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This is lead to Serve with Ed 
Taylor, a leadership podcast. 

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Welcome again to another. 
Episode of the Lead to Serve 

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podcast with Pastor Ed Taylor. 
That's me. 

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I'm your host for the season. 
I'm host of the. 

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Podcast. 
This is season #6 we're trying. 

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To be a little. 
Or a lot more intentional in 

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getting these podcasts done, 
that is. 

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Bob, by the way. 
Bob Clay Camp is in studio with 

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me this season. 
Welcome again, Bob. 

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Yeah, here we are. 
Bob, that's the. 

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Number one complaint that we 
have on lead to serve is that we

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don't do it often enough and 
I've to to knock out two seasons

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in one. 
Year is. 

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Pretty, pretty good considering 
the amount of responsibility and

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work that we have around here, 
and I appreciate you rearranging

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your schedule to make this work.
I rearranged my schedule to make

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this work and it's fun. 
The idea of the Lead to Serve 

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podcast is like you're. 
Joining us in the office, we're 

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sitting in a studio here with 
microphones in front of us, but 

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we're actually just looking at 
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you know, thinking in our minds.
What can we say is if you were 

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in the office. 
With us, as you were. 

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In studio with us and we were 
talking life and ministry a lot 

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of the. 
Topics of lead to serve. 

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Come from you guys, they come 
from your emails, come from 

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ministry experience, life 
experience. 

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I mean, we could. 
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Had more time. 
We could go. 

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More and more on these topics 
that come from emails I get. 

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I got an e-mail. 
Yesterday about this topic of 

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closure. 
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Theory of closure. 
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of sin, and I think it's another
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That frustrates people because. 
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You never get it. 
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another topic that's not our. 
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Emailed me yesterday talking 
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How how hard it's? 
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couldn't come to closure. 
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to think about this and then 
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About it after you pray over it.
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your mind that there's no such 
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And I gave a brief explanation 
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And whether you agree with it or
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the Holy Spirit can meet us in 
the. 

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Scriptures where you. 
Can find that the true closure 

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to hurt, to pain, to injustice 
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He's the one. 
He's the final arbiter. 

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He's the final. 
Judge. 

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So that could be a topic. 
'Cause I just came in an e-mail 

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last night from a brother who I 
know that has been struggling 

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for years. 
And the Lord is But I can see at

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the same time God's bringing 
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So that's the. 
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the topics they're. 
Real and raw. 

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Because this is where. 
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The road if you. 
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how do we apply them and so in 
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The leader that the podcast also
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Bent toward leadership, servant 
leadership. 

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Following Mark chapter 10 verse 
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new to the podcast, we're. 
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So we're taking. 
Biblical principles and you 

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might even be listening right 
now and you you're not a 

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Christian or you don't have 
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you're shocked and I, I. 
Hope you are you're shocked that

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the Bible actually has a great. 
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To how you how you lead at work 
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Able to lead at home. 
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You ready? 
The shock value is that. 

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God has your attention, and 
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He wants you to come into a 
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Used your leadership or desire 
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Skills and you're listening and 
like these are counterintuitive,

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aren't they? 
These aren't like. 

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The latest leadership? 
Training you got at. 

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Work or that HR? 
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sometimes HR will pick up on 
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seminar. 
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how to be servant leaders when 
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principle. 
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But at any rate, we're glad if 
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A follower of Jesus. 
Christ, we want you to be. 

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But we're so. 
Glad that you're tuned in. 

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You're listening to two pastors 
with a combined. 80 years plus 

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of. 
Walking with the Lord and 

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almost. 80 years plus of. 
Serving God in. 

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High level capacities. 
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I know a lot of our audience. 
We already knows us. 

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Welcome back. 
Our goal is to help you. 

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Grow in servant leadership. 
We want you to glorify God in 

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all that you do. 
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being in the office with us. 
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topic. 
They've all seem to be woven. 

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Together but the topic. 
Today is depression. 

