It's very surprising to see that a man will miss such an
opportunity because I've been told that you men don't miss an
opportunity to bang someone. There's this thing where they
say never, ever, ever date someone.
I think I know somebody. I think AFRAC Omaha, I saw on
his snap that she posted that I am never going to be attracted
to somebody that my friend has liked before.
My friend has dated before a sneaky link, a friends with
benefits and other things that she mentioned.
Some people have strict codes not to be doing that.
If I don't have anything to hide from my man, my phone should be
accessible. But hi guys, let's read some
confessions, should we? Yes, let's do that.
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And so let's get into the first story of the episode.
Let's love it. Let's love it.
Yeah, Ikhya, my name is Cody. I saw this girl on Facebook
January 5th, 2025. I entered Adm on Facebook and I
tried to get her contact and it was successful.
After that, I asked her about herself, whether she base and
she said Lagos. I was like it's far from where I
stay because I base in Benin and she said yes.
So I asked her how old she is and she says she's 21 that's the
same age range. After talking to her for two
days I toasted her on 7th January 2025 and she said yes
she will be my girlfriend. So since then we started dating
online. I never saw her physically or
I've never seen her physically. So one day at night she chatted
me and said she was horny if I can sex her through chat and I
did. Since then she continuously
asked for sex chat and I did almost four times in two weeks.
She said I should come to Lagos and have sex with her that she
can't sleep anymore. All she's thinking is to have
sex with me and she said even in her dreams she demanded for a
pic of my Dick I did send to him.
I put it in one time view when she say it's the picture.
I can't even rest anymore. She said she wants to come over
to my place so that I can have her.
I haven't tried to ignore her more times.
Sometimes I shout at her so that she could just leave me alone.
It's not working anymore. I do really love that girl.
It's just that sex part. She said I have show her true
love and she thought she was dry until that night.
I make her wet, her body wakes up and she just wants only me.
I told her that I don't have money to come over to Lagos.
She said she will come over to my place at Benin and I'm giving
her excuses. I'm doubting if she really loves
me. All she wants is to have sex
with me and make me her sex toy. I'm scared I'm now regretting
why I sent my Dick pic and sex say through chat.
I asked her how many body counts she has and she said zero.
She's a virgin. I'm tired of the sex part.
And so if you can't deal with it, I mean, I don't see anything
wrong with a man not wanting to have sex.
It's just like when a woman is listening mood to have sex.
Leave me the fuck alone. And if she's not going to listen
and it's making you uncomfortable, you can't walk
away. It's fair, right?
You can't, You can't. But it's very surprising to see
that a man will miss such an opportunity because having told
that you men don't miss an opportunity to bang someone.
So I'm sure, but I don't know how old you are anyway.
So let me assume that you're young.
You're pretty young. That's why she says she's 21.
You said the same age range. So I'm, I'm thinking you're 2223
or maybe just 21 too. And so that's why you're saying
that grow a little. It's such an opportunity.
When it comes, you run towards it.
I'm not saying no men like that or all men are like that, but I
have conversations with a few and they keep saying that men
will never skip an opportunity to sleep with a woman.
So I'm kind of shocked here. But anyway, you can decline sex
from a woman. Every man in this world or every
human being in this world has the right to decline sex from
the like the apparatus. If you don't feel like having
the sex, don't have it. Don't already.
What you're doing is fornication.
You are singing. So if you are not in the mood,
don't let anybody force you to do it, period.
OK yes dear Ekia let me go straight to the point.
I'm 27 years old. My friend had an ex-girlfriend
which he broke up with her because her uncle was not in
agreement with her relationship. It's been 2 years now.
He asked me to try to talk to her to come back with him which
she refused. Fast forward, the guy has given
up on the girl but she seems to always call me late in the night
so check up on me. We mostly talk for hours and I
think I'm catching feelings for her.
I've already opened up to her but no answer yet.
Also I've told my friend on the other hand with the way he's
talking I don't think he's happy.
Please what do you guys think I should do?
I'm really confused. Let me tell you something Mia.
Frankly speaking, I have always been of the notion that things
like that can just happen, right?
