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Well, if we haven't met, my name
is Cole. 

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I am one of the pastors here at 
Frontier Church. 

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If if there is one thing that we
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seasons have come our way and 
left, it's that for everybody in

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this building, Christmas feels, 
I guess it feels different. 

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For some of us, they are sweet 
memories. 

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For others of us, they're 
painful memories. 

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And so one thing that we wanted 
to do this year for the Advent 

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season was, as each week rolled 
in, was we wanted to have one of

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the pastors read a pastoral 
letter over all of you. 

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And so you've got me this 
morning. 

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And so, as I've been praying and
thinking about you guys this 

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week and writing a letter, 
here's what the Lord brought to 

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mind. 
Dear Church, I'm praying that 

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this year, the Advent season 
leaves a real and profound mark 

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on your walk with Jesus. 
Personally, for the last few 

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years, this season has been one 
of the richest and most 

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enjoyable seasons for the Dyke 
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One reason the the primary 
reason is because my wife Chloe 

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is awesome and she does an 
amazing job helping our family 

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just worship together and 
putting together some fun and 

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enjoyable practices into place 
that really light up the eyes of

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our kids. 
We light candles together, We 

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sing advent hymns together. 
Mostly just go tell it on the 

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mountain because the kids like 
that and they like to sing it in

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a regular version and then a 
whisper version and then a silly

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voice version. 
So we do lots of go tell it on 

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the mountain at the Nike 
household this time of year. 

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We do advent reading calendars 
together, we ring an advent 

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bell, all the cheesy stuff. 
And of course we do all these 

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things imperfectly. 
But for us, it's really become a

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season that I look forward to 
every year, which is kind of 

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strange because when we launched
Frontier Church all the way back

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in 2016, we actually didn't 
practice the season of Advent 

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together as a local church for 
the first year. 

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A lot of that was because we had
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challenge of just surviving each
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And so Christmas Sunday, that 
first year really kind of came 

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around as a surprise to us. 
But in our second year of 

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Frontier Church in 2017, we can 
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And so we mapped out our first 
Advent season together. 

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And as a young church, we 
weren't exactly sure how well a 

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historic practice of the church 
would be received. 

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Like, what the heck does the 
word Advent even mean? 

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Right now? 
We're gathering at a a jazz club

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in downtown Des Moines. 
We didn't know how Advent was 

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going to be received that first 
year, but nevertheless, we 

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walked through the story of 
Jesus's first and second 

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Cummings. 
We lit candles together, we sang

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Christmas hymns together, and 
after it was all said and done, 

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we were amazed at how much our 
church loved it. 

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Particularly, we were surprised 
by how much struggling young 

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families and single adults were 
helped by the structure of the 

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season and how that structure 
lent itself to developing 

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meaningful, meaningful 
traditions. 

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And so, as one of your pastors, 
that's my prayer for you this 

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season, that whether you're 
single, dating, married, married

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with kids, married without kids,
that this season becomes a 

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highlight that you look forward 
to every year as it points you 

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back to the biblical story of 
the coming of Jesus. 

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God made flesh. 
So I pray that for those who are

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living under the thumb of 
depression and unrelenting 

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sorrow that God would let you 
see light this Advent season, 

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that you would remember that you
worship a God who doesn't always

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lift the fog of depression. 
But he did take on flesh and 

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participate in human sadness 
with you. 

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So may you not let the 
depression give way to cynicism 

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and may you guard your heart 
against the turning up of your 

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lip at every jolly thing this 
Christmas season. 

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Don't give an inch to cynicism 
this year. 

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Do not permit the Christmas 
lights to drag you down. 

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Secondly, for those of you who 
have children, I pray that this 

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season is filled with memories, 
this Advent season that are 

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meaningful. 
Personally, when I look back at 

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my own life and my own 35 years 
of memories on spool before me, 

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I find that the Christmas season
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asymmetrically large amount of 
my memories. 

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It's probably true for you too. 
So as parents know this, know 

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this, and take care to leverage 
this season to tell the story of

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Jesus to your kids. 
Tell it while having fun. 

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Light some candles, eat some 
sweets, Establish traditions, 

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sing loudly, laughed often 
because Christ has already won. 

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And it might sound silly to do 
all of this in this present 

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moment, but who knows what 
memories might come flooding 

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back to your kids 16 years from 
now in college when they see a 

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lit candle in a dorm room. 
So plant the seeds now. 

