1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:03,800 Hi, ladies. And gentlemen, welcome to 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:07,040 another beautiful, exciting trailing activation. 3 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:08,760 Why your Monday look? Why your Monday look? 4 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:47,640 Sexy sexy girl trailing. Oh. 5 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:11,960 You know the. Difference between a CD and a 6 00:01:11,960 --> 00:01:18,240 dollar if you're. Out there. 7 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:28,600 And. You know, reading Manifesto. 8 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:35,000 What are? You Are you OK if I go to you? 9 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:45,360 Are you? Are you? 10 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:48,960 Comfortable would you would you consider would you consider if 11 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:51,880 you don't mind and she moved to you and you realized that she's 12 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:57,040 your physically she's your spec. Mentally, morally everything. 13 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:01,120 You don't mind right. I don't think you know I'm 14 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:05,400 asking this question because the Bible says he who finds a wife. 15 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:09,360 So me as a Christian man I think I have to find and the woman has 16 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:14,720 to be found, right. But is it OK if the man is found 17 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,680 by the woman? I think I think finding doesn't. 18 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:19,800 I don't think finding is like a hunting. 19 00:02:19,920 --> 00:02:22,640 It's not, it's not. It's not literal terms, right? 20 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:25,120 That verse, that verse can be interpreted 21 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:45,160 interpreted differently, right? Even in in in biblical terms, 22 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:50,440 they always refer to the word of God as woman, wife and all those 23 00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:53,480 things, right? So that verse can be, I mean, 24 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:56,640 different things and different scenarios, but in this case I 25 00:02:56,640 --> 00:03:02,960 feel like it doesn't matter it being the wife as as as a woman, 26 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:06,600 because you the woman, you know what you want, right? 27 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:09,320 If you're waiting for the man to find you, maybe the one that 28 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:14,480 we'll find is not the right one. I mean, so if this guy you like 29 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:17,280 the person and he has all the qualities you want, shall we 30 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:19,360 shoot your shot? Me personally, I don't. 31 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:21,440 I don't have an issue. I think when with the same 32 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,400 finding conversation, I don't think it's it's about like 33 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:27,600 literally going out there to find the person it's about in 34 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:30,400 the process you are discovering. Even in a relationship, you're 35 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:33,280 still finding out, right? Whether or not the person is the 36 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:34,520 ideal. Person for you. 37 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:37,320 So whether she takes me via Snapchat, Instagram, that that 38 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:39,000 we start talking and. I will Snapchat this. 39 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,400 That's the key. That's the key he's telling you. 40 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:44,600 Reach out to him. Yeah, they really manifest. 41 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:54,280 So you know when when you send him emails. 42 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:59,800 So when you know like the person sends you a text, you people 43 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:02,560 start talking and you realize that she's checking same boxes. 44 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,440 Which brings us to like a couple of things you said before. 45 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:08,760 You need to spend time with the person, you know, the authentic 46 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:11,520 side because behind every text know there's a personality. 47 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:13,240 Definitely. Yeah, you know so we need to get 48 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:17,160 to know those those sides. But a lot of guys and this, this 49 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:20,240 the problem, a lot of guys tend to take for granted those things 50 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:23,520 or none of them never buy. So I mean I didn't move to you 51 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:26,920 and me. I'd appreciate like a woman 52 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,920 actually coming forth and saying that oh Eddie, I like you like 53 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:30,680 this. You're like that. 54 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,480 You know, let's let's try and make things work out or let's 55 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:35,720 try and know each other. It's it's good for me. 56 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:38,160 It's fine with me. The fact that you you're making 57 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,720 things known to me doesn't mean that I'm supposed to ascend it 58 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:42,200 and say, OK, here, we're doing this now. 59 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:44,960 I need to like read between the lines, get to know you if it 60 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,800 fits my plan. If it checks inboxes, we go 61 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:54,280 ahead and then we see how best. A lot, actually. 