1 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:07,000 Oh. Mama Game is impaired by. 2 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:11,240 Force maybe I've seen something, I've seen some level of 3 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:16,400 compatibility and I think. Welcome to the news at Six Pussy 4 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:19,600 at It's been what for a month? Yeah, it's been a month. 5 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:21,600 It's been a month. Podcast and not for more, I 6 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:23,240 don't. Know it's a whole night. 7 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:27,640 So all nights, five guys. So we've been trying and we're 8 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:30,120 trying to still build ways to be more consistent. 9 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:32,080 I think we will be. I think we will be. 10 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:35,680 So as you can see, today is just two of us because everyone is 11 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:40,560 trying to survive. So, yeah, but it's fine. 12 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:42,560 We will be fine. Yeah, I'm sure they understand. 13 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:44,040 They do. Forgive us if you don't. 14 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:47,320 Forgive us that you still watch Sally. 15 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:51,160 Another episode. Yeah. 16 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,200 More talks, more vibes. Yeah, more vibes, more vibes, 17 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,120 more vibes. We are, we are literally 18 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:57,720 representing the two in the. Vibes. 19 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:01,200 So maybe this other podcast was supposed to be as well. 20 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:02,360 Let's cook. Let's cook yeah. 21 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:05,760 So I've been in my head a lot lately. 22 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:07,200 I can't lie. I've been in my head a lot 23 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:11,480 lately and funny enough almost every guy everyone around us 24 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:13,600 that I speak to seems to be experiencing the same thing. 25 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:18,840 I don't know if we are living the same lives or like if you 26 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:21,640 want something going on. Charlie, if sometimes feels like 27 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:23,160 a simulation, I'm not going to. I'm serious. 28 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:25,480 Because if serious, start talking to people. 29 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,760 You realize the intersections of whether it's a struggle, whether 30 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:32,240 it's some pain, whether it's some especially finance. 31 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:34,800 There's there's an aspect of everybody's pain that you can. 32 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:36,240 Relate to. Yeah, right. 33 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:39,640 It's either relationship or finances or spiritual growth or 34 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:43,320 maybe parents, family, you know, the ones that are married is 35 00:01:43,320 --> 00:01:45,480 right. But I noticed that a lot of 36 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:47,960 people don't want to talk about it, especially when it comes to 37 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:51,520 the married folks, right? Because like all the excitement 38 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:54,560 I showed on my wedding day and things that I can't tell my guy 39 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:57,800 that I'm going through it, but I'd rather you speak to me 40 00:01:57,800 --> 00:01:59,280 because I can't lose you. You can't. 41 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:01,200 You can't die. Early, I think it was this week, 42 00:02:01,200 --> 00:02:03,160 you sent me a text. It was it was somewhere around 43 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:04,320 last week. Yeah, yeah, yeah, they were. 44 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:06,280 Asking whether I was fine. Yeah, I was going through it. 45 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:10,520 So I think one of the reasons that has really got me thinking 46 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:13,760 is in a few months I'll be hitting the Big 30. 47 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:17,080 Oh, so Charlie, the suicidal person. 48 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:18,760 Oh. Me way across. 49 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,080 How to Charlie. You don't have anything here. 50 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:23,800 I had the exact same feeling. I couldn't believe it. 51 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:27,200 I couldn't believe I was 13. Look, but the moment you hit 31, 52 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:28,720 you become used to it. Trust me. 53 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,000 Yeah, it broke. I'm panicking, I'm scared. 54 00:02:32,040 --> 00:02:35,480 So live on the podcast, bro to bro, I want to tell you that 55 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,360 you're exactly where God wants you to be. 56 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:45,520 Trust me, I think we are all on God's waiting clock. 57 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,280 Everybody's asking God for something, everybody. 58 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:53,480 And I can tell you as a child of God with the power bestowed on 59 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:58,280 me, no amount of tears, no special prayers will change 60 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:00,120 that. You know why? 61 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,040 Tell me there's something you're probably asking God for that He 62 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:07,000 knows you can't handle. If he gets to you now, mark it 63 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,440 anyway. But we give you something right 64 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:10,680 now. You will self sabotage without 65 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:12,920 even knowing. You could lose some simple. 66 00:03:13,640 --> 00:03:16,960 So he he's he checks how you're building your character, your 67 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:21,440 faith in him, and your capacity to handle whatever you're asking 68 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,240 him for. And then when he thinks it's 69 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:27,560 time, he will release it. You you don't get something 70 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:29,080 where you know you prefer before like it. 71 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:31,720 Yeah, that's how it works, man. Me as I did. 72 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:35,400 Stress free bro I've been. Scared if, if there's one word, 73 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,640 it's like, it's like a battalion of zombies. 74 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:41,480 Yeah. So is it like, do you feel like 75 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:42,600 you haven't achieved a lot? I feel. 76 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:46,480 I had these expectations for myself in your 20s, and then I 77 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:49,320 hit my my latter 20s and I've not. 78 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:52,160 Really seen those things of it. Because I'm part of the few 79 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,840 people that wanted to get married early. 80 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:57,800 Oh yeah, yeah. But you know The funny thing? 81 00:03:57,800 --> 00:03:58,640 Yeah. Tell me. 82 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:02,640 I think this thing was grooming from when we were kids because 83 00:04:02,640 --> 00:04:04,440 if you remember, I know we didn't attend the same school, 84 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:06,440 but I know almost everybody had this experience. 85 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:08,640 When you finish ESS, you go to s s. 86 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:11,360 After s s, you go to university. After university, national 87 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:14,200 service, you get a job. There was a template, You get a 88 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:15,800 job after job. War, marriage. 