1 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:44,800 French. We thank you for finally 2 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:48,520 allowing us to gather again as brothers to discuss issues and 3 00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:52,760 impact life with our words. Pray that you use us as vessels 4 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:56,520 to impact people and transform lives in Jesus name. 5 00:00:56,960 --> 00:01:13,640 Amen. Hey, you guys have forced us to 6 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:19,880 resume because the threats. Get There was this girl who sent 7 00:01:19,960 --> 00:01:23,280 us the same message. Everywhere, everywhere, tally, 8 00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:25,080 everywhere. I appreciate you. 9 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:27,560 Everywhere. I want to see if I no reply if 10 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:30,880 you appear of my dream inside so I forgot reply guys. 11 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:33,160 What's? Up fine. 12 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:36,280 I think we need, we need one girl to be like accountability 13 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:37,520 partner and for. Why? 14 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:41,440 Why for video? Because people go listen to. 15 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:42,800 The because people go. Listen to the see boys. 16 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:43,920 It's quite Mystic. Yeah, bro, we ain't even 17 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:44,720 playing. Here, right. 18 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:47,280 But I think, I think it's good that we have a lot of. 19 00:01:48,680 --> 00:01:54,360 People, it just. Shows that a lot of. 20 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:56,760 People, you saw that trend, right? 21 00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:00,080 And I think News and entertainment where the 2nd. 22 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,120 Right, Yeah. Shall I see that? 23 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:05,800 Yeah. Yeah. 24 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:10,080 So I'm looking for him. I'm looking for him for come the 25 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:11,560 next recording. Yeah. 26 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:28,480 Charlie watching. The love, the messages in church 27 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:32,920 and they're like. Minister I went to minister 28 00:02:32,920 --> 00:02:36,040 somewhere and then someone randomly says, oh Charlie, two 29 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:38,120 sides and vibes. And I was so surprised. 30 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:42,720 Just last Wednesday I. Go play for Harvest. 31 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:50,800 She was looking at me from like like two sides. 32 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,280 That's nice. It's nice. 33 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:57,120 Like this small thing we start where we say with the play, with 34 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,240 the play. Now if you know accountability 35 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,040 partners all come inside you guys for go live. 36 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:12,600 Why they give? Why they give you woman for you? 37 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:24,280 She reached. Out to me, who is she likes? 38 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:28,480 Perspective A. Lot. 39 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:43,400 So you the perspective. Hey, you get people and they 40 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:45,120 listen. You with some of you to 41 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:46,920 perspectives. A lot. 42 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:48,560 A lot. A lot. 43 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:50,600 A lot. Yeah. 44 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,040 Thanks for liking man's perspective. 45 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:14,320 I didn't say make our stuff for that. 46 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:22,720 So you when you find out some way somehow that another guy is 47 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:25,120 moving to your woman, would you confront the guy? 48 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:30,720 Am I not speaking to the lady? First of all, it depends on if I 49 00:04:30,760 --> 00:04:34,880 know the guy I mean. I only go to the guy. 50 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:36,520 I'll go to. The woman, you don't know the 51 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:37,960 guy. I don't know the guy. 52 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:39,760 So the guy, the guy owes you nothing, right? 53 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:44,200 He knows your woman has a girlfriend, a boyfriend, right? 54 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:48,120 But he's still applying pressure and you found out. 55 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:49,720 Let's say you just took your girlfriend's food to do 56 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:51,680 something and you found out like they're actually talking. 57 00:04:52,240 --> 00:04:54,920 It's not like she is giving in, but they're having 58 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:58,120 conversations. Like she knows she knows the guy 59 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:01,080 is applying pressure, like the guy wants to do something with 60 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:04,040 her, but she's, still, you know, so entertaining and enjoying the 61 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:06,040 attention. Would you confirm the guy? 62 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:09,520 I doubt. I might go to the guy. 63 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,600 OK, why? The lady I'm in the relationship 64 00:05:13,840 --> 00:05:15,200 supposedly with. OK I. 65 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:22,800 Think the lady I want to speak to about it and what actually. 66 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:26,240 Would you let her see that you've you've seen it? 67 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:29,520 Because that might bring up the whole privacy issue, no? 68 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:34,960 Scenario, But I'm sure I would, yeah, I think this is like a lot 69 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:40,040 of things. You know, this whole year that 70 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:43,480 has been my mantra. If anything, they want me at the 71 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:45,040 bed. Yeah, I just go to. 72 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:46,280 I just go to sleep or so if you ask. 73 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:50,080 Me about it if you take time, because I mean we all different 74 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:51,480 me. I'll ask you then. 75 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:54,840 Then maybe I don't. Know about Steph? 76 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,160 But I will definitely. Want right there? 77 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:01,400 Right there. Like maybe you can be. 78 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:05,840 I saw this. Who is what are you like to me 79 00:06:05,880 --> 00:06:06,480 or not? I mean. 80 00:06:07,280 --> 00:06:10,120 You have some finish, no? Time to tell. 81 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:15,240 Yeah, your actions after because then you are leaving the guy. 82 00:06:15,640 --> 00:06:17,880 Yeah, I mean, we guys actually, if you talk to some girl. 83 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:18,960 See. No big guy. 84 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:23,280 No big girl talking to someone every day. 85 00:06:23,280 --> 00:06:26,880 Yeah, that's how we end up being in relationship with people. 