62 00:04:54,280 --> 00:04:55,280 That's why ask this. Question. 63 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:57,520 Because. They would rather a girl could 64 00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:59,760 like you, keep it to yourself for years. 65 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:01,440 Never It's. It's rare. 66 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:03,920 This is why. I know the reason why. 67 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,760 Because you obviously. What if I rejection and yeah, 68 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:10,000 the rejection, but you this is what I don't understand. 69 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:14,120 They said men, men are supposed to accept rejection. 70 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:16,400 Because we are hunters. Because yeah, that's what we 71 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:17,800 are. Like how? 72 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:24,720 What I know would do that they might give science. 73 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:28,400 Bro, I'm not be mind reader. For me to read. 74 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:37,080 Like you should have asked for consent then you will see bro 75 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:39,600 they like you. You don't know. 76 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:42,800 Let me let me even. You know, be mind reader. 77 00:05:43,080 --> 00:05:45,280 You don't know. I'm hoping you don't get this. 78 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:47,640 I'm hoping you get you don't get it. 79 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:49,160 But if you get it even don't say it. 80 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:54,080 There was somebody who was my friend, right? 81 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:57,960 The person had mad crush on you, right? 82 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:12,440 Me. I had mad crush on the person. 83 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:18,720 I had mad crush on the person. Ah, you listen. 84 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:23,040 So the person was always talking about, the person was always 85 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:25,960 talking about. It was like see having to the 86 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:27,520 person that have a OK. OK, OK. 87 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:29,680 OK. So it's like, see, I was getting 88 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:32,400 tired of every day, every day, every day. 89 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:34,840 They always like see. Go and shoot your shots. 90 00:06:35,280 --> 00:06:40,600 It was like, oh, what if I shoot my shots and and he bounces me? 91 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:45,160 What's? The whole you never know. 92 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:48,320 You may not know what if you go. So I was like, what if you go 93 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:50,320 and he says yes? Yeah, because I know you. 94 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:51,800 You are a nice person. I know last. 95 00:06:51,840 --> 00:06:54,440 Half empty moments, right? Some people say. 96 00:06:55,840 --> 00:06:58,480 This is the painful part. They can actually came to the 97 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,240 DMD and everything and she got bounced. 98 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:11,680 No. Now they got like, I will text 99 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:16,680 this girl and then and then. She. 100 00:07:17,280 --> 00:07:19,920 Sent me the the whole conversation between her and 101 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:22,200 Eddie. I was like anything, you know 102 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:29,200 try. Oh, so now I have to go in now 103 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:31,920 compensate my crashing have to leave me because. 104 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:36,960 No, no. See the thing they say, the 105 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:39,640 thing they say, I, you know, yeah. 106 00:07:39,640 --> 00:07:41,720 But the musician, you know her, right. 107 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:44,920 If she did sing, there's something to do me like 108 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:47,000 musically, you know, I get her from that, from that point, 109 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:49,600 Charlie, for three years. So. 110 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:04,880 So it was like, I was, I was speaking to a friend in the UK 111 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:08,040 and I was like, Charlie, yeah, but this thing one day I'll just 112 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,280 drop her a random DM. Like, who knows? 113 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:11,840 I could put her on my album. Yeah. 114 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:14,440 And I was like. Yeah, about get millions. 115 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:17,960 Of You know what she told me? You lose 100% of the shots, you 116 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:21,680 don't shoot 100%. Maybe if you shoot them you will 117 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:23,720 lose 40, right? Yeah. 118 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:26,760 I've seen people who went to chase girls but ended up being 119 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:31,440 their very solid friends, the whole erotic feeling and 120 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:34,919 attraction dead. They like they just worked in 121 00:08:34,919 --> 00:08:36,960 purpose with them. It happens, you know. 122 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:38,840 Who knows? I could have connected with her. 123 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:42,280 Maybe if I if I sent the DMI could be it could be that that 124 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:45,280 time she was on her phone on Instagram and then my message 125 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:47,080 went at the right time. Right. 