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Son of God, yes, say he join 
together. 

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Sing it now. 
Again, Prince, cease-fire. 

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Now cease-fire. 
Now cease-fire. 

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Now cease-fire. 
Hello and welcome back to the 

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Tiny Pod. 
This week I want to talk about 

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ceasefire. 
The word ceasefire comes from 

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the Latin word Cesare, meaning 
to stop, to yield, to give over.

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Ceasefire is a modern military 
terminology that was used from 

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the late 19th, early 20th 
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War I, where there were 
temporary halts in fighting, 

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sometimes formal, sometimes just
because everyone was too 

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exhausted to keep fighting. 
But the concept is ancient. 

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Ceasefire is a temporary 
agreement to stop firing even 

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when conflict remains 
unresolved. 

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We see ceasefires in Gaza, 
Lebanon and Iran that were 

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intended to pause attacks even 
as tensions remain. 

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Permanent peace requires full 
resolution that often cannot be 

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found during active warfare. 
War is charged, heated and 

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whether in defence or attack, 
both sides are in fight mode. 

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During active war, the nervous 
system is in the sympathetic 

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state of fight, survival and 
threat. 

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A ceasefire is an exhale that 
allows the nervous system to 

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rest and reset. 
And it is only when our nervous 

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systems are parasympathetic at 
rest that we gain the clarity 

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and a clear head to see the 
truth and negotiate real peace. 

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Ceasefires createspace for peace
by stopping further harm, 

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pausing active attacks and 
giving clarity a moment to 

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settle. 
It is a step towards Armistice 

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and peace. 
A pause, not permanent 

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resolution. 
But in that pause, peace can be 

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found. 
A ceasefire is often born from 

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exhaustion, not enlightenment. 
Wars don't pause because 

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everyone suddenly understands 
each other. 

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They pause because continuing 
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A real ceasefire requires both 
sides to agree it is fragile and

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temporary. 
But in the interim of ceasefire,

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true, lasting, permanent 
resolution can be found with 

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willingness, cooperation, and a 
true desire for peace, without 

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waiting for the harm to be so 
great or for defeat to force an 

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end to the war. 
Ceasefires are fragile, break 

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easily, and require conscious 
agreement to maintain. 

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A ceasefire is neither surrender
nor defeat. 

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It isn't peace or healing or 
even resolution. 

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It is a pause, a time of 
restraint and respite to breathe

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and to lower our guards and 
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It is allowing life to flow and 
having faith we can stand down 

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and still survive. 
The truth is as within, so 

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without, as above, so below, as 
the universe, so the soul, the 

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world around us and the people 
in it are a reflection of our 

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own state and that of the 
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And so to ceasefire externally, 
globally, politically, we need a

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ceasefire internally, 
personally, with ourselves 

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first, and only then 
collectively and relationally 

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can true peace be found. 
I often coach my clients when 

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they are really struggling, 
either to allow joy in or to 

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forgive others, or to recover 
from something outside of 

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themselves. 
To stand down, to put the 

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weapons down and encourage them 
to see life as it is now, not 

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through the lens of survival 
they needed in childhood. 

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The word ceasefire, when we let 
it land on our hearts in our own

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lives, brings relief. 
Ceasefire with ourselves is 

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permission to stop fighting with
ourself, with others and with 

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the world. 
We are constantly at war with 

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ourselves through self 
criticism, pressure, the feeling

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of not enough and with other 
people through judgement, 

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defence and the need to control 
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We wage war with life and 
reality when we resist what is 

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we ceasefire with ourself when 
we stop. 

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The daily self criticism should 
haves not enough comparisons, 

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self doubt and fear and we 
ceasefire with others when we 

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stop fighting the difference 
between other people's life and 

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our own. 
Stop comparing and stop fighting

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to be seen and known by people 
who do not have the capacity to 

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even see and know themselves. 
It is in allowing ourselves to 

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be as we are and others to be as
they are, and life to keep 

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lifing that we find peace and 
stop exhausting ourselves 

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fighting against life as it is. 
We wage war with life when we 

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try to force results. 
We ceasefire when we release the

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outcome and build our life 
without demanding results on our

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own timeline. 
Ceasefire does not mean solving 

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the whole war or your whole 
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It is just for now, just for 
today, Consciously stopping the 

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attack. 
Not perfectly, completely, 

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definitely just now. 
Ceasefire brings us into the 

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present moment. 
It requires stopping, replaying 

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the past and the strong feelings
from what has been done and 

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ceasing, trying to predict the 
future or fearing what might 

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happen. 
It is now, just in this moment, 

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softening enough to see where we
can release, cease, pause. 