But at the end of the day, too, there are certain things in
life. Last time I said there are
certain principles in life. For example, there's broke hood.
There's this thing where they say never ever, ever date
someone. I think I know somebody.
I think AFRAC Omaha. I saw on her snap that she
posted that I am never going to be attracted to somebody that my
friend has liked before. My friend has dated before, a
sneaky link, a friends with benefits and other things that
she mentioned. Some people have strict codes
not to be doing that. If you don't have it, that is
you. And you can't choose to be with
anyone because maybe she's your soul mates.
But just because your friend has been able to date her before and
maybe your friends still have some form of feelings for him,
you are going to respect that and back off.
But if you don't have that principle, that's on you.
You get it. Some people have the principle,
others don't. So if you have it, fine.
If you are going to end up feeling bad, then please don't
waste your time because it means that you can't do it.
You have the principle. OK.
Yeah. Let's love it.
Dear Equia, please.
I need your help. This girl came to my sister's
wedding ceremony. I took her number and we started
talking. She told me she rejected one of
my brother's proposals recently just after the program.
I like him, the feeling is actually mutual.
What should I do? Keep me alone?
If she rejected it and she likes you, I don't think there's a
problem there. Guys, comment section please.
I think this this kind of way is coming in today.
Either friends you know you like, your friends eggs or your
brothers potential You know it's crazy but come into the comment
section. Do you think that he should go
on with it because of the fact that there's never been any kind
of way between them? Your brother tried and the girl
outright shuttered down but you she seemed to be interested in.
Dear Akria, please give me anonymous.
I've been dating this guy since 2016.
He's so kind and honest to the extent that she tells me if a
lady has a crush on him or they got talking.
I honestly didn't care because I usually say to myself what if
I'm not aware? I was too scared of losing him
although he loves me so much and we act like friends sometimes.
Around May 2023, he travelled to Canada while I stayed back in
Nigeria. We didn't stop talking and
nothing changed. We were so in love.
We promised to come back this year January 2025 which he did
but there were too many expectations from family and
friends. They expected him to come and
marry me or do introduction but then we never planned this
because he told me we will be meeting in Ghana.
Iliza changed his mind and came back down to Nigeria.
I was so happy and I didn't care about what anyone has to say at
1st. To get a Long story short, he
couldn't use his phone because he's restricted from coming to
Nigeria. He did this because he wanted to
get Canada's permanent residence.
During his stay, he had to use my phone and I ended up noticing
that he's using my Nigerian number to call call lady in
Canada. I confronted him and he
explained to me that he's not dating here.
I let go and I focused on enjoying his stay.
Fast forward to when my friend came to visit us at the hotel we
lodged. I told you about the issue we
had and she advised me to pack my stuff and leave him in the
hotel. That if he truly loves me he
would have to come and see my family and make it official.
I didn't think twice. I went ahead to leave him in the
hotel, hope that my dad will call him and we will settle
things. But guess what, he went back to
Canada without coming to my place.
I became very pissed and angry thinking he disrespected my dad.
So after a few weeks he started calling to fix things but I was
too angry to reason with him. I sorted him, I said really
hurtful things to him and it took me two months to realise I
acted out of proportion because he came to Nigeria because of
me. He took a risk because the
immigration must not know he went to Nigeria.
Now I'm losing myself because since we got talking, he won't
stop saying I hate him with my words and actions.
He claims to have risked a lot. He claims to have risked a lot
for me. I love him so much that I can't
let go. I was too angry to realise and I
waited so long to see him and yet I love him so much that I
can't Let's go. I was too angry to realize I
waited so long to see him and yet I fucked up.
I don't know if he will forgive me.
I need your opinion. And so the the best thing you
can really do is to apologize. Consistently apologize.
But do you think that he will come down and at the end of the
day marry him? That it won't be a waste of time
That you go through all this emotional relaquista and in a
few years to come you'll hear that he's getting married to 1
Canadian girl. You need to get that clarity
too, because if you don't, you will get back together with them
all happy about the lovey dovey thing that is going on.
And then you know your your family will still give you the
expectations again. And then this conversation will
start all over again. Yeah, so you need to clear that
one too. He's making me understand that
this is the kind of pressure that you're dealing with.
