1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:06,880 Good morning, y'all. Y'all all right? 2 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:08,119 Y'all learning? Y'all learning? 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:09,320 Y'all learning. I just like that. 4 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:10,680 I want to do it again. Good morning. 5 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:14,640 Yeah, yeah, yeah. I guess I've been up here enough 6 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:16,200 that y'all just know how to get down, huh? 7 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:19,920 I like it. I like it, man. 8 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:29,560 What are we after? Cole kind of did his thing and 9 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:31,880 LED us all in prayer. Bro, I was almost like, I don't 10 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:34,400 need to really go up here. I think we think we kind of 11 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:39,480 nailed it. Cole had had also said some 12 00:00:39,480 --> 00:00:42,560 things that that really resonated with me. 13 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:52,640 This can be a confusing week for some, hard to week for others. 14 00:00:53,000 --> 00:01:02,240 Troubling, even fearful. We're going to, we're going to 15 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:06,280 talk to do some things today. One thing he also said was, you 16 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:11,360 know, being a truth speaker even when you're scared to do it, 17 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:15,520 We're also called to speak the truth and love. 18 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:18,480 So we're going to talk about love a little bit today. 19 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:24,520 And it is crazy. God's sovereignty and his timing 20 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:29,640 with this message and even how the week is. 21 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:33,520 So let me start back to introducing myself. 22 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:36,200 If you can't tell the loud people in here kind of kind of 23 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:39,080 know how I am. I also want to kind of queue it 24 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:43,360 up today. If you haven't heard me preach 25 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:47,080 before, I'm probably one of the loudest people we got up in 26 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:51,880 here. So, so yeah, so, so be ready. 27 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:56,200 And I got I got, you know, I'm not a tenor like some of our or 28 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:59,200 other leaders. So my voice might kind of hit 29 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:01,520 you in the chest a little bit. Just just let it happen. 30 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:05,960 It'd be alright. But also, I am Will and I have 31 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:10,800 the privilege and honor to being part of the preaching team. 32 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:15,200 Like I was saying, we're we're continue to we're continue to 33 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:20,200 trudge through Titus today and we officially officially 34 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:24,640 graduated to Titus too. So shout out to that definitely 35 00:02:24,640 --> 00:02:29,480 after a few weeks, but I don't know if y'all remember, but when 36 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:33,800 we first started like hey, we're about to go through Titus 17 37 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:38,960 weeks. Cole had asked the the church to 38 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:46,720 read, listen and meditate the entire book of Titus at least 39 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:51,560 once a week, which would minimally put you at like 17 40 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:55,560 times reading, praying, listening and meditating on the 41 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:59,520 Scripture. Now, I ain't that guy that's 42 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:01,320 going to tell you like, hey, who's been doing that? 43 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,320 Who's the good Christian? Raise your hand. 44 00:03:04,920 --> 00:03:07,840 That's not really my style. I see you, Casey. 45 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:14,920 I appreciate that. But I know some of you are going 46 00:03:14,920 --> 00:03:16,040 to be like, yeah, man, I've been doing that. 47 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:20,000 Like, Casey, there's some of you that's out there. 48 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:23,000 That's like, man, bro, I totally forgot he even asked us to do 49 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,880 that. And then there's some of you 50 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:29,800 that's like, man, I kind of remember, but I really didn't 51 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:33,400 have the time or I was supposed to, but I just kept pushing it 52 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:35,080 off. This came up, that came up, this 53 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:41,120 came up. So with that, some of you are 54 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:42,960 encouraged because you've been doing it. 55 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:50,440 So shout out to that with that, this was a reminder and we need 56 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:53,600 you. The ones that that forgot to 57 00:03:53,600 --> 00:04:00,440 lock in and pay attention. And then there's some who might 58 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:03,920 be kind of convicted because they've been dropping the ball 59 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:08,760 on doing that. Something your lead pastor asks 60 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:13,080 you to do. I'm going to be honest with you 61 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:19,160 all. If you didn't bring your steel 62 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:23,720 toe boots today, you might need them. 63 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:29,760 And I also expect y'all to buckle up because that, that 64 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:34,320 tone of our, our lead passer asking and some doing it feeling 65 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,480 encouraged, some who need to lock in and some who need to be 66 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:40,400 reminded that bro, your, your lead passer asking do something 67 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,880 for a reason. Those, those feelings and those 68 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:48,040 three, we're going to probably be sitting in a lot of those 69 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:51,480 feelings and emotions for the next 4550 minutes. 70 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,120 I'm coming in hot this Sunday. I ain't going to lie. 71 00:04:57,120 --> 00:04:59,440 I even asked Co to pray for me with that. 72 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:09,960 But I got some things for you. I promise you two things. 73 00:05:12,840 --> 00:05:18,320 You're not alone. You're not alone, and you're 74 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:23,320 going to be all right. You're not alone and you're 75 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,520 going to be all right. And for those that this is your 76 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:27,680 first time here and you had no idea what you're supposed to do 77 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:30,360 that and you're like, man, how do I forget my homework on the 78 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,360 first day? I'm showing up, bro, don't trip. 79 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:38,160 Don't worry at all because you're not alone and you're 80 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:41,920 going to be all right. All right, So before we dive in, 81 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:43,200 let me give you the play by play. 82 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,800 I'm, I'm big on setting expectations and, and giving 83 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:49,680 people a heads up, especially if I think the conversation might 84 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:55,520 be kind of tough in, in, in a tough love kind of way. 85 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:59,480 I just love just kind of giving people like, all right, this is 86 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:01,360 the framework. This is what we're going to go 87 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:04,560 through today. We're going to read the word, 88 00:06:05,960 --> 00:06:10,080 then we're going to pray. We're going to then go through 89 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,240 the word and I'm going to break it down. 90 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:16,920 And then we're going to see how does all this point to Jesus or 91 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:18,360 what does this have to do with Jesus? 92 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:22,360 And then after that, we're going to go into what does this even 93 00:06:22,360 --> 00:06:26,760 mean for Frontier Church? That would give you some example 94 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:30,440 of how I've seen this lived out in the impact it's had on me. 95 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,840 I'm going to give you all some go dudes, some application, and 96 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:36,640 then we're going to pray and we're going to be out of here. 97 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,000 Amen, Amen, Amen, Amen. Let's pray. 98 00:06:43,280 --> 00:06:52,240 Father, Father, we need you today. 