89 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:18,640 Yeah. Do you know that has let me even 90 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:20,640 switch the conversation? Do you know that is still 91 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:24,720 affecting a lot of young ladies, Ladies especially because 92 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:28,640 there's 23 to 25, They should have settled down, that's right, 93 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:30,800 met their person because they've been told that that's when 94 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:34,000 you're most fertile to start a family, right? 95 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:38,720 So once that is not going on and like I'm 20, I'm 29. 96 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:42,840 You know what makes it worse? When mummy comes one day, knocks 97 00:04:42,840 --> 00:04:48,720 on your door and like Erisi, when are you bringing someone to 98 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:49,920 that? Part is when you've never had 99 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:52,680 that conversation. Bro, when I was young you want 100 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:54,320 me to go out, so I just want me to bring. 101 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:58,720 A guy home, it's like. When are you bringing it? 102 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,800 I'm not attacking you. When are you bringing a guy to 103 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:05,640 come and meet the family? See, you can pretend all you 104 00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:10,400 want. They think about it West. 105 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:13,920 Another worst case scenario when you've got when you've got a 106 00:05:13,920 --> 00:05:18,560 medical condition that could possibly harm your fertility and 107 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:20,720 you're pushing 2913. Crazy. 108 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,000 Crazier than it. Is I think right now people are 109 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:24,680 considering freezing their eggs and stuff. 110 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:26,440 Everybody's. Walking around with some fear, 111 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:28,680 right? But I'll repeat it. 112 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:32,040 You are exactly where God wants you to be. 113 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:34,280 Trust me. Especially for a lady that's 114 00:05:34,280 --> 00:05:35,560 probably. I want to get married, give 115 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:37,280 birth. You'd probably divorce in three 116 00:05:37,280 --> 00:05:39,120 months. You think you can handle 117 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:40,200 marriage? You probably can't. 118 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:42,600 You think it's nice because you see the photos, you're on 119 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:46,760 Pinterest saving your wedding gown and your too specific Eddie 120 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:50,480 cool down. No, because it's a thing. 121 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:52,760 Yeah, it's a specific. You'll see in the best wedding 122 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:54,560 video. Saving them to your saved 123 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:56,880 collection on Instagram and things. 124 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:02,040 You get married, you finish eating the cake, you get home, 125 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:04,320 the music fades out, everybody goes home. 126 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:06,400 It's you and your husband. That's when you realize that. 127 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,640 Start work. You start work. 128 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:12,160 That's when you realize that. The capacity you've built I. 129 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:14,720 Saw I saw something on Twitter yesterday, he said. 130 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:20,400 X He said you can hide your childhood traumas all you like 131 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,280 by your your romantic relationship. 132 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:23,320 I saw you saw that. I saw that. 133 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:25,200 As. Well, the real estate thing I've 134 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:26,520 seen, you think you're already here. 135 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:29,280 Someone probably doesn't have a child after they've got married 136 00:06:29,280 --> 00:06:31,320 'cause God knows you're not ready to be a parent. 137 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:35,000 You got married because God knew you were ready to be a wife. 138 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:36,960 That's right. But you don't have that child 139 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,320 here, because God knows you're not ready to be a mother. 140 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:42,120 I think, I think a good friend said this, that every single 141 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:45,160 time I'm looking at a woman or like a female, I should look at 142 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:48,200 her from a woman perspective, look at her from a wife 143 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:49,760 perspective and a mother perspective. 144 00:06:50,120 --> 00:06:53,120 You might have people that are perfect wives, they're not good 145 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:55,880 mothers, they're not good women. You might have somebody that is 146 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:59,160 a good woman, but then she's not a Good Wife, neither is she a 147 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,280 good mother. So every single time you're in a 148 00:07:01,280 --> 00:07:03,320 relationship with any, the same thing applies to a man. 149 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:04,920 A man has. Exactly, Exactly. 150 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:08,080 A father, yeah. So you need to build capacities 151 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:11,640 in those kind of sectors as well so that when you're getting York 152 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:15,640 with any single person or anyone, you can tell said I can 153 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:18,600 build a family with this person. She'll be an amazing wife and 154 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:20,720 she'll be a woman. I mean, let me break it down a 155 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:23,280 bit. So a, a man in this context 156 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:25,040 means he needs to be ambitious. He needs to be. 157 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:28,360 Like a provider, a protector. Exactly, he needs to have that. 158 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:30,560 I wish some. Knowledge unloved. 159 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:33,320 Yeah. And then the father, I mean, 160 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:37,040 must play the role of a father and then a husband must be 161 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:40,800 somebody that clearly understands you enough to head 162 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:43,120 you and a friend, a partner in a way that. 163 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:44,800 Companion. Fantastic, yeah. 164 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:46,960 So there are people that are good at that. 165 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:50,040 When, when I discovered that, I started asking myself these 166 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,080 questions. Am I ambitious enough for for my 167 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:54,720 partner? Am I, can I be a good father? 168 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:56,800 I'm I'm very certain I'd be a great father. 169 00:07:56,800 --> 00:07:58,480 Will I be a great partner? I'm very certain. 170 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:02,960 Now it has to come to your manliness, and your manliness 171 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:07,400 also has to a larger degree, it has fragments of religion, 172 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:10,600 faith, how you're going to hold, your family system how you're 173 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:12,680 going to hold. You're the leader, you know so. 174 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:17,040 If you can't even as a, as a single person, carry yourself 175 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:19,640 through that phase, how are you bringing somebody around 176 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:21,600 exactly. So when I think about my phase 177 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:24,360 of having all these templates of getting, wanting to get married 178 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:26,880 early, and I look at those assessments, I do that 179 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:29,480 assessment and I realize, Charlie, they're saying things 180 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:31,920 I'm not really good at. I'm like, OK, I might as well 181 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:34,480 just take this time. Yeah, to build capacity. 