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Depression. 
I'm not getting into clinical 

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definitions and diagnosis. 
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We're not doctors, psychologists
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So let's set that. 
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just talk about discouragement 
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You could call it discouragement
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Could call it depth. 
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Is just this down? 
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cartoons, you're not Tigger. 
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Eeyore. 
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and we want to acknowledge them.
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definitions. 
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of depression is. 
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Despondency and dejection. 
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And then it goes on to a mental 
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all suffer from mental illness 
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with a broken brain. 
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None of us are what we intended,
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because of the sin that happened
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So all of us suffer. 
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you'll understand as this go 
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This is not a statement in any 
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medical. 
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I'm not that, that is not my 
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believe. 
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What I've personally 
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heart on the matter. 
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God's heart on the matter. 
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But I'm not trying to minimize 
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to over maximize. 
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How? 
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Like we talked about. 
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depression, discouragement, 
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Why are you so downcast? 
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For that. 
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let's just start, let's go right
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That you had in that that is 
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You can't control things that 
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have turned to be your enemy or 
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You've been with them at the 
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been with them, you've dedicated
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marriage issues. 
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stabbed you in the back because 
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something. 
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make any sense. 
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ponder it and roll it over in 
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unfairness, it works all kinds 
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pull you into his quicksand to, 
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the spiritual warfare that that 
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It's diabolical, demonic, and, 
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weighed down in body or mind. 
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start feeling that way and you 
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grabbing your ankles and pulling
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Psalm 43. 
Why are you cast down on my 

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soul? 
Why are you disquieted within 

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me? 
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yet praise him who's the help of
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had a he had a despair of life. 
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second Corinthians one verse 8. 
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be ignorant brethren of our 
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ourselves that we should not 
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who raises the dead man? 
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Well, wait a minute, God raises 
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So it's it's not, you know, it's
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that's all. 
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great a death and does deliver 
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still deliver us. 
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You also helping together in 
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given by many persons on our 
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us through many. 
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important intercessory prayer is
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they're in the quicksand and 
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And we, we, we, we want to 
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Well, the first step is going to
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He knows what's going on more 

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than we do. 
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something God chooses to use, 
although he didn't, he doesn't 

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have to use it. 
I mean, he can do what he wants,

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but he's chosen to do certain 
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prayers of his people. 
So let's go back to use. 

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The illustration twice that, I 
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used it, but I'm listening to 
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You use the illustration of 
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Have you ever been in quicksand?
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Not real quicksand. 
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You haven't been in real 

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quicksand, but then in your mind
and imagination, maybe I've seen

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it in a television show or 
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illustration of discouragement 
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Literally felt that. 

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In ministry and life. 
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Take us. 
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Us a little bit into before I 
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where I've been in take us into 
a season you've been in this 

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quicksand kind of feeling like 
you've been pulled down with no 

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way out. 
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pastoring in Phoenix, there were
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as being pulled through a 
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stripped away. 
You're. 

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Changing illustration. 
I know. 

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It's just in my mind. 
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everything gets stripped away, 
everything you try just 

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absolutely doesn't work and the 
the whole thing is dissolving in

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front of you and you're feeling 
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I've lost the plot and I can't 
find the paper and so it is 

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gone. 
I don't know what to do and and 

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the more you dwell on it, it's 
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hopeless. 
And boy, I'm in so many 

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different times. 
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see how God had a hold of you 
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you're underwater. 
He's got this amazing scuba gear

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because it's a season where yes,
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lifeline. 
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Through a deep. 
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chapter 30 looking. 
At the phrases greatly 

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distressed, the people were 
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What happened was it says in 
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Now it happened. 
David and his men came to Ziglag

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third. 
Day. 

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The Amalekites had invaded, 
taking captive the women who 

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were there. 
Small to great did not kill 

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anyone, but carried away and 
went their way. 

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It was burned with fire, wives 
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taken captive. 
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are with him lifted up their 
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There was no more. 
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That's a deep. 
There's a deep. 

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Sense of emotion there for 
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then you have. 
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They had been taken. 
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David being greatly distressed. 
The people spoke of. 

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Stoning him and the people were 
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It's an episode in the life of 
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these men. 
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They're brought to their knees 
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can look at you can look at 
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I mean, I we, that we. 
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At David become because he's the
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solution. 
Of what to do. 

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With discouragement, and we have
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discouragement which we may. 
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Depression to David, because 
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To the city. 
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captive. 
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him who were his partners in in 
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It's not just that he's been on 
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King Saul, it's that. 
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That. 
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compromise and and backsliding 
really in his life that. 

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Led to all this. 
And it all hit him at once in a 

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very real. 
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natural. 
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in today needs to understand 
that your feelings of depression

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or being discouraged doesn't 
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make you a bad Christian. 
If we knew your story and we. 