86 00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:29,840 Because you were checking up on the person giving them 87 00:06:29,840 --> 00:06:31,600 information. I'm just heading out for lunch. 88 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:33,640 I'm back. You know I'm beating about your 89 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:38,160 day, person I. Mean you actually depends on 90 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:40,360 whether or not your relationship with a person. 91 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:42,080 With a guy, for instance, You be my guy who? 92 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:44,480 Has to say, you move to. I have no business talking to 93 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:48,480 your girlfriend. I know your woman, my wife. 94 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,840 The only time, the only time I would reach out to your 95 00:06:51,840 --> 00:06:53,800 girlfriend is I'm trying to reach you and I can't reach you. 96 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:55,920 Yeah. Are you with man Imagine? 97 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:59,200 Imagine, OK, imagine this scenario where maybe Eddie, 98 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:03,120 Eddie and I are quite close. Then Eddie, they try and move to 99 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:06,680 my woman, right? And when I get to know about it, 100 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:09,640 I'm not, like me, the way we find of. 101 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:12,480 Course, Yeah, of course I understand that. 102 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:15,000 Relationship. Yeah, but I'm saying you don't 103 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:17,120 know the guy, but. If you don't know the guy, yeah, 104 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:19,480 you just have to speak to your partner about it. 105 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:23,240 And you see, sometimes that's why I have a thing with like 106 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:25,640 options, right? Sometimes people say that you 107 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:28,280 are not the only person that can accommodate the other persons. 108 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:30,160 No, you are. You are in an exclusive 109 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:31,880 relationship. It's not a talking stage, you 110 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:33,520 understand. Yeah, relationship but. 111 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:35,480 Why are you keeping options when you are in a? 112 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:37,400 Relationship sometimes be like them. 113 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:39,080 Say you are not the only person that can. 114 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:42,840 Sort of give her. Everything she needs at some 115 00:07:42,880 --> 00:07:44,000 point. Let's the building. 116 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,440 Network, she might say. She's building network. 117 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:48,960 And you can't. You can't. 118 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:51,280 You can't. Like you can't say otherwise for 119 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:53,040 the person because she knows. What she's saying? 120 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:54,480 So I'm coming. I'm coming. 121 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:58,760 Let's finish your SO. And she can, she can come to a 122 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:00,800 point where she says that, oh, I'm trying to build a network 123 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,880 with somebody and it's the conversation they're having. 124 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:07,120 If it's a conversation that it's become the conversation where 125 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,160 the guy be like eating sight sometimes. 126 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:11,200 Trying to take her out for days come. 127 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:14,600 Sleepover, you know, sending her gifts. 128 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:20,680 Yeah, like. And you know, this guy is trying 129 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:24,160 to move to you, but you know, it's like, oh, I know how to 130 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:27,400 manage it, Saga. Thank you this is. 131 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:38,840 What I don't understand? Guys are very protective of 132 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:42,240 their of course, and most of men don't understand that. 133 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:47,480 Now some guys will tell you I found out they are talking to 134 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:53,520 this guy and I chanced upon the conversation and I read a few of 135 00:08:53,520 --> 00:08:55,320 the conversation. This guy likes you. 136 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:59,760 He hasn't said it. You won't see it by his actions 137 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:01,920 are moving towards a guy. I am a guy. 138 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:04,600 This is how I would move to a woman. 139 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:07,000 Show concern. Be present. 140 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:09,360 Do. A lot of do. 141 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:15,560 He's very intentional. He's busy. 142 00:09:15,560 --> 00:09:16,600 You. He's busy. 143 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:22,520 Very intentional about speaking to you now, the idea is to grab 144 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:24,120 your attention. That is what he's doing and keep 145 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:26,560 it. And keep it Now, all those 146 00:09:26,560 --> 00:09:29,840 things you are taking, you are taking that time away from your 147 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:31,600 boyfriend. That time you'll be very 148 00:09:31,600 --> 00:09:33,160 intentional with your boyfriend and have this kind of 149 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:34,600 communication. This guy has it. 150 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:39,360 So now when your boyfriend calls you or texts you, this guy is 151 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:40,760 there. Oh, hey, I'm having a 152 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:43,200 conversation with this guy. I'll call you right back then. 153 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,160 Now you go back and you talk to this guy. 154 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:47,600 You know that I text you, I text you. 155 00:09:48,680 --> 00:09:52,560 You don't respond on time because this Snapchat, this guy, 156 00:09:53,920 --> 00:09:55,920 he's coming up with conversations that you are 157 00:09:55,920 --> 00:10:00,080 really interested in and your attention is moving away. 158 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:04,200 Now it becomes very the guy becomes, like, very prominent in 159 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:05,800 your life. You know the crazy thing? 160 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:08,120 You have one argument with your boyfriend. 161 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:10,080 There's already a replacement. There's already a replacement 162 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:12,560 because there's someone who is. That'd be the timing. 163 00:10:12,560 --> 00:10:14,840 Chance will come. Do you want to go to a brewery 164 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:17,200 and watch a crowd, bro? Now reverse Now. 165 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:19,480 Now this is where the challenge is. 166 00:10:19,560 --> 00:10:21,680 When you speak to the girl about it, be like you are insecure. 167 00:10:24,560 --> 00:10:27,680 You even say you're insecure. She'll be like, oh, he hasn't 168 00:10:27,680 --> 00:10:29,600 said anything that is related to the trust. 