126 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:49,520 But I thought I've been thinking about she said like two years 127 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:52,200 ago I've been thinking every time whenever I'm scared to do 128 00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:54,560 something I just say that to myself what do I have to lose. 129 00:08:54,800 --> 00:08:55,520 Yeah. Right. 130 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:58,880 But I think that's also probably because I was speaking on the 131 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:01,560 previous episode that men we are biologically wired to do some 132 00:09:01,560 --> 00:09:03,520 things. It could be one of this could be 133 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:06,720 one of them. We are go getters we we want 134 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:07,920 what we want. Right. 135 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,200 If you need to my way you want Mariam you know but within two 136 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:16,120 weeks tell me how they like. Yeah, we are always sure is that 137 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,040 thing where you're not scared to lose anything. 138 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:19,680 That's why we take risk in business. 139 00:09:19,680 --> 00:09:21,560 That's why we take risk in new ideas. 140 00:09:21,680 --> 00:09:27,360 Sometimes some idea will come by, won't do CC, so that's what 141 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:29,680 makes it easier for us to, you know, approach a woman. 142 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:33,880 But I think I've had the chance to live outside Ghana, Kakara 143 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:36,880 tell me there's some girl rock for elevator inside. 144 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:39,680 She shooting shots for them or she know they care. 145 00:09:39,680 --> 00:09:42,640 She didn't know my full name. She just introduced herself. 146 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:45,000 It was casual, cool. We just ended up talking. 147 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:48,160 We became friends and it's like if you. 148 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:54,160 Lived outside. Yeah. 149 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:57,680 Like you go meet somebody. You know, sometimes you go meet 150 00:09:57,680 --> 00:09:59,160 somebody. You just know the one 151 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:01,160 relationship, you know, It's just like something. 152 00:10:01,200 --> 00:10:05,280 You know most most of the DMS we I get we you know we see me pep 153 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:09,040 or by like I admire you. I think you are handsome. 154 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:11,440 I think you are the girls with the new Yeah. 155 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:13,920 Yeah yeah. So. 156 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:16,040 Coming down, do you think it's? Culture, I would say. 157 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:17,520 It's culture. Yeah. 158 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:19,040 Do you think is the way we are brought up? 159 00:10:19,680 --> 00:10:22,080 Hey myself and he will take advantage of you, yeah. 160 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:24,000 Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 161 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:26,720 I stand, I stand with the culture thing. 162 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:30,400 Yeah, a lot of times when you when when a girl child is like 163 00:10:30,680 --> 00:10:34,160 groomed or nurtured, most of the time it's like she'd be like egg 164 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:35,120 for the house. Yeah. 165 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:40,400 And the advice becomes like a fear the the typical African 166 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:42,640 society is not advising. It's like instilling fear. 167 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,240 So. When the person overrides their 168 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:48,920 fear and like the the the, the outgrow that fear is like oh let 169 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:50,960 me just go out and do it regardless and they fix the 170 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:55,360 repercussions but for outside like so when I was I did like 171 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:59,120 grade 8 me I suddenly commented so I did like grade eight we 172 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:02,800 meet somewhere it's go he told you so I like you like let's 173 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:04,400 let's hang let's do this sometime 174 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:19,800 let's. New experience. 175 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:21,560 Right. Yeah. 176 00:11:21,560 --> 00:11:30,560 The next day this girl walk into my class that because I came 177 00:11:30,560 --> 00:11:34,000 from a society where a woman has a guy, has to go to a woman. 178 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,800 Yeah, like. And it was one of like the most 179 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:38,360 amazing relationships I ever had. 180 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:40,920 I appreciate her so much. Yeah, you won't give out. 181 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:48,720 Right. Now but like it. 182 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:52,400 Was one of the very beautiful relationships you had. 183 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:56,040 You had the opportunities like see a parent and and. 184 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:10,400 It was. So you know, like of course, but 185 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:12,560 mostly the ones in the experience. 186 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:28,640 We're having a conversation. Right now they say be talking to 187 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:34,200 you guided before you go pro. Then it will take three months. 188 00:12:34,520 --> 00:12:40,120 It will take three months. Accept your proposal. 