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Were able to sit there with you.
We would conclude that it was a 

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And so as we look at David, this
mighty man of war, we can't, we 

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can't think of him in a sense 
where we can't think of him 

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like, well, I can't believe 
David. 

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You're you don't have any faith.
You don't know he had all the 

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faith in the world. 
He was just in a bad spot in his

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life and Bob before the. 
Episode we talked about. 

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A few seasons of that in your 
life and having having that 

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personality melancholy in my 
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I've had a few seasons of that, 
but the greatest one was when 

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Mar son passed away in 2013 and 
it just completely halted 

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everything in my life. 
Never. 

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I've never sensed. 
I've never before then and since

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then ever experienced anything 
like that, and I would hope to 

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never experience it. 
But it was. 

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Brutal, brutal and. 
Every every level it. 

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Affected my marriage, it 
affected my kids, it affected my

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relationship with my grandson. 
It affected. 

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My ministry and it was. 
It just led to deep. 

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Deep discouragement. 
Depression. 

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And I went to the scriptures and
read them like I never have 

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before. 
I clung to the scriptures even 

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though I wasn't. 
Studying for Bible studies. 

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Right away and I was I was 
looking. 

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Just like you described. 
It's not just the quicksand, 

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because I think if I was, if I 
used the quicksand, I would have

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sunk the. 
First day. 

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Because I don't think there's 
any way you can fight quicksand.

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You're just toast. 
But when you use the 

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illustration of a being 
underwater, I'm like, oh, I can 

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I I? 
Hear that? 

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Because. 
You can fight to get back up. 

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You can't breathe. 
You're gasping in, but you're 

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fighting to get back up and you 
sink and you're fighting to get 

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back up and you sink and and 
I've definitely experienced. 

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The reality of this is the 

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passage. 
You know out of that, out of 

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that, you know that it was such 
a difficult time in the life of 

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our church, such a difficult 
time from the pulpit. 

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That. 
You know I was. 

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Sad. 
The church was sad. 

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Everybody was sad and in, you 
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they didn't even know the half 
of it of what was going on and 

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and still don't know the half of
what's going on. 

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It's still ongoing now eleven 
years later that make the 

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situation so much more 
complicated and difficult and 

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hard. 
And even that phrase might be 

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helpful for you listening 
because we don't know the half 

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of what you're going through 
either. 

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We don't know how. 
Difficult it is. 

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We don't know what family 
things, what people are doing to

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you, what they're saying about. 
You how they're. 

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Treating you what? 
How unfair and unjust. 

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I mean it. 
This world. 

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Even in the Christian world or 
people that. 

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Say they're. 
Christians can be so brutal and 

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the response of sadness or 
sorrow or discouragement or 

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being downcast. 
Or greatly grieved or. 

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Crying like the psalmist says in
another Psalm, You. 

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Cry where you haven't you? 
Have no more tears now. 

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Up until my son passed away that
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what it's like now and being 
able to relate. 

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So, David? 
Became a friend of mine. 

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He is going through it. 
It's difficult on every level. 

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He has nowhere to turn in his 
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Nowhere. 
There is no human solution. 

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Which brings us to the solution.
And you had mentioned it 

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already, Bob, but within the 
context of. 

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David's life. 
And my life, this is what got me

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out of it. 
Not that I'm not. 

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Discouraged still, or if it 
actually. 

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Really depends on what I place 
my mind on, right? 

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If I, if I. 
Delight myself and the Lord, 

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He'll give me the desires of my 
heart, if the promise to me and 

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to Bob and to everyone listening
is is that he will keep you in 

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perfect peace whose mind is 
stayed on Him so if I let my 

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mind wander. 
If I look at. 11 years lost and 

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every day. 
If I look. 

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At the circumstances then I'll 
be. 

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Greatly discouraged. 
What I need to do is what David 

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does, and every time I do this, 
every time we do. 

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This this is how you got. 
Out of that difficulty in 

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Phoenix. 
This is how you. 

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Got out of the next difficulty 
and this is how you got out of 

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the next get difficulty, Bob. 
Same with me. 

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This is how you'll get through 
it. 

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How do I handle these feelings 
of discouragement? 

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I acknowledge them, I express 
them and that I've got to take 

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them to the Lord. 
And that's what David. 

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Does he's got David's greatly 
distressed the. 

