My ex was way out of my league, still don't know how I go here
but man her butt crack was always dirty.
What did your eggs do that made him terrible in bed?
That's the thread I'm going to touch today.
Yeah, that's on period. Don't forget to subscribe, like,
and then share. This is the few of your podcast.
And before I read the messages that you guys sent to me, I'm
definitely going to go through a thread.
And I've already told you what made your ex terribly mad.
And this is what people had to say from ironically ex this one
says my ex was way out of my league.
Still don't know how I go here but man hey butt crack was
always dirty. Hey damn damn for him laugh.
OK OK this I said the hottest woman I ever was with I spent
two nights with and never again. She basically pretended she was
a starfish and didn't move. I mean I attempted a second time
after how weird the first one was and even asked her why she
didn't move and she said she never bothered anyone else
before. Wow so you girls how are you
people doing it? You go and do like this, you go
there, you gotta do like this. Who should do all the way they
play OK, this one said poor hygiene seem my accident pass
the wipe your ass exam. You girls, why you don't clean
your butt? And you see, the unfortunate
thing for me today is that it's men behind the camera.
Like I don't have any girl here. It's just me and plenty men if I
just you can't clear what else? So let's teach you how to do it.
Oh my God, this I'm just doing like they will move on because
lights off always. Yet still would never do a doggy
style because I can't see her face and I might be thinking of
someone else when doing it. OK, that's crazy.
But his fascination with his own cock.
It's big isn't it? I think it's big.
Girls always say it's big. I'm such a nice guy and I'm
clever as well. You wouldn't think someone with
such a big cock would be like that.
Like he would literally break off in the middle of sex to
admire his own genitals and tell me how awesome he was.
Do you know what I'm hearing behind?
Are you gay? Hey, I am.
Yes Calibis. Yes Calibi, no thanks Drive.
No interest in anything adventurous would wouldn't
reciprocate me giving her oral for a significant time by using
her mouth for about 30 seconds. I don't get what you're saying
here. He thought his size was all he
needed. Very dull.
OK, let me end this one here and tell you about something and I
think it's something I may be assuming, but a lot of people
think when it's big or low that's very far working.
Maybe you have raised my hands. You don't know what this waters
can do. Somebody take it what they you
don't know you don't know. But I've heard a lot that guys
with big are a lot arrogance, but they can't work with it.
So don't allow that one be your problem.
Have it use it well and you get good recommendations.
I saw some recently they call him and the meme is like oh God.
OK let me get into the stories that you guys are giving me else
our our free as I forget it. OK this one says that's love it.
That's love it. Hi POV I'm a guy of 24 years and
I have been dating this lady for two years and for the past two
months I noticed she was doing something behind my back.
I had her phone and I saw she has been texting someone else.
I confronted her and she said she did that for fun and she
blocked the guy and two days later I had her phone again and
she was still messaging the same person.
And two days after again I met another girl and the girl treats
me seriously and treats me good and supports me in anything I do
but the previous girl don't do as such.
But I love both of them and I want to settle down with one
POV. Which one should I settle with?
Do you mean do you have a brain because with yourself that you
are bringing this thing? No think about it, you have
first girl that is misbehaving, you want break up.
You won't break up. You are.
I think 2 weeks ago I was having a conversation with Oakley and
then he said something and I think that's what's happening
here. Even when you're with somebody
and you still like your eggs. For men, according to Oakley,
for men, even when they like someone or they like their eggs
and they meet someone else that gives them attention and likes
them, they would never choose one.
So you that you're coming here to ask help me choose one.
You're just asking for formality.
You know them well, that you're going to keep both of them.
I'm not the one to tell you that people change.
You will keep them, You will keep the two of them.
But you come and ask me which one should you keep?
I'm 21 and you may think I'm too young to allow a man to give me
this booking hat but please do not let anyone get to know who I
am OK? I fell in love with him on the
first day on campus when he said do you know that you are
beautiful looking at him in front of me and his soft words.
We became friends. We kept seeing ourselves on
campus until one day he took my number and never texted until
two weeks for our semester to end.
I said yes to him without thinking about it and our first
meet up because I loved him on vacation.
He told me that he'll be busy and I was.
I so decided to go for internship so I can get myself
busy as not knowing he had another woman before he proposed
to me and they are still there. I found out when school reopened
and asked him but as usual he denied it an electoral breakup.
OK. The problem here is that we are
still friends and I can't get over him.
Please do not think I'm a fool, but I still love everything is
what do you want me to do? Why are you friends with your
ex? Why?
You know you still have feelings for the guy, so why are you so
friends with him? Why?
See I don't know like I keep saying this whenever you think
you have feelings for somebody and is not being reciprocated
right? And then it's either you guys
have already booking up or you guys claim you are friends and
you have feelings for each other and it's not going to work out.
Give yourself space because feelings say you see the person
every day you'll suffer more unless you make up your mind
that I'm doing the law of detachment.
