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Hello and welcome back to the 
Tiny Pod. 

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This week I want to talk about 
money. 

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Humans are the only species on 
Earth that turn survival into a 

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commodity. 
We commodified shelter, housing,

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water, care, support, belonging,
even rest. 

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We have made life transactional.
Every other species meets its 

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needs directly. 
Only humans invented a middle of

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money between themselves and 
survival, and that middleman is 

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now more powerful than the need 
itself. 

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Which is why money dysregulates 
the nervous system. 

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It interrupts our primal 
relationship with life and 

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nothing pulls us out of 
alignment, out of regulation 

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faster. 
The reason all my work focuses 

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on alignment is because 
alignment is power. 

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It is sovereignty, clarity, 
truth and peace. 

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Money either pulls you forward 
out of alignment into the big I 

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am of look how much I have look 
at my car, or backwards into 

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collapse. 
I am not enough because I don't 

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have enough money. 
Both are symptoms of the same 

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thing, dysregulation in our body
and our nervous system. 

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In survival mode of fight, 
flight or freeze, we can't think

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clearly when we are in survival,
we can't digest ideas and we 

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literally can't digest food. 
Money conversations feel so 

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charged because they land in our
body first. 

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If money is out of alignment in 
our lives, the answer isn't to 

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hassle harder to force. 
It is to regulate deeper because

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the real currencies a time, 
energy, presence, and your 

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ability to stay in your body 
even when the world tries to 

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pull you out of it. 
Scientifically, this is known as

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polyvagal theory. 
When the nervous system feels 

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unsafe, every system in the body
feels this threat. 

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And when we regulate our nervous
system, creative problem solving

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increases, intuition 
strengthens, and we access 

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what's called the social 
engagement system, where 

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opportunities, collaboration, 
generosity, and solutions live 

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spiritually. 
Money is just energy. 

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It flows where there is 
openness, clarity and alignment.

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So when our nervous system is 
braced, tense, or in fear, the 

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flow tightens. 
But when our nervous system is 

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relaxed, regulated, and 
connected to purpose, the flow 

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expands. 
I was raised by wealthy people 

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living in suffocating scarcity. 
My family were financially 

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wealthy and spiritually 
bankrupt, protecting piles of 

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money while starved of purpose, 
intimacy, and truth. 

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The richest people I know are 
the most impoverished 

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internally. 
No peace, no connection, no 

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meaning, no alignment, and no 
internal safety. 

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Society teaches us to want 
money, but it's really what we 

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think money will give us. 
Security, safety, freedom, rest,

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dignity, choice, beauty, 
belonging. 

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But the truth is, you cannot buy
a feeling you do not already 

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hold. 
If you feel unworthy, no amount 

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of money will ever feel like 
enough. 

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If you feel unsafe, you will 
hoard money and live 

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defensively. 
And if you feel empty, you'll 

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spend money to fill holes that 
were never created by money in 

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the 1st place. 
Some people with almost nothing 

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live in abundance. 
I have found this to be so true.

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Having been raised in financial 
wealth and spiritual scarcity, 

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raising my children with less 
but more time, more energy, more

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freshly baked sourdough, more 
trips together has been so 

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abundant. 
Because when you feel abundant, 

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you're resourceful, relaxed, 
generous, creative, whether you 

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have a little or have a lot. 
So clearly, money is not the 

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thing that buys safety, peace, 
relaxation. 

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It is how you relate to it. 
Real abundance comes from self 

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value, from how deeply you 
honour your most valuable 

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currencies, your time, your 
energy, your presence, your life

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force. 
Money is only one expression of 

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value, it is not the source of 
it. 

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When you know you're worth, 
money becomes a tool. 

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When you doubt you're worth, 
money becomes a mirror. 

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Money isn't power, your 
relationship to yourself is and 

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we can see how money maps 
directly onto relational trauma.

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People who avoidant in their 
attachment style hoard and are 

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hyper independent. 
People who are anxious in their 

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attachment overspend and under 
charge for their time. 