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And lastly, I pray that for 
those of you who are at peace 

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and are filled with joy, I pray 
that this season you would, in 

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the words of GK Chesterton, take
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sabotage against the powers of 
cynicism. 

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Because while the world is 
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sorrow, you, because of Jesus, 
you are the light of the world. 

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Be that be that this year be the
light of the world, invite 

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people over to your dinner 
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Know that the darkness trembles 
at the sound of an out of tune 

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Christian singing loudly. 
Drink the eggnog to the very 

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bottom of the glass to spite the
devil. 

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Defy the powers and 
principalities by wearing the 

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Christmas sweater without 
embarrassment. 

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String the Christmas lights in 
the front lawn without blushing.

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And though you be weary, though 
you be wary. 

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By the power of Christ Jesus 
made flesh the wary world. 

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It does rejoice because the 
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but it will rejoice forever. 
So now with that, I love you 

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guys. 
Heavenly Father, I pray that you

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would turn our eyes to Jesus 
this morning, to his first 

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coming that happened 2000 years 
ago, and also to his second 

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coming that is ever present and 
before us. 

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And so we pray for Stephen this 
morning as he unpacks your word 

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for us. 
May it build us up, Bless us, 

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and may it be one of the very 
many ways that you point us to 

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Jesus this morning. 
Give us. 

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Hope. 
And give us peace and don't let 

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this thing catch on fire. 
In the name of Jesus, Amen. 

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That's a good prayer because we 
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fire. 
It's. 

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I don't know if you can see 
this, it looks quite flammable. 

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So I mean, Darren, you're 
probably on catch duty if 

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something lights. 
Well, good morning. 

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My name is Steven. 
I'm one of the pastors here and 

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there's probably like 10 of you 
in the room that have actually 

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heard me preach before, so 
excited to be up here, got my 

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notes. 
The real story of why I'm 

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preaching this morning is 
because every Sunday at about 

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9:30, I walk in or, you know, we
come in and we do our little 

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huddle and Kale asks me if I'm 
going to preach that day. 

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And for, I don't know, three or 
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no, I'm not preaching today, 
Kale, you need to leave me 

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alone. 
Lots and lots of knows. 

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And I just had to get that that 
monkey off my back. 

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I had to get Kale to leave me 
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So that's why I'm up here. 
I'm really excited. 

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And yeah, I don't really have 
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take it all in, because this is 
a rare occasion. 

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So today's reading is from 
Isaiah, chapter 54, nine through

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14. 
If you're able, please stand. 

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And let's kick it off by 
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All right. 
This is like the days of Noah to

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me, as I swore that the waters 
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the earth. 
So I have sworn that I will not 

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be angry with you, and will not 
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For the mountains made apart and
the hills may the hills be 

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removed. 
But my steadfast love shall not 

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depart from you, and my covenant
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says the Lord who has compassion
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O afflicted one storm tossed and
not comforted, behold, I will 

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set your stones in antimony and 
lay your foundations with 

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sapphires. 
I will make your pinnacles of a 

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gate, your gates of carbuncles, 
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stones. 
All your children shall be 

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taught by the Lord, and great 
shall be the peace of your 

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children. 
In righteousness you shall be 

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established. 
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oppression, for you shall not 
fear and from terror, for it 

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shall not come near you. 
You can take a seat. 

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The date was December 22nd, 
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I'm looking for Kylie Collins. 
Is she in here? 

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Well, that's probably good 
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on Nebraska December 22nd, 2011.
Lauren and I are driving to Des 

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Moines from our home in Denver, 
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We've lived in Denver for about 
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We've been married for about 
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At some point in our drive, we 
start discussing our plans for 

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the next week. 
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We've got all this built in, 
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seeing family and all that good 
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So we start discussing our plans
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most of the decisions had 
already been made, been agreed 

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to, But like for the sake of the
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really don't really remember any
of the details of what we 

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decided. 
But let's pretend that I had not

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already agreed to all the 
proposed scheduling. 

