00:18:45,760 --> 00:18:48,880 I want your opinion please what do I do? 302 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:56,400 How much do you love your dad? How much do you love your dad 303 00:18:57,320 --> 00:19:01,080 now? Consistently whenever your body 304 00:19:01,400 --> 00:19:05,840 or your heart feels like going back to him, think about him 305 00:19:06,360 --> 00:19:12,080 insulting your father and think about how much you love your dad 306 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:16,680 that you will never put him in a place to be disrespected. 307 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:22,600 And the grown ass man that groomed you dated you from SHS 308 00:19:24,360 --> 00:19:29,080 since SHS and probably you were not even that 20 years when you 309 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:36,200 were in that SHS easier. I'm dating this man who is in 310 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:40,840 his 40s Censor stitches. So He groomed you and is coming 311 00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:44,120 to tell you that even if your Father is in heaven, He will 312 00:19:44,120 --> 00:19:46,080 send you one more. Hey. 313 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:51,280 My dear, how much do you love your father? 314 00:19:51,560 --> 00:19:53,160 How much do you respect your father? 315 00:19:56,400 --> 00:19:59,160 Think about it that way. I like that you said I do not 316 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:02,800 want to be with somebody that disrespects me and my father. 317 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:06,760 And that is exactly what he did. And so you don't have anything 318 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:16,600 to think about, OK, Dear Acquia, keep me anonymous. 319 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:20,680 I'm 27 years old, lady. I met a guy on Facebook since 320 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:24,320 December and we've been talking. He was staying in Germany by 321 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:30,120 then but he came down in August. OK, so I guess last year OK, he 322 00:20:30,120 --> 00:20:33,320 asked me on a date and we went for it and we had sex. 323 00:20:33,320 --> 00:20:38,080 Now Fast forward early August, before he came back I was sick 324 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:42,960 and I went to the hospital and did check up but the hepatitis 325 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:46,280 result was not clear. So the doctor asked me to do 326 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:50,720 another test after two weeks but I didn't take it serious again. 327 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:54,720 So 3 days I'm back. He called me and reminded me of 328 00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:57,200 it. I went there and did the test. 329 00:20:57,560 --> 00:21:02,280 It was hepatitis positive. But the doctor told me that it's 330 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:05,200 just started. It's all clear if I buy the 331 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:08,640 medicine and take it and I have bought the medicine and I'm 332 00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:12,240 taking them. So I asked the doctor how come I 333 00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:14,800 got the sickness? Isn't it by sex or what? 334 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:19,720 He told me that it has many means it could be sweat, pit, 335 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:23,520 toilet or sex. He advised me not to tell my guy 336 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:28,000 because it just started and it will not transfer and it can 337 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:31,120 cure. Now my problem is should I tell 338 00:21:31,120 --> 00:21:35,400 him or I should just keep it to myself and cure my sickness? 339 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:38,720 Yeah I really need your opinion I feel like. 340 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,760 OK so I have my friend here she's a nurse hopefully she can 341 00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:47,160 shout for you people to hear. I don't think a doctor can 342 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:51,080 advise patients because it's a sexually transmitted disease, 343 00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:54,640 right? So is it right that the doctor 344 00:21:55,000 --> 00:22:00,160 told him not to tell the partner happy the doctor told him not to 345 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:04,680 alarm him. If the doctor said the exact 346 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:07,280 word she has said that he shouldn't tell, he said don't 347 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:12,520 tell, not alarm, then it's well for him to say that because he's 348 00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:19,680 not in any position to tell a patient what he did, but rather 349 00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:23,240 give suggests, suggests or give an advice. 350 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:29,120 Yes, by this case, tell him sexually transmitted. 351 00:22:29,120 --> 00:22:31,080 Yes. You make that mistake to him. 352 00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:34,520 You know him only if you have loyal to him. 353 00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:37,400 You are loyal to him. Yeah, tell him. 354 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,200 Let him go and get shaped properly. 355 00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:46,600 You get cured and you guys will stay together and it will come 356 00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:48,840 back. Probably the medications that 357 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,800 you take you took won't work at that time. 358 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:59,120 Please tell him. OK, so hopefully you guys heard 359 00:22:59,120 --> 00:23:02,960 it. She said it is not advisable for 360 00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:08,320 a doctor to tell his or her patients that don't do this. 361 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:13,400 They can suggest right? So please doctors comments 362 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:18,320 section, come and let us know. Can a doctor tell a patient not 363 00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:22,600 to disclose a sexually transmitted disease to their 364 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:27,200 partner? How and why do like can that be 365 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:30,120 this advised or you know, given to patients to do? 366 00:23:30,360 --> 00:23:32,080 Let me know in the comments section. 