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I fall into your arms and I find
peace. 

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I fall into the heart that fell 
for me and loves me so 

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endlessly. 
Hello and welcome back to the 

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Tiny Pod. 
This week I want to talk about 

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transaction. 
The word transaction comes from 

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the Latin transactio, from the 
verb transseiguere, trans 

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meaning across or through, and 
aguere, meaning to drive, do, 

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ACT and manage. 
Transaction was originally about

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bringing something to 
completion, fulfilment from 

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start to finish, but overtime it
shifted into giving and 

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receiving, where one action is 
completed in return for another.

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It became about exchange and 
commerce. 

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Something is given and something
is received, a swap. 

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But the human heart often 
contaminates this with fear, 

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scarcity, and ego. 
When people give transactionally

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from scarcity, they are 
performing an action hoping it 

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will be reciprocated, which is a
partial, incomplete transaction 

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of energy. 
When people operate from lack, 

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they treat relationships, time, 
or resources transactionally. 

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They give conditionally, hoping 
for a return that validates them

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attention, approval, security, 
or even love. 

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It is not overflowing 
generosity. 

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It is a Ledger in the head. 
I gave X so I should get Y. 

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And when they don't get the 
expected return, they feel 

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wronged, cheated, or insecure. 
This creates disappointment and 

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tension and often pushes the 
other person away. 

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Because real intimacy can't 
happen in a Ledger style 

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exchange. 
You can't truly connect when one

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person is checking their 
receipts. 

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The deeper the scarcity mindset,
the more the relationship is 

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based on control and ego, not 
mutual joy and love. 

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People try to negotiate 
affection, closeness and 

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validation out of survival, fear
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The roots of transactional 
behaviour are trauma and the 

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survival mechanisms built to 
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Conditional love or affection is
fear masquerading as love, 

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pretending to be connection. 
The more you try to control the 

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outcome, the less real intimacy 
you experience. 

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People are so afraid that they 
try and contain themselves and 

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only give in order to receive. 
They don't give freely, they 

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give in exchange for something 
better. 

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They hope. 
They hope they will win in the 

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transaction, but often lose 
because transactional giving is 

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a losing game. 
The whole thing is built on 

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expectation, not authenticity. 
People default to transaction 

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because transaction feels safer 
than vulnerability. 

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Transaction offers the illusion 
of control. 

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When someone is in survival 
mode, emotionally, financially, 

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relationally, they try to 
control risk. 

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If I give this, I'll get that. 
It's not generosity, it's not 

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connection. 
It is self protection dressed up

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as intimacy. 
We step out of transaction by 

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filling ourselves first by 
becoming whole and embodying 

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overflow. 
Sovereign with clear boundaries,

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standards, and values, you give 
without needing a return. 

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Your giving is abundant. 
Relationships founded on 

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overflow feel easy, joyful and 
magnetic, while transactional 

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ones are exhausting, confusing, 
and emotionally whiplash 

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inducing. 
Giving from overflow is 

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unconditional, abundance driven,
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When you live from sovereignty, 
from the fullness of who you 

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are, you don't give to win. 
You give because you can. 

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You don't love to be loved back,
You love because you are whole. 

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I give because I'm full, not 
because I'm empty. 

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I give from who I am and not 
from what I want from you. 

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I don't need to control the 
outcome because I'm not giving 

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in order to get. 
And this terrifies people who 

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operate from lack, because 
abundance exposes their 

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scarcity, openness exposes their
insecurity, and clean energy 

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exposes the chaotic negotiation 
inside of them. 

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Transactional people get 
confused by sovereign people 

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because they genuinely don't 
understand giving without 

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agenda. 
They literally don't have the 

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internal bandwidth to hold that 
frequency. 

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It's short circuits their 
system. 

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They don't have enough in their 
emotional bank to meet overflow,

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so they default to what feels 
familiar to them, deflection, 

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blame, or withdrawal. 
Because really, giving feels too

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much for the emotionally 
underdeveloped. 

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A transactional person sees 
every gesture as a bargain. 

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Transaction is survival and 
survival needs a deal. 

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A person in overflow sees every 
gesture as an expression. 

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Overflow is embodiment and 
embodiment doesn't negotiate in 

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politics over promise and under 
deliver to gain votes, to 

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manipulate outcomes. 
Thinking scarcity driven. 

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Giving will secure something, 
loyalty or votes. 

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But it always backfires and 
creates resentment, frustration 

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and ultimately the collapse of 
the connection, the loyalty that

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was built on the false promise 
in church and religious 

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buildings. 
If I do this, I'll gain God's 

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favour. 
People give from empty, hoping 

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to be filled, but all they are 
full of is resentment. 

