Hello and welcome back to the Tiny Pod.
A brand new year, a brand new season 5.
Happy new year. How clarifying is a new year.
Today's podcast is all about clarifying and the clarity we
arrive at through the process of clarifying.
The word clarity comes from the Latin clarus, meaning clear,
bright, distinct, clarificare. To make clear.
Originally, Clarus wasn't just about visual clarity.
It meant fame, renown, and being unmistakably known.
To clarify means more than to just see clearly.
It means to see completely without distortion.
Death can clarify endings, clarify grief, clarifies time,
clarifies it is non negotiable and illusions cannot survive.
Death removes fantasy instantly. The end of a year strips away
stories we tell ourselves, and new beginnings expose what we
are actually willing to commit to.
Humans often want to skip the discipline, commitment, and
consistency that clarifying requires.
Playing the lottery or gambling is trying to skip the process of
building wealth. Addiction is trying to skip the
process of naturally balancing chemicals in our brain through
nutrition, exercise, breath work.
When we rush romantic relationships, we try to skip
the process of natural intimacy. But it is in the process that we
grow the capacity to hold the wealth, the love and the skills
we need. To clarify means to make
something clear by removing what does not belong, separating and
removing impurities. When you clarify butter, you
don't change the butter into something new.
You apply heat and let it separate and then skim off what
clouds it so that all that remains is pure, clean, and more
stable. Time, patience, and fire reveal
essence. Clarifying isn't destruction.
Clarified butter lasts longer, is stronger, more resilient to
the fire that made it. Clarification is a process of
refinement, allowing the fog to fall away so that all that
remains is truth. Clarification reveals alignment.
Clarifying moments show us the truth.
What needs to fall away, what no longer makes sense to carry.
Most people love clarity. Few people love commitment to
clarity. But clarification without follow
through is just insight. Clarification with discipline is
transformation. You become cleaner, clearer,
right? Relationships grow, purpose
lands, capacity expands, and everything false falls away.
As humans, we have a tendency to hold on to fear loss, but New
Year's happen regardless of how ready we feel.
New Year's provide us with an opportunity to let go or have a
new beginning. A new year can be really
clarifying because what an opportunity for 365 days of
removing what clouds truth, clearing the fog, letting what
doesn't belong fall away and not adding more words, more
justification, more explanation or more defence.
Clarifying is less noise, less proving, less holding on,
clearing out space for more truth, stability, more
integrity, and becoming more yourself.
Strength comes from clarity. Clarity doesn't feel relieving,
it feels sobering. It brings gravity because once
something is clear, you can't unknown it and you can't hide
from it. Clarity removes excuses before
it brings peace, and that's why unconsciously, we resist it.
Clarity reveals where your energy is leaking.
So often after clarification, things feel heavier or louder
than they used to and strangely draining because misalignment is
becoming obvious. There are many things that you
can tolerate or settle for after clarity.
It costs too much. Clarity slows you down because
haste is no longer necessary. When things clarify, urgency and
emergency disappear. You stop rushing timelines
driven by fear and obligations born from guilt.
Clarity is simple, quiet, unglamorous.
You take off the mask, the make up, the clothes, the trophies,
the jewellery. You lay down your weapons and
defences, drop your guard and strip back to truth.
Clarifying reveals what you won't negotiate anymore, and
this becoming non negotiable actually makes life softer.
Before clarity, people negotiate against themselves constantly,
bargain with their boundaries, and argue with their intuition.
After clarity, you can no longer settle.
Things either align or decline. Clarity creates a temporary
loneliness because fewer things fit.
Your world gets quieter before it gets fuller, and that silence
can feel like emptiness. It is often space preparing
itself. Clarifying sharpens discernment
and makes you more precise. You simply see, and seeing
clearly changes behaviour without force.
Your body relaxes, even if the answer is hard.
Decisions feel quieter, you stop rehearsing conversations and
scenarios, and you don't need validation externally.
Clarity doesn't promise ease, it promises honesty, and honesty
lived consistently becomes peace.
Clarification is a process. You don't just say I want the
butter to turn to ghee, you have to add heat and time.
The same with alchemy. You don't just look at lead and
go turn to gold. There's a process.
The lottery, addiction, gambling.
They aren't shortcuts to wealth or relief.
Their attempts to skip clarification.
But skipping the process doesn't get you there faster.
It gets you stuck because the end state we want cannot hold
without nervous system conditioning, patience,
restraint, integrity and capacity clarifying change and
growth. Start one day at a time, moment
to moment. You can start this minute and
you can return to the process any minute.
It's so wonderful to get to the end of a year and look back at a
whole year of distance run, and it's pretty terrifying to look
back at a whole year and be in the same spot.
So while it may feel scary to take the first step, it's
actually scarier staying in the same place.
Stagnation costs more than effort, confusion costs more
than courage, and avoidance costs more than fear.
Clarification is not an intention or a New Year's
resolution. It is the discipline of
returning to our intention consistently.
Clarification doesn't punish you for wandering away.
It waits because real clarification is heat applied
again, patience chosen again, intention returned to again.
Clarification isn't about arriving somewhere new.
It is about no longer lying to yourself about where you are and
choosing gently and repeatedly to move from there.
Clarifying is a process of lived faith, one day at a time,
consistently. I'll see you next week.