169 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:31,360 Me, she knows he likes it. He know. 170 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:32,600 She knows. He likes it. 171 00:10:32,680 --> 00:10:34,920 No, let me tell you what she. Does know she knows. 172 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:37,160 But The thing is, they will. They will tell you. 173 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:40,160 Otherwise The thing is. The thing is, they want the guy 174 00:10:40,200 --> 00:10:43,880 to actually say out before they feel like. 175 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:47,400 Why? You don't know women when, see 176 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:48,960 when. When you go and you start 177 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:49,920 talking. About. 178 00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:58,400 When you go and you you start making making your not really 179 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:01,800 advanced but like saying your mind should be like what if I 180 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:05,440 thought the guy that hey where you are going this direction 181 00:11:05,680 --> 00:11:08,600 isn't ideal let's just end it here and the guy goes like oh I 182 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:10,880 was just kidding with you it was just me being friendly. 183 00:11:11,680 --> 00:11:15,840 Most girls who told you that I can go and see that and then I 184 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:17,440 lose. Like he just likes. 185 00:11:17,840 --> 00:11:22,040 Me so you see like how do you see it in feel like? 186 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,320 Oh, he's a. Good person. 187 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:31,240 Not really a good person. Like, it's like, that is not 188 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:33,200 what it is. And now I want to say it. 189 00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:37,040 Now I'm shy like that kind of this thing. 190 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:40,720 You my fairy, you see. But at the end of the day, this 191 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:42,560 is how it starts. But put. 192 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,120 A guy, right? Hey, I have a boyfriend. 193 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:49,400 I like having conversations with you, but it's becoming too 194 00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:54,480 consistent, right? And I don't want it to be very 195 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:55,880 consistent. You are my friend. 196 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:58,800 We can talk once in a while, like in a week we can catch 197 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:00,480 catch up or something. So like a. 198 00:12:00,560 --> 00:12:03,000 Week step like once every three months and. 199 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:07,120 And I feel like women need to do a lot of these things because 200 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:10,920 when you're in a relationship, when we say commitment is 201 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:12,960 everything, we are committed to your boyfriend. 202 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:14,000 You don't tolerate certain things. 203 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:17,320 You set boundaries. When a guy is moving to, you 204 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:18,760 know, this guy is moving to you, you are smart. 205 00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:21,680 Yeah, there's the guys. See, every guy that moves to a 206 00:12:21,680 --> 00:12:24,280 woman has the same format format you. 207 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:25,480 See that? You see the conversation that's 208 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:28,040 going on on Twitter, right, with this whole balls dating the guy. 209 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:30,480 Yeah. And I've seen people making 210 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:33,640 excuses for the women that they are blaming the guy, that why is 211 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:35,400 he moving to people's girlfriends? 212 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:38,240 He doesn't owe the guys in any loyalty. 213 00:12:39,720 --> 00:12:42,960 He knows you have a boyfriend. He is still trying. 214 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:43,960 He's still trying. It's. 215 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:47,040 Huge. No, not necessarily. 216 00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:49,640 It's nonsense. Like, must I put a ring? 217 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:52,800 Must I put a ring on your finger before you owe me that loyalty? 218 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:55,920 That is the thing. But we owe it to ourselves. 219 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:56,560 See the twist, man? There's. 220 00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:01,160 A twist to something. What you're saying. 221 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:05,480 The twist is that in a relationship, a lady will allow 222 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:08,680 for another guy to come to the picture when the guy he is with 223 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:10,960 is not doing something or it's like a little bit. 224 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:13,000 Of something that's not always the case. 225 00:13:13,680 --> 00:13:15,640 No, no, let me bro. You can be the best. 226 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:17,360 You can be the best of everything. 227 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:18,360 No, I want to. Post you there and say 228 00:13:18,360 --> 00:13:19,520 something. I want to post you there and say 229 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:20,000 something. Let me. 230 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:24,120 Just wrap it up. Listen to what I'm saying. 231 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:27,320 I'm saying that you can be doing every single thing for the lady 232 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:32,440 in as much as possible. I don't like the way you are. 233 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:36,800 You have been overprotective. Or you. 234 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:38,200 Are care for me too much, you know. 235 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:39,560 Let me love bombing. She was too nice. 236 00:13:39,560 --> 00:13:42,000 Too nice, too available. Yes, those. 237 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:47,840 Things exist, so a lady might want to consider. 238 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:51,120 Let me let me listen to this person that she has issues. 239 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:53,800 That's toxic attachments. Let me tell you something. 240 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:58,400 That's toxic attachment. So she wants someone who would 241 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:00,520 be a friend of Crown. Fuck Accra. 242 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:03,280 She wants the adrenaline. Right. 243 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:13,120 Don't. Break up with me and go and take 244 00:14:13,120 --> 00:14:18,720 that guy this. Is my problem. 245 00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:20,840 Break up with me and go to the new guy. 246 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:23,440 It's that simple. See if I find out, I'll just 247 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:28,800 walk away. Everything that the lady wants, 248 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:32,880 I mean, it's not you, but maybe finances just. 249 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:35,320 Yeah. And you can meet a guy who was a 250 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:38,040 finances. You see, you remember 1000 251 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:41,440 talked about this, right? 