99 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:57,800 We ask for your for your wisdom as we go on through the text. 100 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:00,400 We ask that you encourage those who need to be encouraged, 101 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:03,600 comfort those who need to be comforted, convict those who 102 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:05,200 need to be convicted by the Father. 103 00:07:05,840 --> 00:07:13,160 Do it all while holding us in your arms and continually to 104 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:18,120 remind us that you will never leave or forsake us. 105 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:25,680 Jesus name we pray, Amen. All right, all right, all right, 106 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:34,440 so let's read. We're reading Titus 21 and 2. 107 00:07:37,480 --> 00:07:42,800 But As for you teach what occurs with sound doctrine. 108 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:46,480 Older men are to be sober minded, dignified, self 109 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:52,520 controlled, sound in faith, sound and love and sound and 110 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:57,360 steadfastness or endurance. I'm just going to read that one 111 00:07:57,360 --> 00:08:00,360 more time. I just, I just want to kind of 112 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:03,680 sink in on that a little bit. But As for you teach what 113 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:07,800 accords with sound doctrine? Older men are to be sober 114 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:11,280 minded, dignified, self-control, sound and faith, sound and love 115 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:15,640 and sound and steadfastness or endurance. 116 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:22,200 Let's stand and read that one more time. 117 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:23,640 Let's stand and read that one more time. 118 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:25,200 Let's stand and read that one more time. 119 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:33,039 But As for you teach what is a what accords with sound 120 00:08:33,039 --> 00:08:35,200 doctrine? Older men are to be sober 121 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:39,840 minded, dignified, self-control, sound and faith, sound and love 122 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:43,000 and sound and set fastness or endurance. 123 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:45,880 Heavenly Father, as we read then we go through this again. 124 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:47,440 We need your wisdom and guidance. 125 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:50,640 We love you. In Jesus name we pray, Amen. 126 00:08:50,640 --> 00:08:53,760 You may be seated. Now before we break this, break 127 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:56,560 this down a couple things to to kind of set the stage again. 128 00:08:56,760 --> 00:09:00,360 Cole in chapter 1 broke down the relationship between Paul and 129 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:06,400 Titus, the discipleship relationship, the the fatherly 130 00:09:06,520 --> 00:09:11,000 and son relationship. He then sends Titus to Creed and 131 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:13,880 Titus is there to help develop the church. 132 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:20,280 So one of the first thing Paul tells Titus to do is to qualify 133 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:24,200 and appoint elders. And then Paul goes over those 134 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:27,320 qualifications. Having church leaders is a must 135 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:33,280 and is something that needs to happen first, needs to happen 136 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:36,800 first. Then Paul warns Titus about fake 137 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:42,160 leaders and fake believers so we can further discern between the 138 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:52,040 two, between the real and between the fake and to protect 139 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:56,920 the church. Also, as you, as you probably 140 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:00,800 can discern, this message is it's geared towards the men in 141 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:03,120 our church because obviously we're talking about older men. 142 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:08,360 Crazy. But my ask to to our sisters in 143 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:11,200 the congregation, please don't check out. 144 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:15,720 Please don't think none of this matters or applies to you. 145 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:24,640 Please stay engaged, stay locked in because this will affect the 146 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:28,760 body of our church. And as a sister in Christ, you 147 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:32,200 will still have some go do's at the end of this sermon. 148 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:38,520 So let's go with verse one. But As for you teach what is the 149 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:42,080 what accords with sound doctrine? 150 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:47,040 But As for you again, this is pivoting from the many who are 151 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:53,360 described in verse 10 in chapter 1, the many who are insubording 152 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:56,120 empty talkers, deceivers, especially those of the 153 00:10:56,120 --> 00:10:59,680 circumcision party. You know the the ones described 154 00:10:59,680 --> 00:11:04,880 again in 16. They profess to know God, but 155 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:10,120 they deny him by their works, and they're described as being 156 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:18,120 detestable, disobedient, unfit for any good work. 157 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:21,320 We got to understand why that butt is there. 158 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:32,760 But As for you, Titus, teach what accords with sound 159 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:35,720 doctrine? Teach. 160 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:38,720 What does teach mean? To teach is simply defined as to 161 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:44,120 show or explain to someone how to do something to impart 162 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:50,640 knowledge or a skill. A good teacher understands the 163 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:53,920 four types of learners, right? You have your visual learners, 164 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:56,480 you have your auditory learners, you have your people that learn 165 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:59,880 just by simply reading and writing, and then you have your 166 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:02,960 kinesthetic learners. The the people who need to do it 167 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:06,480 themselves. Me, I'm kind of kinesthetically 168 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:09,720 hard headed. I need to do it myself and fall 169 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:12,320 and fail a couple of times for it to really kind of register. 170 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:14,280 Thank God for his mercy and grace. 171 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:21,760 So Titus, he's called to show them sound doctrine, preach to 172 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:26,120 them sound doctrine, have them read about sound doctrine, and 173 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:30,280 then have them go and live out sound doctrine. 174 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:33,480 Sound here really just means healthy. 175 00:12:33,680 --> 00:12:36,200 It's going to come up again. So I I need this. 176 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:38,240 I need this to really stick again. 177 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:43,160 Sound means healthy. Sound means healthy. 178 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:46,080 What does sound mean? Come on, now. 179 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:47,760 Yeah. Now, look, look. 180 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:51,000 I need y'all to be locked in. What does sound mean? 181 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:53,440 Amen. Amen. 182 00:12:53,440 --> 00:12:56,080 Amen. Tim Tester says that this 183 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:59,200 teaching that leads to a spiritual and emotional health. 184 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:03,920 Titus is to lead his people to a healthy life or a good life 185 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:07,520 which is characterized by good works. 186 00:13:08,560 --> 00:13:15,520 The good works is evidence of healthy and sound doctrine. 187 00:13:17,560 --> 00:13:22,160 Verse two older men are to be sober minded, dignified or or 188 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:25,600 worthy of respect, self controlled, sound in faith, 189 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:29,640 sound in love and sound in steadfastness or endurance. 190 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:35,440 Older men in the Bible are held with high regard. 191 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:41,680 They're held to a high standard. They are seen above all, 192 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:44,120 especially during those ancient times. 