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Love is kind. 
Love is kind. 

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Love is kind. 
Hello and welcome back to the 

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Tiny. 
Pod this week. 

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I want to talk about kindness 
following on from Global 

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Kindness Day last. 
Week. 

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The. 
Origin of the word kind is. 

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From. 
The old English yakind meaning. 

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The totality of qualities of 
essence. 

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And innate nature, family and 
race. 

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It described what a. 
Person, essentially. 

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Is their. 
Inherent qualities rather than 

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an action because kindness is 
innate. 

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It is. 
A reflection of our natural 

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state, not a transactional act. 
Over. 

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Time kindness evolved to mean 
goodness, benevolence and 

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sympathetic behaviour giving us 
this modern sense of being kind 

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to others in pre modern. 
Societies Virtues. 

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Were. 
Often described. 

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As natural qualities, mercy, 
generosity. 

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Courage. 
Saying someone was kind implied.

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That their. 
Goodness flowed naturally rather

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than being. 
Forced literature from the. 14th

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to 16th centuries like. 
Chaucer used. 

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Kind to. 
Describe people. 

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Who acted? 
With innate goodness, but as 

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Christianity. 
Spread across. 

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England and Europe. 
Moral goodness. 

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Became a central value and 
language adapted. 

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Kindness became associated. 
With acts. 

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Of generosity. 
These. 

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Were visible. 
Expressions. 

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It was. 
A gradual. 

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Semantic shift from having a 
natural kindness to expressing 

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benevolence. 
Postmodern societies layered 

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moral expectations over 
something originally innate. 

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Kindness became a performative 
or measured action rather than 

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an organic. 
State the. 

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Phrase. 
In kind comes from the same 

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root, implying the same type or 
nature. 

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Giving. 
Something equivalent in value. 

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But it is subjective because it 
relies. 

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On perception, how? 
Do we? 

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Perceive equivalence. 
It becomes transactional. 

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We start comparing value or 
equivalence. 

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Rather. 
Than the intention behind the 

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gesture kindness is. 
Therefore, often measured by 

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return on investment, people 
give because they expect favour 

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or social credit, they expect 
recognition. 

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I have people in my church who. 
Visibly announce I'm. 

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Buying a buggy for her. 
I'm doing this. 

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I just donated this amount. 
They are almost screaming from 

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the rooftops to be seen. 
Performing kindness. 

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It's the optics. 
Of kindness. 

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It's dressed up morality, it's 
taking a spiritual high ground, 

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it is self grooming, a 
performance for their ego, it's 

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psychological theatre, moral 
posturing and it's a power move 

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disguised as. 
Generosity. 

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Kindness isn't the ACT. 
It is the state of. 

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Being. 
From which the ACT flows. 

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True kindness originates from 
your. 

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Nature Independent. 
Of recognition. 

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Reward or. 
Expectation. 

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Kindness. 
Is. 

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Being not doing, performing. 
Kindness for approval, reward, 

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or social expectation 
disconnects you from your true 

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nature and can. 
Even be. 

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Harmful. 
To yourself. 

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Real kindness emerges from 
alignment with your values and 

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your heart, not. 
Out of. 

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Obligation, and therefore we're.
Out of. 

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Alignment when kindness is. 
Forced. 

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Resentful. 
Or transactional kindness is not

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a moral act. 
It is a practise. 

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That creates safety. 
For yourself and others, 

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kindness can disarm tension. 
It builds trust and protects. 

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Communities. 
I have two. 

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Sons and my first son was born 
innately empathetic and he 

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expresses kindness. 
Effortlessly it. 

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Flows from his nature. 
He feels it naturally, and it. 

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Shows. 
In every interaction, my second 

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son was born competitive and so 
has to learn kindness 

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consciously connecting to his 
heart, not just his drive and 

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strength. 
For him, kindness is a. 

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Skill cultivated. 
And a choice he makes when he 

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tunes into. 
Other people's. 

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Feelings rather than just 
relying on his instinct alone. 

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And it's taught me that kindness
can be both innate and learned, 

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depending on the child's nature.
Teaching. 

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Children to. 
Access their heart is just. 

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As important, if not more 
important, than nurturing their.

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Skills because. 
Kindness. 

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Is the. 
Bridge between innate nature and

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conscious cultivation it. 
Is a. 

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Lifelong practise of tuning into
hearts, not muscles, rules not 

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social obligations. 
And we do. 

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This through. 
Conscious attention, intention 

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and empathy. 
True kindness as originally 

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intended is not transactional. 
It comes from a. 

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Place of. 
Generosity. 

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Of Spirit. 
Empathy and intrinsic, inherent 

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human decency. 
We give because it is. 

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In integrity. 
With our true self. 

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Not because. 
It can be counted. 

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Or returned doing good 
naturally, not because of rules 

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or expectations, but. 
Because it is who you truly are.

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There's a really popular phrase 
always be. 

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Kind but. 
Without a. 

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Shared understanding of what 
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Actually is. 
It is empty or performative. 

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Kindness isn't a gesture. 
It is a state of. 

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Being that comes from a 
conscious connection to empathy,

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awareness and the desire to. 
Ease. 

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Suffering and uplift, kindness 
lives in the way. 

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We speak. 
Not just what we do. 

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And words matter because 
kindness is. 

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Repair responsibility. 
Empathy, Generosity, self. 

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Awareness, humility, emotional 
safety, and acting aligned with 

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compassion for all beings. 
Kindness. 

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Is a lived. 
Physical experience that 

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physically resonates in the 
body. 

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A patient breath. 
Gentleness. 

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With ourselves is a. 
Revolution in this harsh and 

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unjust. 
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Kindness is not about being 
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Or passive. 
It is actively. 

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Choosing compassion over. 
Cruelty. 

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Truth over fear. 
And generosity. 

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Over scarcity. 
Even when the. 

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World encourages. 
The opposite many acts. 

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Of true. 
Kindness never get noticed. 

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And yet they ripple. 
Outward. 

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Because kindness isn't 
transactional, it doesn't 

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require recognition, and that is
precisely why kindness. 

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Is so powerful. 
How we? 

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Practise kindness. 
Shows how. 

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Aligned we are. 
With our true selves. 

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Our true nature, body, mind, 
heart and soul acting in 

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integrity. 
Forced. 

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Performative kindness signals 
disconnection. 

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We are out of. 
Alignment, heartfelt kindness 

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signals harmony and. 
Creates peace throughout our 

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whole body. 
Our nervous system is. 

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At the heart. 
Of kindness when we are in 

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competition, striving, proving, 
impressing, seeking, needing, 

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taking. 
We cannot be kind when we rest. 

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Relax. 
Soften, trust, surrender, 

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kindness flows. 
The Bible writes. 

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Do nothing out of selfish 
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Rather. 
In humility. 

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Value others above. 
Yourselves. 

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Not looking. 
To your own interests. 

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But each of you. 
To the interests. 

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Of others clothe yourselves. 
With compassion, kindness, 

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humility, gentleness, and 
patience. 

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Put. 
Very simply. 

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Love is. 
Kind and love is more powerful 

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than any currency. 
It cannot be measured, it cannot

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be bought, and it cannot. 
Be performed. 

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I'll see you next week.