And so if he needs to make any commitments to you, he should at
least speak to your family and let them know that he's ready to
be committed to you. He just needs some time.
Do you get it? Don't follow just your emotions
because every angle that everybody's talking about is
possible. The fact that he could be with
somebody else in in Canada, the fact that he will not come and
marry where you will sit there and wait for him and he will
never come. That's who is there.
That's love it. That's love it.
Dear Ekia, I hope you're doing good.
Please, I want to share my story with you and please can you
share it to your audience. I'm dating this girl since 2023
till date we've had some issues along the line but we're able to
sort it out. My main issue is I don't have
access to her phone yet she has access to mine.
Anytime she asks for mine I give it to her on spot but when it's
a tend to do same she doesn't allow me to go through her
phone. I'm having a strong feeling that
for the past two weeks and there's something fishy but
don't know what it is. Please, I need your opinion
because I'm thinking of taking the phone while she is WhatsApp
by surprise to see what's So watch her WhatsApp by surprise
to see what she's been hiding from me.
Ho if I don't have anything to hide from my man, my phone
should be accessible. But there's a bat here.
My man has the way to have my password.
But you can't just up and go into my phone.
You need to let me know. You can sit in the comment
section and say, but what if I tell you that I'll go to your
phone and delete the things? I don't know how to convince you
that there's nothing there. And I don't know how to convince
you for you to understand that I would want that respect because
I can't just up and take your phone because I have your
password. I will come to him like babes.
I've been feeling a bit, you know, insecure these days.
Can't go through that phone. I'm thinking there's something.
Yeah, don't just start defending.
I was like, no, just let me, let me.
Let me when you call when I'm in bra right, That is the but I
would want to know. It doesn't mean that because I'm
telling you, let me know I am going to hide something.
I'm going to did something or anything.
What I'm just trying to say at the end of the day is that
there's something wrong with your girlfriend's concept.
If she has access to your phone, then you should have access to
yes, that's all period. Yes, that's all.
Dear Ekia, I'm about to enter into the university.
I met this guy in SHS 2 and we've dated for the past five
years now. Everything was going on smoothly
until a job he used to work suspended him.
He was in the house for the past four months without work.
I helped him, advised him, motivated him until I talked to
my cousin about the situation. After finding him a job, I found
out he was cheating on me with one girl.
I confronted him and he begged me OK.
I forgave him and now he's telling me he needs some space
and he told me he don't have a heart to love anyone again.
I love this boy between God and man.
Please share your opinion. If he doesn't love you, let him
go. Forget about the job you gave
him. Forget about the connection did
for him. Letting this see it is better
the person tells you that I don't love you than to linger
around you. And then you find out that the
person is probably going to in a long term be with someone else
and you have been there hoping that maybe he will even pop the
will you marry me question. OK save yourself just let him
go. Sometimes they are just not
worth it. See yourself as oh you aim his
life for a reason, you just came to be of help to him and that's
what it says. OK Dear Ikhya, my girlfriend and
I have been dating for almost 4 years now with one child of two
years. I spent almost 400 to 500 cities
on them every week. I have no right to voice out any
time things go the way I don't want it.
I don't see any signs of cheating on her part as well.
She's quick tempered and hates to be corrected and so I
complain. It's either she stops answering
my calls or hang up on me. I've tried to sacrifice all I
can to see her change but things remain the same.
Please I need your opinion. Get some adults in it.
Get some, you know Donuts. You guys have a child together,
so maybe gets family involved. That's a childish behaviour that
she's behaving there. You have a child and you're
behaviour like this. Is it like you don't love the
man again? What's what's your problem?
What's your problem? When we were children, that was
when when your your boyfriend, that's something that hurts you.
You just get angry and you hang up.
But I think for me at some point when I'm angry at you, I don't
hang up. I just keep quiet and hear you
talk. When you finish, you hang up.
When I calm down, I'll call you and tell you my mind too.
So, and one thing is people that don't are not affirmed to
accountability. That's a big problem.
You will need to have a say in the relationship.
You in fact, you are the man of the house, so you need to have a
say. Anyway, that's what I think.
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