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Ceasefire is the nervous system 
exhale, putting the weapons 

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down, all the harsh thoughts, 
the comparisons, the replays, 

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the future panic. 
When we ceasefire with our self,

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we don't expect or demand 
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We simply interrupt the pattern 
of attack, the loops of reaction

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and stop firing. 
Habitual neural pathways in a 

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ceasefire is the moment you 
decide not to keep firing the 

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thoughts, the reactions, the 
patterns and the thoughtless 

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words, actions and behaviours. 
It is a conscious, active choice

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and it is where we have power. 
Because even though nothing 

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outside has changed, we have. 
We have stopped participating in

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the fight, and without our 
participation, the fight stops. 

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The measure of our suffering is 
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What we resist persists, and it 
is in the resistance to life as 

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it is that we suffer. 
When we allow people to be as 

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they are, life to be as it is, 
and ourselves to be completely 

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who we are without judgement or 
criticism, our suffering, our 

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war, ends. 
When you change the way you look

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at things, the things you look 
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Ceasefire allows another 
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clouds of war settle. 
Calling a ceasefire with 

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yourself is often born out of 
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You don't have to master your 
mind to admit you are exhausted 

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by the inner critic, the looping
thoughts, and the constant 

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pressure to be perfect, succeed 
and win at all costs. 

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The great thing about calling a 
ceasefire is that it isn't 

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weighted with forever, always, 
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It is a choice, it is saying 
enough for now and as we soften 

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and enjoy the pause, we 
naturally continue to choose 

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peace and to step away from 
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Ceasefire is a step towards self
mastery. 

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A real ceasefire requires two 
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that's you versus you. 
The part of you that wants 

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control and to keep pushing, 
analysing, fixing, is at war 

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with the part of you that wants 
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And in a ceasefire is 
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The part of you that 
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developed defences to survive 
merging and being held by the 

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adult, the eternal who knows all
is well, regardless of the 

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external circumstances. 
In order for ceasefire to 

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develop into permanent peace, we
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take space and to reflect before
reaction, because ceasefire can 

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break in seconds. 
One trigger, one thought, one 

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comment and suddenly we are back
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The practise of peace is to 
notice when we have picked the 

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weapons back up and choose again
and again to put them down. 

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It is a continual committed 
practise that takes active the 

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render to life as it is and 
commitment to no longer fighting

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reality. 
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endurance and keeping fighting, 
keeping going. 

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But a ceasefire reframes 
strength as the ability to stop,

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to interrupt momentum, to not 
say the thing, to not follow the

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thought, to not escalate. 
That is real power. self-control

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is true strength, fought for 
hard won and key to peace both 

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within ourselves and with 
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A ceasefire is a conscious 
interruption of harm in a system

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that has become so used to 
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something new to emerge. 
It is not final, but often the 

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first honest step towards 
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When we find ourselves hot 
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defence or attack and choose not
to react or escalate and instead

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quietly comfort ourselves and 
stand down, we relax, we soften,

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we open to another perspective 
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It is in that exhale that we 
often find the fight was within 

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us all along. 
For control, for greed, for lust

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and the fleeting desires of the 
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When what we truly want are the 
fruits of the Spirit, Lovejoy, 

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peace, patience, kindness, 
goodness, faithfulness, 

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gentleness and self-control. 
Ceasefire allows those fruits to

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grow and us to settle into peace
and make familiar the feeling of

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calm instead of chaos. 
When our nervous systems are 

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wired into fight mode, chaos is 
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When we regulate our nervous 
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consciously move away from 
anything and anyone that does 

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not bring peace. 
And each time we choose peace, 

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choose to put the weapons down, 
we are really choosing 

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ourselves, choosing each other, 
choosing love, and choosing 

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life. 
True Ceasefire is positive, 

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encouraging, hopeful, and an 
invitation into deeper, lasting 

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peace, joy, and love. 
Thank you so much for your 

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support, friends. 
I'll see you next week.