182 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:39,600 Now there's always that inset of you can, you can do it. 183 00:08:39,679 --> 00:08:42,000 You can learn on a job. You don't have to perfect 184 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:44,120 everything. And that's the zombie effect for 185 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:45,800 me. That's the scary effect for me 186 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:48,880 because I have all these markets, Eddie, I have all these 187 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:52,560 things I wanted to attain, all these things that are on my 188 00:08:52,560 --> 00:08:55,400 list. And I look back at that list and 189 00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:58,920 I'm like, bro, what was I doing? Yeah, exactly. 190 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:00,160 In 20. Like right now. 191 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,440 Like why? But I know the good thing you're 192 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,560 still getting started somehow. And it. 193 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:12,040 Get started somehow because my, my point is, where did I hear 194 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:19,000 this on techno? Early is on time, on time is 195 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:22,320 late and late is not acceptable, right? 196 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:26,760 You think you should have started something at 23? 197 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:32,120 I wish the things I'm learning now on my job in my career that 198 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:34,280 I feel like I could have done this certification when I 199 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:36,600 started being a digital marketing professional, right? 200 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:39,960 But why am I doing it now? I feel like it's too late, but 201 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:44,120 I'm still doing it. What if maybe at that point it 202 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:46,960 would have changed who I was as a person, because then you 203 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:49,040 become proud. You feel like you know it all 204 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:50,720 you reach. So now you know, listen your 205 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:53,160 boss self again, because Charlie, you get some 10 206 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:56,760 certifications, Charlie, if you open somebody LinkedIn, ACCIBI, 207 00:09:56,760 --> 00:10:00,560 MB, BCUKUS, Canada, like we get it. 208 00:10:00,560 --> 00:10:07,320 But what if so my point is, I don't, I don't think I have I've 209 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:08,840 got regrets as I see here right now. 210 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:13,320 I think God has taken me through different phases of life where 211 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:17,520 at every point in time, I think what I would rather regret is 212 00:10:17,520 --> 00:10:20,320 that if I didn't learn anything from that phase, right? 213 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:24,560 And I was saying something about my Bible study teacher, Uncle 214 00:10:24,560 --> 00:10:26,040 Sydney, shout outs to you, Uncle Sydney. 215 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:30,200 He said sometimes God, God takes us through something, right? 216 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:32,760 And the whole point of that phase is for you to learn 217 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,640 something. If you don't learn it, it's like 218 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:38,760 repeating a class you go back to. 219 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:42,120 Some people have prayed and prayed and prayed. 220 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:44,800 And as I was saying, you think you're ready to be a dad. 221 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:46,600 So you've gotten married. You want to start a family. 222 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:48,520 You and your wife have been trying. 223 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:52,600 I'm not not to be insensitive. Some people have the issues, 224 00:10:52,600 --> 00:10:55,400 medical issues and spiritual issues and blah, blah, blah. 225 00:10:55,720 --> 00:11:01,440 But in this context, God definitely knows that you're not 226 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:04,200 ready to be a dad. You can push God. 227 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:05,920 You can push God. You can push God. 228 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:08,280 He would release it. You will mess it up. 229 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:12,320 Do you know the pain and the trauma that would come from 230 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:14,360 finally getting what you wanted and losing it? 231 00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:16,200 Yeah. Just think about it. 232 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:18,960 You pray to God to let me tell you the West side of self 233 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:20,560 sabotage. You're you're a banker or 234 00:11:20,560 --> 00:11:22,520 whatever I tell her. And you get a job. 235 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:26,040 You work in the bank and someone did some move with you and you 236 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:28,880 added 10 to someones check. You pay, you tried and catch you 237 00:11:29,680 --> 00:11:32,160 but this is a job. You prayed, you fasted, you 238 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:35,840 sold, you sold seeds, then yourself sabotaged. 239 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,160 God was delaying you because you weren't ready. 240 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:41,920 You didn't have the the moral standard, the emotional 241 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:44,560 intelligence and the leadership to handle it. 242 00:11:44,640 --> 00:11:47,320 And that's why, you know, you were probably an assistant 243 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:48,800 somewhere before you became a boss. 244 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:51,720 I want to use a biblical reference and it's it's it's a 245 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:53,600 it's a commentary. At the same time, a question. 246 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:57,040 If if you look at the story of the protocol son where he asked 247 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:59,360 for what he was doing from his father and his father gave to 248 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:01,600 him. I mean, from a context of God 249 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:05,560 knowing everything, would he give you something, watch you go 250 00:12:05,560 --> 00:12:07,920 and do your? Stuff, I think God does that. 251 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:12,760 I think sometimes he does that. It's just so everybody be guy, 252 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:15,040 man. I feel like sometimes he just 253 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:18,560 gets his guts a moment or like I told you, because you know, I'm 254 00:12:18,560 --> 00:12:20,280 like, I saw a Nigerian movie like that. 255 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:22,520 I was a child, but I still remember there was a guy who was 256 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:26,440 paying the biggest amount of tithes at church. 257 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:28,000 Everything was asking God for money. 258 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:30,280 He was seven. He was always at church and God 259 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:33,400 made him rich. No, I think it wasn't God. 260 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:37,480 I think he went to do blood oath or something to to become rich, 261 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:40,760 you know, or something something happened, but he had an 262 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:42,920 encounter with God or an Angel and God was trying. 263 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:45,680 I think whoever it was was trying to tell him that This is 264 00:12:45,680 --> 00:12:49,160 why I didn't make you rich because he became proud, rude, 265 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:53,240 disrespectful. All his they said money changes 266 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:56,600 people. Never does money brings out your 267 00:12:56,600 --> 00:13:01,680 true self, your pride level be be 48 hours, right? 268 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:04,520 So the prodigal son needed that experience. 269 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:07,200 And that's what I like to focus on the experience. 