193 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:50,880 It was it was insane for someone to continue to live and and gain 194 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:53,400 the privilege of having crown of grey. 195 00:13:54,560 --> 00:14:00,000 Like for example Proverbs 1631-A Gray hair is a crown of 196 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:04,400 splendor. Proverbs 2322 Listen to your 197 00:14:04,400 --> 00:14:09,280 father who gave you life. Do not despise your mother when 198 00:14:09,280 --> 00:14:14,520 she is old. Leviticus 1932 You shall rise 199 00:14:14,520 --> 00:14:20,920 before the Gray haired and show honor to the aged for God, for 200 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:29,040 your fear your God. I am the Lord aged and being 201 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:32,400 blessed to have Gray hairs be blessed to be around for some 202 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:36,040 time. It's something that should be 203 00:14:36,040 --> 00:14:41,360 honored during those times and and even still in in a lot of 204 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:45,720 eastern culture today. Having an older man that is, 205 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:49,320 that fits these descriptions was critical and crucial because 206 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:54,040 they had massive influence on everyone else. 207 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:58,760 Their word held weight and was held at high regard. 1 208 00:14:58,760 --> 00:15:02,720 commentator says that elders in a church are ordinarily older 209 00:15:02,720 --> 00:15:04,840 men. They are people with experience 210 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:09,440 of life, living in the faith. There is a proper authority, 211 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:13,560 again, that comes with age. They've seen some things, 212 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:20,280 experienced some things. A lot of young people don't know 213 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:24,200 what you don't know. That's right. 214 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:29,120 Amen. So again, not everyone lives 215 00:15:29,120 --> 00:15:32,000 long enough to have Grays, wrinkles, experience and wisdom. 216 00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:37,080 But if they fit those categories, we should show them 217 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:41,320 respect. But I'm here to tell you two 218 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:45,200 things that the reference of older men in this about this 219 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:50,560 reference in this text 1 is it's not talking about eldership or 220 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:56,280 being a pastor. It is referring to members in 221 00:15:56,280 --> 00:16:00,840 the church in the body and the term of older men. 222 00:16:02,080 --> 00:16:08,040 And it's also not simply referring to age, but to also 223 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:13,560 maturity in the faith. I'll give you an example of this 224 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:16,960 again. Paul tells Timothy, a leader in 225 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:21,960 the church, not to let anyone look down on him for his youth, 226 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,760 who was roughly probably in his 30s at that time. 227 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:32,520 Timothy, like Titus who was sent out by Paul and Timothy was out 228 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:35,800 there grinding so hard, dealing with so much craziness. 229 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:43,720 Bro Paul wrote him 2 letters. Another example of this is Job 230 00:16:44,160 --> 00:16:49,080 32 six through 10. So context, Job's life went into 231 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:51,360 shambles. His friends, his three friends 232 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:55,360 plus a young man came to comfort him, refute him and condemn him 233 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:59,840 to find out what he did as to why his life went down the 234 00:16:59,840 --> 00:17:05,920 tubes. Eliu AKA the young man, was it 235 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:10,480 actually mad at Job because he had to, He justified himself 236 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:15,359 rather than justifying God, and then was also mad at his friends 237 00:17:15,359 --> 00:17:18,480 because they couldn't refute anything Job was saying that he 238 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:22,200 didn't do, but yet they still tried to condemn him. 239 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:27,400 So what do you say? He replied. 240 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:31,720 I am young in years while you all are old. 241 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:36,320 Therefore I was timid, afraid to tell you what I know. 242 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:40,000 I thought that age should speak and maturity should teach 243 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:46,480 wisdom, but it is the Spirit in a person, the breath from the 244 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:50,560 Almighty that gives you anyone understanding. 245 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:56,360 It is the spirit in a person, the breath from the Almighty 246 00:17:56,360 --> 00:18:02,040 that gives anyone understanding. It is not only the old who are 247 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:06,480 wise or the elderly who understand how to judge. 248 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:12,680 After you will cause out everyone, God then speaks right? 249 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:18,360 God then calls out everyone, reminds Joel who are you to 250 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:23,040 question anything I do, then tells his three friends, you 251 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,760 must be out your mind talking to my servant Job like that. 252 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:30,920 You need to repent and then ask Joel to pray for you because I'm 253 00:18:30,920 --> 00:18:40,960 not going to hear it. But God didn't call out the 254 00:18:40,960 --> 00:18:46,120 young man. He didn't ask the young man to 255 00:18:46,120 --> 00:18:51,680 repent. Why? 256 00:18:53,360 --> 00:18:55,720 Because it is the Spirit in a person, the breath from the 257 00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:58,160 Almighty, that gives anyone understanding and wisdom. 258 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:08,680 So let's say this older slash which spiritually mature men are 259 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:14,240 to be sober minded, dignified, worthy of respect, self-control, 260 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:18,400 sound in faith, sound in love, sound the steadfastest and sound 261 00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:22,440 and endurance. So let's let's dive into these 262 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:30,920 characteristics sober minded sober minded sober minded mean 263 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:34,320 anything that alters your states after after one consumption. 264 00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:36,960 If you drink something or eat something or do something and 265 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:42,040 all of a sudden you are no longer sober, you are out there. 266 00:19:43,360 --> 00:19:48,360 Maybe you should stick to 0. If there's anything that alter 267 00:19:48,360 --> 00:19:51,640 your states after 5-6 or whatever, how many consumptions? 268 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:54,560 Maybe you should only stick to two. 269 00:19:56,840 --> 00:19:59,840 Why? Because you need to be of sober 270 00:20:00,120 --> 00:20:07,360 mind. Not at some of the time. 271 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:12,120 Not when it feels good. This needs to be your lifestyle. 272 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:19,400 Yes, Jesus drank wine, but he wasn't out there drunk. 273 00:20:21,360 --> 00:20:26,360 It's a difference. OK, dignified or where they 274 00:20:26,360 --> 00:20:31,320 respect, have integrity, have a work ethic, show respect to 275 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,640 others, Treat people like people. 276 00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:37,400 Better yet, treat people like the image bearers they are. 277 00:20:40,120 --> 00:20:44,960 Treat people like the image bearers they are. self-control. 278 00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:47,560 Know thyself. People think of self-control so 279 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:52,040 often is hey you can say no to every temptation. 280 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:56,160 You're just that strong willed. Which yes, that can be true and 281 00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:59,920 that is a factor. But true self-control and truly 282 00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:03,600 knowing thyself is avoiding situations that would put you in 283 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:08,000 a compromising situation. That's self-control. 284 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:14,760 So a little bit about me. I have a degree in forensic 285 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:16,680 psychology. That's why I went to school for 286 00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:19,720 study. Did all the shebang in school 287 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:24,440 needs to say I, I took what it felt like an endless amount of 288 00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:28,440 like psych classes. Ridiculous, but it was, it was 289 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:29,400 beneficial. I get it. 290 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,680 But the, the, the reason I bring this up is because during that 291 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:37,480 time I learned about cognitive behavioral theory, right? 292 00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:44,040 And what that is in short, in short, is a situation occurs, it 293 00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:50,600 impacts your thoughts that then impacts your emotions, that then 294 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:55,280 impacts your behaviors or your reaction, which then has an 295 00:21:55,560 --> 00:22:00,400 adverse impact on your body, which then again impacts your 296 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:04,400 thoughts and then the cycle continues. 