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People spoke of stoning him, so 
you got weeping, crying, 

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wailing, and then we're going to
kill you. 

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We're going to kill you, David. 
It's all your fault. 

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And David's there like it is my 
fault I'm a backslider. 

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What am I thinking? 
Why did I leave? 

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God. 
It is my fault it wasn't 

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completely his. 
Fault. 

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The Amalekites. 
The Amalekites are sinners and 

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rebels, so it wasn't completely 
his fault. 

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But it could feel like that. 
That's what makes things worse. 

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That's the. 
Oppression, right? 

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The outside pressures. 
Not just the demonic oppression,

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but the pressure of the 
situation. 

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The pressure of people's. 
Sinful decisions against you. 

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So, David? 
Was like, I know it's all my 

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fault. 
No, it's not all his. 

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Fault if he ever said that. 
Because the Amalekites. 

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Are the catalyst to all this. 
But David opened the door to his

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sin. 
Through his backsliding, Through

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his lack of. 
Faith for a moment. 

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And it says he's greatly 
distressed the. 

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People going to sow him the soul
of. 

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All the people were. 
Grieved every man for his sons 

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and. 
Daughters but. 

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And this happens to be a good 
one. 

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David. 
Strengthened himself in the Lord

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his God. 
And if you read the rest of the 

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chapter. 
That changed everything. 

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It did, and then he called for 
an ephod to find the will of 

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God, and he was saying, should 
we even go? 

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He didn't know what to do 
because his feelings were 

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overwhelmed. 
But you, even when we don't know

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what to do, when there are no 
feelings, when we turn to the 

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Lord, He's ready to answer. 
I mean, you have 600 mighty men 

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ready, wanting to kill you. 
I mean, that's serious. 

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That's their families, I mean. 
It's it's. 

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Huge. 
Oh yeah, it is. 

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You know, Bob, the the things 
that we feel, whether it's 600 

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men or six men or one man, if 
the end result is the same 

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sometimes when I'm sharing my 
story because that has become a 

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big part of my ministry now. 
That's the very first book I 

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ever published was a book that 
after as the church. 

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Was going through the grieving 
process and and it was. 

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Really, really sad, I felt the 
Lord says Ed. 

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The church is really, really 
sad. 

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You need to let them off the 
hook. 

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You need to let them and I'm 
like, what do you mean? 

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I'm processing that and the way 
I interpreted. 

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That is, is. 
It's almost like God was telling

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me and the church, I'm going to 
help you turn a corner, but 

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you've got to be the one. 
You got to be. 

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The pastor and and what I did. 
Was put a series of studies 

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together. 
I didn't know how long it would 

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be, but I began to teach on 
different people in the Bible, 

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different situations where the. 
Where the where the Lord showed 

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up deep. 
You know whether it was 

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barrenness or it and and it. 
Was what, whatever the topics 

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were, sorrow? 
Sadness this first same Samuel 

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chapter 30 was one of the. 
Chapters we looked. 

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At Hannah, we we looked at 
Rahab. 

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I think it was the book. 
God's help for the troubled 

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heart. 
And it's not a book on grief. 

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It's a book on God's 
faithfulness and victory through

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life circumstances when our. 
Hearts are all troubled. 

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And beat up and discouraged and 
depressed. 

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And really the book could be 
summarized in this phrase. 

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But David strengthened himself 
in the Lord. 

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That's the key and we. 
Have to be careful. 

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Here and we're almost out of 
time, but it's worth like 

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strengthening yourself in the 
Lord, coming to church, praying,

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seeking the Lord doesn't mean 
you won't feel sad. 

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It doesn't. 
We're so quick on. 

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If I. 
Do then this will, but that's 

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there's no guarantee this may be
part of you. 

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Like to say after. 11 years. 
I'm not sad anymore. 

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That's just silly. 
Of course I am and I can be. 

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To the depth of. 
Sadness and sorrow, as much as I

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want to. 
If I want to go deep, it would 

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not take very long for me to 
assess all my circumstances and 

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go, oh man, my life is really 
messed up. 

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I got a lot to be sad. 
And it's true, but this habit, 

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this is a new habit, which 
includes worship, music 

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includes. 
A steady diet of. 

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Of of sermons it includes. 
A steady. 

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Seeking of the Lord. 
It includes a new strengthening 

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Lord. 
One of the ways that I 

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strengthen myself in the Lord is
through prayer, journaling. 

