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This is lead to Serve with Ed 
Taylor, a leadership podcast. 

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Hey, welcome again to a brand 
new season of the Lead to Serve 

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podcast. 
My name is Ed Taylor. 

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I'm the pastor here at Calvary 
Church in Aurora, Co. 

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I am the host of this podcast, 
and we have been doing it now 

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for six seasons. 
We're on season #7 We're so 

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grateful for you, our audience. 
It continues to grow as you guys

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are listening, sharing radio 
stations are putting the podcast

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on the air and we're talking 
about ministry together. 

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Remember, as you're as you're 
joining us on the podcast, it is

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like you are in our office and 
we're talking ministry together.

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We've got a topic, we've got 
some ideas and we're bouncing 

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them off one another or in some 
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It'll just be me. 
But right now, as of this 

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moment, today's season 7 episode
one, joining me is Pastor Bob 

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Klay Camp. 
Welcome, Bob. 

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Yeah, it's great to be here. 
Bob, you've been on the podcast 

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for a few seasons now. 
What do you think about 

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podcasting and talking out loud 
about ministry? 

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Well, you know, it, it is just a
normal conversation. 

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And these are topics that you, 
you're not only hear about, but 

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you interact with people and 
these same topics come up and in

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their own life situation. 
And so you have an opportunity 

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to, you know, begin to listen 
first of all, and then pray 

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through how to start. 
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scriptures that the Holy Spirit 
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looking for not just the 
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that are going on in the 
person's life, and then drawing 

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upon your own life experience as
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Yeah, what the Lord's doing in 
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and that could be spiritual 
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And I want to welcome everyone. 
I just want to give a shout out 

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because I know a lot of ministry
groups, a lot of churches will 

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use this podcast as a discussion
starter for staff meetings, for 

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leadership gathering. 
So I just want to give you a 

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shout out. 
If you're listening to this as a

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way to spur on love and good 
works, to stir up your ideas, we

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want to welcome you. 
We're grateful that we can speak

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into your life and ministry. 
But it's not just ministry and 

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church, and it's certainly not 
just a pastor podcast. 

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It's a leadership podcast. 
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leading at church, leading at 
work, leading even in the 

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context of serving, it's not 
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of leadership. 
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I've always held to the position
that as Christians, we're always

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leaders. 
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We're leading people to Christ, 
lead him to the cross, leading 

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him to help. 
So before we jump in to today's 

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topic real quick, I want to 
introduce Pastor Bob. 

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He has 50 plus years of ministry
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He's all started out living in a
Christian communal home, which 

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I'm sure we could probably do a 
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Life and Times of Bob Clay Camp 
and all the things that he has 

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experienced. 
He shares them with us in our 

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staff meetings. 
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something new, there's always 
some new story, which is very 

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interesting. 
He's lived a very interesting 

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life in the Lord. 
He's been in a band. 

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I'm. 
Did you start that band? 

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No. 
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BC Days. 
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after Christ days, but living in
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He was the founding and senior 
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Phoenix and he was a missionary 
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actually How I Met him and to 
now the brand new ministry 

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endeavor that he is involved in.
He is the leader of the Mission 

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Assist Ministries, which helps 
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So Bob is joining me. 
He's got a lot of experience and

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I've had the privilege of 
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years. 
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The topic today is, I guess you 

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could say, what do we do when 
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even falsely accused of 
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You know that we've been we've 
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That's actually how we've been 
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Don't defend yourself. 
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And that absolute statement is 
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I don't believe that there are 
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should never defend ourselves. 
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and seeking the Lord, you may 
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You may have to answer some some
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However, I have to say and it 
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over the years where living a 
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of your ability, just living a 
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will have whatever people say, 
whatever rumor mill those around

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and just knowing you know, I'm 
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the Lord's going to take care of
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I do believe, however, there are
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or give an answer of some sort, 
which I'm sure we'll talk about 

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in a minute. 
But how about we start with you 

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need to expect that you're going
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about you false accusations. 
I I I was thinking on the way in

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today to the studio that the 
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brethren. 
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shouldn't be surprised. 
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What are your thoughts on that? 
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received the accusation because 
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emotional reaction. 
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emotional person, then it will 
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wound up. 
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just got to wait 24 hours, take 
a nap or something, settle down,

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and then you have to go. 
First of all, how does the Lord 