297 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:11,800 Cognitive behavior theory. So in the aspect of this of, of 298 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:16,480 this theory, like when a, when a situation or or triggering event 299 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:20,040 occurs, like with with some therapists, do it this time he's 300 00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:28,120 like, OK, what, what can we change in your behavior when 301 00:22:28,120 --> 00:22:32,240 something triggering happens or a situation occurs with 302 00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:35,320 practice, What can we change in your behavior that would then 303 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:39,880 change how your body would react in terms of fight or flight, 304 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:44,400 which will then change your thoughts on that situation 305 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:47,520 because you did different actions, which would then impact 306 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:53,280 your emotions, which ideally would lead to a better result, 307 00:22:54,120 --> 00:22:57,000 right? So why bring that up? 308 00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,960 Why is that? What does this have to do with 309 00:22:59,960 --> 00:23:02,440 these, these characteristics we just went over? 310 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,520 I'm here to tell you, you can actually learn to be sober 311 00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:09,520 minded, dignified, where they respect and learn how to have 312 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:12,880 self-control. You can learn these behaviors 313 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:17,760 to, to imitate that, to show that there are some people in 314 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:19,960 your lives. And I'm sure when I say this, 315 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:21,480 everyone has a vision of somebody. 316 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:25,240 There's people in your life that already execute these three 317 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:30,440 things and are not believers. There's people in your lives 318 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:33,800 that you know who, who are often sober people in your lives that 319 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:36,480 you know, that are really respectable people. 320 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:43,680 And, and, and seeing the honorable people, there's people 321 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:49,760 in your lives that again, have, have that self-control. 322 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:56,160 You can learn those behaviors and it doesn't mean you're a 323 00:23:56,160 --> 00:24:00,880 believer. But there's a reason that there 324 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,880 are three more virtues. Let's go into them. 325 00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:08,200 You will be sound in faith, sound in love and sound in 326 00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:11,600 steadfastness or endurance. They must be sound. 327 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:15,480 And what does sound mean again? Look at it one more time. 328 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:16,760 What does sound mean? Again? 329 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:22,680 Thank you, thank you, thank you. So you must be healthy in faith, 330 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:26,040 healthy in love, healthy in steadfastness and endurance, 331 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:30,120 healthy in faith, healthy in faith first. 332 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:34,760 We are saved by faith. Faith is first on the list and 333 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:38,880 it is paramount for a reason. We are saved by our faith. 334 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:43,760 Someone who is healthy in faith, you know what? 335 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:47,120 They they have a healthy relationship with God. 336 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:52,320 Someone who is healthy in faith, what does that look like? 337 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,400 They have a healthy relationship with God. 338 00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:56,320 OK, we'll dive in a little bit deeper, Will. 339 00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,600 OK, I got you. Will you say I do that? 340 00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,600 So they have a healthy prayer life. 341 00:25:03,360 --> 00:25:06,480 They have a healthy relationship and a constant study of the word 342 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,760 and they have healthy fast rhythms. 343 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:19,680 They have healthy faith rhythms, healthy in love. 344 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:25,920 Someone who is healthy in love has a healthy relationship with 345 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:31,040 God's image bearers. Someone who is healthy in love 346 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:34,280 has a healthy relationship with God's image bearers. 347 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,600 Well, what does that mean? Well, let's look at First 348 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,960 Corinthians 13, four and seven. What is love? 349 00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:43,040 Well, love is patient. Love is kind. 350 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:47,880 Love does not envy. Love is not boastful, it is not 351 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,400 arrogant, it is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not 352 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:55,160 irritable and does not keep a record of wrongs. 353 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:59,880 Love finds joy and does not find joy in the unrighteousness, but 354 00:25:59,880 --> 00:26:03,760 rejoice in truth. It bears all things, believes 355 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:10,720 all things, hope all things, endures, all things healthy and 356 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:17,840 love. It's a healthy relationship with 357 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:23,640 God's image bearers. You're showing people patience. 358 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:26,160 You're showing His image bearers kindness. 359 00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:28,000 You're showing them that you do not envy. 360 00:26:28,120 --> 00:26:29,800 You show them that you're not boastful. 361 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:31,560 You show them that you're not arrogant. 362 00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:33,920 You're not rude to them. You're not self seeking. 363 00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,480 You're not irritable. You don't keep a record of their 364 00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:39,240 wrongs. You find you don't find joy in 365 00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:43,880 their own righteousness, but you rejoice in the truth and you 366 00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:49,280 bear they're things you believe they're things you hope in Jesus 367 00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:53,200 and you endure all things. Healthy love means healthy 368 00:26:53,400 --> 00:27:00,880 relational love with God's image bearers, healthy and steadfast 369 00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,400 and endurance. You must be spiritually tough 370 00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:10,600 living in this dark broken world and being a believer which is so 371 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:14,040 counter cultural in this world. If this week didn't show you 372 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:20,440 that just how polarizing this week has been and it is a 373 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:25,680 challenge. Persecution is promised and we 374 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,440 are told to pick up our cross and follow Him. 375 00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:34,080 You need to be healthy and endurance to deal with the sin 376 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:38,200 of the world. You need to be healthy and 377 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:43,720 endurance to deal with the sin of the world. 378 00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:49,480 Being healthy in these virtues does not again equate to being 379 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:53,680 perfect in these virtues. That's what I mean is like you. 380 00:27:53,680 --> 00:27:55,600 It's not that it's an expectation. 381 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:59,520 You show this 24/7 that you are the righteous of the righteous 382 00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:06,160 because Romans tells us no, not one is righteous but it must be 383 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,640 seen or associated with your character most of the time. 384 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:20,400 But because we can't be perfect, thank God there was somebody 385 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:24,840 that was perfect that executed these, that was Jesus. 386 00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,800 He was the perfect example of the mature believer. 387 00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:33,400 He lived a life clear mind and always staying on the path. 388 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:37,440 Also being 100% God needs to say he was dignified and lived a 389 00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:43,880 life worthy of respect. He had also had to be self 390 00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:49,120 controlled again because he's 100% God and he allowed himself 391 00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,240 to be disrespected and humiliated from creatures made 392 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,520 from the dirt. You have to have some 393 00:28:55,520 --> 00:29:00,480 self-control to do that. He was also sound in faith, in a 394 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:02,960 constant relationship with the Father, praying, fasting, 395 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:06,320 teaching Scripture, and emphasizing the heart of 396 00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,640 Scripture, not just reading the words. 