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I've never done that before, but
I'll get out my iPad and I've 

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got a file and I'm just writing 
out what's ever on my heart, 

463
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which whenever I pass away and 
somebody finds that journal, 

464
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they're going to go, Oh my gosh,
Ed really was messed up and 

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hurt. 
Because I can't like. 

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Listen to him. 
I'm like I know, but it gets. 

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It gets it out so. 
That I can live the rest of the 

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day and gives me a chance. 
To express it. 

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Before the Lord. 
Pray for it, pray through it, so

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that. 
He and you might have different 

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tools that you can accompany 
because. 

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It goes with Bible. 
Study and and there's a book 

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that I want to recommend that's 
very important. 

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It's the. 
Author is. 

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Ed Welch and the title of it is 
Depression. 

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It's the best biblical 
assessment of this topic, not 

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only of it. 
But how to get out of it that 

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00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:59,880
I've ever read very, very good. 
It's called depression. 

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By Ed Welch if. 
Use is an area you wrestle with.

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You can always e-mail me. 
I have a lot of. 

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Resources on discouragement, 
depression, and grief. 

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They all go. 
Together that I could. 

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Send to you if you e-mail me. 
But any final thoughts, Bob? 

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Yeah, I there are times when in 
me it feels like a big log jam 

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and I just can't seem to connect
with the Lord. 

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And it's, it's at those times 
I've learned that I have to sit 

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down with a pen and A and 
several pieces of paper and 

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begin to write out my prayer to 
the Lord and start off with, 

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with who he is, Start off with 
what he's done for me, start off

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with those truths as 
foundational. 

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And then I just tell him exactly
how I feel, who has offended me.

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I don't hold back anything. 
I tell it like I feel it because

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he already knows. 
But there's something about 

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writing it out. 
And then it's out there and you 

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look at it and you go, yeah, 
that's that's pretty much where 

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I'm at. 
And then that kind of download 

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just to me seems to like break 
up the logjam. 

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And the Holy Spirit starts 
speaking to me about him and me.

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And then I write that down as 
well. 

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And so I don't do that all the 
time, but there are those 

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seasons when I feel like 
everything's jammed up. 

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And to me, that's cleansing. 
Well, we've come to another end 

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of an episode. 
This could be multi, this could 

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be many. 
Days, right? 

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Because this is a big part of 
it. 

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But to summarize, I think 
acknowledging it, praying 

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through it, turning to the Lord,
knowing that you're you're not 

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00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:47,880
it's, it's not all you and it 
may be. 

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Tied. 
This is where. 

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This is where good. 
Fellowship. 

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Of the body helps where? 
Leaders in your life, you know 

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00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,680
how we've. 
Talked before about you should 

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be. 
Appalled and be pouring into 

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timothy's but you all should be 
a Timothy with someone pouring 

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into you where you get the kind 
of help that you need from a. 

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Trusted pastor or elder? 
Or, friend, we can just. 

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Talk it out. 
With an open Bible, but 

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acknowledge it, confess it, come
back to the Lord, strengthen 

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yourself. 
Or another translation says 

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encouraging. 
He encouraged himself in the 

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00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,640
Lord, but can't it? 
It really is a. 

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00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,680
Key you're you're not a bad 
Christian because. 

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You wrestle with it. 
It could be emotional, it could 

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00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:34,280
be circumstantial, it could be 
medical, mental. 

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None of those really matter. 
It's just what you're feeling. 

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And with those feelings, you 
need to take them to the Lord. 

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00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:44,040
And to think that maybe you'll 
never have sadness again, that's

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probably not reality. 
I like to put things in these. 

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Categories, Bob, it's a 
possibility. 

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But it's not, it's probably not 
a probability. 

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And and we'll we'll. 
Pray about it, but like you. 

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You may be sad, you may continue
to be sad, depending on what day

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it is, but you're going to have 
to learn how to live and move 

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00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,920
forward and trust in the Lord 
more and more. 

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And it's going to make you a 
better person. 

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We're going to talk in our next 
episode about challenges. 

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And these are all challenges, 
aren't they? 

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Like. 
It's let's build this whole. 

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Season is built upon itself and 
we're going to learn how to live

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with challenges and what what? 
God is really doing. 

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In the challenges, in the storms
of life. 