I'm breaking up whiles with you or I'm breaking up whiles around
you. I'm trying to detach myself
whiles around you. If you are doing that, good for
you. But if you are staying there
with homes that things will work again, then if it was going to
work, it would have worked before.
That's all I can say. But this one, come on.
He has a girl. Let him be.
People will insult you because she definitely saw that this guy
was not serious. When you realize that he has a
girlfriend, You guys broke up, and that's a good thing.
But the fact that you kept him as a friend, that's going to be
very disastrous. That's going to be disturbing
for you. It's not going to help you move
on, and that's a problem. Do not be friends with him
knowing very well that you have feelings for him.
Don't I need your followers to take on this?
I've been dating this guy since 2015.
Throughout our dating he did not spend on me though I understand
because he's a student just like me.
Even I know he's spending on his other GFS because he had always
worked when he was schooling when we broke up. 2019 because
I'm done with school and move back home and we came back
together. 2022 English OK no we do sense once in a year 'cause
he only comes home once in a year and he's working fully now
since that's 20/22. He has promised to buy me a
phone. He did not buy me the phone up
till this moment. I recently go to his side he's
using 3 phones since he refused to buy me phone.
I studied one the one he is not using like that.
So I took the phone when I was going back.
My UATF is yours. He's fighting with me to return
the phone that he's using the phone to work in the country
he's working. I I even threatened to break up
with him if I return the phone. He said fine.
And it's not even as if he's been giving me money.
The highest he has given me is 20,000 naira.
I need advice if I should return the phone for peace to rain
because I'm thinking he might collect the phone and break up.
My dear, the phone does not belong to you So what you did is
tiffing is stealing. Be cool.
You have stolen your boyfriend's phone.
One thing I can tell you is that in as much as he doesn't owe
you, and I think when it comes to our boyfriends spending on us
or men that we are with spending their money on us, it has become
a problem. It has become something that
even as a young lady, if you speak about the fact that your
boyfriend is not supporting you or is not being nice to you, it
becomes a problem. You say it.
No, you're a go digger. You say it.
No. You like material things, you
know, but I think it's something that you need to look out when
you want to be with somebody. Not that the person needs to do
it for you, but if the person kind enough to be able to be
nice to you, If you're not that during the time you're dating
me, I bet you will never be that when you marry me.
That's not an excuse because if I can be nice to you whilst I'm
dating you, buy gifts for you, take you out, spend time with
you, travel with you with my own money.
If I can do that for you and you tell me that you'll not do it
for me until you marry me, then you don't like me.
And when you marry me, you won't do it for me.
When you promise me something, I know it's a promise and you can
do it. In fact, promise.
When you promise somebody something, you need to actually
fulfill that promise. And if you don't, you become an
unreliable person. Just show people that promise
people no. Or you promise people something
and you don't deliver, you become unreliable.
I can't rely on you. Do you get it?
And So what I think your man is, is that you can't rely on your
man. But he did not give you the
right and the entitlement to take something that did not
belong to you in the relationship.
So, Janet, dear, they will definitely break up with you
because you stole from them. But you've not really lost, have
you? If you think you're not happy
there because he's not treating you well, you've not really
lost. So, yeah, return his phone.
Why? He's not yours.
Note he doesn't spend on me and has and he has the money.
He even tell me it's his fault for inviting me over.
That is how I think he of taking his phone and he said I could
have taken the second one instead.
I told him why can't he tell me why I should drop that and take
this one instead, But I'm thinking he just being stingy
because he promised to buy me the phone by December, which I
don't believe him. Course, that is the first time
she will. That's not the first time you
promise me. Yeah.
So I think the fact that you think you can't rely on him is a
problem, first of all. But stealing the phone was not
the right move. Okay please I need your advice
and your followers advice. I'm from Nigeria and I'm 28
years old and working. I met this girl who is still in
secondary school. She's about to finish her final
year Wasi. Then we discussed and after our
discussion she told me she's a virgin and she's not ready to
have sex until after her exams because of the love I had for
her. I agreed since her exams will
last only one month. So I agreed that we started
dating. Within one month we started
dating. I bought her a new phone and
started giving her cash and taking care of her needs.
Within two months of dating here I have spent a lot of money
which I was doing because of the love I have for her.
But my problem is that she has finished her exams and she has
still refused to allow me to dissipate or have sex with her.
But as she continues asking me for money, money and money and I
want to end a relationship but I feel like I have lost my money,
my time and everything. I have stopped giving her money,
I have stopped giving her money and I'm planning on collecting
the phone I bought for her because the phone is very
expensive. But As for the money I have
spent on her, she should go with it while I break up with her
while I should continue to wait until she's ready to have sex
while I continue spending. All she wants is to is for us to
continue the relationship without sex while I continue
spending. But I want I want to work with
me. The funny part here is that
since I stopped sending her money, I have been able to save
some money for myself. It's over five months now, no
sex. I feel sad.
Girls should be mindful of what they do outside them.
This is the reason why some men are wicked on girls.