397 00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:13,560 He was also the embodiment of love, obeying the Father out of 398 00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:17,840 love, sacrificing himself out of love for the world, for God's 399 00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:22,320 image bearers, and also being 100% man. 400 00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:26,120 He endured. He endured being beaten. 401 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:31,600 He endured being humiliated. He endured nails in His feet. 402 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:35,120 He endured His hands being pierced. 403 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:40,000 He endured a crown of thorns. He endured salt being thrown in 404 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:43,800 His wombs. He endured the sins of the 405 00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:49,320 world. He endured being forsaken by the 406 00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:54,880 Father the only time He cried out and died. 407 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:00,640 Why do you do this? So He can rise on the third day 408 00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:05,000 and free you from the bondage of sin and send down the Holy 409 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:12,920 Spirit after His ascension. This is paramount because though 410 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:15,440 there are tools that you can learn, we talk about cognitive 411 00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,680 behavior theory. Those are our tools and 412 00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:22,680 practices in ways you can learn to be the first three to get 413 00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:25,920 those qualities. Only the Holy Spirit can give 414 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:29,880 you faith, only the Holy Spirit can give you love, and only the 415 00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,080 Holy Spirit can give you endurance. 416 00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:40,360 So with the help of the Holy Spirit, you will grow in faith, 417 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:45,080 you will grow in love, you will grow in endurance, and then the 418 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:49,360 cognitive 3 will come, AKA. Let's call this spiritual 419 00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:55,000 cognitive theory. As the Holy Spirit grows and 420 00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:59,160 mature you, He will convict, encourage and morph your 421 00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:02,080 behaviors, your wants, your thoughts, your desires and 422 00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:04,640 change them. So when the situation happens, 423 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:10,680 when a trigger occurs, next thing you know you're more sober 424 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:16,800 minded, you have more self-control and you're treating 425 00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:20,760 the people of God and God's image bears with dignity and 426 00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:24,400 respect. But why do this? 427 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,240 Why? Why focus on older or mature 428 00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,760 Christians? Why did the Holy Spirit come to 429 00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:30,440 do this? Why? 430 00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:33,440 Why even do this in this in the 1st place? 431 00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:38,200 Some of your immediate response because we are blessed to be in 432 00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:40,880 a theologically sound congregation in church. 433 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:44,080 Some of your immediate response when I said why does the Holy 434 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:47,400 Spirit does this, in this why did Jesus sends the send us the 435 00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:50,040 Holy Spirit? Some of your, your first thought 436 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:55,400 was sanctification and to be more like Jesus. 437 00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:59,960 Again, sanctification and to be more like Jesus. 438 00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:04,920 And I'm here to tell you, yes, yes, that is true. 439 00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:10,640 But that's only half of it. It's more of a a yes. 440 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:15,120 And Jesus tells you why he's sitting his people at Helper. 441 00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:19,440 He tells you also what you're supposed to do when he ascends. 442 00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,560 He tells us in Matthew 2819 through 20. 443 00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:27,200 Go therefore make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in 444 00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:30,320 the name of the Father, the Son, the Holy Spirit, teaching them 445 00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:32,360 to observe everything I've commanded you. 446 00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:37,400 And remember I'm with you always to the end of age. 447 00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:47,680 Jesus, it's telling you why. And he also did this perfectly. 448 00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:52,480 He walked with the 12, he ate with the 12, he taught the 12. 449 00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,560 He corrected the 12. He showed the 12 what right 450 00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:58,760 looks like went over scriptures with the 12. 451 00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,000 So let's so so he showed them how to live. 452 00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:06,000 He preached them how to live out the word. 453 00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:15,520 He had them read and study the word and then he had them go do 454 00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:19,880 it and live out the word and then he taught them to do the 455 00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:25,280 same for others and equip them. This wasn't a a once in a week, 456 00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,080 once a week thing. This wasn't every blue moon 457 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:31,200 thing of doing this. This was truly living life 458 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:35,720 together, a true investment in a relationship, a discipleship 459 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:39,920 relationship, a discipling relationship. 460 00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:49,480 And Jesus did this for a reason. So then now let's go back. 461 00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:52,760 How does this what does this the heck this got to do with with 462 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,480 Titus one and two will how how did we get here? 463 00:33:55,720 --> 00:34:00,720 Well, Paul is telling Titus is telling this to Titus and, and, 464 00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:04,320 and pointing out qualities in older or mature men in the 465 00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:08,880 church and what they should have so they can pour into younger 466 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:17,600 men so they can pour into younger men and make disciples. 467 00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:23,679 So he's telling Titus so Titus can see what men in the church 468 00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:28,840 have Holy Spirit and be able to discern that and see who are 469 00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:32,159 qualified. So he can then direct them and 470 00:34:32,159 --> 00:34:37,800 show them how to delete it and show it to other younger men to 471 00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:46,679 make more older and mature men. This is crucial for a healthy 472 00:34:46,679 --> 00:34:50,320 church. We have to reach 1 and teach 473 00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:56,719 one. Yes, people in our body are all 474 00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:59,000 gifted in different ways to serve our church. 475 00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:03,480 Absolutely, absolutely. Some sing, some are great with 476 00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:06,440 their hands and handy. Some are great with landscape. 477 00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,120 Some are passionate with kids and roots. 478 00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:12,480 Thank God for those people. Some people are great at 479 00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:16,120 hospitality, some people are are great at teaching. 480 00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:21,720 Some people can are great cooks and can do all the things. 481 00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:28,240 Some are business savvy. Some some are just savvy in 482 00:35:28,240 --> 00:35:30,000 other ways that can help other people. 483 00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:35,640 There's tons of gifts. Tons of gifts. 484 00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:41,480 And yes, we are all we all have spiritual gifts and uniquely 485 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:49,080 made to further God's Kingdom. But every last one of us were 486 00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:54,440 given a mission from Jesus to go and make disciples of all 487 00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:59,360 nations. Every last one of us, we're 488 00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:04,720 called to do that. So what does, what does 489 00:36:04,720 --> 00:36:08,120 discipleship look like? I know I'm, I'm, I'm tell you 490 00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,120 right now I'm about to go over what discipleship look like 491 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:13,480 really quickly. I'm gonna give you like a, a 492 00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:16,880 30,000 foot overview of it. I know coal is going to be 493 00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:19,840 probably diving a lot deeper into this in a couple weeks and 494 00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:21,960 I ain't trying to take all this Thunder, but we need, if I'm 495 00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,600 going to keep using this word discipleship, I got to make sure 496 00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:26,640 we're all on the same page of what this means. 