367 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,560 That's what that's what Dear Akia, I've been dating this guy 368 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:41,400 for a year now. He's my besties brother. 369 00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:43,600 It was through a head that I dated him. 370 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:47,320 Fast forward, I moved to acquire a month after we started dating. 371 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:51,600 In the beginning we were talking frequently and mostly he was the 372 00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,800 one sending me messages every morning. 373 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,400 I've been the one helping him financially when he was in the 374 00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:01,000 university. Fast forward last month when he 375 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:04,160 completed his education, he started giving me some attitude. 376 00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:08,360 When I call, he won't pick. He will call me back whenever he 377 00:24:08,360 --> 00:24:11,200 wants. Just last two weeks I posted 378 00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:14,360 something on my status if you don't like someone and he 379 00:24:14,360 --> 00:24:17,880 doesn't like you don't force yourself on them. 380 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:22,240 And he was like why this and I said nothing he was like it's 381 00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:25,600 over good luck you will appreciate me soon. 382 00:24:26,120 --> 00:24:28,720 I called he never answers my call. 383 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:33,240 A week later he called and said he was sorry, but now I don't 384 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:38,360 trust. Wow. 385 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:43,640 But now I. Don't trust him anymore. 386 00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,600 I won't. I want to know your opinion 387 00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:49,160 about this. Should I continue with him or I 388 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:52,240 should forget him? My dear, the one thing I will 389 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:56,040 never do is to tell you to whether leave your partner or 390 00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:59,320 stay with your partner or what I can tell you is to analyze 391 00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,200 whatever has gone on between the two of you. 392 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:06,800 This man doesn't communicate and you posted something on your 393 00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:10,400 status and according to you, first of all, let me ask, Are 394 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,640 you sure the thing that you posted was not because of him? 395 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:16,160 I've been posted it, you know, out of just posting it. 396 00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:18,560 And it wasn't because of him. And he took it out of contest 397 00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:21,200 and did not even try to communicate well with you, just 398 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,120 asked why. They say you were like nothing. 399 00:25:23,120 --> 00:25:25,400 And he's like OK, good luck my dear. 400 00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:29,480 Does this one value you? So think about. 401 00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:32,040 It think about what exactly you're looking for in a 402 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,600 relationship. Are you getting it in this one? 403 00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:37,000 If you are, enjoy the relationship. 404 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,680 If you're not, then you make a decision as to what you want to 405 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,440 do with yourself. OK, let's love. 406 00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:45,560 It let's love it. OK, there's one. 407 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:47,320 More here and then the food that will be done. 408 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:51,640 So let me just do it. Dear Acquia, keep me anonymous. 409 00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,480 I'd like to hear your view and suggestion on this. 410 00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:57,560 I have this girlfriend I've been with for two years now. 411 00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:00,280 Look, I can't lie, I love this girl. 412 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,840 I can't even cheat even if I wanted to. 413 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:06,560 I can talk to another girl but never even think of liking the 414 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:09,280 person. That's how into this girl I am. 415 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:13,280 But she has this X that it seems like I'm always competing with. 416 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:17,680 I can't see it all here 'cause there's loads of information. 