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So we're driving through 
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You'd emphasize we're still in 
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And I start asking about our 
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And so we have day one with 
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Little tradition we do with them
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Then we have Christmas Eve with 
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And then on Christmas Day, 
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are driving to Illinois to spend
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Then we're going to drive back 
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and then drive back to Denver, 
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I hate Rd. trips. 
I was scarred when I was a kid 

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because like a good Midwestern 
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ever fly anywhere. 
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So I'd taken Rd. trips to the 
West Coast, we'd taken Rd. trips

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to see some family in the East 
Coast and the South, and so we'd

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done all these massive Rd. 
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And I don't know, I'm old enough
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we didn't have the iPad was not 
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We had. 
I had a Walkman and one of these

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Rd. trips I had a Walkman and I 
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We left all of our CDs at home, 
so we like stopped at a gas 

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station. 
And I I shouldn't say this, my 

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brother got a boys to men CD and
I got an Avril Lavigne CD. 

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And so for a road trip to to San
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either listen to talk radio that
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with my parents or I could 
listen to my Avril CD or my 

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brother's voice to Mensi. 
So I do know all the words to 

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both of those albums like 
without question, even today. 

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Still. 
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Rd. trips were. 
You know, they're, you know, 

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books walking in, whatever it 
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Some people love it. 
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So I still hate Rd. trips. 
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driving, we're driving on like a
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We're driving from Colorado to 
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And then I am surprised to find 
out that in the middle of this 

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road trip, guess what, there's 
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which is so exciting. 
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obviously I tell my wife, my new
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or seven months at that .0. 
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I also told her that we were 
moving Lawrence, very family 

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oriented. 
I told her that we were moving 

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to Denver, Co because I was 
going to do grad school when she

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had already agreed to marry me. 
So we were engaged and I said 

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guess what? 
We're moving to Colorado and 

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which is not cool. 
But she did it surprisingly so. 

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Anyway, I told my new wife, you 
know, new new wish wife told her

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we're moving to Colorado without
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Colorado. 
But so we're on our way back to 

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visit family. 
And I tell her somewhere in 

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Nebraska that actually, I don't 
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Love your family, but I'm not 
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trip. 
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supposed to go to Illinois, I 
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So Lauren, who's driving at the 
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my side of the car and with a 
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pushed me out of the car on the 
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That's not really true. 
She didn't do that. 

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That's probably what she wanted 
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go to Illinois and put on a 
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get together, that she was 
probably going to kill me. 

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So, right. 
Yeah, she don't play. 

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Yeah, she said something like 
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about expectations with family 
and holidays and all that stuff.

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person to blame is Nebraska in 
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But yeah, Nebraska really ruined
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But anyway, this is kind of a 
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conflict that can kind of like 
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right? 
This is just a silly example. 

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Usually there's, I mean, often 
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conflict that springs up around 
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call that the Christmas season. 
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have stories where things like 
this have happened during the 

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Christmas season. 
You have things that you want to

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happen during the season that 
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things that you really, like, 

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never want to happen, that, 
like, always tend to happen 

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right around the Christmas 
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heartache during the Christmas 
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I mean in in the two weeks that 
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my Facebook feed has been filled
with filled with people 

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experience like serious, serious
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I mean it just like keeps 
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if it was because I was looking 
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actually just becoming more 
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the hardest parts of life either
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or, I mean often they're put in 
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during this season as well. 
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with this heartache or just 
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because it's supposed to be the 
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And I grew up with this, this 
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own home as well when I was a 
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bit younger than my daughter 
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seven, My grandfather died like 
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and very suddenly he was young. 
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old, so very young. 
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you know, understand what was 
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know, and stuff like that. 
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details a lot. 
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emotions around the Christmas 
seasons and the like, years 

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after that of my mom and my 
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Like, you know, missing, missing
my grandfather and like this 

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cloud of loss kind of hovering 
over what's supposed to be such 

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a joyous time. 
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Now I really just. 
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I feel like they felt so stuck 
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grieve because they didn't want 
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And I get that intention right, 
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downer on this joyful season. 
But like, hello, your husband 

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died. 
Your your father died. 

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It's it's OK to be upset. 
You don't have to shield 

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everyone from that, but instead 
of seeing the experience of 

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grief, I saw this suppression of
sadness and pretending to be 

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happy because that's what the 
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That's what the Christmas season
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A wise man, I wish he was here. 
A wise man once said that grief 

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is a communion we take 
separately but eat and drink 

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together, as will boards. 
Will boards is great. 