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see things? 
It has to go back to him and not

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to you. 
God doesn't receive rumors 

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because He's a God of truth, 
which is really comforting 

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because that's why one of the 10
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bear false witness because He 
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And it's so easy to jump on the 
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accusation of, let's say 
somebody important or a leader, 

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and then you immediately go to 
the negative and saying, well, I

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thought something was going on. 
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to like pull that horse back and
go to the Lord and regarding you

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and you go, OK, Lord, you know 
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And if there are things that 
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ability to do it through your 
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Kindness, graciousness, being 
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You know how I process my world 
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know where. 
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But I can't just do knee jerk 
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myself right away. 
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enter into some to an the arena 
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other people, serving other 
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our lives. 
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that we're talking about is here
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This happens at work. 
This happens in our families 

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like this. 
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attack in our lives that we 
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very perfectly and carefully. 
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something because we have to 
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is there anything true? 
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If we're walking in humility, 
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carefully, we're living a life 
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things are going to come. 
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We have to train ourselves not 
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wall right away as our first, 
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Yeah, I don't know how healthy 
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nobody likes to be cute. 
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that nobody likes. 
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have social media, it isn't. 
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It isn't the days where you know
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game and you call so and so call
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it. 
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finally like social media that 
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millisecond and whoever's 
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whoever wants to receive it and 
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foremost. 
Is there anything true in this? 

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Do I have any kind of ownership?
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I mean, I even, I guess if you 
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I even know the person? 
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where you'd get an anonymous 
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You'd get a, a little envelope 
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No sign. 
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open up the envelope, look to 
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There's no signature and you 
just shred it because there's no

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relationship. 
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There's no accountability 
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You can't even work it out. 
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Matthew 18, Matthew 6, you, you,
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opportunity to work it out. 
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social media, in the, in the 
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rumors and things get spread 
today, you're looking for 

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relationship. 
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I become hyper defensive, then 
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touching something in my life. 
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It it may not be the the whole 
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what it is, what it appears, you
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But like, if I'm getting hyper 
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may be something I need to take 
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Sure. 
That's absolutely right. 

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You look at the Psalms and how 
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He had to get it out to the Lord
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maybe not so much theologically 
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I mean, when he says how long 
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forever, I mean, that's not the 
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And but he had to get it out. 
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Psalm, he's praising the Lord 
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you know, because for David, it 
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and unjust and all the rest of 
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that's when you have to just 
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overly defensive almost works 
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against you and almost validates
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You know, the, the reality of of
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give room for the Holy Spirit to
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offended or I'm hurt and it does
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So you guys listening in right 
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affirm that criticism, rumors, 
accusations, anything that would

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put you in a defensive mode, it 
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And I would even say some of you
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you're hurting and you're 
listening to us and trying to 

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process what we're saying, 
trying to think it through, but 

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you're thinking it through the 
hurt and the pain. 

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It is a very painful thing to 
see relationships and to see 

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friendships and to see people 
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You have sacrificed. 
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I'm not trying to be overly 
dramatic here. 

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I'm just trying to lay out a 
lifestyle of serving Jesus and 

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pouring into lives only to see 
at the end that they've turned 

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on you. 
I, I think of it could be as 

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brutal as Judas. 
It could be the, the betrayal or

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the personal hurt that Paul felt
when Demas forsook him, whatever

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that looks like. 
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Dimas didn't want to serve with 
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Or, and we we can see Paul had 
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dealt with this with John Mark 
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When John Mark left, that 
wounded him and he got upset 

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about it. 
Dimas left the later on in his 

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ministry. 
He still has that wound that 

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that wound of abandonment or 
people not partnering with him 

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or maybe not having the same 
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It is painful, but I was 
thinking of Psalm 35 with David 

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because it's not just that God 
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There are times when we need to 
speak up and the 1st place we 

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need to speak up is to the Lord.
Psalm 35, David responds, you 

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know, it's like contend, O Lord,
with those who contend with me, 

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fight against those who fight 
against me, take up the shield 

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in the buckler and arise and 
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There is a there is a response, 
a healthy response where you can

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acknowledge the criticism, you 
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statements that were made that 
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partially false, that get under 
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it is received on a bad day. 
Well, yeah, if it's. 

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The animals. 
Behind it, yes. 

