I fall into your arms and I find peace.
I fall into the heart that fell for me and loves me so
endlessly. Hello and welcome back to the
Tiny Pod. This week I want to talk about
transaction. The word transaction comes from
the Latin transactio, from the verb transseiguere, trans
meaning across or through, and aguere, meaning to drive, do,
ACT and manage. Transaction was originally about
bringing something to completion, fulfilment from
start to finish, but overtime it shifted into giving and
receiving, where one action is completed in return for another.
It became about exchange and commerce.
Something is given and something is received, a swap.
But the human heart often contaminates this with fear,
scarcity, and ego. When people give transactionally
from scarcity, they are performing an action hoping it
will be reciprocated, which is a partial, incomplete transaction
of energy. When people operate from lack,
they treat relationships, time, or resources transactionally.
They give conditionally, hoping for a return that validates them
attention, approval, security, or even love.
It is not overflowing generosity.
It is a Ledger in the head. I gave X so I should get Y.
And when they don't get the expected return, they feel
wronged, cheated, or insecure. This creates disappointment and
tension and often pushes the other person away.
Because real intimacy can't happen in a Ledger style
exchange. You can't truly connect when one
person is checking their receipts.
The deeper the scarcity mindset, the more the relationship is
based on control and ego, not mutual joy and love.
People try to negotiate affection, closeness and
validation out of survival, fear and scarcity.
The roots of transactional behaviour are trauma and the
survival mechanisms built to survive.
Conditional love or affection is fear masquerading as love,
pretending to be connection. The more you try to control the
outcome, the less real intimacy you experience.
People are so afraid that they try and contain themselves and
only give in order to receive. They don't give freely, they
give in exchange for something better.
They hope. They hope they will win in the
transaction, but often lose because transactional giving is
a losing game. The whole thing is built on
expectation, not authenticity. People default to transaction
because transaction feels safer than vulnerability.
Transaction offers the illusion of control.
When someone is in survival mode, emotionally, financially,
relationally, they try to control risk.
If I give this, I'll get that. It's not generosity, it's not
connection. It is self protection dressed up
as intimacy. We step out of transaction by
filling ourselves first by becoming whole and embodying
overflow. Sovereign with clear boundaries,
standards, and values, you give without needing a return.
Your giving is abundant. Relationships founded on
overflow feel easy, joyful and magnetic, while transactional
ones are exhausting, confusing, and emotionally whiplash
inducing. Giving from overflow is
unconditional, abundance driven, and fearless.
When you live from sovereignty, from the fullness of who you
are, you don't give to win. You give because you can.
You don't love to be loved back, You love because you are whole.
I give because I'm full, not because I'm empty.
I give from who I am and not from what I want from you.
I don't need to control the outcome because I'm not giving
in order to get. And this terrifies people who
operate from lack, because abundance exposes their
scarcity, openness exposes their insecurity, and clean energy
exposes the chaotic negotiation inside of them.
Transactional people get confused by sovereign people
because they genuinely don't understand giving without
agenda. They literally don't have the
internal bandwidth to hold that frequency.
It's short circuits their system.
They don't have enough in their emotional bank to meet overflow,
so they default to what feels familiar to them, deflection,
blame, or withdrawal. Because really, giving feels too
much for the emotionally underdeveloped.
A transactional person sees every gesture as a bargain.
Transaction is survival and survival needs a deal.
A person in overflow sees every gesture as an expression.
Overflow is embodiment and embodiment doesn't negotiate in
politics over promise and under deliver to gain votes, to
manipulate outcomes. Thinking scarcity driven.
Giving will secure something, loyalty or votes.
But it always backfires and creates resentment, frustration
and ultimately the collapse of the connection, the loyalty that
was built on the false promise in church and religious
buildings. If I do this, I'll gain God's
favour. People give from empty, hoping
to be filled, but all they are full of is resentment.
The moment you give, hoping for a return, approval, love,
validation, you're already handing over your power.
It is not generosity, it is transaction rooted in lack and
creates a cycle of disappointment.
