Love is kind. Love is kind.
Hello and welcome back to the
Tiny. Pod this week.
I want to talk about kindness following on from Global
Kindness Day last. Week.
The. Origin of the word kind is.
From. The old English yakind meaning.
The totality of qualities of essence.
And innate nature, family and race.
It described what a. Person, essentially.
Is their. Inherent qualities rather than
an action because kindness is innate.
It is. A reflection of our natural
state, not a transactional act. Over.
Time kindness evolved to mean goodness, benevolence and
sympathetic behaviour giving us this modern sense of being kind
to others in pre modern. Societies Virtues.
Were. Often described.
As natural qualities, mercy, generosity.
Courage. Saying someone was kind implied.
That their. Goodness flowed naturally rather
than being. Forced literature from the. 14th
to 16th centuries like. Chaucer used.
Kind to. Describe people.
Who acted? With innate goodness, but as
Christianity. Spread across.
England and Europe. Moral goodness.
Became a central value and language adapted.
Kindness became associated. With acts.
Of generosity. These.
Were visible. Expressions.
It was. A gradual.
Semantic shift from having a natural kindness to expressing
benevolence. Postmodern societies layered
moral expectations over something originally innate.
Kindness became a performative or measured action rather than
an organic. State the.
Phrase. In kind comes from the same
root, implying the same type or nature.
Giving. Something equivalent in value.
But it is subjective because it relies.
On perception, how? Do we?
Perceive equivalence. It becomes transactional.
We start comparing value or equivalence.
Rather. Than the intention behind the
gesture kindness is. Therefore, often measured by
return on investment, people give because they expect favour
or social credit, they expect recognition.
I have people in my church who. Visibly announce I'm.
Buying a buggy for her. I'm doing this.
I just donated this amount. They are almost screaming from
the rooftops to be seen. Performing kindness.
It's the optics. Of kindness.
It's dressed up morality, it's taking a spiritual high ground,
it is self grooming, a performance for their ego, it's
psychological theatre, moral posturing and it's a power move
disguised as. Generosity.
Kindness isn't the ACT. It is the state of.
Being. From which the ACT flows.
True kindness originates from your.
Nature Independent. Of recognition.
Reward or. Expectation.
Kindness. Is.
Being not doing, performing. Kindness for approval, reward,
or social expectation disconnects you from your true
nature and can. Even be.
Harmful. To yourself.
Real kindness emerges from alignment with your values and
your heart, not. Out of.
Obligation, and therefore we're. Out of.
Alignment when kindness is. Forced.
Resentful. Or transactional kindness is not
a moral act. It is a practise.
That creates safety. For yourself and others,
kindness can disarm tension. It builds trust and protects.
Communities. I have two.
Sons and my first son was born innately empathetic and he
expresses kindness. Effortlessly it.
Flows from his nature. He feels it naturally, and it.
Shows. In every interaction, my second
son was born competitive and so has to learn kindness
consciously connecting to his heart, not just his drive and
strength. For him, kindness is a.
Skill cultivated. And a choice he makes when he
tunes into. Other people's.
Feelings rather than just relying on his instinct alone.
And it's taught me that kindness can be both innate and learned,
depending on the child's nature. Teaching.
Children to. Access their heart is just.
As important, if not more important, than nurturing their.
Skills because. Kindness.
Is the. Bridge between innate nature and
conscious cultivation it. Is a.
Lifelong practise of tuning into hearts, not muscles, rules not
social obligations. And we do.
This through. Conscious attention, intention
and empathy. True kindness as originally
intended is not transactional. It comes from a.
Place of. Generosity.
Of Spirit. Empathy and intrinsic, inherent
human decency. We give because it is.
In integrity. With our true self.
Not because. It can be counted.
Or returned doing good naturally, not because of rules
or expectations, but. Because it is who you truly are.
There's a really popular phrase always be.
Kind but. Without a.
Shared understanding of what kindness?
Actually is. It is empty or performative.
Kindness isn't a gesture. It is a state of.
Being that comes from a conscious connection to empathy,
awareness and the desire to. Ease.
Suffering and uplift, kindness lives in the way.
We speak. Not just what we do.
And words matter because kindness is.
Repair responsibility. Empathy, Generosity, self.
Awareness, humility, emotional safety, and acting aligned with
compassion for all beings. Kindness.
Is a lived. Physical experience that
physically resonates in the body.
A patient breath. Gentleness.
With ourselves is a. Revolution in this harsh and
unjust. World.
Kindness is not about being soft.
Or passive. It is actively.
Choosing compassion over. Cruelty.
Truth over fear. And generosity.
Over scarcity. Even when the.
World encourages. The opposite many acts.
Of true. Kindness never get noticed.
And yet they ripple. Outward.
Because kindness isn't transactional, it doesn't
require recognition, and that is precisely why kindness.
Is so powerful. How we?
Practise kindness. Shows how.
Aligned we are. With our true selves.
Our true nature, body, mind, heart and soul acting in
integrity. Forced.
Performative kindness signals disconnection.
We are out of. Alignment, heartfelt kindness
signals harmony and. Creates peace throughout our
whole body. Our nervous system is.
At the heart. Of kindness when we are in
competition, striving, proving, impressing, seeking, needing,
taking. We cannot be kind when we rest.
Relax. Soften, trust, surrender,
kindness flows. The Bible writes.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit.
Rather. In humility.
Value others above. Yourselves.
Not looking. To your own interests.
But each of you. To the interests.
Of others clothe yourselves. With compassion, kindness,
humility, gentleness, and patience.
Put. Very simply.
Love is. Kind and love is more powerful
than any currency. It cannot be measured, it cannot
be bought, and it cannot. Be performed.
I'll see you next week.