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Because he knows about you 
having a bad day, he probably 

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set it up you. 
Know yes yeah the the bad day 

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even exhaust exacerbates that. 
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God doesn't I as you said 
earlier God doesn't receive 

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rumors about us, but other 
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lie about you and it hurt you 
deeply. 

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Well, sure. 
I mean, somebody comes into your

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office and this happened in in 
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of being a Pharisee and accused 
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and was taking people away from 
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and and that was it made me 
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It wasn't right. 
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have, I have to watch my 
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I'm more of a musician kind of 
feeler person and and I can get 

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wound up pretty quickly without 
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through. 
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good at those times to say, 
watch it, bless those who curse 

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you, do good to those who do 
evil, Pray for those who 

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despitefully use you and 
persecute you. 

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And I think in that process of 
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allowing the Holy Spirit to come
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of healing may not be 100% 
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heart because there are deeper 
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We always have to be careful to 
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people's heart. 
But at the end of the day, you 

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it took a while, it took a few 
weeks of prayer before I was 

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able to actually invite the guy 
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could just at least pray. 
And I can ask for God's blessing

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on him as he as he goes, because
he left the church and took some

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people with him and. 
If you make a lot of decisions 

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as leaders would, or you're 
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overseeing something in, the 
more decisions you make, the 

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more open you are to be 
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And how a person processes their
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either lead to coming to you for
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making up something in their 
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I, I remember, I, I, I get a lot
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of ministry, you get double of 
it because you've been in 

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ministry 50 plus years. 
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stepped in and we were just 
taking a step of faith, it was a

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very public step of faith here 
in this church in purchasing a 

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radio station. 
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especially in relationship to 
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that. 
It was super expensive, millions

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of dollars to buy radio station,
but I and the leaders of the 

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church, the elders of this 
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from the Lord. 
We were convinced that he opened

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the door. 
It was an amazing miraculous 

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door to open. 
It was a step of faith. 

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It was not even a personal 
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people personally. 
Like I didn't make a mistake 

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with someone. 
I didn't say something wrong. 

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I didn't make a joke that hit 
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feelings, which would not then 
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It would just be add you need to
be, you need to watch your 

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mouth. 
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need, I need you to guard my 
mouth. 

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But it was, it was a step of 
faith. 

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And I, the reason this story 
comes to mind is I want you to 

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know you guys, they're listening
that this stuff happens even 

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when you don't make any mistakes
like you're, you're and you have

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the accountability, you have the
support, you have the life above

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reproach. 
And we're just taking a step of 

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faith. 
And the accusations came in and 

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they weren't many, but there 
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So it was more than one that 
this stirred up in people. 

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Well, you know, Ed, you're 
wasting church money. 

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We could do and whatever else 
they had in mind instead of 

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getting a radio station. 
And the one that stung the most,

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and I, I, I mean, it's obviously
still in my mind, but it's stung

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was you're doing this for 
yourself and you're trying to 

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make a name for yourself. 
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it hit like, and, and I, I 
stopped and, you know, it was 

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out. 
These, these were folks coming 

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up to me after service. 
I just talked about the study 

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and they're wanting to express 
me. 

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I, I made the announcement and, 
and for the next few weeks, I 

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had a few of these conversations
that they don't really want to 

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sit down with me. 
They just want to tell me that 

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we're leaving the church because
of their accusations. 

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But I did I do remember it stung
and I really had to sit down and

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go, OK, God am I really like is 
I mean, it's not with beyond the

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realm of possibility that I 
would somehow have some selfish 

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thought and make it a church 
thought I could. 

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So like, I wouldn't want that. 
I don't, I don't want that. 

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But I remember the Lord was very
quick to revive the truth inside

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of me. 
The truth. 

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This was a long process. 
It it wasn't just an 

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announcement, a 45 second 
two-minute announcement at a 

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church service. 
We have been praying, knocking 

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and seeking and asking for years
for this because there were 

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other things behind the scenes 
that even when you explain them,

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they, they, the folks didn't, 
they wanted to believe what they

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believed. 
And we did end up doing, We did 

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end up following through and 
pressing through those 

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accusations. 
We sorted them out, took them to

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the elders, make sure we're all 
on the same page because there 

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was a greater vision that God 
had given us that others just 

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didn't resonate with. 
Right away. 

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And they may or may not have 
resonated since then. 