189 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:44,680 I told this guy I'm going to think about this and he moved 190 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:45,760 on. See. 191 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:49,920 This is the problem. Even even having a conversation 192 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:51,960 with a Ghana girl is very difficult. 193 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:57,440 Open, I think. I think, I think, I think, I 194 00:12:57,560 --> 00:13:00,400 think Ghanaians don't understand what's open conversation. 195 00:13:00,760 --> 00:13:03,680 Ghanaian women don't understand what open questions are. 196 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:06,320 Open conversations. Like if I ask you a question 197 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:09,560 like I asked you, how is your day going? 198 00:13:10,600 --> 00:13:11,920 Fine. Fine. 199 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:23,000 I'm trying to understand how your day started. 200 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:25,720 How is going? Oh, I woke up, I was feeling 201 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:27,440 very energetic. I got to the office and I 202 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:30,120 realized that Charlie. How about you? 203 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:33,360 So that right now this is how I'm feeling right? 204 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:38,000 And that question? Will it opens up? 205 00:13:38,120 --> 00:13:40,040 So many. So we can start. 206 00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:43,080 Even today I stopped. I think there was a time I 207 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:45,560 stopped asking those how? This is. 208 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:51,360 What I did this this is this is what I did. 209 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:54,600 This is what I always do. Use five ways to describe how 210 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:59,920 your day is going. You mean? 211 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:08,560 Like because naturally. When you know we can't start the 212 00:14:08,560 --> 00:14:10,520 conversation, I think everybody minding. 213 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:17,360 Business. She's defensive because how 214 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:20,680 women go talk about culture, defensive that she wants, like 215 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:22,000 she's trying to create a boundary. 216 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:23,760 Yeah, yeah. It takes time. 217 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:25,520 It takes a lot of time. It's like you're working. 218 00:14:25,760 --> 00:14:33,440 But, but, but, but, but let me tell you something but see like 219 00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:36,280 you won't. See. 220 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:40,760 Sell you my controller. See. 221 00:14:40,880 --> 00:14:42,280 I feel like you. Meet some girl. 222 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:44,320 If you meet some girl or you DM some girl. 223 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:50,080 If you meet some girl or idiom some girl, we instantly there's 224 00:14:50,080 --> 00:14:53,360 a spark between the two of you. She she go can't use the house 225 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:55,080 your. Day to pull down my Instagram 226 00:14:55,160 --> 00:14:56,560 pictures and stuff and start taking. 227 00:14:56,600 --> 00:15:03,000 Professional sometimes, say sometimes you start a 228 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:05,120 conversation with someone because they posted something 229 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:07,640 interesting on their story. You replied, then you ended up 230 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:12,120 talking about something, wasn't about number, so you started 231 00:15:12,120 --> 00:15:16,760 talking about things, life, countries, Gaza, Israel, 232 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:19,240 something. Then, before you realised you 233 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:22,680 became friends, you started talking when you when a girl 234 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:25,160 opens the Instagram and the first thing she said, hey, 235 00:15:25,160 --> 00:15:27,080 you're so pretty, I want your number debit. 236 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:30,800 There is a 90. 9% chance she know, go, mind you, right? 237 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:35,720 But I think it's it's where you meet, how you meet, how you 238 00:15:35,720 --> 00:15:37,800 approach them. I think it's a lot of things, 239 00:15:37,920 --> 00:15:39,240 but they make the job hard for me. 240 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:43,400 But even even even with that. You put so many things in order 241 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:44,840 one. Question before you're even 242 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:46,480 talking about this one. Question. 243 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:48,720 Just one question. And you're saying that we should 244 00:15:48,720 --> 00:15:51,880 like girls who like us. I'm saying the question is. 245 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:53,920 You would know no. It's not even about knowing. 246 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:56,840 The question is this. As a guy and you found a girl 247 00:15:56,840 --> 00:15:58,360 that meets your spec, you want to pursue? 248 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:00,720 Should you pursue a girl that you found and you like? 249 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:03,960 Or you should rather listen to it, like giving to a girl that 250 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:05,040 says she likes you? No. 251 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:07,680 No, no. No, no question here. 252 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:09,200 Yeah. So. 253 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:13,640 Going for the girl that you have, you are going to pursue as 254 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:15,560 a girl in Europe. Is that a girl? 255 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:17,720 Going for the girl who tells you that she likes you. 256 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:21,680 You see the girl until the right one comes. 