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I've like I. 
Honestly, I when I started 

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writing this sermon I that like 
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It's like 2 books ago. 
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Grief is a community. 
We take separately but eat and 

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drink together. 
And man, if there is anything in

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the world that sucks more than 
cold sweater today, it's that 

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people feel like they have to 
pretend to be happy when they're

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really, really miserable. 
Would you like that one? 

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But but Advent, here we go this 
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We're talking about conflict, 
peace, and how the advent of 

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Jesus shapes and changes how we 
engage with everything. 

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I love Advent. 
Know me. 

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I freaking love Advent. 
I've one, I've kind of alluded 

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to this. 
I have one really good reason 

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why I love Advent. 
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season. 
Now here, I'm not talking about 

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Christmas. 
I'm not talking about Baby 

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Jesus. 
I'm talking about the Christmas 

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season overall. 
In public, even in private, and 

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our city and our homes in the 
world, the Christmas season 

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sucks. 
The Christmas season comes with 

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all this baggage and all this 
pressure, and all this pressure 

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does two things. 
It creates disappointment and it

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creates conflict. 
When I think about peace during 

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the Advent season, I think about
Jesus delivering us from the 

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chaos and conflict of the 
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Advent has everything you're 
looking for in the Christmas 

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season without any of them 
pretending, and without 

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everything pretending that 
everything is perfect. 

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Advent actually tells us that 
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amazing, beautiful. 
God made flesh. 

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It tells us that God has not 
done yet and we're still 

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waiting. 
We're still watching for the 

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Saviour to come again. 
All the pain, all the sadness, 

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all the things that we think we 
need to hide during this season,

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we can embrace those things. 
We can embrace the chaos. 

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We can embrace the conflict 
because we still have have this 

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hope for the second coming of 
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OK, that's kind of my thing 
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I don't need, I don't have 
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that today. 
So let's get back to our main 

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topic, which is conflict and 
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When I said I was talking about 
peace, Spade was like, you got 

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to make sure you bring up. 
Did you say Palestine? 

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Yeah. 
Palestine. 

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So anyway, is anyone here that 
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our world, right? 
Like it's one of those things 

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that has become such a normal 
part of our lives that we, we 

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like, are almost unfazed by it. 
I think if I asked you, when I 

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say the word conflict, if I 
asked everyone in the room, I'd 

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get like 100 different answers 
of what people think of when 

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they think of conflict. 
Because we're going to talk, you

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know, you're going to think of 
things that are local going on 

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in our homes and our churches. 
We're also going to think of 

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things nationally, like Ukraine 
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But we're going to, you're also 
going to think of things like 

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this exciting election cycle 
that's coming up, right? 

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We're going to have so much fun.
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this sermon and I'm writing this
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notification on my phone about 
another surge of COVID that was 

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coming to like, conflict is just
all around us, right? 

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I don't really care what you 
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Whatever. 
But it's just a conflict that 

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we've dealt with, right? 
It's just one of those things. 

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Conflict is everywhere rather 
than locally neighborhoods, 

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homes all around us. 
And I think we can fall into two

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traps when we think about this 
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The first trap is to completely 
dwell on it, let it overtake our

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minds, and let it completely 
bury us in grief and despair. 

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Because honestly, if we let 
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that is very real, occupy our 
minds, it will cause despair, 

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will cause depression. 
It means, you know, anyone like 

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that. 
It might be, I'll skip that 

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line. 
They might be watching Fox News 

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or CNN, like the volume to 100. 
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Like, and I mean I have people 
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I don't know about you. 
I mean, OK, did you know that 

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the average American watches TV 
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Like, that's crazy. 
And just think if that was only 

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news, like, like politically 
charged news, like that may 

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cause a little bit of, you know,
despair, right? 

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It would for me. 

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So the first trap is like 
conflict, just totally overtake 

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your mind. 
Or the second trap is, I think, 

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just as bad. 
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conflict doesn't exist. 
And I think that's a trap we 

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kind of find it ourselves in a 
lot of times during during the 

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Christmas and Advent season. 
So that's to put our head in the

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sand and live as if the world is
all sunshine and roses. 

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And what's weird is that it 
actually may work for a while. 

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It may work seasonally. 
It may work during the Christmas

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season to pretend that 
everything in the world is 

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happy. 
Go lucky and fine. 

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You find some happiness, put a 
smile on your face. 

