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It's very surprising to see that
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opportunity because I've been 
told that you men don't miss an 

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opportunity to bang someone. 
There's this thing where they 

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say never, ever, ever date 
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I think I know somebody. 
I think AFRAC Omaha, I saw on 

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his snap that she posted that I 
am never going to be attracted 

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to somebody that my friend has 
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My friend has dated before a 
sneaky link, a friends with 

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benefits and other things that 
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Some people have strict codes 
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If I don't have anything to hide
from my man, my phone should be 

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accessible. 
But hi guys, let's read some 

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confessions, should we? 
Yes, let's do that. 

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But before we get into that, no,
that's my name is Nalika define 

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this is the POV podcast. 
Don't forget that you subscribe 

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Before we get into reading the 
stories, let's go through our 

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mantra and that is if they 
posted it on social media, if 

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they posted it on social media, 
if they posted it on social 

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media, then they made it our 
business. 

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And since they made it our 
business, we go make it our 

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business. 
This simply means that they've 

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sent their stories to us and 
we're going to dive into it 

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together. 
Whilst you're doing that, we're 

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not going to be rude. 
There's no judgements here. 

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But when we realize that you 
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we're going to tell you 
regardless that you sensed the 

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story. 
We're going to tell you that you

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did not do well. 
I'm going to tell you that. 

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Yeah, you, what you did was not 
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And if you need guidance and we 
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to you. 
How are we going to give you 

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that guidance? 
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video, and then the people 
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the comments section. 
And so if you're watching, 

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please share your opinion in the
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people can get access to their 
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And so let's get into the first 
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Let's love it. 
Let's love it. 

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Yeah, Ikhya, my name is Cody. 
I saw this girl on Facebook 

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January 5th, 2025. 
I entered Adm on Facebook and I 

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tried to get her contact and it 
was successful. 

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After that, I asked her about 
herself, whether she base and 

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she said Lagos. 
I was like it's far from where I

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stay because I base in Benin and
she said yes. 

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So I asked her how old she is 
and she says she's 21 that's the

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same age range. 
After talking to her for two 

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days I toasted her on 7th 
January 2025 and she said yes 

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she will be my girlfriend. 
So since then we started dating 

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online. 
I never saw her physically or 

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I've never seen her physically. 
So one day at night she chatted 

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me and said she was horny if I 
can sex her through chat and I 

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did. 
Since then she continuously 

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asked for sex chat and I did 
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She said I should come to Lagos 
and have sex with her that she 

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can't sleep anymore. 
All she's thinking is to have 

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sex with me and she said even in
her dreams she demanded for a 

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pic of my Dick I did send to 
him. 

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I put it in one time view when 
she say it's the picture. 

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I can't even rest anymore. 
She said she wants to come over 

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to my place so that I can have 
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I haven't tried to ignore her 
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Sometimes I shout at her so that
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It's not working anymore. 
I do really love that girl. 

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It's just that sex part. 
She said I have show her true 

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love and she thought she was dry
until that night. 

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I make her wet, her body wakes 
up and she just wants only me. 

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I told her that I don't have 
money to come over to Lagos. 

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She said she will come over to 
my place at Benin and I'm giving

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her excuses. 
I'm doubting if she really loves

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me. 
All she wants is to have sex 

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with me and make me her sex toy.
I'm scared I'm now regretting 

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why I sent my Dick pic and sex 
say through chat. 

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I asked her how many body counts
she has and she said zero. 

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She's a virgin. 
I'm tired of the sex part. 

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And so if you can't deal with 
it, I mean, I don't see anything

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wrong with a man not wanting to 
have sex. 

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It's just like when a woman is 
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Leave me the fuck alone. 
And if she's not going to listen

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and it's making you 
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away. 
It's fair, right? 

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You can't, You can't. 
But it's very surprising to see 

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that a man will miss such an 
opportunity because having told 

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that you men don't miss an 
opportunity to bang someone. 

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So I'm sure, but I don't know 
how old you are anyway. 

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So let me assume that you're 
young. 