270 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:09,800 Not because God gave him something and he lost it or he 271 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:13,280 went and came back. He needed that experience. 272 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:17,480 Imagine the prodigal son without that experience, without him 273 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:21,120 eating food meant for the pigs, without him knowing what it 274 00:13:21,120 --> 00:13:23,760 feels like to not be in your father's mansion. 275 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:28,120 You know, he had to go through that to come back to his senses. 276 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:31,680 You know, now that he was back to his dad's place, he would 277 00:13:31,680 --> 00:13:32,920 know how to handle things better. 278 00:13:32,920 --> 00:13:34,560 He would know how to treat his dad better. 279 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:36,560 I think sometimes God takes us through that. 280 00:13:36,560 --> 00:13:38,360 You need to lose a job at some point. 281 00:13:39,120 --> 00:13:41,120 You need to know what it feels like to not have money in your 282 00:13:41,120 --> 00:13:43,480 account. You need what it feels like to 283 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:44,600 be single. That's right. 284 00:13:44,880 --> 00:13:48,040 Not have anyone to talk to. You need to know how it feels 285 00:13:48,040 --> 00:13:49,720 like to be disappointed, to be betrayed. 286 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:52,240 You need that as it builds you up. 287 00:13:52,560 --> 00:13:54,800 And then later on, 10 years later, I might not even be 3 288 00:13:54,800 --> 00:13:57,520 months old. 10 years later, you would remember, You know, 289 00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,000 sometimes it's like a Deja vu, right? 290 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:00,280 Yeah. You'll be there and you remember 291 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:02,200 something that happened like 10 years ago, like. 292 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:05,560 Oh, OK. I have a personal experience. 293 00:14:05,560 --> 00:14:09,040 This is very personal to someone like 2014. 294 00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:13,120 When I came back to this country, I went to hell. 295 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:17,720 Like hell. And one of the craziest things 296 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:21,040 was sometimes there are people you'd label as friends that will 297 00:14:21,040 --> 00:14:23,840 be there for you. But that was my face of God 298 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:27,000 telling me that nobody is there, just me. 299 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,720 I'm the main character in this. Everybody else comes in. 300 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:34,800 And it was sad to me because I felt I put people on this 301 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:38,440 pedestal that if I have issues, like I should be able to talk to 302 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:41,960 my pups, my mum, you know, But all these people were going 303 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:46,160 through things and was like you and nobody else. 304 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:50,040 But then God showed me constantly that in conversation. 305 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:52,320 And one of the things that I think the church needs to preach 306 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:57,000 more of is the fact that God is not looking for you to speak the 307 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:58,480 perfect words. Yeah, yeah. 308 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:02,200 During those phases of my life, I constantly said that God, I 309 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:04,040 can't pray. I don't know what to say. 310 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:08,320 And he's like the emotions I gave to you, I feel them than 311 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:10,120 you do. I gave you those emotions. 312 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:15,360 So if you have one, imagine what I I possess because I need to 313 00:15:15,360 --> 00:15:19,280 have to give. So it's that a higher tendency, 314 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:21,640 right? And I was like, God, why am I 315 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:23,400 feeling this way? Why am I going through this? 316 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:24,960 Why does it feel like I'm Austria? 317 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:27,640 Exercise. And he keeps telling me that I 318 00:15:27,640 --> 00:15:29,600 just need you to find who you are. 319 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:32,640 And you can only find who you are through me, not through the 320 00:15:32,640 --> 00:15:35,120 lenses of people. And I realized I was looking at 321 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:36,520 myself from the lenses of people. 322 00:15:36,520 --> 00:15:38,680 Oh, Stefanie, you're like this. Stefanie, you're like that. 323 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:41,720 Even with your parents, with the direction of your career, your 324 00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:44,480 faith, everything. I was a church boy, but they 325 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:46,440 didn't know God. I was a church. 326 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:48,320 Boy, this problem. But this problem. 327 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:51,840 I didn't know why he chose me for a job. 328 00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:55,320 I didn't know why I came to this country till now. 329 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:59,840 I look back bro are they handle my they do things I I love. 330 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:01,920 You genuinely, you're genuinely happy on this job I. 331 00:16:02,040 --> 00:16:05,240 Always say this, I always say this do I don't know what would 332 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:08,320 have happened, but if Charlie maybe like a day there still I 333 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:11,000 don't know. Oh no, no, by now you're the 334 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:15,760 wedge like maybe like the spring on you. 335 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:18,840 Oh bro, did you are going to be crap. 336 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:27,960 The Microphone Costume Club. Some of these things you clearly 337 00:16:27,960 --> 00:16:29,880 don't know. And I look back at those many 338 00:16:29,880 --> 00:16:32,800 times I was crying, those many times I thought God had rejected 339 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:34,720 me. But he's like, this process is 340 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:37,200 necessary. I think John Lamore sang this 341 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:41,240 rendition of Mary Did You Know? And he's like, if Mary knew that 342 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:44,640 the baby she was carrying was going to see the world. 343 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:47,000 That's the whole point. That's the whole point. 344 00:16:47,000 --> 00:16:49,680 That's the whole point. If God took you five years ahead 345 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:53,800 right now, right, you know, you would still mess a lot of things 346 00:16:53,840 --> 00:16:54,120 up. Yeah. 347 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:56,080 Because you would want to achieve a particular thing 348 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:59,560 you've seen five years from now. So you try to make your steps, 349 00:16:59,600 --> 00:17:02,640 every step you take from now lead up to that five years from 350 00:17:02,640 --> 00:17:04,760 now. I thank God that he doesn't give 351 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:09,359 us that privilege, right? Because there are so many things 352 00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:13,200 that I've built my capacity. Disappointments, heart breaks, 353 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:17,520 betrayals and failures, you know, they're all part. 354 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:23,839 And I think one thing that I was telling a friend that the only 355 00:17:23,839 --> 00:17:28,760 thing God didn't take from us is the power to choose, bro, the 356 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:33,040 way we feel, what we eat, what we wear, the church you attend, 357 00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:35,080 the school, blah, blah, blah. We chose them. 358 00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:39,200 That's right. So whatever experience is the 359 00:17:39,200 --> 00:17:41,600 prodigal son could have chosen never to come back. 360 00:17:42,760 --> 00:17:44,160 He's so hard to make a decision there. 361 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:45,680 He could have chosen to stay there. 362 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:47,440 Hustle, let me hustle, hustle, hustle, hustle. 