When giving comes from overflow, from your fullness, your
serenity, you're no longer attached to the outcome.
You can give, show up, offer your energy, your love, your
resources and it doesn't matter what comes back.
The radical shift is seeing giving as an act of
self-expression, not a transaction.
Once you operate from that energy, you're untouchable by
neediness, manipulation, or the transactional games of others.
It's why truly sovereign people are magnetic.
They aren't asking for anything in return, they are radiating
fullness. Giving from truthfulness begins
with self. Sufficiency and abundance
overflow energy, and it is rooted in the original Latin
meaning of transaction carrying through an action fully, only
giving from a place of overflow and with clarity of intent.
The action you perform, whether it's love, attention, a gift, or
energy, is fully conscious without strings attached because
your transaction is the ACT itself, not what comes after.
If you're depleted or expecting something in return, you're
already entering into a scarcity based transaction.
And in scarcity based transactions, people give and
immediately check for repayment. That is incomplete.
Energy giving fully means you release it into the world
without worrying whether it's reciprocated.
The transaction is complete. When the action leaves your
hands, you honour the receiver's agency.
How someone else responds. Their reaction is their
transaction, not yours. You've done your part fully, so
any result is a bonus, not expectation.
When you give from overflow, you're modelling a pure
transaction. Others see it, feel it, and it
raises the energy of the whole exchange.
Integrity is inherent. What is given is complete in
itself. Transactional scarcity is giving
half hoping to get whole. Transactional abundance is
giving whole, expecting nothing and that is the true power and
freedom of it. Our time is sacred.
Scarcity thinking makes people overextend or chase thinking.
Their time is currency to buy love, attention, or respect.
In true overflow giving, you're not spending your time giving to
manipulate, impress, or earn anything.
Your presence alone is a gift because energy carries weight.
You can give materially, but if your energy is anxious, needy,
or conditional, the transaction is incomplete.
Overflow transactions are pure energy transfers.
Calm, confident and full bodied in a way that honours your
sovereignty and others either respect it or reveal themselves.
Silence is also a transaction. Doing nothing can be as potent
as doing something. Pausing or stepping back can be
a complete act in itself, especially in relationship.
Scarcity impulsively rushes to fill gaps.
Overflow allows space for the truth to emerge.
Completing your part fully changes how others behave around
you. Because finished energy is
magnetic, people either rise to it or they can't handle it, and
this exposes authenticity quickly.
Transaction is a mirror. Each completed action reflects
back what is present in the other person.
Scarcity transactions reveal their own neediness and hidden
agendas. Abundance transactions reveal
clarity, strength, and alignment when we are in scarcity mode.
In relationships, in friendships, in dating.
You text too fast. You reassure constantly, chase
validation, and bend your boundaries to earn attention.
You're giving to receive love, approval, or sex.
You overextend to be liked, help excessively, and expect
reciprocity. This creates anxiety, clinging,
codependency, fear of abandonment.
Fantasy is also triggered where we fantasise about what we'll
get, Marriage, gifts, love, bypassing the reality of what is
confusion, neglect, games. When you relate to others from
overflow, you engage fully when it feels good.
Give authentic compliments and set clear boundaries.
Your energy signals self respect and anyone who responds aligns
with your level of integrity and interest.
You show up generously without expectation.
You can say no without guilt. Celebrate their wins without
envy, and your presence alone is a gift.
You seek to control nothing but your own full expression.
Real relationships respond to completion, False friends reveal
themselves when they can't match the energy.
And this is how you philtre your tribe, naturally transacting in
scarcity. At work, you compromise too much
over promise or give work away for free, hoping for
recognition, promotion or favour.
But when you work from overflow, you execute with clarity, skill
and integrity and set healthy limits on what you will take on.
Your energy conveys confidence and people notice fully
completed contributions. Scarcity driven giving keeps you
stuck, while overflow driven giving creates exponential
opportunity. A completed transaction is
energy that is finished, whole and independent of other
people's response. And it is in this fullness that
we are able to build and nurture true, authentic connection with
ourselves and with others. I'll see you next week.