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You're pretty young. 
That's why she says she's 21. 

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You said the same age range. 
So I'm, I'm thinking you're 2223

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or maybe just 21 too. 
And so that's why you're saying 

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that grow a little. 
It's such an opportunity. 

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When it comes, you run towards 
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I'm not saying no men like that 
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have conversations with a few 
and they keep saying that men 

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will never skip an opportunity 
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So I'm kind of shocked here. 
But anyway, you can decline sex 

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from a woman. 
Every man in this world or every

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human being in this world has 
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the like the apparatus. 
If you don't feel like having 

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the sex, don't have it. 
Don't already. 

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What you're doing is 
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You are singing. 
So if you are not in the mood, 

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don't let anybody force you to 
do it, period. 

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OK yes dear Ekia let me go 
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I'm 27 years old. 
My friend had an ex-girlfriend 

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which he broke up with her 
because her uncle was not in 

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agreement with her relationship.
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He asked me to try to talk to 
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she refused. 
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up on the girl but she seems to 
always call me late in the night

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so check up on me. 
We mostly talk for hours and I 

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think I'm catching feelings for 
her. 

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I've already opened up to her 
but no answer yet. 

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Also I've told my friend on the 
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talking I don't think he's 
happy. 

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Please what do you guys think I 
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I'm really confused. 
Let me tell you something Mia. 

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Frankly speaking, I have always 
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like that can just happen, 
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But at the end of the day, too, 
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life. 
Last time I said there are 

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certain principles in life. 
For example, there's broke hood.

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There's this thing where they 
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someone. 
I think I know somebody. 

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I think AFRAC Omaha. 
I saw on her snap that she 

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posted that I am never going to 
be attracted to somebody that my

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friend has liked before. 
My friend has dated before, a 

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sneaky link, a friends with 
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she mentioned. 
Some people have strict codes 

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not to be doing that. 
If you don't have it, that is 

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you. 
And you can't choose to be with 

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anyone because maybe she's your 
soul mates. 

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But just because your friend has
been able to date her before and

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maybe your friends still have 
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you are going to respect that 
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But if you don't have that 
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You get it. 
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others don't. 
So if you have it, fine. 

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If you are going to end up 
feeling bad, then please don't 

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waste your time because it means
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You have the principle. 
OK. 

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Yeah. 
Let's love it. 

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Let's love it. 
Dear Equia, please. 

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I need your help. 
This girl came to my sister's 

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wedding ceremony. 
I took her number and we started

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talking. 
She told me she rejected one of 

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my brother's proposals recently 
just after the program. 

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I like him, the feeling is 
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What should I do? 
Keep me alone? 

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If she rejected it and she likes
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problem there. 
Guys, comment section please. 

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I think this this kind of way is
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Either friends you know you 
like, your friends eggs or your 

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brothers potential You know it's
crazy but come into the comment 

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section. 
Do you think that he should go 

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on with it because of the fact 
that there's never been any kind

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of way between them? 
Your brother tried and the girl 

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outright shuttered down but you 
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Dear Akria, please give me 
anonymous. 

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I've been dating this guy since 
2016. 

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He's so kind and honest to the 
extent that she tells me if a 

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lady has a crush on him or they 
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I honestly didn't care because I
usually say to myself what if 

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I'm not aware? 
I was too scared of losing him 

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although he loves me so much and
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Around May 2023, he travelled to
Canada while I stayed back in 

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Nigeria. 
We didn't stop talking and 

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nothing changed. 
We were so in love. 

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We promised to come back this 
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but there were too many 
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friends. 
They expected him to come and 

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marry me or do introduction but 
then we never planned this 

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because he told me we will be 
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Iliza changed his mind and came 
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I was so happy and I didn't care
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1st. 
To get a Long story short, he 

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couldn't use his phone because 
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Nigeria. 
He did this because he wanted to

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get Canada's permanent 
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During his stay, he had to use 
my phone and I ended up noticing

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that he's using my Nigerian 
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Canada. 
I confronted him and he 

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explained to me that he's not 
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I let go and I focused on 
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Fast forward to when my friend 
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lodged. 
I told you about the issue we 

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had and she advised me to pack 
my stuff and leave him in the 

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hotel. 
That if he truly loves me he 

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would have to come and see my 
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I didn't think twice. 
I went ahead to leave him in the

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hotel, hope that my dad will 
call him and we will settle 

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things. 
But guess what, he went back to 

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Canada without coming to my 
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I became very pissed and angry 
thinking he disrespected my dad.