257 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:28,680 I am chasing all the bad one. See. 258 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:42,920 But The thing is content. But The thing is, I know, I 259 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:44,080 know. You seen a girl. 260 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:46,760 You seen a girl that you see, a girl that you like? 261 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:52,520 Like I mean. Who finds a wife pursuing them, 262 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:57,520 pursuing them. Like the guy should be the one 263 00:16:57,520 --> 00:17:03,680 who is doing like. Those things you have to learn 264 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:10,359 and learn and yeah. The price, the. 265 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:17,680 Question that are you see the girl that you want you admire or 266 00:17:17,839 --> 00:17:19,640 you wanna wait if the girl says oh man. 267 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:22,119 I like you, that girl. There's there's a high chance 268 00:17:22,119 --> 00:17:23,359 that girl hasn't even noticed you. 269 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:25,920 Right? So you see, So you've seen the 270 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:27,640 girl. You got to say hi, right? 271 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:29,760 You do so well and pursue the girl. 272 00:17:29,760 --> 00:17:32,480 You get a girl and let. Me tell you you can never know. 273 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:35,240 See, see you never. Choosing a partner is always 274 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:36,720 about the sentiment of the Holy Spirit. 275 00:17:36,720 --> 00:17:38,760 Let me tell you the. Fact basic. 276 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:42,000 See. You like me, you say you like me 277 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:43,320 and that's it. You like me. 278 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:46,480 We will get talking. I like this girl. 279 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:49,160 Me and her. We will get to get to know. 280 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:54,160 This is let me tell you, I don't know how people people who hate 281 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:56,480 me for this thing but this is what my mom told me when I was 282 00:17:56,480 --> 00:17:59,520 growing up. Just because you have one woman 283 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:04,000 that you like doesn't mean you should close the doors on people 284 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:07,920 you understand. Because at a point in time you 285 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:10,840 are going to realize everything about this person and you feel 286 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:13,640 like it doesn't fit into your purpose and. 287 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:15,680 Someone you haven't asked to be your girlfriend yet. 288 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:19,160 You guys are just right. Surface level, surface level. 289 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:23,400 So like if you build a network out of that network you find the 290 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:24,200 one that is. Truly see. 291 00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:44,520 Let me. Go Fun fact about me is I'm very 292 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:48,920 monogamous. Like, I like to take one thing 293 00:18:48,920 --> 00:18:52,320 and at a time. So if I like one person, I'm 294 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:54,720 pursuing that person. If that person says no before I 295 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:59,080 move to the next person, yeah. Yeah. 296 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:02,440 Like that's how like. The pursuing movie night today. 297 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:03,720 Inside. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. 298 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:05,880 Me, I don't mind. I will invest time and 299 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:14,400 everything if because at the end of the day is how would you know 300 00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:16,440 if you don't invest? Yeah. 301 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:18,560 So I will invest the time at a point. 302 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:21,080 Out of the, out of the girls that you're getting to know, you 303 00:19:21,080 --> 00:19:23,400 know the one that you want to be with and then you focus on that 304 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:25,480 one. So. 305 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:28,560 So is that so is that, it's no, is that, is that to say you can 306 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:30,560 have multiple talking stages? Yeah. 307 00:19:31,120 --> 00:19:31,480 Me. I know. 308 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:34,520 If it's I don't get bandwidth. You can, but it's not something 309 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:38,080 I would do. Talking to just one person. 310 00:19:39,080 --> 00:19:41,520 See, the same conversation I will have with the person that 311 00:19:41,520 --> 00:19:43,760 I'm very interested in is very different from the conversation 312 00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:45,960 I have with somebody who I'm not really interested in, you 313 00:19:45,960 --> 00:19:48,440 understand? But they are all day. 314 00:19:49,680 --> 00:19:51,840 This is what I want. I'm going to go for it. 315 00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:55,720 If the person says, hey, this is not what me I want for myself. 316 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:56,920 You are not what I want for myself. 317 00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:58,400 Cool. We become friends. 318 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:01,840 There's a lot of work, so let's just say. 319 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:04,880 Everything is a lot of work. The job Be hard. 320 00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:10,400 They are like 5-5 ladies there and if we do not take a step 321 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:15,840 like 2 with one or go a bit deeper, you may never know their 322 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:17,320 minds. I'm coming. 