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My ex was way out of my league, 
still don't know how I go here 

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but man her butt crack was 
always dirty. 

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What did your eggs do that made 
him terrible in bed? 

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That's the thread I'm going to 
touch today. 

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Yeah, that's on period. 
Don't forget to subscribe, like,

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and then share. 
This is the few of your podcast.

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And before I read the messages 
that you guys sent to me, I'm 

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definitely going to go through a
thread. 

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And I've already told you what 
made your ex terribly mad. 

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And this is what people had to 
say from ironically ex this one 

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says my ex was way out of my 
league. 

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Still don't know how I go here 
but man hey butt crack was 

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always dirty. 
Hey damn damn for him laugh. 

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OK OK this I said the hottest 
woman I ever was with I spent 

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two nights with and never again.
She basically pretended she was 

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a starfish and didn't move. 
I mean I attempted a second time

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after how weird the first one 
was and even asked her why she 

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didn't move and she said she 
never bothered anyone else 

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before. 
Wow so you girls how are you 

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people doing it? 
You go and do like this, you go 

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there, you gotta do like this. 
Who should do all the way they 

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play OK, this one said poor 
hygiene seem my accident pass 

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the wipe your ass exam. 
You girls, why you don't clean 

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your butt? 
And you see, the unfortunate 

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thing for me today is that it's 
men behind the camera. 

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Like I don't have any girl here.
It's just me and plenty men if I

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just you can't clear what else? 
So let's teach you how to do it.

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Oh my God, this I'm just doing 
like they will move on because 

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lights off always. 
Yet still would never do a doggy

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style because I can't see her 
face and I might be thinking of 

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someone else when doing it. 
OK, that's crazy. 

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But his fascination with his own
cock. 

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It's big isn't it? 
I think it's big. 

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Girls always say it's big. 
I'm such a nice guy and I'm 

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clever as well. 
You wouldn't think someone with 

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such a big cock would be like 
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Like he would literally break 
off in the middle of sex to 

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admire his own genitals and tell
me how awesome he was. 

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Do you know what I'm hearing 
behind? 

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Are you gay? 
Hey, I am. 

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Yes Calibis. 
Yes Calibi, no thanks Drive. 

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No interest in anything 
adventurous would wouldn't 

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reciprocate me giving her oral 
for a significant time by using 

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her mouth for about 30 seconds. 
I don't get what you're saying 

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here. 
He thought his size was all he 

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needed. 
Very dull. 

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OK, let me end this one here and
tell you about something and I 

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think it's something I may be 
assuming, but a lot of people 

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think when it's big or low 
that's very far working. 

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Maybe you have raised my hands. 
You don't know what this waters 

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can do. 
Somebody take it what they you 

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don't know you don't know. 
But I've heard a lot that guys 

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with big are a lot arrogance, 
but they can't work with it. 

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So don't allow that one be your 
problem. 

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Have it use it well and you get 
good recommendations. 

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I saw some recently they call 
him and the meme is like oh God.

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OK let me get into the stories 
that you guys are giving me else

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our our free as I forget it. 
OK this one says that's love it.

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That's love it. 
Hi POV I'm a guy of 24 years and

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I have been dating this lady for
two years and for the past two 

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months I noticed she was doing 
something behind my back. 

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I had her phone and I saw she 
has been texting someone else. 

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I confronted her and she said 
she did that for fun and she 

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blocked the guy and two days 
later I had her phone again and 

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she was still messaging the same
person. 

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And two days after again I met 
another girl and the girl treats

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me seriously and treats me good 
and supports me in anything I do

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but the previous girl don't do 
as such. 

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But I love both of them and I 
want to settle down with one 

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POV. 
Which one should I settle with? 

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Do you mean do you have a brain 
because with yourself that you 

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are bringing this thing? 
No think about it, you have 

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first girl that is misbehaving, 
you want break up. 

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You won't break up. 
You are. 

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I think 2 weeks ago I was having
a conversation with Oakley and 

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then he said something and I 
think that's what's happening 

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here. 
Even when you're with somebody 

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and you still like your eggs. 
For men, according to Oakley, 

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for men, even when they like 
someone or they like their eggs 

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and they meet someone else that 
gives them attention and likes 

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them, they would never choose 
one. 

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So you that you're coming here 
to ask help me choose one. 

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You're just asking for 
formality. 

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You know them well, that you're 
going to keep both of them. 

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I'm not the one to tell you that
people change. 

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You will keep them, You will 
keep the two of them. 

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But you come and ask me which 
one should you keep? 

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I'm 21 and you may think I'm too
young to allow a man to give me 

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this booking hat but please do 
not let anyone get to know who I

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am OK? 
I fell in love with him on the 

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first day on campus when he said
do you know that you are 

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beautiful looking at him in 
front of me and his soft words. 