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But it that smile's going to 
fade. 

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When you come face to face with 
this conflict that lies just 

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under that surface, it's also 
going to cause the people around

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you. 
This is another problem it's 

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going to cause the people around
you, do you feel like they can't

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be authentic and real and 
embrace the the the difficulties

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that are in our world, They're 
not going to feel welcome to do 

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that because you're pretending 
you're being a, you know, 

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everything's all good and they 
may, they may decide to do the 

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same. 
So they may feel compelled to 

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put their heads in the sand for 
a little while, ignore pain, 

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conflict and the heartache that 
is going on in our world right 

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now. 
And that's going to spread, it's

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going to spread around to people
of them too. 

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You know, it's just one of those
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So. 
So how do we avoid these traps 

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when it comes to conflict? 
I think we're going to have 

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another verse. 
It's Isaiah 5410, which is one 

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of our verses. 
Yes, Carl, for the mountains 

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made apart and the hills be 
removed. 

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But my steadfast love shall not 
depart from you, and my covenant

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of peace shall not be removed, 
says the Lord who has compassion

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on you. 
So how do we deal with this 

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conflict in our lives? 
And that's by finding rest in 

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the assurance unity with Jesus 
Christ that Jesus came, He 

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brought salvation, He brought 
hope, He brought new life. 

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But also that he's coming again.
Jesus is coming back. 

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And his second coming, he will 
finish what he's already 

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started. 
In verse 11 he says, O afflicted

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one storm tossed and 
uncomforted. 

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I, meaning the Lord, I'm going 
to build your foundation. 

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I'm going to build your walls, 
build your gates. 

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I'm going to build your 
foundation on something that 

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will withstand all of life's 
chaos and all of life's 

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conflict, and that is the 
promise of Advent. 

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It's this peace that we're 
talking about this morning. 

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Our foundation is no longer 
unstable. 

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Our foundation is no longer 
dependent on ourselves. 

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God has built our foundation in 
Jesus Christ coming to earth and

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reconciling us to God. 
So what does that look like in 

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our day-to-day lives? 
The truth is that Jesus came and

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he is coming again and it gives 
us peace within ourselves. 

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Jesus offers us peace. 
I mean, peace might be one of 

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the most misused and 
misunderstood words in in our 

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language. 
Peace is not ignorance, it's not

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pretending. 
Peace is full of presence and 

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full attention. 
Peace, the peace that Jesus 

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brings, is covered in flesh and 
it's drenched in blood. 

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Peace that transcends 
circumstances. 

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It does not ignore 
circumstances. 

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But we have peace. 
No matter life circumstances. 

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We can actually rest. 
Advent, You OK? 

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Oh, shoot. 
I don't know if you heard that. 

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It was like AI think we're OK. 
Yeah, she's OK. 

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Peace No matter. 
Life circumstances. 

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Advent is a reminder that God is
making all things new. 

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God has promised to make all 
things new. 

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The 2nd way that Jesus brings 
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All human relationships have 
some level of conflict. 

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Jesus teaches us to have peace 
no matter the conflict around 

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us. 
And as Christians, we don't have

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to fear the conflict that's in 
our world and in our 

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relationships. 
We can we can move towards the 

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messiness in the conflict 
because we have an unshakable 

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peace through Jesus. 
And the final and the most 

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important way that Jesus brings 
us peace is that he brings us 

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peace with God the Father. 
The incarnation of Jesus means 

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that God came to be with his 
people, the God of the universe,

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the God that by his words holds 
all things together. 

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Hebrews one. 
That means every second of every

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day, every breath that you take 
happens because God is holding 

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our very existence together by 
the power of his words. 

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I mean, that's crazy. 
That's a sermon in it for 

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itself. 
And another day, maybe if we go 

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through Hebrews, you get me back
up here, I'll preach about, 

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preach about that. 
It'll be fun. 

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This God sent his Son to be with
his people on earth to bring 

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them back to him. 
God's peace at Christmas, God's 

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peace at Advent is that we have 
peace with God. 

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It means that we have rest with 
God. 

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It means that we abide with God.
We abide in God. 

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It means that we are secure and 
safe and home with God. 

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We are already there, but also 
not quite yet. 

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That's the great paradox of 
Advent. 