8020 you meet, you meet someone 252 00:14:41,440 --> 00:14:46,120 who has the 80, and then you go and find the 20% somewhere and 253 00:14:46,120 --> 00:14:47,920 then fumble the 80. Then. 254 00:14:47,920 --> 00:14:51,560 She's not smart, to be honest. Understanding that you can have 255 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:53,480 you look at the pros and cons. Yeah. 256 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:56,600 What if if you can put on this the man on the school and the 257 00:14:56,600 --> 00:15:00,720 man's good outweigh his backs, and you think that this man 258 00:15:00,720 --> 00:15:04,720 somebody you might want to name your kids after or or look at 259 00:15:04,720 --> 00:15:07,000 it, then you can you should go in for the one, provided that 260 00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:09,720 you are ready to stay with the man and even help him out. 261 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:13,960 OK, the point see, The thing is this, When you decide to be with 262 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:17,480 someone, it's a decision A. Choice. 263 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:21,920 That's your choice, first choice before love, right? 264 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:24,560 Because before you fall in love with somebody, you choose the 265 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:29,160 person and it's the time and process of you guys getting to 266 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:30,520 know each other. That's when you fall in love. 267 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:33,520 So one choice, this is the decision you've made. 268 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,960 Unless you're telling me that this whatever we have is short 269 00:15:36,960 --> 00:15:40,680 term, you understand That is when you start weighing my good 270 00:15:40,680 --> 00:15:44,440 and a bad because Viola Davis said something that see, when 271 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:46,440 you wake up in the morning and you look at the person next to 272 00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:49,520 you and you feel like killing the person, that is when the 273 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:52,760 whole marriage thing starts. That's where you you, you 274 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:56,000 realize the decision you've made and that this is my long term. 275 00:15:56,760 --> 00:15:59,920 It's the same thing when you're with a guy or you're with a 276 00:15:59,920 --> 00:16:03,600 woman and then you see that you people, the guy is lacking 277 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:05,080 something. Communication. 278 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:09,280 Hey, we've been together for a while now and I realized that 279 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:12,240 your communication skills are lacking, right? 280 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:15,600 And I feel like we can practice certain things. 281 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:18,360 So we both develop. You are building each other. 282 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:20,840 Nobody is perfect. We all have things we are 283 00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:22,640 lacking. But at the end of it, it's like 284 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:25,000 we are working on a path, right? You can't see your back. 285 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:27,400 That's why you need a partner who watch your back for you and 286 00:16:27,400 --> 00:16:28,800 tell you, hey, you are going this way. 287 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:33,320 So, So you interchange this guy is lacking here. 288 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:35,120 You two, you are lacking here. You guys will correct each 289 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:38,160 other. And I feel like a lot of people 290 00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:40,600 or partners don't like to have honest conversation. 291 00:16:41,360 --> 00:16:43,560 Honest conversation is where the truth comes in, I think. 292 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:46,880 Because if I love you, even the Bible says God chastises the 293 00:16:46,880 --> 00:16:49,680 ones he loved the most. Because if I love you, I would. 294 00:16:49,760 --> 00:16:52,440 Tell you the truth. I would tell you the truth as it 295 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:56,040 says. I will tell you the truth as it 296 00:16:56,040 --> 00:16:57,600 is. I might hurt your feelings. 297 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:00,280 I have to let you understand that. 298 00:17:00,600 --> 00:17:01,720 See. We see. 299 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:04,760 I need that. That's where we that's where we 300 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:06,319 draw the line. A lot of people don't want to 301 00:17:06,319 --> 00:17:07,720 put in that way. I think, I think it's a 302 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:09,000 generational. Problem, Yeah. 303 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:11,839 That you know, you know. The nicest part is when you are 304 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:15,720 getting to know each other. Your first date, the second date 305 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:17,680 looking the. It's always nice bro. 306 00:17:17,839 --> 00:17:20,200 So when it gets to the point where you have your after your 307 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:24,040 first argument, the way you realize that shit, this thing 308 00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:27,200 needs to work. Yes, you are now, you are now 309 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:29,000 seeing the other side of the person, right? 310 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:32,560 You realize that, oh, maybe one day you spend time together when 311 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:34,640 she slept or when he slept where he was snoring. 312 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:38,600 It's like now you're going to realize you've seen the nice 313 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:40,120 part. You are seeing the other part. 314 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:42,080 OK? I was speaking to a married 315 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:44,800 friend was like, everybody comes with garbage. 316 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:47,400 Pick the garbage you can live with for the rest of your life. 317 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:50,920 Right now, this person is not exactly the person you went on 318 00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:52,720 your first date with, the person you went on. 319 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:54,920 Sometimes you go and visit them and we realize we initial square 320 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:57,960 our total baby, you know? OK, what am I bringing into this 321 00:17:57,960 --> 00:17:59,240 guy's life? OK, let me help him. 322 00:18:00,000 --> 00:18:01,760 I think you should put your shirt here when you come that 323 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:04,160 work, that work that. I think that's what we are 324 00:18:04,160 --> 00:18:07,040 lacking a lot in our generation. We are lacking that. 325 00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:10,360 Like people want their I posted something on my ID. 326 00:18:10,360 --> 00:18:13,480 So if you saw people want the Instagramable gifts, the 327 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:18,760 tweetable text, the things that will look like consumerism, like 328 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:21,640 people, it's like there's a bit of performance to it. 329 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:25,760 You know, my man, my woman, the dates, the ice creams. 330 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:28,480 And what about the time where I had to hold you accountable for 331 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:32,840 your lack of communication? Because you everybody likes. 