323 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:18,960 Let me make it. Let me make it better. 324 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:23,200 Imagine all those. 55. It enters into death, death. 325 00:20:23,480 --> 00:20:24,800 What? What you go do? 326 00:20:26,440 --> 00:20:28,760 That is why I am saying that. This is why I'm saying that. 327 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:33,200 That's. Why I'm saying this, you don't 328 00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:40,720 go into deep with all five I'm. Talking to you, focus on one 329 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:42,440 person. That's the thing you focus on 330 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:46,320 one person but. I can't talk 5 before I pick 331 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:48,760 one. People are getting me wrong. 332 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:53,920 Because there are certain questions you have to ask for 333 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:54,480 five. Correct. 334 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:57,920 You've met 5 girls, right? You've had very minimum 335 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:01,720 conversation with all five. Now let's say you ask all five. 336 00:21:03,360 --> 00:21:10,400 I'm coming, I'm coming. See, Stefan, you, you, you, you, 337 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:12,960 you know this thing for if you're having a conversation 338 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:17,000 with a girl, you don't have surface level conversations. 339 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:18,680 You have deep level conversations. 340 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:21,640 Now that deep level conversation, going to have that 341 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:24,880 same conversation with all five people just to have my pick. 342 00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:28,720 I realized that no where this person's mind is at isn't. 343 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:31,640 Isn't where you, isn't where I want to be. 344 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:35,440 Like bringing it back to bringing it back to like what 345 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,520 you were saying about somebody texting you, right. 346 00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:40,720 One of the things that you have to realize is a lot of times for 347 00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:43,720 guys we have this understanding of like, Oh no, not texting. 348 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:45,080 You have this ego. Actually. 349 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:48,360 Yeah, you know, I'm, I'm. I'm there, I mean. 350 00:21:49,360 --> 00:21:52,600 If you don't get your things right, you might lose out and 351 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:56,920 think, OK, you are the price. Overlook personal criteria 352 00:21:57,480 --> 00:22:00,160 because you say, oh OK, this fine girl has texted me on 353 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:07,360 Instagram and you start overlooking many things because 354 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:25,640 accounts for Instagram everything. 355 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:26,040 Why? Nice. 356 00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,800 Why nice accounts? Which of the which of the 357 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:31,320 accounts is it a top nice or the down nice? 358 00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:32,840 Like which one? Which one? 359 00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:35,400 Or you are the greedy type. Nice account. 360 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:40,560 So like what I'm trying to say is every single person that you, 361 00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:44,240 even in the talking stage, you need to have a setting, 362 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:50,440 unmovable bacteria regardless. Like you know who? 363 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,720 Moved from there. Because a lot of times you try 364 00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,280 to move to suit people. Because if you are texting me, 365 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:57,880 maybe you're in the States and then you texted me at an old 366 00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:00,880 time and I know I can't keep it consistent, but because maybe I 367 00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:03,560 refill something, give you, I will start, they do, then you 368 00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:05,760 can't entrain. And I know I can't see to it, to 369 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:10,480 them later it becomes a problem for me, but I'm putting in that 370 00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:12,480 sacrifice for you. At the end of the day, if it 371 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:14,480 doesn't work, it feels like a waste of time for me. 372 00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:18,320 That why they're talking like having five. 373 00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:21,320 At the top class 5 different. People because. 374 00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:23,960 Imagine that they do. Singapore they do. 375 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:28,760 They've created these conversations to bring division 376 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:30,880 between men and women. And this one is the price. 377 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:34,440 And I'm the So some girls that my ego did they up there because 378 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:38,760 a man has to. Let's let's let this this is 379 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:41,120 what they used to buttress what you're saying right now. 380 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:43,760 You said a man is the hunter and he's supposed to chase. 381 00:23:44,360 --> 00:23:45,520 What are you chasing? The thing you're chasing. 382 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:48,160 For is what you are, not the price I am looking for. 383 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:54,200 A. You know what the game is the 384 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:56,040 game, but you don't make the rules. 