363 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:52,320 Maybe one day you go click, click, right, but he came back. 364 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:55,840 He made a decision. So you remember when pastors are 365 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:57,360 we are doing altar calls at church. 366 00:17:57,400 --> 00:17:59,520 We don't forsake on anybody right. 367 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:03,160 You need to choose to make Jesus your personal savior. 368 00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:05,080 You need to choose to walk to the front. 369 00:18:05,360 --> 00:18:06,840 You need to choose to accept him. 370 00:18:06,840 --> 00:18:08,920 That's right. He didn't foresee on us. 371 00:18:09,160 --> 00:18:12,440 You need to accept it. So that's why the prodigal son 372 00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:14,960 went back. Now if you go through the 373 00:18:14,960 --> 00:18:17,600 wilderness experience, you can choose to stay there. 374 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:19,360 You can choose not to learn anything. 375 00:18:19,360 --> 00:18:21,680 You can choose not to grow and you'll be there. 376 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:24,280 Be there be then be then you repeat the class to learn what 377 00:18:24,280 --> 00:18:27,480 you have to learn. Unfortunately for some of us, if 378 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:31,040 you be guarding first one like some of us, it's a bit harsh. 379 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:34,000 It's harsher than what the the average person could go through 380 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:36,200 right. You realize that the slightest 381 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:40,520 sense of you feeling lost almost end you up in depression because 382 00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:43,000 he feels like God does know how it was. 383 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:44,360 That's not how I've been with you. 384 00:18:44,840 --> 00:18:46,240 I haven't prayed for three days now. 385 00:18:46,240 --> 00:18:48,160 That's not me. Meanwhile, someone hasn't prayed 386 00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:49,240 for two years, they haven't gone to jail. 387 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:52,600 They're fine, they're cool, but you, you missed the mark for a 388 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:54,720 week and that's the power of the Holy Spirit because he said he 389 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,520 was going to send a comforter, someone who would give you the 390 00:18:57,520 --> 00:18:59,880 conviction. I had a whole different 391 00:18:59,880 --> 00:19:01,880 revelation and perspective of Psalm 23. 392 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,520 David didn't say the Lord is the shepherd. 393 00:19:05,360 --> 00:19:09,000 The Lord is my shepherd. It's too personal. 394 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:13,440 And then he goes forward to say your rod and your staff. 395 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:15,600 You know what? A rod is useful. 396 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:18,600 Yeah, Spare the rod and spoil. The child is used to discipline 397 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:23,880 and a staff is used to direct and navigate your rod and your 398 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:25,760 staff. They don't control me, they 399 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:29,360 comfort me. So even when God is scolding 400 00:19:29,360 --> 00:19:32,120 you, the end game is comfort, right? 401 00:19:32,360 --> 00:19:35,680 So if I go through any wilderness experience, my point 402 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:41,000 is God is up to something. If, if, if I didn't get that job 403 00:19:41,120 --> 00:19:43,200 is because I'm meant to get a better one, right? 404 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:44,320 It's not because I didn't prepare. 405 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:45,560 That's the thing. You have to do your part. 406 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:48,440 You've you've prepared, you dress well, smell, smell good. 407 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:51,280 You studied, you know, you know, you know your stuff, but you 408 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:53,560 still didn't get the job. It's not time yet, bro. 409 00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:57,320 Like relax. And I used to be and I think I 410 00:19:57,320 --> 00:19:59,160 can't lie. Like if something small, no, 411 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:01,280 then my mind blah blah blah blah. 412 00:20:03,120 --> 00:20:05,240 Bro, I'm a Christian. I'm godson, right? 413 00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:07,320 Yeah, it's fine. Yeah, it's OK. 414 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:12,320 I've never felt this much peace that I have now, you know, since 415 00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:16,760 I decided I I chose to believe that God always has something 416 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:18,360 better for me. You know me. 417 00:20:18,360 --> 00:20:21,880 I will tell you once again, me. I am exactly where God wants me 418 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:25,160 to be. Because there are times that 419 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:29,080 I'll give you a typical example. We were working together and I 420 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:29,880 quit. You remember? 421 00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:31,840 Yeah, Because I got better offer somewhere. 422 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:34,480 I didn't pray about it. And that contract never came. 423 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:38,000 You know why? They were offering me crazy 424 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:39,800 money. If I told you, you'd be 425 00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:42,800 surprised. Someone made me a promise and I 426 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:45,040 believed the person. I never prayed about it. 427 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:48,600 It was just the before we had the excitement, I was, I was 428 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:51,760 going to leave Ghana. I was going to travel, bro, I 429 00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:57,040 was taking places I would rent and I do budget to, you know, 430 00:20:57,040 --> 00:21:00,920 and I quit, you know, how do I quit a job without securing 431 00:21:00,920 --> 00:21:03,760 another one? You know me, I'm I've got my 432 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,760 head screwed on, bro. Like I would never do something 433 00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:08,720 like that. That was the biggest thing like, 434 00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:13,320 and you know, when God told me it was two years after the this 435 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:16,440 thing happened in 2022, it was like last year that was 436 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:18,640 analyzing everything. I was like, you didn't pray 437 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:22,200 about it, did you? It's like, yeah, I never went to 438 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:24,800 God with it. I was, I was excited. 439 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:28,000 And that was yet another reminder that you don't trust 440 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:32,280 people though. Like if I took it to God in one 441 00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:37,000 devotion one day, took a seat to church, like God, if this is for 442 00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,120 me, let it go through. If this is not for me, tell me 443 00:21:40,120 --> 00:21:42,480 what to do or something like something happened I think I 444 00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:44,000 would have handled. It I think the more the more 445 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:48,680 intense our fellowship is with God, the lesser we start seeing 446 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:52,320 our expectations and start seeing that the noise becomes a 447 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:55,960 bit turned out because more reason why we we love our 448 00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:59,240 expectations and our desires is because it glorifies our flesh 449 00:21:59,240 --> 00:22:00,960 so much I. Was I was literally about. 450 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,320 To say this, it does. All the things you're asking God 451 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:05,080 for. Yeah, I'm not belittling your 452 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,200 expectations. All the things you're asking God 453 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,640 for, there are add-ons to make your life comfort. 454 00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:10,600 That's right. That's right. 