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I hope they have, because it God
has shown himself faithful in 

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this step of faith, that this is
what he wanted us to do. 

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And this realm of stepping out 
in faith may not be fully 

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understood. 
Sometimes accusations and things

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just come from a 
misunderstanding. 

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Yeah. 
And you get a chance, I hope, to

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explain yourself if that's 
really why someone's speaking 

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up. 
So that all along we're going to

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grow in our maturity, in our 
relationship with God. 

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But the underlying thing that's 
important, I believe the 

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foundational pillars is honesty,
transparency, accountability, 

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that we have those pillars 
around us that when accusations 

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come, we can stand in the truth,
not become defensive, process it

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in such a way of God. 
What do you have for me? 

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Why did you allow this? 
I know it's an I know often 

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false accusations always are 
from the accuser of the 

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brethren. 
But if there's a if there's 

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truth in it, if there's some 
truth and it was the delivery if

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it was the person maybe said the
right thing the wrong way, 

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possibly that we step back and 
go, OK, you wanting me to grow 

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God, you're wanting me to humble
myself. 

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You're wanting me to you're 
wanting to show me something 

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that I don't see in the delivery
mechanism was just wrong. 

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But this back to the beginning, 
I want to hear your thoughts 

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because I've come to a 
conclusion, but I want to hear 

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your thoughts. 
Do you still subscribe to the 

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way because we were discipled 
similarly by basically the same 

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man in his pastor Chuck Smith in
the streams of various men that 

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we served under. 
But do you subscribe to never 

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defend yourself, Never speak up?
No, no, I think God being our 

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defense is foundational no 
matter what's happening. 

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I mean, Romans 828, all things 
were together for good to those 

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who love God, to those who are 
the called according to his 

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purpose. 
And then the next verse has to 

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do with being conformed into the
image of Christ. 

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And so God uses all things 
because he already knows what's 

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coming. 
Even the devil's accusations and

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and attacks have to go through 
the Lord for his permission. 

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And so how does God want to use 
this? 

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I think that when an accusation 
comes against you, you have to 

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discern, is this person even 
wanting to hear the back story? 

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Because if they don't even want 
to hear the back story, it's 

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just an attack, you know, and 
hurting people hurt people. 

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I mean, there are times when 
it's just they had a bad day and

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what you said or what you did 
caught them off guard and, and 

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they're in attack mode. 
I mean, I'm it happens at home. 

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In any real relationship. 
Yeah, absolutely. 

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In the closest relationship of 
marriage, you know, you're 

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opening yourself up to your 
spouse in a way that you don't 

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open up yourself to anybody 
else. 

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And so because you become that 
vulnerable when there's an 

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accusation of your motive, then 
there's an there's a response. 

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And that's when you have to stop
and say what, just like you were

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talking about what part of it 
might be true regarding me, not 

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because you can escalate that 
that thing and all of a sudden, 

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you know, you're in a tornado in
in the house and. 

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And you're consumed with pride. 
You're consumed with pride where

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I am right and everyone else is 
wrong. 

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This, this really is the 
beginning of the downfall of any

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spiritual leader, any marriage, 
any relationship, a hardened 

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heart where the condition of the
overall church today where we 

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see pastors falling or 
abusiveness or it starts much 

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smaller. 
It doesn't start at the top, it 

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starts much smaller and it even 
it can begin with this little 

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area where there's self 
protection. 

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You're, I have to say, the more 
you serve, the more people you 

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serve. 
And it's not the size of the 

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church that matters here. 
It's not the size of the church 

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where you're might be a pastor 
listening in. 

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Well, I have a really small 
church. 

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Well, yeah. 
Well, one. 

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One hit in a small church could 
be just as devastating as one 

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hit in a large church because 
it's a person well. 

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Yeah, and the relationships are 
much deeper in a smaller church.

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They really are in many ways and
the and and so I'm not 

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advocating and I wouldn't I I 
wouldn't encourage. 

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It's a case by case. 
Of course, it's a case by case 

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because there were times where 
according to prophetic, 

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according to prophecy, Jesus, he
goes without a word. 

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He goes without a word. 
He's heading to the cross 

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without a word. 
However, in John chapter 8, he 

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had a word. 
He said you belong to your 

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father, the devil and you want 
to carry out your father's 

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desire like you like, like he, 
he stood firm at sometimes and 

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he was even strong with strong 
words. 