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People with disorganised 
attachment have cycles of 

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financial wealth and bankruptcy.
Boom and bust and people with 

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secure attachment create 
sustainable wealth and live in 

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generosity. 
Money never changes you. 

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It exposes the inner 
architecture of your psyche and 

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amplifies who you already are. 
So if your baseline is fear, 

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money magnifies fear. 
If your truth is love, money 

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magnifies the generosity of your
heart. 

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The wealthy suppress their guilt
and shame of the extractive 

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methods they've used to 
cultivate their wealth. 

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With moral narratives, I worked 
harder and those with less 

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suppress the shame of I'm not 
enough. 

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Both these shame based survival 
narratives keep inequality 

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intact. 
The truth that the wealthy do 

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not want society to know is that
abundance is our nervous 

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system's natural state and 
scarcity is learned and 

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programmed in. 
It is biological trauma. 

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Looping a regulated body 
automatically feels enough, and 

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when we shift out of survival, 
we open to creativity. 

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We have freedom to choose and 
agency over ourself. 

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And this is how people can live 
with an abundant spirit with 

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little money, and wealthy people
can live in crippling scarcity. 

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There are two types of wealth. 
There is soul based wealth which

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flows from alignment, integrity,
inner coherence, and this wealth

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nourishes you and everyone 
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And then there is system based 
wealth which is extracted 

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through dominance, fear 
manipulation, exploitation and 

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inherited systems. 
This wealth depends on other 

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people's scarcity. 
Trump, Netanyahu, oligarchs, 

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tech billionaires. 
They are wealthy through system 

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based wealth. 
And system wealth is not 

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abundance, it is accumulation 
fueled by spiritual bankruptcy, 

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self abandonment, and at the 
cost of their inner peace. 

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People who betray themselves to 
build empires run on chronic 

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dysregulation. 
They sacrifice their ability to 

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experience safety, real 
intimacy, real love at the altar

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of their addiction to power. 
System wealth is a source of 

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constant paranoia, fear of loss 
and a numbness to all that is 

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truly valuable, and their lives 
are characterised by outer 

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riches and inner poverty. 
Their wealth depends on 

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destabilising the vulnerable, 
punishing others and suppressing

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truth, which they do by funding 
the police, armies, media 

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propaganda, government parties 
who enforce tax loopholes to 

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keep them rich. 
The people who abandoned 

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themselves and are dysregulated 
cannot accumulate peace, 

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longevity, Lovejoy, freedom or a
legacy to be proud of. 

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It is why we see the very 
wealthy going bankrupt and 

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wealthy again. 
Because it is unstable. 

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Because money that depends on 
extracting from others 

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externally has 0 stability 
internally. 5 Billionaires could

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end global poverty and still 
remain generationally wealthy, 

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but they don't because for them 
poverty is their fuel supply. 

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The system they extracted their 
wealth from feeds on scarcity. 

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So they maintain scarcity, use 
their wealth as a weapon to harm

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and oppress. 
Control is the currency of the 

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emotionally bankrupt. 
They don't value love. 

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They want dependence, power and 
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They need to be needed. 
Soul wealth, by contrast, does 

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not need domination, fear or 
extraction. 

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It doesn't require lies to 
maintain it, and it grows 

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effortlessly because it is built
on truth, alignment and 

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integration, not control and 
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Wealth builds fast because it is
extractive. 

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Soul wealth grows slowly because
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Exploitation creates instant 
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Integrity creates sustainable 
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Money is a weapon used by the 
wealthy to distract us from 

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ourselves, to keep us dependent 
and disempowered and in service 

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of a system that takes 
everything and gives nothing. 

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When we take our power back and 
shift our focus from the 

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currency of money back to the 
currency of time and energy, and

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we consciously choose where we 
spend our time and energy and 

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start valuing communion with 
others over competition, the 

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system starts to collapse. 
I have never heard of someone 

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asking for their money to come 
and visit them when they are 

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dying. 
And sadly for those who devote 

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their life to creating money at 
the expense of creating 

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relationships, money is often 
all they have. 

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I'll see you next week.