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God is with His people, but also
not yet to that fullest extent 

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that He will be with His people.
So during the Advent season we 

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celebrate and we mourn, we rest 
and we strive, we enjoy and we 

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yearn. 
We sing joy to the world. 

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The Lord has come and we also 
sing, O Come, O Come, Emmanuel 

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and ransom captive Israel. 
And we mean us. 

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We don't mean just Israel before
Christ. 

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The song is not in remembrance 
of that. 

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You see, Israel, that song is 
about us longing for Christ to 

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return. 
So how does that change the way 

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we engage with each other during
the Advent season? 

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First off, God has given you 
peace. 

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It is yours, yours for the 
taking rest in his promise that 

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he is coming back. 
We can embrace the conflict. 

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We can embrace the difficulty 
and the heartache around us 

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because we know that Jesus is 
coming back. 

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We have to stop pretending that 
everything in the world is 

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perfect. 
I promise you that once you do, 

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once you stop pretending you 
will feel this weight being 

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lifted off your shoulders. 
That you really didn't know you 

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were carrying. 
The season is hard. 

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It's OK to admit that if I 
scared you when I said that 

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Christmas season sucks, that's 
OK. 

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But it's it's OK to admit that 
it is stressful and the 

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expectations are so high 
sometimes. 

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But guess what? 
It's hard for the people around 

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you, too. 
And when you finally say enough,

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guess what? 
Your kids are going to thank you

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00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:53,920
for it. 
Do you know what my kids want to

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do right now? 
Like, every night during the 

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Christmas season, they want to 
watch a stupid Christmas movie 

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and they want to drink hot 
chocolate. 

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Like, they're like, this is the 
time we get our hot chocolate, 

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we get to watch a movie, and 
that's, like, all they want to 

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do. 
So any of this additional stuff 

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that we plan for our kids, you 
know, awesome, great, really 

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00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:13,840
fun. 
But, like, that's not what 

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they're expecting. 
Like they love it, obviously, if

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we do it. 
But like my kids just want to 

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drink a chocolate, so and the 
people around you in your 

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00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:22,880
community, they're going to 
notice when you say enough is 

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00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:25,360
enough too. 
And they might just join you in 

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letting go of these expectations
and the stress that it causes. 

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So consider this You refusing to
choose conflict over peace. 

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You're choosing peace. 
You're deciding to choose peace.

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00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:42,840
It might invite your family and 
your friends to do the same 

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00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:46,240
thing, to let go of the conflict
and the weight that's weighing 

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them down and the pressure that 
they feel. 

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How cool would that be? 
Your decision to stop striving 

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for perfection during the 
Christmas season could cause a 

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00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:58,440
ripple effect of peace in our 
families, in our community, in 

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00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,560
our community groups, in our 
church, in our neighborhoods. 

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I mean, come on, right Then. 
I have a final challenge for you

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this morning, and that is to 
lean into the Advent. 

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Lean into Advent. 
The last few weeks that we have 

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left of this season, I have a 
quote. 

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It's going to be on the screen. 
Boom, Carl, Man, Advent. 

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Listen to this. 
Listen up. 

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Advent is a season for prayer 
and reformation of our hearts. 

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Since it comes at winter time. 
Fire is a fitting sign to help 

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us celebrate Advent. 
If Christ is to come more fully 

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00:30:39,080 --> 00:30:42,680
into our lives this Christmas, 
if God is to become really 

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Incarnate for us, God with us, 
then fire will have to be 

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present in our prayer. 
Our worship, our devotion will 

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00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:55,880
have to stoke the kind of fire 
in our souls that can truly 

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change our hearts. 
Ours is a great responsibility 

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00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:06,200
not to waste this Advent time. 
That's my last challenge. 

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00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:10,920
Don't waste this Advent season. 
Let your prayers burn like fire.

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That can change and will change 
hearts. 

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00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:20,160
Celebrate the season as one of 
joy and one of longing. 

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00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:24,240
Jesus is coming back. 
This is when we celebrate. 

549
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,520
Amen. 
Amen. 

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Let's pray. 
Father, I thank you so much for 

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who you are for coming. 
And God, I thank you that you 

552
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:39,960
are coming again. 
What a great joy it is to 

553
00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:43,600
celebrate you this season. 
Help us to be mindful of you, 

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00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:45,880
and help us to truly desire 
peace. 

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00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:48,400
Amen.