332 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:39,000 I feel like relationship has stages, the 1st six months to 333 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:41,560 one year. It's just pure infatuation like 334 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:43,920 the. Butterfly Die Butterflies and. 335 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:46,240 This thing. One years have long go after 336 00:18:46,240 --> 00:18:50,160 like 6 months, six months after six months. 337 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:53,240 And this is this is what girls do a lot. 338 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:54,880 I don't know about guys. This is what girls do. 339 00:18:55,200 --> 00:18:58,480 They always compare the latter with the beginning. 340 00:18:58,480 --> 00:19:00,920 Like you used to do this. Yes. 341 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:02,240 That was that phase. Yeah. 342 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:05,080 We are going into a new phase. So I can't bring those things 343 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:07,320 once in a while. I might treat you nice and all 344 00:19:07,320 --> 00:19:09,440 those things, but you don't expect me to always treat you 345 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:11,760 nice. If you do something wrong, I'm 346 00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:12,760 not going to baby you. Yeah. 347 00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:15,720 Because at the end of the day, this is the lifestyle I'm going 348 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:16,920 to be living with for the rest of my life. 349 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:18,320 That's why we are in this relation. 350 00:19:18,320 --> 00:19:20,680 It's not. A part time negotiables, right? 351 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:22,240 Yeah. So there are some things you can 352 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:25,520 just sweep under the copy and there are things like you go, I 353 00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:26,880 can't tolerate this, I can't live. 354 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:30,760 With this and and and and, I feel like ladies need to be able 355 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:36,600 to call their man and be like babe tomorrow or today after 356 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:38,520 work. I need us to go here and sit and 357 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:46,560 have this discussion analyze. You for do that, young man. 358 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:54,120 Don't forget No, no. You know. 359 00:19:54,120 --> 00:19:55,760 You know women. You know women don't like to 360 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:57,520 feel bad. No, you know women don't like to 361 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:01,200 feel bad, right. The reason you correct your one 362 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:02,720 way they would change for them. Let. 363 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:04,040 Me tell you the reason why I'm saying this thing? 364 00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:05,640 Let me tell the reason why I'm saying this thing. 365 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:11,280 You apologize. No, no, no. 366 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:13,880 See, let me tell you why. Let me tell you why. 367 00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:15,520 Let me tell you why. Let me tell you why. 368 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,320 Because this has happened to me before. 369 00:20:17,840 --> 00:20:21,440 When this is how women function. When you do something. 370 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:22,920 Am I for right people when you do? 371 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:25,160 Something, it affects them. They don't tell you. 372 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:29,840 They pile it up right now. When you pile it up, the little 373 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:33,800 thing you do, they retaliate. When they retaliate, do you know 374 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:35,560 where they pick you from? Day one. 375 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:37,920 So now that is where you apologize. 376 00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:41,520 But when they do something in your friends, you, you see it 377 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:43,640 there and then you don't keep it. 378 00:20:44,400 --> 00:20:48,120 And so whenever you want to tell them something, they have 379 00:20:48,120 --> 00:20:50,160 nothing against you. So you have to. 380 00:20:50,360 --> 00:20:52,920 You won't apologize. And then again, you only 381 00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:55,680 apologize if you don't address the thing properly, because 382 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,640 women like to be babied. But then again, if you have to 383 00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:02,080 baby a woman, you have cleared directions in which you have to, 384 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:03,640 like, have the whole conversation. 385 00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:05,680 When you come very hard, you don't listen. 386 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:10,360 This is how a woman's brain is take water, put inside a bottle. 387 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:12,480 When you rush the water, it spills. 388 00:21:13,120 --> 00:21:15,840 They pick the little that goes inside their head. 389 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:18,480 And that's what we're going to pick and fight you on when you 390 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,600 take your time and you. Go feed sentences. 391 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:22,320 You go feed sentences then then take. 392 00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:36,440 So are you trying to tell me that? 393 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:42,880 So so. If you're friends, so so wow. 394 00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:45,600 So this is how you you see me if you take. 395 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:48,760 If you take your time and pour the water, everything you enter 396 00:21:48,760 --> 00:21:50,960 inside the thing. So now that is how you control 397 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:53,680 the conversation. You you massage the convention, 398 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,840 but make sure everything get your point across. 399 00:21:55,840 --> 00:21:59,080 Yeah, is hitting at the end of the when you finish talking, all 400 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:02,960 they do is sit down for a very long period of time and then 401 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:05,560 all. Yes, I'm sorry, finish. 402 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:08,200 I think one of the things like to add to what man is saying, I 403 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:11,760 think the posture of like most women should be a position of 404 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:14,240 learning and unlearning. Yeah, a lot of people get into 405 00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,240 relationship and they say that this is who I am. 406 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:17,640 I want to. Say that thing is. 407 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,800 And. It's it's very difficult for 408 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:21,440 you, yeah. It's very difficult for you to 409 00:22:21,440 --> 00:22:24,280 like churn out the best out of the person because for instance 410 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:27,960 if you want to help the person career wise Charlie for do this. 411 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:30,400 If I put this in place for do that and the person just wants 412 00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:33,320 to be in a position where me at the warm at since like this will 413 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:35,160 make a day like that it's very difficult. 