455 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:14,080 You've got clothes, you've got a job, you get paid, you eat. 456 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,080 There's not a single day you're going to bed without food, 457 00:22:16,360 --> 00:22:17,600 right? You're able to afford your 458 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:19,360 childhood. Somebody know if you pickle bow? 459 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:21,560 Yeah. Able to afford transportation 460 00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:24,520 and everything. Every single thing we are asking 461 00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:28,720 God for is something we need to make life easier, bearable, 462 00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:32,520 comfortable, Right? Take those things away. 463 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:35,000 Would you lose your life? Absolutely not. 464 00:22:35,360 --> 00:22:37,360 God knows why He's giving you things now. 465 00:22:37,360 --> 00:22:39,160 Let me also give you another scenario. 466 00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,040 Five years ago, were you earning the money you're earning now? 467 00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:44,120 Hell no. Where you where you are now? 468 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:45,960 So imagine five years from today, where are you? 469 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:47,720 Going to be definitely. Exactly. 470 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:49,760 I asked myself this question. I sleep. 471 00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:51,480 I it's not like I'm not kidding, bro. 472 00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:53,840 Wow. I sleep because five years you 473 00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:56,440 get some five years ago. Where were you bro? 474 00:22:56,720 --> 00:23:01,840 Bro five years ago was. Crazy, bro, right? 475 00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:08,200 You are a copywriter five years ago now, five years ago, where 476 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:11,480 were you? And so look at look when 2025, 477 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:13,200 look at 2030, where are you going to be? 478 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:17,120 You can imagine the and for me personally, my growth has been 479 00:23:17,120 --> 00:23:18,880 so exponential. It's crazy. 480 00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:23,120 I remember when I was leaving Samsung, I was like, bro, that's 481 00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:28,120 top two tech companies. You don't quit, you're going to 482 00:23:28,120 --> 00:23:33,160 join a startup. No, but that's the that's the 483 00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,520 real thing. I was leaving the top two tech 484 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:39,760 companies globally, not Africa, not Ghana, global tech company, 485 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:44,240 head of digital marketing, Ghana, Ivory Coast, Cameroon. 486 00:23:44,360 --> 00:23:46,680 Adequate going to join a startup. 487 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:48,240 I don't even know if it's going to work or not. 488 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:50,320 Hello. Hello. 489 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,560 Now you met all of us. Listen, now we're here doing a 490 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:57,520 you, Godwin man, Eddie Junior, we all work together. 491 00:23:58,360 --> 00:23:59,840 Was meant to be. You get it. 492 00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:02,360 Now we're here, people listen to our podcast and come and send 493 00:24:02,360 --> 00:24:03,760 Adm. You really encourage me. 494 00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:06,520 Listen, every single thing is for a purpose, bro. 495 00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:12,440 Like something really difficult has happened to me in terms of 496 00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:17,800 ministry. And I kept thinking about it and 497 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:20,560 I was like. God bless you on the 498 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:23,040 Thanksgiving song with emoji by the. 499 00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:24,240 Way. Yeah, Charlie. 500 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:26,880 Fire. Charlie, fire somebody. 501 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,440 Somebody asked me some question where I think I said no. 502 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:33,120 God is always giving me cues when it's time for me to move 503 00:24:33,120 --> 00:24:35,680 into a bigger thing, right? Something they cast 504 00:24:36,360 --> 00:24:39,080 effortlessly. And then all of a sudden I start 505 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:44,000 getting ideas. Funny enough, I told you, I've 506 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:45,440 been working with man on something, right? 507 00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:48,120 All of a sudden I'm getting clients for a particular thing 508 00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,360 and they're all Christian creative something, something 509 00:24:51,360 --> 00:24:54,120 I've been dreaming of, something I've been prophesied to that I 510 00:24:54,120 --> 00:24:57,680 would own. All of a sudden my focus shifted 511 00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:01,480 from playing to empowering. That's right, right. 512 00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:04,920 With all the knowledge I've gathered on my 95 on my in my 513 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:08,520 career marketing, digital marketing, creative marketing, 514 00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,600 content marketing, everything I'm using it to advance the 515 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:17,280 Kingdom now and still being paid for it right and it's like you 516 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:21,880 need it not to make you sad. My first job be their cousins. 517 00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:26,560 I didn't interview for it. Shout outs to my first boss 518 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:30,760 Steven and I say he met me at church. 519 00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,560 He used to play the keyboard Tesla Baptist after church 1. 520 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:35,880 You know, I used to promote gospel events on those days. 521 00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:39,680 Facebook was the I used to promote that one. 522 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,840 I used to like we just we had a band called PO Crew. 523 00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,040 We were playing for almost every gospel artist in the country, 524 00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:46,800 right? And I was just promoting events. 525 00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,800 No, no, he had added me as a friend. 526 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:51,440 I didn't even know. So one day after church, he's 527 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:54,640 like, do you want to do digital marketing? 528 00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:59,480 I was like in my head, I'm like, I had no idea because I was 529 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:02,720 studying network engineering and Internet security, right? 530 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:07,720 Maintain market in Canada. And this was 2014, like, Nah. 531 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:10,320 And he said, don't worry, I got you. 532 00:26:10,360 --> 00:26:13,160 That's what he said. He made me go for an interview 533 00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:17,560 with a popular agency and they asked me if I drink. 534 00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,120 I'm like, Nah, do we party? Nah, do you clap? 535 00:26:20,120 --> 00:26:24,080 Nah, we can't give you the job because the the brands you'd 536 00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,240 handle, you have to go for activations in the club. 537 00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,840 And I was like, fine, yeah, that was level 300. 538 00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:31,120 So I didn't even need a job. The job was a plus. 539 00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,240 I just walked out. So he travelled. 540 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,240 He came back and I told him I was like this, what happened? 541 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:38,400 He said don't worry at that point I felt like he was 542 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:41,680 bullshitting me. Said I've got another one for 543 00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:43,520 you this time in my office. OK? 544 00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:46,120 Said I should send him my e-mail address. 545 00:26:46,120 --> 00:26:47,480 He sent me something to go through. 546 00:26:50,120 --> 00:26:53,640 Long story short, effortlessly effortless. 