385 00:23:57,320 --> 00:23:59,760 For instance with the, with the, with the price thing you talk a 386 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:03,120 lot of times I feel it's orientation it come, it always 387 00:24:03,120 --> 00:24:04,280 comes back to. Orientation. 388 00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:06,880 And I'll tell you, this is difficult. 389 00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:10,240 It's difficult chasing. I don't want to use chasing, 390 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:14,320 It's difficult a. Woman 391 00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:28,640 I. Don't. 392 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:31,840 Know for granted. Like, I really don't take it for 393 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:34,320 granted because for you. To put. 394 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:38,520 That kind of culture aside, let me hit this. 395 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:40,920 Guy up here. And tell him I appreciate you. 396 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:44,240 Like it means so much to me, so I'd give you. 397 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:47,640 To be honest, there's there's so much toxicity out there that 398 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,640 every time it's like 10 seconds I'm out. 399 00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:53,000 There's too much. Let me bring this thing back. 400 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:57,360 Let me bring this thing back. Something it's like you do, you 401 00:24:57,360 --> 00:24:58,640 know what? Do you know what I used to 402 00:24:59,920 --> 00:25:02,000 remain sane. What does the Bible say? 403 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,120 Husbands love your wives as Christ love the church. 404 00:25:07,120 --> 00:25:11,160 It's basic for me. Nobody's the prize nobody's the 405 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:22,080 this blah blah are selling me the you see it's it's just too 406 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,640 much like it's it's quite basic. I think The thing is. 407 00:25:25,120 --> 00:25:29,160 It's too basic or it's too? Simple that we think it's too 408 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:30,120 simple. Exactly. 409 00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,840 That's why I said we know so much but we do little. 410 00:25:33,360 --> 00:25:36,680 We feel like formal education. You know they at your teases me. 411 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:41,640 We don't know shit, bro. Like basic. 412 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:43,840 Basic. What does the Bible say? 413 00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:48,880 How am I supposed to love my wife as Christ loved the church? 414 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,480 Corinthian says. Well, love is patient life. 415 00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:54,640 Love is this, love is this, love is this. 416 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:58,720 That is what I used to guard my that's what I used to as the 417 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:02,320 guide, as my mum for loving my wife, for loving my girlfriend. 418 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,680 Basic You see one thing, one thing got from what he said is 419 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:08,440 you see, the Bible didn't even define love with one word 420 00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:11,440 exactly. The only is it love is kind. 421 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,920 Love is this. So they're dynamic. 422 00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,240 Exactly right. Sometimes you have to wear a 423 00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:17,600 different cup to fit the situation, you know? 424 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,200 Let's stop all this. Men have to boot this. 425 00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:23,280 Women have to they? Love for one box inside and it's 426 00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:25,680 like it's it's a startup. The box of your pockets. 427 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:28,840 In the package, so if they present them. 428 00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:30,120 There are better ways of getting to. 429 00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:30,960 Know me? Oh yeah. 430 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,320 I only open up when you put food on my table. 431 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:43,800 Like, what's wrong with you? You can only talk to me if I 432 00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:47,040 take you out and buy you drinks. What are you bringing? 433 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:48,400 The. Table you see? 434 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,360 Why is the table? I'm bringing my chair to the 435 00:26:52,360 --> 00:26:53,600 table. What do you mind that be? 436 00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:55,120 A table? I'm bringing my chair. 437 00:26:55,120 --> 00:26:56,720 You got my sister there. Is a table. 438 00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:59,920 My wife can pick the chairs. I can bring the plates. 439 00:26:59,960 --> 00:27:01,880 Someone dishes the food from the kitchen. 440 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:04,760 We are, we are. We are making the table, right? 441 00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:06,920 We are fixing the table. It's OK. 442 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:08,440 It's OK. I like. 443 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,200 I think that's one of the things that I feel so blessed to have 444 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:12,600 discovered. Learned. 445 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:15,520 You know, like, let's stop all this bullshit, right? 446 00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:19,440 Prize the woman is the price you are not in. 447 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:22,920 The love we want to build is the price. 