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We became friends. 
We kept seeing ourselves on 

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campus until one day he took my 
number and never texted until 

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two weeks for our semester to 
end. 

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I said yes to him without 
thinking about it and our first 

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meet up because I loved him on 
vacation. 

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He told me that he'll be busy 
and I was. 

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I so decided to go for 
internship so I can get myself 

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busy as not knowing he had 
another woman before he proposed

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to me and they are still there. 
I found out when school reopened

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and asked him but as usual he 
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OK. 
The problem here is that we are 

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still friends and I can't get 
over him. 

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Please do not think I'm a fool, 
but I still love everything is 

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what do you want me to do? 
Why are you friends with your 

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ex? 
Why? 

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You know you still have feelings
for the guy, so why are you so 

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friends with him? 
Why? 

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See I don't know like I keep 
saying this whenever you think 

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you have feelings for somebody 
and is not being reciprocated 

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right? 
And then it's either you guys 

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have already booking up or you 
guys claim you are friends and 

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you have feelings for each other
and it's not going to work out. 

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Give yourself space because 
feelings say you see the person 

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every day you'll suffer more 
unless you make up your mind 

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that I'm doing the law of 
detachment. 

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I'm breaking up whiles with you 
or I'm breaking up whiles around

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you. 
I'm trying to detach myself 

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whiles around you. 
If you are doing that, good for 

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you. 
But if you are staying there 

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with homes that things will work
again, then if it was going to 

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work, it would have worked 
before. 

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That's all I can say. 
But this one, come on. 

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He has a girl. 
Let him be. 

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People will insult you because 
she definitely saw that this guy

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was not serious. 
When you realize that he has a 

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girlfriend, You guys broke up, 
and that's a good thing. 

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But the fact that you kept him 
as a friend, that's going to be 

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very disastrous. 
That's going to be disturbing 

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for you. 
It's not going to help you move 

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on, and that's a problem. 
Do not be friends with him 

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knowing very well that you have 
feelings for him. 

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Don't I need your followers to 
take on this? 

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I've been dating this guy since 
2015. 

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Throughout our dating he did not
spend on me though I understand 

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because he's a student just like
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Even I know he's spending on his
other GFS because he had always 

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worked when he was schooling 
when we broke up. 2019 because 

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I'm done with school and move 
back home and we came back 

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together. 2022 English OK no we 
do sense once in a year 'cause 

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he only comes home once in a 
year and he's working fully now 

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since that's 20/22. 
He has promised to buy me a 

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phone. 
He did not buy me the phone up 

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till this moment. 
I recently go to his side he's 

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using 3 phones since he refused 
to buy me phone. 

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I studied one the one he is not 
using like that. 

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So I took the phone when I was 
going back. 

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My UATF is yours. 
He's fighting with me to return 

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the phone that he's using the 
phone to work in the country 

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he's working. 
I I even threatened to break up 

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with him if I return the phone. 
He said fine. 

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And it's not even as if he's 
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The highest he has given me is 
20,000 naira. 

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I need advice if I should return
the phone for peace to rain 

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because I'm thinking he might 
collect the phone and break up. 

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My dear, the phone does not 
belong to you So what you did is

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tiffing is stealing. 
Be cool. 

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You have stolen your boyfriend's
phone. 

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One thing I can tell you is that
in as much as he doesn't owe 

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you, and I think when it comes 
to our boyfriends spending on us

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or men that we are with spending
their money on us, it has become

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a problem. 
It has become something that 

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even as a young lady, if you 
speak about the fact that your 

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boyfriend is not supporting you 
or is not being nice to you, it 

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becomes a problem. 
You say it. 

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No, you're a go digger. 
You say it. 

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No. 
You like material things, you 

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know, but I think it's something
that you need to look out when 

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you want to be with somebody. 
Not that the person needs to do 

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it for you, but if the person 
kind enough to be able to be 

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nice to you, If you're not that 
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me, I bet you will never be that
when you marry me. 

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That's not an excuse because if 
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dating you, buy gifts for you, 
take you out, spend time with 

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you, travel with you with my own
money. 

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If I can do that for you and you
tell me that you'll not do it 

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for me until you marry me, then 
you don't like me. 

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And when you marry me, you won't
do it for me. 

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When you promise me something, I
know it's a promise and you can 

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do it. 
In fact, promise. 

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When you promise somebody 
something, you need to actually 

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fulfill that promise. 
And if you don't, you become an 

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unreliable person. 
Just show people that promise 

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people no. 
Or you promise people something 

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and you don't deliver, you 
become unreliable. 

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I can't rely on you. 
Do you get it? 