414 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:38,200 So you might have all the good blueprints for your 415 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:40,640 relationship, but because the person just decides not to learn 416 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:44,360 on on learn Google just did that same place and she's seen this 417 00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:46,040 other guy. Which brings us back to the 418 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:47,840 context. She's seen this other guy. 419 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:50,480 Who can, supposedly. Make him better? 420 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:52,480 Yeah, yeah. And she will jump into that 421 00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:54,080 relationship and be the same thing. 422 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:55,960 Jump into another. Relationship. 423 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,680 But she never sees herself as the problem. 424 00:22:59,120 --> 00:23:01,880 She feels that there's always someone else that can give her 425 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:02,520 better for. Her. 426 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:06,640 And so she finds the same. The one who can now have comedy. 427 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:10,120 Yes, someone who is equally toxic, right. 428 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:11,960 Those people. They are inside problem. 429 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:15,400 Trust me, if a toxic person meets another toxic person. 430 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:16,680 Said that I said that most of the. 431 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:24,440 Time. It also boils down from how like 432 00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:28,640 what do we expose to what we as men were exposed to going up. 433 00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:33,360 It becomes on you to make the change when you become exposed 434 00:23:33,360 --> 00:23:36,320 to life situations. So for instance, whatever 435 00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:38,880 happens to me or any of you where you grow up, what you saw 436 00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,680 from your parents when you grow up, you decide to whether to 437 00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,400 change from that tangent or you keep that. 438 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:46,400 And that's why I think sometimes some of the women or most of the 439 00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,880 women is because of their socialization and how they saw 440 00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:52,120 things. I know a lady who the father was 441 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:55,160 everything to her and this is realistic in every most of the 442 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:58,520 relationship like her father was her everything. 443 00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:00,520 Her father was there to always provide for her. 444 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,080 And so if you're a guy and you come to picture, you want to 445 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:04,680 try. Her father saw her has always 446 00:24:04,680 --> 00:24:06,680 been right. Do you get a point? 447 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,720 So the lady. But this is very legit to the 448 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:10,800 lady in the. Eyes was always right because 449 00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:12,520 her father said scary. You're right. 450 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:13,840 That's going to be scary. You get it. 451 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,080 So a little like that. So you try to create a small no 452 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:18,360 as. A guy. 453 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,240 What do you do like because you understand there's something 454 00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,800 that is always wrong with her. What do you do as a guy? 455 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:35,120 They can go give you puppy he made run. 456 00:24:35,360 --> 00:24:36,640 You don't do anything. Don't. 457 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,960 You can't change here. You see, that's the problem. 458 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:40,440 Sometimes we think we can change people. 459 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:44,240 Someone can only change if they find you where they to be 460 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:47,320 changed. For if I don't, if I don't see 461 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,320 you like you are this guy, want to spend the rest of my life 462 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:52,200 with him. Let me work on myself to become 463 00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:54,040 a better person. Forget the other understanding 464 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,800 that. Maybe we find it difficult to 465 00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:59,840 understand that she needs to change this bit about herself. 466 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,960 I don't know if you realize that in that sometimes I'm ladies 467 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,680 find difficult to they don't know even the self. 468 00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:07,680 Self-awareness, yeah. Doesn't that they don't? 469 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,480 Know how to? Yeah, because. 470 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:12,960 But you know, they really caused that thing. 471 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:14,240 We mainly really caused that thing. 472 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:18,680 There are so many guys giving her that compliment, making her 473 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:22,280 feel like there's no problem, she's OK just for obviously to 474 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,680 get what they want right. So now you that wants to hold 475 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:27,760 their accountable, it's like different. 476 00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:29,840 You are the only one that sees something wrong with me, right? 477 00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:33,880 You are so rude, but you are the one that actually has the best 478 00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:36,360 interest at heart. The other guys just want what 479 00:25:36,360 --> 00:25:37,800 they want. They want the night are bloom. 480 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,680 They want you know like so it's it's hard and it comes out to 481 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:43,920 the person's like I have that self like you are the last man 482 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,680 said commitment a choice. You know before love the 483 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,640 butterflies will die. Trust me it will die. 484 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,560 We've all experienced it so that it will come to the point where 485 00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:53,120 one day is like today after work. 486 00:25:53,120 --> 00:25:54,240 We are not doing it. We are going to have a 487 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:57,040 conversation maybe the last Friday of every three months. 488 00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,000 Every quarter we are doing an assessment. 489 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,400 What do we need to work on? You know, I have this thing 490 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,440 where Start, Stop, continue. Right? 491 00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,280 What do we need to start? What do we need to stop? 492 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:06,720 What do we need to continue those? 493 00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:09,640 If your relationship will die, you need to have those. 