547 00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:55,760 My first ever job. Do you know please? 548 00:26:55,760 --> 00:27:01,360 Their cousins, all the biggest FMCG companies studied under 549 00:27:01,360 --> 00:27:06,640 him. He's the one God used to get me 550 00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:08,640 into digital marketing, to train me to mentor. 551 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,360 Me to how God got me into digital marketing. 552 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:19,560 You know if I mentioned and it was bro. 553 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:25,720 I studied. Political Science, political 554 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:27,200 science. And then I always wanted to be a 555 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:30,800 diplomat like I, I like the international relations, so. 556 00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:32,280 Much so, definitely. That would have been your 557 00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:37,640 masters, Yes, in international. Relations now maybe but like God 558 00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:42,360 just put me on a setting pedestal and then started 559 00:27:42,360 --> 00:27:45,840 writing my story I I always call God my author you know people 560 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:49,040 say he's my king there's. One word and finish off my 561 00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:52,880 author, he wrote, He writes. The the stories of my life. 562 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:57,280 And then I look back and I was like, because I did, I did. 563 00:27:57,320 --> 00:27:59,720 Apparently I did low key marketing somewhere. 564 00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:02,040 I was about to because there's there's political marketing. 565 00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:06,840 In greed in greed something the time of day old boy inside and 566 00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:09,600 it just tied into what exactly I'm doing doing content 567 00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:12,880 marketing, digital and. I'm like, how, how did you, but 568 00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:14,960 you had no idea I didn't happen exactly. 569 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:16,960 Exactly. So that was, that's why I was 570 00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:21,000 saying like my growth has been so exponential that today the 571 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:25,840 man that gave me the first opportunity would call me, can 572 00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:29,240 you review this for me? Can you go through this for me? 573 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:31,240 I'm doing this. I want to partner with you and 574 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:32,120 I'm like. Me. 575 00:28:32,120 --> 00:28:33,640 This God is good. Right. 576 00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:36,840 And The thing is, there's one aspect we never also talk about. 577 00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:40,600 You need to allow yourself. God can be taking you through 578 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,000 something. You can be so stubborn you'll be 579 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,440 fighting back. You don't want the experience 580 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,800 because it's uncomfortable. It doesn't make you feel good, 581 00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:50,600 right? You know the align. 582 00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:54,160 You know the align with what you want because you feel like, as 583 00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:55,840 you said, you're hitting the big number, right? 584 00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:58,600 You should be somewhere by now. So whatever you're probably 585 00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:00,840 going through now doesn't align with what you expect. 586 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,560 You'll be surprised at what you're going through now. 587 00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:06,440 You need it for when you're 35. And if you don't go through it 588 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,000 now, it's going to happen when you're 40. 589 00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:11,880 So would you rather swallow the red pill now or swallow when 590 00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:16,080 you're 40 when you probably have two, three kids plus a wife, So 591 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:18,000 you're responsible for four more people? 592 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:22,360 Would you rather carry it now that you're alone and your your 593 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:26,600 burden is less, right? So the the summary of everything 594 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:31,200 is life is not a straight line. You'd be disappointed, you'd be 595 00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:33,440 betrayed, you'd be stressed, you'd be overwhelmed. 596 00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,320 The police find attached good plenty. 597 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:38,360 They're all noted good plenty. They're bashing good plenty. 598 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:44,600 My colleague at work, George George has always said I don't 599 00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:45,240 have. I have. 600 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,520 He has a problem with me because I always look like I don't have 601 00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:52,240 problems. I didn't really dip it until 602 00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:57,400 like from last week. I was like, oh wow, OK, I look 603 00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:01,240 like I don't have problems. You don't know. 604 00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:03,880 You don't know. But that's what Grace does. 605 00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:05,040 Yeah, right. Yeah. 606 00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:07,800 When you depend on God so much, it's not like we don't have 607 00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:09,800 problems. I've got things that could keep 608 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:12,280 me up at night and everything, but I've got things I'm trying 609 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:16,920 to figure out. But God has been there for me so 610 00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:20,360 much that I know that it's going to work out. 611 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:23,000 Sometimes I think we forget. Sometimes we forget so. 612 00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,440 Quickly forget we really. Forget SO. 613 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:29,200 How he's he keeps showing up every single time, especially 614 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,560 when we least expected. Like I always say that I've 615 00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,080 never gone for an interview like for job. 616 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:36,480 I was about to say, but I thought it would. 617 00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:38,320 I thought it would have been like. 618 00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:41,600 You know to put out I've never. I've worked with four 619 00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:44,080 multinationals. I've never, ever interviewed for 620 00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:44,600 a job. Yeah. 621 00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:48,080 So you, you came in highly recommended. 622 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:52,440 OK. And I just show up and that's 623 00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:53,040 it. You already tell. 624 00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:56,280 People, this people don't believe this like I, I tell 625 00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:58,960 people. They never fought for anything 626 00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:02,360 all my life. Used to when I used to preach on 627 00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:04,160 campus, right? Hey, Charlie. 628 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,240 Why have you Charlie? Right, like I didn't tell them 629 00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:15,000 you never you never do something for God and in fancy Rebecca. 630 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,320 Right, of course. He's always got you of course, 631 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:21,720 but don't have the one. Thing we shouldn't do is don't 632 00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:25,400 be. Don't govern what God should do 633 00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:26,680 for you. You can't even blackmail him, 634 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,120 that's like. You're always at church. 