And who advised you that the fact that you are spending on
me, I should open my legs for you?
Who told you that? Was the trajectory?
Is that the right word? Safe.
Who gave you men The memo that's giving me money or spending on
me is the keys to my poonani or to a girl's poonani?
Who gave that memo? That is one of the things I have
a problem with unless you guys discuss that I'm spending on you
so that in the end I'm able to have sex with you.
If you guys did not discuss that and there's a relationship
people are having and she told you that I'm not ready to have
sex until I'm done with school. And after school you had a
conversation with her and she says, oh, I still want to have a
sexless relationship. Who said you can't dated because
of that? My dear, this layer brought in
front of me. If it is because of just the sex
and you're living here because of that, then you didn't really
love her. You don't really love her.
You don't want to be with her. You just want to be able to have
sex with her. And how do you think you can
have sex with her? In your head, spending money on
her is what will be the release clause.
But unfortunately for you, this girl giving her money to take
care of her is not a release clause.
If you had told me that she did not allow you sleep with her
while you were doing all these things for her, but she allowed
somebody else to sleep with her, I would have a problem with that
because, yeah, she's cheating on you and that's not nice.
But if you're telling me that you're doing all these things
for her and and the exchange you want is sex, my dear, you don't
like the girl. You just want to be able to have
sex with her. And at this moment, having sex
with her and only having sex, maybe you're not going to be
with her. You won't stay with her.
So if it's your phone, you want to call her, collect it and let
her move on with her life. Really.
This is, this is, this is. And you to you girls out there
that you keep collecting money from men, they want to sleep
with you. That's why they're giving you
the money if it's in your head. I remember it was in October.
I was having a conversation with somebody about something I
needed to do. And I, I had, you know, raised
some parts of the money and all I needed was actually a loan to
be able to, you know, finish up and then pay back.
And then I wasn't asking this person.
I was just having a conversation with the person.
I'm like, yeah, if I could get somebody to give me the loan,
like because that person is a friend.
So I'm like, yeah, if I could get somebody to give me the loan
to sort out this thing, I'll pay the person back.
And it's like in this Ghana, in this world, at this time, nobody
will known you. They would rather want to sleep
with you. And and like, then they should
keep their money. And God being so good, I didn't
have to open my legs for anybody to give me anything.
You see, it's just crazy. Why, my dear, you brought it to
the wrong place. I'm not going to accept the fact
that she didn't have sex with you.
So you're breaking up with a Charlie that's thinking there
for me there in question, Simone.
I mean some of it didn't matter, but spending on me is not a
release clause. That's how we that's how we dear
POV keep me anonymous. I'm a girl of 27 years will be
28 this year. I've been in a relationship with
this guy for almost five years now.
We started, I'm dating and the father did not approve.
He's a former MP. You see these rich people, they
always detect for their children.
His dad wanted him to marry from a particular family.
Though it became a misunderstanding between him and
the father. He encouraged me that things
would be perfectly fine soon. Fast forward in our fourth year
of the relationship, he started treating me unfairly.
Everything changed, All that he told me that he would do
everything for us to be together was now a nightmare to me.
The lady the father wanted him to marry chatted me some months
some time back to offer me a billion of CD so I can stay away
from the guy. You think this is a Nigerian
movie but I loved him even though I was taking care of him
because his dad blocked all his accounts he created for him.
When he came to gun up on all this, I did for him.
I stood for us in hard times with him.
As I'm typing now, I don't know what he's up to.
He doesn't call me anymore, he doesn't chat me again.
I'm tired of waiting for him. It's been a year.
I set my eyes on him. I heard he's having a baby with
another woman, but he hasn't said anything to me.
I want you to advise me on what to do right now, please.
I feel heads are broken. I've lost too much on him.
Thank you. It's been a whole year.
You have not seen your man. You don't know what's going on
in his life and you have heard he's having a chat with somebody
and you're crying. Think about it.
Yes, You see how I said it. I know you've invested in him,
time, money, your emotions. I think about it.
You've dated somebody for years and he switches up on you.
I don't know whether you had a conversation with him about the
switch up. I don't know if you did
something to him. You have a conversation with him
to know what happened. If you haven't and he hasn't
tried to open up to you and he goes to you for one year.
You have heard that is having a child with someone else and you
are crying. Process it.
Process it and you will see that there's no need for you to be
crying. You need to put yourself
together and move on. You need to put your assets
together. When I say your assets, I'm
talking about your mental health.
I'm talking about your physical appearance.
I'm talking about your emotions. These are your assets that
you're wasting on somebody that does not deserve.
You're investing it somewhere that it doesn't need to be
invested. You've already done that
investment and it has gone bad. Collect the little you can of
your emotions, your mental health, your physical look,
whatever it is, put it together, reinvest it in yourself and see
the results. OK, Yeah, that's what I'm going
to say. And that's why I'm going to end
this episode. Yeah, my studio time is up.
People are coming to shoot, and so I want to leave.
Thank you for watching this episode.
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