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And I, I remember an episode 
with strong words that I, I 

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didn't use these kind of words, 
but I remember God, there was a 

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situation, there were all 
witnesses in my office. 

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We're trying to work something 
out. 

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A brother had brought 
accusations about something I 

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did in ministry, not personally,
but like as a leader. 

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And we had all the witnesses in 
there and we're all talking. 

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And I just had this in the Holy 
Spirit put in my heart that time

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when Nehemiah, I looked down and
said, you're making this up in 

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your own mind. 
And I, I just shared that I 

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said, Hey, we need to stop here 
because now you're you, you had 

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a original hurt. 
And that was it that, that, that

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situation, I remember it was 
valid. 

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That situation itself was valid.
And that's what we were trying 

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to work out. 
But by the end of his five 

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minute discussion, I just had to
stop and go stop. 

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What what you're talking about 
now did not happen. 

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You are making that up in your 
mind. 

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We got to get back to what did 
happen and let's see if we can 

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work it out. 
Let's see if we can go back to 

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the the hurt, the pain, the 
offense. 

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Because after talking about it 
for 5 minutes, or really we all 

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do this to some degree where 
we're talking about, thinking 

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about, processing about. 
And we have created a narrative 

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around an event that may or may 
not have truth to it. 

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Like we're just the event 
happened and then we're thinking

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about it, thinking about it, 
thinking about it, thinking 

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about it, thinking about it, and
then all those iterations of 

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thinking about it, It actually 
isn't what happened. 

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Yeah, right. 
We, we developed a whole 

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scenario, a whole play really, 
you know, Act 2 and then got the

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whole story as unfolding because
of assumptions and reconceived 

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notions, fears. 
I mean, all this comes in and in

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the home of what happens is when
my wife says I don't, I don't 

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like what you did. 
I don't think it was the right 

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way. 
Does Jeannie really say that? 

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Yeah, she. 
Yeah. 

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She's she's a lady of truth. 
And then what I need to do at 

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that time, not that I always do 
it, but what I need to do is I'm

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saying, and you give me 24 hours
just to pray over this and let's

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talk about it again, OK? 
Because at least sometimes part 

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of it is that you're not even 
willing to listen, even 

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consider. 
Because when you start getting 

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defensive and it's the principle
of the thing and not even the 

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issue, then you're just ramping 
it up and you're creating more 

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and more trouble. 
The principle of The thing is 

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really the I one of my favorite 
television shows is People's 

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Court. 
Liked it since I was a child. 

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It's not on anymore. 
Maybe in reruns in some places, 

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but probably. 
On YouTube. 

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The whole essence of the 
People's Court is they're suing 

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on principle. 
I mean, it's 20 bucks, 50 bucks,

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$300.00. 
Judy, very similar show and the,

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the, the principle of the thing 
where you're, you're just asking

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and wanting someone to validate 
that you're right or wrong. 

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It's not even about the money, 
although money comes into play 

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and it's the probably the 
motivating factor that puts you 

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over the edge. 
But we, I, we, we, we often live

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our lives trying to prove 
principles rather than living in

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the spirit and walking in the 
spirit. 

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Or I was thinking People's Court
would not exist if the world 

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lived by the principle that Paul
wrote to the Corinthians. 

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Why won't you rather just be 
wronged, Right? 

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And I'll tell you why, because 
it stings and it hurts. 

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And I don't want to be wronged. 
And I, I sometimes will factor 

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in other people's wrongs toward 
me, toward my motive. 

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00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,760
My motive is I don't want to 
wrong anyone, even though I have

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wronged people. 
I don't want to. 

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So I judge myself on my motives,
but I judge you by your actions 

482
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:13,720
and they never match. 
I need to do the same thing. 

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I need to give you some space. 
And that's what we're asking 

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00:29:16,560 --> 00:29:19,760
for, for someone else as well. 
And we're coming up to the end 

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of our episode today, but we'll 
pick up a little bit of this in 

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the next episode because the 
topics are overlapping. 

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But I, I will never really match
unless I judge you or approach 

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you in the same way I approach 
myself. 

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And so if motives are very 
important to me for my actions, 

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then I also need to hear you and
give you an opportunity to share

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00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,000
your heart. 
Because it could have just been 

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an accident. 
It could have just been a 

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00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,280
mistake. 
It could have just been I did 

494
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it. 
I'm not saying I didn't do it. 