494 00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:11,800 Because for how long, bro? Marriage. 495 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:13,960 You know you actually stay in marriage if you think about it, 496 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:15,600 right? Let's say everybody falling to 497 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:19,560 70 years, you got married at 30, now going to stay in marriage 498 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,320 for 40 years. You stay in marriage longer than 499 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:25,120 you were single. So if you don't pick a proper 500 00:26:25,120 --> 00:26:28,880 partner, pick, pick a proper mother for your kids, right? 501 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:30,320 Don't pick someone you just love. 502 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:32,440 Pick a partner, pick. Pick a proper human being. 503 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:34,680 Because if you know, if you know, if you don't make that, if 504 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:37,120 you go, make them go find. You. 505 00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:42,440 You. It's like what I was telling 506 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:46,000 Stefan that when I was coming, I was listening to Mike Todd and 507 00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:48,440 it was saying that you don't pick a partner because of 508 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,760 physical appearances. You pick a partner because of 509 00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,320 purpose like. Look at the person, but you pick 510 00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:56,280 recreational. I see the you pick recreational 511 00:26:56,280 --> 00:27:01,800 purposes even. With the purpose, it's like 512 00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:05,200 every single time, every single moment is a transition to 513 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,760 greater things, right? You're trying to save an 514 00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,320 ultimate. Goal for each other. 515 00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:12,640 But if you are in a position, as you're saying, like you are with 516 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,760 somebody that her whole life, her parents have made her feel 517 00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:18,920 like the queen, right. Go do whatever you want to do. 518 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:20,600 Go ahead, do that. You're OK. 519 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,360 You're not the problem. And you become the guy that 520 00:27:23,360 --> 00:27:25,960 wants to serve purpose and you want to get to a same apex in 521 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:29,440 life and you're like, I think you need to do this to your 522 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,120 finances. I think with your job you're 523 00:27:31,120 --> 00:27:34,040 doing, you're doing great, but you can do better and she 524 00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:35,440 doesn't. Feel like that? 525 00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:38,640 Because in her whole life, in her whole life, that's, that's 526 00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:43,200 what's you know, right? I. 527 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:58,280 Don't think it's just running. No, right after you've tried 528 00:27:58,280 --> 00:27:59,560 your best. I'm not saying say when you 529 00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:00,600 notice. No, you just run. 530 00:28:03,360 --> 00:28:09,000 Can we say to somebody like Mickey Puppy Mariam, are you 531 00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,160 going to spend the rest of your life trying to change what her 532 00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:13,800 dad has installed in here? No, honestly, question. 533 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:27,360 Yeah. Come, Eddie. 534 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:32,040 You meet some girl you see, See she know be clean. 535 00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:33,480 This, this, this. You try. 536 00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:39,560 You talk 1234 all four times she did fight back. 537 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:40,840 Five. Omre. 538 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:43,320 No. Let's. 539 00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:44,680 Let's be real. Come on. 540 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,000 Like how long? How many years do you want to 541 00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,040 spend trying to correct? Do you know the number of years 542 00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:55,480 she spent with her dad? To get somebody, somebody, just 543 00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:58,600 one childhood incident is simply life. 544 00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:03,120 They understand your point. Sometimes they love somebody. 545 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:08,400 I want you some scenario. Like. 546 00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:11,960 Love somebody. One thing I've learned about 547 00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,520 love is that it comes with sacrifice, right? 548 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,560 You should be willing to sacrifice in the work. 549 00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:20,640 Even in Christianity, Christ died for us and all those 550 00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:22,560 things. But there's a part where we also 551 00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:26,400 have to play exactly. So even in continuing, Someone 552 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:28,840 talk to God is love, God is. But there's a wrath at the end 553 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:34,320 of the day if you know comply. Plus, in principle, exactly all 554 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,080 of us. One thing, one advice I'd give 555 00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:39,360 to any person is know your the point. 556 00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,280 Know when to run. Know when to run. 557 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:43,960 Do you want to end up sacrificing yourself with 558 00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:48,040 Because I love you so much. Come on, A lot of people think 559 00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:50,040 that it gets better. Like moving forward. 560 00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:53,720 It doesn't. The last thing, The last thing, 561 00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:57,520 that one thing I'm learning now, it's not just about girlfriend 562 00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:59,720 or whatever, is to stop making excuses for people. 563 00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:01,560 Everybody knows what they are doing. 564 00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:04,440 Yeah. People know, see people act like 565 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:06,280 they are naive. People know they know what they 566 00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:09,920 are doing is hurting you. They know just that if you do 567 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,040 the same thing to them, it will turn problem. 568 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:14,640 People know what they are doing. See the girl, she know one 569 00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:16,320 thing. You know she doesn't find you 570 00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:19,960 with enough worthy enough to be change for it to be worked on. 571 00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:23,400 See you will try try your best. Do what you can. 572 00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,600 Maybe you will you will see. Put some things. 