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And So what I think your man is,
is that you can't rely on your 

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man. 
But he did not give you the 

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right and the entitlement to 
take something that did not 

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belong to you in the 
relationship. 

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So, Janet, dear, they will 
definitely break up with you 

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because you stole from them. 
But you've not really lost, have

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you? 
If you think you're not happy 

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there because he's not treating 
you well, you've not really 

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lost. 
So, yeah, return his phone. 

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Why? 
He's not yours. 

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Note he doesn't spend on me and 
has and he has the money. 

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He even tell me it's his fault 
for inviting me over. 

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That is how I think he of taking
his phone and he said I could 

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have taken the second one 
instead. 

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I told him why can't he tell me 
why I should drop that and take 

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this one instead, But I'm 
thinking he just being stingy 

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because he promised to buy me 
the phone by December, which I 

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don't believe him. 
Course, that is the first time 

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she will. 
That's not the first time you 

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promise me. 
Yeah. 

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So I think the fact that you 
think you can't rely on him is a

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problem, first of all. 
But stealing the phone was not 

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the right move. 
Okay please I need your advice 

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and your followers advice. 
I'm from Nigeria and I'm 28 

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years old and working. 
I met this girl who is still in 

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secondary school. 
She's about to finish her final 

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year Wasi. 
Then we discussed and after our 

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discussion she told me she's a 
virgin and she's not ready to 

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have sex until after her exams 
because of the love I had for 

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her. 
I agreed since her exams will 

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last only one month. 
So I agreed that we started 

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dating. 
Within one month we started 

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dating. 
I bought her a new phone and 

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started giving her cash and 
taking care of her needs. 

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Within two months of dating here
I have spent a lot of money 

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which I was doing because of the
love I have for her. 

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But my problem is that she has 
finished her exams and she has 

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still refused to allow me to 
dissipate or have sex with her. 

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But as she continues asking me 
for money, money and money and I

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want to end a relationship but I
feel like I have lost my money, 

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my time and everything. 
I have stopped giving her money,

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I have stopped giving her money 
and I'm planning on collecting 

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the phone I bought for her 
because the phone is very 

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expensive. 
But As for the money I have 

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spent on her, she should go with
it while I break up with her 

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while I should continue to wait 
until she's ready to have sex 

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while I continue spending. 
All she wants is to is for us to

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continue the relationship 
without sex while I continue 

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spending. 
But I want I want to work with 

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me. 
The funny part here is that 

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since I stopped sending her 
money, I have been able to save 

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some money for myself. 
It's over five months now, no 

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sex. 
I feel sad. 

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Girls should be mindful of what 
they do outside them. 

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This is the reason why some men 
are wicked on girls. 

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And who advised you that the 
fact that you are spending on 

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me, I should open my legs for 
you? 

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Who told you that? 
Was the trajectory? 

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Is that the right word? 
Safe. 

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Who gave you men The memo that's
giving me money or spending on 

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me is the keys to my poonani or 
to a girl's poonani? 

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Who gave that memo? 
That is one of the things I have

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a problem with unless you guys 
discuss that I'm spending on you

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so that in the end I'm able to 
have sex with you. 

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If you guys did not discuss that
and there's a relationship 

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people are having and she told 
you that I'm not ready to have 

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sex until I'm done with school. 
And after school you had a 

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conversation with her and she 
says, oh, I still want to have a

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sexless relationship. 
Who said you can't dated because

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of that? 
My dear, this layer brought in 

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front of me. 
If it is because of just the sex

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and you're living here because 
of that, then you didn't really 

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love her. 
You don't really love her. 

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You don't want to be with her. 
You just want to be able to have

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sex with her. 
And how do you think you can 

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have sex with her? 
In your head, spending money on 

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her is what will be the release 
clause. 

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But unfortunately for you, this 
girl giving her money to take 

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care of her is not a release 
clause. 

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If you had told me that she did 
not allow you sleep with her 

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while you were doing all these 
things for her, but she allowed 

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somebody else to sleep with her,
I would have a problem with that

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because, yeah, she's cheating on
you and that's not nice. 

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But if you're telling me that 
you're doing all these things 

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for her and and the exchange you
want is sex, my dear, you don't 

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like the girl. 
You just want to be able to have

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sex with her. 
And at this moment, having sex 

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with her and only having sex, 
maybe you're not going to be 

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with her. 
You won't stay with her. 

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So if it's your phone, you want 
to call her, collect it and let 

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her move on with her life. 
Really. 

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This is, this is, this is. 
And you to you girls out there 

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that you keep collecting money 
from men, they want to sleep 

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with you. 
That's why they're giving you 

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the money if it's in your head. 
I remember it was in October. 