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So after a few weeks he started 
calling to fix things but I was 

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too angry to reason with him. 
I sorted him, I said really 

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hurtful things to him and it 
took me two months to realise I 

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acted out of proportion because 
he came to Nigeria because of 

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me. 
He took a risk because the 

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immigration must not know he 
went to Nigeria. 

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Now I'm losing myself because 
since we got talking, he won't 

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stop saying I hate him with my 
words and actions. 

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He claims to have risked a lot. 
He claims to have risked a lot 

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for me. 
I love him so much that I can't 

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let go. 
I was too angry to realise and I

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waited so long to see him and 
yet I love him so much that I 

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can't Let's go. 
I was too angry to realize I 

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waited so long to see him and 
yet I fucked up. 

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I don't know if he will forgive 
me. 

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I need your opinion. 
And so the the best thing you 

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can really do is to apologize. 
Consistently apologize. 

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But do you think that he will 
come down and at the end of the 

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day marry him? 
That it won't be a waste of time

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That you go through all this 
emotional relaquista and in a 

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few years to come you'll hear 
that he's getting married to 1 

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Canadian girl. 
You need to get that clarity 

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too, because if you don't, you 
will get back together with them

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all happy about the lovey dovey 
thing that is going on. 

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And then you know your your 
family will still give you the 

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expectations again. 
And then this conversation will 

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start all over again. 
Yeah, so you need to clear that 

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one too. 
He's making me understand that 

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this is the kind of pressure 
that you're dealing with. 

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And so if he needs to make any 
commitments to you, he should at

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least speak to your family and 
let them know that he's ready to

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be committed to you. 
He just needs some time. 

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Do you get it? 
Don't follow just your emotions 

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because every angle that 
everybody's talking about is 

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possible. 
The fact that he could be with 

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somebody else in in Canada, the 
fact that he will not come and 

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marry where you will sit there 
and wait for him and he will 

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never come. 
That's who is there. 

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That's love it. 
That's love it. 

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Dear Ekia, I hope you're doing 
good. 

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Please, I want to share my story
with you and please can you 

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share it to your audience. 
I'm dating this girl since 2023 

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till date we've had some issues 
along the line but we're able to

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sort it out. 
My main issue is I don't have 

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access to her phone yet she has 
access to mine. 

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Anytime she asks for mine I give
it to her on spot but when it's 

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a tend to do same she doesn't 
allow me to go through her 

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phone. 
I'm having a strong feeling that

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for the past two weeks and 
there's something fishy but 

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don't know what it is. 
Please, I need your opinion 

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because I'm thinking of taking 
the phone while she is WhatsApp 

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by surprise to see what's So 
watch her WhatsApp by surprise 

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to see what she's been hiding 
from me. 

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Ho if I don't have anything to 
hide from my man, my phone 

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should be accessible. 
But there's a bat here. 

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My man has the way to have my 
password. 

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But you can't just up and go 
into my phone. 

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You need to let me know. 
You can sit in the comment 

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section and say, but what if I 
tell you that I'll go to your 

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phone and delete the things? 
I don't know how to convince you

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that there's nothing there. 
And I don't know how to convince

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you for you to understand that I
would want that respect because 

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I can't just up and take your 
phone because I have your 

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password. 
I will come to him like babes. 

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I've been feeling a bit, you 
know, insecure these days. 

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Can't go through that phone. 
I'm thinking there's something. 

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Yeah, don't just start 
defending. 

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I was like, no, just let me, let
me. 