497 00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:33,800 So for discipleship 1, you show them how to live out God's word 498 00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:38,640 in your everyday life. They must see it when you're 499 00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:41,440 killing it. They must see when you're on top 500 00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:44,520 of your game, when you have healthy rhythms, when everything 501 00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:48,520 is going smooth, How you rejoice, how you see his glory 502 00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,720 in everyday life, how you study, how you pray, how you interact 503 00:36:51,720 --> 00:36:54,440 with God's people, how you fast, how you interact with your 504 00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:58,320 family. They must see that, and they 505 00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:02,840 also must see how you repent when you fall short. 506 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:07,920 They also must see when you fall and when you fail. 507 00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:09,920 How do you reconcile relationships? 508 00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:12,800 How do you deal with seasons when you feel God is silent? 509 00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:17,360 How do you endure hardships? How do you push through when you 510 00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:22,120 don't have any answers? How you lament? 511 00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:29,800 How do you try to bounce back when you're having a low season 512 00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,520 and not the best rhythms at that moment? 513 00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:40,480 You are not perfect. There was only one man that was 514 00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:47,120 perfect and they must see you endure two. 515 00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:51,240 You must preach to them the Word. 516 00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:54,480 You must speak the Word into their lives. 517 00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:57,160 Go over scriptures. Teach the scriptures to them. 518 00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:00,920 The Bible is a crucial part of that. 519 00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:05,880 You have to open up the word if you're discipling somebody. 520 00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:10,120 It is not just watching a video on YouTube, it is not an 521 00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:13,880 Instagram Reel, it is not a TikTok, and y'all go over that. 522 00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:18,200 You have to open up the scriptures and go over the word 523 00:38:18,200 --> 00:38:25,720 with them. Three, have them read the Word. 524 00:38:27,240 --> 00:38:31,080 Have them take notes, discuss their thoughts, help them 525 00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:36,200 understand what they read. You must teach them how to own 526 00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:46,200 their faith, how to own their study of the Word. 4 Walk with 527 00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:49,160 them in their lives as they attempt to live out the Word. 528 00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:56,840 Walk with them, encourage them, speak hard truths and love to 529 00:38:56,880 --> 00:39:03,880 them. And when they are mature and you 530 00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:09,080 walk with them as they'd also walk with someone younger in the 531 00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:14,320 faith again, reach one, teach one. 532 00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:19,000 Have them make disciples. Train them up so they can make 533 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:22,160 disciples. This isn't just a random meet 534 00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:26,400 up, a random chill random hangout, but a true investment 535 00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:32,840 in someone's life and opening your life to someone, not just 536 00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:38,040 showing them the pretty Hallmark pictures, movies of it. 537 00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:50,720 Show them your life. So what does this mean for 538 00:39:50,720 --> 00:39:56,320 Frontier, right? Let's be honest, we're a very 539 00:39:56,320 --> 00:40:00,600 young church age wise. Again, we're blessed and 540 00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:05,640 privileged to have some some older gospel centered men in our 541 00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:08,240 in our congregation with a crown of grey. 542 00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:11,720 But All in all, the average age of our church is probably from 543 00:40:11,840 --> 00:40:17,680 27 to 34. We're a young church and that's 544 00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:23,800 a give or take estimation. Again, think of older men as 545 00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:28,480 mature men in faith. I'm going to give you one last 546 00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:33,840 example of this in the Bible, Hebrews 513 through 14. 547 00:40:36,720 --> 00:40:41,360 Now everyone who lives on milk is inexperienced with the 548 00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:44,640 message about righteousness because he is an infant. 549 00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:51,040 But solid food is for the mature, for those whose senses 550 00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:55,400 have been trained to distinguish between good and evil. 551 00:40:56,680 --> 00:41:01,080 Again, maturity is not determined by age, but for those 552 00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:07,080 who have since been trained to distinguish between God's Word 553 00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:17,560 in the broken world's word. Frontier Church. 554 00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:32,240 My fear, my angst is that some of us in this church have been 555 00:41:32,240 --> 00:41:34,640 trained to distinguish between good and evil. 556 00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:39,080 Again, we have a church that has strong theology and know all the 557 00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:42,520 answers in this book, know how to discern what's God's Word and 558 00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:54,740 what's not God's Word. Some of us are mature men and 559 00:41:54,740 --> 00:42:02,020 yet we're choosing to remain on milk when we are ready for solid 560 00:42:02,020 --> 00:42:09,300 food. We are choosing to remain on 561 00:42:09,300 --> 00:42:18,900 milk and be infants and be lazy when we are ready for solid 562 00:42:19,500 --> 00:42:25,920 food. There are men in their 70s that 563 00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:30,360 may have just came to Christ. They may be only being a 564 00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:34,920 Christian for for a week or a month or even a year and they're 565 00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:38,440 only able to drink milk and that is fine. 566 00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:40,720 That is OK. Nothing wrong with that. 567 00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:44,640 I'm not talking to any new believers. 568 00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:46,880 I don't care what your age is. I'm not talking to a new 569 00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:50,920 believer, and you are welcome, my brother. 570 00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:55,800 But there are men in our churches that are in their 20s, 571 00:42:55,800 --> 00:43:00,000 their 30s, their 40s, and even some in their early 50s who are 572 00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:06,080 ready for solid food, that are mature, that do fit these 573 00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:09,440 qualities. That the Holy Spirit has changed 574 00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:14,240 their life drastically, that has shaped them, that has mold them. 575 00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:17,840 And they know the difference between God's will, His word, 576 00:43:18,000 --> 00:43:20,200 and what the broken world is telling us what to do. 577 00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:22,960 And they are sitting on their thumbs and drinking milk. 578 00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:33,160 We need to lock in and wake up. The world is counting on us to 579 00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:42,680 do that. We cannot come here with the 580 00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:48,480 mind and the heart to just check a box. 581 00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:56,120 I served today, check. I went to CG this week, check. 582 00:43:58,240 --> 00:44:02,320 I looked at the verse of the day today. 