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How to to? 
Respond to that and and yet at 

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the same time, the sorrow and 
sadness just makes you feel like

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00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:30,480
you want to give up, you want to
quit, you want to stay in bed, 

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want to put the. 
Covers over your. 

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00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:33,920
Head, you don't want to go out, 
you don't want it, and that's 

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00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:34,960
not God's will. 
For you. 

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God wants to heal you, 
strengthen you, bring you back 

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00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,320
into fellowship with others, 
bring you back to a. 

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Place of. 
Freedom from that, but and and 

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at the same time not creating a 
new identity. 

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00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,480
You don't have a new identity. 
You're not. 

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00:29:50,480 --> 00:29:56,440
Depressed Ed or sad Ed, you are 
just Ed with a walk. 

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With the Lord that's going 
through a season. 

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Of difficulty. 
And this season might last. 

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It will last till I meet. 
Jesus face to face. 

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It will no doubt, but even in 
the seasons we were explaining 

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to a young man who just moved 
here to. 

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00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:12,400
Colorado, where the weather. 
Changes so quickly. 

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00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:16,760
Here you can experience all Four
Seasons in one day and life can 

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be like that, like things change
so. 

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00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:20,720
Quickly where? 
I might wake up discouraged, but

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then the Lord encourages me and 
I got a great. 

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00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:24,760
Day or I wake. 
Up really great and then I get 

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00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:27,360
into my head and I I have a 
season a moment of 

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discouragement, but I'm living 
proof. 

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00:30:30,080 --> 00:30:32,560
Pastor Bob is living proof and 
so many. 

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00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:34,840
Others are that you? 
Can. 

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Live with. 
Difficulties and you can live. 

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00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:41,080
With. 
Discouragement and you can take 

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00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,880
it to the. 
Lord Paul's like you shared, 

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00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:46,680
I've got David, you got Paul, 
I've got Paul, you got. 

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00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:48,880
David, Bob that. 
They they live with. 

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Difficulties and pressed on and 
move forward which. 

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Will be the topic. 
Of our next. 

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Episode so thanks. 
For being again, being here 

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00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:56,360
again, Bob. 
Yep. 

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Absolutely. 
You're listening to the lead. 

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To serve podcasts we're. 
Coming to a close. 

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Today, be sure to leave a 
review, it always helps. 

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00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:05,600
Give us some feedback. 
You can e-mail us. 

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You can text us 72. 06/08. 0012 
That's a texting number. 

583
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:13,760
You can also leave a voicemail 
there. 

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00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:15,880
It doesn't get answered very 
often, but the. 

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00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,000
Texts do. 
And the voicemails do. 

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00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:20,840
We'd love to hear from you. 
If you have ideas. 

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00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,880
Maybe you need some help in 
discouragement. 

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We certainly, I would say at the
very end. 

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If you are suicidal, if it's 
that bad, please. 

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Don't do it. 
Ask for help. 

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00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:35,800
It's just that. 
Season where it's. 

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Deep, deep dark. 
Right now, but you will get out 

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00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:40,880
of it. 
God is ready to encourage you 

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00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:44,720
and ask for help. 
I know the Lord will. 

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00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:46,520
Use it. 
And I know. 

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00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:49,400
That God has help for you, Reach
out. 

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00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:54,880
You can always call 911 if it's 
an urgent, there's an urgency 

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00:31:54,880 --> 00:32:00,120
about it, but you can ask for a 
friend and again, the Lord. 

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00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,200
Will get you through this. 
It's dark. 

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But the light is shining, the 
holy. 

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00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:07,360
Spirit's with you. 
I know he can help you give us 

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00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:10,920
some feedback. 
We'll be back next time on our 

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next topic. 
It's been a great season so far 

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00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:15,000
and we're. 
So glad that you've stuck with 

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us, the Lord. 
Bless you, encourage you, and 

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00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:20,200
strengthen you. 
Thank you for joining us for 

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00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,440
this episode of Lead to Serve 
with Pastor Ed Taylor, a 

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00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:26,640
leadership podcast from Calvary 
Church in Aurora, Co. 

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00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,000
If you have a leadership 
question you want to hear 

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00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:32,360
answered on a future Lead to 
Serve podcast, please e-mail it 

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00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,000
to Pastor Ed at Calvary Co dot 
Church. 

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00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:38,600
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00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:41,800
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00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:45,000
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