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I was having a conversation with
somebody about something I 

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needed to do. 
And I, I had, you know, raised 

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some parts of the money and all 
I needed was actually a loan to 

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be able to, you know, finish up 
and then pay back. 

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And then I wasn't asking this 
person. 

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I was just having a conversation
with the person. 

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I'm like, yeah, if I could get 
somebody to give me the loan, 

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like because that person is a 
friend. 

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So I'm like, yeah, if I could 
get somebody to give me the loan

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to sort out this thing, I'll pay
the person back. 

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And it's like in this Ghana, in 
this world, at this time, nobody

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will known you. 
They would rather want to sleep 

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with you. 
And and like, then they should 

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keep their money. 
And God being so good, I didn't 

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have to open my legs for anybody
to give me anything. 

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You see, it's just crazy. 
Why, my dear, you brought it to 

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the wrong place. 
I'm not going to accept the fact

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that she didn't have sex with 
you. 

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So you're breaking up with a 
Charlie that's thinking there 

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for me there in question, 
Simone. 

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I mean some of it didn't matter,
but spending on me is not a 

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release clause. 
That's how we that's how we dear

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POV keep me anonymous. 
I'm a girl of 27 years will be 

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28 this year. 
I've been in a relationship with

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this guy for almost five years 
now. 

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We started, I'm dating and the 
father did not approve. 

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He's a former MP. 
You see these rich people, they 

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always detect for their 
children. 

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His dad wanted him to marry from
a particular family. 

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Though it became a 
misunderstanding between him and

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the father. 
He encouraged me that things 

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would be perfectly fine soon. 
Fast forward in our fourth year 

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of the relationship, he started 
treating me unfairly. 

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Everything changed, All that he 
told me that he would do 

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everything for us to be together
was now a nightmare to me. 

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The lady the father wanted him 
to marry chatted me some months 

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some time back to offer me a 
billion of CD so I can stay away

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from the guy. 
You think this is a Nigerian 

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movie but I loved him even 
though I was taking care of him 

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because his dad blocked all his 
accounts he created for him. 

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When he came to gun up on all 
this, I did for him. 

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I stood for us in hard times 
with him. 

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As I'm typing now, I don't know 
what he's up to. 

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He doesn't call me anymore, he 
doesn't chat me again. 

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I'm tired of waiting for him. 
It's been a year. 

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I set my eyes on him. 
I heard he's having a baby with 

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another woman, but he hasn't 
said anything to me. 

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I want you to advise me on what 
to do right now, please. 

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I feel heads are broken. 
I've lost too much on him. 

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Thank you. 
It's been a whole year. 

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You have not seen your man. 
You don't know what's going on 

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in his life and you have heard 
he's having a chat with somebody

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and you're crying. 
Think about it. 

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Yes, You see how I said it. 
I know you've invested in him, 

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time, money, your emotions. 
I think about it. 

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You've dated somebody for years 
and he switches up on you. 

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I don't know whether you had a 
conversation with him about the 

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switch up. 
I don't know if you did 

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something to him. 
You have a conversation with him

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to know what happened. 
If you haven't and he hasn't 

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tried to open up to you and he 
goes to you for one year. 

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You have heard that is having a 
child with someone else and you 

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are crying. 
Process it. 

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Process it and you will see that
there's no need for you to be 

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crying. 
You need to put yourself 

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together and move on. 
You need to put your assets 

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together. 
When I say your assets, I'm 

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talking about your mental 
health. 

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I'm talking about your physical 
appearance. 

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I'm talking about your emotions.
These are your assets that 

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you're wasting on somebody that 
does not deserve. 

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You're investing it somewhere 
that it doesn't need to be 

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invested. 
You've already done that 

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investment and it has gone bad. 
Collect the little you can of 

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your emotions, your mental 
health, your physical look, 

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whatever it is, put it together,
reinvest it in yourself and see 

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the results. 
OK, Yeah, that's what I'm going 

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to say. 
And that's why I'm going to end 

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this episode. 
Yeah, my studio time is up. 

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People are coming to shoot, and 
so I want to leave. 

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Thank you for watching this 
episode. 

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Don't forget to subscribe, like,
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I'm pretty sure by the time I 
post this, the giveaway will 

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still be going on. 
And so in the comments section, 

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share it and then let your 
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I will count. 
Yeah, 'cause this giveaway, I'm 

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going to pick three winners. 
I will count and out of those 

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three winners, all the three 
will get money, but one will get

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money and be a guest on the POV.
And so subscribe, like, share, 

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be able to win as part of the 
giveaways and come sit down with

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me. 
Let's have a conversation. 

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My name is Anika Depa and this 
has been the POV podcast. 

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I'll see you in the next 
episode. 

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And if you're a brand out there,
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