583 00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:08,480 Check. I was a good Christian this 584 00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:16,960 week. We must remember the Great 585 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:21,200 Commission. We must remember the Great 586 00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:24,560 Commission. Let's read again Matthew 2819 587 00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:27,280 and 20. Go therefore, and make disciples 588 00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:30,240 of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, 589 00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:33,360 baptize them in the name of the Son, and baptizing them in the 590 00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:36,040 name of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe 591 00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:41,440 everything I have commanded you. And remember I'm with you always 592 00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:47,800 to the end of age. So if that's the Great 593 00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:51,040 Commission, I'm ready for solid food. 594 00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:54,680 So who are y'all discipling then? 595 00:44:57,920 --> 00:45:00,880 And yes, some of us are fathers and have families. 596 00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:05,240 And yes, we are called to disciple our children and lead 597 00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:08,720 our families. Yes, we are also called to show 598 00:45:08,720 --> 00:45:11,640 them how to pour into others outside of the home. 599 00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:20,240 We are also called to show them how to love others. 600 00:45:21,400 --> 00:45:25,480 What does a spiritual father and son relationship look like? 601 00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:29,440 We have to demonstrate that. So your child shouldn't be your 602 00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:34,120 excuse for not doing it, but it should be another reason, 603 00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:38,440 another motivation to show them what discipleship looks like 604 00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:42,040 outside the home. What is being a man of God looks 605 00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:48,680 like. But I want to emphasize again, 606 00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:52,800 if you if, if you're feel, if you feel that you're still in 607 00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:54,920 the situation and it will. I'm still so new. 608 00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:59,360 My faith, I, I, I barely I, I just learned John 316 yesterday. 609 00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,720 I, I, I'm still right. I need to just be drinking milk. 610 00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,280 My brother, my sister. That is OK. 611 00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:09,920 I just have one question for you, though. 612 00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:22,160 Who's discipling you so that you can become mature, so then you 613 00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:28,640 can go and make disciples again? We're blessed to be part of a 614 00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:33,160 church with a congregation with strong theology. 615 00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:40,600 But how are we living it out? James 226 tells us. 616 00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:46,880 For just as the body without the Spirit is dead, also faith 617 00:46:47,360 --> 00:46:53,920 without works is dead. The do say ratio has to equal 618 00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:58,200 up. So how can we claim to have 619 00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:01,160 strong theology? How can we claim to have sound 620 00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:04,680 faith, sound and love for Jesus if we are not living out? 621 00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:12,480 Matthew 28/19/20. You can't say one thing and not 622 00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:16,400 do the other. That was literally the person 623 00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:19,520 you called your Lord and Savior, the last thing he told you to do 624 00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:23,280 before he ascended. The reason he sent you the 625 00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:34,070 helper. But church, I, I know 626 00:47:34,070 --> 00:47:37,830 discipleship can't be uncomfortable. 627 00:47:38,910 --> 00:47:43,350 You're letting somebody in. You got to be vulnerable. 628 00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:46,880 It's hard, it's messy, it can be inconvenient, it can be 629 00:47:46,880 --> 00:47:49,040 mentally, physically, emotionally taxing. 630 00:47:49,240 --> 00:47:53,760 You might might not even see the full fruit of all the time and 631 00:47:53,760 --> 00:47:57,280 emotional and mental investment you made in this person and you 632 00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:58,960 might not even see the fruit of it. 633 00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:10,360 It's hard. But what does that last line and 634 00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:19,440 Matthew 20/28/20 say? And remember I Jesus and with 635 00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:24,800 you always to the end of the age. 636 00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:32,360 You are not alone in this. The Holy Spirit is with you, 637 00:48:32,720 --> 00:48:35,320 Jesus is with you, the Father is with you. 638 00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:37,920 The passions at this church are with you. 639 00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:41,040 Your brothers and your sisters in Christ are with you. 640 00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:50,600 You are not alone in this walk. This this can bring us to our 641 00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:53,200 big idea for for the for these men in our church. 642 00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:59,120 Sorry my son, that crazy sometimes. 643 00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:09,560 Mature men are to have a sound biblical life to adhere to the 644 00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:13,080 Great Commission. Say it one time. 645 00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:19,960 Mature men are to have a sound biblical life to adhere to the 646 00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:25,800 Great Commission. And I, like I told y'all to play 647 00:49:25,800 --> 00:49:28,880 by play. I want to give y'all some some 648 00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:34,000 examples of mature men that were in my life that had major 649 00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:38,280 impacts at the time and and even the time when I I should have 650 00:49:38,280 --> 00:49:43,280 sought out a mature man in the faith in my in my life. 651 00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:47,480 So the first one back in, back in Louisville, those who don't 652 00:49:47,480 --> 00:49:52,040 know me and my family moved from Louisville, KY 2 years ago. 653 00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:55,960 So back in Louisville, me and my wife, we were not a, it was, it 654 00:49:55,960 --> 00:49:58,240 was a, we had a season where we were just beefing and not in a 655 00:49:58,240 --> 00:50:01,400 great place. Honestly, I couldn't even tell 656 00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:04,120 you what we was beefing over. Who knows, you know, I probably 657 00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:05,960 left something on the stove or something, who knows it. 658 00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:07,520 I don't even know what the beef was. 659 00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:09,160 That's, that's, that's not really the point. 660 00:50:09,720 --> 00:50:11,000 But I was definitely in my feelings. 661 00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:12,200 I was emotional. I'm emotional. 662 00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:17,640 But I met with a mature man from our church and his name was 663 00:50:17,640 --> 00:50:21,480 Lavar Bro. I'm my man's was probably the 664 00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:22,880 coolest cat I've ever met in my life. 665 00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:27,040 Bro still my dude, cool dude. And like he like meets all the 666 00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:30,200 characteristics and and and Titus of what they describe what 667 00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,880 an older man should be. So like I look, bro, that was 668 00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:36,880 that was my guy. So I'm I'm I'm talking to him. 669 00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:40,960 I'm hot, like I'm snapping, I'm hot. 670 00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:44,200 I'm I'm telling him my plight, how I'm just, you know, so 671 00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:47,440 wronged and I'm just the perfect husband. 672 00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:50,520 All the things like I'm, I'm in my feelings snapping like 673 00:50:50,520 --> 00:50:56,960 anybody else does. And this man, as I'm as I'm 674 00:50:56,960 --> 00:51:03,040 talking, he starts laughing at me just laughing. 675 00:51:03,040 --> 00:51:05,760 And I'm like now I'm like, Paul, It's like, bro, what you what 676 00:51:05,760 --> 00:51:07,800 you laughing for? I just, I just told you like, 677 00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:10,120 like this is hurting me right now. 678 00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:11,600 And you, you laughing. And he goes. 679 00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:16,360 He was like, look, my brother. I mean, I mean no disrespect. 680 00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:25,200 He was like, and I know, I, I know how you feel right now and, 681 00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:29,160 and he was like, it's and I know you're like you really going 682 00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:32,120 through and he was like, it's, it's just so funny bro, because 683 00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:39,760 like me and my wife went through the same exact thing 15 years 684 00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:45,360 ago. And then after he says that and 685 00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:49,480 points that out and he is he immediately able even to tell me 686 00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:54,560 my feelings that I couldn't even articulate at the time, he then 687 00:51:54,560 --> 00:52:00,520 proceeds to tell me and remind me how God calls us his husband 688 00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:07,680 to love our wives and how we're called to work through 689 00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:12,480 struggles. That conversation was such a 690 00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:17,680 transformational time and me and my wife's marriage. 