635 00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:31,800 No, you could. You could have the worst 636 00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:33,680 nightmares. Let him move. 637 00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:36,000 Let him do the thing he wants to do with your life. 638 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:37,560 I was telling you there are people that. 639 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:39,640 Are so active at church, everything. 640 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:41,640 They are married, they still can't have kids. 641 00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:43,960 And it's not because God doesn't love them. 642 00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:46,400 It's not because God doesn't come through for them. 643 00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:52,000 What if you brought a child into the world and the child died on 644 00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:53,680 the spot? Do you know the pain you're 645 00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:54,920 going to carry for the rest of your life? 646 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:56,920 Right. And God knows your capacity to 647 00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:57,920 handle pain. That's right. 648 00:31:57,920 --> 00:31:59,760 So maybe he doesn't even want that to happen. 649 00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:03,040 He wants that to happen when you can handle something that baby 650 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:05,440 is not. He's going to live, you know? 651 00:32:05,520 --> 00:32:08,160 He knows when the time is set. He knows what's best, like 652 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,120 everything. I know it's easier said. 653 00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:12,840 As I'm sitting here, I know it's easier said because I still fall 654 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:15,960 prey to that, but I wish we could grow so much to the point 655 00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:18,520 where you could literally be staring at the storm and be 656 00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:22,920 smiling. Like, OK, do your worst. 657 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:27,680 I know God would come. You know, socially it's what we 658 00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:29,400 just need to focus. The expectations. 659 00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,680 We set that causes depression and everything. 660 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:37,480 They are our expectations, our expectations. 661 00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:41,600 If you know right, your general God no talking is I I said some 662 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:43,840 skit to be or was it Godwin someone set it to a group like 663 00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:48,840 it was an air generator video. The video was like, Hey, God, 664 00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:52,880 the boyfriend you gave me, he's stingy and God was like, I don't 665 00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,880 really think about it since that we take things and present to 666 00:32:57,880 --> 00:32:59,480 God like God bless this thing for me. 667 00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:02,200 That is that his will for me. Let me, let me be. 668 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:04,840 Fatalized by saying this that one of the scriptures that 669 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:08,280 really draws my attention to focus is when Jesus was in a 670 00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:12,000 boat and then the disciples were so focused on what coming the 671 00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:12,760 storm. Yep. 672 00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:15,440 But. They forgot that there was. 673 00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:18,640 Bro he was sleeping and that is the mentality. 674 00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:22,600 We must have that in the storm. We shouldn't care because we can 675 00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:25,400 tell that the storm to be still. He will do what he will do. 676 00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,640 At the end of the day, so there were an air cost might do 677 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,040 because he just woke up and said please be still. 678 00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:33,200 And that was that one word these people who had expect we forget. 679 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:35,160 That these people had experience. 680 00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,840 They were experienced with some fishermen so I think I need to 681 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,040 even learn is the. Will of God, maybe one day we 682 00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:44,000 can talk about it because whenever I finish praying, the 683 00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:47,600 last thing I see is that whatever I'm asking God for if 684 00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:51,960 it is will, if it's not God's will, you go fast, you go pray 685 00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:54,400 good and fat so these people didn't get. 686 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:56,960 Experience so you can have experience in marketing, you can 687 00:33:56,960 --> 00:34:00,240 have experience in your job, you in, in whatever you're in. 688 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,600 And then your boss comes to you and he's like, I don't think 689 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:04,960 you're doing enough. Yeah, like I've experienced that 690 00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:06,800 You you think you're killing yourself for the job. 691 00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:08,719 You think this relationship, you are so committed. 692 00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:11,280 And the person says, bare minimum, Charlie, you know, they 693 00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:14,880 give me much, but you need to go through the he, he, he gives 694 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:16,520 you. That peace, yeah, the but the 695 00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,320 Bible says in the. Book of Psalm 29, verse 11. 696 00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,960 I'd give my children peace, and I'll give them strength. 697 00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:24,320 So in that peace, yeah, you need. 698 00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:27,080 And that peace is not. It's not just Peace of Mind, 699 00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:32,080 though, is it Proverbs 324? Is it 23 or something? 700 00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:35,480 He said. When you lie down, you will 701 00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:38,000 sleep, and your sleep would be sweet, Yeah. 702 00:34:38,639 --> 00:34:42,719 That line. Like God's peace when God says 703 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,719 he will give you rest, it's not good sleep. 704 00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:50,080 Oh, when God says he will give you rest there it'd be marketing 705 00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:58,000 automation one software schedule posted your comments and 706 00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:02,520 multitasking Charlie so me, I think the more we pray we also 707 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:06,920 need to I think we also we always need to ask God, what are 708 00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,240 you trying to teach me? What am I supposed to learn out 709 00:35:09,240 --> 00:35:11,400 of this? Good or bad, right? 710 00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,040 I said this before in the previous episode. 711 00:35:13,720 --> 00:35:16,960 All things work together. Not good things, not bad things, 712 00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:20,800 not disappointments, not I got the job, all things. 713 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,160 So you should always ask God, even when you are at your 714 00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:24,760 happiest. What am I supposed to learn from 715 00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:26,640 this? We always have to ask God. 716 00:35:26,720 --> 00:35:28,640 If we don't come back to that question, you would go through 717 00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:31,920 the wilderness and you went into another valley and you come back 718 00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,520 on the mountain and you go into and you would be surprised like 719 00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:36,920 I was going on because you haven't asked God what you're 720 00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:41,440 supposed to learn, right? And Yanomi Adefo. 721 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:42,160 Yapon.