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Let me when you call when I'm in
bra right, That is the but I 

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would want to know. 
It doesn't mean that because I'm

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telling you, let me know I am 
going to hide something. 

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I'm going to did something or 
anything. 

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What I'm just trying to say at 
the end of the day is that 

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there's something wrong with 
your girlfriend's concept. 

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If she has access to your phone,
then you should have access to 

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yes, that's all period. 
Yes, that's all. 

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Dear Ekia, I'm about to enter 
into the university. 

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I met this guy in SHS 2 and 
we've dated for the past five 

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years now. 
Everything was going on smoothly

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until a job he used to work 
suspended him. 

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He was in the house for the past
four months without work. 

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I helped him, advised him, 
motivated him until I talked to 

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my cousin about the situation. 
After finding him a job, I found

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out he was cheating on me with 
one girl. 

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I confronted him and he begged 
me OK. 

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I forgave him and now he's 
telling me he needs some space 

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and he told me he don't have a 
heart to love anyone again. 

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I love this boy between God and 
man. 

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Please share your opinion. 
If he doesn't love you, let him 

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go. 
Forget about the job you gave 

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him. 
Forget about the connection did 

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for him. 
Letting this see it is better 

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the person tells you that I 
don't love you than to linger 

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around you. 
And then you find out that the 

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person is probably going to in a
long term be with someone else 

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and you have been there hoping 
that maybe he will even pop the 

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will you marry me question. 
OK save yourself just let him 

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go. 
Sometimes they are just not 

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worth it. 
See yourself as oh you aim his 

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life for a reason, you just came
to be of help to him and that's 

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what it says. 
OK Dear Ikhya, my girlfriend and

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I have been dating for almost 4 
years now with one child of two 

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years. 
I spent almost 400 to 500 cities

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on them every week. 
I have no right to voice out any

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time things go the way I don't 
want it. 

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I don't see any signs of 
cheating on her part as well. 

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She's quick tempered and hates 
to be corrected and so I 

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complain. 
It's either she stops answering 

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my calls or hang up on me. 
I've tried to sacrifice all I 

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can to see her change but things
remain the same. 

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Please I need your opinion. 
Get some adults in it. 

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Get some, you know Donuts. 
You guys have a child together, 

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so maybe gets family involved. 
That's a childish behaviour that

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she's behaving there. 
You have a child and you're 

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behaviour like this. 
Is it like you don't love the 

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man again? 
What's what's your problem? 

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What's your problem? 
When we were children, that was 

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when when your your boyfriend, 
that's something that hurts you.

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You just get angry and you hang 
up. 

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But I think for me at some point
when I'm angry at you, I don't 

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hang up. 
I just keep quiet and hear you 

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talk. 
When you finish, you hang up. 

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When I calm down, I'll call you 
and tell you my mind too. 

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So, and one thing is people that
don't are not affirmed to 

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accountability. 
That's a big problem. 

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You will need to have a say in 
the relationship. 

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You in fact, you are the man of 
the house, so you need to have a

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say. 
Anyway, that's what I think. 

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Thank you for watching. 
I'll see you in the next 

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episode. 
Don't forget to subscribe. 

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As I said earlier, my name is 
Anneke Adif. 

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I appreciate, OK, I feel like a 
lot of people need to see this 

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podcast or this session. 
They need to see this 

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conversation because this is 
real life. 

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People need this and they need 
answers and maybe there are a 

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few answers in the comment 
section that they need and they 

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don't know yet. 
So please do them some good and 

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share for them. 
Follow me on all other platforms

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at the POV and podcast. 
There does POV on Snapchat, the 

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POV podcast on TikTok and on 
Instagram and also have a 

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personal platform called Vibe to
the career. 

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That's where I do my lifestyle. 
Get ready with me and all that. 

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So you can also follow me there.
Now you want to send your story 

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I'm on. 
I'm not having conversations to 

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build a website that we can send
the stories directly to. 

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But since that is not ready, 
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exclusively send it to the POV 
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find it on the platform. 
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you in the next episode. 
Bye.