691 00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:32,720 That conversation was so freeing in a great spiritual, cognitive, 692 00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:37,080 behavioral mindset shift. Mindset shift. 693 00:52:38,720 --> 00:52:43,160 Another example, last year as I saw my baby out here screaming 694 00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:50,640 we found out that we were having a baby and the reason that's 695 00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:54,160 crazy is because I have a 13 year old boy and 11 year old 696 00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:58,000 daughter. I've been need to say I've been 697 00:52:58,000 --> 00:53:03,000 out the game for a little bit before having another baby and 698 00:53:03,680 --> 00:53:07,720 y'all I was freaking out. I was stressed, overwhelmed. 699 00:53:08,520 --> 00:53:11,000 How am I going to do this again? What am I going to do? 700 00:53:11,720 --> 00:53:13,760 How can we even afford this again? 701 00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:16,520 I haven't dealt with this for 10 years and a mature man by the 702 00:53:16,520 --> 00:53:23,680 name of Carlos Sims sat me down and and told me not to be 703 00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:28,840 anxious but rather to trust in the one who blessed me with this 704 00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:35,880 child and truly helped calm me and reassure me that he will 705 00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:44,920 never leave or forsake me. He also reminded me when we 706 00:53:44,920 --> 00:53:50,760 first joined Frontier, one of my things where I used to say was, 707 00:53:50,760 --> 00:53:54,400 man, I don't know how I'm going to relate to many, to relate to 708 00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:57,040 many families out here because most of our church has little 709 00:53:57,040 --> 00:54:00,240 little kids and all mine are like grown and self-sufficient. 710 00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:04,000 Yeah, be careful. What you what you ask for. 711 00:54:06,240 --> 00:54:07,480 Nah, you're a blessing. I love him. 712 00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:08,920 I love him. Look at him walking down the 713 00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:09,280 hall. Look. 714 00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:13,520 Come on, bro. No. 715 00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:18,400 Hey. And then lastly, last example of 716 00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:20,960 when I when I should have sought a mature man. 717 00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:31,440 This year, October 12th, it will be 10 years since my mother 718 00:54:31,440 --> 00:54:42,120 passed my my children don't really have memories of her and 719 00:54:42,120 --> 00:54:47,120 my blessing of a child that God gave me will never know her will 720 00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:53,000 be 10 years October 12th in May of that of 2015. 721 00:54:53,000 --> 00:54:56,440 So that May of that year me and my mom had a had a massive 722 00:54:56,440 --> 00:55:02,960 fight. The argument that didn't end 723 00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:08,040 well with us talking to each other and the next time I was 724 00:55:09,560 --> 00:55:14,880 ever going to see her or even speak to her was going to be in 725 00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:21,000 late September when she was on life support and had her chain 726 00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:23,320 in her throat and I would never be able to hear her voice again. 727 00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:43,000 I let my pride, my arrogance take precious time away from you 728 00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:57,220 and my mother. I should have sought a mature 729 00:55:57,220 --> 00:56:01,980 man. It's a point to me and disciple 730 00:56:01,980 --> 00:56:12,920 me who I'm sure would have told me to reconcile and not because 731 00:56:12,920 --> 00:56:17,600 we don't know if tomorrow's promise or not, not because of 732 00:56:17,760 --> 00:56:19,520 you never know when anyone's last day. 733 00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:23,560 That's that's not why I would tell someone to reconcile. 734 00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:25,880 And I know a mature man in the faith would tell me to 735 00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:27,480 reconcile. That's not the why. 736 00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:33,840 The why is because we're called to do it as followers of Christ. 737 00:56:36,720 --> 00:56:43,400 We're called to be sound, in love, healthy, in love with 738 00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:52,720 image bearers. Those 3 examples are crucial 739 00:56:52,720 --> 00:56:57,480 Church. That's what that can practically 740 00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:07,080 look like in our lives. We have to stop being lazy and 741 00:57:07,080 --> 00:57:13,840 choosing milk. We can't in one breath say we 742 00:57:13,840 --> 00:57:17,800 are mature and we're theologically strong and sound 743 00:57:18,080 --> 00:57:26,520 and we are not living Matthew 28 in making disciples, in 744 00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:36,280 furthering the Kingdom. I promise y'all I would give you 745 00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:39,720 all some go dues and I and I promise I'll I don't need it 746 00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:41,920 anyway. Smooth. 747 00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:45,400 You see how smooth I did that? I promise you I'll get out you 748 00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:51,040 all here. So this week you'll go dues my 749 00:57:51,040 --> 00:57:58,720 brothers in Christ. Or to evaluate yourself, reach 750 00:57:58,720 --> 00:58:03,320 out to a leader in our church and have them evaluate you. 751 00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:12,440 Are you choosing milk? Are you ready for solid food or 752 00:58:12,440 --> 00:58:14,640 are? Or are you only in a position 753 00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:17,120 where all you can have right now is milk? 754 00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:25,360 To pray and ask God to help you think through discipleship and 755 00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:29,400 discern where you are. Should you be discipling? 756 00:58:31,720 --> 00:58:40,600 Who you should be discipling, And even if you are mature, even 757 00:58:40,600 --> 00:58:44,440 if you will consider yourself strong and mature and you're 758 00:58:44,440 --> 00:58:50,440 executing all those things, you still should have someone 759 00:58:50,440 --> 00:58:54,760 pouring into you. Iron sharpens iron. 760 00:58:56,840 --> 00:59:02,160 So again, even if you are discipling, who's discipling 761 00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:10,280 you, Wives, talk through this with your husbands and pray for 762 00:59:10,280 --> 00:59:19,480 them and pray for them. And my sisters, encourage your 763 00:59:19,480 --> 00:59:23,160 brothers in Christ to reach out to be discipled or to disciples, 764 00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:31,360 someone or both. And my sisters, please pray for 765 00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:37,680 us. Imagine the church or growth 766 00:59:37,680 --> 00:59:43,600 would have if we did this. I assure you we would have more 767 00:59:43,720 --> 00:59:47,480 CGS. You want to know why? 768 00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:54,240 Because we would have more leaders and more leaders would 769 00:59:54,240 --> 01:00:00,920 come out of our CGS because they're becoming mature. 770 01:00:03,240 --> 01:00:10,680 And ready to lead. We would have so many men in the 771 01:00:10,680 --> 01:00:15,280 leadership courses that that Cole puts on at our church, that 772 01:00:15,280 --> 01:00:22,640 Cole would be overwhelmed. Overwhelmed because we have so 773 01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:26,360 many men beating down his door ready for this solid food. 774 01:00:30,960 --> 01:00:33,400 I'll tell you another thing. The vibe in the field of Iowa 775 01:00:33,400 --> 01:00:37,840 needs good dudes. That conference, oh, it would 776 01:00:37,840 --> 01:00:43,560 hit even different and go even further and the conference would 777 01:00:43,560 --> 01:00:46,880 also be too big to be held in this building. 778 01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:58,760 All men in our church, all men in our church would have a 779 01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:08,640 strong spiritual father figure that they can go to and lean on. 780 01:01:08,640 --> 01:01:15,080 All men in our church. Cole was talking about revival. 781 01:01:17,000 --> 01:01:23,400 Now imagine if we did this, the revival we would really have in 782 01:01:23,400 --> 01:01:29,440 our city, how many people we would have fight for joy in the 783 01:01:29,440 --> 01:01:32,000 joy of Des Moines. Let's pray. 784 01:01:32,000 --> 01:01:41,000 Dear Heavenly Father, thank you. Thank you for your word, thank 785 01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:43,000 you for your son, thank you for the Holy Spirit. 786 01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:49,720 Father, we love you and we need you. 787 01:01:50,240 --> 01:01:58,840 As we worship, as we leave, as we even eventually get 788 01:01:58,840 --> 01:02:02,800 dismissed, please keep our hearts. 789 01:02:03,520 --> 01:02:10,080 Our mind stayed on You Father, and help us build a life where 790 01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:15,000 You are our foundation. That when people see us and 791 01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:21,000 interact with us, they see and feel that we have a healthy 792 01:02:21,680 --> 01:02:29,200 faith and relationship with you. A healthy love and relationship 793 01:02:29,400 --> 01:02:39,600 with your image bears and a healthy, strong, firm foundation 794 01:02:39,600 --> 01:02:42,920 in you. So we can endure this dark and 795 01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:44,960 cruel world. Jesus and we prayer.