573 00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:28,320 If the girl sees you as that life partner she's going to 574 00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,240 listen to you. Yeah somebody know they listen 575 00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:34,200 when you they talk to him bro. She doesn't she will be rich. 576 00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:36,360 You just be honest with yourself and let's see. 577 00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:39,120 I think I think one of the wisest things we can learn as 578 00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:42,280 men or even women and anybody's knowing when to quit. 579 00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:44,040 Sometimes it doesn't make you a loser. 580 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:44,360 I'm. Tired. 581 00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:46,480 Choose yourself. Don't don't. 582 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,800 Don't sacrifice yourself. You are not supposed to work too 583 00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:53,680 hard for love. Why you be a yeah like be war 584 00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:54,520 love. Be war. 585 00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,320 Like we are not perfect. I work on you. 586 00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:58,920 You work on me. That's how it's supposed to be. 587 00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:02,600 I don't have to work too hard. Are we a teacher? 588 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,440 Like, what's up? Right. 589 00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:09,240 At some point, you just have to learn to get to the point where 590 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:10,880 you go, like, you know what? I tried. 591 00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:12,480 That's right. Yeah, it's OK. 592 00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,000 You know, I think the mistake I made when I was growing up was 593 00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,840 thinking, say, I just wanted to be in one relationship. 594 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:20,360 Mickey and Tamarich. Right. 595 00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:24,800 Right. But The thing is, sometimes the 596 00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:27,640 learning process me right now, what I'm learning right now in 597 00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:30,440 in in my life is patience. I think so many things are 598 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:35,720 happening to me that's teaching me like, I just like don't talk, 599 00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,920 you know, people are getting on my nails like every day, you 600 00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:41,000 know? But you get to that point where 601 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:42,480 you also have to put things right. 602 00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:44,160 That's right. You don't always have to shut up 603 00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:45,160 because you are learning patience. 604 00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:47,400 Yeah, you know, what are your standards? 605 00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:48,960 What? Are your values. 606 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,480 What are your values? The person is clearly not 607 00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:54,560 aligning with your values. Also, I'm a penal the glass is 608 00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:58,440 not an ass and a day, and I hope they say. 609 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:08,640 What most people do is they look at the beneficial aspects that 610 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:10,480 the person is giving. Them they're getting puppy get 611 00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:13,040 money, so maybe if you lock me for some job. 612 00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:17,280 And if it was like, OK, I can tolerate all these things you 613 00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:19,120 don't go through, no. You don't go. 614 00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,160 Through where the where the challenge is whatever you're 615 00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:27,120 getting, it's like 1% of whatever you're going through. 616 00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,120 Is that 1% worth the sacrifice? Make a summarize You get the 617 00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,280 love you think you deserve. That's what it is. 618 00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:36,760 If you think, if you think whatever she's giving you is 619 00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:38,520 what you deserve, then go and collect it. 620 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:40,520 If you come cry to me, I will listen. 621 00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:43,320 I will love you safe. You buy your time as well, 622 00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:47,800 Wrapping up your time also said. This is about you yourself. 623 00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:50,480 And know your values. That's the thing. 624 00:32:50,480 --> 00:32:52,600 Don't stop. Saying that you. 625 00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,600 Also have your purpose. You see, that's the problem. 626 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,280 If you don't know who you are, that's when you tolerate just 627 00:32:58,280 --> 00:32:58,920 anything. Right. 628 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:00,880 One time in life, yeah. I mean the one can come, but the 629 00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:03,160 one was a direction. Exactly. 630 00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:07,240 When you combine, yes you can get the but God, eventually when 631 00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:11,280 we get there, we actually demand have you finished the race? 632 00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:15,680 Have you done? So in closing, one of the things 633 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,440 that personally when I was praying like I was. 634 00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:38,200 The last thing, the last thing I want, the last thing I want for 635 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:41,240 any of us or myself, is to get to the point where you start 636 00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:42,640 considering divorce. God for a bit. 637 00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:44,240 Like I don't I don't want to get there. 638 00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:47,480 I don't want to get there. Some of you, God bless me. 639 00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:50,120 Yeah I don't want to get there because the moment you get there 640 00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:53,360 you have an option That's right. You have an option now that girl 641 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,160 for your office where you don't want to look. 642 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:58,040 Now you start the look on because you've started 643 00:33:58,080 --> 00:34:00,400 entertaining the thought of that's why when you are with 644 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:03,200 someone and the person start threatening you with breakup be 645 00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:09,120 wise not see the person they consider study the guys with the 646 00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:14,000 avoid is that the look because the toxi immediately then I will 647 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:20,560 Quito study check yourself then you see 24 yeah that was to. 648 00:34:20,639 --> 00:34:30,639 Say the. Absolute the absolute show, 649 00:34:30,639 --> 00:34:33,719 right with Anita. So it means Anita for count up 650 00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:35,120 or make. We will go there. 651 00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:44,159 Yeah, on TV 3/4.