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The moment you give, hoping for 
a return, approval, love, 

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validation, you're already 
handing over your power. 

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It is not generosity, it is 
transaction rooted in lack and 

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creates a cycle of 
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When giving comes from overflow,
from your fullness, your 

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serenity, you're no longer 
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You can give, show up, offer 
your energy, your love, your 

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resources and it doesn't matter 
what comes back. 

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The radical shift is seeing 
giving as an act of 

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self-expression, not a 
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Once you operate from that 
energy, you're untouchable by 

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neediness, manipulation, or the 
transactional games of others. 

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It's why truly sovereign people 
are magnetic. 

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They aren't asking for anything 
in return, they are radiating 

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fullness. 
Giving from truthfulness begins 

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with self. 
Sufficiency and abundance 

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overflow energy, and it is 
rooted in the original Latin 

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meaning of transaction carrying 
through an action fully, only 

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giving from a place of overflow 
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The action you perform, whether 
it's love, attention, a gift, or

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energy, is fully conscious 
without strings attached because

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your transaction is the ACT 
itself, not what comes after. 

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If you're depleted or expecting 
something in return, you're 

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already entering into a scarcity
based transaction. 

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And in scarcity based 
transactions, people give and 

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immediately check for repayment.
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Energy giving fully means you 
release it into the world 

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without worrying whether it's 
reciprocated. 

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The transaction is complete. 
When the action leaves your 

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hands, you honour the receiver's
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How someone else responds. 
Their reaction is their 

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transaction, not yours. 
You've done your part fully, so 

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any result is a bonus, not 
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When you give from overflow, 
you're modelling a pure 

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transaction. 
Others see it, feel it, and it 

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raises the energy of the whole 
exchange. 

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Integrity is inherent. 
What is given is complete in 

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itself. 
Transactional scarcity is giving

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half hoping to get whole. 
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giving whole, expecting nothing 
and that is the true power and 

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freedom of it. 
Our time is sacred. 

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Scarcity thinking makes people 
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Their time is currency to buy 
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In true overflow giving, you're 
not spending your time giving to

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manipulate, impress, or earn 
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Your presence alone is a gift 
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You can give materially, but if 
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or conditional, the transaction 
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Overflow transactions are pure 
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Calm, confident and full bodied 
in a way that honours your 

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sovereignty and others either 
respect it or reveal themselves.

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Silence is also a transaction. 
Doing nothing can be as potent 

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as doing something. 
Pausing or stepping back can be 

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a complete act in itself, 
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Scarcity impulsively rushes to 
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Overflow allows space for the 
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Completing your part fully 
changes how others behave around

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you. 
Because finished energy is 

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magnetic, people either rise to 
it or they can't handle it, and 

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this exposes authenticity 
quickly. 

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Transaction is a mirror. 
Each completed action reflects 

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back what is present in the 
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Scarcity transactions reveal 
their own neediness and hidden 

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agendas. 
Abundance transactions reveal 

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clarity, strength, and alignment
when we are in scarcity mode. 

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In relationships, in 
friendships, in dating. 

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You text too fast. 
You reassure constantly, chase 

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validation, and bend your 
boundaries to earn attention. 

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You're giving to receive love, 
approval, or sex. 

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You overextend to be liked, help
excessively, and expect 

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reciprocity. 
This creates anxiety, clinging, 

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codependency, fear of 
abandonment. 

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Fantasy is also triggered where 
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get, Marriage, gifts, love, 
bypassing the reality of what is

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confusion, neglect, games. 
When you relate to others from 

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overflow, you engage fully when 
it feels good. 

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Give authentic compliments and 
set clear boundaries. 

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Your energy signals self respect
and anyone who responds aligns 

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with your level of integrity and
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You show up generously without 
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You can say no without guilt. 
Celebrate their wins without 

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envy, and your presence alone is
a gift. 

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You seek to control nothing but 
your own full expression. 

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Real relationships respond to 
completion, False friends reveal

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themselves when they can't match
the energy. 

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And this is how you philtre your
tribe, naturally transacting in 

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scarcity. 
At work, you compromise too much

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over promise or give work away 
for free, hoping for 

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recognition, promotion or 
favour. 

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But when you work from overflow,
you execute with clarity, skill 

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and integrity and set healthy 
limits on what you will take on.

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Your energy conveys confidence 
and people notice fully 

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completed contributions. 
Scarcity driven giving keeps you

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stuck, while overflow driven 
giving creates exponential 

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opportunity. 
A completed transaction is 

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energy that is finished, whole 
and independent of other 

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people's response. 
And it is in this fullness that 

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we are able to build and nurture
true, authentic connection with 

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ourselves and with others. 
I'll see you next week.