417 00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,480 But I've forgiven her for having sex with him several times 418 00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:26,640 behind my back and I found out because she was mixing energy 419 00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:30,400 from him to me and nothing seemed to go right with my 420 00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:34,160 forest trading career. But the moment I exempt her 421 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,040 things go really well. But time to time she cheats with 422 00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:42,600 the same guy and because of the love I have for her I forgive 423 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,320 her. Just today she was at my place 424 00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:48,920 planning to spend the night and I went through her phone and 425 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,280 she's still talking to this guy calling him babe and things. 426 00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:56,640 I promised myself every time that I'm done with her when she 427 00:26:56,640 --> 00:27:00,120 does these things that makes me feel less of a man but because 428 00:27:00,120 --> 00:27:02,560 of this stupid thing called love I forgive her. 429 00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:07,720 She was asleep when I checked. I woke her up and questioned 430 00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:10,160 her. She packed up and left after I 431 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:14,040 asked her not to touch me. I'm really trying not to talk to 432 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,880 her and it's draining me. I really hope I was able to 433 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:21,840 organize everything well because this is how messed up my brain 434 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,240 looks right now. What's your take? 435 00:27:36,120 --> 00:27:42,440 Hmm, my darling. Do you want to be rich? 436 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,920 Do you want money? What is more important? 437 00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:52,800 To you money or the girl, because this is what I think. 438 00:27:53,120 --> 00:27:55,080 She's still going to sleep with her ex. 439 00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:58,720 She's constantly going to cheat on you and it's going to mess 440 00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:01,360 with your business because you keep sleeping with her. 441 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,640 Mind you. If you go broke. 442 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:13,600 She will leave you, so why not choose? 443 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,360 Yourself, I mean, it's just, I'm just saying, I'm just saying, 444 00:28:17,360 --> 00:28:19,960 I'm not saying leave, that's to your discretion. 445 00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,800 But for her to. Consistently disrespect you by 446 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:28,040 sleeping with her ex. She's not going to stop because 447 00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:29,320 she knows you're going to forgive her. 448 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:32,800 Understand. There's the dynamics of cheating 449 00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:35,280 here. It doesn't care with gender wise 450 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:39,440 who the moment the person cheats and you forgive, don't do it 451 00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:41,520 again. They don't care whether you're a 452 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:43,280 woman or a man. They will do it again. 453 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:46,680 So why not choose? Yourself. 454 00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:53,680 Why not choose yourself? That being said, don't forget to 455 00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,640 join Venalata. Don't see I'm. 456 00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,440 Telling you people don't forget when you have all these issues 457 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,920 in life, eh, when you resolve it, you sit down like this, you 458 00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:11,160 open the now with that eh and. Then you just say. 459 00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:14,320 Thank God. And you just say thank God. 460 00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:18,880 Yeah. Anyway, thank you for watching 461 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:22,120 the episode. It's been an exciting time here. 462 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,360 It's been an amazing time with you guys. 463 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,000 Don't forget to subscribe, like and share. 464 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:32,280 And if you have a story and you want to give to us, please don't 465 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:36,280 forget to send it to any of my DMS and to the business is out 466 00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:37,880 there. You're looking for somebody to 467 00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:39,680 talk about your business. You know where to go. 468 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:41,520 Your girl is there. I'm waiting to talk about your 469 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:45,200 business so you bring it out. The rates are not heavy, they're 470 00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:46,480 small. So what? 471 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,120 And also, if you don't know, I'm an MC, I host events. 472 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,920 So if you have a wedding, if you have a naming ceremony, if you 473 00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:57,120 have a party, conference, awards, anything that needs an 474 00:29:57,120 --> 00:30:01,360 MC, your girl is here to make your event the most 475 00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:04,800 unforgettable one. My name is Nanika Depain, this 476 00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:08,440 as the POV podcast. I will see you in the next 477 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:11,480 episode and that will be on Saturday. 478 00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:14,960 But I also have a special episode coming with my baby girl 479 00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,640 Nanifua very soon. So let's take a stay. 480 00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:19,720 See you next time. Bye.