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00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:53,680
I did it but but the motive 
wasn't for you to feel that way 

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00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:59,320
or and and so looping back to 
accusation, I think today or or 

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00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:04,520
rumor or offenses just as 
leaders as we start off our 

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00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,760
season. 
We wanted to validate if you're 

499
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:11,080
on the other end of of a 
situation like this, we're sorry

500
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:16,360
and you don't necessarily have 
to sit back and do nothing and 

501
00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:19,520
say, well, you know, God's my 
defender and carry that hurt. 

502
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Carry that pain. 
Let it let it stir up in you and

503
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:29,120
make you hard hearted. 
You can answer sometimes you can

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00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:32,120
defend the integrity of the 
situation. 

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00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:35,600
Sometimes certainly Jesus did 
that, David did that the 

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00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:39,120
disciples spoke up. 
This is not an unbiblical 

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00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:45,360
concept to be able to speak up, 
to be able to obey Matthew 18 if

508
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:48,440
you have been offended, even as 
a leader, if you ever been 

509
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:51,880
offended to call up and and 
share that offense. 

510
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,840
And if your brother hears you, 
you have won your brother and 

511
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,240
it's over. 
And the enemy doesn't get the 

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00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:02,200
benefit of his accusation 
hitting the target and 

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00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:06,720
destroying a life. 
And that is the whole essence of

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00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:11,920
this episode because we we have 
been taught and sometimes we 

515
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,200
apply it. 
Just let it go, let it come, let

516
00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:15,640
it come. 
They don't just get hit, hit, 

517
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,560
hit, hit, hit and don't ever 
defend yourself. 

518
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,720
And I say that there are times 
when you can't speak up. 

519
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:24,120
It depends on where it came from
and how don't don't jump in, 

520
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,520
don't misunderstand me. 
Somebody shoots something on 

521
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,560
social media and now you're 
going to answer them on social 

522
00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:30,880
media. 
Wrong platform. 

523
00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:36,400
Nothing good comes when you try 
to do that like because then you

524
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:39,440
got the watching world seen two 
Christians fight each other, you

525
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:42,400
know, so that's probably another
discussion all together. 

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00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,480
But I want to welcome you all to
season 7. 

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We come to the end of episode 1.
My name is Ed Taylor, I'm in 

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studio with Bob Klaykamp. 
We're pastors, We're we're also 

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00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:58,000
men of God seeking to obey him 
and follow him and love him and 

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00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:02,160
and lead, lead well. 
And we're grateful that you've 

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00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:03,760
joined us. 
I know it's been a while since 

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00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,040
seasons, but timing is 
everything. 

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00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,560
So the Holy Spirit has the 
perfect timing. 

534
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:13,520
We want you to contact us 
because most of the topics this 

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00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:17,640
season were listener thoughts 
and questions because we asked 

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00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:19,840
for you to do that. 
And you can text them at 

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00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:27,640
720-608-0012. 
You can text that anytime or you

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00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:33,080
can e-mail, you can e-mail me at
ed@edtaylor.org. 

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00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:37,240
My website saidtaylor.org. 
Bob, you have a website Bob Clay

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00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:41,520
Camp dot dot com. 
So Bob klaycam.com we're 

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available to serve you. 
Pastor Bob has just launched 

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00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:49,360
into a brand new season of 
ministry, ministering in Mission

543
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:55,520
assist I and he's doing a great 
work doing exactly what God has 

544
00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:57,880
called him to do in this latter 
season of his life. 

545
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:01,960
So thanks again for being a part
of the Lead to Serve podcast. 

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00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:07,320
Season 7 Episode 1 is in the 
books and we'll see you next 

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00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:11,280
time right here as these 
podcasts get posted. 

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00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:14,080
God bless you guys. 
Thank you for joining us for 

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00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:17,320
this episode of Lead to Serve 
with Pastor Ed Taylor, a 

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00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:20,520
leadership podcast from Calvary 
Church in Aurora, Co. 

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00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:22,880
If you have a leadership 
question you want to hear 

552
00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:26,240
answered on a future Lead to 
Serve podcast, please e-mail it 

553
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:28,880
to Pastor Ed at Calvary Co dot 
church. 

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00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:32,520
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