448 00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,120 It's basic. What are we trying to? 449 00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:26,800 I think. I think honestly, it's just 450 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:32,480 environment. No Ghana women see. 451 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:37,320 They are, they are, They are, they are. 452 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:43,120 I can put Ghanaian women on hierarchy. 453 00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:45,920 It depends on the environment you find them. 454 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:55,040 Right, right now, right. Now, meanwhile, they're from 455 00:27:55,040 --> 00:28:03,760 Jamestown. I'm sorry, but the mindset of 456 00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,320 some of these women is. So so. 457 00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,640 Not necessarily. Talks is in the gutters and 458 00:28:10,120 --> 00:28:13,400 this, this is, this is what I think they are copying blindly. 459 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,160 You wake up in the morning and you are on. 460 00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:21,920 Tiktok. Some woman who has three 461 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:25,400 children with three baby daddies comes to tell you that this is 462 00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:26,920 how you're supposed to leave your relationship. 463 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:35,520 And then you take that mindset, and then you make it manifest in 464 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:37,560 your library. This is what I also want. 465 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:42,080 Look at the narrative from which that person is talking. 466 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,960 Is that your story? Why don't you experience life 467 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:58,120 and write your own story? Yes, you go out. 468 00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:03,600 And touch grass the. Men in your life actually want 469 00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:04,280 the best for. You. 470 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,960 You know, a friend once told me that the Bible is misogynistic. 471 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,560 I promise you a guy. See this? 472 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:17,360 The Bible elevated. Man, I'm like, what? 473 00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,560 The hell? Man, everybody's see. 474 00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:26,800 Because see that, why this This is why it's very difficult to 475 00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:32,000 try to find a woman. Because they all have this 476 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:36,840 mindset and it's like nobody wants to change. 477 00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:42,600 They want to maintain that narrative and keep going and see 478 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,480 if you do your research you realize that the amount of women 479 00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:50,480 who are single in this country. Is a lot might be crazy. 480 00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:53,920 You go see some posts then it's like like people who are in love 481 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,320 they create content and then you open the especially on Instagram 482 00:29:57,320 --> 00:29:59,040 or something you check the comment section. 483 00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:02,560 God, when am IA tree? And I'm like, ah, so all of you 484 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:06,080 are saying this, this. This is this is this is this is 485 00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:10,320 what I'm always baffled at. You go on IG, check some of the 486 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:12,280 status. She has a Bible. 487 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:19,680 Verse Proverbs 31. Proverbs 31 And now look at 488 00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:25,720 their content. Sometimes I ask myself, when you 489 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:30,360 put that Bible verse on, your bio doesn't reflect, Does it 490 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:32,040 reflect in your life and your character? 491 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:35,720 You, you, you, you. You want a man who is this and 492 00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:39,000 this and this and this and that. Everything about you says you 493 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,400 want the, the, the. Opposite person, reverse 494 00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:45,200 cybersecurity. Then these people will come and 495 00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:47,760 say men are trash. Meanwhile you are nude and 496 00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:51,880 you're in the club and you are grinding on somebody's husband 497 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:55,120 or somebody's baby daddy. And at the end of the day that 498 00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:57,840 man treats you like trash and you come and you say men are 499 00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:00,200 trash. Where did you get that man from? 500 00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:02,320 Ask yourself. She has dated a man from every 501 00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:08,320 region, all the 16. Sometimes, Sometimes I tell 502 00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:11,520 myself that maybe I rather be a poop or something because. 503 00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:27,240 Charlie he's. Thinking there's something wrong 504 00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:35,920 with he's going to something. We need to do. 505 00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:37,840 We need to do this thing on our podcast. 506 00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:41,040 We have to be. No. 507 00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:42,440 It's not worthy. It's not worthy. 508 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:47,960 We have to very therapeutic